bi polar people frequently say goodbye to people. that is an issue with the depression stages. not something that should be encouraged to say to people who care
I hate when people say: " Everyone has something. So and so is like this, and that person is like that (noting specific characteristic)." This kind of thinking devalues the pain we go through. Basically, stop complaining, you're not the only one with problems. 😡😠
@@eliserani98 That is not what I was saying! If someone is suffering and needs support and another person tells them "well, everyone has something..." Yes, everyone does have something (to what degree?????). How is that helpful? To anyone? The conversation stops there. What's next?
Yes we live in a broken world every human being has issues may not all be mental illness but we all have issues. In my opinion she my brother the real low areas as well as struggling to continue to take the medication because it can take such a long time until you find the right medication. If somebody is struggling you don’t need to then tell them you’re struggling as well that’s very Selfish and not helpful whatsoever. I think it’s important members to get educated if you have this diagnosis. What help me the most is just spending time with other people that have different types of mental illness. And trying to learn as much as I can and understand science is continually changing on this topic. First listened it made me think about when my son was diagnosed with autism is where everyone’s responses and they were afraid to even say the word autism. Autism does not define who my son is just like bipolar does not define who you are. The hardest part for a family member or is my brother refuses to get help and denies that he has it anymore. This has been very consistent with him and my close friend that bipolar. Very difficult for family members so important to understand that even know that I may be amazing the damage it does to your family and children much worse. It’s not gonna be easy it’s gonna be hard but I promise you the people that I have seen that refused to give up have become some of the strongest most resilient people I know
.... well as someone who had a grandma and mother and girlfriend all with severe bi polar. I think medication is extremely important to finding a balance with most strong cases. it may be trial and error first but it is the only thing that worked for my family. so please do not discount this advice
I have been a week with my diagnosis, November 3rd, 2020. I am 46yrs old. I have had bipolar ll disorder since my teens. Back then I didn't pay any attention to my highs or lows because I didn't know the signs I was displaying were bipolar disorder. Well, I have been married 2 times, my 2nd husband and I have been married 23 years. First husband 3 years. My current husband is a retired police Lt. Of 22 yrs, he took a lot of police courses and quite a few mental health courses in the 22 years of service. So he has sucessfully dealt with and possibly saved a few people and got them help. He recognized in me and my dad that we were undiagnosed bipolar, my first cousin is a doc diagnosed bipolar and a few 2nd cousins probably are as well. As I got older and after raising our 2 special needs kids, also taking care of my dying mother in our home for 7 years, I noticed depression happening more and more and getting deeper and darker. I would also be in such an energetic mood and feel like I could hug the sun and every ray it spat out. Or be so ungodly irritated, I would snap off at anyone for any reason. In one of my more recent meltdowns, (my worst to date) I was crying uncontrollably and pulling at both sides of my head, handfulls of hair. My husband thankfully was with me watching this horror show feeling helpless. I all of the sudden switched from crying uncontrollably to laughing hysterically at nothing..telling him while laughing that I am losing my damn mind, then instantly crying again. I kept telling him I am worthless and useless, and good for nothing. This alarmed me so badly, I called a psychiatrist a week later..(There was more to my meltdown, but I told you the worst of it). 3 months later I get my virtual visit. I told her what I could remember and my feelings, my husband gave his background, education and his observation of me since being married. I asked what she thought and she told me I was bipolar ll. I belueve her answer was dead on, i have been studying my feelings and what i was going through for years and its matching perfectly with my studies of bipolar ll disorder. I try to tell my sister the same day, just to air out my head..kindof hoping i would receive love and support..no. i get told i am an attention seeker, i have no life..and now my new personal phrase i absolutely hate, "dont let this define you", i have heard that twice now. I can certainly say this, i was an attention seeker when i was a teenager..duh, who isn't?? But yeah most people can tell you thats very far from the truth. I dont leave the house for days, sometimes weeks. I am basically a recluse. Thats from taking care of my mother for 7 yrs. I couldn't leave her for fear she would fall, break herself and i wouldn't be there to help her up. So no, not an attention seeker. But i can tell you this, i am still me. Just trying to still come to grips with my diagnoses. I cried for 4 days after. I am on a mood stabilizer now, still waiting for it to stop my yoyoing. 50mg a day. Becareful who you tell, family included. If the person isn't bipolar or has never been around someone who is, they probably won't be able to understand. Pick wisely who you confide in. Thats my story..in a nutshell. Sorry I am so windy..oh and yes i was put on a therapy regimen for 2-3 weeks but will be getting an assessment first.
"You're using bipolar as an excuse to act so badly." Ok, when I'm manic, I can be very difficult to handle, esp if I'm agitated. But why would I want to act like that?! It hurts people and I know that, so I'm trying to learn how to cope with it and minimize it.
Hi chinchilla8100. I try to keep in mind that most people are completely uneducated about mental illness and bipolar disorder, specifically. Of course, "Bipolar disorder is the reason I am this way." You mentioned trying to learn new coping mechanisms. What's helped you so far? Thanks, Hannah
I have met bi polar people who do this though. they just take their manic depression and make it their idendity and unapologetically say and do cruel things. you can tell when they are rude in the manic and derpressed stages both. do not get it twisted. I have known many people who are bi polar including my mother. But being bi polar does not excuse people from being cruel or rude to others... and mean people can also have manic depression and still be in general... mean people
I dated 2 people with bipolar and they both treated me like shit because they have insecurity issues. They stole from me, took advantage of me, made everything about them, and always made everything my fault when I've done nothing wrong. They are overly dramatic and have low self esteem issues.
