Having no friends and why its okay

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  • Опубликовано: 29 окт 2024

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  • @mikefigure
    @mikefigure 3 года назад +5324

    Being alone is better than being with people who don’t value you.

    • @joesanchez9811
      @joesanchez9811 3 года назад +67

      or value themselves! Great point.

    • @LittleLulubee
      @LittleLulubee 3 года назад +7

      True 👍

    • @williamkeitel3994
      @williamkeitel3994 3 года назад +9

      I agree with you

    • @m.b.4164
      @m.b.4164 3 года назад +6

      Very true.

    • @jamesevans2507
      @jamesevans2507 3 года назад +17

      Ok but being alone is still pretty damn bad.
      "Having no arms is better than having no arms and no legs."

  • @marinaabbasi1171
    @marinaabbasi1171 3 года назад +12621

    I think that authentic people who are kind hearted often find it much harder to make genuine friends in life...

    •  3 года назад +733

      Yeah i agree

    • @marinaabbasi1171
      @marinaabbasi1171 3 года назад +685

      @@Free411
      I never suffered from social anxiety and I also know many others who did NOT but we still found it difficult to make genuine friends as we were immensely honest and transparent... A lot of superficial people cannot handle the truth!! 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @isabellaw3151
      @isabellaw3151 3 года назад +106

      @@marinaabbasi1171 yes I’m very sensitive and they dont really like the lgbtq community 😔

    • @isabellaw3151
      @isabellaw3151 3 года назад +30

      @@marinaabbasi1171 my classmates...

    • @KannaJay
      @KannaJay 3 года назад +127

      That’s a cop out. Truth is somewhat similar to that. The most sympathetic people are people who struggle the most.

  • @nocturnal7345
    @nocturnal7345 3 года назад +3477

    If there is one thing I’ve learned from Naruto, is that “The worst thing in the world isn’t being alone, it is being surrounded by people that makes you feel like you are alone”.

    • @wlskk_22
      @wlskk_22 3 года назад +36

      oh wow, i think i needed to hear that, thank u :)

    • @TheErik1119
      @TheErik1119 3 года назад +20

      Damn i felt this

    • @phoenixreviews2836
      @phoenixreviews2836 3 года назад +10

      damn that’s deep

    • @robtheservantof6257
      @robtheservantof6257 3 года назад +10

      Bro ive been rewacthing naruto and ive been so empathic sith thd characters. Its got a log of good messages

    • @Theemightguy
      @Theemightguy 3 года назад +4

      I like the quote but how did you get that from Naruto?(not trying to be rude just genuinely very curious)

  • @bramd5935
    @bramd5935 3 года назад +3030

    This video makes me feel much more normal having no friends, i often feel like it’s my fault because I don’t reach out to people enough, but when i’m with a group off people i just feel lost and i get super quiet

    • @denisesuarez9635
      @denisesuarez9635 3 года назад +42

      we can be friends^_^

    • @RedWay7
      @RedWay7 3 года назад +41

      me all day all night ;)

    • @lakenwaters8704
      @lakenwaters8704 3 года назад +16

      Bram we are kindred souls....let's hang out ⚘

    • @kayla-qt9nb
      @kayla-qt9nb 3 года назад +86

      THISSS. i feel like it’s my fault for isolating. i’m glad i’m not alone

    • @lakenwaters8704
      @lakenwaters8704 3 года назад +70

      @@kayla-qt9nb I feel like it's my fault because I speak. Everyone wants you to listen but if you try to talk about your life you get shut down!

  • @valerialattanzio5956
    @valerialattanzio5956 3 года назад +1823

    "You feel really lonely when you're in a group of people and no one really knows you." I can sooo much relate to this

    • @taketheblackpillneo3940
      @taketheblackpillneo3940 3 года назад +13

      cry me a river. thats what happens when you females only go for chads who gonna pump and dump you lmao.

    • @blahblah1438
      @blahblah1438 3 года назад +24

      I agree. I love being alone. No one to judge me

    • @rxvenxx
      @rxvenxx 3 года назад +83

      @@taketheblackpillneo3940 bruh what

    • @mnmaltayar
      @mnmaltayar 3 года назад +3

      Yeah me too i feel lonely when I’m in a group chat and no one know me like they laugh with each and they don’t reply on me.

    • @emiliagiacco1887
      @emiliagiacco1887 3 года назад +17

      @@taketheblackpillneo3940 let's not forget you're watching this video too

  • @nuage6500
    @nuage6500 3 года назад +4511

    Honestly, the pandemic has made me realize a lot

    •  3 года назад +333

      What did it make you realize? For me I could see the people that really cared about me vs the people that didn’t.

    • @nuage6500
      @nuage6500 3 года назад +603

      @ to put it simply there is one quote that changed the game for me: stop texting first and see how many dead plants you've been watering. Done deal

    •  3 года назад +168

      @@nuage6500 Wow yes, that’s quote perfectly sums it up. Thank you for that I’m going to remember that quote

    • @peroquetoiseau933
      @peroquetoiseau933 3 года назад +10

      Yes

    • @ItsNicola
      @ItsNicola 3 года назад +10

      Me too

  • @paulcooper5748
    @paulcooper5748 3 года назад +3185

    I can feel more alone around people.

    •  3 года назад +186

      Yeah I’ve felt that before

    • @lovearttherapyalways
      @lovearttherapyalways 3 года назад +20

      same

    • @beanhead7632
      @beanhead7632 3 года назад +71

      Yeah, you see all these other people with their friends and chattering their heads off, and you’re here alone talking to no one...

    •  3 года назад +64

      @@beanhead7632 or talking to yourself 😅 that’s me

    • @VrickzGamer
      @VrickzGamer 3 года назад +3

      exactly

  • @honnylore181
    @honnylore181 3 года назад +1615

    I honestly feel some people are too empathetic and compassionate to have many friends for the simple fact that most friendships nowadays are extremely shallow. Very introverted or deep and empathetic people NEED deep and meaningful relationships.

    • @maryssa8593
      @maryssa8593 3 года назад +110

      That’s so true. I’ve always craved very deep and understanding friendships and romantic relationships. Learned that’s really hard nowadays because people just want to go out and drink and party. And when you have kids that’s the only kind of friendship you can have so it’s very limited when they even think to invite you around. I’m just an awkward and shy person so I have a hard time finding people who are willing to go through that phase of a friendship with me.

    • @grrrohmy665
      @grrrohmy665 3 года назад +2

      that’s me

    • @SeIfishmachines
      @SeIfishmachines 3 года назад +21

      I’m very nice to people and barley have friends only one.. I tried get friends but each time they just ghost me even tho I give them my heart.

    • @PinkyToe
      @PinkyToe 3 года назад

      It's actually a spiritual problem. ruclips.net/p/PLCmm0rfhsouxX59lbD43VMHhNwyTcbBsW

    • @grrrohmy665
      @grrrohmy665 3 года назад +3

      @@SeIfishmachines i am so sorry m’y love :(( i relate to this so so much. I give people my heart and true love, it’s so hard not getting it back.

  • @iamdyonte
    @iamdyonte 3 года назад +1361

    I feel like when you’re genuine, kind, and attentive it’s harder for you to find real friends because you might expect the same in return but not a lot of people are ready to give you back everything you give them

    • @uf1978
      @uf1978 3 года назад +5

      DITTO

    • @MTRIDER69OFF
      @MTRIDER69OFF 3 года назад +8

      100%

    • @thelighthousez3718
      @thelighthousez3718 3 года назад +10

      @Darrion Jefferson I get your point but when you first meet someone you cant see a teaser of who they will become maybe years later

    • @thelighthousez3718
      @thelighthousez3718 3 года назад +18

      I am great at reassurance. I am emphatic as well. It feels bad when I see people coming to me and being friends only when they need support and they feel bad.

    • @iamdyonte
      @iamdyonte 3 года назад

      @@thelighthousez3718 thank you for comprehending 🙂🙃

  • @The-Mad-Face
    @The-Mad-Face 3 года назад +834

    "I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone” Robin Williams

    • @danw6014
      @danw6014 3 года назад +18

      The reason he felt that was because everyone around him sucked the life out of him. I was at a horsemanship clinic that was instructed by a man who became a close friend. He rode over to me during a break and said he knew 1000s of people but he only knew few he could trust and he was glad to have me as a friend. People sucked the life out of him too and he shot himself 5 years ago.

    • @The-Mad-Face
      @The-Mad-Face 3 года назад +11

      @@danw6014 People who you can trust are far few indeed. If I didn't go my own way 10 years go I probably would've harmed my self maybe dying in process.

    • @gettingcalledoutontwitteri1882
      @gettingcalledoutontwitteri1882 2 года назад +2

      @@danw6014
      Yup. He also started losing his memory, so he started feeling worse... i just feel bad, my depression,insomnia and overthinking cause me to lose some of my thoughts

    • @gettingcalledoutontwitteri1882
      @gettingcalledoutontwitteri1882 2 года назад +2

      @@The-Mad-Face
      When i was younger,i chased people and felt very alone and socially anxious. But now people want to use me because i have no other choice. Everytime i talk to people,i start feeling so alone. If i was multi rich, i would care less for those people. I would have been able to do whatever i want on my own

    • @The-Mad-Face
      @The-Mad-Face 2 года назад +2

      @@gettingcalledoutontwitteri1882 I feel the same way. I'm just working my job and enjoy the peace that comes from solitude. I just live one day at a time. People are becoming pointless in my life.

  • @bitcoinski
    @bitcoinski 3 года назад +1302

    All I have are fake friends...the ones who call me whenever they need a favor but not to hang out...

    •  3 года назад +120

      dang, its time to meet new people, good people

    • @Lukasz.Kaa09
      @Lukasz.Kaa09 3 года назад +55

      Same bro...They are all good friends but when weekends come I got literally noone to hang out :/

    • @Snovit00
      @Snovit00 3 года назад +2

      soooo true

    • @bryantcoleman3586
      @bryantcoleman3586 3 года назад +16

      Or invite you to hang out to spend money on them at their events

    • @truthseeker1234
      @truthseeker1234 3 года назад +8

      Mark Magill.....basically users. And if you stop giving as much then the reach ot less. If you completely stop giving then they are gone.

