I am a therapist, and I have saved 90% of the couples I’ve seen in different age groups . Older and younger than me. The 10% were people who was not willing to put in the work. Relationships is not about if my status or your friend is married or single. Relationships are about behaviors. As a therapist, I understand the brain, behaviors, thinking styles, and other things that play apart in majority, if not all of the issues that come up in marriage or cause a marriage it’s demise. Now don’t get me wrong. There are people who are married who could give some advice that I may not be able to give but I don’t think it’s fair to say that single people cannot help someone that is married. It all depends on the type of single person, their mindset, their beliefs, etc. I’m just tired of everybody putting all single people, all women, all men, etc. in the same box.Thanks Sean. I agree.
Agreed, and that sentiment is all over the Bible especially in Proverbs. Discipline is an important thing that takes u from who u are to who u want to be.
She is a doctor who used to be a therapist. She talked to plenty of married people, I'm sure. I am a therapist. You are absolutely going to have to talk to married people. I counsel couples. I am single, but I have a desire to see marriages align with the Word.
If a person is NOT giving you relationship or marital advice under the romance and refuge of God's covenant, run!!!! It's very simple, folks. The Bible is not some undertone or coffee talk regarding love, it's a whole "testament." The God of Israel is marriage and love. He embodies covenant. Thank you, Lord.
Paul in the Bible was single and he gave advice, anointed wisdom to both. You should use discernment and listen to people filled with wisdom. I'm currently single and a therapist, and I have so many couples in the church and out who seek support. I'm not impressed with married couples who've been together for years. Numbers tell me years invested, not the status or health of a relationship. Every married couple isn’t happy. Every single isn’t sad and vice versa. You should be discerning who you're listening to anyway. Take Godly advice from people filled with wisdom, whether they're single or married. Period.
People in failed and bad marriages have great advice on what NOT TO DO if you really pay attention to what they are doing and what they are saying. They may not directly tell you what not to do but if you use biblical and Godly discernment you will learn what not to do.
We as Christians should not follow her advice. Why are we listening to worldly people for Christian advice. She tried to use the Bible without really using the Bible. We as Christians need to focus on the Word of God and not the word of Charlemagne and the breakfast club. “but test everything; hold fast what is good.” 1 Thessalonians 5:21 ESV
Unfortunately Dr.Bryant is not Gods voice, as soon as she said married is disciplined people, Jesus was never married so was he undisciplined? that said, get thee behind me
@@pastorwilburmedley1124 Did you mean to say ‘Shouldn’t’ take her advice? If so I agree , we have to receive biblical instruction from those who are true followers of Christ
If single people give relational advice to married people, it has to be from a behavioral perspective, not a marriage perspective. Yes, marriage is work, but so is practically everything else worth having. With every marriage, career, business, etc. you see the product of discipline or lack there of that was applied. And you can learn from either one.
But even talking to a couple in a bad marriage is still good advice u can learn from, u can see what u don’t want and how not to handle life situations, and as always we should always scrutinize all information using the Bible .
I think would people would like to take advice from successfully, healthy married couples. I think the belief is that most long marriages include lots of misery…I dare to say a majority of strain. That comes from many older couples, especially women who sit the younger women down and detail the suffrage and the things you have to deal with or overlook. Of course there are other, better situations.
I get why most people do not want advice from single people. However, coming from Biblical perspective a single can give advice on biblical truth, based on the wisdom Holy Spirit gives. So, I think if you’re talking to a single person that has a “me centered” or worldly view will lead a married couple in the wrong direction. Also happiness is dependent on what happens vs joy that comes from within. And both single and married people can experience this when living their life as Christ calls us to.
I agree with yall overall points. However don’t think you heard her correctly… 1- yes she missed quoted scripture, stated that people should not take advice from individuals who are unhappily married, while in search of a happy marriage, and she seemed to deflect at certain points of her response. However… 2- people need to be self disciplined that she would take advice from a older couple who has a successful marriage, and that we should not shame single people for their station/calling! I do think Christians should not look for spiritual advice from the world without filtering it through the word of God, and we should not play into the enemies hand by agreeing with the lies he says about singleness and marriage! Neither one is a curse or a bigger blessing!
Was it not clear that she was speaking specifically to the controversy of her giving marriage advice in her profession while being single. I don’t think she’s advocating for all single ppl to give advice and that all married ppl are unhappy. Seek ppl with wisdom. I hear and see many problems in marriages and many of them can be resolved with patience, communication, understanding, effort, compassion, intimacy, etc. Testimonies from married couples can help but the advice is valid if it’s valid no matter the source.
There's a difference between "theoretical knowledge", "academic knowledge" aka "book smarts", "observational knowledge" and "experiential knowledge". There are absolutely things you can learn from someone who's only maybe studied behaviors or educational texts on a subject. A person could even learn from observing something from afar. I can instruct someone to not get shot or do drugs even though I've done neither. However, experiential knowledge.... actually having personally gone through a thing and have come out the other side better (not bitter) and wiser is a different kind of flex. Respectfully, this doctor can never speak to that. Although she has much to contribute to the convo...there is a point where she's not qualified to speak knowledgeably about it.
