How To Give Compliments To Guys (And Why It's So Important)
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- Опубликовано: 29 янв 2014
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Today's topic is how (and why) to compliment a guy while going about your day, and why you need to do it more (not just with the people you're interested in.) Enjoy!
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The first man to understand women.
LOL, someone's bitter.
As a female that is really true we really dont understand we go to those sterotype what think about guys. We dont know how they handle themselve mentally and physically . We don't give the guys that much Compliments . Female get more emotional support than male . We just need to be open minded there are too many women that close mind and keep saying boy aint crap and etc .Both side need to understand each other it not about who going through it more . It about understandment and how to work it . Women and men are not the same neither do they have the same mindset .
@@GallivantA Like I need drinks. Totally useless gesture to begin with. 🙄
Bit of a generalization innit?
At first I started giving compliments to others with the intention of becoming more sassy/approachable to win guys’ attention. A couple months in, it’s become a natural way for me to simply see the good in people and give compliments without any hidden agenda!
To the people bashing him for placing a link to his Website that charges money, it's called BUSINESS. Obviously he is good at what he does, which, is the reason you're watching his videos in the first place. If you don't need the extra advice, great! Don't pay for it. There are plenty of people out there I'm sure they could use the additional advice and assistance, don't make them feel bad for wanting his help and are willing to pay for it, he's an entrepreneur, not a crook.
His videos are good, but his website is a shitty video about him bragging about himself and taking too long to get to the point. It's the only thing about him that I find annoying so far.
M. S.agreed girl.
Exactly. His advice has helped me IMMENSELY 🙏🏾
Part of my healing was to go out and every time I saw a beautiful woman I felt less than, I complimented her. Whatever made me feel the most horrible by looking at her, I complimented on.
how has that changed you? how did it make you feel? that's so interesting! i love that idea, if it actually made you feel better! haha
+Angel of Retribution I did this too. I would go into a gas station..and the girl who works there would always give me really snarky remarks and make me feel very low. I think she is very pretty. Id say she is an 8 or 9. I decided one day..that i would give her a compliment on her hair because I actually really like it a lot. I told her, "You know, I love the highlights in your hair and the dark vs. light complex colors. It looks great on you. I've always wanted to dye my hair like that but never thought I could pull it off." and she looked at me kind of surprised...and was like "Oh. Believe me..you could. You could pull it off." I paid my dues and left. I felt great. I hope she did too. Crazy how that happens!
It's the only way to do it, honestly. I have another chance to do it... because I found nude pictures on my bf's computer (of a woman who isn't me), so I'm feeling really... not great.... anyway... Luckily, she has a similar body type to my own (big boobs, big butt, small waist), so I don't feel like I would if she were skinny, but man. It hurts..
Angel of Retribution That is lovely! I agree 100%. Often times when you compliment someone, it makes them happy and as a result they react with gratitude and positivity and they seem more human. It actually makes you feel better about yourself.
Same! I do that all the time with other women.
I love giving compliments, unfortunately people often can't believe there is no agenda to them. The last guy I gave a compliment to responded with an awkward smile and went on to quickly introduce his wife. I greeted her nicely and said something nice to her as well. Of course they were both wary of me the rest of the evening... :)) Cultures also differ
misidee Lool sounds like you ran into bit of trouble! you don't have to compliment the physical features or sound flirtatious. you can say something about their charecter that you respect or something they did for you that you're grateful for, that will come across nice and not flirtatious. all good interactions start of polite and respectful.
I'm married and we are madly in love so I dont need to get the guy, however I need to keep the guy! Your advice is so cool and so relevant...its funny how one can forget these initial things that you used to do in the begining somewhere along making babies, buying a house, work and all the other stuff in life. I have tried some of your tips and it REALLY works! I havent just tried it with my husband but also with my colleagues at work. Some of the advice you give can easily be translated into creating a much better working environment, friendships and a happier ME. Bless you Matt and keep doing what your doing!
Matthew, you have the most charming, happy smile. You light up my computer screen!
True
Would you mind if I ask where do you belongs to ?
Good compliment 😆
I have stop my car on the street to pay a compliment to a woman that was smashingly dressed but had a sour face. I stopped, told her that she looked fabulous and was rocking that outfit. Made her smile and I drove on.
Making people happy is the best, the glow is so true!
This is actually a goal I set for myself a long time ago, I completely agree with what you said, if you do it often people respond well to you, your personality also radiates more to others and for me, it just feels good to make someone else feel good about themselves. My boyfriend always points out how much I compliment him and how he really appreciates it, he tries to do the same and is incorporating it more and more everyday.
