BUHAY SA AMERIKA: THE JOYS AND PAINS OF RAISING FILIPINO-AMERICAN KIDS IN AMERICA
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- Опубликовано: 7 июн 2024
- Our experience, joys and pains in raising our Filipino-American kids in America. Dedicated to my Mama who, in my opinion, raised me well.
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This is so touching to hear from a mother's perspective. When one of my Dad's friends from the US, asked kung pwede magpasundo and makitulog overnight sa amin (before sya umuwi sa province the following day), nagulat sya because I accompanied my Dad. Never daw gagawin sa kanya ng daughter nya yun. Makipagmeet nga lang daw for lunch date, hindi na pumapayag ang anak nya kasi hassle to drive and may mga aasikasuhin kahit weekend. So halos hindi sya pinagbibigyan ng daughter nya na makipagmeet and kwentuhan. And naiinggit daw sya na I went out of my way na umuwi sa bahay ng parents ko ng 10pm para lang may kasama ang Dad ko magdrive hanggang madaling araw, kahit nagre-rent naman ako mag-isa. Naiyak ako kasi mejo naiiyak din sya because one his regrets is hindi sila close ng daughter nya. Nagtry naman daw sya pero iba ang naging upbringing and peer influence ng daughter nya in America. Whereas, ako, is hindi naman need pakiusapan pero once nalaman ko na mag-isa Dad ko, I just did it out of love. I just felt sad na his sacrifices seem to be repayed with indifference and he seemed to be a malambing Dad who tries to keep in touch with his daughter. Pero ang Dad ko is sobrang tahimik lang and hindi malambing, yet we often keep in touch and update each other with our ganap in life and whenever we meet, kahit madalas naman, I still hug him and my Mom na para bang years kami hindi nagkikita. Anyway, my parents have both already passed on and I'm glad that I did the things I did and that my brother and I spoilt them with local and international travels and concerts and even material things (even luxury bags like LV na they didn't ask for but were happy to receive), kasi maigsi lang pala ang ibinigay sa kanila na buhay. ❤ They didn't even get to retire because they passed away at ages 59 and 61. But I'm left eith so many wonderful memories with them that I can come back to until the end of my days.♥️ Sorry, napahaba ang kwento ko😅
awww! i love your story! thanks for sharing. You've been such a wonderful daughter, someone every parent would wish to have. I'm so sorry that you're parents passed away so soon. so appreciate your time watching and sharing.
Beautiful story ❤
Not all children are hard to raise up in America, even in the Philippines they’re hard raise and no manners at all cause by the social media. Let’s lift up everything to God when it comes to raising our children!
i absolutely agree i pray for my children everyday was shock when the 1st time you heard your kids say that F word 😢☹️ 6-10-24
they're copying western ways, which they should not. teach them to be respectful and polite like the traditional Filipino culture.
In every family, there seems to be a member who goes against the norms, regardless of the parents' efforts to instill their values.
May similarity nang konti situation natin, pareho din kaming nurse na mag asawa and we have an only son that we raised here in the US, ganyan din anak namin , when he finished high school we tried to influence him to take up medical field but instead he went into software engineering . I warned him to study hard and stay focused sa awa nang Diyos he was able to finish bachelor’s degree in software engineering, at that time job was scarce and experience is hard to come by so I pushed him to enlist in the Air Force. Since he joined the military he has been very disciplined that we were surprised that when he is home his room is very orderly and his bed is well made. He does his own laundry, fold and iron his own clothes and helps us do things at home. It was night and day coz before he mostly spends his day playing computer games and watching anime movies and his room was so messy. Total transformation and I am so thankful that I pushed him to join. Now he loves his job in the Air Force and he has been traveling a lot mostly overseas for his assignments.
That crossed my mind, too. What if my son joins the service? It would probably change and structure his life too. So glad to hear things turned oiut so well for your son. thanks for watching!!
“A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself.”
I totally agree.
Unconditional
this is how i am with my children. i dont have a high salary so kids took a loan fr the govt. oldest got 2 bachelors n the youngest last yr in university. very thankful they take their studies seriously. also, i said to them for you to save money, stay home everything is free.
enjoyed watching your vlog, salamat.
Salamat din for sharing.
