How the Modern World Makes Us Mentally Ill
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- Опубликовано: 19 май 2024
- It's easy to blame ourselves for not feeling 100% in our minds, but some of the causes of mental unwellness have to do with large systemic problems in our societies, among these, an emphasis on individualism, a manic faith in Romantic love and a cult of meritocracy.
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Moses Bushido I agree very much with having psychology as a required subject at school, because so people could learn how to live happier, they could recognize if they are mentally ill and seek out help in an appropriate span of time and they would build a comprehension of others and toxic relationships.
Moses Bushido agree
The School of Life I agree with much was presented in the video.
At the heart should be compassion. We should recognize that we all share a common humanity. Turn away from consumerism towards developing contenment and inner peace. Re-establish the idea of the common good for society over greed. We need a new philosophy or set of stories to help us live, connect, and make sense of our 21st century.
move on into the Future
No wonder so many of us feel depressed, anxious and suicidal. We never feel like we're good enough.
Ironically the reason we don't receive good feedback, care and love anymore is because the people we work and cohabite with are also so poorly that they cannot derive love and appreciation for you. Actually it's less about you and more about the illness of society.
John Buffalo I am 97 and getting grumpier at each passing minute...
I think the news is the most depressing show on TV.
The trolls are really at the bottom of the pit. Dragging down everything. Get your shit together dude
I feel I'm good enough but I'm still anxious and depressed. The world is sinking, we're being ruled by terrible old people, it's near impossible to date because everyone is so neurotic and people my age will never experience retirement. There are sadly plenty of reasons for mental health issues without self loathing😑
Life has gotten so much better for me since I stopped watching the news and left social media. I feel healthier, happier and have a great relationship now. In some ways the old ways are still best
Yes, it's like they produce a mental web to take hold of usm
How do you educate yourself into being comfortable speaking with people since I've stopped smoking weed everything just seems harder or maybe it's that reality has hit me and I'm struggling too adapt
News isn't necessarily bad. It's the type of news you get. I'm assuming you cut off the biased corrupt news.
How do you earn your living without social media and keeping up with media? I'm curious to know
@Camilo Henríquez Hey Camilo! I'm from Chile too and I completely agree with you.
I'm slowly realizing that I'm happy to be average. I don't want fame, money or power (in fact, I'm quite afraid of fame for some reason since childhood LOL). One thing I truly crave for and want is the right kind of people - to talk, to laugh, to enjoy, to love.
Same here man .itz liberating feeling
The moment you realized that you are not average you have awaken...one step at a time....
Me too💛
You really just pulled a live laugh love meme
I would like to hear your perspective on fame and why it makes you afraid. I have a weird relationship with the idea - love my personal space and privacy, but I feel that I definitely buy into the "instagram life" and the glow around film/music stars, no matter how much I understand the illusions of it rationally.
I remember when the "Lord of the Rings" movies first came out twenty years ago, nearly everyone I talked to commented that they would love to live in the Shire, and it's not hard to see why. Life in the Shire is so quiet, peaceful, and close to nature. As Bilbo Baggins observed, "It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life."
There was also meaningful purpose in the shire, farming, fishing, family etc etc
You worked the fields and rivers in nature to provide food for a close knit community, it gave a sense of purpose
And The intensive speed of life now,it’s like everything is on a ticking clock,if you are not fast enough you will be left behind
All of them are just racing to the grave.
Purple Nomad pure evil is real
Pixie lite seriously thats I always laugh at. Where are these people rushing to? Were all gonna die. Mind you, I have been these people 🤣
Yes.
It doesn’t help when you have competitive friendships. It swallows you into a hole. I always questioned; why am I accomplishing less than them within the same time frame? Why do they never fail to succeed? I must be unworthy, unsuccessful, not talented. A friend who can admit their failures as well as their successes, is one you should aim for.
To be mad in a deranged world is not Madness, its sanity.
what abt angry?
Shut up about it- Alyssa
Lol I just watched that show
Right then, I’m perfectly sane - thanks for that.
seriously
The modern world mentally disturbs you with how much everything costs
I agree and the cost of things is what defines your life ...
Food is very low-cost compared to the past.
@@pavelthefabulous5675 I agree to a certain extent but in my country if you compare the past to now , its completely different. There is way more expenses than in the past . Food is so expensive now especially water ,lights ,rent ,and other stuff .
It doesnt if you apply yourself and actually work hard. Then everityhing costs normal... cause you have more money than the bottom feeders who are the average.
@@86Corvus hardwork is overrated. It is more about working smart and playing to your strengths. Yes, perseverance is important.
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" - Jiddu Krishnamurti
Nature is the Cure for all our problems
The happiest time of my life was when i was spending it in Nature
The actress...you know Nature Yamashita?!
Facts
It's because you reconnect with your natural essence, in which the artificial drains from you every day.
Lazarus blackwell I agree with you . Nowadays in my country ppl are killing the environment, polluting everything and now they prefer tar and cement than a beautiful garden ... they even kill trees just because they want to ...
@@twilightsparkle3073 Thanks.I dont think that technology will solve all of our separation problems.Technology costs a lot of money and you can only get money these days if you live a natural life.Nature is our only choice if we want to move ahead as a species.
Basically the problem is too high expectations.
That's capitalism for you
Evija3000 i very agree with you x
Indeed. The pulpit that preaches 'you can be anything you want to be' is a total myth. Buy this buy that, go here go there are real pit falls leading to disillusionment. The failure to differentiate between wants and needs certainly does not help
Kids in school are told you can be anything you want. That's a huge part of the problem.
"Expectation is the root of all suffering"
This is exactly what I've realised myself over the course of my life. It stopped it all years ago and instead starting pursuing happiness instead. So, from being at University and being deeply unhappy with it all, having a spiritual awakening through a nervous breakdown I went on to pursue work in gardening or horticulture. And I'm far happier!
Hi . I'm interested in nature from a very young age . But I dont know what qualification or course to do in nature .. can you give me some advice ?
@@twilightsparkle3073 bro what you did to get a job like that?
@@Hello-mr9ln hi . I dont have a job as yet . Still figuring myself out .
That’s awesome!
@@twilightsparkle3073 Sorry for the very late reply! I live in Northern Ireland which is part of the UK and I started volunteering with a nation wide conservation charity. They put me through simple courses like an NVQ Level 2 in Work Based Horticulture, Chainsaw license, Strimmer/ Brushcutter certificate, First Aid license and a Health & Safety at Work certificate. I now work for the local council on a caravan site looking after the grounds. I don't know where you live or what the equivalent qualifications would be unfortunately.
As person of a third world country I can confirm this. Living in a first world now.
The western world and the other modernized countries are actually very depressing.
Yep. They're downright disgusting. And it's foolish that they think they're so high and mighty.
Sadly I live here too TToTT
@@afreen5058 You love (are jealous of) the West's inventions/materialisms/medicine yet you pillage it's culture/heritage in hopes to turn it into what you fled. #weaponisedmigration
Same here. Being in the west is good for making money and many things are convenient. Other than that, it is a pretty miserable place. To be clear, I am not knocking down western progress and achievements. It's just that, these come with a price. Your mental and physical health. In the west, everything and everyone is about money. Very good if money is all you live for. However, you will see very few genuine smiles.
