How to quit your life (and reboot): Priya Parker at TEDxUHasselt

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  • Опубликовано: 2 май 2024
  • Many people are doing jobs in fear; fear that they might not make the best out of their lives. Priya Parker provides seven techniques to help you quit your life and reboot.
    She invites you to use these techniques to explore the biggest needs in the world that you might have the passion and the capacity to address.
    Priya is an advisor to leaders and organizations on strategy, vision and purpose. Her company, Thrive Labs, works with individuals and teams to help them identify what they care about most and align it with market realities. Her research includes identifying what are the driving factors that lead people to thriving and what blocks them from it. She helps organizations keep and grow their culture and values as they scale. Drawing on 10 years of conflict resolution facilitation in the United States, India and the Middle East, Priya designs visioning and innovation labs that help organizations grow from the root.
    She has run her signature Labs for leading global firms as well as startups from a variety of disciplines. Her clients include disruptors from the fields of fashion, technology, design, development, film, comedy and government. Priya is an expert in innovative facilitation and process design and incorporates creative visioning and movement techniques into her work. Her goal is to help people spend more of their time building things that make them and others come alive.
    Priya received her B.A. in Political and Social Thought at the University of Virginia, Phi Beta Kappa, and an M.B.A. from MIT Sloan and an M.P.A. from the Harvard Kennedy School, where she received the Public Service Fellowship.

Комментарии • 776

  • @lyricystx
    @lyricystx 8 лет назад +302

    Though I agree with many of the comments about the elitist aspect of this talk, I would like to share this quote “Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own.” ― Bruce Lee. Cheers!

    • @heathermoran9526
      @heathermoran9526 4 года назад

      That was good

    • @alicetremain7366
      @alicetremain7366 4 года назад +2

      This is a talk I keep coming back to, lots of concrete suggestions. Your quote is also apt.

    • @RandyMercurio
      @RandyMercurio 4 года назад +1

      Thanks for commenting this. One of the first people outside my family to be influential as a kid. Still have posters of him around to remind me how amazing he was.

    • @danijelajovanovic3202
      @danijelajovanovic3202 2 года назад

      0000

  • @BrianAndersonTT
    @BrianAndersonTT 5 лет назад +29

    1) Imagine what you want your obituary to sound like by imagining all that you want from life and work backwards from your death.
    2) Recall, with the help of those who know you best, the times you felt most alive. Draw them into a comic strip.
    3) Get prepared for this drastic life change by doing uncomfortable things, mostly via social awkwardness.
    4) Define your life motto that is at the heart of all that you believe in and want.
    5) Figure out exactly how much cash you really need to survive by looking at your monthly expenses. (I personally advise that you factor unpredictable events also).
    6) Learn what you like to do by helping solve various different challenges others are facing.
    7) Have your friends hold you accountable by announcing your deadline to make the big change.

  • @OokamiKageGinGetsu
    @OokamiKageGinGetsu 8 лет назад +146

    Forget the Backward Elevator test. Instead, be the last person to walk into the elevator, face everyone in the elevator and say, "I've gathered you all here today is because one of you. . . is the murderer."

    • @WhoWouldWantThisName
      @WhoWouldWantThisName 7 лет назад +13

      Haha, love this idea. My kind of humor.

    • @politereminder6284
      @politereminder6284 4 года назад +2

      😂😂😂😂 This comment has made my day. Total deep belly laugh 😂😂😂😂

    • @heathermoran9526
      @heathermoran9526 4 года назад +1

      Lmao.... Good one. I walk in public with a feed the children red nose

    • @tradingstar9176
      @tradingstar9176 3 года назад +1

      XDXDXDXD

    • @hopefulkitty
      @hopefulkitty 3 года назад +1

      I would love to do this if my boss is in that elevator.

  • @PrettyBossUNLIMITED
    @PrettyBossUNLIMITED 8 лет назад +75

    I'm glad I watched this even after reading the comments. Regardless of income, she drops some jewels

    • @neoadviser8056
      @neoadviser8056 5 лет назад

      Just wonderful, I have been researching "goals for 2016 ideas" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Farnicaas Switcher Capitalisation - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my partner got amazing success with it.

    • @richardjackson7612
      @richardjackson7612 3 года назад

      @@neoadviser8056 by

  • @stephdee2711
    @stephdee2711 7 лет назад +9

    I have heard so many successful people and my mentors mention these principles. They all had a moment where they stopped and made the decision to step away and restart their lives.

  • @marktcoxlife5610
    @marktcoxlife5610 3 года назад +5

    I still come back to rewatch this every few months. Anyone else? Helped me SO MUCH when I was preparing to quit.

  • @tripod_of_Life
    @tripod_of_Life 9 лет назад +16

    Solitude is the best thing for recreation it helps you to know your true inner being.

  • @lorenl9262
    @lorenl9262 9 месяцев назад +2

    Kudos to you for this very inspirational speach as I am a 50 year old single male who has never married, never had any children and have never owned a house. I stand here and ask myself where my life has gone and if I am truly happy with the position I am faced with!!!!!