  • @lilymay7855
    @lilymay7855 3 года назад +689

    I feel like sometimes I have friends and then sometimes I feel like I have really no one.

    • @startrekgirl4245
      @startrekgirl4245 3 года назад +22

      I feel the same way

    • @atqraxiia8610
      @atqraxiia8610 3 года назад +12

      Same

    • @atqraxiia8610
      @atqraxiia8610 3 года назад +3

      @@suziesmith8288 exactly

    • @fraserl843
      @fraserl843 3 года назад +9

      @@suziesmith8288 I have a few friends but I just feel alone because I get bullied and stuff but because In the uk it’s the summer holidays now and my mom keeps saying like go out with your friends you will look back on this and I just sit in my room and I’m just alone I don’t know how to tell her I barely have any friends and stuff

    • @fraserl843
      @fraserl843 3 года назад +1

      @@suziesmith8288 I haven’t even told her i get bullied aswell im just so alone

  • @444truthteller
    @444truthteller 3 года назад +1851

    I’m just an introvert. And thats okay. Most ppl aren’t life long friends anyways. Ppl come and go.

    • @johnames6430
      @johnames6430 3 года назад +29

      yes but it doesn't mean you should be friendless all the time! You need friends, saying "I'm an introvert" is a pathetic excuse people use for why they suck so much that no one will be their friend.

    • @ShyMplsMale
      @ShyMplsMale 3 года назад +134

      She didn't say she's friendless all the time. From my experience, a lot of introverts who are sensitive and old souls get taken advantage of by those who are vibrating lower than them. Its hard to find people who look at the world differently than most since those people tend to just keep to themselves and walk their own path.

    • @444truthteller
      @444truthteller 3 года назад +63

      @@ShyMplsMale theres introverts and extroverts in our society. Nobody is the same. Such a dumbass comment above ☝️

    • @ShyMplsMale
      @ShyMplsMale 3 года назад +27

      @Savannah Will I agree 😉

    • @nickpropst4938
      @nickpropst4938 3 года назад +23

      Some people like myself just really suck at talking and they are open about that. Talking less or when called upon to do so is better than opening my mouth and letting toilet sounds exit.

  • @furnitureassemblyservices8239
    @furnitureassemblyservices8239 3 года назад +638

    If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.

    • @duncan3998
      @duncan3998 3 года назад +27

      Yup, Just me,myself and i

    • @blackflag5148
      @blackflag5148 3 года назад +6

      100% true

    • @kc4276
      @kc4276 3 года назад +9

      Thank you, wise cabinet.

    • @cz5487
      @cz5487 3 года назад +4

      Exactly, ourselves should be our main happiness

    • @everettweddle5106
      @everettweddle5106 3 года назад +2

      @@duncan3998Solo ride until I die
      'Cause I got me for life (got me for life, yeah)
      Woooh, I don't need a hand to hold
      Even when the night is cold
      I got that fire in my soul.

  • @e.a.herman2104
    @e.a.herman2104 3 года назад +482

    Being alone, especially in nature, helps with anxiety. The alone time recharges us

    • @clint1285
      @clint1285 3 года назад +7

      Right. I do a lot of walking and riding my bike outside alone. Feels great

    • @duncan3998
      @duncan3998 3 года назад +4

      Distract myself with laughter and joy is a great medicine.

    • @lindseyshupee
      @lindseyshupee 3 года назад +7

      I think you're right. Sometimes people talk to me or my friend suggested I get medical help. The medical people kind of helped but now I am thinking that I don't really need to see a counselor if I can listen to music or walk in nature. Walking in nature doesn't cost me money money, lol. Sometimes I really do need an actual person to talk to.

    • @remist
      @remist 3 года назад +3

      Not for me when im alone just with my thoughts i came home with extreme anxiety and had to turn my brain off by watching youtube for hours

    • @하디-k6r
      @하디-k6r 3 года назад +1

      End of this year I'm going to go Te araroa which talking 4months long distance-thru Hike cheer me up

  • @crazybabuskaman3923
    @crazybabuskaman3923 3 года назад +1181

    I love how we are all like a big family, and we all relate to each other. Sometimes, people you meet on the Internet, can be more welcome and understanding than people you meet in real life.

    • @ellasolqvist1050
      @ellasolqvist1050 3 года назад +50

      A big virtual hug to you Internet family

    • @talaaa2897
      @talaaa2897 3 года назад +14

      I will remember you bcuz of what u said, Crazito~

    • @gregorycyr9272
      @gregorycyr9272 3 года назад +11

      What you said is very true,no doubt about it.😀

    • @DR-nh6oo
      @DR-nh6oo 3 года назад +4

      and it helps....if we don't spend too much time here, lol.

    • @97AshleyRose
      @97AshleyRose 3 года назад +1

      Ikr

  • @reeleyezmusic222
    @reeleyezmusic222 3 года назад +625

    “Those times that you feel alone, those are the times when you learn who you really are and who you want to be”

    •  3 года назад +18

      Agree 🙏🏼💙

    • @reeleyezmusic222
      @reeleyezmusic222 3 года назад +6

      @ I got it from you 😉🙏

    • @kannonbaldino8056
      @kannonbaldino8056 3 года назад +1

      Real talk

    • @Snovit00
      @Snovit00 3 года назад

      this is gold words

    • @freshliving4199
      @freshliving4199 3 года назад

      It’s in the stillness that you get to know who you truly are.
      Is your nature of anger?...or is your nature of Love?
      If you of anger then having friends or no friends will matter.
      If you of Love then having friends or no friends makes absolutely no difference whatsoever.
      Use the quite time to know who you are.
      When you realize who you are you will find life.
      Life will draw life unto you.
      Friends then great, no friends then that’s great too.
      Live YOUR life.

  • @unikovida6645
    @unikovida6645 3 года назад +1546

    Sometimes its better being alone,,,
    Nobody can hurt u that way

    •  3 года назад +90

      Yeah I agree sometimes being alone can be better

    • @Probroz.
      @Probroz. 3 года назад +2

      I am agree too

    • @feferosette
      @feferosette 3 года назад +1

      Yes very true!

    • @michaelconsuegra7316
      @michaelconsuegra7316 3 года назад +6

      I agree.
      I prefere to be alone as well.
      Face it: People don't want to be bothered.

    • @sergei0t
      @sergei0t 3 года назад

      :(

  • @Mkitoo
    @Mkitoo 3 года назад +150

    Being alone can make you realize a lot

    •  3 года назад +16

      yeah it does

  • @anthonygiove7127
    @anthonygiove7127 3 года назад +626

    This honestly really resonates with me. I have these on and off moments where I want friends, and then I don’t. But then when I’m with a group of people, my social battery just drains and then I wanna go home lmao I personally find more peace and have more fun by myself. I crave depth, and a lot of relationships just seem superficial to me. I don’t like to party or anything like that, which I feel like society pushes people to do in their early 20s.

  • @jungshookiekoo954
    @jungshookiekoo954 3 года назад +632

    a wise women once said *i dont need friends they disappoint me*

    • @whatzittooyah
      @whatzittooyah 3 года назад +22

      😂😂😂 I love that clip

    • @BrunoR97
      @BrunoR97 3 года назад +9

      Ah yes, Carla Shaw, our inspiration

    • @briton3851
      @briton3851 3 года назад

      she got the wrong friends

    • @ralph0808z
      @ralph0808z 3 года назад +5

      Reminds me of what a wise man once said...
      "Disappointed a few people
      When friendship reared its ugly head
      Disappointed a few people
      Well, isn't that what friends are for?"
      J.Rotten PIL

    • @papillon5998
      @papillon5998 3 года назад +1

      DID SHE LIEEE THOOOO

  • @rubyyesenia9255
    @rubyyesenia9255 3 года назад +554

    No lie, I have 0 friends. It wasnt by choice it just happened that way. When I was in a group of friends I was extremely lonely and sad cause apparently being myself was not good enough for anyone, being alone without them gave me power to my true self and I value my self worth way more.

    • @AsteroSloth
      @AsteroSloth 3 года назад +21

      Again, just like I told everyone else in this comment section.
      Try and connect with people and you’ll find them eventually. If you don’t feel appreciated in a group, then don’t stay. But if you do find a place to belong, put in the effort. Send the first text, make plans, give in to requests.

    • @rarebreed345
      @rarebreed345 3 года назад +7

      They were never your friend trust me

    • @angelaatwood46
      @angelaatwood46 3 года назад +5

      Ruby Yesenia yeah, I got ignored a lot too. Screw them. You need yourself and your own self love❤️

    • @plazmikpond
      @plazmikpond 3 года назад

      @@AsteroSloth appreicite your words

    • @arieseni4107
      @arieseni4107 3 года назад +1

      I think that too. Can we be friends? :)

  • @Alastair_
    @Alastair_ 3 года назад +328

    There are a lot of fake "I have no friends" people out there as well which is weird. You know, those people that say they have none but are also out every weekend having fun with people. I have no Facebook, no Twitter, my RUclips is mostly used for my gaming channel (Other account) and the only phone numbers I have on my phone are my 2 brothers and my parents. I have 0 friends. No one in the world I can count on and you know what, that's ok.
    I am a whole person, I do not need a relationship to feel complete, I do not need friends to count on. I have struggled through things that would cripple others and came out the other end stronger than when I went in.
    Don't get me wrong, I'd love to meet more people like me but I'm 33 now and never in my life met anyone quite like me.

    • @OrganizationXIII
      @OrganizationXIII 3 года назад +27

      You are stronger than you know.