This video speaks volumes to me personally. I've had my mother tell my younger brothers not to trust me and not to speak with me because I'm " she is always going crazy she is bipolar like her brother". Till this day that sentence hurts. I have been diagnosed in the past with bipolar (not sure if it was 1or 2) when I was younger but I couldn't except it and my mother gave up taking me to my evaluation and beat me so hard that I did not believe her when she told me in Nov.2018 that I am bipolar and to get some "fucking help". Long story short up until now I thought it was just emotional abuse every time she called me crazy and bipolar etc. Now I have a psychiatric assessment. All your videos make sense and I fell like everything you are describing as your feeling or behavior is me spot on. Let's hope I can get my diagnosis spot on and treatment going :) Thank you dearly for your words of wisdom and your dedication to this Channel and for being an amazing advocate and face for Bipolar.
Hi! I am sorry to hear that some of your family speaks of you with stigmatized statements. What matters most is that you accept your diagnosis and yourself. Stigma persuades people to think negatively, but we do not have to think negatively about ourselves. I am happy to hear that you are seeking help. Keep striving for a diagnosis and treatment that will allow you to thrive. Thank you for the support and commenting! -Hannah
I feel sorry for your mother and the hell she had to endure. Please spare a thought for the parents that have to go through life with bipolar children.
if someone is asking because of care then this question is not at all bad People who are living with bipolar person can only know how painfull it is to handel mood swings and also for the person who is suffering with bpd it is harful So asking about meds because of care or fear is not bad at all
When someone is negative for so long, brings everyone down and refuses help, you start lashing out. So damn hard to hold my tongue against someone who doesn't even try. I help and support someone who is arrogant and self centered. I got so much I could say, I could nuke that bridge and ruin the relationship that only exists because of my good graces. Moving away from it all, good luck to them, lets see how they fair without me, maybe a good wakeup call.
Thanks for the vid sister! Had a few weeks of manic and then two weeks ago hit a deep depression cycle, nice to find vids like this so I can relate to someone.
Society says: Oh just snap out of it everybody gets depressed and anxious sometimes, you’re focusing too much on the problem, you look or sound Bipolar and you’re just being too hard on yourself. But of course society knows everything and they couldn’t possibly be wrong about anything Church says: Oh no worries just pray it away, you’re just being attacked by demons, you’re not on the right path or yours sins are the reason why you’re cursed. Yet they lack the ability to even understand the issues and situations and they quickly brush it off like it’s not a big deal Unfortunately this makes us struggle even more with our symptoms of BP1 and BP2 plus this can even lead some of us to suicide or suicidal thoughts. It’s best that we set a community for us that are either Bipolar or have other disorders that way we can keep those that criticize and don’t understand us out of it. All we have is each other at the end of the day
Soo true. I am the daughter of a fundamentalist minister. There are all kinds of personality disorders in the family but nobody acknowledges them. I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 at 65 years old and it explained everything.
I have bipolar 2 and i live with my dad and he will say stuff like temper tantrum, your negative all the time, your always pissed off, i can't take it anymore, you don't want to change, i end up holding a grudge and hating him so i can relate to you totally.
The one that drives me the craziest and my husband uses it - "snap out of it." You think I like feeling like this? If I could "snap out of it," don't you think I would? He used to work with people with depression and would come home and tell me the things he'd done to help them, but when he comes home - he's totally clueless. He says it's because I "Don't listen" which means I'm not doing what he thinks I should. The bottom line is - he doesn't really believe there is such a thing.
My family has stopped my medication of bipolar 2 disorder. I am very helpless right now and on the daily basis they are torturing and blaming me for my condition
I had someone say to me once " You might to talk to your Dr. about increasing your meds." I felt like he was saying your not allowed to have emotions because are Bipolar. I other words people think I need to be like zombie over medicated. Here is what's crazy this was coming from an individual who just spent 3 years in prison for domestic violence and is diagnosed bipolar 1 who chooses to be unmedicated.
I was told, "Get your shit together" when I was in a low period and couldn't complete an assignment on time. The person who told me this was close to me and knew about my illness. It really upset me :(
I'm watching this video as my mom is currently going through a manic episode. She has Bipolar Disorder but I was a kid when she was hospitalized, it was over a decade ago. I'm currently 21, I'm exhausted, it's been four days of living like this, but I understand that for her it's been her entire life being stigmatized by this disorder and due to the loss of her mom she relapsed. I want to be careful with my words, I must say I'm guilty of asking her if she took her meds these days, but I asked her if she was okay with me asking that and assured me she took her meds. I trust her. She has a low dosis of her meds, and has an appointment with her therapist in two days. I honestly hope he realizes what's going on, it's been challenging, because she either loves me dearly or hates my guts, but I know it isn't her talking. Thank you for the video!!
Mental illness is absolutely real. It's also true that people don't accept responsibility for illnesses and others aren't able to get the treatment that they need.
When I’m depressed everyone disappears…the statement ‘you know where I/we are’….yes….I have to come to you because I know where you are…no where near me
One of my friends told me that he didn't believe that I had BPD, I just had a hard life. I need to go pn vacation, do something good for myself, and I will feel better. I agree that a vacation may make me feel better for a period of time, but it certainly won't cure me. LOL
0:48 I would agree. If I could tell people only one thing not to do that would be it. It’s everything she explained and strongly reenforces the stigma and further leads people to hide their illness or even worse avoid treatment. It’s the single most harmful thing I hear and I hear it regularly.
Thanks Hannah, I can think of more things people shouldnt ever say like... you talk to much. OMG do I hate that, how can you properly communicate with people and drs without being specific? If your not specific they will not understand the importance of what we saying. Im lost I dont get that! And it happens to me all the time. Am I doing something wrong ? I was an EMT for 10 years and we were always real detailed in communicating with the ER drs, that gave the drs a clear picture of the mechanism of injury to help determine quickly how critical a patient could be, without that info many people wouldnt have made it so it was Very important to do so and still is. So I talk to my drs that way and sometimes they freak out and say you talk to much, that got my last psychiatrist fired the minute he said it! And I'm not sorry I did either, and i'd do it again if necessary. He was getting paid $186.00 for 20 minutes to see me about my problems, I asked him if it would help him properly treat me if I came in and just sat there. He said no, so I said your FIRED! Not all drs are good one's, only a real incompetent would say that.
