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Actually it was posted in the morning. But sundays, even if one is not religious, seem to have a more reflective quality; One isn't working, and the time for partying is Friday and Saturday.
T. H. Caro true. Although some countries do not have Sundays as they're weekend (middle eastern countries mostly) so the equivalent of a Sunday evening feeling for them would be a Saturday evening feeling :)
I have never experienced the Sunday evening feeling more than I did as a kid. Elementary school and Middle school. I have always recognized this feeling but I thought it was something unique to myself. The sun turning color as it goes down, and illuminating everything in that orange light, is exactly right. As an adult this feeling has manifested itself when I'm in unfamiliar places, like when I'm backpacking alone in the woods. I have to fight the urge to pack up camp and race home. I think it has to do with a feeling of it being my last chance to get out before dark. "If I don't go now, I'm stuck here until tomorrow no matter what. Am I in the right place or should I be spending this time with friends or family?" Eventually the sun sets and the feeling leaves with the arrival of darkness.
Sounds like a horror movie, and in fact, could probably be made into one. "The Crying Hour. This Sunday, there's a new monster in town... and she's coming for your existentialism."
I've always had this feeling as a kid, every Sunday. I absolutely hated school because of my social anxiety. As I got older I had the same problem with minimum wage jobs, and I'd end up quitting because I couldn't stand them. Hopefully the day will come when I'm finally looking forward to go to work because it's something I genuinely enjoy doing. I think everyone deserves that.
I had this in the extreme as a kid as well and would be crying and feel sick with a feeling of dread, emptiness, misery, isolation and hopelessness - not what a 10 year old should be expected to feel over and over and over. It must have been clear that I was in distress and no one did anything to help me.
That's where I'm at right now. I have every desire to pack up basic necessities, sell all my stuff, travel somewhere new, and start over because I keep getting suck in these dead end jobs that I can barely live off of, and they are draining my spirit.
It's almost like we're not meant to live this way, spend our lives slaving away. This is a feeling that flares up like crazy for me every time I've been with family. Being away from them again and doing such meaningless activities that do nothing but rob us of quality time together. That's my Sunday blues.
this is a seriously amazing video. it's true. we are sad because we are not being ourselves truly, it's like we have 100 years to live but we are not even there
I have always felt this 'the fun has ended' mood on Sunday evening when I was a child too.....this video made me understand that instead of because of work, it was because of school, which always felt wrong too. A place good only to learn to write and read, nothing else.
This made me even more sad this Sunday evening because all of this hits so hard.... I’ve been going through this for months now since I’ve started my first ever job.
I get this feeling before school too. I don’t think for me at least the wrong work hypothesis doesn’t apply to me. I think it’s dreading the shift from cognitive ease to cognitive effort.
Had this feeling all the way through school because i hated it so much. God, that feeling was terrible! Thankfully, for the last 10 years i've been a freelancer/entrepreneur working sundays, and life is so much better.
I have school tomorrow and i have that feeling as well... I cannot describe it, i just feel that i don't want to do anything.. That feeling sucks 😞😞 I can't find ANY way to to feel any better.... I feel so lonely and lost...
I don't know if it's as much about the right job as it as about not being the best version of yourself. I feel when we look at the sky setting on Sunday nights perhaps it's because we are starting over once again but we are still the same person. I believe this feeling is caused from a lack of growth. Find a hobby, read a book on something that puzzles you, start exercising, create art everyday. We feel melancholy on Sundays because we are not who we wanted to be when we were kids.
S. M. Salem I love this comment. It's exactly what I'm dealing with in my life right now. I'm trying to do naturally what I should've been allowed to do when I was a kid. Rigid schools system and very strict overprotective parents are to blame for me. It's hard to find your way when you're doing it by yourself as an adult but when you do, you feel like you've met yourself from a very long time and you understand why you're alive : to live freely.
OlivineCityMetal Thank you, life isn't easy but we'll make it eventually. Listen to your own voice and let's not let other people makes us feel like our happiness isn't important. It is for us so let's work damn hard for it 😊
S. M. Salem I agree with this comment. I don't always get this feeling because I'm either relaxing and enjoying my favorite show, cleaning (which personally gives me peace of mind), reading, listening to music or just knowing that I did something to get out of the house that day. But then again, I don't hate my job... so I think that at some degree your job does affect how you feel on Sunday afternoons.
Could be a sign that you are in the wrong job. Everyone gets the 'back to work' feeling on a Sunday. But feeling that everyday might be your brains way of telling you..."I don't want to do this". So maybe, don't? Look for something that you enjoy when you are there.
I used to feel this way during my job, but since I've started working for myself it doesn't make a difference whether it's Monday or Sunday! I enjoy my work and sometimes end up doing some light work during the weekends too cause I feel like it
Once you're working for yourself you'll be putting in 70-80 hour weeks for less pay than you're making now. The "Sunday Evening Feeling" will be every evening after 12 hours with almost no pay. You had better absolutely LOVE what you do because it will be all consuming over your life for as long as you are self employed. More pressing than anything at home or anything else you will do. Your entire identity will be wrapped up in that business. Chances are after 2 years you'll close up shop and move on to greener pastures in another business. Don't ever get too attached to walk away. If it's not majorly profitable In the first two years (more than double your current job yearly, after all you're working double hours) don't let it pile up debt on your family, move on and find a better business or better job. Almost no one strikes GOLD on their first business endevor. If it's not raining money in 5 years (over 80k take home pay) it never will. The margins will always stay the same, find a business in an industry with margins that are worth it and work your A$$ off. GOOD LUCK!
Having to do one task that takes away time from what one really craves can really feel like time wasted, and this feeling for me always shows up on Sunday. All of the students that I have met, feel the same as me. Time, patience and effort will heal our broken generation.
