ADDICTED TO LOVE- Why We Love People Who Don’t Love Back by RC BLAKES

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  • Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024

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  • @kizzyrock
    @kizzyrock 4 года назад +169

    This man of God is SO wise! The way he articulates the message is one of a kind. This is how you know it's God using him as a vessel!
    #ForeverGrateful

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  4 года назад +7

      RealTalkWithKizzyRock Thank you.

    • @MsSweets0211
      @MsSweets0211 4 года назад +1

      So true....he's a blessing to MANY.

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 4 года назад +1

      @@MsSweets0211 Yes sis!!! I'm so grateful

    • @cmarie4302
      @cmarie4302 4 года назад +2

      Yessssss pastor Blake's have no idea how many times his praying touched my spirit an got chains to falling,an evil Turning to dust around me...I'm so grateful for this man an this channel sincerely ❣❣❣

    • @anissawhite3114
      @anissawhite3114 2 года назад +1

      ❤❤❤

  • @SimplyQuintessa
    @SimplyQuintessa 4 года назад +181

    We love people that do not love us back is because we don’t love ourselves. Why don’t you love you? Because somewhere down the line someone said or acted like you weren’t good enough. Getting caught up in their approval will never give you back your worth. You have to understand that for yourself. .

    • @neicylove820
      @neicylove820 4 года назад +10

      Whewwe!! You've said a mouthful! So true, so very true.

    • @gigi4874-w3w
      @gigi4874-w3w 4 года назад +4

      Amen🖤🖤🖤🖤

    • @23ieshia
      @23ieshia 4 года назад +4

      Quin Tessa Hallelujah!

    • @solochica81
      @solochica81 4 года назад +4

      🙌🏾🙌🏾Yes sista

    • @BeautifulMorning-dl6nl
      @BeautifulMorning-dl6nl 4 года назад +4

      Thank You my Sister you are So Right. Thank you for this.

  • @beebeebraswell1739
    @beebeebraswell1739 4 года назад +96

    I've been rejected all of my life. Started with my father. Since then I've struggled in my relationships with men. I was married but treated badly. I've dismissed myself so many times to please other people. I identify as a toxic empath. This year so far has been a year for knowing myself and the demons that are holding me back. Thank you for clarity R.C.

    • @PapayaPepper202
      @PapayaPepper202 3 года назад +1

      I bet you go all out presenting your best self every time.

    • @beebeebraswell1739
      @beebeebraswell1739 3 года назад

      @@PapayaPepper202 facts

    • @shariash1537
      @shariash1537 3 года назад +1

      Yup! Mommy and daddy often aren’t “all that”! So hopefully us princess’ can grow up to be queens by digesting the message of RC Blake. My parents were very unconscious and taught co-dependence.

    • @kdmylove
      @kdmylove 3 года назад +2

      Exactly me. Started with the mother, the ex husband and 2 others that I repeated the pattern with. Dismissing my needs to please another. Setting my self on fire to keep others warm. Now I realize so many things. 40 years wasted but yes there's still life to focus on. Jesus first. Time to put boundaries to everybody and everything

    • @gailmiller1012
      @gailmiller1012 2 года назад +1

      I totally understand. This was my life. It is ironic how so many people deal with this same issue.

  • @jackiek4159
    @jackiek4159 4 года назад +42

    I can soo relate to this! When you work on your relationship with God, you'll realise that rejection is your redirection to your ultimate partner! 🙌🏻🙏🏻

  • @sachawilliams4360
    @sachawilliams4360 4 года назад +70

    I surely needed this reminder! My boundaries need to be more solid. My yays, will be yays! And my nays, will be nays. I violate myself when I don't honor my intuition and the prompting of the Holy Spirit. I will not be a toxic empath. And I will not allow anyone to burden me with their problems unnecessarily and who refuse to take responsibility for their own lives, especially where money is concerned. I will no longer be people's safety net!

  • @rickiilatino
    @rickiilatino 4 года назад +32

    Mother was entitled and I always felt guilty. It was never love. I'm at peace with that now. My relationship with Christ heals me.

  • @karrenjoseph761
    @karrenjoseph761 4 года назад +48

    This question/statement is true. I have waisted years on forcing myself to love and fighting to convince them to love me back. Gosh, what a waist of my time.

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 4 года назад +3

      I feel ya!!! Now I see it as time that I learned so it was time well spent. Just keep moving forward, God has something BETTER in store😇

    • @karrenjoseph761
      @karrenjoseph761 4 года назад +1

      RealTalkWithKizzyRock Thank you for the kind words 🙂 Yeah, I cannot keep reliving pass mistakes. I’m pressing forward.

  • @itsme6038
    @itsme6038 4 года назад +70

    Few years ago I loved someone that I overlooked his shortcomings..his laziness to improve himself..but I see it as loving him as who he his..and give him chances to grow mature, get his life right etc..etc.. I give him excuses...for myself.🥴 When I look back..I realized he get away with it because I allowed him to. But,am glad I let him go..

