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- The 12 MASTER STEPS to MAXOUT your LISTENING SKLLS!
MY SECRETS TO BECOMING A BETTER LISTENER ! - with Ed Mylett
More important than what you say is your ability to LISTEN! People don’t respond to what you say or do, people respond to how you make then FEEL. And one of the best ways to make someone FEEL CONNECTED with you is to make them feel understood and listened to!
This is my MOST TACTICAL episode to date! I’m revealing the MASTER 12 Steps to becoming a better listener and MAXING OUT your connection and charisma!
This was a subject that I have personally struggled with throughout my life and am STILL working to improve. But I have found that the skill of listening is SO IMPORTANT and often overlooked in our quest to influence and connect with others . I’m guilty of it myself and and am constantly striving to improve.
There a tremendous benefits to learning the secrets of listening ! It’s the most powerful form of communication.
Mastering the skill of listening is a necessity to build in every area of your life. Whether you are building a softball team, building a church, building a business, building a family, your ability to make people FEEL good is based on your ability to to make other people feel LISTENED to!
Get ready to take notes!
By the way..WHAT IS ONE OF THE TWO OR THREE WORDS YOU CHRONICALLY USE ?(we all have them) COMMENT one of your words BELOW! (One of mine is “LITERALLY “ 😂)
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What's 1 of your GO TO words that you use?
I say “Definitely”... another great video. It’s always a pleasure to listen 👂 to what you have to say Ed. Thanks again for blessing the world with valuable content that can be applied to life.
Blessings! #MaxOut
"Definitely" or "absolutely"... Normally in response to them asking if I understand them.
One of my Go To words thy I use is “Wow” along with eye contact and a nod.
“Interesting”... “would you please dive deeper regarding x?” That works well.
@@embraceyourpearls7391 Ed does this in all his interviews
"People are gifts, and the way you open them up is by asking them questions." THIS EPISODE IS GOLD! This is the kind of content that needs to be taught in communication classes!! Imagine this level of authentic teaching to youth to help them become strong leaders, develop conflict resolution skills, connecting to collaborate, become better listeners for family, partners, etc. Mylett University👊🔥
Glad you found such enjoyment from the video! Appreciate the feedback!
Wow hopefully you can help.me.because I have big wealth I need t come there
I love it motivation
Yes I'm working on enfuencer 😳😲
My Instagram is the same on my wattsapp
Every body should read "How To Win Friends and Influence People" timeless clasic. Thank you and have Awesome Day!
Great suggestion! What was your favorite takeaway from the video?
@@EdMylettShow do not interrupt someone when they are talking, looking into their eyes.
Remembering *NAMES,* places, conversations and what people were saying to you some time ago, makes people feel *VALUED* and their emotions get engaged even deeper. When that happens, they will open up even more and become loyal followers.
BOOM! That's what i'm talking about. Love to hear you're already on top of things!! Curious, do you have a favorite interview i've done so far? Would love to hear your thoughts!
great points
Super true. Remember different facts about them. I've said that to people and they question how I remember. 🙂
EdMylett
The interview with GC
People LOVE the sound of their own name
Great content and reminder.
1 Speaking less is doing more.
2 People don't need you to solve their problems. We want a friend to trust, in a journey figured out and paced at by ourselves.
3 Can always be more humbled.
4 Let them finish. Stay put.
#maxout #edmylett
"Talk to a man about himself and he will listen for hours. "
- Benjamin Disraeli
Great video, Ed! My biggest challenge is shutting off my internal dialogue so that I listen better. Often people say things that inspire me and I'll think on those things while they continue to talk instead of continuing to listen.
Thanks for the wise instruction!
Try meditation! It's a great way to gain control of your mind.
I’ll sometimes say lovely or “I hope you have a lovely day” when parting . You would be surprised how many people are seemingly starved for that kind of emotion.
Exactly! What part of the video really stood out for you the most?
This entire video is Ed critiquing his own faults and making a video of it. Which is great for the most authentic videos nice job Eddy myself.
This video will absolutely help me to do better business meetings! 🔥🔥
Your comments are so unauthentic
BOOM! That's what i'm talking about. Love to hear you're already on top of things!! What's one thing said that really resonated with you?
