Amazing! I'm starting a Master of Computer Science degree in 2 weeks, with little background in the field, and I'm experiencing lots of conflicting thoughts/emotions in creating/taking on the challenge. However, this video makes it all so very clear all of a sudden: 1. If I fail, I would have still learned a lot along the way, and grown smarter, sharper, more resilient and daring 2. If I do nothing, I would feel stuck/stagnant in life and grow miserable, confused and empty 3. If I succeed, well, whatever that happens should be fine with me Thank you for sharing your life story and insights - what a gift that will light the way for generations to come.
I've lived through these same things he's talking about, I still am, I'm still conquering those fears. Being on the other side of them, actually finding that you do survive anything, is a feeling that is entirely inexpressible. Like flying. What I would like to point out, which I've found to blow my mind with the realization of, is that there's this paradox. If we do nothing, we stay idle, but we go backwards regardless. If we try, failure or success, we go forward regardless.
I have a fear of becoming fearless, and then getting bored and not wanting anything. Because that's the way I seem to operate now...after years of being consumed every so often by anxiety....i.e. no fear, no fuel. went the other extreme.:-/
1) what’s the worst that could happen, and how would you recover? 2) what happens if you do nothing? life applies friction 3) what if you succeed? what does it feel like? taste like? what does the air feel like against your face in that place?
This was good. Watch it. I thought it wouldn't be worthwhile as many small and even bigger ted talks are. Also, I watch a lot of gurus so what could this guy add? (doubtful if much) But this talk was good. Very simple yet very important points immediately actionable and useful.
He was lucky. Lawyers have tons and tons of cash to mess around with so that makes it less fearful. They work hard though(at least the corporate ones) so they deserve it.
I was interested to hear him use 'I' all the way through his decision to launch his business when he had just started a young family. I wonder where his wife or partner was in all of this decision making. Hopefully alongside and supportive if it all went tits up. I wonder because i had a partner who launched his business when our family was young. It led to workoholism, alcoholism and ultimately a coke fuelled drug addiction in his attempt to handle the worload and fear of failure. And the upshot was that he nearly bankrupted us, we're under a repossession order, it caused the most massive stress, distress and fear and it broke our relationship. I'm glad this guy was successful but the truth is that you only get to hear from the ones who make it. You don't tend to hear from the ones left a bit broken by the wayside. So, I'd say fear of failure exists for a reason and exists for a good reason. Go for it but have contingencies and a backup plan and be prepared to walk away if it's taking too much of a toll. Hard to do when you have already invested everything you have...
What is inspiring to me is his message that we either live life at full throttle or not at all- "Life is an exciting adventure or its nothing" In my high school years there have been so many times I've let an opportunity pass because I was too shy or unsure-but this message motivates me to stop being afraid and live my deepest dreams and hopes as I enter college next year!
I just didn't relate to this. I think wisdom and awareness can show up as 'intuitive fear', when we're NOT supposed to do something. My HolySpirit has scared me terribly sometimes, when I was about to make huge mistakes. I'm glad I listened to those fears! Only when I know that I have complete passion to do something, form my heart, do I conquer fear. Otherwise, fear can be a huge help, to avoid a disastrous timeline. IOW, I don't just overcome fear, for the sake of overcoming fear. I hear its messages first, THEN decide to overcome it, or change directions.
You're making a huge mistake if you think all of your anxiety is appropriate for each situation. You're making a huge mistake if you think you have such introspection that this doesn't apply in the least.
Fear shouldn't be a problem if one want to be fearless or learn the steps how, and get rid of the fear that can sometimes hold you back I highly recommend that you go to Amazon and read "How to overcome fear, and start living fearless" you can also read "Poverty is a sin, Achieve more, and you'll have more" both a great books from Amazon that will open up your eye...
I can say, I have noticed a theme in my life of most of my regrets coming from things I didn't do as opposed to things I did. However, the anxiety can be so crippling, I don't know how to break through.
I love these two words Failing and recovering, by not focusing success-bubble. After all everything is imperfect in universe governed by whimsical nature...
Woah! Interesting talk. As the founder of a business not yet a year old and a proud father to a seven year old daughter Keira, I'm motivated by this. Thanks
You are welcome to try. That might end very, very badly for you. How about get a job and plan your life out like everyone else who becomes successful? Try that.
that's nice that he opened his yoga studio and managed to sell it on. no doubt he will continue with his other goals. it's all true. but what do you do when you've wrecked your life.
