Okay yall update so when i wrote this comment i was in a pretty depressed mood and i shouldn't have done the personality test as it didn't reflect me. Turns out i'm actually an ENFP but i'm still the same yup yup.. why we won
From my experience: Yes, they match in a funny way. They both like the woods. INFP: running into every tree, looking at their compass ENFJ: hugging every tree, forgot their compass at home
Martin Stoelting frolicking through the forest had a huge impact on how hard I bonded with my enfj 12 years ago lol most of the time he was rock climbing while I was drawing things, hunting for pretty rocks, daydreaming... most of all admiring this elusive enfj shining in his natural habitat lol
Martin Stoelting where I live it’s checkin for ticks and tending to poison Ivy chiggars and a whole lotta other nonsense but yeah I enjoy that part too Tea tree for bug bites and mustard for poison ivy and even burns (no joke smells awful but put that mess on fast!!)
I'm an INFP and maybe you will think it's weird, but I'm always imagining a perfect love story with a perfect husband I don't even know yet. But the funniest is that I already love with all my heart this husband who doesn't even exist
I've dream(like actually dreaming when I sleep) so much of the perfect husband/life. I actually started to dream it and it felt so strangely real. I even question if that's how I'm supposed to feel in a relationship. When I wake up I always wish to go back.
Yeah, i am pretty young to look for a husband but i have a perfect boyfriend list and my expectations are too high that the only guy i am able to like is the one i created in my mind...
Same for me, but recently I got to know about a person who's an ENFJ and he's the softest and kindest person I've seen, he's literally the embodiment of my ideal type. I keep feeling touched by how he is so emotionally supportive, empathetic and ready to protect anyone. I was shocked at first bc I thought "these kind of people exist for real?!" and now I'm imagining how awesome our relationship would be, that I would literally need noone else.... if it only wasn't for the fact that he's a celebrity from a country that's on the other side of the planet, doesn't speak any of the langues I speak and I will never even be able to meet him...
Awesome, you both are very lucky. The two types compliment one another beautifully and rarely argue. I hope you both live a long and happy life together.
Im INFP and my husband is ENFJ. Our dynamic is spot on to the movie she’s all that. I still can’t believe how easy it is for me to charm him just being myself. He’s so exciting and everyone likes him. I know I’m very lovable but he really is such a “cool” guy that it surprises me when all my nerdy passion and overly complimenty ways leave him enamored. I just want people to feel good about themselves and he always wants to help people be their best selves. We have mutual respect and as an INFP finding someone who truly understands you and listens to you and wants to please you in the way you want specifically is so freakin perfect. I’ve never had a relationship like this. It feels like soulmates. We just balance each other out so well but not in an opposites attract kind of way; it’s more of a we’re the same in different ways. I think destiny brought us together. We lived in different countries and met through a mutual bff (ESFJ). I hope all my lovely INFPs find the love of their life too 💖 It really is everything we ever dreamed and better because it’s actually real!
Woooow your story really amazed me, i hope one day i get one ENFJ man to be my husband too.. because the feeling to be understood by another people that can encourage me in a right way is like the best thing in the world 😊
So sweet!!! It’s uncanny, I’m an INFP and met an ENFJ when he replied to my comment on a political Instagram post... I thought what I said was pretty dorky/uncool, but I was so passionate, and he immediately DMed me saying how much he loved my ideas and found me interesting 😭😂 Since then we’ve been facetiming and texting because we live in different states, but the conversations are too good to let go! We share goals and philosophies, and he motivates me to actualize my beliefs. He’s so sexy and charming to me, and I can sense the warmth of his heart in his glowing smile and how he treats me like a rare flower. Idk if the relationship will go anywhere bc of the distance, but the connection is truly incomparable. Love to all ENFJs 💜
My bf is Enfj and he is AMAZING. Other people always makes me feeling my feelings are too much but he is very attentive to my feelings🥺 he doesn't take advantage of me when I make myself vulnerable. It makes him fall harder. He is extroverted and everyone likes him, I know he can get anyone he want but he never gives me reason to feel insecure. He doesn't hesitate to tell me how he feels which makes me feel secure. He wants us to last, get married and everything.. But because of my past, it makes me feel like people don't last. However, I want forever with him
I've always fancied enfjs. I just love their intensity, how they always show love and support to people around them and how they look after them. I've also always loved lame jokes and loud giggles lmao
@@lanaa3431 AH ok..My ENFJ girlfreind thinks she is intense too..but I've never really noticed what i'd perceive as intensive (or maybe it just seems natural to me since i'm Fe seeking?)
ENFJs are pretty used to being considered intense by society. For me, I know that I'm kind of smothering, I get mad when people aren't taking care of themselves, I'm generally fairly physically affectionate and I know that my "normal" in that regard is other people's "too much." Plus, ENFJs can be pretty scary... we all have a sort of cruelty streek it's just that some of us are better than others at controlling it. Plus, from what I understand, we're usually dreamers and many of us are super romantic which can create a sort of awkward combination with our enthusiasm. Anyone who doesn't have the same enthusiasm or at least understand it can be very exhausted and put off by it because- being enthusiastic all the time isn't exactly the most normal thing. It's not that we're intense, it's just that it can be interpreted like that.
I'm an ENFJ and even though I don't really know of any INFPs in my life except MAYBE my cousin, I find the idea of the personality type to be kind of adorable. I love people who have the guts to stick out from a crowd and embrace that, as well as I have a tendency to admire introversion because introverts don't need as much external validation as extroverts often do. Being artistic and creative is something I can really relate to and that is another thing that appeals to me. I want an INFP in my life, even if it's just a friend. I want to experience that dynamic.
Awh, I love this comment!!😍🙏🏻as an INFP I hope you find one of us out there in the world! We’re hiding most of the time, but we’re really loyal friends and true friends, once you get us to trust you! I hope you find an INFP, they’re gonna be so happy you’re going to want to understand and accept them too!! Best of luck✨💚👍
INFP male here and I melted when I met this girl who I think is an ENFJ. Just every part of our interaction made me feel happier and calm, she is so charismatic.
I'm INFP, my wife is ENFJ. We both watched this together and you pegged us both really good. I've been watching a lot of your stuff but she never has before. We kept pausing because we had to laugh at how accurate this was.
I'm an INFP and my Boyfriend is an ENFJ ♡♡♡♡♡♡ ... our relationship to me is kind of perfect on so many levels .... we let each other grow and help one another to make it through the good and the bad times .. plus we tend to give each other space to be who we really are and have a social life outside the relationship. I just love him so much and i guess there's no one in this world who could make me happier or that i can have a healthier relationship with. ♡♡♡♡♡♡
My best friend is ENFJ, and I'm INFP!. . I feel so blessed because what are the odds of me stumbling upon an ENFJ because I've seen that they are so rare. I see all parts of my life with her and my life wouldn't be the same without her. I've never had a bond that just keeps growing and growing like ours, it feels like we've built this endless world of insight and imagination and creative ideas that's protected by our admiration, respect, and love for one another forever!. We're both in college now doing our own thing (I'm in art and she's going into law)but I know that this sacred relationship we have with each other will never ever get old, and will always stay sooo strong. I just feel so dam lucky, we both help each other reveal our weaknesses/strengths and vulnerabilities without shame and we've learned how to conquer our greatest hardships and fears together. I can't imagine how I'd be without her selflessness and support and often I'm like...wth does she see in me LOL. But omygod I just feel like the luckiest girl in the world to have this powerful relationship like is this even legal??? I love you Denise!!
@@leixo Must be a common situation - I'm an INFP, just finished with an English studies BA (I'm Hungarian), going for the MA and also into translation studies. (I initially wanted to study art because I loved drawing, also I was interested in becoming a writer, but I think translation is both a creative and useful path to take.) My boyfriend, an ENFJ, studied international relations as a passion and will soon receive his degree in law, which he also really loves. I think it's great because we have lots of common interests but there are also new things we can show each other and we'll often share an enthusiasm after we're introduced to these things.
Fancy seeing *you* here, best friend ;) I’ve said this time and time again, but words could never justly express how lucky I am to have grown alongside you. 12 years strong!
My friends decided to do the MBTI test few days ago...I knew i was an INFP...My best friend for like 20 years ended up being an ENFJ... No wonder we get along so well! She understands me without even talking about the things i'm thinking of... and i feel at ease with her which is rare for me... And somehow, a new friend of mine also ended up being an ENFJ as we started to create that special bond recently... As an INFP, they both inspire me alot and they respect my uniqueness and thoughts... Now reading the comments, i realized how lucky i am to have met not one but 2 amazing ENFJs 😂
I was in an INFP and ENFJ relationship. I was already aware of how these two are compatible with each other. Out of sheer curiosity, i made my ex take the assessment and it made me happy how he was actually excited to take it. When i saw his result as an ENFJ, I couldn't contain myself from excitement. and told him how his personality type is compatible with mine, and he shot me this annoyed look. Not sure why he looked turned off, perhaps because it was at the beginning of the relationship? Im always trying to search for "the one" which is part of being an idealistic hopeless romantic as an INFP. I still really hope I'm able to find that person someday ....
