QUEENS CANNOT BE INSECURE- Let Me Tell You Why. RC BLAKES
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I feel great as a single. As soon as a guy starts to show interest and we get closer they start pointing out what I can improve, my hair, my glasses, my weight, my clothes, my smile and I start feeling insecure and not good enough. Now I walk away as soon as that starts. They're obviously the wrong guy for me. You will never be good enough for the wrong person.
So true! I’ve experienced this. I be happily single minding my business and here come a guy asking why my nails not done or why I dnt wear makeup 💄 & why my bottom tooth crooked CRAZY toxic mess trying to tear you down. Men can be so weird
This
Amen!
@@love_reka_777 I guess this is a sign of bad parenting on their mothers end..
I totally relate to what you said!
Never be in a position to where you overestimate someone and underestimate yourself 😌
FACTS!!!
Never again💋
You said that!!
TRUTH!!!
Factual
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear! Thank you father for allowing me to find this channel ❤️
amen!
Amen 🙏
I agree. I just found this channel about a month ago and it has really been helping me to understand my worth. Thanks R C Blakes
Yes !
I found this guy a few days ago. Where did he learn all this stuff? He says he’s not a psychologist or psychiatrist? I have learned so much from him these past few days! I am so thankful.
"Your insecurities will always demote you in terms of what you qualify for"
"When you underestimate yourself you're underestimating the God in you" ❤
YES MA'AM SO MANY WOMEN ARE CONSTANTLY SETTLING.... THAT'S WHY REAL HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD TO COME BY
This is a good one 💓
@@butterfly-ef8fx yes big time I am 19 and my generation is nothing but hook up culture etc and I don't want that so I am waiting on my Kingdom spouse and in the meantime educating myself and healing my childhood trauma etc.
I was insecure and got married to the wrong man at a young age. I wanted to leave soon after but had no support from my family. He will change, they said. Well, after 16 years of marriage, I was done. Initially, I did not have any support, but by this time, I was secure and did not want my daughter to grow up in this type of home. I raised my children after being divorced, but God did not bring me a partner. Now, after 38 years, this same man is trying to sweet talk me. 😂😂. I am no longer insecure!
“The main thing that a predator of a man uses against a woman is her own insecurities.” Thank you for your powerful teaching points, sir.”
Ain’t that a good word? 🙌🏾
That really hit me
It's true I've done pick Up many years now that's the player phase. Learning how to emotional spike some dudes just lowlifes😑. Proud of the feminine gang 🙏
FOR SURE, SAME EXPERIENCES ‼️
Yes!
“Insecurities come from one of two places: trauma or training.”
Both
I felt that. Its true.
Please elaborate on this please
I was well trained at school. Afraid to speak !everyone rouring with laughter. Because I was well spoken but poor. Some people can't cope because I am not ashamed of myself any more,x not afraid to speak! X I have something To say, I speak Jesus! He saved Me!.
Some notes from his speech👌🏾
1.
- If you're looking for a king, you must become a queen 👑
- If you are in a relationship with insecurities, you're not ready for a relationship.
- Talk, walk, think, behave like a queen. Speak like a queen rather than holding insecurities.
- Learn to love yourself while you're single, get to know yourself before getting in a relationship so you know how to handle insecurities beforehand.
2. You overestimate others and yourself if you lack confidence.
A queen forgives
Much appreciated ❤️✨
That's not exactly what he said He said you overestimate others and UNDERESTIMATE yourself When you're insecure you don't overestimate yourself It's almost as if you believe others can do what you can't do
Thank you.
YES!!
Even kings are not perfect. The thing is today people looking for perfect people and when we find out we are not perfect or a person has a weakness we want to call it quits, instead of trying to work on the problem together.
" If you pray for a King, you have to be a Queen!" 💕 Absolutely
give a talk on using and manipulation together on women
you're like the dad I never had..thank you for this
❤Thank You Abba!
Agreed. I watch these videos and feel so much reassurance!
For Sure💌🙏
Yessss this is what it is, I kept trying to figure out but you hit the nail on the head.
Absolutely ✊🏾 Re:Dad I never had x I had a Dad & grew up with a Mum & Dad married at home with my mother, however he just left the rearing of his daughters ( 3 of us) to my mother who just focussed on the Golden Child, her favourite the first born & my father not recognising that HE HAD DAUGHTERS which needed HIM to enlighten US on what Men are & how they behave.
