Daughter-In-Law's Choice of What to Wear?
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- Опубликовано: 16 апр 2023
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My married school friend once called me as she got married very early while I was still doing my masters, when I reached her home for her birthday I saw her dressed in a thick silk saree that too in August heat, she was sweating badly, I told her to change her saree but she said I can't since my mother in law told me to wear it, okay continuing the story ahead, since I was wearing a chiffon sleeveless shalwar suit with an organza dupatta which was too huge, her mother in law kept giving me stares, next time when I met her again her mother in law very cleverly said this to me "I think you should wear better suits which cover your arms today you are wearing it tomorrow your friend will also wear it" I smiled & told her "Aunty you must wear a coat on top of your saree which should cover your big tummy and your back, your blouse has a deep back which again shows your skin, maybe tomorrow someone else will get inspired to show their skin so much, wear full sleeve blouse while covering your tyres and your midriff" she stared at me and went away. From that day I didn't visit my friend after 7yrs I learnt from another school friend that my same friend is running for her divorce hearings after losing her hearing due to some physical abuse.
Adi Dhool🎉 I wish i had half the courage as you do..
@@vidhyanandini6270 vidhya you too are a brave courageous girl, it's just you haven't recognised that inner strength. Invoke the Durga within you when the need is there. I trust you. Next time you look into the mirror say this to yourself "I'm a brave fighter" ❤️
Next time aunty will think twice before judging others ...Well done sister
@@yoginagowda7410 thank you my dearest 🙏
Superb reply to her mother in law sis😂.... Our culture people never change, especially last generation.... They r thinking like womens were their slaves whom they r buying in an auction called marriage
Try not to marry guys like this, please. Problem solved.
So very true dear ...
😆👍👍🎉👏🙏🙏
Wo to shadi ke baad hi pata chalta ha naa Bhai , well my husband is very supportive ❤
Pehle kuch ni pta chalta bhai
Ha ha but most of the women getting know the true color of men only after marriage... Sad thing 😢 glad and proud that my hubby is not like that...❤
@@asoulonjourney...4468 before marriage sit across a table and you should talk to him
My mother in law used to tell me stuff like this but whenever she says something like this my husband jumps in and give lecture to my mother in law about personal choices and freedom. It's been an year and she totally stopped rating my clothes now Thanks to my Hubby😅
Wow must be nice being god’s favourite 🤩 😂
well, she stopped saying in front of you ig because seeing a lot of such people now a days 😑
My mother in law used to do this too, and my husband used to keep so quiet. She used to tell me what to feed my son and always criticized my healthy choices of food for my son. Always wanted me to feed our son and never allowed my husband to feed him as according to her, it's a woman's job and my husband or father in law never said a word. My mother in law doesn't like me at all. Luckily we live in a different country now and life is so peaceful here. Even now, she tries to tell on phone to my husband what to do and what not, and he's scared of her all the time. He has this obsession to impress his mom at all costs out if fear. Strange Indian households.
Hubbies are half the problem. Nice to see they were the solution in your case
You are lucky sis.. nice to know
After my marriage first time me my husband his parents were going out to temple I wore a green salwar suit all ready to go. But my husband n his mother asked me to change coz they didn't like it n made fun of my dress n my family coz it was something I got from my amma. It broke my heart.. but here I m now single happy confident n independent 😊😊
Happy ending, it is called happy ending, where you are happy 😊 not where you make your life miserable in order to fit in society.
Congratulations on your divorce❤
But How to identify these kinda idiots mil and boys before marriage itself? Any red flags you know?
Getting married to a spineless
Mama boy is biggest fear.
@@Heyhihello99 I never seen any red flags. It was an arrange marriage. Met him once n talked to him on phone few times n got married after that I got to know he has serious drinking problem, they lied about me working after marriage, there other daughter in law was also treated badly but not like me coz her husband was supportive and also as per my in laws words she gave birth to their grandchild that too BOY... coz girls are burden and bring bad name to the family.
