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The Subtle Hack I Used To Cure My LOW VALUE Blindspots
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- Опубликовано: 25 июн 2022
- Discover how I went from being shy and insecure to being confident and "high value" using this powerful blindspot hack.
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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The Subtle Hack I Used To Cure My LOW VALUE Blindspots
How to improve your social skills! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to become high value and develop a high value mindset... Discover how to have a strong identity, how to become high value and how to be grounded in yourself!
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What’s your reason for dressing like you don’t care?
Super important to determine your win -Owen
YES!!! 🔥👊
The sooner one realizes we are looking at reality through a lens, the faster the path is to shining light on the blind spots!
18months ago i got out of an extremely toxic relationship. I didnt even know what the term narssissum meant or gaslighting, manipulation, and all the other extreme toxic traits these people hurt others with but i knew what phsycal abuse was when that started but by then my soul was so damaged and my mind so confused i began to see a beating as a relief because the following week while i was bruised and he felt guilt and shame and was nice to me. I have self sabotaged every attempt someone has made to connect with me since leaving that relationship to the point of having nobody at all in my life because of my own guilt and shame i seemed to have inherited from my ex's bad behaviour. The pain of realising how nieve and trusting i was and that i let it all happen because i never knew i had the right to say no to anyone i loved or that my feelings mattered due to my childhood is as bad if not worse than the 7 year relationship. I burst into tears at evey one of your videos the moment you ask the audience or an individual a question.
I’m working through some trauma right now and I spontaneously came up with the idea of having boundaries with myself. And being clear in those boundaries so I can focus on what builds me up and healthy good feelings. It’s been a really big shift for me. So crazy how wisdom waits for when you’re ready for it.
Nice! And yes, wisdom wait for when you're ready for it... BUT you can accelerate that process in order to be "ready" MUCH sooner! 🙏
How do you enforce your own boundaries upon yourself? Say you focused on what drags you down and gives you unhealthy feelings, what do YOU do about it?
@@bennoreuter4393 When I get anxious and lazy and unmotivated. I recognize bad things and feelings as part of my moment to moment experience. Your motivation issues are driven by that sense of what’s bad and good and what you want and don’t want to do or pursue or commit to. You need the boundary to be clear and you need to believe in it.
I enforce the boundary when I’m stuck and avoiding and worrying by realizing moment to moment how I’m being affected by negative emotions and fears. Maybe it’s about the thing you have to do or something else about your life you’re ruminating about. And by remembering I don’t have to believe or be motivated by whatever the negative thing is in the moment that I’m experiencing/thinking. I can enforce a boundary by working on my goals and focusing on what I want instead.
Btw it’s almost impossible to enforce a boundary unless you are very clear what that boundary is that that you believe it’s worth enforcing, if you believe you don’t want to do the work and that it’s better to avoid then that’s what you’ll do because the boundary isn’t clear or worth it.
Hope that helps. I have the feeling though that this advice is more personal to my process and issues. I know it’s a long message but I probably would have written that in my journal anyways so there you go lol
@@Wingedmagician I read your reply and thought it was very helpful! Right on, keep going!
@@Wingedmagicianamazing, thank you! Wishing u all the best
11:03 one day i realized that the jealousy made me see people as challenges and not as loving friends or just carring human beings who love me. That helped me to stop comparing myself to others and be happy with achivements of my friends
I really admire how you're able to communicate what I've learned through behavioral and analytical psychology in a relatable and easy to digest way. Not many people are able to pull that off so smoothly.
I was trying to tell my sister about helping my own depression through changing my thoughts and she kept telling me how it was no way to heal my depression myself if it was real. I was doing so much better until that day. I was silent a lot of her rant but she just kept trying to push it on me that it was no way. Over time she made me feel awful and I've struggled to get back where I was every since. That's been about a month ago.
For her when she seen me making progress she wanted to bring me back down again instead of changing herself. She has depression and i know logically she is projecting how she feels onto me because she feels she can't but I've struggled to let her negativity go and continue my own growth from where i was. It was a serious setback.