Instead he allowed my Mother who had no brothers or uncles & no knowledge of Men & was a Narcissist.
RC Blakes has been an absolute God Send 🌟 when he described certain behaviour practices & ultimately gave it a name (narcissistic behaviour) which has been a toxicity element throughout my childhood & literally made to believe that what I was experiencing I was so wrong when needing just unconditional love as a child & the interest shown to my older sibling who was 7 years older & still to this day she & her children still reign supreme.
I constantly throughout my life thought by giving my parents what they wanted that one day they would recognise I too was good enough but no due to the teachings of RC Blakes.
I finally walked away a year ago understanding that their demonic ways influenced the choices I made with the Men I chose as this WAS my norm because my parents set that stage for me from the age of 5 years old.
My insecurities came from rape, domestic violence , and emotional abuse. Also I was bullied a lot as a child however i been working on healing. And I’m getting my confidence back.
Well done keep going 👌🏿💯❤️
Great! Keep it up
Heal heal heal
I pray for your healing in Jesus name! 🙏🏾
Get well Sister❤️
I'll say this, being secure can come from how you were raise, treated, and the type of environment you grew up in. When you grow up feeling unsafe, ignored, and unprotected you don't feel secure. We have trauma, it's deep.
Facts!
Yes, I agree. It's trauma and our responsibility to parent ourselves when we identify it.
Amen
Facts!!!
That's why people should heal before they even have kids
Pastor Blakes I listened to you for years, I governed my self accordingly. I am now married to the most wonderful man ever. I am treated like the queen I am. Ty!💙
Michel- Are we married to the same man ;) ? It is wonderful to have someone who knows how to treat ya!
Congratulations 🎊 so awesome!!!! 🎈 🎈 🎈
My insecurities came from him so I chose to walk away. Can’t fix anyone that broken.
I just left a domestic violence marriage and your videos have really blessed me
I was in a marriage with a Bum and thought he was the world
I finally left and God is blessing me daily
Good for you Queen❤️❤️
Bums will always try to keep you down so you stay with them. Congrats to you Queen 👑
Goodevening hard find good man willing too treat you like a queen , feel important , luv , values , honest , also do simple things for a woman ! I feel a man put a his hands on a woman not a man at all . The most important you really luv a woman you sacrifice n show actions that I ‘ m all about business n actions . I ‘ m trying find a good woman who ‘ s wants that in their life n be appreciate !
Good for you!! Love your life and be happy!
Good morning I ‘m single men
“If you are praying for a King you must be a Queen” Amennnn
" You cannot be whole and complete with and unforgiving spirit dominating your soul".
Wow!
"Your insecurities will always demote you " ... ❤
"This is not even a clown because at least a clown has a job" 🤣🤣🤣
I cackled when he said that 😭😭😭
Lolllll
🤡
Re: A Clown Has A Job! I just love the clever way RC BRINGS THE REALITY HOME! He loves us gals sooooo much & will not rest...praise God! Until we trust in God & use time to truly analyse how magnificent we Are & don’t settle because we’re lonely or impatient xx
@@johannaalexander2009 I definitely need some helpful healthy friends look me up on Facebook if you're interested us women of God need to encourage each other
You are officially apart of my morning routine! Words can not express my gratitude. You are truly anointed and God bless you, your wife and the journey and purpose you continue to walk upon. In Jesus Name, AMEN AMEN and AMEN!!!!!!! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
@RC Blakes Jr be on it! He have me about to shout in this house.
I love that…”If you’re praying for a king, you’ve got to be a queen!” 🌻
Whew. Jesus. “He’ll get close to you and reject you.”
Sure will.
“Your insecurities have made you delusional” whew!!! I felt that 🥴
"When you underestimate yourself, you over estimate others, even a hobo/bums"...!!! Oh my, that hit so hard! Not only for me but it's hitting for so many women who do this and give bums a place in our lives when they shouldn't be! I cry sometimes for the mistakes I've made. I will not say I wish, I wish, but I'm certainly listening and keeping my peace and not jumping into "situationships" anymore. I've been single for over 1 year and not tolerating bums, situationships or time wasters anymore!
