Exactly!!! It's not even the devastating fact of the cheating that could be the most messed up part even. That's exactly how STDs are Created & Passed smh. Wtf
@@lorrainesmith.4995I’m sorry he turned out to be o 304. There are so many of them out there. I gave up on dating in my late 20’s, it’s a more peaceful life!
A nurse?! Baby girl, you have a full blown career!!! Get away from that foul demon and build a life for yourself peacefully until someone worth your time comes alone!!!!
@@benmyers9030 She is not angry at all. She's calling him what he is. She is correct to say that. A MARRIED man, who has the audacity to TELL his wife that he WANTS to cheat ....aaaannd he has cheated ALREADY....yes, has cheated ALREADY? Yes, he absolutely IS a Foul demon. She's right.
Uuuhhhmmm, I am with you, but not everybody is as introverted as we are. Some folks get energy, comfort, and shocker - stability - from those they love, like spouses. Heaven forbid ;o)
@@brightpage1020agree but extroverts who don't realize a toxic partner is draining them instead of energizing them is a situation where being alone for a bit is objectively healthier.
My ex-husband (6 year relationship + 11 year marriage) asked me to have an open marriage. When I said no, he straight asked me: are you willing to sacrifice our relationship over this? 😂 I said: of course I am!!!! I thought I was going to fall apart, and I did for a while, but now I am SO thankful I followed my values instead of the comfort of the known.
I’ll bet he still tries to sleep with her too! 🤢 so unsafe. On top of that, what if one of his lovers gets jealous of the woman he goes home to every night-!? She’s in so much danger omg
"Alone with a weight tied to your ankle", more like to your neck! Very well said👏 It's unreal what he's asking to begin with but then to add on top of that that she can't see other men is insane.
It’s not over until it’s over and as much as this guy sucks at the end of the day if she’s the one that files then she’s the one that left. That’s how that works even if it’s justified she will still be the one that divorced him so she’s the one that literally ended the marriage because the cause of 100% of divorces is filing for divorce. I’m not saying she shouldn’t. I’m just saying what the reality is.
She takes vows like “for as long as you both shall live” literally, huh? 🤔 Smart gal. Wise woman. You’re a lucky man. 🍀 You’d be amazed the filth & disgust she is saving you from. Lucky guy.
Haha, my husband was talking to some coworkers before a virtual meeting. They were both talking about how they control the house because they yell louder than their wives. My husband laughed and said "well, i dont yell. My wife is mexican and owns a shovel, a tarp, and tacoma with the off road package". I was making breakfast, and that man got crepes and bacon that morning.
@@stevendavis5095 by your logic, if a woman refuses to date a man who follows redpill content because most of it is derogatory to women, then she probably is single? By your logic are you saying all men are sexist, since any woman who respects herself has to be single? You are indirectly critiquing men, you know.
To the wife, don’t do it!!!!! I haven’t even listened yet and my whole body is screaming no to her. After 9 years of marriage, we opened our marriage. It’s Pandoras box. I now forever will live in the shadow of my husband gf. After 20 years of together, I am broken and the cortisol levels I live with daily will shorten my life. To the wife, run now while you’re still young.
Why are you still with him this is Insanity! What man is worth living in earthly hell and going to eternal hell over?? NONE! He's not worth another night of lost sleep, find your self worth and move on with your life. 17yrs married and been through a lot myself, would Neeever tolerate it again!
Agree. After 5 years I let my partner have a 7 day pass after he kept indicating he wanted to and that door NEVER closes. Cut to: “I want to marry you both and have us all live together and sleep in same bed and have babies together at same time”
I work as a DV advocate, and I highly suspect that caller one is also dealing with issues she's not expressing in the call. That dude sounds controlling, misogynistic, and he obviously objectifies her. I hope she safety plans before formally starting the divorce because the dude is going to freak out when the wife he groomed for cheating suddenly isn't putting up with it anymore. Narcissists hate losing control.
You a hundred percent explained my 19-year relationship. Left with my kids a yr ago. I always thought he was going to kill me if I left him, but little by little, I realized they were just empty threats.
Your comment is offensive. There is never a good age for this to happen to you. There are multitudes of older women that this happens to. Your age doesn’t make it easier. Whatever age you are you have to start over - all over again.
My partner tried this said he wanted variety, I went and booked a swingers event to meet others, I didn't tell him where we were going. He done a 180 after I was approached non stop and no one approached him. He said he didn't want to. I continously rambled on about how I didn't care if he slept with women, he didn't want me to sleep with men. He completely changed after that night 😂. I told him I know my power as a woman and if you want to see that come out and play I will go there. He would literally lick my feet now if I asked him to.😂
@@Flower55949 That's not how swinger events work, it would be considered rude not to approach the both of you together. Furthermore, if you husband isn't ugly women will be interested in him. Single women have more options but if you went as a couple that changes the dynamics.
@ThompsonGrant I got separate tickets so we had the option of entering and leaving alone, fab night so pretty standard. He wanted to sleep with other women so when we arrived I told him that he had permission and to go do as he pleases, he ran in guns blazing and left me, I had a drink and went in after, it was a meet and greet with a small community. He spoke to the bar man and the events couple and that was it. I was approached by women, men and couples. He wanted to leave so we left and went to karaoke bar and I told him I understood why he wanted to sleep with others and mabey I could to said i felt powerful( i didnt i was heartbroken). He broke down,cried and said he didn't want to. Am I saying this fixes everything? Definitely not, I still feel hurt and it had a huge effect on myself, I went from being confident to insecure and depressed. We still talk about it it a joke manner, but perhaps as we get older it cud be something on the table. The folks were all super friendly and respectful which we both agreed on. But yea since then he has went from a Chad to mr gentle
He is never going to be anything different than what he is. It may look different to you from the outside but trust me. He will just cheat on the next one too.
I feel so heartbroken for the wife. That's being told you're not enough, you're not loved and not worthy of loyalty. He sounds gross and disgusting to me. I'm so sorry for her. Yeah she can get manipulated into permission. Doesn't mean she will feel good, that she won't hurt or feel sick and sad inside. It's so cruel. I don't like him!
Sadly, for many women, the negatives you present are nothing compared to the feeling of loneliness these women experience. It’s comparable to the battered-wife-syndrome. My wife and I listened to this almost an hour ago and it’s still bothering me.
He listens to Andrew Tate so I’m not shocked that he thinks it’s an ok behavior. Those red pill podcasters are poisoning people and making money off them
@syn707 it's one thing to feel lonely when you're actually alone. Somwthing totally different to feel lonely in a marriage. I think she'll feel better once she gets out of there and doesn't look back.
When a person wants to cheeeat on you in front of you, this only means that (s)he doesn't respect you & in this case, he literally wants to show you that in front of you. This is the ultimate form of his disrespect. 🙏 Please 🙏 leave 🙏 the 🙏 scene & marriage. 🙏 Especially when kids are involved. I have worked with children & teenagers & some of them suffered even from PTSD due to the animalistic lifestyle of their parents. In my country, there was a mother whose boyfriend said to her he will only marry her when she's willing to open the marriage & guess what happened after she did him the favor? He fell in love with the third person, left the mom & lives now in a monogamous relationship with his new partner. Don't do this pain to yourself. It's not worth your health. 💔
if he wants to openly cheat, i don't know how he respects her or himself. People should be proud of making life with one person and raising a good family.