    • @ser1144
      @ser1144 4 года назад +1

      I wish I get stronger and independent to let him go.
      Last night I felt like begging him to come and give me just one more chance

    • @itsme6038
      @itsme6038 4 года назад

      @@ser1144 You can do it.. Praying for u.. May you found strength and courage to do so. God bless u.

    • @yazmynebright5892
      @yazmynebright5892 4 года назад +2

      I struggled with that to I be thinking well were young he may not know what he wants yet don't just give up on him. Na I need you to move on out the way so God can bring me my king. It's hard but it's definitely worth it.

    • @eveheart2876
      @eveheart2876 3 года назад

      That’s what happens when ur emotions are fully invested

  • @pdoll96
    @pdoll96 4 года назад +79

    It’s like you’re talking directly to me

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 4 года назад +12

      Omg! Same here! Rejection from childhood will have you trying to please EVERYONE and end up empty! Smh!!

    • @SimplyQuintessa
      @SimplyQuintessa 4 года назад +4

      pdoll96 He’s talking to us all.

    • @Rose-ld9cm
      @Rose-ld9cm 4 года назад +3

      I know right?!

  • @kizzyrock
    @kizzyrock 4 года назад +172

    Sometimes the challenge makes us want them more and then when we get them, we don't even want them. Smh. Lol.

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  4 года назад +8

      RealTalkWithKizzyRock That is true.😂

    • @LadyChissell
      @LadyChissell 4 года назад +13

      We look for love to better understand ourselves so when you find that you are with someone that you feel isn't right slow down and self reflect. There is a lesson to learn and if you don't learn from that relationship you will continue to attract the same people to be in relationships with. Become the love that you want. We attract who we are.

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 4 года назад

      @@LadyChissell 😍😍

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 4 года назад

      @@LilieAn1 Same here boo!! 😂😂

    • @feliciacarrington681
      @feliciacarrington681 4 года назад +7

      Exactly I think I dont care for many of them I think I just want a friend, but men dont want a friend they sometimes just want sex,money,favors etc...

  • @liltee8363
    @liltee8363 4 года назад +23

    I cried cried cried while listening to this over an over again.

    • @neicylove820
      @neicylove820 4 года назад

      Same here

    • @ayyNUCCCI
      @ayyNUCCCI 4 года назад

      Yvette Jenkins ohhh keep watching past videos , you should def watch his video toxic empathy

  • @melissarodrigues7850
    @melissarodrigues7850 4 года назад +65

    I WAS A TOXIC EMPATHY once upon a time. NO MORE now

    • @faithsandstrom3883
      @faithsandstrom3883 4 года назад +2

      I would say your an empath as i.
      Your not a toxic empath.....you had no boundaries. I keep setting mine.
      Right now my boundaries are on rampage....temporarily want to be alone. Too many toxic people.
      Look up empath....we attract narcissists

    • @eveheart2876
      @eveheart2876 3 года назад

      Yass

  • @irenelynette3845
    @irenelynette3845 4 года назад +24

    This needs to be a book. So timely and I am struggling with each step. Rejection, Toxic Empathy and Acceptance

  • @TowannaLashel
    @TowannaLashel 4 года назад +56

    Break It All Down Paster!! I know so Many Women...Mothers. Aunts and Friends that Use the Scripture as an Excuse to stay In Situations that are Literally and Physically Breaking them..

    • @marymitchell3422
      @marymitchell3422 4 года назад +2

      🦋 I did it for years. But God 🙏🏾

    • @eveheart2876
      @eveheart2876 3 года назад +1

      Especially in the African community

    • @TowannaLashel
      @TowannaLashel 3 года назад

      @@marymitchell3422 I myself did too! I think we all have at some point! #ButGod 👑

  • @kizzyrock
    @kizzyrock 4 года назад +68

    Jesus! I never new their was a such thing as a toxic empath ( I labeled myself as a people's pleaser)because a spirit of rejection. I just got the revelation I NEEDED! My name is Kizzy and I'm a toxic empath! NO MORE!!!

    • @heather6994
      @heather6994 4 года назад +9

      RealTalkWithKizzyRock Amen! So am I, no more in the name of Jesus 🙌🏽

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 4 года назад +9

      @@heather6994 Yes sis!!! We got this!! I thought it was because I had a big heart! No, God do not want is to be used and abused! Thinking with my head vs heart FIRST from now on 😘

    • @neicylove820
      @neicylove820 4 года назад +4

      My name is Queen Neicy "Self" Love and I am no longer a toxic empath!!!

    • @neicylove820
      @neicylove820 4 года назад +2

      @@heather6994Amen!

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 4 года назад +1

      @@neicylove820 Yessss sis!!!!!😇

  • @chelseaspringer982
    @chelseaspringer982 2 года назад +2

    I needed this. I'm 21 years old and struggle with major depressive disorder but also with the repercussions of emotional abuse I've had to deal with at the hands of my mom. I feel like my relationship with my mom has impacted the fact that I've attracted unavailable guys. I've been broken to the point, where I've hurt my own self, where I have seen myself.