I listened to this a long time ago and thought no worries, nothing insecure about me!
Now I am back here with the words bringing me to tears as I realise in how many ways I need to value myself.
It is so important to experience love based on being valued. But we can never experience this until we truly value ourself.
You have really blessed my life. I have an amazing father. I had an amazing husband for 32 years. I am now a widow. I was interested in dating. Not anymore. I have been attracting narcissist and opportunistic people. I am 58 and still youthful. I must now learn that it's okay to be alone and use my time wisely and productively.
I never knew that men were jealous and even hate women. Keep bringing these messages. Thank you so much.
You’re too youthful to count a relationship out all together. Let’s pray that the quality of man will find you and you will naturally be open to exploring the possibilities. In the meantime LOVE YOUR SINGLENESS.
Thank you so much for responding. I will be purchasing Queenology and the Study Guide.
Right now I'm taking advantage of my time and placing it into my relationship with God, my family and business.
Again, thank you.
Minister Blakes, I love your show . There should be a show exclusively for men . My story is a little different than most women, because I took what I learned about men as a kid . because my father was a highly domineering an controlling type husband and Father who was also an awesome man, he got almost everything right as a dad , but failed as a husband , was married four times. I began to study men at an early age , because boys and men had violated me by the time I was twelve years of age , so I had to find out why they were behaving in these perverted type ways, and thank God ! , he protected me from being actually raped by these people who obviously had been taught the wrong way, permiscues behavior is taught to boys in a lot of different ways, and they see it as normal to be this way with females, and their are lots of females who have not been taught how to deal with these type of men . I believe that this should be a mandatory class at church and at school, I begin teaching my daughter as soon as she was able to comprehend these matters, knowing that one day she would have to face these behaviors, I never allowed any man to get to close to her as she was growing up, I did the best I could, no help from her father, but my family was there to help fill in when needed. That I raised as a single parent, and they both are grown and married, lol , praise God !! , and I have 13 grands and 3 great grandchildren and one about to be born any day now. 🙌🏾📖👍, I chose to remain single, I have all the love I need, and more love than most people, I am truly blessed and highly favored by God , it has been that way all of my life and I am so very grateful to God for this. Yes , I came to know the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior, at the age of 17,and I have been studying and enjoying the ways God every since, I am going to be 62 years old this year and my life is wonderful, all of my children are great and doing great things, the joy just overwhelms me at times, just knowing and seeing how much God loves me , it is very fulfilling , I am so okay about never having married, lol. God gave me beauty at birth, and satan really tried a lot of things designed to destroy my life !! , BUT !!! GOD !!! , did not let it happen that way 🙏🙏📖💪🙌🏾💕💖👋🥰👍
Scary to think as I read your post!😳🤔
Men are VERY much jealous of women which is crazy to learn since we’ve never been taught this ever but I’ve learned it from experience and observations.
I once had a bf that laughed at my career choice, that was my first huge red flag and I’ll never forget it. I even began to doubt myself and surrounded myself with people that didn’t appreciate my value… years later, I learned that he had actually enrolled in community college, after had bashed higher education when I was with him since I had a post grad degree. The insanity! I still cannot wrap my head around the jealousy and even hatred he felt for me and how he treated me.
In addition, through therapy, I learned that I was attracted to him because he was like my mom. Never approving or being happy for my accomplishments and secretly seething with anger/jealousy and insecurities. People are sick in the head my friends. Much ❤️
My 86 year old mom listens to you! Never too old to accomplish ANYTHING in life!
That's amazing. God be with her!
Fantastic ❤ Education is the way to Happiness ❤
Honestly, this video made a lot of sense. I was once in a position where I overestimated someone and underestimated myself because he used my insecurities against me. I was once attracted to a bum who enjoyed drama and chaos. i forgive myself for that and praying God continues His deliverance and transformation for me. Thank you for this message! :)
Yes!!! Same here. I'm actively working on my healing now from that continuous cycle of filth.
My father in Christ luv you and Lisa🙏
I listen to your videos before bed and they have truly helped me to respect myself more as a child of God, and to deal with the trauma of my past when I was in an unequally yoked union. Thank you Pastor. God bless you.
