How The Stoics Dealt With Anxiety (10 Strategies)

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  • @DailyStoic
    @DailyStoic  2 года назад +603

    The Strategies:
    01:39 1. Focus On The Little Things
    02:29 2. Practice Gratitude
    03:21 3. Have No Opinion
    03:55 4. Stop Caring About What People Think
    04:23 5. Process Your Emotions
    05:39 6. Don’t Suffer Imagined Troubles
    06:32 7. Choose Not To Be Harmed
    07:19 8. Go For A Walk
    08:27 9. Keep A Journal
    09:05 10. Grab The Right Handle

    • @True38
      @True38 2 года назад +32

      As much as I love and live by #4, that is easier said than done, especially if you have to work for others and meet THEIR expectations and whatnot. You simply cannot neglect to care about what people think then, or at least you have to not show it.
      This is why especially for introverts like myself who don't really need much social interaction anyway, it's better to just do your own thing and work for yourself so you always can live up to your own standards and don't worry about anybody else.
      Social games are a pain in the ass and the rat race never ever result in anything good. It's an evil vicious cycle. Also being dependent on other people sucks. Life is simply not worth living if you can't stay independent and self-reliant. Oh, and being honest and truthful is much better than being a pathetic people pleaser.

    • @ramor4743
      @ramor4743 2 года назад +4

      @@True38 agree 100//

    • @Rope001
      @Rope001 2 года назад +2

      @@True38 couldnt say it any better 🙌🏼

    • @Deelitee
      @Deelitee 2 года назад

      Devils advocate: #7 - some things are harmful and cause harm no matter your opinion of it. If you get shot- if you’ve been robbed- abused. Ukraine Is being harmed - it’s just a fact. Thoughts??

    • @joaom2057
      @joaom2057 2 года назад +1

      @@True38 well said

  • @Neezy9
    @Neezy9 2 года назад +1625

    “we suffer more in imagination than in reality”….resonates every time!

    • @SamMartinPeakPerformance
      @SamMartinPeakPerformance 2 года назад +9

      amen to that

    • @richielambe3674
      @richielambe3674 2 года назад +4

      Absolute Truth right

    • @PsoriasisdiaryPD
      @PsoriasisdiaryPD 2 года назад +11

      One of the most important Truths. This specific, challenging work sets one free. No medications, no therapists, no money, no societal excuses. Do the work here and you will gain freedom.

    • @maxf7351
      @maxf7351 2 года назад +2

      So true

    • @botterweckwb
      @botterweckwb 2 года назад +1

      100%. 👊

  • @deocalimbas1106
    @deocalimbas1106 2 года назад +951

    I just had a break up with my long term girlfriend, and just heard from her that she's getting married. I perceived this as a moment of growth , a learning experience, a door for better opportunities. I felt the emotions, I cried, but I choose to use logic and carry on with a positive mindset.

    • @v1v1dpoker
      @v1v1dpoker 2 года назад +66

      Sorry you are going through this brother, heartbreak is the worst. Sounds like you're on a great path though, I know it will be for the best, best wishes my friend 🖤🖤

    • @harshavardhansindekar3224
      @harshavardhansindekar3224 2 года назад +60

      I understand your loss, but the bright side here is that you've handled this way better than 98% of the people in this world do.
      Carry on man, better things are just around the corner.

    • @mauricioramirez9744
      @mauricioramirez9744 2 года назад +116

      You're lucky. No divorce. No alimony. No grape in divorce court...you dodged a bullet my friend. Enjoy your freedom.

    • @PhilosopherOfFafoism
      @PhilosopherOfFafoism 2 года назад +5

      That reminds me of starting to communicate again with friends in high school who frankly became horrible people. It's been roughly twenty-five years and they're all well-adjusted now, married happily with fine children and businesses. I'm happy for them. There has to be goodness in life, even if that goodness isn't something I myself possess. It exists close to me and that makes the world provably better in my eyes.

    • @danielavalos8466
      @danielavalos8466 2 года назад +8

      Absolutely beautiful response. You decide who you want to be and you are choosing to be the best man you can be 🖤👍🏽

  • @renatablindoso
    @renatablindoso 2 года назад +262

    Anxiety has less to do with outside events and more to do with how we feel inside. Anxiety hits when we feel powerless and unable to deal with things. It's useless to tell an anxious person everything is ok.. The opposite of anxious is not calm, is the feeling of "I can do this". The best way to overcome anxiety is telling yourself or others: "You can do this! You have power and strength within you!"

    • @alexanderwillows9663
      @alexanderwillows9663 Год назад +4

      That’s such a good point

    • @anovi72
      @anovi72 Год назад +2

      Great advice.

    • @hilarypeters6945
      @hilarypeters6945 Год назад +3

      Great advice. I working on my anxiety because it has effected my blood pressure.

    • @klanderkal
      @klanderkal 10 месяцев назад +2

      I needed to hear this! 👍

    • @krisb-travel
      @krisb-travel 8 месяцев назад +4

      100% agree it occurred to me the other day when I’m NOT feeling anxious I’m feeling powerful and it’s such a beautiful feeling

  • @sharonmorris1299
    @sharonmorris1299 Год назад +40

    I'm nothing on RUclips but I'm a mental health professional of 30 years with a focus on trauma/resilience. Ive also lived with anxiety, and Ive found the answer, and it's pushing through. Never feeding the beast but starving it by doing exactly those things and finding joy in them.