Great Video. Makes So Much sense. The Fact that public speaking was number one.. kinda made me laugh at myself cause.. that's a fear that i have conquered .. from jiggly legs ( no kidding; shaking the stage up ) to confident speaker .. ( thanks to toastmasters ) . and i so why i should i fear having to go all the way to achieve my own dreams So i make a solemn vow to myself. I will live my life.. to the fullest.. the amazing way that i want to live it. Kudos to all those who dare to .. live !
CONT. Which is also a form of fearing failure because I'm worried it will not be good enough, but it seems to be more so balancing out drive and passion, with critique and analysis. If you're good at finding the good things, then you are also good at finding the bad things. Don't tip the scale in either direction too hard or you'll either become naively optimistic and miss avoidable pitfalls, or you will not act due to losing confidence in what motivates you from over analyzing and doubt.
I don't really think about failure, i know it is always a possibility, and i know that the more I focus on it, the more likely it is to happen. I focus on the ideals of whatever I'm trying to do, i.e. why am I doing this? What is it good for? How do I benefit? Who else benefits? What are the large scale implications? Is this virtuous and humanitarian? What gets me down, however, is the paralysis of too much idealism, meaning the doubting that accompanies the impossibility of perfectionism.
Its offtopic but, when this guy talks about 9/11 and how they still feel it etc. It must be terrible and I can't get it since I wasnt there, but! Do the US citizens realize that thats what people in Iraq, Afghanistan etc. feel every day when US army bombs theirs country? I don't want to be rude, but you felt it one day, a lot of people died, yet if you compare it to other countries which are actualy being attacked, the number is damn low. Bet this guy can see that, I just wish most people could.
I used to live with LOTS of regret. I was 290lbs, always getting takeout, but wanting to cook. I had a desk job I didn't enjoy, but made enough to stay accepting the money would make me happy. Before even watching this video, I made huge changes and am healthier and better than ever. But after watching this video I realize I still get paralyzed with simple things as saying hi to a pretty girl, or not doing what I feel could be a great idea, already accepting it is silly and stupid. IT IS TIME.
I enjoyed this talk, but the point about not seeing the girl is really poorly done. No one told me to look for the sunglasses either, but I saw them instantly. The girl is tiny compared to everything else in the picture and she's a reflection, conceptually different than everything else "in" the picture. The (pretty well accepted) idea that we notice what our attention has been drawn to could have been better made. Not to mention ... what does that point have to do with the talk?
Hitting spin is when you replay a bad/good scenario is your head...Like when you want to talk to a girl, but you start playing fucked up movies in your head about how all is going to go down. Next thing you know, one mistakes that made up movie for reality and do nothing...Is the best way I can explain it because I've been there...lol..have a nice day
Inside each of us there is a black hole. What most don't know though, is that in the centre of it is the beginning of a star. Don't be afraid to go through the portal, through the darkness, and into the everlasting light of fearlessness. Darkness comes before the light.
I've gotten too used to my parents saying what if this doomsday scenario that doomsday scenario. I'm worth what I want and I have the right to go out and get what I want because I am not afraid to live my life fully satisfied that I've made the right decision.
This talk is such a revelation to how we put down ourselves. We humans always tend to under estimate ourselves without giving the deserving thought to it. The questions put forth by Jonathan have helped me a ton in conquering my fears and lubricating my life to an upwards trajectory. Thank you so much for this Jonathan and Ted Talks!
I wasn't afraid on 9/11..At all, and I take responsibility for raising my child as a full time stay at home dad. Not trying to pursue a career that would take me away from my child.
Such a powerful video and way to process fear! -I've just added this video to my coaching practice as a way to review goals and create process toward accomplishment! Thanks!!
I just want to know where can I download this video? The Ted.com website doesn't have this video and normally you can download all their videos for free.
I looked at this, because I am so scared of doing my CBT (British motorbike training) I am not used to going outside of my comfort zone at all, I want to do this, I am going to do it. I find tht nothing is ever as bad as it seems, exams, romance, whatever, just do it and its never too bad. I hopeI can move on and become a better person, If I dont do this test properly,I am afraid it will scare me off bikes forever, and I will live in regret, while if I do it, Iam open to a different side of life
I'm going to do ROTC, get my grades up and be the damn finest cadet they've ever seen. After I do PT for the ARMY for several years, I plan to either stick with it, or if I get promoted, then volunteer for a different area I feel I could be strong in that incorporates my skills and experience + that of the new different area, and keep going, or go back to PT and do damn well.
