👉Four Signs A Friendship Might Be Coming To An End
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My elder sister and I are both older adults; both female. We've had a couple of pretty severe falling outs over the decades, but came back together when Mom passed from covid.
We apologized for the past and agreed to let it lay. The first ten months of our reunion was very good, but the last 2.5 years has gradually derailed into her behaving in many toxic ways towards me. So severely that my cortisol is double the high limit and my high blood pressure has become difficult to manage. I'm experiencing depression, anxiety and many physical symptoms. She even harangued me on the phone for hours while I had Covid.
It's become pretty bad. I was really holding out for having a relationship together in our old ages, because I wanted family. But the situation is stealing my peace.
Last week, it occurred to me that she's been gaslighting me about my perceptions and mental health. I feel so violated. I have a knot in my stomach thinking it.. It also occurred to me that she is the reason two of her children ostracized me. She destroyed my reputation with many family members.
As of now, my goal is to enter therapy. Also, for confirmation and validation of my experiences. My sleep and moods are so disrupted that I'll probably need medication for a while.
HI UM CAN U HELP ME SO ILL MAKE THIS SHORT BUT MY BSF ALWAYS SAYS IM 'EQUAL' TO LOADS OF OTHER PPL AND SHE SAYS OH U CANT DO THAT BC SOMEONE ELSE DIDNT WANT ME TOO AND I FEEL LIKE SHE DOSENT LIKE ME OR APPRECIATE ME AS MUCH AS I DO AND SHE BLAMES HER FRIENDSHIP PROBLEMS ON ME
Can you help me? I think my anxiety is getting to me because I lost all my friends except two which made me realise that most of my friends are fake and with that already there anxiety it just makes me more anxious so with that anxiety nobody wants to speak to me which creates this neverending loop of being afraid of society.
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Hopefully this will resolve.
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Happening.. Maybe she
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Therapy.. We are all traveling roads to happiness.. It very hard.
Praying helps ME…
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the worst part is when you want to end the friendship but you're afraid of hurting them even when they've hurt you so much
This is so true.
if i tell them they prob dont care bcuz they alr have alot of friends😞And kept leaving me left out
@@MiraassYT if they don't care about you and you don't want to be friends then tell them. i promise you'll find someone better
@@Marliart tysm ill try bcuz she's my only friend..
@@MiraassYTthat's hard I know the feeling but yes you are worth better treatment. New friends will come again who will appreciate you.
5. When you friend makes you feel rejected or discarded.
So true , and you honestly don’t know why or what you did , constantly making all the effort, drains you .
Thanks for chatting on friendships. Many people focus on romantic relationships but understanding friendships and how to be a better friend is missing in this generation. I wish you could go into more depth
Yeaah, right.
are romantic partners not friends first and foremost?
maybe I'm just not the romantic kind of person, but like... I kinda view my bf as a friend that I want to spend the rest of my life with, have kids with maybe, raise cats with, spend (ideally) as much time as possible with, cuddle, kiss, be the first thing I see in the morning and the last thing I see before going to sleep
This is an insightful comment!
@@gemink7939 I also think that my gf has to be first of all my friend. And what you said is actually romantic.
in this generation???? oh please 😂😂😂😂
If you start to feel like you have to “keep up” a friendship instead of being excited to spend time with them, it’s good to stop and think
Like what do you to stop and think?
@@sdsam9326whether it's taking more than it gives, overall. Is it draining you, as she mentioned in the clip?
Dude. My friend group from 6th grade definitely drains me tbh. I don't know if I'm the problem but I literally just feel like finding new friends ngl. We're a senior right now but I still feel like I'm stuck in 6th grade whenever I'm with them. I'm just not the same person anymore.
@@GoldenPurplle it's not you. People grow and change. It's OK to move on.
