My personal experience in explaining a concept/ goal: 1) always be considering the other person hasn't even begun considering your/my train thought. 2) being concise and explain the simple points, then you can explain the details. 3) Remember: Yes and No are also answers, start with that and then, as for point 2, deepen the concept you want to explain. 4) how, who, where, when and why , if possible, all need to be clear. 5) be short, 30 sec at the time, let the other interact, even if is not responding directly, ask if there are any questions...then continue. In short if you can supply the other with some value, then you will be listened to, the approach is important because people are different.
@@marthaimmer5675 ...a salesman! :) and an INTJ which in theory do not go well together...but the necessity of communicating complex thoughts, taught me to adapt...even if I am an INTJ at the core, I appreciate to "detach" from the mental "figure". Call it an exercise if you want.
Not brutally doing brain surgery with truths, logic and deep thoughts that contradic their opinions and perception of the world without anesthesia is a good start. (It's hard to do because contradicting people is a lifestyle by itself xD)
This is why i almost hate human being (aside from the beautifull INTP and INTJ). they can't stand for truth and logic. People ready to kill to preserve tradition.everytime it is tradition other truth. I really don't feel to be Human considering the way they react to deep logic and analysis. In the other hand as INTJ I always like someone to prove me how wrong i'm so that i don't have continue invest in the wrong path.
@@DRAVIASTUDIO very intelligent people and even IN**’s hold a surprising about of non-logical/illogical thoughts and beliefs. ‘What is your favorite color? ‘Red’ ‘Why?’ ‘ humm I’m not really sure, I just like it’. Changing a IN**’s logic is fairly easily using ‘new truth’. Changing NE** or NI**’s non-logical ideas is very difficult. Determine which one (logic or non-logic) you are dealing with and communicate accordingly.
I love this. It creates an image, a goal. A bit similar to the "Helicopter method": give them a quick overview and go towards the details. This makes it more effective and easier to understand.
For the most part, I am not that intentional. I talk for discussion. To explore people's perceptions, thoughts, etc. It's rare that I blast unless there is a certain purpose or something I want. Even then, it's not really blast. It's just asking what I want or stating my idea.
You’re 100% on with this one. Know your audience whether it is 1 or 100, this will help you know how deep you can go. Everything is geared to the takeaway, the points are tied directly to the takeaway and the points are benefits (features tell, benefits sell). It’s ok to lead with the takeaway, read the audience, if there is interest bring up the benefits. Stay shallow to start don’t deep dive unless directly encouraged. Remember that 99.9% of the people will not know as much as you do about the information.
Not sure what you mean by inauthentic, however understanding and using effective communications skills are learned things and don’t change basic personality traits. I spent about 25 years learning and working with others to practice speaking skills in Toastmasters and people didn’t change they just learning a new skill set. With few exceptions people are hoping to persuade with their communication even if it just where to go for lunch. It isn’t about going shallow it is about being persuasive.@@jessenceq3250
This was so useful!! I love it. I have a lot of introverted friends and because of that I’ve learned to edit myself, but this made so much Te logic to me and helped 😉.
I can't tell you how relatable this is to me right now! I been appointed in a manager role, despite some of my team members being older/ been in the company longer. I have been struggling with this
As Ni user dom function (INTJ), I loose people when I try to explain something on the spot unprepared (untangling the intricated web of info in my mind, often thinking while speaking), going to pluto back and forth ;-) I am at my best when prepared and having a framework in mind, speaking to the point. Using colors topic is really helpful. Thanks!
Hi LiJo! I think that you are speaking to us the INTJs, don’t you? Well, it’s a very accurate description of what has been happening to me until few years ago, when I realized something close that you explain perfectly here. I’ve learned that no one has enjoy the travel we usually take in our very accurate analysis, and in fact nobody cares. So going straight to the point is the best.
Another great video, LiJo. You are an incredible gift to the world! When you begin with the end in sight, you not only reach it quicker, but if you're lucky, when you arrive, you finally understand how things began and how you got there. It's not just about the journey or the end goal, it's about what gets illuminated along the way. For those who dare, you will get close to understanding all of it. Just remember to strengthen your heart first. Your internet friend ... to the end... and then back again.
