UNDERSTANDING THE FATHER WOUND - Daddy Issues by RC BLAKES
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- Опубликовано: 23 дек 2018
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In this session I discuss some of the issues that arise from the Father Wound.
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Please know your teachings don’t fall on deaf ears..You’re a father to so many!!
I agree
I agree
I agree too , my father died suddenly when I was 12 , my mum was narssitic , my partners have been toxic pathological liars ,your teaching is such a blessing too many in Christ’s body RC !
@@daughterofyah9217 same here
JuEileen Eileen I agree!!
1. When you long for the presence of a strong, loving father, and there is a loss of security. 2. The father wound creates a lost sense of identity. 3. When there's a father wound, there is a strong need in the life of a woman to be affirmed by a man. 4. When there's a father wound, there is left a deep seated anger.
My daddy issues run deep but I never saw one sign until I was a 17 year old young woman sitting in a theater watching some little kid movie with my sister, there was a black man with his 3 year daughter sitting next me and I just started crying silently. From then on I get emotional whenever I see a black father with his young girls and I just clicked on a video of yours where you said 'i just want to give some fatherly advice' and that sent me into so many tears. I really need some healing ❤
All is well
When father and mother have forsaken me then YAHWEH =The LORD will take me up. Psalm27:
Psalm27:10
@@shakiramoore3069 This is one of my favourite scriptures. 💕
Bless your dear heart 💜
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me! Psalm 51:10
As strong as I am, I cant stop crying because the message is soooooo TRUE! Their is also a misconception that strong woman are angry, no it is a mask to hide pain and vulnerability. I'm SO thankful I found this channel last week! I'm sooooo thankful for Mr. Blakes for doing what God has called him to do. To all my sisters, you matter!!!! God heals the wound! It's not to late. Heal so God can send you a man to love on you properly!! Blessings to all!!!!
This message is so needed in the black community ...
YES...AMEN
True
Very true
It's needed In every community
Anita Robinson Yes Lord!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sometimes the kids are kept away from their dad because the man has no morals and is actually a danger to the kids. Unlike in your case where your dad prophesied good things into your life, there are dads who prophesy negative things into the lives of their children or damage their children's self worth. Such dads may be nacissistic, hot tempered, vulgar and/or see the negative in everything; they will easily say things like " why are you so foolish" or "you will never be anything good" to a child. And I will keep such a man from my kids outright, and will not feel sorry about it. Yes, I will do my kids this favor!
Magdalene Mends you are so right.i learned this the hard way. I started to fell bad about keeping my child away so i let him have unsupervised visits when she turned 14 and him and his demonic family corrupted my child. In a short amount of time they did a life time if damage that i am trying to fix. I should have kept her safe because i knew they were no good.
@@victoryglory4521 im so sorry about your child but all is not lost; do all you possibly can, to keep your child away from her dad and his family completely. And give the precious one as much love as you can, speak a lot positive and inspiring words into her life when necessary. I married and im currently divorced from a very abusive man. I discovered very early he was trying to break me down to have control over me and I left the marriage for me and especially our three children. The children were very young and realized if I did not leave the marriage, my children will grow with no self worth. I had full custody of all three children but he was allowed a reasonable amount of time with them. I don't let them sleep over at his home and I'm around half the time he spends with them. What works for me is I pray over my children a lot. I also educate them on abuse and how to recognize it . I make them know they are special and loved. As for their dad, I have made him aware of my 0% tolerance for vulgarity; abuse, towards my children and I will go to court to fight for no contact when I see any slight signs of it. I believe God sees parents as represtives of Him, as supervisors on earth for the people ( children) he has given us. So I believe, If I, as a parent fail to train my children about the right way to go in life and fail to protect them, I have failed God and also my children. I may fail at this sometimes, I'm human, but I will do the best I can.
You did the right thing.
