GRWM! Dating After Divorce, Sobriety and More!
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When I was 29, I was homeless, addicted to heroin, and totally lost. At 30 I got sober. 10 years later, still sober and have a family of my own. Don't worry about stigma. Worry about yourself!
Congratulations!! ❤️❤️
That's amazing ❤❤❤
Proud of you! ✨
Same! I was 33, fresh out of jail, homeless in a completely new state, addicted to H. Ended up pregnant. Got sober and have been ever since! Have a happy and healthy 8 year old boy now. Congrats on your recovery! We do get better!
Happy that you’re here
the Snapchat rant was so real 💀😂😭 loved this chat!!!!
Right!!! I’m also turning 30 next month and when guys ask me for Snapchat I’m like … are you being serious grow up 😅
I thought Snapchat died years ago but suddenly people MY AGE (late thirties) have it again. I’m sorry? We used this in our twenties to send nudes and drunk texts to exes. Why is this happening
A lot of guys ask for Snapchat because they want nudes!! They think you'll be more willing to sending them on there. For me, a guy in their 30s asking about Snapchat is a 🚩
I’m turning 23 in a few days and if I hear Snapchat I will kindly walk away🙄
It’s so crazy to see you here, I adore your channel so much ❤
idk how to describe it but you coming back to youtube has been apart of my healing journey
Honestly mine too
Yes same!!
No literally
literally
Somehow… same. This time of the year is so happy and sad for me at the same time. Hannah was my comfort RUclipsr during Covid and thru huge changes in my life, despite me being an elder millennial and never having watched RUclips during its beauty guru prime.. I’m feeling so much comfort from these updates and new videos!
“i think i like getting ready more than i like going out” meeee 😭
Me too!
Hannah…I haven’t even started this video yet but as a silent viewer I just want to take a moment to not just say how happy I am that your back. But how happy I am you are willing to share your sobriety journey. I’m 22 and went through a recovery program before I even turned 20. Hearing you talk about your experiences, and seeing you thrive and do well as someone who also got sober at the “partying” age has done so much for me. Thank you for being yourself, and thank you for sharing yourself with us.
“Btw I have a long distance girlfriend” I SCREAMED
I saw this before starting the video and I thought Hannah had a long distance girlfriend. She’s talked about being bi before so I assumed she started dating a girl
Wow a queer queen we love to see it
I was so fucking excited for her and then I realised the real context 😩
I was cheering and clapping until I heard the context
I was literally waiting for Hannah to talk about her girlfriend…so confused that she kept talking about dating men until I heard the line 😅
Hearing you say ”Hope you guys are having an aMaZIngG day today” takes me BACK omg I’m so glad you are uploading again
Hannah, NEEEED you to find a sassy friend and start a podcast because this video could’ve gone on for an extra hour and I would’ve stayed for the entirety of it
I would love a concept like the Across The Pond podcast (iNabber and ObeseToBeast) where they both have their own platforms and audiences and bring different perspectives to the chat.
I'm a 38 year old woman and I literally just started getting my life together like a year and a half ago. Don't sweat it. ❤
Right? I am 42 and going thru a breakup with someone I thought would be my person forever. It's definitely like starting over again. You just never know what life will hit you with. Being able to persist and adapt is a part of life and such an opportunity for growth. At least that's what I keep telling myself. 😬 It's definitely hard af.
I'm 36 and I don't have my shit together... but the older I've gotten the more I understand that most people really do not have it all together, despite their appearances. It's often a façade.
i needed this, thank u 💕
35 here with a 7 & 8 year old and feel just as lost as always! You hit a point where you certainly feel more stable, but life is truly always in flux and nothing is ever guaranteed. Sending hugs to my fellow elder millennials lol!
I just love seeing you back in my sub feed 🥰🥰🥰
IKR!!!!
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Sameeeee luv u manny
I turn 33 in February - I can't believe I ever thought that I would have my life together by 30 😂 Currently going through the end of a 7-year relationship, not financially stable, and planning to move in with a roommate in March. Seeing women in my age bracket starting over and putting themselves first has been so validating for me. Congratulations on your sobriety and cultivating a healthy environment for yourself ♥️
Same here, girl...except I'm 42. Lol
Meg2654 right ❤❤❤
I had nothing after my ex. Was lucky a few things worked out, though.
thank you for this comment. at 28 i feel so pressure to have everything together 😭🩷
33, living abroad where i never ever wanted to live, just quit my job, I am not financially stable, I don't have an apartment or a career 😂 i am more lost now than when i was 18 😄
I’m a bartender that doesn’t drink while working, and you are so right about the pressure to drink. People cannot grasp that you can be sober at a bar 🤯
Any good recommendations for mocktails to order at a bar?
I guess they don't understand that there are mocktails on the menu for a reason 💀
I just turned 50, and I finally got my life together. I'm a licensed attorney, but the journey getting here was no joke. I'm also in recovery, so having to explain all that to the Bar was no picnic :) I live with my mom, but we both take care of each other. She's getting up there in age and needed help with the house payment after my dad moved out. It works for us, and that's all that matters to me.