But I've also known since 11th grade that I wanted to become an ARMY officer through ROTC in college, I know for a fact because I can always trust my gut that I'd have better grades doing ROTC because serving in the ARMY is an enormous part of the same passion I have for Physical Therapy. To start doing exactly what I know I want sooner could only benefit me. It couldn't hurt. It would give the structure I love that I need, that would also help me achieve better grades.
Kenny Power it's funny how those who are blind, call the truth harsh. wake up and get to the right side of the conscious fence, once you're on my side you'll see how most of these people who do not understand this video or any forms of higher consciousness, are brainless and stuck in the meaningless lives who are too egotistical and ignorant to break away from bad habits of confusion and learn to try to understand everything, instead of being content with being confused .
Really odd to come upon this right now. I lost my job, a friend of mine died this year, who was 4 yrs older than me. I'm 5 yrs younger than my father was when he died. I'm changing everything, feeling minimal fear, but this just helped wipe the rest out. I'm doing what I REALLY, REALLY want to for the first time in my life. And it's going to happen, one step at a time, One project at a time I start until I'm finished. Thanks for this.
Good to see and hear another side of Jonathan Fields, than the interviews in the publishing world I had viewed. Good set of questions for us to work through. After decades as a writer, I can attest to Questions - asked, answered and sometimes left silent in the space between, as being the stuff that propels us... even catapults. Thanks.
Small steps can rock..but we don't do them cause we think they are useless. Like you want to approach a cute girl and tell her you like her. If you first approach one and ask `where's starbucks?' the chances you'll be able to do the original thing you wanted go up dramatically
Well concept isn't new to me and I am in Austin TX which is supposed to be one of the best places to do that, but the actual doing has always turned into me being a shaky mess. I guess the only way to get over it at all is doing it more like you said. Again, not new to me, but my bodily response is more pronounced than anything I have ever read about. How much easier would you say it is for you now?
Ha! funny:) just giving an example from my life.. but we humans tend to be similar in fears, hopes, and desires. ..specifically the thing of approaching a woman that is *not* in your social circle, can increase confidence .. it's easier in big cities like NYC where there are millions of women you can make a fool of yourself in front on and not see again:) It's very gradual improvement - I've done maybe a 1000 approaches and still have a lot of fear about it.. but worth it if it's important to u
how dare you assume and correctly identify such a large cause of anxiety for me:). I agree, but it doesn't seem to subside for me often times. I have hung out with some girls multiple times, only to still physically shake multiple visits in. Not to mention the overwhelming feeling I get thinking about making a move, even when they show clear interest.
Nobody told to live happy that's why we are searching it in other things or not looking for it. But it's an inner thing. This can also be your experiment result.
TED is doing great justice to the world! I love Jonathan Fields a lot! He is so patience and strong mentally! I found similar maturity when i heard this guy lokesh in his free android app "Talk On Killing Fears - FREE" . He has covered starting from what is fear to all types of major fears. its because of people like you , i am still able to continue with some energy in my life.
I wanted to go ARMY since I was little. I've been raised very well, I am very intelligent, and I am in college studying to become a physical therapist. When I got to high school I knew I wanted to go to college. When I became a senior in high school I knew I wanted to do physical therapy...And never did I stop wanting to do the ARMY. My parents opposed it, supported it under very specific circumstances, opposed it, and on and on. They say when I get out of college they don't mind at all.
this strong response of the body is exactly why these small steps - asking directions, or even just walking towards a woman, or standing close to her, or just going out, are helpful.. For me now, it's like getting up to take a shower when you're already half asleep - takes effort but you know you can do it, and not that big a deal :))
So Im planning to leave my work and move overseas, what If I fail finding a job because I dont have the right skills at the moment? so basically ill be a homeless beggar, then will get deported. What if I do nothing? Ive answered this, im going to be a homeless beggar and will be ridiculed by my ex-in laws and partner due to being deported. What if I succeed finding a job? This will be shooting for the moon because at the moment I dont have the right skills, but let's play into this and I get hired, after a month into the job ill be fired because they will find out I didnt have the skills to do the job, then no one will hire me because the job reference says I got fired by the previous company, then ill be a homeless beggar and ill be deported, my ex-inlaws and partner will have a grand time celebrating, and ill be doomed. So in the end, overcoming fear made my life worst than ever. :-)
combine 5 years of transgressions into their heart and minds and scatter them from my presence and keep my name my image out of their hearts and minds for ever.
