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Welcome to the Jenna & Julien Podcast where we talk about all the things. If you are looking for your everyday, normal, by the book podcast, then you're in the wrong place. We created this because we tend to have awesome, random, and sometimes drunk conversations that we realized had to be shared with the lovely internet world. So here we are.
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When my tarantula died, I was devastated. When people found out they thought it was funny to say "Good! " And shudder. I know tarantulas aren't for everyone, but there's a time and place for jokes like that.
Nicole D a pet is still a pet. I don't care if it's a freaking Dragon. It's something that gives you joy that you have sadly lost.
just like when my partner and i lost our first rat.
Nicole D I’m sorry for your loss 💕
lumberfreddie Sorry for you and your partners loss 💕
Same thing with my pet rat ....
I got pregnant. I passed the first trimester, I was showing. At my sixth month I started to spot.
Long story short , I lost my son.
A week later, I was in the grocery and a woman came up and touched my still pregnant looking belly and said congratulations...
It was the single most devastating thing in my life. Ever
Gigi Dodson I’m very sorry about your son. People are so inconsiderate.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. That’s devastating I’m so sorru
I’m so sorry to hear that. I feel like people shouldn’t go up to other people and touch them without permission. It’s very rude and honestly a little weird. And again i’m sorry for your loss
I am so sorry for your loss. ❤❤❤
Gigi Dodson im sorry for your loss. i hope people see this and think before they just walk up and touch a pregnant woman or say something about her looking pregnant.
I love when Jenna talks about shitty experiences women face and Julien sits there and respectfully agrees and makes comments when it's appropriate. good man right there.
Michele oij he really is so respectful.
Michele oij YES
For real Julien is awesome.
More dudes should be like Julien
when do men not do that? buy and large?
If it brings you any comfort, my 7 year old daughter just loved Ad. We didn't find your videos about him until after he was gone but every time she sees your thumbnail for your videos or hears your voices she says "Is that Ads mom and dad?" She loved watching him. So many of us do care. Please know that.
Raven Angel this is so beautiful
your daughter is awesome
your daughter is in the dink fam and i think that’s awesome
So cute!
The comment about Julian's "short grieving period" really pissed me off. Do people just expect him to be unhappy on camera for months and months? Most people don't want to record themselves being upset.
And what pisses me off the most, is it's the same people who are saying that he got over it fast, who also say he's being dramatic. I don't know why it annoyed me so much. In times of grief you need laughter and fun. Anyone who doesn't believe that is really ignorant and insensitive to the matter.
SophiesThoughts same here, having experienced the same loss at a young age, you celebrate the times when you realize you’re not crying or that your heart is a little less heavy. julien is obviously still down about this because it’s one of the hardest things to go through, but laughing and following old routines is the only way to dig yourself out of a never ending hole of grief. when i saw julien in his vlogs i was so happy for him, because it took me months to realize that i should allow myself to be happy when i am, and not chastise myself for it because i “should still be upset”
Also they use RUclips as a way to get away from that and from reality and as a platform to creat and be happy not feel bad and grieve
A-fucking-men
It’s also annoying because if he WAS upset on camera for months people would complain about that as well
Well and the fact that he even mentioned in his vlog that he is still sad but he has to keep going with his life because he knows that’s the best thing for him to do.
Believe me, when I heard them mention that comment I got pretty pissed off too. God people suck some times and it’s so hard for me as someone who watches RUclips daily to hear the people I love reading comments like that and I can’t do anything for them but leave a comment myself and hope to god they see that there are still some of us out here that love and respect them as people.
Friendly reminder that people on the internet, no matter how popular or not, are still regular people.
exactly. thank you for being the only one that commented this.
Petr Lizunov yup!
Petr Lizunov 👏👏
true.
I'll never understand why some people will go out of their way to say something negative and/or hurtful. For what it's worth, you guys make me smile and often cackle/cry laugh. March was a big jerk to so many people (me included). I suggest we take whatever lessons we can from this and then let's collectively flip it off in the rearview mirror. Giant HUGS to yous. Scritch your furkids for me. 🖤
Jenna:
*doesnt want product*
Julien:
*makes it less and less appealing*
😭
belt candy:we are cops.
About the pregnancy speculations. When I was 13, a tumor started growing right on one of my ovaries. It grew so goddamn quickly that after a few months of not really noticing it, people/servers/cashiers started asking me if I was pregnant. Well no, there was just a giant tumor inside of me which led me being rushed into the ER and being told that they have to remove it asap because it was about to crush my lungs.
Also at that time I was having severe eating issues because I just felt horrible in my body and I couldn't lose weight (well, there was a tumor growing) so I fell into such a dark place. Just imagine how great it felt to hear the 'I think she's pregnant..such a slut' rumors at school every single day.
Before you speak just fucking think, it's not that hard.
I’m so sorry that happened to you :-(
Maryxx 99 I can not fucking imagine how hard that would be
I'm sorry on behalf of those idiots that don't use their brain. That must have been extremely difficult..can't imagine
As someone going through eating issues that must have fucking sucked. Its hard enough and then even harder because of a fucking TUMOR and all of a sudden people are accusing you for something you didn't do. Im so so sorry for those shit bags saying or doing or even think about doing anything like that. I hope you're happy and doing much better now. Much love to you man
@Autumn Moonflower hi pre-med student here I'm only in my first year ( I'm training to become a CCMA) so don't call me an expert. But I have seen case studies were things like this have happened. Some of the major organs may be able to maneuver around the tumor but in the case of the lungs there's the rib cage in the way. If the tumor got so big it could crush the rib cage which could lead to broken ribs which could lead to punctured lungs and a lot of other issues.
Jenna, please don't apologize for being human and voicing your feelings. I think it is constructive for people to be reminded that public figures have feelings too. The fact that we all have to keep going through life's hard spots is frequently forgotten by those on the internet. I am so sorry for your losses. I hope people remember that words have consequences. Pregnancy speculation is often done by people who feel excited about the prospect but who also forget (or don't yet realize) that pregnancy is not always an easy situation to manage; it can be devastating. Even just feeling fat and then being asked if you are pregnant is awful. People need to put themselves on the other side of their own comments first. Much love to you both.
B Moore Your comment is spot on. It frustrates me when Jenna & Julien (or any RUclipsr) feels they need to apologize for expressing their feelings or opinions
The "feeling fat and being asked" is absolutely awful. After my 2nd child, it's been hard getting my stomach flat again, we are no longer physically able to have children unless a miracle happens. A CASHIER in a store TOUCHED MY FAT STOMACH and asked "aww how many months?" ...I almost literally bitch slapped her but I really bluntly just said "nah, I'm just fat, maybe you shouldn't ask strangers if they're pregnant"... I'm still pissed about it lol
Deanna Chaill You have every right to still be pissed. It is very rude for people to assume anything about other people's body. Your body produced little humans, you do not have to have a flat tummy to be a good mom. ❤️
B Moore thank you ❤
B Moore, I totally agree! Especially about someone just feeling fat and someone speculating out loud. What if that girl is recovering from an eating disorder and has finally put on a little weight and your insensitive ass asks if she's pregnant and that comment sends her back ten steps. It can literally be life threatening in some situations.
I've had 3 miscarriages and having people ask me CONSTANTLY if I'm pregnant or ask me why I'm not pregnant yet is actual torture. I've been married 5 years so it's been going on for that whole time. Some of my relatives actually get angry about it suggesting I'm being selfish or lazy for not having a baby.
Sarah T I am so sorry that you have to go through this! My parents have been trying ever since they’ve had me (i’m 2 weeks shy of 17 now) and have been fairly open about this process with me and our extended family. It really, really rubs me the wrong way when one of our family members asks those kinds of questions, especially those who know more about the situation. I can’t even imagine how it makes them feel because I’m not even the main person affected and i feel like they’re breathing down MY neck.
People are cruel. Unfortunately even family can be cruel sometimes. Hopefully without realizing it, but I’m sorry that that’s happened to you. And although I know it won’t ever be enough to fix your pain, I still wish you the best and good vibes and all good things to you ❤️ don’t lose hope!