    • @krisb-travel
      @krisb-travel 8 месяцев назад +2

      Interesting I think I get what you mean but could you give an example pls?

    • @memento_mori6019
      @memento_mori6019 7 месяцев назад +2

      You’re right, but it’s sooo much easier said than done.

    • @mattsomething4371
      @mattsomething4371 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@memento_mori6019 that’s not the point. Nothing good comes easy. You can have peace and be a slave but you can not have liberation and be a slave. Seeking liberation means having to move forward. Never stop moving forward. I’ve already made the decision for you. Now go.

  • @TylerDaSilva522
    @TylerDaSilva522 Год назад +152

    "The best time to do something was back then, but the second best time to do it is right now." Man I love this quote so much

    • @AngiePussmaster
      @AngiePussmaster Год назад +1

      wooooowww man. just wow so deep

    • @colelevel2654
      @colelevel2654 9 месяцев назад +2

      The original is a Chinese proverb: "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now."

  • @mehrzadhei
    @mehrzadhei 9 месяцев назад +4

    The worst thing we ever suffer from is fear, and the greatest gain you will receive is to be rid of that fear.
    It was as if a great mist had suddenly lifted from my mind. I could see so clearly that that panic caused by anxiety wasn't some sort of weakness in me. It was a cyclical self-reinforcing pattern caused by giving anxiety so much power... far from relieving the feeling, was causing it. At the same time, I could see that all these other 'happy' people were
    going through the same nightmare that I was, all putting up phoney arguments to try to justify their addiction to anxious thoughts.
    IT'S SO NICE TO BE FREE!

  • @josephdeleon3716
    @josephdeleon3716 2 года назад +77

    My mind is always racing, there's so much information out there I think sometimes it's too much to process. Social media doesn't help either. I think keeping life simple is the key, controlling what we can control, not worrying about what's going to happen tomorrow.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 года назад +13

      I got off social media several years ago. It’s very unhealthy.

    • @cwest8010
      @cwest8010 Год назад +2

      All we can do is pray, plan, and prepare. Great words from a Top G.😉

  • @mimosapudica5160
    @mimosapudica5160 Год назад +3

    "I don't have to have an opinion about this; I can just let it be, I can ignore it, I can realize it doesn't pertain to me, or I can just see it as it is. I don't need to say that it's good or bad, fair or unfair, it just is. I'm going to look at it as an objective piece of information. It doesn't need me projecting my thoughts or beliefs or perceptions on it; it is. You don't have to have an opinion about this."
    whoa I never noticed I've doing this for a long time. thank you, Sir Ryan. 👍👍

  • @josephowens4654
    @josephowens4654 2 года назад +118

    I firmly believe anxiety was a driving force in the development of stoicism. The main proponents were highly intelligent/imaginative with a constant flow of information requiring decisions the would shape or shake their entire civilisation. The curse of a active mind that accompanies its blessing is you can see the dangers that lie ahead sometimes several moves ahead of your present choices. T can easily become crippling and make you envy simpler minds that can only wonder what their dinner will be tonight. Almost the entirety of stoicism is deduced to calming and all the emotions that cloud and confuse the mind into chasing shadows thrown by itself.

    • @Ikaros23
      @Ikaros23 2 года назад +13

      Anxiety is often the cause of trauma. The brain go into the " fight, flight, freeze, fawn" mode permanent. "The simpler minds", that you talk about is often just healthy brains with no trauma. They only worry about the things that they can handle. To a person with anxiety they may seem " stupid". But in reality this is what " Zen" is. That is a healthy mind, that is present most of the time in the " now". Not ruminating about the past, or worrying about the future.
      Also we are all humans. The past and the future is a part of our minds. But if the mind is constant trying to fix or analyse things mentally in the mind. And not being in the real world. Then this is a sign of " general anxiety" that come from trauma.
      Meditation or stoicism is useless if we don`t also understand that all humans have problems. And that the world is constantly changeing. Life is never going to be " perfect long term zen". There is always going to be chaos and change from time to time. But a healthy mind is on the allert when there is real danger. And also preparing for the future. Without being in constant " worry mode".
      The healthy mind. Is accepting itself " as it is", and the world " as it is". Without striving for perfection. That is " perfect stoicism" or " perfect zen" don`t exist. And anxiety is a part of life. Don`t be fooled by the people who pretend to never be afraid. And who fake that they are perfectly " self actualized". This is not stoicism or zen. But narcissism. That is they have created a fake " self image" of the emotionless stoic. This is inhuman. And is never going to be healthy over time. Accepting our own " imperfection" is what is real wisdom. And to " handle" the fear in real life with going face to face with it.
      Like the child did, jumping without the rope . And like Tyler Durden did. Accepting the pain/discomfort as part of life. Instead of running from it.

