Jordan Peterson: How to Stop Being Envious

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  • Опубликовано: 7 фев 2025
  • in this video Jordan Peterson explains how to stop being envious of other people. Jordan explains the good side of envy and then talks about how devastating it can be on your life. Then Jordan explains how to stop being envious. Envy can be consuming and trigger depression and or anxiety if not put in check.

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  • @missdeep6260
    @missdeep6260 3 года назад +236

    Jealousy and envy is eating my soul up I had to find a video to help me i just wanna stop

    • @SFPDMinistries
      @SFPDMinistries 2 года назад +16

      But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
      Hey when you put God and eternity in the light of things and put him first you have a peace that passes all understanding no matter how bad things are getting . When you come to Jesus truly you receive a Spirit of love, power and a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 Before I was agnostic and secular but Jesus is the truth!

    • @SFPDMinistries
      @SFPDMinistries 2 года назад +6

      Philippians 4
      6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
      7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

    • @boatengphilip2134
      @boatengphilip2134 2 года назад +6

      I'm experiencing same here.

    • @lollmao249
      @lollmao249 2 года назад +12

      The fact that you are observing it is a really good start , Hope you change for the better remember that no one has a perfect life no one

    • @supermad31
      @supermad31 2 года назад +2

      I hear you sister

  • @wematter4870
    @wematter4870 Год назад +59

    "I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet "
    I remind my self with this quote.

    • @stephengamble4872
      @stephengamble4872 7 месяцев назад +1

      and then that person shouldn’t be upset because their woes are unwarranted when someone has no legs. By god that person has no reason to complain because at least they have arms what about quadriplegics? And if that person isn’t both blind and deaf they should have nothing to worry about. THEN THAT PERSON has no real reason to complain because they don’t have cancer. This egotistical holy order of who ought to have MORE right to complain is horrible.
      “Men are never convinced of your reasons, of your sincerity, of the seriousness of your sufferings, except by your death. So as long as you are alive, your case is doubtful. You have a right only to their skepticism.” - Albert Camus

  • @glendaphilips8249
    @glendaphilips8249 2 года назад +35

    A colleague once mentioned a really powerful statement: "Comparison is the thief of joy." This is absolutely true and it's something I struggle with day in and day out. I'm constantly comparing myself to better looking women. Thankfully I don't have a social media account! But this video is super helpful! Jordan's wisdom is so important in the deeply broken and dark world we live in!

  • @sumboyuknow9764
    @sumboyuknow9764 2 года назад +46

    This video helped me. 4 years of college and all that hard work didn't pay off. I hope I get over this and be happy with just graduating...

    • @CarlCyborg
      @CarlCyborg 2 года назад +6

      what do you mean it didn’t pay off? at least you are graduating 😅 i’m in year 2 and it’s been tuff but it’s always good to strive forward no matter what

    • @sumboyuknow9764
      @sumboyuknow9764 2 года назад +7

      @@CarlCyborg it's so good to be young... full of naivety. You'll get it soon enough.

    • @lailaplaysdbd4004
      @lailaplaysdbd4004 Год назад +1

      I understand what you mean. I'm going into my third year of college now.

  • @rogene11100
    @rogene11100 Год назад +13

    Not gonna lie, that helped. I openly admit that I am envious of attractive people as well, but i am constantly understanding it, and finding ways to feel better and less sad or angry.

  • @POPDATA
    @POPDATA Год назад +5

    This is the side of Jordan I love. He seems intimidating when he speaks to large audiences but when it comes to one on one livestreams he seems so genuine and kind

  • @SpinalAce64
    @SpinalAce64 2 года назад +59

    envy fucking sucks dude, its a silent killer of the soul...

  • @ZuroiA
    @ZuroiA Год назад +18

    I envy how my friend is effortlessly cruising through life: way above average salary along with plenty of spare time, easy going, has a lot of friends, helps his family - all that while he is younger than me. He's an awesome guy! But I started being so jealous of him lately, it drives me nuts..

    • @timothythompson8129
      @timothythompson8129 9 месяцев назад +1

      End the friendship

    • @ZuroiA
      @ZuroiA 9 месяцев назад

      @@timothythompson8129 why?

    • @timothythompson8129
      @timothythompson8129 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@ZuroiA go it alone, and don't let anybody weigh you down. It's what I've done. Eventually you learn to love your own company and with no distractions in life, you can manifest experiences and items with ease and eventually people will seek you out.

    • @ZuroiA
      @ZuroiA 9 месяцев назад +4

      @@timothythompson8129 I am glad you've gotten stronger on your own - props to your willpower and character
      In my case I think getting rid of a good friend who has a better life experience is a selfish move. I would rather combat my envy than my friends

    • @AnnaGrace603
      @AnnaGrace603 2 месяца назад

      ​@@ZuroiA How is it going mate? Do you sorted the envy issue out? How is the friendship going?