👏👏👏👏you took great decision
Thank god ..... for your husband and MIL.
To the person saying don't marry men who'd do this...unfortunately you don't know this before...there's so many things you'd find shocking about thr person you've married you'd know only after marrying...
Yes... I also realised this.... After three months everything gave shock for me... I need to ask permission to go to my amma's home... Even in my maternity period.... During the last week of pregnancy.. They didn't allow me to stay with my amma... Because of the availability of hospital ( far distance)
This is scary
That’s true
Yes these are kids who aren't married yet
That's so true, and that's why one should never ignore any red flags beforehand.
Fun fact : a girl's mother would never utter a single bad word for her SON (SON-IN-LAW) 😊
Girls Mother cannot control boys because after marriage he lives at his home not girls 🙂
Ya she afraid if he divorce her daughter. Its a big pblm for her. But sons got divorce thats not big deal. You can get another dil
oh you would be surprised that majority of Divorce's are results of over indulging mothers from both sides. especially in false DV cases, girl's extended families are also involved
@@theoakatsuki True
@@theoakatsuki yes but they don't say anything to their Son in Laws
Start living separate from your in laws. Girl leaving her family and agreeing to stay with husband's family is already a huge sacrifice!! You don't need to and must not sacrifice anything more 🙏
But the same girls want their parents to live with their daughter-in-law!
True. Women also leave their parents. Why are man's parents given such absurd privileges and kept on a pedestal? Just because they gave worth to a man so they must be treated like gods?
Where are women's parents supposed to go? Are they not worth of love, care and respect? Absurd because theres literally not one in laws that treats their son in laws like this! Not one of them is telling their son in laws to change their dressing habits, how they eat, sit, talk like to suit them!
I don't think educated, inteligent women should agree to this. Im not even saying break ties with his family. If theyre sane in the head and don't treat you like a slave, go ahead and live with them no problem.
But this behaviour should not be tolerated by educated women who have sense of self respect. Its always the little things. Men can go ahead and marry vulnerable, not so much educated womej from Villages that would be grateful for them for the bare minimum - like not being beaten to a pulp☺️
Well said if daughter in law stays with inlaws they all will take advantage so respectable distance is better for both sides
@@smollilbeanwell said
@@smollilbean if boy stay at girls house similar issue can happen like in husband home.Its a cycle u can become future mother in law.Staying away from Husband Parents you will loose support from them such as taking care of ur child house hold chores etc especially for working women.
I remember in the starting days of my marriage my mother in law always try to control my dressing sense and other things alhm now the things change... But only change come when I voice out when I politely listen to them they started to control my entire life... Voice out girls it's your life your choice...
Same thing happened to me as well, voice out
Yes u r ryt.. Same happened with me but I took stand for myself, even my husband didn't supported me at that time.. You should take stand for yourself
yeah..ye hoke hi rhega..itna pressure koi tolerate ni kr skta
Same here. I like decent light clrs dresses. But my mil choice is very different. And now I have all ulty seedhy rang barangy dresses which I don't like to wear.
Say "NO" politely, people cannt force you after certain period of time, be "BESHARM" 😂😂
Thanks for so many likes ❤️
True.. and this is so needed these days. Being politely besharam! Otherwise few people will never understand.
Now I’m officially Besharam at my home 😂 waiting for marriage so that my in laws will also call me the same 😅😂
Besharam is the new s€xy😂❤
What is besharm
@@sashacademy6308 besharam means shameless
The fact that the next generation will never have this problem cus we are open minded
😂😂 open minded close minded just feminist bullshits jo inke so called dressing sense oops comfortable clothes ko napasand krde to vo close minded hai aur jo na kre vo open minded hai
@@neetmotivation59Kiddo before commenting, know what is feminism.
