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- This is my biggest regret as a mother. My oldest is 8 years old and I find myself constantly feeling guilty so I'm trying to make up for lost time now but, let's be honest, I can't ever get that back.
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This is my biggest regret as a mother. My oldest is 8 years old and I find myself constantly feeling guilty so I'm trying to make up for lost time now but, let's be honest, I can't ever get that back.
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I held my son and NEVER let him cry and everyone says he is the BEST behaved little one and EXTREMELY independent. At 2 years old, he dressed himself, potty trained, put his own shoes and socks on, brushes his own teeth, washes his own hands, wipes his face and hands during eating, doesn’t stain his clothes or ruin his shoes. He’s the cleanest, easiest going kid because he doesn’t seek attention and loves to learn!
Gurl! I completely agree! There are studies showing babies being held/carried often learn faster and have better eyesight.
That's how my 3rd baby is. Her head start program keeps saying she's "gifted" and I swear it's because I baby wore.
Me too I never got to carry my children enough but I now promise myself the next baby babies God will grant me I will carry them as much as needed thank you for this
That's right girl ! You just be a good Mother to that baby, maybe it will rub off on some of these other mothers. That's wisdom for sure , because you learned that from yourself experience! I love love love it God bless you soooo much 💖.
@@ldld64 Thank you for your kind words girlfriend 💜
@@JacquelynRivera930 😘
According to psychologists and many numerous many studies throughout history, they found that babies and young children who are given love freely and in abundance by their parents become the most stable adults with the most healthy attachment style. There is no such thing as a selfish baby, they don't know what being selfish is they just know they need their mom and dad. When a baby is fully loved on and feels secure in that love where they don't have to feel like they can only rely on themselves it's frees them up to being more independent and adventurous. Basically, the more loved the baby the more safe it feels to itself.
This also feels like the most natural thing that makes the most sense too
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They're actually more dependent on others. That's the reason there's a difference between the first born child & the baby of the family. The first born is usually the most independent & every sibling is usually more dependent than the last until you get to the baby of the family, who is usually a spoiled shit who doesn't know how to do anything for themselves.
Everything in moderation somewhere between being the absent parent and the tyrannical parent is normality. Clearly this woman is overdoing it
Exactly, this is the perfect way to raise a confident, securely attached child :)
The best advice someone told me as a new mom was to trust my instincts. I told people that suggested letting my baby cry to stuff it. I printed out an article from Dr. Sears that talked about the physiological responses mom has when her baby cries and the need to be responsive so baby feels secure and highlighted the talking points for them, and they finally accepted it.
He's not going to be spoiled at all. He's going to be so secure in your love for him. How could that EVER be a bad thing?
It’s actually the opposite and has also been proven in experiments. Babies that were ignored get too attached and clingy. Whereas babies who were loved and held a lot don’t seek much attention. I can see that happen with my first and only baby. He is so content and likes to do everything on his own. I didn’t leave him for 5 minutes even when he had severe colic from food protein allergies and he would scream 24*7 and not sleep at all. I gave up my sleep in those month, getting barely one hour a night. But still lived
Have a sibling
Actually experiment shows a baby tat is not given attention grows up to be independent as no one was there when he was crying
It’s called the strange situation by Mary ainsworth
@@queeno9010 A baby that is certain someone will be present when needed develops the tools to become genuinely independent. One who never had that need filled may grow up being able to cope with being alone, but the mechanisms they use will most likely be maladjusted - which is usually how one ends up with an adult who has an anxious-avoidant attachment style who struggles to form genuinely intimate connections with others
You’re a wonderful mother and I’m glad your son turned out so great!
The more I learn about attachment styles the more I regret taking people's advice to let him cry it out. I was 20 when he was born (he's 17 now) and trusted the older more experienced moms but looking back I don't agree with them
Yeah there’s nothing Healthy about letting a baby cry it out ! If a baby is crying he’s crying for a “reason”… they don’t cry for just nothing…. And even if they eventualy stop crying out of tiredness, they still feel “unresolved” which still had them feel frustrated and anxious in the long run and also will feel even MORE anxiety in the future when they need something from you based on how you reacted the last time he was in need ( ps the term “he” for baby and “You” are generalized terms… not referring to You, personaly nor Your baby either ❤️)
I’ve had 8 and I feel exactly the same the children I held more are definitely the more behaved children of them all
It’s wise to not take advise most of the time
Well my baby cries alll the time to get held n im exhausted 😂 now everyone telling me she spoiled etc etc let her cry looook i dont wanna hear the crying lol up she goes!!
