How do I stop being bitter when something always seems to come up? Either more info, big d days, like another person he cheated with during that same few months he had his affair, or things/behaviour that make me feel unsafe? I feel like I am always angry and totally stuck in recovery. A huge hurdle we are facing is my husbands job. He met his ap on the job, it is unlikely, but possible he could run into her again. His friend who he works with helped him in his affair, by allowing him to use his phone. He works away all the time with this friend. I’m totally uncomfortable with the whole situation. The type of people he works with are people who are not faithful to their spouses, including this friend who helped and supported his unfaithfulness. He is surrounded by bad influences. We need the money though right now. It’s hard for him to cut off his friend when he works with him everyday. It’s hard for him to just walk away from this job. But his job is just a constant trigger. Is it fair I ask he doesn’t spend any time with this friend outside of work only? Until he is able to actually find a new career? Is it fair I ask him to find work elsewhere? I don’t see how we can move forward or how I will ever feel safe when he is in this line of work...
Lindsay P i wonder the same! My bf always has a work cell & computer that i have no access to. What info i got from him i had to beg for and it changed multiple times. I dont know what is true or a lie.
I really recommend The power of now by Eckart tolle, you can find it here on youtube. It all happens for a reason I promise, is not happening to you, but for you!! Ask for guidance you'll be surprised! you'll see signs everywhere!
I am very angry for 2 years during his strip club visits he lied about going to the massive porn use over 25 years he wouldn’t let me pair skate I could have been really good and went to adult nationals. He took something from me I can never get back. I not only feel cheated in my marriage but my 30 years of marriage was a lie. He had a secret life. Out doing what he wanted knowing it would hurt me but also took away my life. I just don’t get it 😡
I choose not to be bitter, however, it’s stills creeps in and takes hold, I would appreciated some tools or ideas, to defuse and defeat that monster when it does creep in, , I recognised that monster when it creeps in and have given it a name, ( which I won’t say outloud here ) lol. And tell it to shut up, when I hear it’s voice in my head, but sometimes. It defeats me, and leaves me feeling paralysed and hopeless, for a day or 2 sometimes a week, Anyone got any ideas to help me defeat this bitterness monster for good? I would really appreciate it, it creeps in when I feel that I haven’t received the apology I deserve , over something my unfaithful did or said to me during his affair,
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How do I stop being bitter when something always seems to come up? Either more info, big d days, like another person he cheated with during that same few months he had his affair, or things/behaviour that make me feel unsafe? I feel like I am always angry and totally stuck in recovery. A huge hurdle we are facing is my husbands job. He met his ap on the job, it is unlikely, but possible he could run into her again. His friend who he works with helped him in his affair, by allowing him to use his phone. He works away all the time with this friend. I’m totally uncomfortable with the whole situation. The type of people he works with are people who are not faithful to their spouses, including this friend who helped and supported his unfaithfulness. He is surrounded by bad influences. We need the money though right now. It’s hard for him to cut off his friend when he works with him everyday. It’s hard for him to just walk away from this job. But his job is just a constant trigger. Is it fair I ask he doesn’t spend any time with this friend outside of work only? Until he is able to actually find a new career? Is it fair I ask him to find work elsewhere? I don’t see how we can move forward or how I will ever feel safe when he is in this line of work...
Lindsay P i wonder the same! My bf always has a work cell & computer that i have no access to. What info i got from him i had to beg for and it changed multiple times. I dont know what is true or a lie.
I really recommend The power of now by Eckart tolle, you can find it here on youtube. It all happens for a reason I promise, is not happening to you, but for you!! Ask for guidance you'll be surprised! you'll see signs everywhere!
Bitterness toward God. !!! Talk about that !!!
Um this is POWERFUL!!!!!🙌👍👊👏
I am very angry for 2 years during his strip club visits he lied about going to the massive porn use over 25 years he wouldn’t let me pair skate I could have been really good and went to adult nationals. He took something from me I can never get back. I not only feel cheated in my marriage but my 30 years of marriage was a lie. He had a secret life. Out doing what he wanted knowing it would hurt me but also took away my life. I just don’t get it 😡
Sounds like he’s a narcissist
I choose not to be bitter, however, it’s stills creeps in and takes hold, I would appreciated some tools or ideas, to defuse and defeat that monster when it does creep in, , I recognised that monster when it creeps in and have given it a name, ( which I won’t say outloud here ) lol. And tell it to shut up, when I hear it’s voice in my head, but sometimes. It defeats me, and leaves me feeling paralysed and hopeless, for a day or 2 sometimes a week, Anyone got any ideas to help me defeat this bitterness monster for good? I would really appreciate it, it creeps in when I feel that I haven’t received the apology I deserve , over something my unfaithful did or said to me during his affair,
How do you know the difference if the behavior is continuing weekly from the Unfaithful