@@Mat_Shaffer no way dude you made my day man I've been watch your vids for a few weeks now just been thinking about how to get a better grasp on how women think :)
The way you explain things is amazing... I actually get everything you say, thank you! Could you do more on long term relationship? I’ve been married 26 and want to make sure I always keep our love life exciting.
7:16 it's not that we are scared to come off as masculine, it's that (at least for a lot of us) we have no idea how far can we actually go with it and not hurt his ego and make him lose his confidence.
Hi Matt i just met a guy and he is a footballplayer and his passionate about the game and i like to play badminton so i have challenged him to play badminton and it was fun and his competitive side came true so nice and playful,it was a nice topic and video to watch 🇧🇪😚💪
I'm 50 yrs old and a NEW subscriber. I LOVE your video's Mat. They really have answered a lot of my questions of "how do men really think?". In the past 2 days, I've been binge watching and learning so much...thank you! Now, the gal who can kick ANY mans butt fresh water fishing is about to invite her "salt water fishing" God of a man to a little salty water lesson and kick his butt...I can't wait to inform him of the rewards he'll get if he does win..HAHAHA. I have a method to my madness and win or lose, I'll still win in the end and so will he. He just won't know it until the clothes come off just exactly what his trophy will end up being! ;)
I am in love with a guy but when I talk to him I literally get lost in his eyes, like I literally get dizzy and my ears just block I don't even get what he's saying. What can I do about that? It's ridiculous 😭😭
my guy best friend I get lost in his eyes each time he stares at me only him it started in preschool he started staring at me and kindergarten then we became best friends and still are in 8th grade
I Actually teased my boyfriend about football. I said to him: "Do you like football so much because you love to run after some balls?" It made him laugh 😂🏃
My Friend loves to fish. We went fishing on his pontoon boat. It was a blast he taught me how to fish. I caught a 17" bass. Then I sat in his lap and we talked about the first thing that popped up 😂😂. He is so much fun to play with.
I do love the way men handle issues or potential issues with teasing and calling stuff out. I'd like to be more skillful at that. Is that video material? As far as playfulness, I am not into sports or video games. I'd love to hear of additional examples. I'm into art, music, reading, walking, fitness....any suggestions there?
Take him for a walk in the woods. You'd be surprised how much fun it is just to enjoy nature 😂😂. Stop along the way for a kiss or hug. Let him help you up the hill. Sit in the grass. Hold hands.
Playing video games are great, eventho you're terrible at it. The worse you get the more you can distract him😄..there are many ways to win a game😉😉 What ever we do..keep it light n enjoy the time together..😊
He plays golf and has a putt putt thing in his office. I thought about telling him that i liked his putt putt stuff and that i was really good at putt putt. And challenge him to it.
I have a question about the teasing. I've talked to and gone out with a couple men from online dating sites who basically spent the first date or two doing more teasing then acting like an interested romantic partner. I am talking not the cute type of teasing either, but the sarcastic type that gets old quick. I can see it being cute and fun after having gotten to know them and getting into a relationship, but it was a bit of a turn off at that stage. Do you know why guys might show up that way when first getting to know each other?
they might have intimacy issues or think that's the only way to build attraction - you can gently set a boundary that you prefer other types of communication and if they aren't onboard with that, then you get to release them from your life :)
I'm a new subscriber to your channel and I love your explanations so far.. What inspires me the most is how to take time to reply each and every comment and to encourage them.. That's a good human quality I want to add up to my collection. Seperb
In general i am a goofy, fun person, and i can find the common voice with everyone, except this men i interested in. I try to be the same w him just like w everyone else but i can't. I also tried to joking around w him, but he is always so prim w me, and always talking w me about work. And as i noticed he does it almost only w me. He doen't like to be just the two of us in the room also.
@@Mat_Shaffer Saddly I can't tell him, he is not available at the moment, and I respect that, I don't want to ruin his relationship, but I have other colleuges whoes also in a long term relationships, I can joke around with them, he is the only one who is a little cold w me. 😅 Thank you for your respond 😊😉
@@timmytorino your person you're interested in is currently in a relationship and he is very loyal to his partner. He senses your attraction to him and he doesn't want to give anyone the idea that he is being improper especially if he really loves his partner and if any kind of improper interactions with other women may threaten his relationship, he wants no part. If you were with someone you really loved and heard there was someone flirting with your man at the office and he was responding in kind, you'd likely be very hurt. He is thinking of his partner's feelings. Accept that. You are both coworkers. That's it. He is taken. He is giving you the cold shoulder and keeping it professional because he wants you to understand that, that is ALL you are. Focus your energies elsewhere. You are not going to get anywhere with him. He is making that clear to you. Just accept it and move on.