@@dezzyvlogs the best thing you can do for your bond with your child is to hold them no matter how exhausting. It's so damaging to their brain to let them cry it out and it's nobody's fault for trying to do the best that they want for their child even though they might have done it what they feel might not have been the best.
"Hold onto your kids" Why parents should matter more than peers by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté should be a must read if any parent want the best for their child, especially in a society that is money hungry to not want what's best for our children.
Can you imagine what he’s learning, he’s watching your every move, that’s priceless, we’ll done mama ❤
That true and this is biggest thing to learn from small baby
Well said 🙌🏾
I was going to write the EXACT words! These are my EXACT thoughts.
Bingo!🎯👋
Sometimes it really sucks being the oldest. We are ‘test runs’ while our younger siblings get to best treatment.
Yes.I am a first and Do not have any bonding with parents or siblings. I do not fit in with any of them. That's life & it's not fair.
OR the 1st one get's every possible thing and all that they can do and younger one's just gets the required amount of care..
"I'm carrying him for me." And that's also the best thing for your baby.😭😌
They grow so fast, carry them as long as you physically can. 😊
Never put your baby ,always , nothing wrong that..
How sweet and heartwarming and that voice crack at “I carry him for me” 🥺♥️
So true… I feel her, cuz I think the same 😢
I carry him for me ... I can feel that
The most beautiful thing in the world is a mother holding her baby all the time. It's just so heart warming to even see this. It makes the child healthy emotionally and most safe and secure , they cry less and become who you are proud of.
You cannot spoil babies..they need parents touch, atleast one parent.
My father held me and my mother used to yell on him for spoiling me. I didn't rush into relationships and was very independent unlike my little brother who isn't held.
This made me cry. They grow fast. U don't need too explain yourself. Just enjoy the beautiful moments. Bless u and your family.
Yep, it's been scientifically proven that the 'letting them cry' method traumatises your kids and leads to so many problems later in life. If our babies cry, and we feel a biological urge to comfort them, maybe we evolved that way for a reason 🤷♀️
Exactky
How on earth is a Baby/child supposed to know how to comfort themselves?? They rely on us for safety and comfort. Never deny a child that. Give them all of you at all times.
In the African culture and if not mistaken...also Middle Eastern, Asian and South American cultures, this is customary for bonding. It is in the American culture that motherhood is devalued. It has been proven generations ago, babies are prone to die, if existing without human touch.
It’s Not devalued children in the east depend on their parents until they’re dead and tun after the inheritance Like it’s theirs
"they will find their own soulmates and leave my nest" 😭. I feel this
So heart 💔
He is not going to be spoiled. He is your baby, part of you. Babies need nurturing mother’s warmth and great for forever bonding. Love this!
there's nothing more beautiful than a loving, caring and nurturing moma!!!!
Yesssss
period, literally
"I know my children do not belong to me", one powerful statement. GOD bless you and your family! 💜
Great message! Even carrying them every moment you'll still wish for more time. Time goes fast, mine are now 37&34. Love my kids. The baby years are so brief and gone in a blink. KEEP HOLDING YOUR BABY!. You'll still want to hug and hold them at 37&34.
Honestly, it doesn’t matter how you parent your children, someone will always disagree. You’re doing a good job mama, keep doing what you’re doing.
Coming from a person that never had their mother hug them or kiss them once, I would recommend holding your baby as much as you can.
The same😔
Wow so sorry 🥲🥲🥲🥲
@@brittneyclay5021 ❤️🤗🤗🤗❤️
Sending hugs and love your way ❤❤❤🤱
@@anima6035 🥰🤗
Yes, her words made me emotional: "I carry him for me"🥺
It's not healthy. It causes insecure resistant attachment types
That part 😩💓
Ahh that song was perfect!! Babies like to be held by their mom too! Do what works best for you and your family no matter what people say!! 🙌
Nothing speaks confidence, when children know they are loved and greatly wanted!