Real talk thank you for sharing
I can totally relate, you’re narrating it so nicely ❤
Sending you love and hugs ate Gi! ♥️ this video is really something.
So true, actually comparing their generations to ours, ang laki ng difference. Tama ka Ate G, keep on saving. Kasi hindi tayo forever healthy and forever wealthy👍🏼 Pwede ka ng gumawa ng short movie, you are so great. Ang sarap pakinggan ng voice mo😍😊🥰
Awww! Thanks Carla❤️❤️
I really love your vlogs ate Gi. It is full of wisdom lagi.
Love it!!! Swak na swak talaga on point ka Ms. Ghi
Nice ate Gi, I really love your blog, very informative, transparent and honest experienced. Continue to share those kind of videos. More power po ate Gi.
Nice video, real life story. Thanks and God bless! 🙏🏼
Relate na relate ako dyan ate G. 👍
I can fully relate. Infact, you just presented our family story very well ...
I relate to most of your experiences as a family. Our first son, who is now 27, just recently moved in with his gf of 6 years last May. Shortly after that happened, two people close to me, my father and a friend, advised me to have a conversation with my son about his future intentions with his girlfriend. So I did, over brunch on Mother's day. I told him that the girl in a long-term relationship, especially a live-in situation, is always at a disadvantage, and so forth. As parents, we were glad to know of their plans to wed in two years. With that said, things can change in the future, of course, only God knows.
It’s great that he listened to you. You’ll soon be a mother-in-law. my best to your family. Thanks for watching.
My son moved out last year at the age of 27. He and his white girlfriend bought a house of their own. He told me he's proposing next month and looking forward to their wedding very soon.
I love your videos, Tita ❤
I love this video.
Ngayun lang ako mapapacomment 😮. Sobrang real talk po nito. Very eye opening to everyone. Nagbabago tlga ang mundo.
Love your vlogs! It’s a reality check on almost everyone who migrated to the USA at a later age. Indeed there is no place like home. We too are in the process of making plans for retirement but it’s still a long way but your videos help a lot in planning for it. Thank you! ❤
So glad to hear my videos are able to help you. Thanks for watching my videos!
This video made me teary eyed. I have A, one, son. Emphasize 1! He is our world. But as he gets older, he wants to claim his independence. As hard as it is, I must slowly let go so he can grow to be the man God intended him to be and not what I want him to me. He is a good son, respectful, kind and loving. So in that sense my husband and I did our job. But it is still hard to let you. 😢
You are blessed to have your son. Thanks for sharing and for watching.
Very relaxing! I love your videos !
Thank you so much!
ill be with my mom and relatives soon.. this helps me to reflect if ive been a good daughter thank u po
❤❤very nice content Mam Gi 🥰
Salamat po Ate Gi for sharing your story on how you raised your children in US. Meron din kaming mga kids maliliit pa sila 4 and 5 years old. Ramdam ko yung sadness na someday alam namin na aalis din sila sa bahay and will be independent at wala kaming magagawa mag asawa kundi to support them on their own life journey. Sa amin naman we are raising our kids as bilingual, purong tagalog ang usapan namin sa bahay. We made it a rule na pag asa bahay tagalog dapat mag usap. Kahit na nag start na sila mag school very fluent silang dalawa pareho sa tagalog. We hope lang na sana as they grow and more exposed sa school ay ma maintain namin pagka fluent nila sa tagalog.
that is great! keep at it. i've seen kids born and raised here who can talk tagalog fluently. enjoy your time with your young kids. thanks for watching!
100% relate na relate ako dito Ate Gi.😌 ❤
Thank you for the story of your life. I can relate the feelings you feel. God bless!
sharing my feelings and knowing that others feel the same way somehow lessens the pain, kasi i know, that I am not alone. thanks for watching!
Ate G i’m so happy i found your channel and please continue sharing your videos as they are my therapy to help me fight boredom (home bound and living with multiple sclerosis) god bless
Salamat po. You will be in my thoughts in making future videos. Praying for healing for you.
15 yrs old po ako ng pumunta ng US..iba talaga pag lumaki mga bata sa US...mga anak ko parang ganyan din but tinuruan ko pa din sila ng ugaling pinoy...now im 65 retired na..enjoy na lang talaga..salamat sa video po.
Not retirement!! Lapit na rin Kami. Thanks for watching.