Omg I needed to read this. I was a dental hygienist and lost EVERYTHING due to my addiction. (I never had my license revoked, I just let it expire because I was in the middle of a misdemeanor possession charge and I had no idea how to handle that.) Here I am almost 10 years later and I am TERRIFIED of facing the licensing board. I am just so terrified of rejection (thank u, adhd). Anyway, I'm rambling, but I am so inspired to hear of someone who actually faced something similar. You give me hope! Thank u for sharing.
Every needs to do what works for them. The world would be a much better place if we all weren’t trying so hard to do what we think we “should” be doing. Congratulations on passing the bar.
CONGRATULATIONS. I am almost 10 years in recovery and I am a licensed nurse. I choose to not nurse due to my past drug choices and I would NEVER want to screw up and hurt a patient. Anyways, I work at a local (Nationwide) gas station and I love it. I am happy where I am. I am 46 and feel the most grounded I've ever been! Congrats on your sobriety and congrats Hannah! I'm proud of you both! I HAD to put people, places and things far, far away from me so, I can't recommend going to a bar for fun with friends if you are newly sober. You NEVER know what will make you tick. Please know that if your friends don't respect that you want to go somewhere else to have fun besides a bar then you need to find new friends. Just a suggestion. Take it or leave it. 8 months feels like forever but, it's truly not! Keep going girl! You CAN DO THIS! 🫶🏻
I love this ❤
Adult living at home here🙋🏽♀️ I’m 27 and I always thought living on your own was the mark of adulthood. The job and housing markets seem to disagree with me😂 living with parents/family is nothing to be ashamed of! Whatever keeps you afloat and healthy is the right path to go down❤
My day is done, just took an everything shower, tucked myself into bed and checked to see if you’d posted. Thank you!
It’s not even 6 pm here but thank you for evening inspiration…I’m dead on my feet & an everything bath shower extravaganza after dinner sounds amazing. Deciding on my scent theme for the evening now (lol it’s just a choice between lavender, pine, eucalyptus & pepermint). ❤
this just encouraged me to take off my makeup and get ready for bed
I was about to ask what an everything shower was, because it sounds amazing 😂
@@standdownrobots_ihaveoldglory omg those scents sound amazing! Im going to have to add that to my extravaganza!
@@sweetfossil we are in this together, it feels so good when you’re done, but I also dread it every time
you were my comfort creator back in 2021/2022, and youre slowly becoming my comfort creator again. Im sorry for everything youve been through these few years, its been wonderful seeing you post again and i hope the holiday season and the upcoming year brings you comfort and peace.
Hannah I’m sorry if this is heavy, but you openly talking about rehab hit me like a ton of bricks. I’m in a place where I’ve been thinking about it, my parents support it (and tbh encourage it), but I can’t get past the stigma or the fear that ppl will know if I went. You being someone I look up to so much and talking about it so openly and casually really helped with the stigma that I think controls my hesitation around it. It feels like the weight of shame has somewhat been alleviated from my shoulders, so thank you 💗
I’m sending you all the love and good vibes on your journey ❤️❤️❤️
PLEASE just go if you need to go! You have to put your health first and foremost. I'm so happy you have family support. Any people judging you are not worth your time. Also, from experience, a lot of people are a lot more understanding these days. Addiction is so so prevalent and has touched most people on a personal level in some way, and they are able to have more empathy. Good luck!
As a stranger on the internet who has never went to rehab (though has mental illness) I am not judging you and in fact, I am urging you to seek the help you need. What they think doesn't matter, it's your life and you need to help yourself. The time is now and you can do it. Life is tough, but it doesn't have to be hell. There is no shame in asking for help, so do whatever you need to do to better yourself. If anyone judges you for it, as one of my longtime best friends says, bump them! Something I heard many years ago in college was something like: It's easy to acknowledge the bad, to wallow in it, but the good? The good is something we have to cultivate ourselves and it doesn't always come easy. Doing the wrong things comes easy to us but doing the right thing is often harder and that's for a reason. Do the right thing for yourself, you won't regret it. In the end, like Hannah, you will feel better and with each passing month of your triumph, you will feel prouder and prouder of yourself.
Those other people aren't there when you look in the mirror. If you can, make the choice that means you can look yourself in the eyes and feel proud in 5 years time. I'm facing something very different but trying to let that future feeling be my guide. Wishing you everything good!
F what people think. It's literally you getting better. It's better that you're making the effort to get better *than* succumbing to the problem. That's the part that you shouldn't want people to know NOT that your getting help.❤
You are not a failure in any way. You fall sometimes, you get up every time, wiser and smarter. That’s not failure-that’s just life. You’re awesome!