Nicola - Business Tips For Success I agree... my first thought was I can’t wait to try some of those tips with my clients today.
@@EdMylettShow ive listened at least 10 times and will listen MANY times more and i cannot tell you how many times ive nodded my head, chuckled a little bit and just plain get excited about how much growth i have left in front of me. Its amazing that a few years back i thought that " i was who i was" and thats how its going to be the rest of my life.....SO not the case......again, Thank You.
Wow, Manipulation...suuuuper cool🥳
If you gave me 3 hours, I'd make you rethink letting me ask you questions lol! Great teaching in this one. Thank you!
These are the type of living & practical skills that should be taught in basic education!! #MaxOut
I used these listening techniques on a sales call today and it made a HUGE impact.
Wow! I'm not even done yet and I've written 4 pages of notes. I didn't realize that I could admire you more than I already do. I watch every video, every Instagram, listen to every podcast etc...people's feedback to you at times have said, "Stop interrupting, let them talk." You, who I feel is one of the #1 in motivational speaking, growth guru, everything great have just admitted your weakness in this area and your desire to grow in this. THAT'S WHY I LOVE YOU!!! By teaching it, you learn it again. I love that you admit your areas that need growth. Makes me even more of a follower. I love your desire to grow and it gives me more of a desire to do so also. One of the people I admire the most, sees areas he can do better and it motivates me to be better! THANK YOU ED for your humility. Love ya man!!!
Thank you for sharing with all of us! Massively appreciate it!
Your words are far too kind!
I just want to say you are fantastic. I listen to all of your videos....I have been reading self-help motivational books since 6 years old (actually before they really had such a thing as this goes way back)...I have listened to the best of the best throughout the years and I must say you are on my very top list of the best...I love your energy....I love your presentation. I love your honesty....I love that you give from the Soul and not to get something....You are blessed...Keep being you....You are amazing and fabulous...God bless.....dianna-brianne
Hey Ed Mylett, you are one of the most powerful orators that I have ever listened to. The wisdom you share is straight up fire man! And that fire is what purges out the misbelief and weaknesses and helps one create that refined masterpiece of character. I look forward to every video you put out. I have been getting better at watching them quicker when they come out. I have yet to be the first to respond and win that phone call with you :)
I look forward to connecting. And thank you for all the great content.
#MAXOUT!!!!!
This man not asking you one question about you on a three hour flight is a great example off that your value isn't determined by how other people interact with you an the amount of interest that they show. A good reminder especially trough hearing this kind of experience from such a well spoken, interesting and carismatic man.
You deserve an award for blessing people with your knowledge.. long life and continuous prosperity Mr ed mylett
Thank you very much, your words are far too kind!
What's one thing you'll remember from this?
To be a present while someone is talking to you is the most important thing. This is how you show that this person matter !!! Great video , Thank you !
BOOM! I couldn't have said it better myself.
What other topics you think I should go over next time?
You have helped me so much and I am very thankful specially for the topics- How to build self confidence, The secret to Growth, Control your Identity Change Your Life , Blissful Dissatisfaction all these topics gave me different prospective about life and how to approach certain situations with a confidence and believing in myself. I didn't realize that I have all the power in my inner world while waiting for the change to happen from outer world. Thank you once again , God Bless You ! #MaxOut
Listen more than twice as much as I speak. I’m going to learn more.
BOOM! What other topics of discussion do you think I should talk about?
I don't know how your kids feel but you've got to be a fabulous Dad, thank you Ed
I have really Maxed out because of ur good teaching and encouraging words. I hv Maxed out really good and am still Maxing out. Thank you for the effort u put in for bringing us all this😢😘🥰
I feel like I’m a pretty good listener but this was a great refresher! It’s a good reminder of all of the subtle things we do in our interactions daily. It’s easy to take for granted when someone is speaking to us but are we really listening? I want to share this video with my office and family and friends. Thank you for great content as always!
Ed, please make this video ten more times! I plan on listening to this every day for the next month. Thanks brother, this is why I subscribed. I always get so much out of these talks. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much! Happy you took the time to listen, and enjoyed the video. Give me a few topics I should talk about !
