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@@Echope_ then they are not the right fit for you! You need to take your time to match with the right family, that truly accepts you the way you are and allows you to be you!
I wish I would have known that kids can be difficult or mean, and parents don't want to see it. Sometimes parents just can't admit that their kid can be ill-behaved. So I just have to deal with this poorly behaved child without really having the right to raise them
I think part of that is people farrrrrrrr too often think they are being honest with people and the other person got it, when in reality they have so significantly and widely beat around the bush that the other party ends up with no idea that there is even an issue :( There is a way to be kind , blunt and honest but the majority of people struggle to achieve it.
This is honestly why I cannot be dealing with other people's kids. If they're not family, I can't do it. Because what might have been acceptable or unacceptable in my household may be totally different for someone else. And a lot of parents don't discipline their kids. So it can be frustrating when you're the one who is stuck dealing with that type of behavior and there's nothing you can do about it.
Room and board means you are entitled to help yourself and have some food and a place to stay, that's why au pairs get pocket money and not paid wages according to the hours you are actually working
I was au-pair in Denmark for couple of years. The first family wasn't bad, but wasn't good either. Small kids and brats if I may say, they were really using my lack of danish knowledge against me. Luckily, after two months, mother decided to stay home with kids, so I had to find a new family and thank God for that! I stayed with the new family for 4 years, they adjusted my schedule so I could do my masters degree 'on the side', besides the language school the kids helped me a lot to learn danish and they just became my danish family. Three years after graduating, getting a job and moving away from them, we're still very close and I still consider them my family ❤️ I guess I was very lucky after all
I'm hiring an au pair. And I'm a stay at home mom. My job I'd part time. So I'd let my au pair have a lot of free time :). Sad to know some families make you guys feel horrible
I wish I would have known how strange it can be to live with the people you work for. Especially since the parents have power over you in multiple ways. They're the ones who give you a roof over your head, food to eat and a salary. It can be difficult to be yourself or feel completely comfortable in that situation
Do you get privacy when you’re not looking after the kids? For example, can you lock the door to your room? Do you get your own toilet? Do you always have to ask/tell where you are going?
I wish I would have known how even tho this is suppose to be a “cultural exchange” most of the time it’s far from that .. not being appreciated and being excluded a lot of the time really makes a person feel broken 🤷🏽♂️
2020 au pair here, I worked throughout covid in Germany and I hated being so far from home during this horrible time but when I tell you I am so grown up and mature (well maybe). It has changed me for the better and I wouldn’t ask for another way to spend the last couple of years! Goodluck new au pairs ❤
I’m nervous about a) the language barrier and embarrassing myself when I try to speak French, and b) if my host family will be disappointed by me if I’m not as cool or fun as they thought!
I'm an AuPair right now in Germany and I've changed families once already after 4 months at one family. It's super important to be honest about being unhappy there, although I know it is so difficult. It's also important to note that you are NOT a servant and should not be treated like one (cooking all meals then cleaning the kitchen alone, serving guests, etc.) and if your family never invites you on family outings, that's not okay either. Anyways, in Germany you're paid 260 Euros per month, plus 50 Euros per month if you're taking a language course. If you live in a city like Berlin, knowing German isn't necessary. However, most other "big cities" are not like Berlin. Therefore, try to learn the language!
My wife and I are just about ready to look into finding and welcoming an Au Pair to join the family of 6 in the beautiful north woods of WI. Honestly, we might be WAY more excited to include them as one of the family than anything else! 😁 These vids have been SO insightful, super appreciated!
Yulita Sari hey there! I’d suggest taking a look at Au Pair Butrfly, but if you want to be an Au Pair in America you have to find an agency! There are many out there but take a look at the requirements for the country you want to travel to!
I’m currently an Aupair in Austria, I’m from Perth, Western Australia. I have been in Austria for a little over six months now. The agreement I had with my family that I was getting paid €400 per month which is pretty good considering he average is around €300. I look after four children and boy it is rough sometimes, a lot of bumps and hurdles along the way. However, the most rewarding and greatest experience where you truly do grow within yourself and building so much independence is great. But I work really closely with the mother as she is a stay at home mum. I completely agree about you feel like you put more work into sometimes than what you’re paid... but in saying that, within the year you’re allocated 6 weeks of paid leave which is great!
I'm going through a tricky au pair experience atm.. I've been with a family in germany for 5 weeks, the first few days were awful and I wanted to leave immediately but knew I needed to give it a chance and make the best of it - the parent was so unwelcoming to me, barely spoke to me on the journey from the airport, didn't show me around the house, where the kitchen or bathroom were, didn't explain anything to me about the routine or kids until i asked. The kids are sweet, sometimes ofc difficult but generally I enjoy being with them. The parent and I are not friendly however. I try to chat with him, but he is always blunt and seems like he doesn't want to have to talk to me. This makes it difficult for me to approach him with my problems. I also am working way overtime - when the kids are home the parent expects me to be present every minute (they live half the time at this house and half at their other parent's house). When the kids are here for the whole weekend, the dad is reluctant to let me take 30 minutes to go running... and sometimes when i do he texts me to tell me off for not taking the dog with me (but i cant run with the dog as it doesnt follow). The parent doesn't communicate with me when schedules change and the kids are coming home which means I have to change my plans for the day to be instantly ready to babysit. I feel like I am being taken advantage of. I've been here just 5 weeks now and havent been paid yet - I know it is up to me to make sure i get it of course. I had been looking for a good moment to ask this week and it got away from me... but now i also have decided to leave the family as I am not happy. I need to ask for my pay and tell them I am leaving and am a bit nervous. What do you think?
I really appreciate your honesty in these kinds of videos. I've been thinking about becoming an au pair for a while now and I never really considered the cons before I found this channel! Ngl it's kind of discouraging but I think it's important to know that it's not going to be this perfect situation I've made up in my head lol so thank you!
I was a nanny in New York for a Pakistani woman that has one 8 years old boy and a 6 years old girl. They were so mean to me all the time. As I read in the comments, you depend on the family for everything. The deal was having 3 meals a day, 8 hours sleep and Sundays off. The payment 800 dollars a month that raises after 3 months up to 1000 dollars a month. But everything was just a lie. When I got there, I didn't have 3 meals a day. I barely had 1 meal and it was the leftovers of the family. The mother allowed me to sleep 4 or 5 hours a day. I didn't have any days off in 3 weeks. She paid me me only 2 weeks, she still owes me money after almost a year. Of course I ran away from the family in the middle of December in a Sunday snowy day in the morning in a bare feet with my shoes in my hand and ready to call 911 because she was threatened me. I ran out, I ran for about 3 blocks, she ran after me begging me not to leave the job. I decided to go back to the house just to pick up my 2 suitcases that still were in her house. It was like an horror movie. And of course when we video call before I moved to work with her everything was just honey and love. But they were just pretending to convince me to work with them. I used to work as a teacher at home after school, for 3 or 4 hours, to help kids to do their homework and other chores. I'm very scared now to work as a nanny again after this American horror story as a nanny with this family in New York.
