25 and 26 yr old parents giving parenting advise gives off the same vibe of everyone in 2014 writing their autobiographies when they hadn’t even reached 20 yet
Or marriage advice when you’ve been married less than four seconds. My husband and I are married nearly 20 years and I am only recently feeling like I have something to offer in that department.
@@kremmiz1 I feel the same. Even people who give marriage at the 10 year mark are weird to me cuz marriages commonly end at the 5 and 10 year mark. People need at least 20+ years for me to take them seriously, and I need nitty gritty details that go beyond “just find something to love about them everyday”. Nah, I want to hear what fights are like and how they get through them 😅.
@ yessss! It’s happened in the last year or two, where people are asking for our advice and at first I was all “wait. Me??!” and then I did the math. Two decades racks up quite a bit of experience and GROWTH. There no freaking way I knew a darn thing years ago.
Matt getting bent out of shape about his birthday being the same day as Father's Day genuinely baffles me because it's like....the day is still about you, dude. You're mad because a day built around appreciating you focused on appreciating you for being a dad as opposed to appreciating you for being mommy's special birthday boy?
This happens with both me and my husband. My birthday is in May, and usually near Mother's Day, and my husband's birthday is in June and usually on or around Father's Day. You wanna know what we do? We combine them like adults 🙄. These two are incredibly immature on a good day, so his little tantrum about his birthday just added to it.
@@Tjax514 Yep. My mom's birthday frequently falls on Mother's Day, and we just sort of work it into things, make some jokes about how the fancy Mother's Day brunch is secretly all in honor of her, put two cards in one envelope for the double holiday, stuff like that. This guy is incredibly immature and entitled and has NO sense of humor.
@@Tjax514 My parents are similar: Mom's birthday is in May and occasionally falls on the same day as Mother's Day. Dad's birthday is in early June, so not too close, but still the same month as Father's Day. They have never had any issues with the inevitable combining because they're not cringe weirdos like Matt.
Does anyone remember the tiktok Matt made where he booked a horseback riding tour for him and Abby THE DAY she got an IUD??? Abby only went bc Matt was guilting her into doing it. The was he was smiling and giddy and filming everything while she was clearly in so much pain was so unsettling. Like I got my IUD and it was one of the most painful things ever for 2 weeks. I can’t imagine my partner being so ignorant and ambivalent to my pain.
OMG yes I remember seeing that vid a while back! Thanks for detailing it here, a lot of people haven't seen that one 👍 One more receipt showcasing Matt's atrocious behavior 💀
Gonna be honest, I can see my husband doing that just because I’ve gotten an IUD in during a lunch break and gone back to working (I was a CNA at the time) like nothing happened. I have since learned that isn’t a normal response! Seriously though, the difference is if I was in that much discomfort my husband would reschedule or cancel immediately and tend to me.
Okay also, side note Abby was apparently 8 months pregnant on the birthday she threw for him where she “dropped the ball.” Can you imagine?? I wouldn’t even be throwing my husband a party at 8 months pregnant much less caring if I dropped the ball
Seriously, I just couldn't believe when they started going into what they did do on that day. When they said 'dropped the ball', I was thinking she got him a card and said she was sorry she didn't have a chance to do more. Frankly, a busy week while 8 months pregnant & with a baby at home - in my family you'd be lucky if you got the card. My parents kept one copy of a card for each annual occasion in a cupboard & pulled the relevant one out the morning of. They don't even bother going to get new ones 😂
yeah i dont have any issue with wanting a birthday not on fathers day at all i think thats totally fine but everything he said and thought about that issue was disturbing lol
Here I go, putting out my opinion....Like anyone needs it. Lol. My husband and I take more "traditional roles'' as well. We are farmers, so he is out in the field around the clock or working on machinery. He is the main bread winner, and I am very thankful for that. I am a teacher's aid, and also teach 3rd grade History. However, I am the homemaker. I love it. That is how I was raised, but I fell into the role on my own volition. I choose that role- like Abby. My husband hardly ever cleans the kitchen-but I hardly ever clean the garage, work on the farm machinery, or even mow the lawn. But when one of us can't preform our "tasks" we cross over and help each other. That is what a functioning married couple does. We take care of each other. There are times where he surprises me by cleaning the kitchen for me once in a while, and it makes my day! And there are times where I go out of my way and clean the garage to surprise him. We do that... I don't think that is wrong at all. HOWEVER, Matt and Abby both work from home.....so why does it all fall on Abby? And my husband would be kicked in the pants if he put me on social media while I was going through something so personal. And I really think that Matt is the only one who wants the spot light-I don't think Abby wants this life...maybe I'm wrong. Idk.
Sounds like a great balance! Some people prefer more defined roles, some others don’t, whatever makes people happy and satisfied. This young couple (or him at least) seems to lack the point, which to me is to care about the other person’s happiness more than whatever role you have in place
EXACTLY!! They literally have the same job!! He said in one video that he “took care of bills, insurance, etc” but when they lived in Hawaii, their water was shut off! He literally hadn’t paid in months🫠🫠
I was raised in a home like this, also on a farm. my mom was happy with it and so was my dad. now that my dad is home more and retiring soon, its becoming more annoying for my mom. we need to find him hobbies that keep him out of the house a little more. also I HATED IT. it is so unfair to put these gender roles on your children. I got to do dishes and laundry and my cousin got to drive the tractor? I can drive a tractor. It might surprise some farmers but you dont need a penis to drive a tractor and hold a power tool :/ also you might think it is even, but the problem is all the emotional labour and mental load that gets put on women that men dont even realise, like sheduling doctors appointments, getting new clothes in the right sizes for the kids,buying the birthday presents for birhtday parties the kids are invited to, always knowing where everything is, basically managing the whole family. they decide they want to take cooking of your table on sunday ad grill so you need to go to the grocery store,the butchers and you also need to prepare all the side dishes,but thank you my good husband for turning a steakform left to right for 10min. oh and cleaning the grill? ... how does a grown man dare to ask a mom with a kid in one hand and trying to do laundry with the other where his wallet is? when he makes formula he makes her check the temp, like at this point i can just do it myself. I would find this kind of incompetence deeply unattractive and offputting. I get that we get nursed into having sever helpers syndrome as traditionally raised women,but come on how can people think that it's more manly to hit something with a hammer than to be able to remember and make your own doctors appointment. how would these men even function by themselves? no wonder married man live longer than single men and single women live longer than married women
This is exactly how we live too! My husband though is so so helpful. He travels baking hay a lot so when he comes back he knows that what I’ve been doing is hard too. Sometimes I’ll be surprised and realize I haven’t done dishes in days, and he’s just doing it for me to be sweet and nice. Matt sucks. I love my husband so much. I’d do anything for him because of how well and kind he treats me. I never have to ask like other women say they do with household stuff. My husband just does it because he is mature enough to know that my job isn’t easy either. We help each other when we’re home
6:52 my grandparents are old-school traditional gender role people. My grandfather cannot take care of himself. When my grandmother got cancer, he hired a maid he learned how to order dinner. He learned how to cook 1 meal. He did not expect my grandmother to still cook and clean. Because before anything else, he loves his wife. He also isn’t an idiot who expects his wife who just had massive surgery to be able to do as she was able to before.
