adjusting to being a single mom has been my biggest struggle..

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  • Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024

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  • @jadelor4
    @jadelor4 Год назад +458

    It’s crazy how the culture just normalizes dads not being in the picture smh you got this! Your doing such a great job! Men need to step up more smh

    • @janhurst544
      @janhurst544 Год назад +54

      I really hope he's paying a pretty penny to sustain HIS CHILD since he is ALREADY DOING NONE OF THE CHILD CARE

    • @emmib1388
      @emmib1388 Год назад +10

      you have to keep in mind, they went into this with no commitment to each other......

    • @unscmistressgaming1132
      @unscmistressgaming1132 Год назад +51

      @@emmib1388He doesn’t need to commit to HER, he needs to commit to HIS SON. If men require a woman to be a good dad, then they just aren’t a good dad. Men need to be better than this.

    • @emmib1388
      @emmib1388 Год назад +16

      @@unscmistressgaming1132 but it works best, if they commit to each other, before bringing a child into the world, and if the child comes into the world before they get a chance to commit to each other, they should do it as soon as possible and not live permanently engaged.

    • @reysochi422
      @reysochi422 Год назад

      you ladies are soo pathetic . where are ur standards when choosing a man to procreate a child???? stop acting like you are the victim you brought this to yourself. BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR CHOICES.

  • @libiajimenezchavez4604
    @libiajimenezchavez4604 Год назад +166

    I was raised by a single mama and I can tell you that single moms are the greatest human beings on Earth! Much love and respect for you!

  • @jessicawilson2687
    @jessicawilson2687 Год назад +182

    Just couldn’t help but say how productive, hardworking, and real you are, watching you’re videos has been a really good help and reminder in my life❤

  • @ShieldMaiden95
    @ShieldMaiden95 Год назад +46

    Sending you love and hugs from one toddler mom, to another. 💜💜

  • @nikkiboza4237
    @nikkiboza4237 Год назад +31

    Like I said join a mommy group in your area that involves you and your babes for playdates or mom night outs etc. I truly found this helped me at my lowest of depression and anxiety this is a must!

  • @MelissaAllard
    @MelissaAllard Год назад +96

    You're doing so good! ❤️ Your house is clean, your son is happy, your work hard and it's okay to have bad days! 1 month is not long and it's okay needing time to adjust to this BIG CHANGE! Your community is here to support you ❤️ Keep your heads up, better days are coming soon.

    • @DrTaylorSwift
      @DrTaylorSwift Год назад +11

      What happened to her husband???
      No hate I just am confused.🤍

    • @notarivalboy1017
      @notarivalboy1017 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@DrTaylorSwift She dosen't have husband , she is a single mom

    • @DrTaylorSwift
      @DrTaylorSwift 7 месяцев назад

      @@notarivalboy1017 Sorry.
      What happened to her BABY DADDY?

  • @paulapestrin8994
    @paulapestrin8994 Год назад +6

    Sharing parts of your life allows us to relate to you. Your struggles are real......your life is even more real.
    Deacon is an incredible little human. He looks at you with such love and awe!!
    You are managing this life amazingly!!

  • @shaunaanderson7387
    @shaunaanderson7387 Год назад +44

    So, dad has completely checked out? You got this girl!

    • @ze3503
      @ze3503 Год назад +2

      The rings still there? (Not necessarily means anything but maybe they might work it out?)

    • @emilygiberson2158
      @emilygiberson2158 Год назад +10

      I thought dad was in the picture? I’ve seen him in some videos…maybe I’m behind.

    • @aliciaaa6021
      @aliciaaa6021 10 месяцев назад +3

      @@emilygiberson2158girl me too, I thought they were like engaged

    • @BekahMarie11
      @BekahMarie11 3 месяца назад

      I think it’s just for views but idk. Because it seems like he must work or travel etc. idk but it wouldn’t surprise me if ppl say a story for views 🤪

  • @kristita_888
    @kristita_888 Год назад +16

    You are doing such an amazing job! I’m so proud of you. Please know it’s okay to have days where you are exhausted - just remember that nothing can keep you down. You’re a Mother, and that means you’re one of the strongest people in the world! ❤