@@SL-nv6zv no i have no hate for west, but it’s researched fact that people here are deprived of meaning to life.
Western societies have pros and cons as any other society in the world so I am gonna list them here based on my observations:
Pros:
+most (if not all) Western societies give equal rights to you no matter your gender, your race, or your religion/belief.
+Western societies are known to be developed in all types of industries (you have Germany speciality in Heavy Machinery for example).
+Western societies are known to have a huge amount of wealth.
+Western societies are the world's leaders in innovation.
Cons:
-Western societies tend to have a materiallistic mentality.
-despite having a huge wealth and prosperous life, their suicide rates are high compared to 3rd world societies (this made me confused).
-in countries like the USA/Canada, life is getting hard there, the high inflation, and housing problem there is on rise (dunno why and dunno if it's true but I heard a lot of americans whining about the housing problem).
-Some western countries don't give full rights to its citizens (or they descriminate in other words). You got Poland/Hungary and their problem with LGBT, France and its problems with Muslims. (France is kinda understandable tho. Becuz it suffered many terrorist attacks there so...)
-Morals and mentalities in the west are going downhill.
If there are mistakes or want to add to the list. Pls do. And sorry for my broken english.
This is weird...my girlfriend and I were having a conversation about her not ever having money for extravagant things. I was telling her that society has programmed us into thinking that we absolutely NEED excess to be happy. That if you can't get something NOW NOW NOW, you're a failure. I told her how our thinking is screwed up in that we complain about not being able to do that thing or go to that place because we had to pay a bill. The modern society needs to quit with the division.
Sounds like she wasn't interested in that explanation LMAO
Yeah well now the economy is built on selling excess so where do we go from here? As an individual you can un-program yourself and chill but as a society I think there's too much momentum and a real catastrophe would have to happen before we can get real. Such as a generation of post WW3 food rationing under an irradiated sky, to be specific... Then we can start the cycle again
Yep suck it up, say fuck if you have to and play the dumb bill,
Sucks to think about but life isn’t always fun
lol of course walkdeep, it would undermine her once a man sees there's more to life than just sex. I just look for honest, consistent relationships nowadays. 3:34 sexual love can be a good thing if the person is responsible and doesn't force you to overextend. But it isn't a prerequisite for happiness, nor is it linear/focused on one person.
Yeah dude, I've realized this myself but, it's hard to go against the grain when the world and people around you are pushing you towards forms of consumption and thinking you are trying to reject. I hope you got to show her this video.
"Perfection is a myth. Be glad that you exist." -Professor Elemental
It is
A person of good taste!
@@nejdalej indeed
So is existence
Well sorry, but this is completely in factual. Simply just EXISTING doesn't mean SHIT. Actually feeling like your existence is worth something and feeling spiritually and mentally alive means a lot more
Many people in America experience a high level of anxiety due to financial insecurity. Homelessness is now a major problem in many American cities. I don't have the answer but something must be done to deal with severe financial insecurity in our country.
Absolutely, to add to what your saying I think a start is de monopolizing health care and shelter + basic nessesitys
The core issue is we’ve built a society around distrust. Distrust of each other, organizations, teams, institutions, tribes, countries, races, and governments. This leads to an immense amount of neuroses. The solution is restoring trust at a global scale otherwise we will destroy each other and the planet.
Pros and cons on both sides that you haven't addressed.
Blockchain will restore trust
Capitalism is build on trust, what is distrust is asuming someone doesnt deserve their success because surely he stole it. No honey, he is just better than you. Infact hes likely 20 times better than you, you have no idea how hard hard workers work and how much more productive a productive person is compared to a sit arround lazy do nothing average scumbag who seeks validation because deep down he knows he is parasitic and producess less value in goods and services than he consumes...
That's nice and kumbaya and all that, but it's a child's "Lennonist" view of the world. A couple of million years of evolution have not set us up for that. We need to recognise in-group preferences and work with them, not pretend we are somehow perfectible according to a nice sounding but impossible to reach abstract - especially one based on the anaemic, secular, quasi-religious idea of universal human rights. If we were perfectible, Christianity and certainly the much older Buddhism would have achieved it by now.
InventorZahran 🙄Grow up.
I can relate to this after years of battling with depression. Yes, success is good but my mental health is more important for me. I'd rather be ordinary in the eyes of the world to continue wanting to be alive.
Hannah Ja Success is to have peace of mind. You are successful.
Good for you, Hannah. Depression is terrible. Hopefully you are doing well.
Amen!
Amen - I'm in my mid 70s and have had to assess the mental constructs leading to my depression also. Those constructs were pretty much hammered into us by a fearful society and needing controls. This video spots most of this head on, a good thing to ponder while one is trying to sort out their misdirection.
No, you’re unique and there will never be another you so celebrate that. Ordinary is boring. Don’t look for acceptance, if some don’t like you that’s their issue, not yours. Be true to yourself.
The modern world moves very quickly. It can be exhausting. I'm so grateful for these videos acknowledging this
The “modern world” is a human made concept. It can be changed at anytime if we like.
Me too!
When myths of utopian illusions collides with dystopia of reality 👉 @@swargpatel7634👈
"Meritocracy" and "Individualism", and the lies associated with them, are the best reasons.
I was actually thinking about this earlier today as I noticed people acting like sociopaths while driving, always in competition to get in front of each other. We're taught that if we try hard enough, we can get ahead. Yet we work super hard and still miss out on opportunities to other people because opportunities are limited. After a while, we become so heavily conditioned to compete with each other that it seeps into virtually all aspects of life.
We're lied to, and we're told that if we do everything right, we will be rewarded. We may want to believe it, but deep down, most of us know it's a lie. We can feel it. We've experienced it. We know that life actually works differently that the lie makes it out to be.
Individualism is of course tied into that, because only one person can fill one job, and if someone else gets it, you don't. Even if you've done everything right, if someone else also has done everything right, you could lose for no reason other than there was only one job to fill. Just like in driving, someone has to be ahead of the other. If someone's ego feels dissatisfied by being behind another car, fr whatever reason, that could trigger them to act aggressively, speed ahead of them, etc.
And that speeding ahead, it rarely gets them to their destination sooner, yeah? It's not a practical decision to cut down on drive time. It's a psychological disposition about wanting to get ahead of other people, wanting to gain at other people's expense. Let's face it, in the age of modern capitalism, life is all about gaining at other people's expense, isn't it?
Look into islam
Most of the time, you do get reward if you work hard and do things right. But getting reward does not necessarily mean getting ahead of other people. Say for example if you take up a part time job at 7-11, you do earn extra money, though the extra money does not make you a rich person.
"Wanting to gain at other people's expense" so true. This is a pillar of capitalism and modern society. Having enough is not enough anymore. We all want so much but so many things are only available in a finite amount. Even your driving example, only a finite amount of time is allotted to each of us, but some people believe their time is more valuable than others. And I think with our ever growing greed, everyone understands there's not enough to go around. So we viciously compete with each other, often at the expense of others and/or our own time, sleep, relationships, finances, and happiness to accrue or achieve some level of aspirational material wealth. But then what? I think capitalism indoctrines us to always want more, to make us feel like we're missing out or lacking in some way if we're not constantly aspiring towards something greater. Life is strange these days. There's an artifice and emptiness to the way we live our lives, and it's a cultural disease we're all suffering from. Life has to be about more than just getting ahead or keeping up with everyone else. I hope I'm able to break free from these dysfunctional tenets and find true happiness in my lifetime.