That last line “I’m carrying him for me “
Carry that baby all u can their only that small a short time ❤
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Well said. N he is so cute❤️
And people who are childfree are selfish.
@@ElaineLoyd What are you talking about
@@ElaineLoyd You really came to a cute video to argue about being childfree when no one mentioned it? Touch grass.
The bit where you say they don’t belong to you 🥺 you’re so right but it’s still emotional. You’re a good mother
🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 I know right 😭. So emotional.
Yes it breaks my heart. I cherish all the times I get to carry him and kiss his neck and hands and face. One day I won't be able to be intimate with him. He's 3 and I've always appreciated the time. They're not us. They will grow up and have their own lives. So until then I will cherish every moment ❤
I agree with you about keeping them close, my mum does that with me even now and I'm 32.
But, I think they do belong to you, even in old age.
My mother's 63 rn and my grandma, her mum calls her almost daily. And if we happen to talk with her, she'll always ask me how her girl(my mother) is doing!!
They'll always be yours, married or not, young or old. As long as you've well brought them up, they'll always belong to you.
That's if I got what you meant when you said they don't belong to you.
Yes. I love this. This is my exact sentiments. They do not belong to us so in essence we are raising them to be able to stand on their own apart from us. So take the opportunity to love them with everything thing you have rn.
For Goodness sake, their are babies. Infants. Hold them as much as possible. They will naturally leave you to explore with the confidence you have given them through your love and presence.
I’m not even a mom and I got teary eyed
Sure right! They grow up too fast, these are the most precious moments💞
You are doing it the right way !
What I learned from my mom is that I didn't matter, not my feelings or needs.
Being left alone to cry (& all the other discipline, narcissistic gaslighting & neglect) when I needed love has for 53years crippled a huge part of me. There is so much missing. She's still like that, doesn't know me. I'm unseen & unheard the way she taught me to be. Sad .
The more they get cuddled and the more they feel safe and loved, the more confident, happy, harmonic and independent they will be. ♡
U don't have to carry/cuddle all the time for them to feel safe/loved. Gtfoh!
So wise
People fail to realize they grow up so fast before you know they are gone . You're awesome
Your a good person my kid grew up so fast I remember when he was in diapers like yesterday
I wish I can do it all over 🥲
@@prosperity. yea
Perfect!!! I did the same. Hold them, hug them till for as long as you can
I love seeing a mom so connected with her child.
Best words I have ever heard being spoken by a mother
My heart is THUMPING out of my chest!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m a Mother of 3 (2 married, 1 engaged), and I still ask myself where’d the time go??????! I kiss them evvvvvvvery time I see them, and they’ll FOREVER BE MY PRINCESS AND MY TWO PRINCES 💜💙💙
Awww, that is so sweet. I too have one princess and 2 princes and a grandbaby prince. I tell my children everyday that I love them. I always did, I wanted that to be the last they heard, before getting on the school bus. My grown son, they're all grown, his Cherokee is broken down so I'll give him a ride to work and pick him up, when he gets out of my Jeep in the morning, he hears me say "I love you.", he's 28. My youngest boy is 25, my daughter will be 30 on October 2nd. Time definitely flies by way too fast.
I kiss....I hug and talk lots and lots of baby words to my sons everyday when ever they come (we all live in the same house ) in front of me.....one is 18 years old and the other is 15 years old.....and they love it.....they kiss me back.....
You’re a great mom. I wish I had that. I hope they appreciate your love❤️
I love you for this mama. I always say there is no such thing as a spoiled baby. Some of the best days of my life were spent holding my baby boys. My boys are the sweetest and really respectful. I do not regret holding them close to me instead of letting them cry. This is the cutest 💙
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There’s absolutely such thing as a spoiled baby, holding them isn’t always a reason but it absolutely can be.