Oh man, I wish I knew about the weathers climate and change of my location! I was not prepared for the season change and I brought no clothes for winter weather! I’m going back to be an au pair again in the same place and I’m so ready and prepared 2nd time around lol!
I'm headed to Spain to work as an au pair for a family that seems really wonderful. So far they've shown great communication and they have had good experiences with au pairs in the past. I have some experience with childcare in the past... I've worked as a babysitter and as a camp counselor. One thing I want advice on navigating is $$! I want to ask if the family will help me cover my return flight, but don't want to overstep my bounds.
just speaking since i lived in paris - im sure you'll love it. You have to get used to cultural differences and (generally) as a foreigner the french tend to be a little closed off (almost defensive and protecting their own culture, which i understand) and like any place you go to, they can either be rude or super nice. But I think its something you have to figure out and get used to yourself. Anyway like I said at the start, I'm sure you'll love it! Paris has some lovely parts and I miss it deeply :,)
I've been an au pair for around half a year. I was lucky because I had a boyfriend in the same town as well as savings and people who could help me to go back to my country. I was doing all my best, but without any appreciation it is difficult to live with unknown people who only tell you that you are doing everything wrong
I’m thinking about being an au pair in France next year to improve my French before college but I don’t have much experience with kids so I’m worried about looking after them properly and disciplining them correctly
I am really curious about how to get a study visa from an au pair visa??? And what to remember like the college admission process or dates to remember, requirements and stuff like that?
I’ve been an au pair in China for almost two months. I’ve already switched families once because the first one treated me so poorly. I’m considering leaving early because I’m realizing I just don’t dont like the job and also there’s a lot of stuff going on back in my real family that makes it extremely difficult to want to work or feel content. I want to leave so badly but it’ll cost a lot to end the program early and I don’t know if it would be a good idea to just try to work it out. I’m truly at a loss of what to do
I'm going one year to China and I'm pretty anxious to be honest. I have the impression that the family is kind but I won't know until I meet them in person and actually live with them! I've heard people with horror stories and people that had great and okay experiences so I guess I need to experience it myself I'm leaving in 19 days🥺🥺
Hey there, I'm going to China in December to be an au pair too. Im really scared incase it won't work out or the family don't get on with me. When are you going?
@@rachaelcollins6285 I'm scared too but we should try to be as positive as possible :) if you don't mind you can add me on instagram to keep in touch (@lucysmnt)
I'm going to be an aupair near to Paris in January and I'm so scared if I don't find friends or people to hang out in the freetime. If you are going to be an aupair also, hit me up!!
I'm leaving to become an au pair at the end of the month and I'm so scared! I'm worried about feeling lonely and uncomfortable in the house. I don't want to cross any boundaries!
Where will you AuPair at? Loneliness is a pretty common feeling, but AuPair facebook groups really help! Depending on the age of your kids, you may go to like baby/toddler meet ups at churches or family centers. Often, there are volunteers working there for a gap year around our age. Try to talk to them or ask if anyone there knows of university parties happening in the area. Being super honest and outgoing with the parents is also important but super exhausting so just do your best
Talking over contracts and expectations w a potential host family in the suburbs of Paris right now..! And starting to get these feelings of anxiety, especially with how finances are going to work. What are generally some of the nonnegotiable things au pairs should expect their host family to provide, especially "extras" like transport passes, phone plans and language classes?
I think honestly that thought goes through every single au pairs mind. and I've never heard it happening! especially if you go through the whole process of Skyping multiple times, seeing the kids, singing a contract - its a lot of effort on their part! I realise now that it was a silly fear! don't worry you are not alone
Im going to au pair in Monaco in the next week, Im really nervous about speaking French. my family is English thankfully , but Im literally terrified of the language barrier and being lonely.
It's really hard starting from scratch to learn a language you've never spoke but you'll get used eventually I've managed to speak good Arabic after being an aupair for 1yr+4months but I'd wish to go to Germany,France next year after my contract wish me luck!!
Glad I came across your channel. I recently came across this whole aupair thing and I am seriously considering it (just registered my profile). As to be expected I'm a bit nervous 😔
I wish I thought more about the fact that the children will most likely not like AND respect you from the first week on and that the first time can be really hard because of that. The children do have cope with the change too and it will take time until the kids really accept you and want to spend time with you.
I'm being paid $120 a week as an au pair in France - so either $480 or $600 a month depending how many Fridays in the month (paid every Friday). This is quite a bit more than the average but I'm doing more errands/housework which is why!
@@maddfrost Depends how much housework/cooking/extra duties they are asking you to take on I suppose! This is what aupairworld says if you are in France, "According to the French regulations au pairs from a non UE country are entitled to at least 320 € pocket money per month and EU au pairs receive monthly pocket money between 271.50 € and 325.80 €. The amount that is agreed must be specified in the au pair contract." Most of the au pairs I know earn on average 80 euros a week. Mine is definitely way above the usual!
I'm going to be an au pair in France (I'm from Mexico), I've been contacted by two families but I haven't done the interviews (winter break I guess) and I'm so nervous! I don't know what to expect, how to behave or what to ask them during the Skype interview, my French is basic, my English is not that bad but I can't say I'm fluent and I don't know if I will be able to improve my French in one year as an au pair. D:
@@maddfrost Oh hi! I've been an au pair almost for a year now, I'm going to renew my visa for a second year in March. It has been a roller-coaster honestly, at the end of January (2020) I was contacted by a single mother near Paris, I got my visa one month after the interview and came to France the first week of March but things didn't go well with the mother the first week and I got stuck with her during the lockdown, after that I decided to do a rematch (I came with an agency, not the best idea) but they found a new family for me to start working with until September so I had to find a summer family by myself, I ended up spending the summer in Bretagne with a really nice family but horrible kids, now I'm living in Paris with the family that my agency found for me, I have my own studio (not a chambre de bonne), the parents are super nice with me but the kids are uncontrollable, I think it's cultural hahaha. First family, we spoke just in English, the mother bullied me because my English wasn't perfect for her. Second family, I spoke in English with the father and French with the mother and the kids, even though my French was (and is) super basic she encouraged me to speak with her and helped me out. Third family, I speak Spanish with the parents and French with the kids, my French is still basic because honestly I haven't been able to go to classes etc but I can comunicate with the kids, I try to listen to some phrases the parents told them and repeat it to them. So far it hasn't been the experience I was expecting, I had high expectations but I'm trying my best not to give up. Don't go with the first family, try to find the best option for you and don't let the kids control you. Good luck! ✨
I am hoping to go to France as an au pair at the end of next year, and something that I am really nervous about is that I will not fit in with the family (feel excluded) as I am a social person. I am also really afraid that I won't make any friends my age from where I am, and I don't want to be lonely while I'm there
I au paired in London for 3 months for two different families they both payed £100 a week and the first family also payed for my oyster card. This was for 30 hours a week, though the second d family had me work 45-50 hours a week, which is the reason I left. I'm now going to a new family in Windsor that'll pay me £150 a week for 30 hours max. I hope this one works out!
Just find out about your channel and I'm loving it! I am Brazilian and I'm planning to be an au pair in US on 2020. Have you had to learn French before hand ?
