What women want is an eternal question which people say is very hard to answer. Watch this video to find out what they look for in men (but don't say it!)
Very true, I agree. Girls need successful and positive guys or a guy who has potential to grow in future, it gives security, stability for a better life, positive environment encourages a girl to grow in her career too.
Well that's reason I am not marrying. Because I only earn 20000 per month. And girls prefer guy who earn 1 lakh which I am not able to earn. I am planning to adopt a baby. But some relatives and neighbors are criticizing me for taking that decision. Some people are thinking I am gay which I am not. I wanted to marry girl but because of 1 lakh salary demand I stepped down. At the end of day everyone want a peaceful life. Nowadays boys who earn lakhs in months. Even they are getting divorce. So I believe I am playing a safe game. Single is far better than divorce. I would love to be father and mother to a child. I believe boy dont need girl to raise a child. If boys get parents support they even can raise a child nicely.
Anyways, from my experience I would say we need to have a balance...everything is important. I earn ~2L/m, but I never valued going to gym or using social media or dressing/grooming and I am not tall either. So until a guy is rich AF like thousands of crores, then may be no looks are fine otherwise one have to have a balance. I figured it hard way when now I find myself short of time & confidence. I can talk for hours stocks, history, science, natural selection, astrophysics, AI...but I hated going out, social media(the insta type) etc...the thing is that the people I actually meet on day to day basis like the 2nd kind of things.
Seriously after 23/24 no face or looks matters, the only thing that matters is personality, success, and compatibility with your partner & this is for both girls and guys. Well said sir!
naah. for girls looks do matter a lot. guys usually don't give a fuck about their success and want girls who r beautiful and r less successful than them, but, women want men who are more successful than them, this is an evolutionary trait of humans.
@@akshatzz_iitb6052 being successful is like you can find your goal in grave , and some don't understands this humanist language. The answer is in how they treat us . Not what they say.
A beautiful girl can't give a beautiful or successful career, but a beautiful and successful career can give you an opportunity to get a beautiful girl.
Lessons: 1) Dedicate yourself fully towards your goal, stay single untill you become successful. 2) Learn to stay happy with or without anyone in your life. 3) Keep your standards high. You are the "Prize".
Never listen to girls who say, we like this and that type of a guy. Never trust a woman's words, trust her actions. Attraction is not choice. Subconsciously, they always follow an ambitious badass man.
Whatever you are saying is absolutely right. At the time of marriage I had Engineering degree and my husband was 12th passed just earning 600 rs monthly doing some bogus apprenticeship in which he was just passing his time and just to show that he is doing something. I was very career oriented and built my career as software engineer. He was not able to accept my hard work and success despite his resistance. I always say it openly about his unemployment and his whole family was against me even when I was absolutely right. So boys don't put someone's daughter into dilemma just to fulfill your sexual needs. Be a man. Be mature and successful before marriage.
Focusing on career is good. And it's a need too but focusing only on career will not give you success or may be you can but with lots if regrets As career is only one aspect of successful life (give career priority) but never get that involved in career that you are not spending time with your parents friends BCoz at the ends what matters is memories we create
But aisa ladke h kitne india mai aadho ko toh 25 se 27 tak unke maa bap hi paalte h aur thode jo is umar tak kaam bhi krte h toh woh average hi kama pa rhe hote h success toh 30 ya 35 ke baad aati h but tabh tak shaadi ki umar nikal jaati h so shaadi is not the priority in 2021
@@japjotsinghdhir8926 ur success will be reflected from your thoughts and goals in the age of 25 mostly...... success is not like a lottery ticket........
You people agreed or disagree with my words but a women do everything for their partners success. 💪women is support system for success ,vo phir Maa ho, wife ho ya girlfriend.
ive dated a guy for 6 years. we met in college. yes i fell for his cuteness and his popularity in college, ambitious and the best part, how gentle and kind he was. we dated for a while...........slowly i saw his ambition diluting. he didnt have high goals after college. he was spending more free time in "exploring" his passion instead of sticking to one skill....(he is very talented.....kaafi log mein talent ki kami bhi hoti hai, but i can see the big light of talent in him).....in the process his health also went down, and mostly his confidence was not as bright as he was in college. but, i felt it was not a dealbreaker........ slowly i saw he really was not pushing himself and was more interested in spending free time in connecting with people and researching and other stuff .... nothing bad but, definately not focussed towards success. And i am an ambitious person. i like to use my max time to achieve my desired and goals. in the process with him, i started to see myself questioning my desire ... like why do i have desires. he would give more spiritual reasons for why he thought ambition and going after money was not as great. Its not like i was wanting him to support me financially. im very much capable of that. but then if i earn aa certain amount, and want to spemd it on certain experiences, it wouldnt match with his ideas of money. so many things started creating the conflict..... his whole fie started looking elsewhere and mine elsewhere. and all this while, his looks also went down, he got asthama and would sometines get attacks..... but still somehow wouldnt stop occasional and social smoking. he lost a lot of his hair too ....... (though that was never the main reason, but somehow if i mentioned his health to him that he should work on it .......he would admit to that and yeah maybe show a lil disappointment in me that im very bothered about it but he would never really express how much it botehred him. he was really insecure. and i felt like i was walking on eggshells, unable to express my concern. I went through a lot of guilt. i started seeing how he had transformed in to a person i didnt love anymore. and i wouldnt acknowleghe the fact that i dont anymore. that made me feel like a villan. when someone said " love is not that changes with sittuations changong" ....... ifelt under deep sadness that im incapable of love, because i didnt love him for who he is totally and absolutely. but, at the same time, the reality is that i am uncomfortabe with who he is now. and the worst part. i got to know today.... he got a hair transplant and planing to get a nose job. i feel terrible and helpless. so, i really dont know whats right and whats wrong anymore. its a mystery....... that i tried to solve for 6 years. and listening to this video, i feel terrible that yes, thats what i wanted. but, my shallow desires beat my deeper desires of love. thats the most perplexing feeling. it doesnt even feel like its a matter of courage........ or is it? mayeb i was afraid to deal with the consiquences of his insecurities. lack of courage to face terrible things in the name of love? ........ what is love
love and serve , no matter how weak he becomes ,such woman is known as sati(chaste)in vedic times.and such woman are worshipable as they are rare in this world.
You just answered my question I was asking myself from long time 😢......your bf and my story is totally same....Mai v talented tha, but health issue ki wajah se Career me downfall aa gya.....but farq ye hai ki mai hmesha kosis ki mera career aur health wapis set ho jaye.... but is dauran Maine bahut Kami mahsoos ki apni ex ki.... mujhe uska support chahiye tha,pr wo chhor k chli gyi Mera future insecure dekh ke😊. Unexpected and inhuman behaviour
Even in shaadi me zarror aana , Aarti left satyendra for becoming PCS officer , had he been IAS officer at that time , she would have thought 10,000 times before leaving him . So, guys success is the first priority.
I agree with ur point but I think u didn't go into detail..... she already knew he was clerk before getting into marriage but she left him only after her elder mother told her that her mother in law would not let her do.....