The worst part about the Father’s Day thing is that she was PREGNANT and they had come back from their baby moon THAT DAY! She planned a cookout in their home for the day they got back from a trip while she was very pregnant. She must have been exhausted and he is still so unappreciative. It makes me so sad when she says she dropped the ball when she actually went above and beyond.
nothing more should be said than she was pregnant. That's exhausting in of itself let alone traveling and also having an infant, and what seems to be a toddler of a husband. Anyway
@@Cynful033in my opinion she should’ve got catering🤷🏾♀️ I would never plan a party for someone and expect them to cook,grill or bake. If he planned her a birthday party or Mother’s Day dinner and told her to cook they would have a problem with that.
I agree. My father would never act the way this man child acts. My father would've got a little upset if my mother was pregnant and still hosted a party because of him. That's the difference between a man and a man child!@@Mary-eg5hr
I remember the clip from their podcast circulating about how Matt finds their quality of sex to be different and not the same before having kids. Abby was taken aback bc this was the first time she was hearing about it and comes to find out that since their first kid he’s not “disliked” their sex but that it’s not the same (doesn’t feel the same). And you can just see the blood/color from Abby’s face drain. She gets embarrassed/emotional and self conscious. Which rightfully so. Idk that was just a huge turning point for lots of people.
Yeah this was definitely some that should have been in the podcast because this is something that's so personal. But this is Matt, he loves to throw his wife under the bus and make her feel less than 🤪 But essentially sex after having a baby IS different. And it ranges from marriage to marriage. My husband and I didn't have sex for MONTHS because we were both just SO tired because we're waking up every few hours with a newborn. Once he finally started sleeping through the night and not nursing as often, was when we finally felt normal in our marriage and actually wanted to have sex with each other. Right now it varies because I'm like almost 7 months pregnant and uncomfortable 🥲
I’ve never heard anyone identify that before but you’re SO RIGHT that we have a serious problem with platforming people without ever hearing them speak on anything.
12:40 Holy narcisissm Batman. My brother is born June 16, so it often coincides with Father's Day or is just off from it. Never bothered him. He'd jokingly tell our dad that _he_ was the Father's Day gift, and when he became a dad himself, he loved Father's Day even more. For him, it's a day to celebrate his family, to dote on his daughter and cherish his wife. The fact that his birthday might sometimes be on Father's Day is a gift in his mind. That's a healthy, normal approach. Matt not being able to share his special day with the holiday is one hell of a red flag.
i watched a video on matt and abby by kiki chanel as well, and what really made me dislike matt was that he kept saying that abby "cheated" birth by having a c-section... like what
LITERALLY!! i'd love to see him try all of the main 'types' of ways to give birth and see what he has to say then eg. no pain meds VS epidural VS other options like gas and air, vaginal VS c-section, on his back on a bed VS in a tub, at hospital VS at home VS in a car on the way to hospital, etc. etc. etc. birth is the craziest experience that humans go through (no matter how u do it!!) besides maybe like... dying lol.
@Butterflier00 there's a clip of it in the first 10 seconds of the video 'our birth, fighting postpartum depression and c-section recovery ep 29' on their podcast channel. but i rmb seeing the conversation being a LOT longer coz he cant STFU
the cruise ship banning baby monitors actually sounds even scarier to me. i hope people don't just start leaving their kiddos WITHOUT even having a baby monitor
10:56 if they are a part of a very traditional church as well. The women in that church would talk poorly about and judge her for not breast-feeding or not being able to. She has been most likely told her entire life, but this is something her body was built for and if you can’t do it it’s because you didn’t try hard enough. I have seen so many women get blamed for their child not latching and it be perceived as a bad thing to make sure your child eats by giving them formula.
You always were and will always be one of those RUclipsrs in whose videos I click IMMEDIATELY. So good that you're back, take care and hope you're well!
As soon as you mentioned them leaving their children alone in their room my mind went to Madeline. People never learn from the mistakes of others or their own.
I don’t like or agree with them, but personally I believe it was misinterpreted when she said they were watching their kids on the monitors while they were out for dinner, as a parent it’s common to still watch them on a monitor even while someone else is watching them I think she just never expected people to assume that meant they had no in person supervision by someone else, They did say they had several family members also on the cruise who helped them w the kids
Tho it is an important topic to discuss, I would never leave any baby toddler or child alone or unattended, even in your own home nevermind while you’re away somewhere It’s so negligent and I will never stick up for anyone who does that, it’s not right at all and even if nothing bad happens it can still traumatize your child and have them fearful etc
Despite someone kidnapping your child, imagine if there was an accident and the ship started sinking, (Costa Concordia wasn’t that long ago) how quickly could you get back to your child in the throng of panicked people. These hypocrites are the same kind of people who will demonise working mothers for accessing daycare!
@@celestebeale7946hormonal changes can cause you not to feel attracted to your partner postpartum, not to mention the fact that you're healing from giving birth. not being attracted to your PP wife is completely different.
They didn't mean it like after the birth. They were talking about their in the beginning that they weren’t attracted to each other and how it changed over time. Don't create lies, they aren’t likeable as is.
I wonder if his dad never got proper father’s days because Matt had his birthday at the same time. Might be why Matt feels like his birthday is so important.
@@stephc7723EXACTLY! Imagine how Matt’s dad felt when Matt was a kid. I’m sure he didn’t care, but still! Now that Matt is a dad, it’s suddenly a problem?
Yeah, that struck me as weird. I was aware from a young age my birthday sometimes falls on Mother’s Day. And now as a mom I’m so excited for when my birthday is on Mother’s Day!
I’m new to this channel, just a passerby (now subscribed) but the title caught my eye and boy howdy you are so correct! Giving out unsafe advice under the guise of “we know more than you so we help other parents” is bonkers. As a dude I saw one random clip of the Matt guy talking once about his baby and it really gave me the impression he doesn’t want kids or a wife, just the status of both and sadly many men fall into that category. Hopefully they learn at some point but let’s not hold our breath 😂 oh and happy sobriety to all on the path as well!
I’m from the U.K I remember being on holiday to Croatia that summer and they had find Madeline McCann posters up and was surprised that the net was cast that wide. I didn’t realise that the USA had heard of the case. But yeah that tragedy should have taught parents something so they don’t do the same thing.
My husband surprises me with cleaning! The difference here is he organizes and tidies all of MY sewing/art/craft bullshit and deep cleans when I'm at work. We flip traditional roles on most things anyway so he does 90% of the dishes, shopping, cooking, and bathroom cleaning because he is self employed at home while I make more money and have a 35 mile commute to work. I do all of the cat care, fold all the laundry, floors, and usually take out the trash more often. People are shocked when I talk about it and have the audacity to ask "What do you do then?" Umm the stuff I just said and making twice as much money as him while fully supporting and encouraging him to follow his dream career path, duh.
"Matt talks to fucking much" Took me out so hard i had to pause the video to comment, your right he doesn't STFU. delightful video i only heard about them during the hospital vlog and the cruise ship and other then that I haven't seen anything else so i love these videos.
i strongly agree with your takes about family vloggers and the like. money aside, even if we pretended that they didn’t make a cent (which they make millions), imagine growing up to realize that your first time walking, speaking, trying new foods, having a panic attack, going to school, scraping your knee, not sleeping through the night, having a crush, having a nightmare, getting a present, and every large and small moment was broadcasted to the internet. i can’t imagine how livid i’d be to realize i had no privacy for my entire life
That's why I even don't appreciate those not showing their kids but still showing so much of their family life. It just tells so much or gives people so much access to your story.