I cried like a baby listen to this video... God exposed those hidden things in me. Thank you Jesus for making all things new.🙏🏾🙌🏽
G-d bless you..I did listening so on time..in my growth. Conditioned and hurt by parents ..Iv grown so much being on my own now in my 40's and thanks to these insights reminders i reflect back but also identify the tendencies I have ..yet i am able to choose..to decide and choose with my mind what is healthy relationship..healthy people. .Who genuine spiritually inclined souls.
@@SpecialgiftsLA iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii and iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii
Goodevening it ‘s hard too find a good woman who ‘ s wants a man who ‘s really luv her n values you as honor , sacrifice , willing go extra mile too show actions n also do the simple things for a woman .
Goodmorning I take this very seriously
@@rashawntaylor4316 As you can see God is preparing us and molding us to be a virtuous Women. Keep praying 🙏🏾 for us.
Love this channel. You’re who Kevin Samuels wish he could be: uplifting, encouraging, and giving us women something to think about as opposed to tearing down our self esteem. Love it!
@Suzelaine Similien You said it right lady!! R.C. Blake is a "healer" not a "hater."
Red pill too
So true
Factsss
Absolutely🙌🏽🙌🏽
This video has really opened my eyes… the fact that I’ve been wasting my younger years on men who don’t deserve a minute of my time is crazy… Being single can be lonely but I wanna embrace it & become a better version of myself! Thanks for this video
Dusty man...
My insecurities have made me delusional!! ?? My God!! Thats heavy! Thank you Pastor RC. ❤
Omg this man is has spoken, women really need to hear him ❤️
Yes
Yes
That's the same thing I was thinking.
I agree!!!
I just reposted💯😘👑🙏🏽
Walking around all stuck up "You look crazy...you need to calm done" 😂 Amen
This made me cry. I feel as though the Holy Spirit is always tugging on my soul connecting me to where I need to be with people wanting to hear, thank you. I just want to be better for God and myself... God knows my heart and intention. I’m changing 💕 because of you Lord my savior Jesus Christ
I was only on Facebook. Decided to totally get off of Facebook over a year ago, thought I'd miss it but I find I really am glad I gave it up !! Anything can become an addiction. Posting pictures ( never did dress sexual though ) scrolling on Facebook for hours ! I like living my life more privately doing what I need and want to do . Prefer a man who has no interest in social media. Listening to my favorite healing videos like RC BLakes is why I am on social media now 💙 Thank you
I am so with you! I recognized my need to leave Facebook about 7 years ago, and it was one of the best decision I could have made. I feel a freedom that I didn’t know I needed to feel.
This man has pulled me away from this sickness I been non contact for 4mo
Same here! 5 months NC!!!
thank you we need this teaching
All day foreal
Yes God ! 2 years 4 months no contact for me ! It’s a beautiful thing❤️❤️❤️
Same here almost 4 yrs no contact and counting ! Best decision I could’ve made in my life tbh! It was not easy for sure! No regrets here 💯👑
“Y’all don’t need these hobos- y’all got each other-That woman don’t want yo dusty man! She rollin w Kings !!” PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!🤗❤️🙏🏼💖💫
That part!
Word 😂
So true
These insecurities cause us also to get into addictions and substance abuse...like smoking cigarettes and alcoholism. The first step for me right now is to quit it all...pastor Blake's message here is so true and honest.
I developed a big insecurity throughout middle school and highschool: the misconception that I was an unconventional person, and therefore conventional people--conventionally beautiful people with mainstream habits or styles or attitudes--would not want to befriend me. This was a defense mechanism, as I sometimes would feel awkward around popular kids who seemed less inviting.
However, since getting my first job, I've realized that it's really just a matter of time, proximity, and discovering similar interests before two people can click, no matter their conventional or unconventional traits. Furthermore, God has blessed me with a genuine love of one on one interaction, and this trait has led to some genuinely enjoyable conversations with people I used to feel were greater than I.
But as R.C. Blakes said, I am greater than no one, but I am equal to ALL. Thank the Lord for this wisdom-filled, Holy Spirit-led video!! 🥰
I could literally feel strongholds breaking as I was listening to this video. Thank you Pastor for continuing to allow God to use you and for raising consciousness‼️ So many gems. 👏🏽💎🙏🏽
I have a question what if your man struggles with fleshy eyes 👀
I understand what you are saying. It so sad how these women act on social media
I am a54 years old women and i think highly of myself. Thank you sir for keeping it real
Amen! That’s awesome
You're saving lives one day at a time...Praying that God gives you a strong heart to continue your journey. Sending Mrs. Blakes love as well!