@@InternetLiJo Thank you, dear. I'm afraid I may have said too much already, so I will disappear for a while. That doesn't mean I won't be watching. But, with advancing Fi age, I realize now it's best not to tango in public -- however tempting and beguiling your patterns may be. Fondest regards, and remember: courage is the threshold through which freedom reigns.
(ISTP CPB/(S)) It's as if this video descended from the heavens and into directly into my RUclips feed. Blast 3rd gets me rambling. People sometimes go catatonic... I must now retreat to my fortress to process this Ni wisdom. -=Thank You=-
Simple answer, I dumped my skill points into my intellect not my charisma. Most people I joke or shit post cause most want to do small talk and I get bored and start making jokes. Those who I feel wouldn't mind being taken to the tangent station to another universe that is where the fun lies and than have to take a day off from people. Also you sound so smug you taking a spot for the info you gave me :p
Yeah, but how are they supposed to know I did the math if my point isn't being drowned in it? (in all seriousness, adding a TL;DR helps out a lot. I always get more likes when I post TL;DRs)
What works for me as a blast last is open the conversation with the main point shut up and wait for the questions of others for the details yes, is painful for us Oe's but practice makes key.
LiJo, you clearly use the channel to communicate, not to explore ideas. How do you explore ideas before you make the videos? Do you let it all congeal in your mind, do you talk it out with a conversation partner, do you explore it on paper? I'm just curious how an Ni/Te preps for "videos that communicate."
I have a bucket that I continue to study in over time. I’m always playing in that same bucket. Every so often something will trigger an idea that I think should be communicated and it’s as if the whole video writes itself based from things in the bucket. Hope that makes sense
@@InternetLiJo That is so fascinating. My INTJ husband has to prep a lot of material for his work and he will think about the ideas and issues for weeks, then do it all in one or two passes with very little drafting. That sounds very similar to your process. I do somewhat similar work and have to explore everything on paper, create outlines, move things around, organize it. Otherwise, for a reader following any ideas in my writing will seem for them like a journey through a jungle for long-lost treasure with nothing but a machete and a 16th century map. I am always shocked at how clear and concise my husband's writing is with very little time spent out in the "real world" with the ideas. I will say that this has made me wonder if I am an Ne-user and not an Ni-user, but I also wonder if it is the case that I am an INFJ as I think and this just the way I have to dig my Ti out of myself and explain my ideas extrovertedly.
As someone who is compelled to blast (probably because of the volume of information I consume) this was a particularly useful video for me as I'm trying to learn the Objective Personality dimension. I just found this channel and can already see the value. Thank you very much for putting this together. I think mine are Consume Play Blast Sleep, but that might be wrong. As an INTP, that sounds about right, particularly as a turbulent/Ne/ambivert/abcdefghijklol subtype. I'm still trying to understand things from this dimension, though. 🧙👻🛸🤖 Anyhow, glad I found your channel, I look forward to the rest. Probably gonna blast it with my opinion. Sorrynotsorry in advance. XD
Yep, I noticed I had a tendency to jump from point A to point C if their connection made sense to me, or on the other end give too many details, and hope the other person followed ! Especially with my boss, we get along well but it seems we talk two different languages sometimes. Preparing a checklist of points to talk through to get my point accross is very helpful ! (ex : what the situation is, why it matters for my job overall, what question I need an answer for) But naturally in more ~fluid~ social interactions it's not as easy 😅
You're especially good at this, therefore your channel does have some property in my brain lol. I can't stand it when people go 2 or 3 tangents before getting to the point; I can't even remember what the topic was at times. I've also noticed talking a lot and saying nothing to be typical of liars, flatterers and other insincere entities 👾
Something a lot of blasters forget- BODY POSITIONING. So many blasters in my life will corner people and talk at them for five straight minutes. If you’d give them room to move around, they may listen better without feeling threatened. I’m not joking, btw. How info is conveyed is just as important as what is being conveyed.
I think this was a perfect follow up video to "that's not blast"... definitely starting to resonate more with being a jumper. I am curious though: with people who have blast first or second, that's still a skill that must be honed? Or, due to the fact that it's one of the saviours, would it naturally tend towards being more concise/direct?
