Ernest is helping us a tremendous amount. I really appreciate his collectedness and calmness which help me stay calm. I also am inspired by how careful he is to hear each person's concerns and asks insightful questions to help us get to the root of our issues. I also feel very thankful how respectful he is of our time and energy by how stays on track with the topic on the table of conversation and gently but firmly brings the topic back to the table if it does go astray. The book he required us to get called Nonviolent Communication by Dr. Rosenberg has changed my life for the better in a derp way. I now have healthier ways to communicate my feelings and needs while refraining from creating a defensive atmosphere by using judgemental words. I am so thankful for a returned sweetness in our marriage atmosphere recently, and Ernest was a huge part of that.
This podcast was heaven sent,God in action answering my prayers. Mr. Hart is exactly what my family needs. I have been so depressed not sure what to do. I now feel hopeful. I will be reaching out today to schedule an appointment.
This is such an important conversation. Having been the one who stood up and said no, it's time to change the dance, everything that is being said in this video is vital. Thank you for talking about this.
I am only 5:51 seconds in & I can tell you that I connect and recognize this so strongly within my family. I have almost bowed down in submission that it’s just beyond repair. Eventually, about two and a half years ago, recognizing that the change starts in and with me. --> pushing play! ▶️
After 60 years, I finally woke up. I became extremely spiritual, and I had the courage to totally disconnect from my family, but not before letting them know just how much they’ve hurt me and the deep dysfunction. All this suppressed anger came out of me and I felt great, but at the same time, I felt a tremendous amount of grief over all the years I spent Trying to fit into something that was very painful. There is no way just by the fact that I spoke up and I’ve been blocked by these people and they’ve always reverse it back onto me that that you can change this dynamic. I know you believe you think you can, but some families are at a point where they’re beyond repair and not only that at 60 years old, I want to disconnect so that I can heal and have healthier happier relationships. It says if they’re dead, but I made a conscious decision that I no longer wanna be a part of this dysfunction and if I remove myself heal myself, then I can show my daughter that this is not normal and maybe break the generational pattern.
You're amazing. So strong and brave. I'm going through the exact same thing right now. It's brutal and excruciatingly painful. He's turned everyone in the family against me. We desperately need an intervention for the sake of my two youngest boys. God bless you. Take good care of yourself❤️
@ you don’t need an intervention you need to physically distance yourself and your sons from this person or else he’s going to hurt and destroy them.. Once you do that you can start healing. It’s almost impossible to heal if you’re still involved with this person. I understand I still feel a tremendous amount of pain from making this choice but then I also feel on the flipside there was no other choice because I have to live with myself. You have to live with yourself your sons have the right to grow up in an environment that is safe and that is healthy and so do you in the end you only have yourself you certainly wouldn’t want to put this person ahead of you. you can’t intervene with someone like this focus on yourself and remove yourself in your son from this person.
The psychology behind family systems is extraordinarily complex. It wouldn’t be wise to dip your toes into those waters without the help of a professional licensed to do psychological evaluations and assessments or risk going down the wrong path that could cause either emotional harm or rupture the relationship. Glad to hear they have helped some but it’s kind of like seeing a car mechanic to take out your appendix. It might work…or it could be fatal…
❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉 Our secrets keep us sick. To those smoking the hopium - the illlusion that things might get better just because we hope for that without having to do the difficult or painful or uncomfortable things to change them: A friend of mine's father was a weakthy financier. Above his desk, even after retirement, he had a small photo frame. Inside was printed in large italic font: "Never finance an optimist." 😂😂😂 He was rich for a reason, maybe. 😂❤😅😊 Hopium or copium... it's our choice which we take, if we recognize the situation for what it is or at least may be. Thank you!
