Yepp a narcissist does after he gets everything he wants after he depletes you financially...sex...free place to live...so called Christian baptized but the devil energy!
Wow.......so basically a man has to act like a child by testing your boundaries and then when you've had enough and are gone, he straightens up? Wow, that's really taking a chance because she feels like a fool if she goes back. A woman does her grieving of the relationship while she's in it trying to get him to act right. By the time she's gone, it's a wrap because she's at the stage of getting herself on the path of healing. Is a man that juvenile that 99% of the time it takes his lady's leaving to finally get it together?
Not true! Some women have been or are already in married or domestic relationships from 3 - 10+ yrs. and have allowed themselves to get treated badly. Then a men leaves after all the dysfunctional tolerance she already has WASTED years on! And, you have to be a TRUE Godly woman to be worthy of and receive a GENUINE Godly man. It's NOT by default!
10 years ago, my fiancee called me in the middle of wedding planning to tell me he was with someone else. It broke me down in unimaginable ways, and for a long time, I couldn't see past it. 7 years later, I met the love of my life and he and I have been happily married for 5 years. I am a living testimony that God will remove people from your life for your betterment. If he doesn't want to be with you, set him free and force him to live in his choice to make you his past and not his present.
IF A MAN LEAVE. LET HIM GO. LET GOD CATCH YOUR TEARS and you face your fears with the holy spirit guidance in front of you. Surround your well-being with positive energy.. THE MINUTE HE WALK. LET HIM WALK. YOU KEEP MOVING Forward. Blessings ❤️😇
When you look to find a spouse, look for someone who strives to seek God in all they do. Cultural norms and traditions come and go, but the Word of the Lord endures forever. First, early in the relationship connection, express your desire to avoid premarital sex. When you express your desire to want to honor God with your sexuality before marriage, this won’t be a shock to a real Christian. That is just a basic biblical command all true Christians want to follow. Sexual intimacy is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply, and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). Intimacy is a blessing that can lead to the incomparable joy of children as part of the eternal family unit. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." But if you say this to someone who is just pretending to obey the Bible, they will leave you quickly because they will not be willing to wait until marriage for sex. Someone can deceive you with words. But when you see their obedience to the Lord that matches their words, then you know they are trustworthy. They need to be visibly producing the fruits of the Spirit because this is a mark of a true Christian. Anyone can claim to be a Christian. And we can’t know someone’s heart. So the Bible says we are to evaluate people by their actions. Christians will not be perfect, but they will be bearing fruit that is evidence of their true salvation. Galatians 5:22-26 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another." Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge."
You are Sooooooo right. They Never come back because they want us. They come back because WHAT they wanted didn't want them Point Blank PERIOD!!!!!! LET SORRY AZZ DOGS LAY...........somewhere else after they leave
This made my heart hurt because I tried to convince myself otherwise but I know it’s true 😢. Someone who loves and wants you won’t take the risk of losing you.
Ladies, remember that if a man doesn't want you DO NOT devalue yourself or think that you're less than because some man doesn't want you. Remember ladies YOU are the prize. Sometimes a so-called man leaves because he's inferior and a vacillator. Just because a man sees you as a wife doesn't mean he's up to par to be your husband. Ladies, remember you also have something to bring to the table. It's not all about the man. Men have to level up as well.
@@lounemo866...💯 I agree! Having options means an abundance or quantity of NOT necessarily QUALITY. As long as ANYbody is offering him easy sex, a crash pad and gas, Xbox, rims, Jordans, happy hour and club hoppin' allowance money, those are his options! But as soon as the 420 haze clears and he gets tired of her, he realizes those women are even bigger heauxs and a RISK than him OR they too are hustlers running game and refused to accept his bullsh*t the baby mamas or shotgun wives tolerated. Months later.... "Hey or What r u Doing?...I miss u, etc" lame texts! 🤬
If he leaves, then you were not his first choice. Therefore, don't let him abuse your love by taking him back, especially if he comes back broke, busted and disgusted!
It also depends on the guys maturity level. You can be wifey material and he can worship the ground you walk on but he can still leave you to see what's out there "sow his oats". Men marry the woman who happens to be around when he is finally READY to settle down.
This is 💯 truth! They will select from the best available “options” at the point and time .... when they decide to marry. Unless, they are guided by the Spirit of God.
It’s true, it’s all about timing. A good friend of mine married someone because he hit 40 and wanted a family and it was the right thing to do. She wasn’t his dream woman or someone he’s searching for , it was the right time and right place. Another friend who met someone he truly connects with for once , but he was divorced twice and truly scared of marriage/commitment again , he fell in love but got too much past baggage and went into self sabotage pattern ….so he lost her , it was a self fulfilling prophecy, not because he was still out there looking for his perfect woman
He won't have to leave me... I can show him better than i can tell him. When he sees me walking away and sees the back of my head that's his memory of me for life.
This hurts to hear, but I know it’s true. I’m struggling with the rejection of it all. At my core I knew he didn’t really love me. I was convenient. Tony keep speaking the truth.
Omg!!! My boyfriend left me said he needed time to grow! I told him that doesn’t make sense if you love me you will grow with me through it! And he stated he couldn’t! Look what you said he wouldn’t leave you for that dayum 💯 firmed that for me!
Wow thank you for this Mr. Gaskins My ex was emotionally abusive and he led me on for years We finally got together and 50 days before our wedding he called it off and left me.. Got another woman pregnant Now two years later... He's back... Trying to come back to me now... He homeless.. He has no job... Down on his luck But he saying he messed up... He shouldn't have left... He want us back... He realize it now I'm no fool at all.... I'm done with him I'm at peace now waiting on my Husband
"He's just not that into you". That message has been out there for years. I've heard that if a man has been with you for two or more years and has not made a commitment like asking you to marry, then he never will. I've found that to be true. And a man will stay with you even tho he doesn't love you while he's seeing someone else...until he works up the courage to leave you, he will 'ride the fence'. When he feels confident that he doesn't need you anymore and the new lady is what he really wants, watch him go. Just watch. And men that are cheating will pick a fight every chance he can so he can go be with his new interest. Every time. And you will sit at home crying and asking yourself what you have done to run him off.
your comment makes me sick.. Cause I think this is what happened to my x// we were together for 3 yrs and towards the end he was acting off and i sense something and when he left me over xmas out of the blue .. I asked him if it was another woman and he said no.. I just wished i can find out the truth thats what bothers me the most if it was for another woman. within the last yr i gave him the opportunity to leave when i brought up i wanted more attention from him and everytime he told me how much i meant to him and he didnt leave but all the sudden a month before 3 yrs he walked out on me... I hate him i was a good woman to him . Thats what hurts the most...
@@Maggie-yf7hx The trick is to get out when you start suspecting he is not what you THINK he is. We tend to hang on and wait for him to be/act like what we think he can be. Ain't gonna happen. There is better out there, just don't keep repeating your mistake by picking losers. Change it up. Expect more from the guy. Value yourself!!
Wow I was just thinking this that exactly what I am going to do due to it's been 3 days I haven't heard from him he is alive because I seen him online so I am going to keep living my life don't have time for games
That’s the stunning realization that eventually hits women in adulthood-realizing that we’re the only responsible grownups in the world...the spiritual challenge is to accept this without becoming bitter.
Hey, no woman needs to stand up to that kind of behaviour. A man who is truly transformed in the heart like Jesus will not behave in these kind of ways! It's not worth it ladies, putting up with these kind of behaviours. Why should you marry a man who cannot lead you! The fact that he is playing games is a sign that he is not a leader and you do not want that in your life! Period!
@BabyLove I don't want to generalize but just notice all the relationship coaches popping up. No its not all men but seems like a really high percentage of grown boys. Correct me if I am wrong but I thought I heard Tony say that his wife had to leave him before they got married to get him to see the light. It's just a shame that most guys have to call your bluff because they know so many women are willing to stay and put up with the disrespect. IJS
Dont mention you're a virgin, you become prey quicker than a prize. Analyze him, don't even mention nothing about your status. You waste a lot of time that way.