@@Kinesiology411 Really? I mean, Ever since last year I just started to notice how I'm frequently the butt of the jokes and they would constantly steal pics of me and make it ugly then laugh at it. It was funny at first but I was honestly annoyed yet I brushed it off. But this Year got worse, There were times where I noticed that my friends would always have time to hang out with guys but rarely even want to hang out with me. They keep talking about guys and is always so boy-obsessed that I don't even understand it. I don't want to ruin their vibe or anything so I just go with the flow and try to match their interests. But honestly, if all we're going to talk about are guys and not anything else, then I'd rather not talk. I'm close friends with one of the 3 girls, Let's call her K, and honestly all she ever talks to me about lately are guys, and how she keeps seeing them in her homepage etc. And how she wants to avoid those guys. I get what she's saying but she keeps repeating that topic everyday. It's so tiring for me. It's always boys and love-life/relationships. And there was even something that happened today, I really wanted to participate on this school field trip, but I didn't get included on the trip because I was not registered. My friends asked if I'm going and I said no. Yet to be honest, they didn't even seem sad that I'm not going. They knew I wouldn't be able to go and they asked me of I'm going, I said no then they ignored it, and just proceeded to send pics on the group chat and laughed. It honestly made me cry a little bit. I talked to my dad about this asked for advice, but he said "You can't let their words and actions affect you. Don't stress yourself out." He's correct but This was the final straw. I want to leave the group out of my own benefit because I know things aren't the same anymore and I've kind of changed and they did too, but I can't go without knowing if it's just me overreacting or not. Am I the problem? Please be honest.
I am going through this now and just took a break from the friendship. It's given me a sense of grief and sadness, its so hard to make new friends as an adult but i cannot be in a friendship that lacks authenticity
Another sign:
Your friend doesn't have time for you anymore. You have to start making plans three or more weeks in advance and they still cancel a few days before because others are more important.
And here's another sign: Your friend hang out more with others than with you.
we used to be so close. We've been besties for 4 years and i can't believe she's replacing me with her other "best friend"
Yeah, my best friend of 15 years would always cancel on me to go on dates instead. So I dropped her a few months ago.
What if you haven’t hungout yet, but they keep cancelling or don’t say anything when something comes up?
@@dadidada6894bro just explained my friendship with a friend of mine
💯 They take trips with others but looove to know your business. No thanks.
Another sign is when you don’t feel excited or inspired by them. They criticise you or bring you down yet talk non stop about themselves. Say away from these vampires.
What if she is just always talking about herself, but she isn't toxic to me, she is just still in a phase that I finally got out from, and she doesn't really understand my struggles
@@fayrouza7415well if she doesn't lend an ear then she's not a friend
@user-kc6ni3fk6w I get what you mean, she listens, but I don't get the same energy that I would gove her or any other friend if I were in her place, you get it? I don't find it helpful to just agree with me. She is improving tho, and I have hope. We are still friends, I know she is not bad, she just got it wrong about me. Thanks for the comment tho 👏💕
Absolutely right. I've been there and years ago I ended a friendship that had been lasting for 25 years. For a while I've been struggling with the thought that I might have done the wrong thing BUT I understood I was right when facts showed me that person looked for me only as a last resort. I must say now I have no problems in cutting off all relationships that are parasitic...
I think a 20 year friendship I have just dissolved and I feel gutted. For years I have listened to her tell the same stories from her past over and over and this summer I started going through a rough patch so I told her about things currently going on in my life. She blew up and was telling me to move on, get counseling, do this do that when I have listened to her problems for decades. She was so harsh she made me cry.
I told her I understood what she was saying but how she said it was hurtful. She wouldn't reply directly to me, but basically excused herself from a mutual friend group we are in.
Looking back, it just felt very one-sided.
I'm trying to see this as the push I need to find another local friend group. (My friend was an hour away) Things happen for a reason gotta heal and move on.
@@cds8249It can be shocking when the "friend" is showing his/her colors. Especially since you have known and shared life experiences with each other for 18 years.I have been there. Instead of addressing the concern/issue, chooses to act in a very harsh, cold way will Ignite an argue, which will result in a conflict & break up the platonic friendship. No contact since from my part.
Later I came to the conclusion: She did me a favor by exposing the troubled soul that she is.