  • @random-accessmemory9201
    @random-accessmemory9201 2 года назад +3

    I just quit my job, I badly need this right now. Thank you very much Priya.

  • @v.dembsey3355
    @v.dembsey3355 7 лет назад +18

    Lots of answers to be had by asking at any given time, "What would I do if I wasn't afraid?" It doesn't tell you HOW but it atleast reveals WHAT. It's often an easy and rather clarifying first step. Her observations of so many restless professionals reminds me of the George Carlin quote, "They call it the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it."

    • @devyn5174
      @devyn5174 5 лет назад +2

      V. Dembsey I totally agree. She was definitely speaking to a certain demographic (she isn’t talking to people who have gambled their savings away, or are in massive school loan debt, etc). She is talking to people who are passionless, who often don’t even know where to BEGIN in liking a job (else they would have pursued their passions long ago.) Based on who her target demographic is, she should have included the clarifying step as you suggested.

  • @3GRealty
    @3GRealty 9 лет назад +35

    My only criticism of this talk is the "dwindling cash" hack. Most people I know that want to quit their life/job are already living on a Top Ramen budget. I think Ms. Parker forgets that the audience isn't necessarily her typical client and we don't come from Harvard and MIT or have high paid corporate jobs. Most people need a reboot because not only does the soul sucking job also leaves them spiritually empty but financially broke as well. Otherwise she gives a very valuable lesson.

    • @SeanWork
      @SeanWork 9 лет назад +12

      Basically everything she talks about is summed up in the movie Office Space :).

    • @Kobac1990
      @Kobac1990 3 года назад +1

      Come to the comments to find this one. My thoughts exactly

    • @mathildedieujuste3673
      @mathildedieujuste3673 3 года назад

      Qqqq

    • @themaroon3521
      @themaroon3521 3 года назад

      Fr fr

  • @curiousgeorge555
    @curiousgeorge555 11 лет назад +92

    Maybe I'll "quit my life" and move into a van down by the river and then follow my dreams.
    Seriously!

    • @Slurmp-bn3hz
      @Slurmp-bn3hz 4 года назад +3

      That sounds nice!
      I dream of going back home to Bac Ninh in Vietnam
      (I was adopted and raised in Canada)
      Or maybe I’ll go to Japan

    • @aussernllc
      @aussernllc 3 года назад +3

      I've considered it

    • @levity90
      @levity90 2 года назад +3

      Just out of curiosity, did you?

    • @curiousgeorge555
      @curiousgeorge555 2 года назад +1

      @@levity90 Yes I did! Biggest mistake of my life.

    • @kasunrajapaksha4108
      @kasunrajapaksha4108 2 года назад +2

      @@curiousgeorge555 Hai, what do you mean by biggest mistake.
      Did you really moved into a van down by the river?
      Did anything went wrong, what did you do after moving to the van.

  • @onnylei
    @onnylei 8 лет назад +6

    I think it's sad how much negativity arises from positivity. The lady never says this is the "be all and all". Thank you Priya for your time and advice.

  • @goosebump91
    @goosebump91 8 лет назад +10

    i don't make much money and i still find some of her suggestions helpful. When there's a will, there's a way. It might not lead you to the best path you want, but at least you get to walk your own crafted path. Life is short. I'd rather take a shot at something scary but meaningful than to get old and regret how i spent my life.

  • @Jen5667
    @Jen5667 9 лет назад +15

    I'm surprised this talk has so many negative comments. I think it applies to people unhappy with their lives, regardless of income level. If you're unhappy with your life, your job, your income level then do something about it. I think this is a good talk and it has some practical tips.
    Also, the speaker said that this talk is specifically relevant to the 'swing voters', therefore if you're comfortable and you've accepted your lot then you won't identify with this.

    • @Patrick10271995
      @Patrick10271995 9 лет назад +1

      Guero Smith you're definitely right. internet is like gold mining field, before you get the golds, you have to deal with a lot of **** people.

  • @RickoH_NZ
    @RickoH_NZ 8 лет назад +23

    Finally! A Ted talk with some useful tools for change! Thanks Priya Parker!! :-)

  • @lancelot1953
    @lancelot1953 9 лет назад +9

    This is a powerful lecture, I thank TEDx for making these lectures available free for the community to enjoy, to benefit from and to help make this world a better place to live, Thank you for all the videos that you are sharing with us, Ciao, L

  • @marybarton2011
    @marybarton2011 10 лет назад +27

    Brilliant. People who are fearful and insecure are hating on her. What she is saying is to find inspiration and like what you do. Yes, most of us are too afraid to face a little hardship to pursue it.

    • @anthonybaldwin9215
      @anthonybaldwin9215 10 лет назад +8

      Not hating .... she is an idealist .... thought provoking but without merit on a mass scale. That's an amazing concept: "You disagree with me therefore you are a hater." LOL

  • @carrielauer8913
    @carrielauer8913 6 лет назад +11

    This was a great talk and the timing is perfect. I am not in the higher level income, but I am newly unemployed, 64, and looking at what I really want to express in the world.