The pressure on non-drinkers is so real! I'm 23 and have a long history of hypersensitivity issues and have never enjoyed alcohol. Older people in my life see me as such a prude. Such a weird phenomenon, you worded it perfectly!
Yeah, the stuff always hurts my stomach and sometimes makes me feel really sick. Tastes awful, too, even the fruity stuff. I just never understood the appeal of drinking. Maybe over holidays, I might sip something a couple times but it's just meh to me.
i’m with u guys! i don’t like the taste of alcohol nor do i feel the need to get drunk to have a fun time. luckily people in my life are very accepting of it. 🩷
“CAN WE BE ADULTS!” that part got me 😂 I love you Hannah, you’re one of my favorite RUclipsrs. I’m glad you are feeling better and back to posting videos again 🫶🏽😊
Your dating rant is soooo relatable it hurts :'( snapchat begging, guys being all "i want you sooooo bad" to "lol nvm" UGH I feel for you
5:49 The nuclear family/kids leave by 18-21 setup is often considered a failed social experiment. I’m all for kids living independently when that’s best, but there’s no shame in living with your family, it’s super common around the world and multi-generational households are making a strong comeback in the US. I take care of my elderly mom, and my adult son lived with us for 2 years while my dad was still alive. Growing up in the same small city made closeness easier but the bonds developed by living together…WOW. I am glad I had & will had periods of living separately but it’s a beautiful arrangement- I bet your folks are over the moon that they can be your support system, they sound lovely ❤
“Living with your family” is exactly what we should refer to it as, something about that wording makes the stigma seem even more ridiculous.
@@268anitayep! Why would mutual aid & support of your family be anything but awesome?
I moved out at 25 and now I’m 31 me and my partner are considering multi generational living with my parents because we can get so much more combining our budgets (so expensive to buy a house now!)
I am in thirties, and I moved home...like four separate times, and lived with my grandparents for a little while. You are doing *amazing*, I promise. It's been so wonderful to watch you thrive, it really has. You're doing *great*.
Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable
I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
Yup, had a similar fear of turning 30. Dove head first into a relationship because I was afraid of being 30 and single. Ended up being the worst relationship I've been in. 30 is just a number, forget societal expectations. I realize now I'd rather just be happy above all.
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Literally SAME, ended up with an alcoholic who hid it until I moved to the other side of the country to be with him, it was a nightmare. I wish I'd just kept doing my own thing, it really derailed me for a long time!
watching this as a 22 year old, who didn’t think she would see past 16. this feels validating to know that no one really has it figured out, and that we’re all on our own journeys. thank you hannah for being so open, this in a way makes me feel like i’m having a chat with an older sister ❤️
Turned 37 this year and I have no freaking idea what I'm doing. No house, divorced and no kids. I find it weird how pressuring people can be about drinking. I don't drink been sober for 8 years now and I prefer not to go out. Don't be scared of getting older, just do what keeps you happy and healthy.
Also dating is a trap/trash, good luck. 😅 I choose single life.
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Let's alllll be single!
I chose my cat years ago and never been happier 🤣🤣
Been single for 5 years now. Don't think I can bother with a man again.
Omg you sound like my kinda gal! 🙌
I usually don’t comment, but as a 32-year-old who’s only recently in therapy and sober (and has a crippling fear of death tbh, I wish more people talked abt this)- this video hit home for me in a lot of ways. Thank you for your honesty, it means a lot to me and I’m sure more people than you can imagine. So glad to hear you’re healing. ♥️
it's so interesting you talk about the living at home thing bc i won't lie i definitely used to think that of "oh if you live at home it's a failure you're not successful it's weird" but as i've grown up i've learned in a lot of other cultures it's extremely common for families to live together. it's just not common in the states and studies show that in countries where family is considered a number one priority and they don't have as big of an emphasis on capitalism as we do they're much happier and live longer. also shits hard nowadays so it's a blessing to be able to live with your parents and we just don't see it that way
I swear the "living at home means you're a loser" thing was started by real estate companies who just want people to buy/rent houses and apartments. Just my suspicion, but it really makes sense, yeah?
Exactly. Two of my siblings and I live with our parents, but we all work and contribute to bills/rent. Even doing this, I struggle. I would be homeless if I didn't live with them. I don't mind so much anymore, I just home next year we can finally move into a bigger house because sharing a room with my older sister is so unpleasant. As long as I can have my own space, it won't be such an issue for me. But you're right, a lot of cultures, they live together. Our parents are close to 70 now and we do help out a lot. At this point, if we moved out, they're probably go insane without us lol
amazing point.
CRYING at the end of this video, please do dating story times omg
You should tell people to STFU who say you’re a failure for living with your parents.
So many cultures have their kids live at home. You save a ton of money, you get to spend more time with your aging parents and you have stability.
I lived with my in laws for two years while we saved up for a home.
For the most part, family will always be there for you. (I understand not in all peoples lives or situations)
This right here. I lived with my daddy until he passed away last year. I guess I'm a homeowner now because I took over the mortgage on daddys house. I want to be proud of myself, but I just can't be.
