@Wordsmith 430 they are human beings. psychopath and sociopath are also not medical terms and they are often de-humanizing. the proper medical diagnoses is antisocial personality disorder.
I know people think it's good to have no anxiety but anxiety is necessary for survival. too much of anything is harmful. psychopathic or sociopathic, whoever doesn't feel an ounce of anxiety is a dangerous person for society, they wouldn't hesitate while killing or any sort of crime. its also due to this emotion of anxiety ppl run away from dangerous situations.
I feel the same usually it’s just the fucking Consequences. When there’s those Gypsies across the Street I only stop myself due to the Chaos my actions would result. We have Tennis Rackets so I just want to slam one of them in the Head, but I know what will follow after.
Why some sociopaths develop empathy and emotional intelligence, to a point they actually start feeling the personal emotions themselves. And doesn't that weigh em down 🤣🤣😭😭🤣👍
@@TassieJakeit is a thing i fought part of myself for. I noticed the fact that being nice and acting empathetic started to become more instinctual. I made a conscious effort to keep myself from developing true empathy. I believe it will most likely keep me from using my experience to reach my one and only goal: to perfect humanity as a human who lost their humanity trying to become the perfect human.
i’m so sick of everyone in the comments saying shit like “she is so scary, she is not human, she is a terrible person” you think she can control that? i think the fact that she’s sharing the way her brain works is admirable. she’s preventing people from being manipulated and raising awareness about her condition. the fact that she’s making an effort to not be destructive should be applauded.
@johnnyespalahento2431 actually, the "people with feelings" you refer to, if they are doing the things you describe, likely have a personality disorder or two or, if the behavior does not rise to that level, strong personality disorder-type traits that drive that behavior.. The behavior of people without "feelings" is not that of a human with a sane, rational mind and emotional intelligence.
These people have no unjustified social responsibility training as most people, but they are logical, and can approach socially responsible behavior through logic. They are not the monsters popular psychology makes of them. Once the effect of an action though society back to self and those close to the person is evident, they improve. In some ways they are more ethical than the common person who learned to be socially responsible by fear of god or parent or teacher, religious doctrine, and shame, all motivations of pure egotistical interest.
I think it doesn’t make any sense lol is she making a distinction between expressing vs feeling emotions. Even if that was it it still makes no sense !
My ex had this. I entered the lions den. I am still scarred. I applaude this woman for speaking out about it, raising awareness, since many sociopaths and psychopaths denies or rejects their diagnosis .
it's unwise to make generalizations like this, since people with ASPD tend to be far more willing to accept a diagnosis than any of the other cluster B personality disorders, especially NPD
@@рената_цехановецкая THISS - theyre generally more likely to accept the diagnosis they just tend to steer away from treatment which is common with all cluster b personalities (i have a cluster b disorder aswell, not aspd) there's very few treatment options for people with aspd and the most accepted treatment at this time is just trying to avoid the disorder from developing at all by catching it in it's precursor age while the person is a child which serves very little help to people with aspd and it needs more research put into it
For what? She just said she's a spoiled person who only cares about herself. It's the default setting of a child. Not something to applaud. This could have been helped instead they gave excuses and pretended it was something she couldn't control.
@@Drudbut isn't that a lot of people's reasoning anyway? Yes, you have people who are kind just because. But a lot of people only do good as a means to an end, they just might not admit to it. That's literally the definition of virtue signaling
@@HaloHighlightz Okay, but being kind for the sole purpose of blending in with most people and to look good is kind of exactly what psychopaths does. So no, it’s not the reason why most people do nice things. Kindness can be faked. But most people are genuine in doing acts of kindness and does so wholeheartedly. I’m sorry if I don’t make sense, sorry, I’m tired rn.
I've watch her video where she said that when she was a child, she wasn't allowed to show emotions as anger, sadness etc. So she had to hide them deep inside. It's so damn wrong...I cannot imagine how hard it was for a little girl...But she is very aware of what's going on as the consequence and is working hard.
I really hope she has healthy boundaries in place with her parents, the father especially sounds like a piece of work from what she's said about him in her videos.
The sad part about this, and no offense towards men, but women, naturally we’re just created biologically to have the ability to deal (maybe deal isn’t the best works but experience and allow our emotions to be there vs. hiding them, even if we have to hide them we self sooth by thinking about what we are experiencing) with our emotions better, so I feel like when you put the same scenario on a man they’re not as aware of what’s going on, she can actually look at it as she’s a product of her environment and try her hardest to be aware of that. Therefore, she can be in society without doing horrible things. Men aren’t as good at that you know …they’re not made to be thinking about that kind of stuff they’re made biologically and since the beginning of time whether it’s right or whether it’s wrong, It’s how it’s always been, to go out and work to provide, While women are home with the feelings and the children and the emotions and all that kind of stuff … so it’s just sad because people that are born like this that are men, they really are not so aware and then they end up doing really bad things because of the lack of remorse.
@Missmay777 Those are really good insights... more men than women are sociopaths... unfortunately if a baby or child doesn't receive enough love from their first day of life, they become emotionally stunted and the effects can be lifelong. Especially pernicious in men...
I often cried as a child about things. I was told not to cry, stop crying bc crying was weak. Which made it worse, I started to cry over everything. Someone could confront me with something and I would break down. Which in turn caused my mother to call me dramatic and over emotional. At the same time she would deny being wrong about ANYTHING. Which tripled the effect. She also constantly criticizes me since I was little, when I was young it was hidden as condensing backhanded compliment or under the guise of "what's best for me". Down to my hair color, clothes, makeup, etc. As an adult it is no longer hidden n is directly done but the effect is not the same, I used to be very reactive. But there was a turning point in my psyche and I know the exact day and time it happened. I started wailing bc she just wouldn't see or even try to understand my point of view in a particular argument about how she treated me. That day I could literally feel the chemicals reacting and changing my brain. My heart had literal pain for years and that was my last straw my body could handle. I became an alcoholic n addict shortly after that lasted a decade. My brother and I were pawns in her constant game of emotional infancy, we both developed addictions n now he is dead bc of it. N guess what, SHE'S STILL IN DENIAL ABOUT WHO SHE WAS TO HER CHILDREN! She thinks she was mother of the year bc she bought us groceries
@@Missmay777it could also be societal factors, instead of men and women being different. Due to toxic masculinity, men are frowned upon for sharing emotions, but women are not. This might explain why some women express emotions better
As someone who feels way to much to the point of physical exhaustion I wish I could be this way and I feel guilt for even typing this. I’m just so tired.
@@minorkey5286 yeah but most people will use us and hurt us. I have much empathy and give my best for people who just do not mind to use my kindness for their gain. I really would love to change myself and be a bit selfish because like the commenter said it is really exhausting. It is that exhausting that sometimes I end up crying just from being drained of my good energy.
Don’t worry It’s just a trauma response ❤ find a good therapist if you can to unpack this and learn how to overcome. You don’t deserve constant guilt and I’m sorry something made you feel like you have to be.
Omg I am the same. Even for strangers I have the need to help them. I will give my last dollar to someone I know deep down is scamming me even if my tummy is rumbling. I cry seeing animals hurt. Wayyyy to much empathy. Sometimes I wish I had sociopathic ways. Just don’t want to hurt anyone. Crazy how different people Can be huh?
When a regular person is a good person, it's much less impressive than when a sociopath is a good person. Sociopath acts purely out of personal choice, since there is no guilt, shame or empathy to guide them in such a way.
I once watched an interview with a diagnosed narcissist and he seemed like such a great guy, we shared many beliefs and values it’s just he learned and implemented these values through a more logical sense rather than any empathetic sense. It was more sympathetic and just not caring to be a bad person for values and beliefs sake, that’s not to say he was perfect no one is and he even spoke about some things he did and didn’t feel guilty for, he also spoke about trauma and being in a constant state of low self worth and survival. It made me happy to know people can act on sympathy without having the emotions to further help biologically affiliate it, such as empathy or if not empathy guilt or pity. For me it’s a mix of things I hold compassion as one of my most valued traits which also is a slight esteem boost since it’s tied to femininity and I’m trans but this isn’t the primary reason, while I do feel remorse, empathy, and gilt I can be quite neurotic and I have had times where I was overstimulated and times of extreme apathy where I felt no strong emotions, but the person I want to be regardless is someone I would look up to, someone who will do their best to set their own path and forward good into the world for the sake of altruism while not forgetting there humble beginnings. There’s no one reason I ended up this way but many environmental and biological factors that contribute. I’d rather choose compassion than have it forced on me because I want to be genuine, and the way I was raised caused me to feel as if that’s selfish. If I’m good because I want to be a good person that’s selfish because it’s all about me. Not sure if this makes sense I understood and understand it’s not a very helpful thinking pattern but as a trans black fem presenting person I’ve always been fed doubt and even to this day am not only by our systems but people who perpetuate it. Sorry to blabber 😅
"I can show compassion and kindness, that's not the same as empathy." Brilliantly said, and your unique experience is useful in showcasing these kinds of important distinctions.
I appreciate you sharing all of this. Usually you only hear about sociopaths after they've done something 'bad', and then they get demonised. I think it's good for people to be understanding towards all types of people. It's interesting because it's a natural variation amongst the population and there seems to be pros and cons just like other neurotypes
Sociopaths don't seem to care about being demonized. If the shame is unpleasant, they'll stop the behavior. It's part of how they learn. How are you supposed to know it's bad if no one tells you?