@@GuidofromPuertoRico Wow I'm not sure how much value I'd place on a man who thinks like that. I just remember getting sexually. harassed in my 20s. I didn't feel very valued.
And this is one of the many reasons majority of women have to file for divorce. He’s happy cheating and coming home to a loving wife. She is not happy with this arrangement. Would the happy person file for divorce?
This! Most of the time when a woman files, it's because the husband has checked out maybe for months or even years, maybe even openly living with a girlfriend or mistress. Divorce takes paper work too it's not easy. Then a lot of men complain that women file for divorce more and that is because he most likely is not bothered with the actual hassle of filing for divorce. By the time a woman files for divorce the woman has been trying and trying beggfing pleading, asking him just come home. And the ñn when the divorce papers are served it ' I never saw that coming'
THIS! EXACTLY THIS!!! Men are happy doing whatever awful thing they want yet expect to stay married. Women go to the effort to actually divorce because they have morals.
Caller: Husband wants permission to cheat John: Has he cheated before? Caller: Yep Who else had zero surprise there? Cut your losses, divorce him YESTERDAY.
Sit him down, have a conversation, record it. Get him to say how he cheated, that he wants permission to cheat but you can't, etc and send it to his family and keep for divorce court.
No, its much much worse. He wants to be married to have someone take care of his dirty underwear, raise his kids, and cook his meals but he wants to also have the perks of being single at the same time.
No, he wants to be married, he just wants to do want he wants. Cause if he didn't want to be married, he'd just divorce her or just not married her in the 1st place. Problem solved easy.
My ex was literally the same thing. Watched a lot of alpha male influencers and had an unwavering hatred of women and justified it by saying I was a good one. When he asked for an open relationship but only for him I left and never looked back. I feel bad that she’s already married to him but it will get worse and she needs to leave. The good times don’t outweigh the fact that someone doesn’t respect you for who you are.
No that is not how sexual dynamics work Are women Loyal when they are in their 20s and high value? No, they play the field. Likewise when men are 35+ and have money and gravitas: we play the field.
Calls like the first make me so grateful for my husband. I know many men like my husband; as many horrible men that we hear about there's just as many good ones. Same goes for women too. Don't let the negative people you hear about warp your view of an entire gender.
Yes let’s not forget this isn’t exactly a show where people call in to share their relationship wins. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Media focuses on where the drama is, not the stability, so it’s biased because the drama is why we all tune in - to remind ourselves how much worse it could be. Phew! 😅
He must believe he’s a ‘hunkah-hunkah-burnin-love’, and she’s totally bought into it, as she briefly mentioned at the end of her call that if she chooses to leave, she won’t have the “security…that I would need.” He’s got her believing that she’s the ONE he married (she’s HIS wife), that he’s provided a comfortable life for, including a beautiful house, BUT those other women are transitory side chicks, simply distractions that he’s got to share his overflow of ‘burnin-love’ with. After all, he returns to her at his home. Dr. Delony’s suggestions were met with “Mmm hmm, yes, okay, mmm hmm.” There’s something a bit off here….I think she’s willing to trade in the best years of her young life in exchange for a particular lifestyle that’s a transitory facade. He will be searching for a new, younger wife within 5 (maybe 10) years, when her prime reproductive years have passed and he can be assured she won’t be having children with another man. This is more than ‘serious ew!’; it’s actually quite sad.
My husband cheated on me 20 years ago. We are now into our 34th year marriage. It is hobbled and crippled us. We love each other very much, but that pain never goes away that betrayal never goes away. If you knew what it was gonna be like later down the road you would never do it, trust me I live it every stinking day. It’s not worth it.
He is demanding the benefits of being married and single at the same time. He is being deliberately very manipulative and will probably try to exploit her vulnerability to try to keep using her after she leaves him too.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've learned that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years back, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to work things out. It was a hard time, but we got past it.
Moving on from someone you hold dear is invariably challenging, but in my experience, I was guided by a spiritual counselor who prevented the breakdown of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
So very true. However asking to cheat while expecting your spouse to just accept it, is way past the point of “doable”. Any man who asks this obviously does not love his wife, respect, or even care for her. If he wants to cheat the only answer is to leave.
32 years for me. Started over, 4 years ago. I believe it was probably covert narcissism. Almost destroyed me but God was with me and got me out. Now I am thinking about having a healthy relationship in the future God willing.
He is 100% letting you know the marriage is over. He wants his cake and eat it too. Doesn't want to lose his assets. Take him for everything and move on.
“Take him for everything” certainly doesn’t perpetuate red pill philosophy at all. Gen z men are starting to see all women like this and see no value in marriage. Too bad this guy wasn’t one of them.
Some people need to place blame so it makes them look like the good guy. I say just leave and don’t worry about what he says, he’s a user anyway. Living well is the best revenge.
yup he'll be telling everyone she left him "for no reason" and make her look like the bad guy. i still hope she leaves.. people need to be ok with looking like the villain if it means preserving her sanity and not wasting more time w this loser
He’s probably been emotionally abusing her for years and even telling her she won’t find anyone better than him and no one will love her like he does. Narcs are all the same. Get out while you still can and DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS GUY.
Being alone doesn’t compare to the feeling of being disrespected, overlooked, and not appreciated. He wants his cake and eat it too? I don’t know you girl, but here’s a big hug! You are worth so much more than just being a wife. It’s not the ultimate goal. Go out into the world and discover yourself! You are loved. 🥰
When my husband left, wherever I went i.e. to the store, work or to pick up my sweet daughter, there were little blood drops wherever I was - that‘s how it felt. My heart was bleeding and I thought I‘d never, ever get over the separation. But, I did. In retrospect it was one of the most painful things but also the best thing that happened to me. There is no pain free way to get through this but, if one sees every single day like a day closer to healing, it really helps. When he left, I made up my mind to completely sign out which means, I did not call him, did not force him to see our daughter, did not call his family, did not check his social media. I completely started a new life and healed My heart. When people asked about him (sometimes intentionally to hurt me), I’d reply that I really do not know but I hope he is happy. And I said that until I meant it. When his girlfriend broke up with him (the one he left me for), he called me after 5 years crying like a baby; he asked if I could sit with him as he feels unsafe with himself; so I did and I held his hand and told him it‘s going to be okay. Then I left with our daughter and never asked again and continued with my life.
Leave him! My ex tried the same thing while i was pregnant. Guess what hes had multiple woman and hasnt found anybody like me. You are successful young and deserve respect
Emma he has you believing you can't do better than him but he's the undesirable one, he's the one that will never find better. he's a rotting carcass you're dragging around, but the ties and run free!
Emma, It won't get better. He's decided that he wants his cake and eat it too and you are enabling him. You need to have a good job and trust God to bring you better and if you pray and talk to God this could easily happen. You don't understand the damage he is doing to you. I guess that emotionally you are a wreck. Stay strong and get support and walk away. Good luck! I pray for you!
