Each night I do a gratitude practice including prayers for others. I also go through a list of all the great things that happened to me today, all the little successes that I accomplished. I’ve been doing this for years. And it does really set the stage to a happy life. It carries over into the next day and I realize how wonderful it is to be alive and that I get to do all these things. Many of my successes are very small though meaningful. I include things like going to my son’s football game, noticing the clouds and palm trees in my neighborhood, the fact that I’m in good health, etc. I get very detailed! Thank you so much for all you do. I love your channel! ❤️🕺😁
In one of my last conversations with my grandmother, who passed away at the age of 93 we talked about regrets. I asked if she had any regrets in her life. She took a few moments to think and then said, “Regrets? No. I wish some things in my life had happened differently. But if I have to label something as a regret, these would be the times I hesitated to do something because of thinking about what people would say or not wanting to upset someone. Go live YOUR life! Do the things that are important to you. Chase your dreams. So, one day, when you are at the end of the road, you don’t have to say, “I wish I did something.” Standing at the end of life, I can tell you that people’s opinion doesn’t matter. No matter what, they will judge you, and they will not remember what you did anyway. Live right, by you and your family. This is what matters.”
i read Daniel pink book called " A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future" 15 years ago and opened my own Art gallery as an artist . Thank you Daniel Pink
What I hear in a lot of these stories of regret is a reimagining of what would have happened, and holding onto that story. What if instead of regret, we acknowledged that everything we've done has made us the person we are today? We made a decision and can't change it, so why hold onto wishing things were different? Regret seems so useless unless we use it to inform what we do going forward - and then release the regret fully.
Reminds me of the Book on Frank Sinatra- Nelson Mandela's greatest regret in not becoming no 1 heavyweight boxer. Admirable Men - Astonishing books relating to this profound discussion. To admit regret is powerful when realization knocks at the soul. 🙏❤🙏🧚♀️
This is a stunning conversation on an excellent topic.(the research sounded good)... discovering what means something to us, what really matters, & hence taking our life in our hands to make more true choices with the time we still have.
I often use the idea of regret to guide my current actions and choice. I ask myself: Will future me regret if I do or don’t do this now? In many cases this has helped me avoid major regrets.
Just discovered Dr C’s channel and have loved every conversation…this one was outstanding! Learning a lot and helping my mental health immensely! Thank you 🙏
Noooo I'm sorry but 8 feel lost and lazy bcuz I have unknowingly allowed my energy system to come to a low place. I have listened to western docs and adults so long that my stomach is now torn up from the stress of TRYING to fit it. I have healed a lot BUT I've zero energy bcuz I havenot replaced it. Meridian theory and acupressure will return it. Not stressing more
I’ve always seen regret as a pointless exercise because you can’t go back & change things. Of course there are many things I wish I’d said or done, or not said & not done in my life but I guess I just choose not to use the word “regret”. Twenty years ago I did something totally out of character & something that I knew (& still know) was morally wrong. It went completely against my values & moral code. I had a relationship outside of my marriage, which for someone who’d been on the receiving end in my 20’s & who fully understood the betrayal & destruction of trust was almost an unthinkable thing to do. This person was actually my first husband, whose infidelity ended our marriage. He was the love of my life & it turned out I was his and that he had always regretted his behaviour & although he’d moved on with his life, as had I, he’d never lost his feelings for me. Same here. So when he contacted me out of the blue & it was clear there was still love there on both sides I was faced with a dilemma. Should I take a chance & possibly risk everything or politely ignore his approach. Morally I should have done the latter but I didn’t. This very risk averse person embarked on a journey which lasted 2 years and while it was morally the most wrong thing I’ve ever done, nothing ever felt more right in my life and in that time I knew more joy, happiness & fulfilment than before or since. I’m 60+ now & while I don’t condone my behaviour which I know was very selfish I’m certainly not ashamed & every day I’m thankful to have had such love in my life. I’m glad I had the courage to take that risk & I know if I hadn’t I would have had huge regret because he died a few years later in his late 40’s. None of this is secret. Family & friends all know and no one’s ever judged me, at least to my face! In the context of this podcast I can see how learning & growth can come from regret but I still won’t be using the word myself! Really interesting & thought provoking though.
"Duty" is a simplified stand-in for the basic care/harm, but it shortcuts nuanced considerations, sort of like a thought-terminating cliché. Think about the meaning of words. Care/harm is the only "moral foundation". It's also obvious from the understanding of how brains operate on the basis of harm detection and avoidance, with the rest being abstractions to serve that end. A misunderstanding of how society does or should work would, or purely lack of understanding of the mechanics of it all, can lead to an imbalance of the categories we break morality into (a.k.a. ways of doing harm or being harmed). This misunderstanding of morality gives false credibility to the "conservative" view of morality. It's so sad how much Haidt's ideas are cited when they're definitionally invalid. If he hadn't presupposed multiple "foundations" then maybe he would be closer to truth. But he's having a great career painting conservatism as more morally good.
Each night I do a gratitude practice including prayers for others. I also go through a list of all the great things that happened to me today, all the little successes that I accomplished. I’ve been doing this for years. And it does really set the stage to a happy life. It carries over into the next day and I realize how wonderful it is to be alive and that I get to do all these things. Many of my successes are very small though meaningful. I include things like going to my son’s football game, noticing the clouds and palm trees in my neighborhood, the fact that I’m in good health, etc. I get very detailed! Thank you so much for all you do. I love your channel! ❤️🕺😁
In one of my last conversations with my grandmother, who passed away at the age of 93 we talked about regrets. I asked if she had any regrets in her life. She took a few moments to think and then said, “Regrets? No. I wish some things in my life had happened differently. But if I have to label something as a regret, these would be the times I hesitated to do something because of thinking about what people would say or not wanting to upset someone. Go live YOUR life! Do the things that are important to you. Chase your dreams. So, one day, when you are at the end of the road, you don’t have to say, “I wish I did something.” Standing at the end of life, I can tell you that people’s opinion doesn’t matter. No matter what, they will judge you, and they will not remember what you did anyway. Live right, by you and your family. This is what matters.”