My husband and I have “traditional” family roles but it’s stops at he works and I am a homemaker-SAHM-Homeschooler but you bet your ass my husband comes home from work and cleans and does laundry and upkeeps the house because cleaning the house is not my job. I try to keep my home clean while home but it’s not strictly my job. That’s insane.
Matt being upset about his birthday and Father's day being on the same day is so narcissistic to me because Mother's day falls on/close to my birthday every year and I always feel like it makes it more special-especially now that I am a mom. I get to spend my birthday celebrating my greatest gifts which are my children and being privileged enough to be a mother, but also to celebrate my own mother. I just don't get it, it's so childish.
The thing is I get it, it’s probably annoying to have to share your birthday with a major holiday bc all your friends might be occupied, things that you wanna do might not open or available etc. But the normal thing to do, is just celebrate before/after 😂 People already do that anyways when their birthday falls on a inconvenient day. Throwing a hissy fit as a grown man when there are people who’s birthday are on major holidays with fixed dates is crazy 😂
And the fact that he was mad because he had to GRILL on his birthday? Oh boohoo you had to cook on your birthday? Welcome to the life of every mother ever
hannah: you're worried about your birthday sharing a day with father's day... me: yeah, it could be christmas or new years hannah: ...some people have birthdays on September 11th me: 😮well, yes!
My husband's birthday is sometimes Mother's Day, his brother's is sometimes Fathers Day. It only happens once every few years, and neither of them have ever thrown a fit about it. 😄
i have a bday between christmas and new years and yeah it kinda sucks, but it’s also in the same place around holidays every year and they are much bigger holidays. i could get how one could get annoyed if his birthday was always on father’s day, but especially the fact that both days are about him is wild!!! it’s not like his birthday was on mother day
Matt is a narcissist. Point blank and period. I don't think he respects Abby in the slightest. Love and respect are 2 very different feelings. He uses her as a prop in their videos and they've been together so long that I'm sure abby never dated much to know this shit is NOT NORMAL. Hopefully matt does better for abby she seems like a very very sweet and strong person/mom but i know how exhausting it can be to constantly hold ur partner on a pedastal you forget yourself and kinda just become a peice of them in the worst way.
@theashwoodfaerie2 oooh... but that is the BIGGEST mistake you can make with a narcissist. DON'T let them know you know. because then they can isolate their victim (aka abby) even further and totally trash talk the "antagonist" (in their mind). just act accoringly. throwing this out there for everyone who suspects they may have a narcissist in their life. DON'T TELL THEM. you're giving them your biggest weapon. its also not the issue. like its deflicting the impact he has when you focus on this detail alone^^
Funny enough. There is a famous book called “Love & Respect” that is very famous in traditional Christian circles that pretty much outlines the dymanic you mentioned by gender. Not to say they read it and are intentionally following it but I would not be surprised if that mindset has perlefilated in their circles.
I also think Matt and Abby know exactly what they're doing. The clips they post from their podcast on TikTok are almost always rage-baiting. They want people to be upset about what they're saying and doing so it drives engagement.
I have a son close to their kids age and once had a day long panic attack because I thought I forgot to drop him off at his child care provider. I of course actually did and it was just an intrusive thought. But the idea of doing that purposefully on a cruise ship of all places boils my blood. I can’t imagine how scared those boys were by themselves. Insane dangerous neglectful behavior.
I SWEAR last night or the night before I was thinking about you and was like “I hope she is doing well and I wonder when she will upload” and boom here she is 🥳🫶🏼
15:11 I cannot believe they did that. have they not heard about madelaine mccain? its soooo dangerous to leave their children like that and anything could happen
I have to wonder, where do a couple of twenty-somethings with 2 under-school age kids get the idea that they should be giving parenting advice? You don't know what you're doing yet! Not by a mile! Not to say that young parents are stupid or anything like that, but they simply *don't* have the life experience to know if any of the things they're doing with their kids even *work* yet, in the long-term! Sheesh!
They’re also not doing it alone, or under the conditions of most young parents. They’re jobless yet rich, and have Abby’s parents LIVING with them to help raise their kids.
My son is one and a half and I genuinely couldn’t even imagine giving advice about parenting because I won’t know what the hell im talking about until he’s an adult lol. I don’t even like telling people what I do when I ask because I don’t know what I’m doing 😂😂
13:23 meanwhile I completely forgot my husband’s birthday a few years back…. My husband and I get a good laugh about it now. I had been swamped at work at the time and completely didn’t realize what day it even was.
I watched one episode of their podcast when they had Jill Duggar on after she wrote her book because I couldn't help myself. And I didn't know much about them cause they really only exist on the periphery of my social media algorithms. But what mainly struck me was how not very good they are at interviewing people and how I found myself cringing at some of the questions they were asking. So glad to see you back Hannah! The way I clicked this video so fast when I saw it! Hope you're doing well
Yes, I thought I was the only one thinking this. Because I really hate how Abby is always like mmmm, & with a frown face & all these noises while somebody is talking lol I couldn’t watch a lot honestly just Abby Lee & Kail lol
11:05 its not even about the breast feeding. He said he IGNORED his newly postpartum wife for TWO ENTIRE DAYS after his son was born because he felt like the baby was getting in the way of his singing career
Thanks I was a bit confused about that bit. Personally I think it's good for a dad to encourage formula if the mum is struggling to breastfeed. Trying to force yourself and your baby can be really stressful and harmful to mother and baby. But mums can get a bit obsessed (no fault to them at all). So I didn't really see the issue, except sharing it with the Internet. I assumed it was maybe his tone or phrasing? Knowing there was something else going on as well makes way more sense to me.
@strawb2811 im sorry but the information is somewhat incorrect. The crying of the hungry baby is supposed to help initiate milk production. Giving them formula would only hurt the process. They were in a hospital under medical supervision, she was doing what was right and he was undermining her
It actually just clicked for me that you are the first person he pointed out why putting your kids on social media is bad. You are the person that said the thing that made that click. I'm conscious of that now whenever I'm consuming social media. I wanted to thank you for that. You're always very real with your opinions and where you do and don't know things. It shows that you care about what you say. It's a big compliment that you can and will willingly say when you don't know. Someone who can't say I don't know Is someone that I don't trust. Nobody knows everything.❤
Wait a second. Banning baby monitors from cruise ships is, Dare I say, even MORE dangerous. Like WHAT!?! There HAS to be a better way to address this problem!!!
I agree! Like they aren’t always misused… like what if they are napping in one room and I’m showering in the bathroom… I would use a monitor???? Banning them? That’s crazy
I agree too. Monitors are meant to watch your child while they sleep/nap - when the parents are in another room. Cruises have suites with multiple bedrooms. It seems excessive to punish the normal usage because improper use of them happened.
Love the set up! So looking forward to your input on this one! My heart breaks for Abby.. but then again, she’s perpetuating a terrible cycle. Soo happy for a new one!
not even just "if my friend got mad at me for throwing them a birthday party", but "if my friend got mad at me for celebrating 2 of their successes at once". like WHAT?? also you are looking radiant ✨️
OMG!! I have to do a triple check then clicked so fast the screen froze. So glad to have u back! Miss watching new videos been rewatching all evolution of videos!!!