I used AuPairworld.com. It’s an awesome website and I just put up some good pictures of me and me with my family and stuff. And then wrote a few paragraphs in my personal info section and then reached out to a couple of families. Also honestly not too worried about the coronavirus in Italy right now, unless some crazy amount of people get infected and die, it’s not gonna be a problem...hopefully😂
The most thing I'm most scared of is to be part of a family again. I am already 26 (went to uni first) and I just don't know if I can go back on not being independent.
@@aupairohparis6083 Yeah, I know them by heart at this point, haha. This is my last chance to go to America (you have to be 26 when leaving), so this is going to be my first stop. Maybe I will do France afterwards
2:12 kids used to be like this, at least when I was growing up be parents these days don’t teach their children to respect others, or should I say it’s not as common as it was when I was younger
Hie Bella,Im from Zim....and preparing to au pair in germany from early July...are there any tips on how to get a good family and not be taken advantage of....ive seen friends of mine settling for just any family because of the situation back home.... And what would be wise to include in the motivational letter Please please help🙏
Haven't seen many other au pairs talk about this and I'm aware every family has different expectations but in general, what skills should an au pair have to look after themselves/the kids? Are most au pairs required to cook, clean, tidy up the house for their host families? How much should au pairs be paid weekly or monthly in a reasonable manner?
No, Au-Pairs are entitled to light house shores. The host family need to hire someone to clean the house but it's not part of Au-Pairs functions. Generally speaking, You work for the children
This is my first time watching your videos and I just want to say that it was really helpful! I'm planning to be an au pair for 10-12months starting next year in summer. I'm from Germany and I'm currently talking to a host family from Canada (my top choice country). I've only talked to them for a few days and skyped with the host mum once for an hour and she asked me if I wanted to be their au pair today. I really like her and the job description and salary (3kids aged 6-10, 999CAD per month) seem fair/good to me but I'm afraid of making the decision too fast.. Any advice or red Flags to Look Out for?
Sarah Laetitia maybe Skype with the kids as well? Or ask the mom about their hobby’s and household rules to see whether this is (at least somewhat) in line with your views since you’re going to be spending a lot of time raising them in the way the parents want you to. And it helps if you have a connection with your kids from the beginning :)
Linda Leijten Thank you for replying! I did actually Skype with the mom and two of the three kids again yesterday. My own mom was there as well and "approved" of the family and we've scheduled more calls for me to get to know the host dad and the last kid. They're super nice this far but not in a perfect way so they seem to be very honest with me. I am strongly considering going there, the only problem left would be getting the visa 😅😊
I am going to be an aupair in London am from Kenya ,I have been contacted by two families so far but I prefer one which is offering me quiet good offers and am so excited to be in London
I'm an au pair in Turin, Italy and I make €50 a week but I honestly thought that was great because the other families on aupairworl didn't mention payment...
We're sorry to hear that! If you think you need more, definitely sit down with your host family and let them know. We're here to help and support you if you need anything :D
Gonna be an au pair in Montauban next month... I'm a little bit nervous about the language barrier with the kids and going through daily life without knowing that much of french...
@@maddfrost well, at first it’s for sure going to be a challenge, but then again, being so immersed in the country, hearing the parents talk in French and the kids as well, you’ll pick up the basics quick enough then in your French lessons it will only go better! Still an au pair right now on my second year! My French is close to level C1.
How does having prior teaching experience and teaching experience abroad affect the au pair experience in your opinion? I’m interested in doing this to get more experience living abroad? I speak French at a proficient/conversational level, but I never really looked into this option until I came across your channel!
Weird question, would a host family ever let me bring my cat with me? I don’t know what I would do with him otherwise. I don’t even know how easy it would be to bring a cat to the Europe in general but I would absolutely love to be an au pair
Im planing to au pair in Paris towards the end of next summer. As a male, I’m hoping to have my own studio and right now i have an amazing job so I’m going to try to save up at least 5k to keep me independent. Do you think that amount will be enough for me to pick up and move my life completely to Paris? I’m also taking to a family in the south of France near Geneva Switzerland, but I’m not sure if it’ll be a good fit for me. I don’t want to feel too isolated. Any advice guys? :)
Depending on how close to Geneva you're looking, there's a lot of au pairs! If you want a big city though, make sure to talk about the city with the family because there are a lot of small towns here too
Hannah Solo thats for the advice! I think I’m gonna pass it up because I was about an hour away from it. Even though I’d have a car, I’m sure i wouldn’t be able to get out there hardly ever.
You should sign in an agency (but pls inform yourself about the agency first) it is way more safe than just looking through the internet. Most agency's visit the family's home before letting them have an aupair. And you should also Skype with the family and maybe talk to other aupairs if they had some.
I’m scared because I’m supposed to go to a family of 4 and I’m not passionated about kids either. I like being around them but wouldn’t want to be a mom. I don’t want to take a role as a mother... I am scared that I might be disappointed
Totally understandable! But it is an awesome experience! Just take a look into what you want and what you consider important and if being an au pair is something you’d like to do, we’re here to help!
hi, I'm not an au pair but looking to be. How much of the language did you know before starting your au pair journey? i know barely any french, is it a bad idea to go with no knowledge of the language?
I went to work for a family in London at the end of the summer, we had spoken a lot, we had spoken on face time lots, we texted on a daily basis... but as soon as I meet them the day I arrived I could tell we were not going to work out. And it sucks as I've put in so much energy. And now I'm in the process of a re-match as I had to go back home and I'm scared to do it again. But I really really want to do it and I'm scared if I'm not doing it that I might regret it later. I'm in contact with a lovely family and we have spoken a few times and they seem great, but I'm scared.
Don't be scared! I've had a bad experience too, in Monaco. We just absolutely didn't go well together and they kinda treated me like a slave. Fortunately, I met an Au Pair on the playground, who knew the hostkids and that the family was super difficult. He told me to take a look on aupairworld.com and change the family. I found a really lovely family, the parents were super nice and interested in me as a person, not only as a working maid. I did the change because I wanted to be an Au Pair so badly and it was the best decision I've ever made. The host parents were super respectful, chilled and friendly, sure the kids were kinda hard to handle, but I did it and in the end I was so proud of myself :) And the city was just beautiful, I totally fell in love with it and made a whole bunch of friends from all over the world :) I can only encourage you to take the risk and do it, you don't know how wonderful it might become :D
It’s scary ofc, I totally had that too! But as time goes on and you get more used to living in a new place, you slowly make new connections and lifelong friends! Interestingly enough, you also learn to enjoy your own company. Done be scared, we all go through it but it’s totally worth it in the end.
I am a stay at home mom but have physical disabilities. My kids are 4,7,8,10,11. My husband works full time. Could we hire an au pair if I stay home? Or is that considered a faux paux.
Hello guys, I'm new to the au pair community and I'm just considering being an au pair, and haven't done the steps i need to do yet to be an au pair. So I just wanna ask, how do you deal with kids when they're mean and rude and disrespectful? how do you discipline them if they dont even listen to you? and if I quit, would my visa remain active?
