I never felt the famous "ring of fire" when my baby was crowning. It was my first labor, a home delivery, no meds and my baby had a 99% head size. The nurse in the room kept telling me "I know honey, you're feeling the ring of fire and it's totally normal" she said it repeatedly 😠. I finally told her to please stop saying that because I was NOT feeling what she was saying and that was stressing me out. I encourage all women to talk about your positive labor experiences instead of emphasizing the negative moments which are not always true for everyone. It only creates unnecessary fear, especially in first time moms. Labor can be a beautiful event if you really want it to be.
I definitely had the ring of fire in a sense--but it was a relief from contractions. It was a burning sensation but not nearly has severe as I expected. I went into labor underestimating the pain of contractions and overestimating the pain of delivery.
My last baby was a precipitous labor and I gave birth alone in my living room while my other kiddos slept upstairs. As scary as it was initially when I accepted we wouldn't make it to the hospital in time for delivery, it was so much more comfortable and peaceful than my other births just being able to let my body do its thing how it felt best. I delivered her standing and her head came out with a contraction and she was crying before I finished pushing her shoulders out. I nursed her until my parents and paramedics arrived. She was perfect and I didn't tear one bit, I give alot of credit to relaxing and not tensing my muscles in the situation and being able to let my baby and body choose my positioning instead of a doctor.
@@ashleychuks You will be amazing! Your body will do whatever it needs to do in order to get your baby out safely and healthy. I wish you a safe & tear free labor! But you will realize no matter how little or grand the scale of your pain during labor it will somehow instantly leave your mind as soon as you hold your beautiful baby.
Bravo!my due date at 3 weeks,It is my first baby,I don´t want C-section , I will do it natural birth but i have a little bit scarry because i haven´t experience,Can you tell me how i´m prepare myself and my body in these weeks to do easily birth my baby ?thanks
I had a home birth, no paid meds. Baby came quick, only 9 hours. I didn't tear, and i think that's because i didn't push before i was ready. I felt him come down, then shoot back up a few times before the urge to push was so strong i couldn't ignore it. My biggest tip, don't push when you aren't ready to. Your body will tell you when it is time.
@@rosewolf9355 yes your body gives you the urge to push just like pooping. or many mums even experience Fetal ejection reflex in which you don't even have to push. the baby just pops out with force like the body just does it for you
I m pregnant after a miscarriage last January. Its my first baby so I'm a little scared about miscarrying once again. I'll be 6 weeks tomorrow .. pray for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby ❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Praying you have a Healthy Delivery ❤ My first was stillborn, I lost Her last September and I found out on my due date that I’m pregnant again 11weeks Today 🥹✨
Hoping your pregnancy is going well ❤️ I had a miscarriage due to a seatbelt accident last January and I’m now pregnant again, this January. Also so scared of miscarriage, but putting this baby in God’s hands and being as careful as possible.
Amen, I hope you have your rainbow baby this time ❤️ 🥹 I am now almost 21 weeks and my worries about miscarriage have come better... I feel my baby kicking already ❤️❤️❤️
@@brendabenitez7359 I'm actually 2 days away from reaching 30 weeks pregnant.. 🤰it's quite difficult some days but I can definitely say that I'm enjoying the journey... Thank you so much for asking ❤️❤️
German midwife here: Thank you for this video!! So important for the moms to know this. Especially choosing the right position during birth is so important! Not being flat and horizontal (in supine position on the bed) but upright and in vertical position helps prevent tearing immensely, it also helps bring the baby down much faster and opens up the cervix quicker, due to gravity helping. Thirdly it helps easing the pain, because you are not pushing up (when in supine position you are literally pushing up in the air around you pelvic bones) but when upright you are pushing down, the same direction your baby is heading, which creates less pain. It makes so much sense to choose an upright position! All those movies and videos of women pushing flat on their back with their legs strapped are incredibly unhelpful as a source of information. Please remember this when going into labour and choose positions like standing, squatting, kneeling, all-fours-position or the birthstool. By the way, labouring in water or a water birth are also preventing tears, because the warm water softens the perineal tissue and helps it stretch better!
My last baby was a precipitous labor so I ended up giving birth by myself in my living room while my other kiddos were asleep in their beds 😴 I felt so much more comfortable leaning against something or on all 4s while contracting and I ended up birthing my daughter while standing. Lowered my pants to about my knees which helped to support as I caught her. Then I nursed her until my parents arrived to assist along with the ambulance. I didn't tear at all which I feel has alot to do with not being forced to stay in one (unnatural in my opinion) position.
Thank you for the info! Can you pick your position when you're giving birth at hospital? I'm 6 weeks pregnant, my very first time and I have no idea what to expect tbh.
Congratulations mommy,my twin boys are 8 years old and now I just found out am 22 weeks pregnant,I have a scan booked later this week to check if it's a singleton or twins
Thanks for your different videos. I’ve learned a lot. I’m due in 6days I’m scared 😟 first pregnancy 🤰 May the Almighty make it easy for all pregnant mama
During my first daughter's labor, I was so worried about tearing and POOPING! Lol I remember the doctor telling me I wasn't pushing enough and I blurted out my 2 fears. They told me not to think about that. I pushed her out a few minutes after that. When I was in the recovery room a nurse that was there during my labor came in and said she wanted to let me know I didn't poop or tear. We couldn't stop laughing.
I'm 39 years old 32 weeks and 4 days pregnant with a baby girl first timer too,and I'm so excited and nervous Abt the delivery.But I Know We are covered by the blood of Jesus..
@@vyaptimehra I did. At 39 years old. I stopped trying and gave up and once I didn’t care boom I’m pregnant and it stuck this time. Life is too crazy. It’s better not to want things sometimes lol
I'm 14 weeks and according to the NIPT testing I had done I'm having a girl. This is my first pregnancy my husband and I have been trying for a baby for the last 5 & a half years we was told my husband couldn't have kids so I truly believe this is a miracle baby ❤️🤗
Great advice here! I delivered my daughter without any pain medication and I didn’t tear!!! I breathed my baby down and out!! No pushing necessary. 🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@daisyromero2481 on RUclips there are many trainings on how to do it. I would say it is similar to the breathing technique you use to blow out candles on a birthday cake 🎂
I just delivered my almost 8 pound baby four days ago with no tearing. I laid on my side up on an incline, and breathe him down and out. I’ve slowly pushed twice to deliver his head, then I stopped pushing and waited for my next contraction to slowly push out his shoulders and then the rest of his body. I worked my best to remain calm, and I believe that staying home and working with my body is what prevented me from tearing. Also, my midwife applied a warm compress to me as I was stretching to help the muscles. We got this ladies!
I have had 6 natural births no pain relief and no tears 😊 I squatted for babies 2-6, didn't know about that with my first, it made a massive difference and makes you feel alot more in control.
I’m 35 weeks pregnant , having a boy, this is my first pregnancy and I’m not so terrified however I’m a bit worried based on what everyone else has to say. Trying to prepare myself mentally as best as possible. Thank you watching from 🇯🇲🙏🏽❤️
Congratulations ❤ I was the same 6 years ago! Enjoy the experience and let your body do the work. Remember to breathe and soak up the precious moments. ❤
Honey, don't worry about what everyone else has to say. Everyone has different experiences and different ideas on what the "perfect" birthing plan is. You do what's going to be most comfortable for YOU because the last thing you want is to be freaking out while giving birth. So you do whatever is going to be most comfortable to YOU and don't worry about anyone else. It's just you and your baby that you need to be concerned about.
Had my first baby delivered virginally on 7 Jan. 2022, and all the nurses said they were surprised with how fast the deliver went, that there was no tearing, and that I delivered naturally. I thought it was just stuff they said at every delivery so took it with a grain of salt, then realized they were being honest after I started telling friends about the delivery and saw they were all amazed as well. I really got lucky! 😬
I am 38 weeks pregnant. This is my second pregnancy after having my first son at 30 weeks. He was 2 pounds 10 ounces. And after many miscarriages and one ectopic that resulted in losing my left Fallopian tube , I am grateful to have made it full term. It is just scary to not know what comes after 30weeks and videos like this are so helpful and educational
I have just under a month left in my first pregnancy, and I am TERRIFIED of labor for a lot of reasons including this one. Thank you so much for posting this video, I can't wait to meet my baby girl but *also* can't wait for the "giving birth" part to be over.