  • @xarmanhsh2981
    @xarmanhsh2981 11 месяцев назад +2

    This video is now in my gym playlist

  • @nesrinech3967
    @nesrinech3967 22 дня назад

    Very helpful words, your take on this question was eye opening for me. I just need more time to know what i really want.

  • @Cherryb45265
    @Cherryb45265 2 года назад +15

    I am struggling with it because I have disabilities and I just want to make my house easier so that I can do things it's very hard for me to do things around my house because I don't have things that help my disability I think I am envious of people who don't seem to appreciate what they have.
    I am trying to focus on the Kingdom of heaven and the wonderful things that God has provided. I am thankful for my meals for my warm but there is this sense of fear but I can't just do the things that I need.

  • @idowugracious2939
    @idowugracious2939 2 года назад +4

    I am envious of people around me. I have a huge love for hairs and it takes up my time each day. I don't have a business or money to even start. I so badly want to sell hairs. I see my friends having the money to buy hairs. And not only hairs, anything they want. Now, it's more than hairs. It's just having to take care so well of my siblings and mom. I owe it to myself and my dad, I love him so much. Rip. I am a freelance writer. I also love love to write. Envy makes me cry so much. Things are going so slow in my life and I can't do what I want to do. I am a good person but things are still slow. And envy is killing me. But you have told me to hold my ground and look deeper. I have found that I need to put in the work and focus on me to grow. No matter how slow. I have seen the dark side that tells me, oh, I am not doing this one right. I want to do it right. So I can get all the things I want to get. I will. There's hope in envy. God is my hope. My family is my hope. And I'm taking it one step at a time. ❤️ I hope to come back to edit this and say I made it. 😂👍

  • @simohayha1217
    @simohayha1217 2 года назад +39

    "A dumb person is a person who is so envious, always crying, and didn't do anything for his/her achievement and wish."
    Anonymous

    • @POPDATA
      @POPDATA Год назад +4

      Im dumb

    • @jackjack4412
      @jackjack4412 Год назад +1

      I think the envious person is aware that they're unacomplished and really a POS.

  • @chandimarajapaksha2496
    @chandimarajapaksha2496 4 года назад +45

    this is damn good

  • @m.alishaikh3693
    @m.alishaikh3693 2 года назад +8

    These are the exact words i needed to hear, thank you uploader!

  • @mindfulpaths101
    @mindfulpaths101 Год назад +1

    Jesus he really hit the nail on the head there

  • @katec9893
    @katec9893 2 года назад +4

    I loved this, v helpful. Julia Cameron who wrote The Artist's Way sums this up as 'green is the colour of envy, but its also the colour of hope.' I'm struggling with envying someone who seems to be doing well in a career I've been working towards for a long time. I have had a really difficult few years with multiple family bereavements and episodic suicidal depression. In between the losses I pick my work up and start working on my goals again. But the multiple losses and all of the grief meant I wasn't able to so far build momentum to launch my career. I'll keep going, focusing on my own progress rather than the success of others (which often isn't all it seems, as social media is a place where people present an image that isn't always the full picture.)

  • @girogironeem
    @girogironeem 4 месяца назад

    I very much needed to hear this. Thank you.

  • @Marcycat7
    @Marcycat7 2 дня назад

    I don't believe in being envious because we are all blessed differently. What's meant for you will be for you. Their is no need to covet what belongs to another person. I was taught in childhood that there will always be greater and lesser people than myself. That makes the world interesting. It would be boring if we were all the same, my mom said to me. To appreciate my own blessings. ❤🎉😊

  • @jonashjerpe7421
    @jonashjerpe7421 Год назад +5

    Well you can reason away envy. You have been hurt and the envy is actually a defence against that pain. You have to locate your core pain and grieve it to heal. The envy will evaporate during this process of grief.

  • @archiylevent9387
    @archiylevent9387 3 месяца назад

    I had a psychosis episode, and than a depression. Since than I am literally jealous in everyone who isn't me.. I used to like myself and being alone, I was never envious of nobody, I was gorgeous with a great job and a guy and family and lots of friends, now I just feel like a looser on pills, with a broken family, some weight gained no friends anymore, and struggling to have a stable job. I used to be a fun person full of passion and talents, everybody envied, now I feel like a shadow. Im off most of my psychiatric pills, taking vitamines, omega 3,6 and 9, magnesium, biking 7h a week, trying to make new friends, pray daily have a great new boss with a big heart, got my beautiful child and parents, I will go through this, I will win all the abuse I lived in childhood and adult. Love you all,❤ keep on fighting for your dreams !

  • @nicole8576
    @nicole8576 2 года назад +5

    Wow! This has been eye opening. It’s sickening when it’s not apart of who you are as a person.
    “Pursue what you need to pursue”…one step at a time.

