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The nuanced explanations that you've developed elaborate perfectly on the concepts that spiritual teachers have been trying to get across for centuries. What an amazing time to be alive. This is only the beginning.
One of the reasons, probably the main one, I started following Julian's advice is his look and the way you can notice he can't give a fuck about what he wears and what he looks like. No appearance, and that's strong for me. Thank you Julien, I learned a lot from you
True. I always want to wear clothes that I personally think makes me look good and stylish but don't do it because other people will think they're not good
I am in my early 40's and I always have this feeling that everyone else has life under control and knows more than me & is more successful. As if I feel like I mentally am still a kid at heart and learning. Been watching your videos a lot lately and they are helping me feel more like "I got this, nobody is better than me. I'm just doing the self sabotage thing". Keep it up. Love the vids and encouragement. Its helped me change my negative thoughts to more positive thoughts. I feel less anxiety and depression lately. Changing my mindset and its helping. A+
Great comment. I'm your age and have arrived at this clear belief, which is capital T true for me, that 99% of people's paradigms for long term relationships and marriage are absolutely INSANE. Nothing but appreciation for the red pill podcasts that deal with the darker side of things (check out Owens brief appearance of FnF). However since rediscovering Julien and Owens content recently, like you I feel encouraged and enthusiastic - and can already see results, which are getting better every day. I still request a full 2-3 hour podcast with Owen Julien Myron & Rollo - that would be next level game changing stuff!
"I am in my early 40's and I always have this feeling that everyone else has life under control and knows more than me & is more successful. As if I feel like I mentally am still a kid at heart and learning. " Felt like that since I was 17. late thirties here. Felt like my mindset really hasn't changed in this regard since 17. insecure. low self-esteem. shy away from large crowds of eyes. always trying to look cool. THe best thing I"ve heard from Julian is: stop trying to be cool, relax and tell yourself "it's ok", when things seem to be going wrong.
I started practicing letting go and social skills one month ago like 10-15 hours in a week. And I already see HUUUUGE difference and I also feel way much better all the time. And I'm just getting more and more exicited about it. THANK YOU JULIEN!!!
In a world full of fake gurus with shit advices that only confuse people even more, you Julien are the mvp. Your teachings make sense and are practical. Much love to you
This makes sense because instead of being one of the masses and following suit you are simply being yourself which means you will draw attention as you would no longer be pretending and wearing the mask to avoid judgement. I think I really needed this today of all days. 😊
I'm charasmatic and cop a lot of flak for it. I'm not confident with conflict as I never want to hurt anyone or act aggressive, but I'm learning that it's neccessary. This is one of my biggest challenges as someone who grew up with violence and not only hasn't had a role model for conflict and what is acceptable etc, and doesn't want to repeat the cycle of anger. I feel instant shame if I'm ever outwardly angry, but keeping it all in is impossible forever and ultimatley not fair on me or anyone else
I like to tell people that I am nervous if I am nervous, just to get it out of the way. It makes me feel like I am owning it, and it kind of breaks the ice with the other person, and then I calm down.
@@perrycoffey5410 I don't like it when people tell me to calm down either. It helps me feel better though when I tell people that I am nervous, if I am actually nervous. I actually tend to get along with males more than females in general. I don't know if it's because of my autism. I HAVE had females in the workplace that I got along with, but the ones that I get along with tend to be tomboys. Even though there are females out there who are straightforward with what they are thinking, I find that guys are generally more straightforward and tend not pretend that everything is okay (with passive-aggressiveness). I like it when somebody just tells me that they have a problem with me, we solve the problem, and then it's done. Otherwise I find it to be emotionally draining.
I know what you mean. Saying you have anxiety right of the bat helps. But we don’t wanna do that, we want to eventually just not have to do that and be free.
It is cool to see this more aggressive teaching style, I especially like the booming voice. Really Julien is becoming a great public speaker. All these concepts are so important, got to let it soak in my brain.
the thing i love about this video is that it’s made me realize something. when i first saw ur channel i did go like holy that guy looks weird and idk if i’ll like him and i did watch some videos and i was like idk about this guy he seems like a bit too much for me haha but i think that was my comfort zone not liking the real stuff. but for some reason i’ve stuck with watching u and now ur one of the best people to watch for me. i don’t really go on youtube for any other self help stuff now because it all seems mostly like a lie. but of course some of it could be good but thank u julien, ur content is amazing and i love the realness and authenticity that we get from u!
i worked in a pharmacy for over 10 years. busy retail pharmacy with sometimes 20 customers in line. i had to yell out stuff, in front of all of them "WHO IS HERE FOR VACCINES STEP OVER HERE?" forcing myself to do it it. I hated it. Even when it's something neutral and you're following protocol and no one will really judge you for saying something loud like that I still hated it. Doing something improvised in front of a crowd of strangers is even harder. I wouldn't have as much trouble doing things in front of this crowd because they are all there for the same reason. The hard part is doing it in real life in front of people you dont' know what you share in common with or who they are or if they might hurt you emotionally or physically.
hey julian, could you do more vids about humour and how to be funnier overall in a conversation? I've been practicing for the past week but I feel like there isn't enough content out there with real-life examples.
