Is It Wrong To Want A Better Life Away From Family? Moving To Australia 2023 Series
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- Опубликовано: 11 окт 2024
- Is It Wrong To Want A Better Life Away From Family? Moving To Australia 2023 Series
Often a move to Australia can be taken the wrong way by family members, but we are here to talk it through.
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I 100% needed to hear this today! Me, my partner and our daughter moved from Leicester to Somerset in the uk and my family did not take it well at all! And that is only a 3 hour drive away! Now we are planning our move to the Sunshine Coast QLD I haven’t told the yet, I’m genuinely scared of their reaction. But I’m doing this for my little family, give our daughter the best life possible! Thank you ❤
How did it go? My parents didn't take it well when we moved 3 hrs away too in the UK! Now we plan to move to queensland! 😮 So worried because my parents are getting older xx
Maz, thank you SO much for creating this video. I wish I had something like this 1.5 years ago when I told my family I was moving to Australia. While most of my friends and family back home were supportive, others were furious that I was moving away. I hope anyone who is struggling with the guilt of moving abroad sees this and feels encouraged. Thanks for being so positive! Cheers, Kaitlyn xx
Maz & Ben, when you look at how healthy, happy and well adjusted the girls are, you and Ben did the right thing by the girls and your new family. I applaud you. You are great parents. Anybody else could only wish you health and happiness. Most born here Aussies understand that you gave your family the best chance at a great future. I honestly believe that when your girls are grandmothers and we aren't here any longer, the girls will say, 'Mum & Dad only did the best for us by moving to Australia'. 👏👏👏 The viewers of this channel think you are great parents. Your girls will appreciate that more as they become adults. ✌
100% that's how I felt. no one cheering me on! but here I am 8 months on... smashing it on my own 🇦🇺✌️. x
I’m happy for you….
Absolutely NOT wrong - You didn't choose which country you were born in, that decision was made for you. It was a great decision for your parents, but you guys are individuals who are big people now. It's never selfish to want a better life for your kids and your future generations - It's a choice my parents made leaving Hungary and Czechoslovakia back in the 50s, and I'm so grateful they did. We have so much to be grateful for here, and life for kids here is second to none. Don't ever second guess that you've done the right thing guys. ♥♥
It would have been much harder for your parents in the 50’s, it would have taken remarkable strength xx
@@TheBAMFamalam Yes, they spent 7yrs in the camps in Italy after being displaced in Hungary during the war, before being accepted into Aus. A very common story for a lot of second generation Aussies like myself xx
It’s incredible that family/friends try to pressure you into conforming to their idea of how you should live. I personally don’t understand how any of those that don’t give support (yes, they can be sad and miss you) can say that a person is selfish- isn’t the other way around? They are manipulative into trying to guilt you into following along with their program not even considering your needs. Incredible!!!!!
You are amazing and I love watching your videos .
While totally supporting adults and parents making the best choices for their circumstances, I'd like to offer the perspective of the people left behind. We are grandparents whose daughter and s-i-l moved with our three grandchildren to Singapore for five years. Although we never let it show, in fact only expressed our very real happiness for them, it was devastating for us to go from frequent in-person contact to an eight-hour flight away. We visited each school holidays, they came home for Christmas, but the sadness outside those times was constant. Until you become a grandparent, it's hard to explain how connected you are to your grandchildren, and the pain you feel with separation.
Totally agree.
My daughter decided she would like to follow in my sister's footsteps and travel Australia working in the outback. So last yr she turned 21 and did just that. It was never an option to stop her in any way. She is currently in a small community called Ngukurr NT. If Iweres to visit her, it would be a 4hr flight to Darwin and a 2 day drive. So you don't really have to move to the other side of the world to be isolated from family.
I am so proud of her living her dream
its not like the ol days - we now have internet / phone / facebook / zoom plus airplane travel - family is important and modern tech makes us all closer - best wishes to you and the channel
Thank you 🥰 It sure is easier, we feel like we do still see our family because of video calls 🥰
For a grandparent, even one in IT, electronic communication does not replace sitting reading to a littlie, or building block towers with them, and not every retired person can afford airfares. We support our children, so we are happy for them, and swallow our pain. But it's important to understand that it is there.
Dear Maz and Ben...you are an inspiration to all INCLUDING your UK family via your UTube connection...you are always close...
Awww thank you 🥰🥰
You new guys all have a great big Aussie family 🎉 🙌 ❤
We sure do! 🥰🥰
I think if family and friends really do love and care about us enough to want the best for us, they'll be happy to help and support us to achieve our goals. If you're unfortunate enough to have family and friends that can be a bit toxic and aren't supportive of you chasing your goals and achieving a better life, it might be a good thing to leave them behind and get away from that sort of negativity. Either way, if moving to another country is the best thing for you, do it. If for any reason it doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world. So long as we still have a planet to live on, all of us can always wipe the slate clean and start again.