You don't have to do everything right. You just need balance :)
Deep stuff ...
Everything feels lost in modern society. Everything feels like it's just going without know where it's going. It's just going.
Hamsters on the hamster's wheel.
That's the nature of the universe. Ultimately nothing has any point at all. We don't know why anything exists.
Journey from Nothing To Nothing....
We should demolish the educational system we have now which is based on a person’s memory and obsession with getting a good grade, regardless if they understand what they’re being taught or not.
What we have now is not ‘education’. Education should not be fear driven, most students aren’t excited or enthused about learning and often only work hard out of fear of upsetting their parents or not getting a job.
Education should show people how exciting and rewarding it can be to learn and understand the world we live in, as well as understanding ourselves as individuals. I believe that with less fear and anxiety being instilled in young people, and with the replacement of awareness and understanding, the world will become a much less hostile place.
KafkaDecaf
I think students need to be taught critical thinking skills (e.g. logical fallacies)
Daniel Winterfeld I agree, they should also learn how to argue their opinion instead of leaving vapid bullshit comments.
They are. However, not everyone does well in school. Learning how to support a claim with evidence is an important topic in English classes. It seems like Daniel Winterfield either wanted to keep his comment quick or forgot about this lesson.
call Elon Musk to the rescue! He made a special school for his kids lol
I am young right now , but I decided to dedicate my life to a trial of shaping a new system , that isn't just for some lucky people who get into that specific , new age school that promotes so many good things , but rather for everyone attending a school . Maybe the next generations will improve the ideas and in few decades , there will be a change
I'm turning 36 next month. I'm unemployed. The dreams I had nearly 20 years ago are now just a memory. I'm single and living alone on money that's quickly running out. As a result of my circumstances and the unrealistic pressures/ expectations from society I suffer from chronic depression and anxiety and feel very bad/guilty about myself.
I hope positive changes have taken place since
How you doin now?
Hey!! Hope you are feeling better. Have a beautiful day ahead 🎉
0:34 Meritocracy
1:34 Individualism
2:10 Secularism
2:54 Romanticism
3:35 The Media
4:25 Perfectability
Bigotry is the key ingredient in terms of American decay, perpetually devolving & rotting from inside
👍
Thank you
so basically the cure is for the individual to change society! WOW SOUNDS SO EASY!
I love how this channel doesn't make me feel stupid for not knowing these things. It's rather educational and inspirational ;)
thats because it tells you what you want to hear
There's so much wrong in this world, but can we all just take a minute to appreciate this comment section. Seriously, I've never seen such respecting, constructive and "intelligent" discussions on RUclips!
Yeah, now that you mention it, you're right. This is a good comment section.
Yes I definetely agree, mankind is waking up
There IS reason to hope. 💕
Snoop Dogg sucks
What, respecting? Do you mean me? Surely not!!
Nailed it on the head. I have been saying this for years now. This system is the death of humanity. We no longer have a sense of community. Only a life built around a job that is pointless. None of my friends go fishing. They just get drunk and work and do nothing natural.
good grief!that's awful!
Downslide in America began in the 70s (war on drugs) in protest to civil rights movements & Reaganomics in the 80s
If you fish and your friends don't, who gives a f*ck?! Cannot imagine anything more boring than fishing. . .
Fishing is very therapeutic and actually good for the mind, don't knock it till you try it
Yo. I'll go fishing with you!
We all have anxiety and depression
The worst of all is that people are so scared they refuse to change
They are scared losing that little comfort that they have and give the unknown a chance
Anxiety makes us sick
A group of men sat at a table in a safe house telling their story. A safe house transitions people from street life back into society.
One man said his mother died, the next it was a child, the next lost a brother and I cannot remember the other but it was some sort of loss as well. My ex told me to get over it when I lost 4 people close in my life. No time to cry just keep going.
Then came panic attacks depression and anxiety.
I’m quitting my job and gonna drop out of the rat race. It’s killing me..
We just jumped off the figurative bus. They don't call it the rat race because we're tiny mammals! The more you let go of the more free you are. You don't need a huge house and a fancy car to be happy!
Joseph Bratcher then where will you live? What are you going to do with your life? How are you going to live your life? How you going to get around? Where will you go?
@@AlonzoMarquisGraychipmonk dole
Update?
@@AlonzoMarquisGraychipmonk Obviously she's thought of this lol. Don't let "scary" questions stop you from making important changes in your life. If you're worried, you're living in fear.
Meritocracy is one of the biggest lies of modern life. When you drill down to a lot of successful people, they either had supportive, well connected or rich parents (Donald Trump, Richard Branson, George Clooney), a lot of luck and where in the right place at the right time. (Bill Gates and Steve Jobs). Most of the tech billionaires were born on the West Coast of America and were born in the 50s and 60s and were in their twenties during the 70s and 80s when the tech curve first hit. This boom was centred in California. So if you were born in the 1990s in El Salvador the chances of you being a tech billionaire is very low
Wise and true words.
What about spinaltap?? They made it
Sounds like ideas from the book "Outliers"
But true yeah
Capitalism has reduced ancient global poverty to 8%. Youre a loser.
It is a way to convince many hardworking workers to enrich the elites. :)
I once had a dream so vividly. I saw myself as a player in those Mario cart racing game, and when I was racing, I felt overwhelmingly anxious and afraid of losing to other players. Then when I crashed the finish line, the race started again, and I thought "wtf was that all about?" that is when I woke up. Strange dream haha.
"Talent and intelligence never beated anyone against the caprice of fates " ~ J.K. Rowling
Take lots of breaks away from technology and get deeply acquainted with Nature to combat this.
Number one thing is: never compare yourself to another you see on social media. Everyone has their own spiritual journey and pace of life.
Someone told me that everyone tends to post their "highlight reel" online but we rarely get a "behind the scenes" look at the struggles they face off screen. So we shouldn't compare our "behind the scenes" to anyone's "highlight reel" (or vice-versa) because everybody is human.
Just wanted to add that many people on social media only show their good sides as well. People tend to make themselves look more successful and happier to the public. So if you are comparing yourself to this ideal you will feel like you failed even though you didn't.
PS I love your name. Elves are my of favorite fictional creatures.
*have you heard of the high elves*
Never compare yourself, period. You are a unique individual, and nobody can say what your future will hold. You get to decide that (as long as you're not harming anyone, and try to be environmentally friendly whenever possible).
You shouldn't compare yourself with something fake like a person on social media.
Society always looks at the ones who succeed, and not at the millions who failed while trying to succeed.
We always hear, drop out of college, start a business, make money faster, Bill Gates dropped out, Mark Zukerberg dropped out, a lot of millionaires and billionaires dropped out,
when the other side of the story is never told, there are way more drop outs who failed and some even became homeless instead of a rich successful person.
Know this, for each person who succeeded, there are thousands and thousands who failed while doing the same thing.
Success is not all about talent and dedication, there is a bit of luck that gets you to that level.
And the unfortunate truth is, most of us do not have that level of luck, that is why the 10% of the richest individuals have just as much money as the rest of 90% of the world population.