The temporary relief starting Friday afternoon which was followed by my only decent night’s sleep of the week mostly free of anxiety was always followed by the dread and doom that was palpable by 3 pm every Sunday. Thank god for retirement. Now what? I’m still clueless as to how to live a meaningful and modestly happy life.
You just put into words what I have felt almost my whole life, and that was usually dismissed as laziness. Hearing it was kind of liberating and daunting, showing how much work I still have ahead.
This resonates with me so strongly. I've always been artistically inclined and although I love science I was never very strong at maths. I worked for years as an environmental engineer and although I felt good about having a positive impact on the planet, I felt very unfilled at work and felt like I'd never be as technically competent as my colleagues. I finally quit without having anything lined up, I moved to another country and after months of unemployment and uncertainty I finally got a job as an urban designer. I haven't experienced the Sunday feeling once since.
The sunday evening feeling starts at 4 PM for me. As soon as 4PM hits, it feels like hours go past like minutes and everytime I look at my watch, another one is gone and it went so fast that I cant even remember what I was doing tha entire hour.
Im not a successful person now but I feel absolutely awesome on Sundays, like Im so excited to see what happens next and meet my colleagues and friends. I enjoy it.
I used to feel this way when I was little, on Sunday afternoons. Not so much because I din't like school, but because the last highlight of the week - eating and my grandparents' - was over. Now, I see Sunday evenings as the last chance to relax before a hectic week; that's why I now enjoy them.
I have the vivid memories of this feeling as a 6 year old. Sunday afternoon around sunset time, looking through the window of the 3rd floor, watching people interact and asking my parents if they felt the same sadness of sunday afternoon. It seems like no one back then could relate to the feeling. The title of this video shocked me. I'm 21 years old and I still hate this feeling, still have no one to relate.
Sunday nights have always been depressing for me. I find myself questioning my job and why I exist, and yearning for something more. Then Monday comes and it’s back to the cycle.
Sunday evening = realisation that our temporary freedom to be & do what WE want to be/do is coming to an end... again, only to be replaced by subservience to THE MAN... excepting Bank Holiday Mondays when everything kicks in 24 hours later. Happy Weekend everybody!! Xx
Yes I am happier, but only a bit. I have learnt that happiness is not always about what you do or what your situation is, it comes from somewhere else.
I have always had the Sunday feeling and I'm so glad this is even a thing that happens to more people (I mean not glad that they are depressed but that I am not alone...). Sometimes it is even a kind of consolation: I know I'm depressed cause is Sunday and tomorrow I will feel better.
Watching this on a Sunday evening in 2020. Sunday scaries are 10 times worse if you’ve been drinking all weekend. It’s a weird mix of anxiety, loneliness, regret, and a slight amount of hope
It’s the middle point between what you love and what you wish would stay versus what you hate that’s constant. Back during tribal times, I’m sure it was like this
This is why you must fight tooth and nail and cultivate a working philosophy that aligns with your truest essence. The sacrifices you make for such a lifestyle are difficult, and things that are inevitably culled from your life are painful, but it's not as bad as the pain you suffer when you're forced to endure through work that you don't align with on a deeply poignant level.
Yes, being organised I do think can be a big part of it. If you use a Friday as not only a final week day of work/school, but also as a 'preparation for Monday' day and set some time, even just a little, aside for preparation and organisation for Monday morning, it can help.
When I was a child ,Sunday Evening for me was sad with a pinch of happiness. On the contrary , Saturday was more bright bc I knew that tomorrow will be Holiday! That means I can enjoy as much as I can in Saturday Evening ( This enjoyment came from the fact that tomorrow will be holiday , so bonus enjoyment). But then Sunday Evening comes & I feel weird & sad bc it's Over!
I own my own businesses and I usually feel nice Sunday evenings. I enjoy time with the wife and some focus on goals or objectives for the coming week. I often have an eagerness to get at the work planned. My businesses aren't quite what I thought I'd want them to be - certainly not always the work I'd hoped to be doing. It's also been a tonne more work than a classic 9-5 working for someone else, and the money hasn't always been the best. But the freedom and sense of accomplishment are invaluable. It's not necessarily an escape from the feeling of not living up to your potential, though. I seem to always want to do better for myself and others.