Such a common, nasty misconception! you can NOT spoil a baby!! Loved ones are their safe space, so at that critical age of development you are teaching them that they are safe and can safely and confidently maneuver the world around them ❤
You carried him for 9 months there's nothing wrong with carrying him it's unconditional love from a mother 🫂 God bless you and your baby's 🥰
The fact is when you let babies cry and don't comfort them they end up being insecure and constantly looking for that love and nurturing they didn't get. Nurturing brings confidence and self love. It teaches them how to love and nurture other humans. You're a beautiful mother.we need mothers like this on this earth 🌎!
I’m pregnant with my first son and I really needed to see this. Thank you for blessing me. ❤️
I wish my father understood that when I was a child at like 2 when I broke something or messed up something it wasn't because I did it on purpose. He would beat me relentlessly. He was also a horrible person to my mother. And I hope you and your baby are safe.
Listen to your heart and you're gonna be an awsome mom.
I was just like this lady. My son was born 6 days before my 36th birthday, I had wanted children for as long as I can remember. So, when he was born I was able to stay home with him. Every minute of my days were with him. I don't regret a single second of it.
Remember, they grow up so fast and time with you child is something we will never get back, there's no do-overs. Relish and enjoy every minute possible.
My son just turned 19, graduated high school and now an adult ready for his own life, and even though I spent every minute with him... I would give anything to do it all over again. Good luck with your new son! I wish you all the best!! 😊🙏❤❤
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@@lunarcorpse God bless you
I love seeing more moms recognizing that nurturing is just as important to us as it is the baby ❤
Love love love!!! The more you carry that sweet bundle, the more secure they will be and will grow up happy! Worst thing we mothers have listened to is letting our babies cry. No! Pick that baby up!! They need you!!
“The truth is, I carry him for me” 🥺 that was touching! I “spoiled” my 2nd born as well. My first born was independent by his own choice. I loved him up when he was a newborn and bonded with him as much as I can, but as soon as he started walking in his walker and crawling at 5 months old, he was on his own 🤧
the "I carry him for me" had me gulping down tears . . . so sweet 🥰
Also bit selfish...
Same.. 😭😭😭
Same
Your baby hears the calm of your heartbeat. Comforting to your tiny treasure. That's awesome.💓
So sweet.. Your words made me proud. A mom of 6 month old boy and my In-laws always told me to let him cry.. Let him learn himself. Crying is good.. But when he cry my eyes always tears up. So i always try to carry him with me. And he is so intelligent well behaved baby. He never make me angry. He is very quick. 🤗
My God! I LOVE YOU. YOURE THE MOST INTELLIGENT MOTHER EVER. YOU WILL NEVER REGRET THIS.
Hold that baby as long as you can. They grow up so fast.😭
I took an early childhood development class and one of the the biggest things emphasized ij that class was to not let a baby cry it out. I learned that children who had very attentive parents who " coddled" and showed them lots of attention were more likely to be independent and confident toddlers. It seems like what you're doing with your children now is perfect. Ps your baby is adorable.
How do i differentiate being that good parent and not end up having a spoiled children and being your mentioned type of parents. I dont have babies yet and im so confused. My sister coddled her babies and talk softly to her children but now her children seemed annoying as hell like i might want to use my mother approach being stern with children. As for me, I turn out pretty good my mom is proud of me but honestly i kind of dont like my mother i rather not see her at all (but of course i still see her, sign of respect). Pls advice
@@farahiah1 I'm absolutely no expert on the subject I just took one class but from what I learned and what I've seen in my own family (I do not have kids I just have a lot of younger cousins) not givin the kid EVERYTHING THEY WANT is important. My cousin is spoiled to hell like it's bad and she's a Brat now. So I guess giving kids a good life but not catering to their every want is a good idea. Also an open line of communication both ways. I really love when people do gentle parenting it seems to work if you find the right way to doing for your kids. Idk how to explain it if you wanna know more I suggest watching pleasant peasant media the way she parents is honestly amazing. Again I am no expert I'm just a person who took one class and am giving my opinion so don't come at me.
Same. It makes connections in their brains that otherwise wouldn't happen.
@@farahiah1 don't buy them everything they ask for. Love is free
@@farahiah1 little babies can only communicate their needs by crying. It’s a common misconception that you can spoil babies, but you can’t spoil children with love. You can spoil little children by never giving them boundaries, and not telling them no.