On
Yes lord, in the name of Jesus🙏🏾❤
These videos have helped me to set and keep to my boundaries and stop accepting or forgiving terrible behavior, out of a sense of being "nice." A woman needs to be secure enough to set her reasonable boundaries and stick to them, or some men will take advantage of that. This is a learning process. We're raised to be understanding and forgiving, so it's hard to be firm and unforgiving about terrible behavior. But we have to be that way for self-protection and self-dignity. We deserve decent behavior, at a minimum. I wish I'd known this when I was younger. These RC Blake videos give great advice. "I can't have better than that because (insert reason you tell yourself)" is spot on.
Very true
He’s the father I’ve never had. I love his wisdom and teaching. Thank you pastor Blake for pouring into us, thanks for looking out for us women and for being our leader. We appreciate you so much! May God bless you always!
Come on --"A high value is more than a man with 6 figures and 6 feet tall." Give me a king!
Give me a man of God.
"Your insecurities will always demote you in terms of what you qualify for". I hear u pastor
I'm a very secure Queen within my own Spiritual Growth...
("when you can see Yourself clearly, You can change Anything")...
🙏
Keep it coming !
Preach Pastor Blakes!!! Thanks for keeping it real!!! Blessings to you and your Queen for being the examples of Marriage unity ordained by God!! I'm still waiting on my Boaz to come after ending 40 years torturous, three narcissist marriages to one counterfeit "man of God" , one physical abusive and adulturous man, as well as one marriage to high school sweetheart soultie. Please, pray for me to eventually get the courage to write a book of my experiences as God has laid it upon my heart to fulfill. Thank you so much and God bless you continually is my prayer. ❤️👑✝️
Thank you...
Your wife is so blessed to have such a solid man...
Honestly, A man that messes up your pH is a man that unloads toxicity in your spirit and body thats why women need to abstain from sex until marriage because you can't see that on his member and the transference of energy from other soulties creates more insecurities in the soultie that puts unintentionally locked on your spiritual freedom and greatness. Physical health effects mental health when you introduce things into the body not meant to be present. Your conscious immunity is firefighting the physical while your spiritual defenses are left vulnerable in your subconsciousness...this is how the devil enters. Promiscuity among men and women leads to exposures of mental toxicities more contagious than Covid. Understanding the science of spirituality and how energy flows between is important...you eliminate the 2nd guessing and rationalization of what people try to convince you into entertaining. Your body is your temple.....literally!
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!
This!!! This comment deserves all the awards!!! This is soooo true
You are absolutely right!
Miss Jennifer...Bravo ...that is so powerful.
Truth
This blessed me! Going to therapy over the last few months, and addressing childhood trauma has really catapulted my esteem and self worth! Not one more bum! 🤣 Seriously Pastor, thank you! 💕
SAY THAT AGAIN NO MORE BUMS 🤣
Pastor Blake, this was an Awesome teaching. It was on point, showed me I need to study God's word and get back in the gym. My security is in who God said I am. Love from Colorado. Jackie
Pastor RC Blake videos are like my medicine : I take one every morning, one every night and I feel recovered.
Good medicine here
Alright,Queens let’s get to work!!This blessed my soul...pep talk🙌🏾
💛
Yas!! Sending you love! Let’s work work work!
Yes Indeed
Yes!
I agree with you completely. When I was depressed and didn’t believe in myself I was over specialized and I allowed men that talk to me in a way that made me uncomfortable. Now that I have achieved a tremendous amount of growth I have no need for all that. I have a bounce in my step and hold my head high even if I’m in my bathrobe with a messy bun in the grocery store. The only time I get dressed up is for me
“Overestimating the bums and underestimating the greatness in us” !!! Preaching now👏🏽
INDEED...Real Woman has no problem with collaborating around others and not just feel secure when around men because a true and absolutely “real woman” will see no other women as a threat!
I’m praying for a “ High Quality” man, he can also be “High Value” but what’s on the inside is more important to me. Thank you Bishop! 🙏🏽❤️
Yes high quality not high value
High Quality indeed!!!!💜🤗👑💎
Yes yes yes...High Quality. Because people are only associating value with money. And it's a lot of men with money that have gutter mentalities.
