TEDxVictoria - Dr. Sean Richardson - Mental Toughness: Think Differently about your World
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- Опубликовано: 8 янв 2012
- Dr. Sean Richardson takes lessons learned from the professional athlete's locker room to provide an overview of the subtleties of human brain & behaviour function to facilitate overcoming the normal & predictable human barriers to success.
Filmed at TEDxVictoria on November 19th 2011.
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- work with your feelings, not against them
- keep your eye on the big picture
- fail going 100%
- get though ->mental toughness will give you power in the face of anything that life throws at you
Luna L you left out some very important points
Focus on actions and the quality of your actions rather than results
Have a can do attitude
Learn to delay instant gratification
Mental toughness is something that is really important to me. I am a wrestler and mental toughness is 85% of the sport, and I love mental toughness, I love to embrace the grind, I love the glory rush from the mental toughness when I get my arm raised.
Full Send Filosophy exactly! If there was one thing that wrestling has taught me is discipline and mental toughness. Nothing will be easier but you have to get through it with a strong mind and attitude. Watch Cary kolat talk on mental toughness
Thanks for telling us.
Very close to the ancient Indian philosophy of Karma Yoga. Effort without attachment to results. Very good speech.
I used to believe that success was about ability, mostly, in academic but then I realized that efforts and mental toughness that make all things possible. I learned the hard way to grow, to accept failure and it hurts. Success is about constant growing. It's a great talk, doc! Thanks.
You are welcome Riska! Thank you for the comments :)
An excellent speech by an eloquent speaker. And indeed embracing failure is pretty much the safest route to success. It actually is the only way to follow high ambitions that might even seem unrealistic. Even if you can't reach the stars - in trying to do so you will at least reach the moon. Failing while giving 100%.
Thank you for the comments Koseiku. There is no easy way to embrace failure, but the attempt to do so, while working exceptionally hard to achieve success, will get you pretty close to those stars!
***** that is the exact quote from Bruce that came to mind when i saw this video. Good stuff
Very powerful speech for those who are open to learning from it. Speaks to me on so many levels. The piece about anxiety and desire for instant gratification (and in some cases - instant validation) is huge. So much fear and inaction because of perceived failure when the failure is... not having the situation go how you want NOW. Not having the recognition that you desire NOW. I love these TedTalks that teach you to look inside yourself. I will try to be more patient. Thank you so much.
i need this more than anything else in my life
Hope it's working for you Danny!
Thank you for this talk Dr. Richardson. This is something that I have shown my athletes at times when they think what they are doing is all for not. They often come to me asking "what will I gain out of this," and in the past I would respond with some kind of elaborate explanation to give them that instant gratification. Now, however, all I say is "just wait." I can see the gears start going immediately, and some get frustrated, but those who are truly mentally tough come back to me later and simply say they understand. This talk is something I come back to every so often when I need to hear it myself as well. In my opinion, mental toughness is the foundation for every successful athlete, business person, or any career you can think of. Thanks again Dr. Richardson, and well done.
You are welcome Zack. Thank you for taking the time to write a detailed comment on here. It is not always easy trying to teach people to see the bigger picture and delay gratification, and as you noticed not everyone gets on board right away. However, in putting it out there, you are helping to change your athletes lives for the better. Keep it up!
I am a dispute resolution professional. Much of what Dr. Richardson discusses can help people understand how to approach conflict, both personal and business. Thank you for your 3 principles, summarized at the end. Wonderful talk.
+Nancy Greenwald Thank you for your comments Nancy. Conflict resolution is not easy - empathy for others and certainly understanding for how we function and what gets in our way as humans can help ;)
I am in tears of relief after watching this. Fear of failure has been such a problem of mine... Not any more. Thank you Dr.Sean!!!!!!
Thank you for your comments Sarah! I am happy that you got something out of the talk. The challenge is to put your insight into practice ;)
The stuff that really wakes you up and keeps you moving
5:39 when talk actually starts.
When our CEO/Founder summarized why he grew his company 300+ times bigger than where he started 16 years ago, he pinpointed at his tenacity, a persistence to push forward until success regardless of failures and difficulties. And I believe that is what you called "Mental Toughness". And "to do nothing" is also what Chinese philosopher Laozi said thousands of years go. You bring new understanding to the ancient wisdom. Thank you for the great speech!
