Hyper-vigilance has been baked in to my personality since about four years of age. I survived serious, physical/emotional abuse from that age until about 17 yrs old, when my family finally escaped our violent Father. Now, at 69, I STILL deal with the crippling effects of PTSD every day: 24/7 nervousness, stomach pains and extreme, hyper-vigilant edginess etc. This kind of grim, family-legacy is truly a "gift that keeps on giving."
Not to belittle your problems, but try 500 mg ashwaganda morning and night, and in a bout a month you will see unbelievable results in terms of calmness, relaxation, no anxiety, no worries. Just calm and recovery 💜🙏
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:14 🚨 *Hyper-vigilance involves constant anticipation of problems, searching for threats, and difficulty feeling relaxed or safe in the present moment.* 01:46 🔄 *Hyper-vigilance is a lingering effect of trauma, akin to the persistent scent after burning something in the oven.* 04:17 🔄 *Hyper-vigilance often stems from recurrent trauma, where the brain remains in a state of anticipation due to a series of threatening events.* 05:14 🔒 *To address hyper-vigilance, closure with the core trauma event is crucial for resolving the energy stored in the body, allowing a return to a state of rest, safety, and creativity.* 05:54 🔍 *Recreating one's point of view is essential; a simple practice involves calming the body through touch regulation, deep breaths, and mindfulness to anchor focus in the present moment.* 09:08 🤔 *Observing rather than absorbing thoughts helps in realizing the distinction between perceived threats and actual reality, promoting a sense of safety.* 12:40 🌊 *Reprogramming the mind involves acknowledging and actively embracing moments of feeling safe, ultimately reducing anxiety and facilitating lasting change.* Made with HARPA AI
My neighbour plays really loud music from time to time and suddenly I get hypervigilant and everytime they play loud music I get irritated and anxious.
I feel you, I lived with extreme noise for 3 years (a building was demolished and then re-built aa a hotel next to me), outside the city was repairing the pavement also during night, and there was reconstruction work going on at my workplace as well (the latter two lasted less than 3 years but happened at the same time with the other one). I felt myself helpless, could not escape (tried to change flat, did not work out), interpreted it as boundary-crossing where I was forced to leave my own place. It was a terrible experience. Extreme noise does terrible things for the body, now there are studies for that, so your reactions are completely normal. What comes into my mind is maybe getting some control over the situation (knowing when, how long, etc.- though it can be tricky with neighbours) even if you can't eliminate it totally could help.
Wonder if this is what ws wrong with me. I had a drunkard for a dad, who would hover over you drunkenly for HOURS, giving you the impression that any second he would beat you senseless.
Definitely is part of it what your body had to live with and developed in order to survive. Look into somatic experiencing therapy to help you resolve that.
Here's the script: "When's the next shoe going to drop?" aka Hyper-vigilance - the specktor of trauma in our minds What is it? Why does it happen? What do we do about it? **** THINGS YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT: You're not alone in this journey. Get Community and support here: tribe.freetheself.com You can heal. You can be happy again. You can enjoy life again. I train you in the 3 steps that make that happen in my masterclass, "How To Be Happy After Narcissistic Abuse & Codependency". Take it now and start healing: masterclass.freetheself.com Got trauma? Get healing! Get Closure Now opens for enrollment July 9th, 2019. Class starts July 29th. 20 SEATS MAX. Get on the wait list now: www.healyourtraumanow.com I'm Marshall Burtcher, and if you don't know me, I help people rediscover their happiness after codependency and narcissistic abuse trauma. My students and clients routinely tell me they regain their power, their identity, and experience real self-love within weeks using my processes and training systems. Learn more about me, my journey, and how I help you heal here: www.freetheself.com *** The script: Breaking hypervigilance! When your brain signals you that "something bad is happening", take these steps: 1) Breathe and yawn three times 2) Allow your awareness to focus on a physical object in the space around you for a few seconds. Just observe it. Notice the space between you and it. Breathe into that space 3) Observe how your mind and body relax as you do this 4) Assess your Present Moment: Is there a threat I can see? Is there a threat I can hear? Is there a threat I can touch? Is there a threat I can taste? Is there a threat I can smell? Is there an actual, physical threat right now? If no, then validate your present reality. What is something safe I can see? What is something safe I can smell? What is something safe I can touch? What is something safe I can taste? What is something safe I can hear? Am I actually safe? If yes, breathe that in. Note that your present moment is safe and allow both the truth that you were in danger in the past to be true and that you're now safe to be true.