When your dream is to have your own business you have failed already. Theres a reason Maslow ranks business at the bottom of human endevour and art at the top. This lecture is mostly useless.
Great talk! I said some very similar points in a video a few months ago but your delivery is so amazing. I learned a lot about how to share your story and inspiration with others. And got inspired myself to keep moving forward. Thanks!
Amazing! I'm starting a Master of Computer Science degree in 2 weeks, with little background in the field, and I'm experiencing lots of conflicting thoughts/emotions in creating/taking on the challenge. However, this video makes it all so very clear all of a sudden:
1. If I fail, I would have still learned a lot along the way, and grown smarter, sharper, more resilient and daring
2. If I do nothing, I would feel stuck/stagnant in life and grow miserable, confused and empty
3. If I succeed, well, whatever that happens should be fine with me
Thank you for sharing your life story and insights - what a gift that will light the way for generations to come.
its been 4 years lol how was it how did you do?
How'd it go?
Fear of not being able to pay the bills and ending up on the street is the number 1 fear.
I've lived through these same things he's talking about, I still am, I'm still conquering those fears. Being on the other side of them, actually finding that you do survive anything, is a feeling that is entirely inexpressible. Like flying.
What I would like to point out, which I've found to blow my mind with the realization of, is that there's this paradox.
If we do nothing, we stay idle, but we go backwards regardless.
If we try, failure or success, we go forward regardless.
this is a place for intelligent discussion, not fairy tales.
I have a fear of becoming fearless, and then getting bored and not wanting anything. Because that's the way I seem to operate now...after years of being consumed every so often by anxiety....i.e. no fear, no fuel. went the other extreme.:-/
1) what’s the worst that could happen, and how would you recover?
2) what happens if you do nothing? life applies friction
3) what if you succeed? what does it feel like? taste like? what does the air feel like against your face in that place?
Fear of bad sound technicians :P
From today, I will not be afraid of failing. What if.....
This was good. Watch it. I thought it wouldn't be worthwhile as many small and even bigger ted talks are. Also, I watch a lot of gurus so what could this guy add? (doubtful if much) But this talk was good. Very simple yet very important points immediately actionable and useful.
He was lucky. Lawyers have tons and tons of cash to mess around with so that makes it less fearful. They work hard though(at least the corporate ones) so they deserve it.
Hmm, actually writers shit is much more specific than random success peoples shit.
I was interested to hear him use 'I' all the way through his decision to launch his business when he had just started a young family. I wonder where his wife or partner was in all of this decision making. Hopefully alongside and supportive if it all went tits up. I wonder because i had a partner who launched his business when our family was young. It led to workoholism, alcoholism and ultimately a coke fuelled drug addiction in his attempt to handle the worload and fear of failure. And the upshot was that he nearly bankrupted us, we're under a repossession order, it caused the most massive stress, distress and fear and it broke our relationship. I'm glad this guy was successful but the truth is that you only get to hear from the ones who make it. You don't tend to hear from the ones left a bit broken by the wayside. So, I'd say fear of failure exists for a reason and exists for a good reason. Go for it but have contingencies and a backup plan and be prepared to walk away if it's taking too much of a toll. Hard to do when you have already invested everything you have...
What is inspiring to me is his message that we either live life at full throttle or not at all- "Life is an exciting adventure or its nothing" In my high school years there have been so many times I've let an opportunity pass because I was too shy or unsure-but this message motivates me to stop being afraid and live my deepest dreams and hopes as I enter college next year!
Fear is temporary. Regret is forever.
This video can really make a difference, thank you very much for posting! Greetings from Germany
Really good. Was worth the time.
I just didn't relate to this. I think wisdom and awareness can show up as 'intuitive fear', when we're NOT supposed to do something. My HolySpirit has scared me terribly sometimes, when I was about to make huge mistakes. I'm glad I listened to those fears! Only when I know that I have complete passion to do something, form my heart, do I conquer fear. Otherwise, fear can be a huge help, to avoid a disastrous timeline. IOW, I don't just overcome fear, for the sake of overcoming fear. I hear its messages first, THEN decide to overcome it, or change directions.
You're making a huge mistake if you think all of your anxiety is appropriate for each situation. You're making a huge mistake if you think you have such introspection that this doesn't apply in the least.
