So awesome!! Understand good communication is KEY 🔑!! I wasn’t sure if I was in the wrong with my ex as he was incredibly passive aggressive and never told me how he felt but instead wait for me to ask him. It was so hurtful as that isn’t my communication style. I just wanted to understand what was wrong. I’m learning so much from your channel. One healing comment you said was “ don’t become passive aggressive back “ . I felt he took my kindness and none nastiest for weakness as I didn’t match his nastiest. I guess the next step is me acknowledging the things I did right in the relationship too in order to bring any good qualities into the next relationships.
By far, the BEST video I have ever watched on how to deal with passive aggressive behavior. I love that you provided possible resolutions AND encourage the recipient of the behavior to continue being HEALTHY by NOT mirroring the aggressor's tactics. THANK YOU SO MUCH! 🤗 #NEWsubscriber
I like your video a lot. It comes from a truly mature place, I feel like people who make and us vs. them thing out of it are not really teaching emotional maturity.
Just found your video. For years, I've been trying to figure out what category my husband falls into. I'm thinking some OCD. He's not really a narcissist, I do see some passive aggressive. We agree we often have trouble communicating. For years, I've been writing down some of the craziness just to remind myself why I'm not crazy about our relationship of 40+ years. Sometimes I don't know how much longer I can hack it. There are also issues with deceit and lies. It's all affecting my health, especially an incident that happened almost 4 years ago. But it's also almost 44 years of sadness. Every incident catches me off guard. I'm not good at arguing. I don't like to argue and find myself being passive to avoid conflict, which only adds to my total anxiety. 😭😭😭
Hey! Nice video and very helpful. Thanks! Do you think toxic parents and traumatizing childhood can affect the adult life and the relationships when adult?
It definitely can. I think the reason my husband avoids all confrontation but is intensely passive aggressive is because of emotional trauma he hasn’t dealt with.
My boss is incredibly passive aggressive and I think it’s due to always needing to feel/be liked by others. My response is to not take the bait and do only what he literally tells me to do! You want something else then be direct. I refuse your unhealthy communication because if I fell for it, it would have me jumping through multiple hoops just to continuously try to figure out how to make him happy. I don’t get paid enough for that emotional abuse. Sorry.
Hi! Another quick question, maybe you have the answer for this: why do you think my boyfriend feels the need to tell me all the time offensive things, mean things like "shut up, you are stupid, you always do stupid things" and so on? I don't think I am that bad and I try to keep my confidence in myself but sometimes it's just hard to keep the head up with all the mean things he's telling me. I discussed with him about the fact that these things bothers me and I asked him to be honest but in a constructive way with less offensivewords, if he really wants to tell me things, but he is just so mean and I don't know what to believe anymore...
Hi Elena, there are a lot of reasons he is mean. It could be because he doesn't know how to appropriately communicate when he gets upset/triggered. It could be because he's trying to bring you down for whatever reason. But at the end of the day, that type of talk towards you is unacceptable. You should never have to hear those things from your significant other. It's good you try to redirect him and ask him to speak to you appropriately. it's so important to set that boundary with him. If he wouldn't want anyone talking to you like that, he shouldn't talk to you like that either. I hope you continue to communicate your feelings and let him know how his words impact you. I hope it gets better
My husband’s been “fine” for almost 10 years
I hear ya.....😞
Lol
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So awesome!! Understand good communication is KEY 🔑!!
I wasn’t sure if I was in the wrong with my ex as he was incredibly passive aggressive and never told me how he felt but instead wait for me to ask him. It was so hurtful as that isn’t my communication style. I just wanted to understand what was wrong. I’m learning so much from your channel. One healing comment you said was “ don’t become passive aggressive back “ . I felt he took my kindness and none nastiest for weakness as I didn’t match his nastiest. I guess the next step is me acknowledging the things I did right in the relationship too in order to bring any good qualities into the next relationships.
Any time I ask him to let me know what he needs or wants, he pulls away even more.
By far, the BEST video I have ever watched on how to deal with passive aggressive behavior. I love that you provided possible resolutions AND encourage the recipient of the behavior to continue being HEALTHY by NOT mirroring the aggressor's tactics. THANK YOU SO MUCH! 🤗 #NEWsubscriber
We’ll said 🙏🏽
EXTREMELY validating video....thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
I like your video a lot. It comes from a truly mature place, I feel like people who make and us vs. them thing out of it are not really teaching emotional maturity.
How do i say this without crying 😔
Just found your video. For years, I've been trying to figure out what category my husband falls into. I'm thinking some OCD. He's not really a narcissist, I do see some passive aggressive. We agree we often have trouble communicating. For years, I've been writing down some of the craziness just to remind myself why I'm not crazy about our relationship of 40+ years. Sometimes I don't know how much longer I can hack it. There are also issues with deceit and lies. It's all affecting my health, especially an incident that happened almost 4 years ago. But it's also almost 44 years of sadness. Every incident catches me off guard. I'm not good at arguing. I don't like to argue and find myself being passive to avoid conflict, which only adds to my total anxiety. 😭😭😭
But sometimes mirroring and avoidance can save time and energy, anyway very educational
Some people don't change and eventually you have to move on
😑🤣🤦🏾♀️my husband does this I just laugh it off 😂
Humor is always a great thing to have! As long as it doesn't upset you, it's all good ;)
Thank u so much for this video i really needed it. ❤😊
You are very welcome! Thank you for the love :)
Hey! Nice video and very helpful.
Thanks!
Do you think toxic parents and traumatizing childhood can affect the adult life and the relationships when adult?
So happy you liked the video! Short answer to your question, absolutely. I think anything we've been through in the past can impact our present.
@@KristinCoaching thank you for your answer.
@@SocioGirl you're very welcome :)
It definitely can. I think the reason my husband avoids all confrontation but is intensely passive aggressive is because of emotional trauma he hasn’t dealt with.
Very helpful!
My boss is incredibly passive aggressive and I think it’s due to always needing to feel/be liked by others. My response is to not take the bait and do only what he literally tells me to do! You want something else then be direct. I refuse your unhealthy communication because if I fell for it, it would have me jumping through multiple hoops just to continuously try to figure out how to make him happy. I don’t get paid enough for that emotional abuse. Sorry.
My husband attempts to joke by insulting me and I call him out and he says I can’t take a joke. Sad
Perhaps they are so far removed and honestly they do not like you enough to understand you
Hi! Another quick question, maybe you have the answer for this: why do you think my boyfriend feels the need to tell me all the time offensive things, mean things like "shut up, you are stupid, you always do stupid things" and so on? I don't think I am that bad and I try to keep my confidence in myself but sometimes it's just hard to keep the head up with all the mean things he's telling me. I discussed with him about the fact that these things bothers me and I asked him to be honest but in a constructive way with less offensivewords, if he really wants to tell me things, but he is just so mean and I don't know what to believe anymore...
Hi Elena, there are a lot of reasons he is mean. It could be because he doesn't know how to appropriately communicate when he gets upset/triggered. It could be because he's trying to bring you down for whatever reason. But at the end of the day, that type of talk towards you is unacceptable. You should never have to hear those things from your significant other. It's good you try to redirect him and ask him to speak to you appropriately. it's so important to set that boundary with him. If he wouldn't want anyone talking to you like that, he shouldn't talk to you like that either. I hope you continue to communicate your feelings and let him know how his words impact you. I hope it gets better
I like the video except for the “how can we get you out of this?” It’s not our job to fix them.