@@chellestephens2098 I agree. I'm learning you should ask questions and not talk to much as in give him too much information about yourself. Check out Pastor RC Blake's Jr. Video on questions to ask a man you're dating. You can ask him his view on sex before marriage, but even before that ask if he believes in God, if he goes to church, spends time in the Word, etc. Like bring up a chapter you're reading and see what he does. Best thing to is to ask God for discernment.
@@chellestephens2098 Thank you for your comment but just so you know, I am 27. I've been preyed upon but never a prey. I know who I am. I tell it like it is. No pre-marital sex and flaky behaviour. Have a nice day.
@RKELLYSCOCO I am not saving myself for marriage because I want to show I am a good girl. I am saving myself because this is MY choice to honor Jesus. This has nothing to do with a man. Also , I would be careful with wanting to " experience life " having sex outside of marriage because body count matters to me. I value my body and I am not sharing it with just anyone. Have a nice day.
At 55 I've learned if he leaves you he don't love u, if he stays he'll play you, if you're married to him he'll cheat on you, if you stand your ground he'll beat you, if you submit to him he'll control you, if you love him.....you will get HURT...in some way shape or form....PUT GOD FIRST.... I've seen it all not from my own experiences but others. They are just too much work! I'm not bitter and have gain my sense of wholeness. My childbearing days are beyond me to require the purpose of man in union so what other purpose would he have I ask??? If you're young, get it right with GOD FIRST....find yourself, enjoy your singleness. The OLDER YOU GET the SLIMMER THE PICKING 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️....thankful I am complete, running my business and enjoying my grand. Do I hope for a senior life partner... sure I do....is it my focus....NOPE🤗🤗🤗...had a lotta growing to get here👌🏾👌🏾
I'm a woman of a certain age as well ,and all the scenarios you said about their behaviors ,actions and the outcome is you'll be left broken and with nothing from men like that. Alot of men on finding our dont even like women and it starts from grandma to mother. Mostly in our culture, is the lack of an loving examples of how to love women.
Wow bless you! My man just left me pregnant due to his “covid depression” and people who died around him and how he after that started smoking and boozing. I’ve been there in all ways all the time. We’ve been trying to conceive for 4 years. And now that I’m miraculously pregnant he leaves me. I’m devastated. Wonder if I can do this alone? Never felt a greater sadness in my entire life. Please pray for me and this little baby!
Time and Time again this test has been done on millions, probably billions of women. And with no AVAIL!!!! it always fails. Boys have not learned a thing.
A man will only do what you allow him to do. Especially, if he is already comfortable been disrespectful, and you take him back every time. He will continue to lie, cheat, be verbal and sometimes physically abusive. Who wants a man like that, not me, that's not the man God will give you. God will show you red flags so you can cut him off, and keep it moving. He might change for the next one, but a person shouldn't have to put you through all that just to see if he wants to be with you. I mean by then you don't want him because you don't trust him and you have lost all respect for him, and without those two things, you have no foundation to stand on at all. BOY KICK ROCKS AND KEEP IT MOVING!!!
The fact is that a lot of us will remain single and waiting. It's just life. Sometimes it is for the best. People have become progressively more selfish and distracted.
Your right he won't leave, because I've been married 24 years in December, and my husband has never left me, I separated from him in the beginning, because we were so young, now things are great we still have are disagreements, but we never go to sleep angry, we apologise to each other, we get over it, and don't dwell on things, we don't even argue like we used to when we were younger, we had to grow up together
The correct way to have said or written this: '[ .... in 24 yrs. of marriage my husband hasn't ever told me he's wanted to leave. However; when we first married, a few yrs after, I had to leave him. We had some things to work through, communicate, etc. I believe we're both hoping to make 50+ yrs together, until one of us dies, till death do us part, this is our NEVER]' ❤ That's when someone can truly say never! 10 - 20 are the training wheels and warm up years.
Please gather enough strength to let him leave. There's somebody for everybody. Hanging onto someone who does not want you is blocking the blessing of the one who is praying for someone just like you.
Why do men test women like they are little children? Never have I tested a person to see how bad they will let me treat them. I have ZERO desire to treat anyone badly. SMH
@@user-co5vf5ph8p No it is not true. You made a blanket statement about women as a whole. Then you segmented out “mature” women. Do immature people (men and women) exist? Absolutely! Are they this way as a general rule? Absolutely not!
Thank you so much Tony for telling us the truth! I had one leave me and it's the best thing that ever happened to me! I've lost 55 lbs and living my best life yet! ❤
@@Cutegirl8614 I agree, I don't think he even realized it. He was so unhappy with himself and a total Narcissist. Not an excuse but still. Stay strong girl!
All the love you were pouring into the person who didn’t appreciate NOW needs to be pour back into yourself. I understand finding yourself again can be difficult but it doesn’t have to be. Start doing the things that you loved to do before, whether that was taking yourself out to eat, getting your nails and feet done, pursing a degree, hanging out with your friends, attending relationship seminars, reading books, writing, whatever the case may be start loving you again. You can become whole again but it’s going to take the strong person that you have inside of you to pick yourself up. Start pouring those positive affirmations within yourself that “ You can do this”. Don't give up on yourself and have faith that God can heal your broken heart if you truly let him (Psalm 147:3) ❤️
Give a man the same energy he gives you.. it’s not being petty.. it’s called self preservation. He gave you crumbs you gave him crumbs.. at the end , what did you lose? ... Nathan 👏🏽
@RKELLYSCOCO I agree But the ironic thing is you won't be alone. You will be with a person better fit for you. I can't lose the faith. And it does take a while longer to meet that person.
I needed to hear this as a reminder, I spent nearly two years trying to help him realize we both needed to grow up, the truth is I had to trust myself enough too give up. I may not ever love someone as much as him again, but at least I will never allow myself to be treated that way by anyone else again.
I did this also for 7 years too long. His priority was not the same as mine. He wanted to spend money and I wanted to save for a house and our future. Well after our 5 year plan, still no house and he was gone. I kicked him to the curb
@@ChristineSolazzo I feel ya! The fact is you tried and he was unreasonable., like where was the compromise executed. Every guy I've dated has been selfish and I was overwhelmed but this was the longest I've waited, never again! Lesson learned and good luck loves💕
Dear A L.......I agree with you 100%. I know that I will NEVER love a man the way that I loved "the love of my life" and I will NOT allow myself to be treated badly ever again. God bless.
Totally broke my heart to have to face the truth of your words... but... picking myself up and moving forward and never looking back is the only way I will begin to heal... it’s hurts but I need to hear the truth in order to let go of hope... thank you
After getting engaged, he started posting things about his ex on FB. I said it was disrespectful to me, and I will not accept or allow that from him. Awwwww he went ghost 👻. Guess I wasn’t the one for him THANK GOD
Wow, that is crazy. Sis, be glad he posted on FB. That was divine intervention for you. Once he did that, and you checked him, you discovered that "he" wasn't good enough for you; not the other way around. Keep your head up, stay Blessed and don't question it. The Lord has a great man for you. Wait. In waiting stay prayed up, praise and worship the Lord, and do you for now. Shalom hun😍
@BabyLove you hit it dead on the nail been there also my ex of over 14 years we have a adult child did the same thing to attempt a engagement to someone to try and make me jealous don't know why . I told him where's your wedding registry at maybe I can send y'all a wedding gift when that didn't work he married her he called me 7or 8 times in 1 day like before the wedding and 2 months after the wedding I ignore his call I guess he wanted me to say something or bust up in the church like Suge Avery from the Color Purple to stop it.... ...not ! he still continue to call me finally I blocked him because it became sick sir call your wife .