Paul and Jesus were single and the world has taken their advice on marriage for thousands of years. Also, does anyone know the stats on happy marriages? Stats say the happiest people are single women and the Bible advises people to stay single.
The Bible advises those who can handle biblical marriage to be married. Those who cannot to stay single. Also is not the church the bride of Christ? That’s why the Bible tells husbands to love their wives as Jesus loves the church.
No it states that in 1 Corinthians 7 it’s good if your single so that you can have more dedication to the Lord but if you can not control yourself from sexual sin, then you should marry. Paul only spoke for himself when he said if you can stay single then it’s best. Once you Marry you know become one. Children of God please study your word for yourself.
Absolutely not. You can take advice about what to seek and act on while looking forward to marriage, but taking advice from someone who has no real-life experience AT ALL in marriage DURING marriage is extremely unwise...foolish actually. A lot of what she's saying here is totally out of context and simply wrong. Single people can Absolutely contribute to this conversation, just like I can tell a professional barber what factually looks good concerning haircuts, but if I try to cut someone's hair myself the right way and make it magazine fresh, without real experience, it ain't happening. Everyone has their ideas, not everyone has the ability to maneuver when they're in the water. If every marriage or human was the same and it was all cookie cutter and textbook, it'd be different, but No.
I get why most people do not want advice from single people. However, coming from Biblical perspective a single can give advice on biblical truth, based on the wisdom Holy Spirit gives. So, I think if you’re talking to a single person that has a “me centered” or worldly view will lead a married couple in the wrong direction. Also happiness is dependent on what happens vs joy that comes from within. And both single and married people can experience this when living their life as Christ calls us to.
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I am a therapist, and I have saved 90% of the couples I’ve seen in different age groups . Older and younger than me. The 10% were people who was not willing to put in the work. Relationships is not about if my status or your friend is married or single. Relationships are about behaviors. As a therapist, I understand the brain, behaviors, thinking styles, and other things that play apart in majority, if not all of the issues that come up in marriage or cause a marriage it’s demise. Now don’t get me wrong. There are people who are married who could give some advice that I may not be able to give but I don’t think it’s fair to say that single people cannot help someone that is married. It all depends on the type of single person, their mindset, their beliefs, etc. I’m just tired of everybody putting all single people, all women, all men, etc. in the same box.Thanks Sean. I agree.
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You cannot be actually happy without discipline... life will be chaotic... unstable... random and filled with unfixed error and unsolved problems...
FACTS.
HUMANS THRIVE WITH STRUCTURE.
Agreed, and that sentiment is all over the Bible especially in Proverbs. Discipline is an important thing that takes u from who u are to who u want to be.
She is a doctor who used to be a therapist. She talked to plenty of married people, I'm sure. I am a therapist. You are absolutely going to have to talk to married people. I counsel couples. I am single, but I have a desire to see marriages align with the Word.
If a person is NOT giving you relationship or marital advice under the romance and refuge of God's covenant, run!!!! It's very simple, folks. The Bible is not some undertone or coffee talk regarding love, it's a whole "testament." The God of Israel is marriage and love. He embodies covenant.
Thank you, Lord.
Amen. God has gifted! That part!
Great dialogue and discussion.
Paul in the Bible was single and he gave advice, anointed wisdom to both. You should use discernment and listen to people filled with wisdom. I'm currently single and a therapist, and I have so many couples in the church and out who seek support. I'm not impressed with married couples who've been together for years. Numbers tell me years invested, not the status or health of a relationship. Every married couple isn’t happy. Every single isn’t sad and vice versa. You should be discerning who you're listening to anyway. Take Godly advice from people filled with wisdom, whether they're single or married. Period.
People in failed and bad marriages have great advice on what NOT TO DO if you really pay attention to what they are doing and what they are saying. They may not directly tell you what not to do but if you use biblical and Godly discernment you will learn what not to do.
We as Christians should not follow her advice. Why are we listening to worldly people for Christian advice. She tried to use the Bible without really using the Bible. We as Christians need to focus on the Word of God and not the word of Charlemagne and the breakfast club.
“but test everything; hold fast what is good.”
1 Thessalonians 5:21 ESV
Unfortunately Dr.Bryant is not Gods voice, as soon as she said married is disciplined people, Jesus was never married so was he undisciplined? that said, get thee behind me
@@pastorwilburmedley1124 Did you mean to say ‘Shouldn’t’ take her advice? If so I agree , we have to receive biblical instruction from those who are true followers of Christ
@kaylasweet5431 yes I meant should not. Thank you and be blessed!!!
