Uthetha kamand uBhut'Skhu, his choice of words and his politeness♥️ I could listen to him everyday... Uyayicacisa kakuhle imessage without even trying so hard...
Yhooo Bhuti skhu hay maan tata we need obhuti abanjengawe elizwen the way olungisa ngayo with love awulwi ndicinga nje le part yovusa ngengoma...True love exist tata siyabona
Hai uSkhu kodwa😂😂😂. I dated someone that I lived with for almost four years and the relationship ended and I blamed myself for it saying that I become a wife to someone before he married me that's why he ended up not marrying me but after hearing what Skhu said am feeling much better. Thank you guys❤️
I did everything right but my marriage still failed. Life doesn't have a formula. Take each day as it comes. Learn and trust that when God allows something to happen he has a plan. Love, peace and light to you.💛
I personally do wanna live with a person before getting married to them. Purely because I need to know them better. When you’re dating and meeting occasionally a person tends to only show their good side. need to know what I’m getting myself into. I need to know the good and the bad before hand. Imagine getting married to someone and learning later on that they’re violent or short-tempered or stuff like that. Nope. It’s also against my beliefs and culture but I’m going to do what I think is best for me. Pleasing people or my family isn’t gonna help me in any way. I know too many people that have gotten the shock of their lives after getting married and I don’t want that for me. I think everyone should do what they think is best for them. And no one should judge the next person’s choices. Different things work for different people.
My husband I dated for four months and he popped out lobola; then after we prepared for the wedding, the next four months, boom we did our white wedding. The whole period of courtship lasted for eight months and we only had sex in honeymoon. Now after ten years I don't regret marrying him.
Dated someone for 10 years and lived together for 5. Still ended up having to call off the wedding 4 months before the date (June 2022). “Lean not on your own understanding.” It doesn’t matter HOW self aware you think you are. Or how good of a judge of character you think you are. We have to learn to hear God’s instructions in everything, ESPECIALLY marriage/relationships. Because we can’t see in the spirit. We can’t see into the future. Only God’s direction can avoid confusion and disaster. I’m moving different next time around.
Bayazibuza baphinde baziphendule your connection is just, hayi wena no Skhu manincanywe😅 😍😍 I’m married for 7 years I love seeing such inspiration may God continue to bless your union 🙏🏾 love from a PE Xhosa lady in the island of Malta 😍😍
Abantu that think pre marital counselling allows you to learn someone’s character 😂 Yho ! Good luck mntaka bawo I think people romanticise anything that is church initiated life will happen and you will learn
Thank you guys, my parents also moved in together before marriage because of certain circumstances. They have been married for 47 years now. So yeah it works out for others.
Never move in with a man before marriage! Many women have been destroyed becos of it. Only very few women are lucky like you.We should live our lives according to God's principle not human principle .LoL. Love your honesty.
Skhu is so wise and self aware. He knows exactly how to articulate himself being mindful of your feelings as well. It's so informative listening to him. You are blessed Nozi. ❤
That was the fastest 26:38 minutes. 😄 Thank you for being a forever flowing spring of knowledge and wisdom. I’d be honest to say there’s always something I steal from every episode with bhuti Skhu in it for my own elevation as a man. 🙏🏾
I am probably one of the few people who believe in moving in with someone you are planning a future with.....my husband literally spoke of marriage from the beginning of our dating. We bought a place together 4 years before getting married and the delay was mostly due to me not being ready. We acted as partners in everything but lived our relationship outside of both our families....it was just the 2 of us figuring everything out and planning our future. It taught me soooooo much about him and about myself. You can't however just move in with every person you date, especially someone who doesn't even mention the future or randomly wants children nje just because niyajola. I guess it's a gut feeling. Personally I would advise people who are engaged even to live together before tying the knot.