EdMylett thanks. As a topic suggestion, I am sure you have found that being a better listener to others helps you listen to your authentic self. When facing a tough decision or taking action in the face of uncertainty, how does practicing the act of listening to others, help you find the strength or courage you need to live more authentically? Virgil said “fortune favors the bold” and Samuel Mockbee said “proceed and be bold” maybe the root of that boldness is a quiet calm that has been cultivated through the act of “listening until the other person has finished talking, then responding thoughtfully.” Ed Mylett said that last one.
I concur with the comment below..."I think people are gifts, and I think the way to open them up is by asking questions.". This, my friend, is PURE GOLD!! I will be quoting you! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Ed... I actually can not believe that you put things like this out here for free. BUT, you make me feel connected to you, you want me to learn even MORE and want me to have access to the context, which is you, that means investing into coaching. That really became a new goal for the near future.
THANK YOU for contributing SO MUCH!!
Dude what I like about your korero is that you are humble enough to admit your short comings #Maxout
Thank you! Appreciate the love and support.
What's 1 thing that resonated with you in this video?
@@EdMylettShow Be present in the moment and master the art of listening thanks brother
I love your content Ed! You are a very engaging teacher. New sub!
You're welcome! Happy to deliver it to you.
Did you have a favorite part of the video?
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and this is spot on and incredible!!! I will use this to sharpen my counseling skills and share with couples and parents to better their important relationships. You’re the #1 teacher in the world Ed!
Can’t wait to read your book!
Just moved out from a bad relationship of 4 years today, and while I’m getting organized I thought I’d listen to “Ed Mylett”. Everyone at WFG has been talking about this guy. I watched the 9year old WFG talk first. Then I watched the video about closing. Then I watched this one and he told me to comment, so I am. Hello, I’d love to be lucky enough to have a training call with you one day so I can truly learn how to WIN in WFG. I have big goals, need to be big enough to give money away. Coach able and willing to listen.
In my business I have to be very intentional about listening to understand and not listening to give my response.
In general, Mirroring energy is where I struggle the most. Especially with really quiet people that do not show outward emotion.
I was playing golf with a guy recently and I holed out for eagle from the Fairway on the very first hole. I was going nuts, and I would have expected my playing partner to react the same, but he didn't even say Nice Shot or a fist bump or any emotion he just put his head down kept walking.. the entire front nine was a one-way conversation of me asking questions or making statements and getting little to no reply. On the back nine I was getting a little frustrated and thought he must not like me so I won't give him any more of my energy. I kept my mouth shut and neither one of us said a word for about 5 holes. It was brutal! Then on the 15th hole he ask me a question, and a follow-up question...and another.... after the round he said he had a great time and couldn't wait to play again! It wasn't until I started mirroring his energy that he felt comfortable.
This is huge! I’m that guy that jumps in before they finish, never thought about it as being an ego thing. I love learning about people and having fallow up questions.
Ed! Baby Mylite here. I’m getting so much out of your videos!!! As someone with really bad inattentive ADHD, this is so valuable for me. I genuinely care about other people but I’m realizing how much it affects my ability to listen. One of my struggles is really bad memory, so I’ve realized I blurt things out because I am afraid I will forget it. Great great stuff. Wish I had a pocket sized Ed to keep me focused and pumped all day, LOL!
Great tips hey Ed I started watching your channel like a week ago thank you for all your contribution I love your show greetings from Orlando fl.
Thank you so much, happy to have you on here!
What's another topic you think I should cover?
@@EdMylettShow I think you have so much potential there's a big latin America community in the USA I thing you should translate your videos to Spanish the followers will love this gracias.
Great stuff brother , very insightful and well spoken. I recently changed how I administer advise , and have taken to only speaking of things that I know from my own experience , in hope that others would see and hear the truth and sincerity and not ever feel like I'm just pointing or waiving a finger at them , so to speak. It has not been going so well. It has been brought to my attention that I talk about myself too often etc. my thing is, I and my personal experience , my testimony is truly all I have to offer. Perhaps at times , others are not seeking truth or wanting to learn from me but simply wish to spend time in speculation . Any thoughts? I'm listening...