Thank you of the comments, Sophie. I am humbled that you might associate some of my words with great leaders's ideas and ancient wisdom... All the best!
I love TED Talks. I have learned so much from them. If I didn't watch them, I wouldn't have found out that by boosting physical, mental, emotional and social resilience, we can boost our lives by 7 minutes, which in the bigger picture, could add up to 10 years of our lives. I am all for living longer. Aren't you?
1. trying over and over and over.... is more important then being naturally gifted. 2. delayed gratification- think about the big picture and what you really want 3. effort over ability. Realize that you are able to change yourself into anything you want.
Nice summary of key points!
Self Brutal Honesty is the best Policy for me. One the or maybe thee bravest thing you could ever do too yourself i recon.
Being OK with not having what you want NOW. Our change in environment has outpaced the evolution of our brain. Threat to EGO. Accepting failure. Tuning out of compulsions. Effort needs to be celebrated. A world with delayed gratification. Wow love it. Thanks Dr. Richardson
+Super Charged Thank you for your comments - glad you liked it!
The power of thinking right !
This is the best one I’ve listened to and will definitely be replayed multiple times. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
The power of delaying instant gratification is an incredible indicator of future success.
Not easy to do Mahir, but definitely critical to success!!
Nothing worth having comes easy.
I really enjoyed the talk Dr. Sean, I would be interested in more of your material if that is available.
Mahir Ahmed Thank you Mahir. More is coming - you can check out my new website www.drseanr.com
This mindset took me years to adopt, but it granted me great improvement in my academic and fitness performances
As a parent it just killed me to see my kids fail at anything, but that was MY problem and I had to deal with it to let them grow into better adults. I wanted them to learn that when they fail, they had to just work harder at it, or even be creative and find a new way to get it accomplished.
Sheryl
ReachConnectUpliftWomen Letting your kids fail is pretty darn difficult! Good work at sticking to it :) I find it interesting, however, that certain aspects of fear of failure are definitely learned and not innate - at one point in life (obvious when we are watching our kids learn to walk), failure was experienced simply as an essential feedback mechanism in the learning process. How did we make it a thing to be so vehemently rejected?!
Fantastic talk, I am a sport psychologist and one of the biggest issues I work on is fear of failure. If athletes and coaches can accept that failure is ok and use this as an opportunity to grow, success will come.
+The Sporting Mindset Thanks for the comments - sounds like we share some similar thinking!
This was exactly what I needed. I'm stuck in a failure mindset, and I've never been able to find the key out of this. I lost so much time wondering what I could do, not taking action? This is going to stop. It's going to be hard, but it will be worth it. Thank you again!
Hi Dora. Thank you for your comments. Taking action sounds simple, but not so easy - if you stick with it, things will change however... Keep us updated how you go!
Great timing to be reminded of what is possible with effort and focus and persistence at this time of the start of the year.
thank you very much for the speech.
Ability vs Effort was the most influencing part... I choose to believe in Effort!
PMA..positive mental attitude... Ted talks..
Very thought provoking presentation. Your appeals to delayed gratification are interesting, but one of the easiest distinctions to make between instant and delayed forms are encapsulated in your example of the small and large bowls of candy. Here, there is a choice; now or later and it's purely personal. In more complex matters such as politics and war, the perception may well be that delayed gratification is not possible, just the immediate kind, which also may be outward focused (gain gratification by punishing your enemies for example), even if it doesn't provide any other sense of direct personal gratification. The absence of (or at least the perception that deferred gratification is absent), is key to all of this. That probably requires a different mindset, as it's a significantly different concept to being aware of it and choosing instant gratification in favor of it. It's a great presentation which stimulates much further thought about the subject, even if some of the thinking about it is muddled, like mine :-)
I cannot tell you how spot on EVERYTHING you have said here is sir-dude. I've been listening to ALL of the Sounds True Series on Self Compassion and the one thing that stands out is that that negative voice should be treated with a kind voice. As if, they said when a child is in trouble, we would speak words of love, kindness and support. Also what Jordan stumbled upon, in his no fear of failure mindset. Being aware that this is teachable, learn able, gives me hope and the reigns.
After you stare at him for a while, you start to think Ben Stiller.