  • @lovetrustandpixiedust
    @lovetrustandpixiedust 6 лет назад +3

    I like that she offers actual hacks and techniques instead of just giving a fluffy speech.

  • @dirtymartini27
    @dirtymartini27 8 лет назад +3

    this rebooting idea sounds exciting in theory but many many of us cannot financially afford to push pause on the world & find our talents & start from scratch. Thanks for the inspiring words tho, I made some affirmation flash cards that will go up in my room

  • @ScottLRoyal
    @ScottLRoyal 8 лет назад +3

    Inspiring and wonderful. Re-booting is a choice, one that any of us can make, if we decide to divorce ourselves from our loyalty to the way things are or have been, in favor of what they may become if we would reach beyond our comfort zones. Live beyond our comfort zones. The beauty of Priya's presentation is that she lit a giant green light encouraging us to dare to believe and to leave behind what we were taught to be and become what were meant to be.

  • @victoriawawrzyn
    @victoriawawrzyn 8 лет назад

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! Couldn't have come at a better time. So many of us are numbed, paralyzed by fear.

  • @janaepatricewalker1598
    @janaepatricewalker1598 9 лет назад +39

    I'm a little surprised by some of the negative comments about this video. I do believe that a lot of Priya Parker's advice is geared toward privileged people (ex. being afraid of eating alone and staring at folks in an elevator to test one's discomfort threshold are what I'd call First World Problems). But this advice can be applicable to average joes like us too. It's not a frivolous nor elitist pursuit to make one's life more meaningful. People blame debts and bills and obligations for keeping them stuck in lives that are numbing or suffocating. But what were any of those student loans or houses or children worth if one's life revolves around fear? Making the radical choice of discovering and working toward your passion, while uncomfortable and scary in the short term, will lead to greater reward and a richer life in the long run. It's a shame the folks who might benefit most from taking a few positive risks, namely the folks thumbing this video down, will never take the leap and will continue to be miserable.

  • @coolmaandude
    @coolmaandude 10 лет назад +26

    Wow... there seems to be a lot of fear ridden people commenting here. Unfortunately the fact that they are so fearful prevents them from accepting they are or even being able to see the depth of the conversation this lady is having through her talk.. :)

  • @mobk9774
    @mobk9774 6 лет назад +5

    Priya - your talk stirred emotions within me and brought me to tears. One of the best and most useful TED Talks I've listened to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and please continue to inspire and share your knowledge. You could be the reason for inspiring the next great contributor to humanity

  • @lilliemonroe8959
    @lilliemonroe8959 9 лет назад +3

    one of the best seminars I have listened to all year!!! Amazing!!!

  • @KuduBal
    @KuduBal 10 лет назад +4

    Not death by PowerPoint, very refreshing!
    Very good speaker until the last word.

  • @azzumbajohnson3995
    @azzumbajohnson3995 8 лет назад +76

    I found the talk to be excellent and never noticed any lip smacking. I think the advice she shared could be applied to anyones situation as she shared seven different tests with the obituary, comic strip and elevator tests having nothing to do with money. I am only commenting because she or her people may scan the comments and I want them to know that I did find value in the talk. The glass is half full and we can take control of our own futures.

    • @cityotter
      @cityotter 8 лет назад +2

      +AZZUMBA JOHNSON OMG you're lucky! I really want to watch this, but the dry tongue lip smack sound is curdling! just awful! drink some water before giving a speech for god's sake! hope i can make it through. . .

    • @favoritefrontrangehomes7235
      @favoritefrontrangehomes7235 5 лет назад

      Nice talk.
      Doable steps.

  • @seancampbell9689
    @seancampbell9689 4 года назад

    Absolutely amazing! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us!

  • @fluffynamedkimba
    @fluffynamedkimba 8 лет назад +3

    she is fantastic. thank you so much for posting this.

  • @raghav3093
    @raghav3093 6 лет назад +24

    If you are poor and unemployed, just remember - the investment banker in the shiny Mercedes is feeling absolutely miserable

    • @mathewbuchner199
      @mathewbuchner199 2 года назад +2

      Take it from me, finance is not all it’s cut out to be. Focus on happiness.

    • @Nikthehermit
      @Nikthehermit 2 года назад

      They are still human...

    • @WNCHSTR
      @WNCHSTR 2 года назад +1

      But wouldnt u rather be feeling miserable in a shiny mercedez than poor and unemployed?

    • @vijaygovind2134
      @vijaygovind2134 2 года назад

      @@WNCHSTR Point.

    • @SuperAlphaKirby
      @SuperAlphaKirby Год назад

      @@WNCHSTR it's the work that makes them miserable. Don't get me wrong, ik being poor sucks, but working all your life just so that you can ride lambos isn't that shiny either.