Oh my god Julian, I literally have always said that to myself. “Judging myself though others eyes.” It was suppose to be a song. I think I’ll write it. This was really really helpful. Especially the last half. I need to take notes.
8:40 I'm glad that guy in the crowd asked that question. It seems a lot of this advice can be put into a certain context and come out as the wrong thing to do. Audience member asked great question. Be authentic, be real, don't care what other people think... but at the same time you also do have to care. Don't make it priority #1.
W🤩W! AMAZING VIDEO!!! The advice that Julien gives is by far the best I have heard in the realm of personal development and improving your social skills! I have never seen anyone like him. He is by far the best! The content really resonates with me well and is extremely helpful! Every time I watch a video, I end up taking notes just because the information he gives is so valuable.
I want to be a hermit and have literally no one pay attention to me. That's the trauma that comes with being neurodivergent, hyperlexic, and highly sensitive...you are born too eccentric and you can't turn it off. I have literally spent my entire life wanting other people to not notice and I have completely failed at ever not coming across as eccentric. There is nothing more hellish in this world than to want to be able to conform and not physically be able to do so. Literally everything I say is off of the social script, inappropriate, too deep, etc.
You're not alone in that Bill. I can't do small talk either and when I meet somebody, I am bored by their banalities. The fact that we are both watching this video means that we are not always content with our trauma and isolation. I am sure that there are many people like us out there. As strongly social creatures it is good for our emotional health to know that we are not alone, i hope that you reach out and make bonds with people who are as sensitive and feeling as you. Take care.
Just found this at just the right time and have been bingeing for days. Everything makes sense, but how do we make this mindset stick and not get blown off course? My negative programming just feels so ingrained
It is and it is a big chunk of old conditioning. Start letting go. Make it to a regular practice and all will come on its own. You can only change your behavior after resolving those trapped energies(emotions) behind the reactions
I interpret it like this (and it helps me against panic attacks and OCD): - stop thinking - become fully aware of how your body feels, especially all the bad feelings (muscle tension, stomach ache, adrenalin, whatever) - explore, feel it fully (no thinking) - and then relax into it It helps immensely
@@yuvrajoberoi7834 hey sry for no reply, i got no notifications here. Guy above me explained it pretty well. Letting go is feeling. For example you start feeling more and more, i mean putting your focus on your sensations in your body. After a while you will connect again if you are completely disconnected. You will feel an underlying feeling wich doninates your life. It can be an unpleasence or just a feeling you are trying to supress for a long time. Usually it’s enough to just take some time without music or any stimulation and just feel how you truly feel inside. Then when you finde the sensation for example fear. You start to feel the fear instead of pushing it away. Your basic inner activity ist unconsciously pushing against unpleasant feelings. Its what everyone does. But now you change this part. Instead of fighting it you feel it. You might have a blockage to do that. If you cant feel you just ask yourself why cant i feel that. And there will come another feeling you gotta feel first through. When you got access to the feeling, doesn’t matter what kind. You just start to consciously feeling it. You might have to lower your resistance about it again and again. You do this through relaxing your inner body. Name it what you want you can name it emotional body. Then you will locate the feeling. For fear it is solar plexus. You feel the feeling and can try to find its source. You just follow the sensation. Usually its located in a spot and then it can fill your whole body. You feel it and dont judge it. You let it flow. You feel how this energy, you will judge it unpleasant or maybe even horrible energy, will get easier and more pleasant. At one moment it will feel acceptable. At this point you can fully put down the resistance and let it completely flow. Then usually you will feel the energy go up stream to your head. You pass the energy and release any resistance you have about it. And it will go through pressure to your head. This all needs time. Every supressed emotion needs time to pass. Sometimes its a really hard one i need 1-2 weeks for that feeling to pass.(f.e. If its traumatic) and then you will feel the pressure on your head/third eye. You feel the pressure and let it flow. Then if its fully completed you will feel how it is to be free of that. Ususally a very plesant and rewarding feeling. And then you move on with the next one if you like. Thats how it is for me :) good luck
when they dont get louder make them turn around from the crowd, they‘ll be much louder and then tell them to do the same facial expression infront of the crowd. Everyone is just scared to be seen authentic.