Right there with you. After 33+ years of marriage where there were 8 (or more, hard to get truth from someone who lies so easily) long-term affairs and some hook-ups I have said enough! I am worthy of love, respect, and integrity and now I am starting over at the age of 61. It is hard but we can do it. It was never my plan to be divorced, but it was never my plan to be married to a cheater and suffer from that kind of abuse. Hoping you find peace and happiness.
Me terrible first marriage…. So bad spent next 30 years alone and learned to enjoy it…. Then married again, wonderful guy, 24 years extremely happy…. Never too old …..
Why bother getting married if you want to cheat, omg this is crazy! stay single if you want this lifestyle I have been through this except my ex didn’t tell me and had numerous affairs, when I filed for divorce he said how sorry and would never happen again, hmm yeah too little too late I got rid of him!
You gave great advice again! I was married to that person far too long. Awareness acceptance action.. Stand in your power!! i am remarried to a fantastic man now for 11 beautiful years!!
You feel uncomfortable because he is already cheating. Get out now, before he destroys your soul. I married a man who cheated and it took years to restore my self-worth and confidence. Get out now. Do not look back.
Please value yourself and walk away (safely). No one deserves that kind of life. Give him what he wants. He can have all the flings he wants. Without you! I was 46 (also a nurse) when I divorced. I’m with a wonderful, respectful man now and the last 8 years have been wonderful! You’re 30… you can do it. Not to mention this is not SAFE. You’re a nurse and know what can happen.
"That 5 foot 5 man with a balding head and beer belly who makes 40 k a year desrrves someone completely in love with him" see how it doesnt make any sense? I would be laughed at if i made that statement. Its a cruel world we live in
@CrystalBrightz it's a reality. I know many people do not like living in reality and rather live in delusion. No one deserves anything that is the reality of the world. Whether you accept reality is up to you.
Oh my word...I would tell him I'd think about it. Then I would secretly meet with an attorney, prepare and file a divorce, clear out any joint accounts, change the locks and kick him out of the house. Make sure to keep all important paperwork in a separate, secure location. You'll probably have to return half of the joint funds at some point but at least HE won't clear it all out and then YOU have to spend $$ to fight to get it back. Dude doesn't respect you. He's an ass.
@@benmyers9030depends on the state. Our clients did it all the time. Changing locks was put in the temporary orders after the clients gave theirs exes 24 hours or 1 week to clear out their stuff. Although the ex could probably go right back and change the locks after they left since they still had an interest in the property, we never had that happen. They also took out money as well even thoug❤h we didnt tell them to. Judges didn't have a problem with it when they knew they didn't spend all the money either. Had to do more with exes with a history of abusive and controlling behavior where the clients would never see a dime again if they left it in the joint accounts. Either way the amount prior to filing is what is divided so the ex doesn't lose their half, they just can't screw over a vulnerable party after filing.
Even if she can explain to him why adding more people into their marriage won't work... It's still not worth it, he must be incredibly immature to think that makes sense, or to think Anfrew Tate is someone to take seriously.
She questioned whether he has Narcissism. John said: who cares. I have mixed feelings about avoiding the diagnostics and labeling. Yes, it's good to focus on behavior only. But if they do have narcissism, you aren't dealing with a "normal" person, and there have been a lot of professionals who have researched and come up with advice. For example gray rocking or no contact. If this woman leaves, it is likely the man will try to get her back and will use his charisma and promise of change to do so. It's helpful for her to realize this so she can truly go no contact.
Yes, dealing with someone who truly has narcissistic personality disorder is different than dealing with a regular person. It’s important because understanding what behind the scenes manipulation, lies, controlling and brainwashing tactics is essential to survival.
Hi Dr John, I am a Christian woman and a new listener to your show from Queensland, Australia. I have really enjoyed the shows that I have listened to so far. I also watched the Jordan Petersen show that you were on, today. I wish I had someone like you to talk to. Thank you for the counsel you give to your callers and listeners. Kind regards, Gina Mac. 😊❤️🙏🇦🇺
I am married, in a new country and my husband definitely has the upper hand in everything but i will tell you this i have told him point blank if we don't love each other as we said we would i would put my clothes in a trash bag and be homeless before i allow anyone mistreat me. I don't care who you are. Do not be afraid to leave an abusive spouse no matter the situation. Abuse is worse than homelessness and this man is clearly abusive in more ways than one. Asking you to your face to cheat on you is insanity.
It’s an issue of self worth and value. We make decisions for ourselves based on that. You deserve so much more!!! You’re young and have a great career. See a counselor or whatever path works for you to help you. There are great men with manners and respect out there that will give you 💯. Don’t accept anything less! Don’t worry about what he will be doing when you are no longer together, the only thing you will be missing out on is stress and heartache. Travel, live life! Have peace in all you do ❤
It really says a lot about a person's view of themselves when they have to even go to another person to ask for advice if they should let their spouse commit adultery. Yet another piece of evidence of cultural, and social decay.
He will cheat whether she agrees or not and what he is doing is straight out abuse . Not all abuse is physical . Coercive control is now a crime in my State 🦘🐊.
My ex of five years tried the same thing with me three years in. His alternative to "cheating" is he wanted me to lose weight. I lost the weight, and he told me my arms were still "flabby". I kept holding on and hoping he would change back into who he was before that conversation and it just got worse. I held on for almost two years and then he ended things with me before my fake deadline that I created in my head. I'm thankful for the dog that I got out of the relationship but I wish I would have left sooner. I was 28 at the time, around Emma's age, and was single for a long time to just process everything. I grieved the relationship that used to exist, but it hadn't for a while, and once it was over I was just relieved.
No kids and she has a career, no reason to stay. He sounds awful. I understand completely. The thought of someone else having the relationship that we want sometimes keeps us hanging on. That is normal. I hope she get clarity and leaves.
The reason I divorced my husband when I found out he was cheating was simple; I knew he would not have the same double standard applicable to allowing me to find a man 20 years younger than myself!😂
John Delony restores the faith I have in humanity. ❤ Thank you for the advice you offer. It seems like it's difficult to navigate the right advice from individuals who are genuine and intentional about what they say to others. Thanks for not sugar coating anything. You're the best!👍
The Kuiper Belt is "a region of the solar system beyond the orbit of Neptune, believed to contain many comets, asteroids, and other small bodies made largely of ice."
She doesn't yet understand that, if they divorce, he'll be pursuing a new mistress, possibly her. This is who he is and that won't likely change for anyone.
Before I watch this I have an answer to this. If you are that weak that you need to ask somebody what you should do in this situation, get out of that relationship. And if you have kids, take them far away and make him sign off on them! The answer to your question is a BIG F NO! There is no fixing a man or woman who would even venture to ask permission for this!
I am 47 years old, never married and no kids and I’d rather be alone than to be with a husband who has cheated and asks if he can cheat openly. This woman needs to get over the fear of being alone and gain some self respect!!
It's not what you signed up for when you accepted the proposal. He is mentally and emotionally forcing you to meet his needs and not consider yours.. You are 30... Very young...You two want two different things and you now need to muster up the courage to do what you know is right for your heart and future. Good Luck! There is a pot of gold at the end of your rainbow once you unlatch the parasite that you once thought was your life partner. Let go of what you thought it was and go...heal..then find your life partner and make sure you two are on the same page about fidelity etc.