@@Quizzingspeed I do agree with you , but if he had been an officer at the time of marriage , no one would have pointed out the clerk stuff , and being eduacted he would have supported her wife to become an officer too irrespective of family demands , that is why eduaction is important , to eradicate orthodox views that countinues to be in the society even today , and with eduaction comes success(in most cases)
That is the ultimate truth. Girls aren't being greedy or money minded when they are choosing their partners. What they really need is a comfortable lifestyle and a man who can give them a life which was given by their parents. Thank you sir for your valuable explaination and for not being biased.
No she doesn't want . Chetan Bhagat does not understand today's women It was applicable on older generation but not now I am a girl and I swear I am not lying I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his expense that's it What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer . Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
@@physicsislove6100 who said success means income only ? It has different meanings for different people.. for a doctor success is saving a life.. for a teacher it's producing good ranks.. for a social influencer it's gaining fame.. for me success is being respected by everyone in the society through my qualifications and profession.. there are tons of profession which might pay more than my chosen one but I find success in being respected. For different girls successful has different meanings..
@@physicsislove6100 Lagta hai Papa ki pari ho jo abhi Paida bhi nahi theek se. Girls want successful boy (Money. )😀😁 They Left their Bf for other successful person person
@@girlssquare844 we all are dependent in someway or other , being independent is a myth We want mother for mother's love Want father for father's love , everybody has a role to play in our life . We should be grateful and have gratitude for everything ..... Rather than saying I am independent. People who say I am independent must have courage to go and become sanyasi 😂
Till clg, girls want guys wid gud sense of humor, smart, fitness freak, guitarist, sportsperson, rich & usually dey stay away from studious & shy guy but when it comes to marriage dey only prefer iit/iim/govt. Officer. I'm not complaining bt jst an piece of advice to guys, please remember you have only two true friends one is ur career & other one ur parents. & a/f being successful also look for girl wid same struggle & success as u hv done & achieved.
Being a girl I personally feel that a girl would be attracted to a guy who shares the same interests as her so that they can connect well. Also someone who has a strong character and respects her. What you have said sir is also absolutely correct.
@Aso Fotida I would rather like to watch cricket and football matches with my partner. Not all girls like crappy TV serials. Do not stereotype, first have a good knowledge about girls. 🙏
I like your thoughts and how you express them. Having said that no amount of connection and respect can replace her need to have a partner who has a high social status. If he's broke then youll simply friendzone him. That's how things work. By the way, you don't know how attractive you made yourself sound when you said you'd watch Cricket, football with him. That means a lot to guys and they'll be super interested in a girl that likes sports.
@@anisha1668 what about physical attraction then... Will you marry a ugly guy..but he has good manners, respects everybody, amazing personality and good job??
6:39 So trueeeeee. I loved when you said "Kahi na kahi toh hero ban na hai". I am so shameful that I am one of those guys or atleast I share this trait that if you aren't succeeding or not able to gain value for yourself, I get frustrated. Thanks a lot Sir for sharing these words 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
Man your lying why are you getting frustrated first off all women already know who can get frustrated and who cannot ...🤣🤣 And the think woman can cheat on a millionaire even after being married to him woman are emotional creature few seduction skills and you can have someone else wife ..
@\\xyz yes.... girls look not matter a lot,.... And boys also judge by their look...its reality but not at large scale,... always success and...life stability matter 👍
With experience I am saying this, Success alone isn't enough. You have to have a hell lot of patience, empathy, sense of humour, knowledge & "talent" to sustain the relationship well. Because once you both fall in love, your success becomes a normal thing. Being successful will help you get a good girl but not a good relationship. You have to have knowledge about how to deal thing's.
@@parthasarathi3855 if I have criticized Chetan Bhagat for this video, then my comment is BASELESS. But I have added my knowledge in comment which is appreciated by 30 people. You are simply senseless.
@@telugubusinesschannelsome fools still think just having a different view makes him or her cool and wake.....irrespective of how stupid that so called opinion is and also irrelevant with the topic.......congo for the flock of donkeys you found...🙏
I would love to spend my life with an Inspirational Guy who inspire me to live like living in heaven . He may not have lot of money but should have positive attitude and successful in terms of achieving goals and a family man . It is good to see some people really care about what girls really want . (hope god will see my comment ..haha)
Financial independence is the first step to self love . Love yourself to be loved by anyone else. Spend money on yourself let the ugly duckling become a beautiful swan and then quack for its mate
@@sandeshrangari694 You must be wrong....taxi driver is happy becaz he need to show that he is nice so that he can make some money. Have u ever heard being millionaire is sad???
Sadly but chetan Bhagat cud not understand today's women I am a girl and I swear I am not lying I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his own expense that's it What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer . Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
I think women don't express their feelings openly bcoz they expect from their men to understand their inner feelings. and I completely agree with you sir.
Han ye sach baat hai Par ye illogical nehi hai koi dusreka maan kaise jaan sakta hai, ye bohot hi difficult kaam hai Par ladkiyan chota chota sign deti rehti hai jab interested hoti hai.😀
What should be preferred: A career based life where you work very hard till 25 and then enjoy... Or A family or enjoyment based life where you don't work very hard, but enjoys all the time??? And, love these videos sir...
@@putinvladimir420 IIT graduates are less than 0.2% of total students base of india :| I am from a Top5 Central University and no people don't just become millionaire by 25. Even from IITs, only top CS graduates get "LIfE sEt Hai bHaI tEri" packages :| These "Tu phodega" youtubers and coaching institutes are running their shops by selling you ridiculous dreams and milking money from you. at Reality is very different. You are free to believe what you want.
@@kryptoknight992 An engineer with a starting salary of 25k and of 1 lakh..both are working hard...what you want to become is your choice...you can't give yourself an excuse ki yrr IIT niklgya hota to mera b accha package lag jaata... people from shitty colleges work hard to achieve that.
Yes, it's correct. Along with it, understanding the lady's perspective on several issues and respecting and valueing her sense of self identity and self worth is equally important. 🙂
And I know women who rejected men who had more money Got Married to a person who is comparatively less successful But those men take care of their family and respect their careers
I think times are changing...now a days idependent girls, who can take care of themselves need a man who can give respect and freedom to them. Such strong girls are even ready to help boys in their struggle journey.
tmhari soch bilkul meri ex se milti he wo ajkal sarkari naukri wale ki wife banke kitchen me khana banati he ….. abe apne aapko udne kyu lagti ho yar independent k naam pe sabko indepe. chahye boys k bhi baat yaha support ki hoti moral physical econo…… arey hato yaar tmhe bata k koi faida nhi hona he theek meri ex ki trah… at the end f boy k hi peeche jana he 😅😅😅😅😅😅
Joke of the day. Will you marry a boy not earning anything. But even if you don't earn anything you will get a boy to marry. Also will you even marry a boy earning a lot lesser than you. But a boy will be ready respectfully to marry a girl who earns lesser than him or even more than him
Yeah, I agree with chetan. Every girl wants a successful man however most of the successful man wants beautiful and successful girls. Rest of the girls please settle down for less or make yourself successful😎.
success is not important for women as it is for a man...Both are not measured by the same scale and parameters..A successful man doesnt want to get his success from his wife.. He looks for how she complements him and fit into his vision of life..
