The don'ts: 00:00 Intro 00:54 1. Don’t Fear Change 02:01 2. Don’t sweat the small stuff 02:44 3. Don’t value others opinion above your own 03:40 4. Don’t seek revenge 04:27 5. Don’t start from behind 05:12 6. Don’t be so reachable 06:02 7. Don’t have an opinion 06:35 8. Don’t look for outside approval
how do u really differentiate between point 3 and point 8, pls elaborate. stoicism is so similar to minimalism according to me, it wud be nice to see a short video on how to integrate these in our lives. TIA.
You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
@@margaretjohnson6259 Indeed. Also, errantly, I bit my mule and kicked my dog. Both reciprocated in kind and it was quite unpleasant. Thus I have concluded that the core tenets of stoicism are empirically valid.
You don't need to kick the mule or bite the dog. You can just shoot either one. It's not revenge, it's simply practicality. We don't let dogs run around biting people repeatedly.
''It seems like I'm high, but baby I'm crawling, through the unbearable days that I threw away But I should have savoured. The flaxen light off of the dying wheat. Your rye whiskey mouth and you dandelion teeths. This is the Golden Age'.' - Cracker
I realize my dad was the ultimate stoic and brief in his remarks: He taught me not to waste half my life on what others think. He taught me to “consider the source” when receiving criticism. When he pushed me to become a broker and not just a salesperson (in real estate) and I asked him why when the men I worked with discouraged it and said it might encourage more litigation….his one word answer was “options.” Good grief, I miss him.
Im realizing the same about my father. The best advice he gave me about not understanding the actions of others, he simply responded “u don’t want to, bc that means ur like them.” Brilliant! He had a KISS motto, I miss him too… maybe they are friends up there 😊
Number 6. I have been told all my adult life that im not reachable enough on my phone or in daily life, that i need to step it up and join in and start living. I have a great life, just not the one everyone else think i should have. Thanks for the motivation!
Same boat! I am also quieter in meetings, unless I have a point folks are totally missing, people initially thought I was disinterested, but at the end of projects/ end of the year, it was the work put in that mattered, rather than the non stop urge to talk..
@@prajwalshetty9809 When I put a point across in meetings, it's often ignored because I'm not shouting. I don't care either way though, I'm still getting paid the same no matter what. Being right or wrong at work doesn't concern me anymore, what is important is that I'm a good father and enjoy my life.
Living in an age of social media where we’re constantly aware of tragedies and politics, it’s nice to hear that someone say, we don’t have to dwell or be furious about these things 24/7.
@@TingTingalingy no but we really have to be paying attention tho, most of everyone’s rights are being revoked in the states 💀💀💀 I mean I do kinda feel like running away so maybe I’ll do that lol
I'm not even a stoic. But I already practicing these don'ts since a long time ago. I also practicing JOMO (Joy of Missing out). Maybe because I'm an introvert. I like to think and focus on something that I can control or I find it interesting/knowledgeable or make me feel happy & calm. Thanks for making this video. I hope I won't be the only person practicing this. Stop wasting our emotion & energy for something that we can't control. Life is too beautiful and too short for that. ❤️ The only person who can make you happy today is yourself, don't let other people take away your self-worth, your happiness, your self-love. Every person is unique and beautiful in their own way, including YOU.
JOMO sounds like a 'narrative' you've created for yourself to justify your avoidance of social settings? Make sure you're not making excuses for something that you need to pay attention to.. such as anxiety issues.
I love listening to this guy. He sums things up so well there’s no fluff or fat in his videos. It makes you focus on the core ideas and gets the message over so well. Could listen to this all day.
in a sense, it's a very stoic presentation of the concepts. If nothing else, stoicism is a philosophy that boils down to "focus on what matters", and then answering the question of "what matters?"
@@twally87 - It's all quotes of someone telling you how to think and live. I don't think that's a very stoic presentation of how not to live according to other people.
I totally feel this. The moment I fell in love with philosophy and similarly with biology, neurology and psychology, was the moment I began to explore it in conversation with friends and family. Realising that most of these things that impacted me also impact those around me made me realise how universally important and useful studying and enjoying things such as philosophy can be.
If you enjoy challenging ideas and if mastery and masculinity are also subjects that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos shared on the Mastery Order Channel to challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood and to become the kind of man you would admire and look up to. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your points of view. All the best to you!
Ryan I wanna say, thank you. I've heard about Seneca once in school and never cared who he was. Then when on a self help binge I saw your books in Indigos (major bookstore in Canada). Never got one but also never forgot it. Then I found your RUclips channel and watched yo video Three Stoic Mantras. I got a copy of Meditations that I've read 4 times, the Gregory Hays translation. Thanks to you, I've survived a heartbreak, a legal conflict, family drama, and much more. So thank you Ryan, cause I never would have been where I am without the Stoic philosophy, and I wouldn't have given a damn about Stoic philosophy if not for that one video I saw of yours. I live by Memento Mori and Amor Fati on a daily basis now, not perfectly, but I'm better than I was
I'm 33 I have been following your material for at least a decade before I knew, little did I know I was apart of a phenomena of men/women seeking for truth and personal development. Thank you
A few months ago, a friend of mine asked my opinion on a touchy political subject. I responded that because I hadn't personally been presented with a situation where I had to consider it, I'd never given it enough significant thought to form an opinion. They were completely flabbergasted at the idea that I didn't have an opinion on what to them was a very polarizing subject.
