Just one thing I’d like to clarify. The proper term to describe the crying and thrashing is “meltdown” not “tantruming.” Other than that, this video has some pretty solid tips. BTW I’m actually autistic.
Ty for your reply. Two of my grandchildren have recently been diagnosed with this. (Boy, 3, and girl, 1 & 1/2). I know next to nothing about it, so I'm researching my butt off. I appreciate comments from people who have it. ❤️
@@goldenrules3763 thanks for going out of your way to learn abt autism as well as hearing what autistic people have to say! often people won’t listen to us and will infantalize us...
Nice, don't let your dreams be dreams just because you have asd. I am in nursing school and I have autism as well, I hope everything goes well. I do admit that some social aspects are more difficult to me and I get tired a little more easier, but I got good traits that are benefits as well.
@@andytrinh8438 sure, do you have instagram, whatsapp, discord or something? If you would like we could chat you know. I always love to learn new people and especially people with autism like me, so I can hear how they experience and deal with it in everyday life.
Where was this stuff when i was a kid and even now as a adult. I refuse all health care now because of to many issues with it and abuse from it. Not like I can communicate well to them anyways especially when they dont care to listen. Glad this place has a protocol. It needs to be widened thru the health places everywhere.
Great video. I'm going to share it with my sister who's a paramedic, works at a doctor's office and is about to start nursing school. And, with my mom who works for child protective services... I think it would be wise for the whole medical community to understand this a lot better than most do. Update: my mom and sister were both already throughly educated on this and even added some good tips. My sister said we have to advocate for ourselves. If we want to know step by step what's happening ask because some people don't like that, so the only way they know what you or your child prefers is tell them. My mom mentioned how the paper on the exam table can trigger kids (even NT kids since that's where they get shots or cold medical tools touched all over them). She suggest holding your kids or seeing if you can bring a small blanket. She remembered this from her own child memories of trama at the doc office. She also reminds all parents, even NT parents that if you're kid hasn't been somewhere, it's unknown and can be scary, so she liked these books for all kids, so it can be explained in an age appropriate way.
A tantrum is done on purpose for someone to "get their way", a melt down is a scary, very embarrassing loss of control. They happen so fast that in the middle of them I might think "why is this happening?" or "don't hit your head!" as my body is already violently attacking itself. If a melt down upsets or scares you, please understand that for us it is far more scary and upsetting, even if it's happened many times before. Educated me knows that punching my own skull is the worst thing I could do (I value my brain!), but while it is happening it feels like "thinking me" and "animal me" aren't even able to communicate any more. It feels like I have to wait for the wild animal to loose steam so that I can take control again. Sometimes I know what is happening throughout the meltdown, sometimes I come out of a melt down and don't know what happened, or why and have to wait for someone to explain. Sometimes I cry when I learn about the bad things I have just done. Please avoid staring at an autistic person. The speakers in this video make me very uncomfortable with the wide-eyed, and overly direct staring. In addition to their suggestions about language. Videos where the speaker is looking to the side of the camera feel much friendlier/more relaxing. Adding to the "how to phrase things" section, I feel like "I need to take your temperature now" would also work, as it makes it clear that this is part of their job/routine. I also appreciate it when doctors talk through what they are doing if I can't see (pap smears for example), count down to the "bad part", remind me to take deep breaths, and/or ask if I'm ready so I can nod or say "yes".
Update. I talked with my sister who works in the media profession. I told her I liked your idea for the pap smear, and she said we have to advocate for ourselves because not everyone would like to be told step by step, so all we need to do is say to the doc, "please tell me deep breath just before...". That most docs are more than happy to do so, if not find a different doc... I hope this helps.
Great advice for any kid, even nerotypical kids would benefit from a lot of this advice. And knowing what's going to happen at the doctors office ahead of time. And also from using the style of communication mentioned explaining what will happen next.
@@marieholmes6480 herbal medicine doesn’t help autism. It’s a developmental disorder and you can’t undo that. I’m autistic and most of us would agree with this notion. They best way to help us is communicate thoughts and feelings and be patient.
@@marieholmes6480 it’s the placebo effect. You want it to make you feel better therefore you trick your brain into thinking it works. If it helps you cope then I’m happy for you but do not spread a false narrative of curing autism. We do not need a cure we need acceptance.
For me - it's anxiety - Like for example - I have a real blood injection injury phobia - that being said one time I did have a very successful blood draw where a Medical student played N'SYNC Christmas Music + I had two shots too ( & I don't mean the kind from a glass - Lol)
Some individuals with autism want to actually talk to you so get to know your patient if you can I’m only asking for proper respect here not to be babied
It's a funny one I think they just treat children but then what do they call a child because legally I think it's right up to 17 including 11pm on there birthday. But yes some of these strachergies would need to be let go letter in a person life. There's the thing about talking to the patient rather than the parent I'm not sure when this should come in.
Just one thing I’d like to clarify. The proper term to describe the crying and thrashing is “meltdown” not “tantruming.” Other than that, this video has some pretty solid tips. BTW I’m actually autistic.
Ty for your reply. Two of my grandchildren have recently been diagnosed with this. (Boy, 3, and girl, 1 & 1/2). I know next to nothing about it, so I'm researching my butt off. I appreciate comments from people who have it.
❤️
@@goldenrules3763 thanks for going out of your way to learn abt autism as well as hearing what autistic people have to say! often people won’t listen to us and will infantalize us...
@Beatrix In Christ autism can't be cured with leaves
Me too I have pdd and want to be a pediatric dr (pretty much anything that involves working with kids)
Person with autism - PEOPLE 01ST LANGUAGE PLEASE
I am autistic and I want to be an RN, starting my school career soon to become one!