This is a very beautiful Vlog - thank you for sharing ❤❤❤
Thank you for your kind words, and for watching. You don’t know how much I appreciate your time in watching and writing comments. 💙
I truly understand where you coming from. As a mom I just try my best to guide my children but at the end of the day like you said they are adult and they can think and make decisions for themselves na. Sometimes it’s hurts to see when they make mistakes but that’s how they learn and grow. If they are not making mistakes they are not living, growing and learning. Dahil we are continuously learning, improving ourselves even when we are adult na. Overall I agree with you. Enjoy lang ang buhay.
This is so true. I have a 13 yr old son and a 10 y.o daughter. Good thing before kami
Umalis ng Pinas me and my wife were able to instill Filipino values sa kanila and they are good kids. Just turned 2yrs here in the United States 🇺🇸 this June and while watching your videos nakaka iyak. Me and my wife are also both RN’s. Watched your videos and i’m learning a lot.
I feel you po, nakakalungkot lang ma compare mo yung mga batang laking pilipinas kesa dito , mas close ang family and that is what i miss . Love your channel napaka calming ng iyong boses nakaka relax .
salamat po!
thanks for sharing your experience kabaleyan God bless you and your lovedones
same to you po. God bless!
Love this vlog! Calm, no pretension, and classy. You did a great job raising your kids.
It’s a different generation. M learning from my Gen Z grandkids. Watching from Palm Springs, California 🇺🇸
Thanks for watching! Appreciate the kind words.
Hi atë G ,, I thought I’m the Only one who has been in this situation, akala ko emotional lang ako, thank you for sharing your story ❤
It’s the sad truth .As I watched this video I literally let my husband watched as well .We can relate this one especially we are in a foreign country and kids getting older .It’s true the love is there but it’s not same as we brought up by our elders before .❤❤❤
Nice content. Great editing as well. I see you were recently in Las Vegas. We were just there over the weekend. We're visiting from the Philippines, and we're enjoying our vacation so far.
Enjoy your US visit. Thanks for your kind words.
Keep uploading more videos po ate Gi. I love your content and the way you narrate po❤❤❤
yes.. ate Gi is a very good narrator.... and a big plus is her gifted/soothing voice.... she reminds me of Tiya Dely, Helen Vela and Charo Santos of Philippine radio...
@@AnAAnA-rk7vo Maraming salamat po. I’m honored and humbled to be compared to them.
Thank you! I’m so touched.
Hi Gigi It's Becky Lozada.. so nice to bump into your yt channel.. I started watching your channel and I loved it. You have a gift of storytelling so clear, simple, straight forward, so honest and no bragging, You tell it as it is. You have been living here in the States and I can see you still value our culture. Hope to see you again in Vegas. Best regards.
Becky!!! We miss you! My warm regards to Kuya Noel. Thanks for your kind words.
New subscriber Ate Gi. I enjoy your vlogs po. Watching from Sydney, Australia🇦🇺
Thanks for subscribing Apple!!
Love this content Ate Gi!❤
Thank you 🤗
I can relate, very true everything you mentioned, I have only one child.
Ang ganda po ng vlogs nyu very straight to reality my kids are still small but watching your vlogs makes me more convinced that everything is temporary.They are my life but I know someday I have to let them go and be a person who they wanna be.Thank you for sharing your wisdom as a mom.God bless po😇
anticipating that we need to let them go one day makes the pain a little less. Seeing them independent and self-sufficient will make you happy. that's how i felt. thanks for watching.
This is so relatable! I feel you. Going through this season myself. 😢
I can relate to everything you discussed in your video. I’ve the same experiences with my kids while they were growing up here in the U.S. except that they still can understand and speak Tagalog and Ilonggo. I love your videos. Keep it up. Following…
they can still speak tagalog and ilonggo!?! wow! that's amazing!
Na encapsulate po ninyo ang buhay ng mga pinoy sa amerika. Saktong sakto po ang kuwento ng buhay ninyo sa amin. Halos lahat ng pinoy na nandito, ganyan na ganyan din po ang mga kuwento! I agree with your thoughts and observations sa mga anak! Parehas na parehas po!
Ang daminating ganito ang buhay. Somehow it’s comforting to know that we are not alone. Thanks for watching.