@@Paixpeacehippy whew-eee, lemme tell ya! Being pregnant for 9 months feels like it’s NEVER ENDING TORTURE!! 😩 And taking care of a newborn is MADNESS!!! Giving birth is just… eh, over and done with in so many hours. (15 my first time, 12 my second time) There can be worries and complications-nothing is ever guaranteed concern-free-but it’s all worth it. 👨👩👦👦❤️
A midwife 20 years ago told me to massage my perineum when bathing or showering etc. I have given birth 6x vaginally with the biggest being over 9lb. No tears at all. I don’t know if the massaging helped but I know it hasn’t happened to me. I have also never ‘actively pushed’ I have always allowed the contractions to do the work. One of the other bits of advice I was given was try not to tense up, open your palms when in pain don’t clench the fists.
I just had my babygirl 3 weeks ago on Valentines Day 💖...wish this video came out sooner lol I had tears with her and with my son last Feb, had to get stitched up both times 🥴...but wouldn't change it for the world im super blessed for my miracle babies, praying for safe deliveries for all the mommy's to be out there!🙏🏽
I'm due in January with my first baby girl 🥰 you've convinced me for sure not to get an epidural, as much as I know it's gonna hurt, I cannot agree more that the physical sensations we experience is our bodies communicating with us, and I don't want to prevent that. Feeling pretty nervous about this because it's approaching so quickly, but I know I can do it! 😅
Stick to your guns. Those shots and IV meds don't stop the pain just make you too drunk to complain. Seriously my unmedicated births were less painful. The pain of cuts and tears last months past delivery.
I’m pregnant with my first. I’m Due in November with a baby girl! I’m a little scared of labor and birth but watching videos like this bring me a sense of comfort.
Im a second time mom but it feels like my 1st! My firstborn was born almost 16 years ago and holy cow! The amount of information available to new mothers is a blessing. Back then it was mostly discussion forums amongst other expectant moms… now I’m overwhelmed with info but super grateful for it all the same. Thank you for posting these videos!
Had my baby girl almost 11 months ago now, I didn’t tear fortunately and also no stretch marks. Not planning on having anymore, but I think my labor was kind of easy compared to others experiences that I’ve heard. Thank god😭😂
I'm 33 weeks +2 days, this is my first pregnancy after 9 years of trying with my husband I finally got pregnant after having my tubes dyed to look for abnormalities and the procedure actually unblocked my tubes allowing us to get pregnant. Her due date is March 15, 2023 and we're excited (and terrified!) about her impending arrival!
I had a very traumatic hospital transfer from my home birth. It was my first pregnancy and we planned to have a minimally assisted, unmedicated home birth with plan B being a call into the hospital a 3 minute drive away if any complications arise. After laboring for 22 hours, we checked baby and my son’s butt was coming down -not his head! We immediately called the hospital, told them we’re on the way with a breech birth. I was pushing in the car! It’s was hectic. There was no cord compression! No meconium present when my waters broke. My sons heart rate was normal throughout labor. We were monitored the whole time and we were fine and everything was documented from the time my contractions had started the day before. I just didn’t feel comfortable having an unassisted breech birth. We arrived at the hospital. They looked between my legs and said: yup! That’s a breech baby. They completely freaked out!!! They tried giving me pitocin, they put me on my back! They said my baby was dying! I told them we just listened to his heart 20 minutes ago- it was normal and we handed them the chart we had. They then tried to hook up the heart monitor but I was pushing. They talked about a C-section but my son was already coming out. I was screaming at them just let me squat and help me push him out! They then -all 4 of them- put their hands inside my vagina- stretched me while the 5th person literally just pulled my son out from his hips! My son was not stuck! They didn’t let me push and didn’t believe anything we said! From everything I’ve read about delivery- including breech - it’s hands off the breech until the shoulders are born. Then you guide the head out! What they did was dangerous! My husband was screaming: you’re gonna kill my son! It was terrifying and the pain I experienced as they pulled me open was immense! My son was born with his eyes open and cried almost immediately! We told them we want delayed cord clamping- they cut him right away. I am now 11 weeks pregnant and my son is 4. I told my current midwife what happened. She was upset but told me the staff was probably scared themselves because many are no longer taught how to deliver a breech. I had all my scans and visits up until 38 weeks. My son was overdue but the last scan he was head down. He turned somehow in the last few weeks. This time. I’m getting the extra scans to ensure this baby stays head down. I still have panic attacks when I think about what was done to me and my son. I ended up with a 3rd degree tear and I was sewn up really tight! I couldn’t have sex for months! I had painful sex for the first 3 years. Terrible experience. I’m praying this pregnancy has a redeeming labor and delivery
Omg I'm so sorry you had that traumatic experience 😢 how was your second delivery? I'm considering doing a water birth but scared of any last minute complications and not getting quick enough to hospital
@@SheLightsUptheDark my second was amazing! Early labor started around 11pm (I thought they were practice contractions as I was 11 days from due date) it was around 6am I realized I was woken up every hour by the cramps. Called my midwife around 7am. We tried seeing if a warm bath would slow things down- nope! So we arrived to the birth center around 10:30 to find out I was 7.5cm dilated! My second baby boy was born in the birthing tub at 3:12 pm - minor tearing no stitches required.
I'm 20 weeks with my second. I had a small labial tear with my first and it truly wasn't that bad. It would sting when I went pee for a couple weeks, but that was about it. My midwife was massaging my perineum with oil the entire time I was pushing. I believe that helped a whole lot
Im 12 weeks pregnant, this is my second pregnancy after my 9 year old boy so I feel like the first time, but very very different. Hoping all you beautiful moms have a healthy delivery ❤
I had an 11 hour natural birth. I tore a little. Didn’t even feel it. I also didn’t really feel the ring of fire. I encourage everyone to experience a natural birth and to go with the natural flow of your body. Your body naturally pushes for you when you’re ready. I’m 31 weeks with my second and looking forward to this natural birth as well.
When u are in labour what's comes in mind is getting your baby save and we'll , the things like tearing or position of birth doesn't matter , remember u are half mad how can u even think of something s like tearing or whatsoever?
Gave birth to my first baby last January 30,2022 via unmedicated vaginal waterbirth and I did not have vaginal tear. My OB said it’s almost like a miracle. And I feel so proud and happy about it. What helped so much is that Because I did not have any anesthesia. The absence of anesthesia signaled my body when to stop pushing. The “ring of fire” is the most reliable signal. One advice is when you feel the ring of fire, wait at least for two surges before giving it your all when pushing. Hope it helps 🙏🏼
First time momma! Due in September! I’m so nervous about labor and delivery but reading the comments has helped a bit. I can’t wait to hold my baby girl!!!
I’m 34 weeks pregnant and expecting my first baby in early August! We are keeping the gender a surprise💜 this video is very helpful and enlightening 🙌🏼 my goal is to consciously breathe and keep my body relaxed and in-tune with my baby during labour! There are some wonderful midwives here in Ireland who are encouraging these practices in labour too!
depends how old you are and what area you’re in. i was in Co Louth when i got pregnant and i was 18, got treated like shit by the midwives and drs. only nice one who treated me like a normal person was the woman who did my first baby scan. due to circumstances i had to move back to england, my home country, with the baby’s dad, who is fully irish, when i was 18 weeks and i’ve been treated so well by my midwife and most sonographers i’ve seen. one even let us hear our daughters heartbeat for as long as we wanted because we hadn’t heard it until i was 24 weeks at my 3d scan, i never even got the option to hear it in ireland and they wouldn’t give me regular appointments to keep an eye on her yet i got given them immediately here in england our daughter is due December 11th and im almost 30 weeks
Fist pregnancy and I am 9 weeks! Had my first prenatal appointment yesterday and will have my first sonogram with my fiance on Monday ❤️🥰 we are over the moon!