I feel this so hard. I had a friend I was close with but after a while I felt like I could no longer be myself with her and any action of mine would be judged. We still kept in touch now and then, but even phone conversations with her made me feel quite low and bad about myself.
Me too . I feel so disappointed with the way that my friendship with her changed but I relized it wasn’t me fault she was super toxic and rude . I’m trying to move on
@@SpiderBrained Good for you! You'll find someone more accepting and caring.
@@lb598 thank you ! I wish the same for u
Yeah same here. I had two besties a long time ago. We were like sisters, but middle school was just so toxic. I shifted away from them when I moved to high school. I felt the most happiest that I found a new group of friends, but still feel guilty when I see them around cuz the old ones still try to talk and hang out with me. But I refuse to go back to the way things were before. They're nice friends, only if u get on their good side, but when they stabbed me in the back and then try to hug it out I just can't bring myself to repeat the same mistakes. I took myself out before things can get uglier, I can't imagine what kind of things they would have done to me if I stayed. And I sometimes felt the lowest when im with them. But I'm glad that we're all just living our own lives at this point after seperation, I wish them the best on whatever they do.
@@cinnannom2556 I feel so sorry for you . But I’m glad your doing better
I've had many "close friends" and none of them last longer than a year or two. The longest one was five years, and the shortest was around a few months. I've learnt to enjoy my own company now, but I still do need friends, though I am much more closed off now and I don't let myself become vulnerable to friends.
Same, im a kind of girl you can describe as a friend to all is a friend of none.
I can understand you. Good friendships that last long are rare. I have just lost my best friend who has battled with cancer. The days are hollow now. It feels like I have lost a part of myself - the best part.
It is only NOW when I really realise that in my "solitude" I wasn't actually alone - I was discretely shielded by this friendship.
@@eeaotly I’m so sorry for your loss xxx
Lost so many friendships cuz of the mismatching energies. I pray that I find people that match my energy and I wish that the same goes for everybody else ❤️
I wish you the absolute best. May 2024 be the year you find wonderful and fulfilling friendships. Thank you. ❤
I hope you found your friend ❤
Praying for you love ❤
Make sure the people in your life are not secretly spying on you for a wack ass cause to help other cowards who can't reach you because they know they are dirty AF ✌🏽
The fact that you want to end the friendship but don't want to at the same time
I know, that's so difficult, especially If you know the person since a long time
I don't worry about this. I have zero friendships because people are not safe and I am a cancer that will be bad for them too.
It took me so long to stop hanging out with my best friend because I had known her for so long, and didn't think I could find new friends. I realized that I needed to leave when I realized that I was more lonely around her than when I was just alone. I have a new friend group now though, and I feel so much better because they actually make me happy :)
Happy for you ^^
Thank you this is helping me to end my toxic relationship with my "bestfriend"
Aw have you gotten out of it? No one deserves to be in a relationship like that 😔
@@eurekaruto4392 almost😕
@@Raaahhh.24 oh, well I wish you the best!
You'll find great friends.
I ended my relationship with my best friend of 16 years.
Let's be our own best friend for a while. ❤
@@tejaswinisingh ❤ yes
I've had ups and downs with my closest friends and I'm happy I've stuck with them through the challenging moments as well. I think it's amazing to have friends who have grown to be a bit different from you. It's an opportunity to learn and develop. Surrounding yourself with people who align with you 100 % can be really fulfilling, but it also locks you up in a bit of a bubble where you never have to face the fact that it's ok to have your differences.
This is sooooo true and that person, though you love them, they are toxic and it took awhile to see it, or you outgrew them. They often needed you more than you needed them. Friendship ebbs and flows. Some leave for a season and return at a new level after that person has gone through some things.
I often tell my kids that it takes a tremendous amount of time and energy to maintain a friendship. It’s better to have even just one terrific friend than a hundred others that you just don’t have enough hours in the day for
There is so much needless shame surrounding this subject. I love how this short vid breaks it down in a way that doesn't make either person in the friendship bad or good.
true
I’m literally about to cry, I have been best friends with my best friend for 10+ years we have gotten through so much together we are like sisters.