  • @MsCristalRose
    @MsCristalRose 4 года назад +16

    THIS TOPIC IS JUST WHAT I NEEDED. I AM 24 YEARS OLD AND I NEVER HAD A FATHER WHO TAUGHT ME THESE THINGS. I AM SO THANKFUL FOR YOUR TEACHINGS. I BOUGHT THE BOOKS AND NOW I WILL TAKE A STEP FURTHER AND BUY THE ONLINE OCURSE. THANK YOU SO MUCH MR. BLAKES.

  • @traumamom4338
    @traumamom4338 4 года назад +29

    My lord this is deep #toxic empathy has nearly killed my relationships and made me miserable. Men should be in jail for the abuse I allowed. Mercy😥

    • @shaqj.8197
      @shaqj.8197 4 года назад

      Dianna Taylor 💜✨

  • @walkinloveonpurpose9496
    @walkinloveonpurpose9496 4 года назад +20

    I pray for deliverence right now over my life concerning this lesson..😇 I truly appreciate and needed this Right Now.
    God Bless You ❤️

  • @ms.angiesworld8696
    @ms.angiesworld8696 4 года назад +30

    Your messages are ALWAYS on time!🙏🏽

  • @sherylhokianga3
    @sherylhokianga3 4 года назад +12

    When U Come From Parents, Who, Had Their Own Issues, Becoz, Of Their Own, Disfunctional Upbringing, And, They Have Never Bin Able 2 Express, Their Own Love, 2 Their Children!...I Know This NOW!!..!..It Was The Rejection!!!...I Have Always, Had Issues, Expressing, My Own Emotions, Such As Love!.....Becoz, It Was Never Expressed 2 Me, By My Own Parents, As, a Child Growing Up!!...U Speak The Truth Here!! ThankU!!

  • @curtistinemiller4646
    @curtistinemiller4646 4 года назад +15

    Rejection and Abuse is so intertwined, A lot of the times people that reject you,have themselves been rejected early on and dont know how to deal with it or ask for help,Being rejected is something that can happen generation to generation ,You can't change anything you won't acknowledge..

  • @neicylove820
    @neicylove820 4 года назад +20

    No coincidence about this message as this is exactly what my therapist and I dealt with today. Big brother, you are one of my greatest blessings for sure!!

  • @sheilamc3420
    @sheilamc3420 4 года назад +12

    Pastor Blakes, thank you for showing up and inspiring us all in God to get thru our biggest challenges! You are helping us all get thru some VERY hard things, and you are changing our lives. I love hearing your Word! Stay healthy and well, and God Bless Us All!!

  • @elizabethtucker7613
    @elizabethtucker7613 4 года назад +27

    Bless you! Yes I love people even when they don’t love back and I do it because my father’s word says love covers a multitude of sins.

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 4 года назад +13

      I'm with you BUT after listening to this, it should be with limits and boundaries!!! I will start applying things into place ASAP

    • @PapayaPepper202
      @PapayaPepper202 3 года назад +1

      His Love not mine.

    • @hildehausikujohannes7664
      @hildehausikujohannes7664 3 года назад

      that will only depeles you , and enriches the other person.

  • @jenniferreedcoachjrose4301
    @jenniferreedcoachjrose4301 4 года назад +20

    Some people get addicted to disfunction!!

  • @PaperMario64
    @PaperMario64 4 года назад +6

    This is such an important video. “I can love you into loving me”. Toxic empathy from religious misunderstandings. Soooo accurate. I have been a toxic empath. It comes from having a codependent mother and a narcissistic drug addict father. As a kid, you survive any way you can.

    • @valerieriggins3184
      @valerieriggins3184 4 года назад

      EXACTLY 💯 I Can See As A Kid...It Becoming A Bad Habit Addicted to Abnormal Behavior.

  • @natnat5978
    @natnat5978 4 года назад +11

    My heart just opened up and cried. Thank you.

  • @elenabilchinski6865
    @elenabilchinski6865 4 года назад +23

    God bless you pastor. Thank you so much. You’ve changed my whole consciousness. 💕thank you you so much for your inspiration and all the great work you’re doing for women to awaken their awareness for who we really are.

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  4 года назад +1

      Elena Bilchinski Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @Lily_1010
    @Lily_1010 4 года назад +8

    I just found you recently, and the way you have explained this is so wise! It just makes so much sense and I Thank God for causing me to find your teaching! God Bless you

  • @donna2693
    @donna2693 4 года назад +9

    You have no idea how much I needed to hear this message tonight. Both you and Dr Reid's messages tonight has saved me from making a big mistake. I walked away from it but have felt so guilty and 2nd questioning myself if I made the right choice or should i have gave it more time because I love him so much. For 2 months I've been praying about it and I feel these 2 messages given out tonight are god's confirmation. I gave it everything I had and loved him like no other ignoring all his red flags but constantly making excuses because he has issues. Man I wish I had of listened to my gut right at the start xo

    • @heavenlyrealmreverb
      @heavenlyrealmreverb 4 года назад +1

      Omg yes girl! Me too! I left my relationship and felt guilty and kinda bad for choosing me and my happiness! Isn't that crazy? 2nd guessing your decision, filling your head " I know I left bc he did me wrong but am I doing him wrong for leaving? Now he's upset? Wait, did I do something? Am I in the wrong?" Thoughts all twisted, heart all broken. I need to fall in God's word. We shouldn't be feeling like this. ❤️

  • @andreamagyar7776
    @andreamagyar7776 4 года назад +7

    We learn it at home as a child the way our family treat us so we belive that love is, until the veil is lifted and we can see clearly. Now is turning me off.

