feeling lost in my 30s | why I stopped searching for my purpose in life
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- Опубликовано: 30 май 2024
- In this video, I'll share a personal journey that completely changed my perspective on life. I used to be all about finding that one big life purpose, but then I stumbled upon something even better.
I talk about the idea that life isn't just about chasing a single purpose. Instead, it's about how we choose to spend our time, every single day.
I'll share my own experiences and thoughts on what happens when we find ourselves trapped in a monotonous cycle, not fully realizing how much time we're letting slip away. If you've ever felt like you're missing out on life, or if you've been stuck in a rut, this video is for you.
0:00 Intro
1:15 I’m wasting space
2:30 half life crisis
4:14 the big question & redirection
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I am so UNBELIEVABLY happy that we're all starting to talk about how wrong this all feels ! It's not just you !!
I’m wondering if it’s worse than we think
@@Zach-ls1ifyou wouldn’t be able to handle it. Should I tell you? Remember the truth is stranger than fiction
ok tell us @@RaptureHead1993
@@RaptureHead1993 shut up. I grew up homeless, I’ve had a crazy life
@@Zach-ls1ifmuch worse and much better. Same cycle.
I’ve never been okay with this existence. It is enslavement, and it wastes all of our youth. We should all be rising up, but we’re too busy trying to survive and too many people defend the systems that keep us this way. I completely agree with you. I’m 37, and I’ve felt this way for almost 20 years.
maybe the solution is to give up trying to find a goal and instead be happy with what we have already
What makes it worse is that theres a pharmaceutical store, alcohol store, and a church within reach of one another. So our options are either get high off pain meds, Get drunk or sit in a church with a group of submissive people, holding hands and sing "oh happy days."
We can't live off the land without a permit. This life we live is a complete joke. But dont worry. As long as we can vote, everything will be fine 😊
@frv6610
What if what you got is trash though? That’s what the problem is in Korean and high suicide rates.
@@Megamibunny R u Korean? What is the trash that makes them suicide?
I have a joke i made and when I tell it, it pisses off parents... ''what do parents say to their new babies?''...
''Welcome to Thunderdome.'' (Mad Max Movies)
I'm also 30 years old, italian, and I feel lost too: I'm always full of thoughts and I'm scared for my future. I'm not satisfied with how I feel now and I'm not very motivated. these videos make me feel less alone
Non sei da sola. Buona fortuna federica. A noi entrambi a tutti gli altri nei nostri panni
Abbraccio random ❤
Zona basso Lago di Garda. Tu?
Why does it matter you’re Italian.
no, no, being Italian has nothing to do with the topic. It was just to apologize if I wrote badly in English 😅
32 and definitely feel like I’ve had a midlife crisis for like 5 years. I think making realistic goals and working towards them everyday is helpful instead of trying to solve some big mystery in life. Maybe one day it’ll hit you, “oh I’m meant to do X” but honestly probably not. You’ll just decide the next thing you want to do (and the cycle repeats)
This is so true! Thanks for sharing!
I thought I knew I was "meant to do X" when I was 21-26, but as I got older and the job environment for that passion-career is so competitive, I don't feel that way anymore. And it's not that I'm so badly off, I still have a job in this industry and I have an impressive CV, but I'm tired of the competitive race and if my next job is not within my passion industry, so be it. Also, you learn that almost nothing is as good as it seems from the outside, and that usually a job is just a job at the end of the day. This year that I turned 30, I've prioritized life more and my work/career less. So I'm saying, even if that thought "I'm meant to do X" hits you, doesn't mean it will last. Doesn't mean it will solve anything. People change, life changes, your goals shift, reality hits and hits again, and that's fine, it's about how we face that which matters.
At 29 I was lost, not enough pay my wife left me for a another dude, I took time to reinvent myself and work harder & smarter. Currently leading a good life, six figure + income, I have a gf that loves me. I travel the world and I will be 33 next month.
You can pull through too. I love the honesty in your story hang in there
Thank you! your story inspires hope
Congrats
I feel inspired reading the comments, I'm walking the reinventing path. Tips ?
Thanks for the kind comments, reinventing is a personal path, do stuff that resonates with you. Learn new skills, read books, get your money right (it affects your life choices) , network with people, live to be happy!
Not everyone is motivated by money. A six figure income means nothing to me. I’m more impressed by you having a girlfriend that loves you. Glad you are doing well. Cheers
TY. I really needed to hear this, elaborate money tips ? I've not been really opportuned to have these kind of convos lately
I’m 26 and I feel like my options are not exciting enough to make me feel alive. Like are we supposed to live this lifestyle until we die? It’s like I don’t feel like participating in this mess. I feel you. And I thank you for making me feel less alone.