  • @solffie9613
    @solffie9613 3 года назад +10

    i needed this..

  • @b.mari.g
    @b.mari.g 2 года назад +4

    protect this mans spirit.

  • @lucasance6076
    @lucasance6076 2 года назад +2

    I needed this

  • @shashanksharma6335
    @shashanksharma6335 4 месяца назад

    Thanx alot jordan

  • @lailaplaysdbd4004
    @lailaplaysdbd4004 Год назад +5

    Yikes. I'm struggling with envy...My friends have it all. They get to travel to European countries during the summer. I've never traveled outside the USA before. One of my besties is going to Italy and Turkey in two weeks. It's going to be hard to support her "trip success" while she's away. I don't think I can even look at her Instagram

  • @Ironswiftness
    @Ironswiftness 2 года назад +5

    I feel like a lucky (or very intelligent) select few have found the key and thus a way to do what they were meant to do and make a ton of money doing it. I get jealous of those people who seem to have things all sorted while I am kind of aimless other than the goal of finding more success.

  • @zitizen
    @zitizen 9 месяцев назад +1

    I would suggest to take a pen and notebook and write down the best of things that you wish to happen to the person you are envious of. Visualise them being the best or successful. Wish them all joy and happiness. Write it all on a notebook, visualise it and enjoy the joy from it. Make it a habit. And over some days you will get over it.

  • @caleuxx9108
    @caleuxx9108 2 месяца назад

    book Atlas of the Heart !!!

  • @KZ_MMA-KZ
    @KZ_MMA-KZ 3 года назад +3

    I love Jordan Peterson

  • @charleshurstreinvention3959
    @charleshurstreinvention3959 2 года назад +22

    Envy comes from comparision to others. The world is rough and mean. As Jordan Peterson said, "the world is against you . . . obviously." But as I told my own subscribers, many times the greatest enemy in life can be yourself. And you make yourself an enemy by comparision to others. If you make 80K a year and have 200K in the investment arenas you will feel badly if you have a friend who makes 250K and has a million in his. But you will feel good about yourself if you compare yourself to someone who makes 30K and has nothing in his accounts. But maybe that 250K person works 80 hours a week and hasn't had a vacation in ten years. The point is, your journey is yours. How much you want to work and gain to get the greatest benefits you can from your short time on earth---and most of those benefits, my friends, are not financial. Hope this helps someone----Charles

    • @ThisReactiverse
      @ThisReactiverse 2 года назад +2

      That's me, I'm the guy that makes less than 30k and has nothing in his accounts

    • @kshitiz5417
      @kshitiz5417 Год назад +2

      Very well put charles

    • @starbright1256
      @starbright1256 Год назад +1

      I looked at your channel, Charles. I do like how you explained this. New subscriber to you. Thank you.

    • @charleshurstreinvention3959
      @charleshurstreinvention3959 Год назад

      @@starbright1256 You bet-Charles

    • @Random-n5b8w
      @Random-n5b8w 8 месяцев назад

      Very true❤

  • @eddykohlmann471
    @eddykohlmann471 3 года назад +29

    My envy just vanished in a matter of seconds. 🤣

  • @Miguelc271086
    @Miguelc271086 2 года назад +13

    My mistakes have brought me here. Stupid, arrogant, antisocial and pathetic. And now envy and jealousy… I need to change or this will consume me

  • @YeganeRafiei
    @YeganeRafiei 11 месяцев назад

    I'm greatfull for dr peterson❤

  • @larabardot6836
    @larabardot6836 Год назад +7

    It’s not that I don’t know what I truly want, it’s the fact that I know exactly what I want but I am also realistic enough to understand I can’t get it so it feels like I failed and it just doesn’t seem fair that I see this one person I used to know living the life I wanted while knowing that she is not even half of a good person as me. She likes to look down on others and openly mock them. It just doesn’t make sense how life seems to reward shitty, privileged people while people who are good seem to suffer the most.

    • @hollygurbisz4209
      @hollygurbisz4209 8 месяцев назад +1

      Girl, you explained it perfectly. I feel the exact same way. We got this

    • @melda4975
      @melda4975 6 месяцев назад

      I feel the same way. Someone I know is so rich and I find it unfair because he is such a bad person. I wish I had his money so I could help injured animals for example. But life is not fair and I am so jealous that he is spending his money on selfish things

  • @Geunjjangg
    @Geunjjangg Год назад

    This video is very helpful 💖.

  • @Hugo-xj2mj
    @Hugo-xj2mj 3 года назад +2

    Thank you

  • @shwetanarayan8839
    @shwetanarayan8839 2 года назад

    What a relief!!

  • @penny9107
    @penny9107 3 года назад +1

    Thank you!