Everything you said is so true .I miss those days when I can plan a vacation with the family anytime I want .now iba na may kanya kanya na silang plans and super hirap na dahil sa schedule nila.
Grabe, naiyak naman ako
Really love you videos po. Keep them coming. I’m an RN here in Virginia Beach, VA and very informative and relatable po ng videos nyo. Ang soothing po ng voice nyo Ate Gi.
You're a nursing peer! thanks for watching and for your kind words!
i love how realistic you are🤗
thank you!
Love your videso. Subscribe to your channel a while ago and have looked forward to each new content you make. Your video editing has improved alot! Your storytelling is superb! Keep it coming 💯👍👍
thank you po!
I love this content! Although I've chosen a different path by staying home and homeschooling with my husband's average earnings as a welding inspector, I could still relate to this. We had to give up material comfort to influence our children's formation and education. It wasn't easy, but it was the most rewarding decision we ever made!
the things we do for our children...
thanks for watching and for sharing as well!
Nice❤ kaboses niyo po si Ms Ms Charo from.abs cbn😊
You're a very good videographer. I love your B-rolls. But most of all, your storytelling skills stand out and makes it very engaging.
thank you for your kind words!
Hi Ate Gi, I’m delighted to see your new vlog. Inaabangan ko palagi. I can relate to your stories . Honestly , your vlog made me force to sign~in sa RUclips kahit medyo mabagal ako . Hindi kasi ako techie. I’m 74 yrs old and na-hooked sa RUclips. I like the way you vlog , classy and fun to watch. We live in Coral Springs, FL since 1981 and my husband and I are not in the medical profession but eventually landed in good and stable companies. We have two kids and thankfully they are both in very good life situations. Thank God we are now enjoying a piece of American Pie. God bless and keep vlogging.
Thank you so much for your kind words. And for sharing your story. It’s a goal we have as well. We’ll get there soon, God willing. Please let me know about your channel. Three years ago, I knew nothing about content creation. Making RUclips videos has been therapeutic for me. The flurry of video production somehow ebbs life’s worries. Thank you for following.
I don’t have a channel Ate Gi. Yours is my most-Watched vlog, others I watch randomly .
I can relate sa dressing up. My son does the same thing and i hate seeing him not dressing up nicely.
He likes to travel with friends also & enjoying single life first before settling down.
I can relate with you.❤🙏
Tita Gigi hugs! I love your vlogs, maka antig damdamin naman po yung ending nito! Marami po akong wisdom na natututunan sa inyo. Nurse din po ako dito sa Clearwater Florida, 40years old na po ako at pinag iipunan ko rin po retirement ko sa Pinas. God speed po lagi sa inyo!
Nakakantig no? 🙂↕️ That’s life. Enjoy your nursing journey! Take care and my best to you.
Just discovered your vlog new fan here
thank you!
i love your vlogs ate Gi. We are starting a life overseas too with a 5 year old. I learn so much from you ❤
Thank you ❤️Hug, enjoy, savor every bit of your time with your little one.
Hello po relate po ako dyan kakatuwa naman po mga vlog nyo po ito po ako umiinom ng Tea habang nanonood po sayo nag rerelax habang tulog si bunso hehe
salamat! sana hindi nagising si bunso. 💙
Great insight to parenting Ma'am. I think for filipino parents here in the US, the ultimate struggle is how to preserve being a filipino but still adapting to American culture. My personal perspective is we need to take all the good in both cultures. We can not completely live as an American as we were raised differently but it does not mean that their ways are wrong or is the only right way. As parents, teaching our kids the right values should be universal, and the best we can hope is that our kids will turn out to be good human beings.
totally agree with you.
As if nakikinig ako ng MMK narration ni Ms. Charo 😅 ❤
Love your videos Tita. My kind of plan after my Nursing career.
I always feel honored getting compared to MMK of Ms Charo. Salamat!! ❤️❤️
Your Message and cinematography is outstanding! Yes, nursing homes is the option here in the US...
Nursing homes are not free. $5,000 a month at least or with insurance!
@@magenta7006 it's beginning to be popular here in the US where 3 generations live in the same house. The older can't afford to live independently. The sandwich generation can't afford the rising cost of housing. The younger generation are in need of better care!
This is how we improve society!