My brother Ed. Thank you once again for this amazing content! I have noticed a huge change in myself when I listen to people & then when it's my turn to speak. I used to be the type of person that would let them speak & interrupt them wheb we're conversing. However, now that I have been watching & listening to you! You have helped me become a better listener during a conversation & then I speak when I am able to. I even do repeat back what they say so that let's them know that I truly am engaged with them. I also thank them for opening up & sharing whatever it is that they want to tell me. Just yesterday when I went to get some lunch, I prospected the lady that helped me. I then followed up with her over the phone & she opened up to me about her personal life. I then repeated what she had told me & then I made her feel good about herself with a compliment. I have an appointment with her next Monday. But that just goes to show how much I have changed as an individual & as a listener during a conversation. I do need to ask more open ended questions, that I will say. Brother Ed, thank you again sir. Phenomenal job! By the way, if I had a 3 hour plane ride with you, I would be asking you as many questions as possible & then soak up your wisdom like a sponge. I definitely wouldn't be talking about myself unless you asked me to tell you a little bit about myself! Just saying. Have a great & blessed day. #Maxout #EntrepreneurLife #HoustonTX #IAmWorldClass #SingleDadLife
Such a great lesson, learned from my dad. He will not be talked over if you do you end up not learning a thing. Only way to be better is to let the teachers talk. Thank you!!
VERY WELL SAID!! What's another topic you would like to hear me talk about?
Few weeks ago it occurred to me that I was being a major douche to my wife. I did a fantastic job confessing it and apologizing and assuring her that I was going to try to do much better. I thought I killed it on the apology and we could move on. Nope. She needed to express how she felt about it. Even though she was pretty much restating what I had just said, she needed needed to go over it with me from her point of view. It was wicked difficult to keep my mouth shut and not defend myself. Super hard to look in her eyes and not say anything while staying interested in her speaking with my body language. It was a pivotal moment in our relationship. I know it's difficult but if people could just listen to each other better it would save marriages for sure.
Yes! Pair this with Robert Greene's Laws of Human Nature & you can master the art of listening. 🗣👂
1:50 There are a lot of people like that. They want to be the center of every conversation. A gossip is the one who talks to other people about you. A bore is the one who talks to you about himself. A brilliant conversationist is the one who talks to you about yourself. Love listening to you Ed. Thanks!
I first listened to this on Spotify and I just HAD to watch and take notes. I need this skill SO much.! I used it at a network meeting this week, which I co-organised and everyone was like "Michael, why are you so quiet today?" And I replied "I'm practising what Ed Mylett taught me"
Give me three hours with you and you'd be annoyed with the amount of questions I'd ask!!! #MaxOut
haha Was there anything I said that really caught your attention in a positive light?
@@EdMylettShow definitely NOT saying "uh huh", "right", etc during someone's sentence. Also NOT completing their sentences or replacing their choice of word with another word. That's a HUGE thing that I have a habit of doing
@@mikebolus3041 exactly or correcting a word with what I believe would sound better.
One of my pet peeves in gathering is I'm having a pleasant exchange with someone, and another person walk up, cuts in the conversation with something else - always non-emergent- and that's the end of the first conversation. In fact, I quietly walk away, and neither of them notices. When an interruption happens in business, ie; at the conference table, I let the 'intruder' finish...and I continue with: "....as I was saying..." and pick up where I left off. The only time there are never interruptions in conversations is in movies, television and radio - why? Because the conversations are scripted! The greatest joy I receive is from listening - folks share very personal things sometimes - especially when I'm writing a feature article. The other thing I grant when I'm listening is tending to the speakers' trust via empathy. Mr. Mylett is one of my all time faves! He's always right!
Wow. My best gift is listening. But i still have many things to learn. Being a preachers son. I had to be a good listener. People needed my dads voice. Ive been waiting. Now i know people and myself. My voice is building thanks to you sir
That’s so awesome! Happy you took the time out of your day just to listen to the video.
@@EdMylettShow I hope you have a video everyday. You are like Jim Carey. Completely naked. So you shine. People csnt help but stare. Thank you for listening to us
Yes! I love this topic. Fortunately it’s one of my super powers but I still have much work to do. Nobody is ever perfect.
I have trained for acting for 8-9 years to be an expert listener, to truthfully connect, to respond truthfully in the moment.
When you clarify what you heard then, as jim Kwik says, you are learning to teach.