It's very heartening to realize that I've already been practicing a lot of these aspects of self on my own. I've come to these realizations the hard way, through life and experiences and self-reflection without having seriously studied stoic philosophy. Having these points all laid out like this and that a lot of them I follow but others are somewhat new to me or need to be reinforced also makes me realize that I've still a long way to go and I will continue to learn and grow. Thank you for making this video, it has been very informative. I should start to pursue stoic philosophy in earnest and more in-depth going forward.
As the video went on and the presenter spoke and listed these things I was surprised to feel the same way. At the start of the pandemic (as a physician in charge of one of the units) isolation for me not just became a physical matter but also an interpersonal one. I was able to be alone with my thoughts and for some reason I picked up a notebook and just started writing. Grabbed my phone and just recorded rants about my ethic/beliefs/everything and I would go back and question them. I also stopped talking and started listening. As the months went by I realized there was so much fluff that was coming from other people, fluff I was creating myself and that a lot of these things didn't matter in my life and as the presenter said "was making me miserable'. I stopped caring about other people's small talk, pre-fabricated opinions and their small peeves such as gossip, nagging or just general complaining. I not only stopped verbally complaining myself but my mind would just automatically take incoming information and sort it into important or useful and the rest was immediately thrown out. Of course I would just be pleasant enough to not be disrespectful. People noticed this change in my lack of requiring daily validation or giving it and eventually went away. The very few people that stayed are the ones who I can openly debate and exchange ideas that are meaningful to me. This dragged on too long, I realize I am journaling my thoughts into a reply. It's a never ending thing, there is always more to improve.
Thankful that I ran upon this channel; I've been practicing Stoicism pretty much since the beginning of the pandemic, and it's changed my mindset greatly on how I deal with other people, situations, and most importantly, myself. It's a daily practice that I continue to this day, and I feel much more relieved and stress free than how I was before I started practicing. A lot of things that I would let get to me or I'd react to negatively, I've learned to be more patient, resilient, and in control of it all. My saying nowadays is 'control the approach, not the outcome': you can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.
When I was in high school in Italy I had to study Latin for 5 years. Initially I hated it. In the summer time, I had to translate some classics ("versioni"). I did not enjoy it, imagine summer in Italy. Till one day I encountered an exercise with 20 one-liners from Seneca. I remember scanning them and my whole body had a strange resonance. A vibration that I still feel when I read these great thinkers. He became my favorite latin author and that summer I translated everything I could find from him. Translating each sentence from him was like deciphering life itself.
When i was younger philosophers seemed like just fleeting unsecure people. But this video from a confident person makes the point much more digestible.
Thanks for your work. I’m a recovered catholic and thru my experiences I came across the gnostics and on believe they had was that to know god , know yourself. God is in you and you don’t need a church or popes. Then I read about Seneca and life really got clearer. Being a stoic makes life so much easier. There always are and forever will be struggles but how I respond or not is up to me. Always glad to see your posts. Thanks
I worked on the gnostics recently and it's impressive how far away from dogma their thinking is. Certainly eye opening. But there's a whole range of reaction to Christ, and all of it is distant to the original events. Hope you find something authentic for yourself. I'm an organist full time and can't stand the catholic church. Or Christianity generally. Too much pollution in Christ's original teachings. But what we'd call the og Christ has a lot more value than the catholic church's teachings.. like holy shit. I'm rambling and generalizing-- take care friend.
Inam older generation and I remember my grandparents giving me lessons being stoic in life -control mind discipline apply common sence question everything even urself be flexible and work !!And I am so glad that young ppl finding stoic principles & apply in their life.
"All things are born from change." We live in a world where too many people are soft and fearful. My husband and I moved to Wyoming specifically because it was a state where people were tough and resilient. What a difference their example has made in our lives.
The world is also changing more, and more frequently, than ever before. As someone who's never been bothered much by change and I adapt quickly, it is even getting to me at this point. People aren't weak for succumbing to the stress.
I recognized decades ago that my nature was stoic by no conscious decision of my own. However, I received bad input about what a stoic is. I had let myself be convinced that there was something wrong with me. I didn’t examine it further and did not know that there were other people practicing stoicism as a method of personal growth. It has been rewarding to stumble upon this video; to free myself of the opinions of others (and of myself) and to actively engage in a philosophy that is appropriate for my nature.
In this digital age, I'm starting to see the immense value in #7 more than ever. I hope more people are willing to start letting clickbait and culture-war nonsense drift past without getting so caught up in these distractions, which have absolutely zero impact on our daily lives.
Stoicism ... made me a better person. Thanks for the books & vids 🥂👏🏼 “ just have to let it go & not get worked up / don’t be too reachable / don’t look for outside approval “ ... that sunk in for me.
This was your best video yet. At least for me because I needed to hear this. It is easier to not do something than to do it. Life is not about the path of least resistance but sometimes it is the best idea. Thank you Daily Stoic.
I was stoic and I know it. Stoicism mixed with Christianity makes you a very powerful man. It's changed my life. Your thoughts are what can make you or break you
I pass these videos on to everybody I know going though tough times. Why, because this give you neutral, principle base, advise. Great foundation, for what to look into for a deep dive into serious study. Thank you for producing these videos.
The reachability thing is so true, what you say. I'm quite self-disciplined & have always loved rising early, watching the sunrise, planning my day no matter how average. I find there are times when days can go by, nothing much happening, i'm just getting on quietly with usual daily life. And NOT engaging with timewasters, scammers, ultra-gossips who drain me so. 👍💙
Thanks, I needed these reminders. My current life is a mess and I feel like I don't have any grip on things that I know are important. Like I was mentally paralyzed, watching my life slowly drift by. I want to change. I need to change.