  • @normafrancisco5923
    @normafrancisco5923 10 лет назад +1

    This is just what I needed to hear. I could not figure out how I was going to find the time to do what I really want to do. Now I'm inspired to break free. I've been self employed before and can do it again. Thank you, Priya

  • @Prostitution1O1
    @Prostitution1O1 9 лет назад +2

    Reading TEDx comments and slowly realizing how much uneducated individuals comment.
    She promotes happiness in others and fulfillment in life, changing your life doesn't have a requirement. You don't need to be rich, or have X amount of commodities, just a perception.

  • @melisateoh
    @melisateoh 9 лет назад

    Thank you for sharing insights from your research and presenting a well structured approach.

  • @travellearn3931
    @travellearn3931 3 года назад +2

    This interview is so underrated. This should have way more views! Great 👍🏼

  • @teawithal3uml3lel3ee
    @teawithal3uml3lel3ee 8 лет назад

    This is one of the best Ted Talks I've ever seen. She hits the nail on the head about bringing clarity to your life. I also love how she says things in the universe take time and space to evolve, so basically don't beat yourself up. And omg people who are saying this is unrealistic, that is advice for people who do have good incomes, for them to realize that they actually can live on less.

  • @annenjambi8579
    @annenjambi8579 10 лет назад +1

    This woman is a genius!!! Such profound insights expressed in such a practical manner. These are ideas definitely worth spreading.

  • @irinarudnev3188
    @irinarudnev3188 10 лет назад +7

    It is probably the most profound TED talk I have heard in the last few years! Thank you.

  • @aokiohyeah
    @aokiohyeah 9 лет назад

    love that she makes the initiative to make us wna try different ways to discover ourselves. thanks priya!

  • @StickAndPotato
    @StickAndPotato 3 года назад +9

    I am so speechless on her speech. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you so much Priya!

  • @joycemawak2649
    @joycemawak2649 2 года назад +1

    So true! We are cheating the future of what we are able to give because of our darned fear!! It took me years to develop my discomfort muscles. I have been driving Lyft now for 4 years and the numerous encounters I have made with almost 1500 passengers have helped me do what is awkward and uncomfortable and scary. I still need to do more to get where I am supposed to be. I am not "there" yet.

  • @robinmahan8198
    @robinmahan8198 7 лет назад

    excellent, she has an excellent speaking flow and a powerful lesson.

  • @varunkapoor1721
    @varunkapoor1721 6 лет назад

    Most Exhilarating talk on career and having a meaningful life.
    Thank you Priya!

  • @TankenkaNeko
    @TankenkaNeko 10 лет назад +7

    An axiom I'm particularly fond of: "Why be safe? Safe is what everyone else is doing; look where it got them." ~ D.A.Kelorii

  • @jrdr1943
    @jrdr1943 10 лет назад

    Provocative and a help for kick starting a different understanding of how we want to live our lives. Well worth listening to and for some of us a push toward implementing the important ideas outlined in this talk.

  • @ruthannma
    @ruthannma 9 лет назад +1

    Excellent--------
    And, there are ideas for all, even if some don't want to implement everything!!

  • @tripod_of_Life
    @tripod_of_Life 9 лет назад

    I like your video. may be without knowing the techniques i am practically doing it . the technique you had mentioned was very practical & correct.

  • @WWLions1
    @WWLions1 9 лет назад +2

    I really love this.... awesome.
    I am all in; I completely agree.
    Two thumbs up!

  • @carywalski9848
    @carywalski9848 10 лет назад +1

    Great, concrete exercises to help individuals who are interested in starting over in their career and life.

  • @lcarthel
    @lcarthel 9 лет назад +1

    Thanks for the excellent advice, Priya. It was all very helpful for me personally. I'm a creative, visual person so I particularly liked your idea of sketching life out.

  • @dealundquist5649
    @dealundquist5649 8 лет назад

    This woman is exellent Tells you to find out what is making you to feel alive! What is the biggest need in the world that you might have the passsion and the capacity to adress? What is my passion? What is happening in the world? You do not need a fortune to survive and you still can help others! If you have real friends, than you are a happy creature! Find a menaing in your llife! It helps you to be a better human! Mee too: Thank You Priya!

  • @pauldeakin4730
    @pauldeakin4730 7 лет назад +5

    4k in 4 weeks. Is not that she thinks you need 4k to live, it just an easy way to explain her point. It makes me sad to see all the haters comments. Why leave a comment, why even watch the video if you don't like her ideas? We don't all have to agree on everything but there's no need to be cruel.

  • @RebootGirl
    @RebootGirl 4 года назад

    This is the very reason why I started vlogging, I have done a lot of life and even business reboots and wanted to share my experiences.

  • @wrenska8378
    @wrenska8378 9 лет назад +14

    Aren't these talks for us to take something valuable from and incorporate into our own life's ? Aren't those talks for us to become better selves?
    Aren't these talks for us to stretch our own personal boundaries/minds, overcome fears and to get into a new place within ourselves?
    Lets be grateful for the talks given to us for free. Why do we criticise something that is positive? Are we criticise enough negative aspects that happens in this world?
    Don't we all deserve to have a better world we live in? ........and frankly, does it matter what clothes one is wearing??....Is it not of a greater importance what point a person is actually trying to convey?
    Why do we frame people? Why are we not letting people to be themselves accepting them as they are with no judgment?
    Everyone has their own truth and there are many messengers out there...lets listen? :)

    • @american11asshole
      @american11asshole 9 лет назад

      It's free too!
      People are stupid.