If I may share my story. I moved to the UK from the Philiippines as I married an Englishman. It’s 16 hours away from home and family by plane. My husband and I have been on LDR for 5 years and finally being together was a dream come true. And then my mom passed away just 4 years after I moved to the UK. It really rocked me to my core. The flight back home to attend my mom’s funeral was very traumatic. And the thought that I am very far from my family when something bad happens is very sad. And to go back to England to grieve far from my family - it made me so depressed. I had paid a very high price to be with the man I love. I still live in the UK but I am hoping that my husband can get a job at least closer to the Philippines so I can have the chance to be with my family more often. Even for just a couple of years.
As a Aussie, even moving to another state can the same. Just trying to catch up that suits all parties may be difficult. Cheers and enjoy. Shane.
We were similarly worried about telling our family and friends that we were moving g to England for some time. Surprisingly the person I thought would kick off the most (my mum) was the person who responded the best - she just said, it’s your life and you have to live it the way you want, just promise you’ll come back.
The hardest were friends and to be perfectly honest it’s made it crystal clear about those friends are keepers. There are those who have made an effort to keep in touch, and others who have been completely silent until they heard we were coming home.
I agree that it’s about the life you want to live and provide your children - other people make their own choices about their life and the same should be for all.
Don't move to the UK it's awful at the moment, there are nicer more stable countries to move to. I can't wait to get away from UK ( do wish you a fantastic future in your new chapter) x
So good that your Mum was supportive, I’m so grateful that Ben’s Mum was, I don’t know how we would have coped without her behind us 🥰
There are some friends we don’t speak with anymore, but as soon as we pop back it’s like we’ve never been apart xx
@@laurawood4592 We’ve been in the UK for four years now and agree it’s a rough place to be right now. It probably feels worse for us here at the moment because I’m a nurse and we are at complete breaking point. Positive thing is though that we are moving back to Australia in July.
@@intrepidnurse5659 aww that's amazing that's my dream for my family. I am also a nurse and agree with breaking point. Least you tried it and have a way out. Hope yous have an amazing fresh start x
You’re not wrong about that. My family and I moved to Australia when I was 8 years of age, it was a scary experience at first and I did miss my relatives a lot. The good thing is that they’re a phone call away, and we can see each other over video calls.
Well done Maz. Positive always beats negative.
Absolutely 😁
We all have our Right Path. It’s different for everyone.
It's a very important topic and I'm glad you're addressing it. Btw, really like this new format!
Hands 10 to 2 on the steering wheel brother Bear!
Lol not what they are taught these days. In cars with airbags that is the best way to have your hands degloved
Is Ben a truck driver?? At the beginning of this vid you mention he delivered to Woondum NP. You kept me and the misso sane whilst waiting for our visas. But it always bugged us wondering what Ben does for work 😂 anyway if he is please do a vid on uk lorry drivers becoming ozzy truckies cheers. Oh and thanks for the positivity 😁😁
We are about to make that move
Maz your amazing and Ben what a bloke
I was on a working holiday in NZ when my father accepted a job transfer to London so I also joined the family for the 2 years over there but thinking back there must have been a certain amount of guilt leaving ageing parents but it would have been an opportunity for other members of the family to step up to help them .. still I am sure they would have felt some guilt or pressure not to go ..
I think there’s always some guilt even if you have family support, and especially if you have children ❤️
@@TheBAMFamalam i think u guys have made the right decision as everyone seems happy which is a good indication! You certainly are an asset to Australia✋
I can understand both points of view… Everyone should be able to live for themselves and make their own choices, but where elderly parents are concerned I get why they would feel let down.
Leaving siblings is one thing, leaving aging parents is another. I could never do it or take kids from Grandparents. Every family is different, some are closer than others. I would be very sad if my kids left the country as we could never afford to visit being retired ourselves.
Ps you all inspired me 🇦🇺💕 thank u x
Best video ever 😜
Great video you both. I have lived in Australia for 17 years it is amazing place to live but it does have its drawbacks. Like us Aussie kiwis we can not get any money off the government if you loose your job doesn’t matter if you have been paying taxes for the last 17 years. Because they bought that rule in 2001 . My children are Aussie and I’m the only one that was born in New Zealand. I am now separated from my Aussie wife and don’t get to see my children anymore because they live in Brisbane and I’m in Auckland. I love the Beaches life style etc . Rent is cheap depending on where you live. Rego is disgusting price over there. If you both want to know anything don’t hesitate to ask me any questions
We moved a 6 hour flight from our home state within Australia ( yes Australia is that big)😂
That was all very dep i.e., considered
And tips guys me and my partner are taking the plunge?
well it must be hard, yet with the tech now. how far are you really away. My mother and her sister and my grand parents came here in the fifties, yet in that time you were further away from family yet all they had were mail and telephone. Now you can talk face to face and be other side of the planet.
Yep come to Australia so you can find the free loaders in your family asking for somewhere to stay 😜😂