@@chandranem But success is also subjective imo, if a guy has studied hard and got a high-paying job in a fortune 500 company,he's undoubtedly successful but can you compare his success to an IPL cricketer,who gets tons of fame,and money,and a much cooler work for someone who likes sports, Or can you compare these guys success to a start-up guy who raised billions? It's not a black and white thing.
Guys it's not about what girls want us to be, it's about your own life, how you want to live it, just be the best of your self in every sphere of life.😊😊😉😉
Girls only want guys who are more successful then them and who earns more than them and talk about gender equaliy. What a hypocrisy. They treat guys as their ATM card
Sach kadwa hota hai 😊😊😊Very practical and logical explanation...i will be successful soon love you sir aise hi lifetime motivate karte raho sabhi koo...
just adding to the points in the video, being successful requires someone to have focus, sincerity, a desire to make things work.. which are equally important in a relationship as well.. hence being a girl.. a successful man really brings respect in my mind for him since i know at a least some amount of hardwork has gone into his life
There are no successful guys at the age when you look for as a partner, however some traits like 1) One who can lead the pack : LEADER 2) The one who cam stand when all fall : WARRIOR 3) The one who can sacrifice : BENEVOLENT can give subtle hints of successful person.
Yes because times hv changed I am a girl and I swear I am not lying I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his expense that's it What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer . Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
My sister is a pcs officer she loved a guy who was well educated but didn't had job at the time when my sister became pcs officer but my sister didn't let him go. She waited for him more than 3 years and after that the guy cleared ARS exam. Now he is a veterinary scientist. And both are married happily after 30. Ok let me to clarify you girls, if you love someone give him time and keep motivating him and try to take risk and somewhat prepare yourself to at least earn something for yourself.
After crossing 25 yrs of age yes women look for someone who is doing good in life with career and money . Money and career comes first whereas other qualities in a guy are secondary .
Okay. I will be honest we want a guy, like a man who knows how to take care of himself and we should not need to baby him or to interpret emotional sense for him. Stability is the ultimate truth of reality.
Women: "Bbbut men don't show their emotions. They should be open about their emotions. It's ok to cry as men. " Also Women: " Stop acting like a baby. We want emotionally mature men. Not crybabies "
In this competitive world, you always tell the truth of the society. And, in this case, you did the same thing. It is the truth. Success is the key to the most of the doors of a wonderful life. Thanks a lot Chetan Sir for this video. I've fallen in love with your words once again.
But in this video Sir failed to understand this generation's women I am a girl and I swear I am not lying I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his expense that's it What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer . Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
@@physicsislove6100 if you have nothing to do with guys income then as Chetan sir says can you catch up with kele wala he has all the things what you want but you don't and that's the reality so please don't fake the guys with what they want tell them what you really want.
@@tusharsingh1187 I don't mind kele waala if he's well educated (cuz being well educated sometimes doesn't guarantee success ) as some well educated people too earn very less and has the above qualities
@@tusharsingh1187 btw your comment makes no sense a girl would like an educated man be whatever his income because I don't have anything to do with his income but educated is important Also like some politicians are rich but educational qualification nil so obviously I won't like them Education brings knowledge and knowledge brings humbleness
@@tusharsingh1187 Also like some politicians are rich but educational qualification nil so obviously I won't like them Education brings knowledge and knowledge brings humbleness
I agree with you sir ! And I also agree that boy looks only external beauty in a girl. It's a harsh truth. On adding on it girl also looks physic in a boy. It's because they wanna show others look how good my partner is (good in all sense) and I find no wrong in it.
The girl we look are mainly at same level usually.if she get a little wealthier then she may go with him.get someone who is same as your looks and same as your income .this is ultimate answer
As a girl, i can say that women want to be treated as a human being with respect and emotions and feelings. They want the freedom and Independence to pursue what their heart wants and just want the support and encouragement. I can't speak for all of world's women, but honesty ,maturity and trust goes both ways. The benchmark and definition of success can be a balance of materialistic and fulfilment, and it will vary between men and women, so respecting and accepting differences will go a long way.
I understand that what you all mentioned above But why it is so hard to understand what a girl/women is trying to saying? And why girls/women blame us for their problems + for our problems + the life problems? Secondly, If you girls/women share their feelings, and then what if a man also wants to tell his feelings and emotions, then why girls leave us and call us weak? Thirdly, having freedom and independence could also mean being in an "Open relationship", where the girl/women in relationship can kiss, hook up or date other guys for pleasure secretly. Is that considered as Freedom or independence? Please define a meaning of Freedom and Independence? Fourthly, do you only consider this as a "Healthy Relationship", if your's materialistic wishes (Diamond jewelry/designer handbags/designer clothes) are fulfilled? Don't you consider a Healthy relationship to be build on Trust (as you mentioned), Care (from both), Compromise (from both) and Great Personalities (of both)?
Bhaioo aur Bhenoo let's keep it simple .. For a healthy Relationship , you require Understanding between two .. That's all .. Etna Jada Vocabulary use karke 😅 paragraph meh Jo bol rahe hai app usko easy language mei " Understanding " bolte hai ..
My views " CHILL , ENJOY , AND Work Hard for Your Career " That's all buddy Etni bari Population hai , Esme apko ek larki mil jayegi apki manpasand Jo apki Better half hogi .. ❤️
You said it rightly Chetan. About how even moderate success shapes the personality of a person especially a man. And a balance with ego and not allowing it to go to one's head. To have success sit lightly on the slightly and show maturity in life is what most women need.
Summary is boys have to focus on career and girls have to focus on figure. Sir, successful men also not just runs behind the physical beauty of a girl.
@@Anand-ex7oc he is not credible. 😀. How can somebody be someone's who is not his own. And person who is continuously striving and struggling to get better is credible.
At 7:44 sir ne sare boys ke reality ko present kar diya.And 100% you said about culture practiced in society in arranged marriage for happy and prosperous future life before marriage.
Every inch of the length of this video, is completely showered with truth and with very simple few suggestions but indeed someone if follows them, life their definitely gonna be so very much meaningful. Dear Chetan sir, you're most certainly worth calling to be one of the greatest writers in the nation. Really looooooooooooking forward reading '400 days' ; as being one of the best books, yours. It'd still not be much, Matter not how much we appreciate for these Videos that you make for our goddeness and everything ! You with your videos, always come up with great information and incomparable message. Thank you so very much for everything you're doing to encourage us and making us focused on our goals ! Thank you again, wishing all the very best for your new book and Wishing all the very best to all in here ! Suraj Rai
They want a guy with brilliant look ,with handsome package of income ,with a kind heart who can be with at their back and call and what not ...if forgotten pardon
I am a girl and I swear I am not lying I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his expense that's it What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer . He bears his and his parents expense. I bear mine and my parents expense. Now things hv become easier Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
Absolutely true sir..🤗 Every girl wants to be a better life...and nothing is wrong with this..being a successful guy is not for your gf only but also for your happy family..❤️ And also money can't buy happiness..but without money it may make u sad or depress sometimes
Very true, I agree. Girls need successful and positive guys or a guy who has potential to grow in future, it gives security, stability for a better life, positive environment encourages a girl to grow in her career too.