If a man leaves you, count it a blessing, and keep it moving forward!!! Learn whatever lesson you needed to learn from that relationship, grow wiser from the experience. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a season. We Good!!! ✌❤😊
BNer Don’t let a man or woman dictate your self worth and self esteem. A man or woman who loves you will not put himself in the position to lose you. Some are just feeding breadcrumbs and people are seeing a whole loaf of bread. Yes the connection is strong and exists but if it’s toxic- detach. We can never change anyone. A person has to want to elevate and better themselves on their own time ⭐️
From experience, when you learn to LOVE yourself 1st and you REALIZE who you are you won't put up with his BS and if he leaving I swear he NEEDS TO GO, AND I WOULDN'T DARE stand in the WAYYYY!! Real talk
My best friend left me for another woman lol and he still lurking around me lol I’m close proximity but he wants sex from her so this is helpful but we weren’t together I’m celibate and that’s an issue for him he still a grown boy though
This is my 2nd time watching this video and it’s still hard to hear but I needed to hear this to remind myself I can’t ever look back. Moving on for good! Thank you Tony!
Thank you, Tony! Ladies, know that a man is not Oxygen that we need to stay Alive! If they can’t be Right by us, they got to go! Period! Love Yourself and Respect Yourself and only then, you won’t accept anything less than you deserve!
The part that hit me is when you said, some women will say my husband left me and he came back and now we are married. That was because you were able to put up with his mess.
Carmen Thomas a grown boy will though hahaha because he isn’t ready to man up and reach those requirements he would say I’ll come back to that later believe me a grown boy may leave the woman he sees being his wife if he knows she wouldn’t tolerate his stuff if he knows she strong and if she gives him the vibe you can just bounce they know how to play with an not to
How you know what a Real man is when you’ve never been a man that’s opinion thats like me say what a “real women” should never turn their back on their man but y’all do it based off of your emotions
K S I can say for this woman but I will say a man will back off if you give him the vibes he isn’t wanted I would too and go to the next because a man isn’t gonna sit there and wait for you to see his value either or convince you sime guys run around even when they found there wife because they know like she ain’t gonna take me like this her actions says she is denying me and etc so they go on to the next woman
I was married but my husband left... I was everything to him but it got to his head and ego.. All the good treatment made him feel as if he could walk all over me
Same happen to me he thought he could do better .Now hes trying his best to come back and I've file for divorce and I'm not looking back .when your nice they think your dumb learn this the hard way never again
My husband left me and died within a year of being gone. Its not a game this thing called marriage. I could go into more but know this if your dating aman and he leaves you you dodged a bullet if married and he leaves its between him and God.
@Nia Marie there are some that leave. I've seen it. It usually happens when there's another woman. I know men who left the woman they were married to for 20+ years and have kids.
Thank you Tony for always being 100 and never sugar coating shit . Also- remember ladies it’s not a reflection of you . Narcissists always think the grass is greener and love having a garage full of supply so stay woke
So true. A lot of times women meet men with a ex wife or baby mama, and the ex always call talking about their past relationship with him. I honestly think if he wanted to be with you, why isn’t he with you? My husband always tells me that a man knows what he wants. A man will never ever leave you if he truly loves you under no circumstances, that is the truth sister’s. Well said Brother.
This is so true! If he sees you as his wife, he won't leave, so you have to leave him! Why? Because you can influence him to change, but you have to know your worth, and be willing to walk away! Staying in a toxic situation is stunting growth on both parts! There are habits and behaviors we must all die to and sometimes it takes walking away for a man to WAKE UP! Be willing to sacrifice and die to your flesh, so God's Spirit can have its way in the both of you! Sometimes we make people our idols, foolishness and all! You deserve better.
Amen brother! Thank you so much for this message. I was born again in January and have decided to be celibate since. This is also what Jesus was showing me.
This message is a true blessing and the information I needed as the catalyst for walking away and never turning back....ten years and i knew it in the first year but allowed myself to excuse all sorts of nonsense, disrespect, and abuse of many sorts. I built a damaging walls of denial that has slowly eroded my standards and self respect. Thank you for your clarity and surety..i believe you, and i appreciate the honesty.....I know you know- it hurts to hear it, but you told it anyway. And I listened and heard you loud and clear. Ill be forever changed because of this...and i am grateful for your video.
Listening to this has made me cry...it has been a month since my broken engagement and i carried myself well pretending nothing has affected me but listening to this has made me cry heavily. Truthfully the nights are longer and harder...i have been on automatic zombie mode but I needed this message right here. This is my wakeup call
Sister.... you will be well! It definitely won't feel this way now however, many of us have walked the path and are here to remind you! God is close to the broken hearted and he hears our cries; believe you me he does! He made me smile and laugh and breathe again-an entirely new creation in his love! He'll walk with you through this...find his word and let it minister to you! Much love!
Gets better with time! Just continue or start building yourself spiritually emotionally mentally and you will be just fine. And remember it’s ok to cry and be sad ... it’s apart of the healing process. 🙏🏽😘 I pray for the best for you.
Kafuyai D Wamae Sis, sometimes your heart has to be broken so your soul can be saved. I'm not talking about religion, I'm talking about things that will hurt you on a soul level. I know it hurts, but be thankful he left before you married him. God is protecting you from something you cant see. Ask HIM to reveal it to you in a dream.
Yaaaaasssssssssss 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I have always said that a man needs to know what he has in me, while he is WITH me. Ain’t no “you don’t know what you got until it’s gone Chief”!!!!!
‘Most men don’t marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marry’. This quote came to mind when you mentioned changing when your wife left you. In my experience, a man will be madly in love with a woman, but not ready to change his ways, so he loses her because she wants to settle and he doesn’t. She then marries a man who was ready, and he is filled with deep regret when he sees her with someone else, knowing that could have been him. The man then settles for someone mediocre when he decides he is ready. Point is ladies, a man has to be ready for you. That’s on him. You could be the most beautiful, intelligent, perfect being he has ever seen or known, but will still lose you if he isn’t ready to commit. I’ve seen plenty of women with the mentality that they can be the one to change him, and are left disappointed when they find it isn’t so. He will see what you put up with. But if you refuse to accept his bullshit, he won’t try to change for you. He will do it momentarily to convince you to take him back, and the cycle repeats itself again. As women we’d like to think that men will open their eyes and see what is infront of them, but the majority of times they won’t. It takes losing you for them to realise, and by that point it’s too late.
This is so true. Back in my young and dumb days I use to run behind them to prove my worth. Would jump through hoops and wear myself out so they can notice all that I had to offer. Now I disappear without notice like they do me so I can level up even more for myself and children. Now they mad like I did them dirty, wanna come round and ACT like I should give them all of everything they walked away from back without them proving they deserve it. It's all fun and games until the cat has the gun and the cheat sheet to the games that's being ran! #SuckerFree
I don't know if I agree. Men r sad, they can be madly in love with you, know they wanna marry you B U T either intimidated, immature, or all the above. They will leave whether they love u and want u or dont want u. But when GOD is involved it's ORDAINED, if he is obedient and a godly man he will PURSUE you and STAY. God bless
Facts because my estranged husband cheated on me and boom 💥 Gave me the world 🌎 all I never asked for was and is an excellent father to our girls but couldn’t stay out the streets and has he left me no I had to relocate to get away from him now he is in prison and I’m submitting my divorce papers Monday ... so whalllaah lord mercy Jesus god is good because he is fighting it but if god be for me who can be against me I’m out come death 💀 hell high water 💧 or no water 💧 many blessings peace 🙇🏾♀️🙏🏿💜💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿
This is mostly true but definitely told from a male's perspective. Some men also leave because of their own insecurities. He can see you as his wife and want you to have his children.... But if he feels strongly that he cant measure up financially, sexually or emotionally, whatever...he'll get ghost on that ass just as well. He'll leave first to avoid the pain of you potentially leaving him heartbroken.
Hi Tony, Thank you for revealing what I needed to hear for a long time. I've been holding on to someone for seven years even though all the signs were right in front of my face. Now I can move forward and live my authentic self. No more baggage.