Buddhism is aware of change via the concept of impermanence: everything changes, is always in motion toward another version of itself. And similarly, the law of the conservation of matter tells us that matter can be neither created nor destroyed. The atoms our bodies are made from have always existed and will always exist in some form. We are stardust, we are changing, we will always exist.
1. Don’t Fear Change 2. Don’t sweat the small stuff 3. Don’t value others opinion above your own 4. Don’t seek revenge 5. Don’t start from behind 6. Don’t be so reachable 7. Don’t have an opinion 8. Don’t look for outside approval
This is great advice. Particularly not being reachable has helped me a lot. Turn off all those notifications and the little icon that shows how many emails you have. Life-changing!
I love stoic philosophy. It is a way of life I have adopted in my life unconsciously for a very long time. This video is a great refresher and establisher of core parts that I wasn't aware of. Thanks for posting this. Subbed and liked!
Absolutely love this philosophy. Studying it everyday and I am so grateful when I can apply what I have learnt in everyday life. Today I was disappointed by something but then I said to myself "You have no control but you can control how you react" and this made a world of difference. Ps: woohoo a fellow leftie!
No, you where disappointed because you lived int the future .. if you live int the moment and do your absolute best for something , you can not be disappointed in the first place.
@@bluowl5433 haha, well shame on me for bringing politics into this. Like I was hinting at, I try to take in this sort of content to get beyond that sort of thinking! I have a lot of work to do.
People have always said to me I'm someone who desn't stress about life and for a long time I thought it was becasue I didnt care. Truth is, I just never saw the point in stressing over the future or what people thought about me. I guess I've been a stoic all my adult life and didn't really know the word for it. Thanks for this video. It put me down on the path of knowing myself better.
The most important thing that should be on everyone's mind currently should be to invest in different sources of income that doesn't depend on the government. Especially with the current economic crisis around the word. This is still a good time to invest in various stocks, Gold, silver and digital currencies.
I have been investing in stocks for over 10 years now and I have made a lot of money. My portfolio has grown exponentially and I can't thank stocks & ROCHELLE DUNGCA-SCHREIBER enough for such an amazing way to make money!
Yeah, like almost everything in life it takes time, so you should try to start practicing it as soon as possible to collect the results in the future rather than never achieving any kind of mastery over it. Even a small progress is already something.
Not gonna lie; For some reason I didn’t even process that you are the author of The Daily Stoic until the end 🤣 Love all of this stuff 🙂 I’m a high school teacher, and in my mentorship I always try to implement things from stoicism using wisdom from your book. Last year I also gifted it to one of my students. Thanks for all the goodness!
This was so helpful. My profession requires me to be reachable at almost all times and I can only hope that I'll manage to keep this video in mind going forward, and learn from it one small step at a time.
I was scrolling on RUclips and found exactly what I needed to hear from this video sometimes hearing things from someone else makes you understand it a whole lot more. Thank you sir for mentoring us through being stoic
I think it sort of depends. Not listening to any criticism, and labeling those who criticize as "worse than meaningless" is a recipe for narcissism. I don't think it is wise to live ones life off of an absolute statement like this. There is a context for all things including criticism.
@@Ironfist528 That falls under the same thing as "if they don't like you, you must be doing something right." In many cases that is absolute nonsense. It really can go both ways.
What about when the criticism is really relevant? Or if you do respect the other person’s opinion?? Can’t just have blanket so called rules. Everyone is different and reacts differently
This dude is talking to easy about it, being a true stoic you must be an emotionless robot, just don’t care and accept it all? Yeah thats how we as people invented things and made the world a better place, by just excepting it all and not giving a F 😂
Love this dude. Thanks again Ryan. I found the point about not valuing the opinions of others to be especially useful. The point that we are actually trying to be like the exact opposite of some these people and so the fact that they don’t like what we’re doing may in fact be a good sign. Wise words and a good reminder.
the more I learn about stoicism and the more I manage other people, the more I believe that stoicism is a description of a type of person, not something that everyone can aspire to be. people either can be a stoic or they can not; marcus aurelius was describing who he already was, not who he thought everybody should try to be.
#5. Don't start from behind. I have felt this instinctively, but never realized how valuable it might be to look inward first. It would probably make for a more creative day.
I've been a stoic most of my life, without having actually studied the Great Stoics. The part that i find hard to accomplish is not wanting other people's approval. I usually do my own thing, but deep down inside, the lack of a soulmate hurts. And i do have a family...
It’s crazy because I’ve experienced multiple females in one year, and many years being alone. I have to say you have to find what best works for you. If you feel that deep inside then maybe give more people in your life a chance. Not too much, just a tiny crack of an open window, but stutter steps. See what works for you.
This is a good video. I work in a family business, I went to Cambridge, studied a speciality and worked hard to get a good education. In a meeting the other day, a family member said to me in front of all the staff; ‘’Your co-worker has been to a sociology course (no real connection to what we were doing) and you haven’t. My co-worker is slacking off, and doing everything the wrong way, as they are not trained properly. so even though my education is technically sterling, it doesn’t count because this family member constantly belittles all my achievements in front of others. It’s heartbreaking, so for me, dealing with it this negativity is always a challenge.
*To all dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If your surround yourself with love and with right people, Anything is possible.* Cheering for you✨
I thought I lived on the fence, and was criticised for it, but a good friend told me I am closer to a stoic. After watching this video, I do believe this may be the case. I never intentionally worked to be stoic, it just seems to be the best way to navigate the endless opinions and discourses we are bombarded with. I have no ankst to prove any particular point, and certainly feel life is full of redundant things that beg for attention above their own gravity. Thank you brother.