This really does work. This actually one piece of advice you've given that I implemented long ago. I often get, "you're so easy to talk to" or "I feel comfortable around you," and I really think it's because when I think a nice thought about someone, I tell them. It's inviting and it makes me approachable.
This is dead-on! I compliment people all the time when I see something that deserves a comment. Sometimes it shocks people, especially in the UK, but that is just me and I cannot change that part of me. People in my life have found this a negative aspect of my character; I haven't let that effect me. People should know there is something special about them.
Giving compliments is very important not just for girls but for guys too because giving one makes anyone felt appreciated and we can't deny the fact that the one who gives a compliment will make us comfortable with that person.
Thank you!! I have this discussion with one of my girlfriend's all the time. I love giving compliments, it's very easy for me to go up to a complete stranger and pay him a compliment. My friend doesn't think it's something that I should do, but I do it because I enjoy it and why not? Men like to be complimented just as much as women do. Paid a very handsome man a compliment last week and you had to see the smile on his face!!
you're so freaking smart and so in touch with how we are "in our head"!!!
Very god!!! I give compliments every day... and it is from my hart, no matter if it is male or female. Compliments are great!!!!!!!! It makes people smile and shifts energy... if someone had a crappy day and gets a genuine compliment... it will rise their energy!!! Thank U for sharing this video :)))
I do this every day, I call it appreciation. My mother taught it to me, no matter what kind of restaurant we were in Michelin star or a shack by the side of the road, my mother would find the chef and thank him. She would walk back to the kitchen thank him, thank the whole staff for a wonderful meal. I’ve taken that step farther, I do it at Starbucks - I think the baristas, I tell them that this is the best coffee I’ve ever had, I do it everywhere and it has a boomerang effect; what you put out comes flying back at you and it feels so damn good. The art of appreciating, I recommend it highly as a daily practice...🖖🏼
When you make others smiles with a compliment it makes your day better too. I need to practice this more.
This is basically loving kindness in action. Loving kindness meditations are a great place to start 🙏
I could literally listen to you talk for hours on end.
this is very true iv come to realise even the most successful and intelligent guys have insecurities and love receiving compliments especially about being good at what he does!
Matthew you are just completely brilliant! Not even just your dating philosophy but you whole life philosophy, it's great. You give Buddha a run for his money
i swear this guy...... all the things he has said ever these motivational talks etc. all what i have been saying and exercising!! i am just happy matthew is doing this and spreading it .....people might actually listen!! good job!! thank you!! seriously thank you!! its just refreshing there are other people out there who think like this!! :) xxx
Matthew! I compliment you time and time agai genuinely because you have given me the confidence to become the extrovert I've always wanted to be. I feel that us shy & boring people sometimes need that person who can walk into a room and can make everyone feel comfortable w just a smile or a simply your calm presence. Through you I have been learning the art of conversation and its been a blast; at times I do crawl back into my shell but then I can hear your wisdom like a chain saw lol. Keep inspiring others your phenomenal and don't forget about yourself along the way.
Yes being Valentine's Day I complemented my sister on her beautiful and time consuming power point display she did, I sent my friend the song' close to you' by the carpenters and I thanked my friend at church for inviting me to the 'hurting' group.... Separated and divorced talk and prayer group! Look forward to joining you for the valentines session in less than 2 hours. Thanks Matthew!
I really love giving compliments to make people feel better about themselves. Although a couple of years ago l told this much younger man that l thought he was gorgeous which he was. He smiled and l could see it really boosted his confidence which made both of us happy. Now l always think twice about doing this because feelings can get out of hand sometimes in my experience.🤔🤣
I've been listening to all your stuff like a lifesaver to my heartbreak. It's all great and I'm so glad you're doing what you're doing. Thank you! What I was wondering while watching this video about giving compliments is this: if you give compliments to the special person in your life like you give compliments to everyone else, maybe they won't feel as special. If everyone is special, no one is special.
Haha, I already do this! And you are so right about how people are always more concerned about getting compliments than giving it. I have a lot of friends who always fish for compliments but I see that they never give it to anyone. I am opposite! I'm always giving out honest compliments to people.
I love it Matthew. I just ended a two month thing and have been feeling sad but I'm going to take this advice to the streets tomorrow and have an attitude adjustment.
Thank you Matty :) I'm really enjoying listening to all these videos created that's available to watch on RUclips.
I'm age 29 and have stuck in pain for most of my life as if I'm not enough. It's doesn't come down to logic, but purely and emotional feeling on a subconscious level, which has made me think whats the point in it all and I don't want to be on this planet any more as truly not happy deep down.
You knowledge and wisdom is really helping me to move past my lifes pains and feeling of alienation. I haven't known how to give value before, but truly grateful that you are providing me with the key answers in life and that's priceless.