When kids are assholes you have to remember that they are kids and they probably think they're being funny, or don't have a full understanding of empathy. Therefore, you have to be the one with empathy in that situation and take a step back. It always sucks when kids say mean things, especially the older ones, and you have to act like it didn't hurt. Discipline, however, is something you have to talk to the parents about. This won't be just one conversation, you have to ask as things happen how you should handle it. Feigning sadness or yelling at them doesn't do anything besides push them away. But, you also don't have to take their crap. If the parents don't discipline the kids, there are things like privileges or toys that you can take away. With the visa thing, it really depends on where you're planning on going. In Germany, your visa lists the address of your family and it's only valid as long as you're working for them. However, you have time to change families and stuff, and they won't like throw you out of the country. It would just be basically impossible to find work that isn't under the table, plus a place to live.
@@tally9166 thank you! sadly not yet, when i was ready to prepare my visa in Botschaft, they closed it. and i’m still waiting until now. but i heard that they will open again very soon
I really want to become one and I have been talking to a few host families but I have seen some bad stories about sex trafficking and stuff, I know I can contact previous au pairs but what if they are new to hosting because a few of them have told me they are new and I really want to be safe!
I want to do au pair, although I found an agency, I’m kinda scared I won’t be independent enough and thought about doing it by myself.. Any suggestions on sites I can look up?
OMG! That is totally fine!! When I became an Au Pair I felt the exact same way. It will be a little bit hard at first, but it will all be worth it I promise!
@@aupairohparis6083 hello, kindly which agency should i use. I would like to apply ad Aupair am frm Kampala Uganda i already have experience of 4 years working in Dubai
Hi I have a question that I can't seem to get an answer for. So I'm 31 years old living in the USA as a nanny. I have a extensive amount of experience caring for children: babysitting, preschool teacher and for the past 7 years i have been a nanny. I love to travel so naturally becoming an au pair sounds like a dream however, I am hearing some things about how you can only get a work visa if you are 30. Is there a way around this work visa or simply another option for older people?
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I'm so scared that I will get to the other side of the world and the family will make me feel really uncomfortable
@@emilysmith1658 are you still looking for au pair?
Well I’m scared they won’t accept me for being gay🤭
Me too.
@@ruthamutjira7525 I have this fear as well.
@@Echope_ then they are not the right fit for you! You need to take your time to match with the right family, that truly accepts you the way you are and allows you to be you!
I wish i knew how much the language barrier would affect the way the children respected and treated me.
Omagad me too ! Is really difficult to get respect when there’s that barrier with the kids
Sandi Mahoney I can relate!!!
that's a good one, so true.
oh my gosh sameeee
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I wish I would have known that kids can be difficult or mean, and parents don't want to see it. Sometimes parents just can't admit that their kid can be ill-behaved. So I just have to deal with this poorly behaved child without really having the right to raise them
Oh this speaks VOLUME!!! SO ACCURATE
I think part of that is people farrrrrrrr too often think they are being honest with people and the other person got it, when in reality they have so significantly and widely beat around the bush that the other party ends up with no idea that there is even an issue :(
There is a way to be kind , blunt and honest but the majority of people struggle to achieve it.
This is honestly why I cannot be dealing with other people's kids. If they're not family, I can't do it. Because what might have been acceptable or unacceptable in my household may be totally different for someone else. And a lot of parents don't discipline their kids. So it can be frustrating when you're the one who is stuck dealing with that type of behavior and there's nothing you can do about it.
I'm nervous about knowing how comfortable to be around the family and when I'm "stepping over boundaries" like helping myself to food in their fridge
Room and board means you are entitled to help yourself and have some food and a place to stay, that's why au pairs get pocket money and not paid wages according to the hours you are actually working
I was au-pair in Denmark for couple of years. The first family wasn't bad, but wasn't good either. Small kids and brats if I may say, they were really using my lack of danish knowledge against me. Luckily, after two months, mother decided to stay home with kids, so I had to find a new family and thank God for that! I stayed with the new family for 4 years, they adjusted my schedule so I could do my masters degree 'on the side', besides the language school the kids helped me a lot to learn danish and they just became my danish family. Three years after graduating, getting a job and moving away from them, we're still very close and I still consider them my family ❤️ I guess I was very lucky after all
haha i gosh ! you really don't know If you are in a good or bad sitch until you look back on it sometimes!
Lady that aint cool u callin me a brat !?
Who sends you to the language school and graduate school? Do your host family sponsor your schooling?
@@sunnyhwang3827 in Denmark, the language schools are for free, and so are the universities for EU citizens.
@@RosovaEva Thank you! I am from Asia and I plan to become an au pair while learning a new language and earning a masters degree.
I wish I knew how hard and weird it is to balance work and personal life when you live with your employers and when you basically work from home
Is it possible to get your own apartment or stay with friends/relatives and just be at their home when i’m looking after the kids?
yes, they mostly provide you an apartment
I'm hiring an au pair. And I'm a stay at home mom. My job I'd part time. So I'd let my au pair have a lot of free time :).
Sad to know some families make you guys feel horrible
I wish I would have known how strange it can be to live with the people you work for. Especially since the parents have power over you in multiple ways. They're the ones who give you a roof over your head, food to eat and a salary. It can be difficult to be yourself or feel completely comfortable in that situation
Do you get privacy when you’re not looking after the kids? For example, can you lock the door to your room? Do you get your own toilet? Do you always have to ask/tell where you are going?
I wish I would have known how even tho this is suppose to be a “cultural exchange” most of the time it’s far from that .. not being appreciated and being excluded a lot of the time really makes a person feel broken 🤷🏽♂️
I feel this 110%
2020 au pair here, I worked throughout covid in Germany and I hated being so far from home during this horrible time but when I tell you I am so grown up and mature (well maybe). It has changed me for the better and I wouldn’t ask for another way to spend the last couple of years! Goodluck new au pairs ❤
I’m nervous about a) the language barrier and embarrassing myself when I try to speak French, and b) if my host family will be disappointed by me if I’m not as cool or fun as they thought!
Girl we are twins - I’m literally scared of the same thing
could you explain us your experience ?
I'm an AuPair right now in Germany and I've changed families once already after 4 months at one family. It's super important to be honest about being unhappy there, although I know it is so difficult. It's also important to note that you are NOT a servant and should not be treated like one (cooking all meals then cleaning the kitchen alone, serving guests, etc.) and if your family never invites you on family outings, that's not okay either. Anyways, in Germany you're paid 260 Euros per month, plus 50 Euros per month if you're taking a language course. If you live in a city like Berlin, knowing German isn't necessary. However, most other "big cities" are not like Berlin. Therefore, try to learn the language!
I'm paid to learn the language? I never understood that. Can you explain to me please?
I am Kenyan and looking for an aupair opportunity... Any advice?
Hey Samantha , am because and looking for Au Pair , I need your assistance in that I would appreciate it so much
My wife and I are just about ready to look into finding and welcoming an Au Pair to join the family of 6 in the beautiful north woods of WI. Honestly, we might be WAY more excited to include them as one of the family than anything else! 😁
These vids have been SO insightful, super appreciated!
Northwoods Murphy thank you so much!! Having an au pair is definitely an awesome experience!
