Reprogramming My Life | Starting Over in my 30s
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- Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2023
- Hi there, I'm Jenn!
Introducing myself and sharing a bit more about the purpose of this channel.
As a first-generation Filipino American, I was raised with the belief that stability, wealth, and security should always come first. However, as I've evolved and grown, I've come to realize that there's more to life than these traditional markers of success.
In this video, I open up about a pivotal decision I've made - choosing to take a sabbatical in pursuit of discovering my passions. It's a choice that challenges the very perspectives I was raised with, and it's a path less traveled, but one I'm excited (and so very terrified) to explore. I'm planning to create a series called "Reprogramming My Life," where I'll document my experiences, struggles, and triumphs as I navigate through the uncertainty.
I've deliberately chosen to record this video without a script because I just wanted to take the plunge and get started with RUclips. I also want to be raw and authentic with you all. It's a way for me to confront my own anxiety and perfectionism, and I hope it resonates with some of you who might be facing similar challenges.
Thanks so much for joining me on this journey!
Feel free to join my Discord community if you ever want to chat or share your story! / discord
Hi Jenn! I stumbled upon your video and want to say thank you so much for sharing!! I know that feeling of being scared to share yourself online, it's very courageous of you. I can also relate on trying to figure out where you're headed next (I've been working in healthcare for the last 10 years & now feel I am being led into something quite different). Change is scary but can be a good thing especially when you can be completely honest with yourself and realize the current path you are on is not in alignment with who you really are at this time. I also think you don't have to apologize or feel guilty for feeling this way. It is good you are learning to give yourself grace. We are constantly growing and evolving, and sometimes this new version of ourselves may require us to take big leaps of faith and let go of others/even our own expectations. Sometimes when we allow ourselves to grow and embrace the new season we're in, other people will also be uncomfortable because they have attached themselves to the old version of us. Anyway, I just want to encourage you to keep going even if the path is not totally clear yet, little by little what is meant for you will reveal itself. I will be praying for you, good luck on your journey! (:
Hi Bella! Thank you so much for writing this all out 🥹 It really means the world. And it feels good to know I’m not alone in wanting to switch paths. I’m trying my best to be kind to myself during this transition so I really appreciate the encouragement. I hope your journey has been going well for you - thank you so much for reaching out! ♥️
I just turned 32 last week, and I haven't really worked to say I have any sort of security. My faith is my only security blanket, and ironically I'm speaking as someone who's none religious and none spiritual. But so far every invisible ground I've stepped on has turned into solid plank/ground (whatever resonates with your imagination)... So I'm grateful to whatever has my back.
Happy belated birthday! Thank you for sharing your experience, I’m so happy for you and happy to hear it 🤍
I’m 39 and in a similar season of life where I need a new beginning with my career. I was in the mortgage industry for 20 years before being laid off. After 9 months of unemployment and losing both my parents, I found a job in commercial lending. After the death of my parents, it really hit me that I need to live my dreams because life is too short. During my unemployment, we used most of our nest egg. My husband doesn’t work as we opted to have one of us home to help with our special needs daughter. I found your page looking for inspiring women to learn from as I navigate one of the scarier transitions I’ve faced. If I could, I would quit and just try something new, but I need that money. I’ll be following your journey as a reminder to myself that I’m not alone - and neither are you. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I'm truly sorry for your losses and the challenges you've faced. Your strength and dedication as a mother are inspiring. Wishing you moments of joy outside of work that guide you toward the fulfilling career you deserve! Sending love and support your way ❤️
I love these types of journeys! It’s a roller coaster but your testimony in the end will be worth it
Thanks for the encouragement ☺️
Hi Jenn from another Jenn! I also work in tech as a product designer, entered my 30s this year, and started my RUclips channel late last year. I resonate a lot with your video 🥺 and following that itch, that curiosity to document life and figuring out what the next stage of life looks like. It’s brave and terrifying doing it all (and publicly) so thank you for sharing your journey. Looking forward to seeing your growth ❤
Hi Jenn!! It’s amazing how the universe (and YT) brings likeminded people on similar paths together. Thank you for reaching out ♥️ You are brave for sharing your life adventures as well, I’m excited for you as well. And your pup is so cute! I have a white doggo too 😊
got this video recommended on my youtube feed :) amazing to hear this courage and vulnerability - wishing you the best on this journey!