Fear shouldn't be a problem if one want to be fearless or learn the steps how, and get rid of the fear that can sometimes hold you back I highly recommend that you go to Amazon and read "How to overcome fear, and start living fearless" you can also read "Poverty is a sin, Achieve more, and you'll have more" both a great books from Amazon that will open up your eye...
I can say, I have noticed a theme in my life of most of my regrets coming from things I didn't do as opposed to things I did. However, the anxiety can be so crippling, I don't know how to break through.
I love these two words Failing and recovering, by not focusing success-bubble.
After all everything is imperfect in universe governed by whimsical nature...
yes, but does fear fuel melt steel beams?
lulz
A most obvious "covert" operation.
Woah! Interesting talk. As the founder of a business not yet a year old and a proud father to a seven year old daughter Keira, I'm motivated by this. Thanks
Surprisingly good TEDx talk! Next time I *will* ask myself, "What if I do nothing?" and "If I fail, how will I recover?"
+Synthetase2 Awesome thought!
You are welcome to try. That might end very, very badly for you.
How about get a job and plan your life out like everyone else who becomes successful? Try that.
that's nice that he opened his yoga studio and managed to sell it on. no doubt he will continue with his other goals.
it's all true.
but what do you do when you've wrecked your life.
If you do something very stupid because you ignored your fear, that can make you feel regret too...
Great Video. Makes So Much sense. The Fact that public speaking was number one.. kinda made me laugh at myself cause.. that's a fear that i have conquered .. from jiggly legs ( no kidding; shaking the stage up ) to confident speaker .. ( thanks to toastmasters ) . and i so why i should i fear having to go all the way to achieve my own dreams So i make a solemn vow to myself. I will live my life.. to the fullest.. the amazing way that i want to live it. Kudos to all those who dare to .. live !
CONT. Which is also a form of fearing failure because I'm worried it will not be good enough, but it seems to be more so balancing out drive and passion, with critique and analysis. If you're good at finding the good things, then you are also good at finding the bad things. Don't tip the scale in either direction too hard or you'll either become naively optimistic and miss avoidable pitfalls, or you will not act due to losing confidence in what motivates you from over analyzing and doubt.
I don't really think about failure, i know it is always a possibility, and i know that the more I focus on it, the more likely it is to happen. I focus on the ideals of whatever I'm trying to do, i.e. why am I doing this? What is it good for? How do I benefit? Who else benefits? What are the large scale implications? Is this virtuous and humanitarian? What gets me down, however, is the paralysis of too much idealism, meaning the doubting that accompanies the impossibility of perfectionism.
Its offtopic but, when this guy talks about 9/11 and how they still feel it etc. It must be terrible and I can't get it since I wasnt there, but! Do the US citizens realize that thats what people in Iraq, Afghanistan etc. feel every day when US army bombs theirs country? I don't want to be rude, but you felt it one day, a lot of people died, yet if you compare it to other countries which are actualy being attacked, the number is damn low. Bet this guy can see that, I just wish most people could.
I used to live with LOTS of regret. I was 290lbs, always getting takeout, but wanting to cook. I had a desk job I didn't enjoy, but made enough to stay accepting the money would make me happy.
Before even watching this video, I made huge changes and am healthier and better than ever.
But after watching this video I realize I still get paralyzed with simple things as saying hi to a pretty girl, or not doing what I feel could be a great idea, already accepting it is silly and stupid.
IT IS TIME.
I enjoyed this talk, but the point about not seeing the girl is really poorly done. No one told me to look for the sunglasses either, but I saw them instantly. The girl is tiny compared to everything else in the picture and she's a reflection, conceptually different than everything else "in" the picture. The (pretty well accepted) idea that we notice what our attention has been drawn to could have been better made. Not to mention ... what does that point have to do with the talk?
What IF? Thank You, for the reminder of the power of FEAR I put in MY head. Easy to listen and connect with...
Hitting spin is when you replay a bad/good scenario is your head...Like when you want to talk to a girl, but you start playing fucked up movies in your head about how all is going to go down. Next thing you know, one mistakes that made up movie for reality and do nothing...Is the best way I can explain it because I've been there...lol..have a nice day
Inside each of us there is a black hole. What most don't know though, is that in the centre of it is the beginning of a star. Don't be afraid to go through the portal, through the darkness, and into the everlasting light of fearlessness. Darkness comes before the light.