    • @lavie8707
      @lavie8707 3 года назад +35

      This is exactly how I feel. I just turned 18 and feel especially alone. I think it's mostly because people my age are expected to be social with many friends and I don't really fit into that standard. Throughout the past two years I have done a lot of introspection, honestly I've spent more time alone and thinking than socializing, and came to your same conclusion. Your comment really resonated with me because it's so hard to find people who think being alone is impressive and strong instead of being sad. I've never met anyone quite like myself either yet I really hope somehow, and someday, I do. Company of those like you surely has to be better than of those who don't appreciate you.

    • @michaela7576
      @michaela7576 3 года назад +9

      @@lavie8707 you’re so right and I’m a bit younger than you but I understand u so much. I love this quote “the strongest people are those who don’t fear being alone” I think being alone shows how you are mentally strong, resilient, independent and have self respect for yourself. How you’re not fake and are authentic. That you don’t need validation from other people :)

    • @maryssa8593
      @maryssa8593 3 года назад +12

      I’m kind of in that boat. My husband is very social so I am too now that I know his friends but no one really knows the real ME, just the outgoing version of myself which is only a small part of me. They don’t talk to me outside of when we hang out hardly. That’s a lonely existence too. But I commend you for your strength to pull through your tough times. I hope you find your group one day!!

    • @Cocochantelle
      @Cocochantelle 3 года назад +4

      Wow, this is the place I’d love to get to and not feel crushed with loneliness and yearning for connection.

  • @rrrwwwooo
    @rrrwwwooo 3 года назад +176

    "Betrayal never comes from your enemies." Think about that.

  • @joshuac5074
    @joshuac5074 3 года назад +402

    I read this quote once "The strongest people are those who don't fear being alone.' and ever since I've been watching cinemas and eating outside alone and it doesn't feel weak like how other people think it is I felt strong and alive

    • @TheSnoozeFox
      @TheSnoozeFox 3 года назад +24

      Went to the cinema by myself awhile ago and it was the best experience I've had at the movies

    • @Oscar_239
      @Oscar_239 3 года назад +3

      More power to ya Joshua! When you say eating outside do you mean outside the school cafeteria?

    • @joshuac5074
      @joshuac5074 3 года назад +1

      @@Oscar_239 no lmao i'm out of high school

    • @bxtchesmia_3842
      @bxtchesmia_3842 3 года назад +24

      I really needed this...thankyou. I lost touch with almost all of my friends and the ones I still talk to have changed so much and not the good kind. I sometimes still talk to them but I’m learning to be alone and happy with myself because I randomly get anxiety about it. Seeing all these people have fun with friends in the summer and always hanging out makes me feel like I’m wasting my life.

    • @amaterasublackflames8067
      @amaterasublackflames8067 3 года назад

      Outside in the dark at night? I would have died of fear

  • @hermesnoelthefourthway
    @hermesnoelthefourthway 3 года назад +861

    "everybody likes you when you're fake,
    Nobody likes you when you're real". Bob Marley. I've just uploaded a film about this quote. Which people seem to be laughing their heads off over 😂😂😂

    • @giannis_tar
      @giannis_tar 3 года назад +8

      the 2nd part is a big fat lie

    • @hermesnoelthefourthway
      @hermesnoelthefourthway 3 года назад +11

      @@giannis_tar I absolutely totally agree with you. Couldn't agree more. Becoming "Real" and "true" is, so I've discovered, connecting with one's "soul" and "essence". When this is done, then one can meet others who are the same. A kind of sorting the wheat from the chaff takes place (externally and internally) I've worked on the teachings of Gurdjieff and Ouspensky for many years, even made films about it, and would like to think I've made progress of some kind. Thank you for your comment. Noel

    • @scsclassics
      @scsclassics 3 года назад +21

      I think what Marley is saying here is people don't like the truth . Especially when it's hurtful.

    • @hermesnoelthefourthway
      @hermesnoelthefourthway 3 года назад +2

      @@scsclassics a painful truth is of far more worth than a consoling lie. On a lighter note... How did Bob Marley like his donuts?..... With jam in

    • @lloyd2929
      @lloyd2929 3 года назад +1

      Why can't I verify this on Google??? I can't find this at all.

  • @thefab4859
    @thefab4859 3 года назад +391

    you just helped me so much. i’m 15 and have no friends and have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. you made my day. thank you so much

    •  3 года назад +37

      no thank you I'm glad I could help and I wish you the best on your journey 😊

    • @sapphire-rainshimmer6489
      @sapphire-rainshimmer6489 3 года назад +21

      TheFab4, I don’t really have friends either. I’ve been diagnosed with depression too and PTSD. I feel less alone because of this video and because you said what you said so thank you and good luck on your journey.

    • @centref0lds1
      @centref0lds1 3 года назад +7

      i wish you the best in your journey! hope you are doing well

    • @evelyn-ig8od
      @evelyn-ig8od 3 года назад +6

      Don’t take having no friends personally. You have no friends because no one fits in. Your special. When around the right person it comes natural.

    • @maitegalba
      @maitegalba 3 года назад +3

      hi there, just an exteenager (23 now) who was bullied and an outcast during highschool, only for being true to myself and the things i loved. seven years before that i can assure you that that was the way to live, because now i'm sorrounded by lovely friends, a generous boyfriend and people who love me for who i am because i didn't gave up on being myself despite all the hard times (not going to the playground at lunchtime cause kids shouted and laughed at me, staying at the library reading and crying, begging my mom to stay home cause i didn't want to go to school cause everybody, mainly those who were my friends at school, bullied me so hard in highschool....) so this is a message for u, you gave me so much tenderness and reminded me so much of my younger self that i needed to tell you this to give you hope. if you can find a good therapist who understands you, and gives you space to talk about all the things you need, and doesn't use lots of drugs to "cure" your depression and tries to heal you from the inside and teaches you how to deal with life and become stronger...that be really nice. listen to the music you love, watch movies in other languages so in a few years you can be fluent at other language apart from yours, try to discover new things through the internet and nature, be around animals a lot, focus on yourself, make friends on the internet (be careful with this, please).... those things helped me back then. hope you feel a bit better now (you wrote this 4 months ago). a big hug from madrid, spain

  • @angelalomeli8620
    @angelalomeli8620 3 года назад +452

    I feel like such an outsider i dont relate to anyone in this generation, it feels like they’re just soulless zombies

    • @LittleKittyCat
      @LittleKittyCat 3 года назад +15

      Exactly.

    • @PinkyToe
      @PinkyToe 3 года назад +4

      Actually, they are.... It's actually a spiritual problem. ruclips.net/p/PLCmm0rfhsouxX59lbD43VMHhNwyTcbBsW

    • @111JenA
      @111JenA 3 года назад +17

      Same here. I have no local friends. They’ve moved due to life. At 47 it’s very hard to make friends.

    • @Alicia-lp5zf
      @Alicia-lp5zf 3 года назад +1

      SAME

    • @Spencerjones_music3
      @Spencerjones_music3 3 года назад

      👋

  • @nevermore7373
    @nevermore7373 3 года назад +523

    Solitude is has always been demonized within society and cultures. It often paints a dark picture of insanity and disturbance within people, but when alone, that's when you truly appreciate yourself, your entire being. I prefer my solitude, because people throughout my life have always in one fashion of another, has turned their back on me when I became vulnerable to them, I'd rather not gamble my heart with another person. I love solitude and being by myself.

    •  3 года назад +32

      What you said is very true and it is beautifully written. Being alone is when you learn most about yourself and what you really want. I’m sorry many people have betrayed you and I understand the feeling. I’m glad you are so happy with your solitude and found the good in it as many people are scared to be alone.

    • @eucalyptusman8118
      @eucalyptusman8118 3 года назад +6

      @ @Nevermore Solitude is demonized because it can be dangerous for most peoples psychology, but there is a lot of evidence showing that people who can face those demons in a psychology sense(Friedrich Nietzsche speaks of this) can grow stronger internally and really blossom from it kinda like how a beautiful flower, lotus flower, grows from the mud. It's really a beautiful process.

    • @JB.zero.zero.1
      @JB.zero.zero.1 3 года назад +5

      @@eucalyptusman8118
      To be fair though Nietzsche ended up broken & alone & clearly wasn't a happy man.
      Whether we like it or not, we need people around us and we need that connection.
      I am a hermit by the way - so I know the path of solitude intimately, but I have also suffered hard in isolation at times.

    • @faithpacheco9047
      @faithpacheco9047 3 года назад

      This is why I also prefer to stay single

    • @eucalyptusman8118
      @eucalyptusman8118 3 года назад +1

      @Egawa C yea, in their religious books, but religious people don't even realize what their books say word for word.

  • @irinaivanovic9792
    @irinaivanovic9792 3 года назад +434

    It's ironic how people will automatically label you a narcissist if you have no friends. This could not be further from the TRUTH! Most narcissists I've known have always had a lot of friends or were very popular and well-liked on the surface.

    • @sugar_cube_tootsies1136
      @sugar_cube_tootsies1136 3 года назад +13

      Righttt‼

    • @amourtoujours779
      @amourtoujours779 3 года назад +49

      I feel like people overuse the term "narcissist" and have no idea what it truly means.

    • @elenabirer6471
      @elenabirer6471 3 года назад +9

      @@amourtoujours779 THISSSSS!!!!

    • @00Mali00
      @00Mali00 3 года назад +4

      Because they have no trouble being fake 😕

    • @cocoluvkoko9743
      @cocoluvkoko9743 3 года назад

      Wat Wat
      Personally I don't think so (some might be), And therefore It's a common thing. For example (half unrelated)-It's okay to have no friends and to be alone, As long it's because you learn how to make yourself happy without the need of somebody else. (That's healthy) You learn how to enjoy things without being forced to please others. When you are alone, you set boundaries of protection.
      You don't have to think it's wrong for anyone to have no friends, call it selfish but, some people are just...comfortable that way. From what I experience...
      And if you think it's not possible to have life without friends well...it doesn't at least in my opinion. it's possible to live without friends because we live in an increasingly individualistic society. Yes, it's perfectly possible to live without friends. ... They discovered that, indeed, friendships help us to experience happiness. However, this factor isn't the most important for people as a whole.