Thanks, Katherine! ☺️
The algorithm is doing its thing Jen! Thank you for sharing your story. I am 25 and in the process of figuring out what to do with my life. It’s refreshing to know that it’s okay to just stop and try to piece through it.
Thanks for tuning in! I wish you peace and clarity while you take the time to figure things out ♥️
Hello Jen! It’s hard going into the unknown but the journey will be a good one I already know it. I’m 35 and still trying to figure things out myself. Good luck on your journey!
awww - be gentle to yourself, Jenn. Be gentle - can't wait to see the exploration you take
Hi Jenn! I am the same age as you! For some time, I have been feeling the same, like I haven't reached what I thought I would by my 30s. So, I sometimes feel like a failure. But I am trying something new and hoping it will lead me to something different. I guess what I am trying to say is that I am glad that I am not alone in my 30s when I am trying to find my dream and my fulfillment and start it over. I wish you the best in this journey.
Hi there! Thanks for sharing your story 🤍 I’m happy to hear that you’ve set yourself on a new path. It takes a lot of courage to do that! Thanks for making me feel less alone too. Wishing you the best also ✨
Very cool to see another first gen filipina in the bay area going through a similar pivot in life! good luck and enjoy the process!
Hi Jenn! Keep going!!!!!
Hey Jen 👋 it’s so nice knowing you 😊 I understand how scary it can get while starting a little later than others. I can completely relate. as someone who is trying to figure out things on her own with the continuous fear of failure, i can tell you are very brave and courageous to do this. Finding something you would love ❤
And thanks for making us a part of it 😊
Hi Ranjana! Thanks for your kind words and sharing your experience. I too am afraid of failing which is why I’ve played it safe my whole life and took the traditional path. I’m proud of both of us for putting ourselves out there!
I read this quote today and it resonated with me - I hope you get something from it too!
“Failure is not the enemy of success, inertia, fear and apathy are. If you failed, it means you believed in yourself enough to try.” ♥️
Hi Jenn, I can relate to your feelings about the corporate world!
Hey Jenn, I'm glad I came across your video. I resonated a lot from what you were saying, and am grateful that you're being raw and authentic. I had the same thoughts of trying something new but haven't made the jump due to security. I feel like there's so much in the world to discover, but because I haven't found the opportunity to look around due to job hours, it's hard to come across it.😊
Hi there! Thanks for your comment! I am very risk averse and security is important to me, so I can definitely relate. On the bright side, at least you recognize there is an urge to find something new - that in itself is a great starting point ☺️ Whether or not it’s a new job, I hope you find something you enjoy (like a hobby or new interest) that points you in the right direction!
Hi Jenn! How cool that your video has had such a whopping start! As I am fast approaching 30, I am also questioning my life and where I'm going. I hope you find some clarity on this journey! Best of luck to you girlfriend!!
Thanks so much! I wish the same for you as well ♥️
Hello,Jenn! Thank you for sharing your experiences in life and be brave to pour out what you've been going through recently. I'm currently 26 and I'm looking forward for your life advice!
Hi Sierra! I’m no expert by any means but if sharing my experiences is helpful to others that’s all I could ever hope for ☺️ Thanks for following along!
You grow girl! you making this video is a courageous personal surrender. find you. You grow. Go you. :)
Hello Jen! Came across your video because I'm going through probably a step before you. I dislike my job, it's all I talk about to friends and family and realized that I am not happy and unsure of what I want to do. I will be following because I would love to see what your steps are. I wish you the best and can't wait what you have in store.