This is the moment you should feel greater than your work as you've somewhat saved my soul in this particular moment and I just feel that little bit more safer on this earth plane by following your teachings.
I'm totally going to get out my head and into real life for the first time. I have an amazing life journey to follow now.
Much love Matty, much love. X
Great insight Matthew, giving compliments is more rewarding than receiving them, although that is truly wonderful as well and for all of the others out there who feel uncomfortable with receiving a compliment, just remember that a heartfelt thank you with a smile works perfectly.
I love ur advices. You always put a smile on my face. Well I will start with you. You have a beautiful smile. Your smile brighten my day.
This dude is great. I should write songs about these concepts. Tres cool.
You are gorgeous Matt! A man that truly takes care of himself and others. Thank you!
I've never been great at compliments, receiving or giving. But recently I've been really working hard at turning that around.
On the receiving end... I no longer allow myself to have a negative reaction (like "Yeah, right." or "My hair? I'm having such a bad hair day!") and simply smile a genuine smile and say "Thank you." It works wonders on your own self esteem when you allow yourself to receive a compliment.
On the giving end... I've always complimented people in my head, but never had the guts to say it out loud (going back to prior self esteem issues), but I've just had to force myself to say it. It gets easier and easier every time you step out.
As Matt says: Get out of your head! Stop worrying what that person might think your agenda is in saying it ("Oh, he'll think I'm desperate"), and just say it. :)
I actually love your videos, they are so insightful! Thank you:-)
First I would like to say that I find all of your video seminars very informative Mr. Hussy. Secondly I have a question, for what would be your advice on how to date the right guy if your a single parent with children ?and how can a single parent know that they are dating the right person to be around you and your child/children. Thank you, again.
Absolutely love this! Thanks Matt! :)
Think your just amazing, upbeat , grounded, and your talks are A1
Mathew, thanks for your effort and deligence in advising us womenfolk.
I have some of my hair dyed blue, and after getting a few compliments on it (just out and about, either in the hallway at college or at the grocery store, etc.) last year I started making a conscious effort to give compliments out whenever I think them. I don't compliment guys as much because they tend to think I'm hitting on them, even though I'm not straight, but hopefully I can get over my social anxiety enough over time that I can get to the point of complimenting whoever I want without worrying about what they think. This is great advice.
absolutely loved it! Thanks.😊
Oh my gosh I give you tons of compliments. I think you deserve them. You are always sprightly.....
You're Amazing Matthew 😇
Men say they don't understand women but Mattie you totally do and u prove then wrong :3 love u. I am a compliment giver by nature so it's easy for me
Love you omg thanks for the tips!
I love Mathews advice,thank you Mathew....
You rock, Matthew!!
I just can say, Matthew you are the best.
I bet a lot of women think your a player because of this. I hope you don't give to many complements because they lose value if your constantly giving them to everyone. At least that's how I feel whenever I see a man who does that. No matter how noble your intentions
I bought your book! I'm going to bring it with me to itali and london and put it to the test :p thanks matthew
Awesome vid.. lov it. Tx
You've became my crush Matthew within a week..Such a gentleman you are.❤️❤️
I compliment people every day. I don't receive many compliments in return. However that hasn't stopped me.
Love life coaching. And anything that makes people better people
There's more joy in giving yall
Wow!!!! I love your advises!!! Full of sense!!!!!!!!!! Thank you!!!!!
I love you Matthew Hussey!!!
I LOVE this video.
i just love an' enjoy these videos
you sir, have made complimenting less needy, not awkward, and more easy thank you! also, Matthew can you make a video or blog of how you can prevent your friends from getting into a bad relationship? My friend is being hypnotized by a sleaze i know way to well and shes turn all her focus on him. It's becoming unhealthy and i'm concern. speak soon
Yep! As my mother NEVER said: If you have something nice to say--ALWAYS SAY IT!!!
Thank you!
great video
I love this guy
As a man we love compliments. I personally dont return one back all the time but once i see somethink i like about a girl like a tshirt or hoodie or whatever. I feel more comfortable letting her know, i like her clothing or etc
Matthew, you have amazing shoulders. 😍 also smart and helpful. Thank you!
Just make it sincere!!!!
I’m gonna start doing this
This was greaaaat ! :D
makes complete sense
I give complements here and there!
You are so cute when you are talking so passionated of something :)
In one of his videos he explains that you shouldn't call a guy cute when saying it about something he takes seriously.