  • @user-eu3sg1rg4j
    @user-eu3sg1rg4j 3 года назад +441

    I always get insecure sometimes about not having friends. I've been trying to realize that you don't have to have so many people in your life to be happy or confident in yourself. Like girl it's alright if you want to go eat out and no-ones with you. Just live your own life and if you're content and happy by yourself that's perfectly normal and okay. Thank you for posting this video.

    • @tom4412
      @tom4412 3 года назад +3

      23 likes, and no one commented

    • @davidberry8747
      @davidberry8747 3 года назад +14

      Remember that on many occasions we tend to use the word friend or love kind of lightly. The truth is that a true friend is hard to find, almost like a good healthy relationship with the opposite sex. Why? Because we tend to rush into things or cross boundaries to early in the relationship. My point is that you shouldn't feel insecure about not having friends, and believe me your going to attract whatever you put out. So as long as you're kind, respectful, and loving, the right people will cross your path. I hope and pray 🙏 you're encourage. So many beautiful people in this comment community and it's crazy how loneliness can emotionally cripple so many people including myself. God bless you....

    • @dhanishasethupathy2964
      @dhanishasethupathy2964 3 года назад +1

      @@davidberry8747 can we be friends lol

    • @davidberry8747
      @davidberry8747 3 года назад +1

      @@dhanishasethupathy2964 absolutely, always looking for cool, productive people who can support and encourage one another.

    • @davidberry8747
      @davidberry8747 3 года назад

      @ Dhanisha, we're your from? I'm from NYC, it's kind of crowded over hear, but if you like the vibe, NYC can be a really cool fun place, but every once in a while, I enjoy going to the country side on weekends.🙏...

  • @joylindadichamounix
    @joylindadichamounix 3 года назад +341

    I have been to so many concerts, operas & trips BY MYSELF because I did not wait around for anybody else. I have known people who turned down trips because their best friend could not come with them. Talk about dependency!

    • @theesteward9150
      @theesteward9150 3 года назад +7

      @P C start now

    • @x97s
      @x97s 3 года назад +12

      I will start doing this !! Many people can't only do things themselves

    • @joylindadichamounix
      @joylindadichamounix 3 года назад +2

      @P C You don't how much that means!

    • @maram3216
      @maram3216 3 года назад +6

      I go to the cinemas by myself and it's such a great feeling. Now that I'm married, i either go places myself or with my husband. No need anyone else.

    • @raven-kn6lv
      @raven-kn6lv 3 года назад

      Im the type who wouldn't mind going on trips alone, but if I made plans with my best friend to go somewhere and they couldn't go I would cancel and then spend the money on something else.😂. I don't want to make memories alone when I plan to make them with someone else. I'd rather go to another place and then when they don't have money and once they do we can go together 😂.

  • @BullyMaguir3
    @BullyMaguir3 3 года назад +308

    As a dude who's been through so much bullshit with people, I can definitely tell you not to waste your time on them. They're always the same no matter how different they may seem. You think "Oh, this person is so great and different!" then you're ghosted in a snap. Learn to be content with being alone. I had to. Looking to people for my happiness was literally driving me insane. Knowing the stone cold truth about how people really are, and not the fake personas they hide behind on social media really makes you a lot more happy and confident on your own.

    • @planetcaravan4040
      @planetcaravan4040 3 года назад

      same

    • @VivianaSilverback
      @VivianaSilverback 2 года назад +3

      100%. Such a wise comment! Couldn't have said this better myself.

    • @FireFoxGaming56
      @FireFoxGaming56 2 года назад

      Love your username xDD

    • @leavemealone7108
      @leavemealone7108 2 года назад

      Period and I agree as a girl

    • @Ta3Nu
      @Ta3Nu 2 года назад +2

      i found it the hard way!! my best friend just broke our 14 year old friendship over some some guy she met 14 days ago…. now i dont know what to do!!!! your comment made me realise I need to stop depending on other people for my happiness..

  • @tankthepitbull520
    @tankthepitbull520 3 года назад +63

    I cut off several friendships that lasted over 10 years because they became toxic, literally no regrets. Be dominant and self dependent that’s true ultimate power 💥

    • @elmarealtor
      @elmarealtor 2 года назад +2

      When my friends starts to distance from me after giving my all for 10 years I was kind of bumped out but I quickly realized I’m glad it happened that way because it’s a win win situation in my part and it’s their loss. Now I’m happier than ever doing my thing without worrying anything about how to make my friends happy etc.

  • @joehinojosa24
    @joehinojosa24 3 года назад +101

    The word " friend" has no meaning in the modern world. Civilized polite society teaches you to ACT " FRIENDLY" but only to get what you need and want. Use people as a temporary stepping stone to be upwardly mobile. That's why we all lonely

    • @GrigorisDeoudis
      @GrigorisDeoudis 3 года назад

      So much relate on the first part Joe.
      As to why people are lonely I feel the reasons differ from person to person. But everything in life is acceptance and evolution ~

    • @joehinojosa24
      @joehinojosa24 3 года назад +1

      @@GrigorisDeoudis I bless you with love ,peace and joy sister. Become Love and peace and you will create it. Give out joy and you receive joy. Good luck

    • @mesalouis8976
      @mesalouis8976 3 года назад

      True.

  • @janhavikulkarni3440
    @janhavikulkarni3440 3 года назад +303

    I always have fear of missing out because I'm introvert and not as fun loving as other people

    •  3 года назад +89

      Im really introverted too. Don’t fear missing out, you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing to have a good time. When I feel fear of missing out I tell myself it’s my time for self care 😅

    • @janhavikulkarni3440
      @janhavikulkarni3440 3 года назад +3

      Yes❤️

    • @MR-nl8xr
      @MR-nl8xr 3 года назад +6

      FOMO struggle is real.

    •  3 года назад

      @Charniii Violins Im really glad you could get something out of this video 😊 I wish you the best 💕💕

    • @myabrandi5858
      @myabrandi5858 3 года назад

      @ love this

  • @collinproductions9617
    @collinproductions9617 3 года назад +197

    I feel happy to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way

    •  3 года назад +7

      Me too 💕

  • @alexarentsch7370
    @alexarentsch7370 3 года назад +124

    I was always extroverted, and this year I realized that I really wasn't. I have gone through so many groups of friends, and I think it's because I knew them and they didn't know me. I felt so lonely, and I realized it was because I wasn't hanging out with ME enough. I love spending time with me. I was there for everyone all the time, and so I neglected my own needs. I still love being with people, but I've learned to become detached to the idea that people are in our lives forever. People are in our lives for a season, and we get to cherish it, and then let it go. Never stop being kind to others, but never expect anything in return, so you can never be disappointed.

    • @tahamm5156
      @tahamm5156 3 года назад

      I kinda had the same experience except that i didn't neglect my need that much. But just knowing that you dont matter that much in a group or that you know them more that they know you really hurts

    • @elizcringle6505
      @elizcringle6505 3 года назад +1

      You might be a heighten sensitivity person. You should check out Elain Aaron's work, she pioneered the study of people with the sensory processing sensitivity trait. Which I call my superpower. HSP make up only 20% of the population and being friends with an HSP is very different than being friends with a non-HSP. I'm acquainted with a lot of people, but I don't have any friends, by choice. People's energy can be overwhelming.

  • @noodles8951
    @noodles8951 3 года назад +359

    I relate so much. This year, i realised most of my so called "friends" are really toxic. They always took advantage of my kindness and insecurities and always knew me when they needed me. I was also always treated like a " leftover" by them. I had this group of 3 bestfriends including me. They always treated each other very nicely, give gifts to each other but never me, always ignored my messages, made plans behind my back etc... Idk how to explain man but they were just really toxic. I just felt so lonely and like a leftout or thirdwheeler or something with them. I just estranged myself from them. I legit don't have anyfriends with whom i am comfortable sharing my problems, talking to etc...now and i feel way bette. I rather be alone that be with people who makes me feel bad and lonely. I no longer plan to make friends again now. I rather be alone. Anyway,i just want to add that you are really pretty.

    • @jeremiahscott3128
      @jeremiahscott3128 3 года назад +12

      Sorry I’m replying late but like I’m in the same boat I have fake friends and sometimes it feels like really lonely so yeah

    • @noodles8951
      @noodles8951 3 года назад +22

      @@jeremiahscott3128 if someone is hurting, makes you feel insecure and worthless whether knowingly or unknowingly, don't be afraid to estranged yourself from them or leave them. Learn to do things by yourself,learn to be happy by yourself. I'm technically friendless now but i feel way better.
      Everything in temporary in life. Friends come and go. What matters is you. Learn to find happiness in your solitude and do not be afraid to do things on your own.

    • @jeremiahscott3128
      @jeremiahscott3128 3 года назад +2

      Thanks so much

    • @Nora-qb7op
      @Nora-qb7op 3 года назад +7

      I'm in the exact situation haha 3 best friends including me. It hurts. I'm glad you've gotten over it!

    • @jeremiahscott3128
      @jeremiahscott3128 3 года назад +2

      @@Nora-qb7op you need someone to talk too?

  • @tomfoolery342
    @tomfoolery342 3 года назад +279

    When my son turn about 15yrs old he asked me "Hey pops, why is it that I've never ever seen any of your friends, or you go out with anyone, or no one calls you and you don't call anyone?" I told him that once I started losing friends I never replaced them, and I'm much happier.

    • @angry-white-men
      @angry-white-men 3 года назад +8

      Yeah you know you're old as dirt when your lifelong friends are dying off not to be replaced. I've been keeping in touch with my 3 best friends for over 30 years but we still have a while before we start dying off.