  • @rositayoung9445
    @rositayoung9445 4 года назад +3

    Thank you Pastor Blakes again! I have been feeling guilty because I got rid of 5 people in my life in one week! Now I know I finally did the right thing! thanks to you Pastor. God led me to your video. Earlier, I was feeling lonely and rejected. Now, I got myself together. I suffered with "Relationship idea" Didnot discern the people I was involved with. Until, I got tired of being used!!! My Bible carrying friends Were telling me, you got to love these people. Thats not what the Bible say. God never told us to be a " door mat" I just met someone nice and Im doing good.All of us need prayer but some of us have to be loved at a distance! Thank you🌷

    • @vfree4579
      @vfree4579 4 года назад +1

      I'm glad I read your comment because I am exactly where you worse. I made an agreement and a decision in 2022 not to allow selfish narcissistic people in my life and I no longer interact with them also. I also was suffering from feeling lonely and rejected but I pray and I seek the kingdom first and God will bring the people who value and appreciate you.

  • @hollychavez4340
    @hollychavez4340 4 года назад +10

    thank you so much i really needed this today.. i keep getting sucked into the approval trap needing the acceptance of men that reject me..

  • @taghazoutmoon5031
    @taghazoutmoon5031 4 года назад +9

    Wow. Rejection has been worse impact than Corona virus on my life. It's the most negatively impactful thing ever in my life. Multiple abusive relationships and "hit it and quit it" situation ships left me broken hearted and close to a nervous breakdown, unable to function. Thank God for Corona so I can finally take time off to recover from all the abuse and rejection.

    • @ysmithriley
      @ysmithriley 4 года назад +1

      Taggazout Moon So, if there was no COVID-19 you would have CONTINUED TO LOVE people that didn't love you back?

  • @carolynfrink5569
    @carolynfrink5569 4 года назад +2

    God bless you for this teaching! I am a counseling student and have a client dealing with a toxic relationship with her mother. Everything you taught has helped me to shape my intervention with her, and I thank God for your ministry!

  • @snowqueen24
    @snowqueen24 4 года назад +7

    I did not know I was addicted to love until I recognized it because I was loving people that did not love me back, including my family. I'm really a love addict.😮

  • @kimberlyclay1564
    @kimberlyclay1564 4 года назад +4

    I am so grateful for the healing information that you have shared. I am Muslim by faith however; I find great knowledge and understanding from your ministry. This video has described my choices to a T. I am in the process of healing from narcissistic abuse from my mother to my last dysfunctionship. However, the last situationship divinely brought me full circle with mySelf. I have identified that I have been disconnected from my divine self, I have lived my life as a toxic empath and I have had intimate partners that I knew couldn't/wouldnt reciprocate the love and efforts that I put forth. I appreciate your works!

  • @Writersway24
    @Writersway24 4 года назад +7

    Pastor Blakes...this message has freed me! I love listening to you, May God continue to bless you and your house.

  • @heather6994
    @heather6994 4 года назад +1

    I am a toxic empath 🙌🏽 I prayed today and asked God for help, for clarity... and watching this is it! I need to get rid of my own toxicity, it has only left me alone and down hearted. Thank you God for sending messages through those who love you!

  • @feliciacarrington681
    @feliciacarrington681 4 года назад +28

    Never date to early,nor try to find someone after a narc discard,I did and I realize I wasn't ready, I got hurt again not by him but,myself I realize I'm not ready because I was still love starved, He just wanted sex,and I just wanted a person to talk to.

    • @bobate6030
      @bobate6030 4 года назад

      I feeling like this now.

    • @lauramapani3627
      @lauramapani3627 4 года назад +1

      This was me... feel like I played myself

  • @gigi4874-w3w
    @gigi4874-w3w 4 года назад +10

    I watched this 3x because it resonated with me. I felt like this was a message that I needed to hear on repeat. God has brought me some closure💖💖💖 3/28/2020

    • @Munkeishia1nOnly
      @Munkeishia1nOnly 4 года назад +2

      Me too sis💗💗

    • @texasgradeandmade5929
      @texasgradeandmade5929 4 года назад +2

      I’m gonna play it over and over. I didn’t know that this is what I was doing/feeling in my marriage. I thought he is just difficult because “trash got in his eye” and he can’t get past his own past! I’m always thinking I could show him better. I got a lot of work to do on me!

    • @NoNo-fz2kw
      @NoNo-fz2kw 2 года назад +1

      I feel you. I listened to four sermons by this man today. I stumbled upon exactly what I needed in this season. Thank you Pastor Blakes, and thank you Jesus, for the guidance. Amen!