I just realized a couple of those sound like us, I don’t want to loose her
same..
🥲 I feel you but there's no point in holding on to something that no longer serves you. I had to learn it the hard way. 💔
Yeah update, she stabbed me in the back and humiliated me in front of all of our friends and doesn’t think she did anything wrong and thinks I’m overreacting so I’m cutting her out and I’m done with her toxic immature personality
@@aashesss yeah I’ve been learning that lately and now whenever I look at her I don’t get sad I don’t feel any love, the only thing I feel is mad, at her for doing all of this to me and at myself for putting up with her for so long
But doing that hurts soo much....and the thoughts keep coming up whether it's the right decision to let go..?
And how do it ?
Thank you, I realise that one of my friendships are coming to an end, thank you!
Same, I think sometimes ending a friendship might help them out. Atleast in my Situation. I feel like I have gave in too much, and how dude always says I am the only person who hasn't "turned on Him" even though we all have moved on with our lives. Dude is the kind of person that will Call you fake because you won't go on a Quest to find some golden Turd
I’m so glad you didn’t use the word ‘toxic’. It’s so unhelpful these days labelling people and relationships as toxic when everything is much more complicated than that and has many layers and reasons for a bad relationship - partly you and partly the other person, maybe neither of your faults or perhaps both.
Thank you for this. I think it’s healthy to understand that not all friendships are forever and that it’s part of growing and developing to have some of them end. And endings are not always forever either. Sometimes your energies are mismatched and a few years later sync up again. I’ve had that happen too.
This video has made me feel grateful that me and my friends can except each other’s little differences and be very open
All of this relates to a “friendship” that I’m going through right now, but the problem is that probably everyone is also dealing with is that you feel scared to tell that “friend” that you don’t feel that the friendship is working out. Please help.
Same
If this "friend" is nice to you and isn't toxic it could be easier getting out the relationship either just get the courage and let them know cause it might end up good if they are understanding and even if they are hurt they will eventually move on, But if you can't do that, try to slowly cut contact with them don't reach out to them and start talking less with them and if You've got new friends that you're comfortable with try hanging out with them more often than your old "friend" and you don't always need to say yes if they reach out to you, it can take a while to get there but it will be worth it, it'll be like a weight off your shoulder cause you don't need to think about it any longer, try to not keep that "friend" in your mind, but try not to end on bad terms
Cool and all but please change your profile picture
@@anthrax2844 I’m sorry but I can have whatever pfp I want ^^ also this is for a RUclips channel :)
@@viv4iry okay
So many red flags. I ignored them all. Unfortunately i didnt have any other friends, now i am beating my depressions and trauma (i have had them since i was aprox. 8-9, but i'd gues even earlier) only with my mom, thank god for her or i wouldnt be here today. I am 25, yet i feel like i fave to start all over again... good luck to anyone going through this. I am so sorry..😔
I have just lost two lifelong friends of 40 and 30 years . A disagreement came out of me not understanding something and not expressing it properly. I had lengthy phonecalls with them trying to understand what happened, even after being told I was "a chore to be around", laying myself bare to them. I pulled out of our planned holiday. We haven't spoken since. I feel very sad about it.
I sometimes yearn for a healthy friendship. It’s been nearly two decades since I have experienced a close friendship. Watching this video reminds me of the pain and betrayal that occurs when a relationship ends and I don’t feel so lonely anymore.
Interests have changed
Oh this was an interesting matter pleased to see you addressing it at last :)
I'm literally feeling this during this period.
I'm really struggling with trying to fix a friendship i really care about but there are so many misunderstandings and i don't feel accepted, understood and loved anymore. All apologies. I'm really sad and exhausted.
But how can you end an important friendship in which other important friends are involved?