My doctor checked my “push strength” that was never done to me before. She said she wanted to know how to manage me pushing and she told me to push slowly and she would tell me to stop pushing…it was so smooth
I gave birth a little over 2 weeks ago and had a 2nd degree tear. I was worried about tearing and did on my last push 😩. It sucks but I would do it all over again for my baby boy 💙
@@sadiasharif4063 not in that moment cause you’re too busy pushing your baby out. After it does hurt a little, but it’s mostly just kind of burns when you go to the bathroom. After 1 week it feels better. I had fraternal twins both vaginal delivery, I tore badly, I was stitched up after the first week it was better. It just burns, that’s it’s. The stitching didn’t hurt after the 3rd day.
I am pregnant with my second baby! My first son was born in December 2020 at a birth center! I had a completely drug-free birth, but I did have a decent tear with my first son, and would love to prevent that during my next delivery!
FTM! 37 weeks & 4 days pregnant with a BOY 💙🍼🧸🥰 my journey has been smooth so far so the plan is to have a smooth labor and delivery as well🤞🏾 thanks for the informative video!
@@mekaknows226 He was over a week late, I was in prodromal labor for 2 days. Active labor was over a day long and ended in an emergency c-section. But baby is healthy❤️ unfortunately, wasn’t the birth I had been preparing for.
Hi Diana , I'm a first time mother , I watched your videos week by week , I would like to thank you for everything , it helped me alot. I gave birth on my due date to my beautiful baby girl❤️ and it was normal birth with no tear. I pasted on your videos to a few friends to watch while they pregnant and I really can't thank you enough😊❣️
Just had my first OB appt. First baby - officially 9 weeks and over the mooooon!! Have been watching your videos for a while but finally feeling confident about baby and excited to deep dive on your vids. Probably too soon to really be thinking about tears, but I want to be prepared all the same!! Thanks for all you do.
Second pregnancy 14 weeks pregnant, my first ended in a miscarriage. Saw your 13 week pregnancy video, you said there are very few chances of miscarrige this reduced so much of my anxiety and fear. Thank you Diana
Just found out I’m pregnant! I’m a first time mom so I’m super excited and nervous all at the same time. Wishing a smooth and peaceful pregnancy for all🤍🤍
This is my first pregnancy! Im 15 weeks, dont know gender yet. Will find out gender next month! ❤️ Thank you for making this video because I was actually in tears last week thinking about tearing when I give birth because my sis in law told me her birthing story and “ring of fire.”
31 weeks 5 days with my first baby, it’s a girl! 💕 I’m still just so excited for birth and the whole experience. I know it will be the hardest thing I do but I can’t wait!
You got this!! Don't be afraid. It's not too bad, I had my second almost 6 weeks ago, and my advice with the tearing is to talk to your doctor. I'd tell them that if they believe you're going to tear to give you an episiotomy and to not, TO NOT, cut your butt!!!!!! Make sure to mention that, butt muscle being tore is the hardest thing you'll go through avoid it at !! Good luck and congradulations
I'm 30 weeks now with my 2nd child, I'm a little bit nervous, it's been 9 years since I've had my first born but I know I can do it again! God bless everyone.
I'm almost 23 weeks and this is my first (at age 36... gotta love the advanced maternal age). I was really worried, too, because I'm 5'00 (120lbs pre-pregnancy weight) and my husband is 6'4/300lbs. Relieved that the baby was in the 25th percentile at the 20 weeks scan. Hoping she is smaller (but still healthy) just like her mama!
I’m a first time mom at 38 weeks and 3 days, expecting a baby girl! I’m very much ready for her to be born 🤧 I’m also worried about tearing as well, because I plan on going all natural. I am hoping to be on all fours or squatting. I have no idea what to expect, what the pain will feel like, so I’m really not nervous about going into labor. Everything is so unknown, so I’m just going with the flow 🤧
I had my babies 27 and 30 years ago and followed the advice in a book by a well known midwife called Sheila Kitzinger. She had almost exactly the same advice as you so I wonder if you have ever read her book? Perineal massage started at 28 weeks or so meant that I could deliver 2 10+ pounders with my perineum intact both times. My midwife used the warm compress too. I was kneeling up both times which, I believe, gave a controlled descent. Most importantly, I think, I did not actively push and I didn't have anyone screaming at me to do so. Following discussion with my midwife, we agreed there would be none of that nonsense so I just breathed through the contractions and allowed the head to descend and expand the perineum smoothly and gently. I don't recall any "ring of fire" feeling but it was almost 30 years ago! I firmly believe that, if you allow descent to happen as your body intends, the perineum is prepared for the stretching and you are calm, "ring of fire" is not an issue. My first daughter was 10 pounds 3 ounces and the second, 3 years later, was 10 10. I am tall at 5'9 but was not overweight (158 on the day I had #1 daughter) and was tested several times for gestational diabetes as that's a common cause of big babies. No diabetes; they were just big! If you are pregnant now, please be assured that you CAN deliver with an intact perineum but you need to do the preparation and communicate very clearly with your midwife.
I’m 31 weeks with my first pregnancy it’s been a predominately miserable experience thanks to Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I’m terrified of labor but can’t wait to meet my baby girl 💓
I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my first. And everyone is scaring me into an epidural, but I was really hoping for a natural birth. I’m just a little worried for tearing, thank you for this video !
Im pregnant with my 2nd baby at 19 weeks and my first labor was all natural, trust me it’s not as bad as everyone says. My pain tolerance is VERY low and surprisingly it wasn’t bad. Not getting a epidural will help your back pain 100x. Not getting the epidural honestly feels like you need to poop but you can’t. (DONT PUSH TILL YOU ARE AT THE HOSPITAL) after I had my 1st son I felt like I could take so much more pain then I did before. Long story short, Go for it!! Congrats you’ll do great!❤
I am 23 weeks with my first baby. I enjoy your Pregnancy week by week series and have been watching each one since I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks! Thank you for your educational content, watching your videos each week help me embrace the changes my body is making ! 💙💙
I am 7 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby. I just found out I have a subchorionic hemmorage so prayers please. Gods got this one.
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26 weeks pregnant with a baby boy ❤️ cannot wait to meet him. I have heard stories about tearing from other moms and it kind of scared me, but watching your video calmed me down 🤗
This was soo helpful. I had really bad tearing, that took a really long time to stich. However, I did not feel that ring of fire that everyone talks about, even though I no pain medication. Currently pregnant with my second.
I am 26 weeks pregnant now and having a Girl. Bless all pregnant women around the world all who is trying for a baby. Hope this new year bring good news to all. Happy newyear 2024🎉❤
33 weeks, I'm having a baby girl & I'm a first time mom! Super nervous about labor don't want to tear, I know it'll be painful tho. I'm just ready to see my bean I've been growing
I’m a first time mommy, I don’t want to tear. I know it’s inevitable but I at least want to be fine afterwards. 33 weeks and 4 days now. Pray for me please 🙏
I have been watching all your pregnancy related videos throughout my pregnancy and love all the advice you have for us 1st time moms. I'm 39 weeks and very excited to meet our baby boy!
25 weeks with baby girl #3! I can’t wait to meet my girly and introduce her to her sisters 💗 I was very lucky to have a 45 minute pain free, medication free labour and delivery with no tearing with my second. Hoping to have that experience again 😅
Oh thats great! I had a similar experience with my second child. 45 min labor and 3 pushes and she was out. I didnt even know I was in labor until the doc checked me at my 39week appointment and told me I was 6cm dialated. But I was given an episiotomy.
@@NicoleDestinee Thank you!! Honestly I didn’t do anything to prepare and was super surprised about how it ended up turning out! I did however go to the gym almost every day of my pregnancy (was doing that before my pregnancy so just continued to) so I assume it had a lot to do with muscle strength. I’ve still continued to workout this pregnancy as well so hopefully I have a similar experience!
26 weeks with my first (little girl). It has been such an emotional ride. Between the incompetent cervix, the soft markers on the ultrasound suggesting an increased risk of trisomy 18, and now the gestational diabetes, I haven't really had much time to think about labour. I am glad there are resources like this out there though :) Thanks!
I’m 25 weeks and 1 day and this is my first pregnancy with a girl, and I’m personally pretty scared, but I’ve been watching lots of videos and doing lots of research to ease my stress and mind for the delivery ☺️
I’m 36 weeks this will be my first child I’ve been thinking so much about labor and ready to meet my baby girl 😀. Towards the end of August. Baby was measuring September 2. I’m glad I found your video helpful information
I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant and I'm binge-watching all your videos (more like listening to them while working lol) I hope you create a podcast! Your content's straightforward, fast, and very educational - I LOVE IT! Thank you so much for putting out these info out there for us to learn from. You're awesome!!