  • @teznejensel9099
    @teznejensel9099 4 года назад +6

    Thank you Pastor Blake's every video you post online is God waking me up to my reality.Appreciate your teaching.

  • @crystallovinglife5917
    @crystallovinglife5917 4 года назад +8

    This is another timely message. Thank you and God bless you Bishop.

  • @lauracrumbly5320
    @lauracrumbly5320 4 года назад +8

    I am learning that I must fill that chasm which feelings of rejection creates with drawing closer to Jesus and gratitude.

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 4 года назад +1

      Same😇😇😇😇

  • @2888HA0264
    @2888HA0264 4 года назад +7

    Pastor Blakes!! Today I was having a bad day. And then like a breath of fresh air. My notification let me know you uploaded another video. I clicked on the link and I've been smiling ever since. 😊😊. You always change my moods with your teachings!!. Thank you for always lighting up my day and being a blessing to me with your knowledge and wisdom. God bless you!!!.

  • @pamelarice3832
    @pamelarice3832 4 года назад +3

    Omg! LORD I THANK YOU FOR THIS WISDOM ..I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS. AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN. GOD BLESS YOU RC BLAKES. YOU WERE TALKING DIRECTLY TO ME!..THANK YOU JESUS

  • @Theminifamily1756
    @Theminifamily1756 4 года назад +4

    Thank you for being the father I’ve never had I’ve recently been introduced to your channel in Feb of this year and I watch you every week! Thanks for reminding me that I am a Queen and most importantly making me aware and opening doors of who I am.

  • @cindyb.535
    @cindyb.535 4 года назад +3

    Thank you Pastor Blakes. I have this problem with my own family, in specific my father and his side of the family (his enablers/flying monkeys). He has been the centre of everything for as long as I have known myself. To the point where I suffered and did without in so many ways, just to keep the peace and make him happy. He's my father and I have been waiting for him to show up with his actions to align with all the promises he's made and it never happened and never will. I realised just a few years ago that his approval and love really are an illusion and he will never be able to show these things to me. If he isn't in the midst of things, good or bad, he just can't stand it. Even at the most peaceful and happy moments, he will find a way to bring strife and chaos into our lives because calmness makes him uncomfortable I guess.
    I've actually become very tired of going through the same thing with him and after his discard some years ago, i decided that in order to gain some control and to be who God wants me to be, I have to cut him out. I can no longer love a person, even if he is my own father, if he does not love me for who I am, not just because I can pay his bills, give him money at his beck and call, pay for his responsibiities and wait around for his appointments when he can't be bothered. I also found I was starting to get into the same pattern with men I was interested in and who were interested in me. I can't do again. I am still trying to recover from all the pain and lost time on my father alone! I need to live my life free from that sort of bondage. Now that he's getting older, I just don't have anything left in me. I don't really care what he does and dare I say what happens to him. I feel like I gave my entire life to make him happy and I failed, he threw his family away (my mom, brother, sister and I) for something he thought would be better and now he cries to whoever will listen. He doesn't understand why we won't deal with him, or even talk to him. I realise he is serious and he is seriously ill if he cannot see his role in the destruction he has caused. I'm just so tired. I don't have anymore to give to him. I don't even want to because I know he is just interested in stuff I can give and not me as a daughter or even a human being who has feelings seperate from him. He's said so much in his anger many times. People, please don't continue to love people who have no respect for you and who cannot love you back. I don't care who it is.
    God Bless You Pastor Blakes. Please keep talking to us. Your wisdom is priceless :)

    • @vfree4579
      @vfree4579 4 года назад

      Thank you thank you thank you for your comment I hear you I understand I've been there but you're free now❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Noratheskindoc
    @Noratheskindoc Год назад

    This video should have over 1 million likes. It has blessed me so tremendously that I wish Bishop Blakes was my pastor. I have never felt so loved by a man who has never met me in my life. It's true love to give this information for healing. Thank you Jesus for this man and thank you Bishop Blakes for being obedient you're breaking chains.🔗

  • @ruththorpe6402
    @ruththorpe6402 4 года назад

    Thank you RC Blakes What you teach to people should be taught in schools all over the world to change the world and generations in the future

  • @billionairegirl520
    @billionairegirl520 4 года назад +1

    😭😭😭Thank you so much for this message. I was scrolling RUclips to find Matthew Stevenson sermons & accidentally clicked your link. I started to click away but I heard the holyghost say stay here. Everything you talked about, I'm going thru it RIGHT NOW!😭 The holyghost spoke to me in December & said starting January, you're going to therapy! This will be the year of transformation! I've been fighting the spirit of rejection for too long. No more living life without boundaries. You just helped me see I am a toxic empath & now I can begin sharing with others how I plan to change that. God has a special call on my life & I haven't been able to walk in it because of all the trauma I've experienced in life. I am 39 & have been molested for 7 years straight, severely beaten by my toxic mother (I've distanced myself from her) suffered depression, low self esteem & suicidal thoughts but God kept me alive for a reason. My dad preached over 40 yrs before he died in 2007 & I know he was my biggest cheerleader who deposited so much word & wisdom within me. It's time for me to rise up out of the grave & walk in my purpose. No more fear, no more shame! Thank you sir for being like a spiritual father I never had. May God continue to bless you 100 fold in Jesus name amen. ❤🙏

  • @brikari86
    @brikari86 2 года назад

    Going through a 14 year relationship separation. These lessons are literally feeding my soul and mind. Thank you thank you thank you, God is great and I shall pull through this.