This video was a sort of a sign to me, thank you so much. I really appreciate this.❤️
Yesterday I just ended a friendship exactly same to yours it was the most important friendship in my life and I would’ve done anything to save it but things didn’t work out. There were so many misunderstandings that non of us did anything about and it was very draining and I just couldn’t so I told her how I feel and she was very understanding and I’ll forever respect that. We also do share important friendship but it doesn’t matter anymore cuz it had to be done. I definitely won’t let them choose between the both of us and I’ll respect their decision whatever it was❤️
Realized my 4 years of friendship was fake and sh!tty, She talked to me to my own friends, my own bsf, victimized herself,ruined my life,my school life,made me hate everything, made everyone hate me, I’m done.
Thanks for this video. I feel a lot better now. I just lost a bestfriend today. And the main factor could be because i've changed. I've healed from my people pleasing phase and is no longer an extrovert.
I can never let go of my friends no matter how much they’ve done to me and how they’ve been to me
This hit so hard. By the time I reached my adulthood, I realized that my friends are becoming less visible. I know they have their own lives and I just don't bother some of them anymore. I don't wanna pretend that everything was the same as before. Everything changes for a reason. Acceptance is hard but it is the only way.
Yup especially after marriage and kids. I am 42 and I have noticed the decline in friendships I once had after the partying days went away.
@@STMARTIN009but life goes on!!
this is true with a lot of friendships, they don’t last forever and they can be ended by anything overtime, maybe like gossip, getting into arguments and getting separated etc. some friendships only last a year or two like most of mine. if you don’t have that shine anymore then try to salvage your relationship or just end up being stop friends because if you try to continue with your broken down friendship it’s just going to get awkward and worse over time. the thing is friendships fade because of growing up and your opinions and interests change which made that relationship. please just be happy and yourself overtime, so if your friends opinions and interests change or yours do too and they aren’t the same just don’t try and relate to them because you will just look awkward. and you in your mind will feel like you are screaming very loud. it doesn’t matter if you break someone’s heart by ending the friendship because most of the time because your friend probably feels the same way as you.
my message for you is to be yourself always with what your mind thinks.
Their toxicity slowly makes u stop caring which feels freeing
My friend and I used to get along but recently she's been rude and toxic but I think I've met someone else who I genuinely think is better for me.
I honestly needed this, I’ve been stuck in a toxic friendship where they bully me and no longer care for me. I’ve even created a whole separate personality for when I’m around them, it’s honestly painful especially since one of them did something unspeakable to me causing me mass amounts of trauma that I still can’t fully comprehend. It’s also exhausting to only be yourself when your alone in your room.
Get out of the friendship. its not worth your time.
How can I like this video MULTIPLE TIMES?! This is so true♥️♥️
When I tried to talk about my friendship experiences to another friend my friend just assumed I was talking about her behind her back but it’s ok to share how you feel about that friendship to other people right?
Yes it's totally okay. If u never let out some of your emotions, it will get out either way in a bad or good way. If u care about the friend, just don't be too negative because ur friend might react in a negative way when she finds out. My friend told me of her friendship and how she felt about it, ofc she doesn't trash talk, just felt a lil sad and stuff. I as her friend will listen to her and not judge her because it can make her insecure, neither will I go and expose her to her best friends cause I love all of my friends, the least I want is drama between them. I'm glad that my friend does talk to me about her problems, it shows that she can depend on me and she feels more happy and secure when there is someone who she can talk to and not feel judged.
Also I totally feel u, ur situation is like mine with my former friend group. There is always one person who assume that one person is talking behind their back. I'd say it's up to u and how u handle the responsibility to explain some misunderstanding that may occur in the future.
I did this about this friend I’m tied to and I finally got rid of her
Thank you for this information, I appreciate it
Yes 🙌🏽 the sense of dread is painful
I’m in middle school…
Most of my “friends” are adults
My best friend has been judging my insecurities previously too,but i didn't feel bad earlier ,but now the limits have been crossed and yk I don't want to share anything with them idk what's happening
That's literally what's happening to my 12 yr old friendship and I am slowly cutting my ties off.
My friends value me for my resources and entertainment.
How do you separate from friends when this happens
I was curious as how to best handle this as well
Honestly I wish I knew the answer, I'm having the say problem where I'm unsure how to leave a friendship and migrate to my new friends that I've made and feel happier and more exited around.