I think this is where the issue lies, though. You got to opt out of paying rent and take a shortcut into the housing market, which is an option that a lot of people don't have access to. It's not that people living with their families are failures, I obviously don't agree with that framing, but they are getting to opt out of a massive financial burden; essentially tapping into privilege and tapping out of the real world. So it is fair to say that the adults whose parents cover their housing costs are living a completely different life from adults who have to be responsible for themselves.
@@thelongmoreau we didn’t opt out of paying rent, we still contributed. However, weren’t subjected to 30-50% of our pay.
We were barely taking home combined 50k right out of college because we moved states and my husband’s student loans was 50% of our take home.
It is almost like life is never fair, and if people want to cry privilege, then sure, whatever. We have something others don’t. Both myself and my husband have loving and caring parents that would’ve let us live with them on either side of the US because they understand the cost of living and getting on our feet after college is rough. We had the option of living with family where we still paid into household expenses and not subjected to a disgusting rent cost. Almost anyone could negotiate with their parents or family (not everyone cus I understand families are made up of people and they don’t always get along, I get that). My friend right now is living with his aunt who is single and enjoys having his company and his rent is only $200/month. He’s just getting his business off the ground and couldn’t live with his mom because they argue all the time.
It’s also not tapping out of the “real world”. What real world? The one the US tells you is real? That you have to fly out of the nest at 18, go get a college degree then live off nothing while you save up to get married or buy a house? Check literally anywhere else and realize it’s not this way. Multi generational living is starting to become more common in the US.
And in purchasing a house; we did an fha loan not even putting 12k down with closing costs in an actual starter home in an okish area and had two roommates live with us.
Were they not having to tap into the “real world” market?
In regard to Hannah’s video, she could be contributing to rent/mortgage and basic things like utilities/food but people don’t have to know every aspect of her life.
So it just makes sense in the beginning of life or in her case where you need that support system and it’s easiest to live with family to receive it.
@@KenGud I'm not American. But I'm glad you admit that you didn't pay the market value of your housing costs, and that that is a privilege. When people are lucky enough to be able to stay with loved ones AND not pay market value housing costs AND save up to get on the housing ladder, and then they complain about it, it's no wonder people can be frustrated. Listening to people complaining about their own privilege is annoying, that's all. Like I said, I don't think it makes anyone a failure, not any more than e.g. any kind of nepotism makes anyone a failure. I'm just giving the perspective that people living with family often take for granted how lucky they are, and that complaining about such a privilege is a bad look. I'm obviously glad Hannah has a safe harbour to return to, and for that she's very lucky.
the stigma about living with your parents hit so hard. im 19 and live at home while going to college and people act like im insane like bruh im just a new adult and know myself and my family are gonna flounder if i leave currently + im disabled. i know its way worse for people older than me so hugging yall 🫂 we are not failures!!
Not a failure at all. Not everyone can afford a dorm room or apartment during college or even after. My brother did dorms for a bit and his roommates are gross. They smoked weed (the stuff REEKS like skunk ass!) and never did the dishes. Yeah, I'd rather live with friends or family that aren't gross.
I just wanted to say i have 3 babies under 2 right now... And i can only hope that i am the place they fall to if ever they need a landing pad when they are older. That if things are ever rocky they know they can always come home. I dont think it makes you a failure at all, i think its beautiful and that you deserve to feel safe and loved while you rebuild and grow 🥰 Im happy you have that and I have been loving the glowmas content!
Same! We just want to know they are safe and secure.
I’m 635 days sober after over a decade of drinking regularly! ☺️
Congrats on your sobriety. You look healthy and I’m glad that you are getting the support you need. You are absolutely right that’s so important. Never forget to give yourself credit for all the hard work, spiritual and physical. If I’m allowed to say, I’m so proud of you. If I’m not allowed to say that, I’ll say thank you for treating yourself to a sober life, because it’s the best!! 🥰
Regarding living at home, I agree that the stigma is ridiculous, especially nowadays when almost no one I know of can afford to live alone. When I moved out after my partner and I split up I had to spend my inheritance from my grandparents to rent a tiny, 80s, non insulated house for _one year_ and then had to move back with my parents for 5 months before we could sort something else out.
It sounds like you're doing it already, but I would definitely treasure this time. It's really wonderful if you have such a supportive family to use this time to get to know them and get closer as an adult - it's very different but also awesome :)
The stigma is very outdated and unrealistic. I have a friend who is the same age as me (late 30s) and literally has not been able to afford to move out despite working full time since leaving uni. Even as a couple it's so hard to actually buy, and completely out of reach for a 'regular' single person. I've had help from my parents to live where I am now and there's no way I could afford to pay rent or a mortgage, pay my bills and pay for my cats on my own. Not a chance. I'd have to be in a room in a shared house or with my parents. So where you can, please don't feel bad, and enjoy :) I'm so glad you've been able to get closer with your sister! x
(I'm sorry if this is rambly and not well put together, it's just after midnight here and I'm tired 😂)
This was so refreshing because I think so many people are just in the thick of it & social media is so cultivated to show everyone at their best, all the time, and doing all the amazing things. Do more of these. I had unsubscribed a while back just to reduce my makeup content consumption. But definitely re-subscribing. I’m glad you’re doing what’s best for you. Wishing you the best SG.