This video came on when I was busy and I just leave my iPad on autoplay. I'm a boomer and as I listened I could feel myself getting angrier and angrier. I am on my second marriage, when my first wife and I broke up we had joint custody of our daughters and I can honestly say I've never babysat them once. They were with me or with my ex wife, sometimes we’d shift schedules if one of us had somewhere to go but I've never babysat my own children. What a ridiculous concept, they are mine (though they’re 40 & 37 now). Also my present wife and I have acquired disabilities, which is how we met. My wife is hemiparuplegic so I do the two handed jobs like cooking, washing up, ironing etc. I have a very painful upper body and respiratory condition so my wife does the dusty jobs like vacuuming, dusting and heavy chemical jobs like the bathroom. It’s OUR home and our marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. I've nothing against one spouse with a very good job and the other staying at home but that’s very rare these days. If you’re both working or neither of you are working it’s on you both to get things done. It’s called being an adult. I know some very brave 'macho' men who’ve served their country and they are the ones who seem the most willing to get the housework done.
Hannah!! Welcome back we missed you!! Why would you need to Facetime the monitors if someone was in the room with them? They could just go and enjoy themselves for an hour. They could make the excuse that they still want to see the kids but you usually take the monitor with you if you get up and walk around. So whoever they claim was watching them would probably take it with them to the bathroom or to just get up and get something from the fridge. I'm with you too on you'd immediately jump back on and say "oh no sorry to worry people, someone is watching them we just like to keep an extra eye on them" not wait days and be like "Nooo someone was with them we swearrr"
I hadn't heard of them before, but the only parents I want advice from are ones who raised kids that are now productive adults, and marriage advice from people who have been married at least 20 years. They are kids.
I mean I can understand Abby posting stuff about what can happen postpartum and what it’s like to be young parents, but they’re acting like best experts, especially Matt
@@vickykulig5080 Oh, yes, I definitely support sharing experiences, especially when another young mom might think they're the only one with a birth or postpartum experience that was not all sunshine and rainbows. So they know it's ok to not always be happy and feel great. I just thought it was weird that they give marriage and parenting advice when they probably could use the advice of more experienced couples and/or parents themselves.
I wonder if they left out the fact an adult was in the room with the children, to purposely cause drama and controversy, for views and increased exposure, etc.
NOT TO MENTION Matt was totally fine with combining their anniversary dinner and his birthday so he didn’t have to put much effort into celebrating their anniversary, and they could just focus on him. He basically got away with having one dinner for both their anniversary and his birthday, which was meant to celebrate them as a couple. But when it comes to Father’s Day and his birthday, suddenly it’s not okay to combine them because both days are all about him. Funny how that works!
My husband and I were recently discussing when we’d feel comfortable leaving our kids alone in a hotel room while we did things like this, and we decided we aren’t quite there yet. But our oldest is 11! Not fucking 3. A 3 year old can’t be in charge! What the heck?! Glad to see to you back, by the way. Hope you’re doing well!
The Matt birthday thing is SO ridiculous. I'm a woman of colour, but my dad (who is white) has a birthday that is usually Father's Day, Graduation Weekend (in a family of teachers) and Juneteenth. The ONLY reason he complains is because he is older (77) and doesn't really like loud crowds. Matt is sich a weenie.
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oh we are SO back
LMAO literally said this out loud
PURRRRRR
Hell yea!!!!
25 and 26 yr old parents giving parenting advise gives off the same vibe of everyone in 2014 writing their autobiographies when they hadn’t even reached 20 yet
Or marriage advice when you’ve been married less than four seconds. My husband and I are married nearly 20 years and I am only recently feeling like I have something to offer in that department.
@@kremmiz1 I feel the same. Even people who give marriage at the 10 year mark are weird to me cuz marriages commonly end at the 5 and 10 year mark. People need at least 20+ years for me to take them seriously, and I need nitty gritty details that go beyond “just find something to love about them everyday”. Nah, I want to hear what fights are like and how they get through them 😅.
@ yessss! It’s happened in the last year or two, where people are asking for our advice and at first I was all “wait. Me??!” and then I did the math. Two decades racks up quite a bit of experience and GROWTH. There no freaking way I knew a darn thing years ago.
Matt getting bent out of shape about his birthday being the same day as Father's Day genuinely baffles me because it's like....the day is still about you, dude. You're mad because a day built around appreciating you focused on appreciating you for being a dad as opposed to appreciating you for being mommy's special birthday boy?
This happens with both me and my husband. My birthday is in May, and usually near Mother's Day, and my husband's birthday is in June and usually on or around Father's Day. You wanna know what we do? We combine them like adults 🙄. These two are incredibly immature on a good day, so his little tantrum about his birthday just added to it.
@@Tjax514 Yep. My mom's birthday frequently falls on Mother's Day, and we just sort of work it into things, make some jokes about how the fancy Mother's Day brunch is secretly all in honor of her, put two cards in one envelope for the double holiday, stuff like that. This guy is incredibly immature and entitled and has NO sense of humor.
It's SUCH a red flag when adults are that big into their birthday and it isn't a milestone like 21/30/40/50, etc.
how don’t you get it, THEE matt howard NEEDS two separate days of his own!!!!!!!!!!!! jk lol but fr he’s such a child it’s baffling
@@Tjax514 My parents are similar: Mom's birthday is in May and occasionally falls on the same day as Mother's Day. Dad's birthday is in early June, so not too close, but still the same month as Father's Day. They have never had any issues with the inevitable combining because they're not cringe weirdos like Matt.
Does anyone remember the tiktok Matt made where he booked a horseback riding tour for him and Abby THE DAY she got an IUD??? Abby only went bc Matt was guilting her into doing it. The was he was smiling and giddy and filming everything while she was clearly in so much pain was so unsettling. Like I got my IUD and it was one of the most painful things ever for 2 weeks. I can’t imagine my partner being so ignorant and ambivalent to my pain.
Omggg nooo 😭
OMG yes I remember seeing that vid a while back! Thanks for detailing it here, a lot of people haven't seen that one 👍 One more receipt showcasing Matt's atrocious behavior 💀
Gonna be honest, I can see my husband doing that just because I’ve gotten an IUD in during a lunch break and gone back to working (I was a CNA at the time) like nothing happened. I have since learned that isn’t a normal response! Seriously though, the difference is if I was in that much discomfort my husband would reschedule or cancel immediately and tend to me.
I also didn't like how he didn't take her to the appointment.
@@zelnaher1657 he was too busy not taking care of their kids 😂
Okay also, side note Abby was apparently 8 months pregnant on the birthday she threw for him where she “dropped the ball.” Can you imagine?? I wouldn’t even be throwing my husband a party at 8 months pregnant much less caring if I dropped the ball
They had also gotten back from their baby moon that day!!
What in the actual. Someone needs to shake that girl and wake her up
Seriously, I just couldn't believe when they started going into what they did do on that day. When they said 'dropped the ball', I was thinking she got him a card and said she was sorry she didn't have a chance to do more. Frankly, a busy week while 8 months pregnant & with a baby at home - in my family you'd be lucky if you got the card.
My parents kept one copy of a card for each annual occasion in a cupboard & pulled the relevant one out the morning of. They don't even bother going to get new ones 😂
Abby literally got him a cake and had their family over to celebrate him. How on earth can he be disappointed?
yeah i dont have any issue with wanting a birthday not on fathers day at all i think thats totally fine but everything he said and thought about that issue was disturbing lol
Here I go, putting out my opinion....Like anyone needs it. Lol.
