“When you say no, you are only saying no to one option. When you say yes, you are saying no to every other option. No is a decision. Yes is a responsibility. Be careful what (and who) you say yes to. It will shape your day, your career, your family, your life.“ - James Clear
@@agee7777 There is no shortage of nice people in this world. I did not state my reason for saying no or I do not want to. I generally say this to people who are toxic, or try to get me to join a church group or club when I have no interest to do so whatever. Have a great day.
@@agee7777 Well that is how I feel. It is my opinion which naturally is not that of everybody. I feel in life it is best not to waste time with people who always tell others what they should or must do. Also I have some nice friends and we do invite one another. Have a nice evening Adam and enjoy life.
Next 30 day challenge ideas: 1. I became vegan/vegetarian for 30 days. 2. I tried zero waste for 30 days. 3. I quit fast food for 30 days. I need to see Matt living in a tree for 24 hours 😂
Next 30 day challenge ideas that follow up the ones you suggested: 1. I quit eating for 30 days 2. I quit drinking for 30 days 3. I quit sleeping for 30 days 4. I quit existing for 30 days 5. I quit dying for 30 days. lol, sorry, I went too far probably haha
I love the plant-based/vegetarian for 30 days idea! Matt, watch The Game Changers on Netflix. I worked on it - so shameless plug. I think you'll like it, though.
quality over quantity for books. Books become useless if you just see them as goals to get through because you want to flex as an intellectual. Find genres you like and dig through the layers of meaning to find the author's message
My new year's resolution is to start setting more boundaries. I need to learn to say no especially at work. I'm tired of being exhausted doing for others. I want to have time to take care of myself.
This was so great! The art of saying no is vital especially for small biz owners. I have found that it is also helpful to convey boundaries to others and ourselves.
I have to be honest...it’s hard to say no and this video really made me feel not guilty from steeping back and not allowing to give in to everything gets into my way. Thanks Matt
Matt in the opening of an episode named “I said no for 30 days” would be like “Saying no to the requests you receive and you don’t have time for them is a pretty difficult thing and that’s why for the upcoming 30 days, I will say no to one request each day”
loved the way you tell people to go to teamtrees while saying dont go and doing a matt style video with quotes and acts that can change your life. good job.
The part about spending way too much time researching/planning on a thing that actually doing matter to much to you at this present time... mannnnn *i felt that*
Perfect timing. My roommate asks me to do everything with him and I spend practically every waking minute with him as it is. NO NO NO but he makes me feel guilty every time I say it -_-
Gerardo I always say no. I said it 3 times yesterday for little things like going to the gym or getting a bite to eat. I always say no but it makes me feel quilty, which is what I’m getting at. I appreciate my time alone but when I tell him no he takes it personally and I get bad vibes
I'm a substitute teacher who often ends up teaching "life lessons" and practical advice, moreso than the textbook or seat work that the regular teacher leaves behind. Matt, I've recently stumbled across your channel and have to say that your advice, words of wisdom, and perspective on life are inspirational. I've shown a few separate classes your videos and they seem to resonate with you. Thank you for the effort that you put into your videos. They push me to try harder every day!
Thanks matt Now i release how i aint getting time to study for school but now i realise i am giving away my time like its totally free and i have no personal commitments
My subscriptions list tl in order: 1. Matt D’Avella: *The Art of Saying No* (inspired by Mr Beast’s project) 2. Veritasium: *Why trees are out to get you* (also inspired my Mr Beast’s project) “ “ “
Matt: Hi Jimmy, sorry I won't make it to shoot anytime #teamtrees Matt: Makes a video talking about #teamtrees Me and 2M others: checks teamtrees.(org) Jimmy: lmfaooooo. Matt you're the man!
I grew up with a mom who didn't have a clue how to say no (to others. Was ok with saying it TO ME). Anyway, I had a terrible example of coping with "I said yes and I really am not happy about what I'm stuck with now." One of the best things ever, as an adult, was learning to say "no, thanks" and realizing that it was perfectly ok. People actually understand about 95% of the time. Thanks for some guidelines on this. It IS ok to say no.