Sarah T sorry to sound rude, but fuck those people. You don't deserve to have to live with that pain on top of the pain of past miscarriages. You deserve so much more
Sarah T I'm sorry Sarah. You are not alone.
I agree with MissPronounced. I'd honestly just lay it all down and issue an ultimatum: no mentioning pregnancy to you at all until (/if) you bring it up. Period.
Break it, and they'll have no part in any possible child's life because they would have shown that they don't respect your boundaries & that's not the type of influence you'll accept in a child's life.
Honestly, no pressure.. that's an uncomplicated response to a complicated problem. But please think about pulling out the sledgehammer. It seems appropriate at this point, going by what you said.
You gave Ad the very best life and the love and care you showed him then and now shows how exceptional you are. If anyone ever doubts how well you guys care for your animals i would refer them to the FORTY ,minute fish video. Jenna and Julien are the kinds of people that should be pets owners. They are caring, responsible, and have incredible hearts and souls. Ad was loved and had the best fucking 11 months!
RIGHT ON!! I agree
Thank you for not being afraid to call out your own fans for bad behavior.
Sadly a lot of the people that they called out are probably here commenting agreement as if they never did those things. Personally I am guilty of occasionally jumping on the "is she pregnant?" bandwagon (not with Jenna but with other youtubers) and had never considered that it might be insensitive or rude unless I'm aware somebody has fertility issues of something. After hearing Jenna explain it I now understand why it's harmful and inappropriate.
Not Wednesday that’s amazing that you are mature enough to change behavior and opinions! sooo many people on the internet wouldn’t stop doing that just because they’re stubborn and don’t care
Sounds like a kink😂
those aren’t fans
I cannot handle when people say “it’s just a hamster” or whatever pet / animal it might be... it’s rude. People that say that are low key psycho. WHY would you even WANT to tell someone that when they just lost their pet in the first place? There’s something wrong with people who feel compelled to state that kind of opinion.
And it’s not “just” a hamster. It’s alive, it was a child at one point, it has parents, it eats, it feels, it senses. It’s not a rock or a broken table or something that can be replaced or fixed easily.
And not everyone has a wholesome family to go home to. My pets are all I have. I live 1000 miles away from any family. They mean everything to me.
I’m so triggered. Rant over.
Velvet Gallery dude I was thinking the same shit. That sort of behavior - to me - puts you pretty close to being capable of becoming serial killers. No respect for a LIFE is disgusting. That’s someone’s family member! Do you also kill cats behind the shed for fun because “it’s just a cat?”
Fuck.
I appreciated your rant.
Allie Cross Agreed. And it’s so scary to think that you could just meet people like that on any given day and not know it 😰😨
Well said. Scew those people. It's obvious they miss out on the love that normal people feel for any living thing. I'd bet sociopaths can't even enjoy pleasure the way the rest of us do.
I wasn't upset when mine died
Its strange how anyone can truly beleive that Jenna and Julien didnt take good enough care of Ad, theres plenty of videos of them making his cage nice, building him toys, buying him things, making him tiny meals. He had like 4 different kinds of bedding to play in for fucks sake.
That hamster wasnt just loved. He was adored.
Cas M he was ADored
When my fish died, I was devastated. He was my friend. I loved to watch him swim and feed him and take care of him...my ‘friend’ says to me, in my grief “you know fish die all the time, right?” So do humans, but you would never say that to someone who just lost a parent or partner or sibling. He was my friend, and I missed him. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing Ad with the internet. I’m so sad he’s gone, but I’m also thrilled to see he was so loved.
I'm sorry for the fishy...
A S my mom loves our fish more than me
I have a 40 gallon filled with all sorts of beautiful fish. My favorite one? A basic carnival gold fish. I raised him from basically a guppy to a massive 7 inch beauty. He was my first fish, and when he died, I was so heart broken that it was unimaginable. I'm sorry your friend said this. Fortunately, my friend knew what "fancy" meant to me and she was there through my crying. If this ever happens to you again, the JennaJulien fam has your back. 💕
A S I’m so sorry about your fishie and even though I don’t know you I am certain he was so incredibly loved by you
A S so did mine, we had to move away and my mom promised me and i asked about him the other day and she told me “oh did i not tell you? the day after we left he passed away but *its ok because he’s a fish* ”like wtf. that makes me so sad, i loved my fish so damn much, he was my first pet. every pet matters. rip steve ❤️
Jenna really signed off the internet...
Just randomly rewatching podcasts and this one really got to me.
it made me tear up when she said that :(
It was long time coming.
@@armie9318yeah cause of the constant harassment, i think anyone would eventually give up after what she had went through
It did hurt my heart. I so hope they’re happy ❤
PSA: Never talk about a woman’s pregnancy unless she publicized it or told you herself
Gabriela Araujo Are you pregnant?
Jeremiah yeah I’m having twins.. Ben and Jerry
Gabriela Araujo I hope you would never actually name twins that because that's just cruel
Gabriela Araujo over their head it flies 🤣
Tori Condo lmao some people struggle with sarcasm
People online are all suddenly a vet when animals pass away. I’m so sorry that people are being rude to you, some people are just pathetic. You took such good care of Ad, you couldn’t have done anything differently. You gave him an amazing life and sadly animals pass away and we can’t do anything about it. My hamster Piper passed away in November, he was nearly 2 years old and I found out when I took him to the vet that he had fluid in his lungs and would need to get put down. I could tell he was slightly off and he was a little lethargic so I took him to the vet and sadly was not able to take him home from the vet that day. I blamed myself and other people in my life blamed me but my vet confirmed that he was just getting old and had probably just gotten a little hamster cold that usually he would’ve been able to beat but he was too old and it almost turned into pneumonia. She told me it was something I never could’ve helped or been the cause of and she said he just got old and like any old person/animal it was his time to go. Good on you guys for standing up for yourselves, people need to be told that what they say hurts and that there are consequences for it. Chin up lovelies, life will get brighter for you soon 💖
Jenna you're absolutely right. Fertility issues are FAR more common than I think people know, at the very least common enough that I wish people were more conscious about the issue in hopes they can _understand_ why those questions and speculations are at the very least intrusive and at the very worst devastating to someone who is struggling with infertility.
A friend of mine had someone try to be cute by making comments about her and her husband not having any children and they had just had a miscarriage. I don't ever comment about anyone having kids since then. It was such a devastating experience for them.
+Rebecca O'Sullivan That's horrible I hope they are coping okay :(
God how can people be so insensitive... this podcast just made me mad
So true... I’ve struggled with infertility for almost a year and a half and it’s awful when people say “So when are you two having kids?” Like trust me, we would have had kids a year and a half ago if I had my way, but that wasn’t the case.
Truth!!
Yes, yes, yes!
Jenna specifically, but also Julien, continue to help me re-teach myself how to be a kind and compassionate person. I am so forever grateful to these two for everything they have done for us.
I hope that their RUclips comments aren't always going to be filled with trolls and genuinely unkind people, because they deserve a community that supports them. And if someone sees fit to criticise them, I hope they can figure out how to do it in a kind and constructive way.
i wish jenna and julien would adopt mE, they r parent material PlUs i’ve got a husky who would love the iggy’s, marbles, and the big iggy (am joke but not really)
This still holds up (10/15/2022)
I COMPLETELY understand where y'all are coming from. My 17 year old cat, that I've had since I was 9, died on Valentine's Day this year. When I told my "close" friends about it they just shrugged it off like it was no big deal "well, she is 17 years old." No shit, that's what makes it worse. When you grow a close bond with an animal it's no different than a person that you are really close with or a loved one dying. I truly feel sorry for the people that don't understand what it's like to share that relationship with an animal and hopefully one day they will.
