Win The Game Of A Narcissist
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Before you play the game you need to get your nerves stronger because they have no mercy. Remember, the final goal is to leave with limited damage. Put in a safe place your valuables and make sure you can leave any time safely.
So true. My ex always told me he would never allow me to leave him. I watched over my shoulders for yrs. I feared he would kill me
I am not married to my present narc. I own my home and am not leaving. He has to be the one to leave. Police won't do anything about gas lighting or silent treatment etc... Bookmark you are absolutely correct. You have to get some self esteem from somewhere before you could ever challenge them at their own game. I am presently going on 2 weeks silent treatment for moving the dish drainer to the other side of the counter. He's OCD also. I have been silent treatmenting right back. And stopping and reading this.....Makes me laugh at the foolishness of it all. What he does, and my own foolish reaction in return. So I am in the game as in trying to keep a infantile wacko nut calm. Which is impossible. I want him out of my brain. It's not his physical presence, it's his presence in my head.
@@ruthcov : Hi there, by leaving I meant to leave him physically. If you own the place he might with you because
a) he has no other place to go, so if you “by chance” find one for him he would go
b) you are apparently patient enough to put up with his childish behavior and provide him with comfortable life for free why should he change?
If you want him to go with some kind of force like police he will resist but if you stop washing his clothes and start a diet and stop cooking dinners his life will be less comfortable. Then you just need to wait for the first time he threatens you to leave you and you can open door for him. What emotionally comes after that is terrible you need a good therapist, a supportive family but you can make it. 🤗
Not every narc discards their victim, I know narcs who have been married for decades, but those that will devalue & discard this is very good advice...Narcs want the same thing we all want in relationships they just don't how to treat others as they should, which is why they go through so many friendships & relationships
"That's so MEAN!"--SCREAMS the NARC for not stealing the rest of your belongings before you escaped to Dodge
Playing with narcs is indeed exhausting and a waste of time...just break free and walk .. they will never change their evil ways.
Yes, best to not play and just all of a sudden dump them, especially when they don't see it coming. That is the best game plan. Dump them, go no contact and terminate the relationship. Terminate all ways for them to gain entrance back into your life.
Yes, zero contact with envious people, narcissists, psychopaths, it's the best answer if you know that you won't need to be in contact with that person whatsoever for your profession, studies, marriage... Else, they count on that you will do this (nothing), for they to start pursuing you! If you give your back to a narcissist, you are just easing that they will stab yours. Also, problem with no contact it's that bad people are most times disguised on purpose as good people (they are egocentric so they are foes of everyone but specially of their friends, no matter how wicked and vile this is, just because it's easier and safer for the perpetrator). So they initially appear as kind people also to you, then when you trust them, they can start to and silently keep pursuing you, and only the pursuer and you know.
They get very irritated if you ignore them because of their self-sense of entitlement, superiority even grandiosity and if they already have started to harm you it's because they don't fear you so they despise you. These people are cruel because they want it all always, but they get 2 faces, develop a facade of kindness and even shyness (cloned from empathetic people, to whom they try to imitate then to eliminate psychologically and socially, that's the substitution of someone else in his/her own life, or identity steal) so to stalk from within that hypocritical or false emotional layer, and to get protection or alibi after their aggressions of all types). They are treacherous (so they will harm you without warning), morally perverted (if they already dare they always seem offended against you, they keep accusing you of this and that, they try to appear as the victims of their victims). They want you to know that they would kill you if there were no consequences for them, so they at least will try to destroy you psychologically, economically and socially. They have no empathy so no mercy and not remorse, they create gratuituous havok time after time and they pursue their preys even for years and decades ahead! They use your own defensive reactions against you as if you suddenly did mistreat them for no reason, so be careful and gather proofs. They want to win always, not matter how and also they want to dominate and the total failure of the lives of those around them. To hoard everything in their surroundings and to feel superior than the rest of persons, they are basically silently scanning for possible preys most the time.