Saying no is an extremely slippery slope. I started saying no to EVERYTHING until I had almost no friends, never went anywhere or did anything except go to work and go home. Saying no is important but don't throw away opportunities or experiences just because it becomes a reflex like it did with me.
I literally got this in my recommended right after having a full on internal rant at myself for agreeing to do something that I would get nothing out of doing.
I believe in the healthy practice of saying no, and I believe in planting trees. This video was a tactful way of still helping the cause while getting the message out that it's okay to stick to your prior commitments. It is hard to say no to things in this culture. Everyone seems to want more of your time, money, or emotional labor. Sometimes it feels selfish to take a step back from those requests, but I think spreading yourself too thin over many commitments leads to huge amounts of stress.
Saying no is so simple yet so difficult. Unfortunately we have to live for ourselves and not others all the time, so saying no gives us more control of what we really want to do.
These videos surprisingly help me to incorporate little things day to day to help my life. I never thought RUclips videos would actually help my life besides laughing lmao
I agree that saying no is necessary for us to have time to rest and recharge and do what we were doing, but sometimes when you say no to friends every week they get disappointed and I get scared they won't want to hang out another time...
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I LITERALLY LOVE YOU!!! THANK YOU! :))))))))))
I love you for planting these trees!
NICE
Hi
You both are BREATHTAKING!
BRUH
“When you say no, you are only saying no to one option.
When you say yes, you are saying no to every other option.
No is a decision.
Yes is a responsibility.
Be careful what (and who) you say yes to. It will shape your day, your career, your family, your life.“ - James Clear
Henrik When the comment is better than the video
Such a brilliant comment. Thanks
What if i say "yes" for to different options?
I love this quote! did you get this from his weekly newsletter?
Wisdom that leads to Salvation.
Me: This is literally the only video in my sub feed right now that isn't about trees
Me 5 seconds later: Never mind lol
I also have 3 videos together about the trees. Crazy...
Yes!! Haha 😂
I have four, my dudes.
CozmicK G found 7 so far 😌🔫
Why so many people have this as display picture? Who is this guy?
the worst thing is having to make an excuse instead of just saying " i don't want to"
Just say no or I do not want to.
Or it is not my cup of tea.
@@user-ge2iy4ke7g its not that easy, you tend not to get anymore invites.
@@agee7777 There is no shortage
of nice people in this world.
I did not state my reason for
saying no or I do not want to.
I generally say this to people
who are toxic, or try to get me
to join a church group or club
when I have no interest to do
so whatever. Have a great day.
@@user-ge2iy4ke7g you talk about toxic people while being passive aggressive.
@@agee7777 Well that is how I feel.
It is my opinion which naturally
is not that of everybody. I feel
in life it is best not to waste time
with people who always tell
others what they should or
must do. Also I have some nice
friends and we do invite one
another. Have a nice evening
Adam and enjoy life.
This man just did 5 uno reverse cards in one video, respect
Silent Rebel i just thought the same thing lol
?
@@ricecake1228 he basicly did quadruple-reverse psychology on us
YesTheory: *exists*
Matt: The Art of Saying No
This comment😂😂😂
It is simple to say NO, when you value your time. I understand it better now.
Exactly 😂😂
Well no... but actually yes
Ph k literally what I just said lol
Matt: Well no, But actually yes.
Yes, but he made a lot of money on this video at the same time. WIN-WIN ;)
The Benefits of saying *NO* :
More *energy*
More *time*
More *confidence*
More *control*
More *respect*
MORE TREES
"When you're clear with your values and your goals, it becomes easier to say no."
Sooo sooooo soooopo soooooooo true. There ya go
The creator proves his creativity
Anna, ninge enadru help bekadre nange mail maadu.. I will help you with your channel..