Friends who want to change their career, here is a list of ideas and examples that could give you the courage and motivation to take that step: 1- In his book " Creatures of a day" , psychiatrist Irvin Yalom, recommends to a patient who is not happy with his profession, the book " Mediations" by Marcus Aurelius. He says that Aurelius being the Roman Emperor, was not happy with his job either! Because he wanted to become a philosopher indeed! I think because it was his real passion, we honour Marcus Aurelius today more as a philosopher than as a ruler! 2- Take Argentina's most beloved psychoanalyst Gabriel Rolon. He first studied guitar and became a tango singer! Later on he realised that what he wanted the most was to become a psychologist indeed. But he was scared to be too old to begin with the studies.... Then his father said to him: " I will not be ashamed of a son who tries and fails but I will be ashamed of you if you don't do it for fear". So he went for it and that was the best decision he ever took! Recently, when he presented his latest book " Cara a Cara" in a stadium in Buenos Aires, 6.000 people were there! He keeps helping and inspiring so many people and he embodies the wisdom he is trying to spread. And it is all because he took that ONE RIGHT DECISION at the right time! 3- Being from Turkey I find it a bit hard to like the police. But recently I have heard an interview with one, who definitely sounded like such a good person. Seth Stoughton was a cop, then he decided to go back to studying and became a law professor! He does a lot of critical thinking about how things work in the police departments nowadays and he is trying to help improve that system, in order to turn it more human and fair. Hopefully.... ( You can hear that interview with him on the podcast "7th Avenue Project". ) 4- In one of his speeches Ken Robinson gives the example of a famous piano player. Consider that if she could make it as a concert pianist she must have practised literally thousands of hours since her childhood...So this girl was making a great career and all, until one day the conductor of an orchestra told her after a concert: -You play wonderfully, but you don't seem to enjoy it really, do you? She said she doesn't. Indeed her passion was reading! So at some point she took that decision, gave up her career as a great musician and became an editor! This is also very interesting: what you can naturally do the best does not necessarily have to be your passion. You may want to do something else with your life! 5- Take Maria Popova. She is the founder of the wonderful website Brainpickings. She used to have a steady , well paid job , but this is what she says about her decision to leave it: “Do I want to bury myself in a corporate job that I’m going to spent 80% of my waking hours at, be miserable, and hope that the money it gives me will make the other 20% of my life better, even though I’m angry and tired and burned out? Or, do I want to do something that makes me happy to wake up to and happy to go to sleep having done and let the financial part figure itself out?" She is reading and writing all day and bringing wisdom into people's lives through her website and turns out that it became a huge success and she makes her living out of it! 6- There is a very interesting website called " 80.000 Hours" that gives you excellent career advice. It is founded by the youngest philosophy professor in the world: William MacAskill. He teaches at Oxford. ( Not that I think people's academic titles matter. But I like that guy because he sounds like a very modest and generous person . He donates half of his salary every month! ) I have heard him on the Tim Ferriss podcast. When he was asked, how he managed to get there so young, he said that " he just thought long enough" before choosing his career. He gave an excellent example: If you want to go out for a dinner tonight, for a dinner that takes let's say 90 Minutes, you would think at least 5 minutes, right? In one life time we work around 80.000 hours. So, in order to decide what to do with it, we would indeed need to think for about 2 years! On that website, you will find a lot of very valuable career advice. You can also take a quiz etc, to see what fits you better. They give you a lot of tools ob " how to think clearly" on the subject. 7. I loved the " Getting unstuck" episode by the Hidden Brain podcast. If you think that you have tried it all and still don't know what to do, it will offer you valuable insights and new ways of thinking. 8. Don't miss the podcast " Good Life Project", with Ken Robinson as guest. You may know him from his TED Talks. He is on a wonderful mission, helping people from all around the world to lead more meaningful and fulfilling lives. 9. I am addicted to a podcast called " On Being with Krista Tippet". She is one of the best interviewers in the world. The episode " Choosing Curiosity Over Fear" is exactly on this subject. It can be very discouraging to hear an advice that only says " find your passion." Because most of us, except a few fortunate ones, don't know it for years and such an advice may make us feel very lonely and clueless. But on this podcast they recommend us to follow our curiosity instead. It makes it all much easier. 10. Of course it is not easy to take that step to change your career. But if it is a " meaningful" step for us, we must definitely go for it. Only then, we can have a fulfilled life. That's why I think this is the most " motivating and encouraging" quote of all times: "He who has a why to live can bear almost any how." Friedrich Nietzsche
Lua, thank you so much for your profoundly, thoughtful, helpful, and well organized suggestions. Your kind hearted, detailed, and generous recommendations are much appreciated.
Whoa you again! I always appreciate the effort you put into your comments whenever I see you here at the School of Life, and I'm sure many others do too! Thanks a bunch!!!
This isn't so bad for me whilst i'm studying and trying to get my youtube channel going. Still I remember the feeling and this is my last year. I hope I can get my youtube channel going consistently
Interesting video. I’m 22 and when I was younger, Sunday evenings were very calming and relaxing. I would wake up, have breakfast, go to church, go to Asda with my family to do shopping for family dinner. My parents would make the food, while I went to my bedroom to watch the simpsons on channel 4. Food would be cooked. I would then go upstairs and watch a film on either channel 4, 5 or itv and feel very relaxed. Knowing that the next day, I would have to wake up early for school. There is something calming about Sunday evenings. I guess I didn’t really like school as much. Only a few friends were worth seeing, especially this girl I had a crush on. But apart from that, I never really looked forward to school. Now that I’m in uni doing a course I like, I don’t really get that Sunday evening feel anymore. I guess it’s a good thing because I know what I want to do with my life, but I kinda miss that relaxing feeling.
This is the most beautiful video throughout the channel. Our unconsciousness knows that you've made a wrong choice that you can not live with. It tortures you until you go mad. Because only at the mad state a man can throw away the past and truly transform himself.
This ... was eye opening! I don’t work a 9-5 job but when I did I absolutely had this “syndrome”. I think this hits the nail on the head, never thought about it like this before!
I'm thinking the same thing. I hate Sundays, it feels like we're on transition to school and work. It was uploaded on my 20th birthday, which is actually Sunday! Sour luck.
Haha, that's exactly what I do with my Sunday Blues. Watch an artsy fartsy (mostly depressing) movies with a drink and a friend. Really nice way to end the week imo.
I've had Sunday blues since I was a kid and dreaded going back to school knowing I was going to struggle in both class and in my social life. The feeling went away in college as the tradional m-f schedule went away. It returned when I worked a dreadful m-f job. Now I'm older and have a child in elementary school and I get a little down knowing she goes through the same thing.
i have a job that i love and that i look forward to on monday mornings- but i STILL get that melancholy feeling on sunday evenings. as much as i love my job, sunday evenings also mean you lose the ability to shape your time however you like, and that's a bit of a bummer.
In the end, it was the Sunday afternoons he couldn't cope with, and that terrible listlessness that starts to set in about 2.55, when you know you've taken all the baths you can usefully take that day, that however hard you stare at any given paragraph in the newspaper you will never actually read it, or use the revolutionary new pruning technique it describes, and that as you stare at the clock the hands will move relentlessly on to four o'clock, and you will enter the long dark tea-time of the soul. ~ DNA
This video explanation is at the intersection of intelligent, insightful and depressing. I guess if work were supposed to be enjoyable, it would be called fun... Or play. I think most people don't have the ideal job. That's what gets me through. We're all in this together.