These words from this man are TRUE!! Earlier on in my relationship with my husband, I actually tried to push him away just to see if I was really truly without a doubt the woman that he wanted, and indeed I could not push him away. He wanted me then and wants me even more now!! I love my husband and he is MY person 💙💚💜💙💚💜
Just today I found out my ex went back to a woman who stalked him constantly 6 years or so after we broke up. He has no job, owes child support (huge amt)took me thru a bunch of crap... I got my peace!
Now I UNDERSTAND why during the two yrs he would do things so I would leave him but I never would; l loved him. He would be the one to walk away then return a few months later and do it again and again. HE KNEW I WAS NOT THE WIFE HE WAS LOOKING FOR but couldn't find it in his heart to tell me. He didn't want to hurt me so he rather that I made the decision...Wow...! Now I can finally come to terms with it. The LIGHTBULB CAME for me. Thank you Mr. Gaskin
You have just described my marriage of 32 years. I so thought I wasn't putting up with his nonsense, but, he had the last laugh. He left me like I was nothing, my eyes are so open to what he's been in the relationship. He's a SERIOUS conman. Be on the alert to what is being said in this video ladies, this gentleman is the REAL REAL TRUTH. Young man your so beyond your years, GOD Bless.
A Man will not leave who he loves. A Man will leave who he is USING .
Yes , was in denial but slowly but surely just trying to accept the hurtful truth that I was only being used.
Hey! DM , dont feel too bad it has taken my DUMB ass 10yrs . And the Devastation is beyond repair . But I have to take the responsibility of this .
YUP! Atleast we were WISE enough to get off of the DUMMY TRAIN! We ARE PREPARING FOR OUR KINGDOM SPOUSES!!!!!!! Amen? AMEN.
As simple as possible. Thanks for the reminder.
Yepp a narcissist does after he gets everything he wants after he depletes you financially...sex...free place to live...so called Christian baptized but the devil energy!
A man’s rejection is God’s protection! Don’t question God’s will.
May God increase you Lashea,thank you
Fungai Mabuda Thank you! God is preparing my table for my enemies to watch me eat and prosper. Hugs
My ex husband cheated on me and 7 years later was sentenced to 360 months smh 🤦🏿♀️
VictoriousV you see how God works? God knew the truth and results before you. He prepared you. Blessed
Wow.......so basically a man has to act like a child by testing your boundaries and then when you've had enough and are gone, he straightens up? Wow, that's really taking a chance because she feels like a fool if she goes back. A woman does her grieving of the relationship while she's in it trying to get him to act right. By the time she's gone, it's a wrap because she's at the stage of getting herself on the path of healing. Is a man that juvenile that 99% of the time it takes his lady's leaving to finally get it together?
when he leaves you don't chase stay calm & let everything into God's hands
Namuyomba Winnie 🙏 Amen
Amen🙏🙌🙏🙌🌟✔💯♠
Amen! 🙌🏽
Namuyomba Winnie I should’ve followed that
Amen
If a man leaves you it will hurt for awhile but trust me - You ain’t seen your best days Yet!!
You really think so? 😞I keep seeing dark painful days and im so broken due to this betrayal
@@blueseptember2174 no everything triggers and I'm just too hurt
I hope you are right. 😢
Don’t let a man tell you twice that he don’t want you.
Real talk
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1000%
Facts 😏 100% True
Exactly!
When a man leaves you CELEBRATE! He has saved you years of heartache & made room for your God ordained spouse to manifest. A win-win.
yes!
Amen
Yes yes yes🙏🙏🙏
Indeed!
Not true! Some women have been or are already in married or domestic relationships from 3 - 10+ yrs. and have allowed themselves to get treated badly. Then a men leaves after all the dysfunctional tolerance she already has WASTED years on! And, you have to be a TRUE Godly woman to be worthy of and receive a GENUINE Godly man. It's NOT by default!
10 years ago, my fiancee called me in the middle of wedding planning to tell me he was with someone else. It broke me down in unimaginable ways, and for a long time, I couldn't see past it. 7 years later, I met the love of my life and he and I have been happily married for 5 years. I am a living testimony that God will remove people from your life for your betterment. If he doesn't want to be with you, set him free and force him to live in his choice to make you his past and not his present.
Oh my Lakesha Wuse so sorry to hear about the fiancé leaving you but happy you found love! That’s a huge blessing!
@@Michellemybell739 I have been blessed ever since!!! THANKFUL!!!🙌
@@lakeshawise8147 ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Thank you. That gave me hope to do what I know I must, and.k ow TMH will carry me. 🙏🏾
IF A MAN LEAVE. LET HIM GO. LET GOD CATCH YOUR TEARS and you face your fears with the holy spirit guidance in front of you. Surround your well-being with positive energy.. THE MINUTE HE WALK. LET HIM WALK. YOU KEEP MOVING Forward. Blessings ❤️😇
When you look to find a spouse, look for someone who strives to seek God in all they do. Cultural norms and traditions come and go, but the Word of the Lord endures forever. First, early in the relationship connection, express your desire to avoid premarital sex. When you express your desire to want to honor God with your sexuality before marriage, this won’t be a shock to a real Christian. That is just a basic biblical command all true Christians want to follow. Sexual intimacy is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply, and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). Intimacy is a blessing that can lead to the incomparable joy of children as part of the eternal family unit.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
"Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."
But if you say this to someone who is just pretending to obey the Bible, they will leave you quickly because they will not be willing to wait until marriage for sex. Someone can deceive you with words. But when you see their obedience to the Lord that matches their words, then you know they are trustworthy. They need to be visibly producing the fruits of the Spirit because this is a mark of a true Christian. Anyone can claim to be a Christian. And we can’t know someone’s heart. So the Bible says we are to evaluate people by their actions. Christians will not be perfect, but they will be bearing fruit that is evidence of their true salvation.
Galatians 5:22-26
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another."
Hebrews 13:4
"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge."
Also God removes people out of your life for a reason. Sometimes he will do it when you cant.
Truer words have never been spoken.
AMEN!!!!!!! I can testify to that.
Amen
Leah, Sho' you right!
I am a living witness to this!
To be honest, I don’t want no man back if he left me. Once he leave, he need to stay gone ain’t no coming back.
Bingo. Let his sorry behind stay Gone. Dueces!!!!!!
Right!
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Period!
Say it again
Man or woman. When you KNOW you've been good to someone, and they STILL break up with you, NEVER take them back.
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Amen 🙏🏿
A man doesn't just jump ship unless he has somewhere else to sail!!
to swim doggie paddle or float lol
@@cynthiastevens8302 lol Chile. You be tripping lol
Wow so true....
Urban Qid You betta say that!!!
Boom! Spot on!
If he leaves you don’t take him back. Just because the grass wasn’t greener on the other side. That’s to bad. Don’t take that fool back at all
hahahaha
Right. You aren't his back up plan.
Lol 😂
You are Sooooooo right. They Never come back because they want us. They come back because WHAT they wanted didn't want them Point Blank PERIOD!!!!!! LET SORRY AZZ DOGS LAY...........somewhere else after they leave
@@Cutegirl8614 Preach
If a man leaves you, help him politely pack his bags, walk him to the door, then smile and THANK God he's no longer wasting your TIME✌✌✌✌✌✌✌✌✌
RealTalk
#TRUTH TOLD
I like it😂😂😂
Alicia Smith I literally did this two weeks ago!!!!
Lol...😂😂😂Real talk!
If he walks let him....I know it hurts I know! I’m still in that pain but I know it will get better! Ladies let him go!
This made my heart hurt because I tried to convince myself otherwise but I know it’s true 😢. Someone who loves and wants you won’t take the risk of losing you.
Fuck 😞😭 its true i keep believing he does love me and that hed never do this..but he did.he played me and lied soo much..how can people be so cruel.
"He leaves you, because he doesn't want you" Real Talk!
So true Women please listen and srop being a fool.
👏🏾PERIOD👏🏾
For real.....for real!