Yeah, it kills me when 1) oh I do that too. You just need to .... (and or everyone has something ... I know another mentioned this too). 2) They think its a compliment to say we don't seem like someone with a mental illness/ challenge/ disorder. Normally, I do not like labels either. However, the diagnosis was validating, and I found communities with whom I can relate.
For me, I hate when I explain to people what bipolar disorder look like and they say oh I got that shit to I’m a bipolar when they didn’t get diagnosed
Where there are pros, there are also cons and vice versa. Living with bipolar 2 allows me too dance around symptoms that have pockets of creativity. Anywhere from writing songs to dance moves anything that I find passionate, or have found passionate in the past or present, becomes lit up with ingenuity and creativeness and hype. These are the pros of having bipolar. and while I say that I will say that there are many downs as well. I wish that I did not have this. Having bipolar means that you have essentially polar opposites of your personality. The pros although they are good they are not great. They give you a warped sense of overachieving and you are extra in a lot of ways at least from my experience. It’s like that movie limitless with Bradley Cooper in it. Yes, you would think that you’d want to have some thing that does this to you but you see that it is not sustainable. You have moments that you are reeling from this high and then you crash and the crash is so bad that you honestly want to kill yourself again from my experience. I really would rather be stable normal. Being on a roller coaster is not all that it’s cracked up to be even when you wanna get off the ride you can’t.
Hi Kami. Obviously, it's insensitive. One thing to keep in mind, Kami, is that some people don't know how to react to the news. Could it be that she said that as a way to let you know that it's okay that you were diagnosed with a mental illness? Hannah
Thanks for your thought Hannah. Thinking about that conversation, I believe what was said was more of a reaction then a response. Her comment literally ended the conversation, probably because she didn’t want to broach an uncomfortable subject. Even though it came off dismissive, I’m hopeful that she and I may be able to have a more thoughtful conversation the next time we’re together.
Yep..my sister said something about everyone being "a little bipolar right now"..i wanted to smack her..kinda impossible through messenger though.☹ and yeah..no such thing as "a little bipolar"..*eyedamnroll*..lol
Number Six... "You need to pray more, deepen your faith, get rid of those demons influencing you!" AUGH! Faith communities should be a wonderful place to receive the support we need ; our faith really does play a crucial role in stability. But when I keep getting told to toss my psych meds and pray, I want to run, isolate, and leave my church. And I might...
I hate is when people spiritualize mental illness. God does heal, but he may not in this lifetime. Bipolar people need their medication. Pray them to be healed, but don’t tell them to get off of their meds
I've not had a problem with the few people I've shared with that I'm bipolar. I don't expect anyone to understand it who is not a mental health specialist or a person familiar with it in their lives or a loved ones life. I won't share it with acquaintances or random people as I feel it would not be of value. To really explain it takes time and if a person has no frame of reference it takes even more time, with close family it is worth the effort and my family has wanted to know. Of course this is all my own perspective and learned it over the last 35 years. As a small side note the title of this video seems a bit confrontational and if I put myself outside my condition I would not view it to help me understand how to talk to someone with bipolar. Seems a bit like preaching to the choir. If someone sent this video to me with this title I'd take it as a personal attack with all the head bobbing/weaving, hand movements and tone of voice. I get it you are angry, but if you truly want someone to understand it's not what you say it's how you say it.
I have an autoimmune disease/hypothyroidism .. my symptoms are that of bipolar. It's connected. My symptoms were greatly reduced with the carnivore diet. I'm naturally calm by nature, but when my thyroid went wack, I became hysterical/angry/It was such a scary feeling, nothing would stop me. . Well, it could stop if people understood it. but many people think you are just 'crazy. The guilt is horrible and painful.
I too have hypothyroidism and PCOS..and..bipolar ll disorder...annnnd..im possibly perimenopausal. Im 46, so yeah im seriously driving myself bonkers and sweating like a leaky firehydrant...good times..*sigh*
I hear number one ALL the time , even from my own therapist who believe I'm "too pretty " or functional to have bipolar , depression , or that I'm exaggerating my anxiety . Ive just stopped telling people I have bipolar 2 because I'm tired of having to "prove it "....people assume that you have to constantly be in mental / emotional distress , that you can't look neat or taken care of , that I need a hobby so I won't "focus " too much on things that make me anxious . My mom even restricts my medicine and makes me explain why I need it that particular day , and "I need it " isn't good enough for her
When I am at my depression and someone advises me how to deal with it cause its all just in your head and stop the drama. But worse when I am at mixed emotions and someone says don't think about it and think positive thoughts. IT ONLY AGGRRVATES ME. I dont know why, I acknowledge their advice but it just won't help.
"Did you take your meds?" What about my situation? I manage my fiance's meds for now while he is staying with me here in the Philippines. He agreed on that though. But when he goes back to Ireland, he is gonna manage his meds alone again. Would it still be offensive if I ask him if he's taken his meds? I'm just genuinely concerned about him. Plus I am engaged to be married to him this month but only found out that he has bipolar 1 disorder last month when he had manic attacks. Its my first time to have a bipolar person in my life and I didn't know what to do.
As a newly diagnosed bipolar ll..i would highly suggest studying his diagnoses, possibly interact with his psychiatrist if possible. Its going to be a bumpy road, i won't lie. But a lot of time, love and patience will be needed. This is life long for him. He can't help it. Make sure he is sticking to his med schedule. Beyond that i wouldn't know what else to say or do, talk to his doctor if you are allowed. I am in the USA, we have laws that protect patients medical information unless written consent is given to you by your fiance and the doctor knows this.
Idk about the meds one, cause my brother gets influenced easily by his ignorant friends when they say meds are useless and would go for days without his medication. So we do be asking him if he did from time to time.