You make some really interesting points here. The idea that we a greater feeling of engagement, and applying our best resources to the line of work we do will help with that Sunday evening feeling is clearly massively impactful! Work takes up a huge amount of our lives, and so our working selves can really be influenced by a mutilated of factors. I also loved what you said about what work has now become. Its become a status symbol and a means of 'living the dream' (which i dont really beelive is acurate), as opposed to what it used to be, a means of staying alive. Great video!
I've never been able to really shake the Sunday Evening Feeling, even as a kid I'd dread school the next day, especially after Summer break or extended holidays, the thought of returning on a Monday morning was a horrible feeling. You're effectively leaving your comfort zone to go and do something which you have to do, but really don't want to have to do. It's the same now as an adult for me, despite running my own business and actually quite enjoying my job. The early get ups, the long drive into work...especially in Winter when the mornings are dark and the evenings are darker. When I'm at work and I'm in full swing...the feeling is gone and I can get quite into my work, sometimes even wishing there was extra time in a working week to get things done. Yet two days of being "switched off" is more than enough to bring on that sense of dread, anxiety, stress and worry on a Sunday evening. Even though I know that I'm worried about absolutely nothing. A full week of work just feels daunting, even when it isn't. It kicks in for me even earlier really. I only ever consider Friday evening and Saturday to be 'time off'. When Sunday comes round, it flies by due to the 'back to work tomorrow' reminder constantly going off in my head. The only way I've found it easier to manage is to be as organised as possible on Friday and prepare for the Monday as much as you possibly can in advance...so when you arrive at work, you're as organised as you can be. Also, using one hour after work on Friday to prepare for Monday morning. Preparing your clothes, your work bag, your diary...whatever it might be. Having everything ready so that you're able to enjoy the weekend as much as possible and literally just walk out the door in the morning, can help. I do think, though, that if you have a sense of dread before work in general and can't stand going into work every morning, that this might be a sign telling you that you're in the wrong job. The Sunday night feeling is normal, but dreading work every night before work, is another matter.
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The School of Life Hello there. Any idea when the app is going to be released for Android? I'm very excited about this app, because I've suggested an app like this, during classes I took in Sao Paulo's school.
They will release it next year (they said it in another video). Not sure if in January or later, though.
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Please translate more video into Arabic . It helps us to develop our language.
Take it to Reddit much better
Sunday evenings' are even stressful than Mondays itself, while Friday evenings are joyful than that of Saturdays and Sundays.
i like Saturdays more
same bro
We get more dopamine from the anticipation of pleasure rather than the pleasure itself
Agreed. I don’t make any plans for Sunday evenings.
Eversince I was a kid, I always feel something weird during Sunday evenings.
Its was school, then highschool, then college, now job.
I did all these things against my will my whole life. Now i understand it.
Yep same here, I recall talking to others about this feeling on a sunday in my early school years.
Winnie coopr hahahah yeah omg
SAME!
Lance Andrei Briones Me too. Always.
People of the future,
Yes. This video was posted on a Sunday evening.
But time zones. :(
Actually it was posted in the morning. But sundays, even if one is not religious, seem to have a more reflective quality; One isn't working, and the time for partying is Friday and Saturday.
Keerthana Gurushankar oh dear :'D didn't think about that !
T. H. Caro true. Although some countries do not have Sundays as they're weekend (middle eastern countries mostly) so the equivalent of a Sunday evening feeling for them would be a Saturday evening feeling :)
Concidering it's 6:30pm ETZ you're full of it
I have never experienced the Sunday evening feeling more than I did as a kid. Elementary school and Middle school. I have always recognized this feeling but I thought it was something unique to myself. The sun turning color as it goes down, and illuminating everything in that orange light, is exactly right.
As an adult this feeling has manifested itself when I'm in unfamiliar places, like when I'm backpacking alone in the woods. I have to fight the urge to pack up camp and race home. I think it has to do with a feeling of it being my last chance to get out before dark.
"If I don't go now, I'm stuck here until tomorrow no matter what. Am I in the right place or should I be spending this time with friends or family?"
Eventually the sun sets and the feeling leaves with the arrival of darkness.
I didn't know this was a thing for other people too 😱
ikr. I felt so alone.
PK D we're not alone! XD #termDefined
You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake
PK D no everyone gets this felling
Wandile Mtambo hi Waldro
Me and my sister called it "the crying hour" all our lives. Who knew everybody else experienced this too
Lupe Fernandez strangely enough, we are all the same
Sounds like a horror movie, and in fact, could probably be made into one.
"The Crying Hour. This Sunday, there's a new monster in town... and she's coming for your existentialism."
I've always had this feeling as a kid, every Sunday. I absolutely hated school because of my social anxiety. As I got older I had the same problem with minimum wage jobs, and I'd end up quitting because I couldn't stand them. Hopefully the day will come when I'm finally looking forward to go to work because it's something I genuinely enjoy doing. I think everyone deserves that.
TheVeganWolf love and peace
I had this in the extreme as a kid as well and would be crying and feel sick with a feeling of dread, emptiness, misery, isolation and hopelessness - not what a 10 year old should be expected to feel over and over and over. It must have been clear that I was in distress and no one did anything to help me.
I also had that dread during the school years. After the sun went down insomnia would follow. And was there ever a worse day then Labor Day?
That's where I'm at right now. I have every desire to pack up basic necessities, sell all my stuff, travel somewhere new, and start over because I keep getting suck in these dead end jobs that I can barely live off of, and they are draining my spirit.
friendlybaby1 I could have written this. 🙁
It's almost like we're not meant to live this way, spend our lives slaving away. This is a feeling that flares up like crazy for me every time I've been with family. Being away from them again and doing such meaningless activities that do nothing but rob us of quality time together. That's my Sunday blues.
this is a seriously amazing video. it's true. we are sad because we are not being ourselves truly, it's like we have 100 years to live but we are not even there
talkshei we have less than two years to live truly with ourselves without others interruption.