Great question. I think Blast naturally develops with its precision with age. I wasn’t good at this level of blast when I was a kid, but I could throw down a great debate. This is kind of just what the normal grown up version looks like I guess.
Crackin up over these outtakes. Will you make more videos on active listening? I have more issues than an ISTJ, when engaging at work. And you totally get real estate. I just took notes off of this video. Started typing right before you said that :)
Or they're not listening because they forgot there was a video playing and just stared into the void while following an idea in their heads, but their love for art brought them back when you started talking about painting and had to restart the video... totally not me
but if you have high Ne, what then? focusing on one point is basically going against your nature. obviously it can be done, but it takes a massive amount of effort. i don’t struggle with that personally despite most likely having Ne high in my stack, but i see a lot of NPs who do. what would you say to them?
They have to find some middle ground and work towards this direction. When communicating it’s less about you and more about the other person, so in its very nature there’s some self sacrifice involved ;)
@@AS-jq4lb yeah you'll have to use those functions regardless of what type you are. You need to be aware of the audience's reasons for being in the room, what interested them to be there and check every once in a while how they are reacting to what you're saying (e.g. if they seem sceptical, stop and brach out a bit, give more information; if they seem to agree intuitively, skip the extra info, it's unecessary)
@@nora_8080 i’m pretty bad at this tbh. but better at staying on track and sticking to a single point (i’m probably a double observer). i don’t think people get confused when i’m saying my piece but on the other hand, i - and thus my message - tend to be instantly forgettable. my Blast is probably pretty low.
@@AS-jq4lb I had a similar problem tbh, I was aware of people's values but gave zero fucks. My highschool english teacher noticed this and frequently gave my class essays, but the word limit for me would be lower. She would help me cut out paragraphs by making me consider: -Do the people that will read this already have this information? -Is there anything that they know intuitively (that I didn't need to explain)? -Will the conclusion of the essay change something in their life? (e.g. convince an english teacher that you doubt 0! actually equals to 1 and they will wake up the next day living exactly the same way as they would if they hadn't heard that) -Do they care? (I wrote how I was so angry and stubborn at first but then saw that what you care about is a possible solution to your problem and deviating from that will just make your attention span shorter) Try writing your speeches first with those questions in mind and before you improvise something make sure you've had 5-10 minutes to think about it.
Has anyone ever told you, “You kind of look like Scarlett Johansson in your RUclips profile pic? Because you REALLY do, at least to me. Don’t know why I felt the need to say that but, yea...” ❤️ your channel! I’m INFJ too 😊
@@InternetLiJo your welcome! I just found your channel and I’ve got to say I’ve just recently found out I was a INTJ and I always wondered why I felt like such a alien and how nobody got me. I thought I was just weird and wasn’t able to form normal human connnections. Then I watched your videos and I was like “OMG, I’m not the only one!” I cannot tell you how happy I am to have found your channel! Literally a life changer! ❤️
James Joyce's "Ulysses" is the masterwork of a master novelist, and a giant in modern literature. It is also a book known for its obscurity. Joyce commented "I put in so many enigmas and riddles that it will keep the professors busy for centuries arguing over what I meant, and that's the only way to ensure one's immortality". Personally, I watch your videos to see your dog's cute butt.
This video is particularly helpful to me as I live with an ISTJ. As well as being detail-oriented, they also hate unsolicited advice or convo without the determined end. Thanks again Lijo :))
In times like now things are being split into black or white and you say one thing that slightly leans one way you are grouped with that side and they will just ignore you as if you are wrong.
To me, I'm pretty sure no one speaks to me because I'm intimidating and I'm introverted. they also think I'm rude because I'm introverted?? I respect that they're leaving me alone, but the reason is sloppy. But if they don't wanna speak to me, I'm fine.
Sounds like preferring extraverted judging communication styles to introverted judging. I guess I can agree that focused J- communication like this has lots of uses, but doesn't P style communication have a place too?
So what if you start with the end in but then you notice people have no idea how you reached that conclusion so you start breaking it down and end up with different analogies trying to bring a point across? How do you steucture it more properly as an ne dom blast laster? Should you write down bullet points that build up the pattern before hand? But I often have the problem that I can't properly and precisely formulate so I just end up making many analogies for the bukket point cause I feel like noone gets what I'm trying to say. Advice is very much appreciated.
