I'm allowing myself to know & practice this. I've been working through neglect & abusive relationships and at 54, it's easier to do this. Thank God for RUclips and access to learning.
Thank God I am at the point where I am happy to let people be where they are at. I have done enough, it is time to take care of me and loving myself. I realised I am here to wake up myself not others!
I really believe I have experienced more unconditional love, exceptance from cats and animals in general compared to most human relationships. I'm done with dating men and most friends have been really shitty to me too. Peace for me is being alone!!
Thank you for this. As a never married, always single, no kids, HSP introverted empath, I wondered why it's always been so easy to be alone. I don't feel lonely. I enjoy connecting but sometimes relationships feel "too much"...overwhelming, difficult, scary, overstimulating or they can just feel like work; unrewarding or lopsided where I give way more than I get back. This is interesting and validating so thank you 🙏
I think the toughest is the persecution because you care and you want to give of yourself willingly be it work, family of origin, friends, and relationships but it's viewed as weakness, competitiveness, or self- righteousness, or eccentricity. What a conundrum.
I concur @ SheCanSmile just met someone about ten days ago I was excited just feeling the warm fuzzy feelings for them which doesn't happen much in my world yesterday just yesterday I felt this energetic shift I didn't like it, I just know now I have to breakoff this connection because I don't want to find out in pain what's in-store 4 me 🙏💐
I’m starting to understand my Exhaustion. Hoping I can Recover from caring too much, taking to much from Selfish people I love dearly. Giving too much. The down Side of being empathetic.
But we are growing..our children or one of them are also an empath and if there is space for it, we learn them how to cope with that. Our parents or one of them were also an empath but didn't had the freedom yet to develop this.
Yep this is me! I have often cried myself to sleep, wondering what was wrong with me and why I was so different from most people around me and why I can’t seem to settle into a relationship with anyone because I just always feel crowded and overwhelmed and underwhelmed by the actual person and their efforts.. not to mention, I tend to have men that tell me they are afraid of me because of the light and power that I carry because I am so confident now from all the things I’ve been through, strengthen myself from so much pain because I was just tired of giving into people and just feeling miserable with the person.. but I’ve learned this about myself over the last few years and I’m OK with it now because now I understand who I am and I know how to manage my relationships with other people. I may not really have a serious relationship anytime soon.😂😂😂
I live in NYC and I find it difficult to connect with people. I’m trying to find my tribe. But I had no idea only 5% of the population are empaths and this makes so much more sense to me. I’m following Chanel’s like this so that I can meet more people like myself.
God bless you!!! I do love NYC….but I can imagine what navigating the city and its people must be like on a regular day to day basis. I hope you find your tribe 😊
@ Hi there, so nice to hear from you. Thanks for reaching out. I feel good to know I’m speaking to a fellow good soul. Would love to communicate somehow and enrich my life with positive people and good experiences.
My children’s father is emotionally immature but because I’ve done the work, I see his wounded inner child so when I critique him, I put on the parent hat and speak to his inner child and not the adult and that has worked so well. Since then our co parenting relationship has flourished.
You shouldn't have to do that though that's the problem this is an entitled advantage that he takes from you. You are still pouring from an empty cup because he's not or lacks the capacity to pour back.
@ he isn’t taking anything from me. My cup is full because I’ve done the work and continue to do so. There’s a lovely thing called boundaries, which I implement. He cannot take advantage unless I give him permission to. And although he is emotionally immature, he shows up in other ways such as financially. Some of us who are in the 5% are spiritual healers, and know how to alchemise energy among other gifts. I’m a powerful being, no one can take my energy unless I agree to it. I’m blessed and divinely protected.
☺️ I DIDN'T HAVE A 'TRAUMATIC CHILDHOOD' AND I'M AN 'EMPATH'!! I WAS 'BORN' WITH THE QUALITIES GOING AS FAR BACK AS I CAN REMEMBER (2 1/2 -3 YRS. OLD!😊
That (ESTIMATED) 95% of childhood trauma victims don't choose narcissism, either. Their development is halted at the narcissistic stage. Think they're aware of it at age 2 1/2 or 3 and make a choice? No. Something HAPPENS. It can be a single event, even. Yes, you can have a fine childhood and still be stuck with these post traumatic conditions. Aka NPD and what is referred to here as being an empath. This kind of language use can be dangerous. It encourages splitting (black and white thinking), antagonism (us vs them), and grandiosity(yay "empath," boo "narcissist"). Come ON, guys! This empath thing is just another clustered personality disorder. It is not our job to "enlighten" other people, we are screwed up too. Shame on us for judging ourselves as better. Sheesh. PS--- someone with NPD tales EVERYTHING as an attack or criticism. You can say the sky is blue. They get defensive. No such thing as soft or gentle communication with them, sadly there is no such thing as communication at all with the NPD individual. Don't buy it, folks.
I have simply gone indifferent and no longer try to connect with people. I do not offer opinion or critique and will let people deal with the consequences of their blindness. Caring has caused me more than enough problems.
Solitude as an empath for me is key. Being by myself is bliss. I love being around animals more than humans. I love being different, odd, weird or mysterious as I have been called on occasions Thankyou for sharing this.🙏
Empath and gay, 32 and the struggle has been real when it comes to relationships, but I am remaining positive that the universe has someone on the same frequency waiting for me.