Body posturing is more telling than someone’s words. It tells the truth. Someone with closed arms saying they “love you” is telling you they don’t love you; or are mad at you. #maxout
I would have driven you crazy by asking questions...ha ha...it’s because I am comfortable with myself...He wasted that time...3 hours?! Oh man...@edmylet when we listen and respond truthfully we can heal ourselves and others...most people just want to be heard...to be understood...
Finally...waiting for your turn to speak is not listening. It’s not hearing. It’s deflecting.
Oh my goodness you've hit the nail on the head...I talk too much when I'm nervous and always finish people's sentences for them. Hmmm food for thought! Thanks Ed!
Glad you found such enjoyment from the video! Appreciate the feedback! What were the top 3 notes you wrote down from this video?
@@EdMylettShow most certainly to be more patient when listening and not finishing sentences for people, to be more present in the conversation and lastly to speak less and listen more. Thank you for your time and support much appreciated!
It's funny how we see ourselves. One thing l really like about your interviews is that you let people talk and you DON'T interrupt them often. But do what you feel is necessary. "The best room in the house is room for improvement" Japanese proverb
Thank you for the kind words! It really means a lot to me reading comments like these. THANK YOU! What other topics you think I should go over next time?
@@EdMylettShow more on influencing people. 👍🏾
For me just being 100% present is such a big challenge, like you said we get easily distracted or allow ourselves to be distracted. I am practicing leaving my cell phone in my jacket or away from wherever I am having a conversation. I know it bothers me when someone stops mid way through a sentence, checks their phone and than returns to the conversation only to try to finish my sentence or cut off the conversation. Thank you Ed for pointing it out the way you do.
I listen to this video while I made my calls today and I made 4 appointments. This is very tactical and must be added to the arsenal. Thank you Mr. Mylett
Exploring teachings from Ed is like discovering America. I regret that I did not hear about Ed 3 years ago. It would change my way of seeing things much faster.
“People just want to be heard.” So good! That phrase was the greatest point when I trained new hires in customer service. Asking questions and non-verbal communication are great, too, Ed! On the flip side, I tend to finish sentences and offer word selections, which is terrible! I have GOT to do better with this. Also, I would be multi-tasking while my hubs was talking to me. He often would ask me, “can you just stop and look at me?”😬 Ouch! I’m learning to stop being busy and just give my undivided attention to my hubs when he is talking-he has noticed! As I switch careers, this is such a tremendous teaching with so much value, that I can move to my new niche. And this was TOTAL motivational Ed!! Thank you!!
My friends have told me I'm a good listener and I think I am. People always end up telling me their whole life stories and secrets (both men & women) even the ones I hardly know lol.
But I still learned a lot from this video. Thank you for what you're doing. I love working out in the morning because I get to listen to you. I love you Ed!
Ed, youve made important points of disconnecting and connecting with people ... In other words. A meeting of minds have a common feeling in believe and influence.
Glad you found such enjoyment from the video! Appreciate the feedback! You have any more topics you'd like me to cover in future videos?
This is probably the best video on listening I’ve ever seen
Caught some of the things I do in conversations that show I am not listening. I often want to finish the other persons sentence or thought. Thanks Ed for this content and helping me to improve my sphere of influence!!
Thank you so much! Happy you took the time to listen, and enjoyed the video. Give me a few topics I should talk about !
@@EdMylettShow I've been binge watching your content and I am grateful I have found it. You just resonate with me. I love your passion. It shows on every vid. Thought of some things;
Building rapport
Staying hungry after success
Developing a "why"
Would love to see you and Patrick Ben David do an interview. You guys ROCK!!
Man, I'm committed to listening to at least one of these videos for 5 days a week. Soo many gems, so many pages of notes, much love for you Ed. Love how genuine you are, and how down to earth you are, and you are super relatable, it's why I love you ED!
My day starts with Ed! 3:00am workouts are way easier. He knows what he is talking about!!
Presented in a group and this has helped so many individuals to listen better and support appropriately during communication. It's never to late to get it right. Be coachable to do better!!!
You are putting out pure gold content for absolutely free ! I love you Ed :) One day, I will meet you for sure ! Thanks a ton lot
Anything is possible!