I tore with my first pregnancy she weighed 7 pounds and 3 ounces. 2nd pregnancy tore she weighed 7 pounds 8ounces. My 3rd Pregnancy I didn’t tear and she was my biggest baby 8 pounds and 11oz. I definitely think my doctor the third time around knew what she was doing on telling me how hard to push and when to stop. She was just so helpful. My first 2 doctors were just telling me to push push push and hard and so I did and I tore.
It’s not always the weight, it’s the bones the baby’s head size is the crucial part of the birth, once the head comes out the rest of the body comes out easily because it’s soft and flexible.
Almost 33 weeks with pregnancy #3! My first birth I had an epidural which wasn't the best experience. 2nd birth, I went unmedicated and it was truly an amazing experience. But during the pushing I truly just wanted to get it over with and have that baby lol! I pushed extra hard, even after being told to slow down and had 2 to 3 labia tears. They weren't too bad but this time around I'm hoping for zero tears. You've explained why I tore so clearly, that something has just clicked! This time around I will be more mindful of the speed of pushing and slow down during that ring of fire (instead of blasting the baby out 😂). Thank you for your guidance!!!
After 10 years of marriage, God bless us with a baby boy. Today I am 38 weeks +3. I have been watching your week to week videos and they are very helpful. My baby is already head down and hopefully don't want C-section. This video was really what I looking for in this phase of my pregnancy. Thanks 😊
Hi Diana, I watch your week by week videos. I’m 26 weeks with my first baby, a boy. Thank you for all your knowledge, I’ve learned a lot from you already! Hello from NYC!
Hey Diana! I’m 35 weeks, first pregnancy, having a boy named Jonathan and I’m a fellow PA in family medicine :) thanks for being so knowledgeable and sharing all of this amazing information!
I’m 35 weeks today and this is my first pregnancy. I’m having a boy, after 15 years of infertility. God has finally blessed us 💙
Congratulations! I had my son after 11 years of infertility as well. 💙
Congratulations amen! I wish a safe deliver!
Congratulations 🥳 enjoy your lil bundle of blessings 🙏🏽💞
That is beautiful!
So happy to hear. God Bless you and the baby. !. THANKS FOR SHARING.
I never felt the famous "ring of fire" when my baby was crowning. It was my first labor, a home delivery, no meds and my baby had a 99% head size. The nurse in the room kept telling me "I know honey, you're feeling the ring of fire and it's totally normal" she said it repeatedly 😠. I finally told her to please stop saying that because I was NOT feeling what she was saying and that was stressing me out. I encourage all women to talk about your positive labor experiences instead of emphasizing the negative moments which are not always true for everyone. It only creates unnecessary fear, especially in first time moms. Labor can be a beautiful event if you really want it to be.
I definitely had the ring of fire in a sense--but it was a relief from contractions. It was a burning sensation but not nearly has severe as I expected. I went into labor underestimating the pain of contractions and overestimating the pain of delivery.
Same here♥️
@@graceandglamor Are you saying delivery wasn't as bad as the labor?
Ring of fire felt amazing to me, in that second I felt no more pain.
Yes exactly! Love it! I can't wait to get pregnant again, and carry my next baby to full term✝️❤
My last baby was a precipitous labor and I gave birth alone in my living room while my other kiddos slept upstairs. As scary as it was initially when I accepted we wouldn't make it to the hospital in time for delivery, it was so much more comfortable and peaceful than my other births just being able to let my body do its thing how it felt best. I delivered her standing and her head came out with a contraction and she was crying before I finished pushing her shoulders out. I nursed her until my parents and paramedics arrived. She was perfect and I didn't tear one bit, I give alot of credit to relaxing and not tensing my muscles in the situation and being able to let my baby and body choose my positioning instead of a doctor.
What an amazing experience.😃 Thank you so much for sharing that with all of us 🙏💜
@@DianaInThePink well if it takes a village to raise a child, then it should at least take a supportive RUclips community to get through pregnancy 😅🤗☺
Amazing… I am due in a couple of weeks and trust God for no tears…
@@ashleychuks You will be amazing! Your body will do whatever it needs to do in order to get your baby out safely and healthy. I wish you a safe & tear free labor! But you will realize no matter how little or grand the scale of your pain during labor it will somehow instantly leave your mind as soon as you hold your beautiful baby.
Bravo!my due date at 3 weeks,It is my first baby,I don´t want C-section , I will do it natural birth but i have a little bit scarry because i haven´t experience,Can you tell me how i´m prepare myself and my body in these weeks to do easily birth my baby ?thanks
I had a home birth, no paid meds. Baby came quick, only 9 hours. I didn't tear, and i think that's because i didn't push before i was ready. I felt him come down, then shoot back up a few times before the urge to push was so strong i couldn't ignore it. My biggest tip, don't push when you aren't ready to. Your body will tell you when it is time.
🙏🙌💯😊💕
Thanks for this info I'm scared because it's my first pregnancy
You knew how to cut the ambilical cord yourself? What about removing the placenta?
I very much want to know, just in case it happens to me?
How does your body tell you when to push? Is it similar when you're constipated and you're pushing out a poop? I'm currently at 30 weeks
@@rosewolf9355 yes your body gives you the urge to push just like pooping. or many mums even experience Fetal ejection reflex in which you don't even have to push. the baby just pops out with force like the body just does it for you
I m pregnant after a miscarriage last January. Its my first baby so I'm a little scared about miscarrying once again. I'll be 6 weeks tomorrow .. pray for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby ❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Praying you have a Healthy Delivery ❤ My first was stillborn, I lost Her last September and I found out on my due date that I’m pregnant again 11weeks Today 🥹✨
Hoping your pregnancy is going well ❤️ I had a miscarriage due to a seatbelt accident last January and I’m now pregnant again, this January. Also so scared of miscarriage, but putting this baby in God’s hands and being as careful as possible.
Amen, I hope you have your rainbow baby this time ❤️ 🥹 I am now almost 21 weeks and my worries about miscarriage have come better... I feel my baby kicking already ❤️❤️❤️
How are you doing now?
@@brendabenitez7359 I'm actually 2 days away from reaching 30 weeks pregnant.. 🤰it's quite difficult some days but I can definitely say that I'm enjoying the journey... Thank you so much for asking ❤️❤️
German midwife here:
Thank you for this video!! So important for the moms to know this. Especially choosing the right position during birth is so important! Not being flat and horizontal (in supine position on the bed) but upright and in vertical position helps prevent tearing immensely, it also helps bring the baby down much faster and opens up the cervix quicker, due to gravity helping. Thirdly it helps easing the pain, because you are not pushing up (when in supine position you are literally pushing up in the air around you pelvic bones) but when upright you are pushing down, the same direction your baby is heading, which creates less pain. It makes so much sense to choose an upright position! All those movies and videos of women pushing flat on their back with their legs strapped are incredibly unhelpful as a source of information. Please remember this when going into labour and choose positions like standing, squatting, kneeling, all-fours-position or the birthstool.
By the way, labouring in water or a water birth are also preventing tears, because the warm water softens the perineal tissue and helps it stretch better!
Sehr gut beschrieben. Dankeschön ❤
My last baby was a precipitous labor so I ended up giving birth by myself in my living room while my other kiddos were asleep in their beds 😴 I felt so much more comfortable leaning against something or on all 4s while contracting and I ended up birthing my daughter while standing. Lowered my pants to about my knees which helped to support as I caught her. Then I nursed her until my parents arrived to assist along with the ambulance. I didn't tear at all which I feel has alot to do with not being forced to stay in one (unnatural in my opinion) position.
Thank you for the info! Can you pick your position when you're giving birth at hospital? I'm 6 weeks pregnant, my very first time and I have no idea what to expect tbh.
This!!!! You’re absolutely correct!