Same here but Flip the age numbers around, I'm 23. And I feel so behind when it comes to relationships. All we can do is trust the universe, there's not really another option❤
This has all been so true for me 😌🤦🏾♂️ 10:42 turns into an instant argument and brings up what was nothing when I asked what was wrong but now that I’m mentioning something now it’s something 🙄🤯 8 years of peace has been a result of me just not caring to be in any relationship and made cutting off “friends” all the more easier. The fake folks is real and plenty out here
Wow wow wow!!!! I say I won’t be with anyone because I feel like no one is on my level…I meet so many emotionally immature people. This came right on time. Makes complete sense… thank you for this
That sucks though. Like I know that other people can’t for the most part hold space for my emotional intensity. I stopped expecting it a long time ago. But I hate the thinking that we should just go at it alone… For what? To punish other people for healing in ways that are more pathological? Only we end up suffering because of that. It’s disconnected from our true nature… It’s hard. We can’t go at it alone, that’s just not what anyone is built for (especially not those who identify as empaths). There’s got to be a happy middle ground; for me it’s not expecting it from other people but also trying to hold on to the hope that someday there will be someone else that reciprocates (or also, that it will maybe not look like how I want it to)
I am in my 60s, and I have traveled a difficult road. I am no longer picking up hitchhikers. There are "no returns," they should have read the label. People take our kindness for weakness and their underestimation leads to a very messy situation for them. People pleasing is out and boundaries are up! I am alone and I have learned my own value. I would prefer to be alone and in peace, than have a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent.
Thank you for this. I really needed this. Things makes so much sense now. When they can have no secrets with you, they know you know, even when you say nothing. My empathy is multidimensional… I can feel in specificity, and see… like a movie, the trauma they had as a child that still haunts them. Takes a VERY MATURE, spiritually intelligent man to be with me. Been single a looong time. But, it only takes one. So hope prevails. Sending love to my fellow empaths. REST AND LOVE your beautiful self. 💖🙏🏾✨
Woe, this video just popped up on my feed as I prepare to go to the store. I'm anticipating a New Year's Eve alone. I'm actually excited. I give, I'm a servant at work even as a Director, I'm committed to helping others. I also just realized that I'm the friend to the friendless...like I literally have 3 friends that do not have other associates, I'm their go-to, and it's not fun but I've created boundaries. In fact, it's quite exhausting. I do have other friends and associates with whom i enjoy, i am supported by,. This small circle came through fire, trial and choices. They came after pruning season and repeated crisis cycles. Yet when a lot of people feel triggered, they reach out to me for calm. It manifests in people telling me their deepest and darkest secrets and talking a hole in my head. I can't get a word in edgewise, but I'm implementing cut off strategies and time limits. My relationships I've always given more than received, and I get it. I've processed who I am in the world, as well as my assignment. And with that, alone is not lonely. I get it now, I have learned to enjoy the journey while standing on self love, self care! I'm blessed to see the very best in others and to know heart postures and intentions. Our greatest resource on earth - people. And I'm no exception.
I listen and listen and listen and when someone asks about me I don’t know where to begin. I’m a pro at redirecting the conversation back to them. If I do talk about myself I tell people I’m a creative person with lots of interests and then I name the project I’m working on that way I’m not getting to deep.
So this explain almost everyone I talk to turns out to be a narc. This is depressing for me as I am a Sigma Empath its extremely hard meeting genuine ppl 😞
Fellow Empaths, let's try to build a strong sense of awareness and boundaries. Because we see good in others we believe things will be better even when initially we're already shown people's real characters. This world is much harder because we do too much expecting to recieve same treatment or something appreciable😂 but you ll be damned because alot of people are not like us. I have finally come to understand myself as a codependent empath and currently healing from that. This has helped me alot in dealing with people around me with strong sense of awareness.Until we look at things from our perspective and change how far we go with the people around us ,we will be hurt 1001 times and still do it all over again. Understand that we are all DIFFERENT , MOST people are SELFISH Be AWARE of your own AWARENESS and build stronger Flexible BOUNDARIES with your AMAZING sense of EMOTIONAL Intelligence.
Heavenly Father, direct me in my career, and finances. I have two children with special needs. Life is overwhelming for me, because I am a single parent and I’m constantly faced with financial difficulties. Lord I struggle to provide the basic necessities for my sons. I pray for your divine intervention in my life, please provide for my children’s needs and guide me towards financial stability.💕
Thank you so much! Definitely spot on! I've decided to stay single for the rest of my life. So far, so good! A lot of men who have approached me didn't understand, but I already saw, as you said, the many reasons why things wouldn't work out. I didn't explain myself. I was very kind, but said "I'm very flattered, but..." I will just serve humanity, my family, and my friends, by being kind, providing guidance, when requested (which often is), and always doing whatever is best for all involved. I'm always the cheerleader and peacemaker wherever I go. People just trust me. Even total strangers. Namaste. 🙏🏽
It’s true! There’s not many high frequency people around. My partner has a very high frequency. He clears demonic shadow energy patterns from peoples energy fields over the phone. His frequency is close to 1:million. As part of his work he measures a person’s frequency according to radionics (homeopathy) and uses the radionics machine to help to clear their energy field. This is how I know that there’s a lot of narcissists around. I have learned to intuitively measure an individual frequency numerically. It’s a very sobering reality that we humans have been so overtaken by the fourth astral demonic realm. For me sending love and light into the darkness fixes most things. 🙏💜🌸
Where do you go to get more knowledge about 4th dimensional demonic beings because I am sure my partner and I experienced something otherworldly and I guess reading occult books isn't the only tool I need😂
@@The11thgarden I did a podcast here on RUclips with a psychic. Watch the podcast, connect with her, she may have the answer. Morgana Starr is her name.
This is so spot on! I've wondered why it's been so difficult for me to meet a life partner. So, are people who aren't empaths intimidated by the auras of empaths? How can I stop scaring people away?
Your job is to not stop scaring people away, that’s like learning how to live without oxygen. Your job is to focus on yourself and love yourself. If you’re meant to be in partnership then you will meet someone and that someone will have done the work to not be scared of your light…..