Which country would you like to go to?
Read the Quran brother. It will erase any nihilism you have. It did for me
I'm feeling this at 26. No work history because of depression and still in college. Idk where my life is going.
I'm in the same situation but I'm 28😢
It's not going anywhere, for Anyone. Sounds depressing but it actually freeing to know it.
Stay strong and also at 26 years your still young. No doubt you will make it with time
Im in the same age and situation
What do you mean by this?
doing 'enough', or just 'checking the box' in terms of having a job, etc.. it still doesn't bring a sense of satisfaction with life. The world said "jump". And you, me, we jumped. So what? Who cares? Now what? Did I enjoy jumping? No. Do I feel better now or look back at jumping fondly? No. I just checked a box. I did what I'm 'supposed to'. And I'm bored, uninspired by it. In fact, I'm upset that I spent my own time, the finite time I have to live.. that I spent ANY of it wasted in the arbitrary demand to jump, instead of something that moves me, something that DOES give a real sense of satisfaction, worthwhileness.
Im kinda in the same boat
Feeling lost in live, at 37 no friends no relationship
I have work but a lot of stress 😔
Same
Snap
you are not alone, we all are wandering around in this world.
At least you have job
lol, ye think about Africans @@mrssomeone2143
Step one : get out of bed . Step 2: less thinking and more doing. Step 3: Lose yourself to find yourself
Love this! Thank you for sharing!
Yes. Most of life is just about turning up.
I hate thinking. I wish I never started thinking at all. Thinking sucks.
Step 2 - MAKE BED! This way at the very least you can say you got at least one thing done today.
This was horrible, I'm sorry I even came here
Takes alot of courage and vulnerability to say what you're feeling on a big platform like youtube, I think many of us in this generation feel the same way, (feeling lost to varying degrees, living with parents, lack of funds etc) especially seeming to be the generation that was told we could do anything we wanted, one thing that's helped me was getting sober, focusing on just me, and helping my family, and making some rough goals for a future that I want and aiming for those. 30 is just under half of our life if you go off of a rough 70yr life expectancy, but 30 in the grand scheme is still very young. You can still have a 40 year marriage, a long career, still plenty of time to travel the world or learn new skills. Think of how many people you can meet in 40 years! I'm rooting for you abbey and everyone in the comment section. It's alot of work and it's hard, things unfortunately dont happen overnight and there will be bad days but you just have to keep going and love yourselves. Best of luck all of you.
"... seeming to be the generation that was told we could do anything we wanted..." Yes, I think the distance between how we grew up with the current reality is really challenging. As children we prepared for a future that no longer exists. How do we recalibrate our programming? How do we achieve the definition of success when life is so much harder now?
I'm hoping that we can keep having this conversation about redefining what happiness and success can mean.
When i was in my late 20's. just like you, i didn't really look at time or getting older as being an issue. I've heard so many times that 20's were stressful and that going to your 30's everything would becomes less stressful. I was busy studying and building what i would like to become in my 30's. Having a good job that i like, having a family, enjoying life as an adult. Turns out, 30's have been even more stressful for me than my 20's. I'm now feeling that with most of goals gone, there is nothing left of my youth and that i'm pretty much going nowhere.
I told my fiancé about my feelings for work. I think it came as a shock to her. She has a career she is passionate about, and for that, I’m so happy and proud of her. But I can’t say the same for myself.
I feel like a lot of us were mislead in our youth; get a degree, get a job, get a this, get a that. Looks good on paper, but in practice, a shit ton of jobs are soul crushing and do not give us purpose.
I don’t really know what to do? I somewhat feel like any job I could get, would just be the same shit, over and over again. That is the ultimate question, what do I want to do with my life? I know what I’m interested in, but I have no idea how to monetize it… is this life? Just the same bullshit over and over? I don’t really wanna play this game. I just know that I would like to work with my hands more.
It’s funny, when I was an engineer working long hours, fixing equipment and executing a job, I found more satisfaction than I do now, but at that time, all I longed for was an office.
I totally understand where you coming from, I been in Tech for a long time, worked in corporate environments as well, I hated it every day, saved enough money took a career break for 6 months to really slow down, start living again. I advise would be to find a fulling, meaningful work where you make a difference in the world or someone’s life. And most importantly a job where you feel good, and you just know that this is right. We all go through rough times in live it’s kind of a sign and redirecting us to the right path. Stay positive, things don’t stay the same for ever if you’re patient good things will happen to you at the right time, take care.