This perfectly and in easy terms describes a trained and certified Life Coach. As I get further into my training for becoming a Life Coach it’s crazy to think God called me to be a Life Coach when I’m discovering im a horrible listener haha 😆 It brought so much awareness to how much I feel I need to give my input and “knowledge” haha When actually its so powerful to learn and practice being a great listener rather than responding. I have a gift of encouragement and I thought that’s why God called me to Life Coaching but what I didn’t realize is there is so much power and encouragement just by listening 👂 🤷🏼♀️🥳 Thank you for sharing the knowledge and tips! You are awesome 👏🏻
Wow! This made me realize some hard truths.
A lot of the time, I genuinely DON’T CARE about what the person is saying. Or I already know where they’re going and it’s taking too long.
I think it’s time I find smarter people to talk with. I need a better circle.
Smarter people may not actually care what you have to say.
David Craig that could very well be true 😉 But then I could at least be interested in what they say, use these listening skills, and learn something.
I can’t believe I *only* recently discovered who you are several weeks ago. I’m blown away by the clarity of your message, thank you for what you do .
As a writer, I can get really focused on specific words people use. This video really inspired me to focus my attention on tonality, body language, and non-verbals. Thank you!
It’s incredible that this content exists for free
I use these videos in the morning to activate my brain on positivity. As you say at the end "They are EXACTLY what I need." Thank Mr Mylett for giving me strategies that are applicable. MAX OUT
Another Great Lesson. A Slogan you might of heard in your home at one time is, LISTENT TO LEARN AND LEARN TO LISTEN. People love being heard when you allow them. This was a Game Changer for me in all areas of My Life. Thank you JS
Ed I can’t begin to tell you how much I appreciate both your content and the passion behind it. I’m glad I found you. Keep up the great work brother!!
My absolute pleasure ! truly appreciate it. Beyond humbled by your words. What do you think I should talk about next?
Ed I would say finding a business mentor and how to approach him or her without wasting their time? If you’ve covered this already, I apologize for not seeing it yet. I’ve just started following you. Thank you again Ed! Totally appreciate you taking time out of your day to respond.
Good advice. My dad would always say that it' s not what a person had said to you that counts but how you feel when that person leaves. What that persons presence left you feeling will tell you more than their word you heard. So the next time you see them your ready for who they are. God bless.🙏
That's what i'm talking about! Couldn't have said it better myself !! What's another topic you would like to hear me talk about?
@@EdMylettShow thank you first for your comment, dad was a smart man and his words live on long after he's body has left us to be with his love ones. In the code of Bushido one of the laws is KO which means Filial piety is a virtue of respect for one's parents. A person can not respect one's self if they don't respect were they come from. You cannot be successful in anything unless you're foundation is strong. You can't have honour which is MEIYO in the code without first having CHUGI which is loyalty and duty to carer and respect and lookout for your parents. So I think that will help the young people to learn respect, and you know thats very Important. What I know has taken years of battles to learn, but unfortunately the younger generation need years of battle to appreciate. As the Bible tells us to build your house on a rock. Foundation very important. God bless you Ed and keep trying to help. God sees what your doing and He is happy.🏆🙏🏆
Thank you
Man, I would have asked you everything under the sun! You are more than just an entrepreneur, you are great down to earth guy.
Thank you for the kind words! It really means a lot to me reading comments like these. Did you hear a particular golden nugget that stuck with you?
Great info! Thank you! I think three of my weaknesses here are :
Body language, I cross my arms often coz I don’t always know where to leave them.
Not being fully present, I tend to already form a reply in my head when they are still talking
Asking questions, when it is a silent person ( like me) I don’t always know what to ask to keep the conversation going.
So lot to work on. Thanks again. I love your conversations with your guests.
What I love about you the most is how humble you are! Appreciate you man!
Almost every point you made I realised is something I do a lot with people. Especially ending people's sentences. I now realise that is very much an ego thing. Thank you, Ed, this has been so valuable. I was listening to this on your podcast but got so much value I came back to go through it again and make notes. Honestly, every time I listen to your content I come away from a better person. So thank you.
I love how you shake people's hand with two hands, I started doing that after seeing you do it. Love it!