@@neetmotivation59 oo neet motivation
aese tatta fan ,chigma clone wolf banke neet nahi nikalne vala , galti se category ke karan private mee mil bhi gaya naa toh mbbs ke proff exams nahi nikalenge . ja jake kuch aur kam dhandha dhundh , faltu mein appearing students ka number naa badha , vese hee competition ka bahut hype hai neet mein jabki majority tere jeso mein dam nahi hota .
YES SIS! The only person who has control over what I wear is me. I choose what to wear. If I dress to conform to a certain standard, be it modesty at the temple or at the request of a wedding host, it's still my choice. You're welcome to lodge a request but ultimately it's my choice and I'm responsible for the consequence!
Its absurd that they do this over clothes that 100% confirm to the "modesty' standards. As much men would like to taunt women and whine by saying "oK gO wEaR a bIkInI iN a tEmPLe" this is absolutely not whats happening. It looks like its just a tradition to break women's spirits and claim control over them over small things like this :( as a girl in her late teens this makes me totally not want to get married. I just want to exist peacefully without a man and his family that clearly do not love me with their shoes on my neck at all times - don't wear this, don't eat, sit like this, don't speak like this and a hoard of other bs. Theyre sooooo entitled to changing woman's entire personalities, their sense of Selves for their EGOS.
@@smollilbeanso trueeee
@@smollilbean don't marry dear and if you do, make sure the guy is liberal or a feminist..
@@baapkastyle lol I'm not liberal and i don't want to be with a liberal man at all. At core, They're the same species as ultra extremist conservative men who &lut shame women for not adhering to their standards left and Right.
It's so funny how you think of everything in black and white. Just because i said women should not be stripped away of their identities and should be allowed to be their own persons have their own likes and dislikes you think I'm a liberal. Women are not robots you normie.
I just want a normal fucking man that respects me as a human being 😂 i guess this is too much to ask for from indian men though.
A man who doesn't think of a woman in Black and white lens, "if she wears indian ethnic than she's saying sati savitri, and if she wears anything above knees and has been in relationships before marriage than she's a hoe"
And about feminist, any man who thinks women deserve the same chance at life and opportunities as men are feminist. They may not agree with it but they are. y'all are crazy. Don't even respect women as human beings.
@@baapkastyle A liberal, feminist husband is a requirement. We should accept nothing less.
Whenever my mil asks me to wear some certain color or type of saree
I ask from her only
Please maa show me some of ur sarees let me wear u have beautiful collection
I don't have pieces like u
😂😂😂
Now she never asks me orelse she I'll have to loose hers to add in my collection lol or get it dirty so now she
Let me wear whatever I wish
Deivame neenga yengayo poitteenga 🙏🙏🙏
😂
smart 😅😅😅
Passive aggression 😂😂
Same happened with me.... Newly married and whenever i go anywhere my MIL always made sure that i wore what she liked and not what i wanted to wear
Even I suffered the same. Lost my self confidence bcoz of tat
Lol🤣
Me too. I was asked to change after i dressed too. Once asked me to change a pencil pant bottom which was matching with churidar set into a white leggings since father in law don't like pencil pant. It was in fashion then and they were like they know but still change it. Now after 2 years i can see mother in law herself is wearing all that. I should have asked why now!
When you will get old. You will do the same with your DIL.
@@Mcube_diaries you should ask her in front of your FIL💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼Nothing wrong in that..
"Why cant u wear smthng my mom likes?"
Small doubt!
Go ask ur mom if shes also gonna wear smthng i like?👗😅
😂😂😂
Omg!!! My mother in law has something to nitpick in my every outfit every day look my style my way of talking my way of walking my laugh my complexion if i am talkative she says dont talk too much if i am silent then she says dont stay silent i am bored.... I think she has bipolar tbh
Nah, age old power tactic , to control your life and make u obey ALL her wishes. Nothing to do with your likes or what she likes on you. The only thing she likes is a servant, period. Training is underway, if you don't stop it now, see your life getting miserable and peace and personal space gone to the dogs very quick
This is very sad. Im so sorry. This makes me appreciate my own mother, ofc these mils are not going to love us the same way our own mother's do😭 most of them. They consider us inferior and put themselves on a pedestal for birthing a son, horrible how india still continues to live in the stone age.