Hi Alex! Thanks for sharing your story. It’s great that you’re self aware and able to be honest with yourself about your situation. That’s the first step to change! To be honest, I think I lied to myself for a long time and convinced myself I was happy because my previous roles afforded me the lifestyle I wanted. But looking back, I was apathetic, and that’s no way to live either. I still don’t know what I want to do, but I hope the reflections and exercises I share down the line will be helpful. Maybe sometimes we just need space to think. Wishing you all the best! 🤍
This unscripted video is inspiring me to do the same thing and just go for it and post! My mom is from the Philippines and my dad from South Africa - I've heard the same language around landing a stable job, saving money, and having security my entire life. There is something that has always pushed me to pursue unconventional ways of making money. I'm happy you're on this journey and excited to follow along! Thank you for inspiring me. Subscribed :)
Thank you my fellow pinay 💛 Go for it! We all have a special story to share - rooting for you too and wishing you all the best!
i've been serving for the last decade as well and recently wanting to move on from that in the near future. i'm 28 and am terrified to go back to school to do what i actually want bc i know it'll take a long time. but the time will pass regardless, so i need to remember that. thanks for this video!! i'm glad it came up recommended to me.
Thank you for reaching out! I’m glad you know what you actually want to pursue - I know you’ll be ready to make the transition when the time comes. Rooting for you!
Hi Jenn... I'm happy to come across your channel and watch this video of yours. You are okay, and I think you'd do well. I'm exactly at the same phase as you, only much older at 44... with 2 kids :). I'm still having second thoughts if I should document my experience as well because I've already started my channel with some other content already... So, I don't know. BUT I wish you well, go Filipina! Kaya natin yan! Good luck!
Hi Rosanie! It’s nice to hear from a fellow Filipina 😊 Great channel BTW! I think ‘starting over’ is acceptable at any age and you should definitely document your experiences to help those who are in the same boat as you! I can imagine that having children who depend on you may make it a little more challenging to switch things up but your kids will admire your courage and your family will be stronger because of it ♥️
You are so not alone!! Thank you so much for posting 🤗 I’m 29 and planning on taking a sabbatical at 30. Just can’t do it anymore and similar feeling, that I never even gave the creative side of myself a chance.
Sabbatical at 30 sounds like a great idea! Life is too short not to give yourself a chance to do the things you love. I’m excited for you!
Congratz to you! I hope it will be your life’s biggest adventure
Thank you so much! ♥️
I just got laid off at almost 28 right before the holidays after working in my industry for about 8-9 years.. I have no idea what to do. I never had any idea what I wanted to do. I have no idea how I would take that much time with bills/family but I do want to take some time. Subscribed. I am with you
Hi Taylor, I’m so sorry to hear that. Job loss is so difficult emotionally, especially after 9 years of dedicated service and bills/family to look after. I don’t know where to start either, but I hope we both figure it out eventually ♥️
Filipino-born and now based in Austin, TX. Did a sabbatical for 22 months from 2020 to 2022 and it was the best months of my life! I got to hike 32 national parks with my senior Dad (lost my mom from cancer when I was 10 so this was a dream), publish a book, heal from forgotten trauma, and rediscover my mission to cure cancer, which is my new career path. Yay to you for taking the intentional path forward!!
Hello my fellow Filipina! What an amazing story 🥹 I’m very sorry about the loss of your Mom, but so happy you were able to create incredible memories with your Dad! Thank you for sharing. These are the stories I love to hear - intentional path is the right word. You gave yourself the time and space to heal and be with your loved ones, and uncovered your passions along the way. I can only hope the same for myself! What’s your book called?
Yes, take your time. The path is winding and unpredictable and that’s the beauty of this season. Discover what support looks like for you.. you maybe surprised what it ends up being. Clarify who you are- identities often get entangled with what we do. In times when you feel unsettled, know that’s normal. Stay open and curious. And my book is called Queen Speak Out: How to rediscover your voice and become your own champion in life and at work.
hi jenn! your video popped on my feed, and i am also a fil-am in her 30s starting life over and documenting via youtube as well 👋🏽
funny enough, i'm listening to the audiobook version of your 1st book recommendation! hope we can connect one day since we're on similar journeys 💖
Hi Jemellee! Thanks for reaching out! I love the vulnerability on your channel ♥️ Let me know how you like the book, I look forward to staying in touch!