Ernest is helping us a tremendous amount. I really appreciate his collectedness and calmness which help me stay calm. I also am inspired by how careful he is to hear each person's concerns and asks insightful questions to help us get to the root of our issues. I also feel very thankful how respectful he is of our time and energy by how stays on track with the topic on the table of conversation and gently but firmly brings the topic back to the table if it does go astray. The book he required us to get called Nonviolent Communication by Dr. Rosenberg has changed my life for the better in a derp way. I now have healthier ways to communicate my feelings and needs while refraining from creating a defensive atmosphere by using judgemental words. I am so thankful for a returned sweetness in our marriage atmosphere recently, and Ernest was a huge part of that.
This podcast was heaven sent,God in action answering my prayers. Mr. Hart is exactly what my family needs. I have been so depressed not sure what to do. I now feel hopeful. I will be reaching out today to schedule an appointment.
This is such an important conversation. Having been the one who stood up and said no, it's time to change the dance, everything that is being said in this video is vital. Thank you for talking about this.
Amen. Going through this toxic hell after leaving my abusive husband. Toxic family dynamics enabling and protecting him😪
I am only 5:51 seconds in & I can tell you that I connect and recognize this so strongly within my family. I have almost bowed down in submission that it’s just beyond repair. Eventually, about two and a half years ago, recognizing that the change starts in and with me. --> pushing play! ▶️
After 60 years, I finally woke up. I became extremely spiritual, and I had the courage to totally disconnect from my family, but not before letting them know just how much they’ve hurt me and the deep dysfunction. All this suppressed anger came out of me and I felt great, but at the same time, I felt a tremendous amount of grief over all the years I spent Trying to fit into something that was very painful. There is no way just by the fact that I spoke up and I’ve been blocked by these people and they’ve always reverse it back onto me that that you can change this dynamic. I know you believe you think you can, but some families are at a point where they’re beyond repair and not only that at 60 years old, I want to disconnect so that I can heal and have healthier happier relationships. It says if they’re dead, but I made a conscious decision that I no longer wanna be a part of this dysfunction and if I remove myself heal myself, then I can show my daughter that this is not normal and maybe break the generational pattern.
You're amazing. So strong and brave. I'm going through the exact same thing right now. It's brutal and excruciatingly painful. He's turned everyone in the family against me. We desperately need an intervention for the sake of my two youngest boys. God bless you. Take good care of yourself❤️
@ you don’t need an intervention you need to physically distance yourself and your sons from this person or else he’s going to hurt and destroy them..
Once you do that you can start healing. It’s almost impossible to heal if you’re still involved with this person.
I understand I still feel a tremendous amount of pain from making this choice but then I also feel on the flipside there was no other choice because I have to live with myself. You have to live with yourself your sons have the right to grow up in an environment that is safe and that is healthy and so do you in the end you only have yourself you certainly wouldn’t want to put this person ahead of you. you can’t intervene with someone like this focus on yourself and remove yourself in your son from this person.
Smiles Ernest Hart Is An Adorably Appropriate Name
THIS IS SO ACCURATE!!
Great video. Thanks.
My grown children know the truth now it's all so sad
What would you change of you could? What would you tell a family facing this now who's children are still young? What advice would you give them?
The psychology behind family systems is extraordinarily complex. It wouldn’t be wise to dip your toes into those waters without the help of a professional licensed to do psychological evaluations and assessments or risk going down the wrong path that could cause either emotional harm or rupture the relationship. Glad to hear they have helped some but it’s kind of like seeing a car mechanic to take out your appendix. It might work…or it could be fatal…
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Our secrets keep us sick.
To those smoking the hopium - the illlusion that things might get better just because we hope for that without having to do the difficult or painful or uncomfortable things to change them:
A friend of mine's father was a weakthy financier. Above his desk, even after retirement, he had a small photo frame. Inside was printed in large italic font: "Never finance an optimist." 😂😂😂 He was rich for a reason, maybe. 😂❤😅😊
Hopium or copium... it's our choice which we take, if we recognize the situation for what it is or at least may be.
Thank you!
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I give up,
I’m leaving my husband.