Courtney Kline I totally agree I had animals that I had for my whole life die two months apart and it absolutely sucked! People just don’t understand how hard and heartbreaking it is to loose your family and best friend.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my cat of 13 years last year and I got a few of those comments but for those 13 years she was my best friend and helped me through some really tough and dark times. I still miss her everyday.
AshyBrie thank you I’m so sorry for your loss as well. Animals are so theoretic and more then once they’ve helped me with some stuff.
Aw im so sorry
I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. I fully can relate. My cat Buttons passed at about that age and it was awful. I remember i came home and found her and had to work later that day. I tried to call in and they were like 'it's a cat, grow up'.
Kind of in the same vein of the pregnancy thing; there are also people who are dealing with eating disorders or issues with their body image, so commenting on a woman saying "She looks pregnant I can see it" when she may be recovering, or maybe she just had become comfortable enough to eat a little more than usual....that could really mess her up. I think that if people want to speculate or anything, they need to keep it to themselves.
Kalin Diana THANK YOU. Struggled with ED for a decade. Comments on my weight during this time have definitely sent me back into the illness full-blown and on several occasions.
I thought about this too... Like even just at a mild stage where someone is insecure, it's still super damaging. I can't even imagine what comments like that would do to someone struggling/dealing with eating disorder
People can be so awful. On Juliens video about loss, I mentioned I lost a friend to suicide and I know it can be incredibly devastating. Someone decided to comment that they’d kill themselves too if they had to be friends with me. Who in the world writes something like that, to ANYONE? It’s just mind blowing how cruel people can be
Celie Golightly i think they see everything as a joke. And dont live in a world where real things happen. Like jake (that who wanted to get benefit of suicide but people wasent buying that shit.)
Celie Golightly oh my god that’s terrible
Jess ._. Right?! I just don’t understand it.
Honestly, that would hurt me so bad.
What the actual hell people love to just be rude and cruel bc they can do whatever bc it's on the internet but it actually hurts ppl like Jenna was saying like ugh sorry that happened to you hun🖤 im sure you're a sweetie and I'm sorry for what happened to your friend
what happened to the old school rule "Treat others how you would want to be treated!"?
too many parents are little bitches and let their kids walk all over them.
The internet happened
i guess teachers and people like that say that so much that it is just brushed off
it got renamed political correctness and people decided it was a bad thing.
people just forgot, we kept thinking that everyone already knew but we never taught the new generations
People tend to forget: Instead of just thinking about whether you CAN do something, also think about wether you SHOULD.
Dr. Malcom, Jurassic Park.
Anna K I love you for commenting this!
Hazel Fang dawwwww, thanks
Hugs from Curaçao
Omg this is the best comment on RUclips
Anna J. ANNA!!!
Anna K Best name ever, amirite?
This was a very much needed podcast. These are my favorite the talks and rants because a lot of this stuff is so fucked especially those comments about mistreating Ad , Julien literally grieving a different way, and saying Indefinitely that Jenna is pregnant because she wears clothes a certain way or she’s trying not to stand a certain way it’s disrespectful they let us into their lives and this is how people go about it. Respect your creators
I didn't even own Ad and I'm sad, he was an awesome soul. I'm respectfully trying to say this as peaceful as possible;
Those haters can go
F U C K T H E M S E L V ES.
Sorry for my French dink fam, but you trolls Know Who You Are
Hamsters do not like the dark or other loud pets. For future hamsters it would be nice to move the cage in an area that is calm and dog free.
hamsters PREFER the dark. they're burrowing animals how the heck did you wind up thinking they dont like the dark?
They are my creators. They’re my gods. Even though I’m a year older than Jenna
Clarisse D we have another Google-certified PhD here everybody.
I work in customer service and the number
Of times myself and my coworkers are asked if we’re pregnant. Some of them have fertility issues, some of us don’t want children. You are SO right with how insensitive and downright rude it is when people assume and speculate pregnancy. I’ve started to tell people off because it’s simply none of their fucking business.
Erin Michelle my boss once asked me if I was pregnant. I told her nah, I just look like it.
She was mortified. I don't think she'll ask that again lol
we had pet chickens growing up
we would bring them into the house sometimes and hold them
they were like dogs
they knew their names and were trained
after numerous vet visits, my chicken died
I was absolutely devastated
when i told a couple kids in my class I got multiple times “are you having a funeral? can I bring a fork”
as a fifth grader there was nothing worse than someone asking to eat your dead pet
Recently one of my chickens got sick and we brought her to the vet. She's better now thankfully but anyone I say about it they say things like "you took a chicken to the vet?" or "You wasted money for a chicken?" Like, it's so insensitive. We treat our chickens like we treat our cats. People not taking a cerain pets situation seriously because theyre not a cat or a dog are so rude.
i had chickens too.. their passing broke my heart, but not as much as the rude comments from the people who i had previously considered friends.
Dude that’s so rough, especially for a kid… I brought my python to A VET of all people, and while holding him and doing his examination he just offhandedly says, “I had a couple of pythons once! After a while I didn’t want to have them anymore, and I couldn’t sell them because they were standard morphs, so I just ate them haha” WHILE HOLDING MY PYTHON. never gotten out of a vet’s office so fast 😤
You guys should play a game with the bachelor/ bachelorette. You have cards with:
•contestants names
•occupation (probs a dental hygienist)
•what they do for their first impression when they step out of the limo
You eliminate the first 3 girls based off of their first impression. The rest of the girls are numbered. You have scenarios for each contestant (ie. contestant number 2 won’t stop interrupting the other contestants 1 on 1 time with the bachelor or bachelorette OR contestant number 5 has IBS and is constantly running to the bathroom)
You pick a few scenarios for each week and eliminate the girls/ guys
It’s also your chance to play producer and make the girls/ guys do what you want... scandalous 😋
Going to keep commenting till you guys see! I think you guys could really have fun with this. It’s pretty involved but you can modify!
catboinomo omg yes!
Jenna...you are 100% right on the pregnancy statements! There aren't even enough words to describe how wrong and upsetting the "culture" around this topic has become. Thank you for bringing this up....soooo much respect to you and Julien!
Mandy Campbell there are so many things wrong with judgment on pregnancy. i had a friend asked when she was due and ahe had just gained weight. It is so mortifying. Ive had it happen to me
Being a woman can suck
This is so true. I also feel bad on Hila Klein of H3h3. She also keeps getting speculations that she's pregnant. What if they're having a hard time in real life yet they don't choose to show it. Its insensitive that they keep on pressuring her.
I saw the comments she was talking about on the hair video when they released it and i was shocked. They all said she had a bump and its so uncalled for. They need to understand that there is a possibility she isn't pregnant (which was the case) and with that being said they were pretty much calling her fat. Jenna is fit and beautiful and any comment that says she looks like she is putting on a few are so judgemental, she is more fit than I ever have been. Jenna is #goals Even if jenna wasn't fit those comments aren't ok. Making comments on peoples weight aren't ok unless it is your actual job to make comments on it or if that person had asked for your opinion. Even still, you have to be careful how you word things.
Agreed! There are just too many "what ifs" around the topic, and it is also a deeply personal decision/subject! I'm glad Jenna said something, and used the tone that she did. She's speaking for so many others who remain silent for various reasons.
With an aunt who's suffered 6 miscarriages in a row, I learned how damaging that is emotionally and how speculation and comments about pregnancy are so horrible.
When someone has a miscarriage their body doesn't realize it right away, so it still expands and over time the weight sort of stores itself as fat in most cases. Essentially my aunt gained a lot of weight and looked nearly 6~7 months pregnant after the fourth miscarriage. And after the first miscarriage her and my uncle decided not to publicly announce their pregnancy until after 5 months, to which 6 months in their 5th attempt miscarried.
A few years later they were finally able to have a beautiful baby boy, but that time where they struggled to have a baby was so heartbreaking. They had the room prepared, names, clothes, everything, for each child they didn't have. Most people wouldn't guess that they had to go through this just a few years back.
Moral of the story/TL;DR: Don't speculate pregnancy, and don't ask if someone's pregnant because 1. rude af and 2. you still gain "pregnant weight" after a miscarriage for at least a few weeks so you're just reminding someone of their dead kid possibly.