You absolutely can heal your own depression. You already started to feel better. Don't let others sabotage you into believing you can't heal, BECAUSE YOU CAN! Be proud of your progress and get back into it. :D
you need to distance yourself from her and let yourself flourish!
It's hard to help someone when you can't help yourself, family is deep one can't be happy when he is rich while his family is in poverty build yourself to make it easier to build your family
I have felt this as well with my child’s father. And I’m sorry that you have been going through that as well. It’s no fun and I’m trying to not be resentful but it is one of my life’s biggest challenge for sure.
I hate to say this, because it may have the wrong connotation, but this is all a "game." Your sister has her own issues and she isn't where you are yet, so best not to share what you have found with her. You're on the right path, she isn't there yet to realize the truth of things. You need to keep going from where you left off and not let anything get in your way. These are all tests, and the quicker you realize you can control your own mind and reactions, and thus completely transform how reality actually looks, the quicker your "test subjects" in life will go away.
Attention-span may be low for a lot of people these days, but this video is straight on 🔥.
You're a f-ing legend mate, I don't know how you do it.
Glad this was helpful! 🔥👊
I can't believe this video doesn't have more likes. Not only is it crazy informative but it breaks it down into easy to swallow chunks. I started watching Julian's videos way back when he was with Owen and Max, straight RSD! I really enjoyed Julian's videos because they are a little more spiritual . I encourage everyone to watch these and give them a chance, really give it a try and put in just a little work. Any start is a good one, bodies in motion tend to stay that way. That's physics baby! Just got to get that ball rolling. Much love to Julian and anyone watching these videos and reading these comments. Keep up the good work!
The RAS can be your worst enemy or your biggest ally, and it's completely dependent on your level of awareness of what influences you allow inside to steer your unconscious behavior. Like you said, we all have them, and they're either working for you or against you.
Yes, exactly! 👌
RAS?
@@Fangirling-xt2vu Reticular activating system. He talks about it in the video.
Thanks for the video! I'm the "They smiled to me just to be polite". I have friends who tell me that they're not just polite smiles, and still I have to do work to really take it in. Thanks for reminding me.
I started growing and every single person I know cut me out of their life basically overnight I got ghosted by family and friends stopped calling me, or was judged by strangers and looked at as a bad person by co-workers the better I did the more people I lost its insane how right this guy is.
You sure it happened because you started to grow and not something like started ignoring the social norms? Because it sound a bit of extreme reaction if even strangers judged you. Because I can understand people who knew you would get alienated from you when you start growing, but random people who did not know you before also reacted negatively? Seems like there is something more than just growth that did it
Strangers judge you by appearance so I'm guessing it was by the way I dress or high confidence level im not sure why people feel the need to dissect me constantly even you felt the need to reply to my comment which proves my point a little further.
@@Ninjeto Well, in my case, what you described felt a little extreme, so I just wanted to say that it might be not only your growth that causing it, but also something else. But of course it's up to you to pin it down if you want to pin it down. You can ask about it somebody about it or try altering your behavior or appearance, not to be dishonest with yourself, but as a way to experiment and see if reactions from people would change.
It’s called resonating or resonance. You resonate with what you’re ready for.
Lol. Definitely hit the nail 21 minutes in as I was checking my phone and responding to texts. Thanks for putting this together for us. I love what you're doing.
Thanks man, you are really changing live's. I absolutely dig your way of speaking.
Thank you! Glad it resonates!
I lpve youre content bro i have followed you for just 3 weeks and i am in love with this channel keep it up♥️
Thank you for helping me
Amazing to hear! Welcome to the channel! 🙏
Hey!
Thanks, you've helped me a lot in forming strange feelings int thoughts.
Gems 💎 The growth has been crazy 💯
🔥🔥🔥
So many valuable insights and wisdom thank you
Great speech man!
Wow! Started off watching it and thought about ‘sounds like RAS’. Terrific explanation! Wish I saw this last year. Still have blind spots and working on my childhood trauma and still going slow. Will book a call.
Thank you, great video
Julian I really need you to talk about "oversharing"
; specifically "why I share so much personal information with others?"