"Do you think only you have depression, everyone have it, but all others manage" "I have never seen a person as lazy as you" "come to school atleast tomorrow please" "I won't trust your words, don't be so much fluctuationing in decisions" " why you are not trying to overcome it"
Hi I've been trying to help a friend who is bipolar. How should I help her? She has many times just got mad over alot of things. Over the top mad. Up till just recently I've tried to be calm, and logical. Tell her that how things are. Many times she has a tantrum much like a two year old. The only reason I ask her about her med schedule is because she has not always taken them. She is going through a stressful divorce has financial issues and sometimes if feels manipulative..suddenly she forgets how to do things. That she has done before. This is new to me. What should I let slide and what should I nicely point out what isn't acceptable behavior..please advise.
Encourage her to have her Thyroid check TSH, T4 and T3. Have at least those levels checked. If she has a doc who listens to her, tell her to ask that the doc do a full panel workup. Just to make sure that there is no underlying medical issues. I have bipolar one and my Thyroid problem was underlying. It caused massive depression and erratic behavior that aggravated my disorder. Also, and I mean no disrespect please know that, but I don't think she needs to be told what's out of line as far as behavior. It can bring about shame and sadness which can make a bipolar person spin out emotionally. And lead to a breakdown or worse. Also, meditation can help once the mind is quiet. Just my opinion as a fellow bipolar person 🙄. It's a wicked disease that in an instant can send a person careening over a cliff. Believe me. Mia
"You need help" like no shit I need help you could help? Bit this could also piss me off when I'm having genuine emotions and feelings towards a situation and I'm told I need help for the way I feel? Why am I not allowed to have feelings? And since you don't agree with my feelings or find them difficult to handle that means I need help?
Can I add number 6 … go for a walk . Great idea I’m cured why didn’t I think of thar sooner 🤦♀️ all those times I’ve tried so many different pills got so many side effects from them when all I needed was walking shoes .
I watched your video, but I can tell you have a lot of anger built-up. It might help to rethink how you present the information. You come across as bitter, and not trying to truly help people understand. Thanks for your time.
THKU. how about ''get out of victimhood'' ''stop playing the 'victim''. these word make me very upset. I hear this alot by ''behavior coaches'' get out of ''lack mentality'' I'm on disability and NOT qualified for food stamps. I am ''in lack'' of food, I dont lack a mind! ''Mental illness'' is exactly like a ''physical illness'' isnt the brain part of our bodies? why stigmatize our 'minds' its about the brain chemistry
It would be much more beneficial to make a video like this for doctors. The way I have been treated before they figured out what it was has made me not want to accept any help from the medical world. When you are a doctor and you are going to tell a 6 foot 2 concrete worker he most likely just has a low pain resistance while he is a man that usually doesn't even notice he is injured you loose your credibility. It took me 2 days to even notice I broke my toe the other day 😂 I regularly get told I am bleeding while I didn't notice. Cuts so big I need stitches. You might think you are a smart 'ss but I know all this from myself. I was there. So you saying something like that just tells me you have no clue and you are for sure not going to help me. Most likely you will make it worse.. That's a problem.. I luckily found one doctor I trust though. She was the one that said it is most likely bipolar after she just talked to me for 3 minutes. That finally opened up the door to a psychiatrist that came to the same conclusion. It's those 2 people that saved my life and I hope they will never retire because they are the only doctors left that I can trust. 😅
Truth hurts doesn't It!!! I personally believe in Freedom of Speech, as you are doing now. Us Who are not bipo have the right to our opinion! If you have a problema with It then its your problema, find another crowd. Ps: looks like you are having an episode!!!
What about when you open up a out having bi polar disorder and they actually judge you and treat you like Crap actually caused panic attacks and not to mention you close yourself off from sharing with people you thought that cared
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One thing to absolutely say to someone that’s barking out things you can’t say to them: “goodbye”
bi polar people frequently say goodbye to people. that is an issue with the depression stages. not something that should be encouraged to say to people who care
"I had bipolar but it went away when I started taking [insert ridiculous 'natural cure']."
What do you mean?
@@ami-vidacui8862 They are talking about people who said that they had a mental illness but really didn't.
That makes no sense to me.
@@shawnosborn8887 It's ''something you shouldn't say to someone with bipolar'' ;-)
I hate when people say: " Everyone has something. So and so is like this, and that person is like that (noting specific characteristic)." This kind of thinking devalues the pain we go through. Basically, stop complaining, you're not the only one with problems. 😡😠
well, indeed everyone has problems, you yours need attention, best person to give it to you is the doctor :))
Well yes it is shocking that you are not the only people in the world with mental health issues?!?!?!?
@@eliserani98 That is not what I was saying! If someone is suffering and needs support and another person tells them "well, everyone has something..." Yes, everyone does have something (to what degree?????). How is that helpful? To anyone? The conversation stops there. What's next?
Yes we live in a broken world every human being has issues may not all be mental illness but we all have issues. In my opinion she my brother the real low areas as well as struggling to continue to take the medication because it can take such a long time until you find the right medication. If somebody is struggling you don’t need to then tell them you’re struggling as well that’s very Selfish and not helpful whatsoever. I think it’s important members to get educated if you have this diagnosis. What help me the most is just spending time with other people that have different types of mental illness. And trying to learn as much as I can and understand science is continually changing on this topic. First listened it made me think about when my son was diagnosed with autism is where everyone’s responses and they were afraid to even say the word autism. Autism does not define who my son is just like bipolar does not define who you are. The hardest part for a family member or is my brother refuses to get help and denies that he has it anymore. This has been very consistent with him and my close friend that bipolar. Very difficult for family members so important to understand that even know that I may be amazing the damage it does to your family and children much worse. It’s not gonna be easy it’s gonna be hard but I promise you the people that I have seen that refused to give up have become some of the strongest most resilient people I know
The "I don't think you need or should take medication" is also very upsetting. You're not a psychiatrist, how can you say that to someone?