When the harm is already done by means of calculated deception and perverted betrayals, and when they then start pursuing you also by means of smear campaigns... If you don't play the game of the narcissist, you will end traumatized and also socially outcasted. What to do, then!?? To grow as an adult in the REAL world we live in. BAD actions MUST match consequences. You have to develop a military attutude because the bad people is at war against good people. Exactly what Richard says in this short video and also this is why there are laws, police, judges and jails to somehow guarantee the basic human rights for a living in society, not in the wild after all.
And this is all you need to heal from narcissistic abuse and have a life.
He had guns, lots of bullets. I nearly bled to death from internal bleeding
@@Earthoceanfire435, How are you now? I hope things have improved for you. I noticed also that Narcs. love lots of guns in their home.
@@Prometheuspredator we’re good! Live far away. Quite a name Prometheus Predator.
Actually, this is how you win the game. By not playing it at all. And going no contact. Using your energy elsewhere. I don't agree with trying to be deceptive to a narcissist. They'll just flip it on you. They've been manipulative their entire lives, so playing their game will get you burned.
A lot of people have them in the workplace, you know. A lot of bosses are like this. And yeah. You silently play your game, you gather info on them, you talk to everyone, if you get unfairly critisized you nonchalantly strike back as if you don't care (don't be rude but otherwise act as if you don't care). If you made a mistake, act as if you know that what you did was not right but it is actually their fault it happened that way. Say nice things with grim intonation to confuse them and make them scared of you. Mixed signals. If people ask about your relationship with them, say nothing or say different things to different people. NPDs are weaker than normal people actually. You know why? They have no intuition. If you give them mixed signals they get terrified of you because they do not know what is going on.
@@lizvtaz6 Thanks ! very well stated .
@@lizvtaz6 yeah, mine is my manager. I love my job and I'm an expert in an niche field and I'm not wanting to uproot my life, so I Grey Rock everything . They are hoovering like mad now, and I have to Grey Rock that, too. I have to remember to be myself with everyone else around the office even when I notice he feels threatened by it. I just play like I don't notice, and I maintain a generic, aloof kindess around him.
@@lizvtaz6 you can go grey rock. So as not to absorb any of their negativity. Also, I would keep things to a minimum as far as any kind of response. That way they fail to gather anymore information out of you.
@@rubio9478 that very much depends on your job. I am a teacher at a language school. The owner of the school alongside with at least 3 other administration members is clearly an NPD. As a teacher I don't need to interact with them too much. I mostly interact with my students. But those people (the owner of the school and others) have a huge amount of power over me. Some of the students are really entitled and they complain about nonsense and the owner then lashes at teachers. What I managed to do was to build a relatively close relationship with my students, so they would be loyal to me and not to the school. Also, I managed to become friends with some people that were not NPD, so that I would be somewhat protected. Otherwise... No pay. Suddenly all of your students get taken from you. Blah-blah-blah. The language I teach is somewhat rare, in order to get students I need to belong to a school. A lot of teachers in our school are really afraid of the administration. They work under bad conditions and stay silent. I often manage to push for better conditions not only for me but for other teachers as well. But it's risky and it's always drama. Also Grey Rock can be dangerous, I think. It does not always work. It is better to confuse them.
Discard them before they discard you and leave with no contact stay no contact. Cutting out all their family, friends and flying monkeys and make them irrelevant.
Yep! Anyone shows one red flag or yellow flag and they are gone from my life too. When my gut tells me that someone is obviously trying to push my buttons with SHITTY ADVICE, etc..after their loud rambunctious SMEAR CAMPAIGN, even if it's one of my FORMER own close friends--I just go NO CONTACT without warning nowadays
Exactly
Walk away. Simple. They love the game and depending on how crazy they truly are, it just becomes a challenge for them. Turn your back and walk away. It is the only way.
Richard is giving dangerous advice really. There is no logic to a narc, a game will delight them. Who wants to make a narc think "the game is on"?
@@pamharrison8348 as a narc, I can confirm I would be delighted. Have a special strategy for gaming.