I would give anything to spend any amount of time with you. And this guy, a entrepreneur had this opportunity and blew it. Damn maybe he didn't realize he was flying in a plane with the legend. 🔥 🔥 🔥
Ed,
I would like it if you talked about...
1. How to re-build confidence when it seems as if everyone and everything is against you.
2. Wisdoms and what makes someone wise.
3. Believe in a higher power and why it’s important.
4. Attitude and why it’s important to stay positive through turmoil moment.
Thank you! 💪🏼💥
The one thing that I really appreciate about you and your videos Ed is that you never repeat the same thing over and over. You Express very vidvid details and I never feel like I hear the same thing or same words atleast when I listen to you bro!
Great video. I used to finish people's sentences for them. I thought that indicated I was listening. As Ed said, that's not typically true. One time, my girlfriend said, "Let me finish". She was annoyed I was feeding her words and finishing her sentence. I shut up and listened thereon. Our communication was way better. Ed's advice is spot on.
Excellent tips! Reminds me of this saying that I have always heard in banking. ‘People bank with people- not banks.’ Connecting and showing empathy & validating people has always come very naturally to me. I have found that very few people have this ability. Most conversations leave me feeling not validated. Most people are missing what I call the ‘sensitivity chip.’ I hope this video goes viral. :-))
I gained so much from this video. It will help me become a better communicator because I will listen more. That's very important! Thanks Ed!
That’s so awesome! Happy you were able to find some enjoyment in it! What do you think I should talk about next?
Great video. Ive been practicing the art of listening to others and gunuinely being interested in what they're saying. I can notice most of the people around me do the exact opposite. My brother never asks about anyone else or what their up to. He continuesly talks about HIS job, HIS family and HIS hobbies
He never lets anyone else speak. He Just waits for others to to stop talking so he can carry on about himself. My girl is even worse. She really thinks everyone cares that she's a dog groomer and everyone needs to hear all about it constantly. This is why shes my ex. Shes not interested in anything anyone else has to say. Its extremely Annoying. If she even acknowledged she needs to really work on it, especially after seeing me working on it and encouraging her to work on herself, we could have probably reconciled. But she doesn't nor will she. Its really discouraging. I learned this from Amway back in the late 90's. People do love being around me and come to me for advice and encouragement. Unfortunately, its usually not the ones closest to me but more often, they're strangers or people on social media. Your message is so accurate and true. Thanks for sharing. #maxout
Thank you for sharing with all of us! Massively appreciate it!
Happy to deliver the video to you, and get your day started off right!
I so relate to you in the aspect of always showing interest in others and asking others about themselves. I do it because I'm curious about the other person and want to get to know them. I've found most people are not like this.
Watching this again in 4/21 and still amazed at the value here. There are so many gems! I’ve watched this a few times and get more value every time. The timing is always spot on too. Appreciate you Ed.
Love how you're so transparent!!
Ed you continue to improve my life on a massive scale every time I listen to you. Please continue on your voyage to be the best version of you because you are helping others become the best version of themselves!
I can feel the authenticity and genuine nature of all that you’re expressing here, Ed. It still floors me how so many people are completely unaware of their body language when they’re supposedly “engaged” in a conversation with you, yet really they’re totally checked out. Drives me some type of cray 😬. Great video!
I think this was one of the MOST motivating videos I have seen by you. And here's why: you are humble, present, and LISTENING, while you are coaching us to get inspired to become more of our best selves through listening to others deeply and thus serving them and us! They get to be heard and learn about themselves, and we get to learn about their gifts. People are presents that are meant to be open by listening to them: that alone made me feel heard by you. Again, just gold.
Thanks Ed for this video. I am so bad at listening. I used to be a good listener until I was told that multi-tasking is the thing. Then I became so occupied all the time.... my brain is always in calculation how to multi-task in order to safe time. So when I really need to be listening, I realize that I just can't sit still to listen but my mind wander to think about what I could be doing and listening at the same time. I FAIL TO DO BOTH almost every time. This can't be a coincidence that you made this video FOR ME! Dang... you are good at what you do! I am not kissing your butt what-so-ever: I am just so amazed in every video you've made. You are such a mentor. Thank you again!
WOW... powerful words. Thank you so much for this comment. Reading these kind of comments get me pumped to create more !!