Well that's reason I am not marrying. Because I only earn 20000 per month. And girls prefer guy who earn 1 lakh which I am not able to earn. I am planning to adopt a baby. But some relatives and neighbors are criticizing me for taking that decision. Some people are thinking I am gay which I am not. I wanted to marry girl but because of 1 lakh salary demand I stepped down. At the end of day everyone want a peaceful life. Nowadays boys who earn lakhs in months. Even they are getting divorce. So I believe I am playing a safe game. Single is far better than divorce. I would love to be father and mother to a child. I believe boy dont need girl to raise a child. If boys get parents support they even can raise a child nicely.
Well if you want a girl, who agrees with your proposal, she will be only a parasite to your life.
@@sujay4533 If you are saying truth then you are a very strong man.
@@AbhishekSingh-op2tr well these are my future plans. Let's see brother how it goes.
Anyways, from my experience I would say we need to have a balance...everything is important. I earn ~2L/m, but I never valued going to gym or using social media or dressing/grooming and I am not tall either. So until a guy is rich AF like thousands of crores, then may be no looks are fine otherwise one have to have a balance. I figured it hard way when now I find myself short of time & confidence.
I can talk for hours stocks, history, science, natural selection, astrophysics, AI...but I hated going out, social media(the insta type) etc...the thing is that the people I actually meet on day to day basis like the 2nd kind of things.
Seriously after 23/24 no face or looks matters, the only thing that matters is personality, success, and compatibility with your partner & this is for both girls and guys. Well said sir!
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naah. for girls looks do matter a lot. guys usually don't give a fuck about their success and want girls who r beautiful and r less successful than them, but, women want men who are more successful than them, this is an evolutionary trait of humans.
@@akshatzz_iitb6052 well said Buddy
@@akshatzz_iitb6052 being successful is like you can find your goal in grave , and some don't understands this humanist language. The answer is in how they treat us . Not what they say.
A beautiful girl can't give a beautiful or successful career, but a beautiful and successful career can give you an opportunity to get a beautiful girl.
Wahhh!😂💙
Too many Girls*
So true❤❤
This is true
@Ashok Kirtania............ Waah kya baat hai sirji................ 🙏😉
Lessons:
1) Dedicate yourself fully towards your goal, stay single untill you become successful.
2) Learn to stay happy with or without anyone in your life.
3) Keep your standards high. You are the "Prize".
Nobody is prize
@@jayjoseph-r5t why?
I want become successful for myyy motherrrrrrrrr...she struggle too much for meee 💗💗💗💗💗
I wish you will definitely succeed .you are already a good person because now a days people don't think about their parents 🙏
Family is the first priority.♥️💯
@@luckyboygyana this is not true..
@@PrateekS1411 I wish you make my statement false 🙏
Best comment so far
Moral of the story = DON'T BE A MINIMUM GUY🤣🤣🤣
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Bhutt shi😂😂😂
Unless you have a government job as a backup
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You wanna be like the Srikanth... 😂😂
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Never listen to girls who say, we like this and that type of a guy. Never trust a woman's words, trust her actions. Attraction is not choice. Subconsciously, they always follow an ambitious badass man.
right bro
After hitting "the wall", everthing changes
Agreed ...👍
point!!
This is true af!
Whatever you are saying is absolutely right. At the time of marriage I had Engineering degree and my husband was
12th passed just earning 600 rs monthly doing some bogus apprenticeship in which he was just passing his time and just to show that he is doing something.
I was very career oriented and built my career as software engineer. He was not able to accept my hard work and success despite his resistance.
I always say it openly about his unemployment and his whole family was against me even when I was absolutely right. So boys don't put someone's daughter into dilemma just to fulfill your sexual needs. Be a man. Be mature and successful before marriage.
But I have a question if boys become successful, then why he need girls??.
He has money, he can do anything.
Totally fake comment. A girl can't marry to marry a boy who is not more successful than boys.
@@aj-1549 come on man, be mature, she didn't say anything incorrect
@@atifalie-8207 completely incorrect.
A girl can't marry a boy who has less money or is less successful than her.
@@aj-1549 Well it seems you haven't learnt anything from this video and straight away jumped into comment section.
Value in Society as a man.... This knocks me up everytime I get tired or lazy.
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Men's entire focus should be on his career.
Wrong
Don't drink water and eat then, stay focused on career only.
Chase excellence!
Yess 👍
Focusing on career is good. And it's a need too but focusing only on career will not give you success or may be you can but with lots if regrets As career is only one aspect of successful life (give career priority) but never get that involved in career that you are not spending time with your parents friends BCoz at the ends what matters is memories we create
As a wise man once said "women are waiting on the finish line for the winner".
True bro!!!
😀😀
😂😂.
As a wise women said"Men are waiting on the finish line for the winner"😅💁😎
@@Iam-um5qj lol
चेतन बाबू जितना आपने वीडियो में नहीं बताया उससे ज्यादा लड़कियां कमेंट में Actual needs ke regarding bta रही है।
Thank you so much chetan babu ❤️
Money is honey ...rich man's joke is always funny
Waah bete moj kardi 🤣🤣🤣
Ye v thik hai
@@jaydipprajapati9740 bade harami ho beta
Ultimate truth
100 %
Man with his goals more attractive
Rightly said!!
But aisa ladke h kitne india mai aadho ko toh 25 se 27 tak unke maa bap hi paalte h aur thode jo is umar tak kaam bhi krte h toh woh average hi kama pa rhe hote h success toh 30 ya 35 ke baad aati h but tabh tak shaadi ki umar nikal jaati h so shaadi is not the priority in 2021
@@japjotsinghdhir8926 ur success will be reflected from your thoughts and goals in the age of 25 mostly...... success is not like a lottery ticket........
@Surbhi Mishra Ye kisi book ki line hai??
Can you tell me the name of book??
I forgot!😅
I agree
You proved it......
"Behind every successful man there is a woman" is a myth
The truth is "A woman is always behind a successful man"
Wah kya baat hai. 😀👍
You people agreed or disagree with my words but a women do everything for their partners success. 💪women is support system for success ,vo phir Maa ho, wife ho ya girlfriend.