    • @kingreece903
      @kingreece903 3 года назад +8

      Your the dad we all deserve I wish I had a dad that would have a bond with his son more than anything! I know for my future children I’m going to make their life awesome and I would t want them to go through the struggles I have been through

    • @aigleroyal3941
      @aigleroyal3941 3 года назад +3

      @ Tom Foolery You started losing friends because, I presume, they did not like your avatar image (sickle and hammer) and the fact that you belong in the trotskyist fraction of the fourth international! If I would be your friend I wouldn't leave you but I would try to convince you to stay away of that shit!

    • @awesomebearaudiobooks
      @awesomebearaudiobooks 3 года назад +8

      @@aigleroyal3941 In Russia, many people would love having him as a friend with a hammer and sickle on his avatar. A lot of people here might hate Trotskyists (because of Stalinist propaganda), but at least a hammer and sickle would mean he is a communist, and for many Russians, a communist means a person who would do anything for his friend, comrades, and family, without asking anything in return.
      In the Soviet Union, communists were considered the best, most honest people. Unfortunately, a lot of communists turned out to be fakes who joined the party dreaming of bringing capitalism back and using their party connections to become rich... But those communists who stayed communists even after our government turned capitalist, proved to be the most honest human beings there are.

    • @blususpect
      @blususpect 3 года назад

      Respect

  • @AcidGlow
    @AcidGlow 3 года назад +463

    I just want to be with 1 right person. But that's not possible. I don't like crowds. But most of the time it's just me cause I have no choice. 😕

  • @owenrockenbach139
    @owenrockenbach139 3 года назад +176

    Want to stop feeling lonely, join your local Martial arts gym, jiu jitsu specifically. I don’t have friends but I have a family at jiu jitsu. I got into martial arts because after high school my girlfriend and I broke up and I found myself walking alone. I was forced to follow my true interest and hobbies. I walk with god now as well. I love everyone and I love life , i hope this year will be full of blessings

    •  3 года назад +16

      owen rockenbach thank you for the suggestion. That’s very true how you can find friends and family through sports. Im not the most active person but I might give it a try 😊

    • @kamemagic2976
      @kamemagic2976 3 года назад

      Yo stop promoting useless gym of yours god dayum do you have any respect you sell out

    • @marieconstantia4441
      @marieconstantia4441 3 года назад +20

      @@kamemagic2976 You are particularly cruel to say such a comment to people who are struggling with loneliness. I will stick up for them. You need to develop some compassion for others.

    • @Anna-bd9le
      @Anna-bd9le 3 года назад +7

      @@kamemagic2976 they are not promoting their gym. They suggested that lonely people join their own local gym in hopes to find contacts there.

    • @firedude1Productions
      @firedude1Productions 3 года назад +3

      Fax bro, mma is the way to go

  • @MusicMike512
    @MusicMike512 3 года назад +108

    It's heartwarming to see that most people here in the comment section could probably be good, genuine friends with each other. The heartbreaking thing about it is that we'd probably never be able to meet and thus our friendship can only go so far.

    • @XboxgamerZ
      @XboxgamerZ 2 года назад +2

      But don't, we can hurt each other again, see us more as a club and if you see someone alone and your also alone, smile and say a hello and respect each other :p

  • @6ixlxrd
    @6ixlxrd 3 года назад +149

    "And one day you're gonna look around and you're gonna realize that everybody loves you, but nobody likes you. And that is the loneliest feeling in the world."
    -Bojack.

    • @nash2274
      @nash2274 3 года назад +1

      LMFAOOOO

    • @ejachildofgod6644
      @ejachildofgod6644 2 года назад +2

      So true 😂 they might not like me but God loves and likes me and bless me everyday 🙏🙌😇💯

  • @hollycatee
    @hollycatee 3 года назад +69

    i just had to end a 3 year friendship bc i realised, that i couldnt be myself around them, so i really needed this, thank you

    • @amayawright4083
      @amayawright4083 2 года назад

      Dude same! But it was like a 6 year friendship

  • @yaso2222
    @yaso2222 3 года назад +64

    We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone - Orson Welles

  • @ryanjoseph9335
    @ryanjoseph9335 3 года назад +27

    I know I am with a true friend is when I feel comfortable being silent with each other with nothing to talk about. When you are in a group of people, you feel pressured to impress and always be interesting.

  • @kobzster06
    @kobzster06 3 года назад +234

    I've been a "lone wolf" all my life. I was never one that had a lot of friends in any setting, whether it be school or work. I'm much older now but I never felt any regret or sadness being that way. I know with social media these days, it's easy for people to get depressed when they see their 'friends' posting pictures of their lively social life. Never bothered me, I don't base my happiness on what others are doing. I enjoy the solitude.

    • @rika8285
      @rika8285 3 года назад +22

      i love when u said “i dont base my happiness on what others are doing” that rly stuck out to me, ty for the reminder !

    • @travis6694
      @travis6694 3 года назад +11

      @@rika8285 it’s easier when your realize it’s a created image a lot of the time. The social media status is not very healthy.

    • @LxneWxlf702
      @LxneWxlf702 3 года назад +5

      I can relate with you. Idc what others says "hes a loner" AND? atleast im not caught up in peoples dramas and problems lol .

    • @luciusaureliuscommodus6520
      @luciusaureliuscommodus6520 3 года назад

      Same 💯

  • @jamieslacks
    @jamieslacks 3 года назад +140

    Reading the comments I only have a small sentiment to offer; people often drift apart. When you are being made to feel lonely in a group, it’s okay to leave, but don’t forget the connections that were there before, if any. You will feel less lonely remembering that you’ve had connections, and practice recognizing what was good and bad about those past relationships. Be careful not to dismiss others as “disappointing” or “not as honest as you”, this is a misnomer. They are simply growing in a different direction than you are, and maybe your paths will cross again for the better.

  • @Deliciousation
    @Deliciousation 3 года назад +60

    All my life I’ve been pretending I’m okay with feeling alone, because I felt it was easier than facing the pain. I’m in my mid-twenties now and this little imaginary world of mine has really started to fall apart. I think it’s true what you say about just doing activities on your own, it’s certainly better than crying at home. Thanks for the video!

    •  3 года назад +2

      I’m glad I could help and I wish you the best 😊💕

    • @gracey7166
      @gracey7166 3 года назад +8

      i feel you... i have been living in my bubble for so long and now being in uni is an everyday struggle. Everyone is just moving forward with their lives and bettering themselves day by day while my life kinda stopped in my teenage years and now i am slowly withering away in my supposedly best years of my life.

    • @user-rq6pl2og5i
      @user-rq6pl2og5i 3 года назад +1

      felt this.. hope you’re doing better, sending you lots of love & hugs

    • @karaa7595
      @karaa7595 3 года назад

      I'm 43 and lost a close friend when I was 28 and he was 30. He had a wife and a toddler when he died from cancer. My favorite uncle was dead by age 39. In high school I lost a close friend in a car wreck when we were 15. These people loved life. They were well liked. Intelligent. Just amazing souls. In their honor I try to appreciate life, even though I've been ready to leave earth since a teenager. But I'm still here. God had a purpose for me - to raise my son. He has a purpose for you, too. What is that? Ask and it will be revealed to you.

    • @karaa7595
      @karaa7595 3 года назад +3

      @@gracey7166 there are no best years of our life. There are only best moments in every year. Look for the best moments and cherish them while they are happening. When they fade away, remind yourself there will be more best moments in the future.

  • @NinjaGodIvan
    @NinjaGodIvan 3 года назад +43

    Friends come and go due to moving out, changing interests, etc. That’s why I don’t really bother making friends. It’s actually hard to maintain friendships, and I’m fine being alone.
    As long as you know that loneliness is peaceful, then you don’t need friends.

  • @birdy617
    @birdy617 3 года назад +59

    The energy you get being by yourself is like no other.

    • @ed199
      @ed199 3 года назад +1

      Me alone in my room, high as hell with my music, just chilling be like...

    • @Србомбоница86
      @Србомбоница86 3 года назад +1

      @@ed199 why do you need to be high ,I never use it ,I only need my music

    • @ed199
      @ed199 3 года назад

      @@Србомбоница86 I don't need to be. Ive always vowed to not be dependent on it, as doing so will cause more harm than good. But music gives me more sensation when I'm high, I feel one with the music..if that makes sense. I can even hear things I've never heard before in songs I listen to. It's a beautiful thing for me, it gives me peace.

  • @ButterflyRoses-
    @ButterflyRoses- 3 года назад +82

    It’s hard to find good genuine people, a lot act like they’re your friend but then they start to talk back behind your back, and you have to cut them off. Sometimes feel like I have to be friends with people I don’t like, and I stay with them because I don’t wanna be lonely

    • @fined2130
      @fined2130 3 года назад +10

      Sometimes I get to know people who seem genuine but they are not interested in a friendship, they just wanna hang out and smoke and don‘t want to really talk. I always end up to be the one who askes questions and listens but it‘s not a friendship. It just stays boring. :0

    • @AnjaliBhomia
      @AnjaliBhomia 3 года назад +3

      I can genuinely relate to this comment. I always feel as if I'm the only one who puts in all the effort into a friendship and nobody ever reciprocates my energy.

    • @thehapagirl92
      @thehapagirl92 3 года назад +4

      I can relate. That’s why I cut off my fake ass friends and am now alone

    • @blackflag5148
      @blackflag5148 3 года назад +2

      @@thehapagirl92 Ur not alone. U got me and I'm as REAL as it gets (NEVER backchat ext ext) lol 😉👌. I'm with u until the end of time (spiritually) Never forget that 😉

  • @HIXHAM
    @HIXHAM 4 года назад +114

    Many relationships are stuck on the surface level. We all can have many of that but there’s no point. It’s time for the world to change for all of us to focus on our deeper relationships. Well all be much happier. ❤️

    •  4 года назад +6

      Yeah I completely agree, time to have real talk with people

    • @koalafromtomorrow5656
      @koalafromtomorrow5656 3 года назад +2

      Yeah haveung one or two true friend is better than a 100 friends

    • @christarichardson8336
      @christarichardson8336 3 года назад

      I see you comment on half the videos I watch lol

  • @charc4814
    @charc4814 3 года назад +40

    As a kid, I was pretty much a loner and got picked on because I was an easy target. It made me uncomfortable being on my own in public places. The best thing I did was becoming comfortable with traveling on my own. I got a lot of push back from people who know me and asked me why I would do that. Its hard to coordinate trips with friends and it becomes more of hassle when trying to figure out what to do when your at your destination. Everyone wants to do their own thing. Now I don't have any discomfort eating at a restaurant, watching movies, shopping, or traveling on my own and its great!

