How Did I End Up Living In A Van? Stupidity
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- Опубликовано: 17 апр 2024
- It’s kind of a long story as to how l ended up living in a van but I have done my best to tell you. It took me multiple attempts to make this video as it was extremely hard to talk about the why, my stupidity firstly, then having people you loved, almost destroy you.
I still have days where I struggle emotionally dealing with what happened to me but I am not going to let it get me down. Living in the van has taught me what is and isn’t important that you can have very little and still enjoy life.
I believe things happen for a reason and l need to be doing what I am and having the freedom to do what I want to do and not feel guilty, selfish or Stupid anymore.
A single lady here 😊 in my late 40s and I've been single for over ten years and I love it, I'll never ever be in a relationship again. I moved out of London UK over ten years ago to the mountains in central Europe..now I have a very small old stone house, it was cheaper than buying a car! Anyway, I grow most of my food, keep lots of chickens and a couple of goats, lots of cats..I don't have a car or electricity, not even solar panels, no computer, just this old mobile phone with a limited access to internet..I don't have a job or money but I eat like a queen all organic and grown by me..I preserve my food mainly through fermenting or dehydrating, I make soaps, candles, vinegars, etc...i rarely talk to people..I'd love to have a RUclips channel to share my experience and knowledge with people but i can't right now, I need a good new phone with a good camera, etc..maybe one day. Anyway, I'm the happiest and healthiest I've ever been..it's doable ladies..no man needed, thank you very much😂 hugs, love , peace and lots of purrs to you all beautiful ladies ❤❤. Sue xx
I hope u realize by society standards, yrrr nuts. So much for the elites, setting our standards. Keep living free, frustrating the elites clan. 👍🤗😀💥💥💥
Sounds like an amazing life and a lifestyle many would think was not something they would ever do but l know many would love to. Simple yet very much worth the effort and getting established, sounds like you have plenty of furry friends around to keep you company. Just beautiful
Thank you for sharing and l am grateful for what l do have. I hope one day you will do a channel, l would be one of the first to say hello. 🙏💜
You’re a very interesting and resilient person. Keep a journal of your life. Maybe one day you can write a book!
@@mikegrant6326 when the so-called men of today become real men: honourable, honest, kind, generous, brave, who want a wife, not a sidekick or uncommitted relationship..a wife who wants to be a homemaker, not a career chaser (I've always wanted to be a homemaker, despite the 2 masters degrees I have and 4 languages I speak) anyway, until they become real men, I'm a committed single, thank you very much. 😊😄
@@AVanADogAndMyself thank you. I do hope one day I can have a channel, maybe on Rumble not RUclips. 🥰
61 year old man here,have not dated in ten years,wont ever get in another relationship again, live in a nice van in the southern US, very happy now.😊
I don’t blame you at all and glad to hear you are living happily in your van. I’m going to be doing the same for what is left of my life. 🙏🩷🩷
Does anyone else see a pattern? Most women over a certain age don’t want another relationship. So many have suffered at the hands of people that profess to care about us. We are not stupid, we are so forgiving that we don’t see the warning signs. Don’t be hard on yourself, most have been in that position
I was on my own for 20years before l made the mistake or as l do see it, that stupid decision but never again, that’s a promise to myself. I agree so many older women have made the choice to be on their own, so wise. Thank you 🙏
I don't. The stress from my last relationship has damaged my health. I just had inguinal hernia surgery. I had to move my things alone and it was just too much. Plus, I now have high blood pressure, something I've never had before. I feel like I've aged a lot. No way can I handle another "romantic" relationship.
*women are only forgiving towards chads but lower tier men never experience forgiveness from your kind.*
@@Hatbox948 *was the hernia due to heavy pounding?*
same, was married twice yes I'm stupid, thought the second time would work. I'm a caregiver now to my Mom. I will be in a van one day with my dog. I am an only child, I cannot wait to explore and breathe.
I haven't had a life.
Sending you love and light ❤️
The pain on your face and in your heart breaks me 😢. I'm a 70 year old woman and living in my minivan with my dog and cat . It's so hard sometimes, but having no other choice I am doing the best I can.
Please take care of yourself and know that you are loved.
Hi Stephanie, thank you, it would be difficult for you, lm so glad you have your cat and dog with you for some company in those difficult times. All we can do is the best we can and you too take care of yourself and l send you my love. 🩷🩷🩷🩷
I understand the love of animals. I don't understand the cruelty of people. 😢
I don’t get how people can be so mean and nasty yet to the outside world they appear so nice.
@AVanADogAndMyself. I'll say. People like my husband and think he is nice but haven't a clue how he is at home.
Don't be so hard on yourself dear. 36 year's , lost everything, still living out of boxes, 11 year's later, I wanted to do van life with my 2 fur babies. I lost several in my 70 year's. I understand pain, disabled now and my car may be it. Faith got me through. Jesus is a relationship, not a religion. The only one who has never left me or forsaken me. Let him heal your heart ❤️. Peace Out ✌️
I’m sorry to hear that you have been through this yourself and I am glad your faith has got you through. I open my heart to him and I am sure he will show me the strength l need. Take care and thank you 🙏 💜
@@AVanADogAndMyself and I will pray for you as well. Jesus bless you 🙏. I have my email in my description box if you want to share 🙏
The trust faith in our heavenly father through his son Jesus is the very reason for our happiness, the very reason that everything works out for the better. We can look back on our lives when we get there we are like a different person all together have piece of mind, happiness, contentment, no drama , found ourselves. We are so grateful, thankful, confident in our selfs, look forward to the morning’s look forward to the bed time, it absolutely wonderful. We are not in a relationship that is like a yo, yo, diet up down at all times who needs it so much uncertainty, no one deserves it. We were given a life to enjoy it is our decision to make sure to enjoy what is ours to enjoy. I have everything in life that I need to be happy, I am so grateful, if I can do it you can, you have to want it.
BLESSINGS IN JESUS NAME
In 1984, I broke my away from my life to become a songwriter in Nashville.
In less than a month, I was broke, homeless, and once homeless is nearly impossible to surmount.