I agree with you. I'm currently staying with my boyfriend, we started dating in 2019 & we started staying together this year January. The first 3 months were hard😭😂😂😂,I've learnt alot about him so far and sekumnandi ke manje. Although we've been tested spiritually, but we made it through 😊 we hardly fight now😂😂 nakhona ukulwa kwethu its silly things like " Please leave my kitchen" ngoba umuntu wants to control what I cook yoh🤦🏽♀️ athi ngipheke kakhulu ngifake kwiFridge and I wasn't raised lile that, ekhala we always ate freshly cooked food. I had to learn to eat ukudla okuphelww 3 days ago😅😅 I'm still struggling but we getting there. All in all, I'm glad we took this step. And yes we planning on getting married😍😍😍
@@zeluthandothobekamlambo6513 hheyi!! I know those first 3 months arguments about the weirdest thing. Umuntu afike avule ibhodwe adle what's inside before I finish cooking....needless to say 4 years of marriage and 11 years of dating and that and some things still happen🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Church church, my goodness half the things we do are to please church people. If God knows your thoughts, He knows all your shenanigans but there is always this thing of pleasing church folk. Tjo I love this pair❤️
@@SuzetteKhiba Since I have been living in Europe I find it interesting that these people brought Religion to us, but today is Sunday and if there are fifteen old people in the church it's a lot, most don't even have a bible in their home and they don't pray before eating but they always have food, and live long healthy lives. We are really bad copiers, look how we convinced ourselves that beauty is having white looking hair and intelligence is speaking fluent English. We need to wake up.
Love u guys..it's true marriage is not about perfection, it is about emotional intelligence and connection. Noone is perfect. One needs to b able to understand which imperfections will he/she b dealing with. There will always b conflict between people with different upbringing. The question will always b how you deal with those. How do you fight? How civil are u in dealing with conflict.? As long as the conflict is to upbuild one another, not to destroy one another. All other issues prestige, education , financial freedom is just a cherry on top. Emotional connection is the key. 3 ingredients are needed..Thoughtfulness, goals and family values. Money is just a bonus and a means to an end..not everything. Just thinking aloud.
Truly inspired by these videos. Just the amount of positivity, maturity, wisdom, and learning that comes from these videos is powerful. Every video feels like a mentorship session on how to handle life's challenges with a positive perspective.
I’ve been married for 2 years and I lived with my hubby before marriage for a few months. Firstly because he had good intentions from the beginning and it worked out because I got to know him even more than when we were just visiting each other and we now have a beautiful one year old and I’m blessed ❤️
The way you look at your husband. I can tell you appreciate his wisdom. And how he leads your family. I so wish to meet you 2 one day. The maturity and understanding of self from Skhu is needed for the society to grow to a better society.
I love the last part when you say, in all this you not encouraging fornication. I think more than thinking what people will say, a question we should answer ourselves is if we think God will be pleased by our decisions and actions thereafter
He is scaring Satan away with his snoring and you guys fighting over the melody 🤣🤣🤣I love you guys, May God continue to bless and unite you, thank you for sharing
Sis Nozie, you can sing, better than bhut Skhu,,,thank you for bringing him to the show because he always gives good advice esp for us man, he is a well of wisdom
Thank you Nozi. I'm happy with co-habiting with my person so far, we are learning each other. It was really difficult initially, yoh, the bad habits come out, so I can only imagine how it is in marriage.
When Skhu claps his hand after Nozie insisted that he fart😂😂😂😂😂💕 irealy love Nozies energy iwonder how Skhu keep up with it she is cute though, bt the truth Skhuh can sing😂😂😍😍😍 much love guys
Repeated from 1:45 to 3:10. 10times shamelessly... I laughed so hard. Y'all are hilarious "Adult Activities" I'm on my 2nd marriage to a wonderful guy who was married before. Now based on experience that's how we are maneuvering/ navigating through this marriage life. The wrong premarital counseling will definitely leave you with expectations and fake hope. Hubby and I take time to read the bible; chit chat about what we understand and help each. At the end of the day we just accept each other just the way we are and intentionally love and work together. I like that snoring part, I was told I snore so I'll just tell hubby that I'm scaring satan away...
Thank you very much uncle Sku for a very important point. I lived with my husband for 11years and married now for 2 years all in all 13 years now. I am totally greatful for this topic. I am still learning new things every now and than. I love you guys so much
My absolute favorite couple, period! @defining should definitely have you on Defining Love although I've watched how you met already it would be lovely seeing you there. Keep up the good content.
True. I remember how my relationship was hanging by the thread for yeeeeeeaaarrs!! We eventually did vat en sit for a month, after which I became resolute, it was not what I wanted, that time around I didn't even think twice, my no was a no, till today. God works in mysterious ways because situation forced us to do that one month cohab, little did I know, it was a path to a satisfying end to what had been holding me hostage for six years to constant, indecisive, childish, emotionally manipulative, nonsensical on and off relationship.