    • @jamesu3346
      @jamesu3346 2 года назад +2

      @@Ikaros23 Good Comments thanks

    • @Mtmonaghan
      @Mtmonaghan Год назад +1

      Would you accept a broken leg, no you would seek medical help and pain relief. Never accepted metal illness, seek professional help, there is often a physical reason for the illness, that can be successfully treated with medication.

  • @PsychologyWorksOfficial
    @PsychologyWorksOfficial 7 месяцев назад +3

    As a clinical psychologist that specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), I can truly see how CBT is a repackaging of many stoic ideas, such as these. Thank you for spelling it out and explaining these ideas.

  • @BikerJim74
    @BikerJim74 2 года назад +53

    I got for a walk every day, at least 2 miles. It really does help clear the mind.

    • @Pazaluz
      @Pazaluz 2 года назад

      Walking or running has helped me more than I would've ever thought. Many people underestimate how much it can help clear your mind.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 2 года назад

      I was walking the other day, and imagined my grandpa, who died nearly 30 years ago, being proud that I don’t have serious hardships. I could hear him telling me the sources of my unhappiness are the easy things. 🙂

    • @Nobody-up5zm
      @Nobody-up5zm 7 месяцев назад

      MY mind won't stop while I'm walking 8 literally can't keep it quiet.

  • @rscotthudson1959
    @rscotthudson1959 2 года назад +12

    "You don't have to have an opinion about that." So obvious, and so deep. That you for sharing this great insight.

  • @fndmntl5341
    @fndmntl5341 Год назад +9

    I love you dude... Honestly, being a stoic has changed my life... I was lazy and still am but now I actually want to do things... I wanna get healthy, I wanna go out into the world, I wanna learn
    Thanks

  • @militustoica
    @militustoica 2 года назад +89

    I was literally just thinking about this when I looked down at my phone and saw this. Stoicism is an excellent coping mechanism for PTSD, I’ve found.
    The hard part is sometimes accepting the transitory nature of everything. But you can’t fight reality. Everything passes. All pain. All pleasure. All you can do is accept it.

    • @bettermanchannel770
      @bettermanchannel770 2 года назад +1

      Yes sir agreed

    • @Original50
      @Original50 2 года назад +2

      'This too shall pass." 🙏

    • @Lili-dh5ly
      @Lili-dh5ly 2 года назад +1

      Yup, reality before expectations

    • @riooproductions9227
      @riooproductions9227 2 года назад

      What ever you’re going through, Im here with you ruclips.net/video/8_BwXnE6fyU/видео.html 🖤🥲🤘🏽❗️🔥‼️🔥🖤

    • @SamMartinPeakPerformance
      @SamMartinPeakPerformance 2 года назад

      well put man 👏

  • @davidbowman2035
    @davidbowman2035 Год назад +4

    I have been doing a deep-dive into stoicism for the last 18 months and I have realised this year I need to start writing a journal. This is something I've never done before and should have started 15 yrs ago.

  • @Fabo100
    @Fabo100 Год назад +4

    I already knew I was an anxious person, but I will never forget the feeling I had during the pandemic. I took 6 weeks off from work, and I was very early in my first real relationship with a girl I very much love. And even though I was safe in my home, and despite I had some reason to be anxious with the unknown virus that we know well today, I was still overly anxious. Learned a lot about myself during that period. 3 years later I’m definitely better but still having to work to minimize anxiousness and anxiety. Work towards it people, don’t just settle for being an “anxious person”. Find your cure to reduce it🙏🏽

  • @Julianaalcantara-u7y
    @Julianaalcantara-u7y Год назад +1

    stoicism helped me alot , every time i am mad, upset. But i still struggle with being alone. All by myself for a long time. and deal with tasks , long to do lists. stay focused for a long period of time.

  • @CoffeeFuelledGenius
    @CoffeeFuelledGenius 2 года назад +267

    Fell deeply into all of this… I even carry a pendant with momento Mori on it, I’ll never stop coming back to this channel. stoicism has helped me immensely! Thank you Ryan ✌🏼

    • @marknolan2799
      @marknolan2799 2 года назад +6

      I love your handle. Could it be the coffee that's fueling your anxiety? It's great when you don't have any problems but if you have something on your mind that's causing you grief, coffee is a terrible companion. At least that's my experience.

    • @riooproductions9227
      @riooproductions9227 2 года назад

      What ever you’re going through, Im here with you ruclips.net/video/8_BwXnE6fyU/видео.html 🖤🥲🤘🏽❗️🔥‼️🔥🖤

    • @SoFkwHat80
      @SoFkwHat80 2 года назад +1

      Your name , got to say great. CoffeeFuelledGenius 👌

    • @shaun8062
      @shaun8062 2 года назад +2

      @@marknolan2799 Big time! I say only in the morning, if you have to. Also, Green tea has a little less caffeine but has L-theanine in it, which can help you have more calm focus.