I hope you read this because I want to restore your faith in internet comments a little bit. Me and my boyfriend love sitting and watching you - you bring us closer together. We get reminded by you that we are normal - that fights and disagreements and life is normal, but what matters most is that you love each other despite and FOR their flaws. Jenna - you make me so much more confident to be a silly-as-hell 29-year-old lady and have no shame about it - which is useful because I’m a teacher and it reminds me to be silly with my kids and inspire THEM to be themselves. You affect me and in turn, my 100ish band students who I love with my whole heart. Julien - you inspire me as a photographer and drone pilot (and musician) to keep honing my craft and bettering myself. I love you guys so much, you have enriched my life immeasurably and I’m so thankful for the both of you. PS - I bought Snake Oil to play with my boyfriend the way you guys do - we laughed for hours. We are both teachers and it was amazing to actually sit down and spend hours together and not just watch TV. We get so tired from teaching and just don’t want to talk when we get home, which is ok too, but sometimes we need things like Snake Oil to remind us to spend time together. Thank you, and I hope I get to meet you both someday so that I can thank you in person and give you both a big hug (if that’s ok). ❤️
Allie Greenwell I love this comment. As a music teacher myself I hear you! J&J do so much for me when I need to quiet my brain, and they’re inspirational as f***! 😍
This is an adorable wonderful comment and I feel you on so many levels ❤️
This is such a sweet comment! It's so nice to hear these kinds of things sometime, I mean just reading this makes me so happy that we have this wonderful community that spreads love and positivity even during tough times
What a wonderful thing to say 💙
This is really sweet, we need more people like you. Wishing you well xo
Legit bawling over the pregnancy speculation thing. My husband's family have been doing this to me for over a year, now I am pregnant, it is very very early and I am petrified of losing it because I am high risk. I don't want these people wigging out over a pregnancy I could lose tomorrow or next week. It is miserable. I feel trapped. They are good people but they are so clueless about how inappropriate it is!
Alyse Andrews I wish you all the best. Some people just don't think before they speak
I’m so sorry! I wish you a positive experience and good health in a difficult time.
Hugs to you, Alyse! Sending positive vibes to you. Grow baby grow! ❤️
I'm sorry to hear that
I wish you the best during your pregnancy ♥️
I agree with the societal aspect Jenna, as a single 30 year old, i have to literally ROLL my eyes when near strangers are like "...and when will you be having children of your own?" So many things wrong with that.
I’m almost 30, I just got married. I shit you not the NEXT DAY people were like “babies?” Mind your own fucking business.
I remember being 25 without children and being asked who I'd chosen not to have children. Apparently pregnancy after 25 musn't be possible?!
This exact thing makes me crazy. I'm 32 and don't have any children of my own yet. Any time I express any kind of nausea or illness, the first thing I hear is "maybe you are pregnant!" No, Judy, maybe I just ate a bad burrito.
I don't understand how any woman's reproductive habits are anyone's business but her own.
I’m 26 and getting married in a year, and I get these comments all the time. I personally don’t want kids, and never have, but no one seems to be able to just let it go. It bothers me so much. I’m really glad Jenna’s put this out there...Maybe people will hear this and not do things like that anymore
I’m 21 and work around people all day, and people always ask me when I’m having children. I barely became an adult... It’s messed up. It’s nobody else’s business if you’re planning on having children soon, or ever
Jenna finding the good in people who are treating her the worst way is exactly why she’s my favorite internet person
You guys were the best parents for Ad. You cared for him so much, you did nothing wrong. You could tell he enjoyed being held and being with you guys. You did NOTHING wrong.
sugarfruit 33 ❤
I'm 22 weeks pregnant, and when I tell people I am, several of them will say "you're lying, you're not" because I'm not big enough...this pisses me off.
thank you for touching on the pregnancy topic jenna. i cant have children naturally. in order for me to have a child it would cost upwards of 20k (if it works) and i cannot tell you how much it personally infuriates me when my co-workers or insensitive family members play the 'are you pregnant game'. or badger me with "well when is it your guys turn?" because both my sisters just had babies. because all i want to do is grab them by the collar and tell them to fuck off. its heart breaking and none of their business. im sorry, i know how you feel.
Killer Queen Oh my god, I can just imagine. People are dumbasses xo
Killer Queen Sigh... people think they're being funny or cute but don't really take the 5mins to really think about things. I hope your situation gets better.
I am dealing with the same thing. Even after 4 years of no pregnancies, my MIL insists on asking me monthly why I haven't had children. People are fucking dense.
niks - ive resorted to just asking the stupid family members that know of my infertility issues and continue to ask anyway "k, do you have an extra 20k laying around? no? then fuck off." people are morons.
❤️❤️❤️ have it at your own pace
WHY ARE PEOPLE OBSESSED WITH KNOWING IF WOMEN ARE PREGNANT
we are built in a society where we get born, go to school, get a job, get married, have kids, die.
it's how people think it is. also people have this soft spot for "families". empathy typically grows when someone interacts with a baby or acts parent like.
just like jenna said, these people are obsessed with guessing games. it connects to people being a know-it-all.
let's just settle with the fact that people are very insensitive and they ignore the downsides. ignoring feelings of those who are not able to be "normal" and have a normal life. this is why things like mental health, rape, abuse, racism are trying to be on the spotlight. to stop the insensitivity and be alert when talking about things like this, opening their minds atleast a bit.
huren aoichi exactly, I agree with everything you said. This also can be applied to people guessing ones Sexual Orientation like its so annoying when people try to label someone they aren’t. That sort of practice literally ends souls.
Because they are too bored with their own lives
@@hyon2441 "We are built in a society where we get born, go to school, get a job, get married, have kids, die." There is nothing wrong with that. It's when people force their lifestyles on others that becomes the problem.
Ryan Thomas well, living in a society that expects everyone to have that exact same life, and work until they’re at an age where they can’t even enjoy retirement is fucked up.
I think it’s okay to give advice but like don’t shove it down someone’s throat and say you should do this and that and as far as people saying “it’s just a hamster”, it’s not, Ad was like a best friend to these guys and they loved and cared for him in the best way.I hope you can remember Ad as the cute little buddy he was, in my books you gave him the best life he could have possibly had, Jenna litterly made him furniture and redecorated his cage and left him in the laps of luxury.I hope you two have a better time this April
Llama Who time travels ad was more of a son to them tbh
jessey true
Respectfully disagree to the first half. I know it’s pretty hard with the oversaturation of youtube comments to get messages directly to Jenna/Julien, but it’s better if advice is phrased as respectful, General tips for maximum success.
Like, I have a chronic illness and i get a ton of people telling me stuff like “oh do yoga and you’ll be better but forget that I’m the one living with the illness so I probably know more about my situation than them.
Sometimes no advice and just well wishes of support and love is better than ill advise.
- ̗̀clair ̖́- true and I agree having as many fans as they do it can be overwhelming but I also feel like the tips that others give may help their viewers as well but I appreciate you opinion though
some people are just shitty poo poo pee pee boys.
I’m so sorry about Ad. He was such a gentleman ❤️
Rinara Collins a literal sex icon
Is it bad that we are sexualizing a hamster??? Nah he was more than just a hamster.