  • @HelennaRose
    @HelennaRose Год назад +6

    Your positive vibes help my day get better. Thank you for these little glimpses. ❤

  • @aloora21
    @aloora21 Год назад +5

    You got this mama! Been single mom for 5months. I’m still struggling but I managed to keep going cause my son💙

    • @aloora21
      @aloora21 Год назад

      @@A-Ron-Hubbard 😂 irresponsible or not I don’t care 🙃

  • @RheannaPhillips-qn6eg
    @RheannaPhillips-qn6eg 5 месяцев назад +1

    You're an awesome mom don't ever forget that

  • @beckytsvidsandfam5522
    @beckytsvidsandfam5522 Год назад +3

    I just how you always go the extra mile for the baby you are honestly the best mom ❤

  • @galnoki
    @galnoki Год назад +4

    You have such a beautiful baby. You can be proud. Take care of yourself, so you can give him.

  • @arij.53
    @arij.53 Год назад +24

    you got this mama❤️

  • @AmyJ739
    @AmyJ739 Год назад +4

    I have been a single mumma since my daughter was born 14 years ago, I am still learning as each stage goes by. I wouldn't change it because we have a close bond and she has grown into a lovely young lady. Just know that you're doing amazing and your boy will always be by your side, your house is spotless and you both always look lovely. You really have got this 🙏 when you feel sad or frustrated, fresh air is the best endorphin which you already know ❤

  • @emmaleasands9491
    @emmaleasands9491 Год назад +54

    Hey mama I want you to know that the man that did that was not meant for you there is someone out there who is going to treat you like a princess and treat deacon as his own son and love him and you more then you will ever know he was not meant for you you are beautiful and deserve someone ten times better then him love yourself and your son enjoy every moment with deacon no matter what’s going on keep on going you doing great sending love your way🫶🏻❤️🫶🏻

    • @TrinaFolak
      @TrinaFolak Год назад +17

      Amen! I can attest to this; my son’s donor left me when I was pregnant because he wasn’t ready to be a dad. My son is almost 3 and I have since married; my husband loves our little one as his own. Goodness will come your way. It is the hardest thing being a single mom, but keep doing what you’re doing. You’re a good mom and person and things will get better. When it gets too tough, pause and sip on a cup of tea. You are loved Lillian. And everything you’re feeling is totally normal. Praying for you.

    • @emmaleasands9491
      @emmaleasands9491 Год назад +5

      @@TrinaFolakoh my lord that is terrible but glad you found the love of your lofe

  • @lynncatalano4782
    @lynncatalano4782 Год назад +9

    I had the same situation. I'm not going to lie, there were times I wanted to quit but I didn't. It's really hard to do. Try and find moms your age and live nearby. It always helps to have good neighbors 😊

  • @Jilliannm
    @Jilliannm Год назад +3

    Your such a great mom! Keep pushing through it,you git this! ❤🎉

  • @lisawoods8954
    @lisawoods8954 10 месяцев назад

    Awe so sorry you going through the big change.. Always remember us women are resilient! 💕Fm Northern Ontario 🇨🇦

  • @user-ts6im4qo7s
    @user-ts6im4qo7s 9 месяцев назад

    My mom was single and she is stronger than anyone I know. You’re going to be ok, keeping focusing on your sweet boy!

  • @imaniw786
    @imaniw786 Год назад +1

    sending you extra hugs & good vibes! i find your videos & voice to be so comforting to me🥺

  • @poshperfect1393
    @poshperfect1393 Год назад

    You’re incredibly strong inside and out. I admire you. Keep going Mama!

  • @shelbykim69
    @shelbykim69 Год назад +1

    Hang in there girl! You are a great mom! You’ve got this!

  • @EGORElicious
    @EGORElicious 7 месяцев назад

    Ive been a single mom since the very beginning. You've got this!

  • @tashaguerrta
    @tashaguerrta Год назад +13

    Oh wait. You’re a single mom now??? I recently became a single mom also. I have. 17 month old and 5 year old. It’s very hard to keep going sometimes. Sending love ❤

    • @emmib1388
      @emmib1388 Год назад

      they never got around to getting married so.... she was always a single mom.....