  • @beamo1996
    @beamo1996 Год назад +5

    I envy about people that still have a whole family and people like my boyfriend that is rich and can go to anywhere they want buy expensive shit have a very expensive vacation and shi while im sat here with my family with each other living their life and not really bonding together and shi and it's hard i feel really sad i don't know cause i get envy a lot to people that have what i want that i can't achieve and stuff and it's eating me and i get angry and shit.

    • @lailaplaysdbd4004
      @lailaplaysdbd4004 Год назад

      Same!!! That's exactly how I feel. My friends have it all. They get to travel to European countries during the summer. I've never traveled outside the USA before. One of my besties is going to Italy and Turkey in two weeks. It's going to be hard to support her "trip success" while she's away. I don't think I can even look at her Instagram.

  • @soumayae.3980
    @soumayae.3980 2 месяца назад

    In Islam envy is considered as one of the sicknesses of the heart, and it's assimilated to holding a ball of fire within. One of the recommendations is when you see something you like that another person has, is to pray that Allah blesses them with more of that. One of the remedies to envy is knowing who is Allah and strengthening your faith in him, because he knows what is best for you and he can give you support and give you that thing you need.

  • @Mikeycb731
    @Mikeycb731 Год назад

    Envy with the letters reorganized makes vyne I thought that was a pleasant state

  • @yousifmohammed8552
    @yousifmohammed8552 7 месяцев назад

    Is there any good book for envy cure ?

  • @karfeishaolyia9567
    @karfeishaolyia9567 3 года назад +7

    i am envy of my friend who lives in america and i want to be there

    • @hatewillneverwin.
      @hatewillneverwin. 2 года назад +1

      yow will.

    • @marioCrespoColorado92
      @marioCrespoColorado92 2 года назад +3

      I’m envy you because you were not born in United States. I’m very anti gun & want live in country that has no guns & no gun culture. I’m very left leaning & very proud progressive.

    • @thorodinson6649
      @thorodinson6649 Год назад

      The grass may be greener

    • @peace4632
      @peace4632 11 месяцев назад

      and you just explained to yourself why you will not be.

  • @lanabyk8012
    @lanabyk8012 6 месяцев назад

    Envy is brutal...but, it can be resolved...if you realize that its a natural part of life. Anyone know why? I dont know...

  • @markmozer8277
    @markmozer8277 2 года назад +6

    I've always wanted to get a mororcicle. Recently all of my friends Got there own bikes and I'm the only one left without one. I Just can't afford it right now and it's killing me that all my friends are going to have fun and ride aroud the whole summer break and I won't be able to join them. It's killing me inside and I don't know what to do.

    • @Human1136
      @Human1136 Год назад

      Bro your profile pic is literally almost like mine WTF 💀

    • @thorodinson6649
      @thorodinson6649 Год назад

      Try to make more money, i suppose. If thats not possible… well, every man’s fate is already made. Live yours.

  • @msmelanin2425
    @msmelanin2425 Год назад

    I can’t control this envy

  • @FeminineRose
    @FeminineRose 24 дня назад

    🎉🎉🎉

  • @MrAtomicAardvark
    @MrAtomicAardvark 2 года назад +1

    Nice vox amp!

  • @rajivsenaboya
    @rajivsenaboya 3 года назад +2

    This person is using vox amp great choice!

  • @gmajororder
    @gmajororder Год назад

    Key word : « deeply »

  • @realjakepauler9332
    @realjakepauler9332 Месяц назад

    can't believe im watching jordan peterson rn bro this is such a low point in my life

  • @AntonioMontana_7.5
    @AntonioMontana_7.5 4 месяца назад

    I hate being a human

  • @HalucaAlex
    @HalucaAlex 5 месяцев назад

    Goals
    Best friends
    Husband
    Support
    Financial support
    Travel
    Self care
    Brother & siblings
    Fridge & car & house
    Understanding mother
    Travel

  • @Claudiocasu
    @Claudiocasu 3 года назад +4

    Quanto cazzo ti amo

  • @maxcontralto
    @maxcontralto 8 месяцев назад +1

    How about generational wealth 😭

  • @leahmarie7854
    @leahmarie7854 3 года назад +5

    You can’t get a family though can you

  • @lindaabd6693
    @lindaabd6693 3 года назад

    📌

  • @finbarrcorcoran9342
    @finbarrcorcoran9342 Год назад +1

    I envy their health.

  • @executioner1979
    @executioner1979 4 месяца назад

    Please be n2xt 0.M or shut up.

  • @Miguelc271086
    @Miguelc271086 2 года назад

    I’d like to have a better looking wife, I’d like to be handsome. Not to be such an asshole, not so poor and not so lazy.

    • @akhilprasad1539
      @akhilprasad1539 11 месяцев назад +1

      Are you already married and then want a better looking wife or are you single right now and want a better looking wife?