@@Sapphire37. wow, you really have done the best you could have. My ex husband has never let go. So abusive - con artist, gas lighting, flying monkeys, you name it... and he acts like a great guy, hard to believe he could be so evil. My children have suffered a lot. Confusion, anxiety, distress, etc... lack of a real father from the chore instead, he uses his fake way, money, title (lawyer) and other materialistic things to show he´s a good person. Unfortunately my children haven´t seen through this yet. Even though he´s the cause of my situation (I am in a very tough situation but always manage to get myself up...) and it feels like he kicks me in my stomach, head and face, with a grin on his face, and my family and many friends do not understand what I´m going through. I just wish my children would learn and I could help them understand what really has been happening and still is going on. I wish we three could move out of the country and move far away, start a new life... Thank you for reminding me about the prayers. That´s what´s helped me the most. I should have done that and brought the kids to church when small but I was under the worst abuse and pressure and didn´t wake up :-(... God bless you.
@@Luisa-cs2pd thank you, I try.... reading your ex-husband's profile, I won't be surprised if we were married to the same man- mine is all that, a lawyer as well and was a cheater when we're together. Anyway, will like you to know if all you can do is pray, then that's the best tool you have, to change things for you and your children. God can fix any situation and it is when in pain that He is closest to you( Psalm 34:18, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit”).... So, sis, pray and be encouraged, you will win, and send the devil to hell where he belongs.✊🏾❤
Rejection can be a major trigger for self-destructive behavior if the father wound is not healed. Thank you for naming the emotions that come up whenever we encounter rejection. This aids us in being more self-aware so that we can avoid the path of self-destruction.
Wow. I’m in tears because that’s me. My father was home but he was never home. He use to say to me when I was little. You don’t love me. I was like three. I would kiss him hug him and say no daddy I love you. He would say no you don’t and leave. He would go to the bars and clubs and most times would leave for weeks on end. As a kid I would think it was my fault that he would leave because of me. All the while he was chances other women and living a double life with other women and children. After my mom passed away in 2006. He left and told me that he would be back in two weeks. I have not seen or heard from him since. I do have a hard time trusting men. Takes me a long time to be comfortable. It’s crazy. I’m 45 still hurting and wishing he was there for me.
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Dang that is cold I don’t know what’s wrong with men most do not have a natural loving instinct I’m not trying to be funny after dating and watching other peoples relationships and seeing how most men move
I cannot speak for all but I believe most are naturally sociopathic than anything else
I'm sorry this happened to you. Please know that what he did was horrible, but it's not your fault. While he doesn't deserve your forgiveness, I pray that you do it for your own peace. I hope you are finding healing and happiness.
@@helenlittlejohn2243 thank you. I’m trying. He passed away two years ago. It’s a struggle because I don’t get the closure I needed. I never got to see him again after he left. Then to find out he passed away….
I'm asking God to continue to bless this pastor and his family.
I had a “father wound” in that .. my father died from an illness related to being in the Vietnam war.. it gave him leukemia. He died when I was 5. However, he truly loved me and I saw that... my Heavenly Father helped to enhance that.. by way of blessing me with the Holy Spirit. Which kept kept me.
Wow there's answers to every unlearned thing.
20 years after his murder, I finally dealt with my father wound. A weight was lifted. The hunger is still there. I was 11 when he was murdered and he was never around for me. Parents were never married.
My husband is wounded also b/c of his parents divorce when he was 3. We have 5 children and they lack that warmth and security from him. I beg the Lord every day that His grace will supersede all that.
I must say that I do have an AMAZING single mother, to God be all the glory for that!
22:17 My father's so passive he couldn't even protect me from my mother's emotionally abusive ways. He couldn't provide much either and allowed himself to be some slave to my mother. I talked to him heart to heart about his passivity. He always knew that my mom was going overboard. I asked him why he didn't do anything and responded with vague answers like "I don't know." I see this passive behavior in myself and I don't really know who I am...It's sad
When a child grows up with a void in reference to their parents, they try and become the parent that will never be guilty of causing those same voids in their own children. Living it!