Thats the best thing ive ever heard. And its true. Holding your kid letting them physically and emotionally feel security and love. That is honestly what makes a person independent. When they know in thier soul that they are loved.
Awww that's so sweet. I wish I would have held my babies more too. Keep holding that baby 💓💓💓
Aww.... How can you be against or upset at that?!
All up in my feels with my heartstrings.
"I carry him for me."
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Not a native English speaker sooo--like when she said that, does it means like she did all that carrying for her own satisfaction?
@@qecy3190 correct.
Cheers
Yes it is literally impossible to spoil infants with love. You are doing great 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Amen🙏
Mother of 3 years old and 3 months old baby boys.. never get tired of them.. enjoying the life of Motherhood.. # No Hood like Motherhood..💓
You go girl!!!! I am a mother and I love to spend every single second with my child. I don't care what others think. I carry my child, I cuddle with her, she is 3 years old, but still sleeps with me. This time will never come back, so I will cherish each and every moment I get with my baby girl.
They grow up so fast that it’s good to embrace every moment with them❤️. 👏🏻💐💐👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Exactly!! Hold your baby for as long as you can!! I love how you said all of this- definitely cried! Mine are older and goodness how I miss this!! 💜
As a mother of 5 who held & loved all her babies, I Love this!
Idk why just watching a kid being held by his mama makes me feel so good inside. 👌
I totally understand ❣️ I held my babies a lot despite the advice/warning from others 🙄. I don't think you can ever hold them too much 😇😇😇.
I read that especially before 9 months there is no holding a baby too much!!
Never enough.
This touched me❤. Your children are blessed…as you are blessed. I’m almost 70…momma to 4, nana to 5 and I agree with all my heart.
I love this so much and it's so affirming!! My baby is 8 months old and I baby-wear her all the time and refuse to let her cry. Babies need to feel safe, secure and loved by their parents and I wouldn't dream of denying my baby of those basic human needs. Sometimes, hearing the negative comments get to me but just seeing beautiful videos like this remind me that I'm doing the right and best thing for my little one and so are you! You go Mama and all the other amazing Mama's out there!
Exactly hold him close to your heart as long as you can they grow up so fast and passes in a blink of an eye ❤
Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wish I had one of those baby raps40 years ago 😭
Last night I was crying after I put my kids to sleep bc I was praying for them and I just love them so much and just wanted to wake them up and give them hugs and kisses. My babies are my whole heart and soul and I genuinely thank God for my fertility
Amen sister.
I've been there. I've cried knowing that one day they'll be adults and won't need me as they do now. I miss him already 🥺
""I carry him for me" This is what a great mom is all about.
I cried too. This is a mother's love
My first two I caved to pressure but the third I wore everywhere. Guess who has the least issues in school? Guess who is the most confident? Guess who hit all her milestones early? My third. I wish I could go back and redo it with my first two❤
Wow i should had listen to my instinct
Same here. My third is also the most confident and speaks her mind😭❤
@@lindarivera8954 Always trust your instincts! Whenever I don't listen to my instincts I regret it.
my mom brags she never had to hold me because I was so calm. she thought if she “gave in” while we were upset, we wouldn’t… mature? idk. it was a theme in my life. now I struggle every day from the effects of her emotional neglect lmfao. babies *depend* on the feeling of love and attention because it reassures them that they are safe and will be cared for. they know that they need you to survive, and that love is the strongest motivation. it’s just instinct. when this is routinely unmet, babies’ brains start to respond as though they are in danger, and this can last a lifetime without therapy, manifesting in ways we don’t even know…. thank you for holding your baby. I can tell that while you have regrets, your babies will still benefit from the realization, as it has stuck with you. I know my mother has her regrets too, but she is too prideful to change.
This hits hard.
That's something I use to say all the time too about my eldest: "he's such an easy baby. I never have to hold him."
I used to say he doesn't like to snuggle either but once I started holding him more, I realized he loves it but was just staying away because that's all he knew. 🥺
And thank you. I am so grateful that at least I learned this sooner than later and that I apologized/started fixing it before my eldest child even realized it.