Nice, don't let your dreams be dreams just because you have asd. I am in nursing school and I have autism as well, I hope everything goes well. I do admit that some social aspects are more difficult to me and I get tired a little more easier, but I got good traits that are benefits as well.
I am on the spectrum as well and I want to become an Occupational Therapist Assistant.
@@andytrinh8438 sure, do you have instagram, whatsapp, discord or something? If you would like we could chat you know. I always love to learn new people and especially people with autism like me, so I can hear how they experience and deal with it in everyday life.
I’m in nursing school myself. It can be done & never give up.
Bless you
Where was this stuff when i was a kid and even now as a adult. I refuse all health care now because of to many issues with it and abuse from it. Not like I can communicate well to them anyways especially when they dont care to listen. Glad this place has a protocol. It needs to be widened thru the health places everywhere.
Great video. I'm going to share it with my sister who's a paramedic, works at a doctor's office and is about to start nursing school. And, with my mom who works for child protective services... I think it would be wise for the whole medical community to understand this a lot better than most do.
Update: my mom and sister were both already throughly educated on this and even added some good tips.
My sister said we have to advocate for ourselves. If we want to know step by step what's happening ask because some people don't like that, so the only way they know what you or your child prefers is tell them.
My mom mentioned how the paper on the exam table can trigger kids (even NT kids since that's where they get shots or cold medical tools touched all over them). She suggest holding your kids or seeing if you can bring a small blanket. She remembered this from her own child memories of trama at the doc office.
She also reminds all parents, even NT parents that if you're kid hasn't been somewhere, it's unknown and can be scary, so she liked these books for all kids, so it can be explained in an age appropriate way.
A tantrum is done on purpose for someone to "get their way", a melt down is a scary, very embarrassing loss of control. They happen so fast that in the middle of them I might think "why is this happening?" or "don't hit your head!" as my body is already violently attacking itself. If a melt down upsets or scares you, please understand that for us it is far more scary and upsetting, even if it's happened many times before. Educated me knows that punching my own skull is the worst thing I could do (I value my brain!), but while it is happening it feels like "thinking me" and "animal me" aren't even able to communicate any more. It feels like I have to wait for the wild animal to loose steam so that I can take control again. Sometimes I know what is happening throughout the meltdown, sometimes I come out of a melt down and don't know what happened, or why and have to wait for someone to explain. Sometimes I cry when I learn about the bad things I have just done.
Please avoid staring at an autistic person. The speakers in this video make me very uncomfortable with the wide-eyed, and overly direct staring. In addition to their suggestions about language. Videos where the speaker is looking to the side of the camera feel much friendlier/more relaxing.
Adding to the "how to phrase things" section, I feel like "I need to take your temperature now" would also work, as it makes it clear that this is part of their job/routine. I also appreciate it when doctors talk through what they are doing if I can't see (pap smears for example), count down to the "bad part", remind me to take deep breaths, and/or ask if I'm ready so I can nod or say "yes".
I'd like it if obgyn gave warnings too.
Thank you for your explanation of what it's really like in a meltdown, and you're other health tips too.
Update. I talked with my sister who works in the media profession. I told her I liked your idea for the pap smear, and she said we have to advocate for ourselves because not everyone would like to be told step by step, so all we need to do is say to the doc, "please tell me deep breath just before...". That most docs are more than happy to do so, if not find a different doc... I hope this helps.
That patient is a good actor.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience.
Great advice for any kid, even nerotypical kids would benefit from a lot of this advice. And knowing what's going to happen at the doctors office ahead of time. And also from using the style of communication mentioned explaining what will happen next.
Tnk you for sharing such a useful information about autism
have you tried natural medicine from Dr moses on youtube his medicine works perfectly well
God he acts just like my son . Yes this is challenging .
@Travis Gerardo okay cool,
I’ll have to check them out thanks!
Have you tried natural herbal medicine from Dr Moses on youtube, his medicine works perfectly well
@@marieholmes6480 herbal medicine doesn’t help autism. It’s a developmental disorder and you can’t undo that. I’m autistic and most of us would agree with this notion. They best way to help us is communicate thoughts and feelings and be patient.
@@carolinespiegel6012 I'll advise you reach out Dr Moses on RUclips he the permanent cure am a living testimony I can send his link if interested
@@marieholmes6480 it’s the placebo effect. You want it to make you feel better therefore you trick your brain into thinking it works. If it helps you cope then I’m happy for you but do not spread a false narrative of curing autism. We do not need a cure we need acceptance.
Thank u for your sharing 😊🙏
For me - it's anxiety - Like for example - I have a real blood injection injury phobia - that being said one time I did have a very successful blood draw where a Medical student played N'SYNC Christmas Music + I had two shots too ( & I don't mean the kind from a glass - Lol)
2:53 avoiding eye contact and overly friendly?! I was both when I was young (more so overly friendly) Btw I’m autistic
My son hates the doctor he have meltdowns everytime
Some individuals with autism want to actually talk to you so get to know your patient if you can I’m only asking for proper respect here not to be babied
Why would I wanna be cured I’m happy
@Beatrix In Christ You should be ashamed of yourself
@Beatrix In Christ autism shouldn’t be cured
@@haannguyen4402 Hi I have autism too
It's a funny one I think they just treat children but then what do they call a child because legally I think it's right up to 17 including 11pm on there birthday. But yes some of these strachergies would need to be let go letter in a person life. There's the thing about talking to the patient rather than the parent I'm not sure when this should come in.
Or Fainting in my case
Very difficult
the only difficult thing is teaching you patience
I'm glad I don't do that kind of stuff I'm very well behaved
autistic people are well-behaved, you're just being pretentious