if you feel like that and sit down and cry than you are right,But if you stop feeling like that and stand UP, And FİGHT BACK you will see Who is the reel one who feels that spiritual rape
Totally 💯 agree. This fact points us to the right way to fight it. We can’t do it without God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. It’s truly spiritual warfare outside of our flesh.
They are mentioned expressly in the qur'aan and the sunnah of the prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah upon him). They are called "shayaateen al-ins", which means "devils among mankind". The word "shayaateen" is a plural of the word "shaytaan" and the root word of this word is "shatona" (which is a 3 letter root word in Arabic) and the root word means "discarded", interestingly. A "shaytaan" is one who has been "discarded" (shatona) by Allah and removed from His mercy, as they have no mercy for others in their hearts. They have no mercy and no compassion and no emotional empathy and no care nor concern for others except it benefits them somehow and so Allah has "shatona" (dscarded) them from His mercy, hence they are called "shaytaan" (discarded being). It is rooted into the language of the qur'aan itself and it gets much deeper than this, but this is essentially what you need to know, they are devils among mankind for certain. Adam was put into a sleep after his spirit was breathed into him and from his back were taken all the souls of his descendants ever to come after him and some of them were white shining light and some of them were black dull darkness. The shining white souls are those destined for paradise and the black souls are those destined for the fire. Of every 1,000 souls, 999 will go to the fire. There are far more evil people in the world than there are good people and this has always been the case. Even the old testament says only 144,000 people will get to paradise out of all the people ever created, but we muslims reject that and say that is most likely just the scribes who inserted that to emphasise that most people will not be admitted to paradise as there are 124,000 prophets who were sent between Adam and Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah upon them all) and we just don't know all their names (there are many reasons for this) and each one had their followers. Yes, some prophets had no followers except a few family members such as Lut and Nuh (Lot and Noah - peace and blessing of Allah upon them both), some had few followers such as `Isa the son of Maryam (peace and blessings of Allah upon him), some had very many followers such as Muhammad who has the biggest nation and he is the seal of the prophets and the leader of them all and the final prophet and messenger and the son of Maryam will return to kill the false messiah and the son of Maryam will adhere to the laws of the qur'aan and the sunnah of the prophet Muhammad when he returns and all will know he is a muslim like all the prophets and their respective followers (peace and blessings of Allah upon them and Allah be well pleased with them and forgive the followers their sins and misdeeds, ameen).
Im 14 months out of 23 years of hell. I really needed to hear this, as I’m at a low point questioning who I am and what I have left to give. They took all from me and nearly destroyed me. I am a giver and take pleasure in helping others. I’m lonely and have no home to call my own. I’m a good person and still carry the light. I will continue to be the kind person I am, and not allow the covert narcissist take all of me. Thank you.
Like you I am 9 months out of 23 years marriage to a narc . . . I gave him the best years of my life , sacrificed alot and gave him all the support . I am on the healing path and on a journey to self discovery . . . at 55 years , I hardly have anything . . . The healing path is not linear . . . make yourself your 1st , 2nd and 3rd priority . . . Self care and trust the process . . . You are never alone . . . Set your boundaries . . . You must process the whole experience and ask yourself why you stuck in there for so long . . . Toxic empathy is also a thing . . . But it is well , sending you light . . . You are beautiful, you are enough . . .
I'm there, too, starting over at middle age. Still, I like to think I'm better off almost anywhere as long as he's not there. I do my best to quiet my mind, and so far the answers seem to come. It's not been easy so far, but I like to think it's going to be worth it one day soon. ❤❤❤
@@cc1k435it's so horrible the way these Narcissists take all and leave you with nothing, it's so disgusting, but I would like to believe that one day we will triumph over all they do ❤
Narcissists are a gift from our higher self. They are here to harm us to our very core, so we can rise up, remember who we are & processes the collective pain & evil in the world. They volunteered to come here as a part of ascension process. Love & thank them for the gift. You can now complete your mission.
No. Ignorance brings suffering. God does not wants us to suffer, he asks Of us to choose life (and have all the goodness that entails) and not death (suffering). We need to empower our selves to overcome the narcissists in our lives and in the world. The faster we do that the better as to not allow them to hurt us or anyone else.
i agree with this. even tho the narc caused me so much pain, ive gone through so much growth and learning that I would’ve never come to understand otherwise. they are darkness but they chose to incarnate with that purpose. every soul has a role. I will never speak to the narc again but I thank them for how far i’ve been pushed to alchemize powerlessness into empowerment.
Yes I totally agree with this perspective. People who see themselves as all good and the narc as all bad are missing a vital part of the lesson in my opinion
@@Cuzzakat I see it as people are either good or bad. Some People can change, but not narcs. I see it as, you can't just be a bit bad, if you're a bit bad, you're bad. Because it's possible that if a bit bad person, seemingly appears good now and again, they're probably masking and are being manipulative ie bad! Been exposed to too many narcs, to see it any other way. I know I'm a good person, yes I've made mistakes, but I've always admitted them, apologised and learnt, I'm not perfect. But I always try to do the right thing at the time. Being around so many narcs has taught me a lot about myself and other people. It's, why my closest friend and companion, is a dog! After my divorce and later the realisation that my eldest sister was a massive narc, I can see right through these, soulless creatures. I've cut a lot of people out of my life , because of toxic traits. I'm done with empty relationships and only rely on myself for my happiness and I pretty much only trust myself (And my dog). At the end of the day, if you can't trust your own husband, mother in law, sisters, daughter in law, then that tells me, you can't trust many people!?
Having been almost driven to suicide by my inter generational family trauma I now really believe that those in the light by trying to help those in the dark blind and expose just how dark they are - they have to destroy the light carrier
Yes, I agree. I am a Lightworker, child of GOD & there are dark forces trying vehemently to take me down. But I believe GOD is much more BIGGER & MIGHTIER than them. I can do all things thru CHRIST who strenghthens me...Philippians 4:13 ✝️🦋✌💙
I am a HSP (highly sensitive person). Some call it empath…..I also have strong character traits and a recovering codependent. I was the odd one out in my family system. The only non narc….the scapegoat. I embrace all my traits and use them now in a more functional manner. These assholes we call narcissists are in a perpetual cycle of misery. Remember that! 💗
I believe narcissist basically is the psychological term for "asshole," actually. 🤣 They do especially like to attack empaths, like cats playing with their food.
As a super empath, i have noticed these energies of spiritual attack have gotten more subtle over the past 3-4 years... And can happen really fast... The entire process can take place over a few months or even less... With a friend or love interest... Shark infested waters.. disguised as dolphins.. take care all you light workers!.. much love...
I am sick today with a throbbing migraine due to the narcissist abuse I had last night. He sucked my light and spat at me, telling me that everything I do is wrong, he was nasty and aggressive, he was making me question myself many times. Please pray for me to not let him near me anymore. After 3 years, I’ve had enough of this torture and my heart goes out to people here I read went through a long time of this spiritual warfare from the dark energy. May God protect us and give us healings 🙏❤️
ruclips.net/video/VyGuWMJOl1I/видео.htmlsi=12BQiBMvgq0MHPR2 Remember Charlie Brown? Lucy always promised to not move the football and Charlie always believed her. She always broke her promise.
So spot on,she took my light an I took 15months seeing a psychologist helped me regain my strength an clear my mind, then I put on my boots, my belt of truth, my helmet of salvation an my shield I stood tall an picked myself up to carry on with this earthly mission spreading light an ❤️ love Absolutely keep it real.
Light carrier or not. I will never throw my pearls to swine EVER again. I'm not JESUS CHRIST, I can't save anyone. I can be kind and respectful, and that's it.
There are a few narcs at a horse rehabilitation/sanctuary I go to. Some of the horses get edgy when they go near them. Speaking with them face-to-face, you can see that deadness in their eyes. The conversations are so unauthentic. It is a pure evil energy they give off and I can feel it. Makes me cringe because they are only there to make their image look good. They know that I’ve sussed ‘em because they have started to avoid me like their life depends on it.
You have just described my childhood with a narc mother and my 50 year marriage to a narc! I'm full of pain, burned-out and brain damaged. I doubt if I will ever heal but I'm lucky to be alive. Thank you for the validation this video has brought me. God bless you.XOXOXOXO
I don't think it's about extracting goodness. I think the true narcs have no interest in being good. They want to extinguish goodness - bring us down to their level... take us down to hell with them...
One good friend explained that there are people who ask for my love, even demand it. But they have no place to put it.Then they try to destroy it, then they will try to destroy you!
I'm 1.5 months out after 13 years w/a covert. Once I realized what was going - or that something WAS going on even though I couldn't grasp it I knew it was bad and that I had to get out. I went radical acceptance/no contact. Period. I'm trying to heal - I'm bound and determined to recover. It's hard. I hadn't had a panic attack in decades and now anxiety is my constant companion along with headaches, brain fog, and extreme fatigue. By the grace of God I will get through this and come out the other side better as I have with other tough things in my life. But you said the exact right words that I needed to hear... Thank you so, so much. ✨🌷✨
the constant little jabs... like favorite possessions disappearing... ( I suspected as very intentionally). and passive aggressive destruction... made for crazy making. until one night I totaled up the immense destruction over only a years time. and it couldnt be just coincidence.!!! as you say" SOMETHING WAS GOING ON". thank you for your words.....
You are early on in your healing. I’m 17 months and went NC after one phone call that was never answered. 10 years with the boyfriend and 18 with ex husband. I had NO knowledge of NPD. Through therapy and listening to Paula and other great content creators it got better. Paula in my opinion is one of the top voices for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. You WILL heal. Your body has been addicted to your abuser. Give yourself grace and time. Do your recovery your way. Everyone is different. Therapy for me has been excellent. I come from a Narcissistic family. I was basically groomed for these relationships. One day at a time.
@@life-rethought Whoa, that's crazy! How very dastardly of him. Sorry you had to go thru that. Tbh I've often wondered if mine purposely broke a couple of things around and also if he put a pack of gum containing xylitol on the counter within reach of my dog who did eat it and had to be taken to the emergency vet (xylitol is poisonous to dogs I think it screws their blood sugar up. My doggo almost died but thankfully pulled through).
Hang in there. I know exactly how you feel and it has taken me years in the healing process. It can really knock you for a loop and takes a long time to piece everything together. I wish you well.
thank you Paula. as a very young child VERY... I faced down my raging demeaning father.... AND MADE A CHOICE OF WHO I WAS GOING TO BE. I refused to be like him. and fought, or just silently stood in my principles for decades. the rest of the family submitted.... and they were turned to destroy me. I chose to be an artist from day one. to speak through my brush or pen, if I was silenced in other open ways by my father and family. and it carried me through a 70 years life of abuse... I shattered at 54 years old with full PTSD and epileptic seizures. from my sisters similar rabid narcissistic attacks. from a 1 paragraph email... and with that email I chose to no longer sacrifice myself for others protection. and I exposed her true actions to other family and outsiders. secrets no more.! I will say that the abuse from my husband and family has successfully crushed my vision, spirit, energy, and drive for art for long periods of time. and it took super human efforts to raise myself from the pit or the ashes repeatedly. obviously EVIL WANTED ME SILENCED. such a silent destructive undercurrent that like a DEVILISH RIP TIDE. THE DEEP DARK GRIEF OF IT ALL HAS HAUNTED MY LIFE.. but now, educated to what was being done to me , I can clearly say NO MORE. and act in my behalf and I have succeeded exceptionally as an artist over and over. in giving my art away now, it is carrying me up and out of a short term evil marriage. every time he has pulled a stunt, I focus forward, and I am blessed with success beyond my dreams. in choosing to give light... God magnifies my efforts. and I enjoy the success and gifts I give.