Please take care of yourselves and keep your spirits High!❤️
Na just narcissistic 😂😂😂😂
Same problem for me also... Mother in law and my husband only decided my dresses... They won't like the dresses what my amma bought for me.... Many times I cried in silent.... But I didn't have the guts to refuse their decision....
Bro!! Just give divorce to him...
You will suffer if u don’t take a stand for yourself
Try to change their heart politely. Just make them understand your stance. I'm sure they'll listen.
@@analienfrompluto6545 🤡. Divorce is not the solution. And that too for this small problem(yes not wearing clothes of our choice is a small problem, the world doesn't stop if one does not get to wear their choice of clothes). Your good for nothing advices might ruin girl's life. So keep them to yourself.
@@analienfrompluto6545 ya in the last put blame that WOMEN GET ALL THE ALIMONY WHICH SHE CAN NEVER EARN IN HER LIFE
Anupama !! That’s the name of the person in the video. She’s a person who spreads awareness about patriarchy and imbalance that happens in the society. She’s a wellness trainer (check Vriksham) n trying to bring about the change that is needed to the society. She’s not talking of her personal problems 😂
Dont do all these when you become a mother in law.. Be the change
Tell your mom
@@nikitanag8617 hm.. Tell your mom too..
There won't be any change in society. Only position where we stand will change. Next generation will also face same situation.
This problem is from many generations.
Hope I will be a good mother in law
@@madhumitha_Raja1234 this exactly the reason I made this comment.. You can't change past.. But you can change future..
Thankfully I got someone who will never say something like this and in-laws who always compliments me everytime I get ready for some occasion and my mom in law helps me like my mom to dress me up!!! ❤
I am a student and obviously not married. This same question always goes to my mind when i see this happening at my home with my mum. But now she is strong enough to speak for herself and not let her in-laws rule her! Girls should be courageous to speak for themselves ❤ your RUclips channel is very inspiring ❤️
If my husband says no to any dress… my MIL tries to convince him 😅 there will be a mini 🎭 for sometime.
But it’s good… if your husband takes stand for you
As he is the person you want spend your rest of life with
no to any dress means..
he wants pour his liquid into your flower by rubbing the men stick into your flower deeply 🤣🤣🤣😁😁
Why should he go against his parents
And if he goes
Then his parents should give no property to him
@@abhishekmehata820 wtf?? Because a woman can choose whatever SHE wants to wear !
@@abhishekmehata820If a woman leaves her all for a man then man also has right to stand for her. Also wife has to be there all life. Parents will die soon. Man has duty to take stand for wife and kids as they are the future
@@amanjotsingh6351 whatever
My mil not even dare to tell about my clothes cuz she knows that once it happens then her entire life will be hell😂
😅😅keep her in control
That's the spirit. 🤣🤣
Well done, sis! Mine dared a few times and got a piece of my mind... Her dare is dying down gradually 😂
me reading the stories In the comment section:😀🍿
The way he said 'No' in a second 💀
He can just marry his mom while he’s at it 😂 that’s a mamas boy not a man
If a girl listens and obeys her father ....will you ask her to marry her father ? Use some common sense while writing comments on RUclips....🤡🤡🤡
@@zionmoses1839lol our fathers DON'T dictate our husband's clothing choices. Our fathers have dignity. Boy's mothers are so entitled that we are all their son's maids and baby making machines. When was the last time have you heard wife's father intervening in his daughter's married life? NEVER.
@@zionmoses1839if the father is being unreasonable, then yes, no difference. You too should use common sense 🙄
@@user-hw7cw9kj7r wife's can also be unreasonable... sorry...not can be ..they are unreasonable and dumb
Not the best choice of words
My husband does that himself.He always says you are not dressed good. No need of mother in law....