There are zillions of contents out there; but Yours is different. I'm waiting so hard for your version.
agian ;)
Raw and hard and straight
"He couldnt even see the smiles". Wow that hits hard. I often think im too socially awkward and bad to be around yet often i make people laugh and they reciprocate talking to me as well. Ive been self sabotaging crazy hard. Thats horrible and horrifying to realize 😢
I struggle with the same thing
With being complimented, I take the mid category, but I will vocally react as the high value confident person and certainly say thank you most of the time, but what is going on in my head and my true feelings is the mid compliment guy.
So many people fail at life because they don’t know this. Epic video !!! 🔥🔥🔥
Agreed! This is so subtle and hard to catch... But a GAME CHANGER!
You can fail at life when you do not have guidance without knowing the purpose how can you achieve? may Allah guide us before the we get resurrected looking at our life with regret.
Man I don’t know if you believe in God or not but you have an anointing on your life. The way you explain things is incredible.
Watched this video without distraction to other tabs, lol. Bless you, Julien.
Amazing! 🔥🔥🔥
If someone else transfered into my body they would be utterly useless, unless they were also neurodivergent. They'd have no clue how to handle it. I'm confused and I'm here every day. This perspective is one of the ways I finally figured out self-compassion for myself and my previous self.
I Love the fact that unlike the Tai Lopez’s of the world that you are prepared to deliver the unsexy message. You clearly do this quite prepared to pay the price of less popularity for doing so! In other words you haven’t sold your soul to the devil!
So good.
Love this outfit 🙂
It was harsh to hear that I'm a doormat for my family. I knew it was happening in my head, but I rationalize it as my own choices. I agreed to my obligations. But now. Months or years later, I'm tired of doing all that I do, but no one else seems to know how.
Ever been hired for a low level job, but when you see something needs done you just do it? Then, as time passes, you realize that you're just expected now to do the extra work without getting the extra pay for it? That's what's happening, and I don't see a way out of it because I DID agree to do my part...
Many thanks for this video👏 I cut lots of friends off because of this friction, distription whatever... I can not deal with that thougt that people who I saw close friends cant grudge me my success, development etc... I dont want to say that I did always the best but I have really a big problem with that... How can I fix this problem ?
It’s not about trauma or past experience. It’s about dopamine. One person with bipolar disorder can come from being on top of the word to being unable to function within hours. The only difference is brain chemistry causing either mania or depression.
Personally love your videos🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️❤️
If mastery and masculinity are subjects of interest to you, I invite you to explore the videos shared on the Mastery Order Channel to challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood and to become the kind of man you would admire and look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, give your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
Brilliant
Hey Julien great video!I wanted to ask you if we can change watching your free videos you kinda adressed to it on how to take videos and seminars seriously but I am still unsure what to do with that information you give to us take notes and how does this stuff relate to your life and see how you can use it to better it?My biggest takeaway is that true advice is not fun or comfortable I hadn't really realized it
Letting go is the way
Bro how in tf do you know all of this 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭 you just told my every move and thought
10+ years of experience in that subject ofc he knows
nice foto dude
This reminds me of the cheesy but so true lyrics of the song Speed Of Sound by Coldplay: "How long before I get in? Before it starts, before I begin?" "I'll start, before I can stop, or before I see things the right way up"
So interesting..
Glad this was insightful!
What he says at 22:26, it has been getting worse. Mainly with the younger generation. Thanks, Julien!
It’s very dangerous and sad. Teaching kids to enjoy reading will help their life exponentially
Do I have a problem if I would still be distracted even if I had invested in the video or advice?
I need more letting go stuff with clients
Your value is more than a dollar amount. People in my family only gave a certain amount of respect, based on income. Society is like this, and it robs so much of our humanity.
Get in touch with yourself, and figure out who you are. A good life is subjective. It all depends on what you value.
“If more people valued home above gold, this world would be a merrier place.”
J.R.R. Tolkien
Great video!
Hey Julien or Owen, what kind of things should I ask someone to tell about me. Like if you are paying to someone, what would you said to them to tell you, thanks.