I have always felt this 'the fun has ended' mood on Sunday evening when I was a child too.....this video made me understand that instead of because of work, it was because of school, which always felt wrong too. A place good only to learn to write and read, nothing else.
This is exactly it
This made me even more sad this Sunday evening because all of this hits so hard.... I’ve been going through this for months now since I’ve started my first ever job.
Risa J how old are you?
Thirty Cats Never too old to change.
5 years late but I'm in this situation right now. Did you manage to get through it?
I get this feeling before school too. I don’t think for me at least the wrong work hypothesis doesn’t apply to me. I think it’s dreading the shift from cognitive ease to cognitive effort.
No the feeling applies to school kids too...
applies to school 100%
I feel this not only in the evening! The whole day I only check the time to see how it quickly passes and I have to go deal with those people again 😒
This comment is it ☝🏽. Lord have mercy especially if you are anti social or a introvert
Had this feeling all the way through school because i hated it so much. God, that feeling was terrible!
Thankfully, for the last 10 years i've been a freelancer/entrepreneur working sundays, and life is so much better.
I have school tomorrow and i have that feeling as well... I cannot describe it, i just feel that i don't want to do anything.. That feeling sucks 😞😞 I can't find ANY way to to feel any better.... I feel so lonely and lost...
@@papado5175 hey bro, how are you
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@@papado5175are you out of school now
it's Sunday and I'm sad and anxious. So thanks for this video.
Why ? I love Sunday evenings and Monday mornings.
Malekith the witchking bit smug
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@@argeltal9090 You can’t be serious
I don't know if it's as much about the right job as it as about not being the best version of yourself. I feel when we look at the sky setting on Sunday nights perhaps it's because we are starting over once again but we are still the same person. I believe this feeling is caused from a lack of growth. Find a hobby, read a book on something that puzzles you, start exercising, create art everyday. We feel melancholy on Sundays because we are not who we wanted to be when we were kids.
S. M. Salem I love this comment. It's exactly what I'm dealing with in my life right now. I'm trying to do naturally what I should've been allowed to do when I was a kid. Rigid schools system and very strict overprotective parents are to blame for me. It's hard to find your way when you're doing it by yourself as an adult but when you do, you feel like you've met yourself from a very long time and you understand why you're alive : to live freely.
lH2O * This comment is my life in a nutshell. Good luck facing that feeling and becoming more of who you wish to be.
OlivineCityMetal Thank you, life isn't easy but we'll make it eventually. Listen to your own voice and let's not let other people makes us feel like our happiness isn't important. It is for us so let's work damn hard for it 😊
S. M. Salem I agree with this comment.
I don't always get this feeling because I'm either relaxing and enjoying my favorite show, cleaning (which personally gives me peace of mind), reading, listening to music or just knowing that I did something to get out of the house that day. But then again, I don't hate my job... so I think that at some degree your job does affect how you feel on Sunday afternoons.
When I was a kid I wanted to be a kid
Regret ... that’s what that Sunday feeling is.
It's worse when the Sunday Evening Feeling last all day and everyday
Your days are probably blending together, like mine. It's a problem.
True. I am in the car, back from work, on a friday, and I am already getting the sunday evening feeling.
I cant even enjoy saturday because tommorow is sunday
You mean autumn?
Could be a sign that you are in the wrong job. Everyone gets the 'back to work' feeling on a Sunday. But feeling that everyday might be your brains way of telling you..."I don't want to do this". So maybe, don't? Look for something that you enjoy when you are there.
I call this the Sunday Night Blues - totally can relate to this feeling. I hope I don't feel it once I'm working for myself, when the day comes!
I used to feel this way during my job, but since I've started working for myself it doesn't make a difference whether it's Monday or Sunday! I enjoy my work and sometimes end up doing some light work during the weekends too cause I feel like it
I started feeling this during school very early
Once you're working for yourself you'll be putting in 70-80 hour weeks for less pay than you're making now. The "Sunday Evening Feeling" will be every evening after 12 hours with almost no pay. You had better absolutely LOVE what you do because it will be all consuming over your life for as long as you are self employed. More pressing than anything at home or anything else you will do. Your entire identity will be wrapped up in that business. Chances are after 2 years you'll close up shop and move on to greener pastures in another business. Don't ever get too attached to walk away. If it's not majorly profitable In the first two years (more than double your current job yearly, after all you're working double hours) don't let it pile up debt on your family, move on and find a better business or better job. Almost no one strikes GOLD on their first business endevor. If it's not raining money in 5 years (over 80k take home pay) it never will. The margins will always stay the same, find a business in an industry with margins that are worth it and work your A$$ off. GOOD LUCK!
Having to do one task that takes away time from what one really craves can really feel like time wasted, and this feeling for me always shows up on Sunday. All of the students that I have met, feel the same as me. Time, patience and effort will heal our broken generation.
timing is perfect
I feel like a lot of videos on this channel come with perfect timing
The temporary relief starting Friday afternoon which was followed by my only decent night’s sleep of the week mostly free of anxiety was always followed by the dread and doom that was palpable by 3 pm every Sunday. Thank god for retirement. Now what? I’m still clueless as to how to live a meaningful and modestly happy life.
J Warren interesting, even in retirement? Surely there is lots you can do thats enjoyable and free from time constraints
How are you now
How to sum up School of life in one sentence should be a competition. From this I'd say " we shouldn't be so hard on ourselves." I love this channel!
this channel reads my mind so perfectly I'm startin to feel scared
i wish i knew more of those people
Right
This defines the feeling of 'Not Going Anywhere' in life. :D thanks for the video.
We need a video on that!
Glad I ain't the only one who feels this way almost every sunday evening!
You just put into words what I have felt almost my whole life, and that was usually dismissed as laziness.
Hearing it was kind of liberating and daunting, showing how much work I still have ahead.