I’m 38 yr old empath who has been in a relationship with a narcissist for over 2 decades and have mastered these skills you mention and still I have a great amount of tension built up in my body that feels like slow but speedy death!😂 i have a constant desire to just leave everything and disappear so that I can finally decompress. I’m growing a business that’s not profiting much so I can’t help myself right away. I just want to be alone
i appreciate you sharing this God... peace, love and light...🙏.... as you were talking im saying to myself that we see.... then later you say it lol.... im feeling great listening to someone thats me... really appreciate you...
This is very accurate... I have been in this pattern several times... Rather is friendship, lovers, work, family. Etc. I never thought that we were only 5% and I could see how we start from the premise that people have the ability we have.
Definitely apart of that 5% happy this popped up in the algorithm because I be feeling like a WEIRDO! It’s not about being better than I’m just different. 👂🏾🤝🙏🏾💯
You described all these points to a tee! Relationships, no matter what type seem impossible to a true empath. The math is against the empath at 99% against 5%. Because no one will truly understand the mindset of the empath, others will go to great lengths to invalidate and literally destroy the empath's reputation via constant smear campaigns, tauntings, threats, and all forms of gaslighting. It's no wonder an empath looks to walk alone. Thank you for your expertise on the subject. 🙏 ✨️ 🕊
This makes so much sense. I feel so tired with trying sometimes. I have to remove myself because as I get older I have also taken on physical energy. I had excruciating back pain for about a week after speaking to a stranger who was going through a lot of hardships. I greeted him at random and he just began speaking. I felt so saddened and outraged on his behalf. One thing he kept saying was that he felt 'stabbed in the back'! Which of course explains the pain. It sounds weird, but I eventually asked the back pain to leave. After three tries it finally did. But I have had other experiences in a very similar way. Sometimes I feel the energy of people so deeply it feels like my own energy. Once I focus on the energy I can normally pinpoint who it is. The person does not have to be physically with me, but I can still feel them, know what they're thinking and at times hear them. It's a relief once I realize it's not me! Of course this is after I've spent hours or days wondering why I'm feeling frustrated, depressed, anxious etc. Once I stood by someone at the airport who was so extremely nervous...I became sick and almost threw up! I DO want to help them, but sometimes I need to stay away for my own peace of mind! And I know they don't always want to hear what I have to say, even when I give solutions that will benefit them only. I don't get anything out of it. So people try to deliberately hide things from me, but it doesn't really work. I still feel them, and just know somehow.😓🤷🏽♀️ I just leave them alone. It does make me sad though because my sole aim is to be a support. There is no judgement. I am perfectly content to let people be themselves.
I am also super sensitive and I can very easily take on other peoples energy. I have also learned how to identify what is my energy and what is “trespass” or other peoples energy. I also try to identify from where the energy has come and I cast it out of my field with love and light. I believe that demons are disabled by love and light. It is some days very hard work. It can be intense. I think it’s getting a little easier for me and I am becoming more skilled and intuitive at identifying what’s going on. I believe that it is my right and my responsibility to protect my energy from trespass. Best wishes🙏💜🌸
Finally someone that understands me, and can literally explain me to me❤️🙏🏽💯✨😘 I’ am most certainly going through a true awakening!!! This transformation is deep! I need more! I subscribed ❤✨🙏🏽❤️
Yep! Almost 70 now! I haven't been in a relationship in 20 years. I am lonely sometimes but know a relationship is not worth the effort! I wish I had someone...
Wow……..only 5% 😳 that’s a lot smaller than I thought. *******We need to start an Empath Group****** I honestly thought something was wrong with me, until your channel popped up. Now, I know why I’m this way. Yes, I see through others very well😮 FACTS💯. Thank you so very much Vital. GOD Bless🙏🏼
I strongly believe, this video was meant for me to hear today. I absolutely operate in the world this way but I couldn't articulate how/why. Thank you so much for this information and how you explained. New Subbie here!
This is so real , 💯💯💯 we carry so much power . We literally see right through ppl & we are often the truth tellers .. & we know so much that it scares ppl !! So it’s even hard to have friends!
A lot of times I just don’t love being this way. Seems that social situations are hard for me anymore and I feel like a socially isolated freak to save my energy 😢
I am a massage therapist and I work through the body intuitively. I always speak on how intimate a massage is and the exchange that is going on between the giver and receiver. I’ve been single and abstinent for a year now because I fear of disrupting my emotional and mental peace. I’m always cognizant of what I want my clients to absorb and chaos is not one.
I truly appreciate this video as it helps me to understand that we are a real set of people. I've always felt I was different since my childhood as an empath. I've been told I'm too sensitive by particular people and that used to hurt so much to hear. Those persons close to me have not understood that my sensitivity is a great part of how I have loved them genuinely. It's a lonely road sometimes. Thank you for providing education on empaths.🙏
You know what I love about you? You have identified all of my beautiful flaws and hv allowed me to see the many times I hv fucked up. After years of yummy therapy, I make different choices. I prefer to be w the co creative partner who finds comfort in helping one another. God help me, I know alot about EI, but I am happy to be wrong. Just talk with me darling so we become love . .. becoming love daily equally. Empathing is beautiful
Thank you so much for this information 🦋I continue to experience this over and over again and I am so disappointed 🦋I feel like an alien sometimes and feel like just giving up on finding my Life Partner and continue to Love on me 🦋The only thing missing in my life is my Life Partner 🦋
Absolutely 💯🤗 I’m so happy to finally find a closer explanation of how and who I am. It has been a very hard journey, but I’m glad that at this point in the history of humanity and the evolution of communication finally we can relate to the empath concept and personality 🤗🙏💕 Thank you!