How does one strike that balance when one partner is Polly and the other is Monogamous in the relationship.. where in the Monogamous one says I'm happy you come home after a you do..the Polly however has a wee sense of guilt!? However doesn't want out of the relationship
@@Mat_Shaffer Sorry Mat-just saw this! And lol-indeed it did though he tried to hide it🤗 it happens lol lol. HEY:great video btw! Thank you for taking the time to help us gals' out.
Teased my man, to join me in online game, because we are in distance, he talk me he don't know how to play and i said download the app it's easy ,so than he said don't play game it's not good for your eyes even dangerous for brain he said 😂😂
Listen up, try searching for Celestine Dessike's homepage for a spot-on suggestion that helps any type of woman take her talk-in-bed expertise one stage further and feelsuper confident with it all along.
Nowadays, there's so much tips techniques and tricks that it's sometimes hard to know where to start. But it's not rocket science to get your man shivering with ecstasy just by changing the way you talk. As simple as this sounds, maybe try escalating it a step at a time, go’ogle something like Words od Desire by Celestine Dessike to sneakily crawl into his mind and let it build on from that.
We play halo n mine craft to gether wen he has time for me I don't get to see him mutch I see him Tuesday n Friday,so that's are free time with each other
Part of having him go plain crazy and unlocking his primal impulses comes with speaking out the right words. Yes, there are so many ways to do this, Celestine Dessike's latest (go'ogle her) takes you by the hand if you want but choose whatever you feel most comfortable with!
Why am I watching this I'm single, im straight and its 3am and I just subscribed
yessss whats up Shaun! lol great to have you in the livesgtream the other day :)
@@Mat_Shaffer no way dude you made my day man I've been watch your vids for a few weeks now just been thinking about how to get a better grasp on how women think :)
When dating*
Shaun Brunett same
Just think...we will be prepared when we do start dating...lol
You're very soft spoken & easy to listen to. New Sub.
Thanks and welcome!
The way you explain things is amazing... I actually get everything you say, thank you! Could you do more on long term relationship? I’ve been married 26 and want to make sure I always keep our love life exciting.
YES that's a great topic! I have put it on my list!
I’m struggling with the part where I actually have him in the first place
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😂
Oh my get em tiger😂
Wrong channel
I thank God for making men so boyish and playful in a way that lifts my heart and is so damn appealing!
I appreciate your opinion on this!
7:16 it's not that we are scared to come off as masculine, it's that (at least for a lot of us) we have no idea how far can we actually go with it and not hurt his ego and make him lose his confidence.
I appreciate your opinion on this!
Hi Matt i just met a guy and he is a footballplayer and his passionate about the game and i like to play badminton so i have challenged him to play badminton and it was fun and his competitive side came true so nice and playful,it was a nice topic and video to watch 🇧🇪😚💪
aww yeah sounds like a good connection with some good competition :)
*A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.*
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
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joking around is a form of playful intimacy.
Diane N sooontrue and it’s one of my favorites! :)
I'm 50 yrs old and a NEW subscriber. I LOVE your video's Mat. They really have answered a lot of my questions of "how do men really think?". In the past 2 days, I've been binge watching and learning so much...thank you! Now, the gal who can kick ANY mans butt fresh water fishing is about to invite her "salt water fishing" God of a man to a little salty water lesson and kick his butt...I can't wait to inform him of the rewards he'll get if he does win..HAHAHA. I have a method to my madness and win or lose, I'll still win in the end and so will he. He just won't know it until the clothes come off just exactly what his trophy will end up being! ;)
Any updates girlfriend?😉
I’m so glad this helped you!
He taught me how to fish. I won 17" bass. Then we had a blast. I sat in his lap...talking about the first thing that popped up 😂😂. We both won lol.