@@jmjenkins97 we can do both. If you pay attention when people talk about the enemy/ spiritual attacks etc (not strictly religious), the whole point is that people still have free will and need to put in the work to fight it.
She reminds me of an old friend of mine... Sneak peak into the future: You will find plenty more guys like him if you don't trust your instinct and actually leave when you see red flags.
This means he's already cheated & probably many times. Get an attorney right now then get checked for sexually transmitted diseases. RUN!!!
Bingo!
Exactly!!! It's not even the devastating fact of the cheating that could be the most messed up part even. That's exactly how STDs are Created & Passed smh. Wtf
Yep. Whenever a woman wants an open-relationship, you know she has already been on a bunch of meat. It's brought up, END IT.
She did say he has cheated before
Right. And, what if he impregnates one, or more, of these women?
Don't give him an answer. Just quietly find a lawyer - quick.
THIS he sounds dangerous.
@@lorrainesmith.4995I’m sorry he turned out to be o 304. There are so many of them out there. I gave up on dating in my late 20’s, it’s a more peaceful life!
You don’t need a lawyer. Just go to the courthouse and get a divorce.
I told my wife don’t you ever give me a reason to cheat or you’re gonna regret it.
For safety and so that he doesn't have time to hide any marital assets
A nurse?! Baby girl, you have a full blown career!!! Get away from that foul demon and build a life for yourself peacefully until someone worth your time comes alone!!!!
Foul demon? Why are you so angry?
@@benmyers9030 She is not angry at all. She's calling him what he is. She is correct to say that. A MARRIED man, who has the audacity to TELL his wife that he WANTS to cheat ....aaaannd he has cheated ALREADY....yes, has cheated ALREADY? Yes, he absolutely IS a Foul demon. She's right.
@girlygirl1890 why all the CAPITALS? are you also ANGRY? It seems like it from all the CAPITALS YOU ARE USING!!!!
@@girlygirl1890 It's like women rejecting their husbands for years. No better than cheating.
@@benmyers9030 lol 🤣🤣😂😂😁
I don’t understand why women think being alone is the worst thing in the world.
Uuuhhhmmm, I am with you, but not everybody is as introverted as we are.
Some folks get energy, comfort, and shocker - stability - from those they love, like spouses.
Heaven forbid ;o)
@@brightpage1020I am introvert but I can't be alone in my life I just need people to love what is wrong with me? Introvert is not helping me
@@brightpage1020agree but extroverts who don't realize a toxic partner is draining them instead of energizing them is a situation where being alone for a bit is objectively healthier.
@@brightpage1020I love this comment
Extroverts like people. Like being around them
He's asking to no longer be your husband
@dabd8175 that's a dumb ass take
That is a asinine comment. This is a little boy that wants his cake and ear it to. Take your cake and let a real man eat it.
@@dabd8175wtf are you talking about, he wants to cheat on her and already has
Say What!? That's got to be the most selfish comment Ive seen yet.@dabd8175
@@dabd8175he want to f around and when it goes sour she is his back up
My cousin divorced at 30, remarried at 35, gave birth to 4 children and they have a super happy big family! 30 is a perfect age to run away!
It is better to have a life without kids than live in misery with them . Tell him to “ Hit the Road Jack and don’t you come back “
You've no idea how well timed your post is - gives me hope, thank you!
Well that’s great !!! But she better hope something doesn’t happen in their marriage because no other man would want all that baggage!!!
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I got a divorce at 22. I'm 25 now with 2 beautiful girls, a wonderful husband, and another baby on the way.
I can't stress this enough... Leave before you fall pregnant to someone like this.
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Absolutely. Stop sleeping with this man right now
Shut up
I can't agree more with this statement!!! ❤❤❤
My ex-husband (6 year relationship + 11 year marriage) asked me to have an open marriage. When I said no, he straight asked me: are you willing to sacrifice our relationship over this? 😂 I said: of course I am!!!! I thought I was going to fall apart, and I did for a while, but now I am SO thankful I followed my values instead of the comfort of the known.
Your response should have been the same "are you willing to sacrifice our relationship over this?" Because clearly he was, and did!
Strong lady.
“No, you are!” Is the correct answer.
The right answer to him sould have been "what relationship?"
It’s just a gentle way of a man wanting to cheat on you to get your permission.
Lady just file for divorce this marriage is very very very over!! You are already alone but with a weight tied to your ankle!
I’ll bet he still tries to sleep with her too! 🤢 so unsafe. On top of that, what if one of his lovers gets jealous of the woman he goes home to every night-!? She’s in so much danger omg
@@lorrainesmith.4995your comment is ridiculous. To you it’s about house cleaning. Ok I guess
"Alone with a weight tied to your ankle", more like to your neck! Very well said👏 It's unreal what he's asking to begin with but then to add on top of that that she can't see other men is insane.
It’s not over until it’s over and as much as this guy sucks at the end of the day if she’s the one that files then she’s the one that left. That’s how that works even if it’s justified she will still be the one that divorced him so she’s the one that literally ended the marriage because the cause of 100% of divorces is filing for divorce. I’m not saying she shouldn’t. I’m just saying what the reality is.
My wife is Spanish. I wouldn't leave that conversation alive.
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She takes vows like “for as long as you both shall live” literally, huh? 🤔 Smart gal. Wise woman. You’re a lucky man. 🍀 You’d be amazed the filth & disgust she is saving you from. Lucky guy.
You sure freaking wouldn’t.
- a Latina
Haha, my husband was talking to some coworkers before a virtual meeting. They were both talking about how they control the house because they yell louder than their wives. My husband laughed and said "well, i dont yell. My wife is mexican and owns a shovel, a tarp, and tacoma with the off road package". I was making breakfast, and that man got crepes and bacon that morning.
@carolallison9685 love it! Thats awesome.
Yes, my wife might run hot....but she always provides a good meal even in the heat of an argument.
When she eventually gains her self respect and leaves him he’s going to go around telling everyone, “she divorced me for no reason”.
So true!
Yup, he's probably a narcissist, and of course they are always the victims
Who cares what other people think? You will find it liberating to ditch this unworthy person.
@@KathleenWeber-p6n This is what mn often tell people after they divorce, so surely mn care what people think.
@@KathleenWeber-p6n this is what m 3n often tell people after their marriage dissolves so surely they care what people think.
When she said Andrew Tate that should have given an immediate answer to leave him
Any guy who listens to or looks up to Tate automatically goes into the loser/incel bin!
Exactly.
Yaw both single huh? Lmao
100%
@@stevendavis5095 by your logic, if a woman refuses to date a man who follows redpill content because most of it is derogatory to women, then she probably is single?
By your logic are you saying all men are sexist, since any woman who respects herself has to be single?
You are indirectly critiquing men, you know.
To the wife, don’t do it!!!!! I haven’t even listened yet and my whole body is screaming no to her. After 9 years of marriage, we opened our marriage. It’s Pandoras box. I now forever will live in the shadow of my husband gf. After 20 years of together, I am broken and the cortisol levels I live with daily will shorten my life. To the wife, run now while you’re still young.
I hope that you have left the marriage!!!
Why are you still with him this is Insanity! What man is worth living in earthly hell and going to eternal hell over?? NONE! He's not worth another night of lost sleep, find your self worth and move on with your life. 17yrs married and been through a lot myself, would Neeever tolerate it again!