@@edelweissdebergbaldrian7696 my dad would always call me his "mule". well being a mule preserved my authenticity. thank you for your words of encouragement. my art is beginning to actually be fun!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for sharing. Inspiring and it hit close to home. Helped to read words (although more moving and eloquent than mine) that I’ve written in my journals. Time to make a choice. God bless!!
This is a really interesting topic. It's so important to recognise and appreciate people that carry the light, not just seek to identify toxic people out of fear and an understandable need not to get hurt again. Today I went to have a blood test with a lovely nurse who immediately made me feel so safe and at ease. There was no sense of any hidden agendas with her, she was a bright, happy person simply having a nice chat with me whilst she did her work. I wished her a nice day. It's so good to remind ourselves that there are lots of good people in the world. 🕯️💓
I try and warn people about narcissim... urge them to educate themselves watch channels like this one etc. but almost none do. :( I'm so cynical/burned that I'd probably be a bit wary of that nurse. I know only too well that narcs can put up a good front esp. for short periods and to complete strangers. Urgh. I hate being this cynical but life has shown me that I (not saying everyone else too!) need to be.
@@fokkerfilms560 - I'm sorry you feel that way, and I do know how one's trust can be shattered after experiencing Narcissistic Abuse. As Henry Rollins says in his song Liar - "I'll turn you into me", - I feel some of the Narcissist's untrusting suspiciousness, paranoia and bitterness rubs off on their victims, another Narcissistic flea. It's crucial to have that awareness and a finely tuned "Narcdar" to keep us safe, but to also to maintain some optimism and faith in human decency. It's a difficult balancing act.
@@fokkerfilms560I understand where you're coming from, but I just want to say don't let narcissists ruin your life that way... If you're a light carrier you need to be that light...❤
"you are crazy" and opposing everything you do, give, or share. If they say they want X, and you give X, they say they wanted Y!! Oppositional to the core!
Spot on, Paula! 🙌👍 It definitely is a spiritual battle. Thank you for sharing this so articulately. The good news is that the light, by its very essence, dispels the darkness. The light carrier may and will suffer for a time, but, eventually, will find a way to disconnect from the narcissist. It is literally a descent into hell, and by the time you get a discard - or leave the narcissist- the pain is so horrendous that you think it is the end of the road; that you will not survive the agony you are left with. However, trying to understand what happened, and why, will eventually lead you to get answers, thanks to the knowledge on narcissistic disorder, which people like you share with the world. Once you know, you go. And never go back. You learn how to recognise the narcissists' many games, tricks and masks. Acute knowledge of what narcissism is will end up setting you free. The red flags trigger such an awareness in you of the evil trying to manipulate you and destroy you, that the narcissist can sense it. The power of your clear boundary setting, of you strongly affirming yourself by saying "NO" to their machinations, and your unwavering integrity in keeping doing right and good, will scare the narcissists like kryptonite. They will flee, haunted by the terror of being exposed for who they are and what they do. No matter the ensueing smear campaigns, truth does and will prevail. "What other people think of you is none of your business" Check mate for the narcissist! I, too, personally believe that light bearers are sent to Earth, to boost divine light and goodness in this very corrupted world, by helping to expose and defeat that evil. The key is managing to break free, by becoming both financially and physically independant and, thus, allowing space for emotional freedom in severing the spiritual stronghold (or soul tie) acting on you like a magic spell, especially if you are dealing with a romantic situationship, and have children together. That last bit is possible to break by preserving your integrity, with the help and power of Almighty God''s Holy Spirit within you. So, keep walking on water, holding your head hig and proud, with what you know is right! These days, narcissism is rife like a viral epidemic. But light bearers recognise "serpent talk", and can crush the monsters' heads. Also, recovering victims do become powerful beacons of light, able to help and rescue ailing souls caught in that infernal trap. An encouraging thought to carry on blessing others!
What profound comments. I do hope with your insight on this subject you realize how much your words can help others that are drowning in sorrow. God bless you.
Wow! That is exactly what happened to me, went from a overt to a covert narcissist! I will never marry again! And I dont want to hurt anyone and i dont want to be hurt!!!
Same here? What is with that? I thought I was lucky to get away with my life with the overt. With the covert, I don't have words. They keep that mask up for years. So very painful. God help us. ❤
It seems to me the way narcissists all behave exactly the same suggests a demonic or at least some kind of influence outside of themselves. Does anyone have a similar view?
@@reesedaniel5835 There are evil ones in all nations. It is not just Cain bloodline. Israel Kings even worshipped Baal, Moleck, Asteroth…. These narcs just gave themselves over to the demons. They chose to coddle them verses, do their inner healing work. They chose death. We chose life.
Thank you for this insightful video. You are so right. It is wonderful to feel understood by another light carrier/empath. No narcissist of any kind will break me! I follow the gospel of Jesus Christ and love my life. People come and go. If you are called to help someone at some point you do what you can. The narcissist's thinking does not affect me. They are obviously very sick people. I avoid narcissists. I also enjoy my hobbies and many other things, including long walks, writing, painting, meditating and my dog, Tess. Life is good. Stay in the Word, ask the Holy Spirit to guide your life every day, make Jesus your best friend, and you will always thrive. Thank you again for this wonderfully informative video!
Greetings, Sheila. You sound great. Sincere question (if not too personal): Do you pray for him? I pray for mine as Jesus commands us to ['pray for those who despitefully use you']. And I'm fine with that, but do you do it every day? 2x a week? Long prayer? Short prayer? I asked because I'm trying to get ex-bf out of my brain and out of my daily habits, routine, so to speak - which is not where I want him to be. Has this been an issue for you? Thanks for any insights you'd be willing to share. 🙂
Avoiding narcissists is deffo the way to go. I fear part of my problem is (loneliness, hopelessness etc.) from your perspective at least is that I am also avoiding God and stil rebelling against Him with my 'gay lifestyle.' :( If life is some kind of divine test all I can say is it's one hell of a test. And if you've read my first comment on here: One of the things that fascinate me about the Irish revolutionary heroes of a century past is that a few of them were gay and also devout Christians. (Protestants and Catholics.) Dr Kathleen Lynn for example - I've read a good deal of her diary: A devout Church of Ireland woman who went to church almost everyday and was in a committed relationship with another woman. How did that work? Didn't they read the bible? Or, they did but they assumed God would be mercful? Sorry... OT...
I've always said, " it's easier to be nice to people and harder to be mean". I completely agree with everything your saying. I do believe that my ex was sent to distract, destroy, and turn me into a monster. I will fight to get me back and have an even brighter light than before. So bright, that it will scare them off. Please don't take her words lightly, heed this and be well! Stay safe everyone and best wishes to you all! ❤
THANK YOU PAULA🌿🌺🌿🙏🌿☘️🌿I didn't CAUSE IT I can't CURE it I can't CONTROL it ( narcissist's) My purpose in life, I'm an Empath by a Calling of being a LIGHT carrier. Thank GOD.🌿🙏🌿💕🕊
"For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." We have to be willing to let go of all we previously believed and fully trust the faithful intelligent power behind the universe. This Podcast is real talk.
This is the best explanation of who I used to be and what I went through. Before the narcissist, life was never easy and I was never a Saint but I was upbeat and a happy person. I never regained this after the narcissist. I would love to feel my light was back on. I would love to feel purpose again. I learned a lot but not how to regain this part of me. I feel drained of that energy.
Same!! 😢 Swarms of narcissists spreading their poison took my happiness (and everything else). 💔 So Many Years later, I am now getting some of it back, along with enhanced understanding and a new perspective. 💔🌹💔🙏🙏🙏🙏
It's reassuring to know that while I go thru all this alone, there are others just like me who are going thru this similar nightmare yet understand the dynamics and it's part of our journey. ThankYou NarcCon for your understanding and spot on explanation of the Truth to all this destructive manipulations the narcissistic peopl have put us thru. You are a Guide. And I believe we are all here together to fight this spiritual war
That was powerful Paula! I sense that there’s a Storm brewing in you and you’re just beginning. Thank you so much. That is exactly what we went through.
Thanks to Paula, Dr. Ramani, Dr. Carter etc. etc. the world is waking up to narcissism. The push-back is on! The question is will we win? And if so, how? I think profound societal change is necessary. For example: Forget the immoral primary school sex ed. kids should be taught about this stuff in school! IF all psych professionls and tests could be trusted (if only they could!) I'd even mandate narc testing for all adults 25 and over - the postitives to be visually marked out in some way. (Same for anti-social personalities.) But that's never going to happen and even if it could it would probably be immoral...? At the very least empathy's status should be elevated in society and those people who push notions like: 'But it's GOOD for CEOs to be narcissistic!' should be massively side-eyed... shunned?
The “ I don’t need your help” dialogue is exactly how the discard felt. I didn’t understand what repelled him when I didn’t even try to baby (help) him.
I've been through ever kind of childhood abuse, denied opportunities to succeed as an adult. I am 52, I am in debt, facing homeless...on and on.... What is meant for me can not be taken. I trust no matter happens. The evil comes at me in the flesh and spirit, however, each time my light gets brighter! The light within me (souli) is that of a child.. I have and will, untill my physical body stops working, I will serve those who need healing, to know love, trust, my light is always on! The dark can never destroy the love within me....Energy (love) cannot be destroyed only transformed. So...demonic, dark, haters...I smell you coming......Let's rock!!🤣
I must admit I am a bit destroyed at this point. But despite everything I have no desire to hurt anyone including all of my narc tormentors. Thankfully, I have not been infected by their darkness; at least not in that way. I just want to get away and stay away from them. I have a lot of fear at this point. A phobia I guess. Anyway, I hope your circumstances improve and you catch some good breaks because the world needs people lke you. Stay strong. ❤👍
I just want to add I relate to this so very much, it really spoke to me. It’s what I’ve experienced. I keep praying and trying to heal. Thank you Paula for this beautifully articulated video/message.
I was told by three people in my life I had a light?Well I know now through their darkness they seen my light and tried to snuff it out! I will shine my light and no one will ever turn it off😊
I know you will. Carrying the light doesn’t mean you have to be nice. Trust me…. I’m a flip a table kinda gal! Only with precision do I move. Sharp shooter, off with their heads ( metaphorically). You can say NO! You can say STOP! You CAN walk away!!!! Keep forward. Sending lots of light and strength your way and to everyone who’s feeling defeated and alone! Your NOT!