If you find people negativly comment about something more than once its probably a hint into what negative behaviour you are emitting or problem you are facing in life that it causing said scenario. My friends would call me a spas or complain im being loud and fight or flight easily. Type these negative comments into google and see what the internet knows. Ive recently found all my problems stem from an Anxiety disorder and am now receiving professional help to target my very specific issues. Google has also given me a list of steps to follow and its nice having a concrete list of things to practice or habbits to avoid. When you start looking at all comments as constructive and learn to dive into them and research a bit, your life will be changing for the better constantly. Hope this helps you ^_^
Also try searching for what scares you most, for me I was scared of talking to my boss or opposite sex. These are also hints for what you need to improve on or what has traumatized you and needs healing.
20:46
Are you the same person you were when you were with RSD
Of course not… I’ve grown and changed a lot the past 8 years! 🔥👊
Here's something that will trigger you Julien: are you gaining some weight bro?!
That being said, this content, and your outfit was 10/10.
What’s wrong with showing gratitude ? It does help get my day going and manifest new thing in my life tbh …
That time window for the "thing to say" comes shorter and shorter with practice! So important to see the blindspots
If mastery and masculinity are subjects of interest to you, I invite you to explore the videos shared on the Mastery Order Channel to challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood and to become the kind of man you would admire and look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, give your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
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Hello Julien, i suffer from anxiety that i wont ever get healthier again... And its killing me inside.. Do you have any advice? I cant get into myself at all
Let me know if you'd like my help with this: application.julienhimself.com 🙏
I suffer from anxiety as well bro! All anxiety disorders are curable, they can be tough but if you want to be better it is possible!!!
I had such bad anxiety for years where I couldn't even leave the house at times... I fixed myself without any medication by anchoring my thoughts to various truths I've learned, like how to harness your fear to work for you instead of against you. It took a lot of practice and failures but you will eventually push through it. It took me years but I think I'm cured now for the most part
Did tai influence you? And if so .. how?
I love his content. What am I unsure about? (trivial and petty I know) Does it take someone longer to intentionally style their hair messy or neat. I'm all about rolling out of bed confident. Do you boo. But when an individual INTENTIONALLY tries to look disheveled (or overly neat) it comes across as un authentic to me personally.
Oddly enough, given the lesson in this video pertaining to easy distraction and not completing videos, I feel like this needs to be longer and was way too quick for me! haha
I have been like the self help industry for some time long all i want to ask is how can i convince my self that you are not doing your business instead of helping me. Just curious
Both... My "business" IS helping people! 🙏
what? elaborate
The more I help people, the more my business grows... They're not mutually exclusive.
@@JulienHimself Not only are they not mutually exclusive, the growth of your business correlates directly to how many people you're able to help! I see now just how important the survey about trust was the other day
Why can’t it be a win win?
Thanks again for the truth bombs Sensei🙏
18:43 reminder for my future self
can you overcome these things with pure mind power?
🙏
Cut people out of your mind. Not your contact list.
Idk the trajectory of arguments would have one thinking that something like an ras is an obstacle, and I think at one point you do claim as much, and maybe even have ppl thinking these processes are completely useless. I'm sure however that if you asked any neuroscientist, they would tell you many evolutionary and psychological benefits to these systems.
This video should have a title “how to easily sell advice online” - all it is is a cleaver marketing.
Here the deal people, you wanna settle down you’ll know when it’s the right one. Don’t change yourself over a chick, she’ll love you for who you are.
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I am this low self esteem person that would see the shirt compliment as making fun of me. But mostly I still know they meant it as a compliment and it's my RAS, yet I can't 'move' to that interpretation and I fall back into the negative quickly. What do I do?
The "movement" happens when you let go. So there is no easy answer to your question, but generally your problem is (and this will happen all your life) you know how to do better but did not emotionally understand. There are many paths to change this.
Mental way: Write a list thing you did in your life. What did you accomplish? What is good on you and what could you improve? You can also ask other people about this - especially if you dont know them. With time your emotional side will join. It is all about breaking old patterns.
Emotional healing way: Take the step further and investigate where the misinterpretation of yourself comes from. This has a lot to do with healing trauma, maybe meditating, feeling your body (not your head), find good coaches and most importantly just SEE, don't JUDGE. Do not judge feelings. If new unconfortable stuff is coming up - just tell yourself "interesting".