I had my pastor and his wife tell me this.
Or once you get better, you should stop your meds or you’ll become dependent on them. So frustrating
“I don’t think you should take medication”
Well I don’t think you should get involved with my personal life and health.
My mother says that to me often.
.... well as someone who had a grandma and mother and girlfriend all with severe bi polar. I think medication is extremely important to finding a balance with most strong cases. it may be trial and error first but it is the only thing that worked for my family. so please do not discount this advice
I have been a week with my diagnosis, November 3rd, 2020. I am 46yrs old. I have had bipolar ll disorder since my teens. Back then I didn't pay any attention to my highs or lows because I didn't know the signs I was displaying were bipolar disorder. Well, I have been married 2 times, my 2nd husband and I have been married 23 years. First husband 3 years. My current husband is a retired police Lt. Of 22 yrs, he took a lot of police courses and quite a few mental health courses in the 22 years of service. So he has sucessfully dealt with and possibly saved a few people and got them help. He recognized in me and my dad that we were undiagnosed bipolar, my first cousin is a doc diagnosed bipolar and a few 2nd cousins probably are as well. As I got older and after raising our 2 special needs kids, also taking care of my dying mother in our home for 7 years, I noticed depression happening more and more and getting deeper and darker. I would also be in such an energetic mood and feel like I could hug the sun and every ray it spat out. Or be so ungodly irritated, I would snap off at anyone for any reason. In one of my more recent meltdowns, (my worst to date) I was crying uncontrollably and pulling at both sides of my head, handfulls of hair. My husband thankfully was with me watching this horror show feeling helpless. I all of the sudden switched from crying uncontrollably to laughing hysterically at nothing..telling him while laughing that I am losing my damn mind, then instantly crying again. I kept telling him I am worthless and useless, and good for nothing. This alarmed me so badly, I called a psychiatrist a week later..(There was more to my meltdown, but I told you the worst of it). 3 months later I get my virtual visit. I told her what I could remember and my feelings, my husband gave his background, education and his observation of me since being married. I asked what she thought and she told me I was bipolar ll. I belueve her answer was dead on, i have been studying my feelings and what i was going through for years and its matching perfectly with my studies of bipolar ll disorder. I try to tell my sister the same day, just to air out my head..kindof hoping i would receive love and support..no. i get told i am an attention seeker, i have no life..and now my new personal phrase i absolutely hate, "dont let this define you", i have heard that twice now. I can certainly say this, i was an attention seeker when i was a teenager..duh, who isn't?? But yeah most people can tell you thats very far from the truth. I dont leave the house for days, sometimes weeks. I am basically a recluse. Thats from taking care of my mother for 7 yrs. I couldn't leave her for fear she would fall, break herself and i wouldn't be there to help her up. So no, not an attention seeker. But i can tell you this, i am still me. Just trying to still come to grips with my diagnoses. I cried for 4 days after. I am on a mood stabilizer now, still waiting for it to stop my yoyoing. 50mg a day. Becareful who you tell, family included. If the person isn't bipolar or has never been around someone who is, they probably won't be able to understand. Pick wisely who you confide in. Thats my story..in a nutshell. Sorry I am so windy..oh and yes i was put on a therapy regimen for 2-3 weeks but will be getting an assessment first.
"You're using bipolar as an excuse to act so badly."
Ok, when I'm manic, I can be very difficult to handle, esp if I'm agitated. But why would I want to act like that?! It hurts people and I know that, so I'm trying to learn how to cope with it and minimize it.
Hi chinchilla8100. I try to keep in mind that most people are completely uneducated about mental illness and bipolar disorder, specifically. Of course, "Bipolar disorder is the reason I am this way." You mentioned trying to learn new coping mechanisms. What's helped you so far? Thanks, Hannah
I have met bi polar people who do this though. they just take their manic depression and make it their idendity and unapologetically say and do cruel things. you can tell when they are rude in the manic and derpressed stages both. do not get it twisted. I have known many people who are bi polar including my mother. But being bi polar does not excuse people from being cruel or rude to others... and mean people can also have manic depression and still be in general... mean people
I dated 2 people with bipolar and they both treated me like shit because they have insecurity issues. They stole from me, took advantage of me, made everything about them, and always made everything my fault when I've done nothing wrong. They are overly dramatic and have low self esteem issues.
Society coddles them.
This is how my now ex gf is. I want to give her another chance but I need to figure out where we can meet in the middle.
NOTE EVERYONE IS THE SAME I HAD PEOPLE TREAT ME LIKE CRAP AND STEAL FROM ME AND THEY WEREN'T BI POLAR
@@annbet3684 Lol ya the difference is they don’t use their mental illness as an excuse
They won't hesitate to put charges on you.
This video speaks volumes to me personally. I've had my mother tell my younger brothers not to trust me and not to speak with me because I'm " she is always going crazy she is bipolar like her brother". Till this day that sentence hurts. I have been diagnosed in the past with bipolar (not sure if it was 1or 2) when I was younger but I couldn't except it and my mother gave up taking me to my evaluation and beat me so hard that I did not believe her when she told me in Nov.2018 that I am bipolar and to get some "fucking help". Long story short up until now I thought it was just emotional abuse every time she called me crazy and bipolar etc. Now I have a psychiatric assessment. All your videos make sense and I fell like everything you are describing as your feeling or behavior is me spot on. Let's hope I can get my diagnosis spot on and treatment going :) Thank you dearly for your words of wisdom and your dedication to this Channel and for being an amazing advocate and face for Bipolar.
Hi! I am sorry to hear that some of your family speaks of you with stigmatized statements. What matters most is that you accept your diagnosis and yourself. Stigma persuades people to think negatively, but we do not have to think negatively about ourselves. I am happy to hear that you are seeking help. Keep striving for a diagnosis and treatment that will allow you to thrive. Thank you for the support and commenting! -Hannah
I am so very sorry to hear this. When people are brutal and abusive as personalities oh, they will always be abusive no matter what is happening.