Many people have this thought, including me. Let's make your dream happen and set a good inspiration for the world.
Okay i don't know why but felt called to click this vid!! i went to a specific part & your reading the same book i am!! YASSS haha in that moment i liked, subd & commented hehe craazayyy anywho thanks gal!
Hi!! Wow, what a coincidence! Thank you so much, and thank you for subscribing 🥰
this was so good keep going and i hope yo u explore photography as well
The journey is a mysterious one. If i may share, i was in my early 30s in consultancy for 5 years i left because i was looking for new ground. I got in contractor works and had a decent stretch of 5 years now mid 30s, things just gets hard and its begging on a new path. I wholy relate and if we may be get that sabbatical and explore our objectives. It would lead us somewhere. Most importsnt is to be in an environement that welcomes it
Thanks for sharing your leap of faith! I’m glad you had a great 5 year run. Though there may be challenges now, I’m certain there’s something better in store for you. I hope you have compassion for yourself while on this new path ✨ Excited for you!
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in my 20s. quit everything. Dropped out of school. Started this channel and reflecting on the same things you are.
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(fyi if you’re in your 20s and also navigating life - would love to see you around).
So happy for you! Congratulations on stepping off the default escalator of life and giving yourself a chance to choose differently. It’s not easy to connect on YT so I created a Discord community if you ever want to chat! ♥️ discord.gg/8FtszTg8
love this so much! i'll check it out, thank you :)@@sui.jeneris
Keep doing you girl
Thank you for sharing your voice. I’m 32 and want to change careers and try something else aside from being a graphic designer.
You’re welcome, I hope it’s helpful! Best of luck to you 😊
I am 36 and going through this stage as well.. resigned and currently unemployed … i left the company that i worked for more than 6 years because it killed my mental health and it took me months to recover from that… i am not sure whether i want to go back to working life, i guess i am still figuring out what is the next process…. just enjoying the moment…
I’m sorry you had that experience at work! It is a kind thing you are doing for yourself by taking time to figure out next steps ♥️ Wishing you all the best!
13th subb!!!
I cannot recommend you enough "The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron. It's a 12 week course where you basically learn to love yourself. Creativity is just a consequence of that. I'm subscribing to your channel ❤
Thanks for the recommendation! I just purchased it 😊
I'm 29 and just started in tech... and I get that. Since last march.... I think the world we live in now is far harder to work in due to technological advancement and far more competitive, this isn't a life, i hate every day i have to go to work. I wish I could have a huge break, whenever I look at my work laptop, my body hurts.
Hi Christina, thanks for sharing - I can definitely relate and I’m sorry you’re experiencing that - it’s draining. I hope you are taking care of yourself and doing things outside of work that bring you joy! And I hope we both find something we love to do, so it doesn’t feel like work 😊
I took a sabbatical in 2021. Best thing I ever did.
Amazing! How did it impact your outlook on life?
I'm just starting a new YT channel also and I'm also Filipina-American and can relate soooo much to everything you've shared. I'm also from CA! (San Diego) Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing 💕 Would love to connect if you're open to it :)
Hi, it's completely random that I comment here, but maybe you actually read it. if you have time off and feel that life is perhaps more then figuring out ways to save on your taxes then I'd recommend in no particular order: therapy (ego state, inner parts integration, somatic experiencing (find a very good therapist)), the gateway experience & core shamanism. I could also well imagine that if you follow this path then you will not necessarily want to publicly document that, whichi think would be just fine. All the best!
Hi Marton, thanks for your comment! Coincidentally, I’ve been looking for an ISF therapist however it’s been hard to find one who takes my insurance. “No Bad Parts” by Richard Schwartz is on my reading list since I wasn’t able to find one. Have you read it?
I’ll definitely look into you other suggestions, and hopefully I’ll be brave enough to share my experiences! ☺️
Promo'SM ☹️
Wait till your 40 and start over again
In the exact same place as you. 32 quit my job and trying to figure EVERYTHING out. Best wishes girl. 🫶
Amazing!!! Best wishes to you too ✨
I love this!! Thank you for sharing