the fucked up thing is that literally just having self respect, manners, old fashioned polite social skills, kindness and actually beauty instead of sexiness makes u a FREAK AND HATED BY ALL... i feel these qualities make me charismatic , yet i feel they used to just make u human
This makes sense now why everyone looks at my partner when we go out. He doesn't follow suit never has. He marches to the beat of his own drum which is why he gets approached so much when we are out. Wow that made a crazy sense right then. 😊 and yes a lot of people also dont like him . The different expressions is so funny. Some are like who does the giy think he is. Others are like oh ok he's confident....
@@JulienHimself the way you told those young guys that where next to you, up stage telling them to yell! And it makes total sense it's almost freeing your whole self, by just yelling
Bruh look at all those Gigachads being shy and shi, those who stood up like huh, one looks like a fucking chad tribe warrior the other looks like Matthew Mcconaughey, even the audience. Those brothers should've been owning life at this point, but anyway props to them for being life long students. Just shows that looks are not everything.
Hey julien, i am incredibly spiritual(in a 12 steps program). i'd love to get a course or something that guides me in dating in a healthy dropping paradigm instead of optimizing(I love your transformation course). anywhere I could find/buy that?
It's like sex. If you only do the things your partner likes, it's a turn off. If you only do the things you like it's a turn off. Key is to find that balance of i genuinely like this and if she does ill keep doing it. Now ill do some of the things only i like for a change and not care if she likes it and then do the things only she likes because i can.
When people don't resonate w you, or "worse" judge you negatively - apply your idea of "embrace exaggerate laugh". E.G. Jeff's old "Im going home, pour a glass of🍷, light a candle, listen to Lionel Richie & cry alone in the dark" LOLOL
@@JulienHimself some so well explained concepts also remind on principle in martial arts.. keep the center of body and don't react to danger, lower your body weight.. you are definitely black belt in harisma , keep going ;)
Motion creates emotion notice how the louder ones are the ones who put there whole body into it the guy thats not loud he's kinda just still an stiff you gotta get into it frfr
Hey, Julien. I know me and you don't know each other at all but I really would like to be best friends with you, and I want our friendship to seem like we were biological brothers and like we're like life-long buddies/ pals for many, many years, and can you also be my coach and be like a big brother figure to me too? And how do I get tickets to and for your show?
@@JulienHimself Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I agree with that. I just feel that when in the moment, applying advanced concepts like not trying to get anyone's validation isn't something that just comes out of me, in fact it would take for me to kind of be in my head to even remember "Oh I learned this from julian let me reply a certain way". What action specifically would it take for this to just become second nature?
@@cynx6245 maybe try the rock in your shoe thing. Like, you wear or bring around something all day that represents some thing Julian or any other coach online said, and make it something you cant forget about. But if theres so many concepts, I just narrow it down to teacher=pebble instead I usually dont have trouble remembering a specific teacher or coach or therapist, as a person, even if the theories might get jumbled cuz I watch so many things. But if Im going around trying to remember that teacher, like they're sitting on my shoulder telling me what to do? Even if i dont remember every concept, Ill remember to think about my thinking and pretend Im working it out with that person, and through that fake conversation I remembers certain techniques that might apply to the situation. If I didnt already have a good imagination of them following me around, I would probably try (and idk if this is too weird) putting a sticker on my shoulder with my therapists name on it. 😂 like, maybe I cant see it, but others can, and thats enough to remember that its there. And that sticker is stalking me making sure I remember my BMods lol. And i would just tell people that cuz everyone is doing therapy anyway so its not that weird. 🤷 I guess I'm just re-inventing the What Would Jesus Do? Ring concept but if you wear it all the time youd probably forget its there so I would make it kinda weird and stand outy and switch it up often. Then of course you end up saying "my therapist said..." like a lot, to random people and they will probably be annoyed. I dont care. If im saying it "too much" then Im doing a good job remembering the important stuff for me. Soon itll stop being "my therapist said" and turn into "I said"
How to get respected,stop teens and other people stop mocking you as 21 guy Julien? And not be such a pleaser,i wanted so success to be somebody not being ghost all the frickin time in my world...