Honestly as an autistic person, some of my emotions work similarly-I have either no empathy or extremely high empathy, but the reasons I have them change often
I’ve heard that there are different types of empathy and some autistic people are poor with cognitive empathy but good at a type of empathy (forgot the name for it) that is based more on pure emotions.
i do not know whether i am autistic or not because i have never went to check, never had any test results and etc., but even if i could be not, what i know for sure is that in any way, i am a very emotionally-unstable person with "odd" behavior patterns, always was a freak in school and etc . for my "weird" behavior. i always have TOO MUCH empathy, there wasnt a moment in my life in the last 6 or so years when i had absolutely 0% empathy for someone, or even below 100%, and i have no clue where its all coming from, but im ready to vomit and cry whenever i see someone having a needle pierced through their skin or anything, people often get angry at me saying too many "thank you"s and "sorry"s for everything, yet there is always a reason to say thank you if someone uncomditionally did something nice to you that they could have just not done, yet they did out of their own will! i often question which one of my actions is weird and whih one is normal, often confuusing myself with the two. once in my lifetime, many years ago, i tried supressing my empathy when i was angry at everyone, occasionally just being a toxic moron, who, in reality felt bad about everything he did. i cant imagine how i would have lived my life without any empathy, i think i would have already gone crazy or sometying, but thats just my personal experience!! people can be fine and normal even without any empathy, its just me who cannot, since i have lived my whole life only having too much of it, and never just a bit.
To be honest, ASPD isn't that bad for me. If I had to explain it I'd say it's just like a "I don't give a shit about you, I'm my number one priority. Fuck off". I wouldn't say I purposely "Hurt" people and the media and psychologists make us out to be awful disgusting people when we really aren't that bad. Also psychopath and sociopath are both terms I personally don't use. I'm just a person who was born with Antisocial personality disorder.
Thank you for your open honesty, you share a very unique perspective that some people could gather a plethora of knowledge…hoping positive things for your future!
Yeah, only empathic people can genuinely be kind. Sociopaths can have a very productive life and do things that others _consider_ to be kind, but the purpose behind isn’t out of generosity, altruism, consideration and respect for anyone, is just because life becomes easier that way since it brings them less issues.
@@kora4185and what? If person as trauma response (or biologically) doesn’t have empathy and choose kindness consciously, what’s the problem with this? Isn’t it better? Why neurotypicals so obsessed with everything being ‘genuine’?
@@kora4185 Okay, sorry for bothering you ❤️ But kindness is just social construct that’s what I meant. Even genuine kindness (altruism) is just neurobiological responses on something, because some percentage of population biologically programmed to be altruistic (or egoistic, because to much altruists as bad as too much egoists), if person feels something sacrificing themselves it doesn’t mean it’s ‘genuine’. Finally I put my thoughts in words 😅
@@XeroxAndInfinity I agree empathy is a just an unconscious biological response really, a smart way for life to organically/automatically help itself, as the more social beings are, the more you grow and don’t die, so empathy comes quite handy to push yourself to teach and help with much more eagerness and be helped out back (but too much of it becomes a problem, as you then tend to isolate yourself and freeze duo to how overwhelming the feelings are). And I meant genuinely as in just for real, like sighted people _really_ seeing, as oppose of someone who just can’t see even if they consciously try behaving like they do.. but in the end we have little to no control over our brain chemistry either way indeed, and that’s something I often have to be reminded. Excuse my English 💞
I wish more people understood that empathy is a pretty passive emotion. It often gets used interchangeably with compassion, but they're not the same. That's how you can get toxic "empaths." Compassion and kindness are actions and empathy is nothing without them, and you don't need empathy to choose them.
@@junodonatus4906 Maybe for most people. Cognitive empathy or the reward of getting the best possible result are also options - which, believe it or not, can be defined as “solutions for peoples problems” or “gaining self-awareness”. It depends on the person. It’s just that “most people” haven’t had to grasp for those different options and find reasons outside of their own emotion. Even “I don’t want to become the person who made me turn my emotions off and made my life boring as hell” is enough a motivation honestly. It’s not that difficult to get used to as long as your surroundings gave you a sense of reason, action, and mental stimulus. Y’all just can’t fathom it cause it wasn’t the hand you were dealt, so there wasn’t a need to get creative.
@@JustAStranger2840 Well I think that we can agree that emotions evolved - so it must be for a reason. There had to be selective pressure in other words, a survival advantage to having them. I believe that this survival advantage is in encountering new situations where we must make decisions in absence of having drect (or prior) experience with a similar situation.
@@junodonatus4906 Yes, that and an ability to stay within a group which tends to be a better survival tactic. Dw not all of us low-on-empathy seek to upheave the group, not all of us want the power to wield it, and a lot of us agree with you. If I'm still reading the original paradigm correctly, that is. If I'm not, sorry. Just felt like challenging your original statement out of prediction, knowing how unaware neurotypicals/anti-socials/narcs tend to act when put in the same room. The longer people go without knowing these other options apart from empathy, the more difficulty and abuse everyone gets in the long run. Edit: just think of it as an offering; another added survival tactic, if you will.
I think every child learns the hard way about lying and taking things but the fact that you are aware of your feelings and able to admit you don't have feelings sometimes shows how mature you are about it. 💖
I love this breakdown. I always thought I lacked the ability to empathize because I can't sense that a person who's smiling, laughing, making jokes, and is really into something is faking it and they're actually struggling inside. But yeah, if someone's openly sad or unhappy I totally feel that, and I'll do everything within my abilities to make things better for them. It sounds like sociopathy is more lack of awareness and/or disregard of self and how that impacts others, and I thank you for the clarification.
When I was a teen I was alot like that. I think that was a defense mechanism for all the trama I'd been thru. Now as a 27 year old I do feel empathy, guilt, and remorse VERY intensely. Idk if it's from having a child, getting older, or something else but I almost wish I didn't feel these things because of how painful it can be.
I appreciate your openness and vulnerability in expressing this. I’m very empathic (to a fault sometimes) and have tried to understand the psychology of a sociopath and it’s been hard to wrap my mind around - your explanation is helpful, well-spoken and easier to understand. Wishing you all the best and hoping that others are being kind and compassionate to you 💜
As long as you know right from wrong, you don't have to feel emotions. Emotions don't run us, they are just here for us. We make the decisions, not the emotions.
Sociopaths and psychopaths can feel anxiety and empathy. I'm a diagnosed psychopath and the proper term is aspd. In order to feel empathy we need to be able to relate to the situation. So many people are fed nonsense about this condition it's really not as bad as it's made out to be in films etc. I care for people too.. I'm a good friend but a bad enemy 😅.
I have to say that as someone who is a huge empath with BPD i slightly wish that I could take even of a bit of her emotional construct of public and private emotions because of the impact my guilt , my attachment, fear, anxiety panic are so powerful
Your a gift to this world. Empathy and love are our superpower. You need to find a balance and protect yourself. Love and light from a fellow empath ❤️🙏🏻
@@kellymatthews3732 Thank you so much for your kind word The specifically coming at a time where I needed to hear that I appreciate you I wish I could find someone who is like yourself
i have bpd too, i like to think of it as we’ve been given these challenges because we’re strong enough to handle them and we’ve taken it for someone who couldn’t. i know somedays it feels like you just can’t take it, but you’re here with us today and that’s a gift in itself. sending love
Sociopaths are diagnosed narcissists so telling her that ''bad actions have bad consequense for urself'' is actually genius. So praise to her therapist🙌. Also thay are pretty good manipulators that act nice but make u feel worthless at the time. That's why friends of sociopaths have pretty good view of them. They LOVE to use your emotions to their own good. Cause they don't feel emotions they are using to manipulate you does not mean THEY DON'T KNOW ABOUT IT. Like how could they use manipulation if they don't know abt emotions. ACTUALLY they can feel those to very very BLESSED PEOPLE, but they simply do not wanna feel those and does not.
My sons father was so triggered when I called him a Narcissist. (Maybe bcoz everyone has Narcissistic tendencies sometime in life). He proudly told me he was a Sociopath. (More like a psychopath). No remorse for even trying to kill me and his son on multiple occasions. Yet he's a great liar to make you think he's remorseful. (He just used what he's learnt in his favour to get what he wants) Hope he thought about all this in jail. I personally can not be around these kinds of people. Especially when I FEEL all. They need trauma healing and a connection to their soul without drugs. All we can do is pray for them and hope their higherself re connects.🙏🏻✨️
@@DivineStardustAlchemy i think u should focus on ur sons mental health bc sociopathy runs in blood. Don't get offended or anything but I'm just warning u🙂. Sometimes sociopaths refuse to check their mental health and believe they don't have any problem bc of their narcissistic nature. I'm not saying that ur son is a sociopath but u should still be focused😁
What I’ve learned from every psychologist I’ve listened to (or read) is that sociopaths are born, and narsissists are made. Both personality disorders with overlapping attributes, but that there are differences.
I always say I'm a "good person" not because I'm actually a good person or thoughtful etc, it's just that my empathy makes me feel way too many feelings and it's easier for me to get rid of the discomfort by doing "nice things"
THANKYOU for posting this. This is so important and beautiful! Compassion and kindness are a choice! That's an important statement. The world is effed up cos of all the undiagnosed sociopaths and narcissists who don't make this choice. Not because they're born that way.
It's because you don't care. I mean genuinely I have it too and 100% it's because you don't care about how people see you. It's not that anxiety dosent exist, if it didn't you wouldn't watch TV or listen to music because it would lack excitement. The anxiety she speaks of is anxiety of how people think of her, if you don't have empathy then you don't CARE how people feel Because you don't have the same emotions. It's like being an alien and being confused why humans jerk off, you can explain all you want but to them it's just weird.
Like I literally just thought to myself “wow I can’t imagine how I’d live with myself knowing I didn’t care about anybody else” and then realized “oh right, I wouldn’t care.😅”
I know it was probably hard to come out and educate us all on your experience with this disorder, as well as being demonized for it. You are a very strong and brave individual, especially because you CHOOSE to be a good person. Hope all goes well for you!