I swear to god my blast last is a problem 😂😂, I got play second though :), so now I come across as an ENFP because of how I jump from Ne to Fe ahahahahhahahahah, I am an INTP though, a very extroverted one.
Yeah, but if you can't explain the wonderful nuance, complexity, and unknowns, what's the point in the first place? I don't want people leaving with a takeaway, I want them to leave with ideas. So yeah, some people won't listen, but whatever.
Example of the second reason: She knew several reasons why people don't listen but only gave two major ones. There is one more thing I think is very important though: Ni and Si doms nitpick each information they get before they store it in memory, and because they are I...J types, they won't be open to rediscuss problems they already have the answers for. Different from Ne and Se doms, Ni and Si doesn't really doubt what they know, so if you want them to consider you idea, you can't just blast it and have THEM do the work of comparing it to their solution and see which one is better because that is not going to happen. You will have to start with why you think their conclusion is incorrect, bring out the misconceptions they have or missing information that they don't have, THEN introduce your alternative. For God's sake we are not close minded, if anyone can discover for a couple of hours inconsistencies in my worldview that I've spent years to perfect, I am listening to whatever that person has to say. Even if they are wrong too, they still have my respect.
As an engineer i used that. I explained my idea in such a complicated way, that they sometimes said "do what ever you want, as long as it works"
maybe that's a useful technique too lol
To be honest I sometimes abuse that method in my line of work just to dissuade arguments from difficult clients 😂
because Ni information is so rare sometimes, taling about complex patterns are so inusual.
My personal experience in explaining a concept/ goal:
1) always be considering the other person hasn't even begun considering your/my train thought.
2) being concise and explain the simple points, then you can explain the details.
3) Remember: Yes and No are also answers, start with that and then, as for point 2, deepen the concept you want to explain.
4) how, who, where, when and why , if possible, all need to be clear.
5) be short, 30 sec at the time, let the other interact, even if is not responding directly, ask if there are any questions...then continue.
In short if you can supply the other with some value, then you will be listened to, the approach is important because people are different.
Great points I agree with all of them 👽
@@InternetLiJo Thank you!!! :) :) :)
You an Si/Te user?
@@marthaimmer5675 ...a salesman! :) and an INTJ which in theory do not go well together...but the necessity of communicating complex thoughts, taught me to adapt...even if I am an INTJ at the core, I appreciate to "detach" from the mental "figure". Call it an exercise if you want.
@@robgoodsight6216 Wow, that's a good talent stack though. You did good on organizing your thoughts on communication in a nice Si way.
As an INTP with questionable social skills, I found this video insightful. Thanx.
You say it's not your intent for having mental real estate in your viewers ... But your grin while saying that has me like this: 🤨 🤣
As an INTJ about to start student teaching this is going to be very helpful. I appreciate the thought put into this and the timing. Well done
All right, so there are several...
I’ve been suspecting that for awhile
Story of my life. Ppl aren't listening to me cuz I sound like a banchee 🙄 - INFP 😂
lol samee!!
Not brutally doing brain surgery with truths, logic and deep thoughts that contradic their opinions and perception of the world without anesthesia is a good start. (It's hard to do because contradicting people is a lifestyle by itself xD)
Hahah it is a lifestyle 😂
This is why i almost hate human being (aside from the beautifull INTP and INTJ). they can't stand for truth and logic. People ready to kill to preserve tradition.everytime it is tradition other truth. I really don't feel to be Human considering the way they react to deep logic and analysis.
In the other hand as INTJ I always like someone to prove me how wrong i'm so that i don't have continue invest in the wrong path.
@@DRAVIASTUDIO very intelligent people and even IN**’s hold a surprising about of non-logical/illogical thoughts and beliefs. ‘What is your favorite color? ‘Red’ ‘Why?’ ‘ humm I’m not really sure, I just like it’. Changing a IN**’s logic is fairly easily using ‘new truth’. Changing NE** or NI**’s non-logical ideas is very difficult. Determine which one (logic or non-logic) you are dealing with and communicate accordingly.
Even when I don’t contradict them the desire to do so is written all over my face apparently. Damn face.
@@blackdogracing The two of you together just gave me a new appreciation for blast. Thanks!