    • @k1w1fruitz
      @k1w1fruitz 9 лет назад

      Well said!

    • @confuzler6985
      @confuzler6985 9 лет назад

      Renata Uznanska yes, yes, yes,because it is fun sometimes, yes, no, no, yes, because we can, because we like judging others and sometimes, its fun online, ok.

    • @paxora7820
      @paxora7820 9 лет назад +1

      ***** Hard to live without hope :) You have a more than 50% chance
      of being correct Anglekan. We kill zillions of cows, chickens, pigs
      to eat everyday (I'm no vegan) and many humans too, thru legalized wars.
      WAR is legal!

    • @Wutzthedeal
      @Wutzthedeal 9 лет назад +1

      Renata Uznanska I am thankful to live in a country (which I have also honorably defended) in which criticism of anything free is still allowed. Why is it necessary? Because these people are selling ideas, and those ideas can lead directly to changes that affect you and society, worldwide. If we find a problem with their message or presentation, we owe it to them and those interested in comments to try to help them fix something if they agree it was wrong/a mistake or we can suggest that we do not agree with somebody's ideas and find them dangerous/incomplete/mistaken/etc. Can you imagine an America where you could only criticize things you paid for? Spooky stuff.

  • @josephmartyres9342
    @josephmartyres9342 10 лет назад

    Madam I admire you grasp, confidence and composure in delivery of the topic
    you were speaking on. You are truly beauty with brains and thanks for contributing
    you bit for making the world a better place for those lost in the humdrum of life.

  • @SarkisDallakian
    @SarkisDallakian 11 лет назад +1

    Excellent talk, thank you much for sharing. It's very important to plan ahead and make sure you can find a better life, before you quit your job.

  • @maiyenish8552
    @maiyenish8552 10 лет назад +4

    Comedian at 13:00 = C.K. Louis?
    No. She said the comedian QUIT A PRESTIGIOUS JOB. Louis was an auto mechanic in Boston before moving to Manhattan in 1989. He was fired as a director. He follows Carlin's work ethic of rewriting material every year. CK's life has been one big reboot!

  • @phoebeluzs.santos5950
    @phoebeluzs.santos5950 4 года назад +1

    very interesting, timely for my needs, very helpful! Tbank You

  • @ColargolPL
    @ColargolPL 4 года назад +1

    To me this is a groundbreaker. I really admire this sharing. This said, I can't agree with statements like "there's nothing inherently wrong with investment banking" (for example). Well, there is, and a lot. There are many jobs which are surely useful for the particular corporations (that's why they are so well-paid), but useless (or often very harmful) to society in general, and to the world as a whole. And those frustrated cases of people doing those jobs just happen to be aware of it, or feel it.

    • @aditishahani5987
      @aditishahani5987 4 года назад +1

      ColargolPL i agree so hard with this. Finally someone speaking the truth

  • @memollymaureen495
    @memollymaureen495 7 лет назад +1

    Fantastic, doable tools to get out of comfort zone!

  • @AlexOBrienPE
    @AlexOBrienPE 10 лет назад

    I gaved myself of tour of Wisconsin U today. I used the elevator test to do so...It felt great :)

  • @AngieAngie995
    @AngieAngie995 5 лет назад

    I am about to quit my job, sell up my home and hit the road. I don't have a degree or a vast income. Im just the wrong side of 50, feel I haven't met my passions head on and want to see where I end up. I won't be doing all these steps as I am pretty ok with being out of my comfort zone. I think the less money you have, the easier it is to quit your life. Maybe some people do need a highly paid life coach to convince them...for me, it was being pressured and manipulated in my job and the constant groundhog day feel that each day brings which has lead me to take the leap. Im ok with that :-)

  • @mushymcsquishy
    @mushymcsquishy 10 лет назад

    great advice.

  • @ankitasood11
    @ankitasood11 6 лет назад

    Thankyou Priya! have noted down some 👌 useful points .

  • @The_Queen_Chrysalis
    @The_Queen_Chrysalis 9 лет назад +74

    I was expecting something I could use, but apparently this is just for super rich people. I have maybe 400 dollars per month for spending after bills, and that's only if I'm not running out of anything, if I was that's about 200 down the drain, so I have 200 dollars to work with, so about a good 2/3rds of this talk are impossible or pointless for me, and makes the whole process worthless when I can't do most of it. They need to relabel this ted talk with an added "If you're rich" or "if you're well off" because this was a waste of my time as a normal person.