You've described emotions in such interesting way. I like to say that they're like water. I touch just the surface with mine, they're very subtle and quick to disappear, but other people can go deeper, onto the waters. And if you're too deep, you'll drown. Hehe
I just learned so much. Public and private emotions? I've never heard them refered to this way. Btw she scares me. It sounds like an enjoyable life having no anxiety or remorse, but frankly I wouldn't chose it. She is missing out on critical aspects of Humanity... Like true love. Without emotions like empathy she could never truly love, that must be sad. Also the emotions she did describe feeling are awful, who wants to feel those and nothing else? Sounds like a curse
As someone w an older brother with asps- not exactly . The thing is, they cannot genuinely feel the deep emotion of grief. Grief is loss of something, but sociopaths are unable to build that meaningful, sentimental attachment to those things in the first place for it to hurt when it is gone. Surely they understand grief, though, but that doesn’t mean they experience that. They do not connect to people the way that normal individuals do, so the loss of the relationship is not the end of the world. They know they should care and express sorrow in those sad situations bc that is the social acceptable and polite thing to do; but they do not feel effected by such emotions themselves.
As a sociopath who has had family and friends die I'll say that there was definitely some twing of negative emotion at the thought of "oh this person wont be around anymore" but nothing anywhere near grief in the traditional sense. I also get over death and loss very fast. Usually by the time the actual funeral rolls around I've processed and gotten over the death and am mostly apathetic about it at that point.
Depends how you define "success". Anyway starting stealing doesn't sound very successful. She has a higher self-awareness now, and this beneficial for all people.
"Love is a choice we consistently make." wow this really puts that quote in perspective. it's so true. choosing to be compassionate and show kindness (and the hard to define word of *love*) really is a choice the we can all make.
She's literally made videos about using and throwing away other people for fun and given tutorials on how to do it. So she doesn't deserve words of encouragement for that behavior so please stop enabling. Thank you and have a nice day people
Everyone deserves words of encouragement. It's EASY for a neurotypical capable of empathy to be a good person. When someone who isn't capable TRIES to make good choices, even if seldom, they should be encouraged. She doesn't have to spread understanding of ASPD or be transparent with her life and manipulation tactics, but she IS, and it has helped many people to spot other Cluster B users and abusers. Not to mention allowing others with Cluster B personality disorders to feel represented and understood.
Understanding consequence & choosing to not do harm- there isn’t anything wrong with not feeling low vibrational emotions. I’m the same way, (I don’t feel shame, fear, etc.), but I also do no harm because I have enough cognitive empathy to say.. “that’s weird.. why would I hurt anyone”. I feel more protective over ppl who are more emotionally vulnerable. There’s a great Brene Brown speech about helping others- essentially, when someone is experiencing negative emotions, it doesn’t always help to get down there in the trenches with them, rather to be a hand reaching down to pull them out of it. Sometimes APD stems from CPTSD or trauma but beautiful things grow out of the darkest places 🪷 I picture a high vibrational lighthouse guiding others thru their storm ⛈️ 💜
There usually is so much physiological damage happening in one’s childhood, especially the first five years, to exhibit this kind of behavior. I was in a relationship for 7 1/2 years with a sociopath and narcissist so I’ve experienced this firsthand. They nearly drove me to suicide until I climbed out of their lair and left. Then they stalked and harassed me. It’s quite heartbreaking to watch people struggle with this yet those around them have to learn to protect themselves or eventually severe ties to remove themselves from the toxic environment that can be soul crushing.
I actually do have respect for her, she appears straight forward, to the point & truthful. She's telling the world who she is, what she is classed as. People can class sociopaths as the villain & it's not fair in this day & age when we understand more about the condition which developed possibly due to severe childhood trauma & the way she is, it's not her fault. You could make friends, but she will probably not be the best person to go to about certain issues.(you wouldn't go to a pet shop to buy a car!) I visual empathic people's emotions are constantly all over the place, while hers is a constant flat line. If people physically appear flawless, not anything out of place, possibly aristocratic, then that could be an indicator of traits. Another indicator is, that painted dead-eye low lid stare she has, which tells me, never to mess with her or you'd regret it! I noticed a flash of wide eye after she glanced to the left during when she said "....I didn't know it was wrong ....." Looking to the left: Glancing to the left suggests that you are remembering facts or having visual thoughts. This is often a good way to check whether someone is telling you the truth. It can also mean that someone is having a conversation with themself internally or is rehearsing their next line. She has a certain prowess about her, like she possesses the soul of an ancient Egyptian Queen. I do admire the grace of her
Cant feel private emotions sounds scary i heard that psykopaths stop existing when left along thats why they hate rejection so much .. but thank you for sharing. Sorry if my writing is bad i speak swedich most of the time 😊
I'm glad you speak publicly about your disorder. Growing up I was regularly viewed negatively for not showing emotions like sadness, happiness, love or guilt. Even now I have to put on an act of emotions so people don't judge me. We were born like this, there's nothing to be ashamed of.
Whenever I watch your videos I always feel calm, you feel safe. I imagine if I were close to you in real life, you would be one of the people I would gravitate to the most. I’m autistic, and the way you act and your upfront way of talking is much easier to understand and feel at ease with as posed to neurotypical people.
I have seen this lady before. She came on an Australian show called Insight many years ago. She actually came on the show because they were doing a show on narcissists. So now she is a sociopath not a narcissist. Interesting.
both npd and aspd are cluster b personality disorders with lots of overlap in symptoms/co-morbidity. a lot of people with npd also have aspd and vice versa, but a lot of aspd people can be misdiagnosed as npd or vice versa. someone going on a show years ago because they believed they had a hard diagnosis only to say years later they have a different diagnosis in the same family as their previous one is not the “interesting” gotcha you think it is.
I had a massive mental break early in highschool. I became totally apathetic and genuinely couldn’t feel empathy, or as listed; “private emotions”. I broke up with a girlfriend and did the same hot-cold method (unmeaningfully, I never intended to be malicious). I got myself in a lot of trouble at that time, because consequences meant nothing. They caused me no distress. It was very strange and I truly thought I’d also become a “sociopath” (aka ASPD). The only comfort I had was the fact that I was mildly concerned by this shift and the effect it was having on others, not that I particularly cared about how they felt but rather the longterm adversity, was a sign that I wasn’t totally beyond help. I reckon this was a major attempt at coping by avoiding and ignoring feelings, and detaching from reality because my circumstances were quite severe and I don’t think I had the capacity to deal with the stress and emotional burden of my situation. It’s funny how our brains can do that. Anyway, today I’m fine, but I would consider myself lower empathy, high compassion, and I believe I was wrongly misdiagnosed as Borderline, but I’m actually just autistic with a lot of complex trauma. BPD seems to be a fun hysteria diagnosis for women who probably are just autistic lol
A lot of people would tell me it's fucked up to say this but as someone who's VERY (and fully) emotional I'm telling you fuck I wish I had it more like you 💀
Not necessarily. Compassion can be learned through experiences and choices to do what’s kinder I don’t have ASPD, just Asperger’s. If my friend is crying, I don’t feel upset with them or sad, I just feel awkward and would rather walk away from the situation I don’t want to be a part of. But they’re my friend and they’re sad, I don’t want my friend to be sad so even though it’ll make me uncomfortable I’ll try and give them a hug. Even though I’ll mostly be bored the whole time I’ll sit and listen to what’s wrong for as long as they need because at least they can get it all out. I’m not empathising with the way theyre feeling, but they’re my friend and I want them to be happy so I try and be compassionate. Some may say that’s faking caring about someone, but I have low emotional empathy, I can’t be upset because they are, but I chose to take the time out of my day, stop doing what I was enjoying so I can help them feel better. That’s how I show I care.
I mean the thing about empathy is it doesn't discriminate, you can empathize with very bad people which wouldn't make you compassionate. Imagine having empathy for Hitler for example
@@felixio6370 I can kinda relate to that. I too get uncomfortable when people get emotional or sad around me. I just don't know how to handle it so I get awkward. I don't think I'm on the spectrum though. Obviously, I'm not gonna be an asshole cause it's not about me in that moment but man emotional situations are not my strength and somehow I always end up in those situations! 😩 I'm just a more internal person, so I like to keep to myself
I feel the same way about stealing shit but can you imagine how someone might feel if they were anxious, guilty, or in pain mentally then feel shit cause you are imagining it as yourself not another? That is how I understand empathy, I don't think 'they must be sad', I think 'if that was me, I'd feel like shit'
Narcissistic Ex husband said the same exact thing whenever I talked about 'basic' feelings. Also said "if I have never experienced it before, how am I supposed to know how it feels??" 😳😳 So 4 years later the day has finally come of when someone had cheated on him so he'd know how I felt when he cheated on me. So sad..
@@Free2B3 if you haven't experienced it, how would you know how it feels..? That is the stupidest thing ever. Everyone feels whatever they feel when something shit happens for the first time, you stub your toe for the first time, someone in your family dies for the first time, you get cheated on for the first time, and obviously how you feel is you knowing how you feel. I hope he wakes up every morning with shit in his bed, not his own though, just confused every morning that someone else's shit is in his bed.
@@tarotdiscombe5573 I read your main comment again and I admit that I was wrong comparing you to my ex. So basically you do know how pain, sadness, anxiety, feelings of being betrayed actually feel like, even if you haven't experienced it before yourself, it's just the actual depth of these feelings and putting yourself in someone else's situation 'at that particular moment' that you have hard time doing? Am I reading this right? Btw I knew my ex was feigning ignorance as a manipulative tactic. He knew EXACTLY how it feels like to be betrayed or lied to, but he'd do it anyways because he's too selfish to care about anyone else feelings and benefit but his.