Three minutes in and I’m cracking up. Wow. I’m in tears. The fragility... we love it 🤍 The same argument could be used in reverse. Others can decide against cohabiting and opt to go about it differently to preserve their purity, then with the right mindset and right intentions, apply themselves towards making their marriage a beautiful testimony of love. Granted, there are too many examples of failed Christian relationships making it hard to not hinge on past experience. It’s a hard topic bcz I don’t think as Christians we want to disappoint God, forget the people at Church, what about the sacrifice Jesus already made for us? When we put ourselves in precarious situations aren’t we knowingly taking it all for granted? These are the sort of debates I have with myself whenever I’m deciding whether to get into a relationship and I can quickly see which direction it’s going to go. One thing for sure.. there needs to be an updated version of this pre-marital counselling bcz it’s clearly not meeting the needs of the current times. There needs to be a way of safeguarding the values of those who even though they want to uphold fundamental Christian beliefs, particularly around dating and marriage, also understand that you can’t just jump straight into wedlock without really knowing the real-life person. Ideally, dating couples thinking of marriage could cohabit without crossing, in the mind or physical, ✨that line✨. And also imagine a world with no corruption and no poverty and if rainbows actually had gold at the end of them.
I could watch you guys all day every day... You're such a breath of fresh air. Your topics are educational yet funny. Thank you for sharing parts of your life experiences with us❤️❤️❤️
Hi Nozi and Skhu, watching you both all the way from Port Moresby, Papua New Guinea. I have been watching all your videos recently. Nozi you are a very beautiful woman. Skhu you a man of wisdom. You both compliment each other very well. Yes counselling and experience are two different things. Keep on keeping those inspirational videos coming in. God bless you both
Wisdom right here. I believe it’s a personal choice, if the intentions are pure regardless of whether you move in he will just propose. It’s actually sad that we live our lives trying to please society especially the church
Thank you guys for shsring your experience and to remind us that we must stop judging others and to know what I want and yes respecting my culture, beliefs and my religion I love you guys❤
#MemoryLane🥰 🤣😅(12:53 - 14:56) still my favorite part of this video❤ Look at how God has carried both of you guys😢 who would've thought that today things would be the way they are. Ningayeki ukumbulela uThixo❤🙏
"Experience gives you a better view", I like that especially if you have been married before because you can easily pick up if the person will tolerate your imperfections or not. Yes, as born again Christians we are not supposed to stay together before marriage. However, because of different situations we find ourselves there sometimes. We moved in together with my husband and I don't regret it because we made it a point that we get married. My husband honoured his word of the marriage promise to me. In my first marriage, we moved in together when we got married but that marriage didn't last. When I assess the situation between these two marriage, I realized that my 1st husband didn't have good intentions of getting married even though we were both Christians (born again) and we did everything perfectly. When we were married, he once mentioned that if he was not a Christian, he wouldn't have been married because he was going to have sex without making a commitment. Hence, when he stopped going to church (backslided), he started cheating. He started to change and he didn't respect our marriage to a point where he called a family meeting to tell me that "its over" I must leave him. He didn't love me. In my second marriage to another Christian, it's different because my husband values marriage more than anything. Before we got married, we talked about marriage and how what kind of marriage we wanted to have. For example, how we each understand the institution of marriage and how we should both behave in marriage as Christians. We are now growing together and each year is becoming greater than the previous because we both have a desire to honour God in this marriage and make sure that we don't end up getting divorced. So I think it's very important for both parties to agree about the important factors that bring stability in marriage and honor them together. Because marriage is built by 2 people who decided to commit to each other no matter what. I can say lot of things. Thanks once again for sharing your experiences Nozi and Skhu. I love this channel a lot.
How we are raised and the expectations from a cultural perspective drive us to make decisions that are not always the best.. I do think there is a balance between who we are *westernized* and who we are, culturally. For me it was important for my family to give their blessing in moving in with my fiance *after he had asked me to marry him* for many reasons; I live in the US with no family and I am a woman who is strong in culture and I personally knew living with him before any commitment would not please me and the woman I am.. However, I do agree that living together has helped us immensely, along with premarital counseling. We are gradually knowing more about one another ' it's scary and exciting 🥰
Skhu is the realest... It's always a great learning session when he's on the channel and offering a male perspective. I think you can give him a chance to takeover the channel, once in a while... It would be very interesting and funny 🤣🤣🤣 I will never stop saying, Thank U for sharing and teaching from your experiences. Ilali iyabulela 🌸
My first time watching you guys and I love you. Keep the openeness and fun, I love it. I love the part where you say "follow what you want not what makes sense to society"
i never get bored yaz when am watching your channel. one thing that i like is that you are not living a fake life. May god bless you guys and give you strength to overcome each and every challenge you come across in life. I have truly learnt a lot from your stories. Nozi please tell abanye abazalwan that life is worth experiencing not perfection but to make mistakes and learn from them.