I've gotten too used to my parents saying what if this doomsday scenario that doomsday scenario. I'm worth what I want and I have the right to go out and get what I want because I am not afraid to live my life fully satisfied that I've made the right decision.
"fear is not always cowardice. Its a defense mechanism to protect something precious. Life"
I think I missed the part about the "Fuel"....
This was just another "Life Coach" pep-talk. I wasted 18 minutes.
This talk is such a revelation to how we put down ourselves. We humans always tend to under estimate ourselves without giving the deserving thought to it. The questions put forth by Jonathan have helped me a ton in conquering my fears and lubricating my life to an upwards trajectory.
Thank you so much for this Jonathan and Ted Talks!
Please type "True Theory of Everything Quadrant Model of Reality" for the Truth. Thank you. The truth is known.
Wow what a gem, I'm due for my first public speaking event in July and this will help a lot, thanks
I wasn't afraid on 9/11..At all, and I take responsibility for raising my child as a full time stay at home dad. Not trying to pursue a career that would take me away from my child.
Such a powerful video and way to process fear! -I've just added this video to my coaching practice as a way to review goals and create process toward accomplishment! Thanks!!
I just want to know where can I download this video? The Ted.com website doesn't have this video and normally you can download all their videos for free.
Um, even if you told people to look for a girl in that photo, it'd take a long time, she's barely visible... That's a bad example of attention bias.
Yoga? Didn't know that there was that kind of Market that could pay for that Apt..
Everything else was believable. Good Speech.
Great video, I love the questions. Just what I needed to hear. 🙏🏾
his book is much better than this talk. Not too much learning from here.
Even causality can't anticipate the desire to change. Its like a variable that nothing could ever see.
What does he mean by "hitting spin"? Could someone who's a little bit smarter than me please explain? ;)
Probably one of the smartest talks I've ever heard in my life.
I looked at this, because I am so scared of doing my CBT (British motorbike training) I am not used to going outside of my comfort zone at all, I want to do this, I am going to do it. I find tht nothing is ever as bad as it seems, exams, romance, whatever, just do it and its never too bad. I hopeI can move on and become a better person, If I dont do this test properly,I am afraid it will scare me off bikes forever, and I will live in regret, while if I do it, Iam open to a different side of life
Roger that! I'm lubricating my life upwards now thanks
Alright, yeah, that was very inspirational, but some ideas aren't good ideas.
Thank you! This helped me so much :)
Questions, apply
I'm going to do ROTC, get my grades up and be the damn finest cadet they've ever seen. After I do PT for the ARMY for several years, I plan to either stick with it, or if I get promoted, then volunteer for a different area I feel I could be strong in that incorporates my skills and experience + that of the new different area, and keep going, or go back to PT and do damn well.
But I've also known since 11th grade that I wanted to become an ARMY officer through ROTC in college, I know for a fact because I can always trust my gut that I'd have better grades doing ROTC because serving in the ARMY is an enormous part of the same passion I have for Physical Therapy. To start doing exactly what I know I want sooner could only benefit me. It couldn't hurt. It would give the structure I love that I need, that would also help me achieve better grades.
what are those BAGPIPES to the left of the screen ??????
I didnt learn a thing from this video.
why advertise your ignorance? if you're stupid keep it to yourself. play your videogames and stay a brainless consumer.
H da That's harsh.
Kenny Power it's funny how those who are blind, call the truth harsh. wake up and get to the right side of the conscious fence, once you're on my side you'll see how most of these people who do not understand this video or any forms of higher consciousness, are brainless and stuck in the meaningless lives who are too egotistical and ignorant to break away from bad habits of confusion and learn to try to understand everything, instead of being content with being confused .
Alright then.
That says more about you than the video.
Holy shit this is the guy that wrote Career Renegade!
Really odd to come upon this right now. I lost my job, a friend of mine died this year, who was 4 yrs older than me. I'm 5 yrs younger than my father was when he died. I'm changing everything, feeling minimal fear, but this just helped wipe the rest out. I'm doing what I REALLY, REALLY want to for the first time in my life. And it's going to happen, one step at a time, One project at a time I start until I'm finished. Thanks for this.
Good to see and hear another side of Jonathan Fields, than the interviews in the publishing world I had viewed. Good set of questions for us to work through.
After decades as a writer, I can attest to Questions - asked, answered and sometimes left silent in the space between, as being the stuff that propels us... even catapults. Thanks.