I have jumpy body, every time I hear unexpected noise my body jump. It’s very annoying, some people make fun of me. Do you have any idea why I have this, and what to do about it?. My mum abused me physically every day.
This is your body in hyper-vigilance. It is on guard, so to speak. Mine was that way till I resolved the trauma of physical abuse myself and re-learned relaxation.
I've got a really important question to those six questions one should ask yourself (Is there a threat I can see, hear, touch etc.) What if I have to deal with difficuilt people on a day-to-day-basis and I receive them and their behaviour towards me as a threat? I mean deep down I know that they are not a life-threathening wild animal that is about to eat me so to say but it feels like it. I am very scared of interaction with them.
How about if your body goes on hyper vigilance mode because of other women. That’s how I feel..with other women around me and my partner. There has been betrayal not cheating but a lot of things that broke trust. However, we are good right now. Just hypervigilant about other women.
perhaps it isn't about other women. It may be about your level of trust and feeling valued by your partner. How do they show they value you? How do they demonstrate trust to you?
@@healyourcodependency he has betrayed that trust in the beginning, he’s done a 360. He shows me everyday. But I am still hypervigilant. And this is an issue from before him but now is obviously more because of the broken trust.
@@Irenemunoz5 That is the rough journey. I suspect it has to do with how externalized your sense of worth is (how dependent your value feels on other people's responses to you or need/want of you). I have a tool called "Value Retrieval" that can help start the process of taking your value internally and keeping it. Check it out here in my tools library: library.freetheself.com
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For the first time I feel like someone put out in words how my reality is. I feel like crying because I never felt so understood. Thank you
Thank you for giving us something to actually do rather than just saying what hypervigilance is like some of the other RUclipsrs.
You're welcome!
Hyper-vigilance has been baked in to my personality since about four years of age. I survived serious, physical/emotional abuse from that age until about 17 yrs old, when my family finally escaped our violent Father. Now, at 69, I STILL deal with the crippling effects of PTSD every day: 24/7 nervousness, stomach pains and extreme, hyper-vigilant edginess etc. This kind of grim, family-legacy is truly a "gift that keeps on giving."
Not to belittle your problems, but try 500 mg ashwaganda morning and night, and in a bout a month you will see unbelievable results in terms of calmness, relaxation, no anxiety, no worries. Just calm and recovery 💜🙏
Thank you for explaining this in a way where I get it! I have had LOTS of therapy and nobody explained this to me. Very helpful.
You're welcome!
This changed my life thank you so much god bless you brother
you're welcome!
😢 Even though that’s a tear face emoji I’m so grateful for this! Thank you!
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:14 🚨 *Hyper-vigilance involves constant anticipation of problems, searching for threats, and difficulty feeling relaxed or safe in the present moment.*
01:46 🔄 *Hyper-vigilance is a lingering effect of trauma, akin to the persistent scent after burning something in the oven.*
04:17 🔄 *Hyper-vigilance often stems from recurrent trauma, where the brain remains in a state of anticipation due to a series of threatening events.*
05:14 🔒 *To address hyper-vigilance, closure with the core trauma event is crucial for resolving the energy stored in the body, allowing a return to a state of rest, safety, and creativity.*
05:54 🔍 *Recreating one's point of view is essential; a simple practice involves calming the body through touch regulation, deep breaths, and mindfulness to anchor focus in the present moment.*
09:08 🤔 *Observing rather than absorbing thoughts helps in realizing the distinction between perceived threats and actual reality, promoting a sense of safety.*
12:40 🌊 *Reprogramming the mind involves acknowledging and actively embracing moments of feeling safe, ultimately reducing anxiety and facilitating lasting change.*
Made with HARPA AI
Thank you for this. First time I found something somhelpful 👍🏻
This feels like a curse , slow death 😅 basically. Thankyou for the video
Very helpful video, thanks a lot!
My neighbour plays really loud music from time to time and suddenly I get hypervigilant and everytime they play loud music I get irritated and anxious.
I feel you, I lived with extreme noise for 3 years (a building was demolished and then re-built aa a hotel next to me), outside the city was repairing the pavement also during night, and there was reconstruction work going on at my workplace as well (the latter two lasted less than 3 years but happened at the same time with the other one). I felt myself helpless, could not escape (tried to change flat, did not work out), interpreted it as boundary-crossing where I was forced to leave my own place. It was a terrible experience. Extreme noise does terrible things for the body, now there are studies for that, so your reactions are completely normal.