My saving grace? A van. From that and labor pools, to rooming house, kept van. Rooming house to apartment. A long fight back, however, at 75, have your own place, or a decent VAN.
Thank you for sharing your experience and yes l am very grateful for what I have. So glad you got to where you wanted to be, was certainly a tough time in between. 🙏💜
I understand 😢 I had to sell my 5 horses 2 of them were babies. Husband left me for someone else. Lost my house. You're doing OK ❤
I sure know how your heart felt and always to some degree will for your loss. I hope your doing okay yourself 💜
It's hard to let your beautiful babies go when they are a big part of your life. Hang tough, life continues to be interesting for you.
Wow, so sorry to hear about what adultery has done to your life. I hope you are doing good.
First of all YOU ARE NOT STUPID! You are a warm, lovely, compssionate person 💖💖
That as asshole and his ex are the stupid ones. They will pay dearly for that when karma catches up with them. I was told to get out after moving in with someone (we were supposed to be engaged but he turned out to be a compulsive womaniser). I'm a bit feisty though. I told him where to get off and said if you want me out of here you can bloody well wait until I've found a rental property and then you can hire a trailer and bloody well shift all my gear for me otherwise it's no deal! That guy's ex must be stupid going back to someone like that. He's obviously a total dropkick!
Love and blessings to you lovely lady. Keep your chin up and rebuild your life. You deserve to be loved and you deserve to be happy. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. 💖💖💖
@@user-ug2yz6vb7pmen can be total bastards!!!
Hi I’m also an Aussie women who, due to a bunch of adverse circumstances became homeless in 2019 and I’ve been living and moving around in my caravan ever since. I can relate to your bad relationship situation, I do everything I can now to not get into another relationship ever again. I’m 55. The only person we can really count on is ourselves.
I feel exactly the same way as you do. maybe one day we will meet up somewhere.
In Oz too in a van too lost everything due to a decision that got me here so many of us I’m northern nsw where are you guys?
@@graciepimo3087 currently l am down south in Victoria. Doing a few things to the van while lm here. Didn’t plan on being here so long but l will be heading back North when I get everything sorted here.
We all have something in common. I will b e 62 in October, and i to no longer want relationships. I find i am happier living alone in my van.
Soul I just turned 62 in April. I don’t want a relationship either I’ve spent so much time on my own now I actualy prefer it. 🥰
After 32 years of marriage I got divorced… I chose to buy a rv and it has been my sanctuary! I love locking my door and having everything I need to be happy😊 I’m the healthiest and happiest I’ve ever been ❤️
I love my van too, I can shut out the world and feel totally safe. I have everything I need and I don’t need a lot. 💜🙏
I agree with Deborah! As Long as we are in relationship with Jesus, He will be with us, grow us, help us forever! The Holy Spirit is Who He left with us, when He ascended to The Father. He guides our path and gives us words to speak , in life to help us and others. I pray you will be under the care of The Lord, and read to understand, in The Bible. Prayers for you and your precious animals. I’m so sorry you lost so many, when moving, but they will be waiting in Heaven. 🙏🦋🙏🦋🙏
@@pattih7 yes l will see them all again one day l truly believe that where l can continue to love them as l did here on earth. 🙏🩷🩷
I am glad you are no longer living under abusive situations.
Thank you Claire 🙏🩷🩷
Ma’am, you are definitely not stupid. There’s not a woman I know that haven’t learned a super hard life lesson but what you are now is a hero to a lot of women. The fact that you are strong enough to come on here and talk about your story is going to help so many other women who think that they’re alone in their mistakes. To me that makes you a strong, courageous hero. I will keep you in my prayers. You are beautiful soul, and you will be blessed.🫶🏽
Hello Ravensgyrl, thank you so much and I do hope that l can help others and at the same time help myself to heal. I know at this time I am very fragile and have a little way to go but l will keep getting stronger as the days go by. 💜💜
We understand why you are fragile, it is understandable my dear woman. You got out of one abusive relationship his ex wife abused you. Then your family members came to help you out what do they do but abuse you more while you are down , especially the young lad you were so fond of hurt you terribly. I must say you are one strong woman, honestly you are, because you had no choice but to keep going when emotionally you were going through a living hell. I wish you happiness, you will heal emotionally. We care you are not alone it is always the good women who get treated in a manner that isn’t appropriate. When reading the comments these are strong women who are making it on their own. This is the problem, some men like women who are useless have to depend on a man for everything strong women are a threat to them they have to abuse you in some manner to try to beat you down thinking they can destroy the confidence you have in your selfs. That doesn’t work with me as I am not a controller there is no way I want to be controlled, I believe in freedom to take a breath for man, woman. We have one mother, father, we don’t need to be married to one.
@@mildredmorine745 hello Mildred, I had been on my own for 20 years, l loved my life but I did make a massive decision (mistake) that was so destructive and wore me down to someone I didn’t know anymore.
I wanted to believe this was someone I could trust and share my love of life with. I still ask myself why I was so stupid.
I have no illusions that this was my mistake and I have been left with the emotional scars from it. I can only get stronger from here and I will be able to get stronger through sharing my feelings with others. I have been silent for too long, 2years if not longer. l have sat in this van for days without talking to or seeing anyone, I don’t want to live like that anymore.
I’m so glad l did this channel to talk to people and share ups and downs with.
I now have a lot to decompress from and l can do it in a safe place, my van has given me the freedom I need.