All of this is very dependent on how physically attractive you are. Ugly+charisma = still ugly and still treated like shit. Hot+charisma = love from others
None of the people in the room know how to dress. Julien, you might have some knowledge but your apparel doesn't compliment you, and that might be off putting. Why are you always covering yourself? Work out if you don't like man boobs. What's that black curtain-looking shirt? Lumbjer jack shirt on top of it isn't great either, you could at least button up to look slimmer as well as more of an authority. Never go stripes, go solid. - This comment isn't meant to be disrespectful at all, by the way. I do stuff, I'm known - this is a smurf account. Good luck with everything.
Bro... this guy... he is literally giving the worst advice you can possibly get haha. So if someone is perhaps a "people pleaser" (whatever that TRULY means) and they are liked by everyone and have no enemies they are apparently bland and lack charisma? Lol like did I miss something here? Am I hearing him correctly?? 😂😂 Also like wtf... caring for people is a good thing and not hell. Like I care for my coworkers and other people doesnt mean that theyre my "value". This guy is such a "manoshpere-alphamale-sigmagrindset" bro its like cringe. haha
Also @12:27 After he gave us a whole reason to manipulate people for OUR intentions not theirs we're to gather stories... Lol Of course so we can talk about OURSELVES and not them so we can mask our insecurities!! He is literally narcissism 😂😂
@@Brosephuswhen something triggers you this far, that you write a comment about it this long. You should think about it, why it does trigger you so hard. Those things are the biggest insights. Your enemy will tell you the truth you needs because he wants to hurt you. Theres something to learn in that!
i think if ur disconnected from real beautiful food culture, how can u be real about anything else... we are what we eat ! without connecting to our food.... we obsess over connecting with each other thru a forced way. i notice in europe, i stop giving a damn about connecting with people cuz the food is soo good and satisfying...everything becomes natural and easy...not something i have to research and figure out...people are natural and easy, not something i have to get a degree in ! l.fao
I have Charisma, I am a Charismatic. In fact, I have the Kerygma. “Jesus the anthem of my heart, Jesus the anchor of my soul, I’m overwhelmed by all you are, oh how I love you.” I have my Charism. 🫵🏻
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Wow, that is really interesting!
That step from being a fly on the wall to standing out is a challenging one, survive it, the perks on the other side are insane -Owen
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Yo it’s so cool that both of you still are connected decade + years RSD 4 Life 🤘🏾
Go barefoot in city
The Warrior who can withstand the pressure of a whole tribe is often times more present and grounded than the monk who meditates all day. Great video!
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The nuanced explanations that you've developed elaborate perfectly on the concepts that spiritual teachers have been trying to get across for centuries. What an amazing time to be alive. This is only the beginning.
Yes! Glad this resonates! 🔥👊
Learn to be comfortable with people judging you and dealing with social pressure. Wish more people let this land. Amazing video !!! 🔥🔥🔥
Yes! Thanks!
One of the reasons, probably the main one, I started following Julian's advice is his look and the way you can notice he can't give a fuck about what he wears and what he looks like. No appearance, and that's strong for me. Thank you Julien, I learned a lot from you
True. I always want to wear clothes that I personally think makes me look good and stylish but don't do it because other people will think they're not good
I am in my early 40's and I always have this feeling that everyone else has life under control and knows more than me & is more successful. As if I feel like I mentally am still a kid at heart and learning. Been watching your videos a lot lately and they are helping me feel more like "I got this, nobody is better than me. I'm just doing the self sabotage thing". Keep it up. Love the vids and encouragement. Its helped me change my negative thoughts to more positive thoughts. I feel less anxiety and depression lately. Changing my mindset and its helping. A+
Great comment. I'm your age and have arrived at this clear belief, which is capital T true for me, that 99% of people's paradigms for long term relationships and marriage are absolutely INSANE. Nothing but appreciation for the red pill podcasts that deal with the darker side of things (check out Owens brief appearance of FnF). However since rediscovering Julien and Owens content recently, like you I feel encouraged and enthusiastic - and can already see results, which are getting better every day.
I still request a full 2-3 hour podcast with Owen Julien Myron & Rollo - that would be next level game changing stuff!
That's great man! Thanks for sharing.
"I am in my early 40's and I always have this feeling that everyone else has life under control and knows more than me & is more successful. As if I feel like I mentally am still a kid at heart and learning. "
Felt like that since I was 17. late thirties here. Felt like my mindset really hasn't changed in this regard since 17. insecure. low self-esteem. shy away from large crowds of eyes. always trying to look cool. THe best thing I"ve heard from Julian is: stop trying to be cool, relax and tell yourself "it's ok", when things seem to be going wrong.