I feel sorry for your mother and the hell she had to endure. Please spare a thought for the parents that have to go through life with bipolar children.
That is why I don't talk to much. A few of my closest know, and all my energy to explain, I spend on them. Hanna nice video as always.😊
The “ did you take your meds “. Thing is thrown at me regularly.
It should be based on tone by which someone is asking that question
if someone is asking because of care then this question is not at all bad
People who are living with bipolar person can only know how painfull it is to handel mood swings and also for the person who is suffering with bpd it is harful
So asking about meds because of care or fear is not bad at all
Only my primary caregiver can ask me if i have taken my meds.
When someone is negative for so long, brings everyone down and refuses help, you start lashing out. So damn hard to hold my tongue against someone who doesn't even try. I help and support someone who is arrogant and self centered. I got so much I could say, I could nuke that bridge and ruin the relationship that only exists because of my good graces. Moving away from it all, good luck to them, lets see how they fair without me, maybe a good wakeup call.
Thanks for the vid sister! Had a few weeks of manic and then two weeks ago hit a deep depression cycle, nice to find vids like this so I can relate to someone.
Society says: Oh just snap out of it everybody gets depressed and anxious sometimes, you’re focusing too much on the problem, you look or sound Bipolar and you’re just being too hard on yourself. But of course society knows everything and they couldn’t possibly be wrong about anything
Church says: Oh no worries just pray it away, you’re just being attacked by demons, you’re not on the right path or yours sins are the reason why you’re cursed. Yet they lack the ability to even understand the issues and situations and they quickly brush it off like it’s not a big deal
Unfortunately this makes us struggle even more with our symptoms of BP1 and BP2 plus this can even lead some of us to suicide or suicidal thoughts. It’s best that we set a community for us that are either Bipolar or have other disorders that way we can keep those that criticize and don’t understand us out of it. All we have is each other at the end of the day
Soo true. I am the daughter of a fundamentalist minister. There are all kinds of personality disorders in the family but nobody acknowledges them. I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 at 65 years old and it explained everything.
I have bipolar 2 and i live with my dad and he will say stuff like temper tantrum, your negative all the time, your always pissed off, i can't take it anymore, you don't want to change, i end up holding a grudge and hating him so i can relate to you totally.
The one that drives me the craziest and my husband uses it - "snap out of it." You think I like feeling like this? If I could "snap out of it," don't you think I would? He used to work with people with depression and would come home and tell me the things he'd done to help them, but when he comes home - he's totally clueless. He says it's because I "Don't listen" which means I'm not doing what he thinks I should. The bottom line is - he doesn't really believe there is such a thing.
My family has stopped my medication of bipolar 2 disorder. I am very helpless right now and on the daily basis they are torturing and blaming me for my condition
I had someone say to me once " You might to talk to your Dr. about increasing your meds." I felt like he was saying your not allowed to have emotions because are Bipolar. I other words people think I need to be like zombie over medicated. Here is what's crazy this was coming from an individual who just spent 3 years in prison for domestic violence and is diagnosed bipolar 1 who chooses to be unmedicated.
I feel like even if a family member reads and learns only another person with bipolar fully understands.
I was told, "Get your shit together" when I was in a low period and couldn't complete an assignment on time. The person who told me this was close to me and knew about my illness. It really upset me :(
I need to be around others like me My own family will never understand or my friends either
I'm watching this video as my mom is currently going through a manic episode. She has Bipolar Disorder but I was a kid when she was hospitalized, it was over a decade ago. I'm currently 21, I'm exhausted, it's been four days of living like this, but I understand that for her it's been her entire life being stigmatized by this disorder and due to the loss of her mom she relapsed. I want to be careful with my words, I must say I'm guilty of asking her if she took her meds these days, but I asked her if she was okay with me asking that and assured me she took her meds. I trust her. She has a low dosis of her meds, and has an appointment with her therapist in two days. I honestly hope he realizes what's going on, it's been challenging, because she either loves me dearly or hates my guts, but I know it isn't her talking. Thank you for the video!!
I hope she’s gonna be ok! Small question do u love her? Or do u hate having her as a mom because of this situation, and is ur dad a supportive person?
Mental illness is absolutely real. It's also true that people don't accept responsibility for illnesses and others aren't able to get the treatment that they need.
Right on point! 2 things that I hate is people saying have you taken yr meds and she must have bipolar or she's a crazy bipolar!
I loathe any individual that says, “calm down, you’re being extra.” If only they knew how difficult it all is for us.
I finally opened up to a coworker about having Bipolar 2 and I've never felt more stupid. Fucking never again.
When I’m depressed everyone disappears…the statement ‘you know where I/we are’….yes….I have to come to you because I know where you are…no where near me
“I think u make it out to be worse than it is” said to me about my bipolar disorder. How the hell would someone w/o it know??!
One of my friends told me that he didn't believe that I had BPD, I just had a hard life. I need to go pn vacation, do something good for myself, and I will feel better.
I agree that a vacation may make me feel better for a period of time, but it certainly won't cure me. LOL
0:48 I would agree. If I could tell people only one thing not to do that would be it. It’s everything she explained and strongly reenforces the stigma and further leads people to hide their illness or even worse avoid treatment. It’s the single most harmful thing I hear and I hear it regularly.
Thanks Hannah, I can think of more things people shouldnt ever say like... you talk to much. OMG do I hate that, how can you properly communicate with people and drs without being specific? If your not specific they will not understand the importance of what we saying. Im lost I dont get that! And it happens to me all the time. Am I doing something wrong ? I was an EMT for 10 years and we were always real detailed in communicating with the ER drs, that gave the drs a clear picture of the mechanism of injury to help determine quickly how critical a patient could be, without that info many people wouldnt have made it so it was Very important to do so and still is. So I talk to my drs that way and sometimes they freak out and say you talk to much, that got my last psychiatrist fired the minute he said it! And I'm not sorry I did either, and i'd do it again if necessary. He was getting paid $186.00 for 20 minutes to see me about my problems, I asked him if it would help him properly treat me if I came in and just sat there. He said no, so I said your FIRED! Not all drs are good one's, only a real incompetent would say that.