I’m here just nodding my head in agreement as you speak and I feel a lil guilty or wrong for being able to see people and recognize if they align with my core values or not and if not then I want to isolate and be around that person as little as possible but the real bad feeling is that like you said sometimes we can see further then they can see if themselves so they may not even know or be aware of certain issues they have and for me to not want to be around them feels wrong ( that is until they actually begin acting in the way that I’ve already perceived them to be and once they start projecting and lying on me is when I no longer feel guilty or wrong because now it’s showing but when I can see and perceive that before it happens and want to distance myself from the person makes me feel like I’m playing God and passing judgment even tho I know I’m only reading their energy and noticing the misalignment from the high vibrational core values I endear
I just found your channel, and thank you so much. I have a feeling you could help me with the challenges I have as an empath. Sometimes I feel like something inside me is gonna BURST and it hurts sooooo bad!! 😭 No one (or at least very few) seems to understand how much this can hurt!! 💔😞
I understand and feel you. I feel everything so deeply and it hurts. I have had to learn how to disconnect from energy that brings me down and how to take to God in prayer 🙏
Thank you for your explanation, Vital🙏🌟It's even more difficult than I thought to meet a person we can have a stable safe caring developing enriching relationship with... 5% is so low....
Very well said. Glad I ran across this video. I've been waking up to who I am and just now starting to understand why people act the way they do around me and why my relationships are so hard. No one can see things the way I see them and no one has been able to resonate with me for quite some time. I thought I was doing something wrong. I also thought I was helping. I'm tired of being patient. Still wondering when someone will be able to be patient with me.
Wow! At 47, life is making more sense now. Thank you for sharing. My journey as an empowered empath continues! I'm here for it! New subscriber 🎉 Happy New Year!
@ thank you but it happen for my highest good and I’m Grateful when you know better theirs a opportunity to do better all glory to God ❤️keep shining your light you’re awesome ✨✨
I have been gifted on New Years Eve w your message. Hot Damn! I love Empathing ❤️ and loving and walking away. Sometimes it's just great to lv that thing alone. God Bless Y'all ❤
In our perspective we feel we re doing our best to help when we want to FIX others people problems but it doesn't work that way... Become aware of that and understand that people will fix themselves with your support. Don't hijack the process. So there's a need to FIX the need to fix other😂.
Damn this video hit. If some of the people I’ve been in relationship with, would listen to this video. Would they still consider me as the crazy/bad one…I wonder
"We hear what was not said." And it's loud.
YES!!!
Very 📢
So true.
Yes
I'm telling you!
Empaths better off on their own reaching out to needs in society than focusing on an unresponsive partner.❤
Wow you said a mouthful right there❤
I'm allowing myself to know & practice this. I've been working through neglect & abusive relationships and at 54, it's easier to do this. Thank God for RUclips and access to learning.
Thank God I am at the point where I am happy to let people be where they are at. I have done enough, it is time to take care of me and loving myself. I realised I am here to wake up myself not others!
INDEED!
You’re not alone.☮️
Thank You for your message I am connected to the truth and that is let it be so I can see and then I am able to be the best that I can be
Hi Five
Yes! ♊️ I love that. I realized couple days ago that I was seeking from others what I really want in myself.
I really believe I have experienced more unconditional love, exceptance from cats and animals in general compared to most human relationships. I'm done with dating men and most friends have been really shitty to me too. Peace for me is being alone!!
@@newworldlove7031 yes, pets ❤️
I agree !!
I love my two cats 🐈⬛🐈⬛ and generally animals are sweet and easy to love. They give us so much if we let them !!
🙏💜🌸
Absolutely 🖤
@Amber-b3g❤👍
I'm with you! My dogs saved my life. ❤
Thank you for this. As a never married, always single, no kids, HSP introverted empath, I wondered why it's always been so easy to be alone. I don't feel lonely. I enjoy connecting but sometimes relationships feel "too much"...overwhelming, difficult, scary, overstimulating or they can just feel like work; unrewarding or lopsided where I give way more than I get back. This is interesting and validating so thank you 🙏
yes, enjoy the solitude :)
I think the toughest is the persecution because you care and you want to give of yourself willingly be it work, family of origin, friends, and relationships but it's viewed as weakness, competitiveness, or self- righteousness, or eccentricity. What a conundrum.
We aren't missing anything!
Same! I feel so seen in this video and this comment.❤
@ 🤍🤍🤍
So spot on. Now I know I'm not crazy.
@@SheCanSmile definitely not crazy
say that!! lol... your not.. your powerful... balance it... peace, love and light...
I concur @ SheCanSmile just met someone about ten days ago I was excited just feeling the warm fuzzy feelings for them which doesn't happen much in my world yesterday just yesterday I felt this energetic shift I didn't like it, I just know now I have to breakoff this connection because I don't want to find out in pain what's in-store 4 me 🙏💐
Yes! Yes!🙌🏽
What a tough life for the empath to walk. Sigh! (I am exhausted).
Right!!!
Same
This resonates # and exhausting for Empath, I have to tune out sometimes, and be myself...no more Fixing!!
@@sl2427 Same here, NO MORE FIXING
I’m starting to understand my
Exhaustion. Hoping I can
Recover from caring too much, taking to much from
Selfish people I love dearly.
Giving too much. The down
Side of being empathetic.
5% now it totally makes sense. I didn’t think it was that small
@@jaselaetienne6432 different surveys say different things. Average conclusion is between 5-20% depending on country too. Either way, MINORITY ❤️🩹
But we are growing..our children or one of them are also an empath and if there is space for it, we learn them how to cope with that. Our parents or one of them were also an empath but didn't had the freedom yet to develop this.