  • @lw4294
    @lw4294 3 года назад +241

    I had lots of friends when I was stupid and didn’t care about my life that much.. doing foolish stuff, then I woke up and am alone 😭

    • @Ezequiel55vf
      @Ezequiel55vf 3 года назад +18

      Same with me then l realised😭😭😭

    • @Gambit2483
      @Gambit2483 3 года назад +7

      What are friends really? Listen to the song "Friends" by Whodini...

    • @itsbebelexi
      @itsbebelexi 3 года назад +6

      Dame, I relate on many levels bro

    • @ahaok6245
      @ahaok6245 3 года назад +6

      Fucc friends. People are snakes. If you just have one friend its okay, rather 1 good friend than 10 fake friends.

    • @D.A.DreamArt
      @D.A.DreamArt 3 года назад +5

      Wow, so true. Since most people are foolish, they find many other foolish people to hang out with. When you want to do intelligent, creative things in life, or just raise the level of vibration, you realise that you don't have much to choose from. So you begin to stand on your own.

  • @leeahdavis777
    @leeahdavis777 3 года назад +39

    I’m glad I came across this. I always felt the need to have company or friends to not feel alone, but in the end feeling even more empty and lonely. Not saying all friends make you feel lonely, but finding genuine real friends that are in a healthy mindset and have goals that you have can be such a blessing and it’s hard to find that these days. I find myself doing more productive positive things alone than I ever did hanging with my old friends.

    • @x97s
      @x97s 3 года назад +2

      We are too busy scrolling and wasting time on social media

  • @Airgirl881
    @Airgirl881 3 года назад +370

    Is it weird I can easily talk to anyone but for them staying in my life permanently it never happens . :(

    • @Margybarkies
      @Margybarkies 3 года назад +47

      That’s how I feel. I’m very extroverted yet somehow can’t seem to tangle full connections with people.

    • @johnames6430
      @johnames6430 3 года назад +17

      @@Margybarkies people are only your friend because of what you can do for them, you find this out very quickly if you get rich...oh and if you lose your money you lose your friends and even your wife. There are very few "true" friends.

    • @eloise-mariebamford1737
      @eloise-mariebamford1737 3 года назад +1

      That’s me

    • @theesteward9150
      @theesteward9150 3 года назад +5

      I understand

    • @SUGAR-mc4em
      @SUGAR-mc4em 3 года назад +9

      Lonely extroverts exist, and we are valid. ☺️

  • @kingkongchief1177
    @kingkongchief1177 2 года назад +40

    Loneliness is better than fake friends.

    • @zPoP_
      @zPoP_ 2 года назад +1

      no it’s not

    • @johnnyboi290
      @johnnyboi290 Год назад +1

      @@zPoP_ How?

    • @johnnyboi290
      @johnnyboi290 Год назад

      @@zPoP_ Yeah but haven't fake friend is worse because they just use u and mentally drain u down and then toss u away like nothing at least when you're lonely u can focus on yourself and nobody else and improve on your skilld

    • @johnnyboi290
      @johnnyboi290 Год назад

      @@zPoP_ I do understand I've been in online school for 2 years and a half and last year me and my family moved somewhere else so that means I had to say good bye to my close friends. It's my first year back to school and I'm a new kid It was hard trying to find a friend. Every recess my classmates would go play basketball and since sports aren't my thing I usually hang out by myself. Being lonely is not fun but having fake friends is worse imo

    • @johnnyboi290
      @johnnyboi290 Год назад

      @@zPoP_ Also fake friends can manipulate u into doing things that are bad for u and can force the shit and peer pressure u into doing things u don't want

  • @aqsa7631
    @aqsa7631 3 года назад +101

    I decided to "go friendless" in university and it has saved me so much grades and time! I used to be very social during my first two years (when I was 17-19 yrs old ) now that i'm almost 22 I prefer being by myself and focusing on personal, career and financial growth. It's amazing how just staying focused and aligned with yourself can actually make you feel so whole.

    • @NoRockinMansLand
      @NoRockinMansLand 3 года назад +6

      You can still do that while being social, being social doesnt hurt your goals unless you make the wrong choices. No disrespect

    • @aqsa7631
      @aqsa7631 3 года назад +7

      @@NoRockinMansLand I totally understand your point of view, but guess it depends on how seriously one takes their goals. I do think that having a social life is essential because it makes life overall better but it should be with people who also want to grow and do better, not. mediocre or people who are "still figuring themselves out" I do think that everyone grows at their own rate. This is just how I see it, so far this mindset has been working well for me.

    • @NoRockinMansLand
      @NoRockinMansLand 3 года назад +7

      @@aqsa7631 oh yeah for sure, you definitely want to be actual friends with people that want to grow and self improve themselves, or at least have the desire to self improve. But the people you party with, or hang out with for some fun, I would call them acquantances, they're not actual friends.

    • @aqsa7631
      @aqsa7631 3 года назад

      @hi that is also true! its a mixture of both, good friends can help you excel nut in my case it wasn't like that, its always important to remind yourself that everyones experience is different, for me it helped me a lot to stay solo until I get established in my career.

    • @VivianaSilverback
      @VivianaSilverback 2 года назад +3

      @@aqsa7631 Not really. Social life isn't necessary. I have no friends. I not crazy, I have a perfectly normal life, a stable future, and am perfectly happy by myself. I don't need others to feel happy. I once did, and they drained my self esteem so much I started insulting myself and believing my toxic "friends" were the only ones being able to make me happy. It reduced me into a loser with no life. I've come a lot farther without friends than with friends.

  • @sarscov9854
    @sarscov9854 3 года назад +187

    For hundreds of thousands of years, humans lived in tribal communities consisting of people you knew since you were 2 years old. When you became 20, you knew every single person in your tribe since you were 2. All the elders, all the teens, all the children, all the families. Every time someone died, it hurt because they were all like your family. There were no friends, there were just members of your tribe and the outsiders. Trusting an outsider could cost you your life. Humans aren't meant to live the way we live in modern society. Technology is advancing far too fast for our biological instincts to catch up.

    • @muninah1718
      @muninah1718 3 года назад +10

      Damn never thought about it like that

    • @jamie6358
      @jamie6358 3 года назад +11

      that's really intresting to think about

    • @DannyKingston14
      @DannyKingston14 3 года назад +2

      So a lot of incest then?

    • @sarscov9854
      @sarscov9854 3 года назад +16

      @@DannyKingston14 Just think, thousands of generations of what you call incest happened in order for you to be born. Even your grandparents still lived in an era where having babies with your cousins wasn't considered taboo.

    • @proger1960
      @proger1960 3 года назад +5

      @@sarscov9854
      Must return to Monke then lol

  • @sunnc
    @sunnc 3 года назад +105

    I notice the only time I really ponder on me having no friends is when I think ab how others will view me. Like now because my birthday’s coming up. “People around me like what are you doing, your friends coming?” Really I just wanna chill n relax. Being w endless mfs on my bday is the last thing I wanna do. I’m learning to be myself n not care how I’ll be viewed

    •  3 года назад +29

      The world makes it seem like it’s a sad thing to be alone on a birthday but it can feel amazing to just chill alone. Not sure where the pressure to be with people on birthdays started.

    • @bitcoinski
      @bitcoinski 3 года назад +13

      My b-day is coming up this month...uggh...nothing special planned...becuz I have zero friends to celebrate with...and I am nice to everyone...I just don't get it...I must be an NPC...

    • @EagleEyez44
      @EagleEyez44 3 года назад

      That’s awesome.

    • @landofchristina7380
      @landofchristina7380 3 года назад +1

      This is so true! Couldn't have said it better 💛

    • @bitcoinski
      @bitcoinski 3 года назад

      @Wooo BaccWednesday Fake people tend to stick to Fake ppl...aww man...you speak the Truth! Thanks for sharing your story Wooo BaccWdnesday.

  • @khanfinanceacademy7202
    @khanfinanceacademy7202 3 года назад +79

    As an immigrant and living in the south, boy it's hard finding people who even accept you, let alone be your friend!!!!

    • @teeradactyl
      @teeradactyl 3 года назад +2

    • @f.elenafinnegan1300
      @f.elenafinnegan1300 3 года назад +1

      Yeah that can be tough especially for someone from a different country. Keep going and don't mind the haters 💪

    • @nataliehale7791
      @nataliehale7791 2 года назад

      I will be your friend

  • @ryanhinderliter6206
    @ryanhinderliter6206 3 года назад +49

    “Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”

    • @thehapagirl92
      @thehapagirl92 3 года назад +3

      Exactly. I’ve always been told I’m different because I have certain views on life that most people don’t have. I think differently. People think I’m odd and just want a basic bitch.

  • @Startleftendright
    @Startleftendright 3 года назад +116

    I spend everyday alone and have done my whole 30 years. The days I see people or 'friends' is really exhausting for me mentally.