Thank you so much for the information shared. I'd definitely try to remember this when I get into labor soon
I’m 23 weeks today and it is my first pregnancy. I am pregnant with identical twin boys!!!❤️😁
Kayla. Congratulations 💜 My sister had identical twin boys too. She loved every second of it. So excited for you
That's exciting! Congratulations.
Congratulations mommy,my twin boys are 8 years old and now I just found out am 22 weeks pregnant,I have a scan booked later this week to check if it's a singleton or twins
Congratulations!!! My friend is too with two identical girls 👧 also her first pregnancy!!☺️😩
Awww congratulations
I'm watching this video not because I'm pregnant, but because I want to educate myself on this topic. Wishing you all well
same here 🤣😅
Thanks for your different videos. I’ve learned a lot. I’m due in 6days I’m scared 😟 first pregnancy 🤰 May the Almighty make it easy for all pregnant mama
During my first daughter's labor, I was so worried about tearing and POOPING! Lol I remember the doctor telling me I wasn't pushing enough and I blurted out my 2 fears. They told me not to think about that. I pushed her out a few minutes after that. When I was in the recovery room a nurse that was there during my labor came in and said she wanted to let me know I didn't poop or tear. We couldn't stop laughing.
Those are my two biggest fears as well. I think that is probably everyone’s biggest fear. I’m so happy to hear you didn’t do either one! 🎉
You are so lucky. These are my worst fears too. I'm expecting my first baby and I'm so anxious about the delivery.
I'm 39 years old 32 weeks and 4 days pregnant with a baby girl first timer too,and I'm so excited and nervous Abt the delivery.But I Know We are covered by the blood of Jesus..
Amen!! Congratulations 🎉
I’m 39 too 38 weeks pregnant
Heyy did u conceive naturally?
@@vyaptimehra I did. At 39 years old. I stopped trying and gave up and once I didn’t care boom I’m pregnant and it stuck this time. Life is too crazy. It’s better not to want things sometimes lol
@@vyaptimehra I’m 39 years old and 40 weeks pregnant naturally
I'm 14 weeks and according to the NIPT testing I had done I'm having a girl. This is my first pregnancy my husband and I have been trying for a baby for the last 5 & a half years we was told my husband couldn't have kids so I truly believe this is a miracle baby ❤️🤗
Congratulations!! I’m 17 weeks with a boy 😊
Great advice here! I delivered my daughter without any pain medication and I didn’t tear!!! I breathed my baby down and out!! No pushing necessary. 🙌🏽🙌🏽
What position?
Yh what position, because when I had my first baby I got tearing 😥but this time around for my second baby I want to be prepared
I just had mine 2 weeks ago I had a water birth and I breathed too it works 💪
How do you breathe ?
@@daisyromero2481 on RUclips there are many trainings on how to do it. I would say it is similar to the breathing technique you use to blow out candles on a birthday cake 🎂
I just delivered my almost 8 pound baby four days ago with no tearing. I laid on my side up on an incline, and breathe him down and out. I’ve slowly pushed twice to deliver his head, then I stopped pushing and waited for my next contraction to slowly push out his shoulders and then the rest of his body. I worked my best to remain calm, and I believe that staying home and working with my body is what prevented me from tearing. Also, my midwife applied a warm compress to me as I was stretching to help the muscles. We got this ladies!
Thank you for sharing your experience
I teared both times, I find the pain when the head is halfway out unbearable and therefore push hard every time.
Wear did the warm compress go?
@@bellefairydust she applied it to the perineal area during crowning and pushing!
hey did you do a water birth? if no then is it safe for you to wait with baby's head in air for next contraction to push the rest out?
I have had 6 natural births no pain relief and no tears 😊 I squatted for babies 2-6, didn't know about that with my first, it made a massive difference and makes you feel alot more in control.
how many squat per day？with weights？
Thank you for sharing your amazing experiences 💜
@@yij9010 Squatting while giving birth it allows for gravity to work so less chance of tearing.
Did you get stiches after your births... ?
@@ayeshaimran6958 No never had any stitches with any of my six labours.
Im 28 weeks today..super excited to meet my baby boy. Praying for a fast dilation, quick labor, unmedicated no tear birth. 🙏
In JESUS NAME... AMEN 🙏🏽
I'm 37 weeks pregnant ❤
I'm having a baby girl ❤
My husband and I just found out that we're having our first baby two weeks ago! I'm six weeks along and so excited! Thank you for this video!
Congratulations 🎉
I’m 35 weeks pregnant , having a boy, this is my first pregnancy and I’m not so terrified however I’m a bit worried based on what everyone else has to say. Trying to prepare myself mentally as best as possible. Thank you watching from 🇯🇲🙏🏽❤️
Congratulations ❤ I was the same 6 years ago! Enjoy the experience and let your body do the work. Remember to breathe and soak up the precious moments. ❤
Same here. At 23 weeks. Praying for no tear delivery by God's grace
@@Goudie08 thank you 🙏🏽❤️
🇬🇾🇬🇾 t story's Scare me
Honey, don't worry about what everyone else has to say. Everyone has different experiences and different ideas on what the "perfect" birthing plan is. You do what's going to be most comfortable for YOU because the last thing you want is to be freaking out while giving birth. So you do whatever is going to be most comfortable to YOU and don't worry about anyone else. It's just you and your baby that you need to be concerned about.
Had my first baby delivered virginally on 7 Jan. 2022, and all the nurses said they were surprised with how fast the deliver went, that there was no tearing, and that I delivered naturally. I thought it was just stuff they said at every delivery so took it with a grain of salt, then realized they were being honest after I started telling friends about the delivery and saw they were all amazed as well. I really got lucky! 😬
You took grains of salt?
@@faizahwhite4515 it’s figurative speech
I am 38 weeks pregnant. This is my second pregnancy after having my first son at 30 weeks. He was 2 pounds 10 ounces. And after many miscarriages and one ectopic that resulted in losing my left Fallopian tube , I am grateful to have made it full term. It is just scary to not know what comes after 30weeks and videos like this are so helpful and educational
So glad you made it to full term this time. I hope you and your family are doing great 🙂
Thanks to God and mother of perpetual help
So happy you had a second baby miracle!
I have just under a month left in my first pregnancy, and I am TERRIFIED of labor for a lot of reasons including this one. Thank you so much for posting this video, I can't wait to meet my baby girl but *also* can't wait for the "giving birth" part to be over.
How did it go?
How’d it go??
Gotta tell ya… pregnancy SUCKED and taking care of a newborn was SO HARD! Giving birth was the easiest part!
@@oatmealtruck7811how did giving birth easier just asking I’m kinda curious lol 😊
@@Paixpeacehippy whew-eee, lemme tell ya! Being pregnant for 9 months feels like it’s NEVER ENDING TORTURE!! 😩 And taking care of a newborn is MADNESS!!! Giving birth is just… eh, over and done with in so many hours. (15 my first time, 12 my second time) There can be worries and complications-nothing is ever guaranteed concern-free-but it’s all worth it. 👨👩👦👦❤️
God bless my nurse. I pushed for 4 hours and she massaged me the entire time so I wouldn't tear.
Omg bless that nurse. its quite rare for them to do that no?
I'm from Ukraine, almost 41 week, it is my first pregnancy. Thank you for your videos!
A midwife 20 years ago told me to massage my perineum when bathing or showering etc. I have given birth 6x vaginally with the biggest being over 9lb. No tears at all. I don’t know if the massaging helped but I know it hasn’t happened to me. I have also never ‘actively pushed’ I have always allowed the contractions to do the work. One of the other bits of advice I was given was try not to tense up, open your palms when in pain don’t clench the fists.
This probably is 10/10 advice
I just had my babygirl 3 weeks ago on Valentines Day 💖...wish this video came out sooner lol I had tears with her and with my son last Feb, had to get stitched up both times 🥴...but wouldn't change it for the world im super blessed for my miracle babies, praying for safe deliveries for all the mommy's to be out there!🙏🏽
did you get dissolveable stitches and wats the process
Pregnant with our first baby, due sept 5! 35+3 today! Can’t wait to meet this baby boy! Thank you for all your videos, they help so much!
wow....i have same date, i guess we will see on the other side, except mine is a girly
Good luck!!!! My partner is due the same exact day here in Australia!