That right 🕺💃🚵🤦
Something else but I am changing my life around.
Be happy that he left. He made space for the right man to come into your life.
A broken man will leave you for an easy prey when you finally stand up for yourself .
This is what happened to me last night.
@@Th3lite don’t feel bad when he acts like life is amazing now because it’s all a lie.
@@adianezhernandez5877 Thank you.
Happened to me. I cud care less. He was insecure and had low self esteem. 🤷🏾♀️✌🏾
Me currently
Ladies, remember that if a man doesn't want you DO NOT devalue yourself or think that you're less than because some man doesn't want you. Remember ladies YOU are the prize. Sometimes a so-called man leaves because he's inferior and a vacillator. Just because a man sees you as a wife doesn't mean he's up to par to be your husband. Ladies, remember you also have something to bring to the table. It's not all about the man. Men have to level up as well.
SAY THAT!!!
Some men leave because they know they are no good for u.
True.
Facts
NO NO men who leave have more options. That is why they can walk away. Men who stay means you are the best they can get
J & S, Amen to that 💯.
@@lounemo866...💯 I agree! Having options means an abundance or quantity of NOT necessarily QUALITY. As long as ANYbody is offering him easy sex, a crash pad and gas, Xbox, rims, Jordans, happy hour and club hoppin' allowance money, those are his options! But as soon as the 420 haze clears and he gets tired of her, he realizes those women are even bigger heauxs and a RISK than him OR they too are hustlers running game and refused to accept his bullsh*t the baby mamas or shotgun wives tolerated. Months later.... "Hey or What r u Doing?...I miss u, etc" lame texts! 🤬
If he leaves, then you were not his first choice. Therefore, don't let him abuse your love by taking him back, especially if he comes back broke, busted and disgusted!
"If a man sees you as his dream woman, he will never walk away from you'
He’ll find someone that will allow him to do whatever he wants
Yep, he's waiting for the one he truly wants or using you to get to the one he truly wants.
And when he leaves tell him bye! Never beg or ask any man to stay.
I learned that that HARD WAY because I was deeply in love.
Oh yes let him GOOooooooo
Ann’s sadly, these women be begging them 🤦🏾♀️
But I don't know how......💔💔💔
I said make sure that’s what you wanna do cause there’s no 3rd chance. He left and I’m at peace!
It also depends on the guys maturity level. You can be wifey material and he can worship the ground you walk on but he can still leave you to see what's out there "sow his oats". Men marry the woman who happens to be around when he is finally READY to settle down.
The most authentic comment I ever read on this issue.
That’s not love watch team jaxn he said just having a women around on that subject
This is 💯 truth! They will select from the best available “options” at the point and time .... when they decide to marry. Unless, they are guided by the Spirit of God.
This is true sister
It’s true, it’s all about timing. A good friend of mine married someone because he hit 40 and wanted a family and it was the right thing to do. She wasn’t his dream woman or someone he’s searching for , it was the right time and right place.
Another friend who met someone he truly connects with for once , but he was divorced twice and truly scared of marriage/commitment again , he fell in love but got too much past baggage and went into self sabotage pattern ….so he lost her , it was a self fulfilling prophecy, not because he was still out there looking for his perfect woman
You should never be a option to no man. Count your blessings when a man don't want you..He knows he is not worthy of you.
Not all the time he might not see wifey material some of us give too much too soon
"Don't reinforce behaviors that you don't want." I feel sooo much better now. I had to do what I had to do!
If my man leaves me, he better stay exactly where he’s at 🤷🏾♀️💯
On everything 💯✔
Amber Brooklyn same 😒
Say it louder
Exactly
He won't have to leave me... I can show him better than i can tell him. When he sees me walking away and sees the back of my head that's his memory of me for life.
This hurts to hear, but I know it’s true. I’m struggling with the rejection of it all. At my core I knew he didn’t really love me. I was convenient. Tony keep speaking the truth.
@@vivianbella3075 sis I don’t want him
He said he’d never reject me just to turn around and leave me for good
Omg!!! My boyfriend left me said he needed time to grow! I told him that doesn’t make sense if you love me you will grow with me through it! And he stated he couldn’t! Look what you said he wouldn’t leave you for that dayum 💯 firmed that for me!
"Time to weigh his options without having to answer to you." FACTS
So deep! So true! Men always want the easy route.
Okay so bye bye, dude. Free folk don't have to answer to others and since he don't like being held accountable, he can stay gone forever.
Triple facts!!
So deep! This is the absolute truth.
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Wow thank you for this Mr. Gaskins
My ex was emotionally abusive and he led me on for years
We finally got together and 50 days before our wedding he called it off and left me.. Got another woman pregnant
Now two years later... He's back... Trying to come back to me now...
He homeless.. He has no job... Down on his luck
But he saying he messed up... He shouldn't have left... He want us back... He realize it now
I'm no fool at all....
I'm done with him
I'm at peace now waiting on my Husband
Mona Carletta you’re a strong woman 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💗
You should teach other women because when stuff like this happens, all women should be like hell to the no!
Many blessings
Mona Carletta Carry on and never look back! Karma’s taking care of him! Move on and move up!
Stay strong sister. Your husband is on his way
AMEN ! My Man was with me 20 years till death do us part , passed away 14 years ago. He was the love of my life !
Lucky, how'd you get so lucky??!
"He's just not that into you". That message has been out there for years. I've heard that if a man has been with you for two or more years and has not made a commitment like asking you to marry, then he never will. I've found that to be true. And a man will stay with you even tho he doesn't love you while he's seeing someone else...until he works up the courage to leave you, he will 'ride the fence'. When he feels confident that he doesn't need you anymore and the new lady is what he really wants, watch him go. Just watch. And men that are cheating will pick a fight every chance he can so he can go be with his new interest. Every time. And you will sit at home crying and asking yourself what you have done to run him off.
So true :(
your comment makes me sick.. Cause I think this is what happened to my x// we were together for 3 yrs and towards the end he was acting off and i sense something and when he left me over xmas out of the blue .. I asked him if it was another woman and he said no.. I just wished i can find out the truth thats what bothers me the most if it was for another woman. within the last yr i gave him the opportunity to leave when i brought up i wanted more attention from him and everytime he told me how much i meant to him and he didnt leave but all the sudden a month before 3 yrs he walked out on me... I hate him i was a good woman to him . Thats what hurts the most...
AquariuzDiva he didn’t deserve you
Yup I’m going through this rn . Thinking maybe I’m just too damaged
@@Maggie-yf7hx The trick is to get out when you start suspecting he is not what you THINK he is. We tend to hang on and wait for him to be/act like what we think he can be. Ain't gonna happen. There is better out there, just don't keep repeating your mistake by picking losers. Change it up. Expect more from the guy. Value yourself!!
Throw away them on and off relationships
Amen.
Straight up, it's too much going on out here. That's a sure way to catch something...no thank you
Facts
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Real talk
Man this is true ..if a man pulls back..you pull back and keep it pushing with no contact and watch how things change
Yesssssss, #Pullback and 🏃 🏃 🏃
Queenn KEE amen! This is how it goes. The test is real ladies. Be aware and maintain your value!
Yes!
Wow I was just thinking this that exactly what I am going to do due to it's been 3 days I haven't heard from him he is alive because I seen him online so I am going to keep living my life don't have time for games
Its hard
So, if a man sees you as his wife, he won't LEAVE but he will test you and/or do you dirty? Make it make sense, Jesus.🤦🏾♀️
Sir, You may not realize how this message was a gift from God! Thank you!
So men are just kids in grownup bodies. Sad day when we have to teach every man how to treat us. What is really going on?😫
Right, to much time being wasted.
That’s the stunning realization that eventually hits women in adulthood-realizing that we’re the only responsible grownups in the world...the spiritual challenge is to accept this without becoming bitter.