Wow. I'm surprised by your ex's insight. Perhaps some of them have a lot more insight than some of the so-called experts give them credit for. But if they have insight then surely that makes it all the more likely they know exactly what they're doing and that it's evil. As another commenter said - in many ways they really are poor souls. Imagine having to steal traits, likes, dislikes etc. to try and cobble together something resembling a personality? Imagine being so preoccupied with taking advantage of people; controlling people; hurting people etc. that you scarce have the time to just enjoy people? Imagine having to fake enjoyment so much? An ex of mine who dumped me in a very narcissistic way (was she a narcissist? I hope not... but I fear to a degree she was...) Anyway, she told me that I should trust my instincts re people lying because she admitted I had been 100% correct with all my allegations regarding her cheating. So, I guess like you I am grateful for that bit of honesty even coming as it did after so many lies.
Thank you. This really resonated and was a new perspective. I feel like I can be firmer with protecting my boundaries, …when in the past I feel bad for them and let them almost destroy me. I felt like I was supposed to share my light with them, so turning my back on them, was therefore against God’s purpose for me. Now I see it completely different. I can still show it or share it with anyone in hopes that it helps, but as soon as l see them tearing me down, I will recognize my work there is done. I must abandon the toxic ones to self-protect my gifts. I cannot let them take and take and take and destroy what is good in me and for me. That is NOT my purpose.
Yes I knew from a very early age I wasn’t like them. I thought I must be that word: adopted, but I didn’t know how to describe it. I loved an evil witch. Mom. Exactly. Taking all my gifts and making sure to smash me after ward. At a workshop 25 or yrs ago. At Omega. I as older adult had the revelation, OMG, this pain isn’t the “can explain” pain , IT IS SOUL MURDER!! I sat on the garden bench alone , at the retreat (always afraid of people because i was so nothing) and I began weep uncontrollably. MY MOTHER WAS TRYING TO KILL ME ALL ALONG. My soul.
Thank you so much for this video. It has brought so much light into why this happens repeatedly. As a very young child I realized something was wrong with my grandmother (malignant narcissist) and I did not get pulled into the emotional drama rollercoaster that all of her other children and grandchildren did. I think without even knowing I "grey-rocked" her. I was detached from her and she hated me for that and was determined to make me pay. She turned my mother, my aunts and female cousins, with all of their help even my sister was turned against me. I still do not speak with any of them except for my sister. We are just starting in our 60's to be able to form a relationship and figure out what had happened. Because of wanting to be in good with my grandmother and comply with her, all of my family was turned against me and I became the scapegoat. And because of how I experienced "family" I have become a magnet for narcissistic abuse in my other relationships. Praying with God's help I will be able to find relationships with light carriers and not allow darkness to get close to me again. Thank you again your clear vision is helping so many people put the pieces together!!!
I had same experience with both parents. They wanted to destroy the light in us. This was because we made them look bad. We were good and they hated us for it. It’s bizarre isn’t it?!
Thankyou ❤; my sisters ripped me to shreds, and friends, lovers but now i know, i was so nieve, i'm on a good path now and don't trust anyone, the latest person i'm trying to lend a helping hand, i'm wary, if he gives me put-downs i won't hesitate to cut him off, i won't be used up anymore, i need to find people who are on my level, but thanks 4 confirming my belief, its a huge help, its very hard to get even professional s to believe that such people exist but they w are just blind to it, thats all, they underestimate what we are up against in this cosmos, demons exist in human form!
Yes. I cried so much during the 2 years with him. 2 months after the end of the relationship I realized, I'm smiling and laughing again! I'm free. I'm myself again.
Thank you for this message! This has been my experience all my life. I'm becoming aware of the wickedness out here on a whole new level. Awareness and education about narcissistic abuse is helping so many people to heal and set healthy boundaries with toxic people.
Thanks! Once again, your insight and this whole journey astounds me. But I am feeling like I have learned SO much and found myself again… a new, improved version. Thank God for the light inside us that helps us be introspective. We are so much better off than narcissists. Also, Sometimes I’m bothered that I haven’t done anything big in life. What has been my purpose? This thought finally occurred to me: Your purpose doesn’t necessarily have to be big and grandiose in life. Maybe you’re just here for the thousands of little things. Like a helping hand or a friendly smile or a pleasant song, or showing another human being that they matter, right when they need it the most 💜
You are here to first..love you. Know that you are unique and nothing and nobody can replace you. You’re here to stand and do it better, different and to be an example for those here now and that will be. You’re here to shed truth in the mist of lies and deception. You’re here to listen to your Soul and bring healing to the broken. You’re here to love and to be loved and to know who you are 1000%. Deep calls to deep, light sees light and darkness tried and try’s to put it out. The narcissistic behavior is coming from a cowardly broken pupesie from Ursula in the Little Mermaid. Let them challenge us to a fair fight and they’d still be outnumbered! You got this… over the steep mountain to climb is paradise. I’m totally happy now. 🤗
Totally agree! There are actually more narcissists than we think. Also they're on the rise due to narcissistic culture, growing number of dysfunctional families and toxic enviroment and system in general.
Your purpose gets so enmeshed with wanting the narc to succeed that when they leave you loose purpose of life itself. That's dependency, rumination etc. They create so much self doubt
Love bombed, chatted up, went out and then from the getgo this woman just spoke to me like I was a piece of the "proverbial". I knew it was kind of love bombing to begin with, I'm pretty keyed up on Narc's. Well, F' that, I have taken great pleasure in going no contact. I still can't believe how quickly the mask fell, I will never tolerate disrespect anymore. Still hurt, but onwards and upwards, thanks for all your input.
So so true. Everything you said is absolutely correct. My light has now started to shine again and i am thankful. God bless you too for your wonderful talk. Xxx
Their goal is to get you to react and seek revenge. YES. This is something I am very slowly learning. They will come in, talk to you horrible, treat you bad, lie, provoke, and it’s all to keep you distracted and in a state of anger, confusion, and more or less on their level
So true! My husband of 12 years is a covert monster, he loved to future fake me, he loved the silent treatment for punishment. I didn't know his evil intentions until the brutal discard that happened In May. It was very brutal, malicious, vile and premeditated. He then changed his phone number and ghosted me and my adult daughter. Hes currently shacked up with the secretary from his work 😈
Absolutely spot on video thank you this is exactly what I've been thinking, i got into a long distance relationship 3 years ago with a lady who turned out to be a covert sociopathic narcissist who verbally abused me, gaslighting manipulation, silent treatment cheating on dating apps and she boasted to her other people the way she was treating me but i believe she was sent into my life to try and stop me becoming a reiki healer because when i became a reiki master she disappeared and once i had started recovering from the cptsd and doing reiki she just disappeared as if she was an illusion...
That sort of sums it all up: "She disappeared as if she was an illusion" . That's what they were all along I guess, just an illusion. The only real things they leave you with are pain, confusion, disillusion, profound sadness, mental, spiritual and physical exhaustion. The road back to recovery can be long and hard.
It’s easy to say, “ don’t give up”. But my whole life has been pain, I am human, and old now and just don’t have the oomph anymore to move forward. I need spiritual help but I don’t see it coming.❤
@@Joe-br4ww does this help and in wich form ? i am totally lonely, destroyed, disabled, cant do more than vegetate and the only person who feeds me and gives me a place to live is him, who destroyed me. I dont have any friends and i ve been feeling so many people attacking me, in his presence, doctors, neighbours , or people on the internet i dont even know. I prayed the rosary but i stopped because i am very exhausted and losing memory, cant speak , etc. Did it helped you ? i think about how i can leave this earth. But also no ways to do it as i cant move .
@@Nottygdrasil I will pray for you then. You could try shorter prayers as "Lord Jesus, have mercy on me a poor sinner". Also just talk to Jesus, and tell Him you love Him. God Bless. If you have a computer or cell phone or iPad it's good to watch Catholic Mass on RUclips 🙏
This hits home on so many levels! Extremely informative, thank you! I felt the spiritual attack, dark presence, and attempt at dimming of my light...but due to the distraction/manipulation of the narcissist, it was not until I completely detached with no contact that I felt how strongly they were blocking my light and spirit!
There is a real darkness about them, isn't there? I for one only truly appreciated this in hindsight. Sure, things would feel off many times when I was with them but like an idiot I would push my intuition to the side. Never agan!
God Bless you Paula and Remi have a lovely time in Kerry - perfect timing Paula absolutely right we are here at this point in time to shine our light on the darkness! Dark to light God wins! Nothing can stop what’s coming! The Great Awakening! The best is yet to come! WWG1WGA ❤️💜❤️🕊️🙏🌎
I housesat for a cousin, wealthy, and she’d ask me to stay more days, which I found weird. Worn down by conversation I forgot I was in the no premarital sex Bible Belt of the US, and told a story on myself. Later I figured out that she told her mother and her mother told my mother. She attacked my worth to her mother, her mother reported it to and my mother has been atrocious to me. I’m 60 years old btw. I can see why people don’t like Christians like that.
Narc Con Thank you for your honest and heartfelt opinions on what these dark creatures do to try and dim the light ✨️ workers role in bringing happiness and love and joy to this sad world. Do NOT give in, do NOT give up, do NOT let them win. For as we walk through the valley of the shadow of death, let us NOT fear their evil. Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
Thank you so much for that! It was everything I needed to hear at this moment. I’ve been through ALL that. This past week, one of the narcissists reached out with what looked like an olive branch, but turned out to be poison. He played with my emotions like a cat with a mouse, even though I know exactly what he is. When I tried to hold him accountable for some of his behavior, he called me a narcissist and told me I needed help, that I was doing everything I was accusing him of. He even said, “Narcissists don’t know they’re narcissists.” This would have really brought me down had he not been the biggest narcissist I’ve ever known. I wanted to tell him that in one paragraph he had engaged in gaslighting, blame-shifting, projection, and name-calling - now which one of us is the narcissist??? I didn’t say a word. It would have been lost on him anyway. He knew exactly where to stick the knife. I did block him and have gone full No Contact. Your video was just what I needed to get back on my feet. 🙏🏼
This was amazing and so very helpful. I knew I was here for a reason and very spiritual at age 5 and I was deliberately put in a family so horrifying to shut me down as much as possible. Somehow I find myself now taking care of my narcissist mother as she takes her time dying. She's been here for 11 years and has completely destroyed me. I've been afraid that I would never recover my spirituality, even after she goes. I've been with several narcissist men but none of them has had the impact on me like my mother. I believe this has been on purpose. But you give me hope. I will try to remember my light.
Such a powerful video. Thank you Paula. It is so true, I have been attacked all my life from detractors away from my light purpose, and specifically still trying to extract from a 20 year covert narcissistic marriage. You stated the situation so clearly. It certainly hasn't been easy, but we light workers can't help being who we are... we are light workers, its just how we roll! So we have no choice but to shake off our wings and keep flying!