You can still run. Do it. You are still worth everything.
Agree. After 5 years I let my partner have a 7 day pass after he kept indicating he wanted to and that door NEVER closes. Cut to: “I want to marry you both and have us all live together and sleep in same bed and have babies together at same time”
Run now. Even if you can barely walk.
I work as a DV advocate, and I highly suspect that caller one is also dealing with issues she's not expressing in the call. That dude sounds controlling, misogynistic, and he obviously objectifies her. I hope she safety plans before formally starting the divorce because the dude is going to freak out when the wife he groomed for cheating suddenly isn't putting up with it anymore. Narcissists hate losing control.
You a hundred percent explained my 19-year relationship. Left with my kids a yr ago. I always thought he was going to kill me if I left him, but little by little, I realized they were just empty threats.
Yes. Definite narc. They're 😈 evil.
@@jamiepentz4682Sometimes they are not empty threats ,so she needs to be safe and organised .
Yeah, he’s gonna freak out when he loses control
I'm surprised he didn't baby trap her before asking permission to cheat.
You're young enough to start over again. He has no respect for you. He will never change. Leave and dont look back.
Your comment is offensive. There is never a good age for this to happen to you. There are multitudes of older women that this happens to. Your age doesn’t make it easier. Whatever age you are you have to start over - all over again.
@@user-hr1ql2fu3fyou need to get a hobby quickly
@@user-hr1ql2fu3f I think you need to get a grip! Theres' nothing offensive about my comment, Karen!
@@user-hr1ql2fu3f nothing offensive about my comment at all.
30 young ? LOL Men don’t think that’s young… only women
When they want permission... they've already done it.
My partner tried this said he wanted variety, I went and booked a swingers event to meet others, I didn't tell him where we were going. He done a 180 after I was approached non stop and no one approached him. He said he didn't want to. I continously rambled on about how I didn't care if he slept with women, he didn't want me to sleep with men. He completely changed after that night 😂. I told him I know my power as a woman and if you want to see that come out and play I will go there. He would literally lick my feet now if I asked him to.😂
@@Flower55949 That's not how swinger events work, it would be considered rude not to approach the both of you together. Furthermore, if you husband isn't ugly women will be interested in him. Single women have more options but if you went as a couple that changes the dynamics.
@ThompsonGrant I got separate tickets so we had the option of entering and leaving alone, fab night so pretty standard. He wanted to sleep with other women so when we arrived I told him that he had permission and to go do as he pleases, he ran in guns blazing and left me, I had a drink and went in after, it was a meet and greet with a small community. He spoke to the bar man and the events couple and that was it. I was approached by women, men and couples. He wanted to leave so we left and went to karaoke bar and I told him I understood why he wanted to sleep with others and mabey I could to said i felt powerful( i didnt i was heartbroken). He broke down,cried and said he didn't want to. Am I saying this fixes everything? Definitely not, I still feel hurt and it had a huge effect on myself, I went from being confident to insecure and depressed. We still talk about it it a joke manner, but perhaps as we get older it cud be something on the table. The folks were all super friendly and respectful which we both agreed on. But yea since then he has went from a Chad to mr gentle
Hes already cheating, he just doesn't want to do the extra work to have to hide it and have guilt on top.
He is never going to be anything different than what he is. It may look different to you from the outside but trust me. He will just cheat on the next one too.
I feel so heartbroken for the wife. That's being told you're not enough, you're not loved and not worthy of loyalty. He sounds gross and disgusting to me. I'm so sorry for her. Yeah she can get manipulated into permission. Doesn't mean she will feel good, that she won't hurt or feel sick and sad inside. It's so cruel. I don't like him!
Sadly, for many women, the negatives you present are nothing compared to the feeling of loneliness these women experience. It’s comparable to the battered-wife-syndrome. My wife and I listened to this almost an hour ago and it’s still bothering me.
He listens to Andrew Tate so I’m not shocked that he thinks it’s an ok behavior. Those red pill podcasters are poisoning people and making money off them
Unfortunately, this seems to be the vast majority of men today.
He’s a pig, I promise there are still good men out there.
@syn707 it's one thing to feel lonely when you're actually alone. Somwthing totally different to feel lonely in a marriage. I think she'll feel better once she gets out of there and doesn't look back.
When a person wants to cheeeat on you in front of you, this only means that (s)he doesn't respect you & in this case, he literally wants to show you that in front of you. This is the ultimate form of his disrespect. 🙏 Please 🙏 leave 🙏 the 🙏 scene & marriage. 🙏 Especially when kids are involved. I have worked with children & teenagers & some of them suffered even from PTSD due to the animalistic lifestyle of their parents. In my country, there was a mother whose boyfriend said to her he will only marry her when she's willing to open the marriage & guess what happened after she did him the favor? He fell in love with the third person, left the mom & lives now in a monogamous relationship with his new partner. Don't do this pain to yourself. It's not worth your health. 💔
if he wants to openly cheat, i don't know how he respects her or himself. People should be proud of making life with one person and raising a good family.
As John would say, he should be asking his wife how can I love you more, not can I cheat & stay married to you!!
I know what an absolute turd.
Maybe she needs to say that… you guys got it all backwards. A man at 30 has more value than a declining woman at 30. ✌️
@@GuidofromPuertoRico Wow I'm not sure how much value I'd place on a man who thinks like that. I just remember getting sexually. harassed in my 20s. I didn't feel very valued.
@@GuidofromPuertoRico Oh, here we go, we got a bitter red pill guy 🤡 here who thinks he's God's gift to women. 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂?🤡?@@GuidofromPuertoRico
And this is one of the many reasons majority of women have to file for divorce. He’s happy cheating and coming home to a loving wife. She is not happy with this arrangement. Would the happy person file for divorce?
Exactly. This is because the majority of men today are incapable of real connection or love.
EXACTLY and then Men talk about women not being aCCoUnTabLe 🤡
Facts on facts on facts
This! Most of the time when a woman files, it's because the husband has checked out maybe for months or even years, maybe even openly living with a girlfriend or mistress. Divorce takes paper work too it's not easy. Then a lot of men complain that women file for divorce more and that is because he most likely is not bothered with the actual hassle of filing for divorce. By the time a woman files for divorce the woman has been trying and trying beggfing pleading, asking him just come home. And the ñn when the divorce papers are served it ' I never saw that coming'
THIS! EXACTLY THIS!!! Men are happy doing whatever awful thing they want yet expect to stay married. Women go to the effort to actually divorce because they have morals.
Caller: Husband wants permission to cheat
John: Has he cheated before?
Caller: Yep
Who else had zero surprise there?
Cut your losses, divorce him YESTERDAY.
So he just wants permission to continue to disrespect you? Run, girl! 🏃♀️
Sit him down, have a conversation, record it. Get him to say how he cheated, that he wants permission to cheat but you can't, etc and send it to his family and keep for divorce court.
This!!!!! ❤
No because she could get in legal trouble for non authorized recording.
@@matinaki1644doesn’t work like that. They are married.
@@matinaki1644depends if she’s in a two party consent state or one.