This resonates with me so strongly. I've always been artistically inclined and although I love science I was never very strong at maths. I worked for years as an environmental engineer and although I felt good about having a positive impact on the planet, I felt very unfilled at work and felt like I'd never be as technically competent as my colleagues. I finally quit without having anything lined up, I moved to another country and after months of unemployment and uncertainty I finally got a job as an urban designer. I haven't experienced the Sunday feeling once since.
Because you're about to subject yourself to another week of suffering.
"week"? How about a lifetime?
soslothful same
@@soslothful this is big M O O D
@@soslothful maybe that's why babies cry when they come out of the womb
I make a yt channel when i come out of school because if school already gets me into hospital then im going to die on a seizure with a 9-5
So true. I often have a more intense negative feeling on Sunday evening than this, though.
In that chase I get this feeling every evening.
The sunday evening feeling starts at 4 PM for me. As soon as 4PM hits, it feels like hours go past like minutes and everytime I look at my watch, another one is gone and it went so fast that I cant even remember what I was doing tha entire hour.
Im not a successful person now but I feel absolutely awesome on Sundays, like Im so excited to see what happens next and meet my colleagues and friends.
I enjoy it.
Where was this video last year when I discovered this on my own the hard way? Whoever watching this & reading this, you are not alone
I used to feel this way when I was little, on Sunday afternoons. Not so much because I din't like school, but because the last highlight of the week - eating and my grandparents' - was over. Now, I see Sunday evenings as the last chance to relax before a hectic week; that's why I now enjoy them.
I have the vivid memories of this feeling as a 6 year old. Sunday afternoon around sunset time, looking through the window of the 3rd floor, watching people interact and asking my parents if they felt the same sadness of sunday afternoon. It seems like no one back then could relate to the feeling. The title of this video shocked me. I'm 21 years old and I still hate this feeling, still have no one to relate.
Princess Robot Bubblegum have had the same feeling my whole life never worked out why
Here I was thinking I'm the only one.
Same here, and it even starts at sunday noon if were at home.still same, i hate sundays
I notice the time that you posted this.
Sunday nights have always been depressing for me. I find myself questioning my job and why I exist, and yearning for something more. Then Monday comes and it’s back to the cycle.
The proportions of these characters is quite scary
Lmao
Tzey had caps on but pressed shift on the first letter
Sunday evening = realisation that our temporary freedom to be & do what WE want to be/do is coming to an end... again, only to be replaced by subservience to THE MAN... excepting Bank Holiday Mondays when everything kicks in 24 hours later. Happy Weekend everybody!! Xx
Oh this is what I'm currently feeling
Who's else watching this on Sunday 😂😂😂
Mega Ray cuz today is Sunday dumpsy
I'm watching this in 2018 o.o
Me it is 840 on Sunday :( help me now
Great video. Money is important, but feeling alive while I still am is more important.
I’ve kind of gotten over this, I still go to school but I actually started liking sundays.
This is why I quit my full time job and went freelance....now I get that Sunday evening feeling 2 to 3 times a day 7 days a week :D
But surely you are happier freelancing?
Yes I am happier, but only a bit. I have learnt that happiness is not always about what you do or what your situation is, it comes from somewhere else.
Wow, the central weakness of my life, work--hits it on the head.
Love that this was uploaded on Sunday evebing
pinkii06 you look like Emma Roberts with dark hair😍
Stepoutinfaith oh wow I love her thank you
ah yes the evebing, superior to the evening ofcourse
I have always had the Sunday feeling and I'm so glad this is even a thing that happens to more people (I mean not glad that they are depressed but that I am not alone...). Sometimes it is even a kind of consolation: I know I'm depressed cause is Sunday and tomorrow I will feel better.
Watching this on a Sunday evening in 2020. Sunday scaries are 10 times worse if you’ve been drinking all weekend. It’s a weird mix of anxiety, loneliness, regret, and a slight amount of hope
watching this on Sunday evening ...worried about future, job and relationships
It’s the middle point between what you love and what you wish would stay versus what you hate that’s constant. Back during tribal times, I’m sure it was like this
Work on Sundays and you'll never experience it
That is even worse.. I hope you commented that as a joke and that you don't work on Sundays... The whole world is f*cked up....
@@papado5175 why is it so horrible to work on a Sunday lol?
@@SolaPersona, I used to work Sundays, all my friends were off so I missed out. And it's crazy busy dealing with people getting ready for the week
I actually work from Friday to Monday, best thing ever.
😂😂😂😂
This is why you must fight tooth and nail and cultivate a working philosophy that aligns with your truest essence. The sacrifices you make for such a lifestyle are difficult, and things that are inevitably culled from your life are painful, but it's not as bad as the pain you suffer when you're forced to endure through work that you don't align with on a deeply poignant level.
For me a Sunday evening feeling is when I don’t want to do any work and just want to cuddle and watch tv with someone
Then I realize I don't have anyone :(
@@Dantick09 awww 🤧
I don't even work right now, but I felt all of this and now I'm fully experiencing the Sunday Evening Feeling
Watching this on sunday evening 😥😔😟😢😭
The animation of this video... my goodness it's remarkable!
this came into an important time in my life. thank you.
Once again, School of Life posts a video which I need the most at the moment.
I thought this would be a video about me hating myself because I procrastinated all of my work and now there's no time left to do them
Yes, being organised I do think can be a big part of it. If you use a Friday as not only a final week day of work/school, but also as a 'preparation for Monday' day and set some time, even just a little, aside for preparation and organisation for Monday morning, it can help.
When I was a child ,Sunday Evening for me was sad with a pinch of happiness. On the contrary , Saturday was more bright bc I knew that tomorrow will be Holiday! That means I can enjoy as much as I can in Saturday Evening ( This enjoyment came from the fact that tomorrow will be holiday , so bonus enjoyment). But then Sunday Evening comes & I feel weird & sad bc it's Over!