Real talk bro. Totally agree. Only close minded people agree that being a loser is the way to success. They forget the hard working ethos, the talent, the right connections to get to the position, the right time and place to leap which is luck that is also needed to be successful. Most people only got one of those and what're some of them stuck with... Low wage jobs with long hours, and disrespect from friends and family alike.
The logic used by OP is quite realistic, yet most of us never think about it this way, and I'd like to provide a reason (according to my anecdotal knowledge) why we never think about it in the same manner: to avoid facing our own existential thoughts that make our existence feel dreadful enough to make us go insane. We prefer to DO/CHASE anything that helps us avoid the futility & sheer meaninglessness of our tiny existence on an average planet orbiting an average star a part of a small system apart of a galaxy that is among hundreds in the local group, which itself is a part of a supercluster, among thousands such; a part of an observable universe encompassing a diameter of 93 billion light years. Our existence means nothing in the grand scheme of things, and we'd latch on to anything that will provide meaning. (Absurdism)
I didnt drop out, i started a business, i make money way above the average earning in my age bracket. And i would earn more if i did drop out. The issue is that you wanna have a job, but you dont want to work.
society is build to look atfer everyone, but it not doing its job
This is called survivorship bias 😎
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted in a sick society”
Blame the society! im 10 and this is deep!
I urge everyone watching this presentation to get their hands on a copy of Kurosawa's "Dreams" (Japanese title: "Yume") ASAP. It is an anthology of connected tales, and you can skip to the last segment if you wish, although watching the entire film will really bring home the message of the film. I promise that you will not regret the effort required.
Even if one can transcend, they still have to deal with everybody else that can’t.
Jason Gastrich sounds like me today and the other 300 days 😂😂😂
Just rest easy knowing you have a living soul try die with it intact and you'll live forever the rest are just there to be consumed by the world that created them to be recycled back into the machine don't take them too seriously there empty usually refectling our own negatives back at us without realising it work on your negative aspects and the empty people around you will change their tune and think they are happy not knowing someone's radiating that into them, I do a lot of LSD
Beautifully said
Lucid Sky Diamond share
Marcus Aurelius addresses this in Meditations. Worth a read.
The modern world is riddled with insane rules and norms. Any rational observer aught to be incensed.
What terrifies me most is the loss of creativity. Creativity is vital to the individual and the group. Without it, we can never imagine something better. If I could change one thing, I would re-ignite in people that spark. It gives us language, ideals, an appreciation for beauty, and a path to transcendence. With the death of creativity we've lost all hope.
@05candyman true. i can create music whenever i have hope and joy in life. when it's squeezed out of me through pain, injury, debt and loss my creativity suffers.
I was never indoctrinated into the world enough to lose my spark of creative joy and all that. I have written 19 notebooks of songs, and the negative doom and gloom turds cant change me into being the typical hateful alone society robot.
@Wake Up! not really
I absolutely adore art and creative people, but ironically the only time it comes out of me is when I'm in extreme states of mental anguish. So I choose to live my life in relative happiness and appreciate art and creativity from afar.
Willem Almost everyone was creative as a child, but when our brains developed into this brainwashed and corrupt system we live in most of us lost our creativity. Our individual gift that symbolizes our personality.
I particularly like the point of incorporating a kind of spirituality and transcendence into our society without falling into the trap of religious dogma. I think that could be one of the next big mental milestones in our social evolution towards a more peaceful and just world.
It is amazing how all of these are the good points as long as you have a positive attitude:
•meritocracy allows you to feel accomplished when you achieve something
•individualism allows you to have your own opinion and appreciate other’s
•secularism allows you to not be bound to a fixed set of rules
•romanticism allows you to find beauty in everyday tasks
•the media tries to brainwash you, once you understand it, you can enjoy seeing what they want you to do
•perfectability allows to work towards a goal, as long as it is not an obsession, it is what makes you improve
Our issues all come down to a society that perpetuates a lack of love for mankind in general (one of our greatest weaknesses is the desire to judge ourselves and others, however, we’ve been trained to accept judgemental behavior without question from day one) along with a total loss of balancing and valuing the things that we should value most. The society we were unfortunately born into pits us against one another from the start in school, often not encouraging us to help others who aren’t doing well but to be proud that we’ve “achieved” more than those around us have and setting that as our standard for doing well in life. Celebrities and internet stars are a perfect example of people being valued and glorified over others for no reason other than vanity and setting lavish living standards. Have they contributed more to our species than our greatest philosophers and scientists? Rarely. Will they be forgotten before our greatest philosophers and scientists? Absolutely. From birth, your greatest right is your freedom to simply be human. To enjoy this life. All of our loved ones have that right. This is why so many people of all ages become rebellious, develop anxiety, depression, and are outcasted or disinterested in contributing to this society. Those people can sense in their souls that they have a right to a better life. Not a life of struggling at a job you hate to make ends meet so that you can simply “survive” and continue being a prisoner/slave to this structure. The truth is that we aren’t pawns and we don’t deserve to be treated this way. Businesses have structured complex ways of convincing us all that they can bottle and sell our freedom and joy to us through entertainment, social status, and an abundance of the things that we don’t need or truly want but have been trained to desire in order to fulfill the void that they created. They’ve monopolized all structures that were built to protect us: government, medicine, law enforcement, etc. You already have access to everything that you need and they’re terrified of the day when we all figure that. Loving ourselves and others through unselfishness, respect, spirituality, speaking out against injustice, creating all forms of art, dropping judgements, etc. is the essential key for human freedom and would lead to an achievement so great that it would free not only us but everything that lives here with us. Plants, animals, this earth, and future generations can be freed by actions that we make daily. It’s our burden as humans to fight against injustice and greed but it’s a battle that can be won easily if we can learn to truly stand united. We’d make so much more progress in the right direction as a species if people would perpetuate these ideas. We’d finally be mentally capable of structuring systems that evolve with us rather than relying on outdated... everything. Life is hard and at many times horrifying, but each of us has the key to make progressive change. Do everything with love. Love yourself truly. Discover what that really means for you. Don’t hide from yourself or seek value from others. We are all human and we will all continue making mistakes. Accepting that and moving forward by growing and learning is an underrated power that we all have. Question the world around you and teach others to do the same. I have faith in humanity and I’ve found that through loving ourselves, we can change the world and end a lot of this unnecessary suffering.
if i could like your comment millions of times i would.... especially this part: "All of our loved ones have that right. This is why so many people of all ages become rebellious, develop anxiety, depression, and are outcasted or disinterested in contributing to this society. Those people can sense in their souls that they have a right to a better life. Not a life of struggling at a job you hate to make ends meet so that you can simply “survive” and continue being a prisoner/slave to this structure." THANK YOU. i'm one of them.
Well said, Crystal. I especially like the last few lines.
"Each of us has the key to make progressive change....Question the world around you and teach others to do the same...." Lots of deep things
So right about all of that, especially how we judge people wrong. They say "we judge ourselves by our intentions, and others by their actions" which could hardly be more true in this day & age.
Beautifully-put treatise thru & thru
I agree, all this is indoctrinated from a young age to take this artificial lifestyle as a norm without questioning. If only our educational system is teaching philosophy, we would not end up in this situation.