In my profession I sometimes have to deal with a narcissist. When she comes at me with crazy batshitedness, I simply look at her like "are you nuts?" and walk away without saying a word. That's the only way. They're better at the game than you (unless you're one of them), and you won't win, unless you turn to deception and mind games. I personally don't want to be that kind of person. Agreed! WALK AWAY!
@@pamharrison8348 the first rule of the game is to not let them know you’re playing. Infact that is 99% of the game.
@@christineploeg1992 I'm not playing. I want him to leave me alone. I'll do what it takes to accomplish that.
"The best revenge is to be unlike the one who performed the injustice." Marcus Aurelius
Yes 👏
Hallelujah
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If you want to survive and keep your sanity, you better learn how to deal with them until you can get away and be safe
They're the game players....not us. We win by focusing on our own life
A broader awareness; a lighter step.
I agree ❤
Mirroring their behavior really does knock them on their ass. Just be careful.......
They put all blame on u, u forget ur real u.
Mirroring is to take chances. Jus disposed and keep moving. You mirror if you’re sure they care.
I found that by mirroring their behavior it really enrages them. They really can’t take it and will blow everything up (Putin, DT, etc.).
Sometimes, the only winning move is not to play, and leave the board
Yep! This is universal advice actually within these anti-NPD circles and I agree. To not do it as just giving them "negative supply." (I'm not shaming anyone who does do that because there's no one-size-fits-all--I've given second or 10th chances only to feel regret a little later or realize why I went NC in the first place)
It’s true. They’re actually much weaker than people realize if you begin to be on the offense instead of defense.
To be honest, until I got some semblance of presence of mind back I didn’t see it as abuse. I just knew if it made me feel. Awful. I’ve found you have to short circuit the sympathetic nervous system response to their abuse. Their power is there ability to trigger you. Cultivate a meditation practice. Learn breath work techniques like box breathing, 4-7-8, and the physiological sigh. Exercise daily. Get eight hours of sleep. Then you’ll have a fighting chance. I wish I knew all this a lot sooner.
You are not alone I’m just proud of you for knowing this now
this is very good
I found pickleball, pilates and tapping all help me stay grounded!
Even if you don't want to play, the game is still going so you have no choice but to play to win.
It really worked with me. But after confronting a narc, we shouldn't fall back in our empathic carring and loving personality, like we did before. Because the narc wil feel it and is going to manipulate right after you lower your guard to much.
So just keep boundaries and requirements high. When they don't change fast enough, make your plan to leave.
Yep, deep, sustainable healthy boundaries.
100% correct they will knock the life out of you but you have to strategize because they do have a weak spot and when you find it you just bulldoze them and make your escape equitable for you. You earned it and paid dearly for it.
I'm not sure sinking to their level makes anything better and can lead to you overreacting and remaining being connected to them psychologically. I would advise walking away, let them claim their next victim and self destruct on their own. The best revenge is working on yourself (get in shape, take up new hobbies, go to therapy, volunteer, achieve successes), living a good, happy fulfilling life at peace without them. She is looking up my new partner on facebook, frequenting the grocery store I always shop at, and has her flying monkeys keeping tabs on me where I work. I just avoid and ignore it all and not react to it.
A big chunk of me feels, a gut wrenching need for revenge, and to battle, or fight back, and call my Ex wife out... openly & especially so my kid's 17 & 20 yr olds...grasp her super power of toxic unaccountably! Then I read what you wrote... Freaking 2 times!
All of those feeling's my gut wrenching Meow meows. Freaking childish angry 5 yr. Old narcissist reactions rubbed of on me from battling (& loosing) to a Princess. Nothing good can come out of pouring gasoline on the toxic vindictiveness of the narcissistic flame!
I solute your machismo, I look forward to being as fixed as U R... soon.
@@leroymcdowelliv6693 Hey man, glad it helped and is coming from my own experience. I almost succumbed to that desire to get revenge, but caught myself. She had a poker gambling addiction and worked at a bank, drove drunk several times with kids, including her own, in the car but I didn't act on that information. I did lay out my case of how she is an abusive narcissist but all that did was allow her to make me out as the crazy one harassing her.