Me an INFP, have the most perfect relationship with my ENFJ boyfriend, and oh my.... He helps me so much with my growth as a person, and i've never seen him happier with someone other than me. We grateful for each other, and complete each others gap very well
This is so accurate and hilarious 😂 I am an ENFJ, and my husband is an INFP. We have been together for 10 years and are very happy! But I did JUST tell him that he needs to verbalize that he likes me because he hasn't in 10 years unless I say, "Do you like me?" 😏 The way you explained "it feels like I'm being fake" made me actually say "oooh" out loud. I love seeing that it's his personality, not actually him not liking me.
I’m a INFP male having difficult time finding woman until I met an ENFJ girl. It just started out as dating and then it naturally took off about having kids...it’s that crazy between INFP and ENFJ! They are your soulmate! She is very tomboy as well. :)
I'm an INFP and my most recent ex was ENFJ. It always struck me as interesting how we both pick up on who other people are in different ways. She just has a sixth sense for reading people in the present moment, whereas I have an acute eye for seeing deep into people's character over the course of multiple interactions with them.
Before I even knew about Myers-Briggs a young lady and I connected instantaneously. She(ENFJ) and I(INFP) had met each other at an Air Bnb for some party. It was an overnight stay and for whatever reason, her friends elected that I sleep with her. Not sex, but just to literally sleep in the same room. Long story short, we started talking and as I said before, we instantly connected. It’s incredible how fast it happened. Unfortunately, my INFP anxiety took over, and I was scared to commit. She actually admitted her feelings for me but I was scared and foreseen possibilities that psyched me out due to past relationships. One year later, I came around to the Myers-Briggs test and I got her to take it. To my amazement, she was an ENFJ and it made sense all along. I know how rare they can be, so I really need to try and rekindle our relationship.
All the best in rekindling that relationship. I think we work dynamically and symbiotically together so I wish you the best. For me personally, there are not enough ENFJ's in the world. Very respectful of the type.
WOW! As an INFP, I completely resonated with what you described the INFP's extraverted intuition! I always catch myself saying that to people: "I just want to go out and see the world!" I'm much more adventurous than most people would expect an introvert to be! I teared up when you said that because I've always felt so alone and different from everyone else. Great video!!!
Only 6 weeks in with my INFP partner and we have a deep and profound connection that is growing stronger every day. We are both over 55, both divorced with adult children long gone (so to speak) and both more or less at peace with ourselves. There is a certain level of maturity and experience that allows me to know she is my partner for life and vice versa. We simply get each other. We laugh alot, talk constantly, have a ton of similar likes and a few things where we don't match. We met quite by chance, on a nature trail where at a fork she was unsure which way to go. The next two dates were similar walks where I spent the whole time trying to figure out if she was narcissistic or maybe borderline. Sounds crazy but the only reason I am at peace today is because I shed all the narcs that were inhabiting my life. It was just her quirky habit of walking along then suddenly veering to the right to look at some flower that made me think borderline as my recent built in narc radar was showing blanks. It was her interest in wanting to know the ascendant of my astrology sign that led me to give her the MBTI test. At this stage I had already guessed she was an empath and when her result came in as INFP everything else fell into place, right down to how we met where she was a little lost and I am talking about a local city nature trail not the middle of some remote forest. She makes me feel good about myself, period. And apparently I provide a level of comprehension and acceptance she has never felt in a man before. We love exploring each others personality. We can talk about our pasts without any jealousy or judgements creeping in. We are already planning to move in together in the near future, within the next year or so. This will most likely involve a change of city, we both want to get closer to nature. It's funny how these things go, if we had met 2 or 3 or 4 years ago most likely nothing would have come of it but we were both in a similar place of personal healing when we met and the connection was practically instantaneous. Maybe it is worthwhile coming back to this video in a years time to write more about the ENFJ and INFP relationship. For now it is one huge enormous success. Peace!
I’m INFP and I got completely ghosted by an ENFJ after our first date. When we first talked, we were on the phone for over 6 hours and it was absolutely wonderful and neither of us wanted to hang up with each other. Then he quickly became distant, and when we met for the first time one week later, he was acting like he wasn’t interested, but I had such an intense feeling with him, there’s no way he couldn’t feel it too. He was telling me personal things about himself and we had a wonderful conversation, and then he just completely ghosted me after. It’s been 5 days and I haven’t heard a peep from him. I asked him how he was doing and said that I wasn’t okay with him ghosting me, and he didn’t respond. So there’s that! I don’t understand wtf that behavior is… it’s so mean.
That sucks. To me, ghosting is how people break it off with others with minimal effort. Some people just aren't ready for a relationship and don't have the balls to actually say anything about it
here was prob married or not single. probably saw he was falling too quick. i know because it happened to me too, but i stopped it when i found out he wasnt single 😒
INFP here crushing hard on an ENFJ. We’ve been hanging out for 2 months and have grown so close in those two months… it’s time to have a talk coz I can’t hold back emotionally anymore. Urgh 😭. Wish me luck 🥴😣
A fine video, especially the functions part - thanks for that. It made me realize what I like about myself (ENFJ) and how this matches with my INFP friends/family. In a way, I transposed what you were saying also to a very important relationship to me - my business partner (ENFP), as it is a matter of their function order. I would have 3 conclusions as to what can make ENFJ-INFP work together well: 1) Ni-Ne: good coordination of goal and ideas choice. Be together on the same quest and topic. 2) Se-Si: want to DO the same thing together. Do what you BOTH feel/agreed on and engage in it. 3) Ti-Te: well, ENFJ/INFP wouldn't be to much of thinkers. I think avoiding overanalyzing and overmanaging will be good for both. Just let one (ENFJ) have the initiative, the other take it up (INFP). Let the ENFJ respect the INFP's decision once taken and let the INFP feel their effectivity. Well, just my insights from business and family. Hope it helps and thanks again for the video!
Thanks for the video! I'm an INFP and my sister is an ENFJ so this was definitely relatable and helpful. I'd love to see a video about INFP and ENTJ relationships. My ENTJ husband completely baffles me sometimes. 🙂
As an INFP I have discovered that an ENFJ woman is so much more compatible for me than most any other type. The emotional and energetic chemistry is amazing.
I love an ENFJ, yet he's not ready for a relationship. I have been holding him in my heart for the past 3 years. He's brilliant and a good man, just made some poor choices based off of pain. So, he's fixing his life while I am trying to create my own. I pray God will bring us together. Oh, I'm an INFP.
So much truth in this video. As an INFP, I think everyone must have good intentions. My sister, an INFJ, don't get mislead though. Like ENFJs, she knows as soon as she sees someone if they have good intentions or not. I can't do that. I will always assume someone is good. Then comes the disappointment but it has good sides. Like being open to others. Also, we always want to get out of that comfort zone and explore, but we must be one of the most afraid to do so. That can make you suffer like it can cause you to grow even though you have that stabilizing guardian within yourself. I love your videos, especially this one. Great format
I USE to be like that. But with time & development that changed. NOW when I encounter people, it is like seeing their soul in an X-ray machine.The good and/or bad is apparent. (With time you will get better.)
@@crystalbush5273 I hope so, I'm 20. People I met in my class this year still seem so perfectly good. But I think they are actually good (except one of them, but I didn't know it until it appeared clearly. I did feel smth different about him from the start though)
@@Blought0 Yes, that is perfectly normal for the age of 20. Your intuition is being fine tuned. I guarantee you that even 5 years from now you will see a dramatic difference. It is like honing a super power. It only gets better. At age 20 I got "duped" many many many times with friendships, relationships on the job etc. Some of it was naivete of my youth, some of it was just me being me... Inwardly I only had goodwill towards others and was radiating positive vibes outwardly. It didnt make sense to me that others would think completely different from that or have negative intentions towards others ESPECIALLY me... Like why ??? But in hindsight, i realized that I ignored my intuition when it would whisper to me about certain people or situations which led to regret for not acting on that foreknowledge. As you mature/ grow your intuition will get much Louder than a whisper and much harder to ignore. You will begin to trust it once you see how right it will be...so often. Introverted feeling can feel like a gift & a curse but ultimately it is a blessing. You'll see and you'll be fine.
I like a guy who is an ENFJ and Im an INFP. What I notice though is not many ENFJs are online so I can’t get feedback from them on how to win over this guy. Where yall hiding? Out living your best life probably. I need this man in my life to give me comfort and give them all my love while helping me keep organized and get my life together pleaseeee god give me the blessing of this guy I dream of every day
My ex is an ENFJ. He was the best relationship but I was not healthy mentally enough to be with him. But... A year later we still hang out ever weekend, we are intimate still... Can't seem to get away from the other... O.o
As an ENFJ it's difficult being so intense and sometimes it gets annoying. It doesn't make it easy either that INFPs are skeptical of Fe and hide into their shell.
Oh my gosh, as an INFP I laughed so hard when you described us as loving our comfort zone’s so much that we’re the hobbits😂 I’m such a hermit especially right now since it’s getting colder! I really appreciate everything you’ve shared here and it helps me to understand a new ENFJ friend of mine too! Super insightful👍🙏🏻🙏🏻hope you’re doing well Sherman! We appreciate you!!