I would gladly read every book you'll ever write.
You know what really sucks for me, and I'm guessing a lot of other people, is if you're aware of all of this you still need to act according to it in order to advance in society. Was it Robert Green's 36th or 38th (doesn't matter) law of power that says: Think as you like but behave like others. It's very much true
I feel the same way honestly.
I also feel like an hypocrite sometimes because even though I’m fully aware of this I still have to conform
Suffering from the same thing by having to go through an archaic education system.
What do you mean with advance?
survive in other words
(You'll have to excuse my English, this is long btw and the numbers are pure estimates)
TLDR: it's how you survive
Basically it has to do with human nature/tendencies to try our hardest to fit in and to alienate (and sometimes do worse things) anyone who disagrees with the group.
In this case the group is like ~90% of society. And those ~90% of society thinks that all the problems talked about in the video aren't problems at all in fact they probably aren't even aware of it, and if you try to go against them or try to convince them otherwise, well....try, and see what happens.
So unfortunately you have to semi-conform or "think as you like but behave like others (in this case society)" in order to really move up in the world, because if you think as you like and behave as you like the group will alienate you. I imagine some of you had this kind of experience at least once in your life, probably in school.
PS. Robert Greens book "the 48 laws of power" tells (in much greater detail) of ways to achieve success in the current world, it doesn't say how to change it or anything, it's just like "here's how stuff works, it's messed up but it's the truth in today's world"
I just want to tell you that your channel is amazing. The animation is amazing, your words and explanations are on point. Really good work man. It is interesting and 100% veridical!
This is insightful. Thank you.
I am sad for all of us who don't cherish their lives. Who do not rejoice every morning. I'm poor and I am so happy in my life but I'm increasingly bummed out over what my neighbours in my town, region and planet have to go through.
It's my general theory that we need to build down. Systematically disabuse ourselves of all the excess. I started with eggs. I decided I couldn't eat an egg unless it was free range farmed. It cost an extra dollar. Happy about that.
I moved on to coffee. So many broken coffee machines in the landfill. No machines. Coffee, boiling water, grounds in my cup. That's my favourite way to drink coffee now. I wash my clothes by hand. Et cetera. Free yourself. Free up space by turning away from unsustainable over processed systems. I believe that people need time to relax in more than they need things surrounding them.
My time rich life is what I would wish for others.
I’m empty. I feel the fear of missing out and the obsession of being seen is what holds is to this idea that we haven’t done enough in our own level.
None of us has done enough so join the club. We're all just people muddling along.
You’re certainly not alone in it.We’re programmed as a species through evolution for the endless chase. Best to counter it with mindfulness practices and create a higher order thinking process that overrides the natural drive.
Strangely enough, the big "setbacks" in my life (cancer, broken ankles, bipolar disorder, non - employability, etc.) drove me to think about what was important in my life. And that boiled down to 2 things: my friends and family, and self - care.
I already had education up to and including a graduate degree, and yet my schooling did not garner me a career. I never was able to break into my chosen field, no matter how much education I had.
Make no mistake: I got high grades, was on the Dean's list and President's list for much of my schooling, and in my Graduate Record Examinations to enter graduate school, my scores were high in both verbal and mathematical sections. My sister who worked in the Department of Education at the time told me nobody does that; they are either high - scoring in one section or the other. And yet, none of that got me a career, though I struggled hard to get one, including sending out over a thousand tailored resumes in my efforts.
Along the way I pursued a few other passions, one being writing a book (and then several more), and though that was a great accomplishment, I ultimately found it wasn't the be all and end all (though it was and is fun to do).
I was at my sister's funeral, and my cousin Michael who was a United Methodist minister and would deliver the eulogy asked people their experiences with my sister.
My sister was an accomplished French horn player who was invited to play for the President of the US.
She was a top welder at her company that made barges, and she welded on the Susan Komen barge that was pink with a pink ribbon on it.
She held down four jobs at a time to make ends meet. She taught at a prestigious Southern Indiana high school, directing a 110-piece marching band.
She was a people expert: she easily identified the strengths of people around her, and she consulted us each when she needed our expertise. (I got the chemistry questions.)
She became a very good Communications Specialist in the Army National Guard: a sharpshooter, a humvee driver, and a self-proclaimed "Wire Diva."
But the story that my cousin got that was the consensus was her loving heart and deep - feeling Soul. This was summed up in her penchant for keeping a silky piece of cloth with her as a comfort and lovey, even at school and work. She called it a peebee. And that's what people remembered her for: not her accomplishments, but her deep feelings for people and her peebees.
And so I keep my friends and family as close as possible as well as practice my religion as best as I can. And self-care as well. And these all get me through life.
What a beautiful and insightful comment. Thank you for taking the time to write this.
Thank you for sharing. That was lovely to read.
Best comment ever
This was profoundly touching. Thank you.
Thank you for your touching words and encouraging wisdom. God bless you and your family.
Nowadays greed, lust and selfishness rules everything. I dont wanna play by these rules
these are well articulated factors. but one thing you failed to mention (and one we should talk about more), is our lack of ability to decide for ourselves what is truly meaningful to us - meaningful enough to justify the inevitable suffering that is part of our human condition. yes, it is nice to know that there are all these large-scale societal issues that explain our "background anxiety/sadness", but it is not exactly helpful nor functional; because it doesn't inform us how to move on from them, and it would be naive of us to expect the world to move towards the ideal direction you are describing in the video. as long as we are alive, suffering is inescapable and this is not exclusive or at an heightened level for the 21st century modern man. existentialism is one useful way to look at the perennial issue. perhaps the way is to take personal responsibility, rather than to point fingers at large-scale, abstract structures of thinking, not because they are wrong but because they are not functional. they do not empower the individual, when it is exactly the case where the individual needs to learn how to think for oneself and decide what makes this life worthwhile despite all its chaos. the current state of the world should not be an excuse for a lack of self-determined action. we deserve to treat ourselves better than that, and we are certainly capable of finding the answers on our own.
Humanity is like someone who had too much to drink and is in the process of throwing up to detoxify his body. We are in the throwing up phase. I hope we didn't overdose and we can live to see another day
nah we still drinking i havent seen humanity stop drinking
Arata Senpai literal much?
Great analogy......lets hope we recover soon.
Heather Milnes I hope so too. I also think I'll be a skeleton when it happens too........Lol
Saeed Mobayed maybe we'll get another liver
In school, people are afraid to be themselves because of other stupid kids. It’s the same with being in the city, if you chose to wear something that isn’t ‘normal’ then you’d get stared at, and laughed at. It just makes people feel like they have to act a certain way, so that they don’t become the laughing stock. That’s how society is unfortunately
@Mr Kennedy it's never gonna happen. Herd mentality.
Love this. Great presentation and production. Our modern society with the problems you highlight here is like a scary group think which is hard for most of us to see through.
How did I miss this project. Guys, you are great! Thank you for existence and for your work!
Much of my stress in life is the unrealistic expectations others have for me, and when I don’t live up to these expectations they like to unload their disappointment onto me as if they have the right to do this. Everyone’s path is different and no one should dictate where I should be on my own path. The pressure to prove you have value is an obsession in the modern world.