Hannah, glowmas has made me realize how much I miss you and your content. You’re by far my fav content creator. I always want you to put your mental health first but I am just so happy you’re back. ❤
God these comments are so healing 🥹 Thank you everyone for sharing. It means everything ❤
I lived with my parents for quite a while as an adult, and I used to feel the same way as you, just being kind of embarrassed about it. But thinking about it now I’m so thankful that I have the kind of relationship with my parents to where I felt comfortable living with them. I know a lot of people don’t have that and the thought of living with their parents is literal hell, so it makes me feel happy and lucky that living with my parents was a positive experience❤
Living with mine, in a small house meant for only 3 people (there's 5 of us), plus a GSD and cats, feels like hell. If we're lucky, hopefully next year we can move into a bigger house. I share a room and have for more than a decade, and it's horrible. As long as I can have my own room and some space, I feel I will be content. I don't mind these people, but in such close quarters, we clash and it's suffocating and there's no room or privacy.
Omg I feel the same way!
I’m learning in my late 30s that the relationship why thyself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have. I am learning how to show up for myself like I do so for others-so hard! Having your parents is a blessing; let yourself be supported in this transition in your life! So proud of you; thank you for having these real convos with us. I also went through a divorce and girrrrrl the identity crisis is so real post divorce me too! Sending love 💕
1:04 I teach personal development classes from time to time and I’m a huge fan of what I call “win-win double dipping,” esp as a self care strategy. A GRWM is a fun, engaging video style that people like; you’ve been on hiatus & know ppl have questions/would love updates; any mention of sober life experiences online further normalizes both teetotalling & treatment/recovery; AND a GRWM is a relatively easy format requiring few complications (but requiring loads of charisma, so good choice). Never feel bad or apologize for making a video concept work for your channel AND your work/life balance please ❤❤❤
I used to do the cranberry juice thing too. And also, soda water and lime. They are great to just hold in your hand and sip in these social drinking situations where it can get awkward.
You've been killing it with glowmas Smokey, After being away so long and through so much, just wanted to let you know! proud of you and thank you for all the content lately, though now I want a drama-talk bingo hall crossover now
I clicked so fast! Especially interested to hear about the dating - I split up with my partner of 10 years in 2020 (amicably) and it's been so hard with how dating apps in particular have just made the whole process so esoteric and difficult. You can't just bloody look for someone you have things in common with, it's become a lottery with who they deign to show you. UGH. I hate being at the whim of a monopoly. At 38, it's quite upsetting! :') Plus I've just been disappointed and let down so much (though I have made some new friends which is nice). It's rough out there!
Thank you for being you
And continued congratulations on your sobriety! You're amazing :D
“it’s rough out here” is quite literally the phrase my other single friend and i are ALWAYS saying to each other! dating in 2024 is like some strange dystopian hell 😭🥴
I don't drink either, and I totally agree that people always want to know why. The only other thing I've experienced that gets a similar reaction is when people find out I don't want kids. They always follow up my answer with "why?"
I’m also childfree by choice & my older coworkers apply the *worst* pressure claiming I’ll “change my mind.” Meanwhile they complain about their kids constantly. Like that’s supposed to make me *want* kids? 🥴
I hate the "why?". I always tell them: I can't think of one good reason! 🫠🫠
@@eckilla 38 now and still childfree. I'm never changing my mind. Kids aren't for everyone and I know myself and with my issues, having children would only screw them up. That and I just don't feel the desire to have kids. They're also super expensive, too.
Answer with "Why not?"
“There’s nothing I can do sister” that shit made me spit my food out
1) Having you back is such a wonderful thing. Happy 8 months sober!
2) I also have a crippling fear of death which has been a huge part of my therapy. Being afraid of death took nearly 2 years of my life away and I never want to go back to that.
3) SO HAPPY YOU’RE BACK❣️❣️
6:33 here in my country is actually super normal to live with your parents as an adult, culturally ppl live with their parents until they get married and move into another house with their spouse
To help my folks as they lost their independence, my newly adult son and I moved in with my folks. Challenging due to their dementia, but wouldn’t change it. I also think it’s wonderful to have your grown kids close enough (living together or at least in a city where you can easily see each other regularly, not just special occasions). My kid gets an extra hand with adulting even tho he has his own apartment & I get the absolute joy of having my son in my life for little things like the Yule Ren Faire & just being silly and having meals together. I get to know the details of his life (some lol), not just talking points a few times a year. Very pro multi gen adult households, also prepares you for aging much much better. As an American, we fell for the nuclear family nonsense, which like the “American Dream” was merely a marketing ploy to raise the overall cost of living substantially & turn the Baby Boom era money into long term obligation and debt. It’s a freaking scam to tell 19 or even 29 yr olds that they have to live in a separate building to be independent. BS 💩!!!