Bhuti Skhu I see jealous for d past written all over I love u guys Nozi m love uve been thru it all BT God carried u all d way u guys u r so adorable...
Lol I love how he explains the difference between experience and counseling. I was totally in the same page with him. Many people can go without living with each other as well as not having sex but the disappointment one can have if the experience is disappointing learning AFTER marriage.
Skhu,Nozi another thing "dont lv another person for a reason, don't hv too much expectations abt each other BC that will lead to disappoint Ment. It's not easy not to expect bt don't over expect.
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Your husband is a man of wisdom, we like having him on your channel. that's some good content
Team Namibia in the building 😍😍🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦#suzettekeybah
Sooo wise Frieda!!!!
I agree 100% 🙏🏽💕
@@SuzetteKhiba Team Namibia in the building!
Uthetha kamand uBhut'Skhu, his choice of words and his politeness♥️ I could listen to him everyday... Uyayicacisa kakuhle imessage without even trying so hard...
His is extremely intelligent and I bet you ubhuti ufundile and has a good job.
Sku is too funny, "I don't snore I just breath" Nozi you looks so beautiful today
Yhooo Bhuti skhu hay maan tata we need obhuti abanjengawe elizwen the way olungisa ngayo with love awulwi ndicinga nje le part yovusa ngengoma...True love exist tata siyabona
Gelekeqe💃💃💃
He is chasing Satan away at the same time. Yoh, he's funny as hell! Love him so much! 🤗
Hai uSkhu kodwa😂😂😂.
I dated someone that I lived with for almost four years and the relationship ended and I blamed myself for it saying that I become a wife to someone before he married me that's why he ended up not marrying me but after hearing what Skhu said am feeling much better.
Thank you guys❤️
I think that's the essence of this video ❤️
I am happy you no longer blame yourself ❤️
I did everything right but my marriage still failed. Life doesn't have a formula. Take each day as it comes. Learn and trust that when God allows something to happen he has a plan. Love, peace and light to you.💛
When he said 'The body resopnds to any situation based on how you've exposed it and how you've actually trained it, similar to the mind' I felt that💛
I just love this couple. May the Lord continue blessing your union.
I personally do wanna live with a person before getting married to them. Purely because I need to know them better. When you’re dating and meeting occasionally a person tends to only show their good side. need to know what I’m getting myself into. I need to know the good and the bad before hand. Imagine getting married to someone and learning later on that they’re violent or short-tempered or stuff like that. Nope. It’s also against my beliefs and culture but I’m going to do what I think is best for me. Pleasing people or my family isn’t gonna help me in any way. I know too many people that have gotten the shock of their lives after getting married and I don’t want that for me. I think everyone should do what they think is best for them. And no one should judge the next person’s choices. Different things work for different people.
Please don’t ,how many years do you have for trial and error?how do you hold the other person accountable for anything?as who?
My husband I dated for four months and he popped out lobola; then after we prepared for the wedding, the next four months, boom we did our white wedding. The whole period of courtship lasted for eight months and we only had sex in honeymoon. Now after ten years I don't regret marrying him.
Dated someone for 10 years and lived together for 5. Still ended up having to call off the wedding 4 months before the date (June 2022). “Lean not on your own understanding.” It doesn’t matter HOW self aware you think you are. Or how good of a judge of character you think you are. We have to learn to hear God’s instructions in everything, ESPECIALLY marriage/relationships. Because we can’t see in the spirit. We can’t see into the future. Only God’s direction can avoid confusion and disaster. I’m moving different next time around.
Bayazibuza baphinde baziphendule your connection is just, hayi wena no Skhu manincanywe😅 😍😍 I’m married for 7 years I love seeing such inspiration may God continue to bless your union 🙏🏾 love from a PE Xhosa lady in the island of Malta 😍😍
Uphi ngoku 1111
Abantu that think pre marital counselling allows you to learn someone’s character 😂 Yho ! Good luck mntaka bawo I think people romanticise anything that is church initiated life will happen and you will learn
Girl!!!!!
Yolanda Mfikili basemuncu life will show them
I'm telling you! Life is a war 😂
Girl!!!!!!
Credo Muthwa had a book " A person is like coal with ash, you can never tell if it's hot or cold."
Thank you guys, my parents also moved in together before marriage because of certain circumstances. They have been married for 47 years now. So yeah it works out for others.