    • @TravelBreakthrough
      @TravelBreakthrough 2 года назад +1

      Same

  • @TallgeeseFan
    @TallgeeseFan 5 месяцев назад +1

    Ryan Holiday's work and stoicism has made such an immense impact on my life once I began to meditate on the movement of my own mind. Once I have reflected on moments I'm anxious, moments I don't want to be lonely etc.
    I love his book 'The Daily Stoic'. It has been one of my favorite things to do is read it at coffee shops or parks, haven't delved into books before but this one has been great as a gateway book that has lead me to really love reading. I'm off to make the most of work day, I wish everyone an eventful and insightful day.

  • @joeroganpodfantasy42
    @joeroganpodfantasy42 2 года назад +3

    5:55 lol
    'I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.'

  • @paulo4371
    @paulo4371 9 месяцев назад +1

    I served the military for 20 years. PTSD and anxiety attacks crippled me for years. I was prescribed meds but did not help. But when I stumbled your videos and read Marcus Aurelius meditation I was able to defeat my panic attacks and depression ptsd. I’m more productive and see the world more in present moment. Thank you Ryan!

    • @mythoughtsexactly88
      @mythoughtsexactly88 8 месяцев назад

      You're right, meds don't help much.
      Their must be a calming on the inside

  • @NCLUSA
    @NCLUSA 2 года назад +2

    I have helped myself a lot lately, I have learned not to worry about things I can't change, and if you think about it, a person has no real control over anything, even our own life could be gone in the next second, think about it.

  • @ryan4327
    @ryan4327 6 месяцев назад +3

    This is great stuff. I've been marginally aware of stoicism all my life, but only recently have been paying closer attention and actually studying and practicing it.

  • @educationalramblings6826
    @educationalramblings6826 Год назад +17

    "You cannot be happy every moment so do not get upset at the absence of it." Dalai Lama
    It's the same with anxiety.
    If you think you will go through life without feeling anxiety, uneasiness over life events, you are setting yourself up for more of it. When the feeling comes I say: "oh there you are my friend, it's been a while since I've seen you. Let me settle in, then you can go."

  • @RSBurgener
    @RSBurgener Год назад +1

    I recently tapered off of anxiety meds. It had been about 5 years and I thought things had changed. Nope. Nothing about me had changed. I STILL had too many emotions and I was just shutting them out. SSRI's kept me in a state of mundane existence. I was insulated from dark thoughts, but I was also cut off from my higher self as well. I'm discovering that you can't let feelings from your lower self take possession of you. They want you to suffer. Worry is self-sabotaging. You have to reach up for the elements of your higher self. We all have one. The worries just seem more immediate and louder. You don't have to watch a simulation of your life going down in flames every day. You can be more and do more, you can imagine success! It just takes effort to do it, unlike taking a pill for it. If a dark thought or a movie of failure begins playing, you have to shut it off and Will another simulation into existence. Do that every day and you will become stronger every day.

  • @SamMartinPeakPerformance
    @SamMartinPeakPerformance 2 года назад +4

    I agree with not caring about what other people think but only to an extent. Caring what other people think can be extremely valuable when it's people you value (friends/family/mentors) and can be a big driver to change your behaviour in ways that can alleviate anxieties/stresses.

    • @lenas5613
      @lenas5613 Год назад

      Caring what people think is a huge driver of anxiety. Period. Self judgement and self.. seeking approval will always backfire.

  • @PolishBehemoth
    @PolishBehemoth Год назад

    3:02 "Even if its not the best time to be alive, its the most wonderful time FOR YOU TO BE ALIVE"
    ...
    I felt this really hard. Had to pause the video. Deep beautiful stuff, even if its simple.

  • @OscarLT321
    @OscarLT321 2 года назад +1

    It's strange how a breakup was needed to finally reach some mental clarity. I finally have been able to handle emotions better, be more content with my position right now, work towards my goals and in general just have a more positive look on life.
    I am enjoying being alone while also cherishing social interactions a lot more. I challenge every thought I have that seems irrational. I feel my emotions instead of hiding them.
    Stoicism and a general appreciation for the present have done great things for me and will continue to do so

  • @myownserenity6852
    @myownserenity6852 2 года назад +4

    Another quote that resonates with this video to me is by Sadhguru who said ,
    “Never look up to anybody,
    Never look down on anybody
    If you look at life the way it is ,
    You can swiftly navigate through it”

  • @bertoldgerrychannel
    @bertoldgerrychannel Месяц назад

    If we live in social environment that doesn't support us to think and grow positively, and yet the fire is still in there wanting to grow bigger, these strategies are oasis.
    The video sums up many unsaid things.

  • @taylorramirez7564
    @taylorramirez7564 2 года назад +40

    I’ve been experiencing really bad anxiety lately.. I got a notification for this video and I’m so glad I clicked on it. Perfect timing. Thank you.

    • @Tom64
      @Tom64 2 года назад +1

      If I can make a recommendation, take a look at Wim Hof's breathing exercises. There's a beginner's version and a 'normal' version here on RUclips. It really helps with anxiety. If you want to go further you can also try cold showers.

  • @larryhathaway6294
    @larryhathaway6294 Год назад +1

    Easier said than done. Especially when you have panic disorder which is a medical condition. That being said I always can use another way to help ease my mind so thank you. Recently started a morning walk with a friend. Only because she's a good friend and asked me to. Good to know it's helpful for anxiety!