Hey Ryan, I'm a bit confused with Commodus, son of Marcus Aurelius. I founded on your webpage this: "How could such a great man have had such an awful son? What does that say about his teachings?" Could you share your thoughts on this or make a video on what can we possibly learn from such a tragic history? As Commodus was one of the most brutal roman emperors eve known, totally opposite to stoic philosophy?
Got your book three years ago The obstacle is the Way. It sat on the shelf. I signed up for your daily email and read them daily. Finally started reading your book and realized you were the author so I started reading the book. I appreciate getting the email that I actually asked for instead of the junk that usually comes in there.
This video feels like someone coached in coaching trying to sell me something. Some approaches listed here are useful but I don't feel stimulated by a philosophy that boils down to "just don't give a fuck about anything". Feels like a philosophy you get to enjoy if you have too much privilege.
"Don't be so reachable." My brother, who was a bank VP, really took this to heart. He said he'd found that the saying "If you don't do it, who will?" was the wrong message. He'd found in life that if he didn't do it, someone else usually would. :)
My wife took a trip to spain with her sisters and all our kids. They all decided to stay. I was a fool and sent her money.... she fell in love with a spanish man and decided to keep my 4 year old daughter there. Im living in SPain just so I can see my daughter grow up, illegal, out of work... a desperate 50 year old man whose life was destroyed. I get people seperate, but to involve my child hurts beyond belief that all my dreams with her are gone. I am consumed with wanting revenge and its killing me..... I wish I could stop it. Take this gracefully. Be above it. For a man, there is no where to go or cry or moan. You endure..... I hope to try and learn this stoic approach and move on
Remember my dear friend: no matter who you were or whoever made you down, still you're unique, beautiful, and talented🌸 how dare someone can rule on you? You're the the king\queen of your own life& happiness. You matter! Get up, go forward, and start doing what you like. You're the best, if you believe ✨ *Love from a self-development RUclipsr* 🖤
*I dare say, at the of the day, you will be on a long path and surprisingly alone, so take it easy on yourself, don't be serious about what you think. It's just point a of view.*
This is wonderful advice for every young person. I am a college professor and years ago began giving out these sorts of "bits of advice" to my senior students who'd soon go forth into the real world (w/o knowing Stoicism even existed). Hopefully, it brings a sense of inner peace and purpose to people.
The don'ts:
00:00 Intro
00:54 1. Don’t Fear Change
02:01 2. Don’t sweat the small stuff
02:44 3. Don’t value others opinion above your own
03:40 4. Don’t seek revenge
04:27 5. Don’t start from behind
05:12 6. Don’t be so reachable
06:02 7. Don’t have an opinion
06:35 8. Don’t look for outside approval
"We love ourselves more than we love other people but yet we value other peoples opinions more than we value our own."
Damn that's wise
Thank you Ryan
how do u really differentiate between point 3 and point 8, pls elaborate. stoicism is so similar to minimalism according to me, it wud be nice to see a short video on how to integrate these in our lives. TIA.
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You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
Nicely put.
Ooh nice one
Thank you.
@@dangerawaits_bbx You're welcome. This is My other account.
Thank you for that.
“You don’t return the kick to a mule or a bite to a dog” is an absolutely epic and eye-opening quote.
i don't return a kick to a mule or a bite to a dog? ok. but i CAN. LOL
@@margaretjohnson6259 Indeed. Also, errantly, I bit my mule and kicked my dog. Both reciprocated in kind and it was quite unpleasant. Thus I have concluded that the core tenets of stoicism are empirically valid.
@@unconditionedcitizen how did you find the taste?
@@unconditionedcitizen agreed. Spaniels are known to be decidedly unpalatable.
You don't need to kick the mule or bite the dog. You can just shoot either one. It's not revenge, it's simply practicality. We don't let dogs run around biting people repeatedly.
*"The past always looks better than it was. It's only pleasant because it isn't here." - Finley Peter Dunne*
*Great Stuff!*
''It seems like I'm high, but baby I'm crawling, through the unbearable days that I threw away But I should have savoured.
The flaxen light off of the dying wheat. Your rye whiskey mouth and you dandelion teeths.
This is the Golden Age'.' - Cracker
i love that quote.
"The present is rarely pleasant. " -- me
My past still looks terrible. Every time I think about it, I get depressed.
@@alexroot1980 so don’t think about it lol
I realize my dad was the ultimate stoic and brief in his remarks: He taught me not to waste half my life on what others think. He taught me to “consider the source” when receiving criticism. When he pushed me to become a broker and not just a salesperson (in real estate) and I asked him why when the men I worked with discouraged it and said it might encourage more litigation….his one word answer was “options.” Good grief, I miss him.
Sounds like a smart guy
Sorry for your loss , you will meet again
Im realizing the same about my father. The best advice he gave me about not understanding the actions of others, he simply responded “u don’t want to, bc that means ur like them.” Brilliant! He had a KISS motto, I miss him too… maybe they are friends up there 😊
@@marakahl I mean, that's not very good advice LOL.
Consider the source - dont take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from
Number 6. I have been told all my adult life that im not reachable enough on my phone or in daily life, that i need to step it up and join in and start living. I have a great life, just not the one everyone else think i should have. Thanks for the motivation!
I remember getting my first phone at 16, I knew then that it would somewhat restrict my freedom.
That's an awasome way of thinking.
Same boat! I am also quieter in meetings, unless I have a point folks are totally missing, people initially thought I was disinterested, but at the end of projects/ end of the year, it was the work put in that mattered, rather than the non stop urge to talk..