I love this. It creates an image, a goal.
A bit similar to the "Helicopter method": give them a quick overview and go towards the details. This makes it more effective and easier to understand.
It's so cool. Your delivery seems to have become way more confident over time. This was my favourite video of yours so far, thanks!
Thank you! I'm getting there slowly :)
For the most part, I am not that intentional. I talk for discussion. To explore people's perceptions, thoughts, etc. It's rare that I blast unless there is a certain purpose or something I want. Even then, it's not really blast. It's just asking what I want or stating my idea.
You’re 100% on with this one. Know your audience whether it is 1 or 100, this will help you know how deep you can go. Everything is geared to the takeaway, the points are tied directly to the takeaway and the points are benefits (features tell, benefits sell). It’s ok to lead with the takeaway, read the audience, if there is interest bring up the benefits. Stay shallow to start don’t deep dive unless directly encouraged. Remember that 99.9% of the people will not know as much as you do about the information.
Thissss yes 🙌🏼
I find this as being a bit inauthentic. Ti user related?
Not sure what you mean by inauthentic, however understanding and using effective communications skills are learned things and don’t change basic personality traits. I spent about 25 years learning and working with others to practice speaking skills in Toastmasters and people didn’t change they just learning a new skill set. With few exceptions people are hoping to persuade with their communication even if it just where to go for lunch. It isn’t about going shallow it is about being persuasive.@@jessenceq3250
I really need to be mindful with "starting with The Why".
Same! I’ve been practicing. It’s harder than I thought it would be which just goes to show how little I consider the other person’s experience
Great advise. Come out with a statement that begs them to ask "why?", "what", "when" helps methinks.
This was so useful!! I love it. I have a lot of introverted friends and because of that I’ve learned to edit myself, but this made so much Te logic to me and helped 😉.
I can't tell you how relatable this is to me right now! I been appointed in a manager role, despite some of my team members being older/ been in the company longer. I have been struggling with this
As Ni user dom function (INTJ), I loose people when I try to explain something on the spot unprepared (untangling the intricated web of info in my mind, often thinking while speaking), going to pluto back and forth ;-) I am at my best when prepared and having a framework in mind, speaking to the point. Using colors topic is really helpful. Thanks!
Hi LiJo! I think that you are speaking to us the INTJs, don’t you? Well, it’s a very accurate description of what has been happening to me until few years ago, when I realized something close that you explain perfectly here. I’ve learned that no one has enjoy the travel we usually take in our very accurate analysis, and in fact nobody cares. So going straight to the point is the best.
Being married to someone with diagnosed ADHD has really helped me with blast- you gotta get words out efficiently and quickly before SQUIRREL!
A blaster lesson from a blaster, perfect 👌🏾
so hard as I love the runaway conversation with no destination
Another great video, LiJo. You are an incredible gift to the world!
When you begin with the end in sight, you not only reach it quicker, but if you're lucky, when you arrive, you finally understand how things began and how you got there. It's not just about the journey or the end goal, it's about what gets illuminated along the way. For those who dare, you will get close to understanding all of it. Just remember to strengthen your heart first. Your internet friend ... to the end... and then back again.
Thank you 😊
@@InternetLiJo Thank you, dear. I'm afraid I may have said too much already, so I will disappear for a while. That doesn't mean I won't be watching. But, with advancing Fi age, I realize now it's best not to tango in public -- however tempting and beguiling your patterns may be. Fondest regards, and remember: courage is the threshold through which freedom reigns.
You know it’s a bad sign when someone actually responds to what you said like they were listening and it catches you off guard.
Lmao fortune cookies though
@@InternetLiJo My Fe approves of this inside joke
Thank you. You have given me something small to start with.
your dog is soo cute and thank you so much for this video didnt realize that this is where is was messing up!seems soo hard to do though!
(ISTP CPB/(S)) It's as if this video descended from the heavens and into directly into my RUclips feed.
Blast 3rd gets me rambling. People sometimes go catatonic... I must now retreat to my fortress to process this Ni wisdom. -=Thank You=-
Glad you found it wise. I find you wise!
almost forgot...good video as usual! :)
Simple answer, I dumped my skill points into my intellect not my charisma.