@@jaylentv1 exactly!!! That’s why I don’t really agree with Kevin samuels
I thank God for pastor Blakes. I really needed this powerful message from God. I pray that every woman listening to this message will receive God's healing. Lord restore & renew a steadfast spirit within us. Strive for prigress in Christ.
I brought your book called QUEENOLOGY and I love it 🥰 I’m Learning how to become the QUEEN that I am in this word….thanks for everything ❤️❤️
This happened to me so many times...arrived into my life woman who stolen my man. But I am so thankful for it. First of all...it wasn't man for me. Always arrived better person into my life, next thing is that I realised my value and that woman never fight for any man and best thing is wish him happiness and let him go. If woman feel fear of loss then she isn't able to feel love. Because everything absorb her fear.❤🙏🏻
Agree
Anne great comment.
I come from women who are always well put together hair nails (hands and feet) makeup outfits and physically fit this is what I saw growing up so for me looking my best is apart of who I am and has nothing to do with insecurities....I have no idea how to be a plain frumpy Jane ...I’m a foxy grandma 💪🏾💋
Mental Health
You can be well put together, feminine and fit without looking and acting "extra"; that's what he is speaking about.
@@MT-yx5cu Right...her comment sound a lil insecure and defensive to me🤷
YOU TRULY HAVE MISUNDERSTOOD HIS ENTIRE MESSAGE! MY QUESTION TO YOU IS; WHAT KIND OF “REAL MAN” HAVE YOU HAD IN YOUR LIFE? I DIDN’T HEAR THAT PART!
That's not what he's talking about he's talking about insecurities not that you reject how you put yourself together
Been listening to you daily now and honestly my mindset is shifting already🙌🏾❤️❤️ I appreciate your teachings definitely taking notes🙇🏽
Thank you for this lesson, you actually explained all my problems on why I always find myself in toxic situations. Insecurities, childhood trauma and wrong training. Thank you sir, I am from South Africa.
Thanks for being a father figure in my life. My standards as a woman are so much raised because of your teachings. May God bless you and Lisa.
The Lord has been working on healing my insecurities. I longed for the love, affection, and attention from certain members of my family. Instead, I was met with criticisms, harsh words, put downs, and judgments. I placed all that pain into becoming a lawyer. But, I realize I never really heal, it just distracted myself.
I chased those things in family members too. I can say that I took all the harsh words and, over time turned them into positives. I also moved and that nurtured my ability to start healing. During a heated debate my aunt asked me “what kind of women do you want to be” at the time I took offense because of the previous words said that lead to that. A year later I’m becoming the “Woman I want to be” her words hurt me deep for other reasons but I’m learning to push through them and the insecurities they opened. God bless you❤️
Wow. I'm 32 years young...and this is the 1st time I've come across another female whose family, the very people you look to for love affection positive energy PERIOD, are the ones who put you down, made you feel ugly and awful, told you you weren't of value, you have no worth (the people I loved and admired the most, this is what they instilled in me, how they felt about me, since I was a young girl in elementary school, they being family, and the only "friends" I've ever had)...it hurts so bad I can't even get it all out on paper, and I'm just getting to a point where I'm somewhat verbalizing my experiences, trying other ways of getting the hurt and pain out of me, the distractions I've used all along the way are no longer working (keeping busy with school work music movies books and loads of emotional journaling) and I've got to heal, the hurt in holding is starting to take over...and I really want to heal release renew and start to live my life for me.
@@jalicarenee Yesssss I want to thank you for you sharing your story and being so vulnerable to do it ! So that others may read it and get inspired by what they are saying. It’s like you are writing about me and the story of my life . I wish I could have wrote it myself because I can relate to every thing you wrote and expressed in your story.. Thank you for your courage I hope that one day I can be and feel good and can one day have the same courage to express hurts and feelings to get past the hurt and continue to grow and heal myself too ..
@@jalicarenee I'm praying for you right now, Sister in Christ, Child of God.🙏 You, JalicaRenee, are precious, courageous and an inspiration. You are a blessing!❤
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Amen Pastor Blakes! A Queen needs to be Secure within herself! A Queen needs to get out of her comfort box! 🙏🙏🙌
Pastor Has so much wisdom for women. I learned so much listening to him over the years. Although I am in a healthy relationship I still watch his videos to better myself 😊
Please pray for me that the Lord will heal me from insecurities.Thank you pastor Blakes Jr.