@@prajwalshetty9809 When I put a point across in meetings, it's often ignored because I'm not shouting. I don't care either way though,
I'm still getting paid the same no matter what. Being right or wrong at work doesn't concern me anymore, what is important is that I'm a good father and enjoy my life.
@@chrisoliver6690 good going! Getting there slowly myself..
Living in an age of social media where we’re constantly aware of tragedies and politics, it’s nice to hear that someone say, we don’t have to dwell or be furious about these things 24/7.
Or affected at all.
We are only being divided further
@@TingTingalingy no but we really have to be paying attention tho, most of everyone’s rights are being revoked in the states 💀💀💀 I mean I do kinda feel like running away so maybe I’ll do that lol
@@EastTexasIndie If you find a good place then let me know, EU is also going to shit.
I never understud why people do that. It's so absolutely tiring for me, so I instinctively never did it.
and not be online all the time
Best advice I got from Napoleon:
"young man, leave the phone in the other room before you go to bed." He was like a father to me 😄
yes! He was a great leader and almost conquered Russia!
Dude was truly ahead of his time
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this video saved my life today, glad youtube recommended it to me
This is the unknown video I was waiting for before going to bed at midnight. Have a good day/night!
Haha same
Samee
Wow. Same. Good night.
Thanks, U 2.:)
Put your phone in another room!
I'm kind of amazed at how much I rely on these videos lately.
I'm not even a stoic. But I already practicing these don'ts since a long time ago. I also practicing JOMO (Joy of Missing out). Maybe because I'm an introvert. I like to think and focus on something that I can control or I find it interesting/knowledgeable or make me feel happy & calm. Thanks for making this video. I hope I won't be the only person practicing this. Stop wasting our emotion & energy for something that we can't control. Life is too beautiful and too short for that. ❤️ The only person who can make you happy today is yourself, don't let other people take away your self-worth, your happiness, your self-love. Every person is unique and beautiful in their own way, including YOU.
JOMO sounds like a 'narrative' you've created for yourself to justify your avoidance of social settings?
Make sure you're not making excuses for something that you need to pay attention to.. such as anxiety issues.
I love listening to this guy. He sums things up so well there’s no fluff or fat in his videos. It makes you focus on the core ideas and gets the message over so well. Could listen to this all day.
in a sense, it's a very stoic presentation of the concepts. If nothing else, stoicism is a philosophy that boils down to "focus on what matters", and then answering the question of "what matters?"
@@twally87 - It's all quotes of someone telling you how to think and live. I don't think that's a very stoic presentation of how not to live according to other people.
So could I if he could quit waving his hands around.
David sweats the small things apparently
I love most problems will resolve themselves. That's my new mantra.
I totally feel this. The moment I fell in love with philosophy and similarly with biology, neurology and psychology, was the moment I began to explore it in conversation with friends and family. Realising that most of these things that impacted me also impact those around me made me realise how universally important and useful studying and enjoying things such as philosophy can be.
true philosophers defoo
@tinkywinky4449what I don’t like about philosophy is that it’s basically just English class
Thank you for sharing Mr. Holiday.
I needed this yesterday, but I’ll cherish it today. Exactly what I needed, thank you.
If you enjoy challenging ideas and if mastery and masculinity are also subjects that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos shared on the Mastery Order Channel to challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood and to become the kind of man you would admire and look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
This came at the right time. Thank you.
Ryan I wanna say, thank you. I've heard about Seneca once in school and never cared who he was. Then when on a self help binge I saw your books in Indigos (major bookstore in Canada). Never got one but also never forgot it. Then I found your RUclips channel and watched yo video Three Stoic Mantras. I got a copy of Meditations that I've read 4 times, the Gregory Hays translation. Thanks to you, I've survived a heartbreak, a legal conflict, family drama, and much more. So thank you Ryan, cause I never would have been where I am without the Stoic philosophy, and I wouldn't have given a damn about Stoic philosophy if not for that one video I saw of yours. I live by Memento Mori and Amor Fati on a daily basis now, not perfectly, but I'm better than I was
I'm 33 I have been following your material for at least a decade before I knew, little did I know I was apart of a phenomena of men/women seeking for truth and personal development. Thank you
A few months ago, a friend of mine asked my opinion on a touchy political subject. I responded that because I hadn't personally been presented with a situation where I had to consider it, I'd never given it enough significant thought to form an opinion. They were completely flabbergasted at the idea that I didn't have an opinion on what to them was a very polarizing subject.
It's very heartening to realize that I've already been practicing a lot of these aspects of self on my own. I've come to these realizations the hard way, through life and experiences and self-reflection without having seriously studied stoic philosophy. Having these points all laid out like this and that a lot of them I follow but others are somewhat new to me or need to be reinforced also makes me realize that I've still a long way to go and I will continue to learn and grow. Thank you for making this video, it has been very informative. I should start to pursue stoic philosophy in earnest and more in-depth going forward.
Cheers mate, the human experience is one hell of a ride~
Yeah, some of these points are also in the Bible.
As the video went on and the presenter spoke and listed these things I was surprised to feel the same way. At the start of the pandemic (as a physician in charge of one of the units) isolation for me not just became a physical matter but also an interpersonal one. I was able to be alone with my thoughts and for some reason I picked up a notebook and just started writing. Grabbed my phone and just recorded rants about my ethic/beliefs/everything and I would go back and question them. I also stopped talking and started listening. As the months went by I realized there was so much fluff that was coming from other people, fluff I was creating myself and that a lot of these things didn't matter in my life and as the presenter said "was making me miserable'. I stopped caring about other people's small talk, pre-fabricated opinions and their small peeves such as gossip, nagging or just general complaining. I not only stopped verbally complaining myself but my mind would just automatically take incoming information and sort it into important or useful and the rest was immediately thrown out. Of course I would just be pleasant enough to not be disrespectful. People noticed this change in my lack of requiring daily validation or giving it and eventually went away. The very few people that stayed are the ones who I can openly debate and exchange ideas that are meaningful to me. This dragged on too long, I realize I am journaling my thoughts into a reply. It's a never ending thing, there is always more to improve.