I'm amazed by how I'm keeping it altogether in such a world
I'm amazed at our instinctive capability to keep it together
Alister Dante I love you
I love you, too, Alister. Pain is a part of everyone's life. I hope your tomorrow is better.
Y. O. I wish I was. I meant it in a negative way.
Alister Dante me too tbh. I hope you get or feel better with each passing day, even if it's hard.
"The cost of sanity in this society is a certain level of alienation" - Terence McKenna
I’ve been saying this for years. Thank you. It’s lovely to hear someone else saying it too! 👍🏻
Seems many succeed with greed, and doing anything it takes to get to the top, hurting everyone along the way.
I've seen this happen before too.
Sounds like my ex boss. I needed therapy cuz he put me down so much
never make generalisations. You will never know for certain what's going on in someones mind
The person who has success is the one who needs less
@@sterlingking2338 I would normally agree but taxing the rich more is not an answer xD
This channel is my therapist, thank you!
thIS chANnEL is mY tHeRaPist hahaha nice profile pic
Failure is a constant for me.. I’ve fought desperately, but now I’m tired..
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Thanks for the good thoughts. Enjoyed the solutions provided. I don't have depression, but I'm bewildered by all the options life throws at us
The media... and the social media
I actually clicked for the owl in the sombrero
Software Man same 👒
oh ffs. Reporting you for spamming as well. I will encourage everyone to report channels like these who spam the comment section. I expected better from you
Zeneva ʘ‿ʘ me too, i love them. Ive always been fascinated by them as a child . my mom had these owls made of bronze and now I have some. just something about them right.?
I had to go therapy to realize this! Where was this 12 months ago? You could have saved me $$$$$🧐
Appreciate your journey. This video wouldnt have replaced that. A book summary might capture the general sense of what a book was "about," but doesnt replace everything you could learn from the book by actually reading it. The same applies to you.
Hope you are well now,wish u the best and warm hugs
karl awww thx! Was having a laugh at myself really. I am who I am because of the experiences. Putting words to it helps and knowing I’m not alone. 😊
Pauline Joseph We all should go for therapy. It's not a waste of money if your therapist can help you learn and understand about what's affecting your mind.
Wait, this is what they were teaching you in therapy? Meritocracy, Individualism and Secularism was causing you mental problems? God help us all if this is what our mental health industry doing.....
Even when your successful and make good money people don’t care and are jealous and you realize no one cares about each other it’s what you can do for someone else and what they gain from you. Money is just something we chase because we think it makes us happy. Going out and doing things that make us happy is what makes us happy
Problems are spot-on,
but your solutions are unmatching
The meritocracy point is such a big one!!! It took me 25 years to realize that nepotism, connections, and pure luck have a massive influence on success. The people who benefit from these 3 things will never admit that they had a relatively easy path to success. As a result, the rest of us are left wondering what we did wrong.
@J Colton And you wish other people to die?
No. We need a basic safety net for everyone. The world is overpopulated with humans. Extreme capitalism is just as bad as extreme socialism.
Never say never. I was very lucky to born into a rich family and I always gave this event 90% of the reason of my success. I know other rich people that are aware of thistoo. Good night.
@J Colton and the sick, the crippled, the unlucky? Maybe they deserve nothing because they could not work, and so did no work, but should they get nothing? Should they die? Decrease the surplus population?
You have no idea - NONE - what Marx & Engels were actually on about. Communism was never meant to be robbing the rich to pay the poor whilst the poor did nothing; Marxists are much more precise in their terminology, and when they say they wish to collectivise "private property," they are speaking specifically of *capital* - i.e. the means to work, the *tools*, not the *products*, thereby enabling more people who want to work to do so and earn their keep - not "personal property," to be given away as handouts.
And to equate Marxism with fascism? Utter nonsense. If anyone shouts loudest about meritocracy, it's fascists. They *love* to divide the world into the "deserving" and "undeserving."
Odd that you'd use fascism as a slur, when you're talking just like a fascist. Ashamed to own it?
You want people to "contribute?" Great, communists think so too. How about we give them free access to tools, working drawings, education, raw materials and distribution channels, so that they can do that!
Finally, why should you "carry" people whom you consider "worthless?" Well, gosh, it's a little thing we humans, as a social species, evolved to make our societies function that's called "empathy." Perhaps you're a psychopath and don't have any.
@J Colton I was quite successful but crashed out because I couldn't cope with the Darwinian harshness of a dog eat dog world. I gave it everything I had, I'm not lazy or feckless, just not equipped to cope with a "meritocracy" where (though it is unspoken), AVARICE is the primary metric. We are born into a world that requires we fit but many of us do NOT fit and struggle. A large proportion wind up unable to cope. I suppose they "deserve" to die in misery?
Consider for yourself, a little humility could go a long way.
That's not true. I am relatively successful and I know a large part of it is luck of being born to and the way I am born. A lot of successful people understand this.
the overemphasis of individualism and lack of acknowledging of the positives of interdependence, is one thing I would most
certainly love to change
A team that works even decently is always far stronger than any individual. In the old days this was understood as a given, a _very simple_ fact. Because those who didn't understand that, most often ended up dead.
Richard Lewis I agree the modern day individualism and feminism movement has left a lot of women alone. I'm not saying that she needs to be married but a few good men around to help around the house helps. I lost my father who used to new know how to fix everything and now I'm totally reliant on paying big fees for simple projects around the house.
@@candymorgan1720 Excuse me a few good men around the house to help? So what men just have to bow and not only earn more money then the women pay for the vast mogority of stuff, now they have to be cucked in a harem while having to do more house work, which by the way you lazy feminists don't seem to help much with the yard work, when asked to pay equal on the bills you often don't, your entitled for the men to still pay for your meals and entertainment and gifts, how many feminists pay for the guys meal? or get them lavish gifts? right hardly ever because it's not expected because you a hypocritical who just want all the perks with none of the responsibility. Women want to get paid more for doing less work. Man and a women both have consturuction jobs, so they "both have the same job" to a feminist doesn't matter the guy in upside down in a trench moving heavy steal, tying off lines getting sweaty in the heat or frozen hands in winter, getting covered in mud and muck and grease and blood. While the girl stands by the side and holds a trafic sign. But feminists REEEEEE!!!! that she ought to be paid the same. And we need more women in power when there aren't near as many women in all the awful jobs. Again they just want the good stuff. And what men ought to just do everything for free!?! Oh but if we don't you shame us and just say we aren't "good men." And guess what maybe the monogamy of the past wasn't perfect but at least it saw to many of these issues. even in the past most of the time the men did all the work brought home all the money and were shamed by society if they didn't tough it out and provide, often the men had to do all the repair, all the yard work, lifting anything heavy often on our own ruining our backs and bodies. And what do men have to face in the modern world? tons of stuff feminists don't even recognize. And now the gender relations and dating for the young is just ruined. because anyone looking to settle down doesn't really have many options. often because women will whore it up with the attractive guys because "her body her choice." "don't slut shame me." while the average young guy gets nothing, and we are just told by you people to accept it that no one wants us and we should be ashamed for even expressing our feelings. we are told to just make money and get to ridiculous standards that the women don't even live up to. and even then the women only come crawling back to the average dependable guy once they get older and uglier, and the hot guys give her less attention then they used to when she had her youth. then she traps him in a marriage, gets a kid, stops having sex with the guy and or cheats, while the man is now forced to have no sex and spend all his money on her and the kid while getting little else, then not only must he bring home all the money so she can spend it on a stupid bigger lawn or house or car to show off to the nabors, not only must he still do all the "manly" house work, all the repairs and yard work, now his feminist wife hen pecks him and says he needs to do more cleaning around the house. translation do more work to cover my lazy keester or I will divorce you and take everything you own and RUIN YOU! Oh and often now guys are realizing why women often want kids now is not because you love your husband you just want to trap a kid into existence who is basically forced to love you unconditionally, so then you can feel loved by your kids and no longer have to put in any effort with your husband. And even if all this fails the majority of welfare payments go to women, and men are more neat tax payers then what they take out, so effectively the state will just take more money from the men and give it to women. So then now men have to work even harder to gain enough money and resorces to attract a women. And likewise a guy could not care any less what a women makes, because like I said so what if she makes lots of money he's not getting much anyway.