Pls anyone any advice? Same probelm
@@alee8453 for me it's been a case of moving lunch tables. I just sit at both day to day I choose a set and no one seems to be hurt. Eventually I'll have to make the full transfer but I'm getting closer.
I remember being friends with a group of people that I could not relate to anymore. I just subconsciously went on gradually decreasing my encounters and phone conversations with them. It took a little time to come out of that toxic friend group... But I feel much better now. I can allow myself to freely just be myself now that I'm out of that group.
But dont ever shun them out completely.
Just gracefully get out of that relationship if possible.
Thank you for bringing this topic up, I have seen vids bout this but I just don't really relate with them. I, myself am a very straightforward and outspoken kind of a person, I have been in a healthy relationship with my friends for years but there is this friend of mine which always make me insecure of myself these days, ( I'm not a person to let things get into my heart). She's like happy for a min then goes into a whole depressed state in another and if I try to confront her about it, she goes like "I'm not upset with you or what you said" or goes like "let it be, you wont understand, you have friends, not like me with none " and at times I don't even know how to respond that...
I just lost all my friends in one minute.
Was going through this phase. I'll get over this period too.
This hurts a lot. Mostly because of how accurately it hits. And the lack of other friendships to take their place...
Number 1 hits me the most.
Thank you so much for this video. It helped a lot.
Storytime/drama?
I have (or had) a friend who ive been friends with since kindergarten. I dont know what it is. I feel like im a fake friend or person.
A girl in my school, who I became friends with this year. We laugh together, and for some reason.. I find her funnier than my other (or old) friend.
Ive changed a lot, and I admit it. Ive done some bad shit in my life. But I have never messed up this bad.
Now, I kinda find my old friend boring.. And I sometimes even ignore her without knowing it. We promised we'd be friends forever, but sometimes.. nothing turns out how its "supposed to."
Now when im with her, (my old friend,) fake smiles, laughs, chuckles, happiness. All of that real stuff.. My new friend has drained out of me. I dont get it. I messed up so bad..
(Not a vent, just explaining my situation, because I know some people are going through the same thing I am.)
This is so helpful thank you so much
But what is more challenging is that how to let them go because they are so attached to me that If I break up with them then they will definitely gonna hurt , I Don't know what to do 🙂
Thanks for chatting about friendships now l know my friendship is coming to a end my friend always are rude and they leave me out every time after school l cry l have no friends at school l just walk on my own lonely 😔
it's sad but even friends outgrow each other.
you said every thing I’m feeling wow
My friendship just today ended because I felt like she only thought about herself even when I was in an awful state, she always pushed me in corners and tried to control me and used me overall. I am free of her now ❤
Damn, all four signs.
I don't want to hurt him, but I want the friendship to end. I don't want to hurt him in the way he hurt me.
I dread going to school, knowing he'll be there. He's way too possessive over me. He treats me like I'm his daughter, and he's over-controlling over me. He lacks independence, and always seems to need something from me.
I feel like I can't be open and honest with him. I need to vent about him to my family because of that. He crosses my boundaries constantly, as if he feels it shouldn't apply to him. I thought he was a kind, considerate person when we first met. I still think he is, somewhat.
Only a month until school ends. I'm free for a few months then.
The worst part is when you talk to someone they say “just leave them” but you can’t because you feel like they’ll bully you and hurt you even worse
Its hurts alot..seeing your best friend does not care for you anymore..seeing your best frnd getting away from you day by day..seeing your best frnd making new best frnds..🥺😕and you cant do anything but to pray for her happiness..so you just stay away..😕😕
I am sorry my dear frnd..jst sorry😓😕
I have been thinking non stop about this for a month now and the last one just absolutely scared me cause the last one has been happening a lot. Like my bff won't even go out with me anymore and last week when we first saw each other in a month she wasnt the girl she used to be she was focusing more on posting on her RUclips channel than doing the things we always do and love to do. It was so weird it broke my heart. At this point realizing all this may be coming to an end I don't think she will even keep the promises she promised me. Thank you so much for informing us. I'm going to go on the bathroom and cry for 3 houers till my father comes home and says "do you want me to bring you some blankets pillows and food?"