Yeah, it kills me when 1) oh I do that too. You just need to .... (and or everyone has something ... I know another mentioned this too).
2) They think its a compliment to say we don't seem like someone with a mental illness/ challenge/ disorder.
Normally, I do not like labels either. However, the diagnosis was validating, and I found communities with whom I can relate.
I told my dad it is physical illness.😎 Something like my brain don't have enough electricity and doesn't work properly.
For me, I hate when I explain to people what bipolar disorder look like and they say oh I got that shit to I’m a bipolar when they didn’t get diagnosed
I haven't honest question.... If the media always portrays people with bipolar disorder as negative. What are the positives of bipolar disorder?
Where there are pros, there are also cons and vice versa. Living with bipolar 2 allows me too dance around symptoms that have pockets of creativity. Anywhere from writing songs to dance moves anything that I find passionate, or have found passionate in the past or present, becomes lit up with ingenuity and creativeness and hype. These are the pros of having bipolar. and while I say that I will say that there are many downs as well. I wish that I did not have this. Having bipolar means that you have essentially polar opposites of your personality. The pros although they are good they are not great. They give you a warped sense of overachieving and you are extra in a lot of ways at least from my experience. It’s like that movie limitless with Bradley Cooper in it. Yes, you would think that you’d want to have some thing that does this to you but you see that it is not sustainable. You have moments that you are reeling from this high and then you crash and the crash is so bad that you honestly want to kill yourself again from my experience. I really would rather be stable normal. Being on a roller coaster is not all that it’s cracked up to be even when you wanna get off the ride you can’t.
After sharing my diagnosis with a family member, she dismissively said, "Well, we're all a little crazy."
Hi Kami. Obviously, it's insensitive. One thing to keep in mind, Kami, is that some people don't know how to react to the news. Could it be that she said that as a way to let you know that it's okay that you were diagnosed with a mental illness? Hannah
Thanks for your thought Hannah. Thinking about that conversation, I believe what was said was more of a reaction then a response. Her comment literally ended the conversation, probably because she didn’t want to broach an uncomfortable subject. Even though it came off dismissive, I’m hopeful that she and I may be able to have a more thoughtful conversation the next time we’re together.
Yep..my sister said something about everyone being "a little bipolar right now"..i wanted to smack her..kinda impossible through messenger though.☹ and yeah..no such thing as "a little bipolar"..*eyedamnroll*..lol
Number Six... "You need to pray more, deepen your faith, get rid of those demons influencing you!" AUGH! Faith communities should be a wonderful place to receive the support we need ; our faith really does play a crucial role in stability. But when I keep getting told to toss my psych meds and pray, I want to run, isolate, and leave my church. And I might...
I hate is when people spiritualize mental illness. God does heal, but he may not in this lifetime. Bipolar people need their medication. Pray them to be healed, but don’t tell them to get off of their meds
good, but what happens if you have a relative with the issue. . how concerned should you be about someone with bipolar disorder? treated or untreated?
This helped me out! I love u sm! God bless u❤️❤️❤️
I've not had a problem with the few people I've shared with that I'm bipolar. I don't expect anyone to understand it who is not a mental health specialist or a person familiar with it in their lives or a loved ones life. I won't share it with acquaintances or random people as I feel it would not be of value. To really explain it takes time and if a person has no frame of reference it takes even more time, with close family it is worth the effort and my family has wanted to know. Of course this is all my own perspective and learned it over the last 35 years. As a small side note the title of this video seems a bit confrontational and if I put myself outside my condition I would not view it to help me understand how to talk to someone with bipolar. Seems a bit like preaching to the choir. If someone sent this video to me with this title I'd take it as a personal attack with all the head bobbing/weaving, hand movements and tone of voice. I get it you are angry, but if you truly want someone to understand it's not what you say it's how you say it.
I have an autoimmune disease/hypothyroidism .. my symptoms are that of bipolar. It's connected. My symptoms were greatly reduced with the carnivore diet. I'm naturally calm by nature, but when my thyroid went wack, I became hysterical/angry/It was such a scary feeling, nothing would stop me. . Well, it could stop if people understood it. but many people think you are just 'crazy. The guilt is horrible and painful.
I too have hypothyroidism and PCOS..and..bipolar ll disorder...annnnd..im possibly perimenopausal. Im 46, so yeah im seriously driving myself bonkers and sweating like a leaky firehydrant...good times..*sigh*
I hear number one ALL the time , even from my own therapist who believe I'm "too pretty " or functional to have bipolar , depression , or that I'm exaggerating my anxiety . Ive just stopped telling people I have bipolar 2 because I'm tired of having to "prove it "....people assume that you have to constantly be in mental / emotional distress , that you can't look neat or taken care of , that I need a hobby so I won't "focus " too much on things that make me anxious . My mom even restricts my medicine and makes me explain why I need it that particular day , and "I need it " isn't good enough for her
i’m sending this to my mom lmao
i love you for this video!well said
I absolutely love this everytime i hear it, keep it up-good honest venting stuff x
When I am at my depression and someone advises me how to deal with it cause its all just in your head and stop the drama.
But worse when I am at mixed emotions and someone says don't think about it and think positive thoughts. IT ONLY AGGRRVATES ME. I dont know why, I acknowledge their advice but it just won't help.
"Did you take your meds?" What about my situation? I manage my fiance's meds for now while he is staying with me here in the Philippines. He agreed on that though. But when he goes back to Ireland, he is gonna manage his meds alone again. Would it still be offensive if I ask him if he's taken his meds? I'm just genuinely concerned about him. Plus I am engaged to be married to him this month but only found out that he has bipolar 1 disorder last month when he had manic attacks. Its my first time to have a bipolar person in my life and I didn't know what to do.