It’s one of our most striking contradiction ! Many INFPs have serious wanderlust (I’m one) « phases » and in between long travels in different lands when we come back we climb in our hobbit hola and go full hermit mode ! But we will cherish some of the deep friendships we made on the road :)
As an ENFJ I love hearing thanks every now and then. I don’t care if it’s only like once a month from anyone at all. I just like feeling acknowledged because people tend to ignore me when I’m not out. I just like the feeling of knowing my loved ones notice what I do aswell
as an ENFJ, i would love to have an INFP partner :) the synthesising aspect of ENJFs you talked about is so spot on! it can be an asset (it certainly is in intellectual/academic settings) but generally i find that it can really hold me back sometimes (especially when making decisions)
While extroverted feeling is definitely the opposite of analyzing, analyzing helps ENFJs analyze the external world in order to change it to make it better. They also use analyzing to assess themselves to better the self in order to offer the world the best version of themselves.
Just split up with an ENFJ 7 weeks ago. Together for 2 Years. But the spark and passion between us is so intense that we cannot stay apart from each other. If you saw us together for lunch 2 weeks ago you would swear we had just met and were passionately in love with each other❤ There are a lot of truths in this and it is wonderful to hear them so I can understand more and visualise some the reasons why she dose the things she does the way she does them and also why I struggle to understand them. Also why she struggles with me when I think I am being clear. I can now see our disconnect and also how to begin to manage this better. Wish me luck that's it's not too late because this particular ENFJ is very special to me! Thank you Matt for the great content you just gained a new subscriber🥰
i really get a lot out of the interpretations you make in this type of video, beyond just talking about the function stacks. Being able to articulate how and why i think and make decisions (INFP) and learning how other types differ from me is really helping me nurture both old and new relationships. Big thanks to you!
This is sosososo accurate. I’m an INFP, my bf is an ENFJ, my mother ISFJ, my father ESTJ. Never thought you’d bring up that try-to-act-when-you-dont-feel-like-something part, that’s where my interpersonal relationships went chaotic. Thank you for making this video! I hope there’s more to come🥰
i'm an infp, and my best friend is an enfj. we are literally perfect for each other!! we communicate really well, and we help each other out through emotional connection. she keeps my life structured, i loosen her up a bit so she can laugh and relax. we are both idealists and could talk for hours and hours together. i feel like i could go anywhere if it was with her, and as an introvert that's a huge deal.
Could work if the INFP works on their sociability and if the ENFP works a bit to dampen their P. Double P at home leaves the chores and paperwork in a mess and will be a source of tension. ENFP also will have to simply accept the INFP’s desire for distance and alone time, and the INFP will have to indulge into the wild partying of the ENFP every now and then. NF’s can connect marvelously on worldview, need for individuality and freedom and disregard for baseless social norms. So the work will have to happen on everyday communication and behavior so that the connexion doesn’t die off.
My issue about two NFs is that both have a tendency to be dreamers, people pleasers and less practical. They can easily be manipulated by ill meaning individuals.
Highly controversial ;) INFPs can be bone jarring lie detectors as they literally smell out people who aren’t genuine, and are both NF are good at picking up on someone’s intentions ! Our blind spot there is our loved ones. For people very close to us or those we’ve let in, our desire to see the good in people, our confrontation-averse side and our tendency to go Open or Closed and no in-between can get us under the claws of a manipulator. But sooner or later we’ll pick up on their game at some point. Also, ENFJ and INFP are a great team because when someone takes the INFP for a doormat, the ENFJ will jump in to defend the INFP, while the INFP might point out some toxic people early on and save the ENFJ from wasting their energy and goodwill on a dishonest person.
I'm an ENFJ. While everyone else is in meeting after meeting, discussing the next step of the project we're working on, I'm waiting for them to catch up and already thinking of the next project. Maybe even already starting. A couple of things I don't think you quite get right, is the analytical and introspective aspects. I'm hyper-analytical, I overthink and overanalyze everything. And every moment I'm not engaged with something or someone, even sometimes while I am, I'm always doing introspection. That's the only way I can grow as a person and get closer to who I want to be. I have other aspects outside of the ENFJ though. I have an extremely high IQ, was abused and neglected from ages 5-14, and I've punished myself via many things, including addiction, for decades before I did an intensive treatment program in prison. So a few environmental factors. lol
You are absolutely adorable. I love watching your videos! You are super easy to listen to, you use relatable language, and as an INFP myself I quite enjoy your rambly tangents. Please don't ever stop making videos like this, these videos can always make me smile even when I'm feeling really down. Thank you for sharing yourself & your knowledge with us, it is truly appreciated.
I’m an INFP and I think u explained this great! Thank u! I find that writing or texting my gratitude tends to come out much more authentic even if it’s sporadically spontaneous!
i found out my crush is an enfj. I'm an infp. No wonder we get along so well and I like him so much. When we talk our conversations flow so freely and easily
I'm an INFP male with an ENFJ mother, and I'll tell you this, it's a struggle cause well she is my mother and she cares a lot so she can be very intense and I don't like that about people, I like it when people are chill
Ehan, you may not see it now but you are lucky (as long as her intensity is in the healthy sphere rather than neurotic). ENFJ's are awesome, we compliment one another when in a healthy space. They are more intense and can be invasive. Let's face it - we find other people intrusive generally so she is in a no-win situation. She loves you.
@@antoinettenovella1630 she does, and I love her too, but she also can be a very controlling person, and as a 17 year old male that wants to leave and go do stuff it's just a struggle, but during this quarantine she's been lighting up on me significantly
This video was on point! More of the structure of matching two types on their various functions would be super helpful. I especially liked that you had personal insight here.
That will strongly depend on what aspects of yourself you may want to work on. ENFP takes work in opening up and concessions about daily chores, INTP can work if you’re a huge nerd too, and ready to take criticism less personally. ENTJ can work if they’re mature enough to not push you around and let you do you more, but they might feel like they’re either more your mom/dad than actual partner. Maybe more if it’s a guy ENTJ and girl INFP both with a rather traditional view of gender roles (which is not very often the case in INFPs). ISFJ can also work if they accept the INFP strong stance on values and morals, and support/admires the INFP when he/she takes a stand on said values. This all is no more no less than what every other types has to go through to build long lasting relationships, but then the INFP are idealists, dreamers, and « better alone than with the wrong person » kind of type ; therefore it might take us INFP what we consider as an excessive surrender of who we are and ultimately leaves us dissatisfied for reasons we can’t always quite put our finger on. And as a final observation : age helps. A lot. INFP are late bloomers because processing emotions takes time. Learning to walk into other people’s shoes and understanding them even when they overstep our boundaries or question our core values is hard. Because we take criticism so personally. No wonder there’s so much of both « the child » and « the old soul » paradox in us. But time will round the hard angles and mellow our rigidities. If an INFP has managed to find his/her confidence though, they become attractive for a lot of types.
I'm ENFJs and I really see that INFPs are people who really attract me, and also my friend is an infps and I don't deny that I loved her before I knew it was an infps I love their sudden reactions I love their calmness and listening to me when I talk I love everything about them 😮💨💗 and for male infps I love them and her The character of the black cat from Miraculous. I was really in love with him when I was young. I love his character a lot. For me, the character is affected by appearance. I am very attracted to them and I am interested in him being my life partner infps 💖
so uhh.. I'm an INFP and there is this guy I've known for years now. We're literally just friend but he's too caring and he understands me so much. I recently knew that he's an enfj. If I told him some of my views, he would point out what's wrong and what's great. He's so nice. He always include me to plans and always want me to be with them whenever there's a trip. He takes care of me like I'm an effin baby 😂 kuddos tho. I think he likes me. Uhh.. yea, he's sending signs. But I only see him as a big brother. He's so sweet and clingy which I would love if I ever had a boyfriend (or gf 😂) It just that, I really only see him as a friend or brother . I already told him how I feel about him since he keeps sending these signs.. He said he understand, but here he is. Still clinging to me and still taking care of me. Sometimes I feel bad since he's too kind for someone like me lmao. But I swear, Enfjs are suuuch a good partner.
Oof meanwhile the rest of us desperately looking for an enfj 😭 jk, I totally get you, it's sad to have problems with a friend because of unrequited feelings... I hope everything turns out right and you can be friends in a normal way again! 🌻💖 -fellow INFP
Nice Video. I think introverted thinking when it’s healthy can help to accept differences by categorize them and help to use Fe to unite people by being more understanding and open minded
What an awesome video, very informative. Thank you so much for making this. The length was perfect and it was helpful. I'm an ENFJ male and can see a lot of myself in the description you've given of ENFJ. Keep up the great work!
That’s like saying “I’ve met one (race) person. I didn’t like him and I’m going to generalize to all (race) people.” :/ Or... I’ve read a business book once. Didn’t enjoy it. Not gonna read them anymore. It coulda just been a shitty book :P People have different levels of development and different fluctuating environmental circumstances.