Thank you always 🙏💜
@@AVanADogAndMyself There are times that we can be our own worst enemies without even realizing it. I am not for one moment judging because like I said I have been there. What I am trying to say is that after we have taken the abuse from them we end up on our own we continue to abusing our self by not talking about it keeping to our selfs. This is what I mean by continuing to abuse our selfs. From reading your comments I think you are far too hard on your self that is also punishing your self, that hurts my soul that you are doing this. If you can wipe that scheming scammer out of your mind because that is what he was, he had it all planed out you would have no idea because they cover up what they don’t want you to know. The person who I thought I loved paid to have my car stolen, he was in a business of selling cars. I had no idea until eight months later. Each everyone of us have a story to tell. We need to be there for each other without the blame or any disrespect. We would all like to have a companion in our lives once you get hurt taken for a ride you have had your fill. I found you can’t be a nice kind considerate compassionate person in this world today you will be taken advantage of. That should be that’s the world we are living in, sad yet true. I went for help, I found just laying everything on the line getting it out of my system instead of keeping it all inside helped me immensely, it was like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders. You are a caring, compassionate, strong woman who was taken advantage of, remember you are not alone don’t blame yourself for they are con artist good at what they do when it comes to taking advantage just like telemarketers look how many people they con world wide. Who wouldn’t want a companion to love do things together, that fairy tale is almost becoming extinct in today’s world. We do care, we are not all bad, we wish you peace of mind happiness. You will will find it once you heal inside it will take some time because you had a raw deal all the way which was horrible, it would get to you the hurt would be unbearable, unbelievable when you own family turned on you so viscously when you needed someone, so sorry. You are going to make your strong remember that. This does not mean to not cry you need to cry it is a normal emotion that we were given for a reason help us from having a nervous breakdown, it relieves tension make us feel better. We care, please reach out take care of yourself you are worthy of happiness can accomplish it on your own, I did many others have. We need to also remember that these same things happen to good men like us they are scarred for life don’t want to get involved again.
Thank you for your story.
Something is wrong with men. Truly, here and there and everywhere. Then and now, something is broken inside so many of them. I don’t know why but I do know that it is undeniable. People everywhere are speaking the truth to this now. Your voice is important and we hear you. ❤
Too many stories of this happening and your right, then and now. I hope more will keep talking about it and more services were available to help support those affected by it. 🙏🩷🩷
Matthew 24:12 KJV: And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
Good point! I pray 🙏 for you and everyone
@@user-iz5vf9yn4dyep! Too many are addicted to p**n. Takes away the drive for intimacy with others. Sad!
Good Lord that was heart-wrenching. I have been in my van for a few weeks now. Recently separated from my husband. All of my animals are at my old home. I have no idea what will become of me or them... I am living in extreme uncertainty at the moment. Thank you for sharing your story of how you ended up in a van. Very brave of you ❤️
I’m so sad to hear this but I can relate to it. You will grieve at some point but right now you need to be strong and just get through the chaos. One day at a time and reach out to those you love and know they love you. Please stay in touch, l will be here to talk to, even if lm still struggling at times. Take care Tanya thinking of you 💜💜
One day at a time, keep moving forward - a lot of things will be hard, BUT, YOU GOT THIS!!! God bless you, you are not ever really alone. Sincerely, all the best.
@@AVanADogAndMyself thank you ❤️
Let’s normalize that we can avoid ending up unhoused, living in our car or van if we make hard decisions ahead of time. I appreciate honesty in these van life stories.
If only one had a crystal ball, but l definitely could have avoided it. 🙏🩷
I cried with you. Never apologize for crying. I'm so sorry you weren't with your cat when she passed. That sucks.
It still hurts but glad she was loved till the end. 🙏🩷🩷
I’m so sorry you were forced to make such difficult decisions and dealing with the emotional and physical exhaustion and mental grief. I want to give you a hug.
Just saying it is warming and l really appreciate you taking the time to watch and leave a lovely comment 💜💜💜
@@AVanADogAndMyselfyou’re not stupid you are incredibly brave and smart to get out of an abusive situation. I did similar and relocated to a different country but had to leave everything I loved, my home my job my friends my dog, and not a clue where I was going with just a van and what I could carry. I’ve left and relocated a Cpl of times because I needed to learn the lesson again, but good fortune and hard work came across me and what I have(some land, cabin, animals ) are all mine and I’m in peace. The ex died because no one could look after him after he had everything off of me, even my car insurance! Hold your head up high lady because you’re proving your worth!❤
Haven't dated in over 20 yrs and never miss it. After age 65 we don't get prettier nor wealthier, so cant see why I need a man. They are all falling apart anyway.
That is so very true and definitely no plans to date myself. I learnt a huge lesson. 💜
And so are you!
Falling apart? No way! Hahaha 😎
You need Jesus
*you're a bitter vindictive one Alice.*
These relationships leave us with so much trauma, it's very hard to recover ❤
It does and life can be difficult there after. 🩷🙏
Only hard after a period of time if you make it hard.
@@maryl234 Not necessarily so
@@user-lf2lf6wy4z You either move on or you waste your life. It's all choice. And please stop trying to talk to me.
@@user-lf2lf6wy4z whatever - stop talking to me
This could be the beginning of a beautiful new adventure. Never let people treat you as you have been treated ever again. You are a valuable soul and shining light.
I do hope this is a new amazing journey for me and the people I meet along the way are kind, most people are and l will remember that but not be willing to be bothered with those that I don’t feel comfortable around.
Thank you for your kind words 🙏💜
Growing up with a toxic household and all the struggles I went through when younger if I could give advice to my then self would say keep your business, money, income, wealth, bills, and how you grew up out of any relationship. Keep separate accounts, paperwork out of sight/mind. Purchase a condo, townhome or house in your name only to always have a place to go no matter what may come. Also, I should not have rented apartments, had 5-year car loans, should have found a better way so that little bit of extra can be socked away. 🙂 It was harder pre rideshare to get rides when car was broken and find alternatives to live in before internet really came into its own.
I let my guard down and I so regret it when it came to giving up my home, placing my trust in another. In someway I feel that was what it was but it was what my child did that has been a whole lot worse. Material possessions and the money became the least important over the past couple of years, what she did was heartbreaking to me. She was someone I should have been able to trust in my life, how wrong I was.
If l could go back, l would still be in my home but my relationship with her l would most definitely have ended. I should have done that many years before. 🙏🩷🩷
@@AVanADogAndMyself Abuse from child is terrible sorry you had to deal w that. My sister had to push her oldest away for abuse, wouldnt let her date, criticized said never do anything..somehow thought he was an equal. She visited him in jail, gave $$, tried everything..finally Changed her phone # had to walk away until he changes..Your strong can get past this nonsense live for today, get done what you need to do for you in this life .