I own my own businesses and I usually feel nice Sunday evenings. I enjoy time with the wife and some focus on goals or objectives for the coming week. I often have an eagerness to get at the work planned.
My businesses aren't quite what I thought I'd want them to be - certainly not always the work I'd hoped to be doing. It's also been a tonne more work than a classic 9-5 working for someone else, and the money hasn't always been the best. But the freedom and sense of accomplishment are invaluable.
It's not necessarily an escape from the feeling of not living up to your potential, though. I seem to always want to do better for myself and others.
Friends who want to change their career, here is a list of ideas and examples that could give you the courage and motivation to take that step:
1- In his book " Creatures of a day" , psychiatrist Irvin Yalom, recommends to a patient who is not happy with his profession, the book " Mediations" by Marcus Aurelius. He says that Aurelius being the Roman Emperor, was not happy with his job either! Because he wanted to become a philosopher indeed! I think because it was his real passion, we honour Marcus Aurelius today more as a philosopher than as a ruler!
2- Take Argentina's most beloved psychoanalyst Gabriel Rolon. He first studied guitar and became a tango singer! Later on he realised that what he wanted the most was to become a psychologist indeed. But he was scared to be too old to begin with the studies.... Then his father said to him:
" I will not be ashamed of a son who tries and fails but I will be ashamed of you if you don't do it for fear".
So he went for it and that was the best decision he ever took!
Recently, when he presented his latest book " Cara a Cara" in a stadium in Buenos Aires, 6.000 people were there! He keeps helping and inspiring so many people and he embodies the wisdom he is trying to spread. And it is all because he took that ONE RIGHT DECISION at the right time!
3- Being from Turkey I find it a bit hard to like the police. But recently I have heard an interview with one, who definitely sounded like such a good person. Seth Stoughton was a cop, then he decided to go back to studying and became a law professor! He does a lot of critical thinking about how things work in the police departments nowadays and he is trying to help improve that system, in order to turn it more human and fair. Hopefully....
( You can hear that interview with him on the podcast "7th Avenue Project". )
4- In one of his speeches Ken Robinson gives the example of a famous piano player. Consider that if she could make it as a concert pianist she must have practised literally thousands of hours since her childhood...So this girl was making a great career and all, until one day the conductor of an orchestra told her after a concert:
-You play wonderfully, but you don't seem to enjoy it really, do you?
She said she doesn't. Indeed her passion was reading! So at some point she took that decision, gave up her career as a great musician and became an editor! This is also very interesting: what you can naturally do the best does not necessarily have to be your passion. You may want to do something else with your life!
5- Take Maria Popova. She is the founder of the wonderful website Brainpickings. She used to have a steady , well paid job , but this is what she says about her decision to leave it:
“Do I want to bury myself in a corporate job that I’m going to spent 80% of my waking hours at, be miserable, and hope that the money it gives me will make the other 20% of my life better, even though I’m angry and tired and burned out? Or, do I want to do something that makes me happy to wake up to and happy to go to sleep having done and let the financial part figure itself out?"
She is reading and writing all day and bringing wisdom into people's lives through her website and turns out that it became a huge success and she makes her living out of it!
6- There is a very interesting website called " 80.000 Hours" that gives you excellent career advice. It is founded by the youngest philosophy professor in the world: William MacAskill. He teaches at Oxford. ( Not that I think people's academic titles matter. But I like that guy because he sounds like a very modest and generous person . He donates half of his salary every month! )
I have heard him on the Tim Ferriss podcast. When he was asked, how he managed to get there so young, he said that " he just thought long enough" before choosing his career.
He gave an excellent example:
If you want to go out for a dinner tonight, for a dinner that takes let's say 90 Minutes, you would think at least 5 minutes, right?
In one life time we work around 80.000 hours. So, in order to decide what to do with it, we would indeed need to think for about 2 years! On that website, you will find a lot of very valuable career advice. You can also take a quiz etc, to see what fits you better. They give you a lot of tools ob " how to think clearly" on the subject.
7. I loved the " Getting unstuck" episode by the Hidden Brain podcast. If you think that you have tried it all and still don't know what to do, it will offer you valuable insights and new ways of thinking.
8. Don't miss the podcast " Good Life Project", with Ken Robinson as guest. You may know him from his TED Talks. He is on a wonderful mission, helping people from all around the world to lead more meaningful and fulfilling lives.
9. I am addicted to a podcast called " On Being with Krista Tippet". She is one of the best interviewers in the world. The episode " Choosing Curiosity Over Fear" is exactly on this subject.
It can be very discouraging to hear an advice that only says " find your passion." Because most of us, except a few fortunate ones, don't know it for years and such an advice may make us feel very lonely and clueless. But on this podcast they recommend us to follow our curiosity instead. It makes it all much easier.
10. Of course it is not easy to take that step to change your career. But if it is a " meaningful" step for us, we must definitely go for it. Only then, we can have a fulfilled life.
That's why I think this is the most " motivating and encouraging" quote of all times:
"He who has a why to live can bear almost any how."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Lua Veli wow what a great list! Thank you
Hello there Ron! I was wondering if anybody would ever read all this :- )
Thanks a lot for your time . I wish you a nice week.
Lua, thank you so much for your profoundly, thoughtful, helpful, and well organized suggestions. Your kind hearted, detailed, and generous recommendations are much appreciated.
Lua Veli thank you so much for writing this out. I want to save this comment.
Whoa you again! I always appreciate the effort you put into your comments whenever I see you here at the School of Life, and I'm sure many others do too! Thanks a bunch!!!
Afraid of dying, that’s our problem. We’ll conform to anything to keep the ego at the center of being.
This isn't so bad for me whilst i'm studying and trying to get my youtube channel going. Still I remember the feeling and this is my last year. I hope I can get my youtube channel going consistently
wow ive been having this feeling every time i got off work, not only on sundays. thank you for explaining it in such detail, great job
Well to me sundays are long and relaxing, a day to enjoy family.