  • @JavierGarcia-xz5yr
    @JavierGarcia-xz5yr 3 года назад +78

    Imma keep it real, I only have one true friend who I came up with from the “hood”, we been through sooo much as kids and till this day we hang out whenever we can cause of work, we tell each other our problems and help each other with little things, I would take a bullet for my childhood friend, he’s been keeping it real with me and I’ll always appreciate him for that. The group of friends who I recently have meet, have been my “bros” the sad reality is that they only hit you up to go spend money or go to parties but are never there to say what’s up or there when u feel down in life. Idc if ppl talk behind my back Bc sometimes it’s your own “friends” who do it. I’m good with having only one true friend than a group cause at the end you know who’s really there for you when u need them the most

  • @blunzn999
    @blunzn999 3 года назад +16

    Literally all throughout my life I have burned myself out in order to help others. I've taken care of people, I've nurtured them, held their hair for hours as they puked their hearts out, stuck up for them and protected them... and I've received very little in return. For my 20th birthday this year for instance, one of my best friends (who I have spent hundreds of hours consoling and soothing) actually ended up leaving the rented apartment before midnight, because she wanted to hang with her boyfriend and his friends. I was literally stood up on my 20th birthday, by someone I have spent the previous 4 years caring greatly for.
    It has really shown me one thing - I need to stop wasting my energy, my love, my care.
    I'm unusual in how I care for people, it's sad but it's the truth - people watching this video can probably relate. We're too soft, too timid, too kind in a lot of ways. I know it sounds like a cry for attention or like I'm trying to feel better than, but it's literally just my life experience. No one is gonna care about you or for you the way you care about others. And that's okay, that's something I need to accept. But I need to stop gifting my love to people who don't deserve it, point blank.
    Thank you for the video.

  • @nor332
    @nor332 3 года назад +31

    It’s better to be alone than have friends who only need you when it benefits them and don’t value you or what you go through at times

  • @sadgrlhour3405
    @sadgrlhour3405 3 года назад +49

    I can honestly say that having no friends the past 3-4 years, it was hard at first but now im happier than i have ever been or thought i would be. And brought me closer to my parents, and learned to love the world and everything in it. I will be forever grateful for that.

    • @sagebellic5466
      @sagebellic5466 3 года назад +5

      I agree I think we often make friends to cope with the difficulties in life when we are able to put a pause on that and work on ourselves that is self-love.

    • @sadgrlhour3405
      @sadgrlhour3405 3 года назад +2

      @@sagebellic5466 definitely! I totally agree

    • @sagebellic5466
      @sagebellic5466 3 года назад +2

      @@sadgrlhour3405

    • @iliveinsideyourhouse3943
      @iliveinsideyourhouse3943 3 года назад +1

      Same. Being put in a vulnerable and hard situation makes you feels more awareness and more grateful.

    • @jefketheboss4009
      @jefketheboss4009 3 года назад

      @@sagebellic5466 The world we live in there is no pause ;) No time to even work on myself..... One day we will all go back to God and forget all the misery..

  • @MichaelDeLaRosa
    @MichaelDeLaRosa 3 года назад +38

    Yesterday I went out by myself, I think the part that sucks is you don’t have anyone to share the experience. The good thing is you do all you and learn a lot about to do/improve.

    • @f.elenafinnegan1300
      @f.elenafinnegan1300 3 года назад +1

      Yeah I agree 👍🏻sometimes is good to have a "me time". Actually, I always wanted to went out by myself, for example, at the mall but I never have. I should try and enjoy the experience

  • @lianat8879
    @lianat8879 3 года назад +22

    In recent years, I've come to realize that most friends tend to be companions who are by your side for a few years, maybe even 10 or 20 years, but at some point the friendship ends. In fact, very few friendships really last a lifetime until one of them dies. Ask a 70- or 80-year-old which of the friends he was friends with in his 20s or 30s is still his friend today. Probably not a single one. That's just the way life is: people come and people go.

  • @Nana77707
    @Nana77707 3 года назад +51

    Relate to this on a really deep level and as much as i love my alone time and basically just hanging out with myself and connecting with who i really am it gets really lonely when you see other people out there living your dream life and making fun memories when you're home overthinking your whole existense and wasting your teenage and adult years to anxiety

    •  3 года назад +4

      Yeah I feel you cuz it does get lonely and at one point you really wanna do something different or meet a really good friend. It can get pretty hard but it’s something we’re all working through

    • @Nana77707
      @Nana77707 3 года назад +5

      @ hopefully we'll manage to make it out of this alive lol losing my sanity here

    •  3 года назад +4

      @@Nana77707 yeah 😅 but if we really want change we can make change

    • @hungwithjewels
      @hungwithjewels 3 года назад +8

      literally same, I'm a senior in high school and I feel like i haven't done anything cool with my life yet, weekends are the worst because i never have anyone to hang out with

    • @EagleEyez44
      @EagleEyez44 3 года назад

      Seriously 😭😭😭😭

  • @Tempus0ptic
    @Tempus0ptic 3 года назад +13

    Embrace your loneliness, it's not as bad as everybody thinks it is. You'll eventually discover how strong you really are.

  • @louiseleite3866
    @louiseleite3866 3 года назад +38

    I'm an introvert and being around people makes me feel drained. I think subconsciously people pick up on that and avoid me altogether.

  • @sprrr3090
    @sprrr3090 3 года назад +33

    Yess! Being alone also teaches you how to love yourself so much more. Being surrounded by fake people is super exhausting, no thanks 🙅🏻‍♀️ Quality > quantity.

    • @Hiraimomoooo
      @Hiraimomoooo 2 года назад

      Can we be friends?

    • @sprrr3090
      @sprrr3090 2 года назад +1

      @@Hiraimomoooo Tabii ki 😌

    • @Hiraimomoooo
      @Hiraimomoooo 2 года назад +2

      @@sprrr3090 OMG thx ı've no friends for 2 years:( do u have any insta account?

    • @sprrr3090
      @sprrr3090 2 года назад +1

      @@Hiraimomoooo Aw reallyy :/ I have private one, what’s yours? 😊

    • @Hiraimomoooo
      @Hiraimomoooo 2 года назад +1

      @@sprrr3090 I closed my account because I'm studying for the university exam. It's keeping me a little distracted😁 but I can give you my number from my mom's so we can talk over what's up

  • @parth8069
    @parth8069 3 года назад +85

    I'm 19 and i never had friends. My so called friends were all mean, teasing me for being shy, even when i got into college,there people started to tease me again(those who i never saw in my life) because i never had a girlfriend, i never kissed a girl.This is horrific.
    I feel lonely sometimes. But what helps me to move forward in life is my self confidence.Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    •  3 года назад +9

      Thanks for sharing your story. I hope things get better with time and one day meet a real friend that truly supports you 💕

    • @parth8069
      @parth8069 3 года назад +2

      @ thank you

    •  3 года назад

      @@parth8069 ❤️

    • @clint1285
      @clint1285 3 года назад +2

      Same here. Always teased for being shy and not having a girlfriend. I'm happy alone. No drama

    • @Noor-jw2tn
      @Noor-jw2tn 3 года назад +3

      It's not the end of the world of you haven't kissed a girl yet. Plenty of time to meet a nice girl who will appreciate you.

  • @annanicoleborgchavez4476
    @annanicoleborgchavez4476 3 года назад +25

    Growing up I never had any friends since i got bullied a lot. I was able to make my first "real" friends in highschool. Now, at 22, after an entire pandemic i noticed i really don't have any true friends. My grandpa passed away a couple weeks ago, and not a single person has been there for me. Im honestly so grateful for having a family.

    • @kingdaleclarke
      @kingdaleclarke 3 года назад

      I'm sorry about your grandpa x

    • @jewelchilaka4089
      @jewelchilaka4089 3 года назад

      Awwwww Soooo sorry ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @karaa7595
      @karaa7595 3 года назад +1

      I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My fav grandpa died when I was 14 and I learned how immature my friends were. Death makes people uncomfortable either because they have unresolved issues with it or they simply don't know what to say to a person who has lost someone.

    • @f.elenafinnegan1300
      @f.elenafinnegan1300 3 года назад +2

      Yeah sometimes is hard to realize that people you thought were friends show their true colors. Having people who love you like your family is really important

    • @VivianaSilverback
      @VivianaSilverback 2 года назад

      Ow i'm sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to lose your grandpa, I lost both of them at an early age.
      And it's sad that your "friends" weren't even there. I'm so sorry. I once was having a crisis and called my friends, asking them to talk a bit because I needed it, and they hung up on me pretending to be "busy with something else". Yeah.
      Again, I'm deeply sorry for your loss and hope you found some time to grieve. It hurts when a loved one leaves.

  • @janayjerez3962
    @janayjerez3962 3 года назад +82

    I have pretty horrible social anxiety, and only feel somewhat comfortable around a select few people, but only fully comfortable when I'm alone. I feel safe, and like I can be myself. I do wish I had a couple people I could really feel like myself with, though.

    • @dominika8642
      @dominika8642 3 года назад +3

      social anxiety often is connected with self esteem and if you want to feel comfortable you have to work on yourself first. I have social anxiety too but now after therapy is better. I still have some thoughts and doubts but i'm able to be confident around people and feel good

    • @janayjerez3962
      @janayjerez3962 3 года назад +2

      @@dominika8642 I've actually made it a goal this year to work on my self esteem :) I've been seeing a therapist about my anxiety for a while now so I'm hoping through some hard work I'll improve

    • @ed199
      @ed199 3 года назад +5

      I also suffer from this problem, but i wouldnt say its my self esteem, ive been told I have a high ego before, and I do feel proud of myself and what Ive accomplished, Im fairly confident in myself, up until i go to talk to someone, but even though there isnt anything for me to be nervous about I still get anxious being around people, my conversational skills are what I feel I lack, but I have yet to find a solution to that problem.

    • @lauradolann
      @lauradolann 3 года назад +1

      💓💓💓💓💓

    • @dominika8642
      @dominika8642 3 года назад +2

      @@janayjerez3962 I'm proud of you, it's hard work but totally worth it

  • @Jericko427
    @Jericko427 3 года назад +68

    Having friends is a nice addition to a whole, complete life -- kind of like cherries on a pie. However, becoming dependent on friends and their companionship leaves you open to instability, low self-confidence, and co-dependency. Sometimes when we're alone, it's for the best. When we're alone, the inner voice that was filtered out by social interactions and peer pressure becomes priority.
    If you're alone, be grateful. Having quality time to focus on yourself, is like finding a diamond in the rough. Now start grinding, and you'll have more "friends" than you can shake a stick at.