Loved that you said for "others'
Can somebody ,who's also part of this Mayaba family please marry me😭😭 Love is a beautiful thing man❤❣
They are all married😣
Never move in with a man before marriage! Many women have been destroyed becos of it. Only very few women are lucky like you.We should live our lives according to God's principle not human principle .LoL.
Love your honesty.
God wants us to marry first before moving in together
Skhu is so wise and self aware. He knows exactly how to articulate himself being mindful of your feelings as well. It's so informative listening to him. You are blessed Nozi. ❤
This channel is so addictive.... By the way all you have said it is true as I did before. 9 years of marriage
That was the fastest 26:38 minutes. 😄 Thank you for being a forever flowing spring of knowledge and wisdom. I’d be honest to say there’s always something I steal from every episode with bhuti Skhu in it for my own elevation as a man. 🙏🏾
SKU upstairs is really gifted... I really admire this guy mentality
I lv his train of thoughts too
I am probably one of the few people who believe in moving in with someone you are planning a future with.....my husband literally spoke of marriage from the beginning of our dating. We bought a place together 4 years before getting married and the delay was mostly due to me not being ready. We acted as partners in everything but lived our relationship outside of both our families....it was just the 2 of us figuring everything out and planning our future. It taught me soooooo much about him and about myself.
You can't however just move in with every person you date, especially someone who doesn't even mention the future or randomly wants children nje just because niyajola. I guess it's a gut feeling. Personally I would advise people who are engaged even to live together before tying the knot.
Agree with you 100%
I agree with you. I'm currently staying with my boyfriend, we started dating in 2019 & we started staying together this year January. The first 3 months were hard😭😂😂😂,I've learnt alot about him so far and sekumnandi ke manje. Although we've been tested spiritually, but we made it through 😊 we hardly fight now😂😂 nakhona ukulwa kwethu its silly things like " Please leave my kitchen" ngoba umuntu wants to control what I cook yoh🤦🏽♀️ athi ngipheke kakhulu ngifake kwiFridge and I wasn't raised lile that, ekhala we always ate freshly cooked food. I had to learn to eat ukudla okuphelww 3 days ago😅😅 I'm still struggling but we getting there.
All in all, I'm glad we took this step. And yes we planning on getting married😍😍😍
@@zeluthandothobekamlambo6513 hheyi!! I know those first 3 months arguments about the weirdest thing.
Umuntu afike avule ibhodwe adle what's inside before I finish cooking....needless to say 4 years of marriage and 11 years of dating and that and some things still happen🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@nolusizodlalisa5573 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Church church, my goodness half the things we do are to please church people. If God knows your thoughts, He knows all your shenanigans but there is always this thing of pleasing church folk. Tjo I love this pair❤️
OMG... you hit it right on the spot! And that's where the question of "What would people say" thing comes in to mind and it destroys us
This is so true hey, we need to let go of that mindset. Not "what will people think" , rather "what will God think".
#suzettekeybah
@@SuzetteKhiba Since I have been living in Europe I find it interesting that these people brought Religion to us, but today is Sunday and if there are fifteen old people in the church it's a lot, most don't even have a bible in their home and they don't pray before eating but they always have food, and live long healthy lives. We are really bad copiers, look how we convinced ourselves that beauty is having white looking hair and intelligence is speaking fluent English. We need to wake up.
Who else just start hitting that like button even before watching😂 I love you guys maan❤😍
Love u guys..it's true marriage is not about perfection, it is about emotional intelligence and connection. Noone is perfect. One needs to b able to understand which imperfections will he/she b dealing with. There will always b conflict between people with different upbringing. The question will always b how you deal with those. How do you fight? How civil are u in dealing with conflict.? As long as the conflict is to upbuild one another, not to destroy one another. All other issues prestige, education , financial freedom is just a cherry on top. Emotional connection is the key. 3 ingredients are needed..Thoughtfulness, goals and family values. Money is just a bonus and a means to an end..not everything. Just thinking aloud.
Love the way she looks at him. Thank you guys for they way you guys keep it real.
Finally a video! I just look forward to your videos. Always great content!
Truly inspired by these videos. Just the amount of positivity, maturity, wisdom, and learning that comes from these videos is powerful. Every video feels like a mentorship session on how to handle life's challenges with a positive perspective.