Waaaaah😅😅😅🙌🙌🙌🙌😃😃😃
If you are successful, woman will be behind you. 😂😂
🙄🙄🙄
ive dated a guy for 6 years. we met in college. yes i fell for his cuteness and his popularity in college, ambitious and the best part, how gentle and kind he was. we dated for a while...........slowly i saw his ambition diluting. he didnt have high goals after college. he was spending more free time in "exploring" his passion instead of sticking to one skill....(he is very talented.....kaafi log mein talent ki kami bhi hoti hai, but i can see the big light of talent in him).....in the process his health also went down, and mostly his confidence was not as bright as he was in college. but, i felt it was not a dealbreaker........ slowly i saw he really was not pushing himself and was more interested in spending free time in connecting with people and researching and other stuff .... nothing bad but, definately not focussed towards success. And i am an ambitious person. i like to use my max time to achieve my desired and goals. in the process with him, i started to see myself questioning my desire ... like why do i have desires. he would give more spiritual reasons for why he thought ambition and going after money was not as great. Its not like i was wanting him to support me financially. im very much capable of that. but then if i earn aa certain amount, and want to spemd it on certain experiences, it wouldnt match with his ideas of money. so many things started creating the conflict..... his whole fie started looking elsewhere and mine elsewhere. and all this while, his looks also went down, he got asthama and would sometines get attacks..... but still somehow wouldnt stop occasional and social smoking. he lost a lot of his hair too ....... (though that was never the main reason, but somehow if i mentioned his health to him that he should work on it .......he would admit to that and yeah maybe show a lil disappointment in me that im very bothered about it but he would never really express how much it botehred him. he was really insecure. and i felt like i was walking on eggshells, unable to express my concern. I went through a lot of guilt. i started seeing how he had transformed in to a person i didnt love anymore. and i wouldnt acknowleghe the fact that i dont anymore. that made me feel like a villan. when someone said " love is not that changes with sittuations changong" ....... ifelt under deep sadness that im incapable of love, because i didnt love him for who he is totally and absolutely. but, at the same time, the reality is that i am uncomfortabe with who he is now. and the worst part. i got to know today.... he got a hair transplant and planing to get a nose job. i feel terrible and helpless. so, i really dont know whats right and whats wrong anymore. its a mystery....... that i tried to solve for 6 years. and listening to this video, i feel terrible that yes, thats what i wanted. but, my shallow desires beat my deeper desires of love. thats the most perplexing feeling. it doesnt even feel like its a matter of courage........ or is it? mayeb i was afraid to deal with the consiquences of his insecurities. lack of courage to face terrible things in the name of love? ........ what is love
You are not in love with him but in a relationship, and that to happen both must be giving girls her beauty,boy aukad..
iska mtlb h uska bura waqt aate hi use laat maardi😂😂
sb esi hi hoti h
love and serve , no matter how weak he becomes ,such woman is known as sati(chaste)in vedic times.and such woman are worshipable as they are rare in this world.
You just answered my question I was asking myself from long time 😢......your bf and my story is totally same....Mai v talented tha, but health issue ki wajah se Career me downfall aa gya.....but farq ye hai ki mai hmesha kosis ki mera career aur health wapis set ho jaye.... but is dauran Maine bahut Kami mahsoos ki apni ex ki.... mujhe uska support chahiye tha,pr wo chhor k chli gyi Mera future insecure dekh ke😊. Unexpected and inhuman behaviour
@@pawankumarmehra94😂😂
This comment section has more emotionally matured people than any other❤️❤️
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Yeep
Sahi pakde
He should be understanding and successful also..looks doesn't matter
The girl should be successful as well.
If a girl isn't succesful she shouldn't expect a successful guy bcz they don't deserve tht !!
Its exactly like like dowry .
I only have looks now, now success.
Looks do matter with other things too.., at first instance people judge us by looks..than other things comes into picture...
Even in shaadi me zarror aana , Aarti left satyendra for becoming PCS officer , had he been IAS officer at that time , she would have thought 10,000 times before leaving him . So, guys success is the first priority.
I agree with ur point but I think u didn't go into detail..... she already knew he was clerk before getting into marriage but she left him only after her elder mother told her that her mother in law would not let her do.....
* elder sister
@@Quizzingspeed I do agree with you , but if he had been an officer at the time of marriage , no one would have pointed out the clerk stuff , and being eduacted he would have supported her wife to become an officer too irrespective of family demands , that is why eduaction is important , to eradicate orthodox views that countinues to be in the society even today , and with eduaction comes success(in most cases)
Bollywood is shite, but good instance
Here the man is sharing his life experience out of his real conversation with real people. Par nahi.. tumhare benchmark to Alag e hain prabhu 🙏
be successful, everything comes as a byproduct later, many girls have different meaning of success, need to find that for the girl you want.
true
Primary GOAL- SUCCESS + HUMANITY
Secondary things - Height, color, beauty, biceps etc .
Success ka definition kya h?
@\\xyz kitna? Wo to jitna aaye kam hi rehta h...
Humanity lol
The person who is not successful won't be able to see her partner's growth especially that hardwork.
Right👍
@\\xyz especially in our middle class society. Everyone wants beautiful and simple so called kam kaazi brides.
Pyar mohabbat Dhokhaa hai.. Padh le Betaa Maukaa hai😂🤣
Baba SSP KA SHORT H 😀
@GAIRIK yep all illusions 🌹
Girls only want money from guys
@@mr.x4766 not at all..
All girls are not like this .some girls
Ye hai bhai
*Half income: Half Girlfriend*
😂😂
🤣🤣
Quarter, half kuch nahi hota. Ha ya na hota hai.
😂😂 wahh
I am glad to hear from someone mature and who genuinely cares about the youth. Long way to go !!!
That is the ultimate truth. Girls aren't being greedy or money minded when they are choosing their partners. What they really need is a comfortable lifestyle and a man who can give them a life which was given by their parents. Thank you sir for your valuable explaination and for not being biased.
Laughed alot at, "mere dil ka kya hoga, mera dil".
Thank You sir!! For your guidance to this generation 🙏🏻🙏🏻
All he said is absolutely right,,..a girl may love a funny boy but she wants a successful husband...
But is she successful enough to be yearned for by her partner to be.? Guess we are never having that answer.
No she doesn't want .
Chetan Bhagat does not understand today's women
It was applicable on older generation but not now
I am a girl and I swear I am not lying
I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his expense that's it
What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer .
Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
@@physicsislove6100 what is your age? if u r young u wont be able to relate to this vid
@@physicsislove6100 who said success means income only ? It has different meanings for different people.. for a doctor success is saving a life.. for a teacher it's producing good ranks.. for a social influencer it's gaining fame.. for me success is being respected by everyone in the society through my qualifications and profession.. there are tons of profession which might pay more than my chosen one but I find success in being respected. For different girls successful has different meanings..
@@physicsislove6100 Lagta hai Papa ki pari ho jo abhi Paida bhi nahi theek se.
Girls want successful boy (Money. )😀😁
They Left their Bf for other successful person person
Agree but for girls it's equally important to be successful so that she can be independent
Yes 🙂
Exactly🙂
Independence jaisi koi chiz nahi hoti.
@@महात्माआंधी Acha fir kon si chij hoti hai
@@girlssquare844 we all are dependent in someway or other , being independent is a myth
We want mother for mother's love
Want father for father's love , everybody has a role to play in our life . We should be grateful and have gratitude for everything ..... Rather than saying I am independent.
People who say I am independent must have courage to go and become sanyasi 😂
The most honest video i saw ever in my 30 years of life ... 🙏❤️👍
I agree 100% .There is nothing wrong in it.
Tum ek larki ho?
I do agree with you😌
@@user-hu6st2pk1w 😂
Sir what if everybody is successful, rich and happy? No body has any issues or bad thing?
Staying true to myself and focusing on improving health and wealth. I believe that a good partner will be a gift of my hardwork and good heart.
Till clg, girls want guys wid gud sense of humor, smart, fitness freak, guitarist, sportsperson, rich & usually dey stay away from studious & shy guy but when it comes to marriage dey only prefer iit/iim/govt. Officer.
I'm not complaining bt jst an piece of advice to guys, please remember you have only two true friends one is ur career & other one ur parents.
& a/f being successful also look for girl wid same struggle & success as u hv done & achieved.
Correct
so damn true bro.
Sahi baat bole brother
great bro .Great lesson you have given to guys.