    • @EverythingElectronic
      @EverythingElectronic 9 лет назад

      You probably have: an internet bill, cable bill, rent/mortgage, cell phone bill, multiple vehicle bills, multiple insurance bills, other misc. bills regarding entertainment, monthly expenses on unnecessary/dangerous medicines...
      You probably don't: sell things on ebay/etsy/farmers markets, run a website, run a business, experiment, brainstorm, solve problems, create prototypes, craft, build things...
      Try to minimize bills and take up extra income, find a way to make some money on the side, preferably something you can find joy in. If you do all of these things, it is quite practical to save up lots of money. Maybe you need to get out of a mortgage and into a trailer home...

    • @1too3fore
      @1too3fore 9 лет назад +1

      dude, you only live once. Doesn't sound like you're going for it. For example, there are very successful chefs who own several restaurants who absolutely love to cook and started out as line cooks making almost nothing, probably less than you but they didn't care. They used the time to do what they loved and soaked up everything they could to eventually build something themselves. This is also true for lots of other people who follow their passions in life. If you don't have a passion, then you're a dead and lifeless fish. Find your passion and stop whining about your life.

    • @The_Queen_Chrysalis
      @The_Queen_Chrysalis 9 лет назад +13

      Love how everyone assumes I have the time to do all these things, I work, I run errands, I sleep, and repeat. The cost of living in america is incredibly high, and full times jobs are paying less and less. My full time job only pays 9 dollars an hour, that's normal here, I always hear about jobs that pay much more, but have yet to actually see one open.

    • @Jen5667
      @Jen5667 9 лет назад +1

      There are many immigrants that arrived in NY with nothing, but they managed to change their fortunes and those of their children through sheer hard work, using their strengths and creating opportunities. Why can't you do that?

    • @Cirebocaj
      @Cirebocaj 9 лет назад +22

      I especially love all the replies recommending that you live out of your car, stop paying for a phone or any type of internet, and somehow manage to sell things on ebay, etsy, and at the farmer's market....... How is one to do such things without means of communication, room to create products to sell (somehow) online, or land to grow things to sell at a farmer's market while maintaining good health and a full time job? Something tells me this comment thread is rife with highschoolers and college freshmen.

  • @Treeoflife139
    @Treeoflife139 7 лет назад +2

    She makes a few good take away points and has a nice presentation. I quit my life in 2005 , not easy but the alternative was just robbing me. A Quote from 'Blade Runner' "Hard to live in fear isn't it, that what it is to be a slave"

    • @josephine9862
      @josephine9862 7 лет назад +1

      The quote is "Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave."
      But you made a good point.

  • @cooltube3474
    @cooltube3474 8 лет назад +6

    I'll try to build my muscles of discomfort...

  • @miguelcunha3843
    @miguelcunha3843 7 лет назад +2

    the thing about following our dreams and do whatever we want to, is that it's impossible for everyone to have a success story. So some of us can follow our dreams, and do whatever we want, others must do what the others dont want to do. I know what i would like to do for living but I may dont have the skills or the oportunities to accomplish that.
    Sorry my poor english writing skills

  • @christopherjohnson8469
    @christopherjohnson8469 Год назад +1

    if you're stuck in the past, keep in mind that if made all the decisions you think you should've made, you could still have ended up being miserable.

  • @nato.musica
    @nato.musica 10 лет назад

    Great talk, Thank you Priya!

  • @drewa1999
    @drewa1999 3 года назад

    Incredible! Thank You! Can we pause the nighly news for a few days and just show this?

  • @jobhawkanxi5285
    @jobhawkanxi5285 5 лет назад +31

    I quit my job to start a business. it failed, now I want to die.

    • @isaactt5302
      @isaactt5302 4 года назад

      Failed because you gave up?

    • @nehaagarwala5713
      @nehaagarwala5713 4 года назад +5

      You don't need to want to die. By default we are all set to doom the day we are in the womb.
      Fail your failure to succeed in your pursuit. Don't treat yourself special.

    • @valegio_ch
      @valegio_ch 4 года назад +3

      How you doing now? Goes a year you quit your job.

    • @chrissterling7857
      @chrissterling7857 4 года назад +4

      Don't die. Start again.

    • @januarysson5633
      @januarysson5633 4 года назад +5

      Isaac Tt What an awfully judgmental and assuming thing to write.

  • @sagek7949
    @sagek7949 10 лет назад +1

    Wow! Amazing lecture ! thank you!

  • @askafans
    @askafans 8 лет назад +2

    In my life experiences there are things I wanted to do and I have made it. When I try to connect the dot, I realised God has guided my steps. I will get what God has planned for me because there were I didn't manage because it just not what I am destine to do. We all will know it when we step back and look backward what had happened in our life and it happened the way it should be when God allows it.

    • @tonylimberg8624
      @tonylimberg8624 8 лет назад +1

      Thank you for your sharing...I think I am trodding my way and sometimes i don't figure out the meaning or the reasons between dots. I hope I can tell later on the invisible guidance by Him, on heaven like you mentioned.