Oh Holly Smith you are actually so right. That's exactly why I comment this... it will never work between u and me matty because that would actually ... be alot of drama if I would say you are cute again.. ;)
Matthew those arms are looking good, more define keep up the good work man.😄
Oh my gosh hahaha I do this often . It feels natural to me , occasionally others are awkward or even lol aloof ;D))) but most people glow and it makes their day which in turn meks me feel all warm inside ; )
you have the most beautiful eye colour ever :)
What a perfect understanding you share. There was a worldwide study of people known to be significantly happy, and turns they are people who put others first, and who were involved in something greater than themselves. Jesus Christ said "There is more happiness in giving than in receiving". Savor and live it. It's proven true. And complements don't cost a penny!
Can you by any chance make a video about "young Love"? And some tips? I just told my crush that I like him today, and my friends are telling me that I should ask him out, but I don't know what to say or what to do.
I believe its important to compliment all people in your life and in return they will do the same, as long as its not over done 😊
Ok Matthew, I wish to pay you a compliment. I love the color of your eyes. They twinkle when you smile. Have a Merry Christmas!!
you look so handsome in white shirt.
He looks handsome in anything
I'd give compliments as you advice but I¨m scared of someone thinking I'm creepy or something -.-
He needs more subscribers.
Lovable!
0:30 why We should give a lot more compliments. Similar to do charity, when you give, you focus on them, you pay compliments, you will be come a lot more likeable.
2:40 three compliments. Number one___ be direct. say I love that sweater ON YOU.
second, be SPECIFIC. do not say you are good looking, say You have a unique colour in your eyes.
3:16 Thirdly, remove any "sense of Agenda" in your compliments
Thank you :) Thank you :) :) Thank you :) :) :)
You're so perfect
challenge accepted
You are hot :) I like your shoulders I can tell you work out! I agree it WOULD be a better world if everyone realized that theres nothing to lose and only to gain in giving people complements. Thanks for sharing ur thoughts and values. I think your a man with a beautiful mind and love for life. Awesome vids! I enjoy them.
yep
So, just got back from my date with this hot guy that I met a year ago... Finally met him today... We went out for a cigarette, he put his sweater on, and I said : '' hmm I like your sweater, it looks great on you !! ''
I felt like it was the best thing I've said all night, I could see it on his face haha
the best date I've ever had for a loooooooooooooooooong time . Matt, you're awesome :)
i give compliments all the time and it comes naturally
an older man once came up to me and told me "you sure know how to dress" at first i was going through *in my head* the appearance and attire of this man. much older but not grampa old, and he was dressed a little more than comfortable, like something you through on but dont want to look like you'r going out to town. so i started thinking, "what kind of a person is he ? dose he mean it? or is he an old skirt chaser " it turns out that his wife WAS a seamstress and owned her own store. i caped the word "was " because he was implying that she has passed away. after that we had a good hearted conversation and parted ways. so here's another tip when giveing a complement. if it's from the heart , MAKE SURE THEY KNOW IT! if something about them reminds you of some one in your family or a friend of yours, make sure they know it. it could be personal but, they now feel like they some how made your day by being there. this will make both parties happy
Matthew I'm a 31 year old woman going through a divorce due to my husband's infidelity. We have 3 year old twins boys. Could you pls make a video about how to manage and handle the situation, going through a break up is pretty though. It would've been much easier if I didn't have to see his face again, but because of our kids I have to see him often. So if you could make a video for women going through a divorce. .it would be great!
Thank you!
I Feel for you! And send you much love and strenght from Berlin:) you will make it through this time!!
@ Alysha Cleavin: There's a difference between persuading/encouraging and forcing people to do something. Matthew Hussey isn't doing the latter. Obviously, you think that's what he's doing.
You have the choice not to subscribe to his $30-program. In the same manner, he has the choice to decide how to recoup the investments (i.e. time, brain power, money, etc.) he's given in developing programs meant to help women in more ways than getting "the man" of their dreams.
"Exploiting", in this context, means users of his products and services aren't satisfied with what he's done or think that they've been had. There's a skill involved in building and sustaining relationships. "True love" is an abstract term. Matthew and others like him offer insights and skills on human relationships. If we follow your logic that "true love will work it's self out between 2 people", then you are discarding tons of research on human dynamics because abstract concepts like "true love" have innate power to make things alright for everyone. In reality, however, that is not the case.
There's always the "everything in moderation is better" type thing. It's great to give and be given a compliment. I mean if my bf does that to me all the time I wouldn't mine. BUT to see a guy who keeps on giving compliments to random people all the time might strike me as a red flag like they have some ulterior motive or possibly is a player.
Not if it is genuine. If they are lying about the compliment that is one thing.
Maybe they feel good when they make someone else feel good.
Lils i sooooooo agree
i alway like complement people. i do it because I enjoy
Does this applies for someone you know for a long time??
complimentsare important.... need to learn this stuff ))) how to give compliments to a guy ....that is really good thing
he is handsome
True women should compliment men as men should compliment women.