+Backless Chaps Haha! Should have thrown a "blue steel" in there for you.
+ Thanks for this great talk. This was what Krishna told Arjuna in Bhagvadgita, some 6000 years back.
KARAMANYAVADHIKARASTHE MAA PHALESHU KADACHANA
MAA KARMA PHALA HETUR BHURMA TE SANAGOSTVAKARMANIYou have the right to work only
but never to its fruits.
Let not the fruits of action be your motive.
Nor let your attachment be to inaction.But anyway, thanks your reiterating this again.
a much better looking Ben Stiller that is
Why did you have to say that?! Now I cannot unsee the Ben Stiller!
It's the ears.
Clearly I am a victim.
DrSean R You are awesome 👏
This should be a mandatory video at every company. Instant gratification has become an cultural illness.
Love your speech ! i believe delayed gratification is a big subject, not only for myself, but for the whole world. Direct gratification, if it insnt about surviving, its mostly about distraction. Distraction from the true calling that we have to take the responsibility for. Its like an addiction to constantly and directly wanting to be satisfied with feeling good, but doesnt get you where you really want to go.
+Erik Hilbrands Thank you Erik!
This was really inspiring and definitely got me thinking positively after a few really lame days. Will try and apply these mindsets...
Great to hear! I find that it helps to practice the mindsets like mantras - say them often and wherever applicable - to yourself and out loud to others (if it fits the situation :o)
Wonderful talk Dr. Richardson; I'd love to have stumbled on this years ago. Thank you so much and take care!
Thank you Debra! I am glad you stumbled upon it now :)
Thank you Dr. Sean, this was helpful .
Developing and building mental strength and agility (make this a core ability)
Fortitude
Crafting character with your feet in the fire (so toasty!)
Bouncing back from adversity.
You are not always obligated to win but you are obligated to keep trying.
Be your best every chance you can, that all anyone truly can ask of you.
There is no starting or stopping. Only and only, living through your actions.
It's easy to miss the Tree of Life when you're staring at the forest.
To miss that small Golden Thread of Happiness in stacks of hay.
Fun Out Dancing Under Teary Skies.
Truly free to feel without restrictions, without holding back.
I’m really thankful for your comment🤍🤍🤍
I need to say these things to myself.
adorable speech, it's full of energy, agitation and enthusiasm.
I've overcome some very hard times but I feel a little stuck. College has been extremely rough (health and policies). I'm trying to turn into a positive experience (creating a book and made a petition to help others). Hopefully this talk will help (about to watch it)
I cannot tell you how spot on what you say in this video. I've been listening to the sounds true series on self compassion and the one thing that stands out is that that reptilian negative voice should be treated with a kinder voice. As if, we're talking to a child, we wouldn't criticize a young kid. Also what Jordan stumbled upon, in his no fear of failure mindset. Being aware that this is teachable, learn able, gives me hope and the reigns.
one of favourite TED talks of all time
Thank you! What a great compliment :o)
Great speech *****. We only fail when we decide to give up. Maximized effort produces maximized SUCCESS.
Thanks for the comments David! Pushing past failure - easier said than done, but the reward is worth it!
Thanks very much for this talk, Dr Richardson. As a huge fan of the work on Positive Psychology done by Seligman and Csikszentmihalyi I really appreciate your taking the trouble to put your own slant on the cognitive aspects.
+Craig Minns You are welcome Craig. Seligman and Czikszentmihalyi have been pioneers in a much needed area of research!
Yes, they have! I'm sure that Maslow would not just appreciate their efforts, he would hail them.And your own. Well done.
+Craig Minns Thanks again Craig!
Interesting, informative, and so true accepting failure life begins. Thank you bless you. All your dreams come true.
It takes a ginormous amount of mental strength for me to even get myself to work every goddamn morning.
Excellent presentation. Well done, thank you...just what I needed, and I think, just what most people need to hear and understand.
Thanks for the comments. Happy to hear that it was helpful to you :)
it's wonderful speech. you clearly explained, why some people try till end, another people leave in the midst of obstacles
Dr. Sean - a great lecture!
That is a low blow:
" Your in-laws "!