Same pinch
Catch the ball and throw it back to him sis. Atleast tell him "you need to upgrade your fashion sense" then he would keep quite
Does His Mom ask or Suggest what Poses to do for the Bedroom scenes?
🤣😂
My cousin and his wife are trying for a baby for almost 8 years now, seriously my aunt did that!
My CIL, once broke down to me and my sister about this in a very vulnerable state and we honestly didn't know how to confront our cousin and aunt for this.
@@pavithravellingiriPersonally Jokes Apart, The Experienced knows more, so anyone failing to Conceive, Should follow each and every possible ways to Achieve the Goal. Maybe it sounds wierd, but putting the shyness aside, and trying the different ideas is not a bad deal. Even after failure, both the partners can atleast be truthful that they tried all means. Nowadays, our Fast food habits, Stress, Lack of Exercise, Working Hours are the Reason for All the problems, be it Failure to Conceive, Health Issues, Emotional Health, etc.
@@75shreya My CIL isn't treated well by my aunt and she is the elite version of soap opera MIL, if they were close my CIL wouldn't have felt humiliated to listen all this from her MIL
@@pavithravellingiri When someone is Toxic, Ignore them, even if it's MIL for CIL.
If I say no. Mother law picks up a fight and ends with me and hubby being apart.
The boy will always say I dont want to disrespect my parents if you tell him anything about their parents from which you are suffering.
Ladkio ko hi chup karaya jata hai ye bolke, jbki ladka apne parents ko pyar se smjha skta hai ki jane do kuch nhi hota, bs smhhdari ki bat hai respect k nam pe ladkioki band bajai ja rhi hai
Unfortunerly still 60 to 70% of our youth has no liberty to date or pre marriage meets to understand that her boy is thinking like this ... onky after marriage slowly she gets to know that this family required rhis kind of " respect" ... totally relatable
my friends elder sis wedding saree color was forced upon her just because the boys mother liked only that color... no respect for that akka's choice for her own wedding... she was sad so much
My wedding saree also was selected by groom's mother .am glad I had courage to say I don't like that saree and wore the saree of my dream ..infact groom's father allowed me to wear the saree I liked ..
Wedding dress is a dream of every girl .
@Dypsis3268 it happens in middle class families also
@@pavithrak3821 groom's mother ? Isn't he your husband and she your mil ?
@@Abis-jh8pu should I answer your question ❓
@Dypsis3268 y r u assuming it was a rich man? movies have influenced u a lot. u should come to reality! that boy comes from a normal middle class family.
Mujhe to 3 months me 4 5 bar permission leni padi ki mai suit phn sakoon.. pr unhone nhi di.. fir mai apne marzi se phnne lagi.. ab mujhe koi kuch nhi bolta dressing ko lekar
Same here i have to dress according to the taste of my mils no one care my choice,😢even all my day and my activities also designed by my mil .iam so depressed.
Voice out, if u r silent, they will play with ur entire life
Same here sis
Girls please seek help😢
Once it's happened with me also there was a aarati at Durga Puja. My husband and I decided to wear orange Color dress and sari. We were all set to go but at that piont my mil told me to wear wedding sari which was too heavy I refused to wear that then she was like mai nahi bol Rahi hu Mera beta keh rha hai at that time I asked my husband is it Said by you and he said I haven't said.
झूठी बुढ़िया समल के रहना ऐसे चालाक बुड़ियाओं से रिश्ता खत्म कर देती हैं ये 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Call him youuu Coward
for my muhurtham and reception , it was my Mil who selected my saree, i was standing in the saree shop like a stupid , den i selected d saree to be worn before reception, which everybody appreciated
You noticed a big red flag and didnt even take initiative to address it. Why sister?😢 voice out or else Mil would be the same for life long.