Welp I'm INFP male I kinda realized how great ENFJs are because of a girl in a group chat I'm in that i swear every time she speaks i feel like she completes me in a spiritual way. It's more in a friendship way tho cuz shes got a guy that she's with lol .... but makes me really want to find someone like that if I ever try to have a romantic relationship and it's good to know they exist, but I realized it's rare to find these types or even my own type. I wonder if she kinda feels the same but to my knowledge I think she gets that same feeling cuz out of everyone in the chat she @s me and isolates discussions with me a fair amount. But things like that you can easily misinterpret or over interpret based on what you want to believe. I think it bothers me that we were in the same school systems for years and i never knew her enough to start a conversation. Took for our mutual friends to add us to a group chat. But after watching videos like this and when I found out she was ENFJ it all made sense. I hope I can get introduced to an environment as time goes on where I can likely find these relationships more often
This is funny because it’s how my (INFP) boyfriend and I (ENFJ) started to become closer. Since I tend to be very social, I was close to everyone but him so I decided to message him privately through insta stories, just occasionally commenting on some things he posts so we could get the ball rolling. At first, he was very closed off and as an ENFJ, I found it very off putting because I usually get people to open up very quickly. I took it as a sign that he found me annoying so I stopped but in the group chats, he would often @ me or tease me so I was very confused. Luckily, after a vacation with my friends, we were paired up by accident (since everyone else had a ‘buddy’ already) and we ended up connecting through that trip. We eventually became best friends, sharing everything together and he eventually opened up to me while I did later on. Most of the times, I initiated our interactions because I was fond of him already. I would say that if an ENFJ really likes you, they won’t hesitate to come running after you. But while the ENFJ will most likely try to initiate, it would be nice if you did occasionally too! Good luck
I'm an INFP male and I have the biggest crush on ENFJs. but man, they can be so intimidating some time. lol. RN I'm choosing to be single and working on my confidence and my abandonment issues. I love how an ENFJ can just go up to anyone and start talking with them, but I caught myself getting anxious when I see it. I want to nip that toxic trait of mine in the bud and understand that's part of the ENFJ magic and not be so worried that they "forgot" about me. I always have a gut feeling that it will be a perfect match, but I always visualize myself getting crushed and being alone in the end of it all, lol. any advice? I love your videos especially the "INFPs: How to make it in this would/ Not sugar Coated" video.
I am an ENFJ, my abusive covert narcissist ex was an INFP, we were completely compatible aside from the continued abuse. Thats what made it hurt so much
@@GeekPsychology Just got out of therapy for it! im feeling so much better after I told them every single bad thing in the relationship and they still said they were the abusive one, not me
I'm an INFP and my ex was an ENFJ and lemme just say that it's not great if y'all are both turbulent. you gotta develop your personality/character first bc if both are turbulent, they'll clash a lot which was what happened with us. make sure at least one of you is in the A category and not T
I’m INFP male. At first, I thought I was more compatible with ENTJ more than ENFJ. But the more I’ve met these two types, I realized that ENFJ is just the one for me. I’m talking about romantic relationships. ENTJ is just too cold and too harsh, I think they understand infp better than most types. But not as good as NF types. All my life, all my close friends just happened to be INFJ, ENFP and INFP. However, most women that always giving me the most spark at pur first encountered, believe it or not, almost everyone of em are ENFJ female. This just happened naturally I didn’t even try to talk to them but the attraction between me and them are just too strong. This ain’t no exaggeration I swear, it’s almost like I can read their mind from just sitting near them. It’s almost like I can smell their thoughts 😂 towards me. Next time if I meet the ENFJ that I like, I won’t miss I swear. Last time I picked ESFP over ENFJ and I gotta say, it was not a very good decision😂. Our chemistry is not there at all. It’s almost like we speak different language at my first date with that ESFP. Now that ENFJ is gone. Hope i can meet that cute ENFJ again.
Okay but what does INFP have to offer ENFJ ? I feel like it sounds INFP will keep taking from ENFJ but what can we give to them in the relationship ? I would feel awful being in a relationship where Im being a selfish taker they deserve better
You’d be quite surprised about your ability to affect ENFJs. My boyfriend is an INFP and he’s my rock in a lot of situations. Since I’m the kind to forget to care about myself, he makes me feel loved and cared through small actions and words. We can get tired after interactions or trying to help people all the time and it’s the way INFPs care less and are able to create healthy boundaries that really teach us to do so as well. Whenever he sees that I am neglecting my own well being for others, he will remind me to take a step back and that helps me be more balanced. INFPs are the best honestly! Don’t worry, you’ll know what to do when the time comes.
Longer video was great, you had plenty to say Also, the thing that you said about inferior Te here, it feels really accurate for me, about struggling staying with one decision, never feeling confident about being able to do it for real. I've never heard it put like that, and logically it sounds kind of confusing I guess, because extroverted functions are supposed to be like, very easily changed by the circumstances and stuff like that, and here it almost sounds like the opposite, so it's not obvious, but I really feel its accurate.
Really good video you got here. You explain with the example of each function, and makes me easier to understand of both infp and enfj's functions. Thank you so much!!!! Hope you and your family had a great day and stay safe 😁
I’m an INFP, my boyfriend is an ENFJ . We’ve only been together for 3 months. When does it get better? I constantly need a break from him, his energy smothers me.
That is not good. The types compliment each other normally. Doesn't sound like you are into him to me. Be authentic. Let him go. You don't sound like a healthy match.
Yess as an INFP I will now imagine a marriage and a life with an imaginary ENFJ thank you for the content
Relatable af
yup
Same bruh 😂😂😂
NENDJDJEH yup yup
Okay yall update so when i wrote this comment i was in a pretty depressed mood and i shouldn't have done the personality test as it didn't reflect me. Turns out i'm actually an ENFP but i'm still the same yup yup.. why we won
From my experience: Yes, they match in a funny way. They both like the woods.
INFP: running into every tree, looking at their compass
ENFJ: hugging every tree, forgot their compass at home
Martin Stoelting frolicking through the forest had a huge impact on how hard I bonded with my enfj 12 years ago lol most of the time he was rock climbing while I was drawing things, hunting for pretty rocks, daydreaming... most of all admiring this elusive enfj shining in his natural habitat lol
@@jesskuhmess Don't forget the strange intimacy of searching each other's body for ticks afterwards...
Martin Stoelting where I live it’s checkin for ticks and tending to poison Ivy chiggars and a whole lotta other nonsense but yeah I enjoy that part too
Tea tree for bug bites and mustard for poison ivy and even burns (no joke smells awful but put that mess on fast!!)
@@fionaaron3854 infp
Hah. I was just telling my brother I can't figure out if my issue is that I can't see the forest thru the trees of if I am the only one trying.
I'm an INFP and maybe you will think it's weird, but I'm always imagining a perfect love story with a perfect husband I don't even know yet. But the funniest is that I already love with all my heart this husband who doesn't even exist
I've dream(like actually dreaming when I sleep) so much of the perfect husband/life. I actually started to dream it and it felt so strangely real. I even question if that's how I'm supposed to feel in a relationship. When I wake up I always wish to go back.
I feel you...
I feel like Infp are the imaginative ( daydreaming and or coming up with situation in their heads)
Yeah, i am pretty young to look for a husband but i have a perfect boyfriend list and my expectations are too high that the only guy i am able to like is the one i created in my mind...
Same for me, but recently I got to know about a person who's an ENFJ and he's the softest and kindest person I've seen, he's literally the embodiment of my ideal type. I keep feeling touched by how he is so emotionally supportive, empathetic and ready to protect anyone. I was shocked at first bc I thought "these kind of people exist for real?!" and now I'm imagining how awesome our relationship would be, that I would literally need noone else.... if it only wasn't for the fact that he's a celebrity from a country that's on the other side of the planet, doesn't speak any of the langues I speak and I will never even be able to meet him...
help I think I’m in love with the concept of a person now...
Same here
Same lol
ahaha me
Im in love with an abbreviation of a concept called Enfj ha ha gonna cry
BRO ME
INFP dude here. You guys are getting relationships?
Same
too real
Could?-> yep. Want?-> yep. actually getting one?-> wtf is wrong with u?
HELL YEAAA
😂OOF
I'm an INFP and my husband is an ENFJ. We make each other better.
Fo sho. I’ve matured a lot since meeting my wife. She was definitely a big catalyst.
Same with my bf and I, seems like a winning combination!!
Awesome, you both are very lucky. The two types compliment one another beautifully and rarely argue. I hope you both live a long and happy life together.
I agree!
Omg thats so great!!
Im INFP and my husband is ENFJ. Our dynamic is spot on to the movie she’s all that. I still can’t believe how easy it is for me to charm him just being myself. He’s so exciting and everyone likes him. I know I’m very lovable but he really is such a “cool” guy that it surprises me when all my nerdy passion and overly complimenty ways leave him enamored. I just want people to feel good about themselves and he always wants to help people be their best selves. We have mutual respect and as an INFP finding someone who truly understands you and listens to you and wants to please you in the way you want specifically is so freakin perfect. I’ve never had a relationship like this. It feels like soulmates. We just balance each other out so well but not in an opposites attract kind of way; it’s more of a we’re the same in different ways. I think destiny brought us together. We lived in different countries and met through a mutual bff (ESFJ). I hope all my lovely INFPs find the love of their life too 💖 It really is everything we ever dreamed and better because it’s actually real!
Woooow your story really amazed me, i hope one day i get one ENFJ man to be my husband too.. because the feeling to be understood by another people that can encourage me in a right way is like the best thing in the world 😊
i feel exactly the same about me and my love..