So so true.
Same here
Yep
I loved my father but he was a rageaohilic, and therefore he did alot of damage to the family. He was well aware that rage damages,and kills, but, he did it anyway. U r lucky, sir, that ur father was a really high quality dad, despite his own parental losses in life...he really, truly overcame. What a fantastic role model! God bless u!
WOW this hits hard, but I am so Thankful to God for you! After 46 years I made the decision to let my bipolar, narcissistic father go and I chose me. He has mentally and emotionally abused me for the last time. With God's help I am working on me and learning how to Love myself. God is so Good!
Self esteem left on empty was so me growing up, thank God I got through it I most definitely don’t look like what I’ve been through 🤲🏾
I’ve read all self esteem comes from the father. No wonder we all are a mess with all this abuse and neglect from both parents. It’s unbelievable what we all have to overcome bc of this. Life is an uphill struggle nonstop.
This message is speaking to me. I have my father but he stood passive while church people abused me, both family and church members. Most was verbal abuse, and emotional abuse but there was also physical abuse. I distanced myself from my father by the age of 9 years old. I no longer trust him. I struggled for years with this and cried to God many times. One day he spoke clearly and told me he was my father and the only one i would ever need. My heart was comforted and I've been able to move forward.
What a revelation. It took my natural father dying of cancer 12 years ago for me to wander in the wildness for 10 years before finding my real Daddy, the Heavenly Father Almighty and getting radically saved in 2019. I am now totally healed from my childhood father wound. The wound of a feed and seed father, physically present but emotionally absent. Praise God I am finally delivered from all brokenness and soul ties. I am a Queen who is now taking her throne. Thank you Christ Jesus for finding me 2 years ago, in You I have found my righteousness and my authority to have dominion. 🙌🏽
Good teaching and well received in Jesus name.
My ex who fathered 2 children with me totally got over on me cuz of daddy issues. He snapped me out of that trap with all of the bs I dealt with. I know myself and my worth now.
Watching you from Kenya.Your ministry is a blessing to me having grown up with an absent father.
This resonates in me because of my broken relationship. My oldest boy was extremely angry and it played out in different ways with my other children as well. It is an extremely sad cycle of hurt and angry. You are correct about everything and what stood out to me was when you said, "...I cannot have a cluttered soul and a healthy life." Those are powerful words. Thank you so much for your teaching.
God really spoke to me through you. Ive been heart broken because I recently cut my father out of my life. He is toxic and an overt narcissist. I pray for him and that our relationship will one day grow again.
I've had to cut my father out my life as well. It's very difficult and challenging, especially if you love the person you're cutting out. I appreciate your vulnerability.
cutting my dad out was hard too especially since im only 22 and i feel like i never want a relationship with him bc he missed my whole life and was very much able to be there just never came to get me or save me
As a mother sometimes, a dad is toxic to the household, and children are better off without his presence. Perhaps he had things he need to work out of himself. First!
True but that doesn’t mean the child will not have a father wound. Its not about the reason the father is absent is a result of.
Thanks again. My dad was present and a good provider but as long as I can remember he cheated on my mom until he died. He was 81 in 2007 when he passed. My brother and I, mom too didn't want for nothing. I see and understand why my brother and I are wounded. My brother has a daughter and a granddaughter and I've encouraged him to think and do differently. I am going to be ok. Thanks Bishop for the lesson.
Sometimes the man is dangerous and the mother had to run for her life...pregnant
Thank you for helping me comprehend all of my experiences since my father took his own life when i was a small child of three. He was replaced by a narcissist and I have had a life of battles to feel human. Your talks have really helped me begin the healing process as I approach a half century of living.
A cluttered soul and a healthy life. Amen Pastor! That's the revelation that has seemed to come over me lately. It's like something shifted. I just couldn't be Happy and weighed down. My soul tired and sad. I HAD TO REJUVENATE AND RESTORE!!!!! HALLELUJAH!! Thank you Jesus!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤❤
I really needed this video, especially now during the pandemic crisis where my mental health suffered a lot. Thank you for this and hopefully will recover from this daddy wound.