Sahi bole yaar...
Being a girl I personally feel that a girl would be attracted to a guy who shares the same interests as her so that they can connect well. Also someone who has a strong character and respects her. What you have said sir is also absolutely correct.
Why ask respect separately? When the basis of marriage is love for each other and family, then why?
@Aso Fotida I would rather like to watch cricket and football matches with my partner. Not all girls like crappy TV serials. Do not stereotype, first have a good knowledge about girls. 🙏
I like your thoughts and how you express them. Having said that no amount of connection and respect can replace her need to have a partner who has a high social status. If he's broke then youll simply friendzone him. That's how things work.
By the way, you don't know how attractive you made yourself sound when you said you'd watch Cricket, football with him. That means a lot to guys and they'll be super interested in a girl that likes sports.
@@Iamlegend91 Thanks
@@anisha1668 what about physical attraction then...
Will you marry a ugly guy..but he has good manners, respects everybody, amazing personality and good job??
6:39
So trueeeeee. I loved when you said "Kahi na kahi toh hero ban na hai". I am so shameful that I am one of those guys or atleast I share this trait that if you aren't succeeding or not able to gain value for yourself, I get frustrated. Thanks a lot Sir for sharing these words 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
cheers bro, no one opens up their heart these day !
@@xthetic-abhay5670 ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻
Man your lying why are you getting frustrated first off all women already know who can get frustrated and who cannot ...🤣🤣 And the think woman can cheat on a millionaire even after being married to him woman are emotional creature few seduction skills and you can have someone else wife ..
Girls look matter but awareness about society, finance, relationship with family and responsibilities taken by girl is matter a lot
@\\xyz yes.... girls look not matter a lot,....
And boys also judge by their look...its reality but not at large scale,... always success and...life stability matter 👍
@\\xyz that's natural process
Not societal or financial issue..
With experience I am saying this, Success alone isn't enough. You have to have a hell lot of patience, empathy, sense of humour, knowledge & "talent" to sustain the relationship well. Because once you both fall in love, your success becomes a normal thing. Being successful will help you get a good girl but not a good relationship. You have to have knowledge about how to deal thing's.
He has already said....he is not giving relationship advice....
@@parthasarathi3855 so what?
@@telugubusinesschannel so your comment is baseless
@@parthasarathi3855 if I have criticized Chetan Bhagat for this video, then my comment is BASELESS. But I have added my knowledge in comment which is appreciated by 30 people. You are simply senseless.
@@telugubusinesschannelsome fools still think just having a different view makes him or her cool and wake.....irrespective of how stupid that so called opinion is and also irrelevant with the topic.......congo for the flock of donkeys you found...🙏
I would love to spend my life with an Inspirational Guy who inspire me to live like living in heaven . He may not have lot of money but should have positive attitude and successful in terms of achieving goals and a family man . It is good to see some people really care about what girls really want . (hope god will see my comment ..haha)
That's the definition of Success overall 👍
We saw
Sorry didi god not have Social media
I saw it.....
@Antony right
Yes absolutely ❤!! No sugar-coating.. diplomacy
Straight and blunt thought 👍🏽
Financial independence is the first step to self love . Love yourself to be loved by anyone else. Spend money on yourself let the ugly duckling become a beautiful swan and then quack for its mate
Hey
Having a source of earning & reputation in society .... Parents pround on him = success 🏆💪
"A MAN WHO IS NOT SUCCESSFUL IS NOT A VERY HAPPY MAN" Of course 😂
💯true
😂😂😂 i have seen taxi drivers way more peaceful and loving than a millionaire..
@@sandeshrangari694 You must be wrong....taxi driver is happy becaz he need to show that he is nice so that he can make some money.
Have u ever heard being millionaire is sad???
@@riheli4678 i have seen millionaire and bollionaire suiciding...
" Girls want successful guys" - who doesn't...... I can say one previous sentence from your previous videos.... " Being poor isn't fun"😂
Sadly but chetan Bhagat cud not understand today's women
I am a girl and I swear I am not lying
I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his own expense that's it
What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer .
Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
@@physicsislove6100 😢😢😢 ur so nice...
@@physicsislove6100 how old are you lol
@@physicsislove6100 same bro
@@physicsislove6100 chal hat jhuti eik ladki ladke se kavi saadi nhi karti agar uski job nhi lagi hai toh jhut na hi bolo
Purely apt,boys too should get a girl who's successful,just don't go by the beauty.
Yes 👍👍👍
Then there are high chances that u remain unmarried in india. It also apies to other nations. 😂😂
@@महात्माआंधी could be the chance 😂,but I believe that's how real equality would prevail
Hahah there hardly any...
@@xman6267 there will be many if we let them to do so, help your wife/gf/sisters in daily chores.
I think women don't express their feelings openly bcoz they expect from their men to understand their inner feelings.
and I completely agree with you sir.
Han ye sach baat hai
Par ye illogical nehi hai koi dusreka maan kaise jaan sakta hai, ye bohot hi difficult kaam hai
Par ladkiyan chota chota sign deti rehti hai jab interested hoti hai.😀
How will we understand if u want something speak it.. Don't expect we are not god unless ND until u don't speak ..
Bhai Bhai Bhai😂😂😂
How can someone understand your inner feelings if you don't share them with anyone ??
It may be wrong to expect others to understand without saying something. But that's the way Girl's are. We have to respect it.
Agreed.
Personally I just want a
responsible,
sincere,
good behaved,
fit person,
and friendly that we can share everything freely without insecurity.
Well im the one with more such qualities
And what you can give? 🤨
@@iitian8961 asking me ?
@@aritrighosh2008 aur bataye kya hua
Fit person is not part of personality...it's about genetics
You are absolutely right "Chetan Sir". U are amazing ... As for some people truth is always bitter..
But not for everyone ☺
Right diwakar
@@amaryadav7109 sale
What should be preferred: A career based life where you work very hard till 25 and then enjoy...
Or A family or enjoyment based life where you don't work very hard, but enjoys all the time???
And, love these videos sir...
Work hard till 25? Kahan ji rhe ho bhai? Carreer starts at 25
Bro IIT graduates start their Career at 21 and enjoys their life too...25k me kya hi enjoy kar loge🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@putinvladimir420 IIT graduates are less than 0.2% of total students base of india :| I am from a Top5 Central University and no people don't just become millionaire by 25. Even from IITs, only top CS graduates get "LIfE sEt Hai bHaI tEri" packages :|
These "Tu phodega" youtubers and coaching institutes are running their shops by selling you ridiculous dreams and milking money from you. at Reality is very different.
You are free to believe what you want.
@@kryptoknight992 An engineer with a starting salary of 25k and of 1 lakh..both are working hard...what you want to become is your choice...you can't give yourself an excuse ki yrr IIT niklgya hota to mera b accha package lag jaata... people from shitty colleges work hard to achieve that.
@@putinvladimir420 🤦♂️🤦♂️ I didn't bring IIT to the argument, You did!
Truly true
Open minded person as well.
Yes, it's correct. Along with it, understanding the lady's perspective on several issues and respecting and valueing her sense of self identity and self worth is equally important. 🙂
No need to understand ladies issues as all indian laws are biased towards women and against men. So ladies can chill no worries !!