    • @askafans
      @askafans 8 лет назад

      Tony Limberg Hi, Tony. You can write to me at choypeichin@gmail.com I have dreams and visions since 18. There were many dreams and visions come to pass in my life. Some were bad and some were good. I was guided by God in life to do what I was meant to be doing although the process was not what I hoping for but everything that happened to me was meant to teach me something. I am who I am now because of all the tough and challenges I have been experiencing. When I looked back I truly understand why people always say everything happens for a reason. Write to me and I will tell you more about God which I was guided by Jesus into church and being saved from darkness into light. I wish to share more with others.

  • @frankfurlacker5219
    @frankfurlacker5219 7 лет назад +12

    I don't like life and I never will.

    • @navneettrikha918
      @navneettrikha918 7 лет назад +1

      same here...Em atheist too.

    • @v.dembsey3355
      @v.dembsey3355 7 лет назад +1

      Ah, then you're not making lunar landings in your life because what's not to like about those? If you told me you're a permanent resident of Fallujah then I might nod. Create a life supernova ala experiential learning, i.e. places like Choice Center in Vegas.

    • @derellrassy4832
      @derellrassy4832 7 лет назад

      me neither wish I wasn't born

  • @angeltraegerocana5238
    @angeltraegerocana5238 3 года назад +1

    I had a profession but my life took a radical change, now I don't know what to do...That is why I'm watching this video.

  • @aerozg
    @aerozg 7 лет назад +6

    Nobody mentions luck. I would like to quit my job and start my own business, but that comes at a cost. How will i finance myself while my business takes off? What if it doesn't take off? This risk also takes a toll, on your relationship(s), your family, your health etc. It's one thing to give inspiring talks, all nice and dandy, but to actually do it is a whole different game.

    • @Rinixzz
      @Rinixzz 7 лет назад +4

      The thing is, you don't. You do not quit a job for a business. Rather you start it up as a side project, and if it becomes successful you quit your current job and work on your business by then.

    • @anonymoususer6334
      @anonymoususer6334 7 лет назад

      aerozg
      What do you define luck to be? It is an important concept, humans have considered, probably as long as humans have existed. How is it that an observable phenomena associated with positive and fortunate results can occur with regularity and frequency is considered taboo and unbelievable?
      Most commonly acknowledged, is the jealously negative internalization. "How come your so lucky, nothing like that ever happens to me." Very seldom do people admit to being or feeling lucky with any frequency, ashamed or embarrassed, though it is often remarked on by others how lucky they are--also negative internalization.
      Often luck is explained as receiving some benefit without reason or undeserved which coupled with random happenstance, "being in the right place at the right time." Also negative internalization.
      It's that these negatives are part and parcel to the internalized notion of luck that it does not receive the attention or consideration it should. But what if it was accepted in a different framework of rationalization? I suggest that it should and it is simple to do if one truly pays attention and accepts the resulting perspective. Ever notice how "some people have all the luck" or "a person can have a streak or run of luck." Do you ever consider that luck is not only possible as a positive result but can also be a negative one? That some people are just unlucky?
      If it's Real and can be Good or Bad, and often occurs in serial progressions. Then perhaps there are causal factors, which is the point of this narration: Luck or the acronym LUCK is Labor Utilizing Correct Knowledge. Often casually observed results are the product of intentionally pursued goals. What appears easy, random and undeserved actually involved work, persistence and research or planning. That this is far more often the truth, than common perceptive.
      One who hopes for luck when its needed is doomed to fail. One who relies on LUCK and seeks to find it is destined for success. Nobody mentioned luck. Peace

    • @fig4159
      @fig4159 7 лет назад

      aerozg - Go to the Search bar. Type in NAPOLEON HILL. Listen to everything you find - repeatedly. And message me on my channel if you have any questions 😎

    • @anonymoususer6334
      @anonymoususer6334 7 лет назад +1

      +Julie Figueroa
      I first read "Think and Grow Rich" in my early teens and became a fan instantly. Your right, repeat often for best results. In my own experiences, I found that often will apply 3 or 4 principles at any time based on current needs and challenges becomes either tunnel vision or temporary amnesia. Most are so simple to implement and utilize but easily forgotten when not in use.
      It's been decades since I've read that, may need to dust off the hardcover. (-;\

    • @fig4159
      @fig4159 7 лет назад +1

      Anonymous User -And if you can't find it, you can download it free OR stream it on RUclips (as an audiobook). 😁 Did you know there are ENTIRE CHANNELS here devoted to motivational audio books?!? Well, there are!!! I hardly watch TV anymore...no time for junk.

  • @sophiadavis4546
    @sophiadavis4546 7 лет назад +1

    At the 7 min marks, how to.....instructions to quit and reboot. Great plans, lessons,effective and powerful

  • @zhulia
    @zhulia 9 лет назад +1

    this was amazing.

  • @quimelle
    @quimelle 11 лет назад

    I love this.