That's hell
in very first time my MIL said this, I stand for my self and told her, it's my freedom what to I wear or not. that created little conflict in my family but i got freedom of my choice. you are not doll in someone's hand.
I'm so sorry lot of people have to go trough this. Sending lot of hugs. And remember... better alone than with someone who doesn't treat you right
My MIL used to tell me ,not a good attire. Wear salwar with full sleeves, put on gold earrings only, gold bangles (which they gave, not my mother gave), put bindi, keep a flower in hair, wear toe ring etc. I was okay with few of them. But not everything. We stay separately. I go once in a while to in laws place and these lectures used to be there. Few times I saw, then I could not bear and said, I cant do everything. Please don't ask again. She stopped it for sometime. But still passes sarcastic comments when in crowd.. people around us, know that she is living in 1900s so no one cares what she says and I just smirk and go.
It is not just what it looks like.
I too had problem adjusting to the feeling of being dressed by someone else. But later I realized,
its a two way streat, my mother in law too is adjusting in many things to accommodate me.
The bond with our MIL in its entirity is something thats helps us understand and be okay with making small adjustments in our lifestyle.
True but will they understand if we say no na...they say we are talking intelligently.
Don't give them a choice. The more importance you give to their choice, you are handing over your power to them. Just wear what you like. Initially, they might throw tantrums and say all kinds of things, eventually they'll adjust. You have to start doing this at some point...sooner the better.
You can politely say im sorry i dint meant to not listen to you but I'm already dressed i can't change ..... Still If they took it personally you don't need to care...but try to maintain a positive relationship then all these little problems will get sorted out
It's just they needed Dil to acknowledge mil's intelligence or importance we can show it in other ways like saying yes you are intelligent you have a good amount of experience and exposure i admire your way of dressing (if it was nice) if possible i ll ask your suggestions next time or otherwise say i ll appreciate if we give space to each others choice as everyone's taste and choice differs and it is good to respect each other's personal choice....
To all those who need it: your peace is valuable. if others judge, know your self worth to not let others judgement dictate what makes you happy. If the dress makes you happy then that is what matters. Keep loving yourself, you are awesome 😎
I have doubt.. she married him or his mother.... 🤦♂️
Doesn't matter..as she cares about no one but wants everyone to care about her... shameless hoe
I saw her videos and I'm really happy to see those positive things she shares
She is really the change
You make complete sense… but this messages are reaching to those who already understand it not to those who should..
Same thing happened to my sister when she is pregnant 🤰 🥺
My mother in law always asks to change my dress whenever iam ready to go to somewhere. On the first days of marriage I obey her and after months I never mind her words, also I started commenting on her dresses.
if I were you I would definitely say
boy you are my husband doesn't mean you own me never try to outsmart me I may look innocent but I'm devil
(I'm not married I'm just saying fight for yourself)
Meanwhile i want to buy a Saree that your wearing.plz share the link 😂😂😂
Yes
Imagine her mom says dear i dont like ur husband change him
I won't let others control my life, because it's precious to me. My life is given to me through my god to enjoy and learn not for traumas and burns. 🔥
That's the motto of my life 😊
And i have already started, after being parental pressure to choose PCM 😅 I chose Arts and now in college I will do hons in English 😍.... It's my dream. ❤
Still they keep telling me, see everyone and you are good for nothing. But sometimes they also feel this that it's okay that you are doing what you love after seeing the happiness😂 rather the the depression I had before I changed my stream in 11th 😢
This video is about dressing how you please. My mother-in-law used to tell my husband to not have any more kids than two! Well that didn’t work as I have 3 sons.
My dad is a gentleman he never stops us to do anything. I sometimes don't do certain things which my father may not like but won't stop me from doing, some of my friends always ask if he won't say no why can't you do it 🙃 i hope my future partner will be understanding someday.
I wish everyone can say just like that
Dear sister you are inspiring me alot to follow my once dream ,thanks
I hope I don't become a troublesome lady like my MIL when I grow old and become a MIL myself
By the way your saree is gorgeous
what abt without saree...