I feel like I have discovered something terrible about my own character during my discard. My narcissist discarded me with a complete removal of herself and possessions from our home whilst I was out, assisted by her knew supply (who she claimed was just and old friend), followed up with a completely emotionless response to me like the last 2 years together never happened "I'm done, Bye". Needless to say this rocked me to my core. While I've been in hell, constantly ruminating about this, sobbing and feeling like it's the end of the world, a later realisation came to me... It's not the pain of the narcissist leaving that hurts me so much (she really wasn't that interesting and enjoyed the basest of activities, reality shows, social media models etc no offence if anyone watches those sorts of things) but the fact that I feel more sorry for myself for being alone while she has endless supply, albeit false. Am I that weak that I need a partner to validate me? Am I that desperate that I couldn't or didn't want to recognise the early warning signs of her narcissism just to have a warm body next to me? This experience should have taught me to love myself first but all I feel at the moment is a great gaping loneliness, I still both love and hate her (even though it probably isn't love), I'm struggling to move on, I wish I wasn't so weak..... (I shouldn't have looked but on her social media she posted a picture of herself with a necklace that her ex boyfriend bought her (which she never wore for all those years, hoover i expect, whilst seeing her new supply) I feel sick.
Do yourself a favor and write down some of the instances where she was manipulative or whatever.... Maybe even make a list of all her good and bad points.... This can help you to get your head back in the right direction...
Hey buddy, sorry to hear 💜 I have experienced the same in my life. You are going to turn this around 💪 have faith in yourself and remember even though we loved these people, they did not love us back 🥲 we are only supply 🪶 Supply is not love. Sorry if this sounds insensitive to your current heartbreak, its not my intention 👐 it was a great revelation moment for me to arrive at the realisation that i had not been in a mutually loving relationship. The fact of being supply to an energy vampire does not mean we are not loving. Dont let the vampire stop you from caring and loving. Start by loving you and have faith that you can turn this around 💪💜 best of luck 💯
And then after snapping that picture she turned to her new supply and complained about how cheap and unworthy of her that necklace is and if he cared at all he would provide her with something way more expensive _ like so and so's boyfriend. They are never happy its always staged.
Thank you Paula.......❤ I felt like you were literally talking to me today. Thank you so much for a very truthful, but hard, reminder of WHY I am HERE😊
From my experience, the narc became exploitative and had a sense of entitlement. He expected me to him support whenever he was in trouble and would get angry if I didn't get involved . . . He was never there for me when I needed him most . . . He also resented anybody I wss helping outside the family. . . In his mind my salary was his . . .
Oh my goodness, Thank you for this message. For the last several months I've been trying to unravel the last 3 years of my life. I saw the warning signs but never suspected I was being manipulated. I've listen to most of your videos but this one is over the top great. Thank you.
May THEY suffer. May they suffer for all eternity for what they've done to me. I want to die. I'm in so much pain. Rage and grief consume me. My soul is raped. All 44 years of my life, so far, have just been suffering. I can no longer bear the suffering. My rage is red-hot-white. May all those whom I loathe, suffer for all eternity, for what they've done to me. I WILL NO LONGER HAVE MY VOICE SILENCED. I WILL ROAR!!! (REMEMBER: When someone loves you... You feel loved! NOT confused!)
His through Christ, Jesus, I have overcome!! You are so on point! Someone once told me I was never meant to be a part of my family, and I was born to intercede for those Narcs in my life, and that changed my world.. I was set free right then and there!! God bless you!!! ❤❤❤
Another thing I don't get:How could so many people have the same play book? Is there a Narc University that they enroll in? You're in Ireland. Your viewers are all over the world. Such similar stories and patterns. Narcs hate light. They try to mimic it but it hurts them- it stings. It's a void in their souls. Poor, pathetic things.
I was wondering that myself if they have a play book or manual to go by. They use the same techniques. It blows your mind how they maneuver and leave a wake of destruction. I was targeted from the beginning for the light that I carried. It was meant to pull me away from the light, away from God over to the darkness. It was very draining and a sense of loss. After months of it, I'm getting back my light and feeling better. I was discarded, then the mask came off, I then saw all the ugliness, evil and darkness. I wouldn't have believed him to be the same person as before. I have gone no contact and hope that he doesn't hoover. It won't work anyway. I am glad for this channel, I watch all the videos. I'm on the road to healing.
I only need 3-4 visits with a narcissist & I have them figured out. My superpower these days. What I am so tired of is that I seem to just attract them left and right. I feel I have a beacon on my forehead ! It’s made me so wary of everyone ? I would rather be alone . Someone once told me as a healer, I attract broken people. Maybe, but I so want a tribe to be loving & supportive. I don’t know what that life feels like. Tired.
Thank you. I didn't even realize how miserable my ex narcissist had made my life until 2 months out of the relationship with no contact. He left a few of his things at my house (as an excuse to try to manipulate me again). Even his texts turned me into a nervous wreck. Had to call police again because he wouldn't leave. He said I stole some of his tools. They were all in the shed for him. Police said, "This is about to become a criminal case if you don't leave." He told him he is not allowed on my property. Shew. Next day after, Im fine and happy again. Blocked him.
Paula, bless you for coming out with this video. It reiterates with much that I have gone through. Once these evil narcs hone in on you and latch onto your inner light, it's very difficult to shake them off. I'm struggling with the oldest sibling who is a veritable vampire. Thank you for your wise words, and in depth study of how these manipulators go to work. Namaste.
Excellent! I have been listening to podcasts about light carriers, as well as yours, and had kind of picked up in your prior videos an alignment with this. This video certainly underscores what I had been sensing from your content. What you shared today is also my experience. I’m not where I want to be yet on my healing journey, but I’ve come a very long way. The worst part for me is my procrastination and the lack of motivation. I at least try to use that time and energy learning more about the light and how to avoid the darkness taking me over as it did. Today, it was this video. Thank you for sharing so that I could learn. I appreciate the take aways!!
Thank you so much!!! This is so true. I’ve been surrounded by Narcissists my whole life. I married one, had children with them. I’ve been so broken and still I rise. No matter how hurt I’ve been. Kicked when I was down, talked about. Smeared by my own family. I refused and still refuse to give up my light. I refuse to be a vengeful person. I will stand up for myself by separating myself. I walked away, I said NO MORE. Now I’m dealing with my own child being just like her father. This is the hardest. But I know it’s because I left and divorced my now ex. I know that he’s never going to stop trying to make me suffer. My daughter is the only thing he has a part of that can hurt me deeply. He’s done that. But I still stand, I still have my integrity in tact. I’m in trauma based counseling and have gotten my daughter the same. Let me say you cannot do this alone. Get professional help… but it has to be for you! Trauma based, ask if they specialize in Narcissistic abuse. Unfortunately even Judges, counselors etc are narcissistic. It definitely is an evil trying to rip all the good, innocent hearts. Religion was another trap. “Till death do us part” is a lie. Being a welcome mat, turn the other cheek is also another way to keep us sheep. Any loving father, creator would not do that. Seek the truth. It’s not what you’ve been told in Sunday school. Let the Holy Spirt, the water, the nature around you every day remind you of your purpose. We are warriors. Standing with the powerful to shut the darkness out. STAND UP!!! FIGHT by Shining Brighter! No fear! May all the strength of righteousness and truth cover you! 20:32
Ooooh goody…… hello to you in Ireland … I also have Irish in me. I just found your videos yesterday on 9-14-2023. You just have a way with speaking and talking calm and such a delight to listen to. I love the way you explain things. God bless you bunches. Hugs from JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
I've had 2 people.. with similar toxic traits...ask me for advice in what I knew that they thought I was knowledgeable in just for them to turn around and try to invalidate me. I then reminded them that it was me that they called and noone else for that specific advice and they called me for a good reason! Im soo glad i now have the verbiage and knowledge to recognize when people are trying to pull one over my eyes!
I call narc abuse as spiritual rape
Ouch, that hit some kind of target. 😵💫
Interesting word!
🎯 🎯 🎯 spot on
Yes.
if you feel like that and sit down and cry than you are right,But if you stop feeling like that and stand UP, And FİGHT BACK you will see Who is the reel one who feels that spiritual rape
These entities are actually demons disguised as human beings .
Totally 💯 agree. This fact points us to the right way to fight it. We can’t do it without God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. It’s truly spiritual warfare outside of our flesh.
I agree
They are mentioned expressly in the qur'aan and the sunnah of the prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah upon him). They are called "shayaateen al-ins", which means "devils among mankind". The word "shayaateen" is a plural of the word "shaytaan" and the root word of this word is "shatona" (which is a 3 letter root word in Arabic) and the root word means "discarded", interestingly. A "shaytaan" is one who has been "discarded" (shatona) by Allah and removed from His mercy, as they have no mercy for others in their hearts. They have no mercy and no compassion and no emotional empathy and no care nor concern for others except it benefits them somehow and so Allah has "shatona" (dscarded) them from His mercy, hence they are called "shaytaan" (discarded being). It is rooted into the language of the qur'aan itself and it gets much deeper than this, but this is essentially what you need to know, they are devils among mankind for certain. Adam was put into a sleep after his spirit was breathed into him and from his back were taken all the souls of his descendants ever to come after him and some of them were white shining light and some of them were black dull darkness. The shining white souls are those destined for paradise and the black souls are those destined for the fire. Of every 1,000 souls, 999 will go to the fire. There are far more evil people in the world than there are good people and this has always been the case. Even the old testament says only 144,000 people will get to paradise out of all the people ever created, but we muslims reject that and say that is most likely just the scribes who inserted that to emphasise that most people will not be admitted to paradise as there are 124,000 prophets who were sent between Adam and Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah upon them all) and we just don't know all their names (there are many reasons for this) and each one had their followers. Yes, some prophets had no followers except a few family members such as Lut and Nuh (Lot and Noah - peace and blessing of Allah upon them both), some had few followers such as `Isa the son of Maryam (peace and blessings of Allah upon him), some had very many followers such as Muhammad who has the biggest nation and he is the seal of the prophets and the leader of them all and the final prophet and messenger and the son of Maryam will return to kill the false messiah and the son of Maryam will adhere to the laws of the qur'aan and the sunnah of the prophet Muhammad when he returns and all will know he is a muslim like all the prophets and their respective followers (peace and blessings of Allah upon them and Allah be well pleased with them and forgive the followers their sins and misdeeds, ameen).
You cant heal from narcissistic abuse without God. Asking Him to return what was taken from you is important.
Amen
Exactly. 👍🏾 Only the healing love of Jesus can heal narcissistic abuse.
We have an arch enemy and uses narcissists to try to take us empaths off the rails. Woe to them that hurt one of God's little ones.
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So true my friend love 💓 and light 💗💗💗
I believe it. That karmic debt slams them.
AMEN!!
Jesus is the light. He’s the way the truth and the life.
Im 14 months out of 23 years of hell. I really needed to hear this, as I’m at a low point questioning who I am and what I have left to give. They took all from me and nearly destroyed me. I am a giver and take pleasure in helping others. I’m lonely and have no home to call my own. I’m a good person and still carry the light. I will continue to be the kind person I am, and not allow the covert narcissist take all of me. Thank you.