I feel the same!! I feel like there’s no way out and just have to work. Health insurance is tied to work, and of course I need that pay check. I think the system wants clogs just keep laboring away, but as a person who stuck in this system I feel very sad. I want to work with my hands, build my life, grow flowers and vegetables, raise animals, have friends, read, exercise, etc etc. But my life has just turned into one thing- work.
never related so much. not happy in my 9-5 and on the verge of getting laid off but I don’t have a desire to look for another draining 9-5. the only thing that appeals to me is making RUclips videos, traveling and fashion. so I’m really working hard to turn my passions into work, and be my own boss. we will figure it out, it’s all part of the process.
why do I always hear negative things about 9-5 jobs? isn't that what people always wanted? weekends off, set schedule? I would LOVE a 9-5 job.
@@jesseluv13 A 9-5 job isn’t something everyone wanted it is something everyone was taught in school and I’m sure if you could be your own boss doing things on your terms you would and leave a 9-5 job
@@aaronb1226 You're about that!!
Did you know that you can go to Heaven for free? This one decision can change your life and eternity forever. You've heard that Jesus Christ died and rose from the dead - it means He paid the price for your sins so you can be forgiven, saved and have a personal relationship with your Creator. All you have to do is be willing to have your life and heart changed, believe in your heart that Jesus rose from the dead and follow Him daily. Watch how the Holy Spirit moves in your life.. much love and God bless you!!
As someone who’s almost 30, this video is a big mood
Life is not that deep. It’s just for experiencing. And if one day you feel like changing, change. Live for the day. Just focus on making the next day better.
I’m questioning why RUclips is recommending these gems to me, i swear sometimes i feel like I’m living in a simulation after the pandemic
Going through your 30's is a time of transition. And expectation. In many cases, we are waiting for something to "happen" or for a light to come on which will
illuminate our path. It can also be a time of failure, disappointment and discovery. You have discovered that there is more to life than working or being alone
Humans are social beings. We are also created beings. Our purposes is higher than working, earning a paycheck and then consuming. You are on the right
track. You are asking the right questions. I think you will find the answers you are looking for. I will pray for you.
Im in this exact same rut, i havent been able to find work for 3 months now. Laying in bed all day everyday just filling out applications and watching videos like this on RUclips. I dont have a purpose I don't have goals. My goal as a kid literally was winning the lottery literally my teacher told me to come up with a more realistic dream and ever since that day i just havent found anything i want to do for the rest of my life. Last time i actually lived was in college. Those were my last happy days where i actually felt like i was living. Idk what to do besides put in applications. I tried to get into the trades but i cant afford the classes honestly. I wish i would of took the technical path in highschool but they was pushing everyone to go to college. And i honestly dont even know how i went to college with my grades and how much i skipped
I can relate. I work a lot and save what I can to avoid the rent hikes and buy property. Still trying. I carry the weight of those who slack and I hate it. I overwork and scared to quit my job. Nothing is going as planned. I live day by day now. Little by little is better than no improvement. Also single and living with my family. Feel like a failure tbh.
At least you have a family to live with.
@@awakenedone7577”at least” hush
Live with your family as long as possible and save 80% of your income.
Thank you for expressing your thoughts. I feel slightly better that I have been feeling the same way ever since I turned 21. Birthdays have been reminders that my life has gone nowhere. Lowkey I blame the school system for telling us we can be millionaires if we worked hard enough. But its just cope for my situation. These past few years I have grown into the role of average woman. My peak was in high school. I was intelligent enough to earn high scores in class. But that was it. I was only good at listening. Not much good at anything else. I wish you well in your journey and rest every once in a while. You deserve it.
I can relate to everything you’ve said in this video, as someone in my 30s.
Did you know that you can go to Heaven for free? This one decision can change your life and eternity forever. You've heard that Jesus Christ died and rose from the dead - it means He paid the price for your sins so you can be forgiven, saved and have a personal relationship with your Creator. All you have to do is be willing to have your life and heart changed, believe in your heart that Jesus rose from the dead and follow Him daily. Watch how the Holy Spirit moves in your life.. much love and God bless you!!
Im in my 20's and diploma graduate during pandemic.. after college, I started finding whatever jobs I can find and I ended up leaving two jobs tat I work only for around 6 months (the management in the workplace was hell, as junior worker I am often almost do everything, while others just escaping work, sleeping etc.) Now here I am unemployed for almost 8 months 😢.. I am really scared to work again.. yet I dont want to be a burden to my family..