@@matinaki1644actually only one party needs to be aware in most places. There are only a few hell hole states that do not allow it.😉
You're right Emma, his behaviour is definitely Narcissistic.
Good God, the “N” word. 🙄. Take a shot every time that word is said on this show.
@@miketheyunggod2534Sorry, if the truth hurts. But, that's exactly what he is
@@miketheyunggod2534on the show itself? I don’t think I heard it even once ON the show.
@@peterlee584💯
He doesn't want to cheat. He wants to be non-married LOL
He wants to be an "alpha male" where his ego and ability to dominate comes first.
😂😂🙌 nailed it
No, its much much worse. He wants to be married to have someone take care of his dirty underwear, raise his kids, and cook his meals but he wants to also have the perks of being single at the same time.
Nailed it
No, he wants to be married, he just wants to do want he wants.
Cause if he didn't want to be married, he'd just divorce her or just not married her in the 1st place. Problem solved easy.
My ex was literally the same thing. Watched a lot of alpha male influencers and had an unwavering hatred of women and justified it by saying I was a good one. When he asked for an open relationship but only for him I left and never looked back. I feel bad that she’s already married to him but it will get worse and she needs to leave. The good times don’t outweigh the fact that someone doesn’t respect you for who you are.
It's such a strange trend. I genuinely don't understand why it became so popular.
If he would have allowed you to do the same would have you stayed? I thought women do not crave that sort of thing like some men do
Sad. It’s weird. I’m guessing boys without good role models looking for a good man but find these alpha oddballs.
Have you ever tried it though?
@@Gotoworkkk tried what?
A “high value” man as they would put it is loyal and practices self control.
Exactly. There was a debate where Lila Rose said that to J. Waller (a friend of Andrew Tate)
No that is not how sexual dynamics work
Are women Loyal when they are in their 20s and high value? No, they play the field.
Likewise when men are 35+ and have money and gravitas: we play the field.
@@hia5235 not when you’re in a marriage. Argument invalid.
Calls like the first make me so grateful for my husband. I know many men like my husband; as many horrible men that we hear about there's just as many good ones. Same goes for women too. Don't let the negative people you hear about warp your view of an entire gender.
Exactly...my husband was wonderful...we only hear about the bad ones. But there are A LOT of good ones out there.
YESSS Agreed🧐
Yes let’s not forget this isn’t exactly a show where people call in to share their relationship wins. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Media focuses on where the drama is, not the stability, so it’s biased because the drama is why we all tune in - to remind ourselves how much worse it could be. Phew! 😅
He thinks he’s such a prize that he wants to share himself with other women. Ew.
Serious Ew!!!
He must believe he’s a ‘hunkah-hunkah-burnin-love’, and she’s totally bought into it, as she briefly mentioned at the end of her call that if she chooses to leave, she won’t have the “security…that I would need.” He’s got her believing that she’s the ONE he married (she’s HIS wife), that he’s provided a comfortable life for, including a beautiful house, BUT those other women are transitory side chicks, simply distractions that he’s got to share his overflow of ‘burnin-love’ with. After all, he returns to her at his home. Dr. Delony’s suggestions were met with “Mmm hmm, yes, okay, mmm hmm.” There’s something a bit off here….I think she’s willing to trade in the best years of her young life in exchange for a particular lifestyle that’s a transitory facade. He will be searching for a new, younger wife within 5 (maybe 10) years, when her prime reproductive years have passed and he can be assured she won’t be having children with another man. This is more than ‘serious ew!’; it’s actually quite sad.
@@dabd8175 Bless your little heart. You poor soul (lol).
@@girlygirl1890this user comments on so many videos on this channel and it’s clear he hates women. I knew I would see a comment from him on this video
@@dabd8175buahhaha no 😂
My husband cheated on me 20 years ago. We are now into our 34th year marriage. It is hobbled and crippled us. We love each other very much, but that pain never goes away that betrayal never goes away. If you knew what it was gonna be like later down the road you would never do it, trust me I live it every stinking day. It’s not worth it.
Why did you not divorce him?
sorry if he cheated on you he doesnt love you or respect you enough to be in a monogamous relationship
Just wasting your life
I am sorry . Have you taken time out to discuss how you feel with him ?
Honestly, you have chosen this for 20 years. At this points it's on you.
Never compromise your moral for a man, he can leave but your moral stay and nobody can't take that from you.
Girl get that divorce attorney immediately.
Just go to the courthouse. It takes a few minutes.
IMMEDIATELY!!!!
He is demanding the benefits of being married and single at the same time. He is being deliberately very manipulative and will probably try to exploit her vulnerability to try to keep using her after she leaves him too.
For the singles, It's like a friend with benefits who texts daily but won't commit.
Women ask for the same all the time and get the “you go girl” “she so empowered” the hypocrisy is crazy.
You can just tell the first caller is for sure going to stick it out for another 3-5 years. 😢She sadly just isn’t done with the BS. Girl run!
If he's asking, then he's still doing it and hasn't stopped.
Compartmentalizing at its best.
Yep. He’s just tired of hiding it. So ……he’s also lazy.
If anyone ask to cheat I would say it's already over
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've learned that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years back, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to work things out. It was a hard time, but we got past it.
Moving on from someone you hold dear is invariably challenging, but in my experience, I was guided by a spiritual counselor who prevented the breakdown of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
welcome
So very true. However asking to cheat while expecting your spouse to just accept it, is way past the point of “doable”. Any man who asks this obviously does not love his wife, respect, or even care for her. If he wants to cheat the only answer is to leave.
First case: The guy doesn’t respect the lady. There is no way to salvage the marriage.
After 45 plus years foundout it was a lie . 62 starting over
Good luck!
How devastating!
You got this!
Remember..."Footprints in the sand"!
Praying for you...
32 years for me. Started over, 4 years ago. I believe it was probably covert narcissism. Almost destroyed me but God was with me and got me out. Now I am thinking about having a healthy relationship in the future God willing.
@@dynamisshalom Well done : )
Way to go, Beautiful! Your strength deserves the best! Not a mess of a nest.
He is 100% letting you know the marriage is over. He wants his cake and eat it too. Doesn't want to lose his assets. Take him for everything and move on.
She should take what she can and get out , even if it is nothing .
She will get a little it’s only been 3 years. Thank god they don’t have kids.
“Take him for everything” certainly doesn’t perpetuate red pill philosophy at all. Gen z men are starting to see all women like this and see no value in marriage. Too bad this guy wasn’t one of them.
It is amazing how quickly and completely our spouse can freeze us in spot, poor girl.
He’s trying to force her out…a month after she leaves
“Idk dude…she left me” 🤡
Some people need to place blame so it makes them look like the good guy. I say just leave and don’t worry about what he says, he’s a user anyway. Living well is the best revenge.
yup he'll be telling everyone she left him "for no reason" and make her look like the bad guy. i still hope she leaves.. people need to be ok with looking like the villain if it means preserving her sanity and not wasting more time w this loser
Yep. "Dude, she blindsided me." Muhh child support.
This! My ex did the same thing
OP) the SOP of men
He’s probably been emotionally abusing her for years and even telling her she won’t find anyone better than him and no one will love her like he does. Narcs are all the same. Get out while you still can and DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS GUY.