  • @mikaelserviam7329
    @mikaelserviam7329 2 года назад +4

    I'm watching this while pooping. I remember the "thinking man" statue. I feel so stoic. Have a good day.

  • @stevefaulkner6689
    @stevefaulkner6689 2 года назад +1

    I've been struggling with PTSD very long everyone says you so stoic always but inside is turmoil , Thanks.

  • @danmpearce
    @danmpearce Год назад +1

    My philosophy is buddhist and it gives me great peace and through it I've coped with anxiety. I live in the moment I also regard myself as a stoic and what you say is very true and pertinent. I walk every day and every day I do sun salutations and give thanks for my life as an artist. It seems to me that I follow the same path as you and it gives me peace of mind and deep contentment. Many thanks for sharing your wisdom...

    • @HumanityPlant
      @HumanityPlant Год назад

      Hi there. A quick thought if interested. I have found that fully embracing anxiety when it arises has helped a lot. Even invigorating at times. Could be worth trying. I feel like it increases meditation's benefits quite a bit. To embrace any emotional energy. Maybe an odd perspective but, it really works. Appreciate your time, good day to you

  • @SD-rm5ty
    @SD-rm5ty Год назад +1

    I needed to hear this today... YES ONLY care about what you do and Yes don't choose to feel harmed!

  • @lailaalfaddil7389
    @lailaalfaddil7389 Год назад +193

    The most important thing that should be on everyone's mind currently should be to invest in different sources of income that doesn't depend on the government. Especially with the current economic crisis around the word. This is still a good time to invest in various stocks, Gold, silver and digital currencies.

    • @susannnico
      @susannnico Год назад

      That's so true. but if i may ask, do you trade all by yourself?

  • @abbery9202
    @abbery9202 2 года назад +2

    Man this wisdom really is life-changing. It's amazing because its true and I am *the* guy to disqualify advice if it feels culty or religion-y or some sort of "fix-it-trick". That''s not what I see in the Stoic's writing, I see truth in its most bare form of our experience being human, and it's just supremely freeing to read things written by the highest quality of intellectuals our world has had to offer - it's such a gem - the only fight is in remembering. Always remind yourself! That's where my fight lies, remind, remind, remind, repeat, repeat, repeat. Trust your philosophy and never divorce from it

    • @NurayaHijab
      @NurayaHijab 2 года назад

      Actually what stoic had taught has very much similarity with what Islam had taught me. But in Islam we do all of this rules, not only to make us become happy and calm.. We do it because of our iman and to get reward from Allah.. it's more doable.

  • @pincus1979
    @pincus1979 4 месяца назад

    I can't tell you how much all your stoic knowledge has helped me over the past few years. Thank you, Ryan...💌

  • @kamodo2299
    @kamodo2299 2 года назад +5

    Gratitude is something that, as im just getting into gratitude and stoicism, i struggle with a lot. One of the biggest grinds against my world view i find is treating life and consciousness as a gift as for the longest time i thought the opposite, and still do. I thought that being aware was a horrible accidental curse, so the thought of gratitude for not only whats around but also for this 'gift' is still so foreign to me.

    • @davidpittman106
      @davidpittman106 2 года назад +1

      Kamodo- I feel the same way. Why do we feel this way?? I have a very hard time being present in the moment

    • @kamodo2299
      @kamodo2299 2 года назад

      @@davidpittman106 very much same friend. Mindfulness is still very hard, I've spent basically all my life not being present and just dissacociating through. I just hope things get better for us both!

    • @davidpittman106
      @davidpittman106 2 года назад +1

      @@kamodo2299 It's good to hear, now I don't feel so alone. I've gone through A LOT in this past 10yr cycle and I'm starting a new one as we speak. I've resolved myself to solve that problem once and for all. It's encouraging to see a whole community of people trying to do the same...it gives me hope!! Thank you so much for commenting back.

    • @davidpittman106
      @davidpittman106 2 года назад +1

      We both have to just keep trying and getting better day by day...we CAN do it, I truly believe it

    • @kamodo2299
      @kamodo2299 2 года назад +1

      @@davidpittman106 that's great to hear! I'm clawing my way out of a little rut now and you've inspired me to push even harder out of it. We're all gonna make it!

  • @Trigger-uh9xk
    @Trigger-uh9xk 2 года назад

    Straight talking no rubbish just good old fashioned sound advice, I’m gonna keep listening again and again until this really sinks in thanks for your wisdom😊

  • @conicalplanes9258
    @conicalplanes9258 2 года назад +6

    Ya man, stoic philosophy is exactly what i've been searching for my entire life. What a game changer! Thanks for these

    • @Ikaros23
      @Ikaros23 2 года назад

      Also check out " japanese zen" it`s a lot of the same.

    • @NaKiBoyZ16
      @NaKiBoyZ16 Год назад

      I just started practicing stoicism. I feel anxious yet excited at the same time. Checking how your progress has been and any tips for beginners?

  • @jamiemichellewest
    @jamiemichellewest 2 года назад +16

    Always short, sweet and to the point. You are doing such important work - passing down the essential wisdom of ages. Thank you for all the time and energy you invest. It is making a difference in the world. One person at a time.