Viridian, I don’t really get into the feminist debates. The type of women usually described are often young minded, drama queens, which men should already know to steer clear of.
But with said.. you do make some interesting and factual points that many women themselves even realize. I do notice in particular how many women sort of physically and even emotionally abandon the husband after children come into the picture. Sure men do this as well, but this is alot more common with women than most think and women often don’t hold themselves accountable for this. Now Smart and insightful women are moreso aware of this. They value their relationship, and will make it a point to show it with obvious *actions* (gratitude, initiating affection and sex, etc) Luckily, there are women out there who do still believe in relationship and or marriage, along with the family unit while holding themselves accountable in relationships.
Again, even well intentioned women do this to men. Many, many times Sometimes it’s the only example they know or have been given. Sometimes they over-parent which can interfere with the relationship. And sometimes there are deeper issues that they need to address as you mentioned. Sadly many men accept the distancing of the women as the norm, or just eventually cave in and cheat from months and often times years, of a gross lack of affection and feeling undesired, and of course he then looks like the bad guy. (I don’t advocate cheating but this often times is what makes many good/loyal men susceptible to it)
In the end, we all need to work to better understand eachother. Both men and women should be empowered as individuals. But like anything use good sense with it, and realize we are better off working together as a team. Selfishness, and being at odds, will certainly get us nowhere either.
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The problem is that everything you pointed out as a negative, has a positive version of it -- and everything you pointed out as positive, has a negative version of it. In my experience, what ultimately leads us to the negative side of everything, is the worship of human authority. This has made adulthood a state of extended adolescence, removed critical thinking, removed discernment, and perpetuates trauma and a victim identity. So whether we're dealing with meritocracy, individualism, collectivism, or anything else you described -- all of these can lead to positives and negatives, and when we have a mentally ill population, it can only ever lead to complete self destruction of both individuals and nations. This is how empires rise and fall, and the cycle of suffering continues. This is why as a collective, we seem to never learn from history, ever. And we always make the same mistakes again, and again, and again, and again.
This is incredibly all encompassing, lucid and yet succinct, and the animations bring some needed levity.
Perfection is the enemy of good
It is not perfection, but seeking it, since perfection doesn't exist.
perfection is too idealistic and not grounded in reality.
@@B----------------------------D yeah, that's the point. If you wait to create the perfect thing before putting it out, if you wait for the perfect life to be happy, if you wait for the perfect person to fall in love you'll keep waiting forever. Good is way better than perfect, and the only thing we can aspire to be: better than yesterday.
Solutions to mental health,
1. Make school fun and creative, forcing kids to learn things they don’t want to has been linked to poor mental health.
2. Abolish qualification needs, the modern world should be looking for personal skills and not the letter on your test paper this will allow people to express themselves a lot more easier which creates a good mental health.
3. Make school shorter so young people can focus on their hobbies, doing hobbies calms the brain allowing for a healthy mental life.
Yes these reasons are all to do with school because school is the biggest cause for poor mental health in young people and suicide rates and changing these 3 things will lead to massive improvement
Some good points here. Education is mass produced like cars and phones. Capitalism does contribute. I have 50 students. Last year I had 90. I am not allowed to give personal attention or encourage creativity with that workload. Yet many people think teachers have an easy job and do little work. Criticism is easier than construction.
@@edwardlulofs444 My father says (he's a lecturer) each teacher should have the maximum number of students of ten, not 30, 60 or anything higher. This is so teachers could actually aid students to become "human". The thing is, in my country, there is a horribly low chance of trained-to-be teachers that actually become teachers! My father said that the teacher training programs the government made (in my country) are utterly useless and should be fixed. Thus teachers ended up having 30+ students each. Perhaps there are varieties of problems we citizens failed to foresaw unlike the government (hopefully).
It’s strange how not many countries pay attention to their education system even though those students are the future
Pricila C Because school is a business not a place of education, essentially a mass production factory.
make school shorter? Are you nuts? State school kids are only in there learning for 5 hours a day! Make school shorter and most of them will simply become bored, feral youth with no direction or ambition, since 9 times out of 10 both parents are at work. Jeez, the situation is bad enough already, your plan would make it 10 times worse!
Make school longer, and bring in extra-curricular learning facilitators. The extra time should be for hobbies, freely chosen by the children, with a few mandatory classes - financial management, mind management, and an updated version of home economics focusing on wellness. Hobbies often require costly resources (musical instruments, art tools, sports gear & facilities etc) which can be provided most cost-efficiently in schools. Foster a culture of healthy competition, and in tandem foster childrens' appreciation of each others' different incliinations and abilities.
In other words, bring state schools up to the standard of private schools, where the extra-curricular element pushes kids and better prepares them for adult life. This won't alleviate all the mental trials and tribulations of childhood and adolescence, and we need to address the mental health problems created by a culture of perfectionism in top tier schools, but it'll help level the playing field and make for stronger minds.
I’ve seen this video God knows how many times , but today appear in front of me when I need it the most.
One of the contributors of this anxiety is the continuous urge we have for appreciation in social media.
I know what you mean. Yet ironically we’re on a form of social media right now
I'd add social media, dopamine responses for likes and comparing ourselves to our friends posts.
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Christopher Shepherd
Could you perhaps elaborate? I’d like to hear more about your thoughts.
Christopher Shepherd it's making us shallower, apparently..
Christopher Shepherd insightful, appreciate this comment so much!
Technology is good in the hands of smart people. Plebs will always use it incorrectly and with no measure. People will just have to distance themselves from these technologies and start valuing actual reality. People will start doing this, because vitamin D is their biologic need, and not browsing reddit. I have experienced that and I can say that me and almost everyone from my generation is a victim of this advanced technology, but it's a virtue, which has not only connected, but enlightened us in many ways. Now about men distancing themselves and comparing themselves to Elon Musk, they have to just realise that Elon's public image is good and of almost every celebrity that we glorify. In his head his life is probably the same routine, going over and over and his emotions are as ordinary as everyone, just his materialstic value is upgraded.( Not talking about Elon only, he's a scientific man, he values contributing rather than self pleasure and standing amongst others )
Still in line with this episode, I suggest:
1) do not project your ability to be happy on anything or anyone. Happiness takes effort in the moment you are currently in to realize. If you are going through something awful, let yourself embrace how awful it is. Don't force yourself to be happy or deny the seriousness of the misery you have been experiencing.