You can only control yourself and your actions and emotions, not hers. Let your actions define you and her actions define her. Exactly, nothing good will come from pouring gasoline on the fire.
You’re right! Working on yourself
Do not play the game. It's a loosers game. Wrestling in the mud with pigs...gets mud all over you. And the pigs blame it on you. Leave them in the past...move forward with courage to face the unknown in front of you. The Narcissist just keep repeating same game different subject matter. God is in the unknown....make plans to go there.
💜🙏Love this!
Well said
Offence is the best form of defence
True. You’ve learned all they’re tactics just turn the tables it will confuse them and make them second guess in attacking or harassing you again!
absolutely true
This is great how you say "The best thing you can do is to take the fight to ENEMY!" I've been on the defense in a financially supportive/receptive situation, as a guy, for too long-- and now I'm doing it the other way around. So thanks for.reaffirming what I am finally doing now. Just like you say, "if you're always on the defensive, it will WEAR YOU OUT" Agreed!!
Why even bother? Just leave them alone.
Remember that you are advising people about how to "play a game" with alligators... Try to have a wrestling fight with them. Noway.
Realize it’s a game and opt out.
Works for mgtow
Opting out isn't always an option.
Pretend that you are being controlled by them, and watch what they do. In other words, play a fool. They'll reveal themselves to you.
I've been playing the game since last April. It works. I worry I'll become like them that's the thing. I say one thing and do another snd it confuses him. I worked with him every day until 2 weeks ago, he's lost all control now and he's in a serious rage. The manipulation techniques know no bounds, it's been a lesson. Fascinating and scary to watch when I've spent the last 12 months in Richard grannons school for narcissist survivors
I got a child with the Narc-Medusa, no contact is no option flin this situation, be strong, smart and rock hard. Balls of steel ar recommended 😎💪🏻
This really works, destroys their fragile ego
What everyone is missing is , not everyone can go no contact immediately it's a process because a true narc isn't just gonna let you walk away when you say no. I (amongst other reasons) had to move because blocking them sometimes doesn't work, just knowing they can ring my door bell at any moment had me on edge and they knew it. So I "played" nice keeping distance until I was out of my place and then I blocked again. I has to use The Art of War to figure out how to get away...
So his advice is actually what pushed me through....you can't get away if you're the only ones playing by the rules. I had to resort to being sneaky and deceptive to get away.
I won .... 10 years later , but I got a trophy .. beat the narcissist !!!
I’ve done this. And can only speak for myself when I say, doing this is very draining, you’re actually letting them bully you, yes I agree you should not give an emotional reaction.. but in some cases there comes a time to put an end to the madness. I sent a video of my wife throwing a wine glass at me screaming foul shit at the top of her lungs to her mom. As much as I agree it was the wrong thing to do as far as being able to continue with the marriage because I unmasked her.. but if it didn’t go down as it did I’d still be there saying “ I need to get out “. It meant spending 3 days in Bronx central booking.. then getting arrested again but now the divorce is in full motion . Acting and manipulating them is very easy. I mean you’re dealing with a child after all… but it’s draining
agreed. after seeing how my husband reacted to certain things in couples counseling I realized that I DO have the upper hand here! They truly are grown children. if you can get past the emotional tantrums and bullying tactics you CAN stand your ground and be successful!
@@stacygyuricza2187 i choose to just get a divorce. At 57 I refuse not to be able to be “ me”.. I’m that guy who needs answers who needs communication who needs honesty.. love.. loyalty and above all? Yeah, I expected a best friend and she fell short on all of that. In the beginning it was shown to me she can be all of those things but later found out she can’t and was just mirroring me.. and what I was letting out. So actually? I fell in love with myself
@@roddywilliams9957 same.
Good for you, Stacy and Roddy! (The latter name makes me select "They Live" as a future movie watching choice for the night.)
Thanks for this insightful video, Richard.
While I agree that playing the game and not reacting to an abuser is likely the best option when in a relationship with one, I am unwilling to “play”.