I’m due the day before with a boy😊
I'm being induced September 5th!!! Congrats to you 💜 with a baby boy as well
Awww September 5th is my birthday! Did you have baby yesterday!!?
I'm due in January with my first baby girl 🥰 you've convinced me for sure not to get an epidural, as much as I know it's gonna hurt, I cannot agree more that the physical sensations we experience is our bodies communicating with us, and I don't want to prevent that. Feeling pretty nervous about this because it's approaching so quickly, but I know I can do it! 😅
I'm also due Jan 15, good luck darling! Don't forget to breath!
You have balls I'm fking terrified
With my epidural I didn’t feel pain but I felt the intense pressure!! so when I felt the pressure I pushed
Stick to your guns. Those shots and IV meds don't stop the pain just make you too drunk to complain. Seriously my unmedicated births were less painful. The pain of cuts and tears last months past delivery.
I’m pregnant with my first. I’m Due in November with a baby girl! I’m a little scared of labor and birth but watching videos like this bring me a sense of comfort.
Me to I'm due on the 24th of November
And I'm having a girl
I’m due on the 5th with my first child a baby girl!
Me too ,nov 12 baby girl😄
I hope you had a safe and healthy delivery! 😊
Im a second time mom but it feels like my 1st! My firstborn was born almost 16 years ago and holy cow! The amount of information available to new mothers is a blessing. Back then it was mostly discussion forums amongst other expectant moms… now I’m overwhelmed with info but super grateful for it all the same. Thank you for posting these videos!
Had my baby girl almost 11 months ago now, I didn’t tear fortunately and also no stretch marks. Not planning on having anymore, but I think my labor was kind of easy compared to others experiences that I’ve heard. Thank god😭😂
I'm 33 weeks +2 days, this is my first pregnancy after 9 years of trying with my husband I finally got pregnant after having my tubes dyed to look for abnormalities and the procedure actually unblocked my tubes allowing us to get pregnant. Her due date is March 15, 2023 and we're excited (and terrified!) about her impending arrival!
How has it been going?? Any birthing tips?
I had a very traumatic hospital transfer from my home birth. It was my first pregnancy and we planned to have a minimally assisted, unmedicated home birth with plan B being a call into the hospital a 3 minute drive away if any complications arise.
After laboring for 22 hours, we checked baby and my son’s butt was coming down -not his head!
We immediately called the hospital, told them we’re on the way with a breech birth.
I was pushing in the car! It’s was hectic.
There was no cord compression! No meconium present when my waters broke. My sons heart rate was normal throughout labor. We were monitored the whole time and we were fine and everything was documented from the time my contractions had started the day before. I just didn’t feel comfortable having an unassisted breech birth.
We arrived at the hospital. They looked between my legs and said: yup! That’s a breech baby.
They completely freaked out!!!
They tried giving me pitocin, they put me on my back! They said my baby was dying! I told them we just listened to his heart 20 minutes ago- it was normal and we handed them the chart we had.
They then tried to hook up the heart monitor but I was pushing. They talked about a C-section but my son was already coming out.
I was screaming at them just let me squat and help me push him out!
They then -all 4 of them- put their hands inside my vagina- stretched me while the 5th person literally just pulled my son out from his hips!
My son was not stuck! They didn’t let me push and didn’t believe anything we said!
From everything I’ve read about delivery- including breech - it’s hands off the breech until the shoulders are born. Then you guide the head out!
What they did was dangerous! My husband was screaming: you’re gonna kill my son! It was terrifying and the pain I experienced as they pulled me open was immense!
My son was born with his eyes open and cried almost immediately! We told them we want delayed cord clamping- they cut him right away.
I am now 11 weeks pregnant and my son is 4.
I told my current midwife what happened. She was upset but told me the staff was probably scared themselves because many are no longer taught how to deliver a breech.
I had all my scans and visits up until 38 weeks. My son was overdue but the last scan he was head down. He turned somehow in the last few weeks.
This time. I’m getting the extra scans to ensure this baby stays head down.
I still have panic attacks when I think about what was done to me and my son.
I ended up with a 3rd degree tear and I was sewn up really tight! I couldn’t have sex for months! I had painful sex for the first 3 years.
Terrible experience.
I’m praying this pregnancy has a redeeming labor and delivery
Omg I'm so sorry you had that traumatic experience 😢 how was your second delivery? I'm considering doing a water birth but scared of any last minute complications and not getting quick enough to hospital
How terrible, I'm sorry you had such a traumatic experience.
So sorry you went through this.. how did the second labor and delivery go?
@@SheLightsUptheDark my second was amazing! Early labor started around 11pm (I thought they were practice contractions as I was 11 days from due date) it was around 6am I realized I was woken up every hour by the cramps. Called my midwife around 7am. We tried seeing if a warm bath would slow things down- nope! So we arrived to the birth center around 10:30 to find out I was 7.5cm dilated! My second baby boy was born in the birthing tub at 3:12 pm - minor tearing no stitches required.
Amen
I'm 20 weeks with my second. I had a small labial tear with my first and it truly wasn't that bad. It would sting when I went pee for a couple weeks, but that was about it. My midwife was massaging my perineum with oil the entire time I was pushing. I believe that helped a whole lot
Does it look normal now?
Im 12 weeks pregnant, this is my second pregnancy after my 9 year old boy so I feel like the first time, but very very different. Hoping all you beautiful moms have a healthy delivery ❤
I’m 11 weeks pregnant with my second and my son is also 9 and feel the same way. I feel like I’m experienced but not at the same time 😅
I had an 11 hour natural birth. I tore a little. Didn’t even feel it. I also didn’t really feel the ring of fire. I encourage everyone to experience a natural birth and to go with the natural flow of your body. Your body naturally pushes for you when you’re ready. I’m 31 weeks with my second and looking forward to this natural birth as well.
Thank you for sharing your experience 💜
When u are in labour what's comes in mind is getting your baby save and we'll , the things like tearing or position of birth doesn't matter , remember u are half mad how can u even think of something s like tearing or whatsoever?
Gave birth to my first baby last January 30,2022 via unmedicated vaginal waterbirth and I did not have vaginal tear. My OB said it’s almost like a miracle. And I feel so proud and happy about it. What helped so much is that Because I did not have any anesthesia. The absence of anesthesia signaled my body when to stop pushing. The “ring of fire” is the most reliable signal. One advice is when you feel the ring of fire, wait at least for two surges before giving it your all when pushing. Hope it helps 🙏🏼
Yes this has definitely helped👍🏼
Am pregnant and I feel nice watching this video .love from zambia . Africa 🇿🇲
First time momma! Due in September! I’m so nervous about labor and delivery but reading the comments has helped a bit. I can’t wait to hold my baby girl!!!
Awww hai fellow first time September mum im due in September too and im afraid too but we will be fine
Hi me too first time mom and my due is also in September!!! Good luck to us mommies!!
@@annventures4712 goodluck to us
I’m 34 weeks pregnant and expecting my first baby in early August! We are keeping the gender a surprise💜 this video is very helpful and enlightening 🙌🏼 my goal is to consciously breathe and keep my body relaxed and in-tune with my baby during labour! There are some wonderful midwives here in Ireland who are encouraging these practices in labour too!
Glad to know people still keep the gender a surprise. I think it adds to the excitement and emotions of the delivery day.
35 weeks this week and expecting late August. We’re also keeping the sex of the baby a surprise. Fun times :) Best of luck on your delivery!
I hope you and your baby are doing well!
Sooo what did you have and did you avoid vaginal tearing? Blessings to you!
depends how old you are and what area you’re in. i was in Co Louth when i got pregnant and i was 18, got treated like shit by the midwives and drs. only nice one who treated me like a normal person was the woman who did my first baby scan.
due to circumstances i had to move back to england, my home country, with the baby’s dad, who is fully irish, when i was 18 weeks and i’ve been treated so well by my midwife and most sonographers i’ve seen. one even let us hear our daughters heartbeat for as long as we wanted because we hadn’t heard it until i was 24 weeks at my 3d scan, i never even got the option to hear it in ireland and they wouldn’t give me regular appointments to keep an eye on her yet i got given them immediately here in england
our daughter is due December 11th and im almost 30 weeks
Fist pregnancy and I am 9 weeks! Had my first prenatal appointment yesterday and will have my first sonogram with my fiance on Monday ❤️🥰 we are over the moon!