Ive been out of college for a year and a half now and can't land a job in my suburban area. A lot of the turn downs were due to finding candidates with experience. I wasn't able to land any internships due to covid. You're in a good place atleast, better off than some so maybe knowing this can get you going.
@@bradleywelch9290 I am going through the same thing right now. Don’t lose hope…things will get better whether if that takes another month or two years (at least that is what is keeping me motivated).
@@auburnrenaissance Thanks bro, Just sent in two more applications two days ago. I plan on calling up and physically going to business with my resume again. I tweaked some of my past credentials to make them look more attractive. Like for example, I volunteered at a YMCA as a teen, so I worded that as "Experience in customer service" because we had one project where we surveyed random people lol. The whole application process has such a massive learning curve but my motivation is that I always see room for improvement and other methods to approach.
Also, my mom i providing me with a roof over my head and food, so I'm comfortable at the very least while searching.
I'm praying things get better for you too, stay at it.
@@bradleywelch9290completely relate. Graduated back in May 2022 and still have been struggling to land something in my desired field and just good paying jobs in general but just got an offer for a company that I’m suited with. Try applying to temp agencies, reaching out to HR directly and or even see if you can have a friend put in a reference. Cheers to both of us to have better opportunities in 2024. You’re not alone and we’ll get through this 🙏!!!
I don't quite "get it" but I'm 55 and lived my life pretty much by my own terms. Sure,I have jobs I hate but I like monster movies. I like reading comic books. I like old school drive-ins. I like new wave/industrial/goth music. Just walk the Earth like Caine in Kung Fu. Like Doug Stanhope said "There used to be fun in the world". I'm sitting here watching Dracula's Kung Fu THeater and eating some garlic cheesy bread and drinking a Cotton Candy Bang and I feel great. Everything isn't SO hard. I died when I was younger and came back so that might have gave me some perspective but even then,we had fun in the 70s and 80s. It was bliss..Also,you may need some niacin and inositol.
I really feel everything you’re saying. I heard a good quote today that floored me. “The cave we’re most afraid to enter, holds all the treasures we are seeking” after hearing this I knew what I needed to be doing - hope this helps someone else
The time thing is so real.
I know how much time as has passed without looking at clocks.
10am already feels like half my day is gone.
Sometimes my job takes so much energy from me, I feel like if I don't come home, relax and consume all the fun things, Ill miss out on the chance and because before I know it I have to wake up and be at work again.
When I was younger, I thought I wanted to be a Architect, Work in Medicine or Tech but all those industries seem boring as hell now. So much red tape and bureaucratic control.
I want to create things on my own put them out in the world.
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I feel the same way. 32 and just feel like life is meant to be so much more than it is. I’ve got a lot of health issues and I feel tired of trying to fit into ‘normal’ societies standards.
Hey there many issues can be REVERSED. What do u have please?
It’s so comforting to know that it’s common for people in their 30s to now know what they want to do in life. This has stressed me out so much. I feel like everyone around me has it figured out and I’m still trying to find financial security and see what’s next
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 9 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,452 subs and > 1,000 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Keep going!!!
@@Ae-ql5is Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my RUclips channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a RUclipsr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this RUclips thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)
So much of what you say, I'm feeling myself as a 27 yo. Feeling like all my days are the same, still living with parents, seeing things I want to do but not having the discipline to do them. I think your advice about small changes is exactly right - as someone who studied economics in undergrad, I like to think of it is "marginal changes". You're not doing some giant change, but rather a small, gradual change. And, you push along many margins. So I start exercising, and also start a little bit of cooking, and a little bit of self-care (hygiene, grooming), and a little bit of reading, and even a little bit of dating, all at the same time. The progress I see in one area, although small, motivates me to keep pushing in other areas, which in turn motivate further pushing, etc. I've also noticed that my bad habits have started doing the opposite, i.e. gradually decreasing. I spend less time playing video games and less time on youtube than I used to, by quite a bit. I feel like I'm reaching the "inflection point" where the snowball is going to really start taking off!
TL;DR: I'm in a similar situation and totally agree with the strategy of small positive changes in a number of areas. They add up and reinforce each other, causing big change over the long run. Good luck in your journey as well!
maybe just be happy with what you have in life, that's it, it's not worth wasting the now for some silly future goals
I’m in my 30s and am jealous of my high school friend who is married and has 2 kids now. I’m single and fear that I’m running out of time to have healthy babies. Even if I meet someone now and marry in 2 years, it’ll be +3 years until I have a baby and I fear all the pregnancy risks. Some of my friends in my 30s have had miscarriages.
I feel you on that (even though I’m only 25). I wanted to be a young dad somewhere in his 30s with two baby boys yet I don’t even have a girlfriend or job (graduated college late). Not saying it won’t happen but I just feel like time is running out.