Money comes at first position then personality, money can buy everything what girls want....
Chetan sir your age is just a number your thoughts always like a young people that's why are a legendary writer. luv u sir
And I know women who rejected men who had more money
Got Married to a person who is comparatively less successful
But those men take care of their family and respect their careers
@\\xyz i can tell you don’t know anything about alimony laws
I am watching this video to be successful and then I leave everything on my success ❤️
A beautiful girl and a successful boy love happend in a second.
I think times are changing...now a days idependent girls, who can take care of themselves need a man who can give respect and freedom to them. Such strong girls are even ready to help boys in their struggle journey.
tmhari soch bilkul meri ex se milti he
wo ajkal sarkari naukri wale ki wife banke kitchen me khana banati he …..
abe apne aapko udne kyu lagti ho yar independent k naam pe sabko indepe. chahye boys k bhi baat yaha support ki hoti moral physical econo…… arey hato yaar tmhe bata k koi faida nhi hona he theek meri ex ki trah… at the end f boy k hi peeche jana he 😅😅😅😅😅😅
Joke of the day. Will you marry a boy not earning anything. But even if you don't earn anything you will get a boy to marry. Also will you even marry a boy earning a lot lesser than you. But a boy will be ready respectfully to marry a girl who earns lesser than him or even more than him
Yeah, I agree with chetan. Every girl wants a successful man however most of the successful man wants beautiful and successful girls.
Rest of the girls please settle down for less or make yourself successful😎.
success is not important for women as it is for a man...Both are not measured by the same scale and parameters..A successful man doesnt want to get his success from his wife.. He looks for how she complements him and fit into his vision of life..
@@chandranem
But success is also subjective imo, if a guy has studied hard and got a high-paying job in a fortune 500 company,he's undoubtedly successful but can you compare his success to an IPL cricketer,who gets tons of fame,and money,and a much cooler work for someone who likes sports, Or can you compare these guys success to a start-up guy who raised billions?
It's not a black and white thing.
Amazingly Said ... So to the point and genuine ❤️👏 ... Muscles and Height can be a FLEXIBLE need but carrier and success has to be a FIXED need.
Guys it's not about what girls want us to be, it's about your own life, how you want to live it, just be the best of your self in every sphere of life.😊😊😉😉
Thankyou sir ❤️
6ft height, fair skin and handsome hunk. Believe it or not, but its true.
100% Agreed! Hard work and Success leads to Satisfaction, which is the cause of happiness and Being happy is the biggest attractive trait in a person.
🙏
Yes you are right sir.every girl want a successful guy 🙏
Shivani you are looking Gorgeous... ❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️ I love you...😘😘😘😘😘
Bro are you successful ?
@@sohelshaikh7475 nahi degi tujhe 😁😁😁
Girls only want guys who are more successful then them and who earns more than them and talk about gender equaliy. What a hypocrisy. They treat guys as their ATM card
Please also make another separate video only on what boys look in girls!! from your experience as well..We will also know 😀
Nothing much... just family women
So easy 😆
@@arvind2192 we keep things simple and straight 😂👍🏻
Good looks, Good looks and good looks.
Nowadays boys are also wanting an independent girl and not the one who burden remains on them.
The girls who are nothing, and expect these qualities 😂 , believe me they are rejected by men who have these qualities.
Sach kadwa hota hai 😊😊😊Very practical and logical explanation...i will be successful soon love you sir aise hi lifetime motivate karte raho sabhi koo...
just adding to the points in the video, being successful requires someone to have focus, sincerity, a desire to make things work.. which are equally important in a relationship as well.. hence being a girl.. a successful man really brings respect in my mind for him since i know at a least some amount of hardwork has gone into his life
There are no successful guys at the age when you look for as a partner, however some traits like 1) One who can lead the pack : LEADER 2) The one who cam stand when all fall : WARRIOR 3) The one who can sacrifice : BENEVOLENT can give subtle hints of successful person.
True dat. Huge respect. It’s available in plain sight but we all miss to see it, somehow. Big thumbs up.
If a girl is looking for successful person she should not be talking about equality 🤔
Bro fifty shades of grey Dekh ke aya he kya🤣😂😂
@@iambond233 Bro, girls are like cars.... A rich man will have half a dozen cars, poor man cant have even one 🙄😮😔
@@nambudiripad6452 LOL.. 🤣😂😂😂😂😂
Abe equality isme.. bhai to kya sare ladko se relationship banae for sake if equality 😆😆😆
@@nambudiripad6452 Apne se Poor girls se saadi karo..she will definitely respecte your status....I am not jocking..Happy Life ka secret ❤️
I am 19 years old and I am glad to find this video, I agree with you🙂,very nice video.
Keep doing this great work
Thank you so much 😀
@@ChetanBhagat1 Sir.
App mujce personally bat karte to Mera shayed 1k bada plm solve ho sakta ha.
But most of the successful couples got separated and got divorced then what thing matters ☹️
Wrong assumption buddy. By your mean 70-80% people would have separated...
Yes because times hv changed
I am a girl and I swear I am not lying
I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his expense that's it
What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer .
Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
@@CrazyGolfers3 not 70 - 80 % of all couple its 70 - 80 % of successful couple 🙁
Even former ias toppers and many stars who do love marriage but after sometime got divorced
@Anil Sikarwar mai wahi comment kr rhi hun jaha zarurat h logo ko janane k liye
Ek hi cheez bolna h baar baar type nhi kr skti
I would love to be with a man who knows perfect balance between things.. like self love, his job, his health etc
Salute of your thought 🙏. Exactly looking in my better half
Not in this world tho
@@kevinparker6216 stop simping bro... This is what the girls don't like 😂
@@subhasha14v75 its ur thought bro ,I can't correct it. I m not in pressure by any girl. My own goal n dream ahead...
👏👏👏👌
If a person has a unshakeable character , I will ask for nothing more
Same…I have a soft corner for people with high intelligence and individuality
My sister is a pcs officer she loved a guy who was well educated but didn't had job at the time when my sister became pcs officer but my sister didn't let him go. She waited for him more than 3 years and after that the guy cleared ARS exam. Now he is a veterinary scientist. And both are married happily after 30. Ok let me to clarify you girls, if you love someone give him time and keep motivating him and try to take risk and somewhat prepare yourself to at least earn something for yourself.
Pagl Ladkiya nahi samjhegi
Bitter truth of life, each information provided in this video is correct
Sandeep Maheshwari sir and Chetan sir are the main pillar of our youth generation. They are preparing us for a realistic mindset.
Love you sir
After crossing 25 yrs of age yes women look for someone who is doing good in life with career and money . Money and career comes first whereas other qualities in a guy are secondary .
Okay. I will be honest we want a guy, like a man who knows how to take care of himself and we should not need to baby him or to interpret emotional sense for him. Stability is the ultimate truth of reality.
Emotional sense of him? Can u elaborate?.. or is it that guy shouldn't be sensitive?
@\\xyz ur telling me?
@\\xyz yeah bruh maybe
Godamn true..