no dont do that just make amends my having cex with her girly wirly!
your father seems sweet
Today I told my bestie how I feel she always made me angry but we were such good friends but now it's falling apart. I told her everything. So today was the day a put a end to my stress
I totally agree. Thought I was weird 😊
We always listen to eachother when the only thing we need is someone to listen to us. And when we need an advice we openly asks for it. Things have changed now and my bestie has started to give me advices that i didn't even asked for , and scoldings.. too frustrated. 😢
I used to have these friends and after a while I didn't feel as connected with them and didn't have many things I could talk about with them as well as I would go up to other friends saying how they left me again they were making fun of me for being sleepy and always talk about the same things. So eventually even though I had been friends with them for years I told them I didn't want to be friends with them to which they told alot of people and people came up to me asking why I wasn't friends with them and telling me I should be friends them again/ the reasons I gave weren't good enough even my mum was saying I should be friends with them again I guess I wasn't clear that I was unhappy in the friendship but I am still not friends with them and when people still ask me I just say its none of their business and go back to talking with my friends. 🤷♀️🤷♀️
This is so true
I'm in a trio . When I watched the video trio doesn't work I defended our friendship that it will work . But I didn't know iam the one who's gonna be left out .
My first friend in college left me after getting new one and now the trio they became the duo . Iam not existing in this room for them . They only talk with each other, share things with each other . When I go and ask them what's going on they will be not in the mood to tell me. And today I heard them badmouthing about me .
Staying away from family and keeping up with these so called friends is hard .
Find new group of people or interests outside. Leave them to themselves.
@@OnlyOneName I'm trying but it's not possible cuz I'm living with them in one room 🥲
@@Hanuxy I understand. How many more years you will have to live with them in one room?
@@OnlyOneName next 3 years 🙂 Till 2026
Yes yes yes. My friends pretend too much and hide things
i had my first friend in highschool and he was sitting right next to me then he found a part of mine that when soneone touches i jump and he started doing that and when i say stop he does more so i didnt feel safe next to him after all of that i went to our teacher and said i dont want to sit next to him and i didnt tell the teacher so many things so our techer didnt change my place after that he started to calm down but i dont feel safe anymore near him so i changed my place after 1 month and i am REALLY happy after aall of that i relized toxic friendships doesnt have an end and thry damage you day to day (sry for my english if you find a mistake please tell me im trying to improve my english)
A part of you? when someone touches you jump????I don't understand.
This is really sad. I had a group of friends last year. And a lot more people have joined this year. I instantly clicked with this other girl. Then I started realizing she doesn’t make me feel bad about myself,she cheers me up and I always want to be around her.
When she says other friendships thinking I have more 😂😂
That’s valid from the beginning for the relationship with a toxic partner. You put my gut feelings into words.
Well thanks! I wish I saw this 7 months ago when my “friend” of 10 years decided to say out of the blue that I’m too “mentally unstable” and was “the reason he moved so far for college and the reason for his anxiety and depression”
I'd rather have someone end things with me if it's not working over them stringing me along and me having no clue. I have a toxic friend I want to end things with. Should I not end things to not hurt their feelings? I think not.
For what it’s worth, I’ve become my own best friend, and happily relish in knowing that I’m both sane & clever enough to detect & get out of toxic relations with energy-sapping loafers.
It's time to focus on you now and your own growth, health, and happiness.
Sounds like a narcissist blaming you for what is wrong in their life so they don’t have to take responsibility. Doesn’t sounds like a friend.
I used to think when my bestie was mean nothing about it but I’m older and responsible and I’ve realised that I don’t deserve them
i don't feel like saving the friendship anymore. we're going different directions and feels like it's bringing me down
Same here. i wish i had the energy.. sometimes i do but then the guilt follows. she herself says I've changed but doesn't understand why. keeps saying I don't have time for her. Well I'm in college and she's not yet.. though I wish the best for her.