That's a brilliant idea to say yes but also no 😂🤷🏻♂️
In nz it's called yeanah
@@jollimaiahtacksworth *Yesn't
@@theodorkollerd2524 lol
And in Germany - Ja-in (Ja+Nein)
Ya msharafna
Next 30 day challenge ideas:
1. I became vegan/vegetarian for 30 days.
2. I tried zero waste for 30 days.
3. I quit fast food for 30 days.
I need to see Matt living in a tree for 24 hours 😂
Next 30 day challenge ideas that follow up the ones you suggested:
1. I quit eating for 30 days
2. I quit drinking for 30 days
3. I quit sleeping for 30 days
4. I quit existing for 30 days
5. I quit dying for 30 days.
lol, sorry, I went too far probably haha
4. I lived in a tree for 30 days
I love the plant-based/vegetarian for 30 days idea! Matt, watch The Game Changers on Netflix. I worked on it - so shameless plug. I think you'll like it, though.
Aastha H I made a RUclips video every day for 31 days ahh
I already quit fastfood for, well, permanently unless i'm kinda forced to eat it since im still eating what my parents serve me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
When you cant decide: yesn't
mbotnd this comment is underrated
Hahan’t
@@King-th1vn is that for laughs n't?
The whole video is the real life version of that meme. “Well, no, but actually yes”.
UNDERRATED COMMENT
"she's firm on not doing interviews, so i asked her..."
Underated Comment
honestly, this was a genius idea to still go on with your projects and plans, but to also help out and take part in something really awesome
Yes Theory: Am I a joke to You?
Matt D'Avella: Yes
yes but actually no
No
"do you want to marry me?
...
Maybe?"
That cracked me up😂
Omg that cracked me up in the bus 😂
I laughed too😂
5:40 “I’m happy for you” sounded like Ross Geller “I’m fine”
Me: ROSS AND RACHEL WERE ON A BREAK
We were on a BREAK!
Hahahahah so accurate
The gym is calling me
Me : No
This made me laugh a lot, thanks!
😂
That's real strength training.
The gym is the only one I’ll say yea too people are real different
literally felt this on way more than 1 level
I love that 90% of Matt’s videos are filmed inside the walls of his own home. What’s your excuse not to create something?
That's right, you can start from your own things!
that's very inspiring if you think about it
huh.
Hey??? Are you looking in my window right now? Ok, ok. I'll go create something.😉
I'm ugly
ideas for 30 day challenges
• painting / drawing
• yoga
• learning a new language
• listening to / reading a book everyday
No,no as a drawer myself drawing/painting isn't calming most of the time especially for beginners. Belive me.
One book a day? Beach ,thats is very complicated. I wish I could do that
quality over quantity for books. Books become useless if you just see them as goals to get through because you want to flex as an intellectual. Find genres you like and dig through the layers of meaning to find the author's message
Ge i can’t do it either lol it was just like something i thought of
aml1583 I agree with you, but I thought it would maybe be a fun challenge
The Rock: -Hey Matt, I just saw your podcast and I would like atte...
Matt: -No, I can't
Raúl Galicia 😂
My thoughts exactly! 🤣
My new year's resolution is to start setting more boundaries. I need to learn to say no especially at work. I'm tired of being exhausted doing for others. I want to have time to take care of myself.
well played!
This is a “yesno” in here
Also called a Jain in German
Matt: Googles Trees
Google: Photos of Snoop Dogg smoking trees
*bing
😂😂
Duckduckgo
The art of saying no while actually saying yes
This was so great! The art of saying no is vital especially for small biz owners. I have found that it is also helpful to convey boundaries to others and ourselves.
I have to be honest...it’s hard to say no and this video really made me feel not guilty from steeping back and not allowing to give in to everything gets into my way. Thanks Matt
he really just passive-aggressively attacked yes theory like that
sidenote: I donated :)
Excitely what I was thinking hahahaha
It was quick way to help and at the same time say NO to bigger help. Good approach.
What is Yestheory
Matt in the opening of an episode named “I said no for 30 days” would be like “Saying no to the requests you receive and you don’t have time for them is a pretty difficult thing and that’s why for the upcoming 30 days, I will say no to one request each day”
Two Matt D’avella videos in a week?
*Miracle.*
How many people can say no to such an big opportunity not a lot right.You have really earn my respect Matt
30-day challenge:
Doing 1 kind thing for a stranger every-day, and see how it makes you feel
Awww that's really nice! Now back in the real world, aka the non-mr.beast world...