Hey, no woman needs to stand up to that kind of behaviour. A man who is truly transformed in the heart like Jesus will not behave in these kind of ways! It's not worth it ladies, putting up with these kind of behaviours. Why should you marry a man who cannot lead you! The fact that he is playing games is a sign that he is not a leader and you do not want that in your life! Period!
I had to teach my ex husbund how to treat a women. In his next relationship.
@BabyLove I don't want to generalize but just notice all the relationship coaches popping up. No its not all men but seems like a really high percentage of grown boys. Correct me if I am wrong but I thought I heard Tony say that his wife had to leave him before they got married to get him to see the light. It's just a shame that most guys have to call your bluff because they know so many women are willing to stay and put up with the disrespect. IJS
I am a virgin, I have good qualities, I look good and I have much more.
If he doesnt want me, I dont want him either.
I'm the prize.
Save yourself until marriage and keep your womb locked down
Dont mention you're a virgin, you become prey quicker than a prize. Analyze him, don't even mention nothing about your status. You waste a lot of time that way.
@@chellestephens2098 I agree. I'm learning you should ask questions and not talk to much as in give him too much information about yourself. Check out Pastor RC Blake's Jr. Video on questions to ask a man you're dating. You can ask him his view on sex before marriage, but even before that ask if he believes in God, if he goes to church, spends time in the Word, etc. Like bring up a chapter you're reading and see what he does. Best thing to is to ask God for discernment.
@@chellestephens2098 Thank you for your comment but just so you know, I am 27. I've been preyed upon but never a prey. I know who I am. I tell it like it is. No pre-marital sex and flaky behaviour. Have a nice day.
@RKELLYSCOCO I am not saving myself for marriage because I want to show I am a good girl. I am saving myself because this is MY choice to honor Jesus. This has nothing to do with a man. Also , I would be careful with wanting to " experience life " having sex outside of marriage because body count matters to me. I value my body and I am not sharing it with just anyone.
Have a nice day.
They usually leave you when there is someone else
@@beckyblack3499 Trueeeeeee!!!!
At 55 I've learned if he leaves you he don't love u, if he stays he'll play you, if you're married to him he'll cheat on you, if you stand your ground he'll beat you, if you submit to him he'll control you, if you love him.....you will get HURT...in some way shape or form....PUT GOD FIRST.... I've seen it all not from my own experiences but others. They are just too much work! I'm not bitter and have gain my sense of wholeness. My childbearing days are beyond me to require the purpose of man in union so what other purpose would he have I ask??? If you're young, get it right with GOD FIRST....find yourself, enjoy your singleness. The OLDER YOU GET the SLIMMER THE PICKING 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️....thankful I am complete, running my business and enjoying my grand. Do I hope for a senior life partner... sure I do....is it my focus....NOPE🤗🤗🤗...had a lotta growing to get here👌🏾👌🏾
I'm a woman of a certain age as well ,and all the scenarios you said about their behaviors ,actions and the outcome is you'll be left broken and with nothing from men like that. Alot of men on finding our dont even like women and it starts from grandma to mother. Mostly in our culture, is the lack of an loving examples of how to love women.
Very well said and Katrina and thank you for your wisdom.
Wow bless you! My man just left me pregnant due to his “covid depression” and people who died around him and how he after that started smoking and boozing. I’ve been there in all ways all the time. We’ve been trying to conceive for 4 years. And now that I’m miraculously pregnant he leaves me. I’m devastated. Wonder if I can do this alone? Never felt a greater sadness in my entire life. Please pray for me and this little baby!
@@Lilstarshine find online support groups, friends family that's willing to help you along the way. He may come back because of the baby.
Right there with ya sister...😊
This is actually true. Men test you more than women 😂
Omg!!!! Wow very true. Us women need to test men.
Time and Time again this test has been done on millions, probably billions of women. And with no AVAIL!!!! it always fails. Boys have not learned a thing.
Waaaaaay more!
I do n i call they bluff!
If he wants to test me he can but he’s getting cut off right after.
A man will only do what you allow him to do. Especially, if he is already comfortable been disrespectful, and you take him back every time. He will continue to lie, cheat, be verbal and sometimes physically abusive. Who wants a man like that, not me, that's not the man God will give you. God will show you red flags so you can cut him off, and keep it moving. He might change for the next one, but a person shouldn't have to put you through all that just to see if he wants to be with you. I mean by then you don't want him because you don't trust him and you have lost all respect for him, and without those two things, you have no foundation to stand on at all. BOY KICK ROCKS AND KEEP IT MOVING!!!
Yes sir!!!💙💙💙
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Preach sis!
Kenesha Williamson ; Amen, I know that’s right.
The fact is that a lot of us will remain single and waiting. It's just life. Sometimes it is for the best. People have become progressively more selfish and distracted.
Yes!!! I've already decided to remain single permanently for this reason. People have become to toxic to date.
I should have left when my intuition told me too, but I listened to my mom!🤦🏾♀️ Didn’t matter anyway he ended up leaving. Thank you Next!
Your right he won't leave, because I've been married 24 years in December, and my husband has never left me, I separated from him in the beginning, because we were so young, now things are great we still have are disagreements, but we never go to sleep angry, we apologise to each other, we get over it, and don't dwell on things, we don't even argue like we used to when we were younger, we had to grow up together
Happy for you guys God bless your union
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The correct way to have said or written this: '[ .... in 24 yrs. of marriage my husband hasn't ever told me he's wanted to leave. However; when we first married, a few yrs after, I had to leave him. We had some things to work through, communicate, etc. I believe we're both hoping to make 50+ yrs together, until one of us dies, till death do us part, this is our NEVER]' ❤ That's when someone can truly say never! 10 - 20 are the training wheels and warm up years.
MeTalk TV 🙏🏽
I will see if my marriage EVER gets that way.
Please gather enough strength to let him leave. There's somebody for everybody. Hanging onto someone who does not want you is blocking the blessing of the one who is praying for someone just like you.
Be only around people who welcome you in their lives, who respect you and value you
Why do men test women like they are little children? Never have I tested a person to see how bad they will let me treat them. I have ZERO desire to treat anyone badly. SMH
i understand but women are grown children if you look at it properly
@@user-co5vf5ph8p Women are not “grown children”. What type of women have you been associating with?
@@kimberly329 definitely not mature women like you but it is true.
@@user-co5vf5ph8p No it is not true. You made a blanket statement about women as a whole. Then you segmented out “mature” women. Do immature people (men and women) exist? Absolutely! Are they this way as a general rule? Absolutely not!
@@kimberly329 you cannot tell my story. I've lived it. I am the one dealing with them. Women are grown children realize it or not
Thank you so much Tony for telling us the truth! I had one leave me and it's the best thing that ever happened to me! I've lost 55 lbs and living my best life yet! ❤
Happy for you.
Go sis!!!
Yass!! Sis !! #levelup
So happy for you.
Get it girl that's right queen
I agree. I had one, but we were not right for each other. The relationship was emotionally abusive and toxic. So I left him.
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship too. I have never been the same since. Completely broken. A man who really loves you won't do that.
@@Cutegirl8614 I agree, I don't think he even realized it. He was so unhappy with himself and a total Narcissist. Not an excuse but still. Stay strong girl!
@@Cutegirl8614 me too! I'll never be the same. Now I tell guys i don't have any faith anymore when it comes to dating; I don't want to be bothered.
All the love you were pouring into the person who didn’t appreciate NOW needs to be pour back into yourself. I understand finding yourself again can be difficult but it doesn’t have to be. Start doing the things that you loved to do before, whether that was taking yourself out to eat, getting your nails and feet done, pursing a degree, hanging out with your friends, attending relationship seminars, reading books, writing, whatever the case may be start loving you again. You can become whole again but it’s going to take the strong person that you have inside of you to pick yourself up. Start pouring those positive affirmations within yourself that “ You can do this”. Don't give up on yourself and have faith that God can heal your broken heart if you truly let him (Psalm 147:3) ❤️
@@quishia great suggestions luv. I am trying! oxox. Now living my life for me!