Bro you’re the real deal, you actually demonstrate it first hand and ARE the example!!! I totally believe your teachings!!!
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I started practicing letting go and social skills one month ago like 10-15 hours in a week. And I already see HUUUUGE difference and I also feel way much better all the time. And I'm just getting more and more exicited about it. THANK YOU JULIEN!!!
Letting go is the best
Amazing to hear! You're very welcome!!
That's great!
10-15 hours ?! What do you do concretely? 😅
How do you practice letting go? Like someone judges you and you just don’t care?
In a world full of fake gurus with shit advices that only confuse people even more, you Julien are the mvp. Your teachings make sense and are practical. Much love to you
Glad my content resonates! 🔥👊
This makes sense because instead of being one of the masses and following suit you are simply being yourself which means you will draw attention as you would no longer be pretending and wearing the mask to avoid judgement. I think I really needed this today of all days. 😊
I'm charasmatic and cop a lot of flak for it. I'm not confident with conflict as I never want to hurt anyone or act aggressive, but I'm learning that it's neccessary. This is one of my biggest challenges as someone who grew up with violence and not only hasn't had a role model for conflict and what is acceptable etc, and doesn't want to repeat the cycle of anger. I feel instant shame if I'm ever outwardly angry, but keeping it all in is impossible forever and ultimatley not fair on me or anyone else
I like to tell people that I am nervous if I am nervous, just to get it out of the way. It makes me feel like I am owning it, and it kind of breaks the ice with the other person, and then I calm down.
Hate that stupid calm down saying well your a female males it's way different
@@perrycoffey5410 I don't like it when people tell me to calm down either. It helps me feel better though when I tell people that I am nervous, if I am actually nervous. I actually tend to get along with males more than females in general. I don't know if it's because of my autism. I HAVE had females in the workplace that I got along with, but the ones that I get along with tend to be tomboys. Even though there are females out there who are straightforward with what they are thinking, I find that guys are generally more straightforward and tend not pretend that everything is okay (with passive-aggressiveness). I like it when somebody just tells me that they have a problem with me, we solve the problem, and then it's done. Otherwise I find it to be emotionally draining.
I know what you mean. Saying you have anxiety right of the bat helps. But we don’t wanna do that, we want to eventually just not have to do that and be free.
It is cool to see this more aggressive teaching style, I especially like the booming voice. Really Julien is becoming a great public speaker. All these concepts are so important, got to let it soak in my brain.
Thanks! Glad this resonates with you!
Yes. Be grounded! That's the key. Focus on yourself and all the stares and judgments will bounce because you will simply won't give a single fvck.
Boom 🔥👊
the thing i love about this video is that it’s made me realize something. when i first saw ur channel i did go like holy that guy looks weird and idk if i’ll like him and i did watch some videos and i was like idk about this guy he seems like a bit too much for me haha but i think that was my comfort zone not liking the real stuff. but for some reason i’ve stuck with watching u and now ur one of the best people to watch for me. i don’t really go on youtube for any other self help stuff now because it all seems mostly like a lie. but of course some of it could be good but thank u julien, ur content is amazing and i love the realness and authenticity that we get from u!
Thanks for giving my content a chance! Glad it's been valuable for you! 🙏
i worked in a pharmacy for over 10 years. busy retail pharmacy with sometimes 20 customers in line. i had to yell out stuff, in front of all of them "WHO IS HERE FOR VACCINES STEP OVER HERE?" forcing myself to do it it. I hated it. Even when it's something neutral and you're following protocol and no one will really judge you for saying something loud like that I still hated it. Doing something improvised in front of a crowd of strangers is even harder.
I wouldn't have as much trouble doing things in front of this crowd because they are all there for the same reason. The hard part is doing it in real life in front of people you dont' know what you share in common with or who they are or if they might hurt you emotionally or physically.
hey julian, could you do more vids about humour and how to be funnier overall in a conversation? I've been practicing for the past week but I feel like there isn't enough content out there with real-life examples.
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I want to believe that you’re probably German, but the name is misleading….
Well played
Oh my god Julian, I literally have always said that to myself. “Judging myself though others eyes.” It was suppose to be a song. I think I’ll write it. This was really really helpful. Especially the last half. I need to take notes.
8:40 I'm glad that guy in the crowd asked that question. It seems a lot of this advice can be put into a certain context and come out as the wrong thing to do. Audience member asked great question. Be authentic, be real, don't care what other people think... but at the same time you also do have to care. Don't make it priority #1.