Omg ur story is so cute and precious 😭💖 I’m an Enfj
So sweet!!! It’s uncanny, I’m an INFP and met an ENFJ when he replied to my comment on a political Instagram post... I thought what I said was pretty dorky/uncool, but I was so passionate, and he immediately DMed me saying how much he loved my ideas and found me interesting 😭😂 Since then we’ve been facetiming and texting because we live in different states, but the conversations are too good to let go! We share goals and philosophies, and he motivates me to actualize my beliefs. He’s so sexy and charming to me, and I can sense the warmth of his heart in his glowing smile and how he treats me like a rare flower. Idk if the relationship will go anywhere bc of the distance, but the connection is truly incomparable. Love to all ENFJs 💜
So sweet, thank you for the hope 😭🙏✨
My bf is Enfj and he is AMAZING. Other people always makes me feeling my feelings are too much but he is very attentive to my feelings🥺 he doesn't take advantage of me when I make myself vulnerable. It makes him fall harder.
He is extroverted and everyone likes him, I know he can get anyone he want but he never gives me reason to feel insecure. He doesn't hesitate to tell me how he feels which makes me feel secure.
He wants us to last, get married and everything.. But because of my past, it makes me feel like people don't last. However, I want forever with him
Omg where are my ENFJs at?? 😫 I’m an INFP need an ENFJ in my life 😅
Theyre outside. Go outside XD
I did the opposite. Found my INFP in an app. As an ENFJ is the strangest way I met someone, but I'm so glad I did 😊
EXFX EXFX 😭😭
Liz AHHH NO WAY!!! What app? 🤓
I'm an ENFJ but I'm gay....lll
I've always fancied enfjs. I just love their intensity, how they always show love and support to people around them and how they look after them. I've also always loved lame jokes and loud giggles lmao
:D
Lana, can you elaborate on the intensity? How are they intensive?
@@PowerRedBullTypology with their love and clinginess I guess
@@lanaa3431 AH ok..My ENFJ girlfreind thinks she is intense too..but I've never really noticed what i'd perceive as intensive (or maybe it just seems natural to me since i'm Fe seeking?)
ENFJs are pretty used to being considered intense by society. For me, I know that I'm kind of smothering, I get mad when people aren't taking care of themselves, I'm generally fairly physically affectionate and I know that my "normal" in that regard is other people's "too much." Plus, ENFJs can be pretty scary... we all have a sort of cruelty streek it's just that some of us are better than others at controlling it. Plus, from what I understand, we're usually dreamers and many of us are super romantic which can create a sort of awkward combination with our enthusiasm. Anyone who doesn't have the same enthusiasm or at least understand it can be very exhausted and put off by it because- being enthusiastic all the time isn't exactly the most normal thing. It's not that we're intense, it's just that it can be interpreted like that.
I'm an ENFJ and even though I don't really know of any INFPs in my life except MAYBE my cousin, I find the idea of the personality type to be kind of adorable. I love people who have the guts to stick out from a crowd and embrace that, as well as I have a tendency to admire introversion because introverts don't need as much external validation as extroverts often do. Being artistic and creative is something I can really relate to and that is another thing that appeals to me. I want an INFP in my life, even if it's just a friend. I want to experience that dynamic.
That's how we feel about you ENFJs. You're so freaking perfect for us....even as friends.
Awh, I love this comment!!😍🙏🏻as an INFP I hope you find one of us out there in the world! We’re hiding most of the time, but we’re really loyal friends and true friends, once you get us to trust you! I hope you find an INFP, they’re gonna be so happy you’re going to want to understand and accept them too!! Best of luck✨💚👍
i mean, you know what they say in Alabama /j
Same, I met nearly every personality, but not INFP
@@---bs5zk you might want to take a second look at those you might think are INFJ or INTP, they are common mistypings :)
INFP male here and I melted when I met this girl who I think is an ENFJ. Just every part of our interaction made me feel happier and calm, she is so charismatic.
I believe it!
God I had the same experience. It is indescribable.
Wow. Im ENFJ Chatting with an INFP- he tells me I am calming to him all the time. I’m like-ME?? IM CALMING?? 🙃 thats a first!!
I'm INFP, my wife is ENFJ. We both watched this together and you pegged us both really good. I've been watching a lot of your stuff but she never has before. We kept pausing because we had to laugh at how accurate this was.
What she likes in you, if she have told you about this. Is that love or arrange?
~Fellow INFP
@@SaraMBTI you have a book? Title? Where is it available?
I’m INFP, married an ENFJ 💙 Still going strong, 16 years on :)
That’s awesome! Congratulations ^^
I'm an INFP and my Boyfriend is an ENFJ ♡♡♡♡♡♡ ... our relationship to me is kind of perfect on so many levels .... we let each other grow and help one another to make it through the good and the bad times .. plus we tend to give each other space to be who we really are and have a social life outside the relationship.
I just love him so much and i guess there's no one in this world who could make me happier or that i can have a healthier relationship with. ♡♡♡♡♡♡
Very happy for you!
@Katie Widitor yes honey we're still together
Omg you’re so luckyyy wish you two the best!
Wonder if they r still together?
My best friend is ENFJ, and I'm INFP!. . I feel so blessed because what are the odds of me stumbling upon an ENFJ because I've seen that they are so rare. I see all parts of my life with her and my life wouldn't be the same without her. I've never had a bond that just keeps growing and growing like ours, it feels like we've built this endless world of insight and imagination and creative ideas that's protected by our admiration, respect, and love for one another forever!. We're both in college now doing our own thing (I'm in art and she's going into law)but I know that this sacred relationship we have with each other will never ever get old, and will always stay sooo strong. I just feel so dam lucky, we both help each other reveal our weaknesses/strengths and vulnerabilities without shame and we've learned how to conquer our greatest hardships and fears together. I can't imagine how I'd be without her selflessness and support and often I'm like...wth does she see in me LOL. But omygod I just feel like the luckiest girl in the world to have this powerful relationship like is this even legal??? I love you Denise!!
Really happy for you ❤️
I hope this lasts for ever
Infp with art and enfj with law, this is so good to read, wish the best for you both
@@leixo Must be a common situation - I'm an INFP, just finished with an English studies BA (I'm Hungarian), going for the MA and also into translation studies. (I initially wanted to study art because I loved drawing, also I was interested in becoming a writer, but I think translation is both a creative and useful path to take.) My boyfriend, an ENFJ, studied international relations as a passion and will soon receive his degree in law, which he also really loves. I think it's great because we have lots of common interests but there are also new things we can show each other and we'll often share an enthusiasm after we're introduced to these things.
Fancy seeing *you* here, best friend ;)
I’ve said this time and time again, but words could never justly express how lucky I am to have grown alongside you. 12 years strong!
@@deniser3201 HOW DID U FIND THIS LOL OMG
Wow today I'm getting all enfj-infp recommendations
The universe is trying to tell you something! :P
What type is you?
My friends decided to do the MBTI test few days ago...I knew i was an INFP...My best friend for like 20 years ended up being an ENFJ... No wonder we get along so well! She understands me without even talking about the things i'm thinking of... and i feel at ease with her which is rare for me...
And somehow, a new friend of mine also ended up being an ENFJ as we started to create that special bond recently... As an INFP, they both inspire me alot and they respect my uniqueness and thoughts...
Now reading the comments, i realized how lucky i am to have met not one but 2 amazing ENFJs 😂
Wow, yeah you do really lucky! 😂 hope one day i bump to 1 enfj person too haha
It's not fair. I have none 😂
Also, as an ENFJ w INFP wife...
I really want to hear his wife's perspective about all this😀😀😀
I was in an INFP and ENFJ relationship. I was already aware of how these two are compatible with each other. Out of sheer curiosity, i made my ex take the assessment and it made me happy how he was actually excited to take it. When i saw his result as an ENFJ, I couldn't contain myself from excitement. and told him how his personality type is compatible with mine, and he shot me this annoyed look. Not sure why he looked turned off, perhaps because it was at the beginning of the relationship? Im always trying to search for "the one" which is part of being an idealistic hopeless romantic as an INFP. I still really hope I'm able to find that person someday ....
There’s a little hint about magic : never tell the trick ;)
I'm INFP and my psychotherapist is ENFJ 😂😂
Me an INFP, have the most perfect relationship with my ENFJ boyfriend, and oh my.... He helps me so much with my growth as a person, and i've never seen him happier with someone other than me. We grateful for each other, and complete each others gap very well
This is so accurate and hilarious 😂 I am an ENFJ, and my husband is an INFP. We have been together for 10 years and are very happy! But I did JUST tell him that he needs to verbalize that he likes me because he hasn't in 10 years unless I say, "Do you like me?" 😏 The way you explained "it feels like I'm being fake" made me actually say "oooh" out loud. I love seeing that it's his personality, not actually him not liking me.
I’m a INFP male having difficult time finding woman until I met an ENFJ girl. It just started out as dating and then it naturally took off about having kids...it’s that crazy between INFP and ENFJ! They are your soulmate! She is very tomboy as well. :)
😭😭😭 I loved this comment
Aww my boo is an ENFJ
Same lol how do they do that??? Hahaha
@@ambelong1 we're just amazing like that
I'm an INFP and my most recent ex was ENFJ. It always struck me as interesting how we both pick up on who other people are in different ways. She just has a sixth sense for reading people in the present moment, whereas I have an acute eye for seeing deep into people's character over the course of multiple interactions with them.
I have close with enfj and boom i fall in love with her charisma
They can be very attractive, yeah?