    • @chandlerbing9333
      @chandlerbing9333 Год назад +7

      @emmib1388 it’s crazy that people still put so much power into a piece of paper. They were in a relationship, lived together shared all the responsibilities and bills had a child together, that’s not being a single mom. Being a single mom means the father is not coming home every day, not paying any bills, not helping you out. Big difference.

    • @tashaguerrta
      @tashaguerrta Год назад +1

      @@chandlerbing9333 I agree. Unmarried doesn’t mean single mom. Taking care of your child solely by yourself. With little to no help from the other parent is being a single mom

  • @cc1k435
    @cc1k435 Год назад +5

    I was just about in a similar situation myself raising my son, and I officially would have been had WFH been a thing back then. I have at least emotionally been a single mom most of my son's life, and his dad and I have just now finally split up officially. Even if you make it to the altar before pregnancy is even a factor, I have seen living proof that sometimes even a married man is not up to the challenge. I'll be thinking of you and your son as I am figuring out my own next steps. I know from experience, though, that exhausting as it is every day, the years will suddenly seem to have gone by fast and the very best thing for your son is giving him a reliable mom. Meanwhile, try to always remember to take care of yourself too while you take care of your little one! ❤❤❤

  • @msc8245
    @msc8245 Год назад

    Girl, SAME! I'm in the same boat. Its surreal. But look at us doing it and not only doing it, but KILLING IT 💪 rock on warrior momma 🌼

  • @Becca-jd9wi
    @Becca-jd9wi Год назад +1

    I just found your page and want to say thank you for sharing your journey it helps as I’m in the same space,, you are beautiful and amazing and your son is blessed to have you ❤😊

  • @mariahodom9863
    @mariahodom9863 Год назад +2

    Lilly I don't have babies but I have fur babies, and my boyfriend works 19 hours away from me and is gone 2 weeks at a time. But I know how you feel sorta. But I love watching your videos! And I hope you find peace, and i hope you find someone who loves you unconditionally! Love you girlie!

  • @cassandrraforker1529
    @cassandrraforker1529 10 месяцев назад

    You got this you deserve the world and you shouldn’t settle for less . It won’t be easy but with time and self care everything will end up the way it’s meant to be ❤

  • @cucafc
    @cucafc Год назад +1

    It's going to be hard. Take it day by day, some days are going to be better than others. You're smart and strong, you got this. ❤❤❤❤

  • @govindasrk
    @govindasrk Год назад +4

    Hey I’m single mom of 16 months old baby boy I know it is hard but you are doing great job!

  • @cassidylopez671
    @cassidylopez671 Год назад +2

    Deacon is so stinking cute ! My daughter did the foot thing earlier in the grocery cart at the store 😅 I thought that was so funny I just allowed her to. Sorry you’re going through a lot right now 🫶🏼

  • @dawnmagee3354
    @dawnmagee3354 Год назад

    As a single mom of two under a year apart in age, you are slaying it! You're going to have good and not so good days. But I have to say that as long as you focus on yourself as well as your child, you'll be able to get through anything! My kids got me through a whole lot of mess. Just don't forget to take care of yourself as well! 💜💜💜

  • @eveandnick43
    @eveandnick43 Год назад +14

    I noticed that you might feel a little guilty about going out, as whenever you do, you make a comment. Look, you are a great mom! You take such good care of Deacon, you work and keep your home clean and tidy. So if running out for a coffee or going to Target makes you feel good/distracted, then I say go for it girl you deserve it!! You have a lot of support out here and we are rooting for you!! 💜🦋💜

    • @ze3503
      @ze3503 Год назад +1

      That’s a really considerate comment ❤ you’re definitely a good friend irl

    • @eveandnick43
      @eveandnick43 Год назад +1

      @@ze3503 thank you. I am a Psych Nurse Practitioner 💜🦋💜

  • @brittneysikes21
    @brittneysikes21 Год назад

    I’m praying for you girl. You are so strong and you are going to get through this. Sending you love and hugs💖

  • @ninakaiser2930
    @ninakaiser2930 Год назад

    Thank you again for your honesty! And your editing is absolutely amazing!