@@tarotdiscombe5573 I agree with you, there are certain feelings that come with particular life events not everyone can relate to or associate with. But I was talking about basic human feelings and needs in a relationship, like the need to be genuinely loved, need of security and stability, honesty, loyalty, trust, kindness, support, compassion and care during my pregnancy's aches and complications. I busted his whole act and lies by reminding him that.. Yes this might be your first child, but you have been around 3 sisters who got pregnant 7 fkg times before from day one until birth living in the same household!! And had 5 younger siblings when he was 13 years old and older! If anything he should be an expert on how to deal with a pregnant woman, not be an a-hole to her demanding 3 meals a days, polished shoes, ironed clothes and a spotless house and then divorcing me for that😒😒
I am not a diagnosed sociopath but I wouldn’t say I am nice by nature. I always have to expend energy to be nice on a daily basis and keep my snarkiness in check. Sometimes the energy it takes is so much I have to take naps.
Try nervines such as lemonbalm and skull cap, they are both herbs that calm your nervous system, take on tincture or tea. Anxiety is tied to weak adrenals, licorice root is good for strengthening the adrenal system as long as you don’t have high blood pressure.
I will always rewatch her videos when I come across them. I find her so amazing. To be able to *actively choose* to be a good person even if you don't understand or get it, I love because I try to be that way myself. to choose to put good out and try to be a good person is absolutely the most admirable things in a person, and in my opinion is the deference between a good person and a evil person. She has chosen to be kind, to try and put good out and also bring awareness for others like her. I have nothing to say but, I love.❤
I remember when my friend had to explain guilt to me, i thought it was the annoyed feeling when you get caught doing something "wrong". I had no idea other people felt bad about stuff they did even if there were no consequences
I have that deeply trained into me, consequences of actions. But I can feel a small amount of guilt for certain things, mostly just pointless mistreatment of mammals.
Yeah we do. I am a somehow machiavellistic person, nevertheless I feel mid-range empathy. I watched for example the photos from the Mai Lai, the anxious family people and was disturbed and unfocused for 3 days afterwards. I thought to myself, if this is the standard for really empathetic people, they have a really troublesome time. As I have learned too, the guy, who ordered that Mai Lai event, was actually a normal person, no psychopath or narcissist. Only some temporary narcissistic rage leads to this. I think you have a fun time to watch us acting.
You have my respect for your honesty I'm sure this is not an easy thing to talk about. At least it helps people understand you better. There are times it would be nice to not feel anxiety and shyness.
Empathy for a sociopath is like entering a crocodile pool with steaks strapped to your body. Spreading awareness is great, but I advise against getting close to anyone diagnosed as such. I learned the hard way. Too many people in the comments are missing that point.
Yeah. It's really incredible how stupid people are. Their ramblings essentially boil down to "Well, just because they're sociopaths, that doesn't mean they don't have empathy!!!1!". Well, yes it does. It means exactly that. And what that implies is truly horrifying. They are basically machines. If they have incentive and *know* they'll get away with it, they will absolutely murder you with ...no remorse. Because that's the only impossible thing for them to do.
Actively choosing kindness is something many people don't do, even if they're not sociopaths. Personally, i often feel like my own emotions are constantly overwhelming me, to imagine not feeling things like anxiety and remorse is so fascinating to me. Thankyou for sharing this, i think many people don't really know much about sociopaths besides bad things we hear on the news or in media.
Sorry girl, saying that compassion and kindness have nothing to do with empathy is simply asinine. Where did you get that PhD. in Psychology? TikTok State? RUclips U?
People who don't feel empathy can still be compassionate and kind because you think it's the right thing to do not because you feel for the person. It's a more analytical then humane process of looking at things.
Sociopath don't admit they sociopath they deny it...they are next to kin to narcissist. It's super rare u meet someone with no feelings to the point were it's demonic. It's more like she is pretending to be something she is not for likes..(narcs)
Both psychopaths and sociopaths can feel emotions. They simply don't feel empathy, remorse, guilt, and shame. They can be sad, happy, angry, etc. They may also have emotional problems such as depression or anxiety. They are still people.
Calling narcissists and sociopaths demonic, you seem like a well adjusted person who doesn't exclude people who are different from you... Anyways, this comment makes no sense.
Yeah you’re one of the few people who aren’t naive. Also everyone saying they can detect the lack of empathy in her eyes are just experiencing a psychological phenomenon where the brain is told something beforehand and then expects to see it. So because they were told she lacks empathy they somehow see it in her eyes. If they hadn’t been told that information they wouldn’t have been able to tell jack by her eyes.
@@Nate-1244 eh, gotta be legit with you, the eyes literally cannot tell anyone a half rat's ass about the character of a person. If someone with asd made a video similar to this one, other people with asd would be saying "the neutral expression is too relatable". In other news, she isn't *just* a sociopath, she is also a narcissist, and, posting these kinds of videos is fuel, it makes them feel powerful for people to say "I wish I was more like you". Although, I have no doubt in my mind that of she is getting the treatment she needs, the educational nature she adheres to these videos would be genuine.
@@Ssacabambaspis That’s what I’m saying. You can’t tell anything by someone’s eyes, it is all imaginary. It’s as simple as if you tell someone that someone has a lack of empathy, all of the sudden their brain plays some trick that they see it. But I guarantee you if they didn’t know about a lack of empathy they wouldn’t be able to tell anything.
I’m just thinking like damn. Not feeling anxiety sounds so relieving to me.
Right ?
😆 That was my thought exactly!!
then again, not enough anxiety can cause you to be reckless
@Wordsmith 430 they are human beings. psychopath and sociopath are also not medical terms and they are often de-humanizing. the proper medical diagnoses is antisocial personality disorder.
I know people think it's good to have no anxiety but anxiety is necessary for survival. too much of anything is harmful. psychopathic or sociopathic, whoever doesn't feel an ounce of anxiety is a dangerous person for society, they wouldn't hesitate while killing or any sort of crime. its also due to this emotion of anxiety ppl run away from dangerous situations.
“I won’t continue with these actions because it results in bad consequences for myself.”
Truth. Never think that consequences don’t matter.
I feel the same usually it’s just the fucking Consequences. When there’s those Gypsies across the Street I only stop myself due to the Chaos my actions would result. We have Tennis Rackets so I just want to slam one of them in the Head, but I know what will follow after.
Why some sociopaths develop empathy and emotional intelligence, to a point they actually start feeling the personal emotions themselves.
And doesn't that weigh em down 🤣🤣😭😭🤣👍
@@TassieJakeit is a thing i fought part of myself for. I noticed the fact that being nice and acting empathetic started to become more instinctual. I made a conscious effort to keep myself from developing true empathy. I believe it will most likely keep me from using my experience to reach my one and only goal: to perfect humanity as a human who lost their humanity trying to become the perfect human.
Yeah, just look at the state of Democrat-run cities. No consequences =more crime.
this is the behaviorist theory
i’m so sick of everyone in the comments saying shit like “she is so scary, she is not human, she is a terrible person” you think she can control that? i think the fact that she’s sharing the way her brain works is admirable. she’s preventing people from being manipulated and raising awareness about her condition. the fact that she’s making an effort to not be destructive should be applauded.
Sort of. You also sound manipulated.
Yep, she doesn't have to share at all
actually people with feelings are the most scary cause they will do the most messed up stuff to you if you hurt them or their loved ones.
@johnnyespalahento2431 actually, the "people with feelings" you refer to, if they are doing the things you describe, likely have a personality disorder or two or, if the behavior does not rise to that level, strong personality disorder-type traits that drive that behavior.. The behavior of people without "feelings" is not that of a human with a sane, rational mind and emotional intelligence.
These people have no unjustified social responsibility training as most people, but they are logical, and can approach socially responsible behavior through logic. They are not the monsters popular psychology makes of them. Once the effect of an action though society back to self and those close to the person is evident, they improve. In some ways they are more ethical than the common person who learned to be socially responsible by fear of god or parent or teacher, religious doctrine, and shame, all motivations of pure egotistical interest.
actively choosing kindness is a better deed than most people can muster up
Bingoooooo can I quote you on that? A sociopath would just steal it without remorse 😂
Nah most people are good, you’re just so stuck in your little bubble on the wrong side of social media that you don’t realize it.
not having anxiety sounds like a dream come true.
That you Simon?😂😂
@@mimah1015no,it's Patrick
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@@mysticmanization that shit makes my anxiety 1000 times worse 😭
True
This was so intresting, with public and private emotions. I've never thought about that its different "kinds" of emotions like this.
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i tried googling it, but found no results.. i wonder where she got that from?
I think it doesn’t make any sense lol is she making a distinction between expressing vs feeling emotions. Even if that was it it still makes no sense !
I don't really get the difference of public and private emotions, anyone?
@@changedmynamebcyallwouldnt.. maybe she brake it down herself from her point of view ,just the way she fees it,or see it,or a book or something.
My ex had this. I entered the lions den. I am still scarred. I applaude this woman for speaking out about it, raising awareness, since many sociopaths and psychopaths denies or rejects their diagnosis .
it's unwise to make generalizations like this, since people with ASPD tend to be far more willing to accept a diagnosis than any of the other cluster B personality disorders, especially NPD
@@рената_цехановецкая THISS - theyre generally more likely to accept the diagnosis they just tend to steer away from treatment which is common with all cluster b personalities (i have a cluster b disorder aswell, not aspd) there's very few treatment options for people with aspd and the most accepted treatment at this time is just trying to avoid the disorder from developing at all by catching it in it's precursor age while the person is a child which serves very little help to people with aspd and it needs more research put into it
@@рената_цехановецкаяwhy do you think they are more willing to accept their diagnosis?
What’s sociopath mean
For what? She just said she's a spoiled person who only cares about herself. It's the default setting of a child. Not something to applaud. This could have been helped instead they gave excuses and pretended it was something she couldn't control.
Most underrated statement you made here is pointing out that you don’t have to have empathy to be kind. Thank you for choosing kindness ❤
You show a lack of understanding. She would not care one whit about your gratitude
She might be doing it just to get a better reputation and more trust from people, just saying, y’know……
@@Drudbut isn't that a lot of people's reasoning anyway? Yes, you have people who are kind just because. But a lot of people only do good as a means to an end, they just might not admit to it. That's literally the definition of virtue signaling
@@Drud honestly who cares, as long as she is kind
@@HaloHighlightz Okay, but being kind for the sole purpose of blending in with most people and to look good is kind of exactly what psychopaths does. So no, it’s not the reason why most people do nice things. Kindness can be faked. But most people are genuine in doing acts of kindness and does so wholeheartedly. I’m sorry if I don’t make sense, sorry, I’m tired rn.