Stay Single, Stay Safe
Excuse me?! Since when does a woman have to wear what pleases another?! Idc if we're married or not, I wear what I want to. No wonder more and more women are running from marriage. Tf?!
It's actually a delight to see the pressing issues all out. seriously this is important because its all about balance from each side. Thank you for doing these videos.
Alert warning Or Serious warning
Mama's boy
Don't marry
Yes he should send his mother to old age home when his wife asks him to do so and wiggle his tail around his wife
@@user-fu2xq3kw3m Or ladki jo ghar chod k aati h uska kya.......
Also she never said marry those and convince them to leave his parents or send them to old age home also she never asked to eiggle his tail around him........lmao you're cooking it all by yourself and playing the victim card.
She just said DON'T MARRY MAMAS BOY.
Don't marry neither mamma's boy nor wife's slave, marry a gentleman who love both and stands for both, and judge which is correct and which is wrong. And allow you to go to your parents place whenever you required respect your decision
Women stop controlling your daughter in laws. It’s yakkkk thing to do.
The saree looks amazing on you!❤ great ideology BTW!😊
Completely agree 👍btw are those orchids in the background?
The background,background music and your Saree is giving good vibes and you look good
Sooooo true!!!
My MIL DECIDED WHAT SAREE I MIST WEAR FOR MY WEDDING TOO!!!
AND EACH TIME I HAD TO GO TO THEIR RELATIVE'S PLACE!!!!
EVEN JEWELLERY TOO!!
This happens for me all the time for no reason , even I have restrictions in night wear though I use full cotton pant and shirt model night suits with weight of 60kgs with medium personality 😢
Greatful I’m not an Indian woman cause my in laws and husbands bodies would hit the floor cold before they finished their shameful words. Congratulations on being so strong and beautiful!
S it happened exactly in the initial stage of my married life...even she interfere in my hair styles also...then after one point I stopped listening to her
It's my real life experience.Not just going out, even my daily wear was chosen by my MIL....😢😢
😱😱😱😱😱😱😱How can you live like this???Then you choose for your MIL💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼Where is the men of the house🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
Men of the house...they look like men but they are not.
And, I am livin with them anymore.The relationship is done.
*not living
@@kalpanamk4899 good for you man. We must not let them think that out kindness is our weakness
@@kalpanamk4899 good to escape from these kind of toxic relationship 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼god bless you for a better life💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼Start a new life and enjoy it💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
My MIL and FIL say nothing to me but says a lot more with all spiced up things to the entire neighborhood.
It’s not only about being newly married it’s happens every time
I like your dress n if I get my wife who still know how to use traditional dress n I'm proud because of her😊😊😊😊
No use in saying my husband wnt even listen he will say if you want to come change the dress or else sit at home
Sad Reality 💯 We never realise it until it actually happens to us
Nice saree mam where hv you purchase please share shop or online shopping link please Thank you mam
This is not struggle but a phase of life .
So well said.
If you need to explain these small things to your man just get out, communication is between people who have common sense and respect
Say no politely 😂 problem solve but by the way she is anupama 2.0
The dress is absolutely beautiful. You are absolutely gorgeous.
Don't change.
You give in Now, you will always be giving in in the future. Stand your ground!!!!!