My husband and I take more "traditional roles'' as well. We are farmers, so he is out in the field around the clock or working on machinery. He is the main bread winner, and I am very thankful for that. I am a teacher's aid, and also teach 3rd grade History. However, I am the homemaker. I love it. That is how I was raised, but I fell into the role on my own volition. I choose that role- like Abby. My husband hardly ever cleans the kitchen-but I hardly ever clean the garage, work on the farm machinery, or even mow the lawn. But when one of us can't preform our "tasks" we cross over and help each other. That is what a functioning married couple does. We take care of each other. There are times where he surprises me by cleaning the kitchen for me once in a while, and it makes my day! And there are times where I go out of my way and clean the garage to surprise him. We do that... I don't think that is wrong at all. HOWEVER, Matt and Abby both work from home.....so why does it all fall on Abby? And my husband would be kicked in the pants if he put me on social media while I was going through something so personal. And I really think that Matt is the only one who wants the spot light-I don't think Abby wants this life...maybe I'm wrong. Idk.
Sounds like a great balance! Some people prefer more defined roles, some others don’t, whatever makes people happy and satisfied.
This young couple (or him at least) seems to lack the point, which to me is to care about the other person’s happiness more than whatever role you have in place
Exactly! Like their work is their own social media page 😭😭
EXACTLY!! They literally have the same job!! He said in one video that he “took care of bills, insurance, etc” but when they lived in Hawaii, their water was shut off! He literally hadn’t paid in months🫠🫠
I was raised in a home like this, also on a farm. my mom was happy with it and so was my dad. now that my dad is home more and retiring soon, its becoming more annoying for my mom. we need to find him hobbies that keep him out of the house a little more. also I HATED IT. it is so unfair to put these gender roles on your children. I got to do dishes and laundry and my cousin got to drive the tractor? I can drive a tractor. It might surprise some farmers but you dont need a penis to drive a tractor and hold a power tool :/ also you might think it is even, but the problem is all the emotional labour and mental load that gets put on women that men dont even realise, like sheduling doctors appointments, getting new clothes in the right sizes for the kids,buying the birthday presents for birhtday parties the kids are invited to, always knowing where everything is, basically managing the whole family. they decide they want to take cooking of your table on sunday ad grill so you need to go to the grocery store,the butchers and you also need to prepare all the side dishes,but thank you my good husband for turning a steakform left to right for 10min. oh and cleaning the grill? ... how does a grown man dare to ask a mom with a kid in one hand and trying to do laundry with the other where his wallet is? when he makes formula he makes her check the temp, like at this point i can just do it myself. I would find this kind of incompetence deeply unattractive and offputting. I get that we get nursed into having sever helpers syndrome as traditionally raised women,but come on how can people think that it's more manly to hit something with a hammer than to be able to remember and make your own doctors appointment. how would these men even function by themselves? no wonder married man live longer than single men and single women live longer than married women
This is exactly how we live too! My husband though is so so helpful. He travels baking hay a lot so when he comes back he knows that what I’ve been doing is hard too. Sometimes I’ll be surprised and realize I haven’t done dishes in days, and he’s just doing it for me to be sweet and nice. Matt sucks. I love my husband so much. I’d do anything for him because of how well and kind he treats me. I never have to ask like other women say they do with household stuff. My husband just does it because he is mature enough to know that my job isn’t easy either. We help each other when we’re home
So glad you are posting, I’m 5 months sober off fentanyl today, cheers to us!
Congratulations!!! 🎉
congrats!! thats amazing!!!!👌🏻✨✨
Congratulations!! 🎉❤
Hell yes, here’s to month 6 🎉
Proud of you! Keep taking it one day at a time ❤🎉
6:52 my grandparents are old-school traditional gender role people. My grandfather cannot take care of himself. When my grandmother got cancer, he hired a maid he learned how to order dinner. He learned how to cook 1 meal. He did not expect my grandmother to still cook and clean. Because before anything else, he loves his wife. He also isn’t an idiot who expects his wife who just had massive surgery to be able to do as she was able to before.
The worst part about the Father’s Day thing is that she was PREGNANT and they had come back from their baby moon THAT DAY! She planned a cookout in their home for the day they got back from a trip while she was very pregnant. She must have been exhausted and he is still so unappreciative. It makes me so sad when she says she dropped the ball when she actually went above and beyond.
nothing more should be said than she was pregnant. That's exhausting in of itself let alone traveling and also having an infant, and what seems to be a toddler of a husband. Anyway
@@Mary-eg5hrthen don’t plan something that extravagant. Instead try taking him to dinner instead of him hosting his own party.
@@Cynful033in my opinion she should’ve got catering🤷🏾♀️ I would never plan a party for someone and expect them to cook,grill or bake. If he planned her a birthday party or Mother’s Day dinner and told her to cook they would have a problem with that.
I agree. My father would never act the way this man child acts. My father would've got a little upset if my mother was pregnant and still hosted a party because of him. That's the difference between a man and a man child!@@Mary-eg5hr
I remember the clip from their podcast circulating about how Matt finds their quality of sex to be different and not the same before having kids. Abby was taken aback bc this was the first time she was hearing about it and comes to find out that since their first kid he’s not “disliked” their sex but that it’s not the same (doesn’t feel the same). And you can just see the blood/color from Abby’s face drain. She gets embarrassed/emotional and self conscious. Which rightfully so. Idk that was just a huge turning point for lots of people.
Yeah this was definitely some that should have been in the podcast because this is something that's so personal. But this is Matt, he loves to throw his wife under the bus and make her feel less than 🤪
But essentially sex after having a baby IS different. And it ranges from marriage to marriage. My husband and I didn't have sex for MONTHS because we were both just SO tired because we're waking up every few hours with a newborn. Once he finally started sleeping through the night and not nursing as often, was when we finally felt normal in our marriage and actually wanted to have sex with each other.
Right now it varies because I'm like almost 7 months pregnant and uncomfortable 🥲
“Candle of the day” 😭😍 that sentence made me SO happy 💁🏼♀️🥰
NO FR!! I’m so glad she is back and dare I say… glowing?? (pun intended)
SAME!!! I got so emotional!
100%
Same
Not champagne toast 😮😂
I’ve never heard anyone identify that before but you’re SO RIGHT that we have a serious problem with platforming people without ever hearing them speak on anything.
Idk who they are but I'm SAT
I, too, am scholastic aptitude test.
Came here to say this 😂
SAME!!!
Exactlyyyy i see a Smokey glow vid i CLICK
Be glad you don't lol
12:40 Holy narcisissm Batman.
My brother is born June 16, so it often coincides with Father's Day or is just off from it. Never bothered him. He'd jokingly tell our dad that _he_ was the Father's Day gift, and when he became a dad himself, he loved Father's Day even more. For him, it's a day to celebrate his family, to dote on his daughter and cherish his wife. The fact that his birthday might sometimes be on Father's Day is a gift in his mind.
That's a healthy, normal approach.
Matt not being able to share his special day with the holiday is one hell of a red flag.
i watched a video on matt and abby by kiki chanel as well, and what really made me dislike matt was that he kept saying that abby "cheated" birth by having a c-section... like what
This is one of the many examples that show American children need less religion & more science-based sex education. It just screams ignorance.