@@TheTattooedMommaOfficial You intervened in time. You're a great mum- trust your instincts. ❤
Mee too! I struggle with emotional neglect! I still as an adult feel like I don’t belong anywhere and wished I was shown and experienced bonding and love. So, I give love, hugs to my children, and I feel bonded to both my children! It’s so good that I can give what was never given to me!
@@TheTattooedMommaOfficial I always say you can't spoil a kid with LOVE. :)))) Hold them while you can!
You are so friging right!!!
That is so true, that's my regret too. If I can bring back time, I will carry and cuddle them always.
I was a young mom and told the same line about spoiling a child by holding them so much. I never questioned it. I regret not carrying my babies around. How in the world could we possibly give a baby too much loving contact !! Hope this video helps many moms do better. Thank you. ❤
I held mine just like that. I got told I was holding them too much. I just ignored them. I don’t have any memories of being held by my parents at all. All my kids do remember being held ❤️❤️❤️ when you can’t lift them, still hug them, tell them you love them, they need love as much as food.
This reminds me of that like in I Am Sam: "all I need is love"
Gets me everytime 🥺😊❤️
That is the sweetest thing I have heard in a very long time You are a wonderful mother .
Thank you 🧡
Yessssss! They are your children!!! You can hold and love on them as much as you can!!
I love seeing mommy's carry their babies you're a good mommy.
This is beautiful and I’ve rewatched it many times and each time brought tears to my eyes. It’s a beautiful blessing to be a mother and life moves too fast to not relish in EVERY moments with our babies ♥️
And think of everything he is learning, as he is watching you throughout the day. You're a beautiful, wonderful, mother. Don't change a thing! 🥰
he watches everything
@Susan Zollinger great fro removing scum on shower glass and walls too!
Great point
Oh, my eyes are spilling! You really got it together!!! I had 7 babies. The greatest joy of my life. I always think I didn’t hold them enough.
Mom guilt. You Rock!!!😇😇
That was a really great message - I try to tell other Moms that the biggest regrets I have of raising my child were the things I didn’t do with him and when it’s gone it’s gone. Thank God I have grandchildren to spoil to ease the inner disappointments🥰
I held my babies a LOT but didn't "wear" my babies and I wish I had. I was honestly not confident in ability to use a wrap.
You wrap and wear your baby momma! Proud of you!!
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Man! I tried a baby carrier with my first and it KILLED my back. (I probably wasn't wearing it right lmao) But I still carried him everywhere anyway
Thank you for this video. I started out with all those same “lies”. And learned quickly that my child’s need and my own were more important to me.
Beautiful and so self aware. Mama goals.
I totally understand what you mean!! I've never had much help with my daughter and every time she cries bc she wants me to hold her someone always says that she's way too attached to me and it's bad, but when I can't cook or do something with her in my arms I'm such a bad mom... it always feels like I'm doing something wrong...
You’re doing good mommy! Hold that baby as long as you can!
I will ❤.
A lesson learned better late than never.
That’s so beautiful.❤ My youngest is about to be 18 soon and lately I’ve been looking at her thinking; I used to hold you in my arms read books and sing to you and now you’re graduating high school...time flies by so quickly. So yeah, hold your baby as much as you can.
I dont remember being hugged as a child. Thats why when I grew up I felt so alone and abandoned. I never felt loved even to this day.
You are loved dear, MASSIVE HUG TO YOU
Pray everyday to Jesus Christ sincerely with humbleness to heal your soul, pray for repentance, pray for enlightenment, for help, for you to love him with all your heart, pray to him to learn to trust him completely even in the most difficult and horrible situations learn to trust his will for you and everyone around you. Pray to him to help you believe in him completely.Go on his house the church every Sunday, confess and take communion. He will be your rock. He loves and waits for you to return to him and love him. He CAN heal you. Hope you are well my brother or sister
No psychiatrist, nor a psychologist need to tell us women how to be a mother. Just do what comes natural. GOD Blessed you again with another child. So Love on that Beautiful Baby.