Advice based on this: also in my case.. she basically copied what I wanted to do after criticizing it badly, its a habit of hers. So I think its better than this that you go in a different direction than someone making you lose the passion for something you once had
hope you're doing well
Same here. I just realised we're completely different. Our interests aren't same anymore
my friend has changed so much over the summer and i feel like i don’t even know her anymore. she doesn’t avoid me and we do all out usual activities but it’s not the same anymore. i miss her.
Man this is how I feel with my father, things could be different if he just supported me.
This feels like my past relationship when it was nearing the end. Thanks for sharing this ❤️
i didnt realize how toxic my "bestfriend" was, thank you for making me understand!
Exactly. I'm so done with this friendship. I feel physically sick being around my friend, I've changed and i can't stand my friend's personality and that shallow view on life. I no longer enjoy spending time or even chatting on the phone. I've tried to justify all of this but its been over a year of me feeling this way so thank you for clearing things up for me. I need to focus on myself more and finally start doing things that I enjoy without feeling guilty. God bless
HOW CAN SOMEONE TALK SO SCIENTIFICALLY AND CALMLY AND MAKE ME ALMOST CRY
We were friends for 6+ years, I guess it's time to let him go. He's being more distant, it's like he's uncomfortable being around me.
Asking for a friend. I just went through a breakup with someone I really love and had a long, happy relationship with, we’re both on good terms and are planning on mending our friendship. We’ve both acknowledged that if we regain feelings we won’t hesitate to try again, just a little more cautiously and with maturity. What are the signs that a friendship with an ex are turning back into love??
it just hurt, having anxiaty attachement and just that one friend who makes you feel good, like a drug you get addicted to, cutting it off is like hell
I had a friend who I always hang out with, but then he joined an MLM and he started to change. Kept preaching MLM like a devout worshipper, then I distanced myself because I don't wanna prey on financially unstable people who's given a false hope only to get taken advantage off of in the end by those scummy people.
My bsf dosent care about my feelings and she is allways jealous that I’m meeting other friends so its not fair and she forces me to do a lot of things. The worst thing is she scrares me because she talks about things that make me feel insecure and sad. I dont know how to explain to her that I don’t want to be in a relationship with her anymore. I dont want to hurt her feelings, but she allways does to me. She gets angry for dumb things: If i lend her a pencil but say: wait, she gets angry at me for not giving it to her on time.
All except the last one... Still drawn to her
I just lost a friend (like litterally yesterday) and all these signs happend to me. She litterally gave me depression and I just felt like I couldn’t tell her because she would make fun of me or not care wish I saw this sooner❤
I had a childhood friend who was very close to me. Then I moved away - to the other side of the country. When I saw her again as an adult I felt she was judging me. She had no idea of any of the trauma and illness I had suffered in the interim - and yet she felt entitled to criticize me for my growth. Unfortunately there are a lot of people like this in the world - hence my "intimate" relationship with RUclips.
Common sense. Thank you for the help. The best for all of them who left or are above to live me. Thank you and happy new year
Thank you ❤
When I ended my last toxic friendship, my friend told me "even if you ignore me for years, I know you'll be back one day." She was terrifying to be around at the end. I hope she got the healing she needed to be a good friend.
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Perhaps, Forever was a word meant for memories, not people.
Not totally off topic but I remember silent bob saying that while mews was in the throws of addiction and self harm that it was getting hard to respect him and I think that’s when friendships end 💗🥂🎀
Found that to be true if you cannot voice your opinions politically without being shamed. I don’t expect anyone to have similar beliefs but I think friendships grow when you show curiosity which is meant to increase understanding rather than try to change a person.
I had gone through millions of problems with my bff. She just doesn’t understand how much I love her but she calls me her bff it’s really sad. We are actually in the same school but different sections and she makes me feel that she has found a new bff I get jealousy sometimes but heartbroken 💯 100 percentage. It’s really hard to have a friendship like that but the solution I found was tell them how you feel and if they a bit like how you want them to me which means she/he is really a good bff who understands you. This can be used for friend best friend or your best friend forever