LITERALLY!! i'd love to see him try all of the main 'types' of ways to give birth and see what he has to say then eg. no pain meds VS epidural VS other options like gas and air, vaginal VS c-section, on his back on a bed VS in a tub, at hospital VS at home VS in a car on the way to hospital, etc. etc. etc. birth is the craziest experience that humans go through (no matter how u do it!!) besides maybe like... dying lol.
HE SAID WHAT!!!!????
@Butterflier00 there's a clip of it in the first 10 seconds of the video 'our birth, fighting postpartum depression and c-section recovery ep 29' on their podcast channel. but i rmb seeing the conversation being a LOT longer coz he cant STFU
that's a shitty thing to say just in general but saying that about your own wife is another level of evil
the cruise ship banning baby monitors actually sounds even scarier to me. i hope people don't just start leaving their kiddos WITHOUT even having a baby monitor
Not Ms. Glow looking soooo beautiful and giving us a new video!!! So nice to see you Hannah. Happy cozy season 💖
Seriously, that look is stunning!
10:56 if they are a part of a very traditional church as well. The women in that church would talk poorly about and judge her for not breast-feeding or not being able to. She has been most likely told her entire life, but this is something her body was built for and if you can’t do it it’s because you didn’t try hard enough. I have seen so many women get blamed for their child not latching and it be perceived as a bad thing to make sure your child eats by giving them formula.
If that was the case her husband wouldn’t be okay or pushing for formula
You always were and will always be one of those RUclipsrs in whose videos I click IMMEDIATELY. So good that you're back, take care and hope you're well!
I agree
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You look great! Keep going! 5.5 yrs sober here- we absolutely do recover and we absolutely f*cking dominate! ❤️ so glad to see you! Yay!
As soon as you mentioned them leaving their children alone in their room my mind went to Madeline. People never learn from the mistakes of others or their own.
Hi. How can I look this story up? I'd like to know about it
@@nazazazzazajust Google Madeleine McCann
@nazazazzaza her full name is Madeleine McCann. Google will bring up everything.
I don’t like or agree with them, but personally I believe it was misinterpreted when she said they were watching their kids on the monitors while they were out for dinner, as a parent it’s common to still watch them on a monitor even while someone else is watching them
I think she just never expected people to assume that meant they had no in person supervision by someone else,
They did say they had several family members also on the cruise who helped them w the kids
Tho it is an important topic to discuss,
I would never leave any baby toddler or child alone or unattended, even in your own home nevermind while you’re away somewhere
It’s so negligent and I will never stick up for anyone who does that, it’s not right at all and even if nothing bad happens it can still traumatize your child and have them fearful etc
Despite someone kidnapping your child, imagine if there was an accident and the ship started sinking, (Costa Concordia wasn’t that long ago) how quickly could you get back to your child in the throng of panicked people. These hypocrites are the same kind of people who will demonise working mothers for accessing daycare!
Let’s not forget about the time Matt said he wasn’t attracted to his wife after child birth 🥺
Ya I was waiting for that to be brought up
And that she feels different down there 😬 and then she immediately teared up. Ffs
To be fair, she said she wasn’t attracted to him either, and she asked and told him to be honest about if it feels different down there.
@@celestebeale7946hormonal changes can cause you not to feel attracted to your partner postpartum, not to mention the fact that you're healing from giving birth. not being attracted to your PP wife is completely different.
They didn't mean it like after the birth. They were talking about their in the beginning that they weren’t attracted to each other and how it changed over time. Don't create lies, they aren’t likeable as is.
You are so articulate, your podcasts sound like legit essays! Thank you so much for such high quality content, always a fan!
Matt went his entire life without realizing his bday was around fathers day??
I wonder if his dad never got proper father’s days because Matt had his birthday at the same time. Might be why Matt feels like his birthday is so important.
I have the same birthday as Matt, yes it falls on Father’s Day every few years
@@stephc7723or maybe Matt felt his birthday celebration was neglected because of Fathers Day?
@@stephc7723EXACTLY! Imagine how Matt’s dad felt when Matt was a kid. I’m sure he didn’t care, but still! Now that Matt is a dad, it’s suddenly a problem?
Yeah, that struck me as weird. I was aware from a young age my birthday sometimes falls on Mother’s Day. And now as a mom I’m so excited for when my birthday is on Mother’s Day!
I’m new to this channel, just a passerby (now subscribed) but the title caught my eye and boy howdy you are so correct! Giving out unsafe advice under the guise of “we know more than you so we help other parents” is bonkers. As a dude I saw one random clip of the Matt guy talking once about his baby and it really gave me the impression he doesn’t want kids or a wife, just the status of both and sadly many men fall into that category. Hopefully they learn at some point but let’s not hold our breath 😂 oh and happy sobriety to all on the path as well!
The way I guffawed out loud when you said, “This is when Matt started his singing career.” 😂
the way he thinks his music is so deep is truly unbearable lol
I HOLLERED 😂😂😂😂
Sameeeee 💀💀💀
I’m from the U.K I remember being on holiday to Croatia that summer and they had find Madeline McCann posters up and was surprised that the net was cast that wide.
I didn’t realise that the USA had heard of the case. But yeah that tragedy should have taught parents something so they don’t do the same thing.
My husband surprises me with cleaning! The difference here is he organizes and tidies all of MY sewing/art/craft bullshit and deep cleans when I'm at work. We flip traditional roles on most things anyway so he does 90% of the dishes, shopping, cooking, and bathroom cleaning because he is self employed at home while I make more money and have a 35 mile commute to work. I do all of the cat care, fold all the laundry, floors, and usually take out the trash more often. People are shocked when I talk about it and have the audacity to ask "What do you do then?" Umm the stuff I just said and making twice as much money as him while fully supporting and encouraging him to follow his dream career path, duh.
A good ol' Smokey Glow rant just hits different. Happy to see you posting. 😊😊
"Matt talks to fucking much" Took me out so hard i had to pause the video to comment, your right he doesn't STFU. delightful video i only heard about them during the hospital vlog and the cruise ship and other then that I haven't seen anything else so i love these videos.
i've been rewatching your older videos bc i missed you - i'm so happy to see you posting again! sending good vibes!
i strongly agree with your takes about family vloggers and the like. money aside, even if we pretended that they didn’t make a cent (which they make millions), imagine growing up to realize that your first time walking, speaking, trying new foods, having a panic attack, going to school, scraping your knee, not sleeping through the night, having a crush, having a nightmare, getting a present, and every large and small moment was broadcasted to the internet. i can’t imagine how livid i’d be to realize i had no privacy for my entire life
Right? Like how would they even think of a security question when their whole childhood is public information.
That's why I even don't appreciate those not showing their kids but still showing so much of their family life. It just tells so much or gives people so much access to your story.
It gives The Truman Show vibes 🤢🤢🤢
My husband and I have “traditional” family roles but it’s stops at he works and I am a homemaker-SAHM-Homeschooler but you bet your ass my husband comes home from work and cleans and does laundry and upkeeps the house because cleaning the house is not my job. I try to keep my home clean while home but it’s not strictly my job. That’s insane.
Matt being upset about his birthday and Father's day being on the same day is so narcissistic to me because Mother's day falls on/close to my birthday every year and I always feel like it makes it more special-especially now that I am a mom. I get to spend my birthday celebrating my greatest gifts which are my children and being privileged enough to be a mother, but also to celebrate my own mother. I just don't get it, it's so childish.