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Like you I am 9 months out of 23 years marriage to a narc . . . I gave him the best years of my life , sacrificed alot and gave him all the support . I am on the healing path and on a journey to self discovery . . . at 55 years , I hardly have anything . . . The healing path is not linear . . . make yourself your 1st , 2nd and 3rd priority . . . Self care and trust the process . . . You are never alone . . . Set your boundaries . . . You must process the whole experience and ask yourself why you stuck in there for so long . . . Toxic empathy is also a thing . . . But it is well , sending you light . . . You are beautiful, you are enough . . .
I feel your words too close to home (which I too do not have somewhere to call h o m e either ;( )
I'm there, too, starting over at middle age. Still, I like to think I'm better off almost anywhere as long as he's not there. I do my best to quiet my mind, and so far the answers seem to come. It's not been easy so far, but I like to think it's going to be worth it one day soon. ❤❤❤
@@cc1k435it's so horrible the way these Narcissists take all and leave you with nothing, it's so disgusting, but I would like to believe that one day we will triumph over all they do ❤
Your light irritates their demons
I agree with all of what you say here Paula. These narcissists are evil manipulators
''it's easier to fool a man than convince him he's been fooled'' - Mark Twain.
Wow!
Narcissists are a gift from our higher self. They are here to harm us to our very core, so we can rise up, remember who we are & processes the collective pain & evil in the world. They volunteered to come here as a part of ascension process. Love & thank them for the gift. You can now complete your mission.
I love it, never doubt yourself.
No. Ignorance brings suffering. God does not wants us to suffer, he asks
Of us to choose life (and have all the goodness that entails) and not death (suffering). We need to empower our selves to overcome the narcissists in our lives and in the world. The faster we do that the better as to not allow them to hurt us or anyone else.
i agree with this. even tho the narc caused me so much pain, ive gone through so much growth and learning that I would’ve never come to understand otherwise. they are darkness but they chose to incarnate with that purpose. every soul has a role. I will never speak to the narc again but I thank them for how far i’ve been pushed to alchemize powerlessness into empowerment.
Yes I totally agree with this perspective. People who see themselves as all good and the narc as all bad are missing a vital part of the lesson in my opinion
@@Cuzzakat I see it as people are either good or bad. Some People can change, but not narcs. I see it as, you can't just be a bit bad, if you're a bit bad, you're bad. Because it's possible that if a bit bad person, seemingly appears good now and again, they're probably masking and are being manipulative ie bad! Been exposed to too many narcs, to see it any other way. I know I'm a good person, yes I've made mistakes, but I've always admitted them, apologised and learnt, I'm not perfect. But I always try to do the right thing at the time. Being around so many narcs has taught me a lot about myself and other people. It's, why my closest friend and companion, is a dog! After my divorce and later the realisation that my eldest sister was a massive narc, I can see right through these, soulless creatures. I've cut a lot of people out of my life , because of toxic traits. I'm done with empty relationships and only rely on myself for my happiness and I pretty much only trust myself (And my dog). At the end of the day, if you can't trust your own husband, mother in law, sisters, daughter in law, then that tells me, you can't trust many people!?
While they try to destroy your light, I do not believe they can carry your light. How can demons carry the light (Spirit) of God.
Do you believe demons can give you a task and make you believe it's your life's purpose and it derives from God?
I really worry about that...
Having been almost driven to suicide by my inter generational family trauma I now really believe that those in the light by trying to help those in the dark blind and expose just how dark they are - they have to destroy the light carrier
They'll extinguish everything that is beautiful about a woman.
So true my friend, they cannot carry our lights, much love❤❤❤
@@robertafierro5592so true my friend, although men are victims of these vampires, much love and light❤❤❤
Yes, I agree. I am a Lightworker, child of GOD & there are dark forces trying vehemently to take me down. But I believe GOD is much more BIGGER & MIGHTIER than them. I can do all things thru CHRIST who strenghthens me...Philippians 4:13 ✝️🦋✌💙
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AMEN 🙏🙌
Amen
Yes and Amen.
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No weapon formed against thee shall prosper 🙏 🙌
Never stoop to the narcs level. Shine your light. If you are a child of God your light will shine. Narcs envy the light. 🌟
I am a HSP (highly sensitive person). Some call it empath…..I also have strong character traits and a recovering codependent.
I was the odd one out in my family system.
The only non narc….the scapegoat.
I embrace all my traits and use them now in a more functional manner.
These assholes we call narcissists are in a perpetual cycle of misery.
Remember that! 💗
Amen, me too, same 🙏🏼
I believe narcissist basically is the psychological term for "asshole," actually. 🤣
They do especially like to attack empaths, like cats playing with their food.
Hate to say it like this but...bottom feeders.
Same here! They are demons in human flesh, that's why they always attack us, they will never have the light we were born with...
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As a super empath, i have noticed these energies of spiritual attack have gotten more subtle over the past 3-4 years... And can happen really fast... The entire process can take place over a few months or even less... With a friend or love interest... Shark infested waters.. disguised as dolphins.. take care all you light workers!.. much love...
I am sick today with a throbbing migraine due to the narcissist abuse I had last night. He sucked my light and spat at me, telling me that everything I do is wrong, he was nasty and aggressive, he was making me question myself many times. Please pray for me to not let him near me anymore. After 3 years, I’ve had enough of this torture and my heart goes out to people here I read went through a long time of this spiritual warfare from the dark energy. May God protect us and give us healings 🙏❤️
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Remember Charlie Brown? Lucy always promised to not move the football and Charlie always believed her. She always broke her promise.
You have to get away! It's a demon and you will be free! Please listen
I remember the migraines. Since getting discarded I haven’t had one since !!
So spot on,she took my light an I took 15months seeing a psychologist helped me regain my strength an clear my mind, then I put on my boots, my belt of truth, my helmet of salvation an my shield I stood tall an picked myself up to carry on with this earthly mission spreading light an ❤️ love
Absolutely keep it real.
Light carrier or not. I will never throw my pearls to swine EVER again. I'm not JESUS CHRIST, I can't save anyone. I can be kind and respectful, and that's it.
There are a few narcs at a horse rehabilitation/sanctuary I go to. Some of the horses get edgy when they go near them. Speaking with them face-to-face, you can see that deadness in their eyes. The conversations are so unauthentic. It is a pure evil energy they give off and I can feel it. Makes me cringe because they are only there to make their image look good. They know that I’ve sussed ‘em because they have started to avoid me like their life depends on it.
You have just described my childhood with a narc mother and my 50 year marriage to a narc! I'm full of pain, burned-out and brain damaged. I doubt if I will ever heal but I'm lucky to be alive. Thank you for the validation this video has brought me. God bless you.XOXOXOXO
You are so welcome
You will heal! It will just take time x
Fifty years is a drop in the ocean compared to an eternity of peace promised to all who love God.
Sending love
I pray that God heals you and restores you and that your latter days be greater than your former days. God bless you!
This is so true - they are literally from the dark side needing to extract goodness from those from the light!
I don't think it's about extracting goodness. I think the true narcs have no interest in being good. They want to extinguish goodness - bring us down to their level... take us down to hell with them...
They don't want our light. They want to extinguish it.
They want you to become them!
One good friend explained that there are people who ask for my love, even demand it. But they have no place to put it.Then they try to destroy it, then they will try to destroy you!
I'm 1.5 months out after 13 years w/a covert. Once I realized what was going - or that something WAS going on even though I couldn't grasp it I knew it was bad and that I had to get out. I went radical acceptance/no contact. Period. I'm trying to heal - I'm bound and determined to recover. It's hard. I hadn't had a panic attack in decades and now anxiety is my constant companion along with headaches, brain fog, and extreme fatigue. By the grace of God I will get through this and come out the other side better as I have with other tough things in my life. But you said the exact right words that I needed to hear... Thank you so, so much. ✨🌷✨
the constant little jabs... like favorite possessions disappearing... ( I suspected as very intentionally). and passive aggressive destruction... made for crazy making. until one night I totaled up the immense destruction over only a years time. and it couldnt be just coincidence.!!! as you say" SOMETHING WAS GOING ON". thank you for your words.....
You are early on in your healing. I’m 17 months and went NC after one phone call that was never answered. 10 years with the boyfriend and 18 with ex husband. I had NO knowledge of NPD. Through therapy and listening to Paula and other great content creators it got better. Paula in my opinion is one of the top voices for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. You WILL heal. Your body has been addicted to your abuser. Give yourself grace and time. Do your recovery your way. Everyone is different. Therapy for me has been excellent. I come from a Narcissistic family. I was basically groomed for these relationships. One day at a time.
@@life-rethought Whoa, that's crazy! How very dastardly of him. Sorry you had to go thru that. Tbh I've often wondered if mine purposely broke a couple of things around and also if he put a pack of gum containing xylitol on the counter within reach of my dog who did eat it and had to be taken to the emergency vet (xylitol is poisonous to dogs I think it screws their blood sugar up. My doggo almost died but thankfully pulled through).
Hugs,I'm currently going through the same after 12 years married
Hang in there. I know exactly how you feel and it has taken me years in the healing process. It can really knock you for a loop and takes a long time to piece everything together. I wish you well.
They are sent in as evil assignments
All i can is wow. The depth of their evil shocking.
thank you Paula. as a very young child VERY... I faced down my raging demeaning father.... AND MADE A CHOICE OF WHO I WAS GOING TO BE. I refused to be like him. and fought, or just silently stood in my principles for decades. the rest of the family submitted.... and they were turned to destroy me.
I chose to be an artist from day one. to speak through my brush or pen, if I was silenced in other open ways by my father and family.
and it carried me through a 70 years life of abuse...
I shattered at 54 years old with full PTSD and epileptic seizures. from my sisters similar rabid narcissistic attacks. from a 1 paragraph email...
and with that email I chose to no longer sacrifice myself for others protection. and I exposed her true actions to other family and outsiders. secrets no more.!
I will say that the abuse from my husband and family has successfully crushed my vision, spirit, energy, and drive for art for long periods of time. and it took super human efforts to raise myself from the pit or the ashes repeatedly.
obviously EVIL WANTED ME SILENCED. such a silent destructive undercurrent that like a DEVILISH RIP TIDE.
THE DEEP DARK GRIEF OF IT ALL HAS HAUNTED MY LIFE.. but now, educated to what was being done to me , I can clearly say NO MORE. and act in my behalf
and I have succeeded exceptionally as an artist over and over. in giving my art away now, it is carrying me up and out of a short term evil marriage.
every time he has pulled a stunt, I focus forward, and I am blessed with success beyond my dreams.
in choosing to give light... God magnifies my efforts. and I enjoy the success and gifts I give.
Wonderful 🌹
@@edelweissdebergbaldrian7696 my dad would always call me his "mule". well being a mule preserved my authenticity. thank you for your words of encouragement. my art is beginning to actually be fun!!!!!!!!!
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Amazing.