Most people I joke or shit post cause most want to do small talk and I get bored and start making jokes. Those who I feel wouldn't mind being taken to the tangent station to another universe that is where the fun lies and than have to take a day off from people. Also you sound so smug you taking a spot for the info you gave me :p
😂🥲🖤
Yeah, but how are they supposed to know I did the math if my point isn't being drowned in it?
(in all seriousness, adding a TL;DR helps out a lot. I always get more likes when I post TL;DRs)
They don't need to know everything ;) keep your secrets.
I like drawing people into my private world though. You are lucky to not have high Fe. It is so terribly awkward sandwiched between Ni-Ti.
Even we don't fit the world, but we fit on our goal.
What works for me as a blast last is open the conversation with the main point shut up and wait for the questions of others for the details yes, is painful for us Oe's but practice makes key.
Ok this deserve a Pin.
Just encountered this recently.
I just give too much data.
🖤🖤🖤 thats the spirit
LiJo, you clearly use the channel to communicate, not to explore ideas. How do you explore ideas before you make the videos? Do you let it all congeal in your mind, do you talk it out with a conversation partner, do you explore it on paper? I'm just curious how an Ni/Te preps for "videos that communicate."
I have a bucket that I continue to study in over time. I’m always playing in that same bucket. Every so often something will trigger an idea that I think should be communicated and it’s as if the whole video writes itself based from things in the bucket.
Hope that makes sense
@@InternetLiJo Don't you think it's funny how intuitives say "does that make *sense*?"
Instead of...Does that make intuition? Lol
@@InternetLiJo That is so fascinating. My INTJ husband has to prep a lot of material for his work and he will think about the ideas and issues for weeks, then do it all in one or two passes with very little drafting. That sounds very similar to your process.
I do somewhat similar work and have to explore everything on paper, create outlines, move things around, organize it. Otherwise, for a reader following any ideas in my writing will seem for them like a journey through a jungle for long-lost treasure with nothing but a machete and a 16th century map. I am always shocked at how clear and concise my husband's writing is with very little time spent out in the "real world" with the ideas.
I will say that this has made me wonder if I am an Ne-user and not an Ni-user, but I also wonder if it is the case that I am an INFJ as I think and this just the way I have to dig my Ti out of myself and explain my ideas extrovertedly.
@@jessenceq3250 Hahaha I should say that more. Thanks for the laugh stranger
As someone who is compelled to blast (probably because of the volume of information I consume) this was a particularly useful video for me as I'm trying to learn the Objective Personality dimension. I just found this channel and can already see the value. Thank you very much for putting this together.
I think mine are Consume Play Blast Sleep, but that might be wrong. As an INTP, that sounds about right, particularly as a turbulent/Ne/ambivert/abcdefghijklol subtype. I'm still trying to understand things from this dimension, though. 🧙👻🛸🤖
Anyhow, glad I found your channel, I look forward to the rest. Probably gonna blast it with my opinion. Sorrynotsorry in advance. XD
This is actually super helpful, thank you!!!
you described it as i would- i speak this language
Yep, I noticed I had a tendency to jump from point A to point C if their connection made sense to me, or on the other end give too many details, and hope the other person followed ! Especially with my boss, we get along well but it seems we talk two different languages sometimes.
Preparing a checklist of points to talk through to get my point accross is very helpful ! (ex : what the situation is, why it matters for my job overall, what question I need an answer for) But naturally in more ~fluid~ social interactions it's not as easy 😅
I recently tried to figure that out, so thanks.
I usually study the humans I communicate with so I can tailor my thoughts accordingly in order to have my ideas more easily understood...
Useful advice that can be suited for everyone, thank you for a pleasant speech
You're especially good at this, therefore your channel does have some property in my brain lol. I can't stand it when people go 2 or 3 tangents before getting to the point; I can't even remember what the topic was at times. I've also noticed talking a lot and saying nothing to be typical of liars, flatterers and other insincere entities 👾
Something a lot of blasters forget- BODY POSITIONING. So many blasters in my life will corner people and talk at them for five straight minutes. If you’d give them room to move around, they may listen better without feeling threatened. I’m not joking, btw. How info is conveyed is just as important as what is being conveyed.
Great point!