Yes, I feel the same way😮 only 5%
Yep this is me! I have often cried myself to sleep, wondering what was wrong with me and why I was so different from most people around me and why I can’t seem to settle into a relationship with anyone because I just always feel crowded and overwhelmed and underwhelmed by the actual person and their efforts.. not to mention, I tend to have men that tell me they are afraid of me because of the light and power that I carry because I am so confident now from all the things I’ve been through, strengthen myself from so much pain because I was just tired of giving into people and just feeling miserable with the person.. but I’ve learned this about myself over the last few years and I’m OK with it now because now I understand who I am and I know how to manage my relationships with other people. I may not really have a serious relationship anytime soon.😂😂😂
I live in NYC and I find it difficult to connect with people. I’m trying to find my tribe. But I had no idea only 5% of the population are empaths and this makes so much more sense to me. I’m following Chanel’s like this so that I can meet more people like myself.
Like minded people indeed.
@ So awesome that you responded!
God bless you!!! I do love NYC….but I can imagine what navigating the city and its people must be like on a regular day to day basis. I hope you find your tribe 😊
I’m here fren.. I’m in Cleveland… I have the same desire and calling to help or be of service. Be apart of that thing!
@ Hi there, so nice to hear from you. Thanks for reaching out. I feel good to know I’m speaking to a fellow good soul. Would love to communicate somehow and enrich my life with positive people and good experiences.
My children’s father is emotionally immature but because I’ve done the work, I see his wounded inner child so when I critique him, I put on the parent hat and speak to his inner child and not the adult and that has worked so well. Since then our co parenting relationship has flourished.
You shouldn't have to do that though that's the problem this is an entitled advantage that he takes from you. You are still pouring from an empty cup because he's not or lacks the capacity to pour back.
@ he isn’t taking anything from me. My cup is full because I’ve done the work and continue to do so. There’s a lovely thing called boundaries, which I implement. He cannot take advantage unless I give him permission to. And although he is emotionally immature, he shows up in other ways such as financially. Some of us who are in the 5% are spiritual healers, and know how to alchemise energy among other gifts. I’m a powerful being, no one can take my energy unless I agree to it. I’m blessed and divinely protected.
@@Leaningintotheunknownfacts
So after a traumatic childhood only 5% decide to be an empath and the other 95% choose narcissism. That makes a lot of sense
@@colorfulsin 🥲
I don't think anyone 'decides' to be an empath. You are either one or not one.
☺️ I DIDN'T HAVE A 'TRAUMATIC CHILDHOOD' AND I'M AN 'EMPATH'!! I WAS 'BORN' WITH THE QUALITIES GOING AS FAR BACK AS I CAN REMEMBER (2 1/2 -3 YRS. OLD!😊
@@marvanewborn2287 :)
That (ESTIMATED) 95% of childhood trauma victims don't choose narcissism, either. Their development is halted at the narcissistic stage. Think they're aware of it at age 2 1/2 or 3 and make a choice? No. Something HAPPENS. It can be a single event, even. Yes, you can have a fine childhood and still be stuck with these post traumatic conditions. Aka NPD and what is referred to here as being an empath. This kind of language use can be dangerous. It encourages splitting (black and white thinking), antagonism (us vs them), and grandiosity(yay "empath," boo "narcissist").
Come ON, guys! This empath thing is just another clustered personality disorder. It is not our job to "enlighten" other people, we are screwed up too. Shame on us for judging ourselves as better. Sheesh.
PS--- someone with NPD tales EVERYTHING as an attack or criticism. You can say the sky is blue. They get defensive. No such thing as soft or gentle communication with them, sadly there is no such thing as communication at all with the NPD individual.
Don't buy it, folks.
I have simply gone indifferent and no longer try to connect with people. I do not offer opinion or critique and will let people deal with the consequences of their blindness. Caring has caused me more than enough problems.
Solitude as an empath for me is key. Being by myself is bliss. I love being around animals more than humans. I love being different, odd, weird or mysterious as I have been called on occasions
Thankyou for sharing this.🙏
Empath and gay, 32 and the struggle has been real when it comes to relationships, but I am remaining positive that the universe has someone on the same frequency waiting for me.
@@waritolfactive 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Wish we could be friends 🥲🖤
Why do you think relationships are so hard for you? Not only on your end, but others as well?
Same here but Flip the age numbers around, I'm 23. And I feel so behind when it comes to relationships. All we can do is trust the universe, there's not really another option❤
Every single words resonate. I gave up trying to communicate and am now alone but peaceful. God bless all
This has all been so true for me 😌🤦🏾♂️ 10:42 turns into an instant argument and brings up what was nothing when I asked what was wrong but now that I’m mentioning something now it’s something 🙄🤯 8 years of peace has been a result of me just not caring to be in any relationship and made cutting off “friends” all the more easier. The fake folks is real and plenty out here
Wow wow wow!!!! I say I won’t be with anyone because I feel like no one is on my level…I meet so many emotionally immature people. This came right on time. Makes complete sense… thank you for this
YW Denise.
That sucks though. Like I know that other people can’t for the most part hold space for my emotional intensity. I stopped expecting it a long time ago.
But I hate the thinking that we should just go at it alone… For what? To punish other people for healing in ways that are more pathological?
Only we end up suffering because of that.
It’s disconnected from our true nature… It’s hard. We can’t go at it alone, that’s just not what anyone is built for (especially not those who identify as empaths).
There’s got to be a happy middle ground; for me it’s not expecting it from other people but also trying to hold on to the hope that someday there will be someone else that reciprocates (or also, that it will maybe not look like how I want it to)
This is sooo me. Never heard it explained better. I don't give to receive I give out of pure love. It just so hard to protect myself.
No wonder I been single forever …. I might be single for life … cause I’m calling them out…. I’m always open to improve …and acknowledge my stuff..
I’m calling their asses out also! Always!
I am in my 60s, and I have traveled a difficult road. I am no longer picking up hitchhikers. There are "no returns," they should have read the label. People take our kindness for weakness and their underestimation leads to a very messy situation for them. People pleasing is out and boundaries are up! I am alone and I have learned my own value. I would prefer to be alone and in peace, than have a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent.