My husband would agree on it💯😜💓
Oh Boy, I'm having a deap connection with an ENFJ-girl, she's the most attraktive human I know 🥳
Before I even knew about Myers-Briggs a young lady and I connected instantaneously. She(ENFJ) and I(INFP) had met each other at an Air Bnb for some party. It was an overnight stay and for whatever reason, her friends elected that I sleep with her. Not sex, but just to literally sleep in the same room. Long story short, we started talking and as I said before, we instantly connected. It’s incredible how fast it happened. Unfortunately, my INFP anxiety took over, and I was scared to commit. She actually admitted her feelings for me but I was scared and foreseen possibilities that psyched me out due to past relationships. One year later, I came around to the Myers-Briggs test and I got her to take it. To my amazement, she was an ENFJ and it made sense all along. I know how rare they can be, so I really need to try and rekindle our relationship.
You will regret it if you don't. Experience the love they can give.
All the best in rekindling that relationship. I think we work dynamically and symbiotically together so I wish you the best. For me personally, there are not enough ENFJ's in the world. Very respectful of the type.
WOW! As an INFP, I completely resonated with what you described the INFP's extraverted intuition! I always catch myself saying that to people: "I just want to go out and see the world!" I'm much more adventurous than most people would expect an introvert to be! I teared up when you said that because I've always felt so alone and different from everyone else. Great video!!!
You also might be INFP - Assertive like myself.
Only 6 weeks in with my INFP partner and we have a deep and profound connection that is growing stronger every day. We are both over 55, both divorced with adult children long gone (so to speak) and both more or less at peace with ourselves. There is a certain level of maturity and experience that allows me to know she is my partner for life and vice versa.
We simply get each other. We laugh alot, talk constantly, have a ton of similar likes and a few things where we don't match.
We met quite by chance, on a nature trail where at a fork she was unsure which way to go. The next two dates were similar walks where I spent the whole time trying to figure out if she was narcissistic or maybe borderline. Sounds crazy but the only reason I am at peace today is because I shed all the narcs that were inhabiting my life.
It was just her quirky habit of walking along then suddenly veering to the right to look at some flower that made me think borderline as my recent built in narc radar was showing blanks.
It was her interest in wanting to know the ascendant of my astrology sign that led me to give her the MBTI test. At this stage I had already guessed she was an empath and when her result came in as INFP everything else fell into place, right down to how we met where she was a little lost and I am talking about a local city nature trail not the middle of some remote forest.
She makes me feel good about myself, period. And apparently I provide a level of comprehension and acceptance she has never felt in a man before. We love exploring each others personality. We can talk about our pasts without any jealousy or judgements creeping in. We are already planning to move in together in the near future, within the next year or so. This will most likely involve a change of city, we both want to get closer to nature.
It's funny how these things go, if we had met 2 or 3 or 4 years ago most likely nothing would have come of it but we were both in a similar place of personal healing when we met and the connection was practically instantaneous.
Maybe it is worthwhile coming back to this video in a years time to write more about the ENFJ and INFP relationship. For now it is one huge enormous success.
Peace!
How is it so far hun? Super happy for y’all ❤
@@OfficialMarliz Hello. We're doing really well, going strong, a few bumps along the way but we worked 'em out. Thank you for asking.
Peace!
Female INFP just found out that new boyfriend is an ENFJ! This was a really interesting watch! :)
I’m INFP and I got completely ghosted by an ENFJ after our first date. When we first talked, we were on the phone for over 6 hours and it was absolutely wonderful and neither of us wanted to hang up with each other. Then he quickly became distant, and when we met for the first time one week later, he was acting like he wasn’t interested, but I had such an intense feeling with him, there’s no way he couldn’t feel it too. He was telling me personal things about himself and we had a wonderful conversation, and then he just completely ghosted me after. It’s been 5 days and I haven’t heard a peep from him. I asked him how he was doing and said that I wasn’t okay with him ghosting me, and he didn’t respond. So there’s that! I don’t understand wtf that behavior is… it’s so mean.
That sucks. To me, ghosting is how people break it off with others with minimal effort. Some people just aren't ready for a relationship and don't have the balls to actually say anything about it
The same:)
here was prob married or not single. probably saw he was falling too quick. i know because it happened to me too, but i stopped it when i found out he wasnt single 😒
INFP here crushing hard on an ENFJ. We’ve been hanging out for 2 months and have grown so close in those two months… it’s time to have a talk coz I can’t hold back emotionally anymore. Urgh 😭. Wish me luck 🥴😣
A fine video, especially the functions part - thanks for that.
It made me realize what I like about myself (ENFJ) and how this matches with my INFP friends/family. In a way, I transposed what you were saying also to a very important relationship to me - my business partner (ENFP), as it is a matter of their function order. I would have 3 conclusions as to what can make ENFJ-INFP work together well:
1) Ni-Ne: good coordination of goal and ideas choice. Be together on the same quest and topic.
2) Se-Si: want to DO the same thing together. Do what you BOTH feel/agreed on and engage in it.
3) Ti-Te: well, ENFJ/INFP wouldn't be to much of thinkers. I think avoiding overanalyzing and overmanaging will be good for both. Just let one (ENFJ) have the initiative, the other take it up (INFP). Let the ENFJ respect the INFP's decision once taken and let the INFP feel their effectivity.
Well, just my insights from business and family.
Hope it helps and thanks again for the video!
Thanks for the video! I'm an INFP and my sister is an ENFJ so this was definitely relatable and helpful. I'd love to see a video about INFP and ENTJ relationships. My ENTJ husband completely baffles me sometimes. 🙂
Yeah ENTJs are unique ^^ I’ll see what I can do
@@GeekPsychology Thanks 🙂
As an INFP I have discovered that an ENFJ woman is so much more compatible for me than most any other type. The emotional and energetic chemistry is amazing.
I love an ENFJ, yet he's not ready for a relationship. I have been holding him in my heart for the past 3 years. He's brilliant and a good man, just made some poor choices based off of pain. So, he's fixing his life while I am trying to create my own. I pray God will bring us together. Oh, I'm an INFP.
same here
So much truth in this video.
As an INFP, I think everyone must have good intentions.
My sister, an INFJ, don't get mislead though. Like ENFJs, she knows as soon as she sees someone if they have good intentions or not.
I can't do that. I will always assume someone is good. Then comes the disappointment but it has good sides. Like being open to others.
Also, we always want to get out of that comfort zone and explore, but we must be one of the most afraid to do so. That can make you suffer like it can cause you to grow even though you have that stabilizing guardian within yourself.
I love your videos, especially this one. Great format
I USE to be like that. But with time & development that changed. NOW when I encounter people, it is like seeing their soul in an X-ray machine.The good and/or bad is apparent. (With time you will get better.)
@@crystalbush5273 I hope so, I'm 20. People I met in my class this year still seem so perfectly good. But I think they are actually good (except one of them, but I didn't know it until it appeared clearly. I did feel smth different about him from the start though)
@@Blought0 Yes, that is perfectly normal for the age of 20. Your intuition is being fine tuned. I guarantee you that even 5 years from now you will see a dramatic difference. It is like honing a super power. It only gets better.
At age 20 I got "duped" many many many times with friendships, relationships on the job etc.
Some of it was naivete of my youth, some of it was just me being me... Inwardly I only had goodwill towards others and was radiating positive vibes outwardly. It didnt make sense to me that others would think completely different from that or have negative intentions towards others ESPECIALLY me... Like why ???
But in hindsight, i realized that I ignored my intuition when it would whisper to me about certain people or situations which led to regret for not acting on that foreknowledge.
As you mature/ grow your intuition will get much Louder than a whisper and much harder to ignore. You will begin to trust it once you see how right it will be...so often. Introverted feeling can feel like a gift & a curse but ultimately it is a blessing.
You'll see and you'll be fine.
@@crystalbush5273 Well that sounds promising, can't wait for people to hurt me so I can learn to trust my intuition yay 😃😅😅
@@Blought0 LoL :)
Omg, seeing you speak is as if I am looking in the mirror. My aunt is an ENFJ. You are exactly explaining our dynamic from all layers of perspectives.
I like a guy who is an ENFJ and Im an INFP. What I notice though is not many ENFJs are online so I can’t get feedback from them on how to win over this guy. Where yall hiding? Out living your best life probably. I need this man in my life to give me comfort and give them all my love while helping me keep organized and get my life together pleaseeee god give me the blessing of this guy I dream of every day
My ex is an ENFJ. He was the best relationship but I was not healthy mentally enough to be with him. But... A year later we still hang out ever weekend, we are intimate still... Can't seem to get away from the other... O.o
I am ENFJ women, i would like to experience to have relationship with someone who is INFP
Okay let's give it a try !
XD
I’m an INFP male and I can be quite romantic with woman easily :)
As an ENFJ it's difficult being so intense and sometimes it gets annoying. It doesn't make it easy either that INFPs are skeptical of Fe and hide into their shell.
HodsBroo as a ENFJ male.. I freaking agree 💯
What is Fe?
@@Rose61234 knowing exactly how you are coming off to other people either by action (ESFJ) or by entire demeanor (ENFJ)
Oh my gosh, as an INFP I laughed so hard when you described us as loving our comfort zone’s so much that we’re the hobbits😂 I’m such a hermit especially right now since it’s getting colder! I really appreciate everything you’ve shared here and it helps me to understand a new ENFJ friend of mine too! Super insightful👍🙏🏻🙏🏻hope you’re doing well Sherman! We appreciate you!!