Thankful that I ran upon this channel; I've been practicing Stoicism pretty much since the beginning of the pandemic, and it's changed my mindset greatly on how I deal with other people, situations, and most importantly, myself. It's a daily practice that I continue to this day, and I feel much more relieved and stress free than how I was before I started practicing. A lot of things that I would let get to me or I'd react to negatively, I've learned to be more patient, resilient, and in control of it all. My saying nowadays is 'control the approach, not the outcome': you can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.
Such a valuable channel. Thank you for sharing these tools.
The more I learn about Stoic philosophy, the more I like it. Very helpful .
And the more you recognize, how stupid and empty the conversations of others are.
I have no Energy for long smaltalk anymore
I've been on this planet for a very long time. This advice is good advice, I endorse it completely. I have followed it myself for many years.
When I was in high school in Italy I had to study Latin for 5 years. Initially I hated it. In the summer time, I had to translate some classics ("versioni"). I did not enjoy it, imagine summer in Italy. Till one day I encountered an exercise with 20 one-liners from Seneca. I remember scanning them and my whole body had a strange resonance. A vibration that I still feel when I read these great thinkers. He became my favorite latin author and that summer I translated everything I could find from him. Translating each sentence from him was like deciphering life itself.
When i was younger philosophers seemed like just fleeting unsecure people. But this video from a confident person makes the point much more digestible.
Thanks for your work. I’m a recovered catholic and thru my experiences I came across the gnostics and on believe they had was that to know god , know yourself. God is in you and you don’t need a church or popes.
Then I read about Seneca and life really got clearer.
Being a stoic makes life so much easier. There always are and forever will be struggles but how I respond or not is up to me.
Always glad to see your posts. Thanks
I worked on the gnostics recently and it's impressive how far away from dogma their thinking is. Certainly eye opening. But there's a whole range of reaction to Christ, and all of it is distant to the original events. Hope you find something authentic for yourself. I'm an organist full time and can't stand the catholic church. Or Christianity generally. Too much pollution in Christ's original teachings. But what we'd call the og Christ has a lot more value than the catholic church's teachings.. like holy shit. I'm rambling and generalizing-- take care friend.
@@shawnmuench k hear ya
thanks for being well worded and understanding the language. This of course reveals your ability to read, your literary acumen.
Daily stoic is the most important channel on RUclips. Thank you Ryan.
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Inam older generation and I remember my grandparents giving me lessons being stoic in life -control mind discipline apply common sence question everything even urself be flexible and work !!And I am so glad that young ppl finding stoic principles & apply in their life.
"All things are born from change." We live in a world where too many people are soft and fearful. My husband and I moved to Wyoming specifically because it was a state where people were tough and resilient. What a difference their example has made in our lives.
The world is also changing more, and more frequently, than ever before. As someone who's never been bothered much by change and I adapt quickly, it is even getting to me at this point.
People aren't weak for succumbing to the stress.
I recognized decades ago that my nature was stoic by no conscious decision of my own. However, I received bad input about what a stoic is.
I had let myself be convinced that there was something wrong with me. I didn’t examine it further and did not know that there were other people practicing stoicism as a method of personal growth.
It has been rewarding to stumble upon this video; to free myself of the opinions of others (and of myself) and to actively engage in a philosophy that is appropriate for my nature.
In this digital age, I'm starting to see the immense value in #7 more than ever. I hope more people are willing to start letting clickbait and culture-war nonsense drift past without getting so caught up in these distractions, which have absolutely zero impact on our daily lives.
just want to thank you Ryan. what a great work you´ve been doing. that´s it...
This is the valuable way of consuming social media. Thank you for your contribution sir, highly respected and appreciated. Please keep going!
I wish this community has a platform to connect with each other.
Stoicism ... made me a better person. Thanks for the books & vids 🥂👏🏼 “ just have to let it go & not get worked up / don’t be too reachable / don’t look for outside approval “ ... that sunk in for me.
the way you phrase and explain these, it's so helpful and provocative. thanks man
This was your best video yet. At least for me because I needed to hear this. It is easier to not do something than to do it. Life is not about the path of least resistance but sometimes it is the best idea. Thank you Daily Stoic.
I was stoic and I know it. Stoicism mixed with Christianity makes you a very powerful man. It's changed my life. Your thoughts are what can make you or break you
I pass these videos on to everybody I know going though tough times. Why, because this give you neutral, principle base, advise. Great foundation, for what to look into for a deep dive into serious study. Thank you for producing these videos.
Daily prayers and asking God to see the world and people through him and knowing the light and love of Jesus helps us daily too.
The reachability thing is so true, what you say. I'm quite self-disciplined & have always loved rising early, watching the sunrise, planning my day no matter how average. I find there are times when days can go by, nothing much happening, i'm just getting on quietly with usual daily life. And NOT engaging with timewasters, scammers, ultra-gossips who drain me so. 👍💙
Thanks, I needed these reminders. My current life is a mess and I feel like I don't have any grip on things that I know are important. Like I was mentally paralyzed, watching my life slowly drift by.
I want to change. I need to change.
Buddhism is aware of change via the concept of impermanence: everything changes, is always in motion toward another version of itself. And similarly, the law of the conservation of matter tells us that matter can be neither created nor destroyed. The atoms our bodies are made from have always existed and will always exist in some form. We are stardust, we are changing, we will always exist.