  • @nalaniaivao8679
    @nalaniaivao8679 3 года назад

    Just went through an extremely toxic relationship & I didn't realize that I was the toxic empath for a toxic empath who is in a relationship with a grandiose narcissist. Talk about a mess! He became the narc to me. I lost all sense of self & when he broke up with me, I ran straight to the Lord looking for answers & here you are. Ask & seek, it will be found & given! Hallelujah.

  • @trutalk12
    @trutalk12 4 года назад +12

    Right on time, always. ♥️

  • @AshzxQuidYT
    @AshzxQuidYT 4 года назад +14

    One of the points you made about staying with people who don’t love you back, people will stay for religious reasons or because it’s the Christian thing to do. I struggled for years with that. I stayed in an extremely toxic relationship because I interpreted the Bible as saying you can’t leave unless their is infidelity. I didn’t want God to turn his back on me. I’m still married to this man and I struggle internally.

    • @DC-gf8nl
      @DC-gf8nl 4 года назад +7

      Wow, my story is very similar but he did cheat, multiple time and because of Christianity I allowed him to drag my heart around. I am now divorced 3 years and he just got remarried. How I wish I would gave walked away the 1st time. I wouldnt be taking so long to heal from him. He put me through torture in the worst form. And his "Christian" family and friends support the smear campaign smh

    • @brujalinda
      @brujalinda 4 года назад +2

      Inspired by a Beautiful life leave before you get to old!

    • @vfree4579
      @vfree4579 4 года назад +2

      @@brujalinda that's just I said too myself.LEAVE BEFORE I GET TO OLD TOO LEAVE 10 YEARS AGO. I THANK GOD AND THE THOUGHT OF ME IF I WOULD HAVE STAYED SENDS COLD CHILLS THROUGH MY BODY.

    • @neicylove820
      @neicylove820 4 года назад

      @soul sessions tv Bdhrh working on myself if that makes sense.

    • @PapayaPepper202
      @PapayaPepper202 3 года назад

      Run and run fast but with a plan

  • @patriciagaskins5732
    @patriciagaskins5732 3 года назад

    I know so many who are caught up in this situation and I will be sharing these words of wisdom. I myself was caught in this very snare basically almost all my life. Only 6 years ago I come to realize these facts and learned how to set healthy boundaries.
    My mother is like this with my brother and he's 57 years old. I shared with her what I know and she's getting better. She noticed that when she doesn't give him what he wants he'll disgard her like she's nothing.
    Thank you for sharing, now I can share with her on a more depth level. To God be the glory always and forever 🙏🙏🙏🙏 amen thank you God.

  • @melissaslade9652
    @melissaslade9652 4 года назад +2

    Thank you Bishop Blakes. Healing is taking place during this pandemic. The Holy Spirit led me here this morning,

  • @teetrustyah1849
    @teetrustyah1849 4 года назад +3

    Thank you so much this word was so on point you can never fix another individual another human being only the Most High God can do that that's his job not ours thank you Pastor Blakes 🤗🤗😘🙂

  • @jameshogue1639
    @jameshogue1639 3 года назад

    Yes. Time is a trainer and God is guiding. You literally get sick to your
    stomach if you stay in a stuck no good
    environment. It's so clear. Rejection
    or crisis :. Time to move! Great words.

  • @castillobarber4391
    @castillobarber4391 4 года назад +8

    Bro you just blessed my soul with this one!

  • @cathrinet6298
    @cathrinet6298 4 года назад

    I will save this video for whenever I feel down due to the rejection. I am a child of God and I deserve to be treated such as Christ loved the church. Thank you pastor RC Blakes!

  • @MayaNature113
    @MayaNature113 4 года назад +1

    Pastor Blakes, sent my way by God. Today is a very difficult day but managing it now with your help!

  • @RuthlessAries_QueenofSwords
    @RuthlessAries_QueenofSwords 2 года назад

    This man is a lifesaver I am sharing all these videos with my friend. Many people need to hear this.

  • @jennifergarrett4574
    @jennifergarrett4574 4 года назад +1

    This message was meant for me to hear. God is working on me in this department. I finally know what real love is through God. All my life I've been trying to fill the void of not knowing my dad by bad relationships, over working, and being a doormat to toxic ppl. God has delivered me from that so I'm glad your video popped up on my feed. God Bless you brother Blake💯🙏👍💖

  • @kinenebuna1639
    @kinenebuna1639 4 года назад +7

    I’m ready for the RC Blakes Jr. academy and your book Kingology!!