You're not stupid 😢 We are down here learning lessons for our souls growth...Some of the toughest,most painful lessons 😢 Don't beat yourself up, for following your heart, with the purest of intentions ... Self forgiveness is very important for putting up with crap we didn't deserve.. I feel your pain over your animals but let go of the guilt because in the end you did the most selfless act..by rehoming them xx Love & light..You are a true survivor ❤️
I never thought of it like that and truly appreciate giving me a different perspective and I appreciate that more than you know. Thank you Joanne. 💜
Never let your stronghold go. I don't care if he loves you beyond love. Never let your stronghold go( house,cars,pets) People are players. They sounded like grifters. It sounded like your love interest and his ex wife was playing you. They got your goods. You got a van. Ladies, what can a man give you in later life that you can't give yourselves ? I'm an older woman now. I saw older women in my youth get their butts kicked to the curb. I watched. I learned. I applied. I have 10 dogs,3 cats and pet snakes,bearded dragon,spiders,micro squirrels. You're a loving gentle woman and these monsters abused you.Prayers for you and your animals.
I know lots of people end up living in vans for the same reasons. Its really important not to give up your home for a relationship unless your name is legally going on the deeds or a rental contract, especially if you have children or pets. Over my last four relationships i have been pressured to sell up and move (and ofc use my money to improve their living arrangements), or let them move in with me. Its always a no because my terms have never been met and they are non negotiable. I was homeless once in my life and l learned big lessons from it. I dont have much. A little dog and cat, a small apartment and a tiny van. But they are mine and they are my safety in this harsh world. Im so sorry about your pets and the way people treated you. But your safe now and things can only improve. I hope people take from your story that they should not sell their home for anyone, or if they do, they keep their money safe in case things change in the future.
I agree with you, bit late for me though lol do hope others will think twice about things. I am certainly happy with my van, simpler life, different life but l will make the best of it. Still healing but I am doing okay. 💜🙏
Omg the same thing happened to me!! Us women gotta smarten up. All this LOVE LOVE STUFF IS CRAP! Go easy on yourself babe . I’m moving back into an rv as well! Dnt care my peace is far more important to me!!
Peace is far more important and we do need to smarten up. Enjoy the peace and freedom you will have in your RV, l wish you all the best. 🙏💜
@@AVanADogAndMyselfNot all men are the same.😮
@@marknewton6984 We know.
@@marknewton6984we know. I’ve seen some wonderful Wonderful husbands and fathers. However, the rate of The Other Kind is far too high. If I gave you a bowl of M&Ms and told you that 50% were poison, would you dig in?
I was in an abusive relationship like this before. The guy made me lick cat litter off the floor because my cat got litter on the floor. And many other horrible things before I escaped him. I took my cats but I had to leave my dog with him because I couldn’t carry him with me because he was a large dog. I cried so hard. I’m glad you’re in a better place now.
I’m so sorry you had to deal with this yourself, some horrible people out there and I hope that they ultimately suffer in someway for their disgusting behavior. I know the heartbreak you felt leaving your dog and l hope you yourself are in a better place. Thank you 🙏 sending love to you 💜💜
I am so sorry that you were so vilely abused. The torment imposed upon you was not accidental and coming to terms with that I’ll take longest to triumph over. I am so very sad that you lost many of your precious pets. I have been in similar situations, and lost my most beloved Shepherd as a result. Sending you wishes for self-forgiveness, wisdom, strength, tenacity, healing, and peace. You have a great therapist in your precious doggie. Love him and let his limitless love and empathy help you heal.xx
Thank you lm slowly understanding it was not accidental but definitely deliberate. Im sorry to hear you lost your precious dog, it hurts and breaks our heart. My dog is my best friend and so precious to me. Their unconditional love is deserving of giving them the best life possible.
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There are so many people in the comments who are going through the same thing you are and just remember the reward God has waiting for us who have a relationship with him it is worth the pain we are suffering right now
I do ask god often why? So many people suffer this and yet l know it’s learning and lve learnt one does not need a lot to be happy. 🙏💜
Just finished watching your video, it was heart breaking to see your hurt, but it also had me reliving in my mind/thoughts, my first marriage. I’m reaching my 25th anniversary this year in my second marriage to a beautiful soul. However the trauma of being on the receiving end of a narcissist, even though i thought i was a strong person at the time, never leaves you. You have a new subscriber, a 71 year old Aussie man who mostly holds his dark days in check. Thank you for sharing as its personally helped me.
Hi Greg, thank you for your support of my channel firstly, secondly congratulations for your upcoming 25th anniversary, obviously you found your soulmate and that is wonderful.
I am so glad you found happiness after what l know would have been traumatic for you. We don’t forget but I know in time it will not hurt so much.
I’m glad l could help in someway and wish you all the love the world has to offer.
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I had to leave in the style of Sleeping With the Enemy- with nothing, in the middle of the day, leaving no trail, contacting no one.
Best wishes to you in this time.
I have left the state and I’m not sure if I will be able to go back there. It is a terrible thing that happened to you and thank you, l hope you’re doing okay now.❤
My ex husband was very physically and mentally abusive. I understood how you feel completely. Sorry tou went through that.
I’m so sorry to hear this has happened to you and thank you for sharing this with me. 💜
@AVanADogAndMyself thank you. And your welcome
Glad you both got safe
@@MilesCobbett thank you
Thank you, such kind words and beautifully written, l appreciate you taking the time to watch and share this with me. 💜💜
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I am 63 years old, so I am not a young woman as well and it is harder to bounce back from mistakes. A couple of years ago, I sold my condo and moved to a different state to help my sister, who suffers from MS. It was a stupid mistake. It didn't work out and I ended up homeless. I am still recovering from that huge mistake. 😢
Thanks for sharing!! I feel for you and how hard that was, l hope things are getting better for you now. I am sure trying hard to get to that stage in my journey. 💜
I'm so sorry you had this hardship and especially after trying to help someone
Family, they can be your worst enemies.
So you made a mistake. Move on.😮
You're not stupid, dear....you're a human being doing the best that you know how. Sending hugs from Western NC.