Prayer and acceptance works in helping you get through this. Draw boundaries next time. Either you're off or you're on, cut this part-time mess.
Give a man the same energy he gives you.. it’s not being petty.. it’s called self preservation. He gave you crumbs you gave him crumbs.. at the end , what did you lose? ... Nathan 👏🏽
THANK YOU TONY!!,SO MANY WOMEN DON'T WANT TO HEAR THIS BUT IT'S THE TRUTH AND IT'S TIME WE STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THESE GROWN BOYS.
Donzella Craig exactly
Yep. We all just have to “let it burn” and move on with our lives.
Soooo many women won't listen and keep their head in the clouds.
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@RKELLYSCOCO I agree But the ironic thing is you won't be alone. You will be with a person better fit for you. I can't lose the faith. And it does take a while longer to meet that person.
I needed to hear this as a reminder, I spent nearly two years trying to help him realize we both needed to grow up, the truth is I had to trust myself enough too give up. I may not ever love someone as much as him again, but at least I will never allow myself to be treated that way by anyone else again.
I did this also for 7 years too long. His priority was not the same as mine. He wanted to spend money and I wanted to save for a house and our future. Well after our 5 year plan, still no house and he was gone. I kicked him to the curb
A L right 💯
@@ChristineSolazzo I feel ya! The fact is you tried and he was unreasonable., like where was the compromise executed. Every guy I've dated has been selfish and I was overwhelmed but this was the longest I've waited, never again! Lesson learned and good luck loves💕
Dear A L.......I agree with you 100%. I know that I will NEVER love a man the way that I loved "the love of my life" and I will NOT allow myself to be treated badly ever again. God bless.
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When a man discard you Does it also mean that he don't want you
Totally broke my heart to have to face the truth of your words... but... picking myself up and moving forward and never looking back is the only way I will begin to heal... it’s hurts but I need to hear the truth in order to let go of hope... thank you
After getting engaged, he started posting things about his ex on FB. I said it was disrespectful to me, and I will not accept or allow that from him. Awwwww he went ghost 👻. Guess I wasn’t the one for him THANK GOD
Wow, that is crazy. Sis, be glad he posted on FB. That was divine intervention for you. Once he did that, and you checked him, you discovered that "he" wasn't good enough for you; not the other way around. Keep your head up, stay Blessed and don't question it. The Lord has a great man for you. Wait. In waiting stay prayed up, praise and worship the Lord, and do you for now. Shalom hun😍
He was engaged to someone else ?
@BabyLove you hit it dead on the nail been there also my ex of over 14 years we have a adult child did the same thing to attempt a engagement to someone to try and make me jealous don't know why . I told him where's your wedding registry at maybe I can send y'all a wedding gift when that didn't work he married her he called me 7or 8 times in 1 day like before the wedding and 2 months after the wedding I ignore his call I guess he wanted me to say something or bust up in the church like Suge Avery from the Color Purple to stop it.... ...not ! he still continue to call me finally I blocked him because it became sick sir call your wife .
When he started posting I would have shown he is a silent way!
He was a child
If a man leaves you, count it a blessing, and keep it moving forward!!! Learn whatever lesson you needed to learn from that relationship, grow wiser from the experience. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a season. We Good!!! ✌❤😊
Amen
It seems like black men play a lot of games.
Crazy Bruja all men do!
@@SK-no2pp TRUE. I've dated across the spectrum. I've only encountered BM playing these level of games.
And women!
BNer Don’t let a man or woman dictate your self worth and self esteem. A man or woman who loves you will not put himself in the position to lose you. Some are just feeding breadcrumbs and people are seeing a whole loaf of bread. Yes the connection is strong and exists but if it’s toxic- detach. We can never change anyone. A person has to want to elevate and better themselves on their own time ⭐️
@@SK-no2pp just saying both gender play games just pointing that out.
From experience, when you learn to LOVE yourself 1st and you REALIZE who you are you won't put up with his BS and if he leaving I swear he NEEDS TO GO, AND I WOULDN'T DARE stand in the WAYYYY!! Real talk
They always come back after they’ve decided to leave. 🗣YOU SAID YOU DIDN’T WANT MEEEEE. What do you wantttttttt
My best friend left me for another woman lol and he still lurking around me lol I’m close proximity but he wants sex from her so this is helpful but we weren’t together I’m celibate and that’s an issue for him he still a grown boy though
ALWAYS come back.begging. pleading.
Nobody wanted their dirty a** on the other side!😮
@@ulricka2131 Exactly, then they want to slide back. It has happened to me. He wants me back, BUT hell to the NO!!!! Boy BYE!!!!
@@e.adriannapatterson3900 you are a queen my dear, not a garbage bin😉
“If a man sees you as his dream woman/wife, he will NEVER leave you”😭❤️
I guess i wasnt it..nothing but his fucken fool
Guys (like my ex) wanted perfection sadly.
This is my 2nd time watching this video and it’s still hard to hear but I needed to hear this to remind myself I can’t ever look back. Moving on for good! Thank you Tony!
This is ridiculous. I've seen my brotheand male cousins leave women they love and they regret it to this day!
Come on, Tony.
Amen. A MAN will NEVER leave you. Thank you sir.
Thank you, Tony! Ladies, know that a man is not Oxygen that we need to stay Alive! If they can’t be Right by us, they got to go! Period! Love Yourself and Respect Yourself and only then, you won’t accept anything less than you deserve!
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The part that hit me is when you said, some women will say my husband left me and he came back and now we are married. That was because you were able to put up with his mess.
Don’t let a man tell You TWICE he don’t want you ....
A REAL man won’t leave a woman that’s see a woman being his wife.
Carmen Thomas a grown boy will though hahaha because he isn’t ready to man up and reach those requirements he would say I’ll come back to that later believe me a grown boy may leave the woman he sees being his wife if he knows she wouldn’t tolerate his stuff if he knows she strong and if she gives him the vibe you can just bounce they know how to play with an not to
How you know what a Real man is when you’ve never been a man that’s opinion thats like me say what a “real women” should never turn their back on their man but y’all do it based off of your emotions
K S I can say for this woman but I will say a man will back off if you give him the vibes he isn’t wanted I would too and go to the next because a man isn’t gonna sit there and wait for you to see his value either or convince you sime guys run around even when they found there wife because they know like she ain’t gonna take me like this her actions says she is denying me and etc so they go on to the next woman
K S like I fuckn said a real man won’t leave a woman that he sees being his wife. Period. I don’t have to be a fuckn man to realize that
Carmen Thomas ouch periodt sus
I was married but my husband left... I was everything to him but it got to his head and ego.. All the good treatment made him feel as if he could walk all over me
Same happen to me he thought he could do better .Now hes trying his best to come back and I've file for divorce and I'm not looking back .when your nice they think your dumb learn this the hard way never again
@Benita Rodriguez It gets annoying trying to keep checking his behavior
My husband left me and died within a year of being gone. Its not a game this thing called marriage. I could go into more but know this if your dating aman and he leaves you you dodged a bullet if married and he leaves its between him and God.
@Nia Marie there are some that leave. I've seen it. It usually happens when there's another woman. I know men who left the woman they were married to for 20+ years and have kids.
@@robinhockaday8621 yay
Thank you Tony for always being 100 and never sugar coating shit . Also- remember ladies it’s not a reflection of you . Narcissists always think the grass is greener and love having a garage full of supply so stay woke
So true. A lot of times women meet men with a ex wife or baby mama, and the ex always call talking about their past relationship with him. I honestly think if he wanted to be with you, why isn’t he with you? My husband always tells me that a man knows what he wants. A man will never ever leave you if he truly loves you under no circumstances, that is the truth sister’s. Well said Brother.
When he went back into the World the other Women wasn't willing to put up with him so he went back to you. Lord I Hollered
Jessie Jay right 😂
I'm with you sis! What a word!
That's usually the case. The other woman know he ain't shyt, she just wanted to have fun, then send him back to the dummy.