*No.*
Me, when someone gives a good advice: "Eh"
Me, when other person cals it an ART: "Hellll yeeaaa, i'll mimick that behavior"
It is helpful to know where we want to be. To work on our goals not someone else.
When you say "no" but also yes (FOR THE TREES). This is so great...!
Matt: *Makes vídeo about saying no*
YesTheory: Wait, that’s illegal
This is so so cleverly done, natural story teller!
I feel like I just watched a 7 minute ad that spent it's entire time convincing me that it wasn't an ad. I'm convinced.
"Oh, so you have 25 million subs"
I loved the golden play button in the background
@@petefontaine4837 me too lol
I had to check after i read this because he truly does deserve it
@@noobjitsu1743 Yess he does.
I'm going through some tough decisions lately, thanks for inspiring me to pull back and reset my path :-)
Love your videos Matt!!
I love how you still advertised for him while proving an incredibly important point to us. I definitely needed to hear this today. Thanks!
loved the way you tell people to go to teamtrees while saying dont go and doing a matt style video with quotes and acts that can change your life. good job.
Love the fact that you give's us message and encourage people to donate that's a creativity !! RUclips needs more content like this....
Saying “No” to something recently dealing with friends was arguably very refreshing for me.
So Matt, are we still gonna get that "I live for a tree in 24 hours", or no?
Boy do I need this video. Love love love it!
The part about spending way too much time researching/planning on a thing that actually doing matter to much to you at this present time... mannnnn *i felt that*
I love what you did on this video. You found your own way to spread Jimmy's message.
"never break the rule" while breaking the rule. good video man
I would actually like to see the 24 hr in a tree 😂
No one:
Legit no one:
Matt: lets live in a tree (i promise i wont bring binoculars👀)
2:55 Was I literally the only one to see “Mark D’Avela” ?
I saw that too good catch
Dude I think it's double l.
Lol, it's his brother.
when I saw his first video I thought his name was Mark D'avela lol
@@emilio4164 all of their siblings names start with M. Mark, Matt, Michelle... There's like 7 of the siblings. Beautiful family.
No one:
**Matt talking about change**: **violently clauses his laptop**
Perfect timing. My roommate asks me to do everything with him and I spend practically every waking minute with him as it is. NO NO NO but he makes me feel guilty every time I say it -_-
Have you considered that your roommate is in love with you? 🤔😱
"No" is about boundries
You're teaching him how to treat you by not saying no , don't be a pushover
27otherside27 lol I really don’t think he is. I think he’s just very needy and can’t be alone
Gerardo I always say no. I said it 3 times yesterday for little things like going to the gym or getting a bite to eat. I always say no but it makes me feel quilty, which is what I’m getting at. I appreciate my time alone but when I tell him no he takes it personally and I get bad vibes
"think about going out on a date with somebody"
i'm lost, Matt, idk how going on a date is like 🥺
Wtf is a date?
Polyxeni Vamvakerou I think it’s on the calendar
@@Kira-dc6gr of course
Oh, English humor, i love it 😂
"The Art of Saying No... But Yeah"
I'm a substitute teacher who often ends up teaching "life lessons" and practical advice, moreso than the textbook or seat work that the regular teacher leaves behind.
Matt, I've recently stumbled across your channel and have to say that your advice, words of wisdom, and perspective on life are inspirational.
I've shown a few separate classes your videos and they seem to resonate with you. Thank you for the effort that you put into your videos. They push me to try harder every day!
Thanks matt
Now i release how i aint getting time to study for school but now i realise i am giving away my time like its totally free and i have no personal commitments
"Matt, do you or do you not want to help the treas project?"
Matt: yes
My subscriptions list tl in order:
1. Matt D’Avella: *The Art of Saying No* (inspired by Mr Beast’s project)
2. Veritasium: *Why trees are out to get you* (also inspired my Mr Beast’s project)
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“
“
Matt: Hi Jimmy, sorry I won't make it to shoot anytime #teamtrees
Matt: Makes a video talking about #teamtrees
Me and 2M others: checks teamtrees.(org)
Jimmy: lmfaooooo. Matt you're the man!