It’s one of our most striking contradiction ! Many INFPs have serious wanderlust (I’m one) « phases » and in between long travels in different lands when we come back we climb in our hobbit hola and go full hermit mode !
But we will cherish some of the deep friendships we made on the road :)
I feel seen ❤️
This is like a clone of me and my wife. Your a chill dude. I'd befriend you if I knew you. INFP bros.
0:25 I am so happy for you… ENFJs make amazing wives, especially for INFPs…
Love, -ENFJ xD
As an ENFJ I love hearing thanks every now and then. I don’t care if it’s only like once a month from anyone at all. I just like feeling acknowledged because people tend to ignore me when I’m not out. I just like the feeling of knowing my loved ones notice what I do aswell
INFP here and I love to let my enfj crush know that he is loved (without making it obvious I have a crush).
We know when we know ... Otherwise don't know ...
as an ENFJ, i would love to have an INFP partner :) the synthesising aspect of ENJFs you talked about is so spot on! it can be an asset (it certainly is in intellectual/academic settings) but generally i find that it can really hold me back sometimes (especially when making decisions)
As an ENFJ myself, I think it's like you said. Just one tip: don't be too capricious in front of your ENFJ. ;-)
Noted
Actually fuck that
Jk
Good luck with that lol I realise you know that about us, please be gentle. Thanks for understanding us ✨
My best friend is an ENFJ and she want to be perfect an every detail
While extroverted feeling is definitely the opposite of analyzing, analyzing helps ENFJs analyze the external world in order to change it to make it better. They also use analyzing to assess themselves to better the self in order to offer the world the best version of themselves.
Just split up with an ENFJ 7 weeks ago. Together for 2 Years. But the spark and passion between us is so intense that we cannot stay apart from each other. If you saw us together for lunch 2 weeks ago you would swear we had just met and were passionately in love with each other❤
There are a lot of truths in this and it is wonderful to hear them so I can understand more and visualise some the reasons why she dose the things she does the way she does them and also why I struggle to understand them. Also why she struggles with me when I think I am being clear. I can now see our disconnect and also how to begin to manage this better.
Wish me luck that's it's not too late because this particular ENFJ is very special to me!
Thank you Matt for the great content you just gained a new subscriber🥰
Hey, I wish you all the luck! How are you two now?
i really get a lot out of the interpretations you make in this type of video, beyond just talking about the function stacks. Being able to articulate how and why i think and make decisions (INFP) and learning how other types differ from me is really helping me nurture both old and new relationships. Big thanks to you!
This is sosososo accurate. I’m an INFP, my bf is an ENFJ, my mother ISFJ, my father ESTJ. Never thought you’d bring up that try-to-act-when-you-dont-feel-like-something part, that’s where my interpersonal relationships went chaotic. Thank you for making this video! I hope there’s more to come🥰
i'm an infp, and my best friend is an enfj. we are literally perfect for each other!! we communicate really well, and we help each other out through emotional connection. she keeps my life structured, i loosen her up a bit so she can laugh and relax. we are both idealists and could talk for hours and hours together. i feel like i could go anywhere if it was with her, and as an introvert that's a huge deal.
Could you do an INFP-ENFP relationship
Likely one of them is mistyped if this is a real long term relationship
@@sibestfunction4400 agreed
Could work if the INFP works on their sociability and if the ENFP works a bit to dampen their P. Double P at home leaves the chores and paperwork in a mess and will be a source of tension. ENFP also will have to simply accept the INFP’s desire for distance and alone time, and the INFP will have to indulge into the wild partying of the ENFP every now and then. NF’s can connect marvelously on worldview, need for individuality and freedom and disregard for baseless social norms. So the work will have to happen on everyday communication and behavior so that the connexion doesn’t die off.
ENFJ here!!! INFPs seem sooo cool cant wait to date one
I'm an INFP getting ready to marry and ENFJ 🙂
ENFJ here. Fe allows us to harmonize a group together or even two different people in conflict, among other things
I'm an ENFJ, and I'm convinced that my day planner is staving off the zombies at this very moment.
My issue about two NFs is that both have a tendency to be dreamers, people pleasers and less practical. They can easily be manipulated by ill meaning individuals.
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ENFJ’s are pretty good at reading manipulators
Highly controversial ;) INFPs can be bone jarring lie detectors as they literally smell out people who aren’t genuine, and are both NF are good at picking up on someone’s intentions !
Our blind spot there is our loved ones. For people very close to us or those we’ve let in, our desire to see the good in people, our confrontation-averse side and our tendency to go Open or Closed and no in-between can get us under the claws of a manipulator. But sooner or later we’ll pick up on their game at some point.
Also, ENFJ and INFP are a great team because when someone takes the INFP for a doormat, the ENFJ will jump in to defend the INFP, while the INFP might point out some toxic people early on and save the ENFJ from wasting their energy and goodwill on a dishonest person.
@@thomasalegredelasoujeole9998 true. But can we pick up manipulation from ENFJ?
@@angelicatrino2498 if that ENFJ is close to us we won’t want to believe, aye. Until it starts hurting and then the alarm bells start ringing
I am an enfj. I’m here because there is an infp that I’m interested in and wanted to understand them a bit better. Thank you for the video!!!
You’re welcome. I hope it works out for you!
I'm an ENFJ. While everyone else is in meeting after meeting, discussing the next step of the project we're working on, I'm waiting for them to catch up and already thinking of the next project. Maybe even already starting. A couple of things I don't think you quite get right, is the analytical and introspective aspects. I'm hyper-analytical, I overthink and overanalyze everything. And every moment I'm not engaged with something or someone, even sometimes while I am, I'm always doing introspection. That's the only way I can grow as a person and get closer to who I want to be. I have other aspects outside of the ENFJ though. I have an extremely high IQ, was abused and neglected from ages 5-14, and I've punished myself via many things, including addiction, for decades before I did an intensive treatment program in prison. So a few environmental factors. lol
You are absolutely adorable. I love watching your videos! You are super easy to listen to, you use relatable language, and as an INFP myself I quite enjoy your rambly tangents. Please don't ever stop making videos like this, these videos can always make me smile even when I'm feeling really down. Thank you for sharing yourself & your knowledge with us, it is truly appreciated.
u know what's missing in my life?
that's right. An ENFJ.
This was really interesting!
Great! Thanks
I’m an INFP and I think u explained this great! Thank u! I find that writing or texting my gratitude tends to come out much more authentic even if it’s sporadically spontaneous!
You’re welcome and thank you for sharing ^^
Is it just me or do INFPs always look very huggable? Like they have a soft but slient confidence
ENFJ FEMALE HERE! 👏🙏
i found out my crush is an enfj. I'm an infp. No wonder we get along so well and I like him so much. When we talk our conversations flow so freely and easily
I'm an INFP male with an ENFJ mother, and I'll tell you this, it's a struggle cause well she is my mother and she cares a lot so she can be very intense and I don't like that about people, I like it when people are chill
Ehan, you may not see it now but you are lucky (as long as her intensity is in the healthy sphere rather than neurotic). ENFJ's are awesome, we compliment one another when in a healthy space. They are more intense and can be invasive. Let's face it - we find other people intrusive generally so she is in a no-win situation. She loves you.
@@antoinettenovella1630 she does, and I love her too, but she also can be a very controlling person, and as a 17 year old male that wants to leave and go do stuff it's just a struggle, but during this quarantine she's been lighting up on me significantly
This video was on point! More of the structure of matching two types on their various functions would be super helpful. I especially liked that you had personal insight here.
*as in more videos with this structure, the structure here was perfect
Great! Thanks!
INFP male here. It sounds like ENFJ's are rare, hopefully I find one!
Inam INFJ and I am with an INFP and this is the best relation ever! So grateful!
What other personality types are a good match for infp if I can't find an enfj?
I would sugest a human being, that could work.
@@PanchomanPlusUltra lol! Good one
If you’re a healthy INFP, then ENTJ’s are said to be a near perfect match as well, but you both have to be mature
That will strongly depend on what aspects of yourself you may want to work on. ENFP takes work in opening up and concessions about daily chores, INTP can work if you’re a huge nerd too, and ready to take criticism less personally. ENTJ can work if they’re mature enough to not push you around and let you do you more, but they might feel like they’re either more your mom/dad than actual partner. Maybe more if it’s a guy ENTJ and girl INFP both with a rather traditional view of gender roles (which is not very often the case in INFPs).
ISFJ can also work if they accept the INFP strong stance on values and morals, and support/admires the INFP when he/she takes a stand on said values.
This all is no more no less than what every other types has to go through to build long lasting relationships, but then the INFP are idealists, dreamers, and « better alone than with the wrong person » kind of type ; therefore it might take us INFP what we consider as an excessive surrender of who we are and ultimately leaves us dissatisfied for reasons we can’t always quite put our finger on.
And as a final observation : age helps. A lot. INFP are late bloomers because processing emotions takes time. Learning to walk into other people’s shoes and understanding them even when they overstep our boundaries or question our core values is hard. Because we take criticism so personally. No wonder there’s so much of both « the child » and « the old soul » paradox in us. But time will round the hard angles and mellow our rigidities.
If an INFP has managed to find his/her confidence though, they become attractive for a lot of types.