  • @hardasnails11b
    @hardasnails11b Год назад +1

    I have to agree with the journaling…great way to calm yourself.

  • @jakehixon4073
    @jakehixon4073 8 месяцев назад

    All very useful. Exercise is the main thing that cured my anxiety(which is in here re the walking). And it has to be vigorous a couple times a week. Exercise made my anxiety worse at first! But after a few months of a regular exercise routine I am now 75% less anxious overall.

  • @athomesongwriting
    @athomesongwriting 2 года назад +1

    I had this on my "Watch Later" and I finally watched it today. WOW. It really hit me, I needed these messages at this exact moment.

  • @wheysted1349
    @wheysted1349 Год назад

    The world needs Stoicism more than ever!

  • @emilye126
    @emilye126 2 года назад

    I needed this video..ty u so much..I threw all my journals out since 1970 ,love reminiscing but I didn't want my children reading them after I died. No more journaling for me.

  • @randalloh1
    @randalloh1 Год назад

    Great video! A long time ago, I read a translated version of the Tao Te Ching and one passage was "when you care what people think, you become their slave". Its hard thing to do!

  • @Kelly_Ben
    @Kelly_Ben 2 года назад +8

    What you said about shutting down emotions being like putting them on a credit card hit me so hard. That's me to a T... and my emotional debt ABOUT my financial debt, combined, led me to this video. Thank you.

  • @ALiane-z5n
    @ALiane-z5n 3 месяца назад

    Thank you Ryan i discovered you last month but you're really changing my life and the daily stoic email is something I'm always waiting for everyday, thank you so much for your great work and dedication to help us live a better life

  • @dd81807
    @dd81807 Год назад

    It’s important to recognize that all of us at one point or another suffer anxiety. For some it’s a daily thing and for others it’s less prevalent everyone will suffer from anxiety so it’s important to find ways to manage it and to deal with it for a more serene life.

  • @anthonydarmata8807
    @anthonydarmata8807 2 года назад

    I loved the piece about walking. I walk everyday, twice a day. It makes all the difference.

  • @yes12337
    @yes12337 Год назад +1

    Thank you for this video. I've been doing wrong so many things from your list, that it really is an opportunity to grow for me.
    Especially I love the part about taking power over what can harm you and letting go urge to be a judge. This is wisdom my life has been lacking

  • @pembatamang8233
    @pembatamang8233 Год назад +1

    3:55 I know I should not care about what people say, but as someone who has moderate - high social phobia it is very difficult.

  • @sylquin-wright3640
    @sylquin-wright3640 2 года назад +4

    I love the quote: "Only ideas won by walking have any value." ― Friedrich Nietzsche
    Also I think it was Mark Twain who said "Walking Cures Everything". I believe movement can help dissipate anxiety & emotional trauma from the body. In this Chinese Year of The Tiger a helpful totemic approach is learning from how animals overcome trauma - psychologist/neuroscientist researcher Peter Levine investigates this in "Awaken The Tiger Within". Peace & blessings

  • @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD
    @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD 2 года назад +53

    I came to the same conclusion, so I have made the intention to eliminate all undue anxiety from my life action by action. 🙏🏽

    • @bettermanchannel770
      @bettermanchannel770 2 года назад +6

      Not everything deserves our energy...tired of being unduly exhausted

    • @stevecook413
      @stevecook413 2 года назад +2

      Not everything or everyone.
      So meny are vampires. Sucking our time, emotional spirit our very souls.
      Sadly it took me years to learn this. And just as Sadly I have more than likely ignored some people that I shouldn't have, and for that I'm sorry.

    • @bugzyhardrada3168
      @bugzyhardrada3168 2 года назад +3

      Life is a learning experience

  • @HumanityPlant
    @HumanityPlant Год назад

    Focus and feeling. Focus on something in the present and feel your genuine emotions as they arise. Do that and peace will follow, I guarantee it