I can relate to everything you said in the video, because their teenage years were the hardest until they finished college. But once they had their own family and kids, they changed so much because they now can relate what we been thru . Now that we are retired , we enjoy babysitting our grandkids.
i love hearing grandparents say they're enjoying babysitting. I don't see myself being a grandma anytime soon, but i hope to enjoy my lola duties in the future. thanks for watching!
Love your videos po.. Nakakarelate ako, I have 2 filam kids 😅
thank you po!
napaka warm po ng voice nyo
salamat po.
hi tita! love wathcing your vlogs😊from texas po😊
Thank you! 🤗
Tita im watching from sydney, we are young family as well, i enjoy watching your videos cause we can relate living abroad, good luck po in your retirement🫰
thank you! sending my warmest regards to your family in Sydney!
Relatable ang kwento mo po. Now that may 18 year old na din ako, and a 14 year old. Nakita ko ang similarities nang family nyo sa amin. It has joys bringing children into this world but its true that as parents especially as a mom, marami ring sorrows na pinagdadaanan tayo because of our Children dahil iba talaga ang influences nang western culture sa kanila. Praying na someday ma realize nila ang Filipino Family Values na gusto sana natin na makuha nila at sana ma incorporate nila with their families someday.
We can only pray and hope for the best for our children. Thanks for sharing and for watching.
New subscribers here po😊. I really love your voice mam Gigi,. 😍
Salamat po!
You are true to your blog , no inhibition, you narrated your true life .
my videos are therapeutic to me. i'm able to share and express what i feel without much details and hearing from viewers that they are able to relate provide comfort that i'm not alone. 🙂 thanks for your kind words.
True.
Going back home nakita ko that some families tried to raise their children to be independent na rin specially those who could really afford and slowly adopting western culture mix with Filipino culture in high rise cities. Good thing i still children with good values of our culture. The reality is time and events are changing and kung ano yon nakikita ng iba gets influenced by trend.
Mam tama ka ang anak ko Ganon din sila habang Lu maki sila .
❤❤❤ sobrang relate..😅
Hay, nako. Napaka bakya^ at ma-O. A. Haha. What a beautiful show.
What's going to be different with us is we'll let our boy choose what career he wants, and study for it in the university of his choice. We hope he makes a good choice.
This show is a gem. Someone in the family is gifted at film.
Thank you.
OA ano? But thanks for watching. I film and edit the videos.
agree!😊
Love your vlog. Your voice is soooo soothing and its such a down to earth vlog.
And killing their passion😅 medyo tiger mom but i agree.
Hindi nga medyo eh… tiger mom nga ☺️☺️
I can relate most definitely, especially tayong mga pinoy. We always tried to do things right for them. There seemed to be a clashed in generations. It’s hard. We could only pray for the best 🙏
That is true. We can only pray that things will be alright.
Your 100 percent correct po...
Yes thats true, when they go in live in, u cant say NO to them bcos they have there own life to live.
Raised 2 girls born here, independent and very determined, frugal an resourceful. In their 20s and not fond of branded items, raised through thrifting. They gave us our independence as they are on their own. They have opposite personalities, but our love dont differ. Prayers and faith do make me strong.
totally agree about faith and prayers.
Relate dito te Gi.. medyo kinakabahan lang pag mas tumanda na mga anak ko.. Yung lalaki ko 13 na, nahahalikan at madalas pa mag hug ngayon, pag ka hug ko sya sinasabi ko sa kanya parati, “mamimiss ko to kasi pag lumaki ka di mo na ma hug si daddy, mahihiya ka na” sabi naman nya i-hug pa din nya ko madalas kahit matanda na sya. Sabi ko naman, sinasabi mo lang yan ngayon, but I will keep reminding you these words so when that time comes I can tell that I was right 😂. Pa guilty-hin ba😂. Dami kami relate sa kwento mo dito.. Thanks for sharing
Sana maging effective ang guilt trip style mo. Lol!! Keep expectations low para hindi masakit. Thanks as always for watching!!
Hi gigi si Nanay Emily your new subscriber from New Zealand
hi Nanay Emily! Salamat po for subscribing! Meron na akong subscriber from New Zealand!