This guy is amazing! So much wisdom
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Bro my biggest takeaway out of all of these is - FOCUS ON THE SKILL. Not on other people.
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Honor your feelings, despite the external!
Always! 👌
W🤩W! AMAZING VIDEO!!! The advice that Julien gives is by far the best I have heard in the realm of personal development and improving your social skills! I have never seen anyone like him. He is by far the best! The content really resonates with me well and is extremely helpful! Every time I watch a video, I end up taking notes just because the information he gives is so valuable.
Thank you so much! Glad my content is helpful! 🙏
Agreed
Good camera work!
Would've enjoyed more elaboration on how to be/remain grounded in those specific situations.
This video was amazing! thank you so much!
This guy is smart asf
I want to be a hermit and have literally no one pay attention to me. That's the trauma that comes with being neurodivergent, hyperlexic, and highly sensitive...you are born too eccentric and you can't turn it off. I have literally spent my entire life wanting other people to not notice and I have completely failed at ever not coming across as eccentric. There is nothing more hellish in this world than to want to be able to conform and not physically be able to do so. Literally everything I say is off of the social script, inappropriate, too deep, etc.
You're not alone in that Bill. I can't do small talk either and when I meet somebody, I am bored by their banalities.
The fact that we are both watching this video means that we are not always content with our trauma and isolation.
I am sure that there are many people like us out there. As strongly social creatures it is good for our emotional health to know that we are not alone, i hope that you reach out and make bonds with people who are as sensitive and feeling as you.
Take care.
Just found this at just the right time and have been bingeing for days. Everything makes sense, but how do we make this mindset stick and not get blown off course? My negative programming just feels so ingrained
It is and it is a big chunk of old conditioning. Start letting go. Make it to a regular practice and all will come on its own. You can only change your behavior after resolving those trapped energies(emotions) behind the reactions
@@Gragon777can you please explain what Julien or you mean by let go? Like should I just don’t care of people judging me?
I interpret it like this (and it helps me against panic attacks and OCD):
- stop thinking
- become fully aware of how your body feels, especially all the bad feelings (muscle tension, stomach ache, adrenalin, whatever)
- explore, feel it fully (no thinking)
- and then relax into it
It helps immensely
@@celticshe-wolf5936 thanks I’ll try. Really need it this morning
@@yuvrajoberoi7834 hey sry for no reply, i got no notifications here. Guy above me explained it pretty well.
Letting go is feeling. For example you start feeling more and more, i mean putting your focus on your sensations in your body. After a while you will connect again if you are completely disconnected. You will feel an underlying feeling wich doninates your life. It can be an unpleasence or just a feeling you are trying to supress for a long time. Usually it’s enough to just take some time without music or any stimulation and just feel how you truly feel inside. Then when you finde the sensation for example fear. You start to feel the fear instead of pushing it away. Your basic inner activity ist unconsciously pushing against unpleasant feelings. Its what everyone does. But now you change this part. Instead of fighting it you feel it. You might have a blockage to do that. If you cant feel you just ask yourself why cant i feel that. And there will come another feeling you gotta feel first through. When you got access to the feeling, doesn’t matter what kind. You just start to consciously feeling it. You might have to lower your resistance about it again and again. You do this through relaxing your inner body. Name it what you want you can name it emotional body. Then you will locate the feeling. For fear it is solar plexus. You feel the feeling and can try to find its source. You just follow the sensation. Usually its located in a spot and then it can fill your whole body. You feel it and dont judge it. You let it flow. You feel how this energy, you will judge it unpleasant or maybe even horrible energy, will get easier and more pleasant. At one moment it will feel acceptable. At this point you can fully put down the resistance and let it completely flow. Then usually you will feel the energy go up stream to your head. You pass the energy and release any resistance you have about it. And it will go through pressure to your head. This all needs time. Every supressed emotion needs time to pass. Sometimes its a really hard one i need 1-2 weeks for that feeling to pass.(f.e. If its traumatic) and then you will feel the pressure on your head/third eye. You feel the pressure and let it flow. Then if its fully completed you will feel how it is to be free of that. Ususally a very plesant and rewarding feeling. And then you move on with the next one if you like. Thats how it is for me :) good luck
you're a sweetheart, Julien
Brilliant. Awesome for sharing
when they dont get louder make them turn around from the crowd, they‘ll be much louder and then tell them to do the same facial expression infront of the crowd. Everyone is just scared to be seen authentic.