  • @WillN2Go1
    @WillN2Go1 Год назад

    Good video. I think the most important steps any wanna be stoic can do, is to keep the basics close. How can I be better? How can I do better? How can I build on what I've done? How can I help others? And of course the attitude that, "I've already won. My life is amazing not because someone told me, but because I am living my principles." Then just get on with it. The way I think we learn from the stoics is we recognize their more refined versions of what we already kind of know.
    I love the Marcus Aurelius quote, "You don't have to have an opinion about that." Another stoic concept I'd stumbled upon. As a teacher I was pretty cranky at how idiotic the education system was. If I said, "Oh let me help you learn this skill." the response would be, "You think I'm stupid." And then some admin would.... None of which matters, except the student would not learn. Often we'd be assigned tasks that may have been a bit silly or unnecessary and I'd think, eh, not a big deal, okay. Or better, we science teachers would think of a way to include the 'new initiative' into upcoming lessons, generate student work, notes and results that our principal (who didn't like me. Eh again) could use in his meetings. Other teachers often seemed surprised that I wasn't against everything. I was told that I needed to make my subject relevant to the daily lives of my students. I snapped back, "We're doing astronomy." "Oh, well maybe..." But then I came up with a way students could easily figure out which way Earth and they on it, were headed in its orbit around the sun at that moment. 107,000 km/hr. They got a big kick out of it. Sometimes jumping to an opinion misses an opportunity.
    We choose to be harmed or not. One thing all these highly accomplished stoics may not have added is that if we live this life we can't help but accomplish many of our goals, do amazing things. This reinforces the resiliency to shrug when someone tries to harm us. In my life I was well into adulthood often feeling like a failure when a friend started listing all my accomplishments. Oh yeah, I did do all those things.... I made an effort to remember them better. A guy tells me that his art degree means my ideas about art are invalid? I just try not to laugh. He's holding on to this very tightly, why make him suffer? My life is not made richer or larger by making him smaller.
    Go for a walk is like the Native American Spirit Quest -- go out alone, listen to the world. Journaling? I was told in teacher training that we should 'reflect' by writing but not spend more than five minutes. During the six week training I turned out a fat notebook. I was told, 'you're analyzing, you only need to reflect.' I thought about that and said, 'I've been doing this for years. I like doing more." I gain so much. I tell students to keep a journal but don't worry about the first couple of years, most of it will be embarrassing. But after that? You'll become one of your favorite writers. Experiences you remember will be richer and more vivid in your journal entry about them. And get a fountain pen -- no resistance. Don't want your hand to get tired before your mind does.

  • @Eaoehlke
    @Eaoehlke Год назад +4

    Adding an 11 to the list, this video has helped alleviate my anxiety in a little under 11 minutes. Thanks for the video!

  • @chocolate_chip21
    @chocolate_chip21 Год назад +1

    You're doing great work Ryan!! We need more people like you! Thank you for sharing.

  • @Kipro007-j5m
    @Kipro007-j5m 2 года назад +1

    I'm on a journey seeking peace for my inner self

  • @markbrey52
    @markbrey52 Год назад +2

    Thank you for making the world a better place DS! You're tips are gold - one step at a time to achieve greatness 💪

  • @YouMeandSicily
    @YouMeandSicily Год назад

    Your channel is remarkable ! So glad we found you!

  • @dmajhan
    @dmajhan 2 года назад +6

    This is a fantastic high level overview. Like other posts it helps to re-watch every so often to help reinforce the points covered. Thanks for posting!

  • @laurelrunlaurelrun
    @laurelrunlaurelrun Год назад +1

    We also don't have to have an opinion about our own emotions. If I feel vaguely unhappy or tense, sometimes I just chalk it up to the human condition and move on. There is a pressure in modern society to feel happy every moment of the day and we think there is something wrong with us if we don't. Life doesn't work like that. Feeling guilty for not feeling euphoric only makes things worse. If you are 4/5ths content, don't dwell any further on it. When I accept that my random negative or neutral feelings are meaningless and not a signal of an important issue, often i feel a little better instantly.

  • @coryburns4309
    @coryburns4309 Год назад

    A tip for journaling is to do it in cursive. Work at your cursive while journaling. Make it beautiful. Cursive flows in such a way that feels good, and over time is faster than printing and doesn't hurt after writing a lot.

  • @dannyleonard7
    @dannyleonard7 2 года назад +7

    Ironically, I was just researching this exact topic... Crazy how things work

  • @justinalbertgrimaldo
    @justinalbertgrimaldo 2 года назад +3

    Dude, thank you for this. When I was growing up, like a lot of others out there, my siblings and I were taught to stuff emotions down and not accept them or process them. Years later, it lead to my first panic attack three months ago. All these things from my past started coming up that I didn't know were still haunting me and never got healing for. Your analogy with the credit card absolutely hit home. I am dealing with anxiety for the first time and your videos are helping a ton. Appreciate you brother.

  • @sukhoiboy4140
    @sukhoiboy4140 2 года назад

    i became a stoic 2 years ago after reading aurelius. life is good!

  • @curtisbooth9338
    @curtisbooth9338 2 года назад +8

    Thank you for this, many important lessons and the passion in your voice talking about these is proof that it has greatly helped you

  • @pacificwolfnz
    @pacificwolfnz Год назад

    They processed their emotions - Best explanation yet for why the Stokes were so calm. And their reputation for being without emotion , because they didn't hold on to them

  • @forevermisunderstood4956
    @forevermisunderstood4956 2 года назад +6

    From one creator to another, I admire how well you take advantage of your unique situation. Instead of using stock footage videos, you go out and take advantage of the beautiful landscape in your environment.😎
    On a different note, it can be hard to make a conscious decision not to have an opinion about something. I therefore often ask myself how much of an impact something has on my life. If it has little to no impact, I forbid myself to waste more energy on it. Great video! 💪

  • @HumanityPlant
    @HumanityPlant Год назад +2

    Anxiety is fuel for life if properly synthesized. Only feel the anxiety to have it propel you through those tough situations, appropriately. While it's not a positive emotion, it's still an emotional energy. That energy can still be directed toward your benefit by merely feeling it

  • @kerstinmiller223
    @kerstinmiller223 2 года назад +3

    I love this guy! What a treat for humanity that you exist ❤️

  • @PhilosopherOfFafoism
    @PhilosopherOfFafoism 2 года назад

    The great thing about Stoicism as a school of thought is that its followers are natural stoics by the time they're ready to understand rather than simply learn. In essence life prepares us for Stoicism and in turn Stoicism prepares us for our finest years beyond that. Life is indeed a time-perfected craft.