Thank you so much for mentioning the parts of the brain responsible for the emotion of fear. Most videos on fear, anxiety, and getting through uncertainty only provide inspirational phrases and nothing on how the body generates fear and what you can do about it. Excellent video, very informative.
Thank you for the comments. I am fascinated with how the brain and body function to create the world we experience - glad you like the talk!
Since I discovered Ted talks I've become somewhat of an addict. There's so much useful information and skillful presenters. I rate yours as one of the best. I always go to the comment section to see what others think. Along with some very insightful thoughts, you always find the ones who are needlessly negative. I noticed that you only responded to the positive ones and ignored the negative ones. I assume refusing to give them power. Not a lot of people can do that. Brene brown had a difficult time after her first Ted talk. You have a great spirit. I enjoyed watching you.
Thank you for your comments. I really appreciate the feedback! I am thrilled that you enjoyed my talk and hope that some of the ideas can help make a difference in your world :)
Yo Dr. Sean, thank you man. I feel stronger everyday
+Khemaran Dinh You are welcome. Thank you for watching!
GREAT message Sean, you are spot on!
Thanks Travis!
Thank you so much for this speech. Yes, I know, but it's so scary, especially when you feel judged. Thank you for reminding me that I am free, there is no threat to survival and I can try again. I will.
I used to watch NBA games, too (Michael Jordan, I love you!)
But I am not sure about mental toughness. Being oppressed is another story. Sometimes asking for help takes courage, too, and hearing this asking takes a lot of empathy and strength.
I needed this motivation for my entrance exam to medical school. This relates so much to my struggle
+Hamad K Great to hear Hamad. I have worked with a number of med students and doctors over the years - you definitely need to be mentally taught to work in that field!
Awesome motivation! :P
Have a great day
Great talk! I especially enjoyed a lot the beginning of it.
"if you believe that effort is the key, you're going to see failure as a challenge
if you believe ability is the key, you're going to give up when you fail"
Great talk. I love it when funny people talk about important things.
Sean, Thanks for the talk.
You are so cool and charismatic!
Thank you so much!
Thanks -- I am sharing this all OVER the place!
You are welcome Lynn. Thank YOU for sharing :o)
DrSean R Awesome, thanks !
I'm glad we agree. Your video was very informative and inspirational.
Some key points came out. Thanks
Hey Sean, I really liked your presentation and your message. I also noticed after looking at a bunch of TED talk speakers, you were the only one who conversed with people leaving comments.
Keep up the good work.
Thank you good sir! I needed this!!
+Marko Kerkez You are welcome!
This mind set I think will take me a long way. I have been plateauing recently, and that has been killing my will to practice. I think the recent loss at a tournament had ruined my thoughts of gratification (I had planned on winning). The fear of losing has kept me from continuing to play more tournaments but now it seems the only way to win more, is to be okay with losing.
Good to hear you got some insights from the talk Kendrick. The thing about accepting failure, is that acceptance is not the same things as liking. You can still dislike failure, but be OK with it as long as you have done everything you can to succeed. Good luck with it all!
Hola Sean! I'm from Venezuela and I am a psychology student, I want to be in a TED talk one day, it's one my dreams, I am always searching for information, reading and sharing things with people. I truly believe that we all have a purpose in this world and people need to know that, people need to know that even the smallest action has a meaning. I like the way you approached the subjet, i think it's really helpfull, especially nowadays. Thank u! I wish I could learn more from you.
+Mariana Rincon Thank you for your comments Mariana. Great to hear that you are chasing your dreams :)
He seems to be mentally strong. And I think that is why he looks so gorgeous.
Excellent topic thank you for sharing.
Thank you.. for this brilliant talk, i don't know, everytime i hunt for videos that could motivate me, i end up watching a video by TEDx.... Great speakers, Great work..
Thank you for the comments Vijay. TED is a great forum - I am inspired by so many of the talks! Glad you like this one.
This is a great talk. Thank you.
Dr Sean you are a rockstar sir! Thank you so much for doing this talk. you put together so many topics and how they interlink. As a fittness trainer and a Coach everyday these fundamentals are cornerstones for growth and development.
Thanks for the comments, George! Really appreciate it - hope you can use some of the topics with your clients.