I am in love with a guy but when I talk to him I literally get lost in his eyes, like I literally get dizzy and my ears just block I don't even get what he's saying. What can I do about that? It's ridiculous 😭😭
Omg I can relate to that...don’t u feel a little lost When he cannot stop looking at u ...
Omg this happens to me every time I see my bf…. We lock eyes, he draws me in and my brain melts, I can’t even think😂
my guy best friend I get lost in his eyes each time he stares at me only him it started in preschool he started staring at me and kindergarten then we became best friends and still are in 8th grade
My boyfriend and I do this all the time. It's fun and gets us laughing.
Wonderful! I’m so glad this helped you!
I Actually teased my boyfriend about football. I said to him:
"Do you like football so much because you love to run after some balls?"
It made him laugh 😂🏃
BOOM nailed it! he loved that ;)
Or he has some balls to play with
Yes
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What I find in this channel is always different and innovative ♥️ thanks
AWESOME thank you Alaa love this feedback!! :) so welcome!
My Friend loves to fish. We went fishing on his pontoon boat. It was a blast he taught me how to fish. I caught a 17" bass. Then I sat in his lap and we talked about the first thing that popped up 😂😂. He is so much fun to play with.
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
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I love play!! 💕Naked twister sounds like fun!! Lol
throw in some oil for extra degrees of difficulty hahahaha
New subscriber, loving your videos so much, thanks for keeping them short and to the point, makes it a joy and easy to watch and follow 👌
beautiful thank you for this feedback means so much to me!! :)
What if I’m not ready to answer his questions ? And yes men love to help women ,In the Gym too.
Only ask him questions as deep as those you are willing to answer :) if you're not ready to go deep with him and it's early on, that's fine!
How do you formulate a "powerful" question to ask a man about his play?
ask him directly and with genuine curiosity around his passions! get him rolling and hell love it :)
What a smile 😀
:):):)
I do love the way men handle issues or potential issues with teasing and calling stuff out. I'd like to be more skillful at that. Is that video material? As far as playfulness, I am not into sports or video games. I'd love to hear of additional examples. I'm into art, music, reading, walking, fitness....any suggestions there?
any activity can be play if its done with the right energy! :) its a worthy topic for another video !
Take him for a walk in the woods. You'd be surprised how much fun it is just to enjoy nature 😂😂. Stop along the way for a kiss or hug. Let him help you up the hill. Sit in the grass. Hold hands.
Playing video games are great, eventho you're terrible at it. The worse you get the more you can distract him😄..there are many ways to win a game😉😉 What ever we do..keep it light n enjoy the time together..😊
haha you got it! :)
He plays golf and has a putt putt thing in his office. I thought about telling him that i liked his putt putt stuff and that i was really good at putt putt. And challenge him to it.
Mustard Seed do it that’s a great idea!! 🤗🤗
@@Mat_Shaffer Thanks. As soon as I get the chance.
I have a question about the teasing. I've talked to and gone out with a couple men from online dating sites who basically spent the first date or two doing more teasing then acting like an interested romantic partner. I am talking not the cute type of teasing either, but the sarcastic type that gets old quick. I can see it being cute and fun after having gotten to know them and getting into a relationship, but it was a bit of a turn off at that stage. Do you know why guys might show up that way when first getting to know each other?
they might have intimacy issues or think that's the only way to build attraction - you can gently set a boundary that you prefer other types of communication and if they aren't onboard with that, then you get to release them from your life :)
Sending this to my future girl
haha yessss
I never knew that play is intrinsic to a man. So interesting.
Men are boys till the end 😂😂
Great video👏
Glad you like it!
Thank you so much I have been wanting to get with my lover on a deeper level
Wonderful! Glad to help.
I'm a new subscriber to your channel and I love your explanations so far.. What inspires me the most is how to take time to reply each and every comment and to encourage them.. That's a good human quality I want to add up to my collection. Seperb
Thank you so much for this
You're so welcome! 🤗
Love it New Subscriber!!!
Very special Matt
thanks so much my dear :)
In general i am a goofy, fun person, and i can find the common voice with everyone, except this men i interested in. I try to be the same w him just like w everyone else but i can't. I also tried to joking around w him, but he is always so prim w me, and always talking w me about work. And as i noticed he does it almost only w me. He doen't like to be just the two of us in the room also.
hmmm sounds like he may have some blocks to deeper connection or intimacy? HAve you every told him how you feel?