I’ve lived with deception all my life (both from others and toward myself). I don’t like deception, so I’ve opted to tell myself the truth about who I am and who people are, rather than “play a game”. As I do this, more and more, I’m glad that I chose to leave the now-ex to his own devices. He can do what he likes with others, just not with me! (Not that I condone his behaviors in any way. I am NOT in control of how he behaves. I AM in control of how I behave. So my choice is to not “play” his game.)
This is 100% true. After awhile, playing the game becomes fun. I wonder if in fact I've become a narcissist just like them. But to pull the wool over their eyes and leave them baffled is very satisfying. It inevitably shuts them down altogether.
Best advice I've heard today. Be strategic in your maneuvers so you don't fall into the trap.
How about we stop playing games, break free and invest our energy in something more fruitful?
My daughter, mother and I escaped. His game was dirty in court. My mom and I said you want to play we’ll play but prepare to loose. Your a pattern I’m not. I’m human so I can change things up. Your playing for your soul or the soul of your child/children. He lost.
Yes, You have to play dirty narc, especially in court. Really, no lying is necessary with a narc. No more covering for their insanity.
This advice worked for me.. couldnt walk away because of commitments with the narc.. you have to believe in your position and focus on what needs to happen and strategize strategize strategize...
I feel like I'm becoming the monster
This. This is draining my soul. I'm so tired of planning strategically to save my life. Pretty sure all of this has caused my "fibromyalgia". I'm not like them, but to have to put my mind into chess player mode, thinking a step ahead, on top of trying to remember who I used to be, co-parent, AND heal from the pure horror of the realization that the person who I wasted my life on, never even loved me... I've been worn down and worn out. Fighting for my life over here. I already played their game. I want out.
@@CashNet72 I hope you will find a way, your own path.
I left the chess game 10 years ago. Wouldn't say it was easy but totally worth it. Take care out there💕
Why. A. Game. I Come From. LOVE
It's not a game, it's a war. Ensure your strategy is to escape with the least amount of mental, physical and asset damage.
At first, I thought, no, deception is wrong, but then I thought better of it, and every dealing with a narcissist, in both directions is deception!
It all comes down to learn to be good by yourself. You won’t accept crap that doesn’t make you feel good when you think of how good you already are, by your own self.
Yeah because it's all mind games and cold calculation with them. You have to become them to deal with them. Fight fire with fire. The good thing about us 'empaths' is we can never get lost in the coldness and darkness the way they do, our ability to FEEL genuine empathy will always save our humanity and leave us breadcrumbs to find our way back to sanity.
You’re right. Being in defense is exhausting.
You are so true. But i am enjoying. They say when the going gets tough the tough gets going. I am almost going no contact but waiting is exhausting. Let see
Yes exactly & the process of them wearing you out is them literally " Feeding" off your life force energy.
Agreed, also sometimes you hit them with the blatant truth , the patheticness of "their game".. Then show them who always caught the 1 handers in rounders. Let THE game begin, I'll call the shot shot shots. Pep yourself up.. See them for what they are.
I watch loads of your videos. I really value your advice and expertise , and am humbled by your healing and awareness and self awareness. You are an inspiring man! Great work you share. Thank you 🙏. I hope you feel whole and happy after your experiences.
First time a saw a positive mindset to fight a narcissist
Absolutely. It's the only way out of this nightmare. Take back your power. Stop playing into THEIR game. They get confused when you hold your ground and stop reacting to them poking at you.
There's nothing like that look of confusion on their face when you don't take the bait or in the auditory indications on the telephone. Sometimes it just takes a little jab and I'll just politely excuse myself saying I have somewhere else to go.
(What are they going to do? Brag to their lame little FLYING MONKEYS how they allegedly got to me again? Who cares what they think!)
I played the game, still playing it! And I plan to win!!!!
As Sun Tsu said 'Use your brain to be one step ahead, then stealthily pierce the heart of the npd mercilessly'.
Yes! And I believe he said strike when they haven't eaten lunch yet.