    • @mirakings1867
      @mirakings1867 3 года назад

      I so needed this comment!!

    • @mandiecmcm9797
      @mandiecmcm9797 2 года назад

      Yes I can relate to what you are saying alot of these so called "friendships is just codependency. Very fake society is nothing more then plastic and yes people can be easily programmed if they allowed themselves to be most of these extroverts are scared of the truth. They rather stay in there social conditioned society.

  • @TheMysticAngel
    @TheMysticAngel 3 года назад +176

    I haven't found meaningful friends. My only friend was my ex but now he's gone too.

    • @mattdecker1482
      @mattdecker1482 3 года назад +7

      Yeah I know what that is like.

    • @kezianatassia6091
      @kezianatassia6091 3 года назад +1

      rt . can relate

    • @mattdecker1482
      @mattdecker1482 3 года назад +1

      @@kezianatassia6091 what's going on with you

    • @ave3468
      @ave3468 3 года назад +14

      Same. Losing him did a lot to my life and made me realize how little I had without him and it really sucks knowing he doesn’t care about that anymore and having to moving on from it so quickly really hurts and does a lot to a person and their mental health.

    • @TheMysticAngel
      @TheMysticAngel 3 года назад +3

      @@ave3468 well if anything we're proving to be strong during these hard times. Very little people can be this alone and keep going. So give yourself some credit xx

  • @Ali08
    @Ali08 3 года назад +26

    I had a friend or two in the past and now have none. Actually, I’m content hanging out with myself. Alone, yes, but not lonely. The problem is society judges people who are friendless because it’s not common but I refuse to let it bring me down. I live my life exactly how it is, out the norm. 😀

  • @Ancel7
    @Ancel7 3 года назад +22

    Two common definitions of what a friend is, is 'someone who's always there for you'. They equate a friend to a utility. The other one, is 'someone who loves you for who you are'. That's an excuse for abusive people, to stay abusive.
    In reality, friendship is about the mind-to-mind / soul connection (Sharing experiences, feelings about things, knowledge etc.). It's very risky to try to have that connection, when there's sadistic, exploitative people roaming the earth.

    •  3 года назад +2

      I really like that definition you gave, very trueeee. And yeah you have to be careful with who you open up to as they might expect it to be a friendship like the first two definitions you said. I’ll remember this definition, thank you 🥰

  • @_boof
    @_boof 3 года назад +65

    I won't say I like being alone. Have I come to terms with it? Yes. But the older you get, the more awkward it feels to put yourself out there. I'm in my late 20's and it feels like my world is closing in. The only thing that's helped me is letting go of ideas and expectations. It's not easy, but Mary Jane helps. She's loyal.

    • @jetfoolishness1288
      @jetfoolishness1288 3 года назад +4

      I can relate... Went cold turkey for a month or two then I realised how much loneliness can be hard to handle without it. Though it's sad telling yourself you need drugs to maintain in this messy world.

    • @_boof
      @_boof 3 года назад +8

      @@jetfoolishness1288 It's a cold world as is. The last thing you should be doing is feeling bad about it. Own it because it really do be that warm arm around your shoulder, when there isn't one there.

    • @Hiraimomoooo
      @Hiraimomoooo 2 года назад

      @@jetfoolishness1288 can we be friends?

    • @Filthy_Larry
      @Filthy_Larry Год назад +1

      @@jetfoolishness1288but weed isn’t a drug. Or at least not all drugs are bad. We need to get the taboo out of the word drugs.
      Pot is good. Lsd is for spiritual enlightenment once a year.
      Toxic people are bad.

  • @m.8065
    @m.8065 3 года назад +72

    I lost my best friend my husband when he passed it was the most unbearable pain that ever experienced. I went through intense grieving. 3 years later I grieve but it's less intense. I have learned to be alone but very busy learning the things I love like gardening and being at peace.

    • @maxmurph853
      @maxmurph853 3 года назад +9

      I'm so sorry, I hope you're doing okay.

    • @pamle1
      @pamle1 3 года назад +2

      I don't get lonely, but 2 wk ago my mother passed away. It's been very painful, not having her and her energy there. I miss the little jokes and laughs we had. She can't be replaced.

    • @pamle1
      @pamle1 3 года назад

      @Our Spiritual Journey Thank you

    • @Србомбоница86
      @Србомбоница86 3 года назад

      @@pamle1 my mother died in January ,I know how you feel

    • @pamle1
      @pamle1 3 года назад +1

      @@Србомбоница86 Yes... so much emptiness... I wrote down a list of 7 things so far that I think she would want me to do... & I'll try to accomplish them..

  • @AyaEZ-n5q
    @AyaEZ-n5q 6 месяцев назад +3

    I honestly really needed this, thanks so much!

  • @neuroversse
    @neuroversse 3 года назад +16

    I feel so seen now.. I gradually let the relationships in my life become more and more distant over the past couple of years.. my friends were more like an escape from my family and I was never truly myself with them. I need to know who I am because I’m lost on what direction my life is headed. But this video really helped know I’m not alone in that... thank you.

  • @NDZnamo
    @NDZnamo 3 года назад +30

    I think a lot of people can relate to this so much, but we're living in a world somewhat tailored to extroverted outgoing people, and so the loners out there don't tend to speak out.

  • @SparklSeoul
    @SparklSeoul 3 года назад +13

    I am 20 years old. I stopped making friends in real life because I always used to get backstabbed and some stopped talking to me when I stopped messaging first. this pandemic really showed whose not my friends anymore....
    idk if online counts since it's not face to face interaction, everyone is busy so I don't have anyone to talk with that much. I don’t know if I’m wrong doing this but there’s a small amount I stopped talking to because I have bad social anxiety and I just can’t anymore....
    This year I have to improve myself which I am working on. It's so hard. Thank you LALA for this upload, watching this I felt like you were actually talking to me 😊 sorry for the long comment here.

  • @stephs8277
    @stephs8277 3 года назад +100

    I struggle with this so much. I feel like society expects you to have lots of friends and if you don't there's something wrong with you. I tried socializing recently and I was so miserable, I hated every moment. I was genuinely trying to relate and have fun but I felt so excluded. I'd rather be alone, it's so refreshing and peaceful 🤍

    • @VivianaSilverback
      @VivianaSilverback 2 года назад

      @Giovanni Tellez Yeah, because in fiction real friends exist. In movies good always wins against evil, as*holes get thrown in prison and hatred doesn't exist, but in real life it's different.

  • @fascinatinglist9654
    @fascinatinglist9654 3 года назад +23

    I always feel like I'm auditioning to be socially accepted by other people. Sometimes its better to be alone if you cant find likeminded people who will accept you for you.

  • @josephl447
    @josephl447 3 года назад +15

    Ive found that as I became alone, I actually become more whole. I cut out useless practices and habits. Worked on my self. I eliminated the distractions of the world to find peace. And that's okay

  • @doc2590
    @doc2590 3 года назад +9

    I'm single and don't have any friends, and most of the time I'm fine with that. But every now and again I think it would be nice to have company.

  • @paxton153
    @paxton153 3 года назад +8

    “we all must learn to be happy with being alone; that is when things begin to change.“ - tyler joseph

  • @wonkatraveler6794
    @wonkatraveler6794 3 года назад +91

    I've had lots of friends. Other times I've hardly had any. Jesus, he's my friend. He always gets me. He's always willing to connect with me, and reminds me to try and be the best, warmest person I can be.

    • @lionelh7217
      @lionelh7217 3 года назад +3

      @Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus Maybe one day you'll be confronted with the truth in a way you wont be able to deny.AMEN

    • @damienscott6561
      @damienscott6561 3 года назад

      @@lionelh7217 what truth? That Allah is great and Muhammad is his prophet?

    • @Србомбоница86
      @Србомбоница86 3 года назад

      @Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus you can't !your soul is dark ,empty and cold ,people like you can and will NEVER feel Christ ,He doesn't connect with you 😊

    • @Србомбоница86
      @Србомбоница86 3 года назад

      @@lionelh7217 He won't ,he will go to hell ,no Christ there 😊

    • @Србомбоница86
      @Србомбоница86 3 года назад

      @Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus He got nothing to lose ,you already lost

  • @arshaprakash4141
    @arshaprakash4141 3 года назад +11

    In the end most of our life we meet many people who we call as' friends' but it's gets harder when they disrespect us,don't value us, or keep us feel overwhelmed every time when we stays with them..,at the end they stab us back and when we understand there true colours it gets too late and it hurts soo bad..then we realise being alone is the best option..

  • @michaelahthomas3273
    @michaelahthomas3273 2 года назад +21

    As a human I want that emotional connection. It’s something that we need in life.

  • @selinam6822
    @selinam6822 3 года назад +4

    I’m hurting deeply right now, realising that this aspect of me will always be a weakness. Engaging in unfulfilling relationships to be perceived as “normal”, moving away from that is difficult. I needed this. Thank you ❤️

  • @shmick4203
    @shmick4203 3 года назад +11

    Even People with friends won't realise until they have nothing, that they never had any to begin with!

  • @genevieveeee1210
    @genevieveeee1210 3 года назад +12

    I'm extremely lonely and this helped so so much being in home school and living in different cities it's difficult for me and that's coming from an extremely strong introvert but I truly just like to be alone being in groups I do feel the most alone thank you so so much for making this i literally see my family everyday and that's it

  • @AntonioDrakeTV
    @AntonioDrakeTV 3 года назад +14

    "Whosoever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a God" ~ Aristotle
    I have plenty of associates, not many friends, I don't use that word too loosely. I'll say this, though. I just went through a break-up about 3 months ago, and sorta 'shut down', but not in a toxic, destructive way -- but in a healthy, get in tune with myself and heart kind of way. A lot of people are confused by it -- but, I fee like it's a beautiful and powerful thing when you can generate your own happiness and so forth, internally, without seeking outside validation. Peace to everyone reading this!