Thank you l appreciate the hugs 🤗 🙏💜
Whoa whoa whoa whoa how is it that everybody thinks that it's a bad thing to be in a van come on people and nowadays believe me you would rather be in a moving vehicle than a sitting duck come on people wake up finally why don't you. Young lady there is nothing wrong with you, you are perfect in every way
I love being in the van, it is a perfect home to me. I am no longer that sitting duck. Thank you, mot perfect but I try to be. 💜
@waynekaczmarek946 • you are so right! I've come to conclusion that often we don't see things as they are but as we are.
The pain of rehoming your animals, a gut punch and a bed of nails. The animals mean so much to those of us that want to love and comfort living beings in a bad place.
I can’t imagine the repeated losses…
You are a survivor and you stood up for yourself. The future will fall into place.
I put my life in the hands of God and my life changed 180 degrees.
Please consider doing that.
It was heart wrenching to give up anyone of the animals, though l knew now that my life had changed but l was hoping to have time to get my own place, why l gave up some was only to appease my abusers. Not me. I try hard to not let this get me down but at times I struggle.
I read my bible every day and pray God will guide me and l know that he will.
Thank you l really appreciate your kind words.
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I am so sorry you had to deal with all this. That was absolute trauma.
Appreciate you taking the time to watch and thank you for your comment 💜💜
You have no idea how strong you are. Life throws crap at us but we get through it... never doubt yourself ❤
Thank you 🙏
He was gaslighting you. He manipulated you and when he got all that was possible to get, he began driving you away. They are sick pathetic and inhuman. Hold onto your love. You will always be better for that. I have prayed for you. Many blessings will come.
I know this now but I hoped and prayed that it would be as he said at the very beginning, certainly became someone I could not trust with all the lies. I know I will be fine but I’m angry l could be so easily manipulated. One day at a time. Thank you for your prayers🙏💜
Let go of your anger. Holding onto it will only diminish you and your joy. Your anger will not effect him in anyway, so shed that and move forward with joy.
@@pursleydl2009 It's healthy for her to be angry and to acknowledge and experience that emotion. Justified anger is healthy and will protect her with boundaries. Under no circumstances should anyone be told to have different emotions than what they actually do have. Never emotionally invalidate anyone's experience by telling them to change it.
@@24JJ821 Exactly...she has the right to be angry and is doing the right things to channel it.
@@emmasarge4330 I agree Emma, people heal by going through their emotions, they cannot heal if they suppress them. And I agree she was expressing them and channeling them in a healthy way.
Thank you Neo, a hard video to do and l so struggled. I hope l did it in the most polite way possible. I’m not angry lm just sad more than anything.
Thank you for your positive energy, it does help more than you know. ❤
You are a kind human being….sending peace, love and blessings.❤️
💜thank you
I have been there you need time to recover from coercive control nobody can live like that the stress you have been subjected to is very damaging.OMG there are a lot of evil people out there. Sadly it’s getting worse empathy and love for others is dying. Trauma makes you want to shut the world out. At the time I believe you made the right decision. Take time to heal. Sending Love to you.❤
Thank you, I have shut myself off and slowly starting to get back out there, still only with a few people l trust. Moving over 2000km away has certainly helped as well.
I have realised so much of this has or is still happening to people and I feel for those who have not been able to get away from it. Domestic violence is cruel and yes those people who are perpetrators are evil. It’s bad enough when it’s a partner but l never thought a child l bought into this world would become my abuser. I think that is what devastated me even more.
I am fortunate to have 3 other children who are there for me and lm truly grateful to them but I don’t want them to feel like they have to do anything for me at the same time. Guess l am afraid still.
I know that’s the trauma talking and it’s hard to let your guard down.
I appreciate your comment much love to you 🙏🩷🩷
Hang in there!! ❤ all will be well once the shock wears off u will be able to think more clearly. I've lost a lot in the last 6 yrs I totally feel u 😢
Thank you, difficult times will pass l know and appreciate your support. 💜
❤ I'm so proud of you, Gaye. Your spirit guides are proud of you too, as are your fur babies that are inspirit. They are with you. Im glad you have Griffon. Please dont ever apologise for feeling your emotions that include the hard ones. Greif is a hard emotion to get unstuck from. You are doing an amazing job and have such a strong spirit. Dont ever stop, Gaye. 🌻 much live my friend. You made me laugh, clap my hands and cry all in one video Gaye. Im rather impressed. 😅 ❤👏
You are not stupid. You were hopeful and loving. As a 68 yr old female I can tell you most of us have been fooled a time or two or more. You will recover. Stay positive dear woman. 🐢🐩🐶🐕🌊🌺🌻☮️🌙💜✨
Thank you so much. I’m staying positive but hopefully never fooled again, you as well. Much love 🙏🩷🩷🩷
I'm so sorry for what happened to you. 😢❤Thank God you are in a safe place now
Thank you and yes lm safe staying here along way away from the people who have done this. I just need time to heal and get back to whatever normal life is again. Appreciate your support 💜
Dear Lady, you are not stupid. People can be disappointing. May the worst of Karma come for him and his ex wife. There is nothing wrong with van life. Enjoy your freedom!
Thank you, l certainly did feel like l was though. I don’t mind living in the van and certainly grateful to have a roof over my head, I certainly do have a lot more freedom nowadays. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
OMG! Sweetheart, how many animals did you move in on these various people? You can’t be surprised that not everyone can live with that kind of chaos. It would be so intrusive and frustrating. I’m glad you’re living with your dog, alone with more peace. 🌷
Yes you are right it was a big ask, I did know this and it was a temporary situation but no one deserves to be treated as l was.
@@AVanADogAndMyself Some people are just cruel. 😞 🌷
Had a lot of bad relationships, was down also. But i have come to realize, i no longer have the stress, anger, sadness to deal with
I feel i am better of alone, i am happier living alone in my van then i ever was in a relationship. We are two of many women that have been let down by relationships. But myself and others are here to share our stories, and hopefully provide you with some sense of comfort knowing you're not alone.