@@danielramotowski5187 time doesn’t really run out for men. Especially if you’re financially secure
You can have a miscarriage at 17. If you really want kids focus on being prepared to receive them when they come, not on finding Mr Right. PI mean, focus on your career, on getting a good paying steady job, save as much as you possibly can,p be at peace with yourself and your situation and when you feel you can provide for a kid, make one and have it on your own. Your financial stability is in your hand, whereas finding Mr Right is totally by chance. Don't waste your time WAITING for somebody or something that may or may not happen.
I'm feeling in the same boat. I feel like I never made or concentrated on the big life decisions/goals in my 20s and its really hit me in my mid to late 30s. I could be paranoid but it feels like I've probably got to the age where people have started to pity me now and it's even harder seeing people you grew up with ticking all the boxes. Definitely had some dark days with it in the last couple of years. I find myself comparing myself to my parents at my age quite alot. If I was from a really difficult background/upbringing then as bad as that is I'd probably feel at least relieved to have an excuse. It's hit me that it's my bad decisions and naive life perceptions (always thinking something will come along) that have got me here.
What big life decisions?
@@jozzz222 Bad way of putting it. I meant life goals.
Don't compare yourself to people. It just makes you feel bad and in reality you don't have the full story. People love to act like their life is harder better than yours, but it's all so silly bc what can we do. It changes nothing.
Just say this is MY story and focus on yours. 🎉
i have 2 jobs. I collect dividends that pay most of my bills. I doing well financially. Healthy. Ive been working for the last 10 yrs of my life. Iam in my mids 30s and feel exactly just like you. Even if ur busy doing something i dont see much meaning in it. At least my case. Maybe life wasnt meant to be this long.
That’s scary. You sound like you got your shit together and still feel empty. Here’s me thinking if I can just be this and do this..
I can so relate, those thoughts are scary…
how are you able to collect such huge dividends?
I also played animal crossing during the pandemic. I made the perfect lil town with lil friends and thought "why can't I be like this in real life?" I mean have friends I talk to everyday, doing meaningful things for the community and being creative.
For me reality hit when I got a major health problem. It gave me the sense of time and how everything is so temporary. The pandemic amplified that. Nothing felt safe anymore and nobody really had answers.
So I think our purpose in life is this. To love each other, and to find Jesus/God. That's it and with that everything kind of follows. I'm still learning this myself, but everything outside of that really is meaningless I noticed, so that must be it. Love. That's the answer.
I go through similar thought process from time to time. I feel like a slave to the system. Sometimes I just wanna give everything up and just live somewhere in the wilderness-grow my own vegetables and fruit, hunt, build my own house, etc lmao
Thank you for posting this!
th problem with what we are dealing is that its all deep rooted into society, we are expected to have a house, spouse, kids maybe and not complain about it. time moves so fast and theres very little chance to maybe study something new or start a new career path.
I love your channel so much. This are really important conversations to have.
This is so raw and so real thank you, sometimes I share similar sentiments
I admire you can talk about this things about life, i feel the same way even if i put goals i feel i havent done enough with my life, this is the first video i see in your channel, i hope i can learn how to feel happier and fulfilled. Thanks.
Well done - you seem to be working out your life and growing. Keep at it - you sound like you are heading in a better direction.
I’m feeling many of those same feelings. Half life crisis or having that same feeling about time. Some days I feel like I am even more aware of each hour as it passes. I really love how much I connect with you and your videos. I guess in a way it helps me know that I’m not alone.
Very relatable I feel the exact same way I have been working and trying to change habits to better myself but it is scary feeling like a waste sometimes but time will tell we can make a change for the better it’ll just take time. Great video btw very real and transparently relatable.
I totally understand what you feel because I’m experiencing this question recently. Thank you for bringing up this conversation. I love to hear everyone thoughts on this topic and hopefully I will get through doubts soon
It's very hard to make new routines when life is the same each day each month each year... Nothing changes
Yeah
I feel like it really doesnt matter what you do, literally everbody is questioning their descisions because there is always someone else who has it different and we try to compare because everbody wants it the best way right? But there is no rule in life you can literally do what you want and live your own lifestyle.
Passion, passion makes life worth living. I touch up on this on my channel. Take it from someone who suffered from panic attacks, anxiety and depression. I’m 30 years old and have been through a lot, but right now I’m in a place where Im really turning all that around. You can do it. There are no rules to life. We are just here to live and love. You’re aware which is a good place to be, not many people are.