She’s just being used to breach a talking topic is all
@@harlanparkerjr1809 true but she is still wrong. My problem is Christians who listen to this mess teach others as well
"What percentage of people are marriage ready?" O%...ZEEEEE-RO PER-CENT.
If single people give relational advice to married people, it has to be from a behavioral perspective, not a marriage perspective. Yes, marriage is work, but so is practically everything else worth having. With every marriage, career, business, etc. you see the product of discipline or lack there of that was applied. And you can learn from either one.
If we are believers, did we allow God to be involved in the process?
But even talking to a couple in a bad marriage is still good advice u can learn from, u can see what u don’t want and how not to handle life situations, and as always we should always scrutinize all information using the Bible .
I think would people would like to take advice from successfully, healthy married couples.
I think the belief is that most long marriages include lots of misery…I dare to say a majority of strain. That comes from many older couples, especially women who sit the younger women down and detail the suffrage and the things you have to deal with or overlook. Of course there are other, better situations.
I get why most people do not want advice from single people. However, coming from Biblical perspective a single can give advice on biblical truth, based on the wisdom Holy Spirit gives. So, I think if you’re talking to a single person that has a “me centered” or worldly view will lead a married couple in the wrong direction.
Also happiness is dependent on what happens vs joy that comes from within. And both single and married people can experience this when living their life as Christ calls us to.
My bad fam but who is this chick?
Dr. Cheyenne Bryant, she's a life coach.
Trust Christ the Shepherd's leading.
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I agree with yall overall points. However don’t think you heard her correctly…
1- yes she missed quoted scripture, stated that people should not take advice from individuals who are unhappily married, while in search of a happy marriage, and she seemed to deflect at certain points of her response. However…
2- people need to be self disciplined that she would take advice from a older couple who has a successful marriage, and that we should not shame single people for their station/calling!
I do think Christians should not look for spiritual advice from the world without filtering it through the word of God, and we should not play into the enemies hand by agreeing with the lies he says about singleness and marriage! Neither one is a curse or a bigger blessing!
Was it not clear that she was speaking specifically to the controversy of her giving marriage advice in her profession while being single. I don’t think she’s advocating for all single ppl to give advice and that all married ppl are unhappy. Seek ppl with wisdom. I hear and see many problems in marriages and many of them can be resolved with patience, communication, understanding, effort, compassion, intimacy, etc. Testimonies from married couples can help but the advice is valid if it’s valid no matter the source.
There's a difference between "theoretical knowledge", "academic knowledge" aka "book smarts", "observational knowledge" and "experiential knowledge". There are absolutely things you can learn from someone who's only maybe studied behaviors or educational texts on a subject. A person could even learn from observing something from afar. I can instruct someone to not get shot or do drugs even though I've done neither. However, experiential knowledge.... actually having personally gone through a thing and have come out the other side better (not bitter) and wiser is a different kind of flex. Respectfully, this doctor can never speak to that. Although she has much to contribute to the convo...there is a point where she's not qualified to speak knowledgeably about it.
Paul and Jesus were single and the world has taken their advice on marriage for thousands of years. Also, does anyone know the stats on happy marriages? Stats say the happiest people are single women and the Bible advises people to stay single.
The Bible advises those who can handle biblical marriage to be married. Those who cannot to stay single. Also is not the church the bride of Christ? That’s why the Bible tells husbands to love their wives as Jesus loves the church.
No it states that in 1 Corinthians 7 it’s good if your single so that you can have more dedication to the Lord but if you can not control yourself from sexual sin, then you should marry. Paul only spoke for himself when he said if you can stay single then it’s best. Once you Marry you know become one. Children of God please study your word for yourself.
Absolutely not. You can take advice about what to seek and act on while looking forward to marriage, but taking advice from someone who has no real-life experience AT ALL in marriage DURING marriage is extremely unwise...foolish actually.
A lot of what she's saying here is totally out of context and simply wrong.
Single people can Absolutely contribute to this conversation, just like I can tell a professional barber what factually looks good concerning haircuts, but if I try to cut someone's hair myself the right way and make it magazine fresh, without real experience, it ain't happening.
Everyone has their ideas, not everyone has the ability to maneuver when they're in the water.
If every marriage or human was the same and it was all cookie cutter and textbook, it'd be different, but No.
Matthew 7:15 "You shall know them by their fruits." lol not their academic titles , riches, intelligence, no fruits.
The Bible does not say that. That’s like saying let a poor person teach you how to be a millionaire. Why listen to an alleged Dr !!
Bad advice! Period!
I get why most people do not want advice from single people. However, coming from Biblical perspective a single can give advice on biblical truth, based on the wisdom Holy Spirit gives. So, I think if you’re talking to a single person that has a “me centered” or worldly view will lead a married couple in the wrong direction.
Also happiness is dependent on what happens vs joy that comes from within. And both single and married people can experience this when living their life as Christ calls us to.