I think this was a perfect follow up video to "that's not blast"... definitely starting to resonate more with being a jumper. I am curious though: with people who have blast first or second, that's still a skill that must be honed? Or, due to the fact that it's one of the saviours, would it naturally tend towards being more concise/direct?
Great question. I think Blast naturally develops with its precision with age. I wasn’t good at this level of blast when I was a kid, but I could throw down a great debate. This is kind of just what the normal grown up version looks like I guess.
@@InternetLiJo It would be interesting to see you do a video on specific types *budumdum ch* of blast.
Crackin up over these outtakes. Will you make more videos on active listening? I have more issues than an ISTJ, when engaging at work. And you totally get real estate. I just took notes off of this video. Started typing right before you said that :)
Or they're not listening because they forgot there was a video playing and just stared into the void while following an idea in their heads, but their love for art brought them back when you started talking about painting and had to restart the video... totally not me
By the time I gotta remember all that my own eyes are glazing over....
lol when you said, "I've taken up quite a bit of real estate in your brain"
Hehehehw 🖤
Planting idea eggs that will hatch is what I think.
- INFJ, the Human Whisperuh 😏
This is really helpful, thank you.
Excellent glad you thought so!
These are such a great blasting techniques. 👍👍
but if you have high Ne, what then? focusing on one point is basically going against your nature. obviously it can be done, but it takes a massive amount of effort. i don’t struggle with that personally despite most likely having Ne high in my stack, but i see a lot of NPs who do. what would you say to them?
They have to find some middle ground and work towards this direction.
When communicating it’s less about you and more about the other person, so in its very nature there’s some self sacrifice involved ;)
so basically engage Fe/Te more? to make sure that the tribe understand what they’re talking about?
@@AS-jq4lb yeah you'll have to use those functions regardless of what type you are. You need to be aware of the audience's reasons for being in the room, what interested them to be there and check every once in a while how they are reacting to what you're saying (e.g. if they seem sceptical, stop and brach out a bit, give more information; if they seem to agree intuitively, skip the extra info, it's unecessary)
@@nora_8080 i’m pretty bad at this tbh. but better at staying on track and sticking to a single point (i’m probably a double observer). i don’t think people get confused when i’m saying my piece but on the other hand, i - and thus my message - tend to be instantly forgettable. my Blast is probably pretty low.
@@AS-jq4lb I had a similar problem tbh, I was aware of people's values but gave zero fucks. My highschool english teacher noticed this and frequently gave my class essays, but the word limit for me would be lower. She would help me cut out paragraphs by making me consider:
-Do the people that will read this already have this information?
-Is there anything that they know intuitively (that I didn't need to explain)?
-Will the conclusion of the essay change something in their life? (e.g. convince an english teacher that you doubt 0! actually equals to 1 and they will wake up the next day living exactly the same way as they would if they hadn't heard that)
-Do they care? (I wrote how I was so angry and stubborn at first but then saw that what you care about is a possible solution to your problem and deviating from that will just make your attention span shorter)
Try writing your speeches first with those questions in mind and before you improvise something make sure you've had 5-10 minutes to think about it.
It was hard for me to pay attention to you talking because your dog in the background is sooo cute... 😍
Yeah, I'm INFP lol
Lol Indie loves INFPs because they can see how cute he truly is!
I only noticed the dog after reading this comment 😱
Has anyone ever told you, “You kind of look like Scarlett Johansson in your RUclips profile pic? Because you REALLY do, at least to me. Don’t know why I felt the need to say that but, yea...”
❤️ your channel!
I’m INFJ too 😊
I’ve heard that once or twice, but thank you!
@@InternetLiJo your welcome! I just found your channel and I’ve got to say I’ve just recently found out I was a INTJ and I always wondered why I felt like such a alien and how nobody got me. I thought I was just weird and wasn’t able to form normal human connnections. Then I watched your videos and I was like “OMG, I’m not the only one!” I cannot tell you how happy I am to have found your channel! Literally a life changer! ❤️
Tough to listen... Ill need to go back over this one at later date.
watching a "how to blast" video is the biggest blast-last thing ever
James Joyce's "Ulysses" is the masterwork of a master novelist, and a giant in modern literature. It is also a book known for its obscurity. Joyce commented "I put in so many enigmas and riddles that it will keep the professors busy for centuries arguing over what I meant, and that's the only way to ensure one's immortality". Personally, I watch your videos to see your dog's cute butt.