What comes into my mind is maybe getting some control over the situation (knowing when, how long, etc.- though it can be tricky with neighbours) even if you can't eliminate it totally could help.
thank you very much I practiced this to 15min and I felt more relaxed ,, the best video the only with real answer
Thank you for these tools!
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This is really great....needed this so much!💜
One of the most helpful tools. Thanks 👍😊
Wonder if this is what ws wrong with me. I had a drunkard for a dad, who would hover over you drunkenly for HOURS, giving you the impression that any second he would beat you senseless.
Definitely is part of it what your body had to live with and developed in order to survive. Look into somatic experiencing therapy to help you resolve that.
How does someone accomplish closure with the core trauma event?
Really well explained and useful!
Great video
Thanks dude that helped.
Here's the script:
"When's the next shoe going to drop?" aka Hyper-vigilance - the specktor of trauma in our minds
What is it?
Why does it happen?
What do we do about it?
****
THINGS YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT:
You're not alone in this journey. Get Community and support here: tribe.freetheself.com
You can heal. You can be happy again. You can enjoy life again. I train you in the 3 steps that make that happen in my masterclass, "How To Be Happy After Narcissistic Abuse & Codependency". Take it now and start healing: masterclass.freetheself.com
Got trauma? Get healing! Get Closure Now opens for enrollment July 9th, 2019. Class starts July 29th. 20 SEATS MAX. Get on the wait list now: www.healyourtraumanow.com
I'm Marshall Burtcher, and if you don't know me, I help people rediscover their happiness after codependency and narcissistic abuse trauma. My students and clients routinely tell me they regain their power, their identity, and experience real self-love within weeks using my processes and training systems.
Learn more about me, my journey, and how I help you heal here: www.freetheself.com
***
The script:
Breaking hypervigilance! When your brain signals you that "something bad is happening", take these steps:
1) Breathe and yawn three times
2) Allow your awareness to focus on a physical object in the space around you for a few seconds. Just observe it. Notice the space between you and it. Breathe into that space
3) Observe how your mind and body relax as you do this
4) Assess your Present Moment:
Is there a threat I can see?
Is there a threat I can hear?
Is there a threat I can touch?
Is there a threat I can taste?
Is there a threat I can smell?
Is there an actual, physical threat right now?
If no, then validate your present reality.
What is something safe I can see?
What is something safe I can smell?
What is something safe I can touch?
What is something safe I can taste?
What is something safe I can hear?
Am I actually safe?
If yes, breathe that in. Note that your present moment is safe and allow both the truth that you were in danger in the past to be true and that you're now safe to be true.
Thank you. Feeling so much better now
Very helpful. Thank you.
You're welcome!
Thank you for this wonderful video!
I have jumpy body, every time I hear unexpected noise my body jump. It’s very annoying, some people make fun of me. Do you have any idea why I have this, and what to do about it?. My mum abused me physically every day.
This is your body in hyper-vigilance. It is on guard, so to speak. Mine was that way till I resolved the trauma of physical abuse myself and re-learned relaxation.
@@healyourcodependency thank you for your reply. My eyes are on tears!
Get away from those that make fun of you 😔
This is great! Like the end of the video too, how this practice opens the door to becoming more of who you want to be. Thank you!
You're welcome!
Thank you for this
You're welcome!
Thanks so much. This video is so helpful!
Thank you so much!
thank you
Awesome stuff. Thank you
I've got a really important question to those six questions one should ask yourself (Is there a threat I can see, hear, touch etc.) What if I have to deal with difficuilt people on a day-to-day-basis and I receive them and their behaviour towards me as a threat? I mean deep down I know that they are not a life-threathening wild animal that is about to eat me so to say but it feels like it. I am very scared of interaction with them.
thanks. wish i knew this 35 years ago
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How about if your body goes on hyper vigilance mode because of other women. That’s how I feel..with other women around me and my partner. There has been betrayal not cheating but a lot of things that broke trust. However, we are good right now. Just hypervigilant about other women.
perhaps it isn't about other women. It may be about your level of trust and feeling valued by your partner. How do they show they value you? How do they demonstrate trust to you?
@@healyourcodependency he has betrayed that trust in the beginning, he’s done a 360. He shows me everyday. But I am still hypervigilant. And this is an issue from before him but now is obviously more because of the broken trust.
@@Irenemunoz5 That is the rough journey. I suspect it has to do with how externalized your sense of worth is (how dependent your value feels on other people's responses to you or need/want of you). I have a tool called "Value Retrieval" that can help start the process of taking your value internally and keeping it. Check it out here in my tools library: library.freetheself.com
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its not always about physical threats. And stroking your hand? really?