@@wanderingaudi4138 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Wow such nice comment 😮
Thank you for this. I really needed this. Things makes so much sense now.
When they can have no secrets with you, they know you know, even when you say nothing. My empathy is multidimensional… I can feel in specificity, and see… like a movie, the trauma they had as a child that still haunts them. Takes a VERY MATURE, spiritually intelligent man to be with me. Been single a looong time. But, it only takes one. So hope prevails.
Sending love to my fellow empaths. REST AND LOVE your beautiful self. 💖🙏🏾✨
Had to subscribe. This was spot on. Thank you.
Thank you
@kaenova my sentiments exactly 🙏
You nailed this Vital, even with friendship this is true, probably why I only have a handful of friends.
@@elizarodriguez2876 🤍🤍🤍
Woe, this video just popped up on my feed as I prepare to go to the store. I'm anticipating a New Year's Eve alone. I'm actually excited. I give, I'm a servant at work even as a Director, I'm committed to helping others. I also just realized that I'm the friend to the friendless...like I literally have 3 friends that do not have other associates, I'm their go-to, and it's not fun but I've created boundaries. In fact, it's quite exhausting. I do have other friends and associates with whom i enjoy, i am supported by,. This small circle came through fire, trial and choices. They came after pruning season and repeated crisis cycles. Yet when a lot of people feel triggered, they reach out to me for calm. It manifests in people telling me their deepest and darkest secrets and talking a hole in my head. I can't get a word in edgewise, but I'm implementing cut off strategies and time limits. My relationships I've always given more than received, and I get it. I've processed who I am in the world, as well as my assignment. And with that, alone is not lonely. I get it now, I have learned to enjoy the journey while standing on self love, self care! I'm blessed to see the very best in others and to know heart postures and intentions. Our greatest resource on earth - people. And I'm no exception.
Thank you for this video as I continue to adapt and accept who I am.
I listen and listen and listen and when someone asks about me I don’t know where to begin. I’m a pro at redirecting the conversation back to them. If I do talk about myself I tell people I’m a creative person with lots of interests and then I name the project I’m working on that way I’m not getting to deep.
So this explain almost everyone I talk to turns out to be a narc. This is depressing for me as I am a Sigma Empath its extremely hard meeting genuine ppl 😞
We Are very Sensitive ❤. SO TRUE.❤
All facts!!! I see right through people and they are oblivious to their own behavior.
@@kmc9646 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
So true. I didn't think anyone else understood!
We avoid because it protects is against the hurt which is too much.❤
Fellow Empaths, let's try to build a strong sense of awareness and boundaries. Because we see good in others we believe things will be better even when initially we're already shown people's real characters. This world is much harder because we do too much expecting to recieve same treatment or something appreciable😂 but you ll be damned because alot of people are not like us. I have finally come to understand myself as a codependent empath and currently healing from that. This has helped me alot in dealing with people around me with strong sense of awareness.Until we look at things from our perspective and change how far we go with the people around us ,we will be hurt 1001 times and still do it all over again. Understand that we are all DIFFERENT , MOST people are SELFISH
Be AWARE of your own AWARENESS and build stronger Flexible BOUNDARIES with your AMAZING sense of EMOTIONAL Intelligence.
@@Intentionalcindy7311 👏👏👏
I do have problems in finding someone because I see there faults really fast certain things I can't tolerate
Same, I thought it was my way of putting up walls, but this gives a whole new perspective.
their
@@Juli-AnnBassant-w5w just stop
@Juli-AnnBassant-w5w thks i was letting it fill itself in bit i know there is over there their is their actions
Heavenly Father, direct me in my career, and finances. I have two children with special needs. Life is overwhelming for me, because I am a single parent and I’m constantly faced with financial difficulties. Lord I struggle to provide the basic necessities for my sons. I pray for your divine intervention in my life, please provide for my children’s needs and guide me towards financial stability.💕
@@ChildofGod98765 ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Most people also do not like change.
True
Thank you so much! Definitely spot on! I've decided to stay single for the rest of my life. So far, so good! A lot of men who have approached me didn't understand, but I already saw, as you said, the many reasons why things wouldn't work out. I didn't explain myself. I was very kind, but said "I'm very flattered, but..." I will just serve humanity, my family, and my friends, by being kind, providing guidance, when requested (which often is), and always doing whatever is best for all involved. I'm always the cheerleader and peacemaker wherever I go. People just trust me. Even total strangers. Namaste. 🙏🏽
Makes sense
I am learning to live ( as an empath) & let live.🎉
@@MissShellBayleaf44 👏👏👏
It’s true!
There’s not many high frequency people around.
My partner has a very high frequency. He clears demonic shadow energy patterns from peoples energy fields over the phone. His frequency is close to 1:million. As part of his work he measures a person’s frequency according to radionics (homeopathy) and uses the radionics machine to help to clear their energy field. This is how I know that there’s a lot of narcissists around. I have learned to intuitively measure an individual frequency numerically. It’s a very sobering reality that we humans have been so overtaken by the fourth astral demonic realm. For me sending love and light into the darkness fixes most things. 🙏💜🌸
@@Amber-b3g 🙌
@Amber-b3g I’m curious learning more about what your husband does and how I can learn more for myself please!
Where do you go to get more knowledge about 4th dimensional demonic beings because I am sure my partner and I experienced something otherworldly and I guess reading occult books isn't the only tool I need😂
@@The11thgarden I did a podcast here on RUclips with a psychic. Watch the podcast, connect with her, she may have the answer. Morgana Starr is her name.
This is so spot on! I've wondered why it's been so difficult for me to meet a life partner. So, are people who aren't empaths intimidated by the auras of empaths? How can I stop scaring people away?