As a newly diagnosed bipolar ll..i would highly suggest studying his diagnoses, possibly interact with his psychiatrist if possible. Its going to be a bumpy road, i won't lie. But a lot of time, love and patience will be needed. This is life long for him. He can't help it. Make sure he is sticking to his med schedule. Beyond that i wouldn't know what else to say or do, talk to his doctor if you are allowed. I am in the USA, we have laws that protect patients medical information unless written consent is given to you by your fiance and the doctor knows this.
You need to focus on what you want and not what you don't want.. cheers..
I noticed that bipolar people need to stay in character. In order to live life.
Thanks I learned something here i like the ways u explain things more tips like this please
They stay asking me to take my meds 😂 it is so annoying
Idk about the meds one, cause my brother gets influenced easily by his ignorant friends when they say meds are useless and would go for days without his medication. So we do be asking him if he did from time to time.
How about “It take one to know one.” Because I’m clueless.
The one that I love if you just find a job, you’ll feel better😂
People say we are bad
or during a depressive episode irratated they say dont be childish
Yeah, it is a phase. It’s a series of depressive and manic phases. That’s the problem.
It would be easier on loved ones if bipolar people just simply took their medication
My husband has bipolar 2 it’s never controlled by meds or life and diet so far
"Do you think only you have depression, everyone have it, but all others manage"
"I have never seen a person as lazy as you"
"come to school atleast tomorrow please"
"I won't trust your words, don't be so much fluctuationing in decisions"
" why you are not trying to overcome it"
Hi I've been trying to help a friend who is bipolar. How should I help her? She has many times just got mad over alot of things. Over the top mad. Up till just recently I've tried to be calm, and logical. Tell her that how things are. Many times she has a tantrum much like a two year old. The only reason I ask her about her med schedule is because she has not always taken them. She is going through a stressful divorce has financial issues and sometimes if feels manipulative..suddenly she forgets how to do things. That she has done before. This is new to me. What should I let slide and what should I nicely point out what isn't acceptable behavior..please advise.
Encourage her to have her Thyroid check TSH, T4 and T3. Have at least those levels checked. If she has a doc who listens to her, tell her to ask that the doc do a full panel workup. Just to make sure that there is no underlying medical issues. I have bipolar one and my Thyroid problem was underlying. It caused massive depression and erratic behavior that aggravated my disorder. Also, and I mean no disrespect please know that, but I don't think she needs to be told what's out of line as far as behavior. It can bring about shame and sadness which can make a bipolar person spin out emotionally. And lead to a breakdown or worse. Also, meditation can help once the mind is quiet. Just my opinion as a fellow bipolar person 🙄. It's a wicked disease that in an instant can send a person careening over a cliff. Believe me. Mia
D@m why Yelling, Talking down at us and being a Bully my ex girlfriend did the same thing I'm like why are you yelling and soooo angry..😢
I like what you said!
"You need help" like no shit I need help you could help? Bit this could also piss me off when I'm having genuine emotions and feelings towards a situation and I'm told I need help for the way I feel? Why am I not allowed to have feelings? And since you don't agree with my feelings or find them difficult to handle that means I need help?
Can I add number 6 … go for a walk . Great idea I’m cured why didn’t I think of thar sooner 🤦♀️ all those times I’ve tried so many different pills got so many side effects from them when all I needed was walking shoes .
This is great!
Hi. I hope people start to treat you better soon.
I am guilty of #3…”Did you take your medication?”…I feel horrible…
Hi! We are definitely all guilty of some of these including myself. As long as we learn from it. Thank you for being honest! -Hannah
It’s often a legitimate question as many stop taking meds when they feel balanced and convince themselves they’re fine and don’t need them.
I watched your video, but I can tell you have a lot of anger built-up. It might help to rethink how you present the information. You come across as bitter, and not trying to truly help people understand. Thanks for your time.
THKU. how about ''get out of victimhood'' ''stop playing the 'victim''. these word make me very upset. I hear this alot by ''behavior coaches'' get out of ''lack mentality'' I'm on disability and NOT qualified for food stamps. I am ''in lack'' of food, I dont lack a mind! ''Mental illness'' is exactly like a ''physical illness'' isnt the brain part of our bodies? why stigmatize our 'minds' its about the brain chemistry
👏👏👏 Amen to that!
pray pray !!!!
Don't tells us you understand the maelstrom
I can relate. WELL SPOKEN 👍
I had my ex say your crazy .
I like this
All of these are true
It would be much more beneficial to make a video like this for doctors. The way I have been treated before they figured out what it was has made me not want to accept any help from the medical world. When you are a doctor and you are going to tell a 6 foot 2 concrete worker he most likely just has a low pain resistance while he is a man that usually doesn't even notice he is injured you loose your credibility. It took me 2 days to even notice I broke my toe the other day 😂 I regularly get told I am bleeding while I didn't notice. Cuts so big I need stitches. You might think you are a smart 'ss but I know all this from myself. I was there. So you saying something like that just tells me you have no clue and you are for sure not going to help me. Most likely you will make it worse.. That's a problem.. I luckily found one doctor I trust though. She was the one that said it is most likely bipolar after she just talked to me for 3 minutes. That finally opened up the door to a psychiatrist that came to the same conclusion. It's those 2 people that saved my life and I hope they will never retire because they are the only doctors left that I can trust. 😅
Thank u
Truth hurts doesn't It!!!
I personally believe in Freedom of Speech, as you are doing now. Us Who are not bipo have the right to our opinion! If you have a problema with It then its your problema, find another crowd. Ps: looks like you are having an episode!!!
What about when you open up a out having bi polar disorder and they actually judge you and treat you like Crap actually caused panic attacks and not to mention you close yourself off from sharing with people you thought that cared
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Go and take your medication!
You’re fuckin’ rad.