I've watch her video where she said that when she was a child, she wasn't allowed to show emotions as anger, sadness etc. So she had to hide them deep inside. It's so damn wrong...I cannot imagine how hard it was for a little girl...But she is very aware of what's going on as the consequence and is working hard.
I really hope she has healthy boundaries in place with her parents, the father especially sounds like a piece of work from what she's said about him in her videos.
The sad part about this, and no offense towards men, but women, naturally we’re just created biologically to have the ability to deal (maybe deal isn’t the best works but experience and allow our emotions to be there vs. hiding them, even if we have to hide them we self sooth by thinking about what we are experiencing) with our emotions better, so I feel like when you put the same scenario on a man they’re not as aware of what’s going on, she can actually look at it as she’s a product of her environment and try her hardest to be aware of that. Therefore, she can be in society without doing horrible things. Men aren’t as good at that you know …they’re not made to be thinking about that kind of stuff they’re made biologically and since the beginning of time whether it’s right or whether it’s wrong, It’s how it’s always been, to go out and work to provide, While women are home with the feelings and the children and the emotions and all that kind of stuff … so it’s just sad because people that are born like this that are men, they really are not so aware and then they end up doing really bad things because of the lack of remorse.
@Missmay777 Those are really good insights... more men than women are sociopaths... unfortunately if a baby or child doesn't receive enough love from their first day of life, they become emotionally stunted and the effects can be lifelong. Especially pernicious in men...
I often cried as a child about things. I was told not to cry, stop crying bc crying was weak. Which made it worse, I started to cry over everything. Someone could confront me with something and I would break down. Which in turn caused my mother to call me dramatic and over emotional. At the same time she would deny being wrong about ANYTHING. Which tripled the effect. She also constantly criticizes me since I was little, when I was young it was hidden as condensing backhanded compliment or under the guise of "what's best for me". Down to my hair color, clothes, makeup, etc. As an adult it is no longer hidden n is directly done but the effect is not the same, I used to be very reactive. But there was a turning point in my psyche and I know the exact day and time it happened. I started wailing bc she just wouldn't see or even try to understand my point of view in a particular argument about how she treated me. That day I could literally feel the chemicals reacting and changing my brain. My heart had literal pain for years and that was my last straw my body could handle. I became an alcoholic n addict shortly after that lasted a decade. My brother and I were pawns in her constant game of emotional infancy, we both developed addictions n now he is dead bc of it. N guess what, SHE'S STILL IN DENIAL ABOUT WHO SHE WAS TO HER CHILDREN! She thinks she was mother of the year bc she bought us groceries
@@Missmay777it could also be societal factors, instead of men and women being different. Due to toxic masculinity, men are frowned upon for sharing emotions, but women are not. This might explain why some women express emotions better
This is so fascinating to me because as someone with schizoaffective disorder &bpd I feel EVERYTHING and can faint or puke from emotions
As someone who feels way to much to the point of physical exhaustion I wish I could be this way and I feel guilt for even typing this. I’m just so tired.
Same
I love people like you though. People need to feel more and the world would be a better place
@@minorkey5286 yeah but most people will use us and hurt us.
I have much empathy and give my best for people who just do not mind to use my kindness for their gain.
I really would love to change myself and be a bit selfish because like the commenter said it is really exhausting.
It is that exhausting that sometimes I end up crying just from being drained of my good energy.
Don’t worry It’s just a trauma response ❤ find a good therapist if you can to unpack this and learn how to overcome. You don’t deserve constant guilt and I’m sorry something made you feel like you have to be.
Omg I am the same. Even for strangers I have the need to help them. I will give my last dollar to someone I know deep down is scamming me even if my tummy is rumbling. I cry seeing animals hurt. Wayyyy to much empathy. Sometimes I wish I had sociopathic ways. Just don’t want to hurt anyone. Crazy how different people
Can be huh?
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Absolutely 💛
Powerful where? Unicorn, bubble gum, princess fairytale land? Delusional.
not cool no need to pull out the abilist card
Straight up
It takes strength to be kind to someone that disrespects you
When a regular person is a good person, it's much less impressive than when a sociopath is a good person. Sociopath acts purely out of personal choice, since there is no guilt, shame or empathy to guide them in such a way.
I once watched an interview with a diagnosed narcissist and he seemed like such a great guy, we shared many beliefs and values it’s just he learned and implemented these values through a more logical sense rather than any empathetic sense. It was more sympathetic and just not caring to be a bad person for values and beliefs sake, that’s not to say he was perfect no one is and he even spoke about some things he did and didn’t feel guilty for, he also spoke about trauma and being in a constant state of low self worth and survival. It made me happy to know people can act on sympathy without having the emotions to further help biologically affiliate it, such as empathy or if not empathy guilt or pity.
For me it’s a mix of things I hold compassion as one of my most valued traits which also is a slight esteem boost since it’s tied to femininity and I’m trans but this isn’t the primary reason, while I do feel remorse, empathy, and gilt I can be quite neurotic and I have had times where I was overstimulated and times of extreme apathy where I felt no strong emotions, but the person I want to be regardless is someone I would look up to, someone who will do their best to set their own path and forward good into the world for the sake of altruism while not forgetting there humble beginnings.
There’s no one reason I ended up this way but many environmental and biological factors that contribute. I’d rather choose compassion than have it forced on me because I want to be genuine, and the way I was raised caused me to feel as if that’s selfish. If I’m good because I want to be a good person that’s selfish because it’s all about me. Not sure if this makes sense I understood and understand it’s not a very helpful thinking pattern but as a trans black fem presenting person I’ve always been fed doubt and even to this day am not only by our systems but people who perpetuate it.
Sorry to blabber 😅
Sociopaths can have high morals just needs to be valued in childhood
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What you said makes no sense. Regular people aren't good sociopath or not.
Thank you for sharing. Very insightful
Everyone has a choice. It’s called free will.
"I can show compassion and kindness, that's not the same as empathy."
Brilliantly said, and your unique experience is useful in showcasing these kinds of important distinctions.
One out of 200 people are this way, however the honestly is refreshing. Understanding this and taking positive action is really good.
I appreciate you sharing all of this. Usually you only hear about sociopaths after they've done something 'bad', and then they get demonised. I think it's good for people to be understanding towards all types of people. It's interesting because it's a natural variation amongst the population and there seems to be pros and cons just like other neurotypes
Sociopaths don't seem to care about being demonized. If the shame is unpleasant, they'll stop the behavior. It's part of how they learn. How are you supposed to know it's bad if no one tells you?
@@Poodle_Gunwell they would care because being demonized comes with downsides
@@koibubbles3302 It comes with downsides because a sociopath’s key is survival, starting with having to get through people. It’s all use.
Uh, no. They are damaging.
@@koibubbles3302because not feeling sorrow is kind of a downside. It’s good for people to know
Honestly as an autistic person, some of my emotions work similarly-I have either no empathy or extremely high empathy, but the reasons I have them change often
I’ve heard that there are different types of empathy and some autistic people are poor with cognitive empathy but good at a type of empathy (forgot the name for it) that is based more on pure emotions.
That’s me as well. But my empathy is very selective, it’s confusing
Same but i have adhd so in the moment my mind wont be there to process it, but later on i will be reminded of it is when i really feel it.
@@TheWanderingXerwhy would someone lie about having a mental disorder? For empathy? That’s stupid
i do not know whether i am autistic or not because i have never went to check, never had any test results and etc., but even if i could be not, what i know for sure is that in any way, i am a very emotionally-unstable person with "odd" behavior patterns, always was a freak in school and etc . for my "weird" behavior. i always have TOO MUCH empathy, there wasnt a moment in my life in the last 6 or so years when i had absolutely 0% empathy for someone, or even below 100%, and i have no clue where its all coming from, but im ready to vomit and cry whenever i see someone having a needle pierced through their skin or anything, people often get angry at me saying too many "thank you"s and "sorry"s for everything, yet there is always a reason to say thank you if someone uncomditionally did something nice to you that they could have just not done, yet they did out of their own will! i often question which one of my actions is weird and whih one is normal, often confuusing myself with the two. once in my lifetime, many years ago, i tried supressing my empathy when i was angry at everyone, occasionally just being a toxic moron, who, in reality felt bad about everything he did. i cant imagine how i would have lived my life without any empathy, i think i would have already gone crazy or sometying, but thats just my personal experience!! people can be fine and normal even without any empathy, its just me who cannot, since i have lived my whole life only having too much of it, and never just a bit.
Well I need to become a sociopath because this anxiety sh*t ain't it.
anxiety is necessary, but too much can be overwhelming.
I love anxiety
You cant turn it off.
@@noakinnit really is, the Proffesor gives me an assignment to complete in 3 months, I do it last second and pass haha
To be honest, ASPD isn't that bad for me. If I had to explain it I'd say it's just like a "I don't give a shit about you, I'm my number one priority. Fuck off". I wouldn't say I purposely "Hurt" people and the media and psychologists make us out to be awful disgusting people when we really aren't that bad. Also psychopath and sociopath are both terms I personally don't use. I'm just a person who was born with Antisocial personality disorder.
Thank you for your open honesty, you share a very unique perspective that some people could gather a plethora of knowledge…hoping positive things for your future!
‘Compassion and kindness has nothing to do with empathy’
Empathy definitely has lots to do with true compassion. They couldn’t be any more related
Yeah, only empathic people can genuinely be kind. Sociopaths can have a very productive life and do things that others _consider_ to be kind, but the purpose behind isn’t out of generosity, altruism, consideration and respect for anyone, is just because life becomes easier that way since it brings them less issues.