Also pay people money to give you advice. What I gave to you lowers my perspective of myself (but I take this as practise, don't worry) and it is unlikely someone else will do it who can actually help you. Because they tend to have the same perspective as you (like Julien said).
And: You can do it. You can heal. :) Good luck!
One girl got mad when I called her “que Mona” (how cute in Spanish) because Mona is also monkey and she was centroamerican and she thought that Spanish people called those from her country monkeys. 🙉 it was impossible to convince her otherwise, she was so insecure
everyone has weakspots
I self sabotaged because of trauma
Something to let go of then…
16:52 hehe lol
Lol 🙈
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Low value comes from being honest with oneself. Only those with serious blondpots and personality issues can think they are awesome when everyone else thinks that’s not really the case.
Damn I watched the vid and missed what the subtle hack was XD
You call that ADHD when he said, you can’t see outside your conform zone.
High self-esteem creates just as bad if not worse blindspots. Narcissism and ego-centrism are running rampant in society.
People with narcissistic personality disorder have terrible self-esteem tho.. contrary to popular belief. True self-esterm doesn't lead people to be toxic. Narcissists are some of the most toxic people out there
@@HansenFT different types of narcissism. Self-esteem to not be confused with self-worth. Self-esteem is one’s perceived estimate of one’s value in relation to others (egoism) and self-worth is more of a inner-knowing of one’s inherent worth and essence. One often compensates for low self-worth with high self-esteem behaviors which only serves to mask the issue.
Self-esteem as is meant here is NOT narcissism or fake confidence meant to mask insecurities. It is true self-worth!
@@oliverunleashed9515 one must ask himself: who is doing the evaluation of my self? This is why positive affirmations fail so often: is it trying to insert a narrative, implying another one exists. Letting go of the need for high esteem will ultimately leave you with desiring less and noticing what is already here: your authentic, true self. This self is buried beneath stories, biases, attachments, desire. In short, the one desiring high self esteem confirms the core belief that one is not worthy. It’s like trying to trim a weed without plucking out the root.
@@mord0 Self-esteem is confidence in ones own worth or abilities. If you are forcing behaviours and overcompensating, this is low self-esteem behaviour because you don't have much confidence in your own worth or abilities and therefore feel the need to make up for it. Narcissism is someone who doesn't actually love themselves or feel confident and so they try to manipulatively make up for it by forcing themselves to be a certain way e.g. overly loud, overly controlling, overly dominant (domineering), etc.
Why does he try so hard to like he just rolled out of bed? What's up with that?
Sorry, Julien. I don't buy your arguments. But I'm curious because of the awesome!
I bealive
Iam sleeping
I bealive Fuck
How are these videos free? I won't even need to buy seminars until I'm done watching your videos. Honestly each one of your videos is worth more then 1.000$ individually
You obviously haven't been in cooperate America.
Wdym
I love disruption! There’s things I no longer tolerate or resonate with. Bye bye ✌️
This guy is someone who Andrew Tate should take notes of lmfao
I love the content but why are you not taking care of yourself physically? It's pretty hard to tell somebody to do something and push to become the best version of themselves if you don't embody this... Just my personal input, not trying to hate, trying to understand.
What if he’s using the gym time to work on some other aspect of his life
Been prioritizing family and business the past couple years... And I'm going to be prioritizing health next. If you spread yourself too thin and try to do everything perfectly at once = you fail 👉 "Spinning plates theory" 😉
Julian also doesn’t need fitness to bang countless women.. lol 😂
Dude looks Thic and healthy! Leave him be
I understand saying this to an obese person but Julien looks just fine no homo. Your RAS out of whack bro
Imagine someone more successful came in my body. Would they do better? Find my blindspots.
Imagine i invested 10 000 lv for each You Tube video i watch! Less content and more depth to that content!
He thinks hes high value 😂
I get some insincere narcissistic vibes from that dude.
hey julien's robot say you love me
I like this comment - ruclips.net/video/qUC-MKvnohA/видео.html the idea to surround yourself with more honest people over time is a great idea