There are certainly similarities between buddhism and stoicism.
He's a lefty! 💛 Much love & great video
I am grateful for this channel and all those involved in it.
Thank you for this. I start a new job tomorrow and I was a bit unnerved about it and now I feel very confident that I'm very capable.
You will have a good day today. You have the skills and knowledge you need for a productive day. Enjoy!
1. Don’t Fear Change
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff
3. Don’t value others opinion above your own
4. Don’t seek revenge
5. Don’t start from behind
6. Don’t be so reachable
7. Don’t have an opinion
8. Don’t look for outside approval
See above -- with timings! 😀
@@CloudyMcCloud00 see number 2. 😉 😄
@@EJames-nm4qt Okay -- well ditto to you, then! 😉😅
@@CloudyMcCloud00 Ey! Didn't expect the uno reverse card! 😄
@@CloudyMcCloud00 My comment was obviously before Ryan's comment, else it wouldn't have any likes.
This is great advice. Particularly not being reachable has helped me a lot. Turn off all those notifications and the little icon that shows how many emails you have. Life-changing!
I love stoic philosophy. It is a way of life I have adopted in my life unconsciously for a very long time. This video is a great refresher and establisher of core parts that I wasn't aware of. Thanks for posting this. Subbed and liked!
I really needed this right now. Strange it popped up but i am thankful.
Wonderful list. Hits on some things I need to be more conscious of every day. Thank you…
I'm a very Stoic guy this video spoke a LOT of truth!
So much value in an 8:45 minutes video
Thanks a lot 👍🏽
He has a strong opinion about allowing yourself to not have an opinion
This seems like fantastic advice for a soldier or a statesman, but harder if you want to connect with a partner and be fully present with family.
I find this philosophy a lifestyle. I am glad I watched this video today. Thank you!
Absolutely love this philosophy. Studying it everyday and I am so grateful when I can apply what I have learnt in everyday life.
Today I was disappointed by something but then I said to myself "You have no control but you can control how you react" and this made a world of difference.
Ps: woohoo a fellow leftie!
Lefties unite!
No, you where disappointed because you lived int the future .. if you live int the moment and do your absolute best for something , you can not be disappointed in the first place.
Many on both sides of the political spectrum need Stoicism more than ever. Too much extremism. He's doing a service.
@@dinocarosi4303 they were referring to his using his left hand while writing. He's a leftie!! Lol!!! I noticed that he was a lefty as well
@@bluowl5433 haha, well shame on me for bringing politics into this. Like I was hinting at, I try to take in this sort of content to get beyond that sort of thinking! I have a lot of work to do.
People have always said to me I'm someone who desn't stress about life and for a long time I thought it was becasue I didnt care. Truth is, I just never saw the point in stressing over the future or what people thought about me.
I guess I've been a stoic all my adult life and didn't really know the word for it. Thanks for this video. It put me down on the path of knowing myself better.
The most important thing that should be on everyone's mind currently should be to invest in different sources of income that doesn't depend on the government. Especially with the current economic crisis around the word. This is still a good time to invest in various stocks, Gold, silver and digital currencies.
That's so true. but if i may ask, do you trade all by yourself?
I have been investing in stocks for over 10 years now and I have made a lot of money. My portfolio has grown exponentially and I can't thank stocks & ROCHELLE DUNGCA-SCHREIBER enough for such an amazing way to make money!
Wow! I just looked up this person out of curiosity and I'm super impressed with her qualifications. Thanks for sharing.
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I know I’m not the first to say it, but I really needed this. Thank you.
Great message but easier said than done. This stuff takes years to master and practice daily. Anxiety is a b and a half
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Yeah, like almost everything in life it takes time, so you should try to start practicing it as soon as possible to collect the results in the future rather than never achieving any kind of mastery over it.
Even a small progress is already something.
So glad I found this challenge.
Not gonna lie; For some reason I didn’t even process that you are the author of The Daily Stoic until the end 🤣
Love all of this stuff 🙂 I’m a high school teacher, and in my mentorship I always try to implement things from stoicism using wisdom from your book. Last year I also gifted it to one of my students. Thanks for all the goodness!
I tuned out at 2’32. I hope the rest of the video was as good as the beginning.
This was so helpful. My profession requires me to be reachable at almost all times and I can only hope that I'll manage to keep this video in mind going forward, and learn from it one small step at a time.
What profession requires that? People often feel like that without it actually being necessary.
@@peterwhitey4992 I won't be too specific, but it's private international law
I was scrolling on RUclips and found exactly what I needed to hear from this video sometimes hearing things from someone else makes you understand it a whole lot more. Thank you sir for mentoring us through being stoic
"Its good that they don't like what you're doing...you dont want their approval"
This.
This is powerful.
"basically, you don't respect them" 🙌
I think it sort of depends. Not listening to any criticism, and labeling those who criticize as "worse than meaningless" is a recipe for narcissism.
I don't think it is wise to live ones life off of an absolute statement like this. There is a context for all things including criticism.
@@Ironfist528 That falls under the same thing as "if they don't like you, you must be doing something right." In many cases that is absolute nonsense. It really can go both ways.
What about when the criticism is really relevant? Or if you do respect the other person’s opinion?? Can’t just have blanket so called rules. Everyone is different and reacts differently
This dude is talking to easy about it, being a true stoic you must be an emotionless robot, just don’t care and accept it all? Yeah thats how we as people invented things and made the world a better place, by just excepting it all and not giving a F 😂
Thanks for the words. Much needed.