Wow I definitely needed to hear this. I definitely relate to the feeling of being lost in my 30s that you pointed out. This year has been a rough ride but I’m here. I’m starting to realize and accept more that the purpose in life isn’t a question to be answered. I just need to live, enjoy and make the most of what is now.
this resonated with me so much. feeling like this is why i recently quit my job - no purpose or direction. it got so bad i also wondered whether there was any reason to keep going if every day was the same bland thing again. you are a sweet soul and i'm glad seeing your recent videos things have changed after all. thank you for sharing :)
Holy shit this is so relatable to me. Animal crossing and all! You’re worth all the space you take up. I’m telling you and I’m telling myself this. Sending so much love to you.
I admire your honesty. It's ok to not know how everything will work out. Perhaps that's the beauty of it
Thanks for sharing. I've been feeling the same way, I'm also in my 30s.
It's pretty rough to deal with at times. It's like we're all born to do almost nothing but work. Gotta keep working and if you don't manage to save enough for retirement you'll probably work until you drop dead. And none of the 'dream jobs' out there are reall that dreamy when you start actually doing them, so don't think that you're going to find a job that's going to always make you happy.
I relate to this 1000%. When you've been really productive and it gets screeched to a halt put of your control (like the pandemic did for many of us) . I think the lesson is actually that life cannot be all go go go and we have empty spaces sometimes. I am trying to just enjoy being comfortable for now, even if i feel lost. It's the first time.
you are not alone with all of those feelings, iam in the same boat and so are many others as you can see. and there is a lot who also feel like this but are just not open about it. iam just trying to not pressure myself anymore because life is not a race and everyone has their own story.
i compare myself too much with other people which is very toxic for me because our mind will always find ways to make us look bad compared to others, but we dont see the struggles they have and went trough to get where they are.
all we can do is look forwad and keep improving ourself, try to not to get eaten up by things that happend in the past. its best to live in the moment and try find things that make you feel good right now, you never know what the future holds and you cant change the past.
i hope all works out for you at the end, just keep going and dont beat yourself up too much :)
Wow I thought I’m alone… I’m 26 and this is exactly what I’m going through.. I dread working but when I’m not working I’m not really doing anything. I used to be so excited graduating college and earning money to spend on hobbies but I lost all motivation months before my graduation. I was burnt out. It doesn’t help that I’m living with my parents whom I don’t have a good relationship with. I hate going to work but I feel like I’m not doing anything worthy when I’m not working. So I’m stuck into this vicious loop where I feel depressed. I dread going to work but I would rather go to work than stay home. I would go to work. I’d go home and browse on my phone. I have no motivation to do anything else. I just want to be happy and inspired again
Thanks for sharing your perspective!
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All the comments are from people in their 20's and 30's struggling with the same issues. As a nearly 70 year old grandma, I believe people, mainly women, have been sold the 'untruth' that a career is your path to independence, financially and maybe from men and marriage and your trajectory to happiness. I have heard from my son many men do not want to marry anymore and I guess the ladies too. In my generation, we usually were married early 20's and had our kids by 30. This provided a sense of purpose, a reason to get up daily and each day was different and had joy (usually!!). We were so busy (exhausted) and involved that we didn't time to question our purpose. Kids brought connection to the community, something so lacking today - connection. This brings depression. I think our society has become unbalanced. I did have a career as an engineer (first generation of women to be part of 'women's lib') but my 'career' didn't hold a candle. Ask yourself - when you leave a job, who will even recall your name in 2 years? If you don't have a circle of friends, volunteer - get out there and connect. Put the phones and social media away.
I am 28, also single, originally from Poland but living in Germany, because of higher wages. I have a job, but as I was 23 and came here, I was thinking that I will find gf and just be happy, instead I am now 5 years abroad and didnt achieved much, even thought I did also 2 years school here. I dont know what to do...
Ja to samo w Niemczech od lat , 32 lata stuklo a ja bez celu
UGH! It only gets worse. I used to struggle with not being where I felt I should be in life. Somehow I managed to acquire a fairly large business. Am I happier? Hell no.
just be happy with what you have. God can take away our most precious loved ones at any time. count your blessings and trust that everything will work out. Dont compete with anyone, you will feel much better. just take one day at a time and enjoy the little things in life. no one is promised love, marriage, career success, health...pray and hope for the best. also stay away from people that judge you or that you feel are toxic to your happiness.
i’m with you.❤
I've never been cool with working 40hrs a week until I die and I alway thought that people who were, were crazy! I've been thinking about death and its sweet release for decades now.