I held my first born all the time and wore her around and never let her cry it out. She potty trained herself at 18 months. She slept through the night from the time she was a newborn. She is miss independent and she is SO smart. She knew all of her vowels and consonants and could sound out simple words at 3 and right before her 4th bday, she was reading. She is so well behaved too. My second born is different. I couldn't hold him as much because I had a toddler and I worked full time. He is much clingier and he cries alot. My biggest regret is not holding him more 💔
My 6 week old is wrapped on me right now
I had never had a wrap with my first two
You have made me feel so much better. Thank you so much
You are so welcome! When I first started baby wearing I was not very confident about it because there were A LOT of nay sayers.
I'm glad this helps a fellow momma ☺️
Keep holding that baby!!! They will become so independent because they don’t need to seek attention, you give it to them already! My son NEVER cried because I ALWAYS held him and explained to him what we were doing and what everything was so he also learned what everything was and how it worked before he could even crawl. By the time he was crawling I could tell him to go into the living room to get his bottle next to the coffee table on the floor and he’d be right back with it knowing exactly what I was talking about. I always, always talked to my son no matter what we were doing. Everyone always compliments how amazing my son is and how smart he is!
You go girl!!! Life is too short and too much love!? NO SUCH THING!🥰🙏
Your words make me cry. I want to be a mother like you. 💜
Agreed. I didn't learn this until baby #4...SOMEONE SAID TO ME ONCE: YOU CARRY BABIES FOR 40 WEEKS AND ONCE BORN THEY DONT FEEL THE SECURITY OF BEING IN THE BELLY, HOW ELSE SHOULD THEY REACT INSTEAD OF CRYING. That hit me like a ton bricks and spoiled her.
Darling, your baby was never "spoiled".
Your baby is lovingly nurtured and secure.
how are ur other kids
I wish I would have done that you carry your baby long as you want to. I guess that's why I say I wish they were babies just a little longer.🙏🏾🥰👶🥰🙏🏾
@@promisesmithee943 my older kids are 26, 24 and 22. My youngest is 10 honestly speaking my oldest 2 rebelled ALOT. My oldest 2 told me before that I was mean, my 3rd was very stand offish, she basically told me she would stay away and not get in trouble because of how I treated her older sibling and EACH of them say it's a big difference with the baby, I'm not the same mom. We worked thru it tho and I have a great relationship with them. I really wish I was the same with all. But me being a 15 year old mom compared to being 30 year old mom was a completely different person.
@@claudettehudson4294 yes!!! Agreed!! But it's a learning lesson with each baby ESPECIALLY since being a mom doesn't come with a guidebook.
Where were you 20 years ago when I needed to hear this ? 😢❤
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I SO relate to this. That's my promise to my 5 day old. I'm carrying him everywhere. ❤️ Thank you for this post.
YOU'RE A WONDERFUL MOTHER AND GOD JESUS CHRIST WANTS US MOTHERS TO BE MORE LIKE YOU AND NOT LIKE WHAT THE WORLD TELLS US TO BE. THE TWO OF YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL ! KUDOS TO YOU !
🥰🥰melt my heart when u said “ I carry him for me”.
This is beautiful. I made the same mistake of listening to others with my first and I do also still have that regret, he's now 26
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Yeah Comet up the babies nose is always a great idea
Yes Mama!!! I was the child who was left alone. My babies have been as loved as much as I possibly can. Yesss Mama!!!!!
I agree with you, I regret that too with my only son. I wish I held him more. Good for you, your child will grow up healthy and secure.
You do exactly what makes you comfortable when it comes to taking care of your child.much love 🌹
I’m with you 😢 I regret it too but my toddlers are allowing me to make up for lost time 😭 I’m so blessed to have them ❤
Cheers to making up for lost time! 🍻
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Awesome! So glad you do what feels right to you. I did the same with my kids. They’re all adults now & I have the most snuggly, sweet kids (3 boys 1 girl). I listened to my heart & super glad I did!
My mother raised 12, of us and 3, of my uncle's! Momma, was hands on! All of us we're taught the same way! I, was always told they would be unbearable! Good for you! I'm sure your first born loves you completely & was probably loving with next sibling! My mother told us a baby can't be spoiled! They are God's Gift too us! KEEP UP THE DEDICATED LOVE !!!!! BEAUTIFUL STORY!🤗🤗🤗♥️♥️