Thank you The School of Life, I’d be quite lost without your videos! 🙌🏻❤️
In other words, Sunday evening feelings are alarms and not just anxieties . And after this video, every body will be scared of Sundays.
On Sunday evenings I feel relaxed
Interesting video. I’m 22 and when I was younger, Sunday evenings were very calming and relaxing. I would wake up, have breakfast, go to church, go to Asda with my family to do shopping for family dinner. My parents would make the food, while I went to my bedroom to watch the simpsons on channel 4. Food would be cooked. I would then go upstairs and watch a film on either channel 4, 5 or itv and feel very relaxed. Knowing that the next day, I would have to wake up early for school. There is something calming about Sunday evenings. I guess I didn’t really like school as much. Only a few friends were worth seeing, especially this girl I had a crush on. But apart from that, I never really looked forward to school. Now that I’m in uni doing a course I like, I don’t really get that Sunday evening feel anymore. I guess it’s a good thing because I know what I want to do with my life, but I kinda miss that relaxing feeling.
This is the most beautiful video throughout the channel. Our unconsciousness knows that you've made a wrong choice that you can not live with. It tortures you until you go mad. Because only at the mad state a man can throw away the past and truly transform himself.
Profoundly important and useful. Thank you!
Same in school. My solution is I usually skipped class most of mondays to compensate to so called Sunday evening dilemma
Sunday evening at around 7pm are the worst :(
Cody that's true
I don't have this problem, I'm really thankful for that.
Amazing.
Still accurate 5 years later
This ... was eye opening! I don’t work a 9-5 job but when I did I absolutely had this “syndrome”. I think this hits the nail on the head, never thought about it like this before!
I'm thinking the same thing. I hate Sundays, it feels like we're on transition to school and work.
It was uploaded on my 20th birthday, which is actually Sunday! Sour luck.
Haha, that's exactly what I do with my Sunday Blues. Watch an artsy fartsy (mostly depressing) movies with a drink and a friend. Really nice way to end the week imo.
the underlying problem is a society where everyone lives through work...find other motivators in life and work will not matter
Jack Tripper lol 40+ hours per week matters
I like how specific this video is.
I hate Sundays, they make me feel like I can’t be sad or happy. Its the worst feeling ever.
This one was too real😳
I've had Sunday blues since I was a kid and dreaded going back to school knowing I was going to struggle in both class and in my social life. The feeling went away in college as the tradional m-f schedule went away. It returned when I worked a dreadful m-f job. Now I'm older and have a child in elementary school and I get a little down knowing she goes through the same thing.
"Every day is like Sunday." ~Morrissey
A thought induced sensation
i have a job that i love and that i look forward to on monday mornings- but i STILL get that melancholy feeling on sunday evenings. as much as i love my job, sunday evenings also mean you lose the ability to shape your time however you like, and that's a bit of a bummer.
4-day work week for all!
I feel alive only in weekend. In weekdays I'm just a robot who keep repeating the same thing again and again
Same 😢
I used to feel that every sunday night before school, now i just feel it every day
In the end, it was the Sunday afternoons he couldn't cope with, and that terrible listlessness that starts to set in about 2.55, when you know you've taken all the baths you can usefully take that day, that however hard you stare at any given paragraph in the newspaper you will never actually read it, or use the revolutionary new pruning technique it describes, and that as you stare at the clock the hands will move relentlessly on to four o'clock, and you will enter the long dark tea-time of the soul. ~ DNA
This video explanation is at the intersection of intelligent, insightful and depressing. I guess if work were supposed to be enjoyable, it would be called fun... Or play. I think most people don't have the ideal job. That's what gets me through. We're all in this together.
You make some really interesting points here. The idea that we a greater feeling of engagement, and applying our best resources to the line of work we do will help with that Sunday evening feeling is clearly massively impactful! Work takes up a huge amount of our lives, and so our working selves can really be influenced by a mutilated of factors. I also loved what you said about what work has now become. Its become a status symbol and a means of 'living the dream' (which i dont really beelive is acurate), as opposed to what it used to be, a means of staying alive. Great video!
I've never been able to really shake the Sunday Evening Feeling, even as a kid I'd dread school the next day, especially after Summer break or extended holidays, the thought of returning on a Monday morning was a horrible feeling. You're effectively leaving your comfort zone to go and do something which you have to do, but really don't want to have to do. It's the same now as an adult for me, despite running my own business and actually quite enjoying my job. The early get ups, the long drive into work...especially in Winter when the mornings are dark and the evenings are darker. When I'm at work and I'm in full swing...the feeling is gone and I can get quite into my work, sometimes even wishing there was extra time in a working week to get things done. Yet two days of being "switched off" is more than enough to bring on that sense of dread, anxiety, stress and worry on a Sunday evening. Even though I know that I'm worried about absolutely nothing. A full week of work just feels daunting, even when it isn't. It kicks in for me even earlier really. I only ever consider Friday evening and Saturday to be 'time off'. When Sunday comes round, it flies by due to the 'back to work tomorrow' reminder constantly going off in my head. The only way I've found it easier to manage is to be as organised as possible on Friday and prepare for the Monday as much as you possibly can in advance...so when you arrive at work, you're as organised as you can be. Also, using one hour after work on Friday to prepare for Monday morning. Preparing your clothes, your work bag, your diary...whatever it might be. Having everything ready so that you're able to enjoy the weekend as much as possible and literally just walk out the door in the morning, can help. I do think, though, that if you have a sense of dread before work in general and can't stand going into work every morning, that this might be a sign telling you that you're in the wrong job. The Sunday night feeling is normal, but dreading work every night before work, is another matter.
I totally agree with this video...
Brilliant, insightful, a must-watch.
I really enjoyed this. Very interesting idea