Hello can i send you an email i look for host family
Yulita Sari hey there! I’d suggest taking a look at Au Pair Butrfly, but if you want to be an Au Pair in America you have to find an agency! There are many out there but take a look at the requirements for the country you want to travel to!
this is just too cute oh my god. i wish every host family was like yours!
Can I send you an email please
I’m currently an Aupair in Austria, I’m from Perth, Western Australia. I have been in Austria for a little over six months now. The agreement I had with my family that I was getting paid €400 per month which is pretty good considering he average is around €300. I look after four children and boy it is rough sometimes, a lot of bumps and hurdles along the way. However, the most rewarding and greatest experience where you truly do grow within yourself and building so much independence is great. But I work really closely with the mother as she is a stay at home mum. I completely agree about you feel like you put more work into sometimes than what you’re paid... but in saying that, within the year you’re allocated 6 weeks of paid leave which is great!
Hi Eleeza! I'm also au pairing in Austria, it's my third month I'm from South Africa. :)
That's not enough money omg
a little off topic but perth is one of my top places to travel to when i can ahhhh
Randilakovska that is a good amount of money....
What about food? Plane tickets? Clothes, personal hygiene stuff? Specific food that you prefer
Yes to all of these! One thing I find difficult is getting people to hang out before 9 pm 😂 Afternoon friends are hard to find!
I'm going through a tricky au pair experience atm.. I've been with a family in germany for 5 weeks, the first few days were awful and I wanted to leave immediately but knew I needed to give it a chance and make the best of it - the parent was so unwelcoming to me, barely spoke to me on the journey from the airport, didn't show me around the house, where the kitchen or bathroom were, didn't explain anything to me about the routine or kids until i asked. The kids are sweet, sometimes ofc difficult but generally I enjoy being with them. The parent and I are not friendly however. I try to chat with him, but he is always blunt and seems like he doesn't want to have to talk to me. This makes it difficult for me to approach him with my problems. I also am working way overtime - when the kids are home the parent expects me to be present every minute (they live half the time at this house and half at their other parent's house). When the kids are here for the whole weekend, the dad is reluctant to let me take 30 minutes to go running... and sometimes when i do he texts me to tell me off for not taking the dog with me (but i cant run with the dog as it doesnt follow). The parent doesn't communicate with me when schedules change and the kids are coming home which means I have to change my plans for the day to be instantly ready to babysit. I feel like I am being taken advantage of. I've been here just 5 weeks now and havent been paid yet - I know it is up to me to make sure i get it of course. I had been looking for a good moment to ask this week and it got away from me... but now i also have decided to leave the family as I am not happy. I need to ask for my pay and tell them I am leaving and am a bit nervous. What do you think?
Anna, are you working with an agency? maybe they can help. Talk to them! and definitely move from there, that’s horrible :(
How did it go?
I wish I knew that saying goodbye to your host family is so hard. 😢
I really appreciate your honesty in these kinds of videos. I've been thinking about becoming an au pair for a while now and I never really considered the cons before I found this channel! Ngl it's kind of discouraging but I think it's important to know that it's not going to be this perfect situation I've made up in my head lol so thank you!
brumoondoll4jt it’s important to know all the pros and cons so you can take a knowledgeable decision!
I was a nanny in New York for a Pakistani woman that has one 8 years old boy and a 6 years old girl. They were so mean to me all the time. As I read in the comments, you depend on the family for everything. The deal was having 3 meals a day, 8 hours sleep and Sundays off. The payment 800 dollars a month that raises after 3 months up to 1000 dollars a month. But everything was just a lie. When I got there, I didn't have 3 meals a day. I barely had 1 meal and it was the leftovers of the family. The mother allowed me to sleep 4 or 5 hours a day. I didn't have any days off in 3 weeks. She paid me me only 2 weeks, she still owes me money after almost a year. Of course I ran away from the family in the middle of December in a Sunday snowy day in the morning in a bare feet with my shoes in my hand and ready to call 911 because she was threatened me. I ran out, I ran for about 3 blocks, she ran after me begging me not to leave the job. I decided to go back to the house just to pick up my 2 suitcases that still were in her house. It was like an horror movie. And of course when we video call before I moved to work with her everything was just honey and love. But they were just pretending to convince me to work with them. I used to work as a teacher at home after school, for 3 or 4 hours, to help kids to do their homework and other chores. I'm very scared now to work as a nanny again after this American horror story as a nanny with this family in New York.
OMG, can't imagine how horrible that must have been. So sorry
what the hell
Did u have any agent
Oh man, I wish I knew about the weathers climate and change of my location! I was not prepared for the season change and I brought no clothes for winter weather! I’m going back to be an au pair again in the same place and I’m so ready and prepared 2nd time around lol!
I'm headed to Spain to work as an au pair for a family that seems really wonderful. So far they've shown great communication and they have had good experiences with au pairs in the past. I have some experience with childcare in the past... I've worked as a babysitter and as a camp counselor. One thing I want advice on navigating is $$! I want to ask if the family will help me cover my return flight, but don't want to overstep my bounds.
update?
I'm worried I won't be able to make good local friends!
join the APOP Member community !
@@aupairohparis6083 what's that?
@@__angel__a our community program!! check out aupairohparis.com!!
Dude I’m so scared
Thanks!
i´m in love with your English haha, it is so clear and like clean, not sure how to explain
hahah well thanks! its my maternal language! so thats good news ha!
I really want to be an au pair in Paris because I want to eventually move there! I hope it’s not awful! & hopefully I’ll have enough to get me by lol
just speaking since i lived in paris - im sure you'll love it. You have to get used to cultural differences and (generally) as a foreigner the french tend to be a little closed off (almost defensive and protecting their own culture, which i understand) and like any place you go to, they can either be rude or super nice. But I think its something you have to figure out and get used to yourself. Anyway like I said at the start, I'm sure you'll love it! Paris has some lovely parts and I miss it deeply :,)
@@maddfrost no but I lived there :)
I've been an au pair for around half a year. I was lucky because I had a boyfriend in the same town as well as savings and people who could help me to go back to my country. I was doing all my best, but without any appreciation it is difficult to live with unknown people who only tell you that you are doing everything wrong
I’m thinking about being an au pair in France next year to improve my French before college but I don’t have much experience with kids so I’m worried about looking after them properly and disciplining them correctly
I am really curious about how to get a study visa from an au pair visa??? And what to remember like the college admission process or dates to remember, requirements and stuff like that?
I’ve been an au pair in China for almost two months. I’ve already switched families once because the first one treated me so poorly. I’m considering leaving early because I’m realizing I just don’t dont like the job and also there’s a lot of stuff going on back in my real family that makes it extremely difficult to want to work or feel content. I want to leave so badly but it’ll cost a lot to end the program early and I don’t know if it would be a good idea to just try to work it out. I’m truly at a loss of what to do
Connie Nikolo why don’t you like it?
hey is everything well now? its been a year and i hope you're okay now
I'm going one year to China and I'm pretty anxious to be honest. I have the impression that the family is kind but I won't know until I meet them in person and actually live with them! I've heard people with horror stories and people that had great and okay experiences so I guess I need to experience it myself
I'm leaving in 19 days🥺🥺
Hey there, I'm going to China in December to be an au pair too. Im really scared incase it won't work out or the family don't get on with me. When are you going?