@@fearless7989 LOL!
I remember in earlier videos you would say the opposite, that you won't win at their game, they have more energy, etc, etc... You were saying NOT to do that.
There's some situations where you can't leave, like work place or sort of situations so you must play the game make them feel that they got you , then suddenly awake them into reality.
Thank you for all of your help i was with a malignant narcissist for 14 years and have been free from him going on 5 years. It takes time to unwind the damage and I am so happy to have my life back!
Playing the game is just as exhausting. I've been Using this strategy the list few weeks. Now I feel narcissistic and it feels awful.
Yeah my problem I can’t live with myself I feel disgusted and ashamed. I don’t ever want to be like that
Well, when I get forced into a corner, sometimes it's beat or be beaten! Richard's talking about a long-term escape plan here. I GREY-ROCK it 90% of the time. But sometimes I take the bait without shame and say something back. And, yes, I have to agree that you have to use "deception" at some point in the midst of an EXIT STRATAGEY
Encouraging people to 'play the game' simply put is defensive and Narcissistic.The best thing you can do is 'not to play the game.'Be an adult..games are for children. Healthy adults don't 'play games.'Just leave.
I heard it as, "If you can't escape the relationship," kind of thing like the parent of your children or a boss or your grown child....
Once I came out a little, strong enough after treatment, I spoke to my sister and she helped me to see the REAL PICTURE. We came up with a GAME plan. "The Master Plan" I would get upset and she would remind me, Toni, stick with the Master Plan. It was so hard. His abuse got worse. I did it!
I'm RAN with certain things in place. Now he can't control, manipulate and kill my soul and light ANYMORE. NEVER AGAIN. Thank you so much for helping me and so many others.
I played him....He did not expect that I went on with my life...I did just a bit of name dropping.. so good...now I go no contact 💪...we are much stronger than we think. Take your power back !...and wach out in weak moments warriors🤺
We do have to confuse them. I noticed I was constantly being drained by him I couldn't figure out why. Until I started noticing the hamster wheel of madness he kept putting me in. With his non stop nonsensical conversations and gaslighting. Once I changed how I started reacting he became very puzzled and afraid.
Amen. Never tell them your intentions and what you are doing to get healthier and stronger.
Yep, it’s annoying, I get rid of them👎
Amen play the game ladies and gentlemen it really does work and you will have so much more peace of mind
The timeliness of these is amazing.
It sucks, but it is true. My OCPD/Narcissist manager is HOOVERING like mad right now. Compliments everywhere and zero attacks... but I know the attacks will come again. I know it is an act. He's on his back foot now with our very healthy new boss. It's weird because I don't wish him any harm, I just want relationships that aren't competitive and abusive. If he weren't disordered my personality and drive would be welcome at work. I'm good at what I do.
Alex cormont says guys always feel like they own your attention, so don't give your attention to them and keep not giving it all to them.
This is so similar...
I did that, I Played a game of deception to get out, and felt very guilty for years, but I saved my life, thanks for this video, mate, you validated me
Aquire the powerful skill set of confusing the Narcissist. If done correctly can keep them chasing their tails like the devious dogs that they are 😂. To master it can protect your Peace of mind, body and spirit. Stay safe and put yourself first.
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Only willing victims dance with a narcissist. If you seek revenge or power over a narcissist you have become one. Just like Richard Grannon.
Am playing the game my dear, and am wining , this man used to make my head hurts, I almost go mad,
Im tired of fighting. I'll just play Gandhi.
This sounds a bit manic if I’m being honest I’ve heard never indulge in games like that with narcs but rather flea from the game. Go no contact. Grey rock. Who wants to waste their time playing a game with a narcissist! Idk 🤷♂️
Ohh yes, stop operating from fear!
This I know by now. Sometimes I’m too soft, lay down my defences, but soon as I know what’s up I snap back into place, and then it’s over 😂
I’ve read some comments advising against this & just walk away, & even though this may be true for some people like maybe those who’s relationship could get physically abusive but I must agree with Richard.