So happy for you and your fiancé
My doctor checked my “push strength” that was never done to me before. She said she wanted to know how to manage me pushing and she told me to push slowly and she would tell me to stop pushing…it was so smooth
I gave birth a little over 2 weeks ago and had a 2nd degree tear. I was worried about tearing and did on my last push 😩. It sucks but I would do it all over again for my baby boy 💙
You’re brave! ♥️ happy for you and your boy!
Thats amazing!! Well done mama all the best for you your baby boy and your family ❤❤
Does tearing hurts a lot?
@@sadiasharif4063 not in that moment cause you’re too busy pushing your baby out. After it does hurt a little, but it’s mostly just kind of burns when you go to the bathroom. After 1 week it feels better. I had fraternal twins both vaginal delivery, I tore badly, I was stitched up after the first week it was better. It just burns, that’s it’s. The stitching didn’t hurt after the 3rd day.
watching these helpful videos are turning my fear into excitement
I am pregnant with my second baby! My first son was born in December 2020 at a birth center! I had a completely drug-free birth, but I did have a decent tear with my first son, and would love to prevent that during my next delivery!
You can if you read my comment above.Thank you.
Is it hurts so much?
I'm 23 weeks pregnant with my first baby. It's a baby girl! I'm nervous and excited! Thank you for this video ❤
FTM! 37 weeks & 4 days pregnant with a BOY 💙🍼🧸🥰 my journey has been smooth so far so the plan is to have a smooth labor and delivery as well🤞🏾 thanks for the informative video!
We have the same edd. Also having a boy
If FTM means female to male, I pity your poor child. May God be with them and save them from your sin.
@@FortitudeInMorale2316 Smh, the ignorance.. FTM stands for “First Time Mom”… My child is blessed and highly favored have a good day! 🙏🏽🧿✨
@@FortitudeInMorale2316 idiots are not needed here
@@brialebanks1072 Calm yourself. Simple mistake to make with the insanity of the world.
Am from Uganda and am 32 weeks
I can't wait to meet my bundle of joy
My due date is tomorrow with my first child, a boy❤️ Praying he is punctual 😊
How did it go?
@@mekaknows226 He was over a week late, I was in prodromal labor for 2 days. Active labor was over a day long and ended in an emergency c-section. But baby is healthy❤️ unfortunately, wasn’t the birth I had been preparing for.
Hi Diana , I'm a first time mother , I watched your videos week by week , I would like to thank you for everything , it helped me alot. I gave birth on my due date to my beautiful baby girl❤️ and it was normal birth with no tear. I pasted on your videos to a few friends to watch while they pregnant and I really can't thank you enough😊❣️
You just made my day. Thank you so much💜💜💜
FTM, currently 33weeks pregnant...watching and loving your videos from Kenya 🇰🇪...i am learning more from you 😍
I'm 9w4d first pregnancy took us almost 6 years to get pregnant. I'm so terrified for birth but also so excited to meet our baby 🥰❤
Congratulations 💐🎉🎊
Just had my first OB appt. First baby - officially 9 weeks and over the mooooon!! Have been watching your videos for a while but finally feeling confident about baby and excited to deep dive on your vids. Probably too soon to really be thinking about tears, but I want to be prepared all the same!! Thanks for all you do.
Second pregnancy 14 weeks pregnant, my first ended in a miscarriage. Saw your 13 week pregnancy video, you said there are very few chances of miscarrige this reduced so much of my anxiety and fear. Thank you Diana
This one will end in celebration mommy! Hang in there.
@@ziyandakebeni6739 Thank you Ziyanda, I hope so
Just found out I’m pregnant! I’m a first time mom so I’m super excited and nervous all at the same time. Wishing a smooth and peaceful pregnancy for all🤍🤍
Congratulations😃💜
This is my first pregnancy! Im 15 weeks, dont know gender yet. Will find out gender next month! ❤️ Thank you for making this video because I was actually in tears last week thinking about tearing when I give birth because my sis in law told me her birthing story and “ring of fire.”
So happy to help😃. And congratulations on your pregnancy 💜
Im also 15 weeks and find out gender next month ! Can't wait
@@brittrichards5337 Wishing you the best mama!
@@lashley_xoxo7538 thank you!! You also
31 weeks 5 days with my first baby, it’s a girl! 💕 I’m still just so excited for birth and the whole experience. I know it will be the hardest thing I do but I can’t wait!
You will love it. 💜💜💜💜
Me too! Congrats 🎉
You got this!! Don't be afraid. It's not too bad, I had my second almost 6 weeks ago, and my advice with the tearing is to talk to your doctor. I'd tell them that if they believe you're going to tear to give you an episiotomy and to not, TO NOT, cut your butt!!!!!! Make sure to mention that, butt muscle being tore is the hardest thing you'll go through avoid it at !! Good luck and congradulations
Congrats 🥳🥳. I’m 32 weeks 3 days tomorrow 🤩
I'm 30 weeks now with my 2nd child, I'm a little bit nervous, it's been 9 years since I've had my first born but I know I can do it again! God bless everyone.
I'm almost 23 weeks and this is my first (at age 36... gotta love the advanced maternal age). I was really worried, too, because I'm 5'00 (120lbs pre-pregnancy weight) and my husband is 6'4/300lbs. Relieved that the baby was in the 25th percentile at the 20 weeks scan. Hoping she is smaller (but still healthy) just like her mama!
I’m a first time mom at 38 weeks and 3 days, expecting a baby girl! I’m very much ready for her to be born 🤧 I’m also worried about tearing as well, because I plan on going all natural. I am hoping to be on all fours or squatting. I have no idea what to expect, what the pain will feel like, so I’m really not nervous about going into labor. Everything is so unknown, so I’m just going with the flow 🤧
25 weeks here in Uganda.
Am super excited to meet our little one.
Thanks for the weekly videos.
We are 28 weeks on the way. This is our first pregnancy and we will soon meet our identical twin boys. I cannot wait! 🥰🥰
FTM 26 weeks with a baby girl. Tearing is one of my bigger fears so love this video 😄
You can do this
I had an 11 hour natural birth. I tore, didn’t even feel it. I wouldn’t worry either way.
@@feliciasjourney The only worry I would have is being more loose
I had my babies 27 and 30 years ago and followed the advice in a book by a well known midwife called Sheila Kitzinger. She had almost exactly the same advice as you so I wonder if you have ever read her book?
Perineal massage started at 28 weeks or so meant that I could deliver 2 10+ pounders with my perineum intact both times. My midwife used the warm compress too.
I was kneeling up both times which, I believe, gave a controlled descent. Most importantly, I think, I did not actively push and I didn't have anyone screaming at me to do so. Following discussion with my midwife, we agreed there would be none of that nonsense so I just breathed through the contractions and allowed the head to descend and expand the perineum smoothly and gently. I don't recall any "ring of fire" feeling but it was almost 30 years ago! I firmly believe that, if you allow descent to happen as your body intends, the perineum is prepared for the stretching and you are calm, "ring of fire" is not an issue.
My first daughter was 10 pounds 3 ounces and the second, 3 years later, was 10 10. I am tall at 5'9 but was not overweight (158 on the day I had #1 daughter) and was tested several times for gestational diabetes as that's a common cause of big babies. No diabetes; they were just big!
If you are pregnant now, please be assured that you CAN deliver with an intact perineum but you need to do the preparation and communicate very clearly with your midwife.
I’m 31 weeks with my first pregnancy it’s been a predominately miserable experience thanks to Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I’m terrified of labor but can’t wait to meet my baby girl 💓
I’m 33 weeks with my baby girl and I also have hyperemesis gravidarum! We haven’t got much longer to go, we can do this!🙌🏼
I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my first. And everyone is scaring me into an epidural, but I was really hoping for a natural birth. I’m just a little worried for tearing, thank you for this video !