Your job is to not stop scaring people away, that’s like learning how to live without oxygen. Your job is to focus on yourself and love yourself. If you’re meant to be in partnership then you will meet someone and that someone will have done the work to not be scared of your light…..
I believe you've just summed up every relationship in my life 🤯 ty
I’m 38 yr old empath who has been in a relationship with a narcissist for over 2 decades and have mastered these skills you mention and still I have a great amount of tension built up in my body that feels like slow but speedy death!😂 i have a constant desire to just leave everything and disappear so that I can finally decompress. I’m growing a business that’s not profiting much so I can’t help myself right away. I just want to be alone
i appreciate you sharing this God... peace, love and light...🙏.... as you were talking im saying to myself that we see.... then later you say it lol.... im feeling great listening to someone thats me... really appreciate you...
This is very accurate... I have been in this pattern several times... Rather is friendship, lovers, work, family. Etc.
I never thought that we were only 5% and I could see how we start from the premise that people have the ability we have.
@@almeidareis 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This was such a comforting message to receive right before the new year. Watched 3 times to digest properly. Thank you! 🙏🏿
Thank YOU for watching 3 times.
Definitely apart of that 5% happy this popped up in the algorithm because I be feeling like a WEIRDO! It’s not about being better than I’m just different. 👂🏾🤝🙏🏾💯
Resonate with this message whole heartedly.Thank you for sharing your divine intelligence and healing wisdom of confirmation.
@@yahyah9184 ❤️
You are amazing we need people who understand what we go through 🦋
@@___Rebelliousbeauty thank you
You described all these points to a tee! Relationships, no matter what type seem impossible to a true empath. The math is against the empath at 99% against 5%. Because no one will truly understand the mindset of the empath, others will go to great lengths to invalidate and literally destroy the empath's reputation via constant smear campaigns, tauntings, threats, and all forms of gaslighting. It's no wonder an empath looks to walk alone. Thank you for your expertise on the subject. 🙏 ✨️ 🕊
This makes so much sense. I feel so tired with trying sometimes. I have to remove myself because as I get older I have also taken on physical energy. I had excruciating back pain for about a week after speaking to a stranger who was going through a lot of hardships. I greeted him at random and he just began speaking. I felt so saddened and outraged on his behalf. One thing he kept saying was that he felt 'stabbed in the back'! Which of course explains the pain. It sounds weird, but I eventually asked the back pain to leave. After three tries it finally did. But I have had other experiences in a very similar way. Sometimes I feel the energy of people so deeply it feels like my own energy. Once I focus on the energy I can normally pinpoint who it is. The person does not have to be physically with me, but I can still feel them, know what they're thinking and at times hear them. It's a relief once I realize it's not me! Of course this is after I've spent hours or days wondering why I'm feeling frustrated, depressed, anxious etc. Once I stood by someone at the airport who was so extremely nervous...I became sick and almost threw up! I DO want to help them, but sometimes I need to stay away for my own peace of mind! And I know they don't always want to hear what I have to say, even when I give solutions that will benefit them only. I don't get anything out of it. So people try to deliberately hide things from me, but it doesn't really work. I still feel them, and just know somehow.😓🤷🏽♀️ I just leave them alone. It does make me sad though because my sole aim is to be a support. There is no judgement. I am perfectly content to let people be themselves.
@@medusagorgon9 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I am also super sensitive and I can very easily take on other peoples energy. I have also learned how to identify what is my energy and what is “trespass” or other peoples energy. I also try to identify from where the energy has come and I cast it out of my field with love and light. I believe that demons are disabled by love and light. It is some days very hard work. It can be intense. I think it’s getting a little easier for me and I am becoming more skilled and intuitive at identifying what’s going on. I believe that it is my right and my responsibility to protect my energy from trespass.
Best wishes🙏💜🌸
Finally someone that understands me, and can literally explain me to me❤️🙏🏽💯✨😘 I’ am most certainly going through a true awakening!!! This transformation is deep! I need more! I subscribed ❤✨🙏🏽❤️
@@CreatedSpacespodcast ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Yep! Almost 70 now! I haven't been in a relationship in 20 years. I am lonely sometimes but know a relationship is not worth the effort! I wish I had someone...
Wow……..only 5% 😳 that’s a lot smaller than I thought. *******We need to start an Empath Group****** I honestly thought something was wrong with me, until your channel popped up. Now, I know why I’m this way. Yes, I see through others very well😮 FACTS💯. Thank you so very much Vital. GOD Bless🙏🏼
We would NEVER trust each other lol
Yes lets start an Empath group
Scary how much truth there is 😮
I strongly believe, this video was meant for me to hear today. I absolutely operate in the world this way but I couldn't articulate how/why. Thank you so much for this information and how you explained. New Subbie here!
This is so real , 💯💯💯 we carry so much power . We literally see right through ppl & we are often the truth tellers .. & we know so much that it scares ppl !! So it’s even hard to have friends!
@@ChosenDj25 🔥🔥🔥
A lot of times I just don’t love being this way. Seems that social situations are hard for me anymore and I feel like a socially isolated freak to save my energy 😢
I am a massage therapist and I work through the body intuitively. I always speak on how intimate a massage is and the exchange that is going on between the giver and receiver.
I’ve been single and abstinent for a year now because I fear of disrupting my emotional and mental peace. I’m always cognizant of what I want my clients to absorb and chaos is not one.
@@fitgenes8530 🙏🏽
Wow, thank you for putting it so clearly. It makes me understand the dynamics of my last relationship so much better!
@@1monarara ❤️🩹
So true and well constructed analysis of my experience. INFJ Sigma and Hyper empath. Exhausting isn't it. Well done
Exhausting indeed
I truly appreciate this video as it helps me to understand that we are a real set of people. I've always felt I was different since my childhood as an empath. I've been told I'm too sensitive by particular people and that used to hurt so much to hear. Those persons
close to me have not understood that my sensitivity is a great part of how I have loved them genuinely. It's a lonely road sometimes.