*Pastor Blakes! You are MUCH APPRECIATED! This was right on time...I'M ALMOST OBLIVIOUS TO THIS CHRISTMAS EVE...BUT I TELL YOU I NEEDED THIS.* *Some Fathers don't have the mental capacity, some did'nt have a strong foundation to begin with... some fathers have no clue about the importance of a Father's love & devotion, or what a little girl needs growing up. I see now that a Father's strong presence, emotional counsel, approval, love, joy and positive influence is so important, in a child's life~ regardless of the gender...it's priceless. I THANK YOU FOR YOUR PRAYERS & ESPECIALLY FOR ALL OF THE WORK YOU DO, THE CONTENT YOU CREATE AND SHARE ON YOUR MANY PLATFORMS. I HOPE THE WIND BRINGS YOU TO LOS ANGELS SOMETIME SOON...looking fwd to one of those intimate healing sessions that you & the Mrs.1st Lady Lisa Blakes present to us on your tour. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY! THANK YOU FOR ALL OF YOUR TIME &CONSIDERATION. & don't worry, folx are gonna see this vid once they run outta $$ to spend on this "holiday". I receive my New Crown, for* #IamQUEEN2019👑🧘🏾♀️🙏🏽#blessUp
I am so grateful for discovering you pastor blake and this particular message. I really needed to hear this. You are helping me to heal in so many ways. I have decided to make you my spiritual father and advisor. Everyone should hear this. It's very true and helpful in understanding how to heal from physically, emotionally and spiritually absent fathers. Amen!
God has been dealing with me on this recently and I never understood until now how deep my father wound is. I honestly didn’t think it bothered me that much until now and I’m 34 years old. I thought I was fine. It’s very painful but I’m so glad you taught on this because I at least have clarity and understanding on how this has affected me. Thank you for the teaching.
Amen RC, awesome talk!! 😊
I'm healing the wound, I realise of course my father worked hard to provide but that's it. I remember my mother used to mention "oh he is so selfish and careless". I thought she was just bitching and moaning (because Dad used to say that) , now I see what she means. It's taken me many years to find my identity in God!
This was a great message for us all who can identify with Daddy wounds. I sent this text to my 2 sons whom I know can relate . Love you Pastor great man of God.
So timely for me. God bless you. You have opened my eyes to so many things I need to address in my life. Feeling encouraged from Kenya.
Bishop Blake this is December 22,2022 listening to wounds of a father and u have just taught on my entire life now 71 years old and God has brought me to the place of answering my questions why am I so angry, rejection bitterness, hatred, shame, guilt, why I am not good enough, over achiever, constantly running after the next high now I understand now I can allow the healing process to begin so tired of being ANGRY it has consumed my entire life for 71 years. Thank you for this teaching God use you to answer a lot of my questions where I am at in my life this week had never heard of you until God used a young lady to share one of your videos on RUclips. Thank you man of god
I pray many that are struggling with Daddy wounds will find this EXCELLENT VIDEO!! I Praise our heavenly Father, for working through you RC Blake's Jr. May God richly bless you and your lovely wife Lisa, and all your loved ones for being God's faithful vessels, to help give the needed help, and emotional healing, through a better understanding of their personal life's struggles and challenges in life.
This was a great lesson
Thank you for validating the context of the father wound throughout the history of blacks. While the father wound isn't racial. Systems of this country have instigated , perpetuated and then superficially buried the father wound , legally. Your words are a breath of fresh air and validating to the wounded identities of many
Feliz Navidad to you and your Family!! You have changed my life forever!! Thank you my spiritual Father!!💖💖💖
Hi! I see this video is a year old! I'm so glad that there is no expiration date on the Word of GOD! At 51 years old, I'm blessed to STILL be learning and growing. You answered a lot of my questions that I have had for years. Thank you, Bishop!!