2) restrict access to social media. Social media creates an internalized dialogue of many voices, instead of just maintaining the one you need to listen to and follow the most: your own. A culture that constantly relates and compares leaves you feeling like you are always, "less-than," and that's not ok.
77xDivaOkurrr7ATSymbol I appreciate your comment and I appreciate you! Your post resonated with me a lot
YES
Lessons I still struggle to learn, any advice
modern society is depressing.
I love that this actually suggests solutions rather than blanket condemnations.
Great video and great points, but never forget; none of this is unintentional. The media knows exactly what they’re doing.
I can't help but ask myself : "who is this profiting"
@@stephanieshine2098 Really?!
I once looked at life that way. Today im the most important person in my life and ive been healthy and able to help more often. A little selfishness has helped me be a much better person. I no longer have the need to be better then you..i need to be better then myself. Growth is endless now.
I go into my room and shut out the external world and all the people in it.
I make my own universe where i can have at least a little peace and happiness
I just hate when your in pain or in danger and people just start recording you instead of helping
The lack of sense of community. In a harmonious community everybody has a place performing a valiable job that is needed and it's recognize by their performance at it, instead of competing against each other to pretend all of us can be the boss. A case of too many chiefs and very few Indians.
A potential issue I'd always seen is that that can pressure individuals into overperforming when that may truly not be suitable for them, most people would quickly evaluate the first scorn they should receive for failing to acknowledge their designated duty as a shortcoming, seeing as it would negatively influence the entire community at once. That mentality conflicts with those established here and promotes a very self-destructive lifestyle, feeding back into the flawed philosophy of "effort = long term gain."
Ethanotor Oculus Small communities are how humans were meant to live. Those drastic responses you talk about don't happen when a small community has to truly rely on one another. Honestly, if you look at human history, shit really went down hill once we moved away from small tribal social structures. I couldn't agree more with OP
It’s because we are taught Darwin (and Darwin by way of Herbert Spencer, and the progeny of Darwin which is eugenics, Francis Galton’s - who was a cousin of Darwin - Frankenstein monster) and not given the equal time of hearing from Peter Kropotkin. We are not taught to be critical thinkers. Compulsory education is to reduce as many people as possible to a safe level, and train a standardized citizenry that will not dissent too loudly to the status quo.
You're onto something here. I've had the same thoughts for a while.
I’m done with the internet, it’s caused me to have the need of over stimulation, and I can’t just ever sit and be happy anymore. I really just need a phone to contact people, and that’s basically it. Maybe email for work
As long as you are content to be a couch potato. Just dont ever come back and complain you are where you are and you have what you have.
@@86Corvus ???
@@86Corvus why would he become a couch potato lol
I've known this for ages. Belief in a higher power is essential for good mental health. I don't have a mobile phone.. I love living the way we were.
and yet here you are
Education System definitely needs fixing, all I've seen are systems that require you to be good at memorizing(useless standardized tests that don't measure intelligence but just knowledge that you'll only use a percent of when you grow up), but commonly, also good at creativity and social confidence to get into universities(Universities want extracurriculars along with near-perfect grades) to get a job that might not even be fulfilling. First World Nations have never been richer and prosperous, and yet people are expected to do more despite things being more convenient. First world nations have enough things that everyone can have a stable life, and due to the ridiculous and uneccesary expectations on everyone, we all feel like we're not good enough, which makes us depressed, suicidal, and anxious.
"You are adequate" new life motto.
status anxiety. thats what i have too.
also, two years ago i became a freelancer and its really hard to focus on that - i notice more and more that people dont value me as much as they did before. i think its a "networking" issue. when people think you cant give them anything then they think less of you.
Oh my this is so accurately comparable to my way of thinking and the way I try to live. It's almost as if I produced this. It's been my "rap" for about 15 years or so now. I haven't totally succeeded at all these points, but they are so accurate. Wonderfully and good to see it reinforced.
I was going through a hard night tonight and this made me feel better. Thank you
Information overload. Ever-higher expectations. Growing artificiality.
@@russellthompson9271 why?
@@klif4755 so people loose their connection with humanity.
Only robotic people can be pushed beyond their limits. Im 33 and see massive loads of depression and burn-outs around me. When you ask them how, they dont know. It just was. Only to repeat it again.
Consuming consuming consuming
@@boerbeun "Consuming consuming consuming" but no car, no home, no actual good quality products, only a cheap consumerist nightmare with leds and crowdfunded with shitcoins
Everyday I wake trying my best, but I find myself failing miserably...
The point of failure is arbitrary bruh.
its ok to fail
Stop trying. I dont mean that in mean way. You will by your own natural "untrying" desire become your ideal self if you let go of expectation. Its a lesson I always forget and re-learn. I never got talented at anything unless I was doing for the fun of it.
Breath in, breath out move on. Thomas Edison failed thousands of times, look how he turned out. Winston Churchill before Prime Minister. Be patient with yourself.
I suggest you talk to a counselor. You may be setting unrealistic goals or there may be other problems. I also suggest trying to value simple things e.g. enjoying your breakfast, having a friendly conversation with someone on the bus, looking up from your phone and noticing ordinary stuff like the sky and trees, doing a good days work ... those things are so good.
Life in a world where everything is provided for you is meaningless and there is no surprise why people feel like their life has no point.
Imagine watching this in the middle of a Psychology class...
Life is Unfair For Everyone regardless of Classes, Background & Gender
For women : what do you mean? They have it great.
They have it less great because people assume they all want to use their boobs and makeup as an advantage in the workplace. Also they usually shoulder the burden of birth control. Also they bleed and hurt for a week once a month. And they have to spend $60 more every year to deal with the bleeding, and get taxed for it. Also in some countries girls have to miss out on school because they don't have any places to change their pads throughout the day
What we need is a fucking apocalypse at this point.
Excellent! Contemporary fallacies we all need to transcend.
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society” - Jiddu Krishnamurti
0:35 Meritocracy AKA **It happens to good people.
1:34 Individualism AKA You are not the center of the universe.
2:10 Secularism AKA You did not create yourself.
2:54 Romanticism AKA You're trippin'- get real.
3:36 The Media AKA Demonizing doesn't help.
4:26 Perfectibility AKA God did not create junk.
Love it!
This little video article and the comments to it have restored my faith in the world! Thank you for being the sane voice, I am not alone in my opinion that the modern world is to blame!
Spirituality is highly needed in this fast-paced world.
I feel like for a lot of high schoolers like myself there is also a lot of pressure to get into colleges. Getting average grades is seen as failure. And being creative (a much needed job skill these days) is not considered. We’re told we NEED to go to college to be successful in life, when many of us would be much better off going to community college first, taking a gap year, going to trade school, etc.
What if humanity’s always been this messed, we just see it more now
I agree with this too...
I wonder about this.
We need better rules and norms that don’t just encourage competition.
^ Cooperation over competition.
Likewise if humanity's always been this messed, what was humanity whenever it wasn't messed like?
There have always been the Seven Deadly Sins: Pride, Envy, Anger, Sloth, Greed, Gluttony, and Lust. They are just more rampant now with the rise of secularism.
I am from Egypt and I would say this is true wisdom
God bless you