    • @sharmithiya1675
      @sharmithiya1675 4 года назад

      Thanks for the wonderful message pastor. It's just straight spoke to me
      Being a toxic empath and waiting for a validation and love from the person who don't love back(REJECTION) this is an addiction. It so good to understand what's actually happening through you. I sometimes think it's a curse I made like that. But it's not, there is reason for all this behaviour. I understand well through your message today🙏. The holy spirit is the only source to deliver. Thank you Pastor for helping many girls who like me and fatherless. God bless

  • @hildehausikujohannes7664
    @hildehausikujohannes7664 3 года назад

    truly speaking, toxic churches never teach this, rather they teach to love Others to the point of dying for them. thank you pastor for this awakening.

  • @toniahillrobinson
    @toniahillrobinson 4 года назад +4

    OMG... I was just talking with my aunt last night about this very matter. Thank you Man of God for being obedient enough and bold enough to speak God's truth. It is helping in my deliverance and healing process. Thank you and thank God for you. #RenewingMyMind

  • @chasingclouds7101
    @chasingclouds7101 4 года назад

    Thank you Pastor Blakes. I'm now 45 and divorced yet you replaced the father I lost at age 13. Because of you I've learnt to see my brokenness and I can now try to correct my past mistakes. Been so caught up in the approval trap with my ex husband. God bless you and your family always.

  • @S.BloomsCrafting
    @S.BloomsCrafting 4 года назад +1

    This is 🔥🔥🔥🔥 ON FIRE!!
    Thank you so much!!!
    This approval trap for me was rooted in abuse that took place in my childhood
    BUT GOD IS MY HEALER

  • @yawnlee
    @yawnlee 4 года назад +3

    Thankyou RC blakes this was truly a beautiful blessing to hear and enjoy, I always feel everything you preach from within and I thank the lord for the messages and help you send with love, thankyou for dedicating your wisdom, knowledge, and time to us.

  • @deesjourney3284
    @deesjourney3284 4 года назад

    Pastor Blake Jr, thank you for nurturing, educating and feeding my Spiritual Woman. It took several years to break-free of my childhood traumas, demons and bondage. God's Walk and Will continue to comfort and console me on this new Journey. You're among the anointed messengers that sent by God to instill hope, guidance, information, wisdom and the word. Your ministry is so necessary in this day and time to address and unveil the woes, secrets and fallacies in our children, families and communities.

  • @akysa8650
    @akysa8650 Год назад

    Amen. Thank you Lord. I know you are showing me and guiding me back. Thank you for leading me here. Thank you for this man and the words he spoke in this video.

  • @lataynahenderson7947
    @lataynahenderson7947 2 года назад

    I never heard of toxic religion before. I always thought i was loving the way god wanted me to although i didn't receive that love in return which lead me to basically be a doormat all my life. Now that I'm almost 50 and getting stronger in my faith i realize how much it has broken me. I was giving my all and getting nothing in return. I'm now working on healing and loving myself. I still have love for other people but they will be put in the order that they need to be. God, myself and others. I thank god for your channel . i know he put this on my feed because this is actually what i needed to move forward. You discuss things that people need to hear that isn't taught within churches. Sometimes it's hard to discuss or even understand what people go through in their lives but, you explain things so well and therefore are helping alot of people including me in our healing process.. God bless you and your family. You are truly appreciated🙏🙏🙏

  • @Chigirl2
    @Chigirl2 4 года назад +2

    So wise, thank you Jesus for this man of God whom you use to bring clarity to many.
    God bless you 🕊

  • @phedreviverette5753
    @phedreviverette5753 4 года назад +1

    Wise man. You are truly an expert in what you do..

  • @kerry378
    @kerry378 4 года назад

    Thank you pastor. This hits close to home. I'm tired if people believing it's a logical decision to behave this way- it's decades of being broken and not knowing another way to be. To cure it is an emotional and spiritual endeavor, not intellectual.

  • @tongulajones9910
    @tongulajones9910 4 года назад +2

    AMEN!! WOW!! GOD bless you as you teach this to my soul. I pass this video 4 times. Then GOD spoke to me and said watch it!! Glory to GOD!! I was obedient.

  • @delanehopkins8333
    @delanehopkins8333 4 года назад +3

    Thank you so much for this enlightening message and it has given me a breakthrough into my future healing and I am so grateful for all the wisdom in the message.

  • @laneecrowder332
    @laneecrowder332 4 года назад

    Spot on Blakes. I suffered from being rejection but overcame it. You broke it down like a pound. Now I understand why i behaved in that manner in the past. Keep telling the truth.

  • @kelioliver264
    @kelioliver264 4 года назад

    You will Never know what a Blessing and Life Saver this message has been for me today!! God Bless You!

  • @BeautifulMorning-dl6nl
    @BeautifulMorning-dl6nl 4 года назад +1

    I'm just gone listen to this over and over again until this is embedded in my Subconscious Mind because I am So Guilty of doing this in my Life with Friends Family, children and in Relationships

  • @sheeni8129
    @sheeni8129 4 года назад

    I'm in tears. This video crosses my path at the exact moment I needed it. I never knew I'm a toxic empath when it comes to relationships. That's mind blowing. I can't express how thankful I am. I'm in a loving relationship but it starts the get different. I realized through that video that my empathy for my partner is not healthy. I'm sure now that I will find a way to overcome that.