@@Mat_Shaffer Saddly I can't tell him, he is not available at the moment, and I respect that, I don't want to ruin his relationship, but I have other colleuges whoes also in a long term relationships, I can joke around with them, he is the only one who is a little cold w me. 😅 Thank you for your respond 😊😉
@@timmytorino your person you're interested in is currently in a relationship and he is very loyal to his partner. He senses your attraction to him and he doesn't want to give anyone the idea that he is being improper especially if he really loves his partner and if any kind of improper interactions with other women may threaten his relationship, he wants no part. If you were with someone you really loved and heard there was someone flirting with your man at the office and he was responding in kind, you'd likely be very hurt. He is thinking of his partner's feelings. Accept that. You are both coworkers. That's it. He is taken. He is giving you the cold shoulder and keeping it professional because he wants you to understand that, that is ALL you are. Focus your energies elsewhere. You are not going to get anywhere with him. He is making that clear to you. Just accept it and move on.
Great ideas, thanks so much for the help
You are so welcome!
I am so competitive at board games lol so I steer clear, but maybe I should show this side of myself?
Yes you should!
Hi where can i find a video on double twist.....
Thanks for sharing!
It sounds like a lot of fun!
Yes it is!
I tease him sometimes.But he doesn t tease me back. It s frustrating.Maybe,he s too serious or shy.Or I guess he s not interested in me.
that might not be his style! do you feel a connection with him?
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I’m so glad this helped you!
Dress up in a really cute base ball suit and play third base, hands off! Thank you darling.
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
How does one strike that balance when one partner is Polly and the other is Monogamous in the relationship.. where in the Monogamous one says I'm happy you come home after a you do..the Polly however has a wee sense of guilt!? However doesn't want out of the relationship
Thanks for sharing!
He like joke and i make some..we laughing together 😍
sharing sense of humor is so magnetic!
Heh, I'm a dynamo at Street Fighter.....I beat my male cousin once, heh heh.....let's just say-he wasn't a happy camper😏
HAHA Im sure it drove him nuts :)
@@Mat_Shaffer Sorry Mat-just saw this! And lol-indeed it did though he tried to hide it🤗 it happens lol lol. HEY:great video btw! Thank you for taking the time to help us gals' out.
Teased my man, to join me in online game, because we are in distance, he talk me he don't know how to play and i said download the app it's easy ,so than he said don't play game it's not good for your eyes even dangerous for brain he said 😂😂
Thank you for sharing!
Hi Matt , how can I playin order to engage in a sport with my man if I am physically disabled in order to connect at a deeper level with him?
He's really not into board games or card games .
What if you dont have a play? Or sport you are good at? 🤪
It's okay my dear!
Great ❤️🔥🎉
Glad you like it!
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I appreciate your opinion on this!
I love to play 🥰
I appreciate your opinion on this!
Damn, all i can is running. I would want my life to include more play in general. That would be nice. 😄😄
I’m so glad this helped you!
Play drive 😍 sign me up
boom!
Where is he ?
love heard the bell... Than ks love.. 👻🐒👫😜💋💞
Nowadays, there's so much tips techniques and tricks that it's sometimes hard to know where to start. But it's not rocket science to get your man shivering with ecstasy just by changing the way you talk. As simple as this sounds, maybe try escalating it a step at a time, go’ogle something like Words od Desire by Celestine Dessike to sneakily crawl into his mind and let it build on from that.
Thanks for sharing!
Mine like,s video games but so do i
COOL what a fun thing to share!
We play halo n mine craft to gether wen he has time for me I don't get to see him mutch I see him Tuesday n Friday,so that's are free time with each other
Cars... ok so I'll ask if he can drive manual and teach me 🤪
there ya go!
😍
Thank you!
Part of having him go plain crazy and unlocking his primal impulses comes with speaking out the right words. Yes, there are so many ways to do this, Celestine Dessike's latest (go'ogle her) takes you by the hand if you want but choose whatever you feel most comfortable with!
I appreciate your opinion on this thanks
I don’t have a man yet mat but sounds fun ❤️😊🥲
wonderful thank you for that feedback!!