I am 29 years old and living at home with my parents. I currently work around a bunch of 16-20 year olds (retail) and always feel so ashamed to have to say that I still live with my parents (and also feel ashamed to work retail as a 29 year old with a masters degree). I don't date because I feel like guys (on dating apps) are just fucking around and I don't have the patience for that. Power to you for wading through that shit.
I am so glad to hear that you are recovering and putting yourself out there and that you have friends and family who support your journey and sobriety. Sending positive vibes for your continued success in your recovery and mental health, increased success in your dating life, and all good things ahead.
Hey there! I'm so glad you're back to posting videos, I've been thoroughly enjoying them! 😊
Tbh I’d heard of her & ended up subscribing during hiatus, I’m trying to cut back on RUclips but now I’m hooked here…
You making a comeback was honestly such a blessing this year for me. I hear you so much on the living w parents, and dating is Awful these days. But! We still have so much life to live, lets keep growing and healing as a community!
It’s so comforting to hear you say you have a fear of getting older and a fear of dying. I developed a paralyzing fear of dying over the course of this year (I turned 27 and people started commenting how I’m only 3 years away from 30 and for some reason that just made me start spiraling). I’ve felt so alone about it since the majority of my family is religious and I don’t really subscribe to that fully, so they wouldn’t really be much help to me. Hearing you talk about it makes me feel a lot less alone about this and that I’m not crazy for feeling this way.
Being afraid of dying is totally natural! The unknown is scary and I’m terrified to die too! But sometimes it’s helpful for me to just accept the feeling instead of curing it. It’s okay to feel terrified and how beautiful we continue to live and fill our lives with beauty and love! “Don’t be afraid of death Winnie be afraid of unlived life.” To quote tuck everlasting 😅😂❤ also I’m 31 and a MOM and I legit feel hotter and sexier than my early 20s. But I live in France and women continue to be sexy and socially accepted as hot until like 80 lol
15:34 you’re very right about alcohol being the one thing people feel it’s socially acceptable to pressure someone into still. I don’t drink for mostly health reasons, but I’ll occasionally have a drink for a special occasion and it’s like my friends have been waiting for months to cheer me on for having a drink. Like I truly don’t understand it and it totally bums me out.
I moved to the UK, which has a huge casual drinking culture. I found a tonic with lime as my go-to drink ( people think it’s a gin and tonic). 😂 Thank you for sharing Hannah, congratulations on your +10 months sober! I’m so glad when I see your videos and so happy you are happy creating them ❤
the part about sobriety really struck me. i appreciate how calmy and openly you talk about your life. it makes me feel more "normal" in my life to realise that other people struggle, go through hard times, etc. sometimes it can feel so alone. thank you for al your recent videos, i'm having a blast watching all of them!
Something about the mini rant at the end of the video has me feeling SO validated. Knowing another human is feeling similar to me (I’m so sorry girl but I get it) is oddly comforting. Thank you so much for posting this ily parasocially
I'm 29, about to turn 30 in March. And even though I live alone, my mother is still financially supporting me cause I had to basically stop everything that I was doing cause I'm dealing with some health issues.
Anyway, all of this to say that I also feel the pressure to have everything figured out before turning 30 and it's stressing me out.
This is definitely not how I pictured my life would be, and it sucks to know that my friends are "ahead", you know? but I'm working on not comparing myself to others (easier said than done) and I try to remind myself that I got through some hard sh*t in life, I'm not where I want to be but I've overcome some stuff that some people would never do. And you did the same thing Hannah, so let's give ourselves some little grace.
Really happy to see you back✨🤍
Im 33 and i just got my drovers license and a new job this year after two years of mourning the loss of my mom. So i'm just rrying to focus on bettering my life like how my mom would want.
i am so sorry for your loss and i know your mom is proud of you. 🩷
Girl, I haven’t watched yet but I wanted to tell you already you’re killing it right now! I remember multiple years of you saying you wanted to do glowmas. I never judged you for not making it and wouldn’t judge you again if you didn’t complete it this year. But you’ve already absolutely beat your previous years by miles. And you’ve had quantity and quality!! You’re probably tired and stressed, but I hope you feel proud of yourself!
a traditional GRWM! 🥰 my nostalgic heart is singingggg
your honesty is so so appreciated, you have no idea
I appreciate how real you are in these chats while also being hilarious. I usually don't comment but wanted to say how lovely it is to see you back! I relate to a lot of what you've shared... I'm turning 30 in April and my life doesn't look at all like I anticipated. I feel shame and some embarrassment, but also recognize I have a lot going for me and I can absolutely still live a fulfilling life. Best of luck on your journey, here's to banning snapchat and escaping the friendzone 😁
I’m so happy you’re back making videos. I’ve been watching you for years. I still use my smokey glow palette (it’s definitely expired but it still works beautifully lol).