@@rachaelcollins6285 I'm going next week!
@@rachaelcollins6285 I'm scared too but we should try to be as positive as possible :) if you don't mind you can add me on instagram to keep in touch (@lucysmnt)
How is it going so far? I hope you’re having a good time!
hello! where are you? I am in shanghai. I am a chinese. maybe we can hangout sometimes. enjoy your au pair~
I'm hopefully going to be an au pair in UK in the second half of next year but i have no idea if i should use an agency or find a host family myself!!
Agency, they make parents respect the law ;) to find a decent family on your own it's a needle in a haystack...
I'm going to be an aupair near to Paris in January and I'm so scared if I don't find friends or people to hang out in the freetime. If you are going to be an aupair also, hit me up!!
Hmm interesting. I would like to know what happened? Since covid spread and everything stopped in March. How are you living?
Would love to know
I'm leaving to become an au pair at the end of the month and I'm so scared! I'm worried about feeling lonely and uncomfortable in the house. I don't want to cross any boundaries!
Where will you AuPair at? Loneliness is a pretty common feeling, but AuPair facebook groups really help! Depending on the age of your kids, you may go to like baby/toddler meet ups at churches or family centers. Often, there are volunteers working there for a gap year around our age. Try to talk to them or ask if anyone there knows of university parties happening in the area. Being super honest and outgoing with the parents is also important but super exhausting so just do your best
How is your au pair year going so far?🙈
Talking over contracts and expectations w a potential host family in the suburbs of Paris right now..! And starting to get these feelings of anxiety, especially with how finances are going to work. What are generally some of the nonnegotiable things au pairs should expect their host family to provide, especially "extras" like transport passes, phone plans and language classes?
Hey there!! I am so scared that the kids will not like me haha or the family will just like not treat me as part of the family
i was worried about that as well! they should be worried about YOU liking them as well! it goes both ways !
@@aupairohparis6083 yes yes ys
I’ve signed up to become a Au Pair for America and I’m so worried about going to a completely different country and them not liking me🤦🏻♀️
Hi how did you find your Au pair pls help me for the search
I’m so nervous about leaving my home in the uk to move to the us for a year! I’m such a home bird, I don’t know if I’ll be able to cope?
join the APOP Open Forum on FB and lean on the support of the other au pairs !
you can do it!!
@@aupairohparis6083 Hi au pair
Omg go for it! Americans aren't all bad. Just never bring up politics!
How did it go?
What if the family are like secret killers , that’s my biggest fear , someone please put my mind at ease and reassure me
I think honestly that thought goes through every single au pairs mind. and I've never heard it happening! especially if you go through the whole process of Skyping multiple times, seeing the kids, singing a contract - its a lot of effort on their part! I realise now that it was a silly fear! don't worry you are not alone
😂
Mad yes!!!! You need to make a contract with your future host family! If you don’t know how to, Au Pair Buttrfly can help with that!
Im going to au pair in Monaco in the next week, Im really nervous about speaking French. my family is English thankfully , but Im literally terrified of the language barrier and being lonely.
How's it going so far? Especially during quarantine?
It's really hard starting from scratch to learn a language you've never spoke but you'll get used eventually I've managed to speak good Arabic after being an aupair for 1yr+4months but I'd wish to go to Germany,France next year after my contract wish me luck!!
Glad I came across your channel. I recently came across this whole aupair thing and I am seriously considering it (just registered my profile). As to be expected I'm a bit nervous 😔
hi, did you become an au pair?
@@mae1062 Hello. No, unfortunately not
@@teddynkwabi4502 aww I'm sorry. Which websites were you applying on?
I wish I thought more about the fact that the children will most likely not like AND respect you from the first week on and that the first time can be really hard because of that. The children do have cope with the change too and it will take time until the kids really accept you and want to spend time with you.
I'm being paid $120 a week as an au pair in France - so either $480 or $600 a month depending how many Fridays in the month (paid every Friday). This is quite a bit more than the average but I'm doing more errands/housework which is why!
@@maddfrost Depends how much housework/cooking/extra duties they are asking you to take on I suppose! This is what aupairworld says if you are in France, "According to the French regulations au pairs from a non UE country are entitled to at least 320 € pocket money per month and EU au pairs receive monthly pocket money between 271.50 € and 325.80 €. The amount that is agreed must be specified in the au pair contract." Most of the au pairs I know earn on average 80 euros a week. Mine is definitely way above the usual!
I'm going to be an au pair in France (I'm from Mexico), I've been contacted by two families but I haven't done the interviews (winter break I guess) and I'm so nervous! I don't know what to expect, how to behave or what to ask them during the Skype interview, my French is basic, my English is not that bad but I can't say I'm fluent and I don't know if I will be able to improve my French in one year as an au pair. D:
How did you apply for au pair?
Once your in the environment you'll probably start to learn the language way faster than if your learning from your home country
@@maddfrost Oh hi! I've been an au pair almost for a year now, I'm going to renew my visa for a second year in March. It has been a roller-coaster honestly, at the end of January (2020) I was contacted by a single mother near Paris, I got my visa one month after the interview and came to France the first week of March but things didn't go well with the mother the first week and I got stuck with her during the lockdown, after that I decided to do a rematch (I came with an agency, not the best idea) but they found a new family for me to start working with until September so I had to find a summer family by myself, I ended up spending the summer in Bretagne with a really nice family but horrible kids, now I'm living in Paris with the family that my agency found for me, I have my own studio (not a chambre de bonne), the parents are super nice with me but the kids are uncontrollable, I think it's cultural hahaha.
First family, we spoke just in English, the mother bullied me because my English wasn't perfect for her.
Second family, I spoke in English with the father and French with the mother and the kids, even though my French was (and is) super basic she encouraged me to speak with her and helped me out.
Third family, I speak Spanish with the parents and French with the kids, my French is still basic because honestly I haven't been able to go to classes etc but I can comunicate with the kids, I try to listen to some phrases the parents told them and repeat it to them.
So far it hasn't been the experience I was expecting, I had high expectations but I'm trying my best not to give up.
Don't go with the first family, try to find the best option for you and don't let the kids control you.
Good luck! ✨
@@maddfrost goodluck babe!!! just remember to be patient and i really hope all will work out! plzz keep us updated!
@@maddfrost Good luck! I wish the best! If you ever come to Paris let me know. ☺️✨
I am hoping to go to France as an au pair at the end of next year, and something that I am really nervous about is that I will not fit in with the family (feel excluded) as I am a social person. I am also really afraid that I won't make any friends my age from where I am, and I don't want to be lonely while I'm there
you are not alone! definitely go on the APOP Forum and talk about this with the girls!!
@@maddfrost how is going now ? M in ur situation i have offer from Paris and I'm nervous 😃
This video and comments are exactly what I needed. Thank you so much!!
I didn't think I needed to watch this but it helped me so much! Thank you!
I got married to a Phillopino Aupair here in Norway, great video thanks!