This was brilliant. Not because you have a PhD, but because of your ability to get up on stage (fright) and share such groovy nuggets of 'pushing' through the stuff of life. I will say this talk has inspired me to get back on my mountain bike again. I'm 63. this talk was a 'Bookmark' to watch many times over.... to keep peddling, paddling and clear rambling.
Hi Susanna. Thank you for your comments! I am thrilled that you have been inspired to get back on your mountain bike... Went for a mountain bike ride myself today - bit of mental toughness makes those steep climbs go a little bit better ;)
Have you kept up with your mountain biking!!!?
So well spoken… Makes me want to give a Ted talk!!
Accepting failure!!!! The best advice ever!!! Thank u for yr inspiring words!!
Thanks for your comments Sevi!
No I thank u sir!! Wish u all the best for a wonderful life!!
Mr. Sean thank you indeed for such an amazing message.
In your talk you said "work with your feelings not against them". Could you please explain more about it? Or give an example of how to work with your feelings/ emotions. Again thank you for inspiring me.
Loved the presentation! I work with at inner city kids and I am using many of your quotes to inspire conversations in boys group
Take a bow man !!!!
Never heard a speech better than this, ever from anyone !
In fact what you have said is the exact message Bhagvad Gita gives but is difficult to comprehend for normal people. My humble suggestion is maybe you should read it. It will take your stuff to a different level altogether ... Cheers
Thank you Aditya. I really appreciate your comments and am humbled by any comparison to the Bhagvad Gita. All the best!
"What if the prescription they have can do more harm than good?" I've dodged the prescriptions and have never been better since. Thank you for the wonderful talk.
Hi Sean I just wanted to thank you for your speech it really does put a lot of things in perspective and I can truly understand that in most cases patience and a firm belief in what you yourself can do in life will get you their as long as you are mentally tough enough to accept other people's thoughts and beliefs but still have the courage to go for yours if you truly believe in yours, thanks very much
Thank you for you comments! Great to hear that you got something out of the talk!
This talk resonated with me more than any other. I have never heard anyone tie in
delayed gratification with emotional failure with belief in ability vs effort. WOW
No wonder our world is so screwed up! Thank you Dr Sean!
+welly192 Welly of Mack's PATS? :-)
+welly192 Thanks for the comments Welly!!
Really motivating and worth watching :)Thank you sir
Fantastic. I used to be unstoppable but gave it away. You have just set my soul on fire and i will be listening to you in the gym from now on ESPECIALLY WHEN I WANNA QUIT lol - ThankQ thankQ thankQ.
Great to hear that you got some of your fire back! We can all lose our spark from time to time for any number of reasons - we are human after all. To keep it burning, we have to find ways to tap into inspiration and purpose daily :)
Thats why we need people like you to brighten up our days and remind us of our purposed - thankQ
Great video! The mind is a limitless and powerful tool to use to our advantage. Nice!
awesome !!! love your work kx
This might just be the best TED talk i've ever watched...amazing stuff
Thank you Milan! I am thrilled that you liked it so much!
This. is the secret to happiness. to focus on the effort and not the reward.
Thank you! That was a wonderful talk.
thank you!
Phenomenal speech!
Thank you :)
DrSean R
Best pump up before writing a last minute essay ever!!
Hope the essay went well! Good to hear that the talk was motivating for you!
Dr. Richardson a lot of what you say sounds like the ACT model. I think it has a lot to do with our relationship to suffering which I think you address very well. thank you.
Joe so true we live in a different time. There are so many factors in our society that manifest this instant gratification society of today
This is truly amazing. Loved your speech. I am a sport science researcher myself and have been studying mental toughness through research journals. Your speech brings to a whole new level on Mental Toughness :-) Thank you. You are an Inspiration :-)
Thank you Ridhuan! Hope your research goes well.
Excellent Talk!
An excellent presentation to listen to whilst working through a mountain of paperwork! Very motivational, thank you :)
Glad you liked it Rachel! Hope you got through your paper work ;)
Your enthusiasm is making me enthusiastic. :)
Really good talk. I'm going to work on accepting my failures.
You can see that the big picture is paradise! so do good bare patience :)
Peace
Thanks for putting things in proper perspective. Great stuff.
My pleasure. Thank you for the comments!
Thank You so much for your personal reply - I was not expecting that. Your words are encouraging, there is hope for me yet :)
Great TALK! WOW