I think it's universal experience by girl s....MIL's never change
It really make you feel like a puppet. A puppet who can only follow the orders and can't have control on it's actions. Why all these are happening only with Daughter in law? Disgusting
Seriously no in laws never understand
My MIL is innocent but for me the problem is my father in law. Very patriarchal and excessively beleive in GOD. Next day of my marriage, he made us to visit 13 temples in a day. I was seriously fed up. Worst day in my life. Even for starting the car, he will neram, kalam. I was married in feb, he started asking about baby from march itself. Regularly asking about my periods date to my husband. My husband is dumb to his dad. If i ask him to voice out, he will say it wont be good. We should respect mayiru nu he will tell. If he asks me na , definitely im gonna bash at him. He is kind of person who thinks what he does or thinks is always crct. Many times i tried to calm my mind and be nice to him bit personally i don't like him. If i say this to my husband, he will be heartbroken
Sooner or later you will be telling him this because your FIL is set in his ways
Stay safe and avoid giving him any crucial information
I am okay to wear what my mother in law asks...but not at the point where she tells me when i m about to move out
Don't try to fix him it's not your problem just leave him
TRUE ASFFFFFFFF
I think this is happening mostly in northern states.. In southern states women have moved on from taking orders and living with in laws
She is south Indian herself.
@@nikitanag8617 oh ok..
Pink is definitely one of your colours. You look spectacular!
That is the prettiest dress I have ever seen, I love the color!
Let's spread some positivity too..
Is your mil really that bad? I just long for my mil all the time, she was truly the bestest on the earth 💗 I wish she was there with me.
No. Her mil and most importantly her husband must be good. That’s why she is able to speak up and spread awareness on these topics. On the other hand, I wish too that your mil was alive and she would have treated you so nicely that you wouldn’t be here commenting on videos talking about problems which you don’t even have. I will give you a suggestion. Instead of commenting on videos which are completely irrelevant to you why don’t you watch or even better, make positive videos about how good your mil was.
And let the rest of the society which faces these issues watch these videos in peace.
@@garimakilledar5810 well said
@@garimakilledar5810 well said👌🏽👌🏽
She is jst spreading the words for many others who are suffering like that..She is not complaining abt her life🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼It’s awareness videos 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
Everytime 😪
Mam I think u missed to watch Neeya Naana 3 weeks before. Now a days, Girls Mother also started addressing on her Son in Law's dress.
Stand up for yourself ladies. Don’t expect anyone else to do it for you.
There are some husbands who would say yes I would change because I consider your parents as mine and when time comes would change but would give silent treatment for the whole function making you guilty for asking them to change and if u do the same they will be like u r always arrogant n spoiling everybody’s mood
Ma'am your husband is in the spectrum, he just wants control, ignore him and watch him quiver
And when these MIL wears plane saree showing much of back, and tummy and sometimes when the pallu get fold we can see the blouse, that is not even decent.
You look fabulous in this saree
This always happens.. this thought is great but in reality no one voices it out..
It's funny how women keep blaming all mother in laws,when they don't realise they them selves become one in the near future and are the reason for this vicious circle
The only change in this fact is that in future most of mil won't be like this
@@jenxxms. good joke, this is what every generation says and they (women) inevitably become the MIL they all despised, so this cycle will never end
@@vkvarman2422 lmao not our fault if you or your mom will end up like this cause not everyone are same like your family yk
@@jenxxms. absolutely correct
@@jenxxms. right can't defend an argument without getting personal right ?
When you get married, people observe the daughter in law more... May be mother in laws ask to dress in their way because she knows how her family members are...how their relatives are...or how the neighbours are which you are not aware of that completely....may be she is asking in that way just to protect us...or just not to get into someones eyes. Not everything mother in law or husband does is wrong....even my husband asks me if his dress is good or bad. If i say its not good he changes it.
@@bd-456 well said..
Is she loves her DIL so much then she should ask other people not to judge her.
She she protecting you from others or protecting others from you? Y’all are so weird.
@@bd-456 exactly!
@ST - 😂why should MIL tell others to mind their own business..why should she create misunderstandings with relatives for DIL....why cant DIL dress as per MILs wish??...even Moms does that with girls and ask to change the dress...why no one talks or makes video on moms...its just bcz whatever MIL does, DIL doesnt likes it..stop saying nonsense on mother in laws..
@@pragatisingh8467 some people just dont like MILs and whatever they say or do is wrong...try to understand their situation instead of just thinking in ur own perspective
What you say is absolutely correct
You are really ANUPAMA