  • @mpradeep6250
    @mpradeep6250 8 лет назад +1

    Philosophical questions Marketed using Harvard & MIT tag: of 1) what happens if you die? 2) try to be alone for a day (broken down to a dinner) 3) do something stupid (backward elevator) 4) face your fear (create one by singing in supermarket queue) 5) ask why? what & how 6) know what you spend and what will you need to spend & earn accordingly 7) Help others (will help yourself). Really surprised how marketing makes these fundamental questions (with fake accent) looks special :)

  • @tacitatacita
    @tacitatacita 10 лет назад

    I think students need to watch this talk. Yes, it sounds as if those problems are only felt by the rich people in the world. But actually, I think they are also experienced by the working class society, the working bees. I am an architecture student who is about to graduate in a year, and I have a lot of fears and anxieties in my mind about what I will be doing in my life. I might have the instinct deep inside that the values she talked about are true. But she puts it nicely, and structured, It gives me insights and ideas..

  • @chetanpawar0989
    @chetanpawar0989 9 лет назад +3

    Tests of discomfort were nice. :) I would like to try elevator one.
    For this talk, I think many people are not forced into the job because of fear but because of lack of choice, responsibilities, fortune. So the tools you mentioned are difficult to apply for such people. I said difficult not impossible.

  • @MrKenistheone
    @MrKenistheone 10 лет назад +1

    YOU are AWESOME I admire you... This inspired me

  • @ChrisM-tn3hx
    @ChrisM-tn3hx 10 лет назад +22

    Lots of people have a ton of passion. Just no money to actually follow them LOL.

    • @kenportnoy6525
      @kenportnoy6525 10 лет назад +6

      If you have passion and capacity to address a perceivable need then the first application for that passion and capacity is finding the money. People with huge money are willing and able to support passionate pursuit of need fulfillment, both for-profit and non-profit. If you lack the personal capacity to grovel effectively for lucre then you lack the capacity to address the need and gotta find a different focus; a need within your capacity. Its the combination of fervent passion with real capacity that gives sense to Parker's paradigm.

  • @MellyNicky
    @MellyNicky 10 лет назад

    This is great!

  • @pepecohetes492
    @pepecohetes492 10 лет назад +1

    The idea of looking back from your grave, is a real eye opener! The question is how to reboot? Very good food for thought, which might provide some answers.

  • @satchelyork
    @satchelyork 7 лет назад +1

    I followed my passion, took the risk and became an artist. now I'm unemployed, have a toothache, and can't afford to go to the dentist. I regret not becoming a banker or lawyer now.

  • @dougarces1985
    @dougarces1985 6 лет назад

    Excellent !

  • @unzahid
    @unzahid 5 лет назад

    great.

  • @karmakameleon113
    @karmakameleon113 9 лет назад +3

    I agree with a lot of the people in this comment section who think this talk is largely made up of bullshit. Life these days is all about self sacrifice; deciding to fuck off and become a rockstar when you have a family to support is possibly one of the most selfish things a person could do (for example). I think a more realistic version of this talk would have been to not give up completely on what makes you feel alive and keep your passions as hobbies that will counteract the stress and dullness of the job you have. Not everyone can afford (literally) the luxury of "quitting" their lives.

    • @lyricystx
      @lyricystx 8 лет назад

      karmakameleon113 I think you made great points. You should do a Ted talk at some point.

  • @hserokdivad
    @hserokdivad 9 лет назад

    This is great.

  • @pepecohetes492
    @pepecohetes492 10 лет назад +1

    I had nearly a decade of off and on employment, unemployment, severely dissatisfying under-employment (in some cases I really had to bite my tongue at the abuse, in others I got fired), and even though I like what she is doing, to most of us, as you pointed above, it is impossible as we have to make a living.

  • @staj
    @staj 9 лет назад

    Great Message Priya

  • @raytheonorion
    @raytheonorion 8 лет назад +1

    I need to watch this again. Dense.

  • @clariceism
    @clariceism 6 лет назад

    This is very good talk

  • @CC-kk8yh
    @CC-kk8yh 4 года назад +1

    This talk seems geared towards someone who has achieved financial security/freedom. It was an interesting listening but not what I was expecting.

  • @douglasc5464
    @douglasc5464 6 лет назад

    Awesome!!!

  • @thunderlei1865
    @thunderlei1865 8 лет назад

    she said in the first 60 seconds, she is talking about people that have, quote "prestigious jobs" like investment bankers, corporate lawyers etc. >
    5:15 the problem is people drived by fear can't have passion for the job. she comes to slove this problem7 tools to provide
    7:16 the first tool ???
    7:52 the tool No.2 ???
    9:15 No.3 being comfortable with dis-comfortableness singing publicly, going out dinner alone,facing other in elevate,
    11:21 No.4 life sentence,== ultimate goal???
    13:23 No.5 income volatility solution: 1.minimum expense 2. 40%-30-20-10 each week 3.understand how much less you need for your life
    15:57 No.6 help somebody else
    17:00 No.7 make a public annocement
    17:47 do avoid thinking about the meaning just because it scares you
    18:22 what I would urge you to do, think about what matters to you, what make you alive. And what is happening in the wolrd. Then decide how you want to dive in