Thank you for providing education on empaths.🙏
You know what I love about you? You have identified all of my beautiful flaws and hv allowed me to see the many times I hv fucked up. After years of yummy therapy, I make different choices. I prefer to be w the co creative partner who finds comfort in helping one another. God help me, I know alot about EI, but I am happy to be wrong. Just talk with me darling so we become love . .. becoming love daily equally. Empathing is beautiful
Peace and harmony have always been the goal. People have a lot of variables, it is exhausting to naturally read into these variables.
@@caireengraham indeed
Thank you. Keep well empaths.
@fionataylor4269 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for this❤ being an empath can definitely feel like a blessing and a curse
Indeed it can... once you gain the tools you'll learn it's a blessing.
I hate it💙uk
Thank you so much for this information 🦋I continue to experience this over and over again and I am so disappointed 🦋I feel like an alien sometimes and feel like just giving up on finding my Life Partner and continue to Love on me 🦋The only thing missing in my life is my Life Partner 🦋
I feel you!
Absolutely 💯🤗 I’m so happy to finally find a closer explanation of how and who I am. It has been a very hard journey, but I’m glad that at this point in the history of humanity and the evolution of communication finally we can relate to the empath concept and personality 🤗🙏💕 Thank you!
I’m an empath and I feel everyone’s emotions and fakeness, it’s hard for me to be in a relationship..I love being alone but also miss the sex part
So beautiful Said and I recognize my self alote in this
As an empathic person, this makes sense.
Resonates entirely thank you. Quite comfortable now to stay solo I have learned enough mirror lessons 😅 Bless 🙏🏽
Congrats
This was simply amazing. Thank you for articulating our hearts. 💚💚💚
THIS is the best video I've seen and makes SOOOO much sense; had to subscribe! Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🤗
I appreciate you for speaking my mind
Avoid, because it hurt to be different. Thank u for telling this
I would like to meet some of the other 5% out there. I've been wondering where you all are! 🤔
This message resonates deeply. Thank you.
@@dhiyaaabdullah2192 🙏🏽
Whewwwwww !This is correct!I stop giving a long time ago!
It’s so painful 😓 why did I have to feel this way 😢
I’m here just nodding my head in agreement as you speak and I feel a lil guilty or wrong for being able to see people and recognize if they align with my core values or not and if not then I want to isolate and be around that person as little as possible but the real bad feeling is that like you said sometimes we can see further then they can see if themselves so they may not even know or be aware of certain issues they have and for me to not want to be around them feels wrong ( that is until they actually begin acting in the way that I’ve already perceived them to be and once they start projecting and lying on me is when I no longer feel guilty or wrong because now it’s showing but when I can see and perceive that before it happens and want to distance myself from the person makes me feel like I’m playing God and passing judgment even tho I know I’m only reading their energy and noticing the misalignment from the high vibrational core values I endear
@@Wholesome_Mystic 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I wish that I was soft and compassionate and caring towards my partner. But it just all comes out, jeez its been a really tough few years.
Such great information, explains so much. This video is great for non-empaths as well.
Glad to know it applies to "non empaths" but it also includes HSP, very kind giving people etc.
Amazing ❤ I thank you
I just found your channel, and thank you so much.
I have a feeling you could help me with the challenges I have as an empath.
Sometimes I feel like something inside me is gonna BURST and it hurts sooooo bad!! 😭 No one (or at least very few) seems to understand how much this can hurt!! 💔😞
I understand and feel you. I feel everything so deeply and it hurts. I have had to learn how to disconnect from energy that brings me down and how to take to God in prayer 🙏
Thank you for your explanation, Vital🙏🌟It's even more difficult than I thought to meet a person we can have a stable safe caring developing enriching relationship with... 5% is so low....
@@belinhasobrinho1096 very low %
Wow, this all makes sense. I avoid relationships because I was with a narcissist off and on for many years. It was too painful.
Infp here, it’s tough in these relationships in general not just partners
Very well said. Glad I ran across this video. I've been waking up to who I am and just now starting to understand why people act the way they do around me and why my relationships are so hard. No one can see things the way I see them and no one has been able to resonate with me for quite some time. I thought I was doing something wrong. I also thought I was helping. I'm tired of being patient. Still wondering when someone will be able to be patient with me.
That is me 100% what a tough journey this has been for me
Wow! At 47, life is making more sense now. Thank you for sharing. My journey as an empowered empath continues! I'm here for it! New subscriber 🎉 Happy New Year!
@@nirva5464 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you ❤, you broke it down perfectly I feel understood
Powerful message‼.....Thank You❣🙏🙌
Awesome teacher this is so spot on me to the T wow you really describing me and the situation I went through with the Ex narc 😵💫
Sorry you had to go through it.
@ thank you but it happen for my highest good and I’m
Grateful when you know better theirs a opportunity to do better all glory to God ❤️keep shining your light you’re awesome ✨✨
Empaths make the world go round.😮
So good thank you for this 🙏🏽
5% yikes! Thank you. I was having strange dreams that got me reflecting on this very subject. Appreciate your insight
So refreshingly accurate. Wow.
So spot on..thank you🙏🏼
I have been gifted on New Years Eve w your message. Hot Damn!
I love Empathing ❤️ and loving and walking away. Sometimes it's just great to lv that thing alone. God Bless Y'all ❤
In our perspective we feel we re doing our best to help when we want to FIX others people problems but it doesn't work that way... Become aware of that and understand that people will fix themselves with your support. Don't hijack the process.
So there's a need to FIX the need to fix other😂.
Damn this video hit. If some of the people I’ve been in relationship with, would listen to this video. Would they still consider me as the crazy/bad one…I wonder
You explain so well !! 💚🍃