I had the harshest father who spared no rod, however I was also given the gift of character resistance and joy , I was the daughter he failed on certain levels,
however despite his own internal demons he gave of himself so much ,, this time at Xmas when I lost him I celebrate his greatness , I got him , and I know God’s got him, so now I continue to make sure I got me
To you Rc Blake’s and family thank you for your great motivation love and support blessed new year to you ❤️🙏🏾
Wow this was a incredible message about father wound's this explains why most men's that had realationship we're bitter and broken because they had father wound's RC Blake's your teaching is extraordinary because you had such anoiting on your life help heal men's and women's God bless you and your family abundancely
😢🤧God bless you so much in Jesus mighty name Amen. Pastor I just can't thank you enough! I have to THANK GOD that I actually understand my pain more now oh my Lord😣🙏🏻🙏🏻
Praise the Lord for putting that word in your mouth. I just stumbled upon your channel early this morning. I confess my Daddy wound and also my only child (a young adult Son) Daddy wound as well. I hurt for him and myself. I have blamed myself through out the years and have over compensated to fill the emptiness. Through prayer I have learned to forgive my own Father, but not my Son's Father. I'm atill hurting from his rejection. I will listen to the series of videos that you've created. Thank you and God Bless.
Thank you for explaining this topic of the foundation so good. Most pastors don't understand.
Thank you so so so so sooo much!! this was perfect timing. Yes thank you God for putting this on your heart and for speaking it ... much gratitude.. I am open,,, I release.. I allow this shift. thank you! Amen!
Thank you Pastor R.C Blakes. Thank you because you were conscious of those around you that were suffering from the father wound.
You didn't know exactly what it entailed due to your father been present emotionally, physically and being a great provider to you and your brother but your empathy is admirable. God bless you abundantly.
U speak my teenage life..Thanks to lord for sending my schoolmate who is my husband today, he nurtured me an teach me about life ..I forgive my dad an move on with love .....thank u pastor 🙏♥️
God led me to your channel Sir
You are a blessing to me and many others. I've learned so much
God bless from South Africa
And thank you also ti your sweet wife Lisa.
FELÍZ NAVIDAD to you Lisa and your daughters.
you must seek these things out. it is something deep within you that knows you want better, you constitution must be strong or you will not be able to overcome. There will still be many hurdles. I had a father wound, but it was from a father who was present and abusive. when he and I sat down and dealt with it, all became much better. Sadly his 1st born child and his wife killed him 2 months later. now I have a good life because I dealt with my issue head on.
God works in mysterious ways, I think if my dad hadn't been so horrible I wouldn't have started seeking my real Abba Father! Thank God He found me!
Pastor Blakes, thank you for always praying for us after you teach. So many that give advice fail to that for their audiences but I'm glad you do pray. Thank you.
Mr Blake this is of so much help. I would love to translate it into Spanish for the Latin communities. Anyway... I love your wise words. Thank u.
This was a wonderful sermon!! ❤️❤️love it, much needed. God bless your heart
No pastor ever teaches truth like u do.
That tornado of confusion you described between the fatherless woman and fatherless man was my life for about 3 1/2 months and it was emotional hell.
Just purchased!! So looking forward to delve into all this information... hope to achieve some sort of semblance to past behavior 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
19:33 definitely applies to narcissist, emotionally unavailable parents as well. This type of person is desperately afraid to be alone so they put any doting stranger they are sleeping with above their children.
Merry Christmas PASTOR BLAKES.
Im so GLAD YOU DID THIS ON CHRISTMAS EVE. WOW.
From Elizabethtown, KY
Thank you!
Thank you
Pastor RC Blake's I'd like to thank you for your spiritual messages. And wish you and Mrs. Blake's and your family a Merry Christmas and healthy happy and prosperous New year.
You've helped me heal....thank you!