I’m sorry for everything you’ve gone through the last few years but I’m so so happy you’re taking care of yourself and doing better now. Breaking old patterns is a really hard thing to do.
I’m 26 and I’ve been going through it recently too. Since I was 22, I graduated university, moved back home, my mum got sick and died (cancer) within five months, I lived with just my dad while we tried to figure out how to live without her, decided to completely change career paths, and I started dating my first boyfriend at 24. But I moved cities for a new school program a month after we started dating so we did medium/long distance until I broke up with him in august because he really wasn’t the right fit for me. He hasn’t been respectful of the breakup and kept trying to get me back somehow. I basically had to break up with him five times over a few months without ever getting back together with him in between but we’ve cut ties completely now. I have no idea how or when to start dating again and I’m really mourning not having that person to plan my future with.
But I’ve also started working out, taking care of myself more and reconnecting with some friends so it hasn’t been all bad.
Even though I still feel like a bit of a mess, I’ve learned a lot about myself and what I want in my life. We’ll figure it out, nothing built to last happens right away.
♀, the fact you live home is one of your biggest flexes. From an actual real adult - like 40 yrs old this week adult- I’m telling you; you have an enviable life right now. The growing up part of being an adult never happens in the way you think. The being terrified of death and how you have spent 1/2 your life …. All that honestly gets worse. Bit reality is that right now you are spending time doing what you will miss when life is closer to over. I lost my dad to COVID and my mom lives out of state- brother too. I have kids which means no time for friends really and those are the things you will miss. Enjoy your parents, enjoy your sister, enjoy the youth while you have it. Don’t hurry to be stressed about how you raising kids and the molding a life pressure. Or money . Or your partner and your status in that. It’s just all a lot and all of you living together, enjoying each other, and saving money - not using 3 houses when 1 will do allowing for more space for together humans and generally not consuming so much is the kind of life we all want when we say a return to the family . Values etc.
anyways- so happy for you my love!
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It’s crazy, I’m 28 and I am a therapist like I thought I’d be, but I also just have opted to be unemployed for six months because of my mental health. I feel like the past few years have shown me more grief and failure than I ever could’ve imagined. The stigma is so rough to step away for yourself, but you hit it exactly right - the idea is harder than living it somehow?
It’s really hard when what used to “get you through” trauma is the exact thing that’s destroying your path to happiness.
Every day onward is success ❤ it’s been so nice that you’re back!
I’m so happy you’re doing well! And don’t be worried about turning 30. I turn 32 in February! I started over three times this year after a string of bad luck. Always remember you can do hard things and we are here to support you! Much love ❤❤
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I totally relate/understand the moving home things. I heard this great message online once about a moment in life being a “sling shot” time. Those of us that heal or are willing to do hard things take time to pull back. Pulling back can look to others like a failure or a failure to thrive moment. It really is a pull back to sling shot forward way beyond what others can even imagine is possible. That pull back gives us the momentum to fly in the future. Do not let others dictate your growth and how far you can sail in your potential! ❤
i first started watching you in college and was always so comforted to listen to your glowmas videos on my way home from evening classes. It's really lovely to see you back and i can spend some of my winter evenings with you again! PS: im about to turn 28 this month. I never moved out of my parent's house. For college i attended a local school. I totally resonate with the feeling of it being more annoying in your head than in reality. My family is great, especially being with my younger sisters. But i also just feel like i'm behind a lot of people my age.
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you’re gonna be okay. I hit 30 and I switching whole careers paths going back to college and getting remarried.. I’ve never realized the 20s are really there to teach teach teach. 30s is for us to execute and really be ourselves unapologetically
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Dude, I’m 54 (soon to be 55), have 2 kids, a husband, a house…and I still have no clue what I’m doing. Living with family is a blessing - save your money, enjoy your parents/sister while you can, and accept this season of life for what it is: a *season. ❤
The dating portion of the video is real af. I’ve never dated ever but seeing so many horror stories is what’s keeping me single for the foreseeable future. The dating pool is wild, considering we’re in a loneliness epidemic, but everyone’s standards are astronomical.
Not that I have astronomical standards, but there are people who do, and it seems like they’d rather friend zone or cut a connection short, like you mention the two guys who did that to you.