Pastor you are saving many souls. I'm listening to you every night till sleep. Living on the other side of the World but still every word resonates and cryes tears of nourishment into my soul. Thank you pastor, I'm not even a religious person
Don't Mistake Kindness For Weakness.
Some women get targeted because they are thoughtful, good at listening, and relating. The Narcissist abused these top qualities to try to control this woman, and make her doubt herself or her worth.
Love RC Blakes, fan for 12 years!!!
Recently found fascinating article that illustrates Domestic Violence Victims are Targeted for their strengths as a person and a partner, but Abusers use their qualities against them.
Can you share where I can read the article. That sounds very insightful!!
My this convicts me a lot. I am struggling with this. It’s been a hard year. Never had this issue in over 12 years. Just married over a year. This and several of your other videos have been so helpful, Sir. Your girls are lucky to have you. Women need this information. It’s truly a blessing. Thank for giving me this information. I agree when you say that a woman’s insecurities will ruin a power couples chemistry. I’m watching it unfold now and I’ve never seen things so complicated in my life. And it’s hard to come back from that. It takes a very patient man to accept you when your insecurities take over your marriage.
I have listened to countless hours of R.C. Blake's Jr. On RUclips. This has got to be the best one yet! Just when I listen to one and think "it can't get any better this one" you come with next level upon next level upon next level!!! You are setting us frrrrreeeeee!!! Thank you!!!
Wow, what a compliment. Thank you.😊🙏🏽♥️
Sharing an experience ~ Years ago when I was 28 years old ~ I was doing a care position for a man I grew to adore ~ His own life storey itself was absolutely the stuff of inspiration. He asked me to bring him a photo of my 'then' partner. Next day he looked at that photo for a good long time ~ Tossed it on his coffee table and said to me ~ "He Doesn't Deserve You". This man was 93 years old, an orphan from Scotland who ended up a leader of a large battalion of men during the 2nd world war ~ After that he pursued his every dream in his life ~ He was requested to be a witness to the concentration camps in Germany ~ No words to describe his grief & trauma. An amazing 'Man' ~ Long storey short...Max was 'right'. God brings the right people into your life ...Like a heads up♥️♥️♥️💌
Amazing Story 😊
Pastor you are dropping so many gems ! I love how you reference the Bible.. it’s very motivating and enlightening. Thank you! 🙏🏾
I adore his approach, really recommend this mister ,his lessons are profound and he is also funny and easy to understand. Thank God for him ,may God keep him and all of you safe and healthy 🙏🏽
So true! Insecurity and trust issues will indeed damage, destroy or detour a meaningful relationship. Been there.
Done that foolishness😳
Healing is a MUST.
Thank you Pastor for coming into my life as the father I needed as a young girl. Better late than never....even at 55 almost 56 yrs old!💜🤗👑💎
Amen! I’m 44 and I feel the same!
It's never too late to do better. Continue to press forward to the truth!
Amen!!! The father I needed as a young girl as well. Thank you Jesus for Pastor Blakes!! 🙏👸🏻🌹🙌❣️
Amen!! Or me at 59… and still learning!!
This is my second time listening to this. 🗣🗣🗣🗣 I screamed several times!!! This is so good. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm soooo glad you choose All the Topics that we need to learn about. I'm healing internally, daily. I desire to be whole. I don't want to be insecure in no areas of my Life. I recieve THIS WORD/ education.
Rejection is truly a blessing. It protects you from wrong relationships. Where it goes wrong is when we can't embrace it. Think of something from your past that rejected you, not tell me you aren't grateful. Hindsight is 20/20? I love the way you use Bible to bring this teaching, on insecurities home, so powerful. Look at the devastation Saul created not only for David, but his kingdom and himself. This is for any relationship, not just romantic. Insecurities can rear the ugly heads in so many ways. We're not entitled to anything, we earn it. We show our value and people want it, much they same way we go after what we value. Ty so much! Reinforcement of the mind is key! Using biblical examples, noone can touch that!