NKalfut OMG (IM LITERALLY DOING THE JENNA SCREAM LAUGH) OMG
When my ex husband and I were trying to conceive I had 8 miscarriages and 2 still births. I posted on facebook after my first still birth and someone commented that God must have been punishing me by taking my baby girl's life. It was someone I knew my whole life so I know they have a good heart, but it crushed me. It made my grief harder. As far as the “expert”comments, I think people just want to relate and help. Judging is different though. It's all how you say/type it. There is no voice/facial expressions so the words can seem harsher than in real life. Plus a lot of people on here are very young so It's great that you guys address these issues head on. You do it in a respectful and insightful way which is a great way to handle it
Mary Loves Makeup77 I’m so sorry for your losses 😔
Mary Loves Makeup77 I'm sorry to hear that 💕 sending love, you make good points
I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that❤️\
Mary Loves Makeup77 honesty that person is horrible. God doesn’t take babies to punish others. He loves children more than anything. There was probably features your baby girl had that would have made her living be difficult or even painful. My heart is really with you for any pain someone has caused you using God as their excuse. He has love for all, no matter what they do. And He wouldn’t punish your child because of you. I am sorry that you were exposed to such hatred that hindered your healing. Your grief should not have been subject for ANYONE to comment on, let alone make hurtful statements like that. You were not at fault, May you find peace now in your life. God loves you, regardless of anything anyone else tells you, please always remember that. ❤️
Mary Loves Makeup77 I am sorry to hear that. Some people honestly think they are well meaning or giving "advice" but actually they lack empathy. Thank you for sharing your story so people feel less alone.
i never thought about how those "is she pregnant?!?!?!" speculations would affect someone with infertility- or similar issues. i never really participated in that stuff anyway, but i just haven't ever thought about it in this light. it's an awful thought! really grateful to jenna for opening my eyes to this & probably preventing me from saying insensitive shit to someone at some point
I. AM. LIVID.
Jenna you are not chubby!! And even if you were who the fuck cares?? You’re happy and beautiful and you’re just an amazing person in general!
Julien I am so sorry that people see you being happy as not grieving for a friend of yours. Being happy after someone passes a way is a way of trying to get through it. Keep moving forward!
I hope both of you stay happy! Thank you both for making me happy! I love both of you! You guys make me laugh every time i watch your videos! I’ve rewatched them a million times! Love you guys xoxo!
julien your hair looks like it was sponsored by twitch
he is twitch
x shalayyaa oh shit
mikkah 🤣
aw i hate seeing you both upset. this month has been terrible for both of you and i’m so sorry for all of your loss and your pain. i hope april brings better days
When Jenna is talking about how people like to play the pregnant guessing game and then talking about what if someone has a miscarriage and having to explain that to the internet and then a bunch of ignorant people become pregnancy experts and saying oh you didn't do this right or questioning oh are you a smoker or a drinker were you eating the right stuff and just stuff like that is what I feel like ignorant people would say and it's ridiculous
Jazzy Boo666 but if they feel the need to leave those dumb comments why can’t they at least open their eyes. Jenna does drink and that’s not a bad thing but we know that if Jenna were pregnant which she isn’t she wouldn’t be drinking
Don't force yourself into a podcast man... I can* see the fighting back of tears. If you need a break, TAKE A BREAK. We will always be here for you guys! I mean if getting up and filming gets you outta the funk and it makes you feel better then right on but just know... idk just feel the best you can. One Luv.
Lance Seaman bm
When I was pregnant the first time, I told everyone I came in contact with because it took us 4 years to get it to begin with. I had a miscarriage. And had to re-explain to each and every person that asked about it afterwards. So Jenna, thank you for being so wonderful in this podcast to people that have been through horrible situations even though you're the one getting picked on by shitty people. You guys are the best and deserve to live life like actual people. Not a sideshow.
Coming from a Mom who has had a stillbirth and being told I most likely will never have a successful pregnancy the rant about pregnancy speculation was much needed. Losing my daughter at 35 weeks exactly 5 months after losing my father was the most grief I've dealt with. These podcasts have gotten me through. I really needed this podcast today ❤️❤️❤️ I am watching right after breaking down over my baby and Jenna's rant verbalized everything I've ever thought.
(I know this is a mess. I'm sorry. Yay panic attacks)
Brittany Anderson I’m so sorry for your losses. I’m only 18 but was recently told that my chances of having children are slim, and having watched my own Mum struggle with infertility (I’m an only child who should have been sandwiched between two brothers), things like this make me so sad because there’s so many great people who struggle with fertility issues and for it to be a game to other people makes it so much harder to deal with things when they go wrong. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through but sending lots of love and hugs, I hope life starts to treat you well because you seem like a lovely human who deserves happiness ❤️
Abbey Z Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️ it's really hard especially being only 21. Your words of encouragement mean so much ❤️ I hope you are able to get past the fertility issues when you're ready ❤️❤️❤️
So sorry for your losses. I too have suffered from infertility & eventually had a hysterectomy. Please keep hope. There are many ways to have children. You’ll be in my prayers. 🙏🏻
Brittany Anderson I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can relate (in a weird way) because I just had a huge mental breakdown, felt suicidal, watched a julien vlog and started having a panic attack. I'm a mess, and this podcast is the only thing keeping me sane at 1am
I hope you have nothing but a happy and successful future! ❤❤❤
When Julien said “Seaworld” and then immediately went “oh no don’t go to Seaworld” I died
I'm pregnant right now in my third trimester, when I discovered I was pregnant I waited a long time to tell friends and family because of an experience of a close family friend of mine. She was asked and pressured to admit she was pregnant early on by family and she ended up being found out and then had to tell her family and friends about the pregnancy. 2 weeks later unfortunately she miscarried. It destroyed her because everyone she knew, knew about the miscarriage and she wasn't even ready to tell people in the first place. That miscarriage should have just stayed between her and her husband. It's a really difficult process to go through and it's a lot more common then people talk about or realize. You shouldn't announce a pregnancy until the 2nd trimester just to be safe and avoid that situation and you shouldn't pressure women into admitting something that they aren't ready to share with the world. She has a baby now and has a happy little family of her own but it took her awhile to bounce back or even want to try for a baby again because of that horrible experience.
I hear what you are both saying about Ad. And as a fellow tiny friend lover I’ve got to say, fuck those people that don’t give space to your grief. Tiny fur babies are a little blessing. And from every video, nay every mention of Ad, you could clearly tell you both loved him and gave him the best life experience possible. It was a beautiful thing for you to share with everyone.
Rest in peace, Adward Sponserhands. We never skipped you
Cakeikins this honestly just made me smile and made my heart pound so hard. Thank you for it!
RIP Ad!
*I love you guys so much. Don't let the negative comments get to you. I need to work on that as well. I've been watching you guys for SO many years and you've come to feel like family. Even your pets feel like family. You've all provided me with so many smiles and laughs and happiness when I needed it the most. You're 2 of my most favorite people in the entire world. Through the success you've stayed so humble, down to earth and personable. R.i.p to little Ad, I'll miss seeing him greatly too. I hope you guys feel better soon and please, don't ever change* 💜
When Jenna and Julien got Ad, his adorable little face immediately made me want to go out and get a little hamster baby of my own. I asked my bf for one for my 31st b-day, and we named her Tatertot :) She was our first pet together, and we absolutely adored her!! Sadly, she passed away suddenly after about 7 months of having her. It was SO hard for both of us, we cried together for a week about it, and we are both still missing her even now, after 4 months. No matter how small your pet is, when they have a part of your heart and a place in your home, losing them is heartbreaking! My heart goes out to you both, but I wanted to say thank you for inspiring me to get my own hamster child and have a wonderful 7 month experience with her! #RIPAD
Dear Jenna and Julien,
We appreciate your unwavering strength in the face of loss, despite being picked apart by millions. We love that you are comfortable enough with us that you can share your experiences, knowing that you may get more negativity from it. This job you have brings joy to millions of people, and the pressure you are under is unfathomable. We love you, we support you, and we will stand by you.
Love,
Dink Fam
Thank you guys for bringing up the topic of being sensitive to fertility issues. After almost 5 years of infertility and having just experienced a miscarriage, I appreciate that you are educating people on the types of comments that may be hurtful.
I'm deeply sorry for your loss. It's a terrible situation all around.
so sorry for your loss.. must be such a hard thing to go through
Honestly most people wouldn’t even take their dead hamster to the vet. You guys obviously cared a lot.