That's awesome you were able to say no but also help out the guy. There is certainly an art to saying NO, as creativity is obviously involved.
To say NO but spreading the word to your audience is close enough to a YES. Great guy.
Saying no is DEFFINITY an honesty necessity.
is this reverse psychology reference?
it's fricking everywhere
4:50
He stole the dumbbells and drove away
I grew up with a mom who didn't have a clue how to say no (to others. Was ok with saying it TO ME). Anyway, I had a terrible example of coping with "I said yes and I really am not happy about what I'm stuck with now." One of the best things ever, as an adult, was learning to say "no, thanks" and realizing that it was perfectly ok. People actually understand about 95% of the time. Thanks for some guidelines on this. It IS ok to say no.
Saying no is an extremely slippery slope. I started saying no to EVERYTHING until I had almost no friends, never went anywhere or did anything except go to work and go home. Saying no is important but don't throw away opportunities or experiences just because it becomes a reflex like it did with me.
I am already failing since I said yes to watching this video while I have other priorities xD
Reverse psychology : exists
Matt: *YES*
Matt just felt bad so he had to make this apology video 😭😭😭😂😂😂
great intellectual paradox..
Saying no to spread the message, but propagating it wonderfully..
Very clever and creative way of supporting teamtrees and above all teaching us the art of saying no. :)
Me: *Has a ton of Homework*
My Phone: *Gets Notification
My Crush: "Do you wanna go out with me?"
Me: No
Proud of ya lol
say "no" to good deals to have the possibility to say "hell yeah!" to amazing opportunities
Ayy this is from the book
Such a smooth way to implement the tree challange, great idea!
this "saying no" video...is the most clever "ya, sure I'll help promote your cause in my video", ever!
I really needed this because I'm applying to college and senior year brings a lot of opportunities to have fun instead.
I literally got this in my recommended right after having a full on internal rant at myself for agreeing to do something that I would get nothing out of doing.
This is a very matt davella way of dealing with this haha
0:14 "Get The Rock on my podcast" hahahaha
I believe in the healthy practice of saying no, and I believe in planting trees. This video was a tactful way of still helping the cause while getting the message out that it's okay to stick to your prior commitments. It is hard to say no to things in this culture. Everyone seems to want more of your time, money, or emotional labor. Sometimes it feels selfish to take a step back from those requests, but I think spreading yourself too thin over many commitments leads to huge amounts of stress.
Matt uses sarcasm in a positive way.. This guy is so cool
Hmmm... I don’t seem to get invitations to anything...
Edit: We all just watched the smoothest ad ever put on RUclips.
This is the most brilliant way to say “yes” by sayin “no”. 🤣
Saying no is so simple yet so difficult. Unfortunately we have to live for ourselves and not others all the time, so saying no gives us more control of what we really want to do.
RealLife Money - Weekly Financial Videos that is until you say no but are dragged into the situation regardless of what you said
How I say "no":
Oh, that's not going to work for me.
Your videos are so simple and deep at the same time! I admire your storytelling!
Wow. I have been procrastinating on this video for a while and now I watched it exactly when I needed to. Thanks Matt.
Someone: Hi Matt hows it going?
Matt: No
2 videos in 1 week? Man, Christmas is early!
Next 30 day challenge: Say yes to everything.
Matt: you wanna subscribe?
Me: -NO-
Cause I already did
Simply 'Wow' video for me. ❤Thanks Matt for sharing your wisdom with us.
He makes money of saying "no"....damn what am I doing with my life dude
the low waste for 30 days i would definitely watch!
I love the concept but I feel like I can't say no as a strict rule. I would still say yes to an once in a lifetime opportunity no matter what
This is your once in a lifetime opportunity to date me. *YOU CAN'T SAY NO*
These videos surprisingly help me to incorporate little things day to day to help my life. I never thought RUclips videos would actually help my life besides laughing lmao
I agree that saying no is necessary for us to have time to rest and recharge and do what we were doing, but sometimes when you say no to friends every week they get disappointed and I get scared they won't want to hang out another time...