Hayi marn luhle thandolwenu bethuna..the singing part made me so emotional..yall make me believe that true love really does exists
I’ve been married for 2 years and I lived with my hubby before marriage for a few months. Firstly because he had good intentions from the beginning and it worked out because I got to know him even more than when we were just visiting each other and we now have a beautiful one year old and I’m blessed ❤️
The good intentions of marriage from your man is very important. If he doesn't have them, then your "vat n sat" will be forever.
Oh my goodness!!!!! We’re so glad you two showed up in our feed. Thank you for your honesty and great sense of humor. God bless!
The way you look at your husband. I can tell you appreciate his wisdom. And how he leads your family. I so wish to meet you 2 one day. The maturity and understanding of self from Skhu is needed for the society to grow to a better society.
Am I the only one who likes Nozi vidoes before listening 😜😜💕💕
Me too
Yhuu me too...I just love them...
Tu girl I just smile everytime I open the video
I love this couple they are relevant for me
Not the only one ✋
I love the last part when you say, in all this you not encouraging fornication. I think more than thinking what people will say, a question we should answer ourselves is if we think God will be pleased by our decisions and actions thereafter
Please Nozi😂😂 don't say it as if you're excited.😂😂
As if you are reflecting on that time😂😂
😂😂😂😂
The arguments that come with singing in this house always gets me😂😂😂😂😂😂 I agree with bhuti Skhu, experience is important
The transparency in this marriage👌👌
It's on another level and feels like it's what strengthen their marriage💓
Pjhh 😮😊😊😅😮
U are really taught me sooo much about myself. 😭 all your past videos are amazing. So healing 4 me
He is scaring Satan away with his snoring and you guys fighting over the melody 🤣🤣🤣I love you guys, May God continue to bless and unite you, thank you for sharing
I love the way you guys keep things real honestly it's amazing.
I always believe in doing what is right for you and what will make you sleep peacefully at night instead of pleasing others. I love you guys❤️
Sis Nozie, you can sing, better than bhut Skhu,,,thank you for bringing him to the show because he always gives good advice esp for us man, he is a well of wisdom
The wisdom from this couple. The truth and relatability is refreshing.
My people. I can't get over you guys. I learn and I laugh as always.😢😂
My favorite RUclips channel ❤️
Loving the authenticity, plus the red lipstick looks good on you Nozi 😍💄
Thank you Nozi. I'm happy with co-habiting with my person so far, we are learning each other. It was really difficult initially, yoh, the bad habits come out, so I can only imagine how it is in marriage.
OMG! Great video, especially when you two sang together. I'm so happy you found your GREAT love!
The singing part got me in tears 😂😂😂😂😂😂, I love love you guys.
When Skhu claps his hand after Nozie insisted that he fart😂😂😂😂😂💕 irealy love Nozies energy iwonder how Skhu keep up with it she is cute though, bt the truth Skhuh can sing😂😂😍😍😍 much love guys
Baba Sku is dropping GEMS here, wow!👏🏾👏🏾
I just love the two of you, not only are you intuitive you are also wise and loving....may God continue to bless your marriage and home 🙏🏾💝
I stayed with my husband before he paid lobola n truly speaking i don't regret 💃
Repeated from 1:45 to 3:10. 10times shamelessly... I laughed so hard. Y'all are hilarious "Adult Activities"
I'm on my 2nd marriage to a wonderful guy who was married before. Now based on experience that's how we are maneuvering/ navigating through this marriage life. The wrong premarital counseling will definitely leave you with expectations and fake hope. Hubby and I take time to read the bible; chit chat about what we understand and help each. At the end of the day we just accept each other just the way we are and intentionally love and work together.
I like that snoring part, I was told I snore so I'll just tell hubby that I'm scaring satan away...
Love your comment
@@precious5106 💞💞💞💞
Scaring Satan away 😂😂😂, ♥️
Thank you so much for sharing the REAL experiences of your first year. This truth was important for me to hear today.
I so much love Sis Nozie and bhut Skhu, you guys are such an inspiration
Thank you very much uncle Sku for a very important point. I lived with my husband for 11years and married now for 2 years all in all 13 years now. I am totally greatful for this topic. I am still learning new things every now and than. I love you guys so much
My absolute favorite couple, period! @defining should definitely have you on Defining Love although I've watched how you met already it would be lovely seeing you there. Keep up the good content.
Hay sana uThixo wayethe chu nawe, imagine cohabiting and this song 'Gelekeqe ezonweni'. God already had plans for your life.