It’s not a good time to be looking for love😵💫
Girl, I’m about to be 30 in March 😅 I also live at home since my marriage fell apart, so it’s just me and my son. There’s nothing wrong with getting yourself together while back at home. We’ll all get there eventually 😊
I moved in with my boyfriend right after I turned 27 and until then I felt so ashamed for living at home. Especially because all of my friends had wealthy families who could support their lifestyle when they couldn't themselves. I used to be so jealous and judgmental of myself. It's nice to hear someone else talk about this experience ❤
as a young adult living who’s also living at home w/ their parents rn i GET YOU SO HARD HANNAH ‼️ i sometimes get that “failure” feeling too but i just have to remind myself that it’s okay and there are countless others like me who are fortunate enough to have parents who are willing to house and support us while we sort ourselves out 🙌💕
I can't even express how happy I am that you are back! I have been absolutely loving Glowmas, your videos are getting me through those last few weeks of work before my Christmas break ❤️💚
Hearing you talk about living with your parents is so refreshing! I've moved out so many times and coming home is so humbling but also.... not as bad as the stigma like you said!!
Yayyy I missed the GRWM style videos! 💕💕
Yeah, i was 30 when i moved back in with my mom. I felt like i was a failure and behind but realistically in these economy idk how much people are shacking up. I'm so lucky that i have a mom i could live with. As a 30 year old there were challenges with moving back in with a parent but overall it brought us closer in a new way. I am so glad you're having this experience with your sister. It'll always be something you look back on and cherish
NO WAY IM SO EARLY!!! Omg Hannah you’re the best! This years Glowmas has been so good so far! Thank you for all your effort to do this
Having you back after all this time, and you sharing with all of us these things that happened to you is not only something for you to feel.proud of, but also something for us to upheld and also admire. I fell it has brought us very close as an audience
Hannah I started watching you when I was 19, I’m 23 now and I honestly owe so much of my growth as a person to watching you! I have just finished a healthcare degree and it’s expensive to even start the job so I’m living at home and I felt like I was falling behind my peers and you’ve reminded me it’s not a competition it’s what’s best for me and having a supportive family is nothing I should be ashamed of❤❤ love from the UK!!
My husband heard your youtube video playing in the house and told me he was so happy he heard your voice again, it’s really comforting! I told him your story and it was just a special moment we had, he wishes you well!❤
I’m really enjoying glowmas. You’re helping me get through the week!!
had an anxious night and this really helped. you warm my heart
love you hannah! so happy to see you getting your spark back ✨ started watching you when i was 14 and i’m 17 next year!!!! love you girl ❤️
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Hi, fellow 30 yo living with her momma. Went from being hyper independent and being settled and married. I lost my husband and spiraled for a couple years so I moved home. But the stigma is real and I feel a lot of self loathing because of it. But it is the best environment for me and my mom and I get along so well. Do what you need to do that’s best for you. Glad you got your sister alongside you too 🥺 rooting for you.
Also, I find your sobriety inspiring. I also recently cut out all substances and it really does make a huge difference. So thank you for being vulnerable and sharing.
The snapchat rant is tooooooooo real 😩😩😩
This video gave me so much joy it’s like we’re on ft and you’re dishing out the tea to me and I’m nodding at everything you’re saying!! SPEAK YOUR TRUTH GIRL, DATING IN THE 21ST CENTURY IS HUMBLING
I love your GRWM videos! Do more! Do more!
These uploads are my favorite part of December ❄️🤍🩵
Literally saw that coming with the blush. lol!
You look amazing! Also- moved back home from aged 28-33, best decision I ever made. We all need a safe space to recover sometimes, and some are not even lucky enough to have that. People should mind their own business 😌
6 months sober here! Congrats 🎉 it’s so important to have relatable content about sobriety. I also found sobriety books help me a lot 😊
I literally just lost my full time job out of nowhere today and now that I’ve finally stopped crying, this is really nice to help get my mind off of it. Thanks, Hannah ❤
I’m so sorry love. Sending you all the good vibes ❤️❤️
ur so back i love u the world MIGHT be healing
Thanks for being so open! I think what you share can help so many people, truly!
The living with parents thing is so true. I live in Brazil and lived with my mom til i was 29, here i dont think it is so weird, and my US coworkers i could tell thought it was like a failure on my part or something. But who cares right, your life is more important than what random people would think, and so happy it is bringing good things like being closer with your sister!
Regarding the dating, i broke up a 8 year relationship when i was 25 - we didnt want to get married, it wasnt a "he is never proposing" situation or anything. And it was the best thing for me. I was single for about 3 years and it was really important for me, i didnt really care about dating to be honest. That relationship was so wrong and yet i thought it was how "love" was supposed to be. I wish him the best, but that was one of the best things that could have happened in my life and i am so thankful for it.
I hope you can find whatever is the absolute best for you ❤
Ty for being my dinner time youtuber I missed you so much😭
I’m happy to be along for this ride! Loving glowmas and am happy to see you doing well!
As an 18 year old who’s been in therapy since the age of ten, hearing you describe not having therapy as ‘rawdogging life’ made me cackle😅
Oh! My sister is turning 30 in February too! She actually moved in with me along with her daughter & dog, she is not a failure and neither are you. Life is not linear, its wonky, wacky & hard. Im proud of you both!