You guys have such a great chemistry! You two could write a great book together!
Listening to this totally turned my lights back on at 68❤
i read Daniel pink book called " A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future" 15 years ago and opened my own Art gallery as an artist . Thank you Daniel Pink
Absolutely loved this conversation. They make it so light and fun. Feeling lifted! Thanks Rangan and Dan.
What I hear in a lot of these stories of regret is a reimagining of what would have happened, and holding onto that story. What if instead of regret, we acknowledged that everything we've done has made us the person we are today? We made a decision and can't change it, so why hold onto wishing things were different? Regret seems so useless unless we use it to inform what we do going forward - and then release the regret fully.
great video. love your podcast
We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment. - Jim Rohn
Reminds me of the Book on Frank Sinatra- Nelson Mandela's greatest regret in not becoming no 1 heavyweight boxer. Admirable Men - Astonishing books relating to this profound discussion. To admit regret is powerful when realization knocks at the soul. 🙏❤🙏🧚♀️
This was fabulous! Thank you!
Fantastic. Really enjoyed this one. Keep up the good work Dr C!
Thank you for the clarity this conversation created.
This is a stunning conversation on an excellent topic.(the research sounded good)... discovering what means something to us, what really matters, & hence taking our life in our hands to make more true choices with the time we still have.
I often use the idea of regret to guide my current actions and choice. I ask myself: Will future me regret if I do or don’t do this now? In many cases this has helped me avoid major regrets.
Thanks immensely for such a critically relevant topic.👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾
THANKS For THE LOVE!!!
Very good conversation, i have so many regrets that i didnt realise how much was impacting my life. Where can i get his book???
Just discovered Dr C’s channel and have loved every conversation…this one was outstanding! Learning a lot and helping my mental health immensely! Thank you 🙏
I loved this conversation. I am learning so much about life. Thank you Dr Chatterjee.
I'm listening... wow
Loved it, thank you si much. Please keep the good work .
Noooo I'm sorry but 8 feel lost and lazy bcuz I have unknowingly allowed my energy system to come to a low place. I have listened to western docs and adults so long that my stomach is now torn up from the stress of TRYING to fit it. I have healed a lot BUT I've zero energy bcuz I havenot replaced it. Meridian theory and acupressure will return it. Not stressing more
Regrets ok as long as we don't live in it.
Best conversation ever. Thanks Rangan.
oh God, I hope Bruce finds Sondra.
The author’s daily achievements seem more immense than many people might make. Wouldn’t minor achievements be as important?
I know what's happened to my drive n purpose n yes I want it back. I don't like this. 😞
Debra Schubert,
Please tell us what happened to your drive! Maybe we can find ours too?
I’ve always seen regret as a pointless exercise because you can’t go back & change things. Of course there are many things I wish I’d said or done, or not said & not done in my life but I guess I just choose not to use the word “regret”. Twenty years ago I did something totally out of character & something that I knew (& still know) was morally wrong. It went completely against my values & moral code. I had a relationship outside of my marriage, which for someone who’d been on the receiving end in my 20’s & who fully understood the betrayal & destruction of trust was almost an unthinkable thing to do. This person was actually my first husband, whose infidelity ended our marriage. He was the love of my life & it turned out I was his and that he had always regretted his behaviour & although he’d moved on with his life, as had I, he’d never lost his feelings for me. Same here. So when he contacted me out of the blue & it was clear there was still love there on both sides I was faced with a dilemma. Should I take a chance & possibly risk everything or politely ignore his approach. Morally I should have done the latter but I didn’t. This very risk averse person embarked on a journey which lasted 2 years and while it was morally the most wrong thing I’ve ever done, nothing ever felt more right in my life and in that time I knew more joy, happiness & fulfilment than before or since. I’m 60+ now & while I don’t condone my behaviour which I know was very selfish I’m certainly not ashamed & every day I’m thankful to have had such love in my life. I’m glad I had the courage to take that risk & I know if I hadn’t I would have had huge regret because he died a few years later in his late 40’s. None of this is secret. Family & friends all know and no one’s ever judged me, at least to my face! In the context of this podcast I can see how learning & growth can come from regret but I still won’t be using the word myself! Really interesting & thought provoking though.
"Duty" is a simplified stand-in for the basic care/harm, but it shortcuts nuanced considerations, sort of like a thought-terminating cliché. Think about the meaning of words. Care/harm is the only "moral foundation". It's also obvious from the understanding of how brains operate on the basis of harm detection and avoidance, with the rest being abstractions to serve that end. A misunderstanding of how society does or should work would, or purely lack of understanding of the mechanics of it all, can lead to an imbalance of the categories we break morality into (a.k.a. ways of doing harm or being harmed). This misunderstanding of morality gives false credibility to the "conservative" view of morality. It's so sad how much Haidt's ideas are cited when they're definitionally invalid. If he hadn't presupposed multiple "foundations" then maybe he would be closer to truth. But he's having a great career painting conservatism as more morally good.
Who are you? If you have no soul?
First!!! Hehe
WOW!!? Great achievement 😃
I hope Bruce’s wife isn’t listening to this
ZzzZzzzZzzzz....
So academic.
@@lenas5613 So trite.
Time for self reflection!
Are you guys too scared?
What's up??🤔 It's only 1hour and fifty minutes long 😂