@@kora4185and what? If person as trauma response (or biologically) doesn’t have empathy and choose kindness consciously, what’s the problem with this? Isn’t it better? Why neurotypicals so obsessed with everything being ‘genuine’?
@@XeroxAndInfinity I never said it was a good or bad thing, I was just explaining. I couldn’t be more neurodivergent myself.
@@kora4185 Okay, sorry for bothering you ❤️
But kindness is just social construct that’s what I meant. Even genuine kindness (altruism) is just neurobiological responses on something, because some percentage of population biologically programmed to be altruistic (or egoistic, because to much altruists as bad as too much egoists), if person feels something sacrificing themselves it doesn’t mean it’s ‘genuine’.
Finally I put my thoughts in words 😅
@@XeroxAndInfinity I agree empathy is a just an unconscious biological response really, a smart way for life to organically/automatically help itself, as the more social beings are, the more you grow and don’t die, so empathy comes quite handy to push yourself to teach and help with much more eagerness and be helped out back (but too much of it becomes a problem, as you then tend to isolate yourself and freeze duo to how overwhelming the feelings are).
And I meant genuinely as in just for real, like sighted people _really_ seeing, as oppose of someone who just can’t see even if they consciously try behaving like they do.. but in the end we have little to no control over our brain chemistry either way indeed, and that’s something I often have to be reminded. Excuse my English 💞
I wish more people understood that empathy is a pretty passive emotion. It often gets used interchangeably with compassion, but they're not the same. That's how you can get toxic "empaths." Compassion and kindness are actions and empathy is nothing without them, and you don't need empathy to choose them.
You must be right, it's all comes down to your actions, your decisions
I wouldn't trust compassion and kindness to be chosen consistently without empathy behind them. Emotions guide behavior.
@@junodonatus4906 Maybe for most people. Cognitive empathy or the reward of getting the best possible result are also options - which, believe it or not, can be defined as “solutions for peoples problems” or “gaining self-awareness”. It depends on the person. It’s just that “most people” haven’t had to grasp for those different options and find reasons outside of their own emotion. Even “I don’t want to become the person who made me turn my emotions off and made my life boring as hell” is enough a motivation honestly.
It’s not that difficult to get used to as long as your surroundings gave you a sense of reason, action, and mental stimulus. Y’all just can’t fathom it cause it wasn’t the hand you were dealt, so there wasn’t a need to get creative.
@@JustAStranger2840
Well I think that we can agree that emotions evolved - so it must be for a reason. There had to be selective pressure in other words, a survival advantage to having them. I believe that this survival advantage is in encountering new situations where we must make decisions in absence of having drect (or prior) experience with a similar situation.
@@junodonatus4906 Yes, that and an ability to stay within a group which tends to be a better survival tactic. Dw not all of us low-on-empathy seek to upheave the group, not all of us want the power to wield it, and a lot of us agree with you. If I'm still reading the original paradigm correctly, that is. If I'm not, sorry.
Just felt like challenging your original statement out of prediction, knowing how unaware neurotypicals/anti-socials/narcs tend to act when put in the same room. The longer people go without knowing these other options apart from empathy, the more difficulty and abuse everyone gets in the long run.
Edit: just think of it as an offering; another added survival tactic, if you will.
I think every child learns the hard way about lying and taking things but the fact that you are aware of your feelings and able to admit you don't have feelings sometimes shows how mature you are about it. 💖
Gurl
@@toneyfox6328 lol
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Did you not realize she's only sharing and posting this content for profit and personal gratification?? Wake up ppl!!
@@Free2B3 Who doesn't post for that reason? lol
Good on you for being aware and sharing. My babydaddy is a sociopath. Ended up in jail.
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I love this breakdown. I always thought I lacked the ability to empathize because I can't sense that a person who's smiling, laughing, making jokes, and is really into something is faking it and they're actually struggling inside. But yeah, if someone's openly sad or unhappy I totally feel that, and I'll do everything within my abilities to make things better for them. It sounds like sociopathy is more lack of awareness and/or disregard of self and how that impacts others, and I thank you for the clarification.
Wow compassion and kindness when you have no innate drive for it is pretty impressive
When I was a teen I was alot like that. I think that was a defense mechanism for all the trama I'd been thru. Now as a 27 year old I do feel empathy, guilt, and remorse VERY intensely. Idk if it's from having a child, getting older, or something else but I almost wish I didn't feel these things because of how painful it can be.
Same
your brain is fully developed... and your right trauma stunts those parts of the brain. I'm glad you grew
Having a child changes a lot of things
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I appreciate your openness and vulnerability in expressing this. I’m very empathic (to a fault sometimes) and have tried to understand the psychology of a sociopath and it’s been hard to wrap my mind around - your explanation is helpful, well-spoken and easier to understand. Wishing you all the best and hoping that others are being kind and compassionate to you 💜
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You know she's only sharing for profit and personal gratification and not because she cares about anyone of us, right??
As long as you know right from wrong, you don't have to feel emotions. Emotions don't run us, they are just here for us. We make the decisions, not the emotions.
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I like this. Lots of people need to hear that.
Pretty much how robots are programmed to perform tasks. AI can pick up on emotions these days too..
Well said
ohhh good one
Sociopaths and psychopaths can feel anxiety and empathy. I'm a diagnosed psychopath and the proper term is aspd. In order to feel empathy we need to be able to relate to the situation. So many people are fed nonsense about this condition it's really not as bad as it's made out to be in films etc. I care for people too.. I'm a good friend but a bad enemy 😅.
Thanks for making these videos. You're doing important work.
I have to say that as someone who is a huge empath with BPD i slightly wish that I could take even of a bit of her emotional construct of public and private emotions because of the impact my guilt , my attachment, fear, anxiety panic are so powerful
Right on my anxiety and guilt have hugely stunted me
Your a gift to this world. Empathy and love are our superpower. You need to find a balance and protect yourself. Love and light from a fellow empath ❤️🙏🏻
@@kellymatthews3732 Thank you so much for your kind word The specifically coming at a time where I needed to hear that I appreciate you I wish I could find someone who is like yourself
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i have bpd too, i like to think of it as we’ve been given these challenges because we’re strong enough to handle them and we’ve taken it for someone who couldn’t. i know somedays it feels like you just can’t take it, but you’re here with us today and that’s a gift in itself. sending love
Sociopaths are diagnosed narcissists so telling her that ''bad actions have bad consequense for urself'' is actually genius. So praise to her therapist🙌. Also thay are pretty good manipulators that act nice but make u feel worthless at the time. That's why friends of sociopaths have pretty good view of them. They LOVE to use your emotions to their own good. Cause they don't feel emotions they are using to manipulate you does not mean THEY DON'T KNOW ABOUT IT. Like how could they use manipulation if they don't know abt emotions. ACTUALLY they can feel those to very very BLESSED PEOPLE, but they simply do not wanna feel those and does not.
My sons father was so triggered when I called him a Narcissist. (Maybe bcoz everyone has Narcissistic tendencies sometime in life). He proudly told me he was a Sociopath. (More like a psychopath).
No remorse for even trying to kill me and his son on multiple occasions. Yet he's a great liar to make you think he's remorseful. (He just used what he's learnt in his favour to get what he wants) Hope he thought about all this in jail.
I personally can not be around these kinds of people. Especially when I FEEL all.
They need trauma healing and a connection to their soul without drugs. All we can do is pray for them and hope their higherself re connects.🙏🏻✨️
@@DivineStardustAlchemy i think u should focus on ur sons mental health bc sociopathy runs in blood. Don't get offended or anything but I'm just warning u🙂. Sometimes sociopaths refuse to check their mental health and believe they don't have any problem bc of their narcissistic nature. I'm not saying that ur son is a sociopath but u should still be focused😁
@@Jassi_o1that is such a great point!
What I’ve learned from every psychologist I’ve listened to (or read) is that sociopaths are born, and narsissists are made. Both personality disorders with overlapping attributes, but that there are differences.
A sociopath and narcissist are not the same
I meet sociopaths everyday that aren't diagnosed.
You'll be alright girl, you are being open when other people aren't.
"Compassion and Kindness are choices I actively make" chad move
Dude, that’s so lucky. I’m crippled by anxiety, self doubt, etc. To not be held back by that shit, I’d be unstoppable
Imagine not feeling anxiety!!’😮 I would love that
Sounds great in theory I guess. I think the issue is you won't feel that sweet sweet relief, gratefulness and so on...
I always say I'm a "good person" not because I'm actually a good person or thoughtful etc, it's just that my empathy makes me feel way too many feelings and it's easier for me to get rid of the discomfort by doing "nice things"
This is so interesting. I'm so glad you're sharing all of this with us.
Thanks for making this short. I found it very informative and educational!!
THANKYOU for posting this. This is so important and beautiful! Compassion and kindness are a choice! That's an important statement. The world is effed up cos of all the undiagnosed sociopaths and narcissists who don't make this choice. Not because they're born that way.
You can't feel anxiety? Omg sign my anxious panic ridden ass up
Same here, bring on the sociopathy!!! Lmao
Same, but then you wouldn’t feel anxiety at all… which would not be the best idea. So maybe not same.
Wait, what about anxiety about, money? If you have $0 in your bank account, wouldn’t that provoke anxiety??
@@adelaidealfieri9582 thats circumstance-related anxiety no?
It's because you don't care. I mean genuinely I have it too and 100% it's because you don't care about how people see you. It's not that anxiety dosent exist, if it didn't you wouldn't watch TV or listen to music because it would lack excitement. The anxiety she speaks of is anxiety of how people think of her, if you don't have empathy then you don't CARE how people feel Because you don't have the same emotions. It's like being an alien and being confused why humans jerk off, you can explain all you want but to them it's just weird.
This is really neat, I like learning more about what it feels like for you to not have feelings... Mainly because I have so many.