I am in this crisis since I turned 18. I think it's because our current understanding of work and productivity is deeply flawed. I don't know how people can be happy staring at a computer monitor for 40+ hours a week. Furthermore, I feel disconnected and trapped in a career path I don't really want. But what other options do you have? Without a job and money, I will starve and don't even have small moments of happiness anymore...
totally feeling this right now. i feel like i’ve seen alot of content posted about starting over in your 30’s.. but for me, it feels more like im just starting 😅
Its okay just existing. But thanks for this video. I have been looking for others peoples thoughts on the subject. I am 37 and I have already done so much but it also doesnt feel like im at the spot I want to be in life.
As a person of Asian descent I can totally relate about Asian immigrants being so tough about making a living via college degree.
Thank you for sharing this video💖
Thanks for watching!
do you do a lot of travelling? I find that travelling to other countries, looking at and experiencing other ways of life and enjoying life in other places and meeting new people along the way helps a lot with enjoyment, generating ideas and goals and picturing things way further ahead. the experiences you get whilst travelling can be life changing. hope to hear more about you - you sound interesting 🙂
I don't since I work a lot but maybe I should take a long vacation. Life is short. Thanks for sharing!
I think we shouldn't have to conform to what society and others expect of us. Everyone has there own journey and set of circumstances.
Still living at home is nothing go be sniffed at. I did until my mid 30's. They were some of the most meaningful times i have ever spent with my parents. It was only a stroke of blind luck really that i managed to buy a house before the pandemic hit.
I feel greatful for that but it isnt everything trust me so keep focused, do what you can, with what you have and where you are.
And remember you are enough😊
I relate to so many things about this video, makes me feel less alone
Things do no get better!! Life is now. The moment is all that is true.
I've been lost all my life
I’m in the same boat at you. My problem however is I’m an introvert. I’m also in my 30’s and live at home with my family but not because I can’t move out but because they need my help financially as they’re in their 60’s and dealing with economic stress as in one got laid off before retirement and another has been getting their hours cut so for the last 5 years I’ve been helping pay bills. I could go on and on about the similarities between your situation and mine so I won’t. I stopped caring though when I realized it’s stupid to make plans and goals because most likely where you finish in life is going to be way different than what you imagined it would be.
There is no purpose, you just have to be graceful in all your actions
Relatable. My main issue is not having a real passion. Don’t really dream of labor and have no major goals. Life is hard, especially with no personal purpose
I really think so many of us are feeling this way, and the ones who aren't are hiding from it. I spent my 20's trying sooo hard in my career. I'm 31 now and so burnt out cause life and these crazy societal expectations. And, I'm not where I want to be in my career. LOL. Theories on productivity, hustling, goal setting and dream chasing are just not realistic in the way we were "sold". With "time" I've noticed myself becoming more reclusive to protect myself and conserve my energy just to invest in figuring out my day to day. I am currently in the process of starting a new career making less money and in a totally different field. I was once a 7 day a week workout person, to now maybe 3 days a week light exercise. I guess my point it, even when we feel like we arent doing enough, sometimes when we come to these tough realizations we need time to just go through it and accept what we truly want, and what we can actually accomplish on our own. Thats the real work. Nothing wrong with not having a purpose, but rather just finding simple pleasures in the mundane. Which also takes time to get to.
I'm 29 finna turn 30. I still live at home with my parents. Girl you, asian your gonna age well so you still have a looooooong time. I recommend you get rid of social media, because you will be forever comparing your self to someone else instead of focusing of your own happiness. Having that abundance mindset helps as well.
Pressure of being more productive is a real thing.. I can relate to it so much.
Hey Abbey, I can totally relate but in a different way, I was in a bad funk years ago, I was feeling that loop as you described but for me it was different, a feeling of post-traumatic stress. Living in a bad area, couldn't focus with work, dealing with things in Covid, roommate problems, crime, etc. Just turned 30, moved to my first one bedroom apartment looking for new work, trying to start a side business, trying to pay down debt, getting off of anti-depressants, FmewdsFmesFdealing with annoyances with family. Looking for new doctors too. Have stress with moving into a new apartment.
YES youre gonna feel like this for the rest of your life. And countless people for all of human history has felt the same. But now we are privileged to be able to contemplate it and possibly do something about it at younger and younger age. So even if you feel like this everyday, dont forget to put things in context and be thankful that youre in your situation. Then go and live your life
Preach! Relate to everything you're saying!
Hmmm ... I think you might be overthinking this life thing. My suggestion: stop putting off your happiness. Instead of thinking of your life as a series of achievements, like an eternal to-do list, think of the things that make you feel wonderful, and do them.