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True. I remember how my relationship was hanging by the thread for yeeeeeeaaarrs!! We eventually did vat en sit for a month, after which I became resolute, it was not what I wanted, that time around I didn't even think twice, my no was a no, till today. God works in mysterious ways because situation forced us to do that one month cohab, little did I know, it was a path to a satisfying end to what had been holding me hostage for six years to constant, indecisive, childish, emotionally manipulative, nonsensical on and off relationship.
“but Sku can sing” 😂😂🤣 you guys are so funny!!
Jonga I died when Nozibele was a bit jealous & predicted that “you want ppl to say but SKU can sing” I died laughing 😂
Ewe ewe he can sing hle 🤣🎶😂
Three minutes in and I’m cracking up. Wow. I’m in tears. The fragility... we love it 🤍
The same argument could be used in reverse. Others can decide against cohabiting and opt to go about it differently to preserve their purity, then with the right mindset and right intentions, apply themselves towards making their marriage a beautiful testimony of love.
Granted, there are too many examples of failed Christian relationships making it hard to not hinge on past experience. It’s a hard topic bcz I don’t think as Christians we want to disappoint God, forget the people at Church, what about the sacrifice Jesus already made for us? When we put ourselves in precarious situations aren’t we knowingly taking it all for granted? These are the sort of debates I have with myself whenever I’m deciding whether to get into a relationship and I can quickly see which direction it’s going to go.
One thing for sure.. there needs to be an updated version of this pre-marital counselling bcz it’s clearly not meeting the needs of the current times. There needs to be a way of safeguarding the values of those who even though they want to uphold fundamental Christian beliefs, particularly around dating and marriage, also understand that you can’t just jump straight into wedlock without really knowing the real-life person.
Ideally, dating couples thinking of marriage could cohabit without crossing, in the mind or physical, ✨that line✨. And also imagine a world with no corruption and no poverty and if rainbows actually had gold at the end of them.
Great sis. You've hit the nail right in
Ladies only move in with your partner, when he's got good intentions and does includes you in his future plans or else it will end in tears.
True but it can also be tricky. They can switch up anytime.
@@onlymasie That's also true,people are unpredictable.
As for it will end in tears😂
The singing part😭😭😍
You two are just beautiful❤❤
I could watch you guys all day every day... You're such a breath of fresh air. Your topics are educational yet funny. Thank you for sharing parts of your life experiences with us❤️❤️❤️
My inspiration I luv you guys keep up the good work
Thank you for making my day...love all the way from Deutschland 🇩🇪🌻❤
First time here and I value what you said. "We live through experiences not advise or what you told" really appreciate this 🤗🤗😍
Hi Nozi and Skhu, watching you both all the way from Port Moresby, Papua New Guinea. I have been watching all your videos recently. Nozi you are a very beautiful woman. Skhu you a man of wisdom. You both compliment each other very well. Yes counselling and experience are two different things. Keep on keeping those inspirational videos coming in. God bless you both
The wisdom is just incredible. Soooo informative!
You have such a beautiful smile Nozi!!
"I don't snore, Im chasing satan away" 😂😂😂😂😂😂
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When you guys broke into song🥰🥰🥰🥰❤❤❤❤❤
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I loved it, you guys are a whole mood
I love when ure husband is on with u xx blessing to u 🥰🥰💖🙌🏾🙌🏾
Bhut'Skhu should've been "Wiseman Mayaba" kodwa ❤️
Thank you..ni wise
Your videos are addictive. I love you so much guys. May the Lord continue to bless this beautiful union❤
I really like this convo, don't go in to look for mistakes but to complement each other
Happy to see your Husband in another video. Love you both.love from London
Ndicela uSkhu abekhona oko kwi videos I love his personality 😄♥️ I could listen to him everyday ibingaske ingapheli video yhuu
This was great!! 😂🤣😂🤣 You two are a good team!
Wisdom right here. I believe it’s a personal choice, if the intentions are pure regardless of whether you move in he will just propose. It’s actually sad that we live our lives trying to please society especially the church
Thank you for this comment ❤️
Thank you guys for shsring your experience and to remind us that we must stop judging others and to know what I want and yes respecting my culture, beliefs and my religion
I love you guys❤
I so love you guys❤ and how real you are. Thank you for this video, however for couples that want to maintain purity, living together will not work.
🤣🤣🤣OH bhuti Sku kills me, Nozi please say you engaged in adult activities hle
#MemoryLane🥰
🤣😅(12:53 - 14:56) still my favorite part of this video❤
Look at how God has carried both of you guys😢 who would've thought that today things would be the way they are.