  • @aristotlekumpis7095
    @aristotlekumpis7095 2 года назад +3

    This was a cool video. I am suffering anxiety and it's affecting my sleep big time. I worry too much about what could happen, and not what is happening in the moment. I need to master that.

  • @ejfudd5176
    @ejfudd5176 2 года назад

    I’m not someone who has anxiety, but I like stoicism. This video makes me feel anxious.

  • @abdullahshoaib1235
    @abdullahshoaib1235 9 месяцев назад

    Do not suffer imagined troubles. You really cannot control anything. Even if you are imagining a situation where you are the one in control, you are limited by the skill level you have going into the situation. Ex. If you are stressing about convincing someone to do something, you are limited by the negotiating skill that you posses. So either work on that skill or trust yourself going into that situation. Remind yourself that even if you are the initiator you are not in control after the situation starts. Do not suffer imagined troubles.

  • @m_winewood
    @m_winewood Год назад

    The right and wrong handles speaks to me the most at the moment

  • @chrisowen6453
    @chrisowen6453 2 года назад +2

    I like stoicism better than militant motivational information. I don't need to prove anything really. I just do what i do.

  • @turnerreich5890
    @turnerreich5890 2 года назад

    This guy is awesome. He genuinely makes the world better for others

  • @maxf7351
    @maxf7351 2 года назад

    Last year I seemed to get anxiety in check- but my life has drastically changed since then & eventually I crumbled. Now I'm 100% in anxiety constantly and it won't stop- I'm using the techniques i did to curb it originally but its not working- trying to not think about this stuff isn't an option, trying not to be absorbed by them seems to be impossible so I'm really looking for new ways to fight this nasty stuff- thanks for the great vid

  • @kamcami7545
    @kamcami7545 2 года назад

    Woooow, i m into stoicism and i watch this guy videos and just realized that i am right now reading this book called ego is the enemy, without knowing he is the writer. I found out in this video...whoaaaa! 🤯😄

  • @Fclwilson
    @Fclwilson 2 года назад +2

    I really needed this today. Thanks.

  • @billbaugh4404
    @billbaugh4404 Год назад

    Pure gold. Thank you, Ryan.

  • @ПавелШ-е7щ
    @ПавелШ-е7щ Год назад

    Imho to stop carrying about what other people think about you is the essential key to the liberty and self-realization.

  • @armandofelipe3462
    @armandofelipe3462 8 месяцев назад

    thank you so much for this video. Not only helpful, but necessary for daily leaving. excellent reminders
    I really appreciate all the lessons. Thank you, for one Stoic to another one.

  • @austonlim5836
    @austonlim5836 Год назад

    Key things I learnt:
    1. Don’t care about what people say or think.
    2. You don’t need to have an opinion.
    3. Feeling “harmed” is a choice.
    4. We suffer more in our imagination than reality.
    5. Do the things in front if you. Many mickles make a muckle.

  • @imoku2692
    @imoku2692 2 года назад +1

    The points you make in this video remind me of the message I got from the movie Peaceful Warrior. Love your Channel. Thank you!

  • @im_jenkins
    @im_jenkins Год назад

    You are doing some amazing work with this channel! Thank you!

  • @vidyavenkateswaran494
    @vidyavenkateswaran494 2 года назад +26

    I needed to hear this today. Ryan, your videos have become my reflective journal, my reminders to rise above existential dread that is weighing me (and many of us) down. Thank you for doing this important work.

  • @davidpittman106
    @davidpittman106 2 года назад

    Well I finally subscribed. I've been in a dark place for a while now. I just hope this helps me find the light again.

  • @OffGridMadMan
    @OffGridMadMan Год назад

    I have Complex PTSD so life is very challenging, I'm on a few medications so I can function. I'm 50 now and anxiety in particular is affecting my physical health. I started walking daily 6 months ago and am now addicted but I still can't find peace.
    I subscribe to your daily email and try to absorb as much as I can from various sources but there's still something missing. Could it be that Stoicism won't be so effective for someone like me? I'd love to hear a success story from anyone with serious issues ❤

  • @Ali-gv1yw
    @Ali-gv1yw 2 года назад

    Thank you a lot.
    Journaling in a stoic manner is important.

  • @FilmerDanny
    @FilmerDanny 2 года назад

    The irony of currently reading my 2nd book from R.Holiday and this video just pops up. (Obstacle is the way)

  • @adamsandora9608
    @adamsandora9608 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you for sharing your message. You have made an incredible impact on my life and I’m sure many other so thank you

  • @softshelltaco6916
    @softshelltaco6916 2 года назад +1

    Good timing Ryan. If you read this- thank you

  • @RieandoMapili-z7m
    @RieandoMapili-z7m Год назад

    Your changing people's live please continue the good work.