What did you absolutely love doing as a kid? Dancing? Do a solo dance party - right now! Drawing? Take out a piece of paper and get to sketching. Music? Practice an instrument you already have or maybe learn a new one.
Then figure out how to make these joys a regular part of your life. Life isn't just about achievements - it's about *living.*
Or, another suggestion - if you knew you were going to die in one year - what would you do to feel you've made the most of your time while here? Start doing those things.
Best of luck in your journey - I truly hope you build a life that completely exhilarates you.
✨ internet hugs ✨
Midlife crisis when I was 28, I’ve never gone to college so I pursue nursing school, something I’ve always wanted to do. Now, I’m living my dream being in a nursing program. It was tough and challenging. I don’t think I’m gonna make it this semester. I do love the aspect and knowledge of nursing but I came to realized that the stresses and the healthcare system that associated with it isn’t for me. But I’m happy that at least I’ve tried and thank god that I don’t have a student loan since I attended a local community college. I’m much happier working as a nurse aid, less stress and flexible hours (take note: my cousin is a CNA nursing assistant who made $90k depending on your agency)
WOW if I could go back 5 years i would go to Nevada
The thing is you are neverrr gonna feel like doing the things that you really wanna do so stop waiting to ‘feel’, it never happens. Just ‘do’ what brings a sense of meaning into your life.
yeah i came to a similar conclusion. For me its pursuing a "short" to ""medium" sized goal, to get to the next point in life. I also am in a similar boat, I got laid off and spent 3 months playing WoW. Currently looking for work again. Its interesting to see that others are going through something similar.
Sounds like the age old question “What’s the purpose of life?”, I pray that you find yourself when the time comes.
It’s never too late 🕊️
Life if meant to enjoy, if you feel apatic and don't see any joy in your life, it's probably something from your past is weighing on you. Or it could be the beliefs or programmes or attitudes you have or past traumas which you might have forgotten about, the reasons can be different. I do coaching on this and I've seen how people change and get happier. You can push yourself to do stuff to distract yourself, but if you haven't fixed the past issues it won't do much of a help. I believe the purpose of life to enjoy it, and if you're not enjoying it, finding the way of how to do it. Therapy or finding a mentor could be a good option to guide you to the right direction and get the perspective.
You’ll be okay. I know you're very strong and independent.
Very simple for me. The pandemic reverted me back to my true self. A hippy nerd.
And a ton of people are shocked by this or can’t believe it. So it’s totally made me distant and reclusive. Which is also another trait of mines that many people don’t know they just think it’s a problem.
Sometimes, people are just problems. It’s not you babe.
As you can see many of us are on the same boat, i think time with refrain from dropping our anchors and finally set sail to prevail whos with me!!
Late 40s here. The key is to challenge yourself everyday. Have a goal. And don’t put too much pressure on yourself to meet that goal but try your best to work towards it. I’ve practiced this and have felt fulfilled
I’m 37.. achieved absolutely nothing in my life while everyone around me that I know has moved on to better things. And I am happy for them. I lack ambition and I have no direction in life, I’m a coward to change and I can’t find it in me to better my life or self in anyway. I strongly believe that I am a waste of air and space. The thoughts of me being a burden on everybody around me is ripping me apart from the inside that’s why I chose to cut everyone out of my life. I serve no purpose on this earth.. I am just a waste of resources and space. I contribute nothing to anyone including myself. It’s 100% my fault for where I am and I am a coward and a loser. I always search for the path of least resistance. I’m a weak loser and a waste of space. I’d better be sand, at least that way I could possibly serve a purpose some day.
I am still live with my parents and don't care anymore. There is nothing wrong to play your game.
Same and it’s okay
Hi, I just randomly find your channel. I also live in Chicago and I need to ask. How did you find your downtown apartment ? I sawed the video that you made last year. Did you used a website ? Can you tell me where this building is located ?
If you want to know what you want to do with you life or purpose ask your self first what can you do to help others and you’re already half way there
I honestly feel the same!
The day I realised my purpose of pleasing God by serving the needy, I was peaceful.
You could also give it a try. God bless :)
On "living to work" Don't work a tech or office job for a big corporation.. The politics, always walking on eggshells, lack of security and growth take a toll. I was laid off last year and the time I was unemployed was actually a really happy time for me. Its different for everyone but I was able to breathe, spend time with family and do whatever I wanted. Might have also felt that way because prior to that I didn't take a vacation in about 5 years.
I'm back on the 9-5 grind but now my goal is to be self employed by next year.
Don't want to depend on anyone and if i want to take more than a week of I can without anyone looking over my shoulder