Thank you for sharing. Inspiring and it hit close to home. Helped to read words (although more moving and eloquent than mine) that I’ve written in my journals. Time to make a choice. God bless!!
This is a really interesting topic. It's so important to recognise and appreciate people that carry the light, not just seek to identify toxic people out of fear and an understandable need not to get hurt again. Today I went to have a blood test with a lovely nurse who immediately made me feel so safe and at ease. There was no sense of any hidden agendas with her, she was a bright, happy person simply having a nice chat with me whilst she did her work. I wished her a nice day. It's so good to remind ourselves that there are lots of good people in the world. 🕯️💓
I try and warn people about narcissim... urge them to educate themselves watch channels like this one etc. but almost none do. :(
I'm so cynical/burned that I'd probably be a bit wary of that nurse. I know only too well that narcs can put up a good front esp. for short periods and to complete strangers.
Urgh. I hate being this cynical but life has shown me that I (not saying everyone else too!) need to be.
@@fokkerfilms560 - I'm sorry you feel that way, and I do know how one's trust can be shattered after experiencing Narcissistic Abuse. As Henry Rollins says in his song Liar - "I'll turn you into me", - I feel some of the Narcissist's untrusting suspiciousness, paranoia and bitterness rubs off on their victims, another Narcissistic flea. It's crucial to have that awareness and a finely tuned "Narcdar" to keep us safe, but to also to maintain some optimism and faith in human decency. It's a difficult balancing act.
@@fokkerfilms560I understand where you're coming from, but I just want to say don't let narcissists ruin your life that way... If you're a light carrier you need to be that light...❤
"you are crazy" and opposing everything you do, give, or share. If they say they want X, and you give X, they say they wanted Y!! Oppositional to the core!
Spot on, Paula! 🙌👍
It definitely is a spiritual battle. Thank you for sharing this so articulately. The good news is that the light, by its very essence, dispels the darkness. The light carrier may and will suffer for a time, but, eventually, will find a way to disconnect from the narcissist. It is literally a descent into hell, and by the time you get a discard - or leave the narcissist- the pain is so horrendous that you think it is the end of the road; that you will not survive the agony you are left with. However, trying to understand what happened, and why, will eventually lead you to get answers, thanks to the knowledge on narcissistic disorder, which people like you share with the world. Once you know, you go. And never go back. You learn how to recognise the narcissists' many games, tricks and masks. Acute knowledge of what narcissism is will end up setting you free. The red flags trigger such an awareness in you of the evil trying to manipulate you and destroy you, that the narcissist can sense it. The power of your clear boundary setting, of you strongly affirming yourself by saying "NO" to their machinations, and your unwavering integrity in keeping doing right and good, will scare the narcissists like kryptonite. They will flee, haunted by the terror of being exposed for who they are and what they do. No matter the ensueing smear campaigns, truth does and will prevail.
"What other people think of you is none of your business" Check mate for the narcissist! I, too, personally believe that light bearers are sent to Earth, to boost divine light and goodness in this very corrupted world, by helping to expose and defeat that evil. The key is managing to break free, by becoming both financially and physically independant and, thus, allowing space for emotional freedom in severing the spiritual stronghold (or soul tie) acting on you like a magic spell, especially if you are dealing with a romantic situationship, and have children together. That last bit is possible to break by preserving your integrity, with the help and power of Almighty God''s Holy Spirit within you. So, keep walking on water, holding your head hig and proud, with what you know is right!
These days, narcissism is rife like a viral epidemic. But light bearers recognise "serpent talk", and can crush the monsters' heads. Also, recovering victims do become powerful beacons of light, able to help and rescue ailing souls caught in that infernal trap. An encouraging thought to carry on blessing others!
Well said..thank you ❤
Amen.❤
How come this comment doesn't have a thousand likes?
What profound comments. I do hope with your insight on this subject you realize how much your words can help others that are drowning in sorrow. God bless you.
Wow! That is exactly what happened to me, went from a overt to a covert narcissist! I will never marry again! And I dont want to hurt anyone and i dont want to be hurt!!!
Same here? What is with that? I thought I was lucky to get away with my life with the overt. With the covert, I don't have words. They keep that mask up for years. So very painful. God help us. ❤
@@candace8200 The Lorrd is my husband! I will not do it anymore! People like being evil they don't want to do the work! God help us all!
It seems to me the way narcissists all behave exactly the same suggests a demonic or at least some kind of influence outside of themselves. Does anyone have a similar view?
Yes, the same demons operate within them all. It varies…
Cain's (serpent) seedline.
@@reesedaniel5835 There are evil ones in all nations. It is not just Cain bloodline. Israel Kings even worshipped Baal, Moleck, Asteroth…. These narcs just gave themselves over to the demons. They chose to coddle them verses, do their inner healing work. They chose death. We chose life.
Thank you for this insightful video. You are so right. It is wonderful to feel understood by another light carrier/empath. No narcissist of any kind will break me! I follow the gospel of Jesus Christ and love my life. People come and go. If you are called to help someone at some point you do what you can. The narcissist's thinking does not affect me. They are obviously very sick people. I avoid narcissists. I also enjoy my hobbies and many other things, including long walks, writing, painting, meditating and my dog, Tess. Life is good. Stay in the Word, ask the Holy Spirit to guide your life every day, make Jesus your best friend, and you will always thrive. Thank you again for this wonderfully informative video!
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Greetings, Sheila. You sound great. Sincere question (if not too personal): Do you pray for him? I pray for mine as Jesus commands us to ['pray for those who despitefully use you']. And I'm fine with that, but do you do it every day? 2x a week? Long prayer? Short prayer? I asked because I'm trying to get ex-bf out of my brain and out of my daily habits, routine, so to speak - which is not where I want him to be. Has this been an issue for you? Thanks for any insights you'd be willing to share. 🙂
Avoiding narcissists is deffo the way to go.
I fear part of my problem is (loneliness, hopelessness etc.) from your perspective at least is that I am also avoiding God and stil rebelling against Him with my 'gay lifestyle.' :(
If life is some kind of divine test all I can say is it's one hell of a test.
And if you've read my first comment on here: One of the things that fascinate me about the Irish revolutionary heroes of a century past is that a few of them were gay and also devout Christians. (Protestants and Catholics.) Dr Kathleen Lynn for example - I've read a good deal of her diary: A devout Church of Ireland woman who went to church almost everyday and was in a committed relationship with another woman. How did that work? Didn't they read the bible? Or, they did but they assumed God would be mercful?
Sorry... OT...
Oh Paula....I feel like you are speaking directly to me....but in reality....its the story of many lives....keep doing what you do.....
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I've always said, " it's easier to be nice to people and harder to be mean". I completely agree with everything your saying. I do believe that my ex was sent to distract, destroy, and turn me into a monster. I will fight to get me back and have an even brighter light than before. So bright, that it will scare them off. Please don't take her words lightly, heed this and be well! Stay safe everyone and best wishes to you all! ❤
THANK YOU PAULA🌿🌺🌿🙏🌿☘️🌿I didn't CAUSE IT
I can't CURE it
I can't CONTROL it
( narcissist's)
My purpose in life, I'm an Empath by a Calling of being a LIGHT carrier. Thank GOD.🌿🙏🌿💕🕊
Their demons hate your light!
No genuine appreciation for my generosity, just disgust and entitlement.
"For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." We have to be willing to let go of all we previously believed and fully trust the faithful intelligent power behind the universe. This Podcast is real talk.
Beautiful quote…totally on point after this revealing experience 🌹
This is the best explanation of who I used to be and what I went through. Before the narcissist, life was never easy and I was never a Saint but I was upbeat and a happy person. I never regained this after the narcissist. I would love to feel my light was back on. I would love to feel purpose again. I learned a lot but not how to regain this part of me. I feel drained of that energy.
Did you try therapy
Don't let that be permanent for you! Right here you have a tribe & believe me you Can shine again ❤
Same!! 😢
Swarms of narcissists spreading their poison took my happiness (and everything else). 💔
So Many Years later, I am now getting some of it back, along with enhanced understanding and a new perspective. 💔🌹💔🙏🙏🙏🙏
It's reassuring to know that while I go thru all this alone, there are others just like me who are going thru this similar nightmare yet understand the dynamics and it's part of our journey. ThankYou NarcCon for your understanding and spot on explanation of the Truth to all this destructive manipulations the narcissistic peopl have put us thru. You are a Guide. And I believe we are all here together to fight this spiritual war
I have even been told by people that they are attracted to my light.. and my energy..
That was powerful Paula! I sense that there’s a Storm brewing in you and you’re just beginning.
Thank you so much. That is exactly what we went through.
Yes! Thank you!
Thanks to Paula, Dr. Ramani, Dr. Carter etc. etc. the world is waking up to narcissism. The push-back is on!
The question is will we win? And if so, how? I think profound societal change is necessary. For example: Forget the immoral primary school sex ed. kids should be taught about this stuff in school! IF all psych professionls and tests could be trusted (if only they could!) I'd even mandate narc testing for all adults 25 and over - the postitives to be visually marked out in some way. (Same for anti-social personalities.) But that's never going to happen and even if it could it would probably be immoral...?
At the very least empathy's status should be elevated in society and those people who push notions like: 'But it's GOOD for CEOs to be narcissistic!' should be massively side-eyed... shunned?
The “ I don’t need your help” dialogue is exactly how the discard felt. I didn’t understand what repelled him when I didn’t even try to baby (help) him.
Needing help or taking help is interpreted as being weak.
I've been through ever kind of childhood abuse, denied opportunities to succeed as an adult. I am 52, I am in debt, facing homeless...on and on.... What is meant for me can not be taken. I trust no matter happens. The evil comes at me in the flesh and spirit, however, each time my light gets brighter! The light within me (souli) is that of a child.. I have and will, untill my physical body stops working, I will serve those who need healing, to know love, trust, my light is always on! The dark can never destroy the love within me....Energy (love) cannot be destroyed only transformed. So...demonic, dark, haters...I smell you coming......Let's rock!!🤣
I must admit I am a bit destroyed at this point. But despite everything I have no desire to hurt anyone including all of my narc tormentors. Thankfully, I have not been infected by their darkness; at least not in that way.
I just want to get away and stay away from them. I have a lot of fear at this point. A phobia I guess.
Anyway, I hope your circumstances improve and you catch some good breaks because the world needs people lke you.
Stay strong. ❤👍
Paula, you describe the dynamics with the narcissist in the most spot on, articulate, thorough, eloquent way. Thank you, thank you 🙏❤
I just want to add I relate to this so very much, it really spoke to me. It’s what I’ve experienced. I keep praying and trying to heal. Thank you Paula for this beautifully articulated video/message.
Exactly!
You are so welcome
I was told by three people in my life I had a light?Well I know now through their darkness they seen my light and tried to snuff it out! I will shine my light and no one will ever turn it off😊
Listen to God.
Love God.
Serve God.