Lightbulb moment for me! I have prided myself on speaking well. I also enjoy (pridefully) winning arguments and being a verbal ninja. I just realized how much damage I may have done in relationships. I will begin using these tools immediately. I am guilty of assuming I know what the other person is saying before they finish. I am grateful for this lesson. Thank you.
WOW ED!!! Thank you so much..... Being better at listening is a personal goal, and a lot of things you said that occur with nervousness or excitability have been my challenge. For me, it is that I am so excited! I love people and to serve them and it makes me so happy that I get to the end in my head first and forget to listen along the way. I am an EXCELLENT listener when people have problems, I let them vent, restate, and emote when appropriate. AKA great counselor. But then I often forget these things when it is ME who has a lot to say. So I am trying to adopt "counselor" role as I engage with people.... and it has been working! We all just have to find our way, and I am so grateful that I have you to listen to, Mr. Mylett, because my whole life people told me to calm down, slow down, chill out, etc. and you make me feel like it IS the blessing that it IS for me to be ME!!!! (Also, they just don't know what we know and are jealous or insecure or whatever so I just send them love and light) THANK YOU, ED!!!!
This is EXACTLY what selfish me needs to hear. Thank you Ed. Charles
I agree with you totally on listening, I personally find that where I speak less I often get and learn more from the conversation.
Great stuff, looks like you're really trying to Maxout all areas of your life! What's one thing you'll remember from this?
Ed Mylett I have watched many different interviewers and you are by far one of the best! The reason for me is truly your pure and honest excitement. It isn't fake and I can tell that even though it's only through video. So often I will see a guest you have on say something and you will be genuinely ecstatic about what they said. You will say things like"wow that is so powerful," along with other sayings and it truly makes them feel important. That is one of the best things I have learned about communication and I learned it from you. You also say amazing things about them and give high praise as well. You truly are an inspiration and a great coach at this stuff. Thank you soo much for making all of these videos and truly caring about all of us. It is greatly appreciated!!!
Thank you for the kind words! It really means a lot to me reading comments like these. THANK YOU! What other topics of discussion do you think I should talk about?
@@EdMylettShow Absolutely it means a lot to have you share so much wisdom with us! Greatly appreciated! The first thing that popped in my head for future content would be discussing how socially anxious people and people that are more introverted can effectively communicate. They have a lot of knowledge but their fear of social situations can limit how they come across. They may seem rude when in fact they are just nervous. That would be my recommendation. Thank you for asking it truly means a lot!
I've noticed this in your interviews. You're very good at engaging with people, because you're interested in people. That's what makes your interviews special because people open up, you can see their face light up when you take an interest. I'm very similar. I love people and I'm really interested in them because of this I always watch interviews and see there are a lot of interviews from people online where it's not about the interviewee, it's all about the interviewer. They look disinterested, are looking on their laptops, writing notes, saying wow, everytime but with a disinterested face and then ask questions that are completely different from the last and you can see the interviewee is just thinking this guy doesn't give a damn, let me just promote my shit and get out of here. I'd rate you up there with Tom Bilyeu for most engaging interviews.
WOW ! .. you seriously just summed it all up perfectly! Thank you so much! That is incredibly kind of you. Truly means a lot to me.
Wow 🤯🤯🤯 everyone in the world needs to listen to this at least once a week.
I have stopped saying statements and started asking questions. It has improved my communications so much better! Thank you!
I literally love that tip about matching words, I've never heard that before
Deep listening for connections with ppl. Very critical. Great stuff
Wow! I need to listen to this several times. I know I interrupt. Lots I need to work on. Looking forward to hearing you on Power of Positive Summit. I have been sharing you are on this year. I love Jon Gordon , John Maxwell and you. Now I can find you all in one place this week.
Thank you for this, Ed! You explained it so well!
Manipulating vs Leadership according to Jocko Willink: both get someone to do something. Manipulation only you benefit. Leadership, everyone benefits, including the mission. Thanks for the content Ed! Learned a lot
Ed, i love you man! Youre my favorite person to listen to when i need some motivation. You probably hear this all the time but theres just something in the things you say and how to say it that is so sincere and i can just listen to you go on for hours. Thank you for being you sir!