  • @marissacardona9974
    @marissacardona9974 Год назад

    You got this mama! Your doing so good and your son is so happy. Your a super mom!❤

  • @Mamascreationscorner
    @Mamascreationscorner 8 месяцев назад

    I love this type of content very inspired I’m a new mom as well and sometimes I feel like I do it alone honestly 😢but we will get through it ❤

  • @Karla_Z
    @Karla_Z Год назад +5

    Are you no longer with Deacon’s dad? 🥺 sending you all the strength in the world. You are no alone. You got this, let yourself to feel. Te abrazo mucho 🫂

    • @joyweldon9858
      @joyweldon9858 Год назад +3

      That’s exactly wanted to know also. It’s what it sounds like right?
      That’s sad for her!

    • @yadiraizarraras9323
      @yadiraizarraras9323 Год назад +3

      No she is no longer with him, sending her lots of love ❤️

  • @reneeherrera1326
    @reneeherrera1326 Год назад +1

    Just stay positive and things will start to get better. I pray you have a wonderful life with eventful things coming your way. ❤❤❤❤

  • @Fatimaahab
    @Fatimaahab Год назад +1

    You’re doing so well ❤

  • @CooknVibewithannmarielove
    @CooknVibewithannmarielove Год назад

    You’re doing amazing just Remember you’re not the first or the last person to go through this.. it gets easier I promise

  • @laurajones4457
    @laurajones4457 Год назад +2

    You are doing great. One day at a time. ❤️

  • @TakiMom858
    @TakiMom858 Год назад +47

    Will you all please STOP asking about her relationship with Deacon's dad? She doesn't owe you an explanation and she has asked for privacy.

    • @carolynturk-hu7je
      @carolynturk-hu7je Год назад +13

      @Dara SILVERMAN Seems like some did not know or realize(maybe they are new to her channel), please be kind.

    • @TakiMom858
      @TakiMom858 Год назад +6

      @@carolynturk-hu7je That's a generous interpretation. I think they are just hungry for answers and have resorted to bullying her

    • @Aragedie
      @Aragedie Год назад

      Yess this!!!

    • @carolynturk-hu7je
      @carolynturk-hu7je Год назад +3

      ​@@TakiMom858 Appreciate this response after reading Melissa M comments. Women support women. Thanks for the insight. Peace.

    • @Raevyn20
      @Raevyn20 Год назад +1

      ​@@carolynturk-hu7jethat doesn't make it ok to ask nosy questions

  • @AnaHaze777
    @AnaHaze777 Год назад +2

    The fact that you are a single mother when they're was clearly a father, is sick. He should be so ashamed of himself. You are so strong, Deacon is lucky to have you as a mother.

    • @emmib1388
      @emmib1388 Год назад

      Please don't judge without any details. YOu don't know what is going on in their relationship.

  • @charlottescure
    @charlottescure Год назад

    You’re such a great mom! Love your content ❤️

  • @paulamarie7733
    @paulamarie7733 Год назад

    You got this! And yes, the foot was too cute

  • @vamikagautam6235
    @vamikagautam6235 Год назад +1

    My mom is also a single mom and I m proud of her , I m 9+ ,but I try my best to be a gud daughter of a best mom

  • @debragarlock5235
    @debragarlock5235 8 месяцев назад

    God Bless- was.a single Mom too.❤

  • @christopherjames3864
    @christopherjames3864 Год назад

    It's going to be okay your a good mom

  • @sueyoder6707
    @sueyoder6707 Год назад +1

    Hang in there. You got this!

  • @luciiiii3838
    @luciiiii3838 Год назад +1

    you have inspired me so much!!

  • @cat_pb
    @cat_pb Год назад

    Girl, I am also going through a separation ... it's hard T-T you are doing great!!!

  • @LydiaCarriger
    @LydiaCarriger Год назад

    U are doing amazing never give up and watching these videos u post make my day ❤

  • @Avery_JH
    @Avery_JH Год назад

    You totally got this, it may not be easy but I believe in you ❤❤

  • @ra_8072
    @ra_8072 Год назад

    You're amazing and productive ✨️ 💕 keep going 💪

  • @zoerain2003
    @zoerain2003 9 месяцев назад

    I’m preg with about a month left and I have a two year old son. Baby daddy is being really sketchy and I’m so scared. I don’t know how I will balance work, postpartum, newborn, and my toddler. I believe in myself but it hurts so much so I feel you girl.