It is time to be a soldier for our God
Do not serve man
SURRENDER ALL! TO GOD! ❤
I know you will. Carrying the light doesn’t mean you have to be nice. Trust me…. I’m a flip a table kinda gal! Only with precision do I move. Sharp shooter, off with their heads ( metaphorically). You can say NO! You can say STOP! You CAN walk away!!!! Keep forward. Sending lots of light and strength your way and to everyone who’s feeling defeated and alone! Your NOT!
My ex narcissist said to me once, that people would be envious of my capacity for happiness. I never understood it at the time. I do now!
Wow. I'm surprised by your ex's insight. Perhaps some of them have a lot more insight than some of the so-called experts give them credit for. But if they have insight then surely that makes it all the more likely they know exactly what they're doing and that it's evil.
As another commenter said - in many ways they really are poor souls. Imagine having to steal traits, likes, dislikes etc. to try and cobble together something resembling a personality? Imagine being so preoccupied with taking advantage of people; controlling people; hurting people etc. that you scarce have the time to just enjoy people? Imagine having to fake enjoyment so much?
An ex of mine who dumped me in a very narcissistic way (was she a narcissist? I hope not... but I fear to a degree she was...) Anyway, she told me that I should trust my instincts re people lying because she admitted I had been 100% correct with all my allegations regarding her cheating. So, I guess like you I am grateful for that bit of honesty even coming as it did after so many lies.
Well explained.. and they get angry when you don't fall to their level.. Covert's suck you in - they are the worst..
Thank you. This really resonated and was a new perspective. I feel like I can be firmer with protecting my boundaries, …when in the past I feel bad for them and let them almost destroy me. I felt like I was supposed to share my light with them, so turning my back on them, was therefore against God’s purpose for me. Now I see it completely different. I can still show it or share it with anyone in hopes that it helps, but as soon as l see them tearing me down, I will recognize my work there is done. I must abandon the toxic ones to self-protect my gifts. I cannot let them take and take and take and destroy what is good in me and for me. That is NOT my purpose.
Yes
I knew from a very early age
I wasn’t like them. I thought
I must be that word: adopted, but I didn’t know how to describe it. I loved an evil witch. Mom. Exactly. Taking all my gifts and making sure to smash me after ward. At a workshop 25 or yrs ago. At Omega.
I as older adult had the revelation, OMG, this pain isn’t the “can explain” pain ,
IT IS SOUL MURDER!!
I sat on the garden bench
alone , at the retreat (always afraid of people because i was so nothing) and I began weep uncontrollably.
MY MOTHER WAS TRYING TO KILL ME ALL ALONG.
My soul.
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I tested my DNA in the hope I was adopted. But alas, no.
SHE DIDN'T SUCCEED THOUGH, DID SHE? GOD HAS OTHER PLANS FOR YOUR LIFE. 🎉❤🙏❤
You explain the spiritual dimension of this huge issue very well. Thank you.
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A spiritual battle since Adam and Eve. Devil knows the playbook, get to the woman, get the man out, and everyone else is easy prey.
Thank you so much for this video. It has brought so much light into why this happens repeatedly. As a very young child I realized something was wrong with my grandmother (malignant narcissist) and I did not get pulled into the emotional drama rollercoaster that all of her other children and grandchildren did. I think without even knowing I "grey-rocked" her. I was detached from her and she hated me for that and was determined to make me pay. She turned my mother, my aunts and female cousins, with all of their help even my sister was turned against me. I still do not speak with any of them except for my sister. We are just starting in our 60's to be able to form a relationship and figure out what had happened. Because of wanting to be in good with my grandmother and comply with her, all of my family was turned against me and I became the scapegoat. And because of how I experienced "family" I have become a magnet for narcissistic abuse in my other relationships. Praying with God's help I will be able to find relationships with light carriers and not allow darkness to get close to me again. Thank you again your clear vision is helping so many people put the pieces together!!!
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I had same experience with both parents. They wanted to destroy the light in us. This was because we made them look bad. We were good and they hated us for it. It’s bizarre isn’t it?!
Thankyou ❤; my sisters ripped me to shreds, and friends, lovers but now i know, i was so nieve, i'm on a good path now and don't trust anyone, the latest person i'm trying to lend a helping hand, i'm wary, if he gives me put-downs i won't hesitate to cut him off, i won't be used up anymore, i need to find people who are on my level, but thanks 4 confirming my belief, its a huge help, its very hard to get even professional s to believe that such people exist but they w are just blind to it, thats all, they underestimate what we are up against in this cosmos, demons exist in human form!
Yes. I cried so much during the 2 years with him. 2 months after the end of the relationship I realized, I'm smiling and laughing again! I'm free. I'm myself again.
110 %.they also have alot of informers ,so beware of your so called friends.(frenemies).
Yes they no doubt chatter on Facebook but I use no social media so they can't track me.
Thank you for this message! This has been my experience all my life. I'm becoming aware of the wickedness out here on a whole new level. Awareness and education about narcissistic abuse is helping so many people to heal and set healthy boundaries with toxic people.
Thanks! Once again, your insight and this whole journey astounds me. But I am feeling like I have learned SO much and found myself again… a new, improved version. Thank God for the light inside us that helps us be introspective. We are so much better off than narcissists. Also, Sometimes I’m bothered that I haven’t done anything big in life. What has been my purpose? This thought finally occurred to me:
Your purpose doesn’t necessarily have to be big and grandiose in life. Maybe you’re just here for the thousands of little things. Like a helping hand or a friendly smile or a pleasant song, or showing another human being that they matter, right when they need it the most 💜
Judi thank you so much..love your take on life 🌹
You are here to first..love you. Know that you are unique and nothing and nobody can replace you.
You’re here to stand and do it better, different and to be an example for those here now and that will be.
You’re here to shed truth in the mist of lies and deception.
You’re here to listen to your Soul and bring healing to the broken.
You’re here to love and to be loved and to know who you are 1000%.
Deep calls to deep, light sees light and darkness tried and try’s to put it out. The narcissistic behavior is coming from a cowardly broken pupesie from Ursula in the Little Mermaid.
Let them challenge us to a fair fight and they’d still be outnumbered!
You got this… over the steep mountain to climb is paradise. I’m totally happy now. 🤗
The problem with this world is that there are far too many narcissists.
Totally agree! There are actually more narcissists than we think. Also they're on the rise due to narcissistic culture, growing number of dysfunctional families and toxic enviroment and system in general.
Your purpose gets so enmeshed with wanting the narc to succeed that when they leave you loose purpose of life itself. That's dependency, rumination etc. They create so much self doubt
Death by a thousand paper cuts…
Love bombed, chatted up, went out and then from the getgo this woman just spoke to me like I was a piece of the "proverbial". I knew it was kind of love bombing to begin with, I'm pretty keyed up on Narc's. Well, F' that, I have taken great pleasure in going no contact. I still can't believe how quickly the mask fell, I will never tolerate disrespect anymore. Still hurt, but onwards and upwards, thanks for all your input.
Did you still go to bed with her?
Amen 🙏 I’m still healing ❤️🩹
So so true. Everything you said is absolutely correct. My light has now started to shine again and i am thankful. God bless you too for your wonderful talk. Xxx
Their goal is to get you to react and seek revenge. YES. This is something I am very slowly learning. They will come in, talk to you horrible, treat you bad, lie, provoke, and it’s all to keep you distracted and in a state of anger, confusion, and more or less on their level
people can only do you
what you allow.
keep walking in light
keep walking in purpose
keeping walking in love.
So true! My husband of 12 years is a covert monster, he loved to future fake me, he loved the silent treatment for punishment. I didn't know his evil intentions until the brutal discard that happened In May. It was very brutal, malicious, vile and premeditated. He then changed his phone number and ghosted me and my adult daughter. Hes currently shacked up with the secretary from his work 😈
Absolutely spot on video thank you this is exactly what I've been thinking, i got into a long distance relationship 3 years ago with a lady who turned out to be a covert sociopathic narcissist who verbally abused me, gaslighting manipulation, silent treatment cheating on dating apps and she boasted to her other people the way she was treating me but i believe she was sent into my life to try and stop me becoming a reiki healer because when i became a reiki master she disappeared and once i had started recovering from the cptsd and doing reiki she just disappeared as if she was an illusion...
That sort of sums it all up: "She disappeared as if she was an illusion" . That's what they were all along I guess, just an illusion.
The only real things they leave you with are pain, confusion, disillusion, profound sadness, mental, spiritual and physical exhaustion. The road back to recovery can be long and hard.
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It’s easy to say, “ don’t give up”. But my whole life has been pain, I am human, and old now and just don’t have the oomph anymore to move forward. I need spiritual help but I don’t see it coming.❤
It's hard, but I suggest to try praying The Rosary to Jesus and Mother Mary. God Bless!
@@Joe-br4ww does this help and in wich form ? i am totally lonely, destroyed, disabled, cant do more than vegetate and the only person who feeds me and gives me a place to live is him, who destroyed me. I dont have any friends and i ve been feeling so many people attacking me, in his presence, doctors, neighbours , or people on the internet i dont even know. I prayed the rosary but i stopped because i am very exhausted and losing memory, cant speak , etc. Did it helped you ? i think about how i can leave this earth. But also no ways to do it as i cant move .
@@Nottygdrasil I will pray for you then. You could try shorter prayers as "Lord Jesus, have mercy on me a poor sinner". Also just talk to Jesus, and tell Him you love Him. God Bless. If you have a computer or cell phone or iPad it's good to watch Catholic Mass on RUclips 🙏
This hits home on so many levels! Extremely informative, thank you! I felt the spiritual attack, dark presence, and attempt at dimming of my light...but due to the distraction/manipulation of the narcissist, it was not until I completely detached with no contact that I felt how strongly they were blocking my light and spirit!
There is a real darkness about them, isn't there? I for one only truly appreciated this in hindsight. Sure, things would feel off many times when I was with them but like an idiot I would push my intuition to the side. Never agan!
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I just gotta say F that narc.and I mean that in the nicest sincerest WAY
That was exactly true and very uplifting God Bless you and thank you ❤
Same to you!
God Bless you Paula and Remi have a lovely time in Kerry - perfect timing Paula absolutely right we are here at this point in time to shine our light on the darkness!
Dark to light
God wins!
Nothing can stop what’s
coming!
The Great Awakening!
The best is yet to come!
WWG1WGA ❤️💜❤️🕊️🙏🌎
Amen Sue
Kerry is beautiful. @@NarcCon 👍
Not sure about that bread flavoured 'best gelato in the world' from Dingle though. LOL
I housesat for a cousin, wealthy, and she’d ask me to stay more days, which I found weird. Worn down by conversation I forgot I was in the no premarital sex Bible Belt of the US, and told a story on myself. Later I figured out that she told her mother and her mother told my mother. She attacked my worth to her mother, her mother reported it to and my mother has been atrocious to me. I’m 60 years old btw. I can see why people don’t like Christians like that.
Narc Con
Thank you for your honest and heartfelt opinions on what these dark creatures do to try and dim the light ✨️ workers role in bringing happiness and love and joy to this sad world.
Do NOT give in, do NOT give up, do NOT let them win.