Small steps can rock..but we don't do them cause we think they are useless. Like you want to approach a cute girl and tell her you like her. If you first approach one and ask `where's starbucks?' the chances you'll be able to do the original thing you wanted go up dramatically
Transforming fear, so good ♥
check out the book fear love anger by robyn carson
I think the only break through can come from "do"
Well concept isn't new to me and I am in Austin TX which is supposed to be one of the best places to do that, but the actual doing has always turned into me being a shaky mess. I guess the only way to get over it at all is doing it more like you said. Again, not new to me, but my bodily response is more pronounced than anything I have ever read about. How much easier would you say it is for you now?
Ha! funny:) just giving an example from my life.. but we humans tend to be similar in fears, hopes, and desires. ..specifically the thing of approaching a woman that is *not* in your social circle, can increase confidence .. it's easier in big cities like NYC where there are millions of women you can make a fool of yourself in front on and not see again:) It's very gradual improvement - I've done maybe a 1000 approaches and still have a lot of fear about it.. but worth it if it's important to u
how dare you assume and correctly identify such a large cause of anxiety for me:). I agree, but it doesn't seem to subside for me often times. I have hung out with some girls multiple times, only to still physically shake multiple visits in. Not to mention the overwhelming feeling I get thinking about making a move, even when they show clear interest.
I don't think it's that ironic. Everyone dies.
well ... i guess it's never too late , right ?
Steve Jobs 's quote about death... ironic .
Nobody told to live happy that's why we are searching it in other things or not looking for it. But it's an inner thing.
This can also be your experiment result.
why didn't i watch this video earlier ?
TED is doing great justice to the world!
I love Jonathan Fields a lot! He is so patience and strong mentally!
I found similar maturity when i heard this guy lokesh in his free android app "Talk On Killing Fears - FREE" . He has covered starting from what is fear to all types of major fears.
its because of people like you , i am still able to continue with some energy in my life.
I wanted to go ARMY since I was little. I've been raised very well, I am very intelligent, and I am in college studying to become a physical therapist. When I got to high school I knew I wanted to go to college. When I became a senior in high school I knew I wanted to do physical therapy...And never did I stop wanting to do the ARMY. My parents opposed it, supported it under very specific circumstances, opposed it, and on and on. They say when I get out of college they don't mind at all.
this strong response of the body is exactly why these small steps - asking directions, or even just walking towards a woman, or standing close to her, or just going out, are helpful.. For me now, it's like getting up to take a shower when you're already half asleep - takes effort but you know you can do it, and not that big a deal :))
Thanks man
So Im planning to leave my work and move overseas, what If I fail finding a job because I dont have the right skills at the moment? so basically ill be a homeless beggar, then will get deported. What if I do nothing? Ive answered this, im going to be a homeless beggar and will be ridiculed by my ex-in laws and partner due to being deported. What if I succeed finding a job? This will be shooting for the moon because at the moment I dont have the right skills, but let's play into this and I get hired, after a month into the job ill be fired because they will find out I didnt have the skills to do the job, then no one will hire me because the job reference says I got fired by the previous company, then ill be a homeless beggar and ill be deported, my ex-inlaws and partner will have a grand time celebrating, and ill be doomed. So in the end, overcoming fear made my life worst than ever. :-)
combine 5 years of transgressions into their heart and minds and scatter them from my presence and keep my name my image out of their hearts and minds for ever.
dont be afraid. i come in peace.
When your dream is to have your own business you have failed already. Theres a reason Maslow ranks business at the bottom of human endevour and art at the top.
This lecture is mostly useless.
Before iPads?
#Self-Confidence, Dr.Ivan Jospeh/ The Skill of " Self Confidence"
108 is an auspicious number.
This is amazing and life changing.
That sounds fearful to me.
Woah.
Awesome
We can make it ! let's try harder and love fear itself, for loving it will make us accept it and move forward.
Great talk! I said some very similar points in a video a few months ago but your delivery is so amazing. I learned a lot about how to share your story and inspiration with others. And got inspired myself to keep moving forward. Thanks!
so baaaaaad
Is the studio Laughing Lotus or OM?
That's great! Thanks! I first listened to Jonathan Fields on last weeks Art of Charm Podcast and after found it here too.
He will hopefully learn to get to the point quicker.
the opportunity
lol at first i thought he said yoga world NIGGA lmao
Not what I thought it was going to be about...
Good show.