I love Jenna and Julien so fucking much dude. I hope they stay together forever
Good news, they’re engaged :)
@@luna_moth_mars glad I’m not the only one rewatching old podcasts and videos 😂
@@Lauren-rc4er seriously! but watching this is sad cuz comments and horrible people really pushed Jenna to quit the internet like she was saying in this podcast. How aweful
@@denisesisneros6759 i don’t think people pushed her too, she wasn’t “cancelled” or anything like that when other people’s pasts were brought up she realised she did some things in the past that weren’t good so she made the decision to leave i think it was taking a toll on her as she felt guilty:)
@@Kaykay4203 I agree! I think it’s disingenuous and missing the point when people minimize her leaving social media/boil it down to “she was cancelled” or “cancel culture went too far! They even got Jenna!” or whatever. IMO, it’s so not the message of what she said, which I think aligns much more with what you said - that it was her own choice as she grew and felt uncomfortable with past decisions of hers or of making any other missteps as she continues growing. (:
when jenna chuckles and smirks to keep her from crying over Ad is the most depressing thing i’ve seen all week. i love you jenna and julien, you both deserve the entire world and more. rip lil guy, rip Adward ❤️
time stamp?
@@annalauryn3497 bruh
I'll fight anyone who says mean stuff about dead pets. People laughed at me for being sad about my fish dying when I was a teenager. I had that fish for 7 years and was very attached to it, doesn't matter that it's "just a fish," like sorry that some people experience empathy lmao?
officer k I'm sorry about your loss, fam
officer k loved the last sentence
Exactly! Ppl will say oh get over it already or criticize them for not grieving long enough. Its insane
I agree, I have rats as pets which are highly misunderstood animals. I have lost 3 of my boys in total but my most recent loss, Flin, was the hardest. He was such a good boy, basically a miniature dog. I’ve been told “it’s just a rat” or “ew gross! you have rats?!” and although I can sometimes brush it off and educate instead, other times it just hurts.
KMJPets I had rats too when I was younger! I remember crying at school and people would say the same nasty things, like “Ewww, you had a rat?” It sucked. Rats are so sweet
My condolences to you both 💕 sorry about all of the toxicity that you’ve had to deal with while you’re in pain.
I never comment on RUclips. I don’t really talk to people that I don’t know. I watch both your channels and while I think I know you both, I know the you, you both share. So I don’t pretend to know either of you because in reality, I don’t. I think in some universe, Julien and I would be super tight, but what do I know? I can remember tweeting you both over some troll issue a year or so ago and you both liked it and I felt like I got a celebrity’s attention. I have since attempted to tweet you both once or twice and I should’ve stopped after the first. Ha. Here’s my point: I don’t tweet you or comment your guys’ videos because quite frankly, I didn’t think you actually read them so I didn’t see the point. But then I heard this podcast on iTunes and was bothered knowing that you guys get negative and ignorant comments/tweets and you read them. So because of my silence, I felt like part of the problem. I have said before and I will continue to say that Julien is EXTREMELY talented. His editing skills and success with LMT is astounding. And Jenna? Cmon, girl... I’ve been watching you since your days with that east coast accent. I was trying to think back what the first video was I saw of yours and it was probably the one with the face girls should make to get guys to go away. That killed me. I have watched every single video since. Even the ones on your forgotten vlog channel lol. I’ve been there through your past relationships, when you got a puppy, then another puppy. When you moved. I’ve watched your relationship with Julien grow right in front of me. But all that time I’ve invested in your life and your content, does not give me or anyone else any stock in your life. NO ONE owns you. Jenna, your confidence is radiant in your commitment to make your viewers laugh or feel entertainment. You both are incredibly brave vlogging your lives as it opens you up to criticism. You’re incredible people with great hearts for people and animals. Hopefully some of this genuine love is louder than the hate and you actually read this contrary to my previous assumptions that you don’t. I mean, if I had millions of views and thousands of comments, I don’t know if I would read them all, but I’m sure curiosity would lead me to read a few so I hope the universe leads you to reading this at a time either of you need to read it. You have no bigger cheerleader in your corner wanting you both to continue to succeed than me. I’m sorry to you both for my silence.
Zachary Films this is such a wholesome comment
this MADE MY DAY
This is beautiful! I felt empowered just reading it, my goodness!
This is such a beautiful, human comment. Thank you, my dude.
This is dope af. So much love
I’m really sorry that you lost Ad, you loved him and he had a great life as a little guy. RIP Ad🧡
For what it's worth, I think you guys would make great parents. There really aren't many other people on this website that seem as responsible and warmly empathetic as you guys 💪
Ad could not have found better parents
My son was stillborn over six years ago. Strangers online have told me I deserved it, accused me of ending the pregnancy myself. I've also had people say the same about my fluctuating weight, "omg she's pregnant and hiding it" it's devastating. Six years later, it can still make my bones freeze in trauma and I can't even move. I appreciate you both speaking on it when you posted this two years ago and even now. Sometimes I rewatch the Podcasts because I miss Jenna and this one finally came back up and I finally wanted to say it. Thank you.
You didn't deserve that happening to you. It's wasn't your fault. Sending you a big hug
I’m so so sorry for your loss ❤️ I hope you’ve been able to find some peace with time.
to hear that mean comments are getting to jenna makes me so sad and mad! *THEY CAN TURN ON THEIR LOCATION AND CATCH THESE HANDS* i love you guys and hate it when you guys are going through hard times. 💜
Taylor McClain MEAN COMMENTS??? Where??? Nooo not my momma
I'M READY TO THROW DOWN LETS LINK UP AND DEFEND MOM
Kayla Hargrove I’m in!!!!
Taylor McClain Those comments she was talking about weren't even mean, they're insensitive though for sure. I don't understand how she would get bothered by them though when she has so many people that show her support.
Taylor McClain they can catch my damn hands too. And a few shovels.
People who comment that losing Ad is "no big deal" have never experienced a connection to an animal or have never lost an animal. We raise and love our pets as if they are our children - it's absolutely devastating when they get sick, injured, or pass away. Those who have never experienced such a beautiful connection could never understand what Jenna and Julien are going through.
Yea, I agree with you, that’s why it’s hard for those people to feel empathy, because they have never had pets or the opportunity to have that “family” connection. It’s not because these people are heartless, or psycho, they just never experienced love for a pet, like see them as family and be so close to them. Not their fault. Not everyone can have the luxury of having a pet, like not enough space at home or their parents won’t allow it or they just don’t want to have pets. Everyone is different and likes/loves different things. But people still should be respectful of other people’s feelings, you may not agree with them, but just respect them, someone is sad because of a loss of a pet (what they consider a family member) don’t be an asshole, they are sad comfort them.
Next Julien should dye his hair bright neon green so in every podcast he’s just bald.
Georgia omg omg OMG YESSSSSSSS
they are literally in this position and you are talking about his HAIR!!! You ungrateful person!!!!!!! You are trying to make jokes but in this position you shouldn't try. Im sorry i am being mean but you need to be supportive. :)
Noah Estep how would that be offensive? they love to laugh. ya they have had a hard month but georgias comment wasn’t mean
Noah Estep it’s totally still supportive to make funny jokes. Lighten up the comments section a bit. In my opinion.
sorry i was just really mad. when somebody attacks or offends jenna in any way.. ooooooh ima get real mad.
I love that Julien literally makes the products worse as he goes. He's like The Anti-Salesman.
julien's hair matches with his twitch shirt and that makes my virgo ass V HAPPY
right?!I was living!
Jenna’s hair matches her straw kinda
so satisfying
I notice that too !!
i am a virgo and i also thought this lmao
JENNA: I am definitely one of those people that has joined in the speculation of celebrities, not necessarily youtubers, but I’ve taken place in wondering and looking into things like Kylie Jenner’s pregnancy. I apologize for people like me, Jenna, I never considered that it might be inconsiderate to those who struggle with fertility. I’m also sorry because it’s just insensitive, and none of my business, and in a world of social media it’s so easy to forget where boundaries are (not that that is a legit excuse). I think you explained it really well, and I’ll think twice now when passing the tabloids...
EDIT: Thank you everyone who left such kind and sweet replies! It really made my day.