Not having anxiety may sound good on paper but when these people get behind the wheel thinking they own the road.. dangerous
This is the clearest description I have ever heard. I understand now. Thank you
That is a terrifying concept. Question: do you like yourself?
She probably does, 100%
@@Impericide Or thinks she does.
Like I literally just thought to myself “wow I can’t imagine how I’d live with myself knowing I didn’t care about anybody else” and then realized “oh right, I wouldn’t care.😅”
I know it was probably hard to come out and educate us all on your experience with this disorder, as well as being demonized for it. You are a very strong and brave individual, especially because you CHOOSE to be a good person. Hope all goes well for you!
Why would it be hard? She’s being financially rewarded for it on this platform. No consequences.
You've described emotions in such interesting way. I like to say that they're like water. I touch just the surface with mine, they're very subtle and quick to disappear, but other people can go deeper, onto the waters. And if you're too deep, you'll drown. Hehe
Not a if I’m in a submarine!
@@adsalesmanguy2251 good luck then
@@adsalesmanguy2251 Criminal minds argue with Psy-Sociology like ... uvw
I just learned so much. Public and private emotions? I've never heard them refered to this way. Btw she scares me. It sounds like an enjoyable life having no anxiety or remorse, but frankly I wouldn't chose it. She is missing out on critical aspects of Humanity... Like true love. Without emotions like empathy she could never truly love, that must be sad. Also the emotions she did describe feeling are awful, who wants to feel those and nothing else? Sounds like a curse
TBH I wish I could not have feelings. I’m the perfect target for narcissistic people and sociopaths . Always end up in the hands of one
Use discernment then
Me too, but after enough pain, you begin to pick up on the early red flags, and end things quick! If not, you’ll end up a shell of a human..
Knowledge is power. Use it and be happy.
You specifically look for them.
It's hard just trying to be nice after a while.
What about grief? For a parent, sibling, child or even a pet? Is that something you could feel, and would that be atypical as well?
As someone w an older brother with asps- not exactly . The thing is, they cannot genuinely feel the deep emotion of grief. Grief is loss of something, but sociopaths are unable to build that meaningful, sentimental attachment to those things in the first place for it to hurt when it is gone. Surely they understand grief, though, but that doesn’t mean they experience that.
They do not connect to people the way that normal individuals do, so the loss of the relationship is not the end of the world. They know they should care and express sorrow in those sad situations bc that is the social acceptable and polite thing to do; but they do not feel effected by such emotions themselves.
As a sociopath who has had family and friends die I'll say that there was definitely some twing of negative emotion at the thought of "oh this person wont be around anymore" but nothing anywhere near grief in the traditional sense.
I also get over death and loss very fast. Usually by the time the actual funeral rolls around I've processed and gotten over the death and am mostly apathetic about it at that point.
She gonna be very successful in life
Depends how you define "success". Anyway starting stealing doesn't sound very successful.
She has a higher self-awareness now, and this beneficial for all people.
You’re amazing and you are loved
Thank you for being honest.
You can’t feel anxiety?!
I can’t fathom what that would’ve like
"Love is a choice we consistently make." wow this really puts that quote in perspective. it's so true. choosing to be compassionate and show kindness (and the hard to define word of *love*) really is a choice the we can all make.
She's literally made videos about using and throwing away other people for fun and given tutorials on how to do it. So she doesn't deserve words of encouragement for that behavior so please stop enabling. Thank you and have a nice day people
Everyone deserves words of encouragement. It's EASY for a neurotypical capable of empathy to be a good person. When someone who isn't capable TRIES to make good choices, even if seldom, they should be encouraged. She doesn't have to spread understanding of ASPD or be transparent with her life and manipulation tactics, but she IS, and it has helped many people to spot other Cluster B users and abusers. Not to mention allowing others with Cluster B personality disorders to feel represented and understood.
You mean the ones about how to manipulate narcissists? Too bad, so sad
Understanding consequence & choosing to not do harm- there isn’t anything wrong with not feeling low vibrational emotions. I’m the same way, (I don’t feel shame, fear, etc.), but I also do no harm because I have enough cognitive empathy to say.. “that’s weird.. why would I hurt anyone”. I feel more protective over ppl who are more emotionally vulnerable. There’s a great Brene Brown speech about helping others- essentially, when someone is experiencing negative emotions, it doesn’t always help to get down there in the trenches with them, rather to be a hand reaching down to pull them out of it. Sometimes APD stems from CPTSD or trauma but beautiful things grow out of the darkest places 🪷 I picture a high vibrational lighthouse guiding others thru their storm ⛈️ 💜
That's legit the first person I ever saw in my life that represented this diagnosis, more so accurately than not, in under 1 minute
I would love not to have anxiety for a few hours!
Me too
Same! Mine is almost 24/7 since I hardly can sleep 😔
Go find some ashwagonda. It works
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@Johnnie Owens I was just about to say the same thing
Sometimes I wish I am like you. Feelings are so exhausting and leave me drained
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Yeah I know how you feel.
There usually is so much physiological damage happening in one’s childhood, especially the first five years, to exhibit this kind of behavior. I was in a relationship for 7 1/2 years with a sociopath and narcissist so I’ve experienced this firsthand. They nearly drove me to suicide until I climbed out of their lair and left. Then they stalked and harassed me. It’s quite heartbreaking to watch people struggle with this yet those around them have to learn to protect themselves or eventually severe ties to remove themselves from the toxic environment that can be soul crushing.
How were you in relationship for that long WITHOUT SEEING something off the first few times your sociopath was cold to you??🤔
Thank you for your honesty your very brave.
Thank you for believing in yourself, recognizing what is wrong, and being your best self.
I hadn’t thought about the difference between a public and private emotion prior to watching this.
Same
I actually do have respect for her, she appears straight forward, to the point & truthful.
She's telling the world who she is, what she is classed as. People can class sociopaths as the villain & it's not fair in this day & age when we understand more about the condition which developed possibly due to severe childhood trauma & the way she is, it's not her fault. You could make friends, but she will probably not be the best person to go to about certain issues.(you wouldn't go to a pet shop to buy a car!)
I visual empathic people's emotions are constantly all over the place, while hers is a constant flat line.
If people physically appear flawless, not anything out of place, possibly aristocratic, then that could be an indicator of traits.
Another indicator is, that painted dead-eye low lid stare she has, which tells me, never to mess with her or you'd regret it!
I noticed a flash of wide eye after she glanced to the left during when she said "....I didn't know it was wrong ....."
Looking to the left:
Glancing to the left suggests that you are remembering facts or having visual thoughts. This is often a good way to check whether someone is telling you the truth. It can also mean that someone is having a conversation with themself internally or is rehearsing their next line.
She has a certain prowess about her, like she possesses the soul of an ancient Egyptian Queen. I do admire the grace of her
She’s said in past videos that she does not wish to feel any of those neurotypical emotions
@@alicia234 thankyou for the info, I will correct my comment🙂
@@paranoidgenius9164 no problem
Cant feel private emotions sounds scary i heard that psykopaths stop existing when left along thats why they hate rejection so much .. but thank you for sharing. Sorry if my writing is bad i speak swedich most of the time 😊
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They're Narcissists along with it.
I'm glad you speak publicly about your disorder. Growing up I was regularly viewed negatively for not showing emotions like sadness, happiness, love or guilt. Even now I have to put on an act of emotions so people don't judge me. We were born like this, there's nothing to be ashamed of.
Whenever I watch your videos I always feel calm, you feel safe. I imagine if I were close to you in real life, you would be one of the people I would gravitate to the most. I’m autistic, and the way you act and your upfront way of talking is much easier to understand and feel at ease with as posed to neurotypical people.
I have seen this lady before. She came on an Australian show called Insight many years ago. She actually came on the show because they were doing a show on narcissists. So now she is a sociopath not a narcissist. Interesting.
both npd and aspd are cluster b personality disorders with lots of overlap in symptoms/co-morbidity. a lot of people with npd also have aspd and vice versa, but a lot of aspd people can be misdiagnosed as npd or vice versa. someone going on a show years ago because they believed they had a hard diagnosis only to say years later they have a different diagnosis in the same family as their previous one is not the “interesting” gotcha you think it is.
as a fellow diagnosed sociopath, I can confirm we are just extraordinarily introverted
I had a massive mental break early in highschool. I became totally apathetic and genuinely couldn’t feel empathy, or as listed; “private emotions”. I broke up with a girlfriend and did the same hot-cold method (unmeaningfully, I never intended to be malicious). I got myself in a lot of trouble at that time, because consequences meant nothing. They caused me no distress. It was very strange and I truly thought I’d also become a “sociopath” (aka ASPD). The only comfort I had was the fact that I was mildly concerned by this shift and the effect it was having on others, not that I particularly cared about how they felt but rather the longterm adversity, was a sign that I wasn’t totally beyond help. I reckon this was a major attempt at coping by avoiding and ignoring feelings, and detaching from reality because my circumstances were quite severe and I don’t think I had the capacity to deal with the stress and emotional burden of my situation. It’s funny how our brains can do that. Anyway, today I’m fine, but I would consider myself lower empathy, high compassion, and I believe I was wrongly misdiagnosed as Borderline, but I’m actually just autistic with a lot of complex trauma. BPD seems to be a fun hysteria diagnosis for women who probably are just autistic lol
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Did you feel normal emotions before the mental break?
A lot of people would tell me it's fucked up to say this but as someone who's VERY (and fully) emotional I'm telling you fuck I wish I had it more like you 💀
Wow, this is so brave for you speaking to the public about this. It really helps to understand. Thankyou for sharing this.