Relatable and informative af.
the fucked up thing is that literally just having self respect, manners, old fashioned polite social skills, kindness and actually beauty instead of sexiness makes u a FREAK AND HATED BY ALL... i feel these qualities make me charismatic , yet i feel they used to just make u human
This makes sense now why everyone looks at my partner when we go out. He doesn't follow suit never has. He marches to the beat of his own drum which is why he gets approached so much when we are out. Wow that made a crazy sense right then. 😊 and yes a lot of people also dont like him . The different expressions is so funny. Some are like who does the giy think he is. Others are like oh ok he's confident....
Julian it's a freaking Genius!
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@@JulienHimself the way you told those young guys that where next to you, up stage telling them to yell! And it makes total sense it's almost freeing your whole self, by just yelling
Hi Julien, what are the main books that have taught you the most and lead you to these great conclusions?
Lol, books… This comes from life experience. Check out high vibe communication if you want to go deeper: becomehighvibe.com 😉
Those are great, but they don't cover social skills... I personally haven't found any good books on that topic.
The basics of emotional intelligence. Awareness
Bruh look at all those Gigachads being shy and shi, those who stood up like huh, one looks like a fucking chad tribe warrior the other looks like Matthew Mcconaughey, even the audience. Those brothers should've been owning life at this point, but anyway props to them for being life long students. Just shows that looks are not everything.
wowwwww.... this is so accurate...
AMAZING CONTENT!!!!!
Glad this was helpful!
Imagine what people walking past the door think about😂😂
This is factssss
This is fun!
This the best video bro i been tryna find the answers to my shit bro and this really helped me I finally get it now bro😭
I can tell you what confident people *don't* do: listen to people tell them how to be confident
just being polite and charming and non exclusive and non selective and charismatic will get u ACTIVELY BULLIED.... NEVER GO ALONE TO ANY SOCIAL EVENTS
Never go alone? Why?
Hey julien, i am incredibly spiritual(in a 12 steps program). i'd love to get a course or something that guides me in dating in a healthy dropping paradigm instead of optimizing(I love your transformation course). anywhere I could find/buy that?
This covers everything that I know when it comes to letting go + step-by-step social skills: becomehighvibe.com - Enjoy! 🔥👊
Only a goat know the goat! 🐐
"calibrate by choice, not out of reaction"
6:07 eye opening
Yeah that part was very insightful
KET POINT right there, yes!
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Thank you man
You’re very welcome!
It's like sex. If you only do the things your partner likes, it's a turn off. If you only do the things you like it's a turn off. Key is to find that balance of i genuinely like this and if she does ill keep doing it. Now ill do some of the things only i like for a change and not care if she likes it and then do the things only she likes because i can.
Great. I'll think about it.
Always on point
You know it! 👊
i love the first guy who tried yelling brave dude still funny tho
Love this reminds me of old Julien
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Glad to hear it! 🙌
When people don't resonate w you, or "worse" judge you negatively - apply your idea of "embrace exaggerate laugh". E.G. Jeff's old "Im going home, pour a glass of🍷, light a candle, listen to Lionel Richie & cry alone in the dark" LOLOL
"The tall poppy gets cut"
“Snitches get stitches.”
There you are bro, I referenced you in my comment - how this video resonated with me brought to mind an old saying of yours, made me genuinely LOL!
Yes !
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@@JulienHimself some so well explained concepts also remind on principle in martial arts.. keep the center of body and don't react to danger, lower your body weight.. you are definitely black belt in harisma , keep going ;)
I love all the cameras in all the shots 😜 fun stuff tho!!
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This is what most spiritual teachers be talking about just to let go and stop caring
Not everyone gunna like you, everyone has different eyes for a reason, it’s to see the world differently.
Yes, exactly! Trying to make everyone like you is going AGAINST nature!
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Thank you! And welcome to the channel!
"Hell is other people" Jean Paul Satré
So stop living inside their hell
Motion creates emotion notice how the louder ones are the ones who put there whole body into it the guy thats not loud he's kinda just still an stiff you gotta get into it frfr
How do you do the opposite of charismatic?
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woww i feel that permssion bias/complex' ahah always slaved to the external!! cLOSE FAMILY Wedding coming up and i need to be CONFIDENT
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Hey, Julien. I know me and you don't know each other at all but I really would like to be best friends with you, and I want our friendship to seem like we were biological brothers and like we're like life-long buddies/ pals for many, many years, and can you also be my coach and be like a big brother figure to me too? And how do I get tickets to and for your show?
What is the relation between learning a lot of information and actually applying or making it your reality?