I really appreciate that thank you 🙏 💜
your such a strong woman i understand the bond with pets ive had rats for many years i put them before me to leave them behind would be simply unthinkable every time ive been in a tight situation they came first always the bond with animals is like no other some humans can be cruel , and horrible animals are never like that
I loved my rats, l had three, two had recently passed away just prior, both were about 3 and half and I still had Jasper. Thank you 🙏 and the bond we have many just don’t understand 🩷🩷🩷
I thought this would be one of those clickbait videos but for once Al Gorythm presented a good one. At first your accent and use of kilometers confused me but I finally figured out, Australia 🇦🇺!! Thanks for putting this hard stuff out there. I’m from the USA 🇺🇸 and have been going from one living situation to another since after the Great Recession in 2009 when I lost my job, my house, and my car. In my case the “stupid” thing was leaving my job myself in 2006 and not being able to find another one during the recession. How stupid could I be ?! I haven’t had to give up my non-human friends, “pets” just seems like the wrong word. There’s only so much you can do so let that pain go, that’s what I’ve learned. Unfortunately “van Life” is no longer the cheap alternative it once was but I still long to be able to travel and live that lifestyle. As far as being “Stupid”, don’t let others define who you are. You know everything that has gone on in your head and I’m pretty sure you’ve figured that out.
i'VE BEEN THROUGH THE SAME. People are not what they seem to be, and that hurts. I've had 40+ years, of trying to get my children to answer letters and with no response, it hurts. Why? Who knows? I have a cat, Precious by name, and very affectionate towards me. Makes a difference in daily living, however we live amongst people with different personalities, more so than the animal kingdom. Step out and be friendly again, it won't be in vain. Not all are self-serving, so get back to giving and enjoy using the van now. Stupid, no. decisons made because you had to. Doing nothing would be stupid. So, you have smarts, continue now! Yes, i was homeless and broke, @ 79, looking forward to new adventures with no transportation yet. Plan an adventure, it could be fun!
I’m sorry to hear that you have been through this and never stop reaching out, you know you are doing the right thing even if they don’t think so. For sure animals love you unconditionally but we love them back, my dog saved me at the time. Though he has since passed away and l have another beautiful dog, l will never forget him. Everyday I attempt to do things that once l never feared but today l find very difficult but l will never stop trying. The van is my home, my safe place and lm grateful to have at least that. Thank you for sharing your story with me, you look after yourself. 💜🙏
@@AVanADogAndMyself Severe trauma sometimes takes *years* to get back to the point where you even begin to feel yourself again. Trying is the best thing you can do.
This is the first video of yours I’ve seen.
Thank you for sharing your story….. you did a very good job. I’m guessing, from my experience, what you talked about is a very small part of intense life experiences.
Back to back to back traumas….. isn’t it amazing how resilient the human spirit can be?
I’ve been in my van for close to 2 years now…. Healing takes time and I love the peace I find in my small space.❤
Thank you for taking the time to watch, yes back to back to back trauma.
Resilient we are and like you my van is a safe place but it’s mine, that’s the most important thing to me right now.
One day at a time, healing and with every comment that you and others have sent it shows how kind people are even though many have been through this themselves. So very much appreciated. 🙏💜
The abuse and trauma in this story is unfathomable. You are a survivor. Love and healing being sent as you continue on this journey. Your devoted Love for all of your precious animals is eternal.
Thank you 🙏 💜💜💜
You have my deepest compassion. Many of us have been in similar situations. It's a terrible place to be emotionally. Much love to you and good wishes for your future journeys.
Thank you 🙏 been tough at times but having told at least some of my past experience with what happened has helped me with people like yourself reaching out to me. It helps more than you know. 💜
That would have been a very difficult time for you and I do hope life is better for you now. Not stupid, just a decision made at the time and you certainly could not foretell what the future held. Yes lm an Aussie girl and living in a van isn’t as cheap here anymore but lm very lucky to have family and friends who help me out.
I’m so glad you liked the video, well found it, l really appreciate your support and your comment.
Thank you ❤
I am so sorry you've had to go through all that❤Sending love 🥰
Thank you Yazzie 💜
Don't beat yourself up, we all make mistakes and at least you can get it off your chest.. Be well and good luck.. 😊❤
Yes I can, having a channel before I thought of all those l was connected to, l could again reconnect. Losing touch due to the chaos in my life. Thank you 🙏 💜
Thank you, you will see yours again as l shall see mine that are no longer with me but lm so grateful to have my one little boy with me today. Couldn’t live life without him here with me. Massive healing with their unconditional love and support they offer us and they give it to even those that don’t treat them with the love and kindness they deserve. Appreciate your support and kindness 🙏💜
Just now seen your channel & subscribed. You have given sooooo many here in the comments to get things off their chest & vent about their abuse & that they understand what your going thru. Please realize this that your mission is helping them to cope as you are doing & not to give up & to keep the faith. You have been chosen by our dear Lord in actually saving so many abused people's lives. God will be blessing you.... Give it time. I'm in the USA otherwise I would be helping you to stay on my property. I'm a divorced low income senior alone but I have a really big yard but a dinky home which is great for me. I'm happy this way & love being without a relationship... I'm done with that & I concentrate on me & my 3 Maltese dogs.
Thank you for your support Joyce, l see many of your comments here which l appreciate. I didn’t realise the impact of the video on others and lm very humbled that people have opened up and shared their stories with me and others who have been affected by this.
I barely cope somedays myself but I do have faith in God to guide me through this and sharing my journey is away for me to tell my story and if l can help others, even in a small way, l am happy.
Sounds like you have a beautiful place Joyce and your beautiful dogs to share it with, good for you loving your life, l am so happy to hear this. Hugs to you and your dogs, and your offer was so nice, need more like you in this world. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
I live in an RV with Granddaughter. It's a hard world and I'm sorry to hear your experiences. You are a survivor and you should be proud of yourself. I hope new happy memories will fade out the bad ones. Wishing you many blessings 💞
Thank you, many happy memories will be made, letting the past not so good go. Thank you 🙏 💜
You’re not stupid! You are a wonderful human being, that is beautiful inside and out, that makes decisions, that some end up good, some not. That does not make you stupid! That makes you human!