Wheeeeeeeew Weeeeeeee
The...TRUTH!!!!! Is..
.HARD CORE!!!!!😳👏👏👏
That's so true everyone ain't putting up with the bs
This is so true! If he sees you as his wife, he won't leave, so you have to leave him! Why? Because you can influence him to change, but you have to know your worth, and be willing to walk away! Staying in a toxic situation is stunting growth on both parts! There are habits and behaviors we must all die to and sometimes it takes walking away for a man to WAKE UP! Be willing to sacrifice and die to your flesh, so God's Spirit can have its way in the both of you! Sometimes we make people our idols, foolishness and all! You deserve better.
Amen brother! Thank you so much for this message. I was born again in January and have decided to be celibate since. This is also what Jesus was showing me.
This message is a true blessing and the information I needed as the catalyst for walking away and never turning back....ten years and i knew it in the first year but allowed myself to excuse all sorts of nonsense, disrespect, and abuse of many sorts. I built a damaging walls of denial that has slowly eroded my standards and self respect. Thank you for your clarity and surety..i believe you, and i appreciate the honesty.....I know you know- it hurts to hear it, but you told it anyway. And I listened and heard you loud and clear. Ill be forever changed because of this...and i am grateful for your video.
Listening to this has made me cry...it has been a month since my broken engagement and i carried myself well pretending nothing has affected me but listening to this has made me cry heavily. Truthfully the nights are longer and harder...i have been on automatic zombie mode but I needed this message right here. This is my wakeup call
Sister.... you will be well! It definitely won't feel this way now however, many of us have walked the path and are here to remind you! God is close to the broken hearted and he hears our cries; believe you me he does! He made me smile and laugh and breathe again-an entirely new creation in his love! He'll walk with you through this...find his word and let it minister to you! Much love!
You are still a Queen!!! God Bless and stay strong meaning - cry until you can't cry anymore!
Gets better with time! Just continue or start building yourself spiritually emotionally mentally and you will be just fine. And remember it’s ok to cry and be sad ... it’s apart of the healing process. 🙏🏽😘 I pray for the best for you.
Kafuyai D Wamae Sis, sometimes your heart has to be broken so your soul can be saved. I'm not talking about religion, I'm talking about things that will hurt you on a soul level. I know it hurts, but be thankful he left before you married him. God is protecting you from something you cant see. Ask HIM to reveal it to you in a dream.
@@dionice6361 it's hard for me to pray nowadays but i am determined to draw closer to God. Thank you
Yaaaaasssssssssss 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I have always said that a man needs to know what he has in me, while he is WITH me. Ain’t no “you don’t know what you got until it’s gone Chief”!!!!!
‘Most men don’t marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marry’.
This quote came to mind when you mentioned changing when your wife left you.
In my experience, a man will be madly in love with a woman, but not ready to change his ways, so he loses her because she wants to settle and he doesn’t. She then marries a man who was ready, and he is filled with deep regret when he sees her with someone else, knowing that could have been him. The man then settles for someone mediocre when he decides he is ready.
Point is ladies, a man has to be ready for you. That’s on him. You could be the most beautiful, intelligent, perfect being he has ever seen or known, but will still lose you if he isn’t ready to commit. I’ve seen plenty of women with the mentality that they can be the one to change him, and are left disappointed when they find it isn’t so. He will see what you put up with. But if you refuse to accept his bullshit, he won’t try to change for you.
He will do it momentarily to convince you to take him back, and the cycle repeats itself again. As women we’d like to think that men will open their eyes and see what is infront of them, but the majority of times they won’t. It takes losing you for them to realise, and by that point it’s too late.
Very true just fact
Very well said!
Facts!!!
That was a hard pill to swallow
Gorgeous Travels - the truth always is
Very
This is so true. Back in my young and dumb days I use to run behind them to prove my worth. Would jump through hoops and wear myself out so they can notice all that I had to offer. Now I disappear without notice like they do me so I can level up even more for myself and children. Now they mad like I did them dirty, wanna come round and ACT like I should give them all of everything they walked away from back without them proving they deserve it. It's all fun and games until the cat has the gun and the cheat sheet to the games that's being ran! #SuckerFree
Preach sis
I don't know if I agree. Men r sad, they can be madly in love with you, know they wanna marry you B U T either intimidated, immature, or all the above. They will leave whether they love u and want u or dont want u. But when GOD is involved it's ORDAINED, if he is obedient and a godly man he will PURSUE you and STAY. God bless
I agree with you
Indeed
I agree with you
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Steve Harvey knew he would marry Marjorie but had to walk away n get himself together financially so that he could provide for her.
Facts because my estranged husband cheated on me and boom 💥 Gave me the world 🌎 all I never asked for was and is an excellent father to our girls but couldn’t stay out the streets and has he left me no I had to relocate to get away from him now he is in prison and I’m submitting my divorce papers Monday ... so whalllaah lord mercy Jesus god is good because he is fighting it but if god be for me who can be against me I’m out come death 💀 hell high water 💧 or no water 💧 many blessings peace 🙇🏾♀️🙏🏿💜💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿
This is mostly true but definitely told from a male's perspective. Some men also leave because of their own insecurities. He can see you as his wife and want you to have his children.... But if he feels strongly that he cant measure up financially, sexually or emotionally, whatever...he'll get ghost on that ass just as well. He'll leave first to avoid the pain of you potentially leaving him heartbroken.
Hi Tony,
Thank you for revealing what I needed to hear for a long time. I've been holding on to someone for seven years even though all the signs were right in front of my face. Now I can move forward and live my authentic self. No more baggage.
This video came right on time !!! Verbal abuse is a real thing. I’m not tolerating that behavior so since, my man can’t understand time to leave.
Just to respond to the title... LET 👏🏾 HIM 👏🏾 GO 👏🏾!
Kendra Alanna, great words of wisdom!
peggy ONeal ❤️
100% Sis!
Thank you!
AMEN
These words from this man are TRUE!! Earlier on in my relationship with my husband, I actually tried to push him away just to see if I was really truly without a doubt the woman that he wanted, and indeed I could not push him away. He wanted me then and wants me even more now!! I love my husband and he is MY person 💙💚💜💙💚💜
You can't allow a man to slide with NOTHING
Absolutely!!! Accountability is Key...Because I rather be alone then put up w/juvenile antics from boys inside a man's body.
Just today I found out my ex went back to a woman who stalked him constantly 6 years or so after we broke up. He has no job, owes child support (huge amt)took me thru a bunch of crap... I got my peace!
Same HERE!!! I FEEL LIKE a whole NEW woman!
True talk Tony.
It is time for us women to know we are the Prize. Our hearts are not on sale.
Hélène Id. I charge sorry not sorry!
no youre not the prize lady
The thing is, I’ve learned men will leave a woman who they love. Every circumstance is different.
Why?
For instance my boyfriend left me because of my same repetitive mistakes, is it a good excuse?
Amen!! I gotta remind my self of this every day 💪🏽💯
Stay strong guys
Stay blessed
Now I UNDERSTAND why during the two yrs he would do things so I would leave him but I never would; l loved him. He would be the one to walk away then return a few months later and do it again and again. HE KNEW I WAS NOT THE WIFE HE WAS LOOKING FOR but couldn't find it in his heart to tell me. He didn't want to hurt me so he rather that I made the decision...Wow...! Now I can finally come to terms with it. The LIGHTBULB CAME for me. Thank you Mr. Gaskin
This was soooo powerful and what I NEEDED to hear....this was my closure for real!
You have just described my marriage of 32 years. I so thought I wasn't putting up with his nonsense, but, he had the last laugh. He left me like I was nothing, my eyes are so open to what he's been in the relationship. He's a SERIOUS conman. Be on the alert to what is being said in this video ladies, this gentleman is the REAL REAL TRUTH. Young man your so beyond your years, GOD Bless.
How refreshing it is to hear a mans perspective. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.