Turning the tables & letting them know you are not only on to them but will not stand for their abuse, can most definitely help you walk away because they will then become even more abusive & you will also feel more empowered to have this power of bringing out what will seal your departure because you will be seeing them for the first time not from a victim’s eyes but of a survivor who isn’t as helpless as you thought & you will have the empowerment of them being on the receiving end trying desperately to get their control back from you & this may help you see how pathetic they actually are & it may tip the scales for you to leave them.
I am playing the game. He wants full control over me. I remain independent.
The best deception tactic to counter their attacks is pretend it bothers you but then slowly make the plan to get away. Show them their manipulation is "working".
Sure, did all this. They don't give up. At a certain point you just walk.
thank you, so much !
I choose not to play at all..walk away..as fast as you can. Else you will become them.
Yeah, intentionally deceiving people is something I don’t have the luxury of utilizing. I work very hard to be upfront and honest as it keeps me in check, for me. I prefer to go far, far away and to never, ever look back, even when I lose the game. It takes a certain mindset to choose intentional deception and planning. I’ll cut my losses and boogie.
I recently had the opportunity to do this. 6 years with this guy and I barely figured this out. I backed him in a corner and first mirrored his stupid faces and the usual stuff. He was almost glitching out... Haha... It was great.
Of course went no contact after literally throwing him out.
I love bomb you ❤ Richard,you're a great.Thanks for all help you're doing for people ❤
I don’t react emotionally now so no need for game playing. No emotional reaction, no ability for them to manipulate….
Thank you
And also read the 48 laws of power
I've had to build strength and keep strategizing.
I don't quite understand this message. I almost died going toe to toe with the narc in my life. Until I got saved and put on the full armor of God. got the sweet victory in Jesus. For real. Saved me from those old demon narcs I used to work for. Made a path so clear, so crystal, I love my Lord for saving me. I'll never take his grace, mercy, love, peace, and wisdom for granted. Freedom! Thank you, Jesus!
Omfg, sometimes I look like a crazy person but it's all thought out. It's difficult when you're dealing with crazy people.
DO NOT PLAY THE GAME....We can be strong enough without the Narcissist. NO CONTACT, get away from them...live in peace and happiness. That's crazy information....telling people to play the sick games.
Nope. Walk away. Be free. Leave them to their crazy, evil games.
It did wear me out two and a half months no contact and I broke it back to no contact they can’t and won’t change
I had to do this with my father & it paid off at the end of his life when he couldn’t have cared less but only wanted to hurt his children who were trying to look after his best interests while he was undermining us… vindicated finally by pulling the iron out of the fire for my sister as well… she never saw it coming when he disinherited her too
Eye opening. Thanks. Yes. Nobody wants to be constantly reacting and defending. Very true, sage advice.
I'm glad all the comments are like hell no. Cuz I don't know this feels like it's telling them that they're valid for their behavior.
This really resonates with me.
ABSOLUTELY
You top your previous videos all the time 👏. Finally a suggestion that doesn’t involve being in defence mode. I’ve listened to all that rubbish for years and things in my life have got worse not better. I’ll need to search your videos to see if you delve deeper into how to play the game. I’m ready to take control of my life back and rebuild the relationships that have been damaged further by the poor advice that’s out there. Thank you @RICHARDGRANNON for useful and realistic advice 👍
Listening to your post today I was thinking of this is good, turn the game back on him. Validating to level up the playing field. Then you said to do what he is and lie. I am horrible at lying. I can't pull the deception off.
Currently playing the game until I can get where I need to be financially. It’s crazy out here. I’ve had to learn to control myself & my emotions. Learn how not to respond to the shady comments. Most importantly start doing stuff that makes me happy & most find training that will allow me to make more money. So when I leave I can stay gone.
Well done 👍
Best of luck for both of us 🤞
Maybe in the short term to get out of a dangerous situation, but be aware -, deception kills the soul...
Biggest win and flex is to not play it. Just move on to someone deserving of your attention. Narcs are a waste of time
Don’t defend engage explain or personalise , DEEP. It works