  • @shannonpreuss1350
    @shannonpreuss1350 4 года назад

    I thank God for leading me to you! You gave a name to what I’ve been struggling with. “Toxic empathy.” I hold onto people that I shouldn’t be holding on to. Now I know what needs healing.
    Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @aprilhubbard-gbonegun5736
    @aprilhubbard-gbonegun5736 4 года назад +2

    For many reasons many fail at perceiving themselves as having value or worth to God, themselves, or to other people. Generally, negative self-perceptions develop in many as a result of being treated in ways that cause feelings of devaluation by significant others in our lives. Unless such perceptions are challenged and eventually changed, self-devaluation will only worsen over time.
    Such are the negative perceptions that begin in childhood: they are difficult to replace with positive perceptions in adulthood. Moreover, the best time to examine and evaluate such self-worth is well before any self-perceptions become strong and solidified in the first place.
    Thus, the more one is rejected, the more he or she will reject themselves and those around them as well. One's greatest need is to have ~SOMEONE~ to heal the emotional wounds and to cause us to see our own significance. Looking in a person, a career, or an ideology will never do. This is solely due to the fact that that SOMEONE we ~all~ need just so happens to be the TRUE HEALER...of our brokenheartedness: Jesus Christ. In Him Alone is restoration and renewal....
    "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." -- Psalm 147:3

  • @gaminggrace2024
    @gaminggrace2024 4 года назад +2

    I can see how both me and my daughter (7) have been seeking this validation from my husband (soon to be ex). Wow. Deliver us Jesus

  • @dionnesang806
    @dionnesang806 4 года назад

    An eloquent, educated and profound word. Wonderful lesson using the Word of God. Intelligent , measured and thoughtful. There are things in this teaching that are relevant to me, things I need to reflect on, change and pray about. Also what is useful to consider for us as women is how rejection from childhood from our fathers, impacts on our relationships with men and God. Thank you Mr Blake. Amen

  • @asatta222
    @asatta222 4 года назад +4

    I know how to pull away from it n that's exactly what I did !!! Thanks so much Mr.Blakes
    U n Fam stay healthy n safe🙏

  • @ayana4601
    @ayana4601 2 года назад

    This was me - it’s been a year of doing the work and transitioning from a TOXIC EMPATH to a normal empath w boundaries. I have really allowed foolishness in my life always battling with religion telling me “just pray about it- turn the other cheek”-- I always thought that as a servant that’s what I was supposed to do - just accept everyone flaws and all but no that’s not the way. I’m not blaming God I blame me & my brokenness- I was exactly what you are describing RC- nothing but shame, embarrassment, constant betrayal and no reciprocation.. I was just dumb n broken- Lord unbind me from the bondage of Toxic Empathy- help me to keep my back turned and pressing on forward not looking back again. Christ repair my brokenness- and the destruction that he brought- keep my eyes focused on you and my life and rebuilding and restoring what was horribly destroyed to shambles THANK YOU LORD!

  • @NoNo-fz2kw
    @NoNo-fz2kw 2 года назад

    You are fortifying my mind as I make my way to the city in which my situationship lives. I'm just passing through and have no time. Jesus give me strength.

  • @rosalindjones1432
    @rosalindjones1432 4 года назад +1

    I been running from these videos... Basically running from God.I knew when I forgave myself from being a toxic empath,I would listen again and receive the word that God has given to you. It is a honor to know you and follow you. Tell Empress Lisa I am back on track😂🙌🏽💪🏽🙏🏽

  • @yevonnevanhorn8533
    @yevonnevanhorn8533 4 года назад +1

    WOW! I'm an empath caught up in the approval trap thanks for the enlightenment. Forgave the person that broke me now I'm moving on.

  • @nikkilove6128
    @nikkilove6128 4 года назад +2

    You bless us every time you share Pastor, thank you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @vanessabell7154
    @vanessabell7154 3 года назад +2

    MAN REJECTION IS GOD PROTECTION. BLESSING 🙏🏾

  • @traumamom4338
    @traumamom4338 4 года назад +3

    Amen. You talking to me. I am gonna get freed today

  • @cadeauzawadi1630
    @cadeauzawadi1630 4 года назад +1

    I feel blessed that I listen to your massage it has changed me. They way I see things is different now. I want to say thank you! God bless you and more !

  • @jasminewoods9801
    @jasminewoods9801 4 года назад

    This is good. So much revelation and truth. The only approval you need is from your Heavenly Father!

  • @Alabasterbox
    @Alabasterbox 4 года назад +3

    Brilliant on time word from God. Rejection is an evil spirit in operation

  • @kimberlycarter5317
    @kimberlycarter5317 4 года назад +1

    Awesome R.C.! You know how to research on these topics and put them in the right format to help people understand themselves as well as others...Thanks😊

  • @rhondaricks1544
    @rhondaricks1544 4 года назад +3

    Wow! That was always my question.....why do I attract the same narcissistic person! Thinking my love will fix them. Giving till it hurts....smh