The thing is I get it, it’s probably annoying to have to share your birthday with a major holiday bc all your friends might be occupied, things that you wanna do might not open or available etc. But the normal thing to do, is just celebrate before/after 😂 People already do that anyways when their birthday falls on a inconvenient day. Throwing a hissy fit as a grown man when there are people who’s birthday are on major holidays with fixed dates is crazy 😂
And the fact that he was mad because he had to GRILL on his birthday? Oh boohoo you had to cook on your birthday? Welcome to the life of every mother ever
@@ayannabranchcomb7535 Exactlyy! My birthday is two days after christmas which is annoying but I just celebrate it later like an adult!
My birthday is May 14th and sometimes falls on Mother's Day and it always makes me happy ❤
Thank you so much for bringing attention to Palestine and sharing a donation link!
hannah: you're worried about your birthday sharing a day with father's day...
me: yeah, it could be christmas or new years
hannah: ...some people have birthdays on September 11th
me: 😮well, yes!
My older sister has that birthday and it’s resulted in some very dark humor tbh
My husband's birthday is sometimes Mother's Day, his brother's is sometimes Fathers Day. It only happens once every few years, and neither of them have ever thrown a fit about it. 😄
My daughter 😂 poor girl!! (Her due date was 9/7 so really it’s on her for being late!)
i have a bday between christmas and new years and yeah it kinda sucks, but it’s also in the same place around holidays every year and they are much bigger holidays. i could get how one could get annoyed if his birthday was always on father’s day, but especially the fact that both days are about him is wild!!! it’s not like his birthday was on mother day
My dad was born october 7th and now thats been ruined 😩
Matt is a narcissist. Point blank and period. I don't think he respects Abby in the slightest. Love and respect are 2 very different feelings. He uses her as a prop in their videos and they've been together so long that I'm sure abby never dated much to know this shit is NOT NORMAL. Hopefully matt does better for abby she seems like a very very sweet and strong person/mom but i know how exhausting it can be to constantly hold ur partner on a pedastal you forget yourself and kinda just become a peice of them in the worst way.
Abby's grandmother called him a narcissist on camera 😂
@theashwoodfaerie2 oooh... but that is the BIGGEST mistake you can make with a narcissist. DON'T let them know you know. because then they can isolate their victim (aka abby) even further and totally trash talk the "antagonist" (in their mind). just act accoringly. throwing this out there for everyone who suspects they may have a narcissist in their life. DON'T TELL THEM. you're giving them your biggest weapon. its also not the issue. like its deflicting the impact he has when you focus on this detail alone^^
Funny enough. There is a famous book called “Love & Respect” that is very famous in traditional Christian circles that pretty much outlines the dymanic you mentioned by gender. Not to say they read it and are intentionally following it but I would not be surprised if that mindset has perlefilated in their circles.
You are such a skilled communicator. Truly a gift to this platform and to the world in general. I’ll always root for you.
Having you back just makes me so happy! Your banter, comments, and tone are just perfection
Hannah is literally the only RUclipsr I don’t second screen for. I sit up and put on my glasses like I’m in a classroom with my favourite teacher.
I legit just put on my glasses too let’s go
Literally lol
NO WAY! omfg perfect timing! hope you’re well hannah ❤
💛💛💛
I also think Matt and Abby know exactly what they're doing. The clips they post from their podcast on TikTok are almost always rage-baiting. They want people to be upset about what they're saying and doing so it drives engagement.
And they can pretend they're persecuted.
Yes! I think they know how to work the algorithm.
And the people they bring as well is very controversial like Abby Lee Miller & Kail from teen mom.
Girl that new set up makes you GLOW! So glad you're back!
I have a son close to their kids age and once had a day long panic attack because I thought I forgot to drop him off at his child care provider. I of course actually did and it was just an intrusive thought. But the idea of doing that purposefully on a cruise ship of all places boils my blood. I can’t imagine how scared those boys were by themselves. Insane dangerous neglectful behavior.
Ugh so happy to see you posting again! LOVE the dark hair, you’re glowing!
I SWEAR last night or the night before I was thinking about you and was like “I hope she is doing well and I wonder when she will upload” and boom here she is 🥳🫶🏼
Sameee omg. V glad she’s back:)
I was doing that today when I was scrolling through my subscriptions lol
Me too!
15:11 I cannot believe they did that. have they not heard about madelaine mccain? its soooo dangerous to leave their children like that and anything could happen
I have to wonder, where do a couple of twenty-somethings with 2 under-school age kids get the idea that they should be giving parenting advice? You don't know what you're doing yet! Not by a mile! Not to say that young parents are stupid or anything like that, but they simply *don't* have the life experience to know if any of the things they're doing with their kids even *work* yet, in the long-term! Sheesh!
They’re also not doing it alone, or under the conditions of most young parents. They’re jobless yet rich, and have Abby’s parents LIVING with them to help raise their kids.
My son is one and a half and I genuinely couldn’t even imagine giving advice about parenting because I won’t know what the hell im talking about until he’s an adult lol. I don’t even like telling people what I do when I ask because I don’t know what I’m doing 😂😂
13:23 meanwhile I completely forgot my husband’s birthday a few years back…. My husband and I get a good laugh about it now. I had been swamped at work at the time and completely didn’t realize what day it even was.
My husband sent me flowers for our anniversary on a day that was not our anniversary. He was mortified but I found it very funny.
I watched one episode of their podcast when they had Jill Duggar on after she wrote her book because I couldn't help myself. And I didn't know much about them cause they really only exist on the periphery of my social media algorithms. But what mainly struck me was how not very good they are at interviewing people and how I found myself cringing at some of the questions they were asking.
So glad to see you back Hannah! The way I clicked this video so fast when I saw it! Hope you're doing well
Yes, I thought I was the only one thinking this. Because I really hate how Abby is always like mmmm, & with a frown face & all these noises while somebody is talking lol I couldn’t watch a lot honestly just Abby Lee & Kail lol
11:05 its not even about the breast feeding. He said he IGNORED his newly postpartum wife for TWO ENTIRE DAYS after his son was born because he felt like the baby was getting in the way of his singing career
Ew 🤢🤮
Thanks I was a bit confused about that bit.
Personally I think it's good for a dad to encourage formula if the mum is struggling to breastfeed. Trying to force yourself and your baby can be really stressful and harmful to mother and baby. But mums can get a bit obsessed (no fault to them at all). So I didn't really see the issue, except sharing it with the Internet.
I assumed it was maybe his tone or phrasing? Knowing there was something else going on as well makes way more sense to me.
@strawb2811 im sorry but the information is somewhat incorrect. The crying of the hungry baby is supposed to help initiate milk production. Giving them formula would only hurt the process. They were in a hospital under medical supervision, she was doing what was right and he was undermining her
@@rosie20098 no worries, thanks so much for the info.
It actually just clicked for me that you are the first person he pointed out why putting your kids on social media is bad.
You are the person that said the thing that made that click. I'm conscious of that now whenever I'm consuming social media. I wanted to thank you for that. You're always very real with your opinions and where you do and don't know things. It shows that you care about what you say.
It's a big compliment that you can and will willingly say when you don't know.
Someone who can't say I don't know Is someone that I don't trust.
Nobody knows everything.❤
the candle of the day mention almost made me tear up im so happy for this video
The way I screamed!! Welcome back Hannah!! 🩷🩷🩷
When you did your outro, I got chills and teared up. So happy you’re back 💛 so, so proud of you.