I would have thought compassion was based in empathy. Hmm
Not necessarily. Compassion can be learned through experiences and choices to do what’s kinder
I don’t have ASPD, just Asperger’s. If my friend is crying, I don’t feel upset with them or sad, I just feel awkward and would rather walk away from the situation I don’t want to be a part of. But they’re my friend and they’re sad, I don’t want my friend to be sad so even though it’ll make me uncomfortable I’ll try and give them a hug. Even though I’ll mostly be bored the whole time I’ll sit and listen to what’s wrong for as long as they need because at least they can get it all out.
I’m not empathising with the way theyre feeling, but they’re my friend and I want them to be happy so I try and be compassionate.
Some may say that’s faking caring about someone, but I have low emotional empathy, I can’t be upset because they are, but I chose to take the time out of my day, stop doing what I was enjoying so I can help them feel better. That’s how I show I care.
I mean the thing about empathy is it doesn't discriminate, you can empathize with very bad people which wouldn't make you compassionate. Imagine having empathy for Hitler for example
@@felixio6370 I can kinda relate to that. I too get uncomfortable when people get emotional or sad around me.
I just don't know how to handle it so I get awkward. I don't think I'm on the spectrum though.
Obviously, I'm not gonna be an asshole cause it's not about me in that moment but man emotional situations are not my strength and somehow I always end up in those situations! 😩
I'm just a more internal person, so I like to keep to myself
Feelings is the broad term I feel..
@@felixio6370 omg I have autism and I’m like this and I’ve never thought about it
I feel the same way about stealing shit but can you imagine how someone might feel if they were anxious, guilty, or in pain mentally then feel shit cause you are imagining it as yourself not another? That is how I understand empathy, I don't think 'they must be sad', I think 'if that was me, I'd feel like shit'
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Narcissistic Ex husband said the same exact thing whenever I talked about 'basic' feelings. Also said "if I have never experienced it before, how am I supposed to know how it feels??" 😳😳
So 4 years later the day has finally come of when someone had cheated on him so he'd know how I felt when he cheated on me. So sad..
@@Free2B3 if you haven't experienced it, how would you know how it feels..? That is the stupidest thing ever. Everyone feels whatever they feel when something shit happens for the first time, you stub your toe for the first time, someone in your family dies for the first time, you get cheated on for the first time, and obviously how you feel is you knowing how you feel. I hope he wakes up every morning with shit in his bed, not his own though, just confused every morning that someone else's shit is in his bed.
@@tarotdiscombe5573 I read your main comment again and I admit that I was wrong comparing you to my ex. So basically you do know how pain, sadness, anxiety, feelings of being betrayed actually feel like, even if you haven't experienced it before yourself, it's just the actual depth of these feelings and putting yourself in someone else's situation 'at that particular moment' that you have hard time doing? Am I reading this right?
Btw I knew my ex was feigning ignorance as a manipulative tactic. He knew EXACTLY how it feels like to be betrayed or lied to, but he'd do it anyways because he's too selfish to care about anyone else feelings and benefit but his.
@@tarotdiscombe5573 I agree with you, there are certain feelings that come with particular life events not everyone can relate to or associate with. But I was talking about basic human feelings and needs in a relationship, like the need to be genuinely loved, need of security and stability, honesty, loyalty, trust, kindness, support, compassion and care during my pregnancy's aches and complications. I busted his whole act and lies by reminding him that.. Yes this might be your first child, but you have been around 3 sisters who got pregnant 7 fkg times before from day one until birth living in the same household!! And had 5 younger siblings when he was 13 years old and older! If anything he should be an expert on how to deal with a pregnant woman, not be an a-hole to her demanding 3 meals a days, polished shoes, ironed clothes and a spotless house and then divorcing me for that😒😒
I am not a diagnosed sociopath but I wouldn’t say I am nice by nature. I always have to expend energy to be nice on a daily basis and keep my snarkiness in check. Sometimes the energy it takes is so much I have to take naps.
Its okay. My daughter communicated differently with autism. You are beautiful - i wish i felt no guilt tbh.
What a caring and loving Mom who truly loves her daughter amd thinks the world of her! Nice work! ❤
I wish I couldn’t feel anxiety 😅
Try nervines such as lemonbalm and skull cap, they are both herbs that calm your nervous system, take on tincture or tea. Anxiety is tied to weak adrenals, licorice root is good for strengthening the adrenal system as long as you don’t have high blood pressure.
Jesus Christ THOSE NOSTRILS!!! 💀💀💀💀💀💀
Ok so ?
Predator gaze. Learn how to spot it folks!
I will always rewatch her videos when I come across them. I find her so amazing. To be able to *actively choose* to be a good person even if you don't understand or get it, I love because I try to be that way myself. to choose to put good out and try to be a good person is absolutely the most admirable things in a person, and in my opinion is the deference between a good person and a evil person. She has chosen to be kind, to try and put good out and also bring awareness for others like her. I have nothing to say but, I love.❤
I don't everyone. This is the first time I ever heard from a sociopath talking about her truth. Thank you to her.❤
I remember when my friend had to explain guilt to me, i thought it was the annoyed feeling when you get caught doing something "wrong". I had no idea other people felt bad about stuff they did even if there were no consequences
I have that deeply trained into me, consequences of actions. But I can feel a small amount of guilt for certain things, mostly just pointless mistreatment of mammals.
Yeah we do. I am a somehow machiavellistic person, nevertheless I feel mid-range empathy.
I watched for example the photos from the Mai Lai, the anxious family people and was disturbed and unfocused for 3 days afterwards.
I thought to myself, if this is the standard for really empathetic people, they have a really troublesome time.
As I have learned too, the guy, who ordered that Mai Lai event, was actually a normal person, no psychopath or narcissist. Only some temporary narcissistic rage leads to this.
I think you have a fun time to watch us acting.
Name and pfp check out lol
Wow, I'd do anything to get rid of my anxiety 😫. Can't comprehend a life without it. So envious of her...
She scares me frfr.
You have my respect for your honesty I'm sure this is not an easy thing to talk about. At least it helps people understand you better. There are times it would be nice to not feel anxiety and shyness.
wow the fact the you acknowledge this . thank you for the amazing sincereness you give
Empathy for a sociopath is like entering a crocodile pool with steaks strapped to your body. Spreading awareness is great, but I advise against getting close to anyone diagnosed as such. I learned the hard way. Too many people in the comments are missing that point.
Yeah. It's really incredible how stupid people are. Their ramblings essentially boil down to "Well, just because they're sociopaths, that doesn't mean they don't have empathy!!!1!".
Well, yes it does. It means exactly that. And what that implies is truly horrifying.
They are basically machines.
If they have incentive and *know* they'll get away with it, they will absolutely murder you with ...no remorse. Because that's the only impossible thing for them to do.
When a woman tells you she's crazy, listen. She means it
What kind of person goes around and tells people they’re a sociopath to get attention? Well I mean… kinda obvious but still. So weird
She could be trying to get better, and is sharing her experiences
U slow ?
@@FloridaJit987 try genius
Actively choosing kindness is something many people don't do, even if they're not sociopaths. Personally, i often feel like my own emotions are constantly overwhelming me, to imagine not feeling things like anxiety and remorse is so fascinating to me. Thankyou for sharing this, i think many people don't really know much about sociopaths besides bad things we hear on the news or in media.
1. You are the first sociopath I see acknowledging their condition. 2. I like you and thank you for that, I wish all would.
Sorry girl, saying that compassion and kindness have nothing to do with empathy is simply asinine. Where did you get that PhD. in Psychology? TikTok State? RUclips U?
People who don't feel empathy can still be compassionate and kind because you think it's the right thing to do not because you feel for the person. It's a more analytical then humane process of looking at things.
She’s definitely a narcissist, but not a sociopath lol.
She's diagnosed with both also you don't know her so hush.
Sociopath don't admit they sociopath they deny it...they are next to kin to narcissist. It's super rare u meet someone with no feelings to the point were it's demonic. It's more like she is pretending to be something she is not for likes..(narcs)
Both psychopaths and sociopaths can feel emotions. They simply don't feel empathy, remorse, guilt, and shame. They can be sad, happy, angry, etc. They may also have emotional problems such as depression or anxiety. They are still people.
@@mufc1499Clearly you’ve missed the entire point of the comment.
Calling narcissists and sociopaths demonic, you seem like a well adjusted person who doesn't exclude people who are different from you... Anyways, this comment makes no sense.
@@Nate-1244 There is no point to be made.
@@Red--Moon Oh ok then, let’s just pretend you’re the person who made the original comment and can say whether there was a point or not.
Thanks for sharing this. It's very helpful. I appreciate you opening up.
This lady has helped me understand people so much more ❤
She has dead eyes, as in at least contacts. I call bullshit. A sociopath wouldn't even post this... I mean if they felt nothing, what's the point.
To inform others I suppose it’s a lot of bad things said about them
Yes she plays into it, would a ‘sociopath’ post this? Just as much as someone without the diagnosis would.
Yeah you’re one of the few people who aren’t naive. Also everyone saying they can detect the lack of empathy in her eyes are just experiencing a psychological phenomenon where the brain is told something beforehand and then expects to see it. So because they were told she lacks empathy they somehow see it in her eyes. If they hadn’t been told that information they wouldn’t have been able to tell jack by her eyes.
@@Nate-1244 eh, gotta be legit with you, the eyes literally cannot tell anyone a half rat's ass about the character of a person. If someone with asd made a video similar to this one, other people with asd would be saying "the neutral expression is too relatable". In other news, she isn't *just* a sociopath, she is also a narcissist, and, posting these kinds of videos is fuel, it makes them feel powerful for people to say "I wish I was more like you". Although, I have no doubt in my mind that of she is getting the treatment she needs, the educational nature she adheres to these videos would be genuine.
@@Ssacabambaspis That’s what I’m saying. You can’t tell anything by someone’s eyes, it is all imaginary. It’s as simple as if you tell someone that someone has a lack of empathy, all of the sudden their brain plays some trick that they see it. But I guarantee you if they didn’t know about a lack of empathy they wouldn’t be able to tell anything.