I was in an abusive relationship for 2 years, 9 years ago. It has done serious emotional, mental damage to me. I’ve suffered at their hands, not just during but years after.
I can relate in many ways to your story. You are strong. You are loved. You are enough! ❤❤❤❤
Thank you Kirstycat, I did feel stupid, being called it everyday l understand it mentally certainly makes you think one must be.
Sorry you have dealt with abuse and I do understand your emotional damage and I hope those that think we were fools and made poor decisions can understand that we were never of deserving to be treated in this way.
We will continue to struggle with this no doubt forever but we also are strong to have just got through it in the first place.
Thank you 🙏 for sharing a little of your story, we certainly are not on our own and l hope your life has many happy years ahead 💜💜
You are right, so much heartache but we are both still here . Doing the best we can. ❤
Breaks my heart to think of you rehoming your beloved pets. That is so hard. Such a powerful story. Cruel people towards you. Sounds horrific. I think you are amazing. Much love.
Thank you, it was so hard and I was just trying to be strong but l couldn’t in the end. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. ❤ I am so very sorry that these things happened, my heart breaks for you, making impossible choices, being abused and mistreated..I am so sorry. I really hope things get better and times become happier.
Thank you Jessica, everyday gets a little better but I hope l can make a better life for myself now, one day at a time. 💜
I’m so sorry you have had such a difficult time. We make mistakes. I made really back decisions myself. Slowly I started to mend and move forward. You are doing that now. Give yourself a big hug from me.
Thank you Patricia, appreciate your kind words 🙏🩷🩷🩷
They lost the most, you. Stick with what you've got and let everything else go. Pain comes from needing, wanting, having and caring. You can reduce all these to only the most important and be so much better off.
That is very true and every day l work on that. Forgetting can be hard though. 🙏🩷🩷
I'm so sorry you've gone through such a traumatic time. Shame on those dreadful people who hurt you ~ I hope they live to regret their terrible behaviour. I hope you find peace and happiness and loving relationships with your children. 🧡
Thank you for your kind words 🙏💜
I'm right there with you chick. I was treated very cruel as well and ended up in an Altima to start with. You are so strong to have gotten through it.
Thank you and hope all is well with you in your life now. Sad to know you went through this yourself. 🙏🩷🩷
Thank you for sharing
Thank you your comment was very appreciated 💜
Hi Amanda I hope all is much better for you today and you are doing okay. Yes life can be tough but lm so grateful for you and everyone who has reached out to me, there are so many nice people out there and l hope nice people are in your life now and helping you. 💜💜
I’ll never understand that level of cruelty. I’m so sorry you had to endure that time and loss. You are an amazing person and a warrior. May you find peace, safety, health, and joy in your new life and adventurous home. ❤
Thank you very much for your kind words
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Yes l had many animals compared to the average family has, of a cat, dog or maybe both. I took exceptional care of them all and never asked anyone for help with them. I had a home that accommodated them all just due to things that happened and my life completely changed or l would still have them and be continuing to take exceptional care of them.
You went through a lot. You have your own place now. This world is evil. And the housing crisis is world-wide. Its a true nightmare. God bless you.
So true, l am very grateful for what l do have and l know so many are struggling to keep a roof over their head, l am fortunate compared to many.🙏💜
I have moved alot!! And each and every move I left stuff behind. Really important stuff. But at the end of the day... it's only stuff. I am not taking any of it when I go. And it ends up being more things for someone else to deal with after I am gone.
I feel bad about having to choose over so many pets, that alone would be SO hard.
I have been through so much in my life, at the end of the day being grateful for what I did have. Focused on the blessings, rather than my shortcomings. Life got better.
People who you never expect to hurt us, hurt us the most.
The pets were alot of work and stress for you at a very vulnerable time in your life. I am sorry what you went through. Nasty things happen to good people every single day unfortunately.
Keep smiling and ask God for help. He is always there for you ❤😊 🙏
Your right, in the end they are only material things and l am grateful for what l do have, guess if life hadn’t taught me anything I wouldn’t be able to say that.
I live much more simply now and that is good for me moving forward, but l didn’t like how it came to be. Trust is important but l have lost that and working hard with God in my heart to guide me.
Im blessed to have a good friends and family who do love and support me.
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I am sorry how this played out for you too. Hurt people, hurt people. Unfortunately. You came out the otherside and should be proud of yourself. Not everyone could get through that kind of situation. Thank you for sharing your story. I imagine it was not easy to be so vulnerable. It will help others and gives them hope.
Sending lots of love to you today from Canada 🇨🇦 XOXO.@@AVanADogAndMyself
My heart goes to you. You are showing how strong you are, focused on surviving!
Thank you 🙏 that’s what I’m trying to do. 🩷🩷
Hi! I’m new here but I’m very very sorry that you went through all of that. Grief is extremely painful when it comes to our babies. I’m so very sorry. I’m thankful that you have such a beautiful dog. You’ll have him trained the way you want very soon. I’ve been through some of the same trauma and it will take time but you will survive this. Just please stay strong and take extra good care of you. Everything will get Better.♥️
Thank you 🙏 Griffin is just beautiful and is doing great, learning all the time. He sure has been what has kept me going at times.💜
I fell so sorry for you! I'm going threw this now with sorry landlord and sorry neighbor, smarting off to me all the time. I'm wanting to do van life too. May God bless you sweety! I'm praying for you.
You are not stupid! We have all made bad decisions! I’m sorry about what happened to you! Karma is real and he’ll get his! I wish you nothing but good things moving forward! One of the first steps towards healing is being able to talk, openly, about a very personal situation!❤️🇨🇦
Thank you, l have to agree talking about it has really helped a lot and though it was hard to do, lm happy to have spoken out and hope more will do this too. 🙏🩷🩷
So sad to hear all that you've been through. You're not alone, life can be so tough and people can let you down so badly. I've been through a lot too, sending a big hug x
I totally understand and yes it did break me. I do feel free but still struggling with anxiety and I have to be able to get through this and I am sure I will in time. So glad you are now free and doing well. Keep looking after yourself 💜💜
Im sorry all that happened, amazing how people can be so cruel. Excpecaly when there was supposed to be love involved is baffling.