  • @Elisha-c7u
    @Elisha-c7u 10 месяцев назад

    You got this. Bless you❤❤

  • @Melissa-he5ys
    @Melissa-he5ys 6 месяцев назад

    Being a mom can be lonely. Especially with the changes you’re going through. It is brave of you to share. Lots of research supports the benefits of moms having good social and community support. Maybe connecting to a group or something fun would help if you’re not already doing so? Also … girl the way you put your toaster away! And your counters?! I’m so inspired by that as well 😅

  • @laceyann004
    @laceyann004 Год назад +1

    stay strong 💪 i know you will and will not give up and conquer ❤

  • @emmadenise7
    @emmadenise7 Год назад +2

    You are so much stronger than you think! Sometimes it takes you having to go through really hard things to realize how strong you are. You will see yourself and where you are in a couple months and you’ll be proud of yourself, never give up! ❤

  • @LadyRawkuzOne
    @LadyRawkuzOne 10 месяцев назад

    Took me a good 3 years to adjust as a single mother coming out of a 10yr relationship it is a struggle and I’m glad therapy is available

  • @sibylledecarlo7108
    @sibylledecarlo7108 Год назад

    Take good care of You! You deserve lots of goodness & joy- Better days are coming-

  • @LittleLovely394
    @LittleLovely394 Год назад +2

    I just have to say I’m kind of shocked about the news. I thought I saw Deacon’s dad in a video a bit ago and noticed your engagement ring on your finger. I’m sorry you’re going through all this

  • @hattiecolley54
    @hattiecolley54 Год назад

    U r Doing a Great job. Keep being Positive and Loving in ur Gorgeous So. Keep Rocking!

  • @kathym232
    @kathym232 Год назад +1

    Praying for you. Find a local church where you feel welcomed. And know how much God cares about you and knows your struggles 🙏🏻

  • @deanaclark2759
    @deanaclark2759 9 месяцев назад

    You got this
    Us single moms have got to stick together🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤

  • @craftyworkingmama
    @craftyworkingmama Год назад

    This videos are very inspirational. I am a single mom of a choice and it isn’t always easy but you learn how to make it through. My son also likes to put his foot on top of his tray in his highchair. Don’t understand why. Love that car seat can you give a name brand and model?

  • @susiecain9649
    @susiecain9649 7 месяцев назад

    You have such pretty tan skin 😍

  • @2sjbrewer
    @2sjbrewer Год назад

    You’ve got this! One day at a time…

  • @Amanda.Marie40
    @Amanda.Marie40 Год назад

    The best easiest days with just one!!! I loved those days

  • @annika.olivers5872
    @annika.olivers5872 Год назад +7

    You got this and I couldn't help but go back to your videos and you were talking about your fiancé, and now he's gone? I am so srry but just know we are all here for you. I hope it didn’t come off as rude.

  • @the8cuevas552
    @the8cuevas552 8 месяцев назад

    Stay strong mama.

  • @Ashleesworldxoxo
    @Ashleesworldxoxo 10 месяцев назад

    You got this mama!

  • @mirzasubhan2979
    @mirzasubhan2979 Год назад +1

    Baby is so cute ❤

  • @MsHappyFace
    @MsHappyFace Год назад

    I know the feeling too well, just a gentle reminder for those tough moments. To first be kind to yourself. Take a couple breathes if needed. Transitioning from a two parent household to a single parent household is hard but think about it? Is what you’re feeling right now worse than when you were with your spouse? Make the comparison then you may even retract feeling those negatives feelings

  • @nildamartinez5834
    @nildamartinez5834 10 месяцев назад

    GOD BLESS YOU
    AND MAY OUR LORD CONTINUE TO GUIDE EACH STEP.
    YOU WILL HAVE SOME DIFFICULT MOMENTS
    BUT YOU HAVE YOUR PRECIOUS BABY THAT WILL HELP KEEP YOU A LITTLE SANE AND HE NEEDS YOU NOW MORE THAN EVER.
    FROM A SINGLE MOM OF 4 AND NEEDED TO WORK OUTSIDE THE HOME.
    YOUR STRONGER THAN YOU COULD POSSIBLY IMAGINE.
    BUT FOR NOW IF YOU NEED TO CRY DO SO, YOUR SPIRIT NEEDS TO RELEASE THE PRESSURE
    YOU WILL CONQUER.
    GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR BABY.