This is a very balanced comment and I appreciate it so.
This video is particularly helpful to me as I live with an ISTJ. As well as being detail-oriented, they also hate unsolicited advice or convo without the determined end. Thanks again Lijo :))
"don't use too many colours" - me as both an entp and fan of maximalism... uhhhhhh
In times like now things are being split into black or white and you say one thing that slightly leans one way you are grouped with that side and they will just ignore you as if you are wrong.
@LiJo Okay seriously now, where the heck are you getting these topics from? 👏👏
That big ole forehead of mine lol
Thank you for your Te Fi from all infjs
To me, I'm pretty sure no one speaks to me because I'm intimidating and I'm introverted. they also think I'm rude because I'm introverted?? I respect that they're leaving me alone, but the reason is sloppy. But if they don't wanna speak to me, I'm fine.
Thank you for the good video! There were sevreworl good points XD
Sounds like preferring extraverted judging communication styles to introverted judging. I guess I can agree that focused J- communication like this has lots of uses, but doesn't P style communication have a place too?
So what if you start with the end in but then you notice people have no idea how you reached that conclusion so you start breaking it down and end up with different analogies trying to bring a point across?
How do you steucture it more properly as an ne dom blast laster? Should you write down bullet points that build up the pattern before hand? But I often have the problem that I can't properly and precisely formulate so I just end up making many analogies for the bukket point cause I feel like noone gets what I'm trying to say.
Advice is very much appreciated.
Think "what's the takeaway" and what are 3 supporting facts to backup that takeaway. - This is a great place to start.
This is such an Ni explanation, i dont think sensors might an appreciate this.
I have sensors on this channel!!
Have you ever thought about making videos about different INTJ personality with enneagram since am a INTJ 7w8 and extra rare 🖤
Good video :)
Good to see you around it’s been awhile!
I swear to god my blast last is a problem 😂😂, I got play second though :), so now I come across as an ENFP because of how I jump from Ne to Fe ahahahahhahahahah, I am an INTP though, a very extroverted one.
Your dog is so cute 😩❤️
Isn’t he?! Ugh it’s so annoying
This hurts 😂
Maybe we can talk Akira the Don into curating a LiJo Wave🎧🎛️🎙️🎶
OooooOOO
You seem to have invented a time machine. I just sent you a question and now you answered it 4 hours ago.
TaAaada!
what was the middle part LiJo?
What middle part
Beep boop
You watching my videos instead of answering my texts? I SEE HOW IT IS 😂😉
Is the cat cromching something behind the camera? xD
You mean the dog?
It’s my dog cat!! Hahaha no my mic is just absolute garbage and I need a new one 😬
Working behind the scenes would be cool, since you don't need to be in the spotlight.
Yeah, but if you can't explain the wonderful nuance, complexity, and unknowns, what's the point in the first place? I don't want people leaving with a takeaway, I want them to leave with ideas. So yeah, some people won't listen, but whatever.
Example of the second reason: She knew several reasons why people don't listen but only gave two major ones.
There is one more thing I think is very important though: Ni and Si doms nitpick each information they get before they store it in memory, and because they are I...J types, they won't be open to rediscuss problems they already have the answers for.
Different from Ne and Se doms, Ni and Si doesn't really doubt what they know, so if you want them to consider you idea, you can't just blast it and have THEM do the work of comparing it to their solution and see which one is better because that is not going to happen. You will have to start with why you think their conclusion is incorrect, bring out the misconceptions they have or missing information that they don't have, THEN introduce your alternative.
For God's sake we are not close minded, if anyone can discover for a couple of hours inconsistencies in my worldview that I've spent years to perfect, I am listening to whatever that person has to say. Even if they are wrong too, they still have my respect.
Hmm, what?
LIVE: Lindsay confirms that she both lives in my head and she does not pay rent.
But will she sing rent... in your head.... In five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutessssss
Seeing you I feel as if it’s already summer 😉
What happens then?
Boo. Why trust someonne who is trying to manipulate you rather htan tell you what's true?