Ningayeki ukumbulela uThixo❤🙏
"Experience gives you a better view", I like that especially if you have been married before because you can easily pick up if the person will tolerate your imperfections or not.
Yes, as born again Christians we are not supposed to stay together before marriage. However, because of different situations we find ourselves there sometimes. We moved in together with my husband and I don't regret it because we made it a point that we get married. My husband honoured his word of the marriage promise to me.
In my first marriage, we moved in together when we got married but that marriage didn't last. When I assess the situation between these two marriage, I realized that my 1st husband didn't have good intentions of getting married even though we were both Christians (born again) and we did everything perfectly. When we were married, he once mentioned that if he was not a Christian, he wouldn't have been married because he was going to have sex without making a commitment. Hence, when he stopped going to church (backslided), he started cheating. He started to change and he didn't respect our marriage to a point where he called a family meeting to tell me that "its over" I must leave him. He didn't love me.
In my second marriage to another Christian, it's different because my husband values marriage more than anything. Before we got married, we talked about marriage and how what kind of marriage we wanted to have. For example, how we each understand the institution of marriage and how we should both behave in marriage as Christians. We are now growing together and each year is becoming greater than the previous because we both have a desire to honour God in this marriage and make sure that we don't end up getting divorced.
So I think it's very important for both parties to agree about the important factors that bring stability in marriage and honor them together. Because marriage is built by 2 people who decided to commit to each other no matter what. I can say lot of things.
Thanks once again for sharing your experiences Nozi and Skhu. I love this channel a lot.
How we are raised and the expectations from a cultural perspective drive us to make decisions that are not always the best.. I do think there is a balance between who we are *westernized* and who we are, culturally.
For me it was important for my family to give their blessing in moving in with my fiance *after he had asked me to marry him* for many reasons; I live in the US with no family and I am a woman who is strong in culture and I personally knew living with him before any commitment would not please me and the woman I am.. However, I do agree that living together has helped us immensely, along with premarital counseling. We are gradually knowing more about one another ' it's scary and exciting 🥰
Skhu is the realest...
It's always a great learning session when he's on the channel and offering a male perspective.
I think you can give him a chance to takeover the channel, once in a while... It would be very interesting and funny 🤣🤣🤣
I will never stop saying, Thank U for sharing and teaching from your experiences.
Ilali iyabulela 🌸
Our special guest! Yay!!!! 💃Thank you Mrs Mayaba! 😀 You are loved♥️ Keep the love burning 🔥💖💝♥️
You guys are absolutely refreshing. Love the content 💖💖💖
Was listening to you guy on SA Fm. You guys are the best. Thank you for your role in HIV. We love you 😍😍😍
The introduction is so hilarious 😂 😂 I haven't laughed this hard in a while😁
Absolutely loved this video so much. It’s about who are you and what you want
I am here for Nozi's hand gestures. Enye nenye is a cherry on top.
My first time watching you guys and I love you. Keep the openeness and fun, I love it. I love the part where you say "follow what you want not what makes sense to society"
i never get bored yaz when am watching your channel. one thing that i like is that you are not living a fake life. May god bless you guys and give you strength to overcome each and every challenge you come across in life. I have truly learnt a lot from your stories. Nozi please tell abanye abazalwan that life is worth experiencing not perfection but to make mistakes and learn from them.
I like how she said "My You-Cube" channel. I love her Xhosa accent.
Trying to catch up 🤦🏾♀️😊 I love your videos. Your content is always 👌
Bhuti Skhu I see jealous for d past written all over I love u guys Nozi m love uve been thru it all BT God carried u all d way u guys u r so adorable...
Lol I love how he explains the difference between experience and counseling. I was totally in the same page with him. Many people can go without living with each other as well as not having sex but the disappointment one can have if the experience is disappointing learning AFTER marriage.
God bless this journey between the both of you and thanks so much for being honest and truthful about your relationship
These are learning experiences..... My girl 👧 you must love ❤️ this guy.... He’s exceptional!!!!!!!!
Skhu,Nozi another thing "dont lv another person for a reason, don't hv too much expectations abt each other BC that will lead to disappoint Ment. It's not easy not to expect bt don't over expect.
Yhooo! Kuyaphilwa lay'khaya! The video! The comments! Kuyaphilisa konke!❤
"Next page"🙌😂😂😂
I love you guys for your honesty❤❤❤
Yaz I wonder what that jokester is saying seeing Nozi so happy 🔥 🔥🔥To God be the glory!🙌🏽