Chris congrats and thanks!
I au paired in London for 3 months for two different families they both payed £100 a week and the first family also payed for my oyster card. This was for 30 hours a week, though the second d family had me work 45-50 hours a week, which is the reason I left.
I'm now going to a new family in Windsor that'll pay me £150 a week for 30 hours max. I hope this one works out!
45-50 hours a week? Whoa, That's rough. So sorry
Please after getting au pair which visa did you apply for?
Just find out about your channel and I'm loving it!
I am Brazilian and I'm planning to be an au pair in US on 2020.
Have you had to learn French before hand ?
Starting my first Au Pair job in June in Italy. Nervous about what I don’t know...I’ve never done this kind of thing before
Jonathan Swift nice man I want to
Aswell what website you use?
You worried about corona?
I used AuPairworld.com. It’s an awesome website and I just put up some good pictures of me and me with my family and stuff. And then wrote a few paragraphs in my personal info section and then reached out to a couple of families.
Also honestly not too worried about the coronavirus in Italy right now, unless some crazy amount of people get infected and die, it’s not gonna be a problem...hopefully😂
Jonathan Swift nice man
Jonathan Swift where in Italy?
The most thing I'm most scared of is to be part of a family again. I am already 26 (went to uni first) and I just don't know if I can go back on not being independent.
Totally get you! But remember that there are age limits to being an au pair in certain countries!
@@aupairohparis6083 Yeah, I know them by heart at this point, haha. This is my last chance to go to America (you have to be 26 when leaving), so this is going to be my first stop. Maybe I will do France afterwards
Anie To good luck!!
2:12 kids used to be like this, at least when I was growing up be parents these days don’t teach their children to respect others, or should I say it’s not as common as it was when I was younger
I guess it depends on who the parents are, but parenting styles have for sure changed a bit
Aupairs in Germany gets 260€ average working 32 hours a week.. your video is so interesting
Hie Bella,Im from Zim....and preparing to au pair in germany from early July...are there any tips on how to get a good family and not be taken advantage of....ive seen friends of mine settling for just any family because of the situation back home....
And what would be wise to include in the motivational letter
Please please help🙏
@@PragmaticNerd check this video of mine everything is answered there ruclips.net/video/bON_s4pdNbw/видео.html
Which agency did you use?
Which agency did you use
I'm nervous about being uncomfortable with the host family and not getting a long with the kids in person.
Haven't seen many other au pairs talk about this and I'm aware every family has different expectations but in general, what skills should an au pair have to look after themselves/the kids? Are most au pairs required to cook, clean, tidy up the house for their host families? How much should au pairs be paid weekly or monthly in a reasonable manner?
No, Au-Pairs are entitled to light house shores. The host family need to hire someone to clean the house but it's not part of Au-Pairs functions. Generally speaking, You work for the children
@@yulianaalexandra2385 I see. Thanks!
This is my first time watching your videos and I just want to say that it was really helpful! I'm planning to be an au pair for 10-12months starting next year in summer. I'm from Germany and I'm currently talking to a host family from Canada (my top choice country). I've only talked to them for a few days and skyped with the host mum once for an hour and she asked me if I wanted to be their au pair today. I really like her and the job description and salary (3kids aged 6-10, 999CAD per month) seem fair/good to me but I'm afraid of making the decision too fast.. Any advice or red Flags to Look Out for?
Sarah Laetitia maybe Skype with the kids as well? Or ask the mom about their hobby’s and household rules to see whether this is (at least somewhat) in line with your views since you’re going to be spending a lot of time raising them in the way the parents want you to. And it helps if you have a connection with your kids from the beginning :)
Linda Leijten Thank you for replying! I did actually Skype with the mom and two of the three kids again yesterday. My own mom was there as well and "approved" of the family and we've scheduled more calls for me to get to know the host dad and the last kid. They're super nice this far but not in a perfect way so they seem to be very honest with me. I am strongly considering going there, the only problem left would be getting the visa 😅😊
@@sarahlaetitia6767 and are you going?
I am going to be an aupair in London am from Kenya ,I have been contacted by two families so far but I prefer one which is offering me quiet good offers and am so excited to be in London
@@FeiyFedis how did it go Feiy?
this was so helpful thank you !!
This video is so helpful. I am going to Belgium as au pair after couple of weeks. I hope i will survive.
Thanks for this, but I'm really scared, because I'm very short and the Host kids will bully 😔 me but I'm ready to try this 😂😊😊
Thank you for a great video!
I want to try this AU Pair ...
I love your vlog 🤗
I'm an au pair in Turin, Italy and I make €50 a week but I honestly thought that was great because the other families on aupairworl didn't mention payment...
We're sorry to hear that! If you think you need more, definitely sit down with your host family and let them know. We're here to help and support you if you need anything :D
Mad check out this blog post we wrote about the topical au pair salary! www.aupairohparis.com/blog/2020/1/23/can-you-really-survive-on-80-a-week
Am nervous because I don't want the kids to hate me and things that I prepare they may not like
oh my god, the videos and comments are all true...... I don't have to explain anymore cause it's already written
I am planning to move to Germany through the au pair program but I have this fear of human trafficking and stuff like yeah....but I really want to go
You video was very helpful for. Cuz I started applying for an au-pair.
We wish you the best of luck!!!
I loved your video! Thanks for sharing! I am also an Au Pair in the USA and I upload tips and things about my experience too! ❤️
Gonna be an au pair in Montauban next month... I'm a little bit nervous about the language barrier with the kids and going through daily life without knowing that much of french...
@@maddfrost well, at first it’s for sure going to be a challenge, but then again, being so immersed in the country, hearing the parents talk in French and the kids as well, you’ll pick up the basics quick enough then in your French lessons it will only go better! Still an au pair right now on my second year! My French is close to level C1.
Thanks for the infro which was very interesting
rosie rosie thank you for watching!!
How does having prior teaching experience and teaching experience abroad affect the au pair experience in your opinion? I’m interested in doing this to get more experience living abroad? I speak French at a proficient/conversational level, but I never really looked into this option until I came across your channel!
Where did you get your rings? love this one -> 🎭
its my high school graduation ring (went to a performing arts school) :D each ring is so important to me. My rings are my tattoos!
thanks :DDD
Weird question, would a host family ever let me bring my cat with me? I don’t know what I would do with him otherwise. I don’t even know how easy it would be to bring a cat to the Europe in general but I would absolutely love to be an au pair
I'm worried that I won't be able to be good at nannying or whatever. I'm so scareddd
Im planing to au pair in Paris towards the end of next summer. As a male, I’m hoping to have my own studio and right now i have an amazing job so I’m going to try to save up at least 5k to keep me independent. Do you think that amount will be enough for me to pick up and move my life completely to Paris? I’m also taking to a family in the south of France near Geneva Switzerland, but I’m not sure if it’ll be a good fit for me. I don’t want to feel too isolated. Any advice guys? :)
Depending on how close to Geneva you're looking, there's a lot of au pairs! If you want a big city though, make sure to talk about the city with the family because there are a lot of small towns here too
Hannah Solo thats for the advice! I think I’m gonna pass it up because I was about an hour away from it. Even though I’d have a car, I’m sure i wouldn’t be able to get out there hardly ever.