Thank you for all that you teach! This information is needed and sheds alot of light on things I need to be aware of! Have a Blessed New Year!
Wow, story of my life from A-Z
Thank you for your prayer, it was greatly needed!🌻
Funny how my dads name is David similar story too wow so on point I just have to say thank you Jesus for saving my life
Thank you for your words of wisdom, this really touched my heart.
Thank you so much for this
Lisa, you have got a king! Amen. God Bless your union. Thank you for your substance and passion in your messages
Indeed #3 is the kicker for many!! You are speaking a WORD. I am glad I am healing. Every woman wants to be acknowledged and chosen that should have been done by the Father. Amen!
I needed this! Such perfect Timing! Thank you!
This was a deliverance session. THANK YOU
Bliss you, R C. Blake, much gratitude on the eve of christ birthday! Amen and Happy new year much LOVE AND LIGHT TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!
Because of you RC I am back reading my Bible everyday. No one gets down to the real problem and solution like you do . I cannot thank you enough.
Unbelievably beautiful message !
This message has healed a deep inner wound I haven’t been able to touch until now. Thank you Pastor Blakes for your amazing ministry that has helped me so much. You are helping me change from the broken woman to Queen
Thank RC Blake's for this message of hope God really is on time please pray my strength in Jesus mighty name Amen
thank you so much for this
How many answers in this amazing message! 💯❤️ Thank you, RC Blakes! God bless you always! 🙏💯
I just wanted to thank you. I've been listening to your videos for about 2 years now
Thank you very much for this message and I receive it. 😊🙏🏽
Great video thank you, it definitely hits home. I have been doing alot of healing in the last year..Wishing you and you family a great new year. 🙏
Thank you so much Pastor for your teachings. Your prayer has left peace in my heart. All blessings to you. Namaste
Everyone of your messages really speaks to me and I know that God is speaking to me through you and bringing me understanding, healing and strength.
Thank you 🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽
Thank you Pastor for sharing everything you know, in a structured, calm and generous way! I am so glad I found you, you make so much sense. I will work on these things. Single mom, trying to find a job and with an ex-husband, dad to my children who´s very abusive. I will never give up. Studied two careers when divorced (strangely I don´t get a job!) even though times have been extremely tough. God is good. I shall listen to his plans. God bless you and your wife!
I really needed this. Thank you so much
This was GOOD!!! I will share with my boys.
Such a powerful and needed message. I am currently healing from this as God has allowed me to meet my biological dad 2 years ago after searching 34 years and meeting him has answered and healed soooo many things in my life that O can’t even begin to explain. I am blessed.
My dad has been gone for almost 14 years now, and my mother, for almost 13 years. I miss their guidance. My dad was ever present and the strong father that I strive to be. Divorce from my wife by no fault if nine, caused a void in my children's lives. I never gave up and my relationships with my kids is great. I recognized my father's shortcomings but I also realized the his generation did always show a lot of emotions. What he did show was genuine and sincere and I am forever grateful for that! He gave what he could and was an amazing father to me and my siblings. He was the man that I looked up to, a provider and protector in every sense of the word. My mother was an amazing woman but cut from the same cloth as my dad but gave what she knew how to do. I'm thanking for my upbringing.
Thank you so so much! Much needed...❤️Merry Christmas to you and your family!😇
4 yr old video and STILL GOLD!!!!
Thank you for this message, you are a good spiritual Father. God Bless, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
This video really hits back home! Couldnt start crying. I am a woman trying to find out who I am because my father was there but not there! Thank you for this video!❤
You made me break down and cry like a baby ..... I would really like to speak with you if you ever see I'm trying to heal I'm taking therapy but I'm feeling like the healing is more painful than suppressing it‼️ I'm feeling even more horrible and angry than before but it's like I can't act out because I'm already accustomed to knowing it makes no sense having any conversations with anyone my motto is I'll figure it out 😢
This video is so helpful, thank you!
Excellent message!! Have a blessed Christmas!
Excellent teaching!!!