How do you know he’s a narc?
I laughed SO LOUD when she said “he watches a lot of Andrew Tate” 🤣
Delony and Tate are two sides of the same coin lmao
😂😂😂😂
@@KufLMAOhow?
If he's asking, he probably already was. Now, he just wants to openly bring his new partner around without the hassle.
She said he has before. So yeah. He was.
She already said he has cheated on her before this.
He is asking for divorce. Which means he’s cheating already.
He is not asking for divorce. He just wants to have the sure thing and get his kinks with others.
A huge no no. Everyone deserves better.
Red Pill out her breaking up homes they claim to be so concered about saving
So many of them. Its poison
What? I can't understand the grammar ...
And remind me again what gave birth to "red pill" Community?
@@theredstar6493 fragility
@@theredstar6493 Broken men who refuse to heal from past trauma and blame everyone but themselves for their hurt.
Being alone doesn’t compare to the feeling of being disrespected, overlooked, and not appreciated. He wants his cake and eat it too? I don’t know you girl, but here’s a big hug! You are worth so much more than just being a wife. It’s not the ultimate goal. Go out into the world and discover yourself! You are loved. 🥰
When my husband left, wherever I went i.e. to the store, work or to pick up my sweet daughter, there were little blood drops wherever I was - that‘s how it felt. My heart was bleeding and I thought I‘d never, ever get over the separation. But, I did. In retrospect it was one of the most painful things but also the best thing that happened to me. There is no pain free way to get through this but, if one sees every single day like a day closer to healing, it really helps. When he left, I made up my mind to completely sign out which means, I did not call him, did not force him to see our daughter, did not call his family, did not check his social media. I completely started a new life and healed My heart. When people asked about him (sometimes intentionally to hurt me), I’d reply that I really do not know but I hope he is happy. And I said that until I meant it. When his girlfriend broke up with him (the one he left me for), he called me after 5 years crying like a baby; he asked if I could sit with him as he feels unsafe with himself; so I did and I held his hand and told him it‘s going to be okay. Then I left with our daughter and never asked again and continued with my life.
Thank you. Going through this right now. It's so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel so I appreciate this.
Leave him! My ex tried the same thing while i was pregnant. Guess what hes had multiple woman and hasnt found anybody like me. You are successful young and deserve respect
Emma he has you believing you can't do better than him but he's the undesirable one, he's the one that will never find better. he's a rotting carcass you're dragging around, but the ties and run free!
Yo I got serious Deja vu reading your comment. The "but" typo and all. 😮
Emma, It won't get better. He's decided that he wants his cake and eat it too and you are enabling him. You need to have a good job and trust God to bring you better and if you pray and talk to God this could easily happen. You don't understand the damage he is doing to you. I guess that emotionally you are a wreck. Stay strong and get support and walk away. Good luck! I pray for you!
45 years and now at my age I facing a cheater and have chose I not doing this . 62 n starting over
🙏😢 so sorry Pat, you will make it.
All the best for the next 20 or 30 years of a free happy life . There is a lot to enjoy .
You are one smart Lady. I'm also 62. I'm a Widow, but there is NO WAY I would allow someone to treat me that way.
Right there with you. After 33+ years of marriage where there were 8 (or more, hard to get truth from someone who lies so easily) long-term affairs and some hook-ups I have said enough! I am worthy of love, respect, and integrity and now I am starting over at the age of 61. It is hard but we can do it. It was never my plan to be divorced, but it was never my plan to be married to a cheater and suffer from that kind of abuse. Hoping you find peace and happiness.
You will have your self respect. That's worth more than a cheater.
Me terrible first marriage…. So bad spent next 30 years alone and learned to enjoy it…. Then married again, wonderful guy, 24 years extremely happy…. Never too old …..
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Why bother getting married if you want to cheat, omg this is crazy! stay single if you want this lifestyle I have been through this except my ex didn’t tell me and had numerous affairs, when I filed for divorce he said how sorry and would never happen again, hmm yeah too little too late I got rid of him!
He wants to play and have a bed at the same time. Its so crazy
@@joec696
It really is wants his cake and eat it too, what a jerk!
He wants the benefits of marriage but the freedom to still be single.
Yup crazy, why bother
They want their base
He tested the water to see what you'd allow. Run and never look back!
I hope she doesn’t spend 5 years leaving this relationship - especially if she wants kids.
You gave great advice again! I was married to that person far too long. Awareness acceptance action.. Stand in your power!!
i am remarried to a fantastic man now for 11 beautiful years!!
You get what you allowed. Being single is so amazing…embrace it!!
You feel uncomfortable because he is already cheating. Get out now, before he destroys your soul. I married a man who cheated and it took years to restore my self-worth and confidence. Get out now. Do not look back.
Please value yourself and walk away (safely). No one deserves that kind of life. Give him what he wants. He can have all the flings he wants. Without you! I was 46 (also a nurse) when I divorced. I’m with a wonderful, respectful man now and the last 8 years have been wonderful! You’re 30… you can do it. Not to mention this is not SAFE. You’re a nurse and know what can happen.
This woman deserves someone who is completely in love with her- completely IN- with her. 🖤
No. Everybody doesn’t deserve that. You have to earn it.
Sadly many people will not be loved and no one deserves anything. Thats why people stay in toxic relationships in fear of not finding anyone
"That 5 foot 5 man with a balding head and beer belly who makes 40 k a year desrrves someone completely in love with him" see how it doesnt make any sense? I would be laughed at if i made that statement. Its a cruel world we live in
@@unknown-vo3di Bitter, much?
@CrystalBrightz it's a reality. I know many people do not like living in reality and rather live in delusion. No one deserves anything that is the reality of the world. Whether you accept reality is up to you.
Oh my word...I would tell him I'd think about it. Then I would secretly meet with an attorney, prepare and file a divorce, clear out any joint accounts, change the locks and kick him out of the house. Make sure to keep all important paperwork in a separate, secure location. You'll probably have to return half of the joint funds at some point but at least HE won't clear it all out and then YOU have to spend $$ to fight to get it back. Dude doesn't respect you. He's an ass.
Changing the locks on a house with his name on it is not a good idea. At all. Your hypothetical divorce attorney could explain it in more detail
Also clearing out joint accounts, courts don't look kindly on that sort of stuff
@@benmyers9030depends on the state. Our clients did it all the time. Changing locks was put in the temporary orders after the clients gave theirs exes 24 hours or 1 week to clear out their stuff. Although the ex could probably go right back and change the locks after they left since they still had an interest in the property, we never had that happen. They also took out money as well even thoug❤h we didnt tell them to. Judges didn't have a problem with it when they knew they didn't spend all the money either. Had to do more with exes with a history of abusive and controlling behavior where the clients would never see a dime again if they left it in the joint accounts. Either way the amount prior to filing is what is divided so the ex doesn't lose their half, they just can't screw over a vulnerable party after filing.
@@benmyers9030did all the above all the time, had no issues. Depends on the state and what you draft in the temporary orders.
Did it all the time where I worked. No problem. But yes anybody in this heinous situation needs to consult a family law attorney.
Even if she can explain to him why adding more people into their marriage won't work... It's still not worth it, he must be incredibly immature to think that makes sense, or to think Anfrew Tate is someone to take seriously.