  • @glorias.2930
    @glorias.2930 Год назад +1

    I love your home ❤

  • @ambernectar3158
    @ambernectar3158 Год назад +2

    What? A single mum. I'm so sorry. Does dad help!!!

  • @susanjacobs279
    @susanjacobs279 9 месяцев назад

    You are going to be just fine ❤ Please 🙏 take good care of yourself. I know that you did not ask my advice, but, if you did, just know that your little guy will be grown before you know it. So, just put your strength and time into y'alls little family. And most importantly, you will still be YOUNG when your little boy graduates from high-school ❤❤ I will keep you both in my prayers 🙏 💙 ❤️ Godspeed ❤

  • @cass1929
    @cass1929 Год назад +1

    sending love and prayers to you 💕

  • @Larapordios
    @Larapordios Год назад

    Yours is a very real thus great testimony. I have female friends that are going to be single moms and I think this reality will actually help them. Just a little suggestion: try to get out of the house every day, that helps me a lot. Thanks a lot for your videos

  • @pmiller1706
    @pmiller1706 6 месяцев назад

    You should give Deacon those waffles, maybe with some peanut butter it taste really good with peanut butter and syrup

  • @sejo2221
    @sejo2221 Год назад

    I'm adjusting too. It's been two months

  • @avabruns
    @avabruns Год назад

    You got this❤❤

  • @_Dumb_stuff_
    @_Dumb_stuff_ 9 месяцев назад +1

    I didn't want to say anything but whenever your husband was in the videos he seemed distant from you and your son, I know it is gonna be hard but you can do this my parents got divorced when I was around deacons age and just remember being with my mom and I loved it we became so close

  • @London-hd7qj
    @London-hd7qj Год назад

    Love yall❤❤❤❤

  • @The_Sour_Dough
    @The_Sour_Dough Год назад

    My son does the same thing with his foot!!!! Drives me crazy haha. Hes 1.5.

  • @vachalanaidu4836
    @vachalanaidu4836 Год назад

    You got it. Take a walk, long walks. Enjoy the breeze, wind and time of your life

  • @cecicallejas6429
    @cecicallejas6429 Год назад +3

    Do you have any tips? I really feel like i need to be alone from my baby’s father but I second guess my decision and something always ends up happening.

  • @rosearguelles7674
    @rosearguelles7674 5 месяцев назад

    YOU WILL BE OK 💪💪🌹🌹

  • @nikkiboza4237
    @nikkiboza4237 Год назад

    Hey Girl I Hope You Receive This Message Because I Understand What You're Going Through My Daughter Bio Dad Left Us When She was 1 & 1/2 yrs old! HE DIDN'T EVEN CALL OR GET HER ANYTHING FOR HER BDAY and Sometimes I Still Resent Him and I Struggle With My Feeling What I Found Helpful Was Joining 1 or more Mommy Groups In Your Area! I Live In Tampa,FL closer to Wesley Chapel,FL and There's always some type of play dates

  • @AlohaNLight2All
    @AlohaNLight2All Год назад

    Wish i could hug you, i havent woke up in a great mood in so long..it makes me sad.. hopefully soon

  • @shelbyLange18
    @shelbyLange18 Год назад

    2 of my 7 children did/do that with their foot on the tray while they eat.

  • @maryalford5419
    @maryalford5419 4 месяца назад

    You are doing a great job make sure you get me time rather you take a bath and relax or go out once a month if you can . Find you a church to meet friends and go to bible studies they have daycare that high school youth can watch your little one just an idea . hugs to you praying for you and your son . 🙏🏻💕

  • @user-lw7rz8zj2g
    @user-lw7rz8zj2g Год назад +1

  • @JanetAbc
    @JanetAbc Год назад +4

    Suggestion: instead of plopping your child in front of the TV while he eats breakfast alone, keep him with you, eat breakfast with him, converse with him, have him interact with you while you unload the dishwasher

  • @lifeline1702
    @lifeline1702 10 месяцев назад

    Do you have family or friends you can go visit or they come to you, that will help, doing great job mama