Learning without applying/taking action = “productive entertainment” 😉
@@JulienHimself Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I agree with that. I just feel that when in the moment, applying advanced concepts like not trying to get anyone's validation isn't something that just comes out of me, in fact it would take for me to kind of be in my head to even remember "Oh I learned this from julian let me reply a certain way". What action specifically would it take for this to just become second nature?
Yeah, like Julien just said... it's just entertainment than not using it in real time.
@@cynx6245 maybe try the rock in your shoe thing. Like, you wear or bring around something all day that represents some thing Julian or any other coach online said, and make it something you cant forget about.
But if theres so many concepts, I just narrow it down to teacher=pebble instead
I usually dont have trouble remembering a specific teacher or coach or therapist, as a person, even if the theories might get jumbled cuz I watch so many things. But if Im going around trying to remember that teacher, like they're sitting on my shoulder telling me what to do? Even if i dont remember every concept, Ill remember to think about my thinking and pretend Im working it out with that person, and through that fake conversation I remembers certain techniques that might apply to the situation.
If I didnt already have a good imagination of them following me around, I would probably try (and idk if this is too weird) putting a sticker on my shoulder with my therapists name on it. 😂 like, maybe I cant see it, but others can, and thats enough to remember that its there. And that sticker is stalking me making sure I remember my BMods lol. And i would just tell people that cuz everyone is doing therapy anyway so its not that weird. 🤷
I guess I'm just re-inventing the What Would Jesus Do? Ring concept but if you wear it all the time youd probably forget its there so I would make it kinda weird and stand outy and switch it up often.
Then of course you end up saying "my therapist said..." like a lot, to random people and they will probably be annoyed. I dont care. If im saying it "too much" then Im doing a good job remembering the important stuff for me. Soon itll stop being "my therapist said" and turn into "I said"
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Why do you have to want to be charismatic?
Dude on the left looks like polo g, an artist...wdf😂😂😂
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How to get respected,stop teens and other people stop mocking you as 21 guy Julien? And not be such a pleaser,i wanted so success to be somebody not being ghost all the frickin time in my world...
They should have gonne real loud and long at first, why not
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Maybe living a more interesting life!
Any Londoners here? Looking for friends.
He look like carti
All of this is very dependent on how physically attractive you are. Ugly+charisma = still ugly and still treated like shit. Hot+charisma = love from others
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None of the people in the room know how to dress. Julien, you might have some knowledge but your apparel doesn't compliment you, and that might be off putting. Why are you always covering yourself? Work out if you don't like man boobs. What's that black curtain-looking shirt? Lumbjer jack shirt on top of it isn't great either, you could at least button up to look slimmer as well as more of an authority. Never go stripes, go solid. - This comment isn't meant to be disrespectful at all, by the way. I do stuff, I'm known - this is a smurf account. Good luck with everything.
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Bro... this guy... he is literally giving the worst advice you can possibly get haha. So if someone is perhaps a "people pleaser" (whatever that TRULY means) and they are liked by everyone and have no enemies they are apparently bland and lack charisma? Lol like did I miss something here? Am I hearing him correctly?? 😂😂 Also like wtf... caring for people is a good thing and not hell. Like I care for my coworkers and other people doesnt mean that theyre my "value". This guy is such a "manoshpere-alphamale-sigmagrindset" bro its like cringe. haha
Also @12:27 After he gave us a whole reason to manipulate people for OUR intentions not theirs we're to gather stories... Lol Of course so we can talk about OURSELVES and not them so we can mask our insecurities!! He is literally narcissism 😂😂
@@Brosephuswhen something triggers you this far, that you write a comment about it this long. You should think about it, why it does trigger you so hard. Those things are the biggest insights. Your enemy will tell you the truth you needs because he wants to hurt you. Theres something to learn in that!
LOL dude your response is perfect!! 😂😂@@Gragon777
i think if ur disconnected from real beautiful food culture, how can u be real about anything else...
we are what we eat ! without connecting to our food.... we obsess over connecting with each other thru a forced way. i notice in europe, i stop giving a damn about connecting with people cuz the food is soo good and satisfying...everything becomes natural and easy...not something i have to research and figure out...people are natural and easy, not something i have to get a degree in ! l.fao
I've been in the army and that's soldier training 101 🦾
I have Charisma, I am a Charismatic. In fact, I have the Kerygma.
“Jesus the anthem of my heart, Jesus the anchor of my soul, I’m overwhelmed by all you are, oh how I love you.”
I have my Charism. 🫵🏻