Wait a second. Banning baby monitors from cruise ships is, Dare I say, even MORE dangerous. Like WHAT!?! There HAS to be a better way to address this problem!!!
I haven't watched the video yet and am profoundly baffled by this statement lmao
Huh? Monitors are banned so parents don’t leave their kids in the room with a monitor and go “eat or play” on the boat, like Matt and Abby did!!!
I agree! Like they aren’t always misused… like what if they are napping in one room and I’m showering in the bathroom… I would use a monitor???? Banning them? That’s crazy
I agree too. Monitors are meant to watch your child while they sleep/nap - when the parents are in another room. Cruises have suites with multiple bedrooms. It seems excessive to punish the normal usage because improper use of them happened.
Welcome back! Love the new setup and the video. Thank you !!!
SHE'S BACK every time i see you post i announce it to my wife like we just recieved a letter from a dear friend in the post
I’ve been checking for a new video every single day since your last update. I love your content.
Love the set up! So looking forward to your input on this one! My heart breaks for Abby.. but then again, she’s perpetuating a terrible cycle. Soo happy for a new one!
Yes Yes Yes Yes!!! I don't care how often you post as long as you keep posting I love your videos so much!! ❤
And with every upload, the world gets 10% happier, love u Smokey xxxx
i love finding swifties in the wild! hello friend 🎉
@@nickd2557 hey girl!!!
hi fellow swiftie hannah lovers ♥️♥️♥️
@@BethThereseReacts hey!!!
Great to see you again 😁 you seem happy. Thanks for the vid! ❤
not even just "if my friend got mad at me for throwing them a birthday party", but "if my friend got mad at me for celebrating 2 of their successes at once". like WHAT?? also you are looking radiant ✨️
So glad to see you posting again!!! Welcome back and hope you are doing well in recovery.
I'm a simple girl, Hannah posts and I drop everything to watch 😌
Same tho
Facts❤
Same🫶
OMG!! I have to do a triple check then clicked so fast the screen froze. So glad to have u back! Miss watching new videos been rewatching all evolution of videos!!!
Hannah! I’m so glad you’re back! I would love to hear your thoughts on the new California child influencer laws
There's also one in Illinois
Omg!! Clicked the video SO FAST! Happy to see you again :)
First of all I needed this today. My dog is sick and I have so much anxiety but seeing new Smokey glow?! It’s a silver lining ❤❤❤
This video came on when I was busy and I just leave my iPad on autoplay. I'm a boomer and as I listened I could feel myself getting angrier and angrier. I am on my second marriage, when my first wife and I broke up we had joint custody of our daughters and I can honestly say I've never babysat them once. They were with me or with my ex wife, sometimes we’d shift schedules if one of us had somewhere to go but I've never babysat my own children. What a ridiculous concept, they are mine (though they’re 40 & 37 now).
Also my present wife and I have acquired disabilities, which is how we met. My wife is hemiparuplegic so I do the two handed jobs like cooking, washing up, ironing etc. I have a very painful upper body and respiratory condition so my wife does the dusty jobs like vacuuming, dusting and heavy chemical jobs like the bathroom. It’s OUR home and our marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. I've nothing against one spouse with a very good job and the other staying at home but that’s very rare these days. If you’re both working or neither of you are working it’s on you both to get things done. It’s called being an adult. I know some very brave 'macho' men who’ve served their country and they are the ones who seem the most willing to get the housework done.
I was just having the worst day and this is such an unexpected treat! Hope you've been well Hannah, thanks for another great video :)
Same. I hope you have a better day tomorrow friend
I've missed your videos, they always feel like a gab with my bestie lol I still hope you're thriving
Hannah!! Welcome back we missed you!! Why would you need to Facetime the monitors if someone was in the room with them? They could just go and enjoy themselves for an hour. They could make the excuse that they still want to see the kids but you usually take the monitor with you if you get up and walk around. So whoever they claim was watching them would probably take it with them to the bathroom or to just get up and get something from the fridge.
I'm with you too on you'd immediately jump back on and say "oh no sorry to worry people, someone is watching them we just like to keep an extra eye on them" not wait days and be like "Nooo someone was with them we swearrr"
So fantastic to see a video from you. Life has been rough and stressful lately. I hope you are doing well.
I hadn't heard of them before, but the only parents I want advice from are ones who raised kids that are now productive adults, and marriage advice from people who have been married at least 20 years. They are kids.
I mean I can understand Abby posting stuff about what can happen postpartum and what it’s like to be young parents, but they’re acting like best experts, especially Matt
@@vickykulig5080 Oh, yes, I definitely support sharing experiences, especially when another young mom might think they're the only one with a birth or postpartum experience that was not all sunshine and rainbows. So they know it's ok to not always be happy and feel great. I just thought it was weird that they give marriage and parenting advice when they probably could use the advice of more experienced couples and/or parents themselves.
smokey i been watching you on and off since high school, every time i come back you never disappoint, WE ARE SO BACK
Love you Hanna ❤ even if I don’t know these people I always enjoy hearing you talk about anything. Hope you are doing better soon
I wonder if they left out the fact an adult was in the room with the children, to purposely cause drama and controversy, for views and increased exposure, etc.
When we needed her she returned!!!
I'm dyslexic too, love you, love candle of the day, love that you're back. Sending good vibes xo
we love you so much hannah ❤ so excited to watch! this topic interests me deeply.
Omg I literally checked on your channel a few days ago. I'm SOO happy you're back!
Clicked on this video like “im about to find out who these people are”! I missed your commentary!
I have missed you so much. So happy you are posting again.
I'm a simple person. I see Smokey Glow has posted, I'm sat and locked in for the whole duration. Good to see you back!
also i have been waiting for someone to critique them!!! and i’m soo glad its you!!!
Oooooo love the metal sign!!! Love the candle!!! Love the look!!! So happy to see you post again!!!
NOT TO MENTION Matt was totally fine with combining their anniversary dinner and his birthday so he didn’t have to put much effort into celebrating their anniversary, and they could just focus on him. He basically got away with having one dinner for both their anniversary and his birthday, which was meant to celebrate them as a couple. But when it comes to Father’s Day and his birthday, suddenly it’s not okay to combine them because both days are all about him. Funny how that works!
My husband and I were recently discussing when we’d feel comfortable leaving our kids alone in a hotel room while we did things like this, and we decided we aren’t quite there yet. But our oldest is 11! Not fucking 3. A 3 year old can’t be in charge! What the heck?!
Glad to see to you back, by the way. Hope you’re doing well!
Welcome back!!!! You look amazing Hannah!!!!!
Can’t believe I missed this yesterday nothing better than Hannah’s Deep Dives .. love that your back Hannah xxxx
I saw the thumbnail and my reaction was 😯🥹 you are GLOWING!!
Guys wake up, Smokey posted and she's annoyed by some creeps on TikTok. This is not a drill.
Ahhhh! Haven’t watched the video yet but I am so glad you are back!!! We missed you!
Yayyyy! Excited to see you again. We still miss you so much. I hope you're looking after yourself!
omg 😍, so happy to see a video from you. (haven't watched yet, but wanted to say this first)
LOVE that you are talking about this in a new video!
The Matt birthday thing is SO ridiculous. I'm a woman of colour, but my dad (who is white) has a birthday that is usually Father's Day, Graduation Weekend (in a family of teachers) and Juneteenth. The ONLY reason he complains is because he is older (77) and doesn't really like loud crowds. Matt is sich a weenie.