Well said. Iba talaga. I have 2 daughters. Both are so Americanized, but the younger one has more pusong Pinoy. She's more appreciative & proud of being Pinoy. While the older one is the opposite.
it's amazing how the same upbringing produces 2 different types of personalities, no? ganun din kami ng sister ko. we're very different. thanks for watching!!
hello po, bigla po lumabas sa feed ko yung vlog nyo na ito, ang ganda po ng boses nyo hehe. ang ganda ng content. im a new mom of a 7mos old baby girl. naiisip ko na din po namin magasawa pano palalakihin si baby dito sa canada. madmi po ako worries dahil iba na dn po generations ngayon. kami po batang 80's at 90's lumaki. sb nila madali maka adapt ang mga kids if gusto bilingual sila, hoping to see more contents mo. btw im a nurse too sa pinas but here in Canada, bank teller na po ako. ang layo po db hehe
...ang layo nga. lol! i hope you can get to practice nursing there, too. enjoy your baby girl. thanks for watching!!
Great video!
I'm single, but help raised a niece.
Prayer is the only thing I can help her with.
Tulad ng nasa vid mo, lumaki ring matigas ang ulo, and feeling kaya na nila ang mundo,simply because they're earning their own money.
🙏🇵🇭💓
that's so true. all we can do is pray and have faith and trust that things will be alright.
ate gi salamat naman sa video mo. Alam mo takot din ako para sa mga anak ko lalo na bunso kong lalaki nasa grade 11 siya and you know the environment here talaga iba. Every sunday j make sure nakakasimba kami. Sana hindi magbago mga anak ko. ❤
sana nga, ma-retain nila ang pagsisimba tuwing Linggo. thanks for watching!
Thank u for sharing my son like ur son amboy❤ kids same values and culture and tradition but I want my son to learned my language study he's own tagalog❤ now I wil teach him ilonggo yes the advantage is still God first ❤ur very blessed am.a single mom and been homeless almost 3 yrs with my son all motels in LA we stayed 💖 buy survivor as a mother ges my last Cards I had 5 children grown up and 2 grandchildren. BUT GO GO GO LNG NOTHING IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD SEEK YE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD AAND ALL THIS THINGS SHALL BE ADDED UNTO U❤❤❤❤
so true! Your story narrates how strong you are. you're an inspiration. thanks for watching!
I love your video very calamado ka kung masalita and same here what you experience to your kids. Ayaw pa Nila mag asawa have 35 yrs old man daughter she’s living with the boyfriend for 2 yrs they got a house 2 yrs ago
Everytime I see my daughter Ang ask ko where’s my grand kids?
Ang sagot Nya mom when where young u said don’t have a baby now naman I’ve been asking where’s my grand kids
Mahirap man sa atin as a parents we need to embrace it Ang kinalakihan nila dito sa US
You’re right. We can only embrace it. Thanks for watching.
The world is changing, not only in America, but even in 3’rd world countires, sabi nga pag nakining, thanks much, pag hindi, pray much. 🙏
i agree!
Cinematic videos po Maam Gigi real talk children growing in a western cultures..while foreign guys wish to live in the Philippines..
you have a point. lots of foreigners retire in the philippines, while many western born Filipinos, like my kids, don't want to live sa atin. kanya kanya. thanks for watching!
Kadalasan mga pinoy na lumaki sa states o ibang bansa napaka aarti,mayayabang at mga isip superior pagdating dito sa Pinas..D naman lahat pero karamihan..
@@TyroneTyler-ui6rx See?halatang halatang pinoy pero american daw..😁😁
New subscriber here❤
salamat po!
I'm a new follower cause I am interested with your topic/s. Have watched few of your videos especially the plan to retire in Phil. This may be a little out of topic but I am curious with your cinematography and video editing skills. Are you filming and editing your videos yourself? Great video and interesting perspective!
Hi! Yes. I film and edit the videos. So you can imagine how long it took to clean and film my son’s messy room. Hahaha!! But he was game. Thanks for subscribing!
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😭😭I was watching and started to cry..I am very close to my kids, I gave up everything my work just to take care of them, to the point that I even forget about myself. I’m scared to know that they are living me someday, and I feel that to my daughter.. since she’s soon nasa Senior na sya. It’s just hard.
oh, don't cry. We do have to let go sooner or later. and when you see them successful and self sufficient, you'll feel that you've done you're job right. thanks for watching!!