GIRL YES🥰🥰🥰NO TIME FOR FOOLISHNESS
Amen! There use to be a saying, “If you got it you don’t have to flaunt it.” God HATES pride and arrogance.
I’ve always felt when women are defined by the titles on their desk, their so called status, the letters behind their name or the labels on their clothes and/or shoes 👠 that’s a sign of not “confidence” but insecurity. When you know who you are and whose you are there’s no need to be defined by anything more. IF your identity is in Christ then it’s not what you do, what you wear, where you live or what you drive that matters.
Omg .. You said that perfectly
Now, the saying is if you got it, flaunt it. I have learned that if your identity is in anything or anyone else other than Christ, you are setting yourself up for failure.
"Uproot the drama through the vehicle of forgiveness" - powerful! Thank you!
Thank you so much for this incredible content
My last relationship was born solely out of insecurity. Through saturating myself in God, counseling and videos like this one, I have grown tremendously and am no longer a slave to insecurity.
Praise the Lord! I will move from my comfort zone...a change is coming 🙌
You got this 🙏🏾
Yes!
Great talk, thank you for sharing your wisdom. I’ve been listening to your content for a couple weeks now and I feel a big internal shift occurring within me. These are topics no one has ever mentioned to me before, thank you!
THANK YOU SO MUCH PASTOR!!! The peace and clarity I receive when listening to your messages is clearly from the Holy Spirit. I happened to run across this right before a worship audition and while your message was, I believe, intended for relationships (which was also incredibly important), it helped me gain God-fidence in myself. The enemy was trying to have his way with my head, but not anymore. The truth is revealed. I am a woman of God, worthy, and priceless! As are all of you beautiful ladies out there! Thank you Pastor for bringing me the awareness that I am a queen, or on my way to become one :), and I will not underestimate myself on my own, or in a relationship any longer. Please continue what you and your wife are doing as it is an ENORMOUS blessing
I appreciated every time the word BUM was said! This message is the truth. I’ve had to walk away from sister-friends because they prided themselves on material things, being stuck up & social connections. Behind the scenes they all had BUMS at home. Ladies- watch your circle ⭕️. #Queen
My sister was a PhD who had a BUM at home who worked but was still a BUM and when she got sick he didn’t want to take care of her. He just wanted her to hurry up and die so he could collect her life insurance.
@@apriljmedia3506 That's so sad !
You’ve been a major milestone on my way out of depression. I’m on the other side of the world, that’s why I often see your videos too late for you to see my comments - so I want to thank you now that I happen to be in homeoffice and actually see your video at a time where I usually would not have time yet.
Thank you for what you do and God bless you.
Keep on fighting, Chris G...don't stop now.
I'm the same Chris. I'm learning though that I've loved others & haven't loved myself. It's really amazing the years of lies that keep us in bondage. I'm grateful for these teaching that give me the understanding to keep pressing forward
Amen 🙏🏽
This is deep in my soul, I have listened to this message over and over today. Thank you Bishop. Passing this message along.
Bishop you are leveling the playing field, changing the tragetory of life and society for ages to come. You and Lisa are awesomeness!!!!!
Watching my mom's relationship with my stepdad... so much dysfunction (the woman is the head of the household). I picked up some of that toxicity. She was abusive to me & emotionally neglectful. I'm currently working on myself.
‘Your insecurities have made you delusional’ 👀
Amen! That hit hard!
What a blessing this teaching has been! Thank you Pastor🙏🙏🙏
Yeeeeeees!!! I was in here talking about “preach!!!” Wisdom and game like this is really hard to find and I am so grateful for you. Thank u and God bless you and yours and anybody listening. I share these with my daughters and the young women I work with. They ALL need to hear you. THANK U AGAIN and keep on preaching
I’m so glad I was farther down the road when social media came out. I used to dress “sexy” in my 20’s thinking that’s what Men want.. I paid a terrible price in my relationships. I didn’t want to be treated like an object, yet that’s what happened. Now when I see women acting like that I think to myself, “but for the Grace of God there are go I”.. I am very grateful for you Pastor. My dad didn’t know how to teach me about life
I’m not even mad at what he’s saying because it’s true lol inner healing💜 going within..
This is such a powerful and necessary message. Every woman needs to hear this. Thank you and blessings.
Wheww a whole word‼️ I needed this sermon 🙌🏾