Love this dude. Thanks again Ryan. I found the point about not valuing the opinions of others to be especially useful. The point that we are actually trying to be like the exact opposite of some these people and so the fact that they don’t like what we’re doing may in fact be a good sign. Wise words and a good reminder.
Wonderfull. Marvellous. Life Changing. Thank You.
the more I learn about stoicism and the more I manage other people, the more I believe that stoicism is a description of a type of person, not something that everyone can aspire to be.
people either can be a stoic or they can not; marcus aurelius was describing who he already was, not who he thought everybody should try to be.
Ryan's content has had a profound effect on my life. Thank you.
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#5. Don't start from behind. I have felt this instinctively, but never realized how valuable it might be to look inward first. It would probably make for a more creative day.
Don't sweat the petty things, don't pet the sweaty things!
This is magic, whats happening in my life currently this helps so much.
I've been a stoic most of my life, without having actually studied the Great Stoics. The part that i find hard to accomplish is not wanting other people's approval. I usually do my own thing, but deep down inside, the lack of a soulmate hurts. And i do have a family...
It’s crazy because I’ve experienced multiple females in one year, and many years being alone.
I have to say you have to find what best works for you.
If you feel that deep inside then maybe give more people in your life a chance. Not too much, just a tiny crack of an open window, but stutter steps. See what works for you.
This is a good video. I work in a family business, I went to Cambridge, studied a speciality and worked hard to get a good education. In a meeting the other day, a family member said to me in front of all the staff; ‘’Your co-worker has been to a sociology course (no real connection to what we were doing) and you haven’t. My co-worker is slacking off, and doing everything the wrong way, as they are not trained properly. so even though my education is technically sterling, it doesn’t count because this family member constantly belittles all my achievements in front of others. It’s heartbreaking, so for me, dealing with it this negativity is always a challenge.
*To all dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If your surround yourself with love and with right people, Anything is possible.*
Cheering for you✨
I thought I lived on the fence, and was criticised for it, but a good friend told me I am closer to a stoic. After watching this video, I do believe this may be the case. I never intentionally worked to be stoic, it just seems to be the best way to navigate the endless opinions and discourses we are bombarded with. I have no ankst to prove any particular point, and certainly feel life is full of redundant things that beg for attention above their own gravity. Thank you brother.
Hey Ryan, I'm a bit confused with Commodus, son of Marcus Aurelius. I founded on your webpage this: "How could such a great man have had such an awful son? What does that say about his teachings?" Could you share your thoughts on this or make a video on what can we possibly learn from such a tragic history? As Commodus was one of the most brutal roman emperors eve known, totally opposite to stoic philosophy?
I don't even know how to read this cause I know nothing about this history. His videos make sense tho.
The apple sometimes does fall far from the tree. Plus it's possible Commodus had other issues, mental, psychological etc.
Got your book three years ago The obstacle is the Way. It sat on the shelf. I signed up for your daily email and read them daily. Finally started reading your book and realized you were the author so I started reading the book. I appreciate getting the email that I actually asked for instead of the junk that usually comes in there.
This video feels like someone coached in coaching trying to sell me something. Some approaches listed here are useful but I don't feel stimulated by a philosophy that boils down to "just don't give a fuck about anything". Feels like a philosophy you get to enjoy if you have too much privilege.
"Don't be so reachable." My brother, who was a bank VP, really took this to heart. He said he'd found that the saying "If you don't do it, who will?" was the wrong message. He'd found in life that if he didn't do it, someone else usually would. :)
My wife took a trip to spain with her sisters and all our kids. They all decided to stay. I was a fool and sent her money.... she fell in love with a spanish man and decided to keep my 4 year old daughter there. Im living in SPain just so I can see my daughter grow up, illegal, out of work... a desperate 50 year old man whose life was destroyed. I get people seperate, but to involve my child hurts beyond belief that all my dreams with her are gone. I am consumed with wanting revenge and its killing me..... I wish I could stop it. Take this gracefully. Be above it. For a man, there is no where to go or cry or moan. You endure..... I hope to try and learn this stoic approach and move on
I mean not to intrude, but want to say I hope you're well.
Thank you. I just found this. Very helpful.
Remember my dear friend: no matter who you were or whoever made you down, still you're unique, beautiful, and talented🌸 how dare someone can rule on you? You're the the king\queen of your own life& happiness. You matter! Get up, go forward, and start doing what you like. You're the best, if you believe ✨
*Love from a self-development RUclipsr* 🖤
Thanks. I think your last bit about internalizing the philosophy is most important and motivating.
*I dare say, at the of the day, you will be on a long path and surprisingly alone, so take it easy on yourself, don't be serious about what you think. It's just point a of view.*
Great man, thanks for you're insight, knowledge and help. Life requires thought and distance from thinking. Love the 'cloud' imagery. Aroha from NZ.
Napoleon didn't check his phone first thing in the morning? Such an iron mind he had
😂😂best stoic joke ever....We need some humor in life.
Thank you for what you do. Love your videos.❤
This is wonderful advice for every young person. I am a college professor and years ago began giving out these sorts of "bits of advice" to my senior students who'd soon go forth into the real world (w/o knowing Stoicism even existed). Hopefully, it brings a sense of inner peace and purpose to people.
I have of course heard of Marcus Aurelius of course but never knew he was a philosopher of such high ability.
Good advice (and great Iron Maiden shirt.) I have had to give up trying to make people understand my situation and now feel peace about it.
I have made such progress. The work is never done, but a lot as already been done. I thank you for bundling it so nicely
One of the rare good humans out there. The world needs your messages I hope you're doing well, Ryan.