Women: "Bbbut men don't show their emotions. They should be open about their emotions. It's ok to cry as men. "
Also
Women: " Stop acting like a baby. We want emotionally mature men. Not crybabies "
In this competitive world, you always tell the truth of the society. And, in this case, you did the same thing. It is the truth. Success is the key to the most of the doors of a wonderful life. Thanks a lot Chetan Sir for this video. I've fallen in love with your words once again.
But in this video Sir failed to understand this generation's women
I am a girl and I swear I am not lying
I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his expense that's it
What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer .
Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
@@physicsislove6100 if you have nothing to do with guys income then as Chetan sir says can you catch up with kele wala he has all the things what you want but you don't and that's the reality so please don't fake the guys with what they want tell them what you really want.
@@tusharsingh1187 I don't mind kele waala if he's well educated (cuz being well educated sometimes doesn't guarantee success ) as some well educated people too earn very less and has the above qualities
@@tusharsingh1187 btw your comment makes no sense a girl would like an educated man be whatever his income because I don't have anything to do with his income but educated is important
Also like some politicians are rich but educational qualification nil so obviously I won't like them
Education brings knowledge and knowledge brings humbleness
@@tusharsingh1187 Also like some politicians are rich but educational qualification nil so obviously I won't like them
Education brings knowledge and knowledge brings humbleness
Chetan sir always give relatable motivation, what actually a person think.
Yes
I agree with you sir ! And I also agree that boy looks only external beauty in a girl. It's a harsh truth. On adding on it girl also looks physic in a boy. It's because they wanna show others look how good my partner is (good in all sense) and I find no wrong in it.
Totally agree with your points sir 👍 ......along with success , a man with empathy would be a cherry on top !😊
Thank you for putting your view, Hugh respect to you
Agree with you from beginning to end ❤️✨
Very well explained ✨
Thank you 🙂
The girl we look are mainly at same level usually.if she get a little wealthier then she may go with him.get someone who is same as your looks and same as your income .this is ultimate answer
As a girl, i can say that women want to be treated as a human being with respect and emotions and feelings. They want the freedom and Independence to pursue what their heart wants and just want the support and encouragement. I can't speak for all of world's women, but honesty ,maturity and trust goes both ways. The benchmark and definition of success can be a balance of materialistic and fulfilment, and it will vary between men and women, so respecting and accepting differences will go a long way.
I understand that what you all mentioned above
But why it is so hard to understand what a girl/women is trying to saying? And why girls/women blame us for their problems + for our problems + the life problems?
Secondly, If you girls/women share their feelings, and then what if a man also wants to tell his feelings and emotions, then why girls leave us and call us weak?
Thirdly, having freedom and independence could also mean being in an "Open relationship", where the girl/women in relationship can kiss, hook up or date other guys for pleasure secretly. Is that considered as Freedom or independence? Please define a meaning of Freedom and Independence?
Fourthly, do you only consider this as a "Healthy Relationship", if your's materialistic wishes (Diamond jewelry/designer handbags/designer clothes) are fulfilled? Don't you consider a Healthy relationship to be build on Trust (as you mentioned), Care (from both), Compromise (from both) and Great Personalities (of both)?
Tum Log ko Etna Type karne mei kitna samay laga hoga
Bhaioo aur Bhenoo let's keep it simple ..
For a healthy Relationship , you require Understanding between two ..
That's all ..
Etna Jada Vocabulary use karke 😅 paragraph meh Jo bol rahe hai app usko easy language mei " Understanding " bolte hai ..
My views
" CHILL , ENJOY , AND Work Hard for Your Career "
That's all buddy
Etni bari Population hai , Esme apko ek larki mil jayegi apki manpasand Jo apki Better half hogi ..
❤️
@@gamer_572 True, thanks bro!
100% agreed .... & Nothing wrong with it ... Not from girls perspective but from guy's perspective as well.
You said it rightly Chetan. About how even moderate success shapes the personality of a person especially a man. And a balance with ego and not allowing it to go to one's head. To have success sit lightly on the slightly and show maturity in life is what most women need.
@Tarun Melodies you deserve better. 😅
@Tarun KADHEWALA 🤣🤣🤣 Bhai nhi degi..
Summary is boys have to focus on career and girls have to focus on figure. Sir, successful men also not just runs behind the physical beauty of a girl.
Very true, for me, the qualities rn are kindness, ambitious , someone who is at peace with their being, understanding, honest.
Every Girls Have Different Choices but In india
Maa Baap ne jise pasand kar liya wo automatically ladkiyon ko pasand aa jata hai 😂😂
Tumhara kya yrr tum to apni uncle ki ladki se bhi shaadi karoge 🥲...
Credibility is more appropriate word than success, I think.
Just look for a credible guy who is doing nothing in his life for your sister then.
@@Anand-ex7oc he is not credible. 😀. How can somebody be someone's who is not his own. And person who is continuously striving and struggling to get better is credible.
At 7:44 sir ne sare boys ke reality ko present kar diya.And 100% you said about culture practiced in society in arranged marriage for happy and prosperous future life before marriage.
I want a guy who is ambitious courageous focussed on his career and goal and not focussed on me at all
True sir. Successful people also has different approach to life and problems which helps the other to grow.
Yes Chetan sir all of us are agree with you, you says the reality that our parents and grandparents tell us and sir thankyou for giving us direction.
Every inch of the length of this video, is completely showered with truth and with very simple few suggestions but indeed someone if follows them, life their definitely gonna be so very much meaningful.
Dear Chetan sir, you're most certainly worth calling to be one of the greatest writers in the nation.
Really looooooooooooking forward reading '400 days' ; as being one of the best books, yours.
It'd still not be much, Matter not how much we appreciate for these Videos that you make for our goddeness and everything !
You with your videos, always come up with great information and incomparable message.
Thank you so very much for everything you're doing to encourage us and making us focused on our goals !
Thank you again, wishing all the very best for your new book and Wishing all the very best to all in here !
Suraj Rai
They want a guy with brilliant look ,with handsome package of income ,with a kind heart who can be with at their back and call and what not ...if forgotten pardon
You are unpardoned
@@amarkantkumar4233
Thank you please man
I am a girl and I swear I am not lying
I hv nothing to do with guys income ,it should be that much in order to bear his expense that's it
What I really want is a loving caring obviously understanding the only one in front of whom I can open my heart be so emotionally attached and a honest smile. Even sense of humor does not matter he can crack his lame jokes cuz I laugh on even lame jokes.Thats it a very honest answer .
He bears his and his parents expense. I bear mine and my parents expense. Now things hv become easier
Today and in coming years majority women will definitely hv this mentality .
@@physicsislove6100
If that be the case ,you are a so gracious lady .Hope you will get your desired one .God bless
Thanks Sir to educating us. Finally we have here someone who let understands us the both side pictures.
My pleasure
A successful guy who can maintain a balance in life and know how to respect a women
Near perfection
Madam money bhul gayi
Wonderful 💯👌
Ye alg se respect woman respect ky bolte h mjhe aj tk smjh ni aya..are yr sbki respect kre as simple as koi v ho.
@@ajayshah5806 Yeh feminism wala respect hai
Absolutely true sir..🤗
Every girl wants to be a better life...and nothing is wrong with this..being a successful guy is not for your gf only but also for your happy family..❤️
And also money can't buy happiness..but without money it may make u sad or depress sometimes
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