LolliGiggles your comment is so awesome. It's so nice to see people taking responsibility for their behavior I try to do that too but sometimes I suck at it. Good on you partner
It’s AWESOME to see someone willing to grow like that and admit to it. It’s an amazing thing to expand your worldview, and I know she hasn’t commented, but I think Jenna would be super proud of you!
You sound like an awesome person! I'm sure most people (including myself) did't stop to think it the way jenna explained. It's so cool you admitted it like that, most people wouldn't
Such a great comment. Eye opening, more people like you are needed. Much love
My heart warmed reading this. The fact that someone is willing to look internally at their own actions and make changes in response to constructive feedback is how this world grows. We all need to do a little bit of this, now more than ever.
On the subject of pregnancy speculation, consider overweight women, too. It's embarrassing when someone, even a complete stranger, asks if you're pregnant when you're already self conscious about your weight.
Ellen Mayo I’m a server at a wing restaurant, and our shirts are kind of tight, and I helped a customer just order take out the other day because I saw him standing up front and nobody was helping him out. So I go up there he orders his food, and he asks me “so when are you due?” That’s the first time I’ve ever had someone imply that I was pregnant (which I’m not) and the amount of shock and hurt that I felt from those 5 words coming from someone that i was just trying to help out was astounding.
Ellen Mayo Or anyone who is insecure about their body or self-conscious about it.
Though I think it's just a rude and insensitive thing to say to anyone, even most average people would probably feel uncomfortable with such comments, sometimes even if they are pregnant and just feeling self-conscious about the changes their body is going through and their appearance.
It's a shame people feel the need to say things like that and meddle in someone else's business and comment about someone else's body.
I feel similarly about people who comment about how women need to "watch their figure", or how their probably eating or not eating something for that reason. I mean, I'm underweight and I'm always struggling with GAINING weight and yet had comments like that directed at me, especially from men. And it genuinely upsets me, because here I am struggling to be healthy and I hear comments like that, do you want me to be sickly or weak? What if I was anorexic? Do you ever stop to think what a comment like that could do to a young girl? And who are you to comment something like that about their body anyway?
People like that just really upset me, I know they think this is the norm for women, but it shouldn't be and it shouldn't be encouraged, and that doesn't make it okay to say and it just really gets me. (Sorry, I got angry just thinking about it and started ranting...).
I needed this podcast today. I'm coming up on a year of my emergency total hysterectomy and I am still grieving. People ask me all the time when my husband and I are going to get pregnant. It hurts so much. Thanks for talking about it.
I'm sorry this happened to you and well done for getting through it x
I know this comment is a year old but I hope you and your husband are doing well
I never usually comment but I really felt that you should know that I, along with many others, think the two of you are some of the kindest, funniest and most intellectual people the world has to offer. The way you handle everything life throws at you and your ability to communicate such things with your audience is extremely admirable. I have complete faith that you will get through this hard part of your lives and remember that the number of people who admire you is significantly larger than the number of people who criticise you. Keep doing what you do guys, the Dink Fam is always here x
J&J, I am really sorry for your loss, and I know you guys take a lot of comfort in providing Ad with the best care imaginable.
I usually dread getting a reply on my comments (not so much comments on my channel) because I know that, in 90% of cases, the reply will be needlessly snide.
We had a show on here that was called 'It Isn't Hard Being Nice' and really, does it really take so much to commiserate with someone who's lost a beloved pet?
LOL Is that a good thing!? :D
spreading positivity is always a good thing! we need more people like you on the internet
Caitlin Patrick You guys are the best teachers!
I agree, RUclips comments are so vile all the time. It's rare you get a nice response, especially if you're expressing an opinion, even when it isn't hurting anyone.
I had a cop laugh at me because I'm 28 without children, and he laughed and said, "ohhh.. So you can't have children, huh". It was so disgusting, I couldn't hide my feeling of disgust towards this cop. What if I did have fertility issues? It's so disgusting
Hide_and_seek love to you too sweetie 🤗😍💖💖
Don’t give your energy. I’m sorry he said that to you.
I’d report that shit so quick. It would never occur to me to make a comment like that to a stranger. I don’t even nag my own friends about if they’re trying yet or not because I think that’s business between them and their husbands alone
that's fkking messed
Kelsey Born I just felt like it was his ignorance. I'm from Brooklyn, and it's very common for women my age to not have children yet. I now live in a part of Ohio where EVERYONE has children. Children have children, so I think he wasn't used to my culture and upbringing living in the city. Plus, it's so hard to even battle with a cop. It really feels like a lose lose situation.
I would hate for my grief to be put on display. My best friend killed herself five years ago, it's been the hardest thing for me to go through so far. But the night before her funeral our group of friends were drinking and laughing together, but the next day was just....traumatic is the best way to describe it. For almost five years now I have gone from having weeks of depression and wallowing in my anger at her, my total sadness of not having her; then to having the best times with our friends and remembering her. I have spent hours cursing at her and throwing her shit around and writing angry letters to her, then writing about my love for her and just missing her again. I just don't know how I would have been able to handle someone else speculating on my grieving process from losing my best friend.
The night before my friend's funeral we all went out to have as much fun as we could for her before we were sad. I go back and forth from missing her with all of my heart to making jokes and being happy about everything we got to do with her. We got judged for wanting to have fun for a bit before we had the worst day any of us had in a while. Grieving is hard and everyone does it differently.
This hit hard
As a woman with infertility issues who has had miscarriages, i fully agree with everything Jenna had to say. It hurts so bad, to lose your child. To feel like every month you're letting down your significant other because you constantly get your hopes up, and are let down every month. And then on top of that, having had miscarriages, being so so so afraid to lose your child if you managed to conceive... it's heartbreaking and it hurts so badly. To hear people ask me how far along i am after i lost my child, or for people a year or so after hearing I'm pregnant, asking me how my baby is doing, despite me having told people about losing my child... it hurts.
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You are brave and loved/adored, I’m sure ❤️
and guys, you were SO AMAZING to your lil guy. don’t let insensitive people steal your joy. comment sections just reveal ignorance. you both are so loved. thank you for sacrificing so much for each other, your animals, and for us. we love you! - the dink fam jam.
When my friend killed herself people started commenting on her IG that it was selfish of her because she jumped in front of a train. All of her social media accounts suddenly got filled up with hate comments. She was dead and people still hated on her. Like she hadn't endured enough when she was still alive. Her family and friends had to read all those horrible comment. I still get sad when I think about that. I don't understand how some people can be so cruel.
ver tsh I am so sorry and heartbroken to hear about your friend. I just can’t understand why the world is so cruel, keep your memories close & remember all of the good moments you have had together
It’s interesting to come back to this podcast and hear Jenna talk about potentially signing off the internet. I hope she feels free now from ridicule or the public eye in general. So many people love you and we all just hope you’re happy and thriving. Okay miss this podcast so will watch more old episodes
You guys hit the nail on the head with grieving. At my grandma's funeral, my whole family was laughing remembering all our good memories with her. We all cried too during certain moments but the natural process of grieving isn't all tears and feeling down. It's smiling about the good times and having high moments as well as being sad. You two are some of the best, most kind people in the world and you do not deserve horrible comments. I will never understand how people can be so cruel to such great people like you guys. Thank you for always being real and honest with your audience. Lots of love to you both!
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I know EXACTLY where ur coming from. I had a heartbreaking miscarriage at 18 years old and I had people telling me I probably got an abortion and I should kill myself. It broke me like never before. And so many times I have had someone say I look pregnant when I wasn’t. It hurts every time. I’m so sorry Jenna. I hope you don’t have to go through shit like this. You are a good person and you don’t deserve that... love you! RIP #ad! Gone but never forgotten!
Julien as long as you aren't hurting anyone, you do you.
That's sick that people are trying to impose an appropriate mourning period. Julien will always carry the memories of his friend with him.