I'm ENFJs and I really see that INFPs are people who really attract me, and also my friend is an infps and I don't deny that I loved her before I knew it was an infps I love their sudden reactions I love their calmness and listening to me when I talk I love everything about them 😮💨💗 and for male infps I love them and her The character of the black cat from Miraculous. I was really in love with him when I was young. I love his character a lot. For me, the character is affected by appearance. I am very attracted to them and I am interested in him being my life partner infps 💖
so uhh.. I'm an INFP and there is this guy I've known for years now. We're literally just friend but he's too caring and he understands me so much. I recently knew that he's an enfj.
If I told him some of my views, he would point out what's wrong and what's great. He's so nice.
He always include me to plans and always want me to be with them whenever there's a trip. He takes care of me like I'm an effin baby 😂 kuddos tho.
I think he likes me. Uhh.. yea, he's sending signs. But I only see him as a big brother. He's so sweet and clingy which I would love if I ever had a boyfriend (or gf 😂) It just that, I really only see him as a friend or brother . I already told him how I feel about him since he keeps sending these signs.. He said he understand, but here he is. Still clinging to me and still taking care of me. Sometimes I feel bad since he's too kind for someone like me lmao.
But I swear, Enfjs are suuuch a good partner.
Oof meanwhile the rest of us desperately looking for an enfj 😭 jk, I totally get you, it's sad to have problems with a friend because of unrequited feelings... I hope everything turns out right and you can be friends in a normal way again! 🌻💖 -fellow INFP
@@crimsongirl6080 yes. were actually in a good relationship. He's definitely a good and caring guy. thank u, wish u the best too mate 💙
Thank you so much for this! ^_^ I am an ENFJ with so many precious INFPs in my life!!! ;u; I would really love to strengthen my bonds with them~ ;u;
Nice Video. I think introverted thinking when it’s healthy can help to accept differences by categorize them and help to use Fe to unite people by being more understanding and open minded
What an awesome video, very informative. Thank you so much for making this. The length was perfect and it was helpful. I'm an ENFJ male and can see a lot of myself in the description you've given of ENFJ. Keep up the great work!
okay but where do i even find an enfj :( like hello? are u guys even out there?
ok fuck, i found one and he proudly calls himself an enfj but he's so rude and so full of himself, so no thank u
That’s like saying “I’ve met one (race) person. I didn’t like him and I’m going to generalize to all (race) people.” :/
Or... I’ve read a business book once. Didn’t enjoy it. Not gonna read them anymore.
It coulda just been a shitty book :P
People have different levels of development and different fluctuating environmental circumstances.
@@GeekPsychology oh shit, you're right. i'll change my views now and evaluate myself to view others better
Welp I'm INFP male I kinda realized how great ENFJs are because of a girl in a group chat I'm in that i swear every time she speaks i feel like she completes me in a spiritual way. It's more in a friendship way tho cuz shes got a guy that she's with lol .... but makes me really want to find someone like that if I ever try to have a romantic relationship and it's good to know they exist, but I realized it's rare to find these types or even my own type.
I wonder if she kinda feels the same but to my knowledge I think she gets that same feeling cuz out of everyone in the chat she @s me and isolates discussions with me a fair amount. But things like that you can easily misinterpret or over interpret based on what you want to believe. I think it bothers me that we were in the same school systems for years and i never knew her enough to start a conversation. Took for our mutual friends to add us to a group chat.
But after watching videos like this and when I found out she was ENFJ it all made sense. I hope I can get introduced to an environment as time goes on where I can likely find these relationships more often
that's amazing! 🥺♥️
This is funny because it’s how my (INFP) boyfriend and I (ENFJ) started to become closer. Since I tend to be very social, I was close to everyone but him so I decided to message him privately through insta stories, just occasionally commenting on some things he posts so we could get the ball rolling. At first, he was very closed off and as an ENFJ, I found it very off putting because I usually get people to open up very quickly. I took it as a sign that he found me annoying so I stopped but in the group chats, he would often @ me or tease me so I was very confused. Luckily, after a vacation with my friends, we were paired up by accident (since everyone else had a ‘buddy’ already) and we ended up connecting through that trip. We eventually became best friends, sharing everything together and he eventually opened up to me while I did later on. Most of the times, I initiated our interactions because I was fond of him already. I would say that if an ENFJ really likes you, they won’t hesitate to come running after you. But while the ENFJ will most likely try to initiate, it would be nice if you did occasionally too! Good luck
I'm an INFP male and I have the biggest crush on ENFJs. but man, they can be so intimidating some time. lol. RN I'm choosing to be single and working on my confidence and my abandonment issues. I love how an ENFJ can just go up to anyone and start talking with them, but I caught myself getting anxious when I see it. I want to nip that toxic trait of mine in the bud and understand that's part of the ENFJ magic and not be so worried that they "forgot" about me. I always have a gut feeling that it will be a perfect match, but I always visualize myself getting crushed and being alone in the end of it all, lol. any advice? I love your videos especially the "INFPs: How to make it in this would/ Not sugar Coated" video.
really appreciate for your sharing. It's helpful a lot to me as an enfj female and he is an infp.
Am I the only female ENFJ in this comment section??
I noticed in most comments the women are INFP and the men are ENFJ. ENFJ woman here 👋
I’m an ENFJ female with an INFP boyfriend XD
ENFJ woman here, crushing on infp male at work x.x
No. 🙏
Nope. Im here with you and single
I am an ENFJ, my abusive covert narcissist ex was an INFP, we were completely compatible aside from the continued abuse. Thats what made it hurt so much
:(
Sorry to hear that they were so unhealthy
@@GeekPsychology Just got out of therapy for it! im feeling so much better after I told them every single bad thing in the relationship and they still said they were the abusive one, not me
I'm an INFP and my ex was an ENFJ and lemme just say that it's not great if y'all are both turbulent. you gotta develop your personality/character first bc if both are turbulent, they'll clash a lot which was what happened with us. make sure at least one of you is in the A category and not T
Im INFPT and my boyfriend is ENFJ 😍
I’m INFP male. At first, I thought I was more compatible with ENTJ more than ENFJ. But the more I’ve met these two types, I realized that ENFJ is just the one for me. I’m talking about romantic relationships. ENTJ is just too cold and too harsh, I think they understand infp better than most types. But not as good as NF types. All my life, all my close friends just happened to be INFJ, ENFP and INFP. However, most women that always giving me the most spark at pur first encountered, believe it or not, almost everyone of em are ENFJ female. This just happened naturally I didn’t even try to talk to them but the attraction between me and them are just too strong. This ain’t no exaggeration I swear, it’s almost like I can read their mind from just sitting near them. It’s almost like I can smell their thoughts 😂 towards me. Next time if I meet the ENFJ that I like, I won’t miss I swear. Last time I picked ESFP over ENFJ and I gotta say, it was not a very good decision😂. Our chemistry is not there at all. It’s almost like we speak different language at my first date with that ESFP. Now that ENFJ is gone. Hope i can meet that cute ENFJ again.
Okay but what does INFP have to offer ENFJ ? I feel like it sounds INFP will keep taking from ENFJ but what can we give to them in the relationship ? I would feel awful being in a relationship where Im being a selfish taker they deserve better
infps are good at generating ideas and giving different views about certain topics
You’d be quite surprised about your ability to affect ENFJs. My boyfriend is an INFP and he’s my rock in a lot of situations. Since I’m the kind to forget to care about myself, he makes me feel loved and cared through small actions and words. We can get tired after interactions or trying to help people all the time and it’s the way INFPs care less and are able to create healthy boundaries that really teach us to do so as well. Whenever he sees that I am neglecting my own well being for others, he will remind me to take a step back and that helps me be more balanced. INFPs are the best honestly! Don’t worry, you’ll know what to do when the time comes.
Haha I’m an INFP and the girl I like is an INFJ but around me she becomes extremely talkative.
This is really interesting, I'd like to see one of infp - entp. Like my partner and I.
I made one! I can’t search for it now, but it’s there.
I'm an INFP - T, a libra, and scorpio in moon.
Sun in Pisces, moon in Scorpio here🙌🏻! I’m also an INFP-T. It’s interesting that my bf is an ENFJ, whose sun is in Virgo, moon is also in Scorpio.
the timing of this video!! thanks
:) yw
Longer video was great, you had plenty to say
Also, the thing that you said about inferior Te here, it feels really accurate for me, about struggling staying with one decision, never feeling confident about being able to do it for real. I've never heard it put like that, and logically it sounds kind of confusing I guess, because extroverted functions are supposed to be like, very easily changed by the circumstances and stuff like that, and here it almost sounds like the opposite, so it's not obvious, but I really feel its accurate.
Thanks :) happy to hear it resonated
I think my husband is an Enfj but he refuses to take the test.....
Really good video you got here. You explain with the example of each function, and makes me easier to understand of both infp and enfj's functions. Thank you so much!!!! Hope you and your family had a great day and stay safe 😁
you remind me of my first love!
I’m an INFP, my boyfriend is an ENFJ . We’ve only been together for 3 months. When does it get better? I constantly need a break from him, his energy smothers me.
You get to be happy. Tell him when you need space.
That is not good. The types compliment each other normally. Doesn't sound like you are into him to me. Be authentic. Let him go. You don't sound like a healthy match.
Thanks for posting this!!! I wanted to understand how i interact with ENFJ, so this was really helpful.