Im pregnant with my 2nd baby at 19 weeks and my first labor was all natural, trust me it’s not as bad as everyone says. My pain tolerance is VERY low and surprisingly it wasn’t bad. Not getting a epidural will help your back pain 100x. Not getting the epidural honestly feels like you need to poop but you can’t. (DONT PUSH TILL YOU ARE AT THE HOSPITAL) after I had my 1st son I felt like I could take so much more pain then I did before. Long story short, Go for it!! Congrats you’ll do great!❤
@@_Theyloveejayy_ it’s definitely reassuring hearing this from other moms. Thank you so much ! 🥰
Trust your instincts momma!! Don’t let the OBs and medical staff scare you into procedures!!
How did it go?
My son was 8lbs 11oz and no tears at all!!
I am 23 weeks with my first baby. I enjoy your Pregnancy week by week series and have been watching each one since I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks! Thank you for your educational content, watching your videos each week help me embrace the changes my body is making ! 💙💙
You are so welcome Destiny. Whatever changes your body goes through will all be worth it once you have that little one in your arms
I am 7 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby. I just found out I have a subchorionic hemmorage so prayers please. Gods got this one.
26 weeks pregnant with a baby boy ❤️ cannot wait to meet him. I have heard stories about tearing from other moms and it kind of scared me, but watching your video calmed me down 🤗
I’m 7 weeks & this is my baby. I’m just getting tips & learning what to expect during labor! Thank you for this video
First time being pregnant and I'm at 39 weeks with a baby boy!! So excited and nervous about the delivery!!
good luck! :-) you can do it - trust your body!
Best thing is to keep a very positive mindset dear!
Tell yourself your much stronger than you think💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
ALL THE BEST 💗 AND GOD BLESS🙌
Me too
I'm 38 weeks. I can't wait to have my baby girl
This was soo helpful. I had really bad tearing, that took a really long time to stich. However, I did not feel that ring of fire that everyone talks about, even though I no pain medication. Currently pregnant with my second.
I’m 38+4 with my first baby and terrified of tearing!! Thank you for making this video, watching from Chicago.
You are almost there. So excited for you to hold your little one
Don't worry so much about tearing. If you tear you will heal.
I am 26 weeks pregnant now and having a Girl. Bless all pregnant women around the world all who is trying for a baby. Hope this new year bring good news to all. Happy newyear 2024🎉❤
after trying for 6 year's i finally pregnant 1 months and two days❤
I'm 22 weeks in pregnancy, have been watching ur video everyday and it's helping a lot big Up's to all Mum out there❤️
33 weeks, I'm having a baby girl & I'm a first time mom! Super nervous about labor don't want to tear, I know it'll be painful tho. I'm just ready to see my bean I've been growing
So excited for you too💜
I’m a first time mommy, I don’t want to tear. I know it’s inevitable but I at least want to be fine afterwards. 33 weeks and 4 days now. Pray for me please 🙏
did you tear?
I have been watching all your pregnancy related videos throughout my pregnancy and love all the advice you have for us 1st time moms. I'm 39 weeks and very excited to meet our baby boy!
You will benefit from 'Birth Canal Widening' to 10cm diameter prior to birth. Please see comment above.
Hi! This is my first pregnancy and I am currently 37 weeks!😱💕
25 weeks with baby girl #3! I can’t wait to meet my girly and introduce her to her sisters 💗 I was very lucky to have a 45 minute pain free, medication free labour and delivery with no tearing with my second. Hoping to have that experience again 😅
That’s amazing. How did you prepare?
Oh thats great! I had a similar experience with my second child. 45 min labor and 3 pushes and she was out. I didnt even know I was in labor until the doc checked me at my 39week appointment and told me I was 6cm dialated. But I was given an episiotomy.
@@NicoleDestinee Thank you!! Honestly I didn’t do anything to prepare and was super surprised about how it ended up turning out! I did however go to the gym almost every day of my pregnancy (was doing that before my pregnancy so just continued to) so I assume it had a lot to do with muscle strength. I’ve still continued to workout this pregnancy as well so hopefully I have a similar experience!
Wow 😲... What a testimony to behold, I tap from your blessings in Jesus might name... Amen
26 weeks with my first (little girl). It has been such an emotional ride. Between the incompetent cervix, the soft markers on the ultrasound suggesting an increased risk of trisomy 18, and now the gestational diabetes, I haven't really had much time to think about labour. I am glad there are resources like this out there though :) Thanks!
Hang in there Bailey. She will be worth it. I promise 💜💜💜
How did it go? Did she have trisomy?
39 weeks and 3 days pregnant so nearly there! Thanks for all your videos they've been very helpful.
How was delivery?? Am 39w 3D today
I am 21 weeks pregnant having a baby girl. We are naming her Elora and this is my first pregnancy! I am so excited to meet her 😊
I’m 25 weeks and 1 day and this is my first pregnancy with a girl, and I’m personally pretty scared, but I’ve been watching lots of videos and doing lots of research to ease my stress and mind for the delivery ☺️
I am also having a baby girl but. Am 30 weeks and 4 days am somehow scared but I will have a successful child birth
I’m 36 weeks this will be my first child I’ve been thinking so much about labor and ready to meet my baby girl 😀. Towards the end of August. Baby was measuring September 2. I’m glad I found your video helpful information
Thank you so much. And here's to a safe delivery
38 weeks today with my rainbow baby girl 🌈♥️ I appreciate your videos thank you!
All the very best, may God bless you and your baby girl 🥰
I am 35 weeks pregnant with a baby girl and a first time mom.
Thank you for your videos. I have been learning a lot. ❤
I’m 21 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and it’s my first pregnancy I’m so glad your channel popped up, very helpful and informative ❤️
How do u come to know that you have boy in Womb 😮
I am 40 weeks and 5 days pregnant, I'm gonna get induced and imma work on my breathing 🙏 I'm praying and hoping for the best.
This is my first pregnancy!😨 im 27 weeks & 4days, i am having a boy and I love watching your videos!💙
Same girl!!! This is crazy experience
This is my first pregnancy. I am now 17 weeks pregnant with a baby boy 💕 Great video
21 weeks having a boy my first baby am scared
I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant and I'm binge-watching all your videos (more like listening to them while working lol) I hope you create a podcast! Your content's straightforward, fast, and very educational - I LOVE IT! Thank you so much for putting out these info out there for us to learn from. You're awesome!!
I tore with my first pregnancy she weighed 7 pounds and 3 ounces. 2nd pregnancy tore she weighed 7 pounds 8ounces. My 3rd Pregnancy I didn’t tear and she was my biggest baby 8 pounds and 11oz. I definitely think my doctor the third time around knew what she was doing on telling me how hard to push and when to stop. She was just so helpful. My first 2 doctors were just telling me to push push push and hard and so I did and I tore.
It’s not always the weight, it’s the bones the baby’s head size is the crucial part of the birth, once the head comes out the rest of the body comes out easily because it’s soft and flexible.
@@vkrgfan It is also some nurses and doctors do not care to educate themselves! All that push at the wrong time of course is going to tear them!
I’m 24 weeks pregnant with my first child. He’s a baby boy! We’re so excited!
Almost 33 weeks with pregnancy #3! My first birth I had an epidural which wasn't the best experience. 2nd birth, I went unmedicated and it was truly an amazing experience. But during the pushing I truly just wanted to get it over with and have that baby lol! I pushed extra hard, even after being told to slow down and had 2 to 3 labia tears. They weren't too bad but this time around I'm hoping for zero tears. You've explained why I tore so clearly, that something has just clicked! This time around I will be more mindful of the speed of pushing and slow down during that ring of fire (instead of blasting the baby out 😂). Thank you for your guidance!!!
Thank yofor commenting. That means the world to me💜💜💜
22 y.o. , 34th week, first pregnancy in a foreign country (US) .... excited!!
After 10 years of marriage, God bless us with a baby boy. Today I am 38 weeks +3. I have been watching your week to week videos and they are very helpful. My baby is already head down and hopefully don't want C-section. This video was really what I looking for in this phase of my pregnancy. Thanks 😊
Hi Diana, I watch your week by week videos. I’m 26 weeks with my first baby, a boy. Thank you for all your knowledge, I’ve learned a lot from you already! Hello from NYC!
Am 26 weeks too it's a girl
Hey Diana! I’m 35 weeks, first pregnancy, having a boy named Jonathan and I’m a fellow PA in family medicine :) thanks for being so knowledgeable and sharing all of this amazing information!