For as we walk through the valley of the shadow of death, let us NOT fear their evil.
Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
Namaste 🙏
@@NarcCon Thank you.
This is so true. I pray for this person who hurt me twice but I don't want nothing to do with him
Don’t waste your energy or petitions on the narc! Pour it into your cup!
You are a gosh darn spiritual genius.THANK YOU!!!!!
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Thank you so much for that! It was everything I needed to hear at this moment. I’ve been through ALL that. This past week, one of the narcissists reached out with what looked like an olive branch, but turned out to be poison. He played with my emotions like a cat with a mouse, even though I know exactly what he is. When I tried to hold him accountable for some of his behavior, he called me a narcissist and told me I needed help, that I was doing everything I was accusing him of. He even said, “Narcissists don’t know they’re narcissists.” This would have really brought me down had he not been the biggest narcissist I’ve ever known. I wanted to tell him that in one paragraph he had engaged in gaslighting, blame-shifting, projection, and name-calling - now which one of us is the narcissist??? I didn’t say a word. It would have been lost on him anyway. He knew exactly where to stick the knife. I did block him and have gone full No Contact. Your video was just what I needed to get back on my feet. 🙏🏼
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This was amazing and so very helpful. I knew I was here for a reason and very spiritual at age 5 and I was deliberately put in a family so horrifying to shut me down as much as possible. Somehow I find myself now taking care of my narcissist mother as she takes her time dying. She's been here for 11 years and has completely destroyed me. I've been afraid that I would never recover my spirituality, even after she goes. I've been with several narcissist men but none of them has had the impact on me like my mother. I believe this has been on purpose. But you give me hope. I will try to remember my light.
Such a powerful video. Thank you Paula. It is so true, I have been attacked all my life from detractors away from my light purpose, and specifically still trying to extract from a 20 year covert narcissistic marriage. You stated the situation so clearly. It certainly hasn't been easy, but we light workers can't help being who we are... we are light workers, its just how we roll! So we have no choice but to shake off our wings and keep flying!
I feel like I have discovered something terrible about my own character during my discard. My narcissist discarded me with a complete removal of herself and possessions from our home whilst I was out, assisted by her knew supply (who she claimed was just and old friend), followed up with a completely emotionless response to me like the last 2 years together never happened "I'm done, Bye". Needless to say this rocked me to my core. While I've been in hell, constantly ruminating about this, sobbing and feeling like it's the end of the world, a later realisation came to me... It's not the pain of the narcissist leaving that hurts me so much (she really wasn't that interesting and enjoyed the basest of activities, reality shows, social media models etc no offence if anyone watches those sorts of things) but the fact that I feel more sorry for myself for being alone while she has endless supply, albeit false. Am I that weak that I need a partner to validate me? Am I that desperate that I couldn't or didn't want to recognise the early warning signs of her narcissism just to have a warm body next to me?
This experience should have taught me to love myself first but all I feel at the moment is a great gaping loneliness, I still both love and hate her (even though it probably isn't love), I'm struggling to move on, I wish I wasn't so weak.....
(I shouldn't have looked but on her social media she posted a picture of herself with a necklace that her ex boyfriend bought her (which she never wore for all those years, hoover i expect, whilst seeing her new supply) I feel sick.
Normal feelings..and also look at a familiar feeling maybe in childhood 🌹
Do yourself a favor and write down some of the instances where she was manipulative or whatever.... Maybe even make a list of all her good and bad points.... This can help you to get your head back in the right direction...
Hey buddy, sorry to hear 💜 I have experienced the same in my life.
You are going to turn this around 💪 have faith in yourself and remember even though we loved these people, they did not love us back 🥲 we are only supply 🪶 Supply is not love. Sorry if this sounds insensitive to your current heartbreak, its not my intention 👐 it was a great revelation moment for me to arrive at the realisation that i had not been in a mutually loving relationship. The fact of being supply to an energy vampire does not mean we are not loving. Dont let the vampire stop you from caring and loving. Start by loving you and have faith that you can turn this around 💪💜 best of luck 💯
And then after snapping that picture she turned to her new supply and complained about how cheap and unworthy of her that necklace is and if he cared at all he would provide her with something way more expensive _ like so and so's boyfriend. They are never happy its always staged.
Thank you Paula.......❤
I felt like you were literally talking to me today. Thank you so much for a very truthful, but hard, reminder of WHY I am HERE😊
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Same.
From my experience, the narc became exploitative and had a sense of entitlement. He expected me to him support whenever he was in trouble and would get angry if I didn't get involved . . . He was never there for me when I needed him most . . . He also resented anybody I wss helping outside the family. . . In his mind my salary was his . . .
Ah Kerry is so lovely 💚 I am actually in south Dublin. Have found all your videos just so very helpful 🙏🙏
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Oh my goodness, Thank you for this message. For the last several months I've been trying to unravel the last 3 years of my life. I saw the warning signs but never suspected I was being manipulated.
I've listen to most of your videos but this one is over the top great. Thank you.
Thank you I’m glad 🙏🌹
May THEY suffer.
May they suffer for all eternity
for what they've done to me.
I want to die.
I'm in so much pain.
Rage and grief consume me.
My soul is raped.
All 44 years of my life, so far,
have just been suffering.
I can no longer bear the suffering.
My rage is red-hot-white.
May all those whom I loathe,
suffer for all eternity,
for what they've done to me.
I WILL NO LONGER
HAVE MY VOICE SILENCED.
I WILL ROAR!!!
(REMEMBER:
When someone loves you...
You feel loved! NOT confused!)
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His through Christ, Jesus, I have overcome!! You are so on point! Someone once told me I was never meant to be a part of my family, and I was born to intercede for those Narcs in my life, and that changed my world.. I was set free right then and there!! God bless you!!! ❤❤❤
I cried when I listened to every single word of this 20-minute wisdom discussion. It's a gift from the universe and I am forever grateful! ❤
Another thing I don't get:How could so many people have the same play book? Is there a Narc University that they enroll in? You're in Ireland. Your viewers are all over the world. Such similar stories and patterns. Narcs hate light. They try to mimic it but it hurts them- it stings. It's a void in their souls. Poor, pathetic things.
True 🌹
I was wondering that myself if they have a play book or manual to go by. They use the same techniques. It blows your mind how they maneuver and leave a wake of destruction. I was targeted from the beginning for the light that I carried. It was meant to pull me away from the light, away from God over to the darkness. It was very draining and a sense of loss. After months of it, I'm getting back my light and feeling better. I was discarded, then the mask came off, I then saw all the ugliness, evil and darkness. I wouldn't have believed him to be the same person as before. I have gone no contact and hope that he doesn't hoover. It won't work anyway. I am glad for this channel, I watch all the videos. I'm on the road to healing.
Satan octopus head with millions of tentacles (narcs), they all have the same demons residing in them.
They use the same playbook in Australia!
Satan owns the playbook. He makes these people evil. He uses the same tricks over and over at those who are a threat to him.
I cried out from the depth of despair, and you answered the call.
Thanks a BILLION!💎
You are so welcome
I only need 3-4 visits with a narcissist & I have them figured out. My superpower these days. What I am so tired of is that I seem to just attract them left and right. I feel I have a beacon on my forehead ! It’s made me so wary of everyone ? I would rather be alone . Someone once told me as a healer, I attract broken people. Maybe, but I so want a tribe to be loving & supportive. I don’t know what that life feels like. Tired.
My story as well! Constantly feel drained
Your words resonate. The life they live is quite pathetic.
Thank you. I didn't even realize how miserable my ex narcissist had made my life until 2 months out of the relationship with no contact. He left a few of his things at my house (as an excuse to try to manipulate me again). Even his texts turned me into a nervous wreck. Had to call police again because he wouldn't leave. He said I stole some of his tools. They were all in the shed for him. Police said, "This is about to become a criminal case if you don't leave." He told him he is not allowed on my property. Shew. Next day after, Im fine and happy again. Blocked him.
Paula, bless you for coming out with this video. It reiterates with much that I have gone through. Once these evil narcs hone in on you and latch onto your inner light, it's very difficult to shake them off. I'm struggling with the oldest sibling who is a veritable vampire. Thank you for your wise words, and in depth study of how these manipulators go to work. Namaste.
Namaste 🙏
The narc would always tell me I'm "nuts" or "crazy" and that everyone knows it and the Denys any accountability
Thank you again. I cannot wait to do counseling with you!
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I was almost destroyd by one who told me to "hold the light",and insist that there is some thing that holds me back of developing my full potential.
Excellent! I have been listening to podcasts about light carriers, as well as yours, and had kind of picked up in your prior videos an alignment with this. This video certainly underscores what I had been sensing from your content.
What you shared today is also my experience. I’m not where I want to be yet on my healing journey, but I’ve come a very long way. The worst part for me is my procrastination and the lack of motivation. I at least try to use that time and energy learning more about the light and how to avoid the darkness taking me over as it did. Today, it was this video. Thank you for sharing so that I could learn. I appreciate the take aways!!
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Thank you so much!!! This is so true. I’ve been surrounded by Narcissists my whole life. I married one, had children with them. I’ve been so broken and still I rise. No matter how hurt I’ve been. Kicked when I was down, talked about. Smeared by my own family. I refused and still refuse to give up my light. I refuse to be a vengeful person. I will stand up for myself by separating myself. I walked away, I said NO MORE. Now I’m dealing with my own child being just like her father. This is the hardest. But I know it’s because I left and divorced my now ex. I know that he’s never going to stop trying to make me suffer. My daughter is the only thing he has a part of that can hurt me deeply. He’s done that. But I still stand, I still have my integrity in tact. I’m in trauma based counseling and have gotten my daughter the same. Let me say you cannot do this alone. Get professional help… but it has to be for you! Trauma based, ask if they specialize in Narcissistic abuse. Unfortunately even Judges, counselors etc are narcissistic. It definitely is an evil trying to rip all the good, innocent hearts. Religion was another trap. “Till death do us part” is a lie. Being a welcome mat, turn the other cheek is also another way to keep us sheep. Any loving father, creator would not do that. Seek the truth. It’s not what you’ve been told in Sunday school. Let the Holy Spirt, the water, the nature around you every day remind you of your purpose. We are warriors. Standing with the powerful to shut the darkness out. STAND UP!!! FIGHT by Shining Brighter! No fear! May all the strength of righteousness and truth cover you! 20:32
Amen!!!!❤
Best comment in the tread.
Ooooh goody…… hello to you in Ireland … I also have Irish in me.
I just found your videos yesterday on 9-14-2023.
You just have a way with speaking and talking calm and such a delight to listen to.
I love the way you explain things.
God bless you bunches.
Hugs from JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
Thanks and welcome 🙋♀️🌹
I've had 2 people.. with similar toxic traits...ask me for advice in what I knew that they thought I was knowledgeable in just for them to turn around and try to invalidate me. I then reminded them that it was me that they called and noone else for that specific advice and they called me for a good reason! Im soo glad i now have the verbiage and knowledge to recognize when people are trying to pull one over my eyes!