I feel your pain, frustration and absolute love for each of your pet during that situation, I can't imagine how hard that was. Your an amazing woman and sadly there are heartless people that have no regard to the pain they inflict. Stay strong, you got this and thank you for sharing this as painful as it was. Its good to let it out and your not alone and by sharing it helps others that have been in similar situations (or be mindful of these situations) keep moving forward, don't let those people win. You got away and today is a new day...
Thanks for sharing. ❤
Thank you, l felt it was important to tell my story and I hope that others can understand that this happens to people of all ages. I so appreciate being able to talk to others via putting up videos, it truly is helpful to me. I will not let them win but I still lost so much in the process of staying strong but l know l will get there and there are many happy days enjoy.
Again thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@@AVanADogAndMyself sending you a BIG hug, strength and positive energy. Lean on that fur baby support and unconditional love. They are the best and have helped me through horrible times.
New too your channel. 💛
Welcome to my channel and l certainly do love on my beautiful little boy and he loves me back, couldn’t do this without him. 🙏🩷🩷
Thank you and I hope you can get away from those terrible people around you. Stay strong and if having a van is your dream then go for it and l hope that it happens for you. Take care of yourself as best as you can right now. 💜💜
So sorry all this happened to you. Praying for many blessings to come your way
Thank you so much 💜💜
I am so sorry to hear what you went through. This is the first video I have seen of yours. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for your kind words and thank you for taking the time to write and watch my video. 🙏🩷🩷
Im sorry for all your pain. Praying your future is bright and lovely.
Thank you 🙏 💜
I'm so sorry, that you experienced all of that heartbreak. I've been treated very badly by " loved ones." It hurts so much more, when treated poorly by people you've been around most of their lives. Thank you for letting us in and get to know you better. I know, that was a hard conversation to have. Hugs and Thumbs Up from S. California.
Thank you for your kind words they are appreciated 💜💜
and you never get to know who they really are until you live with them or have to call them from jail to bail you out.
Thank you for sharing your story. I went through a similar situation. Some people just dont believe that there are folks out there that are this cruel, and that you dont know until you are too deep in. These monsters exist. They have ex's that are equally as cruel. I am just so very glad we have the strength to get away. We have lost a lot, but we have gained peace a safety. I wish you the best and continued peace and growth in the knowledge that you are intelligent and good.
I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and you are so right. I am learning one does not need a lot and yes just some peace and feeling safe is the most important. 🙏💜
Thank you for sharing your life. I am so sorry for what you had to endure. It takes time to recover. You are a beautiful lady and strong. I hope that your life is going to get better. I wish you the best ❤
Thank you so much, your words of support means a lot to me. 🙏🩷🩷
Wow, what a saga. I can only think that this is a huge spiritual test and growth journey for you. And thankfully you have a van to call your own safe place. So many are living without any shelter, so to have a roof and mobility is definately a blessing. Wishing you the best. 🦋
It sure was a saga, one lm still reeling from but everyday is another beautiful day to enjoy with peace around me. I am so grateful to have the van, as you say so many don’t have anything at all. I don’t have a lot but l would share what l do have with anyone that needs a helping hand.
Thank you 🙏 🩷🩷🩷🩷
I’m so sorry for all the hard ship you have endured😢 My heart goes out to you..stay strong❤
Thank you 🙏 staying strong and positive 💜💜
I admire you so much. You are so brave and honest and kind. Thank you for sharing your story! ❤
Thank you and thank you for watching, your very welcome 🙏 🩷🩷
Oh my goodness you had me crying for you. What terrible times you have endured I am so so sorry for the lack of kindness given to you in your desperate time of need. My heart goes out to you. You can see you have a beautiful spirit. We are all here for you xx
Thank you for your kind words Diane 🙏💜
Families are the worse, no one abuses you like you family, they love reminding you, they’re good for stifling growth… folks always say when someone is homeless “ where’s their family “ ha …
You know when I was in my early 20’s I got divorced, 1 son. My ex wasn’t a horrible person just very selfish and a bit lazy, no initiative, he loved spending money we didn’t have
My mom and aunts used to always talk about not becoming an Old Fool ..so I took notes as a kid when I eavesdropped on their talks
Long story short I divorced, and never looked back. I don’t dislike men but I never wanted to bother with them again, I just don’t trust men and the I love you foolishness . I learned quickly those 3 words are hollow.
If I had 1 wish it would be that girls aren’t raise watching television.. cartoons, film, Hollywood etc
We’re so socialized to believe in the I love you, boy meets girl tomfoolery… not to mention organized religion and society socializing us with the “ love” foolishness
I learned quick I better learn to love myself and leave it like that ..
I wish you the best
I understand you and we must love ourselves enough that one doesn’t need another to do that. The abuse can come from those that say they love you and that’s the worst abuse l think. It took me 20 years to trust someone as in a man back into my life, but never again, lm perfectly fine on my own. Thank you for sharing your story 🙏💜
Amen
I feel sorry for you My ex wife divorced me at 50 and I met a wonderful young woman Worked my way back to better than before and happy after 20 years
I’m so sorry you were treated like that, and for the losses. Glad you have things behind you now.
Thank you 🙏 ❤
I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that heartbreak. Your story made me very sad and happy at the same time. Happy that you haven't lost the capacity to be kind and I wish you joy and happiness in your new adventures.
Thank you, l really appreciate your kind words. 🙏🩷🩷
God bless you. Thank you for sharing. This will help many with their thought process.
🙏 you are very welcome 🩷
I am so sorry you went through all of that . God bless you.
Thank you Regina 🙏💜
I feel terrible for what you and your animals went through..
You are incredibly strong and courageous too have survived such an event...
God bless you 🙏
Thank you 🙏 💜
Animals are everything! Thank you for sharing. You are not alone 🤗
Thank you, they are everything, they were my life and I miss them all the time. You are very welcome Heidi 🙏🩷🩷🩷