No amount of mourning can change the situation and *it's admirable how Julien is fighting to push forward with his life.*
I love that Julien gets Jenna's "too much" gene when they're playing Snake Oil.
i had a hamster too.. dwarf grey little guy. I loved him so much, he was my baby. My parents also adored him. He lived for 2 and a half years, when he passed i was devestated, my dad came into my room crying so much he couldnt stop, and i had never seen him cry before. The same day the little guy died my dad and i went for a coffee and then to the arcade to have some fun. That was our grieving process. We needed to feel better. Im so sorry for the comments and for your losses, people can be cruel. When i saw the tweets first thing i thought was that Ad was already a grown up hamster when you got him.
This comment is really sweet. It's uplifting that you and your dad took your grief and tackled it together, bonding in the process. Gives your hammy amazing purpose even after death.
I love this, and I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my doggy 2 years ago, she was my only friend since I was a young immigrant kid, and when we were told she had a tumor that couldn't be removed, we decided we had to put her down. That was the darkest day of my life, as we took her to the vet, my entire family was bawling their eyes out, including my dad. There we were, crying as if a human family member died, and 30 mins later we're making jokes about how silly and happy of a dog she was. We went out for dinner and saw a movie the next day. Everybody's grieving process is so different, every amount of grief deserves respect.
oh thats so sad.. im sorry for your fury friend.. Thank you guys for the nice comments, i didnt expect this!!
Also, it's never ok to speculate if a woman is pregnant. NEVER. I do not care if she's 9mo pregnant, never.
That's LMFB unless she tells you she’s pregnant, do not assume anything! how do people not understand this simple thing....
so im in a full bus, should i not give up my seat for a pregnant looking lady because i shouldnt assume that she is pregnant?
In Jenna’s video “thoughts from a bathtub” she says “A good rule for asking if a woman is pregnant is don’t. Just don’t fucking do it, ever
please answer this im genuinly curious
AGREED! There are many medical reasons a person could *look* pregnant and aren’t!
I fully agree that we are so rude in our culture with speculating/asking about pregnancy. I put on weight in my belly, and I can't tell you how many times people have asked if I am pregnant. I answer "no, I'm just fat" -- because it's a super rude question, but for some reason our society doesn't consider it rude.
This is so important!! I've never understood how people can speculate about creators, or just "normal" people if they're pregnant or not, because if they're not it's extremely rude and just plain disrespectful. Another good point my friend brought up was what if they've been pregnant and had a miscarriage, obviously the body doesn't go back to normal immediately. There's so many things that can be going on in someone's life and it drives me insane that people think they have any kind of right to speculate why someone might have a lil rounder belly or is standing/dressing a certain way.
Same. If I gain an ounce of weight it goes to my lower tummy and even I’ve had to take pregnancy tests because I’m like “dang, I look round af” 😂
My momma taught me that unless a lady is standing in front of you when her water breaks, don’t fucking ask if she’s pregnant. It’s fucking rude.
There are also some forms of stomach cancer that make your stomach expand and look pregnant. And how the hell would either of you deal with that if you shoved your nose where it doesn’t belong and that was the case?
I like replying to dinkfam comments, but dang, if it ain’t your business don’t fucking comment on it. 🤷🏻♀️
Allie Cross your momma taught you right! I had to learn the hard way myself, but that happened in my 20s. When women in their 40s ask me if I'm pregnant I am SHOCKED they don't realize how rude it is. I once had an 80 year old man ask me! How did you get to this point in life without realizing you shouldn't do that??
ItsMaddiehbu I have definitely had outfits ruined by this, once someone asks me if I'm pregnant I can never wear that thing again!
BEING IN GRIEVING DOESNT MEAN YOU ARE MISERABLE 24/7. I'm glad that during these difficult times, you guys have eachother and you can still laugh and have those good moments. That's what makes it possible to go through all that. i doubt you'll see this comment but like fuck, some comments are so rude. I've lost family members and friends to various causes which lead to their untimely deaths and it's never easy and neither is losing a pet, a life you're responsible for. You guys seem really cool & I hope that seeing positive comments makes you feel better about the shitheads.
Julian I feel your pain, 12/29 I lost my little brother from a drug overdose. People in our town of course said bad things about him and said things like he deserved it if he chose to do drugs. No 19 year old kid deserves to die because he turned to drugs because his mental health problems weren’t getting properly treated. He tried so hard to get off the drugs, in and out of jail and rehab but when he returned home his friends were bad influences. On top of that exactly a month later, after spending about $3000 on vet bills, my cat Dean passed away from FIP. Like you guys I very much love my cats and treat them like my children so this hit me hard. I went into a deep depression shutting myself out from the rest of the world cause I couldn’t handle all the loss. Meanwhile I get those types of comments, your brother deserved it, it’s just a cat, etc. and it just tore me up more. I hope you guys don’t have to deal with more insensitive assholes like this, love you both. Thank you for continuing to make your vlogs, videos, and podcasts to help me smile through these hard times. Dink fam.❤️
Danikins I’m happy you felt like sharing I know it helps to at least have it out to make positive for someone else! Dink dink
I'm so sorry you lost your brother. :(((( he will forever be in your heart and with you in spirit
Thank you so much for sharing this story. I have an older brother was addicted to drugs. He's now within his first year of sobriety. I don't have any contact with him really but I hear he's doing well. I sometimes worry that he'll relapse and OD and I'll be torn between saying, "He's my brother and I miss him" or "I'm not really that upset." Your comment changed my perspective a little bit and now I feel like I have more sympathy for my brother. I'm so sorry you had to deal with those losses. Stay strong. ❤
Mickey Craith thank you, I’m happy your brother is in recovery, I hope he is able to stay sober and reconnect with you and your family. ❤️
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I hate that the internet finally made Jenna sign off for good but honestly happy for her that she doesn’t have to put up with it anymore. Every human being deserves respect and compassion.
I love and respect you guys so much for speaking out against the pregnancy comments especially, but the grief comments also. Like people making fun of the Parkland students, that they were smiling in photos - ALL grief comes in waves, many people cope through nervous laughter, and those moments of brief joy/feeling support help people survive their worst experiences. A friend is potentially going through a loss and when we chat, there are serious convos mixed in with funny anecdotes because people are PEOPLE going through tough things - they aren't ONLY the tough things. You need to remember your humanity through the heartbreaking things and believe maybe there is joy in getting through these dark times. I am so sorry for your loss of your friend, Julien, and of losing Ad, and those shitty comments Jenna. That really sucks and you can tell it's a topic you are really passionate about, from seeing loved ones going through those experiences - it's really important and validating that you spoke out about it.
Julien talking about the comment he got on the video where he explained the suicide made me instantly tear up. How can people be so cruel? You guys are so deeply involved in your community and for someone to say something like that, even if you weren't, is horrible. I'm sorry people like that exist. I'm sorry they feel entitled to respond in such ways. I'm sorry they don't understand the hurt.
Just spotted a fellow dink watching this podcast. To the girl on the 3rd floor of the library at Utah State, dink dink
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Lmao that sounds like a CraigsList misconnection
Am i the only one that listens to these to fall asleep at night
All the time. Sometimes meditation music but I love zoning out to these podcasts, gotta love them fire segways. 😁🔥
My boyfriend gets so mad because hell come into the bedroom and it's dark, and all hell hear is "dink, dink.." lol. I just find it so soothing.
Skm18 every night this podcast or H3
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i do every night and during my commutes. about to doze off now 💤
What the fuck? I was happy for Julien seeing that he can find some happy moments despite his grief, every normal person would be glad to see him smiling and joking. And it sucks what people are writing about Ads death, so cruel... I hope these are just spoiled kids who never had to deal with these awful feelings. But some day they'll have to and I hope there'll be someone to make them feel even worse.
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Samara Morgan THIS. Julien's "brief grieving period" is so ridiculous to me, the fact that he can find happy moments through all this is such a relief to me, plus we see like 0.01% of Julien and Jenna's lives, just if you see either of them happy in a video doesn't mean they aren't suffering? Have some respect people.
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