Au Pair, Oh Paris thanks girl! I think I’m gonna pass it up because it’s not really near the city. I’m gonna stick to Paris!
I really want to be an Au Papi, but im scared that I'll fall into Human Trafficking.What are some signs to watch out for?
You should sign in an agency (but pls inform yourself about the agency first) it is way more safe than just looking through the internet. Most agency's visit the family's home before letting them have an aupair. And you should also Skype with the family and maybe talk to other aupairs if they had some.
You guys always have the best advice... I am very nervous if we don't click is there any way to avoid that or do you have to just wait and see
I’m scared because I’m supposed to go to a family of 4 and I’m not passionated about kids either. I like being around them but wouldn’t want to be a mom. I don’t want to take a role as a mother... I am scared that I might be disappointed
You can’t change the circumstances you’re in, but you can change your outlook! You’ll do great!
Going to Edmonton this year and I’m super nervous!
I'm thinking about becoming an Au Pair, but I'm super nervous about going abroad.
Totally understandable! But it is an awesome experience! Just take a look into what you want and what you consider important and if being an au pair is something you’d like to do, we’re here to help!
Soooo scared & soooo ready
You’ll do amazing!
I’m going to my host family in September 2020 and im very very nervous
update us??
Me too, in two days I’m going to Italy! Wish me luck (im spanish)
i;m scared that i'd be silent there coz of the language >.
Can we return to France as an au pair repeat, if I am from Non-European country?
hi, I'm not an au pair but looking to be. How much of the language did you know before starting your au pair journey? i know barely any french, is it a bad idea to go with no knowledge of the language?
I knew absolutely nothing.
I went to work for a family in London at the end of the summer, we had spoken a lot, we had spoken on face time lots, we texted on a daily basis... but as soon as I meet them the day I arrived I could tell we were not going to work out. And it sucks as I've put in so much energy. And now I'm in the process of a re-match as I had to go back home and I'm scared to do it again. But I really really want to do it and I'm scared if I'm not doing it that I might regret it later. I'm in contact with a lovely family and we have spoken a few times and they seem great, but I'm scared.
Don't be scared! I've had a bad experience too, in Monaco. We just absolutely didn't go well together and they kinda treated me like a slave. Fortunately, I met an Au Pair on the playground, who knew the hostkids and that the family was super difficult. He told me to take a look on aupairworld.com and change the family. I found a really lovely family, the parents were super nice and interested in me as a person, not only as a working maid. I did the change because I wanted to be an Au Pair so badly and it was the best decision I've ever made. The host parents were super respectful, chilled and friendly, sure the kids were kinda hard to handle, but I did it and in the end I was so proud of myself :) And the city was just beautiful, I totally fell in love with it and made a whole bunch of friends from all over the world :) I can only encourage you to take the risk and do it, you don't know how wonderful it might become :D
i’m scared of being lonely 😔
It’s scary ofc, I totally had that too! But as time goes on and you get more used to living in a new place, you slowly make new connections and lifelong friends! Interestingly enough, you also learn to enjoy your own company. Done be scared, we all go through it but it’s totally worth it in the end.
I've called my family once and I'm going- I'm worried
Hi!
In thing number one, did you actually say that kids like rules?
I don't know about that, but they need some rules, that's for sure. :D
I am a stay at home mom but have physical disabilities. My kids are 4,7,8,10,11. My husband works full time.
Could we hire an au pair if I stay home? Or is that considered a faux paux.
Is being an aupair a bonus in one's resume? 🤔🤔 (if he wants to be an engineer)
I'd rephrase it by stating the skills you got during that time. Like work ethics, working well with others, language skills, etc.
„kids like rules“ have you ever met a kid?😂😂😂
Lol if we hadn’t we would not have been au pairs. We’re just speaking from experience 🥳✌🏻
Hello guys, I'm new to the au pair community and I'm just considering being an au pair, and haven't done the steps i need to do yet to be an au pair. So I just wanna ask, how do you deal with kids when they're mean and rude and disrespectful? how do you discipline them if they dont even listen to you?
and if I quit, would my visa remain active?
When kids are assholes you have to remember that they are kids and they probably think they're being funny, or don't have a full understanding of empathy. Therefore, you have to be the one with empathy in that situation and take a step back. It always sucks when kids say mean things, especially the older ones, and you have to act like it didn't hurt. Discipline, however, is something you have to talk to the parents about. This won't be just one conversation, you have to ask as things happen how you should handle it. Feigning sadness or yelling at them doesn't do anything besides push them away. But, you also don't have to take their crap. If the parents don't discipline the kids, there are things like privileges or toys that you can take away.
With the visa thing, it really depends on where you're planning on going. In Germany, your visa lists the address of your family and it's only valid as long as you're working for them. However, you have time to change families and stuff, and they won't like throw you out of the country. It would just be basically impossible to find work that isn't under the table, plus a place to live.
I am going to be an aupair in germany for 1 year. Im leaving in 4 days
Were exactely are you living right now? Which city? And do you like it
How is it? Do you enjoy it? I’m also planning to be an Au Pair in Germany this year, but I’m still scared😢
@@syintaalf1665 It's going to be fine
@@tally9166 thank you! sadly not yet, when i was ready to prepare my visa in Botschaft, they closed it. and i’m still waiting until now. but i heard that they will open again very soon
I really want to become one and I have been talking to a few host families but I have seen some bad stories about sex trafficking and stuff, I know I can contact previous au pairs but what if they are new to hosting because a few of them have told me they are new and I really want to be safe!
chloe pankita I’d say that it would be a great idea to travel with an agency then! Our partners at aupairbutrfly are a great choice!
I want to do au pair, although I found an agency, I’m kinda scared I won’t be independent enough and thought about doing it by myself.. Any suggestions on sites I can look up?
You can look on aupairwold.com, I've had really good experiences with that site :)
Thanks Jen :)
Hi Esther am Mariam,.can you please help me to find an agency to pls
I really want to be au pair in USA from uganda
im becoming an au pair next year and im so scared that when I get of the plane no one will be there to get me :(
OMG! That is totally fine!! When I became an Au Pair I felt the exact same way. It will be a little bit hard at first, but it will all be worth it I promise!
@@aupairohparis6083 hello, kindly which agency should i use. I would like to apply ad Aupair am frm Kampala Uganda i already have experience of 4 years working in Dubai
Nyangoma Olivia hope hi!! We would recommend AuPair Buttrfly!! They are awesome and you can get a discount if you tell them you come from APOP!!
€260, Germany
Hi I have a question that I can't seem to get an answer for. So I'm 31 years old living in the USA as a nanny. I have a extensive amount of experience caring for children: babysitting, preschool teacher and for the past 7 years i have been a nanny. I love to travel so naturally becoming an au pair sounds like a dream however, I am hearing some things about how you can only get a work visa if you are 30. Is there a way around this work visa or simply another option for older people?
Hi am Mariam,can you help me to find a host family over there pls
Is Au pair world a good site to find a hair family and do everything that needs to be done?