Being single is not the worst thing in the world
She questioned whether he has Narcissism. John said: who cares.
I have mixed feelings about avoiding the diagnostics and labeling. Yes, it's good to focus on behavior only. But if they do have narcissism, you aren't dealing with a "normal" person, and there have been a lot of professionals who have researched and come up with advice. For example gray rocking or no contact.
If this woman leaves, it is likely the man will try to get her back and will use his charisma and promise of change to do so. It's helpful for her to realize this so she can truly go no contact.
Safety plan so you don’t wind up like Watts family or Toadt - totally agree. Coverts really are the worst.
Yes, dealing with someone who truly has narcissistic personality disorder is different than dealing with a regular person. It’s important because understanding what behind the scenes manipulation, lies, controlling and brainwashing tactics is essential to survival.
Hi Dr John, I am a Christian woman and a new listener to your show from Queensland, Australia. I have really enjoyed the shows that I have listened to so far. I also watched the Jordan Petersen show that you were on, today. I wish I had someone like you to talk to. Thank you for the counsel you give to your callers and listeners. Kind regards, Gina Mac. 😊❤️🙏🇦🇺
She sounds numb & down. This relationship has done nothing but take from her. She needs to get out & get to therapy ❤
I am married, in a new country and my husband definitely has the upper hand in everything but i will tell you this i have told him point blank if we don't love each other as we said we would i would put my clothes in a trash bag and be homeless before i allow anyone mistreat me. I don't care who you are.
Do not be afraid to leave an abusive spouse no matter the situation. Abuse is worse than homelessness and this man is clearly abusive in more ways than one. Asking you to your face to cheat on you is insanity.
It’s an issue of self worth and value. We make decisions for ourselves based on that. You deserve so much more!!! You’re young and have a great career. See a counselor or whatever path works for you to help you. There are great men with manners and respect out there that will give you 💯. Don’t accept anything less! Don’t worry about what he will be doing when you are no longer together, the only thing you will be missing out on is stress and heartache. Travel, live life! Have peace in all you do ❤
My heart breaks for this lady. Life is so unfair.
And then you die. Welcome to life.
It really says a lot about a person's view of themselves when they have to even go to another person to ask for advice if they should let their spouse commit adultery. Yet another piece of evidence of cultural, and social decay.
He will cheat whether she agrees or not and what he is doing is straight out abuse . Not all abuse is physical . Coercive control is now a crime in my State 🦘🐊.
The best thing I ever did was throw out my normal dating criteria after realizing I was in a ten year relationship with a jerk
Copy all your financials, get in touch with a lawyer, then run!
My ex of five years tried the same thing with me three years in. His alternative to "cheating" is he wanted me to lose weight. I lost the weight, and he told me my arms were still "flabby". I kept holding on and hoping he would change back into who he was before that conversation and it just got worse. I held on for almost two years and then he ended things with me before my fake deadline that I created in my head. I'm thankful for the dog that I got out of the relationship but I wish I would have left sooner. I was 28 at the time, around Emma's age, and was single for a long time to just process everything. I grieved the relationship that used to exist, but it hadn't for a while, and once it was over I was just relieved.
No kids and she has a career, no reason to stay. He sounds awful. I understand completely. The thought of someone else having the relationship that we want sometimes keeps us hanging on. That is normal. I hope she get clarity and leaves.
It’s so interesting to see the difference in the way the men versus women respond.
He’s with her because she’s “good” to him, not because he loves her. She knows what she should do, but it’s a hard decision and step to take.
The fact that she is considering it and calling in says a lot about her lack of self love . Dump him yesterday take care of yourself .
Love is not for yourself. She called in because she's worried she can't do better. Adults have to consider this stuff when making decisions
@@benmyers9030what does that even mean?
@@benmyers9030she can do waaaayyyy better sound like you are of those men
@@benmyers9030 she can be single and safe from STDs! That is doing better!
You would see the value in being alone or single after he gives you an std you can’t get rid of. There is no way I could entertain this conversation
People never emphasize this aspect (STDs) enough!!!!!
The reason I divorced my husband when I found out he was cheating was simple; I knew he would not have the same double standard applicable to allowing me to find a man 20 years younger than myself!😂
It doesn't matter how he treats his next girl. What matters is how he treats YOU.
John Delony restores the faith I have in humanity. ❤
Thank you for the advice you offer. It seems like it's difficult to navigate the right advice from individuals who are genuine and intentional about what they say to others. Thanks for not sugar coating anything. You're the best!👍
The Kuiper Belt is "a region of the solar system beyond the orbit of Neptune, believed to contain many comets, asteroids, and other small bodies made largely of ice."
She doesn't yet understand that, if they divorce, he'll be pursuing a new mistress, possibly her. This is who he is and that won't likely change for anyone.
Before I watch this I have an answer to this. If you are that weak that you need to ask somebody what you should do in this situation, get out of that relationship. And if you have kids, take them far away and make him sign off on them! The answer to your question is a BIG F NO! There is no fixing a man or woman who would even venture to ask permission for this!
Great podcast today. You're as amazing on the radio as you are in real life. Thanks for spreading hope!
Men will do sooo much to impress other men
RUN. I so agree you should take a travel contract and get away from him. The love you deserve is out there waiting for you.
Another husband wife ISSUE! SO GLAD I AM NO LONGER MARRIED! THE SINGLE CONSERVATIVE LIFE IS AWESOME! THANK YOU JESUS!
I am 47 years old, never married and no kids and I’d rather be alone than to be with a husband who has cheated and asks if he can cheat openly. This woman needs to get over the fear of being alone and gain some self respect!!
He has a cheater heart.
She seems so sad and lost 🥲girl you have this! You’re so worthy of way more than his bread crumbs 🙏🙏💯💯💯❤️
It's not what you signed up for when you accepted the proposal. He is mentally and emotionally forcing you to meet his needs and not consider yours.. You are 30... Very young...You two want two different things and you now need to muster up the courage to do what you know is right for your heart and future. Good Luck! There is a pot of gold at the end of your rainbow once you unlatch the parasite that you once thought was your life partner. Let go of what you thought it was and go...heal..then find your life partner and make sure you two are on the same page about fidelity etc.
Lol. How could you possibly know what she deserves?
@@benmyers9030nobody deserve this abuse
@@benmyers9030anyone deserves better than being cheated on 😢
I hate how the enemy is dividing the genders 😔
So It was written. This isn't new. Its been going on for ages. Its just more visible because of social media.
Nope let's hold folks accountable stop with this enemy nonsense
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@@jmjenkins97 we can do both. If you pay attention when people talk about the enemy/ spiritual attacks etc (not strictly religious), the whole point is that people still have free will and need to put in the work to fight it.
I totally agree. The government is batting 1000 with telling the truth to us. Definitely never ever question the government and their stories.
She brought up voldemort. Some things can't be accepted on a giant youtube show lol
Whats wrong with being "alone"?? Girl, run!! 30 is a baby😂age!
He's already gone. You are worth more than settling for someone who doesn't value you!! You deserve the world!!
She reminds me of an old friend